The truth about DIVORCE
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Perfect timing husband asked for a divorce yesterday I have been fighting for so long thank u for the hope
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May hashem grant you lots of strength!
It feels like I am dying every day. A divorce I did not want. I don't know what to do.
If he/she walked away, it was so YOU could go on living the life you were meant to have from the beginning. It was he/she that was unequally yoked to you in the first place. Ask yourself, WHY did you marry? What were both your objectives? Ever go to marriage council prior to getting married? Sooo many things factor as to WHY PPL MARRY. But if they no longer desire to live with you, let them go for BOTH your sakes
I would add that the fact that you didn't want the divorce, speaks to a more noble character. Feels like a crash but your stock just went up 👆. ...❤
Rabbi Happy Pesach. Is true who invested more in their marriage mourn . Who suffered from abuse relationship will celebrate 🍾 their freedom even they mourn. Is very complicated to understand but real love ❤️ never can divorce because is divine link. When relationship finished ✅ people must be honest and respectful each other and let go who suffer from that relationship. If you love someone and another person don’t love ❤️ you so you must be respectful and let go! I did in the past and it was painful but the time helped me and healed me and again I can love again the right person who deserves my love 😍. All the best Rabbi
I never thought I'd want or need or _get_ a divorce either. My promise to you: you don't _have_ to know what to do. Life will continue and you'll recover and move on in spite of yourself...you won't _do_ it, it will just happen.
Time heals a broken heart....things can only get better. once you hit rock bottom, only one way to go and that's back up
Thank you Rabbi Friedman!! Gut Shabbes!!💪✡️🙏❤️🔥🍷🎶
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I internally celebrated my freedom from the relationship but grieved the end of the marriage and the dream of having a family. It was a difficult decision. I tried everything but I saw my unhappy future in front of me. It was, and it still is the biggest deal in my life that my marriage didn't work out.
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, please accept my condolences. 🙏It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Thank you Rabbi Friedman
Great advice and words, It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Thank you ❤
Amputation. Good analogy.
When you let’s say, develop a serious health problem & a toe must be amputated. If not removed infection can spread to whole body. Just WHAT would you do. If there was never a need for amputation, man would have never invented the knife. Yes, God desires healthy, balanced, loving & foregiveness through marriage. It is man looking to his outside “world” for gratification, when he should be searching within himself to realize this counterpart God has given to him IS his most VALUED asset. God did, through Scripture, grant man a rite of divorce. So don’t think that by getting divorced you are committing something unholy.
I have never been married. I believe divorce should be mourned. Pity marriage don’t hold the value that the Almighty intended for. You marry me, you are tired of me, go hiking go fishing go eat a gallon of ice cream and then come back and you will find me right here waiting for you. God never designed divorce. Pity it makes some scared to get married because too few people take marriage seriously. Divorce is a no no!
Spoken exactly like someone who's never walked a mile in those moccasins.
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Fully agree !
Thank you rabbi
The problem is, I included is we do not read the Bible and understand each and every page of what is being taught!! Many divorce and remarriages is adultery and don’t see it!!
I am 100% against divorce, but was forced to do it twice. I refused to be married to two women who cheated repeatedly. Seems like most people see marriage as a way to supplement their income and leave when it stops benefiting them. I refuse to marry again because I haven’t found someone who holds a holy commitment like marriage as strongly as I do.
I'm sorry for your losses, but I think that if we take the time to know ourselves better with the raw honesty that God will bring, we are in better shape to find a way to love something more than we knew before. I think the grieving process is HUGELY important for our soul growth. Good luck with your journey of self-discovery. And remember to be KIND to your tender heart before you entrust it to another person. God is safe, though. 🫒
@@suzyp7178 thank you for your kind words. It has been almost 10 years since my divorce. I have done exactly that…heal and rediscover myself. I went from poor credit, in debt and unstable to 100% out of debt, good credit and have been at my career for almost 7 years now. Once I took accountability for my mistakes and choices, I was free to make a better life for myself. A life based on honesty and fulfillment. I won’t say I will never get married again, but I will say that my choices are far better than I’ve made in the past. As long as I have God in my heart and stay on the path he chose for me…ANYTHING is POSSIBLE! ❤️🙏
Good Morning Rabbi True if you're asking agree that divorce is not the answer.But do believe that there are reasons to divorce like abuse.❤
Yes don’t mess around with abuse get help ❤
Great advice rabbi Friedman it’s easier to destroy something than to build something and the children are always watching because they usually love care for both parents no matter how old they are it’s tough ❤
Thank you 🕎
Thank you and much appreciative words. I don’t know much about Jewish but open to learning and hopefully converting if I find a true Jewish Family, I heard a lot of beautiful stories about the Jews, but never had a chance to sit and discuss with one yet hope someday soon. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Great advice and words, It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Rabbi when there is no respect..little show of affection or concern in a marriage it is much more then just relief to end it.
GrIt's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Great advice and words, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, please accept my condolences. 🙏 It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
I am Jewish. Been divorced twice. My exes weren’t Jewish. But my Rabbi says that since they weren’t Jewish, it is like I’ve never been married. I don’t even need a get.
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Only the power of The Mighty Hand will free me. It must come now. Since days before I accepted this fate, enslavement, I lacked a proper vision on the direction out of my condition. I saw no other choice. Now I know who I am and Pharaoh will send me out.
Great advice and words, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, please accept my condolences. 🙏 It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
On a different subject, I wish you can explain what the difference is between a soul and a spirit. Thank you !
Balance is key
Great statement Glory to God, divorced should never be an option
Yes it is an option when one spouse is abusing and doesn't let God change them.
Rabbi happy pesach. Some of your points I totally agree 👍🏽, divorce is something sad and marriage is something happiness. When two people adults with common agreement decide to divorce they must have respect for each other first of all and then they can mourning 😢 or celebrating 🎉 it depends how was this relationship before divorce! If one person suffered a lot because another person abused or made unhappy 😢I think 🤔 that person must celebrate 🎊 the freedom and enjoy ❤again the life. Same thing another person must give respect and let go if really care about others. In the past I had bad experience with my fiancé! It was like I cut my limb! Was very painful and I let go him. Today I am happy and feeling healthy again and again can love ❤️ another person who loves me ❤. We need to be honest with ourselves first and then with another person. If our creator gives permission for divorce that means that relationship end period. If Our creator link with our soulmate we know and we love each other and respect each other and resolve every problem. I believe in Devine link. I hope 🤞 everybody find the right person and don’t suffer from toxic relationships 😢. Everybody deserves better life and happiness. All the best Rabbi
Books. ZERO books. That is the reason so many people fail. Sure, reading books is very, very difficult. It is so much easier to be happy in life without books.
Or so you would think...
I have been all over the world, at different times, through books. I have met so many interesting people through books. I cannot imagine saying, I wish I never read Poe, Plato, Rex Stout, Shakespeare, Michael Gelven, etc.
"Divorce should always be mourned" ~ If this was the message that was pushed instead of the opposite, the world would be much better.
Well in my case unfortunately it's not going back. I'm looking forward to the end of marriage where I can finally go on my way. Also was told by a family member of which I kind also had that feeling that she was basically on and of cheating.
I had two weddings.
Never experienced marriage.
There should be more teaching about marrige. In the worldish way people too easily say to change partners. There arent people to be honest. And you should get to know your partner before marrige very well.
In many case people are taught a certain way, but later domed what they have done. Thank God there is a forgiving way and the One who knows what we are!
PEOPLE ARE SO BACKWARDS ... THEY PREFER COMFORTABLE LIES ... THEN THE TRUTH ... LOVE ... SEX ... MONEY ... LOOKS ... KARMA ... GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN ... HAVE A GREAT PASSOVER !
Divorce is not a choice, but rather a consequence. For some, it's as devastating as an amputation; for others, it's as liberating as a breath of fresh air. Divorce isn't actively chosen-it simply occurs. Often, one may not wish for a divorce, but if the other does, there's no alternative; it becomes an unavoidable outcome.
This was a tiny bit vague, are the only reasons for divorce infidelity unless death?
When it was said that’s why God didn’t give many outs (saying that in my own words). What about alcoholism, emotional abuse, etc?
Abuse can absolutely be a reason. I think what he’s getting at is that, no matter the reason, divorce should be the last option. Literally the only option after everything else has been tried.
@@alexandereisen3486 Exactly. Be means whatever the reason, it should only be when there is no choice.
I think that the problem with interpreting any ancient texts is that there was no mass publication when they were written and hand copied, and there was no intention of them being read by a society that had for the most part no ability to write or copy or read such writings. So they were not written for the reason publishers, ideologies, systems, nations and other kidnappers of inventions of the commoners such as moveable type and thus mass literacy seem to have led themselves and others to believe more recently in history. In 1580 King Henry 8 made it legal for the tiny number of probably wealthy women who could read and write, to read the Bible without a male over seer. And this was 140 years after the European printing press was invented and over 500 years after the Chinese version. Before that I think as far as I can tell the gospels, veda's, gitas, confucius, buddha, socrates, bible and so on for all ancient writings were specifically written for a small group of literate priests or gurus or kings and male royalty almost as a secret military strategy that only the pitcher and umpire and two other players but no one else in the stadium could understand.
Another R. Told me 4 years is nothing to spite on. I was divorced from Meldon exactly 4 years almost to the day.
Awesome understanding of divorce I love it because I was divorced and God blew in the dirt breath of life says it took a very long time to get to the beginning and now it's up to us It didn't evolve it grew It was planted the seed the seed was planted they planned it they planted the planet there is a green horse kind of green gray green there's a red one and green one and white one and black one like the flags all around kind of like they also the the colors of the USB cord same colors red black white and green lol
Affected Was trying to be one with good we're trying to have a relationship was good so we can move on but I figure that's what I've learned
Simply put I believe that it took a very very long time for us to get here because God said he blew in the dirt and breath of life so that's growing we know the land wasn't just spread out that quick people came from somewhere God but they grew this was a seed All the ingredients was in it everything goes together all these different things they're all the same thing they'll go together etymology the government the way there know that their souls to come back in the evolution the moving on to a higher level and hell is earth the beginning the lowest took a long time to get to the beginning but now it's up to us
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I was told from R. Groner's sister that I'm not marrigable material
Whoever told you that was wrong, every human is specially created in G-d image and likeness, Everybody has someone special in store for them. Don't ever feel such a way, hope you're doing well and safe.
As the snake in the garden of eden gave eve the idea of knowledge little did eve know it would be used to tax whatever came afterwards.. Hebrew text in Genesis 3:13 Beguiled - nasha - to lend on interest, be a creditor Job 1: 12 Have fun.
NO-ONE can separate what GOD ALMIGHTY has blessed in heaven. Not even MF ...
THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE ONLY!
No one except Gd. That's what the Rabbi is saying
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The thumbnail is transmitting a different message! The devil has been a LIAR since the beginning ... mixing truth with lies in its attempt to deceive even the most faithful ones.
@@ACuriousChild what message is the thumbnail transmitting?
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Have a look and ask it yourself ... my impression is irrelevant to GOD ALMIGHTY regarding anyone else's heart.
@@ACuriousChild well, thing is I'm not seeing what you're seeing. So maybe one of us is seeing something that's not actually there....
I am Muslim woman, married since 2022
Living with toxic in laws, where my husband is just Mama's and sister's boy.he don't listen to me,
Nor I can take the decisions , because he is powerful, I am also financially depending on him,
I am totally unable to take the decission,
😢 What to do
If he is married to you, then you should come first before his mom and sister. You should demand that as his wife. If he cannot do that then, unfortunately, you should divorce him
He is not a man if he puts mommy and sister before his wife. He is still a child, not a man
He belames me for everything that by using mobile fone and listen all the ruubish u have become this type of girl, he want me to be deaf dumb and blind,
Actually their family is illiterate, just he has got education otherwise they belong to very conservative family, eheret they keep the wife as a slave,
I don't have right to divorce him, if I take this step he will defame me in the society,
And from where I belong to it's not easy to divorce.
I am financially not strong. 😢
I entered my marriage sincerely, never planning to divorce. It turned out my husband married me to be his meal ticket through law school. I did my best. My husband was abusive and I stuck, trying to make it work. Finally, when my youngest children graduated middle school, right after my mother died (years after my father), and he realized I wasn't turning over my inheritance from her to him, he announced divorce and moved in with his mother. It was during the terrible divorce proceedings that I realized he had been far more abusive than I had realized, and not only to me but also to our children, behind my back. I now feel ashamed and stupid for not realizing how truly evil he was, not only to me but to our children. I should never have believed all his lies. I should have realized, somehow, what he was doing to our children and protected them from him better. I should have left him much earlier for their sake. I do believe this marriage was intended by God, but not as a real marriage. Rather, it was a lesson I needed to learn that true evil does exist and it is very close by. I only wish I had learned this lesson sooner.
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce, It's easier to destroy something than to build, mostly I feel for the kids. As for me, I lost my wife due to cancer of the brain and never experienced a divorce situation but I think all women should be treated as a Queen, for I appreciate their role in our lives neither as a mother nor a wife. I hope you and your family are safe and doing great?
Divorce is permitted. Moshe said so. The Most-High doesn't want any person to live with an unbeliever, abusive, or adultery situations.
A song just watch me walk away at 3.min
Don't listen to this. Some people are toxic. My ex wife cheated on me while I was deployed. She had a man living in my house. I was the step-father of her children. My current wife is the mother of my son. She is a blessing. My only regret is I didn't get divorced sooner.
Learn how to dance instead. Or learn a new language maybe. The break down in relationships is actually just your mind and attitude playing tricks on you.
Don't listen to this. I got divorced in 2013. The ex wife was screwing other men while I was in Afghanistan. She had a “friend” of mine living with her while I was on the front lines. My current wife is the mother of my son. She is a blessing. My only regret is I didn't divorce the ex sooner.