‼️PLEASE READ‼️ - DRAMA NAMES IN THE DESCRIPTION - This video goes along with my previous video, please watch it too: ruclips.net/video/trnLWi75Ylw/видео.html - Thank you for helping me making these videos! I’m doing not it alone, I couldn’t do it without you! 🔺Why are these dramas considered good portrayals? I used the same points as in my previous video but I reversed them. Let me explain. To be included, dramas had to NOT: use homosexuality for humour purposes; poorly portray the only queer character (villain, killer, abuser..); portray and reinforce stereotypes (touching people without consent..); not condemn homophobia; portray homosexuality as something vulgar/scary/funny/disgusting or embarrassing; portray heterosexuality as a norm; (+ use the plot of pseudo-homosexuality; give a sad ending to the queer characters) If these dramas are here it's because they have globally done a good job, because they knew how to portray a queer person without falling in all the bad criteria mentioned above. It is important to know the difference between what is explicit and what is not, to know the difference between promoting and portraying homophobia. These dramas here have been able to portray homophobia in a way to denounce it. Did you feel uncomfortable, sad, angry while watching these scenes? That's because it was meant to be. The editing, the music, the dialogues, the acting of the characters, nothing is done to promote homophobia but it is done to condemn it. These representations give hope for future representations of LGBTQ+ people. Korea and its dramas know how to do a good job on the subject and I hope they can keep it up. 🔺Why didn’t I include any BLs ? I didn't include BLs first of all because it wouldn't have made much sense considering my previous video. My previous video was about Kdramas so this video is about Kdramas. The other reason is that some people from the LGBTQ+ community have expressed their discomfort with the idea of including BLs, a genre that is debated because of the many stereotypes they contain. Although I agree that Korean BLs can be quite good, I didn't want to ignore these comments from the people concerned themselves and I didn't want to risk including something I shouldn't have. To be on the safe side, I opted not to include any in view of the video's title. As with my video on healthy relationships, I decided to play it safe. I hope you can understand that. 🔺Why some dramas that feature gay characters or address the topic are not included? If you haven't seen my previous video on bad representations in dramas, I invite you to go and see it, maybe the drama you have in mind is there. If not, it's possible that they are one of the ones that were recommended to me for this video but that I didn't include. Not necessarily because it was a bad portrayal in my opinion but maybe because they could have done better, or because it wasn't really a portrayal (Her private life). 🔺Why are some dramas in both videos? If you saw my previous video, maybe you noticed that some dramas are in both. As I said in one of my posts, I considered that some dramas made a few mistakes (So not worth it, Prison playbook) but overall they did a good job. 🔺Why did I include dramas with sad endings when I also included them in the other video? Because as I had said in the pinned comment of my last video, I don't think this is the worst. I understand and maintain that sad endings are frustrating and don't help. But then again, I considered that some dramas did a pretty good job overall and therefore deserved their place here. Thank you for watching!
Oh my, this felt so wholesome. I sincerely hope that there are more instances/ portrayals of all kinds of people and relationships. Loved this edit. Thank you.
@@DEEZNUTS-yo1dx i know how must you have feel..i have seen my friend struggling due to this and IT'S was so painful but im that NOW HE DON'T GIVE A FUVK trust me nobody cares here so live your life FULLY i hope you are doing good
so proud of our moonbin being right there on the thumbnail. he's always respected EVERYONE. this was his first regular drama and i'm so so so proud of him for taking up this role. and to ALL the others as well. we ALL deserve love. we can love whoever we want. nothing else matters
I loved his character so much, he was very adorable and though he didn't really get with the boy he liked, he got a lot of support with his friends. It was wholesome but real, I also liked that the writers didn't give his character the typical unnecessary hardships of a gay character, sometimes the LGBT+ community wants representation that doesn't revolve around discrimination. Anyway, he did such a great job and this role was what made me a huge fan of him since I first saw that drama, he's a great actor and a respectful guy. Hope he gets casted in another drama soon:)
"It's not something you should be sorry about" Those are the words that many of us want to hear. I can't come out yet cuz if I do, I'm scared that they'll kick me out. It hurts whenever my younger siblings call gay relationships "weird" or "ew". Thank you for the video. I like how all of the scenes that were presented really showed what it's like for members of the LGBTQ+ community like me Edit: Thank you for the likes and all the encouraging messages. Update: I told some of my cousins and they accepted me. My younger brother too, he smiled at me for it and we got closer. Not my parents yet, maybe I will when I can confirm that they won't slap me in the face for it. I wish you all the best! Edit (2): i told my parents and they accepted me! they act like it never happened these days but they told me it was fine and that they love me either way. thanks for all the support and i hope everyone will get the same reaction as i did. i love you guys
When I came out as bisexual to my Christian friend I was too scared to look her in the face. I was so worried she would be disgusted, or worse, say that I was just confused. But when I looked up she was crying. She hugged me and said that I must have had a hard time. She said she was sorry for everything I went through and told me that I was still the same friend she knew and that I wasn't wrong, weird, or evil. I'll remember that moment for the rest of my life. I know you might not have the same experience as me, but sooner or later you need to talk to your family about it. If you're really worried that they'll throw you out, then wait until you're financially independent, but you need to say it. Even though my parents don't seem to totally accept my sexuality now, it's freeing to live life without feeling like you're hiding something. There's nothing wrong with love.
I’m sorry your siblings do that, I’m openly out to both of my parents but my sibling was apparently “too young” to understand what sexual orientation is. So we didn’t tell him, just kind of went on with life. But once when my mom was mentioning a relative (a female relative) was going to be proposed to by her girlfriend, my little brother whispered into my ear “She’s gay?” and then fake threw-up. I felt honestly hurt by that, so I asked him “What’s wrong with that?” And he just shook his head and said “Isn’t that gross?” So I understand what you’re going through, I’m sorry again, and I hope someday you’ll have the courage to tell your family!
I was actually scared of the same thing but living a lie was really starting to break me so I just did it, things didn't go well but I'm happy I did, I might not have the support of my family but I'm finally free..Now I'm not saying you should come out, but if there's even a slight chance your parents might accept you then you should go for it only if you're comfortable with doing so
I still remember the day that I've come out nd how my friend she hugged me so Hard nd she started crying and told me the day that peoples understand that we need to be different is the end of the word nd she was u need to be proud that ur different and and other day I was walking around with my classmate listening to music nd I was this song remembered me of sm1 nd he was how is he and then he was sorry how she is nd he was sorry I know that ur bi nd u don't need to be scared 'bout m so thankful for the community that I have even thou I live in a Muslim country
am just a girl,may be i can't understand you well like others...but there is a think that i always trust ...am a human ,we are human ...there's no matter who you love,what is your gender...stay strong...you have the right to live this world...the people who hate you...they are not humans ...they don't have the right to be human....
I'm straight but your message at the end has me in tears. It makes me so sad that people can't just live their lives loving who they love and get shamed for it.
Omg, I cried like crazy; why do people have to apologize for being who they are, and why do people have to be discriminated against just because of their sexuality. Love knows no gender. This edit is a masterpiece
I'm gay and yeah it's true people in public will show disgust holding hands with your boyfriend .. so I never done it ever again specially here in asian countries
@@Rhetzelle I understand you completely. It makes me cry to know that people would be disgusted by other people being in love. I wish other people and people in Asian countries would understand that love doesn’t come with gender; it doesn’t look at the person's gender and say no, you cannot they of your gender. Love just happened; gender should not matter; the person you're in love with that should matter. I wish you could openly express your love for your Significant without hiding it from the world; I hope that day comes. Reading your comment makes me cry, and I am so sorry.
If only the Korean entertainment industry understood this and take it seriously even it reality and variety shows they just romanticize any man and woman but if it’s a man and a man then it’s weird and people be like “I’m getting chills” or “I’m out of here” and when it’s a girl and a girl it’s “they’re good friends” like I don’t need anyone to call out any couple that’s not what I’m asking for but stop alienating us.
Especially these kpop idols, like when their idols could be catching feelings for the same sex without us knowing and their so quick to dismiss it as "just friends", I genuinely hate what this world has come to, and my heart breaks towards these idols who have to hide themselves from this messed up society.
@@Tehya20_ I remember seeing a variety show recently where an idol said something along the lines of how gender wasn't as important as personality when it came to ideal type and how he slept in the same bed with guys he liked and the hosts literally told him to shut up because he might spark a controversy. The poor guy looked so scared and confused and said he didn't realize that it was bad.
@@jchen8902 Jeez, poor guy.This society is based on judgement and constant criticism among the LGBTQ+ community, especially knowing S Korea is a conservative country that doesn't accept members of the LGBTQ+ community, which is heartbreaking. I bet there's a good majority of idols who continue to closet themselves due to how chaotic this society truly is. I think a lot of it has to do with their emotions and how certain things can affect them, in a way that could possibly affect their mental health. Like for instance, this is just my observation, When halsey was preforming at the MTV music awards (I think).BTS were there, and I noticed both facial expressions ans Taehyungs and jungkooks face, they had teary eyes. It was like maybe in a way they could relate to her performance, because it solely made them feel a certain kinda way. Even the other members were shocked to see both of the two crying. It just saddens me to see idols judged and criticized for being themselves.
@@Tehya20_ even in the entertainment industry, idols are the most restricted among all celebrities. If it's difficult for a regular person to come out, imagine how much more so it is for someone in the public eye. Heechul from Super Junior literally got death threats after rumors about him asking out both male and female idols surfaced - he didn't deny them because he said there was no need to deny something that there was nothing wrong with, and he lost half his fanbase as a result. Idols have literally been physically attacked because they wore something too masculine or feminine, said something in support of the community, or even just interacted with an LGBTQ+ person. Apparently Seohyun and Moonbin (who acted in two of the dramas pictured here) got hate for acting the role of a gay character. It breaks my heart to think of how many people hate us just for existing.
not me crying throughout the video cuz finally someone is talking about this. thank you soo much for making this. the way you edited this is *chefs kiss*
Another masterpiece it is! I'm very sorry that whenever I see your community post regarding the videos you're making, I can't suggest or give you something to add up also I can't support you through donating cause I'm still just depending on my parent's money. But I'm so happy that you didn't stop making this types of videos and speaking for those who can't even tho it doesn't benefit. You're a very open minded, talented person, I'm hoping you'll achieve that one thing you want and have a piece of mind.
Don't apologize! I'm glad I can make this kind of videos and I'm really happy to read these comments! That's all I'm looking for and that's enough for me. Please, don't feel ashamed because you think you can't "help me", you're helping me and supporting me by posting this message and by watching my videos! So thank you a lot 💜
You don't need people opinion to be who you are because nobody know you like you Know yourself 🦋🌸 so let it go shine🏵🌼 and be happy 🏵🕊🕊have a nice day 🥰
Your work is outstanding as usual. The scenes, the placement and the series you chose were perfect. But what made me cry is the last slide with your message.I hope everyone thinks like this someday. This world will be a much better place then. God bless you.
I adore how the video first talks about the rejection and the homophobic behavior, and then highlights the rare yet glowing rays of supportive people. Kinda made it stand out that even at the end, there's something worth to keep trying for. This was lovely, brought me into tears. ♥️
I just found this video, as few days ago i came out to my boyfriend about my sexual orientation and i'm a bi and i lean more towards same sex (i'm female). He said he was okay with it, and i also told him i dated him because of the pressure i got for never having a boyfie my whole 20 years and he said he was lucky to have me being honest. We have been dating for more than 2 years now and finally i got the courage to tell him the girl i have wanted to date for so long and even he set up plans for me so the date will go smooth. I can't ask for a better boyfriend and bestfriend, he is and will always be the best. He said he loved me, so he wanted the best of me and he wanted me to be honest of myself and we could remain bestfriends. We didn't break up because we agreed to keep the relationship status to protect me. I'm lucky, very lucky. He was my first date ever, and i'm lucky
so happy to know your story. I happy for you to have a person in your life whom you can let your feelings out. I wish the best for you and this person...💜💜
I came out as bisexual three years ago. I know I wasn’t confused or going through some phase because I honestly didn’t even know that it was possible for someone to be able to like both men and women. When I started to developed feelings towards a girl for the first time, I was very lost and scared because up until then I thought I was straight and knew I liked boys. Later, someone who was very close to me had to explain to me what bisexuality was. Most people think that I was relieved to hear that I’m bisexual, because now I was part of a community, but in real life I was still very lost and still very scared. My first thoughts weren’t “Oh, thank goodness” or “Cool, I’m bisexual”, my thoughts were “Why me?” “Why am I like this?” It took a long time for me to get used to it and learn about who I truly was. But, in the end, I was able to figure it out and I had some amazing people to help me along the way telling me that everything will be ok, I’m ok, and that even if there are people who don’t like me that there will always be people that will love me. This video reminded me of my whole coming out story, and I hope that more people will find comfort in this video.
I feel you .. myself I grow as religion family catholic - christianity when my both group family knew about it . They judge me .. they started to feel the anger at me even put my own mother .. against me . I wasn't enough person .. then. This day I have to be with guy then I was pregnant ..but I didn't love the guy .. 😒😒😒😒 the hiproticie of my family was happy about it I was pregnant. . nobody ask how I was feeling .. never never I was felt less ..I feel the part ..when you get confused ...
i had a similar experience, except my first crush was a girl, back when i was in maybe 1st or 2nd grade, and it was the usual crush that any kid would have. (side note, i dont know if all kids go through or act like this, but the way i expressed my crush was by being mean and acting like i didnt like being around that person, but secretly really treasuring every moment i spent with them, LOL.) my 2nd crush was with a boy a while later. for some reason, i blocked out the memories of my crush on this girl for years and years and only remembered the boy, probably once i realized that liking the same gender was never acknowledged in our society. it was only when i was going through my childhood diary a few years ago that all the memories of my crush came back, and i had written about both the boy and the girl. though maybe because it was taboo in my community rather than openly frowned upon, it made it a bit easier to accept and realize my sexuality. until i was a teenager, i didn't know and didn't want to acknowledge that i liked both girls and boys, because like you said, the fact that i liked boys and thought i was straight was like a comfort to me, to convince myself that i was like everyone else. i guess it's a struggle that every bisexual goes through. ignoring part of your sexuality until you're forced to confront it in some way or the other. it's difficult to accept that both those sides are you.. but at the same time, impossible to suppress and ignore forever.
In nevertheless, their chemistry and everything, it's so beautiful. It's been represented really well and I literally screamed when they got together, it made me so happy omg :')
i can't express how beautiful this video is :) growing up in a society where lgbt+ is still condemned and to make things worse our media doesn't portray us as decent human beings its been tough and scary. this video means alot to me
im coming back to this edit whenever my mom says anything homophobic and i feel like i want to cry because im still in the closet..thank you so much for this video i cried watching it knowing that i one day will find a safe place where i can love whoever keeps me going another masterpiece i had no chose but to subscribe, and i look forward to your next video
Aa a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I'm very impressed by how much effort you put in here! I legit got a chill down my spine I'm out to all people I care about but I still don't know if I feel as free as I would like to be Thank you for your hard work 💜
A character in a drama confessed of being gay and his friend literally didn't react, he just asked who's the person and the one who confessed asked if it's strange, then his friend went "Would you feel strange if I told you I liked women?" "No?" "Then what's the difference. It's not strange" The planet needs those people
It's been over a year since I watched this for the first time, and it still tears me up when I see this edit. This is so emotional and editor did their best to bring out the emotions and the music choice is perfect. I have come to terms with my gender identity and sexuality but it's not like its happy forever. There are times I encounter people who hate us and it all comes back to zero. And I have to try hard again to make me feel better. I hope someday I can find true love and good circle of friends.
i just wanted to say that as a questioning person myself, u dont need anyone's validation u r who u r no matter yr sexual preference or yr gender identity u have the whole autonomy to be with the person u want to be with and there is nothing wrong with it. being different from others doesn't make u weird, society says a lot of crap dont give heed to it. Also i really really appreciate all the efforts the creator has put into this. 💜
I’m srsly rooting for soljiwan 😭 the fact that they alr confessed to each other (tho jiwan is still a lil confused) but still, i could see them having a bright future (hopefully)
I'm crying while watching this. I just came out to a cousin last night and she passed it off as a phase, and told me something along the lines of "if it's still there, we're a family and we'll help you through it" and I feel like she is talking about conversion therapy. I hated it, and I'm stil upset about it. How can she say that about something that I know very well? She's not me, she doesn't know me like I do. I know what I feel and I know that it's real. Thank you so much for making this amazing fmv, it made me cry but also made me feel a tad bit better. I'm glad RUclips recommended this to me.
If choosing sexuality was an option i would choose to be straight. "You love who you love, and that’s all there is to it. Nobody gets a choice in who that person is.”
The thing with this question is that it's answer is both yes and no. Yes, I love being queer, it took time to understand myself, but I'm proud of who I am and I don't wanna change myself for the sake of others. No, I don't wanna be discriminated against
I'm proud of Moonbin for doing the role Oh je in moments of 18. 0:41 and 0:49 that's himm! As an idol I'm glad he did this role giving out a msg that no one's to be discriminated!
“Liking each other shouldn’t be something wrong” OMG yes yes yes it’s so so hard for the people accept that we shouldn’t discriminate love, we should discriminate hate
That was a beautiful message at the end, made me cry a little. I'm straight, but I suffer from a fear of intimacy, even though I also really want to be in a relationship. It often makes me feel abnormal, frustrated, and worried. The things you said about it being okay to doubt, change your mind, take your time, be afraid and so on really spoke to me. Thank you for this
This genuinely made me tear up, especially the message at the end. Most people don't realize how hard it is, how full of doubt the journey is, and to know other people are doubting you? The people who are supposed to love you no matter what? It hurts...
Mee seeing moonbin in the thumbnail: 👁️👄👁️ Apart from this, I so so proud of Moonbin and every other actor who've played this role.. Every person deserves to be loved and love.. 💜
recently i told my mom i'm bi and i was confident about the coming out because her brother is gay. but plottwist, she didn't accepted it at all, i tried to explain but she didn't want it to understand. I'm sad and disappointed. i already came out to some close friends and all the reactions were positive as i hoped and expected. but from the person who is the closest to me...it just hurts that she isn't supportive at all btw i cried the shit out of me, this video is a holy masterpiece
I'm so sorry, this happened to my dad too. He still thinks I'm influence by social media, he even said he don't like gay people in front of me when we were talking about the meaning homophobic (he didn't know the word). I wonder "I don't like gay people" includes me. I just told him "Don't be surprise if I bring a girlfriend at home, if I get married to a wife. Or adopt kids." You'll get through this don't worry, it hurts. But don't let it get through your head.
@@snickbiordking5748 in the end she was ok with it but before some drama happend. with a lot of tears from both sides. but now shes ok with it. anyway im still not comfortable talking about girls infront of anyone except my friends. my dad was very supportive and was also helping with my mom...fighting
It's crazy because I've known I am attracted to women my entire life and I never hid it. I didn't "come out" because I thought I was already normal and often talked about marrying women at a young age. In high school I started watching kdramas and loved them but didn't see any lgbtq dramas. Then I started watch thai bls and the stories opened my eyes to how some people actually see people in this community. It's so sad and it made me realize how lucky I am to be brought up in such a way were I didn't feel ashamed or scared. Till this day I still watch some of the first dramas I love and I'm so fucking happy everytime I find a new korean bl and etc.
I think in Hometown Cha Cha Cha there was also a hint for the teacher that likes the lady that had the restaurant but she never really confessed her love because of her strict mother and its so sad :( Thank you for this amazing video, it really moved me and I hope in the future there will be more representation of these issues and hopefully with a good ending too!^^
"I like men too." I loved this "I would prefer it if they were talkative... I am referring to the guy you will bring to me one day." I also love this I love your awareness edits 💜
I get goosebumps every time I see this video. Specially when the father tells his son that he would prefer the guy he introduces to him would be more talkative and that his sexuality isn't something needing an apology. I just cry happy tears each time. This video is timeless and beauitful. I hope everyone who is dealing with a situation like this one day finds their happy space and safe people, their home 🧡💛💚
This really made me think of the outcome of me coming out to my parents one day. It won't be easy but I want to be able to stand proud infront of them and show them that I am okay with who I am regardless of their reactions. Thank you for giving me some inspiration ❤
You've got this!!! I love your confidence baeb...Don't forget you are who you are...nobody can decide or approve of that...nobody has the authority to do so... it's us... we are the one Living this amazing life of ours...so that's all up to us to decide...♥️
You know what? your video makes me view Kdrama as something more! Like it's hard to explain, but your videos make a Kdrama look like an art, maybe cz of the song you choose or maybe it's editing, it is like your videos are deep, much layered, and it looks artistic! It makes me proud that I watch Kdramas...(sound funny but true..) Keep up the good work!!
I love this. It makes me so emotional because of the homophobia, but i feel like this is exactly what you wanted to contradict from your previous video. I’m going to watch this like 5 more times now
This video made me cry but sometimes crying isn't always a bad thing. When I listen to songs I'm not listening to the words or the music individually but the harmony they make together. The clips you chose and the song choice are beyond perfect... this is a legendary edit. Sorry, I am back again- I am literally sitting here covering my mouth and crying and I rarely cry... T-T thank you.
What I love the most is that some of these dramas are the same dramas that are in your Multifandom - Self[Homophobia] video. It just shows you that although there is progress in Korea and how they depict LGBTQ+ relationships in media, there are still many issues that can be corrected and learned from. For example, Sweet Munchies introduces to us the 2nd lead as a man that fell in love with the male lead. Not only do we not see it done in kdramas often, they gave him a well though out character. Of course, the issue comes with how his confession is handled by the male lead as well as how his "exposure" of his sexuality is taken by those around him. It's great that you still showed the good sides and the bad sides to these kdramas and how we should still be critically thinking about these issues whilst still enjoying the show.
I LOVED IT SM!!!! LIKE OMG. U R SO TALENTED. THIS EDIT STOLE MY HEART. Guys, be proud of who u are. It's hard, I know, but do not repress those feelings and try to be someone who u are not. There is no such thing as 'normal.' I stand by you
"She likes someone and that someone happens to like her back. You guys are lucky" No because before i knew sexiality [more like labels and homophobia] was a thing, i always thought its nice that couples got together, i never thought of the gender, i just wanted to have love too lmao.
This edit gave me so much happiness. I subconsciously was smiling and feeling so much ease . I hope we can make this world a little less difficult to live in.
First of all, thanks for making such beautiful edit and talking about myself I was literally bawling in tears when the girl said "I do not need to apologize for my sexual Identity" well this whole video makes me cry like a baby thinking that's why it's so tough to tell that yeah, I like men and the worst part about my story is no on earth believes or suspects that I belong to the queer community Being an Asian Muslim it's you know the "life or death situation" where they see homosexuality as not as hatred but more sort of a disrespect Thinking of coming out makes me feel like this is way tougher than my entrance exams, you know what talking about myself everybody in my whole big ass family says that "oh, he's a very good, good at everything sports or studies or etiquette we'll find a perfect bride for him like he's" but back in my mind when I think that *if they know a little secret from my life will they all be the same as they are now?* I'm sure that my family will never accept me as who I'm of whatsoever I'm, how successful I become in my life, or what I'll achieve things in my life, so whenever I see someone having a boyfriend/girlfriend straight/queer relationship I was like okay if I don't have one at least someone's btw, idk why I told this to you guys, thanks If you read this now, and of course happy valentine's day
it’s fucking 2022 guys, i just can’t understand people who still can’t get enough to the people who always thought that being part of the LGBT are bad,weird and wrong. i mean even tho i’m not part of them but i really supports people who are brave to reveal their sexual orientation, and i’d love to make a friends with those peoples wht i can’t event get it was why do people keep blamed on me and just like mocking me it just bcoz i’d choose to make a friend of lgbt people!!! just bcoz i do have a gay or lesbian friends it wouldn’t change my sexuality orientation dude:))) nowadays i think people have to clear their mindset
I LOVED Move to Heaven. I appreciate how the character explicitly says to his uncle (paraphrased) "whats wrong with that? it doesnt make sense that theres something wrong with it." Also, I cried. That episode made me CRY
i'm literally bawling my eyes out because this video is so beautiful. i struggle with my self worth because i feel I don't belong due to my sexuality. this video helped me realise I don't need to prove to anyone that i'm worthy of their love, i only need myself. thank you for the different type of concepts you bring along in your videos, they're always top notch ! i appreciate it ❤️
You gained a new follower with this I'm in awe and never thought I needed this video, the editing made me speechless and your clips and kdrama picks on this topic were great and loved the massage at the end, thank you so much for this
This vid has almost a million views, other lgbtq kdrama edits also have more than million views and thousands of positive comments, so come on Korean industry everyone is waiting to see more representation in kdramas
this made me so happy because i felt some sort of comfort from this video because in a way the characters and i were the same. my parents recently found out that i was bisexual and their reactions weren’t exactly what i expected. knowing my mother, her being the sweetest person alive, was shocked. she had not words and barely cared about the words she was using when talking about my this situation. she would ask me if i was faking allof it for attention or if i was still confused saying that maybe it’s just an admiration feeling. i know she never really meant to hurt my feelings but it just added more and more anxiety to the fact that there was a 75% chance that my parents wouldn’t accept me and kick me out. she wanted me to have a husband and children, basically the dream life that she never really fully got to experience. at that moment i just wanted to lash out on her and say that i am and i will continue to be who i am with or without her acceptance and that i was sorry for ruining her dreams, for not being the daughter that lives the dream that her mother wanted to have. after the talk i went into my room and cried. i remember crying for the whole night and fighting the urge to just run into a bathroom stall and stay there for the rest of school. my mom told my dad a couple minutes after i went into my room and i remember feeling so hurt at the moment. my dad is caring and would always come into my room to say goodnight. he would hang out with me because he never got the chance because he would always be at work. that same night as i was expecting at least a knock on my door to say goodnight, i heard nothing. i wanted to just scream at that point. i kept telling myself that my dad hated me and my mom was disappointed. i knew that there was an 90% chance that my dad just wanted to give me privacy, knowing that i might be in an unbearable and embarrassing situation but i still chose to be think negatively. my parents are still my loveable parents right now but i still get uneasy when they bring up this night. we all act like nothing happened when i know we should talk about it but i can’t bring myself to think or even talking about that night. hell i’m on the verge of tears while writing this. i’m perfectly okay know but what still makes me a little upset is when my mom asks if i still like girls. the answer is and always will be yes.
You know when you see this video and it doesn’t seem different but rather normal, and at the end you feel like those few minutes of your life were worth spending on this..... you are the part of a community that’s needed to build a better society. Thanks for existing.
i have watched this video so many times. but it doesn't seem to matter how many times i watch it i will still cry every single time. god its like a knife in the heart. the one clip that had me break down the first time was at 2:37 - 2:48 especially the line that said "she likes someone and that someone happened to like her back. you guys are lucky." GOD I WAS BAWLING T-T but isn't he just so right though? to love someone so much and they feel the same way about you. its so rare and so beautiful.
Marie deserves more attention and love. I've never seen any editors on yt spreading such positivity along with great content. Thank you so much. Borahae 💜💜
hiii!!! i really love your videos so much and i really really appreciate that you’re making this series of exposing and showcasing the bad and good sides of what kdramas portray!! thank you so much! i just thought maybe one day if you ever have the time, you could make a video like this about feminism in kdramas and like performative feminism? just an idea but i think that would spark some interesting discussions! nonetheless, thank you for this series, it truly means a lot!
@@marietb that’s true unfortunately 🥺😪 i got a few reccs so if you ever make a video i’ll write them down! nonetheless can’t wait to watxh this video!!!
@@sanshrinandikol9608 I mean not a lot kdramas with this kind of content. I don't know if you follow the news from Korea but feminism is not so "common" and a lot of South Korean (mostly men) have a wrong image of it and a misconception. Being called a feminist sounds like an insult there, maybe more than it's already the case everywhere. South Korea is still a country where patriarchy remains well established. So yeah I'd like to make this video. I really though about it and I'll keep considering it. But there are really only a few dramas that came to my mind which adresses the subject and I'm afraid it will be complicated.. But I'll try!
@@marietb oh...I get it, cz when you said there are not many dramas, I was confused because I have seen many multifemale edits on youtube(so many!!), but now that I think there is a very fine line between a drama showing FL character as a badass, savage woman (which is amazing) and a drama that actually portrays/preaches feminism... Anyways, in my opinion, the most feministic Kdrama that I have watched is "Search WWW" waiting for your next video!
oh my god this made me cry, thank you so much for making this 😭😭I grew up watching Western media deal with non-heterosexualities but to see it in Asian media (as an asian queer person) hits so different
i'm really more than happy that kdramas now are being gender inclusive. these representation are better than the western films i've seen. kdramas w/ queer themes are really pure and they seem to show more of the struggle of being a part of the lgbtq+. unlike in western films, queer people are there just for the 'inclusisvity' but poorly doing so.
Thank you to the creator (and the supporters) I really loved this video (the editing skills are no joke too) I will just come again to see this video whenever I feel insecure or I feel upset, this video will be one of my comfort zones, I wish more people could think like this, like positively about things so that we all could like as a family in a society with no evils. Once again thanku for the video, you should be proud of yourself! :))
God damn. This was beautifully put together. I've never been so attached to a video within the first 10 seconds. Keep up the wonderful work and thank you for bringing such a masterpiece to light. You did these couples justice and I can't begin to describe how much feeling I have for these characters. I may not be a part of the LGBTQ+ community but I'm forever an ally and this video resonated with me. Seriously I can't stress this enough, you did an absolutely amazing job.
You always made beautiful videos, I like them all, but this one has to be now my personal favorite!! I don't know how to explain it but this edit feels right. Everything is perfect, the scenes that were included, the music choice, the editing, the message.
Woah! This is just such an amazing edit of you once again. You always portray everything so well and show the importance of such serious themes. I’m really glad you use your channel to spread awareness and make people feel good. Thank you so much please keep going!
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🔺Why are these dramas considered good portrayals?
I used the same points as in my previous video but I reversed them. Let me explain. To be included, dramas had to NOT: use homosexuality for humour purposes; poorly portray the only queer character (villain, killer, abuser..); portray and reinforce stereotypes (touching people without consent..); not condemn homophobia; portray homosexuality as something vulgar/scary/funny/disgusting or embarrassing; portray heterosexuality as a norm; (+ use the plot of pseudo-homosexuality; give a sad ending to the queer characters)
If these dramas are here it's because they have globally done a good job, because they knew how to portray a queer person without falling in all the bad criteria mentioned above.
It is important to know the difference between what is explicit and what is not, to know the difference between promoting and portraying homophobia. These dramas here have been able to portray homophobia in a way to denounce it. Did you feel uncomfortable, sad, angry while watching these scenes? That's because it was meant to be. The editing, the music, the dialogues, the acting of the characters, nothing is done to promote homophobia but it is done to condemn it.
These representations give hope for future representations of LGBTQ+ people. Korea and its dramas know how to do a good job on the subject and I hope they can keep it up.
🔺Why didn’t I include any BLs ?
I didn't include BLs first of all because it wouldn't have made much sense considering my previous video. My previous video was about Kdramas so this video is about Kdramas. The other reason is that some people from the LGBTQ+ community have expressed their discomfort with the idea of including BLs, a genre that is debated because of the many stereotypes they contain. Although I agree that Korean BLs can be quite good, I didn't want to ignore these comments from the people concerned themselves and I didn't want to risk including something I shouldn't have. To be on the safe side, I opted not to include any in view of the video's title. As with my video on healthy relationships, I decided to play it safe. I hope you can understand that.
🔺Why some dramas that feature gay characters or address the topic are not included?
If you haven't seen my previous video on bad representations in dramas, I invite you to go and see it, maybe the drama you have in mind is there. If not, it's possible that they are one of the ones that were recommended to me for this video but that I didn't include. Not necessarily because it was a bad portrayal in my opinion but maybe because they could have done better, or because it wasn't really a portrayal (Her private life).
🔺Why are some dramas in both videos?
If you saw my previous video, maybe you noticed that some dramas are in both. As I said in one of my posts, I considered that some dramas made a few mistakes (So not worth it, Prison playbook) but overall they did a good job.
🔺Why did I include dramas with sad endings when I also included them in the other video?
Because as I had said in the pinned comment of my last video, I don't think this is the worst. I understand and maintain that sad endings are frustrating and don't help. But then again, I considered that some dramas did a pretty good job overall and therefore deserved their place here.
Thank you for watching!
Thank you for making these videos
Oh my, this felt so wholesome. I sincerely hope that there are more instances/ portrayals of all kinds of people and relationships. Loved this edit. Thank you.
Thank you for including Moment at Eighteen,these were one of my most favourite moments of drama when Oh Je's friends took a stand for him
Thank u for making these videos 😊
Thank you for reading the comments about our discomfort regarding BLs, really!
"i have no reason to apologize to anyone for my sexual identity"
This one hit hard
Ikr this hits on another level .....
Yass queen
I screamed at this part shes a queen indeed
Louderrr
oh God, that girl saying: "I like men too, what's to special about liking men anyway?"
I'm just in love with her.
It's in the drama “run on” if you want to know
same. i smiled when i heard it
This was the comment I was looking for...she's a mood 😂
"I'm good with the way I am"
Yes you don't need to explain anything to anyone nothing is wrong you are COMPLETELY FINE AND OKAY
Please I needed to hear that so bad!! I live in such a homophobic society and internal homophobia too damn real
@@DEEZNUTS-yo1dx i know how must you have feel..i have seen my friend struggling due to this and IT'S was so painful but im that NOW HE DON'T GIVE A FUVK trust me nobody cares here so live your life FULLY i hope you are doing good
@@_bangtan_armyot7290 thank you so much
This vid has four parts.
1st: the confession
2nd: the discrimination/criticism
3rd: the supporters
4th: the acceptance 😊
so proud of our moonbin being right there on the thumbnail. he's always respected EVERYONE. this was his first regular drama and i'm so so so proud of him for taking up this role. and to ALL the others as well.
we ALL deserve love. we can love whoever we want. nothing else matters
I love him sm he deserves the world 🥺
Ah no wonder I thought the guy in the thumbnail looked familiar iamo-
I loved his character so much, he was very adorable and though he didn't really get with the boy he liked, he got a lot of support with his friends. It was wholesome but real, I also liked that the writers didn't give his character the typical unnecessary hardships of a gay character, sometimes the LGBT+ community wants representation that doesn't revolve around discrimination.
Anyway, he did such a great job and this role was what made me a huge fan of him since I first saw that drama, he's a great actor and a respectful guy. Hope he gets casted in another drama soon:)
@@fullsun2236 RIP. You will fly high. He was a good person.
"It's not something you should be sorry about"
Those are the words that many of us want to hear. I can't come out yet cuz if I do, I'm scared that they'll kick me out. It hurts whenever my younger siblings call gay relationships "weird" or "ew". Thank you for the video. I like how all of the scenes that were presented really showed what it's like for members of the LGBTQ+ community like me
Edit: Thank you for the likes and all the encouraging messages. Update: I told some of my cousins and they accepted me. My younger brother too, he smiled at me for it and we got closer. Not my parents yet, maybe I will when I can confirm that they won't slap me in the face for it. I wish you all the best!
Edit (2): i told my parents and they accepted me! they act like it never happened these days but they told me it was fine and that they love me either way. thanks for all the support and i hope everyone will get the same reaction as i did. i love you guys
When I came out as bisexual to my Christian friend I was too scared to look her in the face. I was so worried she would be disgusted, or worse, say that I was just confused. But when I looked up she was crying. She hugged me and said that I must have had a hard time. She said she was sorry for everything I went through and told me that I was still the same friend she knew and that I wasn't wrong, weird, or evil. I'll remember that moment for the rest of my life. I know you might not have the same experience as me, but sooner or later you need to talk to your family about it. If you're really worried that they'll throw you out, then wait until you're financially independent, but you need to say it. Even though my parents don't seem to totally accept my sexuality now, it's freeing to live life without feeling like you're hiding something. There's nothing wrong with love.
I’m sorry your siblings do that, I’m openly out to both of my parents but my sibling was apparently “too young” to understand what sexual orientation is. So we didn’t tell him, just kind of went on with life. But once when my mom was mentioning a relative (a female relative) was going to be proposed to by her girlfriend, my little brother whispered into my ear “She’s gay?” and then fake threw-up. I felt honestly hurt by that, so I asked him “What’s wrong with that?” And he just shook his head and said “Isn’t that gross?” So I understand what you’re going through, I’m sorry again, and I hope someday you’ll have the courage to tell your family!
I was actually scared of the same thing but living a lie was really starting to break me so I just did it, things didn't go well but I'm happy I did, I might not have the support of my family but I'm finally free..Now I'm not saying you should come out, but if there's even a slight chance your parents might accept you then you should go for it only if you're comfortable with doing so
I still remember the day that I've come out nd how my friend she hugged me so Hard nd she started crying and told me the day that peoples understand that we need to be different is the end of the word nd she was u need to be proud that ur different and and other day I was walking around with my classmate listening to music nd I was this song remembered me of sm1 nd he was how is he and then he was sorry how she is nd he was sorry I know that ur bi nd u don't need to be scared 'bout m so thankful for the community that I have even thou I live in a Muslim country
am just a girl,may be i can't understand you well like others...but there is a think that i always trust ...am a human ,we are human ...there's no matter who you love,what is your gender...stay strong...you have the right to live this world...the people who hate you...they are not humans ...they don't have the right to be human....
I'm straight but your message at the end has me in tears. It makes me so sad that people can't just live their lives loving who they love and get shamed for it.
Omg, I cried like crazy; why do people have to apologize for being who they are, and why do people have to be discriminated against just because of their sexuality. Love knows no gender. This edit is a masterpiece
Yeah that’s so sad 😞
I'm gay and yeah it's true people in public will show disgust holding hands with your boyfriend .. so I never done it ever again specially here in asian countries
@@Rhetzelle I am so sorry 😞
@@Rhetzelle I understand you completely. It makes me cry to know that people would be disgusted by other people being in love. I wish other people and people in Asian countries would understand that love doesn’t come with gender; it doesn’t look at the person's gender and say no, you cannot they of your gender. Love just happened; gender should not matter; the person you're in love with that should matter. I wish you could openly express your love for your Significant without hiding it from the world; I hope that day comes. Reading your comment makes me cry, and I am so sorry.
If only the Korean entertainment industry understood this and take it seriously even it reality and variety shows they just romanticize any man and woman but if it’s a man and a man then it’s weird and people be like “I’m getting chills” or “I’m out of here” and when it’s a girl and a girl it’s “they’re good friends” like I don’t need anyone to call out any couple that’s not what I’m asking for but stop alienating us.
Especially these kpop idols, like when their idols could be catching feelings for the same sex without us knowing and their so quick to dismiss it as "just friends", I genuinely hate what this world has come to, and my heart breaks towards these idols who have to hide themselves from this messed up society.
@@Tehya20_ I remember seeing a variety show recently where an idol said something along the lines of how gender wasn't as important as personality when it came to ideal type and how he slept in the same bed with guys he liked and the hosts literally told him to shut up because he might spark a controversy. The poor guy looked so scared and confused and said he didn't realize that it was bad.
@@jchen8902 Jeez, poor guy.This society is based on judgement and constant criticism among the LGBTQ+ community, especially knowing S Korea is a conservative country that doesn't accept members of the LGBTQ+ community, which is heartbreaking. I bet there's a good majority of idols who continue to closet themselves due to how chaotic this society truly is. I think a lot of it has to do with their emotions and how certain things can affect them, in a way that could possibly affect their mental health. Like for instance, this is just my observation, When halsey was preforming at the MTV music awards (I think).BTS were there, and I noticed both facial expressions ans Taehyungs and jungkooks face, they had teary eyes. It was like maybe in a way they could relate to her performance, because it solely made them feel a certain kinda way. Even the other members were shocked to see both of the two crying. It just saddens me to see idols judged and criticized for being themselves.
@@Tehya20_ even in the entertainment industry, idols are the most restricted among all celebrities. If it's difficult for a regular person to come out, imagine how much more so it is for someone in the public eye. Heechul from Super Junior literally got death threats after rumors about him asking out both male and female idols surfaced - he didn't deny them because he said there was no need to deny something that there was nothing wrong with, and he lost half his fanbase as a result. Idols have literally been physically attacked because they wore something too masculine or feminine, said something in support of the community, or even just interacted with an LGBTQ+ person. Apparently Seohyun and Moonbin (who acted in two of the dramas pictured here) got hate for acting the role of a gay character. It breaks my heart to think of how many people hate us just for existing.
@@jchen8902 i know this is not important but could u maybe look into it again and perhaps find who the idol is?
Moonbin is such a great actor. Thank you for going beyond and giving voice to others who can’t
He indeed is an amazing actor!
I wanna see him get casted in a major role
I really miss him
Loved the line by Nam do San
"Sexual preference isn't something that needs to be fixed"
not me crying throughout the video cuz finally someone is talking about this. thank you soo much for making this. the way you edited this is *chefs kiss*
Another masterpiece it is! I'm very sorry that whenever I see your community post regarding the videos you're making, I can't suggest or give you something to add up also I can't support you through donating cause I'm still just depending on my parent's money. But I'm so happy that you didn't stop making this types of videos and speaking for those who can't even tho it doesn't benefit. You're a very open minded, talented person, I'm hoping you'll achieve that one thing you want and have a piece of mind.
Don't apologize! I'm glad I can make this kind of videos and I'm really happy to read these comments! That's all I'm looking for and that's enough for me. Please, don't feel ashamed because you think you can't "help me", you're helping me and supporting me by posting this message and by watching my videos! So thank you a lot 💜
Same
You don't need people opinion to be who you are because nobody know you like you Know yourself 🦋🌸 so let it go shine🏵🌼 and be happy 🏵🕊🕊have a nice day 🥰
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Your work is outstanding as usual. The scenes, the placement and the series you chose were perfect. But what made me cry is the last slide with your message.I hope everyone thinks like this someday. This world will be a much better place then. God bless you.
I adore how the video first talks about the rejection and the homophobic behavior, and then highlights the rare yet glowing rays of supportive people. Kinda made it stand out that even at the end, there's something worth to keep trying for. This was lovely, brought me into tears. ♥️
I just found this video, as few days ago i came out to my boyfriend about my sexual orientation and i'm a bi and i lean more towards same sex (i'm female). He said he was okay with it, and i also told him i dated him because of the pressure i got for never having a boyfie my whole 20 years and he said he was lucky to have me being honest. We have been dating for more than 2 years now and finally i got the courage to tell him the girl i have wanted to date for so long and even he set up plans for me so the date will go smooth. I can't ask for a better boyfriend and bestfriend, he is and will always be the best. He said he loved me, so he wanted the best of me and he wanted me to be honest of myself and we could remain bestfriends. We didn't break up because we agreed to keep the relationship status to protect me. I'm lucky, very lucky. He was my first date ever, and i'm lucky
Best person goes to him.
You are brave enough to tell him, and that's absolutely amazing.
Hope you guys will be blessed, each and every day
so happy to know your story. I happy for you to have a person in your life whom you can let your feelings out. I wish the best for you and this person...💜💜
3:00 "i like men too" "what's so special about liking men" 🛐🛐
you tell them
I came out as bisexual three years ago. I know I wasn’t confused or going through some phase because I honestly didn’t even know that it was possible for someone to be able to like both men and women. When I started to developed feelings towards a girl for the first time, I was very lost and scared because up until then I thought I was straight and knew I liked boys. Later, someone who was very close to me had to explain to me what bisexuality was.
Most people think that I was relieved to hear that I’m bisexual, because now I was part of a community, but in real life I was still very lost and still very scared. My first thoughts weren’t “Oh, thank goodness” or “Cool, I’m bisexual”, my thoughts were “Why me?” “Why am I like this?”
It took a long time for me to get used to it and learn about who I truly was. But, in the end, I was able to figure it out and I had some amazing people to help me along the way telling me that everything will be ok, I’m ok, and that even if there are people who don’t like me that there will always be people that will love me.
This video reminded me of my whole coming out story, and I hope that more people will find comfort in this video.
I feel you .. myself I grow as religion family catholic - christianity when my both group family knew about it . They judge me .. they started to feel the anger at me even put my own mother .. against me . I wasn't enough person .. then. This day I have to be with guy then I was pregnant ..but I didn't love the guy .. 😒😒😒😒 the hiproticie of my family was happy about it I was pregnant. . nobody ask how I was feeling .. never never I was felt less ..I feel the part ..when you get confused ...
i had a similar experience, except my first crush was a girl, back when i was in maybe 1st or 2nd grade, and it was the usual crush that any kid would have. (side note, i dont know if all kids go through or act like this, but the way i expressed my crush was by being mean and acting like i didnt like being around that person, but secretly really treasuring every moment i spent with them, LOL.) my 2nd crush was with a boy a while later. for some reason, i blocked out the memories of my crush on this girl for years and years and only remembered the boy, probably once i realized that liking the same gender was never acknowledged in our society. it was only when i was going through my childhood diary a few years ago that all the memories of my crush came back, and i had written about both the boy and the girl. though maybe because it was taboo in my community rather than openly frowned upon, it made it a bit easier to accept and realize my sexuality. until i was a teenager, i didn't know and didn't want to acknowledge that i liked both girls and boys, because like you said, the fact that i liked boys and thought i was straight was like a comfort to me, to convince myself that i was like everyone else. i guess it's a struggle that every bisexual goes through. ignoring part of your sexuality until you're forced to confront it in some way or the other. it's difficult to accept that both those sides are you.. but at the same time, impossible to suppress and ignore forever.
i found comfort in your comment, as i am experiencing the same. thank you.
Aww God bless you your perfect the way you are
@@moomooinsomnia9419 :(
In nevertheless, their chemistry and everything, it's so beautiful. It's been represented really well and I literally screamed when they got together, it made me so happy omg :')
The only thing we are asking for is good representation of lgbt in the media.
No representation is better than bad representation
3:13 I cried so friggin hard at this part in Love with Flaws because it's so rare to find a loving or open minded parent
i can't express how beautiful this video is :) growing up in a society where lgbt+ is still condemned and to make things worse our media doesn't portray us as decent human beings its been tough and scary. this video means alot to me
There is just something special about Moonbin playing the gay role. He did a unbelievably good job. I am proud of him. Fly high angel Moonbin ❤
“ Being accepted, Being normalised” that’s all we asked and craved for.
i just really wanted to thank moonbin for playing ohje so well and also that he’ll always be loved wherever he is ❤️
im coming back to this edit whenever my mom says anything homophobic and i feel like i want to cry because im still in the closet..thank you so much for this video i cried watching it knowing that i one day will find a safe place where i can love whoever keeps me going another masterpiece i had no chose but to subscribe, and i look forward to your next video
Yeah buddy. You will find a safe place one day. 🦋
I’ll be forever proud of Moonbin for portraying a gay character. He smashed it. 🤍
Moonbin in the thumbnail!!! He represented his role in moments of eighteen very well. Hope to see him again in more dramas in the future.
I'm really excited about this. I appreciate the time and effort you put in this. Thanks.
Rest in peace Moonbin 🖤🌙
So sad that both Moonbin of ASTRO and Cha In Ha (Love with Flaws) have passed away since this video was made
3:38 "Sexual preferences isn't something that needs fixing"
"It is better to be HATED by who you truly are than to be LOVED by what you are NOT" my MOM said when I came out. You got a friend in ME
Aa a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I'm very impressed by how much effort you put in here! I legit got a chill down my spine
I'm out to all people I care about but I still don't know if I feel as free as I would like to be
Thank you for your hard work 💜
A character in a drama confessed of being gay and his friend literally didn't react, he just asked who's the person and the one who confessed asked if it's strange, then his friend went "Would you feel strange if I told you I liked women?"
"No?"
"Then what's the difference. It's not strange"
The planet needs those people
It's been over a year since I watched this for the first time, and it still tears me up when I see this edit. This is so emotional and editor did their best to bring out the emotions and the music choice is perfect.
I have come to terms with my gender identity and sexuality but it's not like its happy forever. There are times I encounter people who hate us and it all comes back to zero. And I have to try hard again to make me feel better.
I hope someday I can find true love and good circle of friends.
i just wanted to say that as a questioning person myself, u dont need anyone's validation u r who u r no matter yr sexual preference or yr gender identity u have the whole autonomy to be with the person u want to be with and there is nothing wrong with it. being different from others doesn't make u weird, society says a lot of crap dont give heed to it. Also i really really appreciate all the efforts the creator has put into this. 💜
Moonbin rest peace In heaven 💔🕊
I’m srsly rooting for soljiwan 😭 the fact that they alr confessed to each other (tho jiwan is still a lil confused) but still, i could see them having a bright future (hopefully)
THEY DID AAHHHHHH
@@pastelmxchii yass soljiwan dating 😍
@Ohana Moraes Dos Santos soljiwan is a side couple in a kdrama called “nevertheless” ^^ edit: oh they’re the couple at 0:56 !
@Ohana Moraes Dos Santos nevertheless, it's a netflix original
I'm crying while watching this. I just came out to a cousin last night and she passed it off as a phase, and told me something along the lines of "if it's still there, we're a family and we'll help you through it" and I feel like she is talking about conversion therapy. I hated it, and I'm stil upset about it. How can she say that about something that I know very well? She's not me, she doesn't know me like I do. I know what I feel and I know that it's real.
Thank you so much for making this amazing fmv, it made me cry but also made me feel a tad bit better. I'm glad RUclips recommended this to me.
If choosing sexuality was an option i would choose to be straight.
"You love who you love, and that’s all there is to it. Nobody gets a choice in who that person is.”
If choosing sexuality was an option I would choose to be gayer bruh what yo takin bout 👁️👄👁️
I'm sorry I had to 😩😩😩😩😩
@@leeseo3469 Being gay is amazing stay gay we have the brains
@@leeseo3469 if i was gayr rn ill be disowned and be living on the streets
The thing with this question is that it's answer is both yes and no. Yes, I love being queer, it took time to understand myself, but I'm proud of who I am and I don't wanna change myself for the sake of others. No, I don't wanna be discriminated against
Look at his smile 4:10 😭 I miss him
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I'm proud of Moonbin for doing the role Oh je in moments of 18. 0:41 and 0:49 that's himm! As an idol I'm glad he did this role giving out a msg that no one's to be discriminated!
“Liking each other shouldn’t be something wrong” OMG yes yes yes it’s so so hard for the people accept that we shouldn’t discriminate love, we should discriminate hate
That was a beautiful message at the end, made me cry a little. I'm straight, but I suffer from a fear of intimacy, even though I also really want to be in a relationship. It often makes me feel abnormal, frustrated, and worried. The things you said about it being okay to doubt, change your mind, take your time, be afraid and so on really spoke to me. Thank you for this
This genuinely made me tear up, especially the message at the end. Most people don't realize how hard it is, how full of doubt the journey is, and to know other people are doubting you? The people who are supposed to love you no matter what? It hurts...
your epilogue has hit me soooo harddddd, I'm sooo moved cause not many people say this its not just about love its your identity its who u are.
“I have no reason to apologize to anyone for my sexual identity” 🌈❤️
Mee seeing moonbin in the thumbnail:
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Apart from this, I so so proud of Moonbin and every other actor who've played this role.. Every person deserves to be loved and love.. 💜
"Sexual preference isn't something that needs to be fixed" Say it louder!
" I like men as well. What's so special about it? " A silly perfectly sibiling-like way of consoling someone, felt very special somehow.
recently i told my mom i'm bi and i was confident about the coming out because her brother is gay. but plottwist, she didn't accepted it at all, i tried to explain but she didn't want it to understand. I'm sad and disappointed. i already came out to some close friends and all the reactions were positive as i hoped and expected. but from the person who is the closest to me...it just hurts that she isn't supportive at all
btw i cried the shit out of me, this video is a holy masterpiece
tell your uncle !!!!
I'm so sorry, this happened to my dad too. He still thinks I'm influence by social media, he even said he don't like gay people in front of me when we were talking about the meaning homophobic (he didn't know the word). I wonder "I don't like gay people" includes me. I just told him "Don't be surprise if I bring a girlfriend at home, if I get married to a wife. Or adopt kids." You'll get through this don't worry, it hurts. But don't let it get through your head.
@@eos5019 he knows now
@@snickbiordking5748 in the end she was ok with it but before some drama happend. with a lot of tears from both sides. but now shes ok with it. anyway im still not comfortable talking about girls infront of anyone except my friends. my dad was very supportive and was also helping with my mom...fighting
" love is not shameful " 🥺❤️
"I will love you until my last breath" 😭💔
"You are my favorite person in the world "🥺
It's crazy because I've known I am attracted to women my entire life and I never hid it. I didn't "come out" because I thought I was already normal and often talked about marrying women at a young age. In high school I started watching kdramas and loved them but didn't see any lgbtq dramas. Then I started watch thai bls and the stories opened my eyes to how some people actually see people in this community. It's so sad and it made me realize how lucky I am to be brought up in such a way were I didn't feel ashamed or scared. Till this day I still watch some of the first dramas I love and I'm so fucking happy everytime I find a new korean bl and etc.
I think in Hometown Cha Cha Cha there was also a hint for the teacher that likes the lady that had the restaurant but she never really confessed her love because of her strict mother and its so sad :(
Thank you for this amazing video, it really moved me and I hope in the future there will be more representation of these issues and hopefully with a good ending too!^^
"I like men too." I loved this
"I would prefer it if they were talkative... I am referring to the guy you will bring to me one day." I also love this
I love your awareness edits 💜
I get goosebumps every time I see this video. Specially when the father tells his son that he would prefer the guy he introduces to him would be more talkative and that his sexuality isn't something needing an apology. I just cry happy tears each time. This video is timeless and beauitful. I hope everyone who is dealing with a situation like this one day finds their happy space and safe people, their home
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This really made me think of the outcome of me coming out to my parents one day. It won't be easy but I want to be able to stand proud infront of them and show them that I am okay with who I am regardless of their reactions. Thank you for giving me some inspiration ❤
You've got this!!! I love your confidence baeb...Don't forget you are who you are...nobody can decide or approve of that...nobody has the authority to do so... it's us... we are the one Living this amazing life of ours...so that's all up to us to decide...♥️
You are really strong!! I hope you succeed in whatever you have planned for!
Best wishes❤
@@madmax3718 Thank you
Love with flaws was so good I wish I could watch it again 😭 the father was so supportive!
You know what? your video makes me view Kdrama as something more!
Like it's hard to explain, but your videos make a Kdrama look like an art, maybe cz of the song you choose or maybe it's editing, it is like your videos are deep, much layered, and it looks artistic! It makes me proud that I watch Kdramas...(sound funny but true..)
Keep up the good work!!
That speech at the end makes me feel so safe.
I love this. It makes me so emotional because of the homophobia, but i feel like this is exactly what you wanted to contradict from your previous video. I’m going to watch this like 5 more times now
This video made me cry but sometimes crying isn't always a bad thing. When I listen to songs I'm not listening to the words or the music individually but the harmony they make together. The clips you chose and the song choice are beyond perfect... this is a legendary edit.
Sorry, I am back again- I am literally sitting here covering my mouth and crying and I rarely cry... T-T thank you.
That slap at 1:51 was so satisfying
What I love the most is that some of these dramas are the same dramas that are in your Multifandom - Self[Homophobia] video. It just shows you that although there is progress in Korea and how they depict LGBTQ+ relationships in media, there are still many issues that can be corrected and learned from. For example, Sweet Munchies introduces to us the 2nd lead as a man that fell in love with the male lead. Not only do we not see it done in kdramas often, they gave him a well though out character. Of course, the issue comes with how his confession is handled by the male lead as well as how his "exposure" of his sexuality is taken by those around him. It's great that you still showed the good sides and the bad sides to these kdramas and how we should still be critically thinking about these issues whilst still enjoying the show.
0:10 his finger being so close is bugging me and trying my fight or flight response 🐥
There are not many channels that talk about this type issues in kdrama iam glad that I know about your channel
I LOVED IT SM!!!! LIKE OMG. U R SO TALENTED. THIS EDIT STOLE MY HEART.
Guys, be proud of who u are. It's hard, I know, but do not repress those feelings and try to be someone who u are not. There is no such thing as 'normal.' I stand by you
everytime is see his clips from love with flaws...i really can't stop my tears...
"She likes someone and that someone happens to like her back. You guys are lucky"
No because before i knew sexiality [more like labels and homophobia] was a thing, i always thought its nice that couples got together, i never thought of the gender, i just wanted to have love too lmao.
So amazing!!
It really warms my heart that Korean series and movies are becoming more open to different sexualities.
This edit gave me so much happiness. I subconsciously was smiling and feeling so much ease . I hope we can make this world a little less difficult to live in.
First of all, thanks for making such beautiful edit
and talking about myself I was literally bawling in tears when the girl said "I do not need to apologize for my sexual Identity"
well this whole video makes me cry like a baby thinking that's why it's so tough to tell that yeah, I like men and the worst part about my story is no on earth believes or suspects that I belong to the queer community
Being an Asian Muslim it's you know the "life or death situation" where they see homosexuality as not as hatred but more sort of a disrespect
Thinking of coming out makes me feel like this is way tougher than my entrance exams, you know what talking about myself everybody in my whole big ass family says that "oh, he's a very good, good at everything sports or studies or etiquette we'll find a perfect bride for him like he's"
but back in my mind when I think that *if they know a little secret from my life will they all be the same as they are now?*
I'm sure that my family will never accept me as who I'm of whatsoever I'm, how successful I become in my life, or what I'll achieve things in my life, so whenever I see someone having a boyfriend/girlfriend straight/queer relationship I was like
okay if I don't have one at least someone's
btw, idk why I told this to you guys, thanks If you read this now, and of course happy valentine's day
this was beautifully done
i wasn't going to cry but then the note appeared at the end how am i supposed to not cry now lol thank you for this, it is a really well made edit
it’s fucking 2022 guys, i just can’t understand people who still can’t get enough to the people who always thought that being part of the LGBT are bad,weird and wrong. i mean even tho i’m not part of them but i really supports people who are brave to reveal their sexual orientation, and i’d love to make a friends with those peoples wht i can’t event get it was why do people keep blamed on me and just like mocking me it just bcoz i’d choose to make a friend of lgbt people!!! just bcoz i do have a gay or lesbian friends it wouldn’t change my sexuality orientation dude:))) nowadays i think people have to clear their mindset
I LOVED Move to Heaven. I appreciate how the character explicitly says to his uncle (paraphrased) "whats wrong with that? it doesnt make sense that theres something wrong with it."
Also, I cried. That episode made me CRY
i'm literally bawling my eyes out because this video is so beautiful. i struggle with my self worth because i feel I don't belong due to my sexuality. this video helped me realise I don't need to prove to anyone that i'm worthy of their love, i only need myself. thank you for the different type of concepts you bring along in your videos, they're always top notch ! i appreciate it ❤️
You gained a new follower with this
I'm in awe and never thought I needed this video, the editing made me speechless and your clips and kdrama picks on this topic were great and loved the massage at the end, thank you so much for this
This vid has almost a million views, other lgbtq kdrama edits also have more than million views and thousands of positive comments, so come on Korean industry everyone is waiting to see more representation in kdramas
this made me so happy because i felt some sort of comfort from this video because in a way the characters and i were the same. my parents recently found out that i was bisexual and their reactions weren’t exactly what i expected. knowing my mother, her being the sweetest person alive, was shocked. she had not words and barely cared about the words she was using when talking about my this situation. she would ask me if i was faking allof it for attention or if i was still confused saying that maybe it’s just an admiration feeling. i know she never really meant to hurt my feelings but it just added more and more anxiety to the fact that there was a 75% chance that my parents wouldn’t accept me and kick me out. she wanted me to have a husband and children, basically the dream life that she never really fully got to experience. at that moment i just wanted to lash out on her and say that i am and i will continue to be who i am with or without her acceptance and that i was sorry for ruining her dreams, for not being the daughter that lives the dream that her mother wanted to have. after the talk i went into my room and cried. i remember crying for the whole night and fighting the urge to just run into a bathroom stall and stay there for the rest of school. my mom told my dad a couple minutes after i went into my room and i remember feeling so hurt at the moment. my dad is caring and would always come into my room to say goodnight. he would hang out with me because he never got the chance because he would always be at work. that same night as i was expecting at least a knock on my door to say goodnight, i heard nothing. i wanted to just scream at that point. i kept telling myself that my dad hated me and my mom was disappointed. i knew that there was an 90% chance that my dad just wanted to give me privacy, knowing that i might be in an unbearable and embarrassing situation but i still chose to be think negatively. my parents are still my loveable parents right now but i still get uneasy when they bring up this night. we all act like nothing happened when i know we should talk about it but i can’t bring myself to think or even talking about that night. hell i’m on the verge of tears while writing this. i’m perfectly okay know but what still makes me a little upset is when my mom asks if i still like girls. the answer is and always will be yes.
I am became so emotional after watching this video. It's a masterpiece
You know when you see this video and it doesn’t seem different but rather normal, and at the end you feel like those few minutes of your life were worth spending on this..... you are the part of a community that’s needed to build a better society. Thanks for existing.
It brings tears to me after long time , the music n the scenes are so amazing
i have watched this video so many times. but it doesn't seem to matter how many times i watch it i will still cry every single time. god its like a knife in the heart. the one clip that had me break down the first time was at 2:37 - 2:48 especially the line that said "she likes someone and that someone happened to like her back. you guys are lucky." GOD I WAS BAWLING T-T but isn't he just so right though? to love someone so much and they feel the same way about you. its so rare and so beautiful.
This is so beautiful 🥺❤️
My god. This is emotional. This edit i can't describe how good this is in words
Marie deserves more attention and love. I've never seen any editors on yt spreading such positivity along with great content. Thank you so much. Borahae 💜💜
It's beautifully penned message that you had given by this video.......extremely beautiful and hope for all peoples who are thinking them abnormal
hiii!!! i really love your videos so much and i really really appreciate that you’re making this series of exposing and showcasing the bad and good sides of what kdramas portray!! thank you so much!
i just thought maybe one day if you ever have the time, you could make a video like this about feminism in kdramas and like performative feminism? just an idea but i think that would spark some interesting discussions!
nonetheless, thank you for this series, it truly means a lot!
Yeah I already thought about it! But there is not a lot of recommendations :/
@@marietb that’s true unfortunately 🥺😪 i got a few reccs so if you ever make a video i’ll write them down! nonetheless can’t wait to watxh this video!!!
@@marietb not a lot of "recommendations", meaning not a lot of feministic Kdramas? or not a lot of people recommend it? I'm confused :/
@@sanshrinandikol9608 I mean not a lot kdramas with this kind of content. I don't know if you follow the news from Korea but feminism is not so "common" and a lot of South Korean (mostly men) have a wrong image of it and a misconception. Being called a feminist sounds like an insult there, maybe more than it's already the case everywhere. South Korea is still a country where patriarchy remains well established.
So yeah I'd like to make this video. I really though about it and I'll keep considering it. But there are really only a few dramas that came to my mind which adresses the subject and I'm afraid it will be complicated.. But I'll try!
@@marietb oh...I get it, cz when you said there are not many dramas, I was confused because I have seen many multifemale edits on youtube(so many!!), but now that I think there is a very fine line between a drama showing FL character as a badass, savage woman (which is amazing) and a drama that actually portrays/preaches feminism...
Anyways, in my opinion, the most feministic Kdrama that I have watched is
"Search WWW" waiting for your next video!
oh my god this made me cry, thank you so much for making this 😭😭I grew up watching Western media deal with non-heterosexualities but to see it in Asian media (as an asian queer person) hits so different
i'm really more than happy that kdramas now are being gender inclusive. these representation are better than the western films i've seen.
kdramas w/ queer themes are really pure and they seem to show more of the struggle of being a part of the lgbtq+. unlike in western films, queer people are there just for the 'inclusisvity' but poorly doing so.
Thank you to the creator (and the supporters) I really loved this video (the editing skills are no joke too) I will just come again to see this video whenever I feel insecure or I feel upset, this video will be one of my comfort zones, I wish more people could think like this, like positively about things so that we all could like as a family in a society with no evils. Once again thanku for the video, you should be proud of yourself! :))
God damn. This was beautifully put together. I've never been so attached to a video within the first 10 seconds. Keep up the wonderful work and thank you for bringing such a masterpiece to light. You did these couples justice and I can't begin to describe how much feeling I have for these characters. I may not be a part of the LGBTQ+ community but I'm forever an ally and this video resonated with me. Seriously I can't stress this enough, you did an absolutely amazing job.
This made me legit cry. I didn't know there were so many interesting lgbt characters in non-BL dramas. Specially kdramas. Thank you for this.
I’m pansexual and this video really helped me feel less alone and supported. Thank you and I’ll support you more in the future!!!
You always made beautiful videos, I like them all, but this one has to be now my personal favorite!! I don't know how to explain it but this edit feels right. Everything is perfect, the scenes that were included, the music choice, the editing, the message.
Woah! This is just such an amazing edit of you once again. You always portray everything so well and show the importance of such serious themes. I’m really glad you use your channel to spread awareness and make people feel good. Thank you so much please keep going!
i swear i was about to close the video because it made me super sad but then you included all those wholesome scenes at the end, so good