Even then he wouldn’t be a full single dad unless he had no family. I know single dads who just get their mums sisters and aunties to do everything lol. I’m a single mum and my mum has my kid once every three weeks so I get a break they could never 😂
It is. Not so much for people who have 3+ children but rather because the teen pregnancy rate is shrinking significantly and the rate of people choosing to not have any children at all is increasing rapidly
Something interesting I’ve heard is that people learn not to leave from their family - if your parents treat you like shit you can’t just leave as a child, so a lot of people learned they had to stay and that was what love was.
@MyDuckSaysFucc Maybe… but women are taught to endure whatever from men- in order to ensure the kids have a “ father” around. It doesn’t matter if the father is active, just so long as he’s around and noticeable in the home.
The part where she praises all the WOMEN in her life who are stepping up for her kids gives me the creeps. This is why pick me's are bad friends / family. They will drain you dry by demanding you pick up their man's slack, especially in parenting.
Listen!!!!! I’ve proven this, I was staying with relatives and when I’d asked to move in temporarily with them, the wife’s first comment was “ oh yeah that’s great because sometimes I need to go somewhere.” Lol. This woman is the definition of a married single mother, okay and if I was giving her free babysitting, and playing the role of her husband then she’d like me more. Instead, while I lived with them I stayed to myself most times, because for 1, they were the worst couple I’d ever been around, no thanks, just always negative. 2. They’re my cousins not my children, you keep them. I’m not doing more than I need to I am childfree because I want to be. She was disappointed that she didn’t find a helper in me, but I’m nobody’s helper and married single women are too depressing to be around.
When are people going to learn that when you come online and complain you will get a variety of opinions? You can’t come and complain about your booga and then get mad at people for also getting upset (for you and your kids!). You introduced it into evidence!
Ten years is too goddamn long for her to be putting up with what she’s putting up with 😫😫😩😩. No man is worth that! I repeat 🗣️🗣️, no man is worth being miserable.
If hes not going to help with the first kid hes definitely not going to help with more. Realize the mistake early leave with your one child and be a single single mother living in peace.
She has no income and a bunch of kids! If that man decides to leave her, she is up shits creek without a paddle. That man is gone so much, i would be surprised if he is spooning someone else.
She's settled into the miserable lifestyle, & wants only to commiserate with other women who have also settled into their unhappiness. She's happy to be unhappy. Each to her own, I guess.
I think women who knowingly put themselves in miserable situations like this are secretly masochistic. They really put effort into doing the most to hold onto their own suffering. Like having 4 or 5 kids with a low effort man takes literal time and effort. It takes intention.
Pick me energy I sense. Defending poor partners treatment for views needs to be studied and peer review paper on how it intersects the trad wife trends
I only feel sorry for the kids. She chose this, they didn't. For some families the dad is gone a lot and the mom holds it down and the it's quality over quantity. But, if she's this somber, I can only imagine how the kids are
There is a lady about to have her 4th child by a man who travels constantly. She's tired and overwhelmed and stressed out now. How is she gonna handle a 4th? Just insane to me.
My SIL came from a family with seven children. Her father was along distance truck driver. Her mother had seven children in seven years. She had a nervous breakdown and unable to care for her children. Father couldn’t take care of all of them. He kept the three oldest and put the rest up for adoption. My SIL was one of the four.
I don’t understand it but I have a couple of friends in this situation. If he didn’t help out with baby number 1 how did you get talked into babies 2, 3, 4, and 5? I told my one friend not to have anymore kids with her husband because he is a terrible husband father and human being and she didn’t listen. Now she is paying the price, financially trapped and miserable. Unfortunately I can’t help her. 🤷 At some point you have to use foresight and save yourself. I think some women think they deserve to live hard miserable lives. It’s like you are on the titanic and instead of jumping off the sinking ship they stay on it which is amazing to me.
💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌 if hes not doing anything with the first it won't get better. Save yourself and live a better life. Much easier to mange one child then a bunch. My ex keep talking about having morw kids when he didn't help with the first. I stopped sleeping with him, got a new job, got a new apt and bounced. He was big mad!!! 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Honestly a lot of women don’t want to listen. I met a girl a few months ago, she would brag about her boyfriend on a daily basis. She told me somethings about him and alarms went off, even though I didn’t know her that well I tried to warn her. She didn’t listen and got her self trapped by a man she was surprised wasn’t so great 🙄. I told her she still has a choice not to get tied to him (she was 5 weeks pregnant). She said she’s always wanted a child and that’s more important than anything so I said bet. I told her I can’t be bothered anymore and had to leave. It May seem harsh but she would have actively continue to deal with this man and I don’t have time for any drama in my life but I wish her the best.
She sounds and looks so heartbroken and tired smh. The statement "marriage is hard" always rubbed me the wrong way. I react to that statement the same way I react to the "he picks at you because he likes you" statement. Both are excuses.
"He has to travel a lot for work" As a SW... I don't think this man is traveling just for work. I know y'all don't like this suggestion, but her husband may have a second family or a mistress.
She’s worried about raising all those kids by herself. She should get her tubes tied after this one and then give daddy FULL CUSTODY. Walk away Rene, go live a life, get some counseling.Be a weekend mom. He can pay someone else to raise his kids, clean his house, shop and cook, and cater to his desire. She’s just a brood mare to him.
Sidebar...Who started the whole talk to me while I wash my face and do my makeup thing? Maybe I'm just not a social media person i think because it annoys me that everyone does the same thing. Everyone has that same headband, washes their face, clicking on containers, talk while they're getting ready. Its just mindless chatter and actions at this point. A bunch of bots that copy each other. Im telling my story to help others. It's the same story been told since been told. Youre a mom that has no help. Ok. 😩Your husband is horrible. Ok. Like just stop the madness yall. Lol. Matrix activities no one ever learns from.
I don't like it either but I am going to assume these girls who talk and do makeup do this out of habit having sisters growing up and girls tend to chit chat, gossip, spill the tea or what have you while doing dailly bedroom routines. This is an old habit that even dates back centuries, with Lady's Maid,Ladies in Waiting, and courtiers, etc gossiping while getting dressed and grooming. It's the female equivalent of "locker room" talk.
@ if she was making a plan to leave or already left, that’s different but to me, it’s getting dangerous for the next generation of women to keep this tired ideology of endurance and perseverance in these unhealthy relationships. Honestly, glad I’m not the only one.
I lost empathy for this kind of foolishness back when I was a much younger woman. As an older woman now- I definitely could care less about these kind of women. My reasoning is that these women are extremely dangerous to most other women. They are too competitive, too ready to fight and confront other women on behalf of their “men’s” actions- will get you entangled up In their domestic violence situations- and never leave , etc.
These women are the ones who will vote against your rights as a fellow woman. There was story on Reddit about a girl who's friend was one of these; acting like she wanted out, only for her to find out later in the car that the friend was driving her over to the friend's violent ex per his request so they could do God knows what to her! She caught on and thankfully that didn't happen. Don't befriend these men-centered women ladies!
I love the misspelling on that last word, 'cause that's what these women actually have with these type of absent although present father spouses, a small firm not a family.
I agree with what most people are saying in this comment section but I also feel there is some part of our psychology that makes it easy for us to get into these kinds of traps when the conditions are set up appropriately and people get stuck like the frog in boiling water analogy. Some people walk into these kinds of situations others fall into them. I don’t know anymore. Personally, I think women in general need to develop their own healthy ‘audacity’ (I use this word because I honestly can’t think of a better one). If people agree, I would love us to brainstorm ways to do this.
Self preservation could be used also alongside healthy audacity. The thing is, its not just the psychological trap that we can get ourselves in (cause we have all made mistakes along the way) it’s their ego, they think that they know everything and are better than other women, thats why they seek pity and victimise themselves. They have very strong narcissistic traits and they do not care about anyone else but themselves, these women are dangerous and I hate that some of us get caught up in their nonsense!
She has a baby and she looks about 7 months pregnant….I mean did she even heal before he went in there again…did she just spread it because he paid for the food and the roof she couldn’t say NO!? She is a masochist nobody can help her.💁🏽♀️
Wait so she CHOSE to have another child, with a man who isn't helping her with the load of labour that comes with child rearing? HOW? I've already told my husband - who actually helps - that we need to think more about the labour split if we want more kids. Women truly run the world. My lawd.
She says marriage is hard and she's got to toughen up... Her mom told her to toughen up, this is the life she chose, she's gotta figure it out. She also has to learn about the patriarchy and find out how this marriage is NOT serving her and how she's been conditioned into this kind of life since birth.
almost all the women i know who are married w/children are "married single mothers." but most of them also work full time outside of the home. their husbands are the equivalent a little playmate before bedtime. childfree cat ladies are up! (and i dont own lor like cats but apparently i am going to die w/a hoard of them, depending on who you ask!)
Cognitive dissonance, denial, etc. trying to spin your bad choices as some kind of advocacy for others in your situation is so bizarre but common. I think it relates to PTSD, something about the shame of it all makes people shut down and think “alternatively” but anyone watching their videos can see right through it. Tim Fletcher has good videos on this topic. If you want to live in delusion, the worst thing you can do is make your life public
I have a hot take about things like this and idc. I absolutely don't care about women like this, idc if this makes me a bad person. And this is because they don't actually care, they like the fact that whenever they posts things like this, other women in the same situation leave comments and they bond over it and it gives them the validation they need because they think it is a normal situation. Notice how she said she said she knows she doesn't have it completely bad? That's because the women in her comment section has given her the validation she needs and now she knows someone out there has it worse. Women like this will never leave their shitty male partners because they think that is how women are suppose to live. I will save my energy for something else.
My mom had 2 kids and complained about my dad being late to the hospital for baby no. 2 because he was partying. After 7 years and a SHORT seperation, she had 4 more kids. (2 of them while being seperated) I don't help her anymore. Also, this woman can never be pleased 😂 (Also it's my fault bc child me missed my dad 🤣🤣🤣) I hate my life and feel sorry for my siblings
Also I feel sorry for the kids of the woman in the video, they are gonna leave quickly (if the parents don't drill weird stuff into their heads like my parents did with me )
Do people not understand birth control is an option? You can practice abstinence. That's the oldest trick ever. You can get your fallopian tubes removed. You can get your tubes clipped, tied, and burned. You can get an IUD. The list goes on. There is no reason women should be constantly having kids back to back like I'm seeing all the time.
6:33 Marriage isn't supposed to be hard. If it is, get a divorce. What's the point of having a husband if he's never there🥴It's obvious he loves himself but I don't think he cares about her or those kids.
The second video you shared says nothing about him loving the kids and spending time with them so she could get a break. Sounds like he comes home and does what he wants because he's the only one working.
So she's glorifying being a married single mother!? HIS money pays for everything. ""Marriage is hard"? No gurl a bad marriage is hard. She will likely stay with him "for the sake of the kids" and continue the cycle.
Why keep complaining and then say that other miserable women aren’t alone as though it’s some badge of honor. If it ain’t hurting enough for you to want to change, don’t be surprised when people get tired of your sob story.
Exactly 🎯 💯!!! These are the type of women who REFUSE to accept the reality of their so-called man and REFUSE to look for solutions!! They just keep whining and complaining about the same 💩 OVER & OVER AGAIN!!
It is a badge of honor for many women. Women feel that suffering for “love from men”, suffering for their kids sake( when it’s never actually about the kids) and having men around at any costs- is all a badge of honor. These are the type of women that men pat on the head and say “ she’s a keeper”.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wnyup. "The long suffering wife" is a common delusion women use to stay long enough to get to " the good years" where all the suffering is finally worth it.
I really feel for this woman. I was this woman. My husband didn't travel except in the summers the last several years. And he did contribute some to the care of the kids and making the occasional meal, but it was still quite uneven. I was a stay at home mom, and now that we're separated heading to divorce, I am almost unemployable with how gaping my resume is, especially because it's hard to find work regardless in this economy. And I got a 2 year diploma after highschool. I was raised religious, married way too young, had kids way too young, and thought that those were all the best choices for me in the long term. That is how warped the thinking is. For at least 7 years I have realised that my husband wasn't kind, and could be emotionally abusive, but up until then I was just convinced that "marriage is hard", which eventually combined with "he's a man, he wasn't socialized to be kind/considerate/empathetic". The last 7 years has been trying to convince him to be kind to me, and not occasionally cruel and critical so I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells. 2 years ago his criticisms were so stupid and I was aware enough that I separated and insisted that he get counseling and we get couples counseling and see if we can make it work. After 6 months we gave it a go with continued couples counseling. This February that kind of thing happened again and I didn't separate, but I instead brought it up in couples counseling and gave myself physical and emotional distance while remaining in the home/relationship...waiting to feel emotionally safe again. I kept getting half assed apologies or none at all, and then when it gets brought up again, him still defending his original position. At the end September he initiated a separation to divorce. I had been agonizing for months (and years before the first separation in 2022) whether I should leave. I wasn't happy, but it wasn't that bad all the time, and I was financially stuck. And we had three kids together who I didn't want to put through a divorce. And divorce is complicated and expensive. TLDR: even though my husband didn't constantly travel for work, I can really relate to feeling like you have to make it work no matter what, and that you can't leave. There are so many cultural and religious messages that stop women from leaving
She’s not leaving and I wish people would stop fishing for pity and pour into their children! It is also my firm belief that if you willingly have more than two children (excluding multiples and mitigating circumstances) that you are taking on more than you can chew and are not giving them enough attention, giving yourself enough attention, giving your partner, friends, community enough attention either. The expectation that everyone must help you, feel empathy for you, have your problems dumped onto them, being used as a therapist (like this woman did with the internet), cleaner and the rest, but never or hardly ever show up for those who support you. Popping out children like there is nothing else better to do, is asinine and cruel to those children already here.
it sounds like she’s accepting it for herself. And it’s true. She’s not leaving him, she’ll have more kids with him most likely, and he’s not a partner. Instead of crying at night & arguing with him over it she said “this is my choice.” That’s how I feel about my parents. If you aren’t going to divorce, quit complaining about it. You’ve seen and told this man this for 10 yrs. It’s not gonna change until he wants to change and he doesn’t want to. Just find your worth in things you like cuz it’s not in him. Build community and save money for the future. It sucks, but she’s right.
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"Marriage is hard" ...on women, because marriage, traditionally, had way more in common with slavery than anything resembling an equal partnership, and love had nothing to do with it. In fact, it used to be frowned upon to have feelings for your wife. It was always meant to be a legal contract between a man and his property. We need to either wildly and ruthlessly redefine marriage, or just do away with it altogether. I personally prefer the latter, because in a world where everyone has access to resources and can fend for themselves, if relationships really do form around love and compatibility, where does legality and the government fit into that? It doesn't. No slave band for my finger thanks.
I feel like this is a perfect example of a culture that encourages girls to be "pick me's" and breeders. Yes, we can judge her choices, but she's probably doing what she was raised to do, and THAT is on society to do better. I just hopes she comes to her senses and creates a more stable life for herself and her kids in the event that her marriage doesn't work out.
Normalize giving father's full custody.
Society complains, constantly, about single mothers. So, let's have the single dads step up.
Even then he wouldn’t be a full single dad unless he had no family. I know single dads who just get their mums sisters and aunties to do everything lol. I’m a single mum and my mum has my kid once every three weeks so I get a break they could never 😂
This off topic but your hair is gorgeous 😍😍.
Is the birth rate really declining??? Because there seems to be a plethora of women who have 4-5 kids, and they don't seem to want to stop.
The good news is that the birth rate is declining. The number of women not having kids is starting to outnumber the number of women who get trapped.
It is. Not so much for people who have 3+ children but rather because the teen pregnancy rate is shrinking significantly and the rate of people choosing to not have any children at all is increasing rapidly
If the birth rate wasn't declining, why was Roe v Wade overturned?
How?! When are we going to learn to leave once our partner starts acting funny?
Something interesting I’ve heard is that people learn not to leave from their family - if your parents treat you like shit you can’t just leave as a child, so a lot of people learned they had to stay and that was what love was.
@MyDuckSaysFucc Maybe… but women are taught to endure whatever from men- in order to ensure the kids have a “ father” around. It doesn’t matter if the father is active, just so long as he’s around and noticeable in the home.
Speak for yourself. I am 4b. Join 4b to be free.
An awesome comment, thanks 🙌
Nah, let them stay. If they like it, we approve it.
The part where she praises all the WOMEN in her life who are stepping up for her kids gives me the creeps.
This is why pick me's are bad friends / family. They will drain you dry by demanding you pick up their man's slack, especially in parenting.
It takes a village, not a man
@@mymelaninempress3495it starts with the PARENTS and one of those parents isn’t into parenthood.
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Listen!!!!! I’ve proven this, I was staying with relatives and when I’d asked to move in temporarily with them, the wife’s first comment was “ oh yeah that’s great because sometimes I need to go somewhere.” Lol.
This woman is the definition of a married single mother, okay and if I was giving her free babysitting, and playing the role of her husband then she’d like me more.
Instead, while I lived with them I stayed to myself most times, because for 1, they were the worst couple I’d ever been around, no thanks, just always negative. 2. They’re my cousins not my children, you keep them. I’m not doing more than I need to I am childfree because I want to be.
She was disappointed that she didn’t find a helper in me, but I’m nobody’s helper and married single women are too depressing to be around.
Exactly. They always expect so much from the women in their lives but never from their never from their male partners.
She looks intensely tired.
I can't believe she's blaming this on love being blind. It's not blindness if you see the entire situation for exactly what it is!
When are people going to learn that when you come online and complain you will get a variety of opinions? You can’t come and complain about your booga and then get mad at people for also getting upset (for you and your kids!). You introduced it into evidence!
But they’re worried about women who choose NOT to have children?? 😂 right okay. Go worry about something worth while, not our vuh-gine-nuhs.
Lol
Amen! It cause they don't want to deal with what they have control of. So they try to involve themselves in something they have no control of.
Ten years is too goddamn long for her to be putting up with what she’s putting up with 😫😫😩😩. No man is worth that! I repeat 🗣️🗣️, no man is worth being miserable.
She likes it.
@@jazzyj6640 she must if if she's pregnant for the fifth time for a man whose never even around lol.
"If they love it, I love it"
My mantra moving on
If hes not going to help with the first kid hes definitely not going to help with more. Realize the mistake early leave with your one child and be a single single mother living in peace.
Don't give them kids period
She has no income and a bunch of kids! If that man decides to leave her, she is up shits creek without a paddle. That man is gone so much, i would be surprised if he is spooning someone else.
She's settled into the miserable lifestyle, & wants only to commiserate with other women who have also settled into their unhappiness. She's happy to be unhappy. Each to her own, I guess.
Exactly!
She wants to trauma bond with others in her situation.
spot on!
I think women who knowingly put themselves in miserable situations like this are secretly masochistic.
They really put effort into doing the most to hold onto their own suffering. Like having 4 or 5 kids with a low effort man takes literal time and effort. It takes intention.
She got trapped and she fell for the spell of marriage, children, family life.
I agree
She thinks she is a saint for playing martyr (in her own eyes) She doesn't care others think it's wrong, she thinks she is above everyone
Pick me energy I sense. Defending poor partners treatment for views needs to be studied and peer review paper on how it intersects the trad wife trends
I only feel sorry for the kids. She chose this, they didn't. For some families the dad is gone a lot and the mom holds it down and the it's quality over quantity. But, if she's this somber, I can only imagine how the kids are
So she is weaponizing his own incompetence. Gurl bye.
Forreal!
I can't understand she keeps having children while married to a grown child.
There is a lady about to have her 4th child by a man who travels constantly. She's tired and overwhelmed and stressed out now. How is she gonna handle a 4th? Just insane to me.
Fifth.
My SIL came from a family with seven children. Her father was along distance truck driver. Her mother had seven children in seven years. She had a nervous breakdown and unable to care for her children. Father couldn’t take care of all of them. He kept the three oldest and put the rest up for adoption. My SIL was one of the four.
@@janel.8921wow!!!! Does she even have a relationship with her other siblings anymore?? That's heartbreaking.
Citizens of the internet. Ignore these people.
Just block them. No point engaging and letting the algorithm push them on you.
Good point!
I don’t understand it but I have a couple of friends in this situation. If he didn’t help out with baby number 1 how did you get talked into babies 2, 3, 4, and 5?
I told my one friend not to have anymore kids with her husband because he is a terrible husband father and human being and she didn’t listen.
Now she is paying the price, financially trapped and miserable. Unfortunately I can’t help her. 🤷
At some point you have to use foresight and save yourself. I think some women think they deserve to live hard miserable lives. It’s like you are on the titanic and instead of jumping off the sinking ship they stay on it which is amazing to me.
That last paragraph is spot on. I feel like it’s a type of self harm for some.
Exactly. Stop having kids with dead beat men.
Because some of us buy the loyalty bs men sell us.
💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌 if hes not doing anything with the first it won't get better. Save yourself and live a better life. Much easier to mange one child then a bunch. My ex keep talking about having morw kids when he didn't help with the first. I stopped sleeping with him, got a new job, got a new apt and bounced. He was big mad!!! 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Honestly a lot of women don’t want to listen. I met a girl a few months ago, she would brag about her boyfriend on a daily basis. She told me somethings about him and alarms went off, even though I didn’t know her that well I tried to warn her. She didn’t listen and got her self trapped by a man she was surprised wasn’t so great 🙄. I told her she still has a choice not to get tied to him (she was 5 weeks pregnant). She said she’s always wanted a child and that’s more important than anything so I said bet. I told her I can’t be bothered anymore and had to leave. It May seem harsh but she would have actively continue to deal with this man and I don’t have time for any drama in my life but I wish her the best.
She sounds and looks so heartbroken and tired smh. The statement "marriage is hard" always rubbed me the wrong way. I react to that statement the same way I react to the "he picks at you because he likes you" statement. Both are excuses.
It sugar coats male abusive behavior
"He has to travel a lot for work"
As a SW... I don't think this man is traveling just for work. I know y'all don't like this suggestion, but her husband may have a second family or a mistress.
These women cannot be helped.
They can only serve as cautionary tales for others.
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She’s worried about raising all those kids by herself. She should get her tubes tied after this one and then give daddy FULL CUSTODY. Walk away Rene, go live a life, get some counseling.Be a weekend mom.
He can pay someone else to raise his kids, clean his house, shop and cook, and cater to his desire. She’s just a brood mare to him.
Sidebar...Who started the whole talk to me while I wash my face and do my makeup thing? Maybe I'm just not a social media person i think because it annoys me that everyone does the same thing. Everyone has that same headband, washes their face, clicking on containers, talk while they're getting ready. Its just mindless chatter and actions at this point. A bunch of bots that copy each other. Im telling my story to help others. It's the same story been told since been told. Youre a mom that has no help. Ok. 😩Your husband is horrible. Ok. Like just stop the madness yall. Lol. Matrix activities no one ever learns from.
We're tired of hearing about journeys like yours. They're all the same. Learn already! Someone please learn something 😩
I don't like it either but I am going to assume these girls who talk and do makeup do this out of habit having sisters growing up and girls tend to chit chat, gossip, spill the tea or what have you while doing dailly bedroom routines. This is an old habit that even dates back centuries, with Lady's Maid,Ladies in Waiting, and courtiers, etc gossiping while getting dressed and grooming. It's the female equivalent of "locker room" talk.
Bingo
@@sacredchimesthecrystalhealerJourneys that go nowhere.
No, but thank you! Well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Idk ladies, I hate to admit this, but in the spirit of realness, I’m losing empathy for this 💩
Honestly I feel the same way. Sometimes I feel guilty about it but when someone has no self respect it’s hard for me to feel bad for them.
@ if she was making a plan to leave or already left, that’s different but to me, it’s getting dangerous for the next generation of women to keep this tired ideology of endurance and perseverance in these unhealthy relationships. Honestly, glad I’m not the only one.
I lost empathy for this kind of foolishness back when I was a much younger woman. As an older woman now- I definitely could care less about these kind of women.
My reasoning is that these women are extremely dangerous to most other women. They are too competitive, too ready to fight and confront other women on behalf of their “men’s” actions- will get you entangled up In their domestic violence situations- and never leave , etc.
Am I weird for thinking it's beyond strange that she was attempting the ASMR thing during this video...???
These women are the ones who will vote against your rights as a fellow woman.
There was story on Reddit about a girl who's friend was one of these; acting like she wanted out, only for her to find out later in the car that the friend was driving her over to the friend's violent ex per his request so they could do God knows what to her! She caught on and thankfully that didn't happen.
Don't befriend these men-centered women ladies!
I take it that he’s out cheating in his travels, and that’s why she’s so depressed? Why have a 5th kid? Surely the signs were there after kid #2?
5 kids⁉️ every time someone complains about birth rate decline, send them these videos along with ballerina firms.
Right somebody get her a raise since y’all wanna tax child free people
I love the misspelling on that last word, 'cause that's what these women actually have with these type of absent although present father spouses, a small firm not a family.
@@lilaoliva793Let's call it a FIRMILY! Those kids are bred to be employees and farm hands
When she said she wasn't embarrassed to post her mess, that told me all I needed to know. Bring back feeling embarrassed.
I agree with what most people are saying in this comment section but I also feel there is some part of our psychology that makes it easy for us to get into these kinds of traps when the conditions are set up appropriately and people get stuck like the frog in boiling water analogy. Some people walk into these kinds of situations others fall into them. I don’t know anymore.
Personally, I think women in general need to develop their own healthy ‘audacity’ (I use this word because I honestly can’t think of a better one). If people agree, I would love us to brainstorm ways to do this.
Self preservation could be used also alongside healthy audacity. The thing is, its not just the psychological trap that we can get ourselves in (cause we have all made mistakes along the way) it’s their ego, they think that they know everything and are better than other women, thats why they seek pity and victimise themselves. They have very strong narcissistic traits and they do not care about anyone else but themselves, these women are dangerous and I hate that some of us get caught up in their nonsense!
I heard it at substack: "males hornyness, females neediness" perfect combo for the hell they live in
Why doesn't she know that the plural for woman is women?
With a bunch of Damn kids in tow 🤦🏾♀️ can't even teach em the basics bc SHE barely knows the basics. Welcome to present day society.
Oh well she’ll figure it out! Just like her mother said, she chose this life 😊
She has a baby and she looks about 7 months pregnant….I mean did she even heal before he went in there again…did she just spread it because he paid for the food and the roof she couldn’t say NO!? She is a masochist nobody can help her.💁🏽♀️
Wait so she CHOSE to have another child, with a man who isn't helping her with the load of labour that comes with child rearing? HOW? I've already told my husband - who actually helps - that we need to think more about the labour split if we want more kids. Women truly run the world. My lawd.
Was anyone else annoyed by the nail tapping?
Very.
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Reminds me of the Pavlov's dog theory..it's a conditioning tactic I think...but it was very annoying!
I just said it was strange to try ASMR for this video.
All of us
She says marriage is hard and she's got to toughen up... Her mom told her to toughen up, this is the life she chose, she's gotta figure it out. She also has to learn about the patriarchy and find out how this marriage is NOT serving her and how she's been conditioned into this kind of life since birth.
Umm.... did she address her choice not to use birth control?
So....she had the first child and she thought to have more after the red flags?🤨🙄😮💨
almost all the women i know who are married w/children are "married single mothers." but most of them also work full time outside of the home. their husbands are the equivalent a little playmate before bedtime.
childfree cat ladies are up! (and i dont own lor like cats but apparently i am going to die w/a hoard of them, depending on who you ask!)
Cognitive dissonance, denial, etc. trying to spin your bad choices as some kind of advocacy for others in your situation is so bizarre but common. I think it relates to PTSD, something about the shame of it all makes people shut down and think “alternatively” but anyone watching their videos can see right through it. Tim Fletcher has good videos on this topic.
If you want to live in delusion, the worst thing you can do is make your life public
Okay I peep the Kenya bracelet 🇰🇪 🇰🇪🇰🇪
All that rambling she was doing was so annoying. She looks miserable and tired. I hope she figures it out.
Love to see the Kenyan bracelet on you.
She kept saying she was addressing this and that but I was tuning her out because…sigh
I have a hot take about things like this and idc. I absolutely don't care about women like this, idc if this makes me a bad person. And this is because they don't actually care, they like the fact that whenever they posts things like this, other women in the same situation leave comments and they bond over it and it gives them the validation they need because they think it is a normal situation.
Notice how she said she said she knows she doesn't have it completely bad? That's because the women in her comment section has given her the validation she needs and now she knows someone out there has it worse.
Women like this will never leave their shitty male partners because they think that is how women are suppose to live. I will save my energy for something else.
STOP TAPPING THE BEAUTY PRODUCTS!!! THAT IS NOT RELAXING!!! (Thank you for coming to my TedTalk.)
My mom had 2 kids and complained about my dad being late to the hospital for baby no. 2 because he was partying.
After 7 years and a SHORT seperation, she had 4 more kids. (2 of them while being seperated)
I don't help her anymore. Also, this woman can never be pleased 😂
(Also it's my fault bc child me missed my dad 🤣🤣🤣) I hate my life and feel sorry for my siblings
Also I feel sorry for the kids of the woman in the video, they are gonna leave quickly (if the parents don't drill weird stuff into their heads like my parents did with me )
Long as this isn't me! I'm good!
Dont save her, she dont wanna be saved 😂 we're still minding our business right? When i see this stuff, I block them
2nd lady ain't going nowhere, either.
That's the same lady lol
It's the same woman. The first video shown is a response to comments of the 2nd video shown (but was her first video she posted on her platform)
Do people not understand birth control is an option? You can practice abstinence. That's the oldest trick ever. You can get your fallopian tubes removed. You can get your tubes clipped, tied, and burned. You can get an IUD. The list goes on. There is no reason women should be constantly having kids back to back like I'm seeing all the time.
You can get pregnant ONCE a month and it's not hard to figure out when. Most women are to lazy to keep track of their cycle
6:33 Marriage isn't supposed to be hard. If it is, get a divorce. What's the point of having a husband if he's never there🥴It's obvious he loves himself but I don't think he cares about her or those kids.
The second video you shared says nothing about him loving the kids and spending time with them so she could get a break. Sounds like he comes home and does what he wants because he's the only one working.
She's so unhappy with him that she let him knock her up 5(!) times 🙄
Girl, it's looking more like 10 years. 5 kids, and still no potential.👀💯
✨️ If they wanna, they woulda ✨️
My mantra for now on
So she's glorifying being a married single mother!? HIS money pays for everything. ""Marriage is hard"? No gurl a bad marriage is hard. She will likely stay with him "for the sake of the kids" and continue the cycle.
Why keep complaining and then say that other miserable women aren’t alone as though it’s some badge of honor. If it ain’t hurting enough for you to want to change, don’t be surprised when people get tired of your sob story.
Exactly 🎯 💯!!!
These are the type of women who REFUSE to accept the reality of their so-called man and REFUSE to look for solutions!!
They just keep whining and complaining about the same 💩 OVER & OVER AGAIN!!
BTW, love your screen name!!
I'm a Leo ♌️ 👸🏾!!!
It is a badge of honor for many women. Women feel that suffering for “love from men”, suffering for their kids sake( when it’s never actually about the kids) and having men around at any costs- is all a badge of honor.
These are the type of women that men pat on the head and say “ she’s a keeper”.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wnyup. "The long suffering wife" is a common delusion women use to stay long enough to get to " the good years" where all the suffering is finally worth it.
Cautionary tale galore.
The taps 😂😂
I really feel for this woman. I was this woman.
My husband didn't travel except in the summers the last several years. And he did contribute some to the care of the kids and making the occasional meal, but it was still quite uneven.
I was a stay at home mom, and now that we're separated heading to divorce, I am almost unemployable with how gaping my resume is, especially because it's hard to find work regardless in this economy. And I got a 2 year diploma after highschool.
I was raised religious, married way too young, had kids way too young, and thought that those were all the best choices for me in the long term. That is how warped the thinking is.
For at least 7 years I have realised that my husband wasn't kind, and could be emotionally abusive, but up until then I was just convinced that "marriage is hard", which eventually combined with "he's a man, he wasn't socialized to be kind/considerate/empathetic". The last 7 years has been trying to convince him to be kind to me, and not occasionally cruel and critical so I always feel like I'm walking on eggshells.
2 years ago his criticisms were so stupid and I was aware enough that I separated and insisted that he get counseling and we get couples counseling and see if we can make it work. After 6 months we gave it a go with continued couples counseling.
This February that kind of thing happened again and I didn't separate, but I instead brought it up in couples counseling and gave myself physical and emotional distance while remaining in the home/relationship...waiting to feel emotionally safe again. I kept getting half assed apologies or none at all, and then when it gets brought up again, him still defending his original position. At the end September he initiated a separation to divorce.
I had been agonizing for months (and years before the first separation in 2022) whether I should leave. I wasn't happy, but it wasn't that bad all the time, and I was financially stuck. And we had three kids together who I didn't want to put through a divorce. And divorce is complicated and expensive.
TLDR: even though my husband didn't constantly travel for work, I can really relate to feeling like you have to make it work no matter what, and that you can't leave. There are so many cultural and religious messages that stop women from leaving
She’s not leaving and I wish people would stop fishing for pity and pour into their children! It is also my firm belief that if you willingly have more than two children (excluding multiples and mitigating circumstances) that you are taking on more than you can chew and are not giving them enough attention, giving yourself enough attention, giving your partner, friends, community enough attention either. The expectation that everyone must help you, feel empathy for you, have your problems dumped onto them, being used as a therapist (like this woman did with the internet), cleaner and the rest, but never or hardly ever show up for those who support you. Popping out children like there is nothing else better to do, is asinine and cruel to those children already here.
Shayna's expressions on the second video 😅
As soon as a blogger taps their fingers on a product. It makes me wanna rage quit youtube
it sounds like she’s accepting it for herself. And it’s true. She’s not leaving him, she’ll have more kids with him most likely, and he’s not a partner.
Instead of crying at night & arguing with him over it she said “this is my choice.”
That’s how I feel about my parents. If you aren’t going to divorce, quit complaining about it. You’ve seen and told this man this for 10 yrs. It’s not gonna change until he wants to change and he doesn’t want to.
Just find your worth in things you like cuz it’s not in him. Build community and save money for the future.
It sucks, but she’s right.
Welp, puttin out the odds that this lady's guy has several families while on those "business trips" 👀👀👀👀
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I thought the point of the term was to diagnose the issues in relationships and help women leave. Not a badge of honour.
She seems sad, she got trapped. She might as well make money off people watching her/relating to her .
That fingernail clicking is really obnoxious. What is she doing? Product placement?
Can't watch women clicking their nails like that, so annoying
"Marriage is hard" ...on women, because marriage, traditionally, had way more in common with slavery than anything resembling an equal partnership, and love had nothing to do with it. In fact, it used to be frowned upon to have feelings for your wife. It was always meant to be a legal contract between a man and his property. We need to either wildly and ruthlessly redefine marriage, or just do away with it altogether. I personally prefer the latter, because in a world where everyone has access to resources and can fend for themselves, if relationships really do form around love and compatibility, where does legality and the government fit into that? It doesn't. No slave band for my finger thanks.
The finger tapping drives me insane, it’s so annoying 😤
Ugh, she sounds so bitter.
And they say single women are the bitter ones. Have they met women in long suffering relationships? 😂
I feel like this is a perfect example of a culture that encourages girls to be "pick me's" and breeders. Yes, we can judge her choices, but she's probably doing what she was raised to do, and THAT is on society to do better. I just hopes she comes to her senses and creates a more stable life for herself and her kids in the event that her marriage doesn't work out.
Kenyan bracelet!!!
I bet she knows how to kiss!
Isn't this just romanticization?
You're Kenyan ?
Just the _title_ makes me TIRED!
🎉😂I hate the tapping of every product they use. Stop trying to brainwash me into buying! Consumertok is what it should be called. 🎉
Your hair is so pretty 🥰
SN: it always is, but I needed to say that today 🩷