What is Quiet BPD? | Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder
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Quiet borderline: how is it different from "regular" BPD?
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning. These experiences often result in impulsive actions and unstable relationships. A person with BPD may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last from only a few hours to days.
Some people with BPD also have high rates of co-occurring mental disorders, such as mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and eating disorders, along with substance abuse, self-harm, suicidal thinking and behaviors, and suicide.
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Good informative video, although the music was a bit overpowering at times that I couldn't hear your voice as clearly.
music is annoying but it was great
Thank you! I know, sorry about the music, I'm still figuring out all the editing stuff :)
Sorry to hear about your girlfriend and yay to you for learning more about this illness! you are awesome
Alia Albinali it's RHCP though, they're awesome. I had to rewind the video because I was too busy singing along haha.
The music was too loud...couldn't hear anything
It's difficult to listen to what you say over the loud music
music's a bit loud...
Please no music 🙉
this is a great video but the music is super loud and distracting!!!! i have to strain to hear your voice
Leila G sorry, I know! I made another one - the same one but without music, there's a link in the description :)
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We don't express them because we don't know we are suffering with it. Once I was diagnosed I realised I had been suppressing myself all my life due to my mother treating me in certain ways and telling me to be quiet often. I became avoidant as a way to cope as she couldn't help me with much in life as she is emotionally unavoidable.
Hi there, I think your video is great, however if you turn down the music a little and spell out Boarderline Personality Disorder, I think you will get a lot more views :)
Hello Ryan, Thank you very much for your comment! I appreciate the constructive criticism, especially about the music. Love xx
In my case my strong anxiety even with family tends to keep me from acting out with anger or anything. I fear if I'm anything but happy I'll be rejected.
This is actually a very common thing not only in BPD, a lot of the time due to how parents react to our emotions, we learn to suppress "uncomfortable" and "wrong" emotions, while in reality all of the emotions are valid and necessary if you express them in a healthy way :) I definitely was the same way, which led to poor boundaries and not being able to say no but it's all gone now :)
Hope you can do the same :)
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Anna Fitzgerald
Thank you for the reply. You're so right. Well done on improving your boundaries! 🙂
Anna - thanks for making these. It must be really hard for you -- I'm sure many people don't think you are affected and that it is hard to get any validation. Good luck.
Thank you so much! you are very kind.
The thing is that I#m not affected anymore at all, so I kind of feel like a fraud for keeping these videos up.
But thanks and sending you lots of hugs!
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I can totally relate to everything you said in this video, and especially thought it was interesting what you said about objects changing shape around you during moments of derealization and depersonalization. I have been struggling hard with my quiet BPD since I was 10 and have pushed so many people I loved away because I felt unworthy of their friendship and didn't want to affect people with my misery. That's been my biggest form of self harm. I just discovered quiet BPD a few weeks ago and it's been hugely comforting to know I'm not the only one like this. I made a friend at work this year who was also abused as a child and opened up about everything with that person and it's been the most transformational experience of my life, to have someone see the full and real you and respect you for who you really are. I think all of us know we are worthy of respect and love deep down. I love each one of you out there. Even if I don't know you, I know y'all are amazing. Don't ever forget it!
Thank you for this message ful of love and I think you are absolutely right. I am sorry you have experienced these things as well, but i am sure you will get through it
@@AnnaFitz I think I've mostly gotten through it already. I've had to put myself in a lot of uncomfortable situations as I'm married to an extrovert who likes to go out a lot, but it's helped me get out of my head and learn social skills. Plus studying psychology, spirituality, and Christianity have also helped. We were born each as ourselves for a reason and we are all lovable and worthy of love.
@@lindseym.8074 wow, then I am very happy for you :) Sounds like you are very self aware and I agree on the last sentence 100% :)
can you be both like I have outburst but I'm very high function I don't do drugs or anything I do self harm but I keep all my emotions in so my question is can you be both
Hi Donna,
I am not a qualified psychiatrist, but from what I know, you seem to be high-functioning. If your outbursts happen only at times of extreme stress or only with people closest to you (parents, partner, etc.) you still qualify as HF. I mean, everybody has outbursts once in a while ;)
But if you lead a normal life, have a job/study, are social and can take care of yourself, you are definitely HF.
But please do not self harm, I know it's way easier said than done, but if you want, send me a private message or DM on insta or smth and we can talk in more detail!
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Sorry, can’t hear you over the music - so bye it is.
Sorry but the music is too overpowering. Its drowning you out, and I'm straining to hear you
I think I'm in between quiet borderline and outwards but more quiet
Dear Ryan, in any classification there's rarely 100% something, it's always somewhere in between :)
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I was totally a self-destructive type. I was sexually abused for over 3 years as a kid (abandoned child model) so self-harm had always been a part of my life - gladly, not anymore ;)
although a bit of discouraged too, I would say half this half that
Thank you so much for your kind words. You seem like you know so much about the disorder, and your girlfriend is really lucky to have you. I can't start explaining how much support and acceptance mean for us when we are recovering.
As for your question, I am not generally fearful, rather anxious, but pretty impulsive. I tend to be both dependent and avoidant (feels like a swing) and the problem is I haven't yet learned where the real me starts and the "pretend me" begins. I just try to be open and honest about my feelings with myself and those around me, and it seems to be the most helpful strategy :)
Again, lots of love to you and your girlfriend, hope she gets well soon and you guys will be happy as ever :)
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Great content but please sort the sound out, I could hardly hear word. The piano is a distraction.
Music is so loud, so annoying, can’t watch the rest of the video
How do you get help? How do you live? I feel so alone no one takes me seriously. And things that are easy for others I can't do easily. I've pushed away or annoyed anyone willing to talk to me or try to help. I am so worried about myself but I have too many responsibilities to go to a treatment center and I am very limited on money for help...I'm so hopeless..
Look, I am really really sorry that you are in this state and I really understand how it feels. I wish somebody said this to me way before I understood it for myself: you need to put yourself first. None of your responsibilities will take care of themselves if you won't be there anymore. You need to dedicate all the time and resources that you have to getting better. And for that you need a therapist. And time. And hard work. But mainle, a person who can professionaly treat your condition. If you broke a leg, you would go straight to the doctor, correct? This is even more serious.
Please, do it for yourself and for those who love you. I really really wish you the best and that you feel better, but you have to set your priorirties.
Lots of love
I love hearing you talk. The music is too much though.
I know :/ and thanks! :)
I wish you didnt have the music. No offense but, i can barely hear you. I am Quiet borderline by the way. Thanks for sharing though, I understand you mean well.
Hi Anna! Good video, I have been reading and watching videos about borderline a lot lately. I'm diagnosed with high functioning autism, OCD and some other diagnoses. I think I have borderline too and my therapist have said that is a possibility. I was wondering how borderline develops? I know it's usually abuse in childhood and genes but when do someone start to struggle with it? I had some criteria for bpd sense I became a teen but it has just gotten worse and worse over the years. I'm 21 years old now and are really self destructive and have gotten into drugs, alcohol, unsafe sex and other stuff like that and feel like I really fit the criteria. :)
Dear Noréa And Me, I am sorry to hear you have to go through such struggles at such a young age. As far as I know, Borderline can be developed from an abusive childhood and/or genetic factors, but usually no one diagnoses it until late teens, though some symptoms can present themselves way earlier. I think all highly emotional children are sort of at risk. You might fit some criteria and not qualify as a borderline though, you have to fit at least 5 out of 9 (I had 8 haha :D). Please take care of yourself and if you have any more questions, I'd be happy to answer :)
I really appreciate your videos.
thank you dear
thank you so much for this video
I am so happy to hear that, it really means a lot. Thank you xx
Is it true that Borderlines are habitual liars? If so is it possible to have Borderline and not be a habitual liar ?
Thank you kindly
Hey dear,
I would say, excessive lying can definitely be attributed to BPD, but I can assume not everyone who has BPD is a habitual liar.
Sorry I can't be more of help :)
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Anna Fitz that's ok.. Thank you very much for the reply X
I'm overly honest when I feel safe. The more anxious, scared or unsafe I feel the more I lie. (I'm Quiet BPD +)
Quiet BPD isn't the same as high functioning
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friend me anna! youre too adorable not to have as a friend! :)
hahaha sure? thanks :D
YES! are you trying to be adorable? or are you just that way? :P
youre so cute! hhhhaahha
The music is way too loud. I couldn't really hear