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Hi Dr Orion ! 😀
You say that men's sexual market value increases with time (due to more money and status) but women's decreases... then why do women intiate most divorces in their mid thirties and 40s ? Also, does the average man and even above average man really get better with time ? Because women in their prime (early twenties) rarely date men in their mid thirties unless the guy is a top 5% man like celebrity or an athlete, a status most men will never achieve, even with hard work. They date men close to their ages or few years older.
Thanks,
*Second part. Listened to your previous one, not all the way done with this one yet and love what you do, cheers.
@@JosephERICFisk I disagree completely. I like the longer more in-depth videos.
@@JosephERICFisk Maybe stick with the shorts then, just sayin'.
@@JosephERICFisk It's a RUclips thing. They wouldn't make ad money unless it's over 10 minutes or whatever the minimum currently is.
The only difference I can see between women in the modern dating pool and escorts, is that escorts continue to be happy when they are paid.
"start"
Oops, my error. You are correct.
Amen!
"Normal" women are TOO GREEDY.
Also, the professionals are regularly tested for disease and require customers to do the same!
Imagine if women treated their husbands like they treat their boss from work.
Probably would be better for both of them
Dependency can yield optimal compliance.
This is a common refrain but it isn't exactly right and it needs to be put to bed.
You have to remember how terrible they are at work. I'm not being facetious here-really consider it. HR didn't exist before women entered the workforce. In the past there were just a few personnel roles in companies-they dealt with holiday/payroll and other sundry admin functions. Because women complain and moan endlessly however HR is now an industry in its own right with vast phalanxes of people ministering to women's workplace-based complaints. In fact it's one of the few growth industries in the West, scandalously.
You have to consider who the ultimate "boss" is. Ignore line managers and people you have to suck up to. Ultimately the real boss is the employer. Thats who cuts the cheque. That's all that matters. And to the employer they behave fairly appallingly. So it isn't very different at all really.
@@sammyb1651 I'm reminded of a rather unpleasant conversation I had with one of the most evil human beings I've ever encountered in my life: A woman in HR who was intentionally manipulating my healthcare benefits when I was undergoing surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy in order to get me to acquiesce to not filing a short-term disability claim for the four weeks I'd be out of work for IV chemo infusions every day.
Her line was, "I'm here to help you." My response was, "No, I don't sign your paycheck, the company does. So you're here to protect the company's interests. The problem is you're also on a power trip and grinding me to a pulp is how you get your kicks. I'm sorry that you hate men. But you don't get to take it out on me. As a courtesy, since the chairman of this company's board of directors is a personal friend of mine, I'll discuss what you've proposed with him before I sue the company under the Americans with Disabilities Act. Perhaps he'll seek guidance from his wife, who nearly died of breast cancer."
Thankfully, not long afterward, this HR Director "left to pursue other interests."
I now run my own small business. And I have a zero-tolerance policy for any crap that remotely resembles this.
Put another way, imagine if women treated their bosses like the way they mistreat their husbands.
My parents are both long gone now, but they used to say that the secret to their successful marriage was that they agreed in the beginning to always treat each other as well as they would treat a stranger.
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I made an episode on this very idea. See "The gift of your absence: the threshold of tolerance."
My grandparents who were married for over 50 years could always laugh about each other. No matter what fight or silly argument, which are normal to occur when you’ve been with each other for decades, they could always laugh at the end. The secret is humor and not taking yourself and the other too serious.
Wonderful
Amazing
An old colleague of mine once said: "You always have to pay for women. It is just the question, whether you pay for an hour or for a lifetime."
you pay the full hour?
100% correct. Most men only find out how bankrupting and humiliating the "pay for a lifetime" is at divorce. Plus, the character assassination is thrown in so the woman can claim victimhood, not being a calculating and lying low-life.
Or if they are even worth paying for.
@@russ254 I pay for the three seconds I last
He forgot to add "...if you don't look like Chris Hemsworth." If you're good looking, they will actually pay for your time with them. You'll always be the person they come back to whenever their "wait and see" tactics fail on "husband materials."
Most of the women that have been in my life, including both my ex wives, masked their feelings towards me to get what they wanted. Only when the relationships come to an end do you see who your partner really is.
I agree, I expected it from my ex-wife and other romantic relationships, but when my mother, sister and daughter turned out to be the same way, I realized it was an actual quality of the gender.
100%, I found this out during my divorce as well! Most men are glorified marks for their Western women, only to provide and take to cleaners during the divorce. With character assignation thrown in for good measure, because if you have been tarnished as abuse (which you never were), they look like victims and not de-facto escorts.
Some relationship experts recommend knowing a woman for at least a year before committing to her. BS. There is no amount of time where you will truly know who your wife is. My last marriage lasted 13 years and at the end she had no resemblance to the woman I married. A total and complete 180.
I've heard a divorce attorney say the exact same thing; "the woman you married and the one you meet in divorce court are two totally different people!" I believe that 90% of women DO NOT MARRY THEIR 1st, 2nd, or 3rd choice of men, but end up "settling" for a man "good enough for now," so they could have children before it's too late, then leave the guy and take as much money and/or property from him as possible.
The same divorce lawyer I quoted above also said that "the marriage contract is the ONLY legal document that you can sign WITHOUT FULL DISCLOSURE OR TRANSPARENCY OF THE TERMS OR IMPLICATIONS OF THE AGREEMENT!" Let that sink in. He went on to say that, " therefore, most people who get married HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THAT CONTRACT MEANS, UNTIL THEY COME INTO MY OFFICE!"
@@dont6441correct!
You don’t necessarily get what you pay for, but you sure as hell pay for what you get-------
All men pay. The difference is one's a sure thing and the other one is not.
Men pay escorts only for pleasure, and pay wives mainly to reproduce their genes.
@@Shaggythekingwhy would men have to pay, while women would have everything handed to them? Sex isn’t a reward, it’s a mutually beneficial activity that costs NOTHING. Any man who pays is foolish and unable to attract on their own, stop rendering men powerless with this
@@Shaggytheking most* men pay
True. People can be outright assholes.
Stay anonymous.
Let them know NOTHING about you.
If I order takeout instead of cooking every now and then, that doesn’t mean that I can’t cook or that I don’t enjoy a home-cooked meal. It might just mean that I appreciate the convenience of having my food delivered as opposed to buying groceries cooking it and cleaning up after. (This is an analogy.)
King Keto you should have told white boy brian to run his frugal ass back and get the stripper!! Lol
Does this analogy apply to your wife/gf as well? Because some women definitely get bored of the same meat as well.
@@ShekaGoldenthen she’s not worth it
you... literally just repeated the analogy said by Orion in the video?
I agree with you that a relationship is a privilege. Escorts are not just for sexual encounters. An older rich widower might not ever want to remarry but is missing going out to dinner, to events etc. vacations with a partner. Money can’t buy love, it buys attention and time.
This is so true. I have met a widower who lost 2 wives to cancer and said he would never want to remarry because of what he experienced in his second marriage; he told me that he felt used.
Him and his first wife (whom he cherished) couldn't have children, but his second wife has a daughter, who has 2 kids. So, now he just enjoys spending time helping his late wife's daughter and her kids and...sometimes me as well. We've been good friends for about 4 years and as someone who keeps to himself most of the time, he considers me as one of his only friends. There was a transactional element but I still cared about him, checked in and sometimes paid a visit with no expectations of him paying, although he insisted to.
If he has money he can find someone to go out to dinner and events with. Rules are different for men with money and/or status.
@@SteveC484 might work might not. You want real people around you who care about you no matter how much money you're sitting on.
@@user-rj4xl5bl2s if you are man still you think someone genuinely interest in you and want to associate with you without any agenda? A Big No
Nah… women attention/time is not worth a men money… only sex is. Sorry ladies, you are not worth it. 😂 keep trying 😂 finding a needy old rich man will get more and more difficult
Cost and benefit is a REAL thing. Husbands often voice how their sex lives are often neglected and get more expensive as a product of time. They find themselves having to do more and more for women who start to desire them less and less. Lack of sexual tension and familiarity often breeds resentment. And remember, "wives don't owe their husband's sex", under these circumstances, why do people expect successful men to be so enthusiastic about marriage? Marriage is a living man's funeral.
It’s always that phrasing never “why are wives marrying husbands that they don’t want to f*ck” 😂
Divorce cost men much more. Women get benefitted from divorce. Hence 90% divorces are filed by women (among the women with bachelors and higher degree). If the divorce laws are made fair, women will get de-incentivized and they will stop divorcing men.
Wives DO owe husbands sex, every day, without complaining, or they can find somewhere else to live (sign a prenup so you can enforce this)
@@rayrwyr still won't lead to more sex. Just being married guarantees NOTHING. I've had FAR more sex with other women than my wife in a fraction of the time we've been together.
If women don't owe men sex, men don't owe women gifts, housing, dates, time together, romance, planning, cuddles, amibition, courage, etc, etc.
Shit man, the part about the stranger in the supermarket being treated better than the husband is so right
@@sircefiro some men do it took unfortunately. It’s one of the reasons I divorced my husband. He treated me like chopped liver and treated totally strangers with kindness and respect to say the least.
Fresh Salt into Normies wound... Splendid! Get them Orion.. straight into the stratosphere of truth!
It's funny seeing men realize they're the romantic ones, ain't it?
Truth can also burn your eyes. Not everyone has the mental fortitude to bear the full weight of this; some need their illusions.
Calm down scooter...
This guy is the truth. I wish I was aware of true female nature at a younger stage of my life.
Like how old? You look like you're about 6.
@@sammyb1651 being 30 is still too late
@@sammyb1651probably when your an adult since it costs males more when they’re providing.
We all do. And likely we pooh-poohed sound advice from other men because we thought we knew better.
Young men are not taught the truth about women (hypergamy) because 99% of teachers are WOMEN, 99% of all schools are run by WOMEN and the truth is harmful to their feminist agenda.
I’m doctor Orion Taraban and this is Psychacks better living with psychology.
You know you'll be listening to a banger when you hear that
Noooo, You wrote It faster than me 😢
and the topic of today's short talk is
Through psychology*
I'm doctor Psychacks and this is Taraban better living with Orion.
I’m a woman who made it this far! No judging here. Really interesting stuff!
Pro tip: this same concept works with small local restaurants too. You can know which restaurants are good by knowing how long they’ve survived. They won’t survive if the food is bad
*your local mafia-fronted pizzeria liked this post
Exactly ... a great study.
My dad tried to explain this to me as a teenager ... say about 1967. The world had not yet turned to liquid excrement. I wouldn't have characterized myself as a "high value male" at age 20, because I wasn't 6' tall and did not play varsity sports.
But, I did have some good mentors, and I guess I grew into what is now considered to be a high value man. I never thought much about it though. I was too busy working my a$$ off at work, coming home to make sure we all got fed supper, that the kids had a parent there to see that homework was done, that they had lunch for school the next day, that the kids had clean clothes for school the next day. I didn't think at all about it until, as a 70-year old my youngest daughter, now 22, said to me: "Dad, I found your high school picture on line. You were HOT. You could have done much better than my mother! I'm glad you didn't because I wouldn't be here, but DAMN, you could have done better."
Oh ... 💩.
Young men, listen to an old man (75 this year) who has had three wives and reared three children who all turned out well, three kids, two grandkids, and now a great granddaughter who is pretty as a picture and smart for her age. I hope to have more grandchildren and great grandchildren before I pass.
Please listen to Dr. Taraban. He speaks the truth. The cost of sex married to a wife who doesn't care about you easily reaches $50K a sexual encounter, maybe closer to $100K in today's money. That's the cheap part. The constant psychological abuse from a woman who is sure she could have done better will destroy your soul and imperil the mental health of your children.
Wait for a good woman. Vet her as if it mattered. Talk to her teachers, her friends, her siblings, her pastor or rabbi. If you're a mature man seriously dating a younger woman, get a prenup that protects you both, and protects the children.
rabbi....lmao
Romantic relationships such as marriage need to be recognized and treated as transactional to be successful. For example, the husband role may require being the primary financial provider, protector, leader, heavy-lifter, handyman, s3xually masculine, being father of children in the relationship in exchange of wife-provided services such as feminine s3xuality, cooking, cleaning, house-managing, birthing of babies, nurturing, and so on.
I agree, wholeheartedly. I’ve noticed that in the last few generations, women seem to want men to provide like a husband yet act like a boyfriend and keep them entertained, affirmed and pursued. America is full of lazy harlots that spend their time tearing down their mates then complaining that the same has become worthless.
Until that changes, it’s passports and escorts.
I managed Indian offshore teams for years. Nearly all of the IT workers are in marriages arranged by their families. Most IT workers are Bhramin, which is still a thing in India today. Embarrassingly for our Western marriages - the Indian arranged marriages appear to be a lot more successful than our "romantic ones". Contrary to popular Western belief, as long as spouses are very discreet about it, both sides have a lot of leeway. That is one advantage of never having sworn any unworkable romantic claptrap to each other. Practically, commercial interest beats romanticism every single time.
@martinh8784 so walk me down this road of understanding, they both agree to combine finances, and agree to step out on each other secretly? I'm not say it doesn't work. I'm just saying am I off a little bit?
@@martinh8784thank you for sharing. From where i see it its romantic paetnerships are good for state economy but not for familly economy
This is the ideal for a "successful" relationship, however in Modern western culture, WOMEN and MEN are no longer CULTIVATED to embrace or taught interdependent gender roles in marriages. Men AND women come up short, too often, because they choose mates for the WRONG reasons or misinterpret their purpose within a marriage. Married couples of yesteryear had VALUE that was beneficial and respectable to each other. VALUE wasn't about a big wallet or exceptional beauty.
Ironically, in current society, Feminist women are the most masculine. However, we still won't admit that too many men have been feminized and struggle with the core concepts of masculinity. It has nothing to do with being a rich "chad", "bad" boy or a "nice" guy.
Money is not meant to control people, rather it is meant to be put to work producing more money for you. You cannot build wealth without putting money in its rightful place
People dont understand that the prices of things are never going back down. This inflation is deeper than we think. Those buying groceries are well aware that the real inflation is much over 10%. The increments dont match our income, yet certain investors still earn over $365,000 in stocks and assets. Wish I could accomplish that.
Very possible! especially at this moment. Profits can be made in many different ways, but such intricate transactions should only be handled by seasoned market professionals.
Some persons think inves'tin is all about buying stocks; I think going into the stock market without a good experience is a big risk, that's why I'm lucky to have seen someone like mr Brian C Nelson.
Finding yourself a good broker is as same as finding a good wife, which you go less stress, you get just enough with so much little effort at things
Brian demonstrates an excellent understanding of market trends, making well informed decisions that leads to consistent profit
I discovered this channel when my long term relationship with the mother of my kid was in a temporary crisis, which was mostly due to mental instability on my side. It helped me rebuild the relationship into something better and more stable than it ever was. Because it reminds me with every episode what an outstandingly good woman she really is, checking none of the boxes that make many women so hard to be happy with.
Thank you sharing. You've made my day!
As always, truth, even when uncomfortable, prevails. Thank you for your courage to bring these topics into spotlight!
lol when he said jujitsu instructor, immediately thought of giselle
LOL - IF NFL superstar Tom Brady can't keep a woman happy then NO MAN CAN.
@@Random-rt5ec There is ALWAYS Risk, There are NO GUARANTEES other than the laws of physics.
"A relationship is a privilege and must be maintained." :-) truth wisdom.
Thank you, Dr. Taraban
I would edit that quote as follows: "A relationship grounded in PEACE AND COOPERATION is a privilege and MUST be maintained!"
You are doing your job with authenticity and telling the truth at the same time in a decent way.
All men pay. Beta male husbands pay the most. Chad and Tyrone pay virtually nothing other than wasting their time. The average punter or "John" pays by the hour or until completion. Regardless of how each of these guys pay, they are all paying one way or another. You have to pay to play. This is how the game works. There is a cost to doing business.
The only way to win the game is to not to play at all but once you sign up to play then you pay. Remember ALL FORMS OF PAYMENT ACCEPTED. You just choose . It ain't never free .. I'll rather pay by the hour and keep it pushing . And oh the worse payment is what most think it's actually free ... TIME 😂
Then women have to pay to play too. But you guys keep letting them off the hook, why is that? Everyone pays with time invested or something of that nature. Why invest tangible resources?
Chad and tyrone pay for the gym membership and steroids.
Typical Chad here, steroids not needed. Just look half decent and you're already waaaay ahead - Bit of muscle and a flat stomach is enough to start seeing results
This is accurate. I'd argue that instead of trying to "win" the game, play to enjoy the adventure and its challenges, you'll be happier. Put the right guards in place (prenup, making time for the kids and wifey if you're getting married, low attachment and stoicism of you're casually dating), and the game is actually enjoyable. Those who typically complain about it are the ones who think there's some grand prize at the end of it: there isn't. At best, you'll die with your loving, faithful partner, and that's no different than if you've had three different loving partners to arrive at the same destination. Or you can choose to die alone, that's another quest in the game, albeit boring in my opinion.
That is one of the main reasons why I have dogs so I am greeted with love when I walk in the door
You are a wise man! Women will only pretend this until they can take you to the cleaners.
@@sethwagoner3430 Happy dogs, happy man
wait you have sexx with your dogs?
and why I don't have dogs. I don't want to pay for them and their upkeep
The final nail in the coffin was when she told " She only slept with me because she felt pity of me ". She had checked a long time ago and entertained the relationship out of pity and loathed at me whole time
Many s3xless husbands apparently do not even get any pity s3x.
That is women for you. Once they are through with you (usually 3 years so they can claim your assets), they do everything in their power to humiliate, demean and disgrace you. It must be their lizard brain - this behaviour seems to be built into them as a mandatory function.
Most certainly not. She likely had other reasons to stay in the relationship but didn't want to admit to them so she tried to shame you instead. If she loathed you she couldn't pity you as well. She was just trying to hurt you on the way out.
Chances she was trying to reclaim some lost status as the relationship failed. Rather than owning her end of the failure, she tried to position herself as she would like to be rather than.where she really was. She slept with you for the same reasons she always did - intimacy, the need to be desired, sexual gratification, to get some power benefit etc etc .
If true, she robbed herself, or has awful priorities.
Hearing the conclusion would benefit many actual businesses too, who blame their customers for not buying their products. Disney comes to mind, for example.
Man at bar talking to woman he thinks is an escort: I can't afford you.
Woman at bar: I'm not an escort.
Man at bar: Well, then I REALLY can't afford you.
I am a regular at several bars primarily because the women bartenders there remember my name and make me feel welcomed. I totally understand it's in a business context but for the price of a nice meal and a few drinks I get to experience someone giving a shit about me. If that sounds pathetic then note that all my recent first dates found me paying for TWO meals and drinks, going home alone and never hearing from them again.
I am sorry for you, money is great but it is only part of our's life, personal relationship should be built for feeling and being together good and the basis should be separate from money exchange also good part of life. If we only count love as something to get, only giving instead money, this leads to sad situation. We just even lose any feeling if someone is good or bad for us as the person, if he/she is compatible with us to feel good together because of relationship, not money exchange. Same mistake do women and men.
Some spouses treat someone they just met at the supermarket with more respect, SO TRUE!!! I have seen this so many times in so many relationships.
Nailed it! BigLaw Corporate Law Partner here ... The providers I used to see prior to retiring from the hobby (because I was fortunate enough to find a high-value woman with whom I formed a genuine relationship) were very charming and engaging. If I couldn't have great conversations with them, and if they were not age-appropriate, I wasn't interested. Having clearly defined boundaries is wonderful. Yes, they are compensated (a few $1k or higher at the highest end), but after that is discussed and settled, money doesn't come up again. These ladies are highly intelligent and engaging - very expensive therapists. At the tail end of a loveless marriage, it was very nice to have an intelligent and engaging woman take genuine interest in me - as a client, yes, but that was fine. There's much more to say on this topic - but I will leave this comment brief.
I really like the therapist analogy. For example, one can use their friends or partner for therapy, but the chances of success with professional (i.e. transactional) therapist are still higher :)
The fact that an escort does not love/like you can be a good thing. Many men actually care a lot/too much about not hurting a woman's feeling, so when they know they only want sex , going to an escort knowing that the escort will not fall in love with them and would not feel heartbroken afterwards is a much better option to them, than e.g., approaching a girl on the street and trying to attract her.
Things get complicated after you have visited the same girl month for month, dozens of time a year, you know each other secrets, sceletons hidden in the closet etc. Then it's very difficult.
Men get into real romantic relationships with their escort. Then it's simp or pimp time and the difference between those is quite suttle.
@@avalanche9142 that how hookup culture was invented: to people want to have fun - they do! Without being transactional
That is precisely the point that I made regarding the first of three videos on this subject. With an escort, there would presumably be no fear or less fear of breaking a woman's heart if you don't want to commit to her.
“Being oneself” equates being jerk only if one is a jerk.
As an intelligent, moral, respectful, sensitive, self-aware, and virtuous individual, I’m quite happy to be myself with my partner, and they’re happy with it too.
Since you are talking about what you know so little about let me help you. i've used escorts hundreds of times since the 1970's until a few years ago when my libido, not my money ran out. The 70's-80's was the golden age of escorts, mainly college kids trying to make a buck. For a little extra you got a marvelous experience. They were real 'girl-next-door' types from the days where you hankered after but never got the girl next door.
The internet and porn videos in the mid 90's killed it. Tattooed, breast implanted, barbie types, often on drugs, with no personality offering the 'girl-friend' experience' which was anything but, took over.
The quality of everything is going downhill.
Nobody’s fault in specific🤔
How much did it cost back in those days?
😂
Another fire 🔥 video. I moved to Brazil 🇧🇷 a year ago and it’s the best decision I ever made. Dating and relationships is 1 million times better here. Having Transparency is 🔑!
Could you elaborate on that? In what aspects are relationships in Brazil better? 🤔
Watch out, Brazil women cheat
@@diegojdavi He makes a lot of quality videos and live streams covering the subject matter. Literally skim his channel and you'll have hours of content that answer your question.
My guess is that in richer countries, like Western Europe, United States, and Canada, the culture and expectations are more materialistic and hedonistic, with both men and women having unlimited access to more attractive partners and novel experiences, while in developing countries like Brazil, women are more inclined to settle with a wealthy "gringo" because of the possibility of a stable and more comfortable lifestyle.
You don't get what you pay for during hyperinflation. That's why the gold standard has always been being a man that can provide & protect and a woman who is a virgin and is trained to take care of a household and be a wife. That combination never sees a divorce or break-up.
That traditional system is a dream men have and get disappointed.
@@rayrwyr It's not a dream. Successful marriages/relationships really exist but they primarily exist inside of biblical worldview and the world doesn't want or like the bible.
@@rayrwyrAfghanistan is not a dream but real
Whoa - You are talking Pre-Birth Control Pill days when cheating had consequences (pregnancy). Makes one wonder: Why are there only birth control pills for women? Was this done on purpose to de-stabilize society? If it was was the CIA behind it?
"never" is a pretty strong word in that context. 🤔
Having listened to all 3 parts it intrigues me that so many man have NO idea how to choose a wife! I’ve been married almost 34 years to my first and only wife. If you cannot tell when a woman really wants to be with you, you NEED a good successfully married father or good successfully married male friend who actually cares about you to mentor you but not “hand carry” you. There was no doubt in my mind that my then fiancé really wanted to be with me. She still kisses me when one of us comes home at the end of the work day! We still have “challenges” but marriage takes work. We are not soulmates but we have enough in common to enjoy being with one another yet have enough differences that we enjoy the breaks to pursue hobbies or work. Perhaps you should do some videos of successful marriages and show common traits? Show men how to spot a potential good wife. That beats the heck out of dressing up prostitutes with fancy terms like “escorts.”
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Hey man I wish I could have a mentor like you. I want genuine love and intimacy with romantic partner but I feel pretty inadequate. I didn't grow up in a loving household where parents were loving and affectionate with each other and with us kids. I'm kinda just at a loss.
@@Zayden.Marxist My parents split when I was 2. I live in Europe and work in Africa and Asia so I can’t help you much… you need a person to be able to chat with by a BBQ, away from the noisy clubs and such. Is there an ordained minister or priest or rabbi or imam you can speak with? Have any uncles successfully married? Those are a good start. Best wishes for success!
There is an old saying; the more you pay for it, the less willing you are to doubt it’s authenticity…
"Market Research" - love it. Many thanks, Actually clears up some every day encounters with the lady of my choice.
Another amazing video as always Orion 👏 Loved this series.
It's close! The book is almost here. 👍👏
I wish it was an actual physical book. I'll have to settle for the audible book.
@@bearclaw5115 Hey there! If I'm not mistaken, the book may be in 3 formats. Physical, digital, and audio. However you get it I wish you the best. I don't know Dr. Taraban personally nor do I work for him. I'm just a guy that's wishing you well. Take care out there. Cheers mate. 🥂👍
The more I listen to your channel, the more I think I need to purchase your book. Your knowledge is vast and equally as valuable. Thank You for all that you do.
Preserve your anonymity.
Be VERY CAREFUL who you trust.
Scammers are everywhere.
The older you get the more you will realize I am telling you the truth.
Trusting nobody will get you exactly nowhere.. Rather, do this.. make 10 excellent friends from people of good values, who you will do anything for and who will do anything for you. If you do this they will each have about 10 other friends who they can call for help on any matter. This means you have around resources to call on when times are tough or you need a hand. The secret is that you ALSO have to be a person of value. This way, regardless of if it's WW3 or whatever you will have a massive pool to help you get ahead and make wise choices. From time to time you will think someone is of value as as one of these friends, but then you find out they are not, so you trim/prune and add new people of value to this list. This is the secret I have been living by only since I have been using this principle have I managed to get ahead in life.
@@zenonvandeventer5229 I have one good friend that I really trust. I am very disabled from a multiple sclerosis and I have been scammed by people with no morals and ethics. I'm a little bit bitter right now.
@@zenonvandeventer5229 They are not easy to just "find." People of value are increasingly scarce due to dysgenics.
I don't care I will do good anyway, 😂😂😂, I trust karma do good and it will comeback to you with good + interest 😂😂😂
@@DOSENBAIK2023 I hope so. What I don't understand is that bad things happen every day to people that are good..
I've learned the names of the staff at a couple of favorite restaurants I go to. Yeah, I'm paying, and I tip well. Yet I do believe the interactions are genuine.
As someone who has worked in a high-end establishment and developed relationships with “regulars.” There’s absolutely potential for deeper feelings and my favorite guy wasn’t the biggest tipper either. Can’t speak to your situation specifically though.
Some people begrudge tipping like it's a tax. But it isn't. When you tip you are buying something else. You're buying good will and getting better service no doubt. But you are also cultivating a sense of generosity in yourself. A belief that you have plenty and can afford to share. By doing something for others that we don't have to we get to feel that we may also be treated with generosity when it's our turn and realize the world is a less brutal place to live in. It's actually a very cheap way to feel better about ourselves and others!
Yes, I fully agree@@bearclaw5115
How incredibly sad it is, that modern marriage has become a situation where compared to the services of an escort, it has a higher potential level of connection than with an escort, however it also runs an obscenely higher probability of risk, and far greater consequences of damage for the man, when it goes wrong. We have reached a tipping point where now half of all marriages fail, and more than 70% of the time, it is the women who end it. Also, the greater your starting point of wealth, status and achievement going into the marriage as a man, the more you will lose.
I suspect that no fault divorce has made marriage not just worthless as a life long commitment. It is now demonstrably a health, wealth and sanity killer for men under most western legal systems. Which is why the rate of marriage is actually dropping, certainly in Australia, and I suspect in other parts of the western world too. . The people who also suffer enormously from this situation are the children of these marriages. They not only come off the rails far more often, early in life - they often become damaged adults.
Most modern women can’t or won’t cook, don’t like to clean, don’t really like being Mothers. They’re usually not great conversationalists. Like what’s left? They’re not trying to be wives and Mothers. What they want is a retirement plan.
Oh good, you're the one reading your new book. so much better to hear your voice than a robot.
I find it is easier to be pleasant to pretty young women and treat them the way the older women think they should be treated....i mostly appreciate good manners at this point.
Good manners can be incredibly rare in this day and age.
Good manners >>>>>>>
It's so much better to associate with a young woman who hasn't been jaded by the world and is appreciative of your actions. You can treat them well and, as long as you are firm/maintain frame, they'll reciprocate the niceness back at you.
I just purchased the audible version of "The value of others" Looking forward to it!!!
In the days of yore, a non professional offered you purity. Without that, their main advantage is gone. They are simply more expensive versions of pros.
They were supposed to offer you an all-around satisfying mind-body-soul connection, not just "purity."
What would be the point of being married to a completely idiotic virgin other than "pure" sex?
Boston, MA high end Engineering University - I asked my son why he doesn't have a GF & he said dad I can't find a women (college coed) with a bodycount less than 20 & I don't want that. I said I understand, just enjoy effing a few along the way & as your career soars quality women will be in abundance.
@@Random-rt5ec I hope he can find them, if there is any left.
Brilliant. Orion is at his best in situations where his behavioral economics approach fits. This is a nice example.
The doctor should visit at least a dozen cat joints before doing this series. I did. These women are mostly in a bad place mentally, they are train wrecks with so many problems and baggage, it's difficult to fathom. Dealing with these women is truly a very different experience from dating civilian girls, even those more frivolous. No man will find true happiness, love or peace in a bed shared by thousands of other men.
He’s not talking about men that visit “cat joints”, these men use high-end escorts, these women are typically independent providers. They’ll come to your house, if you’ve got the money to pay.
Most “civilian” women have issues and they lie about their past relationships. The reality is, these transactions are more honest.
i think you are absolutely right. There is a phrase that sticks out in his explanation however and is what i think, justifies the series.
"This type of relationships are not the highest experience you can aspire to, but they are far from being the lowest".
Many men are truly trapped in loveless marriages with a trainwreck of a woman full of baggage. And they dont even get sex with a hot body.
i think its a series to offer self reflection, and the entire theme of his channel: "what am i bringing to the table, what im i getting from it, and why am i in this relationship?"
The values of some people that really dont care emotionally about a woman, they might as well just be with an escort. Just as there are women that hate men, but are atracted to them, there are men that feel the same about women.
Insightful, entertaining and very brave to put out this 3 part series. Better Living Through Psychology...abso-fucking-lutely!
Thank you so much for this series. I think this is the first time someone explains so clearly many things that I've felt and done, all without having had the opportunity to express with no judgement.
Looking forward to your book release! Digital book purchase already on deck
Thanks Doc!
Don't listen to the prudes and keep up the good work.
Wiyu🙌🏾 I'm watching this 3 minutes after posting 🎉
I love this series so much, thanks and much love.
Excelent episode.
Thanks Orion.
Dr Orion Taraban and Kevin Samuels could have made a bomb collaborative podcast. He breaks down concepts so so well and easy to understand.
My ex-wife, when she asked for a divorce, told me that familiarity breeds contempt. Good to know although I've never experienced that emotion myself. I'm starting to understand why escorts exist.
Hey Orion, I showed your previous video to two female friends from Denmark, their main objection was, our time also cost. And even it made sense what you logically explained, they didn’t take it well from the emotional side. They said they disagreed due to being very “American man perspective based”. Not a critic but a feedback. Keep the great work
This series is hilarious. I'm downloading episodes for future use for my sons, in case channel goes down.
I have found these points to be true in my own life. I wouldn’t have believed it early on but way later in the road, with far less years left in front of me than behind me, I have found what he is saying is to be true from what I have seen and experienced.
1000% correct Dr! Thank you
You are so intelligent and such a great communicator, Orion. All of you work is absolutely amazing. I'm so glad I found your channel. Preordered your book. Can't wait to read it. Keep up the incredibly high level and original work you are doing 🙏
The 🐐 Dr. Taraban back again!! With thought provoking, extremely well layered/presented, emotionally & logically aware content! Thank you for all that you do. You’re my main source for this sort of stuff! God Bless
Thanks doc. Pure gold.
Brilliant, Doc! Just, Brilliant!!!
one of your best episodes so far.
This man is explaining the way marriage minded, successful men think in a reasonable and well balanced way. This series was well done with the third being the best.
Gentlemen, STIs are forever. Enter at your own risk 🤣😈🤣
Only a couple
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counselor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
I applaud you for not burying your feelings & expressing them. It's good to read that a man truly loves their woman.
That was a great episode!!
Incredible video. Thank you for the insight and balanced perspective on the matter.
My man has been trying for three episodes to show women why they need to cut the crap and behave. I hope his efforts are rewarded.
They wont change. The only thing they care about is themselves. Most of the time they don’t even view men as sentient beings. They are the star and men are the extras.
Water finds its own level.
BTW, the introduction was awesome. Thank you for not succumbing to the shaming language.
Great job! 👏🏼
Orion, your book is finally out today, I'm so excited to finally be able to read it!
I still remember going tp a Taco Bell drive thru 5 years ago and the person on the other side said, 'Hello..how are you today?' And I got a mint with my food. Small gestures that literally cost them a few pennies all in that people remember so yes..being paid gives you an incentive to be friendly and pleasant when dealing with the public.
That's right
I'm sold. I'm using pros from now on
Make sure you don't break the laws.
Very insightful!
Thank you, Dr. Taraban ~ simpatico.
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You are an incredibly refreshing voice of reason.
This guy has pulled me out of depression. I owe him.
Dr Taraban is proof that not all heroes wear capes.
It's not what the simps wanted to hear but Orion is here to remind you he talks to men all the time and marriage ain't really too hot for them.
In light of this “market research”, I guess the question really becomes “why would any successful man NOT use escorts?“
Paying for s3x is illegal in most countries.
100% correct!
@@rayrwyr And when the woman you marry levels false accusations of domestic abuse against you in an effort to enhance her position during a divorce proceeding and/or child custody battle, you’ll be arrested and go to prison for that. So there is the danger of imprisonment associated with both a traditional and a non-traditional pursuit of affection. I have not done any research on this, but I suspect the number of people who are on the receiving end of false accusations of domestic abuse greatly exceeds the number of men who are arrested for soliciting prostitutes. But we don’t have to be precise, we can simply conclude that these are offsetting considerations.
@@MrSethmo13 Definitely a valid concern.
@@MrSethmo13 -- I did not see marriage as a criminal accusation hazard but I agree that it can happen. A woman can get a man arrested based on false accusation. Apparently making false accusation to ruin someone's life is not a crime.
I really like his living room setup. Classy
I highly appreciate how you bring facts as you see them, thank you.
I followed that argument and completely understood it. And it may make sense for many men. I contrast that, though, with falling in love with my future wife at 17 and the very fulling relationship we had for many years, including our three children. We eventually divorced, but I'm grateful for the love (and great sex) we shared. For those in m ore transactional relationships, I hope they're finding emotional warmth as well.
A fifteen-year-old girl recently confided to me (I'm 70): "Married men? Their lives are basically over." Truer words were never spoken.
thank you oraion. you helped me a lot to see life clearly
this channel is going to 4 millions subs easy. This Chad's content is just too good. Hope a lot of women watch this.
A lot of guys who lack the courage to ask a lady out and actually be respectful and court her properly are going to take these videos as a sign to keep on using escorts instead of actually developing a personality, they are obviously going to ignore the part where this video uses extremely successful men who are probably too busy to watch these videos, as a case study.
Dr. Taraban's male audience is not exactly Chad-ish. I am not even sure what he is trying to achieve with these escort videos.
@@roses6564he’s addressing a reality that most people don’t talk about, based on his experience with his professional practice. Just read through the comments, he’s obviously bringing something out of the shadows that is happening more than we know. It’s a very informative series.
This series certainly has given me a lot to think about, but I don't think I'll be rushing out to hire an escort anytime soon. From a purely financial standpoint it makes sense for certain men within a certain economic bracket, but there is more to life than collecting money or trying to maximize intimate encounters. Maybe I'm young and naive, but I'll take my chances at building something lasting with a woman who shares my values.
he even says that he doesn't support it, has never done it, but just explaining why others choose that route.
@@stevenroshni1228 Yeah, I get why. Some people weigh the financial cost-benefit and decide to go down that route. All I'm saying is, there's more than just the financial aspect, even to financially successful people. It's the same reason most people don't own slaves anymore, even though not having to pay your workers would save you a lot financially. The other factors that aren't purely financial play a role, and it just depends on what emphasis you put on those other factors.
It's possible to understand someone's thought process, but nevertheless disagree with it. I think that's the point we're all trying to make.
Genius and the points are 1000% TRUE
As someone who is just getting a bit more successful (and is happily married btw), this series of video made complete and total mathematical and logical sense. The part that you are losing is just in constructing legacy; that is the value of a good woman. The rest (dating etc) definitely not worth the cost for people who are worth anywhere close to 200-300 dollars an hour, let alone thousands.
He is in his 40’s and doesn’t have a good woman. He’s made that clear. He’s also made it clear that he has 0 experience with sex work. This didn’t need to be a 3 part series because he doesn’t have enough expertise but the game is maximum content.
the videos just explain why men who just want sex use escorts instead of using their charm to get women to not charge them.
You can’t call it a success until one party passes away. Even 25 years doesn’t guarantee you’ll make it to 30. Your “legacy” can be taken away very quickly. If both of you are happy, in love, sexually active long-term, know that you have a winning lottery ticket. It happens, but it’s not the norm. It’s not what most people experience.
@@stevend8785 No disagreement to your assessment of the risks; it doesn't take away from my original post. One should always have a contingency plan and make as smart a choice as possible.
The Thailand long term "rent a girlfriend" often results in genuine caring relationships (I have heard). I don't consider these "freelancers" , escorts . Most are seeking a long term relationship.
The issue with marriage is many women choose a man that is good enough for the role but they are not her first choice. The more a man works hard in the marriage the more prevalent this happiness. I see a lot of men bowing dowm to their wifes constantly.