As a 30 yr practicing psychotherapist, and someone who has suffered from this affliction, I just want to applaud your intense honesty. I've watched all your vids and refer clients and they all say how you have helped them feel NOT alone. Keep doing what you're doing Chrissie...
just tell me whether these thoughts will come true someday? I know that these feelings are not real but can they become real in the future?? will I get real romantic and sexual feelings then? I am having incest thoughts and I seriously will kill myself if I ever develop real feelings with time.
My experience is that it can drive you to compulsive masturbation in order to relieve the anxiety. Thing that will lower your self esteem, reinforcing your sexual thoughts. I don t know if there are other people out there who have had the same experience about masturbation in response to groinal arousal. It made me feel dirty , perverse, alien to friends, not worthy and lonely as a teen and adult.
I'm scared man, I have felt that impulse to masturbate with the groinal, but I didnt do it, I'm scared that if I do it, I won't feel bad after doing it, meaning that I actually did wanted it
I tried to “prove” to my ocd that I would be okay even if that happened like an “exposure” but I think it’s the opposite and now I’ve been ruminating and scared that I liked the graphic content of a tv show I watched before I did that. It’s just terrible because I’m scared that I’m attracted to the things or people around me if I heard them or thought about them after an orgasm. It’s just terrifying cause it feels like your acting on it
So i was molested as a kid and now im 24 and my suppressed memories and emotions and now im scared of children and now everytime i think of a kid, i get a groin sensation and now i want to die!
I invite you to also watch Emily Nagoski’s Ted Talk on “The Truth About Unwanted Arousal”. It talks about arousal non-concordance and it has personally liberated me from my own shame from feeling things I didn’t want to in certain situations. I was also molested as a kid and I am currently 24 and still struggling with it. But it’s okay. You are not your feelings. And there shouldn’t be any shame or shock over your body acting in any certain way. YOU decide what to make of it. Just because you feel your body doing something doesn’t mean you wanted it to happen.
CHRISSIE I LOVE YOU! I find it SO HARD to talk to my therapist about groinal response. Mine isnt as strong as you say yours is but it's still horrible and I feel physically sick whenever it happens. Thank you for reassuring me.
THANK YOU!!! Groinal arousal "it feels stronger than normal arousal" o my gosh!! Thank you!!! I can't remember my first groinal response.... within the last two years. Ive had OCD since I was 11. All different kinds ranging from just right OCD and flipping switches to pedophilia OCD. The groinal responses are absolutely the worst. I would almost kill to get rid of it.
You are such a blessing Chrissy! OCD does suck but with amazing advocates sharing their experience, with humour and honesty, it makes it all the more bearable xx
Thank you so much Chrissie for all your videos. You dont know how much you have helped me get better with my Intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I have struggled with having the groinal response with children and have suffered for 6 years now. I now have finally got into the habit of not getting stuck on the thoughts and going down that rabbit hole. You have really made a difference for me and I am truely grateful for having found you. You are amazing. God bless you. All the way from Australia 😍😍
I feel better after this video because I hate groinals. And there was a time where I thought my groinals are the actual attraction while my normal arousal felt like a fake one.
You're an incredible advocate. I've suffered on and off since I was in 5th grade, and groinal response has been a HUGE struggle because it's so tangible. Currently going through a symptom spike and listening to your videos while I push my way through chores. Your courage and matter-of-fact style is uplifting and amazing. Thank you so much. And to anyone else visiting this video because they're looking for comfort, I'm here with you, and everyone else in the community is always walking by your side. Be strong ❤
Ive had OCD as long as i can remember.... Ive pretty much experienced every OCD symptom i think a human with OCD can feel but this has to be one of the worst if not the worst thing that somebody with OCD deals with
This is so spot on. Exactly my situation as well... I've been many years with this and lately I cannot say I am ocd anymore. I just got sick of all this cycle and said fuck it. I don't care about my sexuality I don't care about what happens in my body i'll just live my life. But now what makes me sad is that I've lost my sexual drive and it's weird cause my body I super aroused most of the time but mentally I'm so disgusted and sick of sex that in the thought of having sex with someone I just feel exhausted. And now I have another super annoying symptom. Whenever I'm aroused if I masturbate just to make it go away it gets worse and I'm just there trying again and again until I say fuck it I'll never feel satisfied or relieved. It is so sad to me because I know why this whole thing started and I just remember my self before that, such a happy person who super enjoyed sex and now the good sex is gone.... :(
The way that you deliver the messages of your videos helps me feel like I’m so much less crazy. I love how matter-of-fact you are! Thank you so much for being real and even LAUGHING about these things! It’s so helpful!
Help me! I have constant sexual intrusive thoughts. And they drive me crazy. I have not had any groinals from them. But my mind is trying to make me think I enjoy these thoughts. But why would I be here if I enjoyed them. Please help me. I feel like I am losing my mind.
Sirhc Hajile Nosiner same man I’ve gone through many stages and now I’m getting them , my mind is trying to make me think the opposite of what I actually want
Groinal response is something I thinks forms from all the compulsions when I first got hocd I would do a lot of checking through porn always got hard form girls never from guys and I never had the groinal response until maybe a couple of week or months checking I started to feel the groinal response also something I’m noticing with actually getting hard from girls and just getting the groinal response is like when I’m aroused from girls is doesn’t feel like a impulse it just rises natural but with the groinal response it feel like an impulse like something beating XD this is a little wired but what ever and the chances of you getting hard from the groinal response are kind of small but possible it’s about 99.9% of the time just like an impulse
I had hocd for so long and seriously thought I was bi. But i was so confused why it made me uncomfortable and gave me anxiety at the same time. I never thought (until now ) that it was hocd. I kept telling myself it's ok to be bi but it also never felt natural but the thoughts were so strong and so often.
Same here girl, when I was 14 or 15 I started getting thoughts like that and I never liked the thoughts so it was really confusing for me. When I found out online that this was just HOCD it made me feel really relieved
@Nick Ward sometimes it feel like I’m aroused to the thought tho, like a get a feeling that feels like arousal but also feels different, it often makes my groin erect and makes me upset, I’m prolly the only one who experiences this 😢😢😢😢😢 especially if I see a gay person, a bunch of thoughts that cause the arousal and groinal, either tho they aren’t wanted and feel weird they prolly mean I’m in denial 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@Nick Ward I know your not trying to reassure, I almost ended my life because if it man, I was 12 when it first happened and now I’m 14, the thoughts aren’t as bad but since you’ve gone through it similarly, how did you recover
I'd call you a godsend, but I've suffered from this 12years ago, when the awareness of pure OCD and particularly sex-themed types of OCD, was not discussed that much. Where, oh where were you and the likes of you back then! OCD sufferers were just a joke who wash their hands 30 tkmes a day! Don't get me wrong, I adore what you do, but I hate life's ironies, especually when they literally destroy an entire year of the best years of your life !! I've also learned about hit-and-run OCD, incest OCD, hharm OCD, sexual orientation OCD, and I've experienced them all at some point or another! Hell, I still hate "urban" driving, because of the pedestrians and especially cyclists!
Wow. Who knew that I'd find so many answers about what the hell is wrong with me on RUclips!!! Like, I'm Broke! ( except for $$ to pay my phone bill) I don't have the income for a therapist. Anyway, this helps. I'm in my 40s & I identify with this
Your videos are an enormous help and relief. I hope that this doesn't get taken out of context, but it's a relief to know that there are others like me who deal with pocd. It started when I was 17 and there are days/months where I'm fine, but then BAM! I'm stuck on pocd autoloop.
I cannot imagine how my life would’ve continued had your videos not existed. Both me and my boyfriend suffer from OCD. I hope to help others the way you have. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you so much, sometimes I feel like the wall of my OCD and my real thoughts become so transparent and slowly feel like my OCD is real , thank you so much , I feel less crazy and not feel alone.
Thank you, I've felt so alone for years until seeing these videos! Finally feel able to speak up. I wondered if you have done any videos about sexually intrusive thoughts during sex. Mine have really affected my sex life!
I spent too many years not sorting this stuff out until when I was 23 and then one day in a matter of seconds while watching a comedy video my mind snapped and all of a sudden I began thinking that everyone can see my thoughts. Then all of a sudden my thoughts started going down this ocd path getting me stuck in a cycle of over analyzing things over and over again. It's super super embarrassing that my mind can't stop thinking these things in front of family, friends, strangers, or by myself or even in my dreams/nightmares.
wow im 27 and i constantly deal with this kind of thing and i often question these things and most certainly makes it worse i often question myself more coz i think omg ive been dealing with ocd since i was 21 and i feel as if maybe its true coz im still dealing with it 6 years later but it is reassuring to hear somebody in there 40s say that they are still dealing with it. (not that its a good thing that ocd stays with you for life but yeah) i had been told by a psych that ocd in fact does not go away which suck but at the same time is comforting to know im not alone thanks for the video dont go down the rabbit hole !!
Omg, thank you. I actually thought that because I felt something when I was thinking about it, and worried, it's true. It's good to know that it's not actually true, and that's because of my mind going on, and on about it, and fearing. Thank you so much!
I thank you so much, your such a positive person . I’m suffering from hocd / ocd / anxiety. And all of them together are living hell. I watch your video for peace and to try and think it’s not true but my ocd will bite back and go “ wait! This is true but I don’t wanna accept it . And I get movement in my penis and it’s so embarrassing and quite frankly upsetting
I have POCD with this Gronial response. In real life i'm sexually attracted to Women and i get an arousal from them because that's who i'm attracted. But with POCD and it took me a few years to realize that the gronial response like from either Men or children (Which the latter is my biggest fear when i know i would never in my life harm a child. As i love children just like everyone else) is from OCD. Sexual Intrusive Thoughts i have sucks and i know i will win as i'm only sexually attracted to Women.
Recently the sexual intrusive thoughts showed up in dreams. I was even uncomfortable in the dreams but I still had arousal with it. Can someone tell me what that means?? I really hate it and it drives me insane
to know that I'm still straight means the world, and all the other thoughts are drove by ocd and anxiety could not be any better gives me a real answer
i finally feel like i’m not alone i’m starting therapy soon and i feel like there’s hope now i feel like i’m finally gonna start feeling like myself again
I am writing this comment bc my OCD fired up once again and Im managing it.....and I hope it can help someone clear their minds. From all the resources I have "kindly" collected from all over internet: ANY sexual stimuli can cause arousal or groinal response! ANY!!! Mark that word!!! It doesn't matter whether you like it or not, once you associate something with sex, you will get it!!! It does not matter whether its a groinal response or actual arousal, anything you associate with sex will trigger sensation down there.....heck you may even worry "killing someone" would cause your arousal and guess what, you will get it!!! Because once you worry about it, and you start checking, you automatically associate "killing someone" with sex. It doesn't matter whether you thought about killing someone is sexual or not before, once you start checking for sexual arousal, you deem whatever you worry must be sexual relevant.
And just to clear things even further, just like what this video said, groinal response (or sensation or whatever) is generally considered a positive feeling. For example (I am only saying this because I am man), you can get morning wood right? And guess what, it feels good right? Because it is a groinal sensation and it is positive....but does morning wood means anything? No, it is just there and any man can have it for no reasons. I am gonna use another disturbing example here: say if someone forced you to eat cooked human meat, and it actually taste good. But what would you actually feel about it? You would gross out, right?
I came across once watching bestiality video . And after watching that 5 minutes clip . I am worried that I have done terrible sin(it is good to some guilt) but now what happens is I am thinking as guilty of doing sex with that animal in video and fear of being zoophilic person. I am always remembering the verse in Leviticus that curse is the one who has sex with animal. I know in Galatians it's written god took our curses. But also it is not making effective. Anyhow I am OCD patient and taking treatment at present by the grace of God.
It's also that our - I am talking about us guys- equipment (to use another phrase from Seinfeld) could not possibly react as fast as our thoughts change, and if you are in the thrall of sex-themed OCD, genuine ( i.e. ego-syntonic) sexual fantasies we enjoy will inevitably become invaded by or infected with unwanted thoughts that reflect your fears, not our desires. I wish I understood that all those years ago! Again, thank you for your insight and sincerity! We need more people like you!
Thank you Christy, I've seen a lot of improvements but the arousal can be quite frustrating. I like the feeling of arousal overall but not in this context, it doesn't line up
Does it count as an intrusive thought if it's something that I actually did? I looked at a body part of a family members that I absoloutley did not want to but felt forced to do. I looked but I didn't want To. Does this still count as an intrusion! Innaprorpaite sexual stuff is a big fear of mine
Danzo O sexual arousal can be forced, triggered, stimulated etc and it’s called groinal response. Sexual attraction, however, cannot be forced. The part of our Brian that controls our “bottom” part only react to things RELATED to sex, it absolutely does not care about whether we like it or not, as long as it’s sexually related, it’s starting....while other parts of our brain will later start discussing whether we like this idea or not
Danzo O what many of us do not realize is that connection can be built from scratch!!! For example: if you ring a bell every time you feed a dog, eventually the dog would salivate when he hears a bell ringing....this goes same for the groinal response!!! Every time you try to check your groin with unwanted sexual trigger, it would start a response similar to arousal, and then naturally you would test it again, and again....eventually, you would notice that the response begins as soon as you see any sexual trigger, which would confuse you even more
To anyone who concerns about whether the groinal symptoms comes first or the intrusive thought....find a dog and ring a bell while feeding him, keep doing this for few days....see if the dog would salivate when you ring the bell
The thing is the groinal response happened thrice with the same thought in a span of 20 minutes. Like I also tried having an image of others and it did not have the same response. I don't know anymore oh lawd
I'm 17 years old and I'm currently getting help for these exact symptoms. However, I want to know if it can give you a huge urge to actually act on those things.
@@AmyBurgess2002 massively. They don't take the condition away 100% but it eases the anxiety and then eventually you stop getting urges as much because they are based solely on anxiety
I'm experiencing the groinal syndrome as well. It started after I had this dream about someone, and ever since then I experience the groinal around this person. Even though I know that this dream is what started it all, I still can't detach myself from the groinal syndrom. I wish I could.
I wish there was support groups for things like this or any mental illness. My quality of life isn't as good as it should be. If it can be obsessed I obsess about it. I'm very lonely and bitter because of the isolation.
Hi Chrissie, thanks for the videos, each time I am involved in something -it could be bouncing my cousin on my knee or stroking my cats face, an intrusive thought will pop in my head, and I feel like I have to repeat that action to reassure myself that it meant nothing . Is this called a compulsion where you are trying to prove your thought wrong?
Hi, I would like to subtitle your video with french subtitles so I can show my friend who has OCD but you didn't activate the subtitle contribution option (if that makes sens). Would it be possible for you?
I have a false memory and I’m scared I tested myself but it wasn’t even harmful but it’s effecting me. It was a RUclips video from this scene in a video game and this woman turned me on but my worst fear walked in and I can’t recall my reaction to the situation. I can’t remember if I stopped immediately or not when they walked in suddenly. I can’t stop ruminating about the event and it’s driving me crazy. Many people do test themselves and I don’t judge but I just can’t accept that I could’ve tested myself I was only young at the time and it was years ago that’s why I can’t remember
hello i kind of have problems with hocd from my childhood, when i was about eight or nine i found both bodies somehow attractive but little by little i fell in love and became interested in girls it went on like this for the whole year girlfriends etc i was then also absolutely me sure to be straight but then the childhood memories came up and since then i've been scanning everything that has to do with hocd it's terrible and i can't get out of my doubts anymore would be happy about an answer i'm afraid that i'll deny being bisexual be
Watching this while also checking My groin for the50th time and then using my sexuality to compare it to my intrusive thoughts while checking my groin again and now I got the reassurance that I know my real sexuality phew I can live and have a future and have kids HAHAHAHA ocd is madness
Everytime i have a gronial response i try very hard to just brush it off, but i find myself running to the bathroom and cleaning down there with soap and water because i am disgusted and disturbed by the repsonse ive had. I think that everytime i have a gronial response my body has produced some type of substance and i don't want to carry out my day without cleaning the response. I dont orgasm, its just a gronial repsonse, however, constantly cleaning after a gronial response has started to become very damaging for my physical health and financial stability. Should i no longer respond this way to a gronial repsonse? Am i only making this symptom worse by reacting to it? What can I tell myself to help realise this symptom doesnt need cleaning or any attention?
After 10 yrs i realized that i was a porn addict because it was always on my mind and i started to see women as sex objects instead of a person which has left me feeling disgusted with myself i just can't bring myself to treat a woman like that. I've not looked at porn for a week now and i'm starting to see women as as people now. I get that fantasizing about people is normal but when it's about what you've seen on the internet there's a problem. My goal in life is to beat this and be in a loving relationship with someone and do things that are romantic not be filthy minded all the time.
if you have intrusive thoughts, you probably do have ocd - do you think you don’t because you don’t do physical compulsions? i mean like those people who have to zip and unzip a jacket over and over, do you feel as if you don’t have ocd because you don’t do that? because that’s not the only type of ocd. i was scared at first because i was the same - i had these thoughts, but not these physical things, so i was like “all i’m getting for intrusive thoughts is ocd stuff, what is this?”. there’s a type of ocd that i suffer from called ‘purely obsessive ocd’, or ‘pure-o’ for short. it’s intrusive thoughts but no physical compulsions. in place of the physical ones, you probably do mental ones without realising it [i have more obvious ones - repeating a phrase such as ‘shut up’ or ‘stop’ repeatedly in my mind whenever one comes up. however, i’m sure some have ones that are more subtle/less noticeable than that]. hope this helps
I suffer from it its horrific right from listening to music and staring at someone it feels like erection has taken place i cannot get out of comfort zone what to do i have no freaking idea 😩
Omg I need help ! One evening in February 2018 I was watching song a woman was dancing nd suddenly I felt sexual attraction towards her instantly another thought came to my head is I might be a transgender!! I couldn’t stop stressing over it I was crying every day ! I kept thinking why did this sexual thought came to me ! I was so happy being with my boyfriend ! Now Tocd is killing me! I need help ! I want to be woman again! I lost my identity!
usually Hocd and Tocd can go hand in hand, but it is just ocd. If you’re happy with your boyfriend and you know that you feel like a woman, you’re probably not gay and not trans.. best of luck!
F WoW Thx I Sooo thought I wasn’t Alone But have been Worried that there could B Something Wrong Mentally with me which is Just another reason I’m Most Def Actually going to see someone 4 some Help Thank U Sooo Much Blessings B Upon U Beautiful
Thank you so much. I’m at a loss on what to do anymore. They won’t treat my OCD. It all falls under my bipolar so they out me on a mood stabilizer and it’s not helping.
I'm not sure if this is healthy or not but I use my sexual intrusive thoughts to counter my violent intrusive thoughts. But both are incresing in intensity and frequency and I don't know how to stop it or even if I can or want to.
It feels so good to know I'm not alone, and that I'm not crazy.
Yes
Yessss! For real ❤️
As a 30 yr practicing psychotherapist, and someone who has suffered from this affliction, I just want to applaud your intense honesty. I've watched all your vids and refer clients and they all say how you have helped them feel NOT alone.
Keep doing what you're doing Chrissie...
just tell me whether these thoughts will come true someday? I know that these feelings are not real but can they become real in the future?? will I get real romantic and sexual feelings then?
I am having incest thoughts and I seriously will kill myself if I ever develop real feelings with time.
@@srijitaroy-pathfinderhazra8037 this is OCD talking. I really recommend you seek therapy
@@srijitaroy-pathfinderhazra8037 No-one has ever been recorded to act upon their intrusive thoughts.
Courtesy:- Dr. David Veale,OCD Expert
' I care about people knowing that their symptoms don't make them a FREAK" gosh I really really wanted to hug you
Aw you too!!!!
It's a nightmare living with this, thanks for the videos they're a great help
How are u now what are u doing to cope with it
Rather than cope with it, find a solution
Don't stop making these videos. I love you for helping me and so many people.
My experience is that it can drive you to compulsive masturbation in order to relieve the anxiety. Thing that will lower your self esteem, reinforcing your sexual thoughts. I don t know if there are other people out there who have had the same experience about masturbation in response to groinal arousal. It made me feel dirty , perverse, alien to friends, not worthy and lonely as a teen and adult.
I've done that. Experiencing through this now. Were you able to feel better than when you were a teen?
@@Angelica-cj5wf yeah its me
I'm scared man, I have felt that impulse to masturbate with the groinal, but I didnt do it, I'm scared that if I do it, I won't feel bad after doing it, meaning that I actually did wanted it
I tried to “prove” to my ocd that I would be okay even if that happened like an “exposure” but I think it’s the opposite and now I’ve been ruminating and scared that I liked the graphic content of a tv show I watched before I did that. It’s just terrible because I’m scared that I’m attracted to the things or people around me if I heard them or thought about them after an orgasm. It’s just terrifying cause it feels like your acting on it
So i was molested as a kid and now im 24 and my suppressed memories and emotions and now im scared of children and now everytime i think of a kid, i get a groin sensation and now i want to die!
I hope you're doing well.
I invite you to also watch Emily Nagoski’s Ted Talk on “The Truth About Unwanted Arousal”. It talks about arousal non-concordance and it has personally liberated me from my own shame from feeling things I didn’t want to in certain situations. I was also molested as a kid and I am currently 24 and still struggling with it.
But it’s okay. You are not your feelings. And there shouldn’t be any shame or shock over your body acting in any certain way. YOU decide what to make of it. Just because you feel your body doing something doesn’t mean you wanted it to happen.
I hope your okay
I cant describe in words how you are saving my life. you make me wanna wake up tommorow. Thank you so much.
Hope things have improved bro I know how difficult this shit can be
CHRISSIE I LOVE YOU! I find it SO HARD to talk to my therapist about groinal response. Mine isnt as strong as you say yours is but it's still horrible and I feel physically sick whenever it happens. Thank you for reassuring me.
THANK YOU!!! Groinal arousal "it feels stronger than normal arousal" o my gosh!! Thank you!!! I can't remember my first groinal response.... within the last two years. Ive had OCD since I was 11. All different kinds ranging from just right OCD and flipping switches to pedophilia OCD. The groinal responses are absolutely the worst. I would almost kill to get rid of it.
You are such a blessing Chrissy! OCD does suck but with amazing advocates sharing their experience, with humour and honesty, it makes it all the more bearable xx
Thank you so much Chrissie for all your videos. You dont know how much you have helped me get better with my Intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I have struggled with having the groinal response with children and have suffered for 6 years now. I now have finally got into the habit of not getting stuck on the thoughts and going down that rabbit hole. You have really made a difference for me and I am truely grateful for having found you. You are amazing. God bless you. All the way from Australia 😍😍
Tracy Pereira... I'm going through this now for 2 weeks. I would love to talk to you.
YES, I AM STUCK WITH THIS FOR TWO WEEKS NOW. I HAD IT AT THE START OF JULY AND HAD A WEEK OF BREAK AND TWO WEEKS AGO IT STARTED AGAIN. IT SUUUCKS
Never heard of the term, but I guess having such thoughts with OCD must be terrible
I feel better after this video because I hate groinals. And there was a time where I thought my groinals are the actual attraction while my normal arousal felt like a fake one.
You're an incredible advocate. I've suffered on and off since I was in 5th grade, and groinal response has been a HUGE struggle because it's so tangible. Currently going through a symptom spike and listening to your videos while I push my way through chores.
Your courage and matter-of-fact style is uplifting and amazing. Thank you so much.
And to anyone else visiting this video because they're looking for comfort, I'm here with you, and everyone else in the community is always walking by your side.
Be strong ❤
Ive had OCD as long as i can remember.... Ive pretty much experienced every OCD symptom i think a human with OCD can feel but this has to be one of the worst if not the worst thing that somebody with OCD deals with
This is so spot on. Exactly my situation as well... I've been many years with this and lately I cannot say I am ocd anymore. I just got sick of all this cycle and said fuck it. I don't care about my sexuality I don't care about what happens in my body i'll just live my life. But now what makes me sad is that I've lost my sexual drive and it's weird cause my body I super aroused most of the time but mentally I'm so disgusted and sick of sex that in the thought of having sex with someone I just feel exhausted. And now I have another super annoying symptom. Whenever I'm aroused if I masturbate just to make it go away it gets worse and I'm just there trying again and again until I say fuck it I'll never feel satisfied or relieved. It is so sad to me because I know why this whole thing started and I just remember my self before that, such a happy person who super enjoyed sex and now the good sex is gone.... :(
how are you doing?
The way that you deliver the messages of your videos helps me feel like I’m so much less crazy. I love how matter-of-fact you are! Thank you so much for being real and even LAUGHING about these things! It’s so helpful!
Help me! I have constant sexual intrusive thoughts. And they drive me crazy. I have not had any groinals from them. But my mind is trying to make me think I enjoy these thoughts. But why would I be here if I enjoyed them. Please help me. I feel like I am losing my mind.
Sirhc Hajile Nosiner same man I’ve gone through many stages and now I’m getting them , my mind is trying to make me think the opposite of what I actually want
Groinal response is something I thinks forms from all the compulsions when I first got hocd I would do a lot of checking through porn always got hard form girls never from guys and I never had the groinal response until maybe a couple of week or months checking I started to feel the groinal response also something I’m noticing with actually getting hard from girls and just getting the groinal response is like when I’m aroused from girls is doesn’t feel like a impulse it just rises natural but with the groinal response it feel like an impulse like something beating XD this is a little wired but what ever and the chances of you getting hard from the groinal response are kind of small but possible it’s about 99.9% of the time just like an impulse
@@IAmMotivation123 i am almost crying, this is exactly what i am dealing with..
how are you now? I am going through this part of HOCD too.
@@Eric-jk1be how are you now?
I had hocd for so long and seriously thought I was bi. But i was so confused why it made me uncomfortable and gave me anxiety at the same time. I never thought (until now ) that it was hocd. I kept telling myself it's ok to be bi but it also never felt natural but the thoughts were so strong and so often.
Same here girl, when I was 14 or 15 I started getting thoughts like that and I never liked the thoughts so it was really confusing for me. When I found out online that this was just HOCD it made me feel really relieved
@Nick Ward did you recover tho
@Nick Ward really
@Nick Ward sometimes it feel like I’m aroused to the thought tho, like a get a feeling that feels like arousal but also feels different, it often makes my groin erect and makes me upset, I’m prolly the only one who experiences this 😢😢😢😢😢 especially if I see a gay person, a bunch of thoughts that cause the arousal and groinal, either tho they aren’t wanted and feel weird they prolly mean I’m in denial 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@Nick Ward I know your not trying to reassure, I almost ended my life because if it man, I was 12 when it first happened and now I’m 14, the thoughts aren’t as bad but since you’ve gone through it similarly, how did you recover
I'd call you a godsend, but I've suffered from this 12years ago, when the awareness of pure OCD and particularly sex-themed types of OCD, was not discussed that much. Where, oh where were you and the likes of you back then! OCD sufferers were just a joke who wash their hands 30 tkmes a day! Don't get me wrong, I adore what you do, but I hate life's ironies, especually when they literally destroy an entire year of the best years of your life !! I've also learned about hit-and-run OCD, incest OCD, hharm OCD, sexual orientation OCD, and I've experienced them all at some point or another! Hell, I still hate "urban" driving, because of the pedestrians and especially cyclists!
You are really an angel,savior.
I thought i was gonna die of this demonic illness
Wow. Who knew that I'd find so many answers about what the hell is wrong with me on RUclips!!! Like, I'm Broke! ( except for $$ to pay my phone bill) I don't have the income for a therapist. Anyway, this helps. I'm in my 40s & I identify with this
❤❤❤❤❤❤ i hope you'll recover soon im 19 and my family cant afford therapy too ahhh im going thru hell😭 thank god for youtube❤❤❤❤
Dr. Steve Phillipson is amazing and so are you! Keep up the good fight for us sufferers!
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH! YOU ARE AN ANGEL IN EARTH!
hi girl how are you now?
Your videos are an enormous help and relief. I hope that this doesn't get taken out of context, but it's a relief to know that there are others like me who deal with pocd. It started when I was 17 and there are days/months where I'm fine, but then BAM! I'm stuck on pocd autoloop.
I cannot imagine how my life would’ve continued had your videos not existed. Both me and my boyfriend suffer from OCD. I hope to help others the way you have. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you so much, sometimes I feel like the wall of my OCD and my real thoughts become so transparent and slowly feel like my OCD is real , thank you so much , I feel less crazy and not feel alone.
This helped me more than anything I’ve ever read/seen...I feel better than I have in a long time because of this video. Thank you
Omg, it feels so good to know I'm not alone. Love your videos please keep it up!!!!!!
Thank you, I've felt so alone for years until seeing these videos! Finally feel able to speak up. I wondered if you have done any videos about sexually intrusive thoughts during sex. Mine have really affected my sex life!
Definitely on my list to do one!
Thank you so much for talking about this! I have this terrible disorder but watching you helps me feel a lot better!
I spent too many years not sorting this stuff out until when I was 23 and then one day in a matter of seconds while watching a comedy video my mind snapped and all of a sudden I began thinking that everyone can see my thoughts. Then all of a sudden my thoughts started going down this ocd path getting me stuck in a cycle of over analyzing things over and over again. It's super super embarrassing that my mind can't stop thinking these things in front of family, friends, strangers, or by myself or even in my dreams/nightmares.
wow im 27 and i constantly deal with this kind of thing and i often question these things and most certainly makes it worse i often question myself more coz i think omg ive been dealing with ocd since i was 21 and i feel as if maybe its true coz im still dealing with it 6 years later but it is reassuring to hear somebody in there 40s say that they are still dealing with it. (not that its a good thing that ocd stays with you for life but yeah)
i had been told by a psych that ocd in fact does not go away which suck but at the same time is comforting to know im not alone
thanks for the video
dont go down the rabbit hole !!
Omg, thank you. I actually thought that because I felt something when I was thinking about it, and worried, it's true. It's good to know that it's not actually true, and that's because of my mind going on, and on about it, and fearing. Thank you so much!
Im really greatful of having you by my side.thank you dear^^
I thank you so much, your such a positive person . I’m suffering from hocd / ocd / anxiety. And all of them together are living hell. I watch your video for peace and to try and think it’s not true but my ocd will bite back and go “ wait! This is true but I don’t wanna accept it . And I get movement in my penis and it’s so embarrassing and quite frankly upsetting
I know. I HATE the groinal. It is truly the worst symptom possible!!!
Chrissie Hodges/Pure OCD Advocate thank you so much for your videos
I have POCD with this Gronial response. In real life i'm sexually attracted to Women and i get an arousal from them because that's who i'm attracted. But with POCD and it took me a few years to realize that the gronial response like from either Men or children (Which the latter is my biggest fear when i know i would never in my life harm a child. As i love children just like everyone else) is from OCD. Sexual Intrusive Thoughts i have sucks and i know i will win as i'm only sexually attracted to Women.
Recently the sexual intrusive thoughts showed up in dreams. I was even uncomfortable in the dreams but I still had arousal with it. Can someone tell me what that means?? I really hate it and it drives me insane
Same
to know that I'm still straight means the world, and all the other thoughts are drove by ocd and anxiety could not be any better gives me a real answer
I appreciate you Chrissie. May God bless you.
Thank you for this video, I'm having the worst arousal non-concordance rn after talking about scary things and i'm trying so hard to get over it
Thanks so much for the vid. My intrusive thoughts aren’t too hard to handle atm. Thanks for educating!
i finally feel like i’m not alone i’m starting therapy soon and i feel like there’s hope now i feel like i’m finally gonna start feeling like myself again
Great video Chrissie. Im surprised Johnny g haven't been on here spouting his hatred towards suffers of hocd.
Hello jesse
I am writing this comment bc my OCD fired up once again and Im managing it.....and I hope it can help someone clear their minds. From all the resources I have "kindly" collected from all over internet: ANY sexual stimuli can cause arousal or groinal response! ANY!!! Mark that word!!! It doesn't matter whether you like it or not, once you associate something with sex, you will get it!!! It does not matter whether its a groinal response or actual arousal, anything you associate with sex will trigger sensation down there.....heck you may even worry "killing someone" would cause your arousal and guess what, you will get it!!! Because once you worry about it, and you start checking, you automatically associate "killing someone" with sex. It doesn't matter whether you thought about killing someone is sexual or not before, once you start checking for sexual arousal, you deem whatever you worry must be sexual relevant.
And just to clear things even further, just like what this video said, groinal response (or sensation or whatever) is generally considered a positive feeling. For example (I am only saying this because I am man), you can get morning wood right? And guess what, it feels good right? Because it is a groinal sensation and it is positive....but does morning wood means anything? No, it is just there and any man can have it for no reasons. I am gonna use another disturbing example here: say if someone forced you to eat cooked human meat, and it actually taste good. But what would you actually feel about it? You would gross out, right?
I came across once watching bestiality video . And after watching that 5 minutes clip . I am worried that I have done terrible sin(it is good to some guilt) but now what happens is I am thinking as guilty of doing sex with that animal in video and fear of being zoophilic person. I am always remembering the verse in Leviticus that curse is the one who has sex with animal. I know in Galatians it's written god took our curses. But also it is not making effective. Anyhow I am OCD patient and taking treatment at present by the grace of God.
Man i was relieved. Iam having sension in back. And i was like i better be dead than this.
This is just me,Thank you so much for your support.God bless you sister.and yes im a 19 year old boy.
Thank you for being an advocate! Super hero status!
I have had had this for years and have decided to seek help for it. I hope I find it. These more I watch these videos I feel less like a monster
It's also that our - I am talking about us guys- equipment (to use another phrase from Seinfeld) could not possibly react as fast as our thoughts change, and if you are in the thrall of sex-themed OCD, genuine ( i.e. ego-syntonic) sexual fantasies we enjoy will inevitably become invaded by or infected with unwanted thoughts that reflect your fears, not our desires. I wish I understood that all those years ago!
Again, thank you for your insight and sincerity! We need more people like you!
A queen and legend. Thank you.
I am so happy to hear this! Thank you from the bottom of my heart
thank u sm for doing these vids, it helps so many people and it make me and so many others to feel normal
Thank you Christy, I've seen a lot of improvements but the arousal can be quite frustrating. I like the feeling of arousal overall but not in this context, it doesn't line up
I have OCD thoughts of things I've done in the past and telling everyone. Does anyone have that one? I have this one too. Have had it for a long time.
I have this same OCD as well. Can we speak?
Elizabeth Gonzalez yeah
@@larrywhitted7333 ... how can I contact you? Via Facebook or email?
I’m a male and this is absolutely true
Tank you for that wonderful video! - You have no idea how much that meant to me!
Does it count as an intrusive thought if it's something that I actually did? I looked at a body part of a family members that I absoloutley did not want to but felt forced to do. I looked but I didn't want To. Does this still count as an intrusion! Innaprorpaite sexual stuff is a big fear of mine
Omg same and I forced my self to get turned on by it but I don't know if I was genuinely trying to test myself or was it just for the pleasure
trust me....if you don’t want it, it’s considered as intrusive!!! Why else would you call it “intrusive” if you actually want them?
Danzo O sexual arousal can be forced, triggered, stimulated etc and it’s called groinal response. Sexual attraction, however, cannot be forced. The part of our Brian that controls our “bottom” part only react to things RELATED to sex, it absolutely does not care about whether we like it or not, as long as it’s sexually related, it’s starting....while other parts of our brain will later start discussing whether we like this idea or not
Danzo O what many of us do not realize is that connection can be built from scratch!!! For example: if you ring a bell every time you feed a dog, eventually the dog would salivate when he hears a bell ringing....this goes same for the groinal response!!! Every time you try to check your groin with unwanted sexual trigger, it would start a response similar to arousal, and then naturally you would test it again, and again....eventually, you would notice that the response begins as soon as you see any sexual trigger, which would confuse you even more
@@wentaofeng5548 thanks for this information
Thanks 👍 Chrissy
You was honest and too the point
It's helped me alot
I love you I'm glad you do this and help people you are truly my favourite person
To anyone who concerns about whether the groinal symptoms comes first or the intrusive thought....find a dog and ring a bell while feeding him, keep doing this for few days....see if the dog would salivate when you ring the bell
The thing is the groinal response happened thrice with the same thought in a span of 20 minutes. Like I also tried having an image of others and it did not have the same response. I don't know anymore oh lawd
I'm 17 years old and I'm currently getting help for these exact symptoms. However, I want to know if it can give you a huge urge to actually act on those things.
iMaya For me it’s a false urge to kiss a guy on the cheek sometimes
@mystaroth how are you doing now are u still in therapy?
@@ashmac1397 I'm doing great now! I was put on antidepressants and I'm now expecting my first child with my long term partner
Did your antidepressants help?
@@AmyBurgess2002 massively. They don't take the condition away 100% but it eases the anxiety and then eventually you stop getting urges as much because they are based solely on anxiety
Can I have the groinal without anxiaty?
I'm experiencing the groinal syndrome as well. It started after I had this dream about someone, and ever since then I experience the groinal around this person. Even though I know that this dream is what started it all, I still can't detach myself from the groinal syndrom. I wish I could.
Do u ever get a thought and it’s fells real
I wish there was support groups for things like this or any mental illness. My quality of life isn't as good as it should be. If it can be obsessed I obsess about it. I'm very lonely and bitter because of the isolation.
Hi Chrissie, thanks for the videos, each time I am involved in something -it could be bouncing my cousin on my knee or stroking my cats face, an intrusive thought will pop in my head, and I feel like I have to repeat that action to reassure myself that it meant nothing . Is this called a compulsion where you are trying to prove your thought wrong?
Emma Roulstone ... girl... this OCD theme is the worse!
I’ve had many themes and beat them all... except for incest ocd. It’s fkn Terrible.
Hi, I would like to subtitle your video with french subtitles so I can show my friend who has OCD but you didn't activate the subtitle contribution option (if that makes sens). Would it be possible for you?
I have a false memory and I’m scared I tested myself but it wasn’t even harmful but it’s effecting me. It was a RUclips video from this scene in a video game and this woman turned me on but my worst fear walked in and I can’t recall my reaction to the situation. I can’t remember if I stopped immediately or not when they walked in suddenly. I can’t stop ruminating about the event and it’s driving me crazy. Many people do test themselves and I don’t judge but I just can’t accept that I could’ve tested myself I was only young at the time and it was years ago that’s why I can’t remember
U give me answer of my some fatal questions. Thanks i am feeling good.
hello i kind of have problems with hocd from my childhood, when i was about eight or nine i found both bodies somehow attractive but little by little i fell in love and became interested in girls it went on like this for the whole year girlfriends etc i was then also absolutely me sure to be straight but then the childhood memories came up and since then i've been scanning everything that has to do with hocd it's terrible and i can't get out of my doubts anymore would be happy about an answer i'm afraid that i'll deny being bisexual be
How do I get rid of intrusive thoughts? I know im not a bad person but the thoughts wont leave my head.
You are a great advocate for pure o!!!
OK, I'm starting to scared, I mean I feel this but right now I'm not having anxiety, omg
Watching this while also checking
My groin for the50th time and then using my sexuality to compare it to my intrusive thoughts while checking my groin again and now I got the reassurance that I know my real sexuality phew I can live and have a future and have kids HAHAHAHA ocd is madness
You are inspirational for many
This is driving me crazy
God this video is amazing. Thank you so much.
I thought I was insane...alone... mentally misunderstood
....thank you
i have a groinal response just listening to this LOL
Everytime i have a gronial response i try very hard to just brush it off, but i find myself running to the bathroom and cleaning down there with soap and water because i am disgusted and disturbed by the repsonse ive had. I think that everytime i have a gronial response my body has produced some type of substance and i don't want to carry out my day without cleaning the response. I dont orgasm, its just a gronial repsonse, however, constantly cleaning after a gronial response has started to become very damaging for my physical health and financial stability. Should i no longer respond this way to a gronial repsonse? Am i only making this symptom worse by reacting to it? What can I tell myself to help realise this symptom doesnt need cleaning or any attention?
After 10 yrs i realized that i was a porn addict because it was always on my mind and i started to see women as sex objects instead of a person which has left me feeling disgusted with myself i just can't bring myself to treat a woman like that. I've not looked at porn for a week now and i'm starting to see women as as people now. I get that fantasizing about people is normal but when it's about what you've seen on the internet there's a problem. My goal in life is to beat this and be in a loving relationship with someone and do things that are romantic not be filthy minded all the time.
Michael David this isn't ocd though so why are you here
Thank u so much this helped me n ik it must of took u alot of gots to post this
U have so much courage! Thank u! So helpful!
How does intrusive thoughts happen in a normal person with no OCD?
if you have intrusive thoughts, you probably do have ocd - do you think you don’t because you don’t do physical compulsions? i mean like those people who have to zip and unzip a jacket over and over, do you feel as if you don’t have ocd because you don’t do that? because that’s not the only type of ocd. i was scared at first because i was the same - i had these thoughts, but not these physical things, so i was like “all i’m getting for intrusive thoughts is ocd stuff, what is this?”. there’s a type of ocd that i suffer from called ‘purely obsessive ocd’, or ‘pure-o’ for short. it’s intrusive thoughts but no physical compulsions. in place of the physical ones, you probably do mental ones without realising it [i have more obvious ones - repeating a phrase such as ‘shut up’ or ‘stop’ repeatedly in my mind whenever one comes up. however, i’m sure some have ones that are more subtle/less noticeable than that]. hope this helps
Yes, cat! I'm here! The Banana!....(?)
I suffer from it its horrific right from listening to music and staring at someone it feels like erection has taken place i cannot get out of comfort zone what to do i have no freaking idea 😩
I feel you bro it's tiring to me in fact
@@loualtergary111 how are u bro i am on med fluoxetine from past 20 days i hope it helps its tormenting living like this😔
You are amazing, thank you for this video.
Is it possible that your thoughts can have you lose attraction to the opposite sex?
Yes normal
Thanks for these videos, this it is very hard, but hopefully i will be better
Omg I need help ! One evening in February 2018 I was watching song a woman was dancing nd suddenly I felt sexual attraction towards her instantly another thought came to my head is I might be a transgender!! I couldn’t stop stressing over it I was crying every day ! I kept thinking why did this sexual thought came to me ! I was so happy being with my boyfriend ! Now Tocd is killing me! I need help ! I want to be woman again! I lost my identity!
usually Hocd and Tocd can go hand in hand, but it is just ocd. If you’re happy with your boyfriend and you know that you feel like a woman, you’re probably not gay and not trans.. best of luck!
How have you been?
I avoid going out at certain times of the day
Scared
You are an inspiration xx
F WoW Thx I Sooo thought I wasn’t Alone But have been Worried that there could B Something Wrong Mentally with me which is Just another reason I’m Most Def Actually going to see someone 4 some Help Thank U Sooo Much Blessings B Upon U Beautiful
Thank you so much. I’m at a loss on what to do anymore. They won’t treat my OCD. It all falls under my bipolar so they out me on a mood stabilizer and it’s not helping.
i spent an hour crying about it on the phone to my step mum last night
I'm not sure if this is healthy or not but I use my sexual intrusive thoughts to counter my violent intrusive thoughts. But both are incresing in intensity and frequency and I don't know how to stop it or even if I can or want to.
I get physical sensations in response to my intrusive thoughts just not groinal but the terror is no less