At 74, I have just realised that the fear of abandonnent was post probable the origin of the depression since adolescence . After being rejetée by friends and family for something I dis not even do. Which of course accentuated the émotion. Can you imagine, I noticed that I even felt rejected lately when my cat was leaving my lap. 😊 Aware of it but could not help it. Lately I decided to get rid of a deep sadness. Not knowing how I would do, it came to my consciousness where it came from. Few minutes ago, I found your video and as you spoke, tears came to my eyes. It was spot on. So unhappy and depressed the past days I had ask the universe to help me. And there you are! I know that having identify the origin of my pains, my futur is going to change. Becoming aware of those feelings I xill let them go. I will listen to your video again tonight. GRATITUDE and ❤❤❤
Hi, We are very sorry to hear of your pain and would like to take this moment to remind you of how worthy you are, how this world is much better with you in it and that there are lots of options available to you, should you need them. Sending you love and support, and a reminder that you are loved, needed, and enough. You always were and you always will be. If you wish to seek therapeutic support, I would advise booking an RTT session. You can connect with one of our certified and trained RTT professionals to find the best support for you here professionals.rtt.com/ Marisa Peer Team
The emotional abandonment is an eye opener. My dad and mom got divorced when I was 4 or so. He still maintained a place in my life but was demanding, controlling, wanting time with us, yet occasionally abusive, emotionally unreliable and flakey. So he was "still there" but not really accessible as a safe person. I felt totally emotionally abandoned. It's been hard sometimes to reckon with it because I will tell myself "but he didn't just leave...he said he loved me..." but then he would be erratic and send mixed messages. Whenever I get mixed messages in relationships, I clam up or want to protect myself, yet I also wait around hoping it will change. It was all so confusing. I love the idea that I won't die if I'm abandoned. I may be sad but I won't die. That's what it all comes down to. Helps me get in touch with the grief that my situation with my dad really was painful and not my fault. AND, it's in the past. Trying really hard not to bring those triggers into the present...
This fear of banishment/abandonment cause people pleasing and codependency 😢 And those are just 2 things it does, beside low self esteem and self worthiness.
I suggest changing that inner dialog to I'm enough, I'm valuable etc and work on yourself as we all should. Love yourself, be happy, make people who come in contact with you leave better than they came, transmit joy, peace, hope etc. No one likes being near people in the victim mentality that drag us down and make us feel worst. So, I send you much love, a strong hug and remember YOU HAVE DIVINITY INSIDE. I love to listen to Rev. Ike among many others they uplift me....much love!!!!
@@rroman2752 this is a year ago now and I can honestly say my life changed for the better. I worked on myself and without knowing the love of my life came into my life
This is such a helpful video. Thank you for uploading to RUclips. I associate abandonment with very powerful feelings that words may not always describe. I think the different approach can help and it's a matter of seeing the world as being there to gain, rather than to lose.
I was never loved or helped all the way through my life … relationships fail I’ve been a single mum to 4 kids all of my life since a teenager which I have given my whole world as I believe parent should do ?? no help or support I’m in my 40s settling for bad relationships /low worth please let this help me and bring pure joy and happiness
Hello , Marisa shares an abundance of free resources and tools to help people grow and heal as part of her philanthropic goals. I would suggest you subscribe to Marisa’s RUclips channel to receive the latest videos and free meditations Marisa creates ruclips.net/user/MarisaPeer1 or go directly to watch her videos here: www.youtube.com/@MarisaPeer/videos To access Marisa's free gifts visit marisapeer.com/free-gifts/ You’re more than welcome to join our I Am Enough community Facebook group. It's a hugely supportive group who are sharing their stories and support each other facebook.com/groups/iamenoughbymarisapeer/ For more information about RTT join this group: facebook.com/groups/Marisapeermethod/ For Workshops about RTT during March 2023, join this group: facebook.com/groups/marisapeerrttworkshops/ For more information about Marisa´s Dietles Life, join this group: facebook.com/groups/dietlesslife/ You can access the free I am enough meditation here: marisapeer.com/i-am-enough-meditation You can access the Lovability course here: applyrtt.com/lovability-course Also, if you missed the first of my five Unlock Your Mind, Shift Your Beliefs, and Change Your Career workshops, you can catch up on the replay now over at bit.ly/RTTWorkshops Join me in the group again today at 10 AM PT | 1PM EST | 6 PM UK for day 2 - when I will be showing you how to harness the power of your mind to revitalize your body using my amazing Healing Vortex - a powerful guided meditation that channels energy throughout the body, relieving physical symptoms and emotional challenges. Best Regards, Marisa Peer Team We hope this helps. Kindest regards, Marisa Peer Team
I was abandoned by my whole family ans friends and made homeless when i bwcame sick..I became suicidal..i domt understand it im a loving kind person. How do you recover from that level of abandonment.
Both of my parents are alive, I've been in an abusive toxic family. But I never suffered a loss of a parent, I don't know from where is my fear of abandonment coming from. I wanna start healing it. Pls reply and guide me,?
Understanding the "why" behind our feelings, behaviors, and reactions is a critical step towards healing and personal growth. When we delve into the reasons that underpin our experiences, we gain insights into the root causes of our distress or challenges. This understanding is more than just an intellectual exercise; it's a deep, empathetic acknowledgment of the complexities and nuances of our personal histories and experiences. By uncovering the "why," we do several things: Validate our experiences: Recognizing the causes of our emotions and behaviors helps validate our feelings, making us feel seen and understood, even if it's just by ourselves. This validation is crucial for emotional healing. Empower ourselves: Knowledge of the underlying reasons for our challenges empowers us to make informed decisions about our healing journey. It shifts the perspective from feeling victimized by our circumstances to having agency over our responses and choices. Enable targeted healing: Understanding the specific causes of our distress allows for more targeted and effective therapeutic interventions. Rather than applying general coping strategies, we can address the root causes, leading to more sustainable and profound healing. Foster empathy and compassion: For many, understanding the "why" fosters a sense of empathy and compassion towards themselves and others. It can soften self-criticism and judgment, replacing it with kindness and patience, which are essential for healing. Break cycles: Insight into the "why" can help us identify patterns and cycles in our behavior that may be self-perpetuating. By recognizing these patterns, we can work to interrupt and transform them, paving the way for new, healthier ways of being. In essence, understanding the reasons behind our challenges is akin to unraveling a tightly wound knot. With each insight, the knot loosens a bit more, eventually freeing us from the constraints that once held us tight. This process doesn't negate the need for actionable strategies to heal, but it lays the groundwork for healing that is meaningful and lasting, ensuring that the actions we take are deeply rooted in self-understanding and compassion.
From a theoretical angle, i understand everything Marisa is saying about needing connection. But if this is the case, how come men need to withdraw, how come people who are stressed feel better when they are alone, how come the whole world is moving towards social media rather than friends and porn rather than relationships? people seem to prefer disconnection if they have a choice.
Social media and porn are sources of cheap dopamine. And dopamine is addictive. Pretty much, we're not different from alcoholics who turn to booze to escape what we're really longing for. We're trying to access something infinite (love, genuine connections, etc.) through finite things.
You bring up an interesting point, and it's true that the dynamics of connection and disconnection can vary among individuals. If you're interested in delving deeper into this complex topic, please reach out to our certified RTT® professionals here bit.ly/3QdQiud. Regards, Team Marisa
It's better my co dependence. But this fear is too deep. I was a abandoned by my mother who left me out to a tyrannical choleric heavy Alkoholiker who abused me physically and verbally in his mind black outs, as later he couldn't recall it anymore. She wasn't better, she she abandoned me emotionally was never for me there never cared abd listened my problems. Ever since no man has cared for me and leaving me it's less painful than this ignorance and no responding to my questions, no keeping promises, etc. This whole parental neglectance like no caring about my needs either, if I'm cold or a handyman should be called. I'm 42 and still struggling to get my needs met. That's the best you could do for you. Ask yourself when your abandoning yourself and fight off your inner ego critic
I was ritually abused and there was no rationalizing it. I appreciate her teachings over all they are a blessing to many. But her examples are common but leave out those of us who were severely abused. Jesus was my hope and He has become the father and mother I never had. Only He can fill that void and heal the hurt.
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At 74, I have just realised that the fear of abandonnent was post probable the origin of the depression since adolescence . After being rejetée by friends and family for something I dis not even do. Which of course accentuated the émotion.
Can you imagine, I noticed that I even felt rejected lately when my cat was leaving my lap. 😊
Aware of it but could not help it.
Lately I decided to get rid of a deep sadness. Not knowing how I would do, it came to my consciousness where it came from.
Few minutes ago, I found your video and as you spoke, tears came to my eyes.
It was spot on.
So unhappy and depressed the past days I had ask the universe to help me.
And there you are!
I know that having identify the origin of my pains, my futur is going to change. Becoming aware of those feelings I xill let them go.
I will listen to your video again tonight. GRATITUDE and ❤❤❤
Hi,
We are very sorry to hear of your pain and would like to take this moment to remind you of how worthy you are, how this world is much better with you in it and that there are lots of options available to you, should you need them.
Sending you love and support, and a reminder that you are loved, needed, and enough. You always were and you always will be.
If you wish to seek therapeutic support, I would advise booking an RTT session. You can connect with one of our certified and trained RTT professionals to find the best support for you here
professionals.rtt.com/
Marisa Peer Team
I decrete: I am ONE WITH GOD I can never be abandoned!
The emotional abandonment is an eye opener. My dad and mom got divorced when I was 4 or so. He still maintained a place in my life but was demanding, controlling, wanting time with us, yet occasionally abusive, emotionally unreliable and flakey. So he was "still there" but not really accessible as a safe person. I felt totally emotionally abandoned. It's been hard sometimes to reckon with it because I will tell myself "but he didn't just leave...he said he loved me..." but then he would be erratic and send mixed messages. Whenever I get mixed messages in relationships, I clam up or want to protect myself, yet I also wait around hoping it will change. It was all so confusing. I love the idea that I won't die if I'm abandoned. I may be sad but I won't die. That's what it all comes down to. Helps me get in touch with the grief that my situation with my dad really was painful and not my fault. AND, it's in the past. Trying really hard not to bring those triggers into the present...
This fear of banishment/abandonment cause people pleasing and codependency 😢 And those are just 2 things it does, beside low self esteem and self worthiness.
So me my ex left me two years ago and I still struggle. I started dating someone else who dumped me a few days ago over text. Honestly it’s so hard
I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you’re in a better place now.
Please make an appointment with an RTT Therapist. RAPID. TRANSFORMATIONAL THERAPY
It. Will change your life It is Rapid change in your life.
I suggest changing that inner dialog to I'm enough, I'm valuable etc and work on yourself as we all should. Love yourself, be happy, make people who come in contact with you leave better than they came, transmit joy, peace, hope etc. No one likes being near people in the victim mentality that drag us down and make us feel worst. So, I send you much love, a strong hug and remember YOU HAVE DIVINITY INSIDE. I love to listen to Rev. Ike among many others they uplift me....much love!!!!
@@rroman2752 this is a year ago now and I can honestly say my life changed for the better. I worked on myself and without knowing the love of my life came into my life
@@vickiehalliday5173 THAT IS PHENOMENAL!!!!
This is such a helpful video. Thank you for uploading to RUclips. I associate abandonment with very powerful feelings that words may not always describe. I think the different approach can help and it's a matter of seeing the world as being there to gain, rather than to lose.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and I wish you continued progress and growth on your path towards healing.
Regards,
Team Marisa
You are amazing Marisa . I wish I could teach like u
You are the light I've bea eeyn looking for, I've followed you for yrs,,, thank you so much xxx
I was never loved or helped all the way through my life … relationships fail I’ve been a single mum to 4 kids all of my life since a teenager which I have given my whole world as I believe parent should do ?? no help or support I’m in my 40s settling for bad relationships /low worth please let this help me and bring pure joy and happiness
Hello ,
Marisa shares an abundance of free resources and tools to help people grow and heal as part of her philanthropic goals.
I would suggest you subscribe to Marisa’s RUclips channel to receive the latest videos and free meditations Marisa creates ruclips.net/user/MarisaPeer1 or go directly to watch her videos here: www.youtube.com/@MarisaPeer/videos
To access Marisa's free gifts visit marisapeer.com/free-gifts/
You’re more than welcome to join our I Am Enough community Facebook group. It's a hugely supportive group who are sharing their stories and support each other facebook.com/groups/iamenoughbymarisapeer/
For more information about RTT join this group: facebook.com/groups/Marisapeermethod/
For Workshops about RTT during March 2023, join this group: facebook.com/groups/marisapeerrttworkshops/
For more information about Marisa´s Dietles Life, join this group: facebook.com/groups/dietlesslife/
You can access the free I am enough meditation here: marisapeer.com/i-am-enough-meditation
You can access the Lovability course here: applyrtt.com/lovability-course
Also, if you missed the first of my five Unlock Your Mind, Shift Your Beliefs, and Change Your Career workshops, you can catch up on the replay now over at bit.ly/RTTWorkshops
Join me in the group again today at 10 AM PT | 1PM EST | 6 PM UK for day 2 - when I will be showing you how to harness the power of your mind to revitalize your body using my amazing Healing Vortex - a powerful guided meditation that channels energy throughout the body, relieving physical symptoms and emotional challenges.
Best Regards,
Marisa Peer Team
We hope this helps.
Kindest regards,
Marisa Peer Team
I can live. I will live. I do live. I am alive. I did it. 🎉
I have been anandoned by my 'familiry'. Abondenment. Is real
Thank you ❤️
My anxiety gets so strong that I’m
Constantly vomiting when I’m
Triggered .. :(
Wow, I loved that! Thank you!💖
So right to the point! Sounds like my story..
I was abandoned by my whole family ans friends and made homeless when i bwcame sick..I became suicidal..i domt understand it im a loving kind person. How do you recover from that level of abandonment.
Both of my parents are alive, I've been in an abusive toxic family. But I never suffered a loss of a parent, I don't know from where is my fear of abandonment coming from. I wanna start healing it. Pls reply and guide me,?
Both parents abandoned me.
Must be painful. It's unfair to walk with this burden of autophobia
I understand my father died when I was 8 and my mother is self absorbed and abusive.
You are worthy of love 💓💓💓
Most of the video is describing the reasons why with less about how to heal
Understanding the "why" behind our feelings, behaviors, and reactions is a critical step towards healing and personal growth. When we delve into the reasons that underpin our experiences, we gain insights into the root causes of our distress or challenges. This understanding is more than just an intellectual exercise; it's a deep, empathetic acknowledgment of the complexities and nuances of our personal histories and experiences.
By uncovering the "why," we do several things:
Validate our experiences: Recognizing the causes of our emotions and behaviors helps validate our feelings, making us feel seen and understood, even if it's just by ourselves. This validation is crucial for emotional healing.
Empower ourselves: Knowledge of the underlying reasons for our challenges empowers us to make informed decisions about our healing journey. It shifts the perspective from feeling victimized by our circumstances to having agency over our responses and choices.
Enable targeted healing: Understanding the specific causes of our distress allows for more targeted and effective therapeutic interventions. Rather than applying general coping strategies, we can address the root causes, leading to more sustainable and profound healing.
Foster empathy and compassion: For many, understanding the "why" fosters a sense of empathy and compassion towards themselves and others. It can soften self-criticism and judgment, replacing it with kindness and patience, which are essential for healing.
Break cycles: Insight into the "why" can help us identify patterns and cycles in our behavior that may be self-perpetuating. By recognizing these patterns, we can work to interrupt and transform them, paving the way for new, healthier ways of being.
In essence, understanding the reasons behind our challenges is akin to unraveling a tightly wound knot. With each insight, the knot loosens a bit more, eventually freeing us from the constraints that once held us tight. This process doesn't negate the need for actionable strategies to heal, but it lays the groundwork for healing that is meaningful and lasting, ensuring that the actions we take are deeply rooted in self-understanding and compassion.
From a theoretical angle, i understand everything Marisa is saying about needing connection. But if this is the case, how come men need to withdraw, how come people who are stressed feel better when they are alone, how come the whole world is moving towards social media rather than friends and porn rather than relationships? people seem to prefer disconnection if they have a choice.
Social media and porn are sources of cheap dopamine. And dopamine is addictive. Pretty much, we're not different from alcoholics who turn to booze to escape what we're really longing for. We're trying to access something infinite (love, genuine connections, etc.) through finite things.
You bring up an interesting point, and it's true that the dynamics of connection and disconnection can vary among individuals. If you're interested in delving deeper into this complex topic, please reach out to our certified RTT® professionals here bit.ly/3QdQiud.
Regards,
Team Marisa
I have had RTT few weeks ago with a recording to listen to for a month is this treatment take while to work before you see results 😊😊
Make sure to continue with the daily practice, as this will help reinforce the positive changes you're seeking.
Regards,
Team Marisa
It's better my co dependence. But this fear is too deep. I was a abandoned by my mother who left me out to a tyrannical choleric heavy Alkoholiker who abused me physically and verbally in his mind black outs, as later he couldn't recall it anymore.
She wasn't better, she she abandoned me emotionally was never for me there never cared abd listened my problems. Ever since no man has cared for me and leaving me it's less painful than this ignorance and no responding to my questions, no keeping promises, etc. This whole parental neglectance like no caring about my needs either, if I'm cold or a handyman should be called. I'm 42 and still struggling to get my needs met. That's the best you could do for you. Ask yourself when your abandoning yourself and fight off your inner ego critic
I was ritually abused and there was no rationalizing it. I appreciate her teachings over all they are a blessing to many. But her examples are common but leave out those of us who were severely abused. Jesus was my hope and He has become the father and mother I never had. Only He can fill that void and heal the hurt.
Say to yourself THAT WAS THEN AND THIS IS NOW!!!! AND BE THE CHANGE YOU EXPECT FROM OTHERS! MUCH LOVE