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My husband passed away 9 years ago. His childhood was more challenging than mine. He always supported me in having a deep pantry. During these times, he would have encouraged me to do even more. After reading some of the comments, I realize how blessed I was. My mother and siblings, on the other hand, think you’re a hoarder if you have more than three days of food in the house. I’m glad they all live 1800+ miles away. I’m done with the bullying and ridicule.
My condolences dear.
Prayers for you.
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when they run out of food and cannot find any......
Bless you prayers for you!!!!
Unfortunately, my husband passed away last year. He was the one who could fix anything, like my Dad was. I'm caring for my 91yr old Mom & Step Dad. They simply call me a "Horder" & I let them. 😉
🙏🥹🙏🥹🙏 Bless you !!! I was a 24/7 caregiver for many years until 2/22 Very hard to prepare and buy stuff to care for my mom but we did as much as possible !!! Keep on keeping on and prayers for you as you care for those you love ❤😊❤😊🙏🙏🙏
Be glad your Mom and Step-Dad don't have
speech defects.
Will pray for you. You are dealing with a lot.
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My husband also passed away last September 24. I don't feel comfortable with some of the tools we might need, but I'll get er done! I will not be a push over. No parents, no kids, just me. Prayers for you friend.
When your spouse wont prepare...you keep preppin.
Or your adult children..
You keep prepping for your very young grandchildren!
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Amen
Yup, and just keep hiding your preps 😊😊
He doesn't stop my prepping, but he makes comments about enough is enough. I just keep praying and prepping.
I was in a 16 year long marriage exactly like this. Except on top of the emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and the occasional physical abuse, he also gambled every cent he made and stole from me things that had been left to me in my family. I prayed and prayed and prayed. I finally kicked him out and ended the marriage. What finally got me to take that step was several things. First, I started to see my son act like his dad. Two, my ex was keeping me from being who God created me to be and keeping me from doing what every fiber of my being was screaming at me to do. Third, my stress level was so high that it was seriously affecting my health. My doctor took one look at my lab work and looked me dead straight in my eyes and said, "if you don't get whatever is affecting you out of your life, you are going to die." He said my blood work looked like an 80 year old woman with cancer. I was 49 when he said that and had always been extremely healthy, never sick. Except for low thyroid and the stress was keeping my body from absorbing my medication for that. I had lost so much weight, and I was down to 97 pounds. When I had finally made up my mind to kick him out regardless of if we would have a home or food or anything, God made a way for me. He held my hand every step of the way and it was hard. I live in NC and you have to be legally separated for at least one year before you can file for a divorce. I didn't have any support from my siblings because we are not close at all and they are completely untrustworthy. But, God brought three of my dearest friends from high school back into my life and they have been amazing and there for me every single time I've needed them and it turns out they needed me and each other desperately due to each of them going through some really difficult situations in their lives. Now, my life is amazing. My youngest son who was acting like his dad has completely straightened up and is any mother's dream child. God brought the most amazing man I have ever met into our lives and even my four older sons think he is awesome. My second son actually used the word awesome.😂 I didn't think I would ever get the life I had dreamt of since I was a teen, but I did, but only because I listened to my Father in Heaven, and I trusted him to catch me. My ex had, for all intensive purposes, abandoned myself and my son years before we actually separated. He made it impossible for me to take care of my son or myself even just day to day, let alone stocking up for a year or two or three. Anyway, I'm writing this because maybe someone just needs to hear it and maybe not feel as alone as I did. Everyone's relationship with our Father is different, so I can't say what He wants for you, but as for me, He was waiting for me to make up my mind and jump. He was waiting for me to say OK I trust you. I have faith in you, Father,and take that leap before He showed me what He has for me. Sometimes, we have to let go of what we have before He can give us what He wants to give us.
Been there second marriage 47 yrs ,was into prepping ,,,he died 22 months ago,still prepping but miss him every day!!!
Thank you for sharing that.🙏
Confirmation ❤ gratitude for sharing your story it's so similar to many of ours out here. Keep rocking 😉 Hun and congrats 👏🎉 on all of your accomplishments ☺️
I have done all the prepping alone. My hubby doesn't interfer or complain. When the Covid crap happened he thanked me for having supplies on hand. He finally admitted the other week that the future is overwhelming and he does not want to know everything that is going on. Cause he cannot stop any of it. He is now helping me research things like water saety and generators. A step in the right direction.
Yes, One step & 1 day at a Time is all we need
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Steering clear of the news and keeping focused on preparation is an excellent strategy IMO.
My husband was of the what’s a little inflation persuasion - until he went shopping for various hardware items. No he comes home with tales of big cost increases and extra cans of fruit! He has just built me a cage to keep the birds off my vegetables, and extended my chicken run. Yesterday I came home with three more chickens and he didn’t say a word!
I may be a little bit in love with your husband! 💋
@@joannc147that may not go over too well 😮😂😂
@@Lisa-cj6vx he is not always so nice, lol!
@@Catsrule7 oh dear! LOL 😂
It is very difficult to travel this road of preparedness alone, like I do but much harder still to have to argue with a spouse who has different views every step of the way. Luckily, or not I make made decision to prepare & slowly through out the years I have done just that. It hasn't been easy alone but much harder if I hadn't prepared at all. To those of you who work as team count your blessings.
Amen to that a supportive spouse would be a godsend but they maybe few and far between
Entirely agree 👍👍💪
Agreed
Same boat here😢
Just wait for the day where your spouse is kissing you and thanking you for being prepared.
Going shopping today. I don't need anything so everything, almost, I buy will be a prep. My other half is none the wiser. 🙃 He thinks it's cute, a hobby, that I'm canning and dehydrating. 🙃
I grew up always having a pantry stocked with food. My grandparents were children during the great depression. My grandfather was 13 when his parents lost their farm. Being the oldest of 14 children he would leave school at lunchtime and go hunting for rabbits. He would get enough rabbits to feed his family and sold whatever was left over so that his mother could buy flour, sugar and salt. While in highschool my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer. I would sit next to her as she lay in bed and asked her to talk about what it was like when she grew up. As she talked about how her parents and my grandfather's parents struggled I knew the that I would always be putting things away for a rainy day. My grandfather had a grade school education. He started middle school but the depression hit, so he went to work at 14 with his father in the oil field as a tool runner. All of the money that was made was used to keep food on the table. In 2018 it wasn't unusual for me to buy extra food and put back. I really started putting away things that October because I just had a feeling things would be getting bad. Fast forward to February 2020, I was sitting at the kitchen table while my grandson ate a bowl of cereal as my husband came running upstairs saying we needed to go to the store. When I asked why, he said we needed to stock up. I told him that we're fine and the only thing we would need is milk, eggs and cheese. As I walked outside to get the mail both of my daughter's at the same time said "Dad all you need to do is look in the cabinets and basement you will see that mom has everything taken care of!" In February of this year we purchased our country property. We're slowly getting animals and becoming more self sufficient. It's not as fast as I would like but it is what it is. We've never taken but one vacation our whole marriage. While his brothers and sisters have been taking vacations we have been stocking up and making sure that our home and property has whatever it needs to be sustainable. As things get worse around us we are just greatful that we choose to take this direction. Hubby hasn't ever questioned what I purchased at the store. He knows if I buy it then it's going to be used or I am putting it back for a rainy day. I don't over spend but I do make sure we have what we need and a little extra. I couldn't imagine not having a spouse on board with what I have always considered a way of life. I have friends I have tried to warn to stock up only to feel like it fell on deaf ears. I did have two friends call and thank me for telling them to stock up. I thought they were just humoring me. They both were greatful because one of them had a spouse recently loose his job and the other had been diagnosed with cancer and is currently recovering from surgery and going through chemotherapy. It's difficult for people to understand this way of life because they're use to if they need it they go pick it up at the store. Those will be the ones that struggle when things get really bad. I'm by no way perfect, but all I can do is keep on doing what I am doing. We currently have 4 generations living in our house. We will have 5 once we've gotten completely moved as I will be caring for my aging mother that is in bad health. Patera thank you for taking the time to help others get ready. Much Love from our family to your family 💞
Like you I grew up with a fully stocked pantry. My mother called it putting away for winter. I have always had a full working larder. My mother would can and buy food on sale to put away. I learned from her.
Wow….a story of triumph and strength! ❤ I love that phrase “put back”.
@@sharonbrown2352 yes, it was always putting back for a rainy day. It wasn't called prepping when I grew up. It was a way of life and has continued to be a way of life for me. We might not have everything new from the shelves but we won't go hungry that's for sure.
@@scannfamily4863yep, I'm a 1930's depression kid here....full pantry has always! been my way of life since then.
Thanks for sharing! It’s inspiring!
To all those women in an abusive relationship w kids: If you’re staying for the kids thinking they don’t know, you’re wrong. They know even when they’re 3 and I can attest to that. Get out now. You’re not doing anyone any favors. A healthy home is better than 2 parents. Hugs…
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You are so right. My kids are so happy I left their dad and they don’t really want to see him anymore.
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Fully agree from a heterosexual man whose partner does not prep, scoffs and verbally talks down all the time.
I thought it was the end of the world when my wife left 16 years ago because of my preparation,it was a blessing in disguise!
Have y’all ever noticed when you tell a loved one or a friend something and they don’t agree with you -that when someone else tells them the same thing, that they start coming around?
Yes!! This happens to me often, especially with my mother
Oh yes!
haha...so true!
Yep that's why I don't tell them ish anymore 😂
My hubby was mostly indifferent when I started prepping in 2020. He did say I was a little kooky, until The icepoclypse of Jan 2021 here in Texas. Now he doesn't say anything, well except he did give me a look when I said I was building an indoor garden this summer. He does keep an eye on it now. I wish he participated more but he's definitely coming around. 😊
My husband was the same. He's completely on board now. Your hubby is showing interest which is the first step!
Such a blessing when your loved one slowly realizes you are their to look after loved ones
Progress! ❤
I will be married 57 years the end of the month the reason for this is he puts me first a d I put him first
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Amen! 👍
I dumped my emotionally/verbally abusive husband years ago. Watching this....I agree with you 100%. If things are bad now, they'll be infinitely worse with more money and food worries. If they are belittling your Preparedness efforts then there are bigger issues in the marriage. They don't have to believe the world's going to end but they have to be supportive of what you feel is important. My ex would never have agreed to prep. I always hoped I would find a new spouse but never did. Auditioned a few but didn't work out. Take care of yourselves. Don't let anyone hold you back!
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Congrats for you leaving that dude
If your spouse loves you they will trust you and be your partner in life. I'm the leader of my family and I will do anything to protect them. Stay strong.
Over 30 years ago I read a quote from Anne Landers that “it’s better to be single than wish you were”. Oh how I wish I was single 😞. I’m busting my butt every day working to get things prepped. Sometimes he’s okay with it, sometimes it’s another story. Patara I know I have other problems, more than most people know of, but sometimes divorce isn’t an option. I have to stay alive for my son, at least for 2 more years until he can make a life for himself. After that, only God knows what will happen when I make my way to be happy again. I cried through this whole video because it felt like you were talking directly to me. Okay, enough crying, gotta get back to work. Thank you Patara, love ya ❤. Lorie 😢
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I understand
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I just dont understand people. Last year I was completely overwhelmed, full of fear and anxiety. I prepped HARD!!! My husband was amazing! He said hey, if it makes you feel better! He tilled me up another garden plot & was right there with me. This year has been the same!! We are a TEAM!!! 35+ years! Hes the absolute best ❤❤❤
Also, Patara, the women who have to ask their husband for money are the ones we should be praying for.
My wife and I have been married 33 years. There are two monies in a successful marriage, ours and hers. She doesn't need permission to spend either.
Yes I do agree with you I am a stay at home mom trying to prepare to the best that I can and I deal with a lot this mommy needs prayers thank you
Ouuu weeee no way I watched my older cousin give her paychecks to her ex husband no way
We found Keystone Brand meats at our local Walmart! Turkey, beef, chicken and ground beef. They have an expiration of 2028 and all have two ingredients: the meat and sea salt. They are minimally processed and a product of the USA. Perfect for preps!!!
Lucky you! I have looked at my Walmart over and over but no such luck.
Just ate my first canned keystone hamburger last night! Absolutely delicious!!!❤❤❤
Left my narcissist ex 3 years ago. Always getting on my case about buying too much food and too much stuff. Stuff to make a house run. Not clothes and makeup. Now I’m going to have to let my boyfriend go. He’s super nice but not interested in homesteading and prepping either.
Just me and the kids are on board. ❤
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My husband and i were pretty close in our preperations. I felt the need to do more. With or without him. I used to say it was OUR LIFE INSURANCE. We were NOT going to do without. He agreed and hugged me when i told him this. He's gone almost two years now. And I'm trying to keep on going as best i can. I miss him!
Likewise with me, miss him, but keep doing as much as possible. HUGS
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He was nonsupportive of my preparations for emergencies and I kept on going. No longer have to defend my reasoning
The older I get (just turned 65) the more independent I feel. I am pinching pennies and paying off my bills so I can move to a 30 acre parcel of family land in West Virginia that no one has touched for 80 years. I believe in my heart and the core of my soul that I can do this on my own. I have told my children and grandchildren that they are welcome any time. I also believe that Mr. Right with my same values and drive may be in my future there. I can't keep sitting around waiting for the rest of my family to join me in this journey of self reliance. I got this!
yes you do!..
My ex spouse and some family and friends think they make enough money that they don’t have to worry about prepping. 😂😂😂😂😂
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Yes, I am laughing so hard. I’m ready to fall off my chair.
CLUELESS
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My ex did not like for me to have too much extra food stored. I divorced him. He lost his home and his job. Now, he hitchhikes and panhandles down the main road that I drive to run errands and take care of business.
These days I have a new husband and he laughs when we see my ex hitchhiking and panhandling on the main road.
😂sounds like someone I know
I was told my priorities were out of whack for years. She finally started paying attention when l@ckdowns came along and I told her the ingredients in that jibbyjabby. The shock of reality hasn’t worn off yet because new stuff happens every day. Prayer and standing firm works.
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Everything you spoke about, is exactly why I fired my wife 12 years ago, and have been single ever since.
I'm a 72 year old man. When I started to talk about starting to prep, it scared my wife, but after many conversations explaining what was going on and how we needed to get ahead of things she understood and got behind me supporting my every effort. I bought a dehydrator, a vacuum sealer and an Instapot Max so we could pressure can as well as have the ability to slow cook etc. I started to learn about pressure can and we are doing well with it. Our pantry has grown and is growing larger all the time now. I have learned a lot from your videos as well as keeping up on news. Keep it up Patera, we need your encouragement, you fo it well!
Hey, Just finished a ten book series by Glen Tate called " 299 Days" I recommend these books to everyone. On the level of "one second after" series, except the story takes you through a financial collapse in the U.S I have it on audiobook , Hubby started listening and it blew his mind . He never bothered me about my prepping but did not participate. Last night he asked me to make a list of projects that he can do to help 😊 He knew that the world hasn't been right for a long time, thats why he never minded my preparing, Now, I see a change in him and I am so thankful. Takes alot of the stress off of me.
U R blessed. ❤you be u
I’ll download the audiobook. I keep hearing references to this. Thanks for the recommendation!
I read those too
My wife and I were always on the same page. We gardened and canned together, built greenhouses and henhouses, and put away for hard times. Our parents lived through the great depression and we were both raised with that.
She died 8 years ago and left before she got to see her twin grandlittles. I was able to take care of her here at home for a year before she passed, and since that time I have worked to make sure that the littles will be okay. She would expect me to do as such.
People can be hateful. I can't understand abusive, at all. My heart goes out to folks who feel like they have to endure that.
Well, coming from a household that my Spouse does not support the idea of preping. It's you still prep no matter what.
When covid hit and inlaws came banging on the door and needed things. Well, he turned and looked at me. I gave them a few things and told them this is why you prepare and have extra. Everyone looked at me crazy I said well if I did not prepare and was not able to hand you that Tp to wipe your butt what was you going to do? The death grave yard silence was great. I said if you dont help your self don't expect others to help you.
My husband did not say anything else on my preping.
But I learned that you got to stand up for what you know is right thing to do even if you stand alone.
I still prepare. Without his support yes it is harder but still doable.
Shop where it's cheap get those sales.
Proud of you.
Thank you Patara. I am alone so it can be difficult. I prep for my great grandkids. Their parents are not to concerned and my daughter and her husband aren’t either. So I prep because I know the day will come when they will need it. Blessings to all 🙏🙏🙏
It's our grandkids that we are prepping for also.
Yes, I feel horribly codependent but I make sure my grandkids are prepped to the max - even if they have partners that smoke pot and watch TV all day while they work. It makes no sense to me, but there's nothing I can do about that. Except pray pray pray
Know your prayers count!!! I called my great grandma when I can to know Christ ( age 25-43 years ago) She and my great Aunt Millie began to cry on the other end saying they had been praying for my branch of the family for over 50 years!!! Someday we will pass; but our prayers tge word says go before the throne as incense forever. This causes me to pray mightily for all my grandkids and those still yet to be born!
Staying single avoids all the headaches. Ergo, you don't have to stock up on aspirin.
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Until about a month ago my family just kind of looked at me sideways. We started watching where Hurricane Idalia was & projected path. They started making lists of things we would need & I started checking them off as not needed. Idalia passed us by but they are now pitching in to get things done, gardens set up, helping prep for canning projects. It's a blessing & I'm thankful they understand a bit better now & are wanting to learn more skills.
Blessed & busy 💕
“…she’s in denial because she’s afraid.” Yes! I can relate on occasion! But, nevertheless, I’m pressing ahead to prep my family.
Patera, my husband passed 23 years ago and I’ve had to prepare on my own, for my adult daughters and grandchildren. My daughter was struggling while on maternity leave just weeks ago and I was able to go into my prepper pantry and basically grocery shop for the family and my grandchildren because I stock up on food my grandchildren eat. That’s my priority. Had I not been prepared, the money would’ve come out of my pocket. I can easily replace the items I took from my pantry. It’s so so so important to be prepared, even for every day life situations.
You are a wonderful mother and grandmother!❤
Are they doing anything on their on after you helped them?
My wife is aware of being prepared, but doesn't get involved with it. I alone do all the prepping and storing food items. She just leaves it all to me and doesn't disagree with anything I'm doing and I'm okay with that. I try to watch all of your videos Patera. Love what you're doing sister.
I remember a comment on this topic months ago ( but not where it was...sigh...) , where one spouse wasn't supportive of the other's prepping , but came around after losing their job , when there was still food to eat from the prepper's pantry ! Funny how that works...
My husband and kids used to get upset because I was stocking up so much and I had tons of cans, bags of 50 pound rice, beans, pounds and pounds of sugar, salt, spices, coffee, toilet paper, toothpaste, Lysol, bleach, dish and laundry soap everywhere. I am Mexican and I follow the news in Spain, Latin America, and Europe, and I knew that the bug was going to come to the US. I told them that I was doing it for them and that it would be better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it.
And I started showing them the information and they started to realize what was going to happen.
So once the madness started in this country, they thanked me for doing it and since then, they support me and they are taking care of the garden.❤❤❤
My husband passed in January 2022 of that thing. He was always so supportive of prepping and foraging. I miss him so much. Thankfully our son and his wife live in our home. My son is onboard. His wife is along for the ride. That's ok. We pray for her.
I’m so sorry!
My husband gave me some push back at first but I had him watch some of your videos and southern prepped one. He started helping after that
It must be a struggle having a spouse, which is why I feel blessed to be single. I am 49, and a happy bachelor.
Me too, only I’m a women
Same here! I'm 47.
I'm 63, never married. Then again, I know me very well, and I don't blame 'em. On the other hand, I've got 2 years worth of food I rotate through, and I don't have to ask permission.
Agreed.
My husband left my son and I in 2003, when my son was only 3 years old. It was hard, but I'd rather be alone than be in constant strife, unhappiness, and worry about unfaithfulness!!! (I heard he has had a couple illegitimate kids since he was with me, although that's not confirmed.)
Mejor sola que mal acompanada!
Better to be alone than in bad company!
Started getting ready 11 years ago. Whole family made fun of me. I would buy back-ups to back-ups and just say "ya never know". They have changed with in the last 3 years. Everyone's on board and helping out. My problem is MIL and others that think I'll take care of them,while they still do nothing.
I told the few that thought that, if you plan on showing up empty handed, don't bother showing up. I am preparing for me and mine, not them & theirs.
@@Tambrylsaid the same thing. Some still think my door is open. Its not.
I absolutely will not take food out of my children's/ grandchildrens mouth to feed a lazy bum knocking on my door. Every one has the same chance and time we do to prepare, maybe on a different level, but still able.
The statement “we know where to go” or “I’m coming to your house” irritate me. I have been blunt when I say “You better bring something to the table” I even told my pastors wife (they have 6 children) “No you won’t, you have been warned to prepare”.
@@Omangalloagreed
It is so true. Hubby started first and did it on lowdown. It was funny, but when we both started doing the preparing, we hit warp speed. We got debtfree back in 2017 because I started traveling as a Med Tech and do not want to work 24/7. We traveled with work until 2021 in a rv because it was way cheaper. I made stupid money doing the travel job. God has been leading us around the country and into our homestead now. Thank God everyday for his guidance and my hubby too.
Again with the timing! I JUST came into the garage before letting my flesh get the best of me after discussing with my beloved non-believer.
I’ll pray for you and your beloved unbeliever, and you pray for me and mine? 🙌🏽🙏🏽
Prayers for all of you
When I 1st started prepping, my husband was not happy . Now he understands and helps with prepping now.
Canning venison stuffed peppers today. You inspired me to can at least 4 qts of something every Saturday. Thank you Sister!
Just put up the last of our peppers from our garden about a half hour ago. Keep on keeping on ❤
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My spouse got me started on prepping. He has since passed away. Im so thankful for his foresight!
Mine don't prep but he goes to the store for me and gets what I tell him to get! He's a good man and sweet and kind. He just smiles at me 😊 and he doesn't care what I spend
You are a very blessed woman to have your James. The world needs more like him.
I am so thankful that my husband realized groceries were going up. I tell him prices and show grocery receipts. He was astonished that his fav bread was $5 a loaf. He is on board, yeah!
Spent $80 on OTC MEDS yesterday, he was good with it.
After reading all these comments I am realizing just how blessed I am. My husband just constructed two additions to our storage building and is starting on the greenhouse. He set up solar panels with a generator. This man is 69, but works harder that guys half his age. He always has a project and supports all of my shopping for our family. I guess he's a lot like James.
Beautiful.
My two grown kids prefer that I don’t “fear-monger”. I gave them facts, videos, research, information. My husband and I, (73 & 68), rely on ourselves. We do not look towards the kids for any help in the future & they will get none from us. They & their spouses got the arm candy & could not understand why people were reluctant. I’ve lost 2 friends, and another one is in deteriorating health…all because they got the s**t and the b**s**r. They didn’t listen either. It can be heartbreaking, but you have to let them go. They’ll do what they will. We will be okay here.
My husband is a very fit 77 year old. Last year he dug up a 20’ x 20’ garden plot by hand at his sister’s property so we could grow more of our own food. We have our own garden but felt we needed more and lacked the space. He looks after the dehydrating, and helps with all the canning. We are so blessed to still be able to help family and friends, and with his help with the work load we may be able to continue for some years to come. It’s been a wonderful life we’ve had together!
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Exactly!!! Mamas protect babies.
A heavy package came in the mail today. I asked hubby what it was. Big bags of rice & several boxes of orzo. He also had me order Thieves & frankincense oil today. Very thankful.
Prayers for all!!
I have a so-called boyfriend. I am 65 my husband passed 7 years ago. I am doing what is good for me. I loved your video that said we owe nobody anything. If he is not prepared, it is not up to me. I live alone and do all I can to prepare. I have 3 grown daughters and I am sorry I am not bat crap crazy.. I will give them if SHTF one brown paper grocery store bag of food. a 4 roll pkg of tp. then they are on their own. DONT come back. I hear all the time mom it is just you. How much do you need? I need till I feel I need no more. I am on SS as my only income. Yes I would like to get a pizza BUT that 20$ will buy me more for long term than 1 pizza will. Keep Prepping and do what is right for you.
There's no abuse here. There's not even any push back/disagreement. My husband has been going through something physically that I can't get to the bottom of, and whatever it is, it's all he can do to get through each day/week of working long hours. We have sought help from doctors--all they do is throw pharmaceuticals at him. We are now going to a homeopath who is running tests. One more test to go. We are doing our level best to help him. I feel sure he would help me more if he had some pep. And truly, I need him! I've told him so. This is bringing me to tears!😢
I know I was blessed to have a grandma that keep a pantry stocked. Never canned in her life but made sure that the pantry was full for anyone in family that needed it.
Mr. Mac found my prepping humorous. I put him in charge of groceries, and he gets it now.
Excellent!
My four year old granddaughter has helped me seed save. I sent her home with seeds, including cosmos, marigolds, zinnias, and some miscellaneous flower seeds to plant next spring. I made a big pot of taco soup and corn bread, which I am eating as I take a break with you. Keep us on track. We must do the best we can. Thanks. ❤❤❤
Let your spouse listen to the audiobook one second after. They become a believer real quick. At least mine did.
The Audiobook?
That's a great book.
Also atlas shrugs. You would think it was written recently.
He won’t listen!
It changed my husbands perspective and he began telling his friends about it. Then he read the actual EMP report and got 100% onboard.
Im lucky my spouse is on board. He's driving the prepping ship
Agreed! I coupon, shop sales, try to cook ahead so leftovers are easy lunches for work, as well as can and freeze things. I have converted my spare room into an extra storage area, especially the closet! My 19 year old is totally on board! She is loving the homecooked meals, and realizes how important prepping and stability are. I've been trying to really hit it home with her that you try to buy when it is on sale, not wait until it is gone and needed. Another great resource for preps is thrift stores and marketplace! I recently scored 2 GIANT bags of clothes I got on marketplace- the girl only wanted $4 for it and I went with the mindset of "If we cannot use it, well donate it and pay it forward." Turns out she was my daughters' exact size and the clothes were really great quality name brand stuff. I gave her a $20 which she finally accepted after I talked her into it. She even gave us a super nice nightstand that my daughter immediately fell in love with and has by her bedside. It took her 2 weeks to organize and sort and try on all the clothes. Very few didnt fit. She then sorted through her clothes and we donated them to charity to help others. All this to say, as a single mom, I have learned to be resourceful, prepare, manage money, teach my children the same and bless others. Keep on prepping and looking ahead!
Organizing my big pantry while watching this. Hubby totally on board with me doing this (yes, its all on me) but not getting any grief.
My husband is “not on board” but he buys me more jars. Lol, and he asks me to can more. And helps pick, prep, mix and can. Now that we are grandparents he is especially concerned our grandkids and kids have enough
At my local market today I found small heads of broccoli that seemed wonderful to me on the "end cap" for .79 a head! Grabbed them all and at home I blanched and vacuum sealed them. I have 8 bags tucked away in the freezer. I'm always on the prowl for food deals...lol.
Me too. I'm a bargain shopper. I like to get the biggest bang for my buck.
Retired old fart here. I've paid things off and now trying to concentrate on items I may need in the future and skills I may need.
I was SO very discouraged when my hubs called me a "hoarder"; told me I was going "overboard", etc. He would tell his friend, over the phone, how I was going "crazy". I kept doing what I could and hiding things.
SOMETHING triggered him recently and he is now telling me I need to stock up (he has NO idea what I've REALLY already tucked away. Thank God he's come to his senses!
He still balks at jarred up meats, though.
Can't wait until my lunch break to listen to this one.
Me too
Oh, my. This brought up so many feelings for me. I can't imagine my husband ever getting in my way over doing something that needed to be done. Early on, we went through several periods of unemployment, and later heard on the news that domestic abuse went up when people were unemployed. For us, those were the times we pulled together the hardest. But we already had food put by and other things taken care of. Maybe some of these husbands need to have to plan, shop for, and cook meals for the family for a month or more so they start seeing the challenges we are facing already.
Been canning an prepping since last year. Hes wanting to Leave
Sianara get puta my way we have 2 kids that Come 1st one non verbal autistic. I will Do whatever i have to do to make things work.
Mine wasn’t on board,
Was emotionally, spiritually abusive…. I ended it!
I am very lucky that when my hubby retired from military and got a great corporate job. He said one time that he made enough money to buy whatever he wanted. I showed him the numbers real quick and he decided that was not a good attitude to have. Married 24 years hunkering down together to see what comes our way. Pantry always getting restocked as we use items and hunting season starting soon to restock freezer. 😊
My husband no longer tries to limit my prepping and has even started to contribute.
Good change.
My husband isn’t against our prepping, he just doesn't quite feel the urgency I do. Bought some spaghetti noodles, he asked didn’t we just buy some, don't we have enough? My answer is always NO, we don't have enough.
I ordered 4 cans of Keystone beef, he asked what I ordered, STUFF 😅
My husband originally laughed at my prepping but now he's onboard. ( it took awhile)
Patara, I'm looking forward to seeing more goat babies! They are so cute. I'm blessed and thankful my husband is on board with preparing. My prayers go out to couples who are in discord. Many blessing to you and yours.
My spouse helps, often bringing home boxes of farm produce as I am trying to can a ton of stuff from the garden. As potentially overwhelming as it is I am proud of his willingness to help! Wondering now if we did enough. Will start canning what is in the freezer now that it’s cooling off and the windows can stay open. Never know if the electricity will stay on.
Hey patera, me and my spouse just walked a 5k with our get home bags on her back. You really inspire me to keep getting better each day
Hopefully you meant on "our" back. Lol! You Rock!
my grandma's pantry looked like a small store
She's a smart lady!
If your spouse puts you down for preparing, you can be sure they will want more than their share when what you have carefully put by becomes impossible to buy.
My husband was not on board in the beginning, but now he is okay with it and has even told me thank you, for thinking of us and our family. He's going to build me new shelves in my walk in pantry. And he wasn't thrilled about me starting a container garden either in the beginning, but now he checks it out.
Love never fails. Keep loving your husband and praying for him. Don’t leave him. Blessings!
Liquid gold right there! You look beautiful my Tennessee friend! We’re working on a hot water heater and my dryer that’s over 30 years old. I don’t want a new one, nor can afford one. I like my old dryer. These new ones don’t last. My SIL called GE and they told her that they now just make them to last 7 years!!! I’ve been hanging my laundry out on the fence and I love it. Pushing hubby to install some sturdy clothes lines. I’ve got me a washboard. I’m ready for laundry apocalypse!😂
My husband is pretty much on board, but fusses a little because I refuse to let something I can put back go to ruin. We’ve been married 46 years and I’m a redhead, need I say more!😅
My husband doesn't really say anything, but he pays the bills and doesn't say anything about it, he loves hearing the pings of my canning. He will even get extra things from sams.
THE HUSBANDS should be THRILLED that you are buying food and household items FOR THE FAMILY and NOT blowing the budget on jewelry, purses, shoes, plastic fingernails, lunch with the girls, hair appointments, perfumes, house decorations, collections, hobbies, crafting, concert tickets, movie tickets, fake eyelashes, makeup, botox, hairspray, fashion, etc etc etc. THESE HUSBAND ARE BLESSED WITH DILIGENT WIVES AND DON'T REALIZE HOW GOOD THEY HAVE IT.
It helps when you are both Christians who follow the holy spirits direction. We may not always hear the same thing but when I say honey I am feeling led to start ........he listens. If I have good reasons he supports my efforts. God will always see you through if you follw his direction. we just celebrated our 40 year anniversary....he is a keeper.😊
I am not married. I am caring for my 93 year young mother. Two MIA siblings. Friends and family think I am crazy for canning and stocking. My ducks are just fine. 🥰🥰🥰🤗
Mine said I’m crazy, going down an unhealthy path, I’ve changed, am a super Christian, conspiracy theorist, Bible thumper and he’s not going along with it. So, I’m in the middle of a divorce. Prepping with God always and forever. God has got me and my kids.
Hey thats me here in Southern France. Watching your videos since over a year, started preparing & hubby agreed (wow!) byt never helps & now a year after is wondering why I’m still prepping! DryIng herbs,toms,peppers,carrots etc in our 35^ plus-heat since a month ago; canning what i can, doing the veggie patch, trying-to ferment veggies etc etc etc! & hubby watching Rugby World cup, Darts, Horse racing etc!!! Getting @ bit tired of it all but I’m doing it for our kids & Grand kids xx keep going & I’ll keep watching, God Bless xxx
Blessings on you!
Timely video Patera keep the encouragement.
Keep on
Blessings
When I first started my foraging and pantry food and all this, my husband was just humoring me. Now he's helping and building and supporting all I've been doing. When i wanted to build pallet raised beds, he jumped in to help, he forages with me and when we go shopping, he grabs a few extra cans! He's been great now that he realizes that we need to do this. He even put up shelves in the garage for me to store some of my canning! Thanks Patera!
Way too much of the time a spouse who is not happy with you targets the children who are weaker They do it and it isn't just being abusive to you that is intolerable.
Be proactive and do the right things for yourself and the children
Today is Saturday got vegetable soup going in the crockpot and getting ready to be canning apples today. My husband and I have been separated for years now I live by myself I keep putting food back when I can have been canning everything all summer. Dehydrating everything as well My kids think I'm crazy all they want to do is live for the here and now not thinking about what is to come. So I'll just let them be but when things get bad enough watch them come knocking at my door with their kids. So sad people are not waking up. Hope you all have a good weekend and God bless ❤
I love seeing your husband and you together. You’re such a great team. My husband makes fun of me. He says I’m crazy waiting on the bomb to drop. I don’t feel safe. This is a timely word from the Lord through you. I prep anyway. I use my own money. I work the garden. I can. He doesn’t do it with me. He does plow the garden. But I do the planting, tilling, weeding and harvesting. My kids help me when they can. They’re in college away from home now but they really helped me out this summer!
I am glad I listened to my inner self instead of the people around me. Thursday my right side of my face went numb thought I was having a stroke. Got to the emergency room and they did all the testing thank the lord it wasn't a stroke but I have a severe case of bells palsy. My right eye won't go close so I have to wear a eye patch and put drops in it. I don't want any one to feel sorry for me but I had to call off work then go on Monday to get a doctor's excuse to go back to work but won't be going back until I see him on the 26th my point is if I didn't get prepared like I did I would be worrying about food for me, my dog, my cat and my chickens but now I can just stay home and concentrate on getting better and doing little things here and there to get ready for my last show in October. I know I have a long road to getting better but I can do it. Everybody just be safe and get ready for what may happen.
My husband is a flaming liberal. I think I was a moderate Democrat when we met. Since then I’ve gone more to the right and husband hasn’t changed. It’s been a struggle for sure. He believes completely in government
Tell him nicely or jokingly that when things go south, he'll have to defend for himself. Look how the government to care of the people in Bengasi, Afghanistan, Hawaii and the people in Texas when they had the power outage.
Be gentle.
@@garyfrost8166 and Ohio/Pennsylvania train wreck in river
oh how i wish i could find a like minded prepper woman what a blessing she would be in my life
I was alone. I joined a prepping group in 2020. I fell in December 2021 and had medical complications. I could not grocery shop for most of 2022.
I learned that my older drug addict sister who is my closest relative put a DNR in my medical records. A male friend had similar issues so we teamed up. My closest relative is now my male friend who is now my husband. My spouse was prepping just like I was so we combined our supplies. My spouse was raised by a single mother that had him late in life who sold eggs and in tough times he only had one hard boiled egg every day. My spouse had to go scrounging for coal for him and his mother to have heat in the winter when he was a child.
He has been expanding our security and making lists. We are going on a road trip to GFS next week for more food and supplies. We are working together. I have been working on starting fruit seeds using cold stratification techniques.
Yeah. I married a great friend.