I’ve been struggling with all these things😔… started isolating myself because I was tired of being the bigger person, always apologizing or being made to feel guilty when I am unable to say yes to everything like I used to… but when it’s the other way round I must always be respectfuL and understanding… I probably seem like the bad person for going ghost but when I tried to have conversations my feelings were invalidated and I’d apologize for the sake of peace but that can’t be my life🚮
1.I began matching people’s energy. The minute I began to feel unwanted by certain people, I excused myself from their lives and never looked back. (This goes for new relationships or old bonds, whether platonic or romantic). 2. Unfollowing accounts that no longer served my interests. 3. Being vocal about my wants and needs in any relationship (familial, romantic, platonic) so as to sift out anyone who isn’t prepared to put in the same effort as I am putting in as we try to form a bond. 4. Ensuring that the activities I choose to engage in & the people I have around me , as regards their qualities and values, are actually good for me. I’m no longer pretending to like activities I dont like or having people around me whose values and interests don’t exactly align with mine (esp if their values and interests are destructive and retrogressive). 5. Forgiving people and forgetting about them, heavy on the forgetting.
Someone not wanting to be friends with someone is not weird. I think we need to remember that not everyone is compatible and some people may be in a position where they don’t want to hurt the other persons feelings. If this is the case we should move on understanding that our people our village is out there and for those who don’t want to be a part of our village just pray that those people find their village 🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾💕
This is a great video I’m happy I found this 😊 as someone who’s a people pleaser it made me realise how I’m always the person making the 1000 steps for things to happen and it can be hurtful and so draining 😢 so yeah the goal is being selfish and reading all these comments really made my day 😊
Hey cheyenne absolutely sharing the best facts 😘 I just love all but what... speaking to myself really helped me is like finding that hobby that I like to keep myself driven which is drawing, painting and vlogging my life ❤
That's what we call "beauty with brains". 🌼🍋 10:56 mins went in a flash!.. Amazing, amazing vlog. Really enjoyed it sooooo much!!!! 😋 Very deep & insightful. Personally, I truly needed this. Thanks Chey & 💖 from Dubai. 🐿️🍃
My dear, that it's called growing up 😜, it means you are no longer boarding the same train heading south 😊. Congratulations 🤗 and I'm happy for you, ndagukunda🤗🤗🤗
Imagine an ex friend had the audacity to say to me I’m in the city but never bothered to link up with me but was so thrilled to tell me like miss me with that energy! When I confronted her saying it would’ve been nice to see you and we hang out she ignored it and I was like fuck this I’m wasting my time trying to save this friendship and be the bigger person so back to my dgaf self 😂 The selfish things I’ve done to put myself first is give them the gift of goodbye! Showing them idgaf! Muting them on socials and even blocking them from my stories because they’re monitoring spirits. Or if they’ve emailed me I take 3 months to reply 😂 showing them I’m not thinking about you and I’m booked and busy!
The thing is that I had a friend who would only reach out to me when no one else wanted to go out and the stupid girl I am I would say yes and be exited. My mum (of course) was like this girl is using you so I tried cancelling and guess what the second time I cancelled she never spoke to me again or even looked at me. Even when at school
@@cheymuv I also use canva as well but your photos and thumbnails are really clear. Do you pls do any thing different in terms of editing the picture by increasing sharpness before sending to canva?. If you have a video of this or any video I can watch I would really appreciate it
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I’m glad I came across this video this is where I am at in my life. I’m 30 years old and I have always been a people pleaser now it’s my time to do what’s best for me 🩷
Why do I have a feeling you clicked to this video because you’re not selfish but you want to learn how to?
I feel seen😭😂😂😂💀
You caught me red handed.😂😂😂
Absolutely, not me sharing it to my elder sis so that she can learn how to be one ❤😅😅
@@tariroyashemahachi9346 haha 🥰
Yup! Guilty 😂🔥
I stopped trying to keep up with family members that don't keep up on me
Don't vent to people who dont vent to you! (Should've been in caps)
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Louder please😢😢😢
cutting off people who made me feel horrible about my religious beliefs and my lifestyle changes.
Learning to say NO to friends who want you to participate in their hobbies but never in your hobbies.
Real!
Not everyone will be interested in your hobbies.
It's also good to stay with yourself. mysterly, hidden
What you call being selfish is what I call self-love & rebalance 🥰 you’re doing great ✨
I’ve been struggling with all these things😔… started isolating myself because I was tired of being the bigger person, always apologizing or being made to feel guilty when I am unable to say yes to everything like I used to… but when it’s the other way round I must always be respectfuL and understanding… I probably seem like the bad person for going ghost but when I tried to have conversations my feelings were invalidated and I’d apologize for the sake of peace but that can’t be my life🚮
Living like that is not sustainable pe. Self love can be isolating but very necessary. The right people will come into your life eventually 🫶
I stopped visiting people who don't visit me 💁🏾♀️
I also have a home and want to be visited
Real 😂
@@cheymuv Realest 😌
1.I began matching people’s energy. The minute I began to feel unwanted by certain people, I excused myself from their lives and never looked back. (This goes for new relationships or old bonds, whether platonic or romantic).
2. Unfollowing accounts that no longer served my interests.
3. Being vocal about my wants and needs in any relationship (familial, romantic, platonic) so as to sift out anyone who isn’t prepared to put in the same effort as I am putting in as we try to form a bond.
4. Ensuring that the activities I choose to engage in & the people I have around me , as regards their qualities and values, are actually good for me. I’m no longer pretending to like activities I dont like or having people around me whose values and interests don’t exactly align with mine (esp if their values and interests are destructive and retrogressive).
5. Forgiving people and forgetting about them, heavy on the forgetting.
Preach ❤
7:49 THIS!!😂💀honestly needed to hear this…
Someone not wanting to be friends with someone is not weird. I think we need to remember that not everyone is compatible and some people may be in a position where they don’t want to hurt the other persons feelings. If this is the case we should move on understanding that our people our village is out there and for those who don’t want to be a part of our village just pray that those people find their village 🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾💕
Girrrrl the title 😂 I'm here for the tea ❤
This is a great video I’m happy I found this 😊 as someone who’s a people pleaser it made me realise how I’m always the person making the 1000 steps for things to happen and it can be hurtful and so draining 😢 so yeah the goal is being selfish and reading all these comments really made my day 😊
You are a PROPHET. All this video speaks about is the emphasis I need to keep being SELFISH ❤️ Much love from Tanzania 🇹🇿
People who want to be selfish with their families too😭😭
OFF TOPIC BUT THE WAY YOU BLEND IN YOUR MAKEUP 💄 IS AN ART IN ITSELF 🥰🤭❤️
Hey cheyenne absolutely sharing the best facts 😘 I just love all but what... speaking to myself really helped me is like finding that hobby that I like to keep myself driven which is drawing, painting and vlogging my life ❤
Thanks for sharing!! 💗
Clock ittt💯!!! Point 1,3 and 4 are super!
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Am getting many reality checks rn💀!! The bigger person thing😭😭
4 years 🥺😳🥵 the nerve of the B! Wow sis you’re too kind I pray you have genuine friendships moving forward.
That's what we call "beauty with brains". 🌼🍋
10:56 mins went in a flash!.. Amazing, amazing vlog. Really enjoyed it sooooo much!!!! 😋
Very deep & insightful. Personally, I truly needed this.
Thanks Chey & 💖 from Dubai. 🐿️🍃
Dont be stingy,when it comes to you🙌🏾💯💯
I can’t with how pretty you are 😍
I had to make it the 900th like because TMH blessed me with your video and I needed this.
Get it girl!!! you are amazing!😍
Love this and facts! ❤️
Gurll we love the consistency 🎉🎉
thank you, precious advice
Wisdom here ❤❤❤❤
Your advice always helps ❤
You look gorgeous Cheyenne 🥹❤️
I HONESTLY NEEDED THIS VIDEO 🥺,SO THANK YOU 🎀😘
Yes babe😊
thanks for this
So profound 👌🏾
Heyy Cheyenne
Happy Friday
Loved today's video and the amazing advice you gave us 😊👏🏾
🫶🏾🫶🏾
My dear, that it's called growing up 😜, it means you are no longer boarding the same train heading south 😊. Congratulations 🤗 and I'm happy for you, ndagukunda🤗🤗🤗
You're so gorgeous
I am also called Aida. ❤
@@idahmusah2329 Twin, where have you been
@@aidamuthoni4207 nobody, knows me, like you do….. 😂
Love love the content!😍you’re so very beautiful Cheyenne 💗!!
It’s Friday and Cheyenne has posted ❤️
True!!!! Thanks for sharing ❤️
I want so badly to learn to be selfish
can someone please drop their favorite budgetting app, that you can also track your spending.
Heavy on selfishness 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
Imagine an ex friend had the audacity to say to me I’m in the city but never bothered to link up with me but was so thrilled to tell me like miss me with that energy! When I confronted her saying it would’ve been nice to see you and we hang out she ignored it and I was like fuck this I’m wasting my time trying to save this friendship and be the bigger person so back to my dgaf self 😂 The selfish things I’ve done to put myself first is give them the gift of goodbye! Showing them idgaf! Muting them on socials and even blocking them from my stories because they’re monitoring spirits. Or if they’ve emailed me I take 3 months to reply 😂 showing them I’m not thinking about you and I’m booked and busy!
4 years??!!!🤣🤣🤣 crazy!!!
Absolutely😂😂i almost screamed
Facts
Great video Cheyenne ❤, I used to rewatch your Dubai vacation vlogs but it's seems like you deleted them 😭💔
4 yearssss????😂😂 crazy
Liiiiike 😵💫😂 mad ting.
Sounds like self care and self love to me❤😂 you are definitely the bad guy. But guess who’s also happy, you.
I agree wholeheartedly!! Also, what are the braids you have on? I loove !!! Also, congratulations on al your growth, see what God has done!!! :)
I have a tutorial on theses braids on my channel 💗
The thing is that I had a friend who would only reach out to me when no one else wanted to go out and the stupid girl I am I would say yes and be exited. My mum (of course) was like this girl is using you so I tried cancelling and guess what the second time I cancelled she never spoke to me again or even looked at me. Even when at school
So it's not just only if you reach out but only if they reach out for their benefits
Great video
Please where is your top from
I'm happy being the bad guy📌📌📌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Cheyenne you help me alot with videos like this ❤I love you girl so much
💗💗💗💗
4 yrs is crazy😂
You look gorgeous where is your top from
I love your thumbnail. please, what do you use to edit your thumbnail? Was there a video you watched for this
I use Canva!
@@cheymuv I also use canva as well but your photos and thumbnails are really clear. Do you pls do any thing different in terms of editing the picture by increasing sharpness before sending to canva?. If you have a video of this or any video I can watch I would really appreciate it
firsttt yayyy
💖💖💖
Deep
❤
Hey, using the skillshare link am unable to access the lessons...asking for the payments... Pls advice
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Me coming here to learn how i can be selfish 😂😂😂😂😂😂
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hiya
I’m glad I came across this video this is where I am at in my life. I’m 30 years old and I have always been a people pleaser now it’s my time to do what’s best for me 🩷