as someone who is into psychology, love that this is getting spoken about from a christian perspective, however, i believe dr. mentioned the enneagram and i think it’s important that we look at the origin of these things. please look into yourself if you care to. lack of knowledge, the people perish 💙
Thanks for the suggestion I found this All believers should be diligent in their research, use wisdom, and ultimately, decide for themselves. We think Christians should use the Enneagram-if they find value in it-provided they always keep in mind that the Enneagram (like other personality assessments) is simply a tool.
I agree. Enagram has nothing to do within church. We DO have Rom 12, 1.chor.12 and Eph.4:11-13 about both spiritual gifts and leader rolls. We rather should look at what The Holy Spirit has given us of resources, and seek to be in the center, which is to be Christ-like in ANY direction. NB!! To be baptized; in The Holy Spirit, speaking (or praying or singing) in tounges is indeed the PORTAL to greater gifts. AND of course, make sure that our spirits are renewed, not in old, bad patterns.
Though I always appreciate you three, I want to highly recommend a book that breaks this down in a more comprehensive, and less generalized way. How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich has been life changing for helping my husband and I overcome damaging attachment style based behaviors and cycles. Anyone wanting to understand these concepts better for any relationship would benefit from their book. It has also helped us heal and restore relationships with other family members as well.
I always hoped I was avoidant bc it made me more “gangsta” but when I heard JM give the description of anxious w low view of self and high regard for others …. I’m like ohhhhh that’s me. That’s for making it simple for me in this way ❤️❤️❤️😅
So glad you are talking about this topic. Saying that narcissistic people tend to be avoidant may not be totally correct. There are narcs in all attachment styles.... especially covert narcs which may lean more anxious. I highly recommend checking out The Personal Development School with Thais Gibson for in depth attachment style information. She talks about how the styles act in relationships.
Agreed…e.g. I’ve noticed narcs who are “mama’s boy.” They have an over-secure attachment towards coddling mother but avoidant attachment with significant other or spouse.
Doctor Jim touched on the fact that His attachment style will come out now (tho more infrequently than younger years). I am curious to know why and what circumstance triggers it to come out and how he works through it to get back to a place of "safety". Thank you so much in advance for answering this question. 🙏 Rose
Great insightful discussions! It gave clarity to behavioral tendencies in theory, theology and life. Please continue with more discussions like this. Thank you all
But let’s remember and not forget that God is the one who has hard wired us to be attached to Him. Our Heavenly Father first!!! Born into a sinful world has in part caused these unhealthy attachment styles relationally
I love this episode and I want more on this topic! Is there any way for some visuals to go along with like diagrams or a breakdown with examples written out? I'm a visual audio learner 😅
What if our womb wasn't safe? Inwas adopted out by my bio mom amd dad said no. She started beating on me by age 6 until 35. I have begged her for the mom love until this past September. I listened to Goodbye and Goodboundaries last year and I have do the most healing since listening to the audible (I hope to get the actual book one day) and I learned the way to set and hold boundaries and learning that when my morals/beliefs/rifhts are violated I will do a,b,c and I now can not let her harm me. Life changing for me! Thank you
Im attached to my adult daughter & she totally detached herself from me. I feel she does not care if I live or die, once was empathic & now that shes older & in a relationship with a mamas boy who has bad mouthed me for years she no longer defends me and at times acts very hateful towards me
as someone who is into psychology, love that this is getting spoken about from a christian perspective, however, i believe dr. mentioned the enneagram and i think it’s important that we look at the origin of these things. please look into yourself if you care to. lack of knowledge, the people perish 💙
Thanks for the suggestion I found this All believers should be diligent in their research, use wisdom, and ultimately, decide for themselves. We think Christians should use the Enneagram-if they find value in it-provided they always keep in mind that the Enneagram (like other personality assessments) is simply a tool.
I agree. Enagram has nothing to do within church. We DO have Rom 12, 1.chor.12 and Eph.4:11-13 about both spiritual gifts and leader rolls. We rather should look at what The Holy Spirit has given us of resources, and seek to be in the center, which is to be Christ-like in ANY direction. NB!! To be baptized; in The Holy Spirit, speaking (or praying or singing) in tounges is indeed the PORTAL to greater gifts. AND of course, make sure that our spirits are renewed, not in old, bad patterns.
"Attachment style is not who we are, it's what got wired into us."
"Our words frame our reality."
Really significant concepts!
Though I always appreciate you three, I want to highly recommend a book that breaks this down in a more comprehensive, and less generalized way.
How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich has been life changing for helping my husband and I overcome damaging attachment style based behaviors and cycles.
Anyone wanting to understand these concepts better for any relationship would benefit from their book.
It has also helped us heal and restore relationships with other family members as well.
Thais Gibson, Personal Development School is all about healing your attachment style. It saved my life emotionally!
I always hoped I was avoidant bc it made me more “gangsta” but when I heard JM give the description of anxious w low view of self and high regard for others …. I’m like ohhhhh that’s me. That’s for making it simple for me in this way ❤️❤️❤️😅
I definitely have an anxious attachment style.
Joel's definition was fantastic, so helpful 🤯🤓
Sooooo so so so good!
Thank you so much to all of you - especially Jesus!
We're glad you enjoyed it!
I love that you’re covering this! I teach attachment styles each semester to my Lifespan Development classes and we just covered them this week.
So glad you are talking about this topic. Saying that narcissistic people tend to be avoidant may not be totally correct. There are narcs in all attachment styles.... especially covert narcs which may lean more anxious.
I highly recommend checking out The Personal Development School with Thais Gibson for in depth attachment style information. She talks about how the styles act in relationships.
Agreed…e.g. I’ve noticed narcs who are “mama’s boy.” They have an over-secure attachment towards coddling mother but avoidant attachment with significant other or spouse.
My husband always asks if I love him, how much I love him and why I love him. Very exhausting and definitely a covert narcissist!
Doctor Jim touched on the fact that His attachment style will come out now (tho more infrequently than younger years). I am curious to know why and what circumstance triggers it to come out and how he works through it to get back to a place of "safety". Thank you so much in advance for answering this question. 🙏 Rose
Great insightful discussions! It gave clarity to behavioral tendencies in theory, theology and life.
Please continue with more discussions like this. Thank you all
We're glad you enjoyed it!
Tysm for allowing God to lead you to these real life, profound conversations ❤🙌🏼Bless each of you for living in (& owning!) your ‘Lights!’ 👌🏼💯
This was very good. Thank you.
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Good evening, watching from Tulsa Oklahoma.
Hi I’m in Tulsa as well ☮️💟✝️
Need to do more talks on this
Can you have different attachments to different people?
But let’s remember and not forget that God is the one who has hard wired us to be attached to Him. Our Heavenly Father first!!! Born into a sinful world has in part caused these unhealthy attachment styles relationally
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I love this episode and I want more on this topic! Is there any way for some visuals to go along with like diagrams or a breakdown with examples written out? I'm a visual audio learner 😅
Much needed!! Thank you!! 😊
My attachment style is anxiety. I am very ok with myself. But there's still a longing to be attached?
I’m a secure attachment style and I’m a women of God:)@Official Proverbs 31 Ministries
Is there a test to know exactly which one is the dominant one? I believe I have a little of all of them.
What if our womb wasn't safe? Inwas adopted out by my bio mom amd dad said no. She started beating on me by age 6 until 35. I have begged her for the mom love until this past September. I listened to Goodbye and Goodboundaries last year and I have do the most healing since listening to the audible (I hope to get the actual book one day) and I learned the way to set and hold boundaries and learning that when my morals/beliefs/rifhts are violated I will do a,b,c and I now can not let her harm me. Life changing for me! Thank you
Im attached to my adult daughter & she totally detached herself from me. I feel she does not care if I live or die, once was empathic & now that shes older & in a relationship with a mamas boy who has bad mouthed me for years she no longer defends me and at times acts very hateful towards me
Shalom.
Anxious plus avoidant makes borderline disorder?
This is so helpful. Are there specific resources you recommend to dig deeper into this topic?
There’s a book called Attached about adult attachment.
The Personal Development School on RUclips.