I've dated multiple bisexual men and, without generalizing such a vast group of unique individuals, I've always felt like my bisexual partners have been some of my best boyfriends. I identify as asexual, but I am not sex-repulsed. My bisexual partners have always been immediately accepting of my identity, whereas cis heterosexual men often disregard my sexuality and write it off as being a myth, which is very frustrating. In my experience, my bisexual partners have all been in touch and comfortable with their feminine side as well, so toxic masculinity has never been an issue that arises. I feel like accepting, embracing, and celebrating queer identities is so empowering for every individual, and that is a huge contributing factor in having a healthy relationship. I'm so lucky to have my bi boys in my life!
Drew calling out all of this biphobia is so validating to bi people everywhere :D Those women are missing out - Bi people are amazing and those women would be BLESSED to date a bi man OR woman!
i would much rather date a bi guy than a straight one, because as a bisexual girl myself he'd probably understand me a lot better. in fact, i'm currently in a relationship with the most wonderful man who also happens to be bi! couldn't have asked for a better partner 💗
And I’m sure you’ll have a lot in common because both of y’all are by it makes it so cool because y’all can laugh about things that straight couples can’t or wouldn’t even understand
dan's sad dimple, that makes sense. So why can't a straight woman much rather date a straight man who would probably understand her a lot better? If you can choose/prefer a bi guy, then why can't a straight woman prefer a straight guy?
@@renealexander2703 nothing wrong with preference, but those people in the interview are being just straight up biphobic. they're saying bisexual males are more likely to cheat, they're secretly gay etc 🤦♀
@@danssaddimple9133 , but some gay men do claim that they are bisexual. And a lot of bisexual men do cheat. That's not biphobia. That's their experiences.
I would not have a problem if I dated a bisexual guy as long as they are a good person (which could help me to learn more about bisexual people) and I know some of my friends who are bisexual too. It's sad to see those women being close minded (and not even their insecurity excuses them) but good for you to call them out and providing facts as we all need more acceptance, regardless on who people love.
Why is it biphobic not wanting to date bisexuals? I'm a gay guy who doesn't date bisexual men because I prefer men who are not attracted to women. That really turns me off
@@Envision_ You nor anyone else cannot give a reason for not dating someone who is bisexual that is not rooted in either homophobia, biphobia or even misogyny. Get over yourself, if you're dating someone who's bi they are still attracted to you no more or less than another gay man, them being attracted to women does not invalidate that fact.
It's Kinda Funny That Some Lesbians Use The Same Terminology Not To Date Bisexual Women, Because They Don't Want To Date A Woman Whose Been With Men, But They Fetishize Over Straight Girls, Women Whose Been With Men, It Makes No Sense, As A Bisexual Woman I Would Rather Date A Another Bisexual Woman, Before I Would Date A Lesbian, Because Of The Biphobia, It's Ridiculous 😒😒😂😂
I’m a 100% straight female but I wouldn’t have a problem dating a bisexual guy! I’ve had huge crushes on guys who were gay and only WISHED they could’ve been bi so that I would’ve had a chance!! 🙏🏻😍 I appreciate honesty and authenticity so I’d rather know the guy I’m with likes guys from the beginning and I hear it from himself, rather than have him cheat on me in secret or find out from someone else because he’s keeping it a secret. Those females who have a problem dating a guy who is bi and is honest about it should keep in mind that a guy can say they’re straight but how would you really know where he’s been or who he hooks up with when you’re not looking? And if you can’t trust someone you’re with, then there are other issues and problems in that relationship and someone being a bi isn’t the reason. I’d rather be with someone who is honest and genuine. If the guy has a great personality and is very kind and we have things in common and have similar interests and values and he can make me laiugh….I don’t really care if he’s straight or bi, has a six pack or a belly, is bald or has full hair, if he’s masculine or more feminine, Asian, black, caucasian, whatever….A great person is a great person…as long as he’s male and his personality knocks me off my feet and he has that certain ”something” and has that ”spark” in his eyes…I personally don’t really care much about the rest. #LoveIsTheOnlyRule
The lgbtq people have the right to date whoever they want but give the same right to straight people when straight people only want to date straight people only. LGBTQ plus community don’t want to be discriminated against but are now doing the same thing to straight people. It’s totally unfair and you shouldn’t be labeling people insecure and etc. everyone has a preference and you should be offended if someone wouldn’t want to date you because you are bisexual. Accept people and their rights and stop being judgemental and the lgbtq community needs to stop labelling people homophobic just because someone doesn’t agree with you or want to swing your way.
your “preference” being something that has literally nothing to do with a faithful relationship. if they have a wider sexual preference who cares?? you might say you wouldnt date them because they cheat but they cant just change their sexual attraction… unless youre saying you wouldnt date them because bisexual people deep down are “different” solely because of their sexual attraction.. which is biphobic territory to get into
I just wanna say thank you for making these videos mate. I agree with everything you said and i meet all of these remarks quite often. It's weird to be out as a bi man because even people who seemingly accept you on a surface level turn out to have huge misconceptions or prejudice about you.
presently rising in love with a beautiful man. In many ways its a perk that we are both bisexual as this provides us both with a deep respect and understanding. Appreciate your content Drew!! xx
Thank you for making this video! Bisexual woman here! Dating a bi/pansexual man! Not gonna lie ive had some insecurities but I've been able to work through them because I love and trust this person! Best relationship I've ever had 🥰
@@drewwyllie Thank you! And thank you for posting your videos. I dare say I am 40 years old and just recently have had the courage to openly embrace who I am. Mostly in part due to your videos. Thank you for having such a kind heart and terrific outlook.
for me I find a lot of bi men are feminine and I'm attracted to masculinity . I like studs and masculine men . so I'm not sure honestly . I haven't personally met a Bi man who wasn't feminine . also idk just the aspect of knowing you like men as well can be sometimes a little hard to overcome . so I'm not saying a complete no but more than likely no .
One of my best friends is a masc bi dude. And it's okay to be insecure when it comes to not knowing someone's past but it's always good to evaluate your positions on something like this.
I mean we have the advantage over straight men when going for bi girls and have the advantage over gay men when going for other bi men. So let them talk. These bi ladies love me. XD
I’m a straight woman and in my experience bisexual men are more sensual, open minded and often less preoccupied with traditional gender norms which I find very attractive 😝
Someone disagrees with your personal opinion "this person is ignorant" Disagrees with someone's personal opinion "this person is ignorant" Isn't that hypocrisy?
@@fangsabre Very true. But why hate on people that said they wouldn't date bisexuals? Are straight people expected to answer yes out of fear of being branded some form of "biphobic" bigot? Or is their a sense of entitlement going on in the bi community? My point is, you can't brand people's comments as ignorant...whilst making ignorant comments.
@@fangsabre , it's not hate. They just don't want to date you. If someone does not want to date old people or short people, it's a preference, not hate.
@@t0ph3rm4c the preference to not date Bi people usually comes from two places: Your own insecurity (there would be too much competition), which isn't a bigotry and I wouldn't call it as such, but that's an insecurity that comes from you not Bi people Or some gross/ick factor "I don't want a man who likes dick/ass cuz it's gross" which points to underlying homophobia. It's not bigoted to not date a Bisexual person, but if you think it's inherently gross for a man to be with men then I hate to tell you but that is internalized homophobia. Idgaf if you don't wanna date me, I don't wanna date someone who's grossed out by my very existence. It's not entitlement, it's calling out the attitudes informed by homophobia
As a bisexual guy, the third girl’s point was valid. That’s a reason to not want a bisexual man, especially knowing our (not bisexual but all men’s) sexual nature.
3:34 is where people look at bisexual men like me and think we will cheat on them witch is not true if I was in a relationship with a female or a male I will make sure to maintain the relationship until it doesn’t work out also I think the cheating stereotype was made by Staight people bisexuals are amazing people
True, that's a cheap stereotype, however, as a gay guy, I don't date bisexual men because bisexuality in itself turns me off. I don't want to be with men who feel sexuality aroused by women. That's a no no for me
What I still don't understand is why you guys think that anyone owes you a date or sex? Where is 'my body my choice'? Dating is in itself very discriminatory. I don't call straight men homophobic for not dating me. You need to stop being rapey and entitled!
I'm a gay guy and I prefer to date gay guys only. I am exclusively same-sex attracted and want my partner to be the same. I don't want to date someone whose sexuality is constantly in flux. Plus, I find the idea of bisexuality off-putting
I mean if they don’t want to date a bi-sexual men it’s their preference Everyone has their own preference, we can’t blame them for what they like and don’t
As a bisexual woman I would date any bisexual but I can understand some people want their partner have eyes only for characteristics of their body some maybe feel uncomfortable for example when you like both men's chest and woman's breasts not because they think it's weird or they are afraid you are cheater but because they feel uncomfortable when their partner like something they don't have even if they know bisexuals are 100% attracted to them. They maybe want to be the only thing their significant other would "admire". Even if it sounds biphobic I respect that. (That doesn't mean I am not against people who thinks we are cheaters or people who thinks we aren't 100% attractive to them) . Even if I wish people don't have a reason not to date us the reality isn't like that . 😐 Any sexuality has a reason so people wouldn't want to date a person who has it, it is not just bis.
That's not true. The only group of women who are open to bi men are white women. Asian, Middle Eastern and black women are not open to bi men. That's because they prefer more traditional straight couple relationships.
Bro i mean this with the upmost love, the fact that your well being is dictated by what people whom you don't know think of a concept, because they are not ever refering to you personally, is rerally sad. You did the whole "insecurity" skit & i find it to be extremely hypocritical since the basis of this video is just your insecurities getting the best of you, but im sure you would rather hide it behind trauma instead of just working upon your self steem... nobody in this world owes you anything, and people are allowed to have preferences and discriminations, specially when it comes to whom they date. Its sad just watching your happiness and sadness be a consequence of what people on a screen are saying... or upon the freedom to chose of others.... anyways, hope your grow, much love
I've dated multiple bisexual men and, without generalizing such a vast group of unique individuals, I've always felt like my bisexual partners have been some of my best boyfriends. I identify as asexual, but I am not sex-repulsed. My bisexual partners have always been immediately accepting of my identity, whereas cis heterosexual men often disregard my sexuality and write it off as being a myth, which is very frustrating. In my experience, my bisexual partners have all been in touch and comfortable with their feminine side as well, so toxic masculinity has never been an issue that arises. I feel like accepting, embracing, and celebrating queer identities is so empowering for every individual, and that is a huge contributing factor in having a healthy relationship. I'm so lucky to have my bi boys in my life!
Drew calling out all of this biphobia is so validating to bi people everywhere :D Those women are missing out - Bi people are amazing and those women would be BLESSED to date a bi man OR woman!
YESSSS say it again 👏🏼 I appreciate you!! Keep shining ✨
Yep, and all gay men are missing out and should be called out on their sexist
Much love from a bi girl in Canada
Thank you!
@@jamesoquinn9168 ❤
What happened to 'my body my choice'? Why should anyone be forced to date bisexuals?
@@Envision_ No one's "forcing" anyone. They're just recognizing the ignorance and biphobia behind not dating bisexuals.
@@TM-il8rb , isn't it ignorance/rapey to bash someone if they don't want to share their body with you?
i would much rather date a bi guy than a straight one, because as a bisexual girl myself he'd probably understand me a lot better. in fact, i'm currently in a relationship with the most wonderful man who also happens to be bi! couldn't have asked for a better partner 💗
Then what's wrong with a straight girl dating a straight man? Maybe they understand each other more.
And I’m sure you’ll have a lot in common because both of y’all are by it makes it so cool because y’all can laugh about things that straight couples can’t or wouldn’t even understand
dan's sad dimple, that makes sense. So why can't a straight woman much rather date a straight man who would probably understand her a lot better? If you can choose/prefer a bi guy, then why can't a straight woman prefer a straight guy?
@@renealexander2703 nothing wrong with preference, but those people in the interview are being just straight up biphobic. they're saying bisexual males are more likely to cheat, they're secretly gay etc 🤦♀
@@danssaddimple9133 , but some gay men do claim that they are bisexual. And a lot of bisexual men do cheat. That's not biphobia. That's their experiences.
I would not have a problem if I dated a bisexual guy as long as they are a good person (which could help me to learn more about bisexual people) and I know some of my friends who are bisexual too. It's sad to see those women being close minded (and not even their insecurity excuses them) but good for you to call them out and providing facts as we all need more acceptance, regardless on who people love.
“Yeah I wouldn’t date a bi person because [starts writing biphobic fantasy series]”
Why is it biphobic not wanting to date bisexuals? I'm a gay guy who doesn't date bisexual men because I prefer men who are not attracted to women. That really turns me off
@@Envision_ You nor anyone else cannot give a reason for not dating someone who is bisexual that is not rooted in either homophobia, biphobia or even misogyny.
Get over yourself, if you're dating someone who's bi they are still attracted to you no more or less than another gay man, them being attracted to women does not invalidate that fact.
It's Kinda Funny That Some Lesbians Use The Same Terminology Not To Date Bisexual Women, Because They Don't Want To Date A Woman Whose Been With Men, But They Fetishize Over Straight Girls, Women Whose Been With Men, It Makes No Sense, As A Bisexual Woman I Would Rather Date A Another Bisexual Woman, Before I Would Date A Lesbian, Because Of The Biphobia, It's Ridiculous 😒😒😂😂
This needed to be said.
I’m a 100% straight female but I wouldn’t have a problem dating a bisexual guy! I’ve had huge crushes on guys who were gay and only WISHED they could’ve been bi so that I would’ve had a chance!! 🙏🏻😍 I appreciate honesty and authenticity so I’d rather know the guy I’m with likes guys from the beginning and I hear it from himself, rather than have him cheat on me in secret or find out from someone else because he’s keeping it a secret. Those females who have a problem dating a guy who is bi and is honest about it should keep in mind that a guy can say they’re straight but how would you really know where he’s been or who he hooks up with when you’re not looking? And if you can’t trust someone you’re with, then there are other issues and problems in that relationship and someone being a bi isn’t the reason. I’d rather be with someone who is honest and genuine. If the guy has a great personality and is very kind and we have things in common and have similar interests and values and he can make me laiugh….I don’t really care if he’s straight or bi, has a six pack or a belly, is bald or has full hair, if he’s masculine or more feminine, Asian, black, caucasian, whatever….A great person is a great person…as long as he’s male and his personality knocks me off my feet and he has that certain ”something” and has that ”spark” in his eyes…I personally don’t really care much about the rest. #LoveIsTheOnlyRule
@Morpheus P Xavier 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
We appreciate you!
Thank you 🥺
It all really comes down to if that woman is secure enough in herself to date a Bisexual man.
The lgbtq people have the right to date whoever they want but give the same right to straight people when straight people only want to date straight people only. LGBTQ plus community don’t want to be discriminated against but are now doing the same thing to straight people. It’s totally unfair and you shouldn’t be labeling people insecure and etc. everyone has a preference and you should be offended if someone wouldn’t want to date you because you are bisexual. Accept people and their rights and stop being judgemental and the lgbtq community needs to stop labelling people homophobic just because someone doesn’t agree with you or want to swing your way.
your “preference” being something that has literally nothing to do with a faithful relationship. if they have a wider sexual preference who cares?? you might say you wouldnt date them because they cheat but they cant just change their sexual attraction… unless youre saying you wouldnt date them because bisexual people deep down are “different” solely because of their sexual attraction.. which is biphobic territory to get into
Exactly.
I just wanna say thank you for making these videos mate. I agree with everything you said and i meet all of these remarks quite often. It's weird to be out as a bi man because even people who seemingly accept you on a surface level turn out to have huge misconceptions or prejudice about you.
presently rising in love with a beautiful man. In many ways its a perk that we are both bisexual as this provides us both with a deep respect and understanding. Appreciate your content Drew!! xx
Thank you for making this video! Bisexual woman here! Dating a bi/pansexual man! Not gonna lie ive had some insecurities but I've been able to work through them because I love and trust this person! Best relationship I've ever had 🥰
I am a bisexual male, married to a bisexual woman in a closed marriage. We both fulfill eachother's needs so well. It can happen.
I love to hear this!!! so happy for you both 🥰
@@drewwyllie Thank you! And thank you for posting your videos. I dare say I am 40 years old and just recently have had the courage to openly embrace who I am. Mostly in part due to your videos. Thank you for having such a kind heart and terrific outlook.
I'm pan/bi...I LOOOOOVVE bisexual men. Any bi woman that says this is a double standard. Bi men have handled me the best of all the guys I dated.
5:07 The Hypocrisy 🙄
omg RIGHT she got me VEXXEDDD 🥵🚿
Considering how she said later that she is ok with it, maybe she meant to say that it wouldm't matter? I don't know...
for me I find a lot of bi men are feminine and I'm attracted to masculinity . I like studs and masculine men . so I'm not sure honestly . I haven't personally met a Bi man who wasn't feminine . also idk just the aspect of knowing you like men as well can be sometimes a little hard to overcome . so I'm not saying a complete no but more than likely no .
One of my best friends is a masc bi dude. And it's okay to be insecure when it comes to not knowing someone's past but it's always good to evaluate your positions on something like this.
I'm pansexual and I'm masculine
most “conventionally masculine” bisexual men are closeted
I mean we have the advantage over straight men when going for bi girls and have the advantage over gay men when going for other bi men. So let them talk. These bi ladies love me. XD
YESS amen brother. Bi boys stay winning 💯
Yes sir bi for the win
I agree, let's just all date each other as bisexual, pansexual and queer people!
Seeking validation isn't good in long run buddy . Just stop caring and let go it feels better
I’m a straight woman and in my experience bisexual men are more sensual, open minded and often less preoccupied with traditional gender norms which I find very attractive 😝
I m a straight guy and I won't date bi woman because that's my choice.
Heterophobe
@@juniorqindes8335 to whom?
@@fchowdhury5727 original commenter.
@@juniorqindes8335 but she didn't say anything bad about straight guys. She was only giving her opinion about bisexual man.
Someone disagrees with your personal opinion "this person is ignorant"
Disagrees with someone's personal opinion "this person is ignorant"
Isn't that hypocrisy?
I mean, not liking a group of people cuz they're icky for no reason is pretty ignorant
@@fangsabre Very true. But why hate on people that said they wouldn't date bisexuals? Are straight people expected to answer yes out of fear of being branded some form of "biphobic" bigot? Or is their a sense of entitlement going on in the bi community?
My point is, you can't brand people's comments as ignorant...whilst making ignorant comments.
@@fangsabre , it's not hate. They just don't want to date you. If someone does not want to date old people or short people, it's a preference, not hate.
@@renealexander2703 if your reason for your preference is "they're gross and wrong"
Then you're bigoted. Sorry
@@t0ph3rm4c the preference to not date Bi people usually comes from two places:
Your own insecurity (there would be too much competition), which isn't a bigotry and I wouldn't call it as such, but that's an insecurity that comes from you not Bi people
Or some gross/ick factor "I don't want a man who likes dick/ass cuz it's gross" which points to underlying homophobia.
It's not bigoted to not date a Bisexual person, but if you think it's inherently gross for a man to be with men then I hate to tell you but that is internalized homophobia. Idgaf if you don't wanna date me, I don't wanna date someone who's grossed out by my very existence. It's not entitlement, it's calling out the attitudes informed by homophobia
As a bisexual guy, the third girl’s point was valid. That’s a reason to not want a bisexual man, especially knowing our (not bisexual but all men’s) sexual nature.
I'm italian bi guy. Well ehm it's rude if i found you attractive?
He got nice eyes , but i would prefer some beard
Thank you for sharing this video. I bet lot of us feel your support
2:22 Yes there is hope! Lol 😆
Right!!! 🤣
3:34 is where people look at bisexual men like me and think we will cheat on them witch is not true if I was in a relationship with a female or a male I will make sure to maintain the relationship until it doesn’t work out also I think the cheating stereotype was made by Staight people bisexuals are amazing people
True, that's a cheap stereotype, however, as a gay guy, I don't date bisexual men because bisexuality in itself turns me off. I don't want to be with men who feel sexuality aroused by women. That's a no no for me
Lmao those same girls saying they wouldn’t date a bisexual man would change their mind in an instant if you’re spitting game in front of them
That one bisexual girl was something
Omg I found u on yt
Bruh your literally my biggest twitter crush
Awhhh thank you Gabe 😛💋
The interviewer was gorgeous. As a bi guy, thanks for the video. Some of the women were a little infuriating!
What I still don't understand is why you guys think that anyone owes you a date or sex? Where is 'my body my choice'? Dating is in itself very discriminatory. I don't call straight men homophobic for not dating me. You need to stop being rapey and entitled!
@@Envision_ it’s not about being rapey. What If someone didn’t want to date you because of your race. Get it through your thick head
I'm a gay guy and I prefer to date gay guys only. I am exclusively same-sex attracted and want my partner to be the same. I don't want to date someone whose sexuality is constantly in flux. Plus, I find the idea of bisexuality off-putting
Its okay 👍
Well that’s unfortunate that you have all these insecurities and project them on how you think bisexual people act
He gives me ‘care-free australian surfer’ vibes...
G’day mate
@@drewwyllie “see ya at the barbie this arvo mate”
I actually prefer men who are bisexual, which I feel like is rare for most women.I love your accent by the way, definitely subscribing!
I mean if they don’t want to date a bi-sexual men it’s their preference
Everyone has their own preference, we can’t blame them for what they like and don’t
OMG I CANT WITH THIS PART 3:45
I had to spit something real quick x
I really enjoyed this video !
Thank you Lisa 💓
@@drewwyllie anytime ☺
If your into me I'm into you. So it's a yes for me and I'm straight a Women to me a man's a man😜😜
ya allah plz forgive me stop watching this.
As a bisexual woman I would date any bisexual but I can understand some people want their partner have eyes only for characteristics of their body some maybe feel uncomfortable for example when you like both men's chest and woman's breasts not because they think it's weird or they are afraid you are cheater but because they feel uncomfortable when their partner like something they don't have even if they know bisexuals are 100% attracted to them. They maybe want to be the only thing their significant other would "admire".
Even if it sounds biphobic I respect that.
(That doesn't mean I am not against people who thinks we are cheaters or people who thinks we aren't 100% attractive to them) . Even if I wish people don't have a reason not to date us the reality isn't like that . 😐
Any sexuality has a reason so people wouldn't want to date a person who has it, it is not just bis.
I kind of agree with you and i have accepted it , i would also want the partner to be only attracted to my type honestly.
👏🏾🌟👏🏾🌟👏🏾
Most women of other races are more open black women not so much
That's not true. The only group of women who are open to bi men are white women. Asian, Middle Eastern and black women are not open to bi men. That's because they prefer more traditional straight couple relationships.
That's not true. For the majority women irrespective of race prefer straight men.
Bro i mean this with the upmost love, the fact that your well being is dictated by what people whom you don't know think of a concept, because they are not ever refering to you personally, is rerally sad. You did the whole "insecurity" skit & i find it to be extremely hypocritical since the basis of this video is just your insecurities getting the best of you, but im sure you would rather hide it behind trauma instead of just working upon your self steem... nobody in this world owes you anything, and people are allowed to have preferences and discriminations, specially when it comes to whom they date. Its sad just watching your happiness and sadness be a consequence of what people on a screen are saying... or upon the freedom to chose of others.... anyways, hope your grow, much love
Look up what biphobia is pls😑