You're welcome. Sure, if you might be interested in the coaching program that I offer for teens, please feel free to submit this online form: daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ
Great tips! I think strategy 1 is excellent. Trying to find the root cause. However, how do you get them to open up so you can have them discuss what the potential root cause may be? My 13 year old is flunking advanced math, and he blames the teacher and hatred for the subject, but he doesn't understand that he is not submitting homework or putting effort in his class. He ignores and never reads the teachers comments for improving his work and makes the same mistakes over and over again. So he has some cognitive distortion, too. I completely agree that as parents, we get upset and yell too much out of frustration. I definitely agree that spending more time with them is critical. Going on bike rides, getting physically active with them with sports, but they seem more glued to their phones than wanting to spend this time with parents.
That's a tricky situation. Why do you think that the one child swore at the sibling? What was that child angry about? Or are there underlying issues like jealousy, a sense of unfairness, etc.?
Have you had feedback on how useful these tips are to adults? I understand that many adults have not really grown mature through adolescence and need some help too.
I am a step parent since she was 4 years old and now she is 16 and I feel she hates me. She is negative with everyone not only me. She is extremely smart and motivated with school and makes excellent grades. She is introverted. She does participate in theatre and plays. She is very moody and does not participate with the family. She does not eat with us and sometimes does not eat at all. This is the last child in the house. I have never had such a challenging teen. She is only happy if we buy her food.
What is consequences of breaking the rules in Strategy 4? Or how do you handle it when the rules are broken? I see punishment or rewards is not an option, and I agree on that. But what can you do when "House rules" is not followed? Thank you.
He doesn't spend time with me and always engaged with mobile and the body language is not respecting his parents and always in angry mode. He doesn't care about me the way he was 2 years back. Now he is 14
Am a widow...my husband passed away Wen my kids had no knowledge of death....took them to boarding school...The big boy...no freinds....he can lock himself all alone inthe house...ad highly tempered...bt he tries his best never to hurt anyone...if he sees that he is going to hurt...he avoids...
Dear Daniel. I have listened most of your videos to develop morality in my teen. But he has no emotion , no respect for elders. He is not focusing on his study. His grades are downed.but he is indifferent towards it. He prefers playing games rather studying. Kindly help. Regards 🙏
My son just turn 17, he doesn’t listen parents always negative what we say only listen what his friends saying, No good performance at school, poor grades skipping classes 😢. Always talk about hangout with friends, we tried everything what we could but not working. How about taking his phone and computer away from him?
What do you do when your 16 year old daughter feels shes always right doesn't accept her younger siblings opinions. She gets defensive a lot whist having a conversation. When i as a parent intervene she hates it and thinks i should stay out of their arguments. While i can see shes blaming and snapping at her siblings. Sje has anxiety and has been bulllied at school. Could it be because of that and she feels only at home she can defend and stand up for herself wether shes right or wrong.
I think that what you've mentioned as the possible root cause sounds plausible. She may need some professional help in order to work through her anxiety and other emotions, then her behavior will improve too.
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Thank you so much for your good advice and it really helps me to support my teen. I learned a lot from yours that i never knew before.
You're welcome!
Oh that is an awesome strategy to learn as a parent. Thank you Daniel for your inspiring teachings.
Glad you found it helpful.
Thank you for your guidance. I might reach you out as I need help for my teen boy.
You're welcome. Sure, if you might be interested in the coaching program that I offer for teens, please feel free to submit this online form: daniel-wong.typeform.com/to/a20ZzZ
Great tips! I think strategy 1 is excellent. Trying to find the root cause. However, how do you get them to open up so you can have them discuss what the potential root cause may be? My 13 year old is flunking advanced math, and he blames the teacher and hatred for the subject, but he doesn't understand that he is not submitting homework or putting effort in his class. He ignores and never reads the teachers comments for improving his work and makes the same mistakes over and over again. So he has some cognitive distortion, too. I completely agree that as parents, we get upset and yell too much out of frustration. I definitely agree that spending more time with them is critical. Going on bike rides, getting physically active with them with sports, but they seem more glued to their phones than wanting to spend this time with parents.
I do both. I say she’ll lose privileges but then end up giving in. 😢
Hi Daniel! Is my question above something you could look at? Thank you in advance.
What do you do when one child swears at their sibling and won’t apologise unless the sibling (who hasn’t done anything) apologises?
That's a tricky situation. Why do you think that the one child swore at the sibling? What was that child angry about? Or are there underlying issues like jealousy, a sense of unfairness, etc.?
Have you had feedback on how useful these tips are to adults? I understand that many adults have not really grown mature through adolescence and need some help too.
These tips will work on most adults too!
I am a step parent since she was 4 years old and now she is 16 and I feel she hates me. She is negative with everyone not only me. She is extremely smart and motivated with school and makes excellent grades. She is introverted. She does participate in theatre and plays. She is very moody and does not participate with the family. She does not eat with us and sometimes does not eat at all. This is the last child in the house. I have never had such a challenging teen. She is only happy if we buy her food.
My biggest frustration is that he doesn’t want to share why he’s angry and doesn’t think talking to a therapist (or anyone) helps.
I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully, the tips in this video will help you to get him to open up a bit.
@@AskDanielWong yes, thank you!
@@TheMariposaMS You're welcome!
What is consequences of breaking the rules in Strategy 4? Or how do you handle it when the rules are broken? I see punishment or rewards is not an option, and I agree on that. But what can you do when "House rules" is not followed? Thank you.
@askdanielwong
He doesn't spend time with me and always engaged with mobile and the body language is not respecting his parents and always in angry mode. He doesn't care about me the way he was 2 years back. Now he is 14
Am a widow...my husband passed away Wen my kids had no knowledge of death....took them to boarding school...The big boy...no freinds....he can lock himself all alone inthe house...ad highly tempered...bt he tries his best never to hurt anyone...if he sees that he is going to hurt...he avoids...
Dear Daniel.
I have listened most of your videos to develop morality in my teen. But he has no emotion , no respect for elders. He is not focusing on his study. His grades are downed.but he is indifferent towards it. He prefers playing games rather studying. Kindly help.
Regards 🙏
My son just turn 17, he doesn’t listen parents always negative what we say only listen what his friends saying, No good performance at school, poor grades skipping classes 😢. Always talk about hangout with friends, we tried everything what we could but not working. How about taking his phone and computer away from him?
What do you do when your 16 year old daughter feels shes always right doesn't accept her younger siblings opinions. She gets defensive a lot whist having a conversation. When i as a parent intervene she hates it and thinks i should stay out of their arguments. While i can see shes blaming and snapping at her siblings. Sje has anxiety and has been bulllied at school. Could it be because of that and she feels only at home she can defend and stand up for herself wether shes right or wrong.
I think that what you've mentioned as the possible root cause sounds plausible. She may need some professional help in order to work through her anxiety and other emotions, then her behavior will improve too.
Thank you for your reply.
@@Guidinglight582 You're welcome. I hope the situation improves.