If any partner ever says "permission" or "know your place" I'm gone like immediately. But if they skip my parent's funeral, I'm getting family to move me out that night.
Sadly my ex did that. He said he had to work but let me attend my mother's memorial. He even did not attend my graduation but his mother and step-dad did. My stepmother, sister came though. It is okay cause my mother inlaw and Father inlaw was so proud of me. I proved also that you can complete school. His second wife kept changing degrees and with his alcoholic behavior she divorced him. I was wife number 3. I wonder if he is on to wife number 4. I am so glad though I don't have to deal with him anymore. Now engaged to someone else. I don't put up with any belittling either. I put my fiancée one time in his place. He was trying to say I could not do certain things we worked at one time for same company. Before I even got married to first husband taking classes at college or getting a certificate in different things are beneficial cause now a days women don't need to be dependant on a man. And men can learn to cook and clean
WOW this one really hit home for me, my EX husband made me choose him or my fathers funeral, he even said to me if I choose my fathers funeral that I would end up 6 months at the hospital or 6 feet near my dad, of course my dad won and he got divorce papers.
My ex didn't want me to go to my mother's when my father died. All because his birthday was more then a week away. He wanted me to stay home so that I could take him out, in his words, for an expensive dinner and then let him buy a model that cost 200.00 as his present, instead of going to my Father's funeral. Guess who lost that little battle. Note that I said EX.
That would be disrespectful to your mother. Roll him the grave first, then put the casket on top. Just remember to tell them to dig the grave a little deeper. That way you are elevating your mother above your husband.
This really hurts! I lost my in at 19 many years ago. I was newly married with a tiny baby, and my husband(ex) weas. less than sympathetic. If I'd had a way out then, I would have taken it. Hearing this lady trying t appease her husband at the start of this story is really painful.
Thank god they did not have children. If they had children he would NOT love them. It is impossible to treat a woman like $H1T AND love the woman's children. Its a package deal.
I lost my mother in 2014. My husband was right there. He watched the kids & fed everyone. Hospice called us in on Monday and said it was time. Everyone thought she would only live another day or two tops. Mom, being the stubborn woman she always was, hung on until 5AM on Friday morning. That week, I never left her bedside. My husband was my rock. He made sure everyone that was there to see her had food, drinks or whatever was needed. He brought me clean clothes & toiletries. He kept the kids busy and comforted them when I couldn't. I will always remember how supportive he was, not only to me, but everyone in my family. I love that man with all my heart ❤️
My husband and my brother-in-law were the ones to pick the nice urn for our Dad. My sister, mother and I were discussing the arrangements and they took it upon themselves to pick an urn with a US Navy crest. Dad was proud of his service. And his sons-in-law knew that. This slob would catch it hot from my family. Both sides.
She definitely needs to make amends to him. It was shallow, selfish, and disrespectful of her to prioritize something as trivial and irrelevant as her mother's funeral over something as important as making her husband's breakfast. And where the hell does she get the nerve to go to that funeral without even asking her owner's (oops sorry about that Freudian slip, I meant to say HUSBAND'S) permission?
@@Zurround Nice use of sarcasm. I, personally like adding /s or lol at the end of my sarcastic comments to make it more clear that I'm being sarcastic.
OMG!! As soon as I saw him literally ask the question "Who is more important to you in the family? Me or your mother?" I wanted to knock him the f* out. You should never ever ask a question like that. Cuz as soon as you do you've lost.
If everyone did what Steven did, I would be beyond angry and would leave them also and sue them for damages. Especially if they broke a memto of a dead relative.
The ending to this was extremely satisfying :). Listening to Steve peg after being a pathetic excuse of a human being was great. I'm glad Mary is living her best life now.
These videos make me feel so thankful for my well-adjusted and not-psycho family. Yeah we had our bumps but my dad would never have done this to my mom, and my mom would never cheat on my dad -- all of these stories make me so happy for my family growing up!
I must admit that I am very IMPRESSED with how CREATIVE the husband is in this story. He has such CREATIVE ways of showing SYMPATHY, CONCERN, AND COMPASSION towards his wife since her mother passed away. I love that!!
I would love to know who in their right mind actually would think like the husband. Not saying I stand behind violence but I would look the other way if someone were to punch them in their narcissistic misogynistic face.
Unfortunately, it's a very common attitude in some places. There's places where it is actually illegal for a woman to leave her house without permission. In some places she isn't allowed to leave the house unless she is accompanied by an adult, male relative. Women are living this every day, but without the possibility of escape. Especially in the places where it's also considered a bad thing to educate girls. Imagine being in this woman's shoes but instead of a degree in engineering to fall back on, you're illiterate. Regardless of the names and locations used in the video, the original situation this was inspired by probably happened in a place where women are commonly treated like property and possibly don't have any rights. Or at least not the same rights as the men.
Wow. If my husband EVER spoke to me like that he’d be hit over the head with the pan he expects me use in the kitchen. Plus, I’d be serving him divorce papers.
He wanted breakfast and didn’t care at all that she has an emergency going on???!!! He’d have gotten breakfast alright!!! He’d have gotten hot grits thrown on him!!!!
Perhaps I am too sensitive because I lost my Mother this January, but if my husband treated me even a little like this I would have divorced him immediately.
There's a trend in these stories where a guy asks their wife to quit their job, then talk down to them for being a housewife. It makes me wonder if a guy wanting to be the sole breadwinner of the family should be considered a red flag IRL, or if that's just a plot device in these stories.
it is a very large Red flag when a guy or woman ask you to quit your wonderful job just to be with them. they dislike you earning money and want to controll you
I'd say a bit of both. While it's mainly for plot devices, the sad reality is there are many people who act like this. Who think a traditional family should only have one bread winner who works and brings home the bacon while everyone else takes care of the house.
What a jerk! He acts like he cannot do anything for himself. She did not need his permission to go to her mom's funeral. He does not need to be married. He needs to live alone.
He doesn't need to be married, for sure! All he needs is a maid-mommy as he is totally incapable to live on his own! But he will not have enough money for that...
My Dad passed away 2 years ago, and my husband was WONDERFUL. He spent a week at Mom's with the rest of my family. And he put up with me going to Mom's every weekend for months until she was comfortable being alone.
My EX tried to isolate me from my family and friends. He had me afraid to as much as leave the house because of his tyranny. Finally a very good group of friends helped me escape. I now live far away and he has no idea where I am. I am under the radar so to speak. I still talk to my friends from back home all of the time. And even after all of this time, he still tries to get them to tell him where I am.
"It's been a while since you called me by my name." Omg, I had a moment in my life when someone said my name and I realized it had actually been years before anyone had called me that. I almost cried, I didn't realize I was even going through an identity crisis until that moment. I'm in a much better place now.
Decades ago I read an issue of "The Nursing Clinics of North America" (if I remember the periodical correctly). That issue was devoted to articles about culture. I found it very interesting to learn that the original meaning of "macho" was a man who was honorable and who could take care of his family.
Initially, the concept of machismo was equivalent to the concept of chivalry. Somewhere along the way, something went wrong and it became completely corroded. As a result, it has been replaced by a new term: “hombría”. Nowadays, the term “machismo” has a negative connotation and is by no means a trait to be proud of.
Knowing that these stories come from someplace is insane. If the only family I had left that I loved dearly passed away and my spouse said anything about doing chores, we would have been playing "grit ball" Al Green Style with a cast iron skillet.
Steven is only begging his ex-wife Mary to come back because he knows he blew it when he couldn't accept her making more money than he did. Breaking her picture frame of her and her mom was the last straw for her. Good on her for dumping the dead weight and finding potential romance along with going back to work. Hopefully Steven pays big for all the misery he inflicted on Mary.
Despicable that the husband broke the frame and legitimately grounds for alimony. However, she said that she and her mother had a matching set. She should still have the one, at least.
I wonder if Steven ever realized that he had gone too far way before the death of Mary's mother. Just the fact he promised to changed and she said he would go back on his word tells me he has done that before.
What's the deal with people who want their partners to be staying at home, taking care of the cooking, cleaning and so on, even though they were independent before, yet once they accept that task and fulfill that role, the house partner is looked at like some parasite who leeches on said "bread-winner". Sometimes the human mind (or ego) is scarier than any fictional book, game or movie ever created.
Well these people obviously still live in the stone age. Even if they dont mind it if both parties work, they still expect their wives to do the housework after work. But when the men are alone, they are complete idiots when it comes to housework.
That comment about "permission to leave" for the funeral? HUGE RED FLAG. Guys, spouses are NOT your property anymore! They haven't been for several generations. GET OVER IT!! And LEARN TO CONTRIBUTE MORE THAN A DAMN SALARY to your household / life! Also, the more I listen to him, the more I think a shotgun is an elegant solution--legally complicated, but oh so satisfying...
No I would do this I’ll make them a nice plate of brownies and add some jalapeño peppers and maybe a special chocolate bar do you know the kind that helps you go to the bathroom and use the whole thing
Say it with me everyone. First rule of divorce. A divorce is a tool for ending a bad marriage, not a bluff for threatening your spouse. If you're willing to talk about divorce you should be ready to go through with it.
Damn. What a jerk. When my Nan died very suddenly, Dad was incredibly supportive to Mum. He could be quite the rough nut, but when the situation required it he could also be the perfect gentleman. Anyone who would have tried being this disrespectful... well, let's just say Dad would have kicked their arse.
my dad is the same, when my grandmother passed away in 2018, this was my mom's mom he barely left her side before and after the funnel. i was the same.
I can't believe there's people in the world like this, but they exist. No way this would have a conversation. My mother's funeral, if you are not standing with and supporting me, kick rocks.
My ex threw away the photo frame with my wonderful dog in it and also returned the photo of my mother saying she had awful sons - me and my brother (who had nothing to do with our break up)
I don't understand why people stay in toxic relationships. If anyone tried to treated me like that it would be the end of our relationship, no one owns me .
People do not always recognize verbal and mental abuse for what it is. If you're a SAHW, especially if you have children, by the time you realize what's going on, you may be afraid to leave. You're worried about making it on your own. You're worried about the affect on your children. You may even convince yourself that it's not that bad, after all, they've never hit you. If you've been raised in a religious household, that can only make it worse.
Most relationships don’t start out that way. There’s a cycle that takes place in abusive relationships that plays out over and over. There’s the honeymoon period, where it’s all sunshine and roses. The person is loving and attentive. Then there’s a build up of tension over a period of time followed by a paroxysm that results abusive behavior (either physical or mental or both). Finally the remorse and sincere “apology” and then the honeymoon period starts all over and everything is wonderful again. The build up initially takes place over long periods, so it can be difficult to miss the patterns at first and the victim has hope that “he can change” because it only happens when he’s “stressed”. Eventually, the whole cycle happens faster and faster, until the abuser drops all pretense of apology or of trying to “make nice”. By that time, the victim’s psyche is broken down and has no clue “how” to get out of it. They’re just trying to “keep the peace”. It’s incredibly confusing when you are in it, especially when there are kids. It often takes something major to help the victim realize, “he” really isn’t going to change and I better get out of this quick. Unfortunately, too many of the victims don’t get out alive. This happens a lot when a narcissistic person finds himself an “empath” (a caring person with a high level of empathy and wants to help others.). Keep in mind, these people are highly manipulative and consummate actors. Abusive relationships are a lot like the analogy of the frog and the pot of boiling water. If you put a frog directly into a pot of boiling water, he immediately jumps right out. But if the frog is in a pot of cool water and you slowly turn up the heat, the frog will stay right there and boil to death. It’s easier to see from the outside because your not in the pot and can see the flames going higher. I swore I would kill any man that tried to treat me that way. I still barely escaped my first marriage. The man I left was completely unrecognizable from the man I married. Even his mother couldn’t believe the change in him. I am still considered family to my former in-laws and they have welcomed my current husband into the family.
I swear in these stories the husband just wants a house manager he can boss around instead of a spouse. Some people don't need a spouse they just need a good housekeeper and a meal service that delivers. These men can easily drop their cloths off to a laundry service before work each week. No need to get married.
Welp! If you have no time to praise your wife everytime she gets work done, then you definitely have no right to scold her for missing a task or two, let alone because it's for her mother's funeral. AND after 17:14, I would have burned down the house already! Savage! LOL!
The problem is recognising them - they can be amazingly skillful in hiding their true colours until the ink is dry on the wedding certificate. Then they drop the mask.
@@tracynorth2275 , I suspect most of them do it slowly. But I've also come across real life cases where the man dropped the mask immediately after the wedding.
He'd get told where to go immediately should he start talking to me like that. My dad taught his kids to have strong backbones and not to be stepped on. Up his...
Even while begging and apologizing and promising to change, he still can't say, "I love you." Because he never DID love her. He wanted a live-in maid, that's all. So, he should just hire a maid, and have done with it.
Omg. Her begging him to cook his own food is disgusting. This is exactly why I say women should have their own money. Because a lot of men will have you quit your job and then throw in your face that you're nobody because you don't contribute financially.
@@susanrand512 Hi Susan xx my friend was from Texas one of the greatest person I had the good luck to know and a great uncle to my kids, don't know where in Texas but we miss him so much and always celebrate 4th of July as we did with him xx take care xx Pam
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At 51 seconds in I already figured it out. He was not even AT WORK. He was LYING about having a really busy work day and he was IN BED WITH HIS MISTRESS. Missing his own mother in law's funeral to bed his mistress would ESPECIALLY make this guy contemptable.
I believe him when he said he'd change...for a week or two. Even then he'd slip and apologize. But eventually he'd go right back to the way he was before. He would try to change but wouldn't last. He doesn't really want a wife. He wants a slave. A servant/sex partner. Someone to satisfy both his needs. His household needs and his bedroom needs. He wants a servant that when he says jump they start jumping before asking how high. Ones who will bow down and kiss his ass, then kiss his feet.
This 1950s approach to relationships is a strong theme through most of these texts. Are these truly a reflection of attitudes today? Never once do any of the bullied underdog wives ever put to their abusive husbands how much they would have to pay, for example, is they wanted a housekeeper to clean, cater for and maintain their home. That’s without even taken any similar calculations into account if there were children in the house hold!
The husband is the type of JackA** that if they had a child, he’d probably be butt hurt that his wife is “paying more attention” to the baby by breastfeeding them. I could see OP’s husband screaming “why are you feeding them” before making my dinner. Recently my mother passed away due to complications from Covid-19 and I can say even though my husband didn’t really help with her service he sure didn’t complain about the time and attention it took me. As others have said if my husband was anything like OP’s husband he’d find himself in his own hole if he spoke to me like that, I’d have no problem telling the judge that I was driven to it due to my grief.(also don’t think anyone would blame me for it either).
I have to say, after listening to this, I understand why a woman would pull out a gun and shoot her husband. He is horrific! No love, no kindness, no empathy: only abuse. 😥
If anyone says know your place and just refer to me as woman instead of my name I would of left that man child with an inflated ego on the spot. Let alone disrespect my mom. To the curb!
I read a book years ago when this grandmother was telling her granddaughter how she fixed this issue she said one night her husband hit her and he went on to bed and went to sleep and she got a pig pan of boiling water put it over his head woke him up an said if he ever touched her again she wouldn't wake him up the next time
The similarties between this cretin and my ex husband are uncanny. He always told me I would be nothing and not able to live without him in my life. He was a better father than I was a mother, a better cook etc. Put simply he was an (alcohol fuelled) abusive bully like the cretin in this story. Never remembering what he had done to upset anyone come the morning, but always promising he would change etc only to flush that promise down the toilet a day or so later. When my mother died all he was concerned about was how much money he was going to get, and when my brother explained there was no money, just memories which are more precious than money can buy. The result was my ex husband caused a great scene at the wake and it wasn't the first time he had caused a scene at a family event. At the wedding of his niece he got into a fight with his brother and ended up getting arrested I had gone home long before then as I could see there was trouble brewing. In the end I finally found the courage from somewhere, to walk away and build a far better life without him. His life however ended up right in the gutter, he lost parental custody and visitation to his children due to assualting a social worker and a court official in the court room. He turned to drugs and created no end of problems with his neighbours and finally ended up going to jail for drink and drug offences, but nothing changed he continued his drink and drug rampages when he was released from jail. Finally he collapsed in the street with alcoholic poisoning and was in hospital for a month, when he left hospital with the promise to his doctors he would change, and attend AA meetings etc, yeah yeah, same old, same old. The first thing he did was to go out and buy a bottle of scotch. It didn't do him any good as he died later that night. As for me, well I became freelance writer and in time met a wonderful caring man, who despite being a dinosaur (My pet name for him) whom my kids and I love with all our hearts. I am glad that Mary found the courage to leave her abusive marriage, and I will say this to all woman and men who are suffering at the hands of an abusive bully. Walk away you dont need him/her, there is life beyond abuse you are NOT alone.
If any partner ever says "permission" or "know your place" I'm gone like immediately. But if they skip my parent's funeral, I'm getting family to move me out that night.
Or "woman" to adress someone
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He hit the trifecta - "permission" "serve" AND "obey".
i do not need a man's permission if i marry a dirtwad which i Never will
Sadly my ex did that. He said he had to work but let me attend my mother's memorial. He even did not attend my graduation but his mother and step-dad did. My stepmother, sister came though. It is okay cause my mother inlaw and Father inlaw was so proud of me. I proved also that you can complete school. His second wife kept changing degrees and with his alcoholic behavior she divorced him. I was wife number 3. I wonder if he is on to wife number 4. I am so glad though I don't have to deal with him anymore. Now engaged to someone else. I don't put up with any belittling either. I put my fiancée one time in his place. He was trying to say I could not do certain things we worked at one time for same company. Before I even got married to first husband taking classes at college or getting a certificate in different things are beneficial cause now a days women don't need to be dependant on a man. And men can learn to cook and clean
WOW this one really hit home for me, my EX husband made me choose him or my fathers funeral, he even said to me if I choose my fathers funeral that I would end up 6 months at the hospital or 6 feet near my dad, of course my dad won and he got divorce papers.
you do not need your awful ex, dads are so much better people to their daughters get a real man now
I hope you spoke up about his threats on court and was able to get restraining order for his a$$
So what happened to the POS
My ex didn't want me to go to my mother's when my father died. All because his birthday was more then a week away. He wanted me to stay home so that I could take him out, in his words, for an expensive dinner and then let him buy a model that cost 200.00 as his present, instead of going to my Father's funeral. Guess who lost that little battle. Note that I said EX.
The moment he said “you serve me” I would be done, period. No one is a damn piece of property to be looked down on & disrespected.
i agree
i serve the holy one, My Lord and savior
Guys like this are why I refuse to get married
guys such as this are the resons i watch out for red flags
He brings me a coffee with a croissant every morning! His father used to do the same with his mother, he is a daddy's boy.
If my husband ever spoke to me like that about my mother's funeral, he'd be joining my mom in the casket.
That would be disrespectful to your mother. Roll him the grave first, then put the casket on top. Just remember to tell them to dig the grave a little deeper. That way you are elevating your mother above your husband.
Don't submit your mum to that kind of torture, but then he might be in for hell :)
I love the visuals!
Don't do that to your poor mother. He doesn't deserve a casket much less sharing your mothers. A shallow grave is good enough.
Give your mom the nice casket. Cremate his body and use it as cat litter
She definitely will live a happy life as long as she is far away from the man who does nothing but insults her and disrespects her mother
This really hurts! I lost my in at 19 many years ago. I was newly married with a tiny baby, and my husband(ex) weas. less than sympathetic. If I'd had a way out then, I would have taken it. Hearing this lady trying t appease her husband at the start of this story is really painful.
Thank god they did not have children. If they had children he would NOT love them. It is impossible to treat a woman like $H1T AND love the woman's children. Its a package deal.
No way in HELL I go for that foolishness!! He’s a jackass period!!💯
I lost my mother in 2014. My husband was right there. He watched the kids & fed everyone.
Hospice called us in on Monday and said it was time. Everyone thought she would only live another day or two tops.
Mom, being the stubborn woman she always was, hung on until 5AM on Friday morning.
That week, I never left her bedside. My husband was my rock. He made sure everyone that was there to see her had food, drinks or whatever was needed.
He brought me clean clothes & toiletries. He kept the kids busy and comforted them when I couldn't. I will always remember how supportive he was, not only to me, but everyone in my family.
I love that man with all my heart ❤️
same with my mom's mom, when my grandmother passed in 2018 my dad barely left my mom's side
My husband and my brother-in-law were the ones to pick the nice urn for our Dad. My sister, mother and I were discussing the arrangements and they took it upon themselves to pick an urn with a US Navy crest. Dad was proud of his service. And his sons-in-law knew that. This slob would catch it hot from my family. Both sides.
That is sweet, you have a very good husband and brother-in-law!
yes it is sweet
In my family... There would be two funerals.
@@virtualatheist I wouldn't pay a penny for this idiot's funeral
Steven: we are getting a divorce!
*Don’t threaten her with a good life*
😂😂😂😂
It will be a cold day in HELL before I let my husband ever talk to me like that!! I'm a pistol packing mama and PROUD OF IT!!
Ok that last sentence had me chuckle a bit!
Same 😁
Never feel that you should allow anyone to treat you poorly. A strong woman makes a strong man better, and visa versa.
hood for you!
meant good
He thought that breaking a valuable gift from her mother…would get her to apologise?!
All for him to show his male superiority is down right disgusting behavior.
it will Never get him anything
The bozo thought his wife, who used to work a white collar job, and only quit at his request, didn't know about work life. It's not surprising.
She definitely needs to make amends to him. It was shallow, selfish, and disrespectful of her to prioritize something as trivial and irrelevant as her mother's funeral over something as important as making her husband's breakfast. And where the hell does she get the nerve to go to that funeral without even asking her owner's (oops sorry about that Freudian slip, I meant to say HUSBAND'S) permission?
@@Zurround Nice use of sarcasm. I, personally like adding /s or lol at the end of my sarcastic comments to make it more clear that I'm being sarcastic.
OMG!! As soon as I saw him literally ask the question "Who is more important to you in the family? Me or your mother?" I wanted to knock him the f* out. You should never ever ask a question like that. Cuz as soon as you do you've lost.
i will kick a guy in the tailbone hard if he ask me that
If everyone did what Steven did, I would be beyond angry and would leave them also and sue them for damages. Especially if they broke a memto of a dead relative.
same here i would drag him to court fast
"You are my wife. YOU SERVE ME!"
says any husbands needing the baseball bat bashed into their face. That is NOT how marriage works.
The ending to this was extremely satisfying :). Listening to Steve peg after being a pathetic excuse of a human being was great. I'm glad Mary is living her best life now.
These videos make me feel so thankful for my well-adjusted and not-psycho family. Yeah we had our bumps but my dad would never have done this to my mom, and my mom would never cheat on my dad -- all of these stories make me so happy for my family growing up!
I must admit that I am very IMPRESSED with how CREATIVE the husband is in this story. He has such CREATIVE ways of showing SYMPATHY, CONCERN, AND COMPASSION towards his wife since her mother passed away. I love that!!
Me too
(I love being sarcastic)
you have to be sarsctic to horrible people
💀💀💀
i can sense the seething of this-
I would love to know who in their right mind actually would think like the husband. Not saying I stand behind violence but I would look the other way if someone were to punch them in their narcissistic misogynistic face.
Unfortunately, it's a very common attitude in some places. There's places where it is actually illegal for a woman to leave her house without permission. In some places she isn't allowed to leave the house unless she is accompanied by an adult, male relative. Women are living this every day, but without the possibility of escape. Especially in the places where it's also considered a bad thing to educate girls. Imagine being in this woman's shoes but instead of a degree in engineering to fall back on, you're illiterate. Regardless of the names and locations used in the video, the original situation this was inspired by probably happened in a place where women are commonly treated like property and possibly don't have any rights. Or at least not the same rights as the men.
Violence is not the answer… it’s the question and the answer Fck Yeah!
Oh it wouldn’t just be a fist it’d be a baseball bat
someone needs to teach these kind of people a lesson or two in a kickbowing match
I would quite happily punch him in the face.
Wow. If my husband EVER spoke to me like that he’d be hit over the head with the pan he expects me use in the kitchen. Plus, I’d be serving him divorce papers.
im right there with you, using a cast iron pan
or a rolling pin
hard wood
I expected there will be: "I'd be serving him to dog". Unfortunately with nowdays quality of items, you'd more probably break the pan than husband.
He wanted breakfast and didn’t care at all that she has an emergency going on???!!! He’d have gotten breakfast alright!!! He’d have gotten hot grits thrown on him!!!!
I would have smacked him in the face with a hot cast iron skillet!
yes
Facts! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmao. Grit ball.
Don’t forget the molasses and red devil lye. 😏
I think that was the first time I heard a sincere apology. It even gave her pause. This was a good one.
I doubt it was sincere, and even if it was, he would have relapsed eventually.
Steven: hey!!!! where the hell are you woman? Do you know what time it is?
Me: im with my lawyer man, sure i know the time, its divorce time
xD xxx
darn right
Perhaps I am too sensitive because I lost my Mother this January, but if my husband treated me even a little like this I would have divorced him immediately.
I don't believe anyone would blame you, ma'am.
But the good thing is: your hubby is a keeper. 😄
There's a trend in these stories where a guy asks their wife to quit their job, then talk down to them for being a housewife. It makes me wonder if a guy wanting to be the sole breadwinner of the family should be considered a red flag IRL, or if that's just a plot device in these stories.
it is a very large Red flag when a guy or woman ask you to quit your wonderful job just to be with them. they dislike you earning money and want to controll you
I take a these stories with a truck load of salt.
I'd say a bit of both. While it's mainly for plot devices, the sad reality is there are many people who act like this. Who think a traditional family should only have one bread winner who works and brings home the bacon while everyone else takes care of the house.
I can guarantee that if my husband spoke this way to me I'd be standing in front of a judge saying NOT GUILTY BY REASON OF MENTAL DISEASE OR DEFECT
Love it 😂😂
What a jerk! He acts like he cannot do anything for himself. She did not need his permission to go to her mom's funeral. He does not need to be married. He needs to live alone.
no she sure does not need permission from him at all
He doesn't need to be married, for sure! All he needs is a maid-mommy as he is totally incapable to live on his own! But he will not have enough money for that...
You're how old and still haven't figured out to feed yourself?
@@heikerosenau1520 all true
2 words- permission and serve I would be out of that marriage before you took your next breath
And calling her a lowlife- so disgusting!
mary should said no to a date with this manchild
@@LindaMeade He was absolutely deplorable! 😤
My dad would never let me marry a disgrace like that, and thank goodness, too!
@@princessmarthajandio your dad is a good man, my dad sees though alot of horrible people
@@jaclynsanture6643 Thank you. He really is. We have good fathers.
My Dad passed away 2 years ago, and my husband was WONDERFUL. He spent a week at Mom's with the rest of my family. And he put up with me going to Mom's every weekend for months until she was comfortable being alone.
my mom and dad are the same way when my grandmother, my mom's mom passed away
My EX tried to isolate me from my family and friends. He had me afraid to as much as leave the house because of his tyranny. Finally a very good group of friends helped me escape. I now live far away and he has no idea where I am. I am under the radar so to speak. I still talk to my friends from back home all of the time. And even after all of this time, he still tries to get them to tell him where I am.
@@HelenHumphriesThank God for such great friends. They had your back. Stay safe.
If any guy ever told me what my “duty” is, no matter what followed, it would be the last words he ever said to me.
wow talk about a full reverse from divorce. i reckon Steve realised very fast that HE needs HER far more than SHE needs HIM xD xxx
"It's been a while since you called me by my name."
Omg, I had a moment in my life when someone said my name and I realized it had actually been years before anyone had called me that. I almost cried, I didn't realize I was even going through an identity crisis until that moment. I'm in a much better place now.
Decades ago I read an issue of "The Nursing Clinics of North America" (if I remember the periodical correctly). That issue was devoted to articles about culture. I found it very interesting to learn that the original meaning of "macho" was a man who was honorable and who could take care of his family.
Initially, the concept of machismo was equivalent to the concept of chivalry. Somewhere along the way, something went wrong and it became completely corroded. As a result, it has been replaced by a new term: “hombría”. Nowadays, the term “machismo” has a negative connotation and is by no means a trait to be proud of.
Wow! We need that taught in English classes in school!
My ex husband was actually exactly like this guy. I’ve never put up with crap since.
good for you
Same. He's gone now.
Knowing that these stories come from someplace is insane. If the only family I had left that I loved dearly passed away and my spouse said anything about doing chores, we would have been playing "grit ball" Al Green Style with a cast iron skillet.
More like Whack A Mole with a titanium golf club.
Never heard of "grit ball", but it sounds interesting and effective. Hmmm 😽
Steven is only begging his ex-wife Mary to come back because he knows he blew it when he couldn't accept her making more money than he did. Breaking her picture frame of her and her mom was the last straw for her. Good on her for dumping the dead weight and finding potential romance along with going back to work. Hopefully Steven pays big for all the misery he inflicted on Mary.
im reminded of that funny greek movie, but in revese where the exmanchild non 'husband' was nagging
After 3 lines of Steve's blustering rhetoric I could feel my fists balling
Despicable that the husband broke the frame and legitimately grounds for alimony. However, she said that she and her mother had a matching set. She should still have the one, at least.
Even so, it was still her frame that he broke, and it was one of only two that exist. Her being upset is completely reasonable.
Now that is just painful Steven for making that actions towards her.He has no sympathy and in the end Karma served in.
Good evening ❣️. This guy wouldn't last 5 minutes with me. Two sounds me hitting him and him hitting the ground 🤣
Steven's a grown man. He has two working arms, two working legs and a working brain (maybe?). He can do the chores and breakfast himself.
he does not have a brain
@@jaclynsanture6643 I was talking about a physical brain. His head isn't empty. He just refuses to use what's there.
@@TheEmpressReborn that is true
But he is the "breadwinner" and deserves respect. Yeah right, give him as much respect as a dog turd.
I wonder if Steven ever realized that he had gone too far way before the death of Mary's mother. Just the fact he promised to changed and she said he would go back on his word tells me he has done that before.
Evening everyone
Evening and have a good night 🤗
i feel spoiled everyday new ep text story i been greedy i want more please
I can't imagine allowing a man to talk to me like that.
What's the deal with people who want their partners to be staying at home, taking care of the cooking, cleaning and so on, even though they were independent before, yet once they accept that task and fulfill that role, the house partner is looked at like some parasite who leeches on said "bread-winner". Sometimes the human mind (or ego) is scarier than any fictional book, game or movie ever created.
Because they need to feed their ego and have a need for an emotional punching bag that won't be able to escape.
now this steven is a homeless person
and not a bread winner
@@jaclynsanture6643 And not a winner in general. But let's face facts: he never was.
Well these people obviously still live in the stone age. Even if they dont mind it if both parties work, they still expect their wives to do the housework after work. But when the men are alone, they are complete idiots when it comes to housework.
That comment about "permission to leave" for the funeral? HUGE RED FLAG. Guys, spouses are NOT your property anymore! They haven't been for several generations. GET OVER IT!! And LEARN TO CONTRIBUTE MORE THAN A DAMN SALARY to your household / life! Also, the more I listen to him, the more I think a shotgun is an elegant solution--legally complicated, but oh so satisfying...
im with you on that
Or leave him to the gators in the bayou.
Oh, I'd make him breakfast all right. Pancakes and potassium cyanide, coming right up!
No I would do this I’ll make them a nice plate of brownies and add some jalapeño peppers and maybe a special chocolate bar do you know the kind that helps you go to the bathroom and use the whole thing
Nope. You go for a hike or a boat ride. You know some place where the body can't be found. Oh don't forget your gun, you know for bears or sharks.
Thier are some fantastic liquid laxatives on the market.
Lol that’s a good one even better than chocolate chip pancakes and chocolate Laxative milkshake mix.
Pancakes and syrup of figs!!
Say it with me everyone. First rule of divorce. A divorce is a tool for ending a bad marriage, not a bluff for threatening your spouse. If you're willing to talk about divorce you should be ready to go through with it.
Damn. What a jerk. When my Nan died very suddenly, Dad was incredibly supportive to Mum. He could be quite the rough nut, but when the situation required it he could also be the perfect gentleman. Anyone who would have tried being this disrespectful... well, let's just say Dad would have kicked their arse.
my dad is the same, when my grandmother passed away in 2018, this was my mom's mom he barely left her side before and after the funnel. i was the same.
I can't believe there's people in the world like this, but they exist. No way this would have a conversation. My mother's funeral, if you are not standing with and supporting me, kick rocks.
My ex threw away the photo frame with my wonderful dog in it and also returned the photo of my mother saying she had awful sons - me and my brother (who had nothing to do with our break up)
Sounds like he was plain rotten. Glad you got rid of him
And she is still alive?
That sounds like a true POS! Sorry you went through that.
@@lyndatuttle My Mother had died before my ex and I broke up
@@lyndatuttle No, my Mother died a few years before
This guy is begging to be a missing person.
My husband once implied it was my "duty" to cook. And yes I cook pretty much 9 out of 10 times. But damn did he get a dressing down.
Good evening everyone from Kentucky 🥶
Its going to be cold here this next week
Single digit temperatures, ugh.
Good evening and have a good night my friend 👋🤗
@@lindahill7315 it's getting colder and colder here
@@amethystanne4586 it is 28° degrees here
I don't understand why people stay in toxic relationships.
If anyone tried to treated me like that it would be the end of our relationship, no one owns me .
Some people don't want to be alone or get used to the routine.
People do not always recognize verbal and mental abuse for what it is.
If you're a SAHW, especially if you have children, by the time you realize what's going on, you may be afraid to leave. You're worried about making it on your own. You're worried about the affect on your children. You may even convince yourself that it's not that bad, after all, they've never hit you.
If you've been raised in a religious household, that can only make it worse.
a lot of people are maniulated
It is very hard to leave an abuser and unless you have lived it you would never understand,
Most relationships don’t start out that way. There’s a cycle that takes place in abusive relationships that plays out over and over. There’s the honeymoon period, where it’s all sunshine and roses. The person is loving and attentive. Then there’s a build up of tension over a period of time followed by a paroxysm that results abusive behavior (either physical or mental or both). Finally the remorse and sincere “apology” and then the honeymoon period starts all over and everything is wonderful again. The build up initially takes place over long periods, so it can be difficult to miss the patterns at first and the victim has hope that “he can change” because it only happens when he’s “stressed”. Eventually, the whole cycle happens faster and faster, until the abuser drops all pretense of apology or of trying to “make nice”. By that time, the victim’s psyche is broken down and has no clue “how” to get out of it. They’re just trying to “keep the peace”. It’s incredibly confusing when you are in it, especially when there are kids. It often takes something major to help the victim realize, “he” really isn’t going to change and I better get out of this quick. Unfortunately, too many of the victims don’t get out alive. This happens a lot when a narcissistic person finds himself an “empath” (a caring person with a high level of empathy and wants to help others.). Keep in mind, these people are highly manipulative and consummate actors.
Abusive relationships are a lot like the analogy of the frog and the pot of boiling water. If you put a frog directly into a pot of boiling water, he immediately jumps right out. But if the frog is in a pot of cool water and you slowly turn up the heat, the frog will stay right there and boil to death. It’s easier to see from the outside because your not in the pot and can see the flames going
higher.
I swore I would kill any man that tried to treat me that way. I still barely escaped my first marriage. The man I left was completely unrecognizable from the man I married. Even his mother couldn’t believe the change in him. I am still considered family to my former in-laws and they have welcomed my current husband into the family.
It would take one time for him to talk to me like that!
And what’s sad is; there are men out there like this.
My husbands uncle was like this.
I swear in these stories the husband just wants a house manager he can boss around instead of a spouse. Some people don't need a spouse they just need a good housekeeper and a meal service that delivers. These men can easily drop their cloths off to a laundry service before work each week. No need to get married.
If I had had a partner like that there wouldn't have been a future for the relationship. My late mother and father came first
Welp! If you have no time to praise your wife everytime she gets work done, then you definitely have no right to scold her for missing a task or two, let alone because it's for her mother's funeral. AND after 17:14, I would have burned down the house already! Savage! LOL!
that is right
Fable of story: never ever marry a narcissistic sociopath.
True
The problem is recognising them - they can be amazingly skillful in hiding their true colours until the ink is dry on the wedding certificate. Then they drop the mask.
Didn't you mean Moral of the story. A fable is a story. A moral a message.
They hide it well in the beginning. Slowly getting worse over time. You think you are imagining it, going crazy….
@@tracynorth2275 , I suspect most of them do it slowly. But I've also come across real life cases where the man dropped the mask immediately after the wedding.
He'd get told where to go immediately should he start talking to me like that. My dad taught his kids to have strong backbones and not to be stepped on. Up his...
where the sun does not shine is that what you meant?
Even while begging and apologizing and promising to change, he still can't say, "I love you."
Because he never DID love her. He wanted a live-in maid, that's all. So, he should just hire a maid, and have done with it.
no he did Not love mary at all
Omg. Her begging him to cook his own food is disgusting. This is exactly why I say women should have their own money. Because a lot of men will have you quit your job and then throw in your face that you're nobody because you don't contribute financially.
"she was my only family".…....yet earlier she said "I stayed at her house to see my aunt's off"....aren't aunt's family ??
They may be related to her but she may have not much of a relationship with them to count as family
Just because you're related doesn't mean you're family.
I would have dumped him at the first sign of him telling me to shut up.
mary shoul told him no when he asked her out on a date, when they first met
I really, really really want to know who the voice actors are. The actor playing Steven is an excellent Jerkwad.
I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO KNOW THE VOICE ACTORS OF ALL THESE VIDEOS.
You don’t need a partner to be happy 😊
This can’t be the first time this husband has acted like a monster.
Evening everyone hope you all had a lovely Saturday xx Pam in Edinburgh Scotland xx
Hi there, from Texas
@@susanrand512 Hi Susan xx my friend was from Texas one of the greatest person I had the good luck to know and a great uncle to my kids, don't know where in Texas but we miss him so much and always celebrate 4th of July as we did with him xx take care xx Pam
Hello from Chilliwack Bc Canada 🇨🇦. Waiting for snow to hit
It's a lazy day laying around reading. Hope your day was enjoyable.👋🤗
@@Mrstigger747 oh I hope it's not too harsh a winter 🥶 freezing here ice on the roads and the snow is still on the ground I hate it lol, love Canada such a beautiful country.Take care and wrap up warm xx Pam
At 51 seconds in I already figured it out. He was not even AT WORK. He was LYING about having a really busy work day and he was IN BED WITH HIS MISTRESS. Missing his own mother in law's funeral to bed his mistress would ESPECIALLY make this guy contemptable.
i have no doubt that he was cheating, he maybe was doing that when steven was dating mary and before the wedding
Nah, he would have moved in his mistress for the 'taking care of man-baby' tasks.
@@kathydurow6814 all true
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The adorable kitties make it bearable to listen to this pompous man child.
same
I believe him when he said he'd change...for a week or two. Even then he'd slip and apologize. But eventually he'd go right back to the way he was before. He would try to change but wouldn't last. He doesn't really want a wife. He wants a slave. A servant/sex partner. Someone to satisfy both his needs. His household needs and his bedroom needs. He wants a servant that when he says jump they start jumping before asking how high. Ones who will bow down and kiss his ass, then kiss his feet.
i agree
Dang it Jim, I’m an engineer, not a lowlife, mere housewife!!
Love your videos!!
This 1950s approach to relationships is a strong theme through most of these texts. Are these truly a reflection of attitudes today? Never once do any of the bullied underdog wives ever put to their abusive husbands how much they would have to pay, for example, is they wanted a housekeeper to clean, cater for and maintain their home. That’s without even taken any similar calculations into account if there were children in the house hold!
i'd tell him to eat cereal
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love it...threatens divorce with papers signed...she signs it and filed! Great move! He never once considered the cost of it...
wish granted
Are the husbands arms broken? Is he unable to cook his own breakfast? Honestly.
The minute someone called me “woman” in that tone of voice we’d have a conversation and by conversation I mean I’d be ripping them a new one.
DIVORCE him please ASAP
Dude, are you serious?
“Don’t you love me anymore?”
“No”
😂😂😂😂
The husband is the type of JackA** that if they had a child, he’d probably be butt hurt that his wife is “paying more attention” to the baby by breastfeeding them. I could see OP’s husband screaming “why are you feeding them” before making my dinner. Recently my mother passed away due to complications from Covid-19 and I can say even though my husband didn’t really help with her service he sure didn’t complain about the time and attention it took me. As others have said if my husband was anything like OP’s husband he’d find himself in his own hole if he spoke to me like that, I’d have no problem telling the judge that I was driven to it due to my grief.(also don’t think anyone would blame me for it either).
sending prayers to you and your family. i am so sorry about your mom
yes op non husband will find himself on the wrong side of things and not one person is going to help him
Given her "permission to leave"??? Oh HELL NO.
no do not listen to this cheating dirtward
Bet you if Steven's family died, he'd want HER to DROP EVERYTHING. He doesn't want a wife, just a servant
Good job Mary and good luck
these conversations always make me laugh!!! whoever said wife meant servant is hilarious! I would flip you up so fast you would swallow your words
This went on too long. Why didn't she ever cut him off saying: "I will block you, now."
Probably because she couldn’t. She’s in the middle of divorce proceedings
These characters are so callous.
Going to the big "d", and I don't mean Dallas. Lol
I have to say, after listening to this, I understand why a woman would pull out a gun and shoot her husband. He is horrific! No love, no kindness, no empathy: only abuse. 😥
If you are incapable of feeding yourself, what use are you to anyone?
He is rude and expects to be waited on. He offers her no support or comfort. Not a relationship
he just wanted a maid
The man sure lost his sanity thanks to his ego
yes he sure did
I'm Angry that she feels the need to explain herself to him.
OMG, he apologized, must have been raised by wolves.
That's insulting to those who actually were raised by wolves.
Wolves are more tender and caring than that pile of bent nails.
If my husband ever spoke to me like this, he would never ever see the light of day.
If anyone says know your place and just refer to me as woman instead of my name I would of left that man child with an inflated ego on the spot. Let alone disrespect my mom. To the curb!
I read a book years ago when this grandmother was telling her granddaughter how she fixed this issue she said one night her husband hit her and he went on to bed and went to sleep and she got a pig pan of boiling water put it over his head woke him up an said if he ever touched her again she wouldn't wake him up the next time
Sounds a lot like my granny
i love that story by the grandmother
The similarties between this cretin and my ex husband are uncanny. He always told me I would be nothing and not able to live without him in my life. He was a better father than I was a mother, a better cook etc. Put simply he was an (alcohol fuelled) abusive bully like the cretin in this story. Never remembering what he had done to upset anyone come the morning, but always promising he would change etc only to flush that promise down the toilet a day or so later. When my mother died all he was concerned about was how much money he was going to get, and when my brother explained there was no money, just memories which are more precious than money can buy. The result was my ex husband caused a great scene at the wake and it wasn't the first time he had caused a scene at a family event. At the wedding of his niece he got into a fight with his brother and ended up getting arrested I had gone home long before then as I could see there was trouble brewing. In the end I finally found the courage from somewhere, to walk away and build a far better life without him.
His life however ended up right in the gutter, he lost parental custody and visitation to his children due to assualting a social worker and a court official in the court room. He turned to drugs and created no end of problems with his neighbours and finally ended up going to jail for drink and drug offences, but nothing changed he continued his drink and drug rampages when he was released from jail.
Finally he collapsed in the street with alcoholic poisoning and was in hospital for a month, when he left hospital with the promise to his doctors he would change, and attend AA meetings etc, yeah yeah, same old, same old.
The first thing he did was to go out and buy a bottle of scotch. It didn't do him any good as he died later that night.
As for me, well I became freelance writer and in time met a wonderful caring man, who despite being a dinosaur (My pet name for him) whom my kids and I love with all our hearts.
I am glad that Mary found the courage to leave her abusive marriage, and I will say this to all woman and men who are suffering at the hands of an abusive bully. Walk away you dont need him/her, there is life beyond abuse you are NOT alone.
He'd have one time to talk to me like that.
my dad would have gotten his gun, because i will tell him everything that this idloit is doing and saying to me
@@jaclynsanture6643 I'd have gotten my own gun.