I literally had someone tell me; “you’ll never be a woman, you’ll always be a man”. As a trans man, it was very affirming and really funny. You tried lol.
That's the thing, they just don't want you challenging the assumptions on how things "should" be. Being an 'unlabelled' norm is the way their cultural hegemony is maintained.
@@Kai_The_Kai Sounds pretty normal to me! (trans, arospec, acespec, prob autistic, Depression, and Anxiety) We will overthrow societal assumptions together (:
This reminds me of how when I was younger, I complained to my dad that my family wasn't 'normal', and he turned around and said "No one is normal." idk if he remembers that, but it kind of just completely shifted my entire outlook and made me realize that 'normal' is highly subjective so what's normal for one person won't be normal for someone else. Made me really stop comparing my life to everyone else and led to me not bothering to try and 'fit in' anywhere and just be myself. And 'myself' is an aroace demiguy :P
I had to keep from writing that as a reply to someone in a comment chain on a different channel this morning. 🙄🤣 (The *only* reason I didn't was because I genuinely try not to be rude in YT comments - there's enough of that. My only exception is if I see bullying/hateful/toxic/abusive things go unchecked and/or ignored by YT - then I call it out.) But it was *very* tempting.
Same honestly- And then I internally laugh at myself for quoting that, and now this comment shall add to my internal laughing that I struggle to keep inside from those accidental allies-
Before I came out as transmasc I was at a restaurant feeling a little self conscious because I was wearing what I thought looked like a pretty girly outfit, had to use the bathroom, (which was a single stall) and was confused because it looked like a closet and starting to shut down mentally because I was getting only vague instructions from family making things worse, then comes over a little old lady and her husband at the table next to ours and says “no, the mens room is over on the other side” I felt pretty good about it
"Historians will identify your bones as a MAN or a WOMAN" I saw this story on Tumblr about someone who went to a museum and an exhibit had a mummy. The people who put the exhibit had been confused because, while "generically identified" as a woman, the person had been buried with a traditionally-male ceremony (I don't know the specifics but-), and the museum had decided that the Egyptians had messed up the burial somehow... instead of the logical leap that the person may have presented as a different gender and they were respected for that even after death. But nooo, a society whose entire death culture was very, very important messed something up.
I've heard about that! There's also a Viking age person who was buried in the manner of a woman with women's clothing and had physical male characteristics. A recent study also discovered that the person was also intersex! Also the whole sexing of skeletons is a lot less cut and dry than people think. There's a lot of variation and when a skeleton doesn't catagorize nicely into male or female archeologists are often encouraged to just pick one.
@@kepler3.14 There's also quite a few viking warrior graves that used to be considered to be for men, but DNA testing showed that the people buried in them were women biologically. Maybe they were trans men, maybe they were female warriors, and I like both of those possibilities.
Yeah trans people existed in ancient Babylon (and many other ancient societies), Loki was genderfluid, being gay is theoretically older than human intelligence, and gender was made up by some random guy in Babylon
So during work I’m watching this and a regular came in and I’m ftm who just started presenting more and I’m DYING! HES ONE OF THE ONES WHO ALWAYS CALLED ME SWEETY AND GIRL AND STUFF BUT THIS IS THE FIRST TIME SINCE THE HAIRCUT AND HE IMMEDIATELY SWAPPED TO BRO AND DUDE AND BROTHER AND IM MELTING
My twin just came out of their room to see what I was laughing about and I wheezed “everyone is non-binary now” They just tiredly looked at me and went “yep” and walked away while I continued my mad cackling
My friend once said to me "I'm not cis, im normal gender" when me and my other friend were discussing gender. I tried to explain to her what cis means but she said "no. I'm not cis. Im normal" I personally thought it was quite funny
@@khunt5336 maybe just really confused. some people hate the idea of being in a "box", so they don´t want anything added to what they have said they are for years. Like: I am a woman, the end.
@@oceanmythjormundgandr3891 it just seems like in this context, wanting to insist that youre normal usually comes with an unspoken "unlike those OTHER people" and someone who wants to otherize people that way might be a bit 😬😬😬 of course this person (especially if they're young) might not realize this is what they're implying and simply need time to learn and understand, but i would personally feel wary around someone who says something like that.
@@ioneoval7668 A fact based on what? Your personal opinion? Your lack of compassion that is replaced by an obsessive need to control and bud into the lives of others that aren't harming anyone else? Or your apparent lack of understanding that transgenderism and the concept of seeing gender as a psychological component rather than a physical (because that's what it is, actually) isn't a new thing, we just stopped killing and torturing people over it now that we are trying to move past the horrible ways the abrahamic religions have impacted our society? On what basis did you conclude that OP or anyone else here for that matter lack critical thinking, which you see as a fact? This is a genuine question.
@@strawberryfox8819 Why would I have compassion for lies? Gender doesn't exist only biological sex does therefore transgenderism doesn't exist. Transexual people cannot make a real transition with the technology available at this moment therefore their name is also incorrect.
Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food, destroy gender norms (or don't if you like fittin them, or do if you don't like the pressure but still enjoy them), drink water and get sleep. Help uplift your fellows, it'll make us all stronger (:
I’m a 17yr old cis girl with an androgynous figure (small chest, masculine facial features, body hair, etc.) and I dress in a very neutral way (shapeless green shirt, cargo pants etc.). In one of my TikTok bios I put my pronouns as she/her and I only had a few vids, none of which did I look feminine in. One time I got in a small argument with a guy in someone else’s comment section, he was insulting someone and was using poor grammar so I corrected it and told him to stop making fun of people, his response was to tell me to “stop trying to change your gender, you will never be a real girl! You will always be a boy!”... I informed him that I was not trans I am a cis afab girl, to which he replied with “Well you don’t look like one!”. He got so mad over the fact that not all girls are feminine. It made me sad when I checked his bio and he had a cross and scripture and he claimed to be a Christian, while being openly transphobic. The best part was that I am also a Christian, so he was unknowingly being transphobic towards a cisgender Christian girl. I do worry about what that guy says to people who are actually trans :(
It's insane how often they will try to excuse their transphobia by saying they want to protect """real""" women, and then end up hurting the people they claim to care about.
Gross, I hate ppl like that. I hope that dude gets cancelled, don't care if he's a content creator or not, he should b cancelled. And I wish I looked more androgynous, as a nonbinary I envy u, girl
Silly transphobe! You don't have to look stereotypically feminine to be a cis girl! I'm glad you're happy with the way you are, no matter what silly people think.
@@starrywizdom I love the response "Silly transphobe!" and am definitely going to steal it. Imagining saying that to silly transphobes takes their power away and makes me feel lighter. Cuz that's all they are. They are silly. And they don't deserve my energy.
Having a physical disability, and even some neurological disabilities, is a minority that anyone can join at any time. So if you don't want to be able-bodied, that can be arranged...
I encountered the "gender is a religion and doesn't physically exist" argument recently, and pondered whether I was dealing with a clueless non-binary egg or a cis person who takes their cisness for granted.
When I first heard of others using they as a pronoun, I actually thought it was multiple people in one body. Then I learned (through elementary school) that it can also be used to refer to a singular person. I now use they/them for myself. So am I saying that people who hate on others who use they/them haven't moved on from pre-elementary school education levels? Yes, yes I am.
I think the first time I got accidentally validated was during the pandemic. I was working in the elderly home, like usually, but with a mask. And some old man said I was a "good lass". This was before I actually started questioning my gender identity, but in hindsight... It made me really happy. After that, he did ask "or are you a lad?" because he was old, and I have kinda long hair for a guy, so I understand someone of his age mistaking someone with half their face covered and long hair for a girl. I told him I am a guy but that it was fine. I appreciated the intention of him saying I was doing a good job.
4:25 as a transformers fan, this is even funnier than you think. Transformers, especially in the comics, do not have genders because they are robots. The comics actually brought in a big queer fan base due to the many gay relationships (most transformers are male after all) and other representation in them. And if you’re just going by the movies, Optimus Prime is the one who said “Freedom is the right of all sentient beings” which explicitly means he doesn’t care who you are or what you are because you deserve freedom as a sentient being. The decepticon’s whole thing is that they don’t see us as equals and want to enslave/destroy all humans because of this, and so you could say Optimus Prime and the Autobots fight for equal rights It’s just several layers of irony, and transformers was only used because “big truck robot manly!” without thinking of the implications of what the Autobots are even fighting for.
I love every single one of these videos! As a genderfluid omnisexual I love everything about this. I feel so validated and safe watching your videos! Thank you so much! Edit: Wow 217 likes? Thanks guys!
@@beyedoc It means that you like any and all people, but gender still plays a part, whether it being more attracted to one gender than another, or havibg certain things about certain genders making you feel different ways. Though a lot of people just say bi, because bi is an umbrella term, in which pan, omni, and poly fall under. Very similar to the old "all rectangles are squares, not all squares are rectangles" kinda deal. Hope this helps!
Omnisexual? Oh FFS. At first I thought I was bi, then I thought I was pan, now I need to start wondering if I'm actually omni. When does the existential crisis end? I thought pan would be the final stop for me.
@@sndragonfan7257 Thanks! I figured it was similar to bi and pan just each having different nuances. I finally learned and understood that I am asexual 2 years ago in my 30s because of the lack of education about queer identities and because, in my opinion, it can be harder to identify feeling similarly about people of multiple genders than identifying as strictly homo or hetero. I do experience romantic attraction (which is why I falsely assumed I couldn't be asexual) and choose not to label that as anything other than "not aromantic" because I do think my feelings are fluid and more based on emotional and spiritual connection than on sexual and physical attraction. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question.
I love watching these accidental ally videos, I was raised in a very transphobic, homophobic, and racist christian household, and as such when I was younger, I was a really shitty person. I’m happy to say I’ve changed, and I’m actually a pansexual transgirl. It makes me so happy to know that even if it’s accidental, people are still getting validated, even from those who seek the opposite. I love all of my lgbtq family.
As someone in an osdd system (and is nonbinary) i find the “plurality” argument absolutely wonderful in an evil satisfaction kind of way. They have no idea what theyre signing up for.....
I was just thinking about this the other day, how hilarious that interaction would be. "Actually, no, it is plural. We contain multitudes, sir." deadpan delivery, time how long it takes for the confusion to hit...
@@perhapsahedgehog5274 I've considered using the royal we just as an extra bit of spice for people who dislike they/them. Like I'll just use all the singular plurals to really make a point lol. Also I already mostly use we when referring to myself in my head because most of the time I'm having a conversation with myself.
6:44 “And you can make babies!” Trans people in gay relationships with Cis partners would like a word. Also any Cis gay couples who have used a donor or surrogate. Potentially also any adopted kids.
I just have to say; as someone who has Dissociative Identity Disorder and uses they/them collectively to refer to the 13 alters I have, the people who are confused about "people who are more than one person" has me rolling on the floor laughing.
I don’t have DID, but I have two friends who have it, and honestly with that one I was dying internally because I’ve heard my friends refer to themselves as multiple people before, since they have alters and all.
Hearing “They/Them” used as pronouns can sound odd when you first hear it, took me a while to get used to they/them being used as pronouns personally, but like anything from taking a different route to work to patches changing how you do something in a game, you can get used to it. Besides, is it really that hard to not be a complete jerk to people who just ask for a different pronoun? Edit: Today I learned, singular they/them predates singular you so that’s neat.
singular they/them in every language predates singular he/him and she/her. look at shakespeare!! Thine, thou, thoust?? Those are all THEY roots! Incredible stuff, isn't it?
I still think adopting a singular non-binary pronoun is a good thing though. Like a lot other languages have them. It'll prevent ambiguity and/or confusion. And it'll call the bluff of the people that say they/their can't be used as singular pronoun. Like if you file a police report of a crime and you go "they ransacked my home!"
@@NegaTheImpmon9508 I thought those were "you" not "they". The times I remember reading those in Shakespeare, it was a line from one person talking directly to the other. Yeah, just checked it up. Merriam Webster: Definition of thou (Entry 1 of 3) archaic : the one addressed thou shalt have no other gods before me - compare THEE, THINE, THY, YE, YOU
I posted this in a comment on JammiDodger's channel too, but I like it so here goes. My favorite case of accidental allyship was a coworker who was, while mocking a very feminine but male presenting (and still closeted) coworker, using a feminized version of her name. Some months later, she came out as trans and started officially using that name. The joke's on you, dude...you were using her preferred name and pronouns all along in an attempt to belittle her!
...and then I imagine that coworker pivoted to insisting on using their deadname out of spite and declaring that gender is just a immutable biological reality, because that's how these people tend to roll.
I've had a really bad day in which multiple people told me the way I'm living my life is wrong, so thank you for always being wholesome, awesome, /extremely/ kind you. You always make me feel better.
The "they/them can't be used as a singular pronoune" thing is such a huge fight! In my country there are languages that use "plural pronouns" to indicate one person.
If you address someone in plural second pronoun in my language, it means you're being very polite xD Nowadays I think it's only used for customers by clerks/waiters, towards old people or towards like, the president :'D
I never got the argument for it in English either as they is used in writing when you don't know the character's gender. It's not just for plural but individual also. The only difference now is we usually know the person's gender and they're still a they/them. That's the only change. I guess many people failed their creative writing courses. Edit; typo. Edit2: and also likely failed their English classes too since as one of the people in the video says it is also grammar.
@@elieli2893As a french speaker, I always thought it was totally normal to use the second plural person for a single person if I want to be polite. Until I learned spanish. To be polite to someone, you use the THIRD person (singular if you talk to one persone, otherwise plural). In nederlands (another language in my country), you use a special third singular person if you want to be polite to someone (one or more people). In german (last language in my country), you use the third plural person (with a majuscule if you write it) to be polite to someone (one or more people). Morality: politeness is brain's death.
Guys, we need to get ot to a 1 Mil after Click And Jamie just did, we can't leave out OT! As a genderfluid pansexual, these viedeos make me laugh and so happy. Also, I still absolutely love the new(ish) intro
I've said it before and might say it again. As much as I LOVE these videos(!) a steady highlight for me is to hear "trans men are men". Knew for quite some years, but only recently came out as trans. So recently, that legal and medical transition didn't quite start yet (though both is on its way). And I cant help to feel like such a fraud sometimes. To my husband, that thought he was marrying a woman 15 years ago (he's supportive and calls me my real name and he now) and to everything else, because can I REALLY be a man, realising late ans with those two giant brothers dangling from my chest? I never questioned that feeling wrong wasn't right. Only when I admitted I felt right. If that makes any sense.
5:59 As an ex-transphobe and someone who now would call themselves agender, I do understand where that person is coming from... I just thought everyone else felt the same as I do.
Pretty sure this is agender and bisexual culture right there, thinking that everyone feels the same as you only to realise "WHAT, MOST PEOPLE DON'T WORK THAT WAY? UNBELIEVABLE"
As a lesbian demi girl in a transphobic household I just want to say I love your videos! Whenever I feel down I just watch one of them and you make me smile with your positive vibes, smiles, and bubbly attitude! I’m not about to tell my family that I’m a demi girl but they do know I’m gay. Only 6 more years until I can leave the unhappiness behind!
In seriousness this all really comes down to a difference in how people use language. Transphobes use the person's starting sex/sex assigned at birth as the primary identifier Non-transphobes use their actual identity As such this kind of misunderstanding is inevitable, because the two sides are using the same words with opposite meanings intended That and transphobes are _really good_ at assuming the wrong thing about anyone they dislike, tend to completely forget trans men exist, and have a shaky at best understanding of all but the most basic grade-school level grammar, biology, history, and sociology, and somehow see that as something to be *proud* of.
I love the logic of "I don't give them even the most basic level of respect a human can give another one, which is human autonomy, even though it literally doesn't affect me at all in any level and isn't even something hard to do at all for us, but on the other hand can actually lead to severe psychological and emotional trauma for them, but HEY THAT DOESN'T MEAN WE HATE THEM!" like yeah sure ok, of course. Absolutely. God, these people are insufferable.
If we hemmed and hawed about calling them what they wanted to be called and respecting *their* preferences, they'd pitch a Karen fit. "I dunno, 'Barbara,' you don't seem like a foreigner to me---per the Greek root of your name---so I think I'll call you 'Jennifer' instead, cause you're hella white."
I actually had an accidental ally moment yesterday, some transphobe I was arguing with told me I’m not a girl and would only use it/it’s to refer to me I’m (afab) nonbinary and it/it’s are my preferred pronoun, this random internet troll did better than my family lol (Hey also if anyone needs some extra gender euphoria lmk and I can give you masculine/feminine/androgynous/other complements)
That's awesome! Can I have some compliments in an it/he/they transmasc "that's not a human! That's an inhuman monster! Still gonna call it a funky little guy tho" kind of way Also, you rock, my fellow little person-shaped woodland creature
@@t-dude352 Yeah, it/its is often used by transphobes as an insult. But some NB (myself included) use it/its as their actual pronoun. It's always safe to ask pronouns first so you don't offend the person.
The one about "forging yourself a gender" just makes me think of writing a cool fantasy novel about an agender person who couldn't forge a gender and their journey of learning from different kinds of gender and realising they're alright without one
Haha, just imagining myself, starting work on like three different genders and never bothering to finish any of them... And why the hell is that so like me 😂
A world where dwarven genders are determined/represented not so much by physiology but by the kind of weapon they forge. Like you've got axe dwarves, hammer dwarves, sword dwarves, and then more funky, complicated ones like halberds, falchions, and poleaxes.
I wanna say, while this hopefully can still get lost in the comments, that I used to be so willfully ignorant about the transgender community. I refused to look up anything about it, and didn't understand how they felt. At some point I stopped listening to transphobes and TERFs, and then started listening to actual trans people. They went from a hypothetical boogy man, to actual people to me. I learned about the struggles, from getting gender affirming surgery, to just having people use the right name, and even far worse for the unfortunate ones we've lost. Then eventually I found your videos, and I saw that I had a lot in common with trans people thanks to the meme videos. Me and trans men even hated having breasts, and being women, and being referred to as women. Why we both even wish we were born male! And... wait a second. Now my first actual chest binder is coming in tomorrow and I couldn't be more excited. Tldr; I used to be a transphobe, and funny sunglasses man with reddit memes made me realize I'm trans
And here I was about to thank you for being an ally! (Not to say you aren't, just quite a fun read.) When I was a kid, I was surrounded by right wing figures saying trans people were all just pedophiles and perverts doing it for some kind of sexual thrill. I felt more comfortable referring to myself as a woman online but I honestly thought I was "different, I'm not like those perverts." Three years later, a friend of mine comes out as trans and explains what it is, and suddenly my whooooooole outlook on life started changing. Went from homophobic, transphobic, anti-marijuana bible thumping christian jackass to a polyamorous stoner trans satanist. Turns out lying to your children makes them not want to stay in your cult. :p Glad for you though! I'm very happy to see attitudes slowly turning around.
that's something they need to do and they will get it, no matter what you say. no matter what you speak, that won't change their mind. something blindsided folks like you need to understand the fact that trans people are just as human as any straight, gay, or someone in-between. consider getting yourself educated before spreading hate to minorities
15:26 this person literally failed so hard at invalidating OP that they not only validated her, but also gave her the opportunity to sue because that's literally sexual harassment. it's poetic, really.
I love how they say that using they and them as singular pronouns is "grammatically incorrect" and "bad English", like do you even know your own language?
Me sitting here post surgery laughing at accidental ally memes on the internet.... thank you OT for making this painstaking day worth living! If any of you are wondering, i got an exposure for a tooth thats in the roof of my mouth and my wisdom teeth removed... # early 2000's kid
I thought you were talking about bottom surgery for a sec :p Teeth grow in the weirdest places sometimes, I swear. Ever heard of a teratoma? Sometimes they got teeth in em, it's super weirdness.
Funny I see this comment because I've been informed that there's actually a very high chance that I'll die from a dental surgery of my own next month. *DO NOT REPLY TO THIS COMMENT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. NO REPLIES OR HOPE FOR ME ARE NEEDED. SAYONARA FOREVER.*
19:54 this is super wholesome until you have think about that it costs more for a trans person to change their legal name than a straight, divorced lersont
I Googled the lyrics to I Am The Walrus and took out all the pronouns (or at least a lot of them) because I thought it'd sound funny: am as are as are And are all together See how run like pigs from a gun See how fly Am crying Sitting on a corn flake Waiting for the van to come Corporation T-shirt, stupid bloody Tuesday Man have been a naughty boy let face grow long am the egg man are the egg men am the walrus Goo goo g'joob Mister City policeman sitting Pretty little policemen in a row See how fly like Lucy in the sky, see how run Am crying, am crying Am crying, am crying Yellow matter custard Dripping from a dead dog's eye Crabalocker fishwife, pornographic priestess Boy, have been a naughty girl, let knickers down am the egg man are the egg men am the walrus Goo goo g'joob Sitting in an English garden Waiting for the sun If the sun don't come get a tan From standing in the English rain am the egg man (now good sir) are the egg men (a poor man, made tame to fortune's blows) am the walrus Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob (good pity) Expert, texpert choking smokers Don't think the joker laughs at (ho ho ho, hee hee hee, hah hah hah) See how smile like pigs in a sty, see how snide am crying Semolina Pilchard Climbing up the Eiffel tower Elementary penguin singing Hare Krishna Man, should have seen kicking Edgar Allen Poe am the egg man are the egg men am the walrus Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob, goo Joob, joob, jooba Jooba, jooba, jooba Joob, jooba Joob, jooba Umpa, umpa, stick up jumper (jooba, jooba) Umpa, umpa, stick up jumper 's got one (umpa, umpa) 's got one (stick up jumper) 's got one (umpa, umpa) 's got one (stick up jumper) 's got one (umpa, umpa) 's got one (stick up jumper) 's got one (umpa, umpa) 's got one (stick up jumper) 's got one (umpa, umpa) 's got one (stick up jumper) 's got one (umpa, umpa) Slave hast slain Villain, take purse If ever Bury body The letters which though find'st about To Edmund Earl of Gloucester Seek out upon the British Party O untimely death know well A serviceable villain, as duteous to the vices of mistress As badness would desire What, is is dead? Sit down, Father, rest
These videos have been a safespace for me ever since I first discovered your channel. As a trans guy, I very much appreciate this lighthearted perspective and I have learned a lot from you in terms of dealing with transphobic people. I don’t usually post comments like this but since I’m pretty early I thought I’d let you know
I see people on other channels sending trans people that are newer to the realization and insecure allll the time over to this channel. Most of them echo what you just said here.
3:33 If I ever become a mother and my child comes out as trans (let's say MTF, and I only have one kid) I will say "I have no son!" and my husband would probably be like "Hi, a girl. I'm dad" and we'd be super supportive. Edit: I asked my husband what he'd say in that situation and he confirmed it. Apparently in a Discord server he frequents he already does that whenever somebody comes back so it already comes naturally to him.
I needed this video. Right now I feel a lot of dysphoria. I’m not out of the closet so my family is misgender me and deadname me…..Also I cut my hair and my mom don’t like my new haircut (I love it personally but not her) and it’s putting me under a lot of pression. My mother really wanted a girl…..but something messed up with me it’s seems. I really don’t know how to tell them I’m non-binary and I’m scared I will never come out to them (I really want to but I’m scared as hell)
I feel you. My mom wants a stable kiddo and one who has the place of mind to stay alive but I am just not able to give her that for now. You are completely separate from other peoples demands of who and what you are and it’s hard to remember that sometimes
*hugs* That sounds tough. It's hard when other people want you to be something you're not, and fitting into that mold means cutting off bits of yourself so you can squeeze in. I'm sorry you're in that place. I hope you can find people in your life that support you as you are, rather than who they think you ought to be.
You're not messed up. People have preconceived expectations based off their own limited experiences and worldview. Their lifetime of experience, however long, is not long enough to know everything. Their worldview, however open-minded, is not wide enough to encompass everything. You are a part of everything. There's nothing messed up about that.
Despite the fact they find it insane and “my gender is helicopters” is a common joke to them, they are almost running into an actual really cool gender identity which is called “xenogender” which is rare but hang with me here. This is for enby people who find their gender is extremely hard to label and eventually find an existing object like a cat, water, sky, fairy, etc. describes their gender in a very esoteric sense. To be clear, the gender isn’t literally a cat but rather has cat vibes. I know the reaction might be disbelief but since there’s some people who can see sounds and letters as colors and smells, I can’t see why others can see their gender identity as a having potted plant energy. The human brain and existence be weird. So yes transphobia, gender can be like fig or helicopter. Thank you for validating xenogender identity!
@@AnachronisticAstronaut Thank you! I mostly just tell people I'm non-binary ... but my gender is Libramasculine and I also use xenogenders catgender, foxgender, hoodiegender, and vampiregender ... but I rarely mention them as no one understands and thinks I think I am those things
I love the arguments about digging up bones in the future and like, any decent archeologist will look at the remnants of the vestments and be like, "Hell yeah, you go typically femme presenting individual! Rock that Neon Green in your next life."
I remember seeing someone responding to a post like that with something along these lines: 'No a future archeologist will dig you up and think "yooo I finally found something interesting after digging for hours in this giant hump of sand'" XD
"You're not supposed to be okay with what I just said" really sums up the goal of many of the -phobes. They don't care about who/what they're hating, not even enough to get their insults right. They just want to hurt others.
I haven’t commented before so I wanna start by saying I love how inclusive, safe, and genuinely kind your community is. ON TO THE SILLY BIT It’s rather ironic that it’s an AccidentalAlly video that I end up being accidentally early to thanks to bingeing ya all day. Anyways, Hugs and Love to all from an enby amab mp lion person
I just got out of some outpatient eye muscle surgery, and listening to your voice is very soothing and funny, even if I can't look at screens for too long. Please never stop being a beacon of hope in this dark world, OT.
@@missnaomi613 Thank you for that, I've been sleeping for the past 14 hours and haven't felt better. Still not trusting myself to go outside in all it's harsh glory, but I can finally see things as one object instead of two for the most part, which is effectively a miracle for me. The doc said some remission is natural and I have a follow up in a few days, to make sure everything has taken and I won't need any more correction. I hope that everyone living with an issue they aren't aware of as an issue gets the help they need.
The end is a wholesome story, but it also shows how discriminatory is the state towards transgender people, they're just changing names, like people who get married, or divorce, but somehow, for us it costs money and sometimes even need experts certifications? Why? What's the justification except "they're trans, let's screw them up!"?!
17:11 I love how they're talking about this as a hypothetical scenario, meanwhile actual archeologists actually dug up and found actual trans people in Ancient Egypt, Sumerian, Ancient Greek, Ancient Chinese and Babylonian civilizations and they understood these people are trans BECAUSE OF their bone structures and their chromosomes, but they knew these people are accepted as who they are because didn't buried as their assigned gender according to their civilizations' traditions. So yeah, if a civilization after us found our graves, they definitely will know we were trans people. Archeologists aren't as stupid as you, Barbara.
Thanks! I was actually left wondering this, OT usually just laughs stuff out, but some of the stuff shown in this video are not at all obvious. Another example being 17:45, which sounds true and is at the limit of my knowledge, so I don't even know how to google it without using a self-confirming search prompt.
Although our current civilization has fairly similar burial rituals for men and women, so it might be harder to tell? I suppose if I'm buried wearing a necklace and earrings, that would be a clue that I'm a woman. And I don't know whether breast implants would survive as long as a skeleton? Probably not, though, I'm guessing.
@@electronics-girlnames on the graves would probably help somewhat (except for unisex/genderless/cross gender names - the latter means names that aren't unisex but used on the opposite gender as it is) as well as records if they still exist. Most things does decompose somewhat.
@@makelgrax Sorry for necroposting, mostly just writing out in case anyone else would happen to be confused while watching old OT videos The clip at 17:45 is talking about "XX" and "XY", in this case referring to what chromosomes you have, specifically the pair that determines your sex (in other words, your genes, or what you are born with) The only difference, AFAIK, between people who were born male, and people who were born female, is the fact that people who were born female have the "XX" chromosomes, while people who were born male have the "XY" chromosomes. People with "XX" are the only ones able to get pregnant, while people with the "XY" chromosomes are the only ones able to get people with "XX" pregnant. This means that *gender* has nothing to do with the ability to get pregnant, while *sex* has everything to do with it. Do bear in mind that there are exceptions and outliers - eg. people who are unable to get pregnant despite being born with "XX" chromosomes (infertile), and there are people born with extra chromosomes (don't ask me any more about them, I am not qualified to tell you. Google says that Downs Syndrome is *an* example of this).
@@electronics-girl It was more common in older civilisations to be buried with your tools of the trade and/or your finest clothing which often had metal parts that survived. Some of those can hint at the gender, or even in some cultures outright declare it. I don't know the details of those older cultures to say what gives it away, but there's lots and lots of evidence that hatred towards non-binary is a fairly modern invention. There's cultures existing today where you have more than 2 gender norms, and probably cultures where there's fewer than 2. Fun fact: There was a period that archeologists claimed that women from around the stone age were buried with their husbands hunting gear. Then later on more open minded archeologists found evidence that: no, these women had strains on their bones that show they had fired bows a *lot* so hunting wasn't gender segregated as the early (all male) archeologists assumed. Whether these individuals would be trans in todays society, or gender roles weren't very strict is a good question though. It can be hard to properly gender skeletons in the first place as well, if they are old enough the DNA will be destroyed and the differences in bones is small enough that there's a lot of overlap. In some cases it's impossible to tell. But there are extreme cases where it's clear if the bones were female or male, and then you can compare that to what is known to have been a gendered role or burial regalia.
shoutout to non-binary people who have DID (dissociative identity disorder, formerly known as multiple personality disorder) your they/them pronouns are So Valid
I'm a closeted trans guy, and because I go to a private Christian school and live with a Christian family, I can't even get my hair cut to the length I want, nor can I 'dress like a boy'. It's really hard not being able to go after the things I want in real life right now and for the next couple of years, but it brings me so much joy to watch your channel. I have learned so much from your videos that I would have never learned if I kept going with the education that my school is giving me, and if not for the positive entrance to lgbtq that your videos gave me, I'm not sure if I'd know who I am today. I just have to say thank you for everything you do, and I love your videos and content. Your channel feels like a safe space, and I really appreciate it.
Hopefully eventually you can become the guy that you are inside. Also I think that this is deserving of more likes and replies because the way some people are being forced into being trapped in the closet is horrible and disgusting. Good luck with your journey!
The story starting at 19:08 actually happened to me recently, but I'm trans and was getting my name changed! I got my new driver's license and every single person at the DMV was so kind, and so happy for me? The woman taking my picture even retook it THREE times! "Oh I don't think you’ll like that one, let's try again" so I look really happy in my DL photo!
*chokes* I bought MY DAD THAT MUG TWO YEARS AGO- the ‘thanks for teaching me to be a man, even though I’m your daughter’- cause I was his only daughter and we did ‘boy things’- fast forward to today- turns out I’m genderfluid 😅
That last one reminded me of when I went to court for my name change. In the state I live in you have to go in front of a judge to get your name change. The judge that day was all smiles and the woman helping in the courtroom, not sure of her official title, told me he loves Fridays because it’s the one day a week he gets to make people happy. He was also soooo nice during the hearing. I was super nervous but he put me at ease and told me congratulations once he made it official. The queer couple who had the appointment after mine congratulated me too. It made such a scary and intimidating thing a really positive and happy memory.
That's so wonderful! When I got my name changed, the judge ran in (literally ran, he was running late), apologized for being late, and called everyone by the new name when he told them they were approved. It was a good day, and that judge made all the paperwork BS seem less annoying just by being so jovial about the whole process.
Oh my gosh that was my first experience when I contacted a clinic to get on HRT. After asking in a clearly terrified manner if they do gender affirming care, I expected the person on the phone to hang up on me or tell me I'm a bad person or something, but I didn't even get a sigh. The guy was actually very cool and sweet, even immediately switched to calling me the proper pronouns right then and there. Turned a very scary moment into a very happy one for me.
You know with the variety of sexualities and ways of being neurodivergent it’s kinda weird how some people still see cishet and neurotypical as “the norm” 🤣
13:12 and sometimes cis men buy tampons for their uterus-enabled homies because they're adults who understand they're not gonna catch cooties or have their schwangus fall off because they came in contact with menstrual products. We stan these cis men.
Fun Fact: Before Monotheism (religions with a single God) the majority of the worlds cultures were LGBT friendly and there was little difference in what men wore vs what women wore. For example in places like Ancient Egypt, Scandinavia, and Greece the attire worn by males and females was only distinguishable by very minor features otherwise it all looked pretty much the same.
This is VERY factually wrong. The ways that the Greeks viewed women were very different and included some very specific rules about clothing for women. It's also not entirely fair to say that the Greeks were LGBT friendly. When you look more closely you will see an insanely misogynistic culture that only supported gay relationships that actually supported that misogyny. As for Egypt it's actually pretty hotly contested about the views of LGBT people, mostly because we only have a few small examples to go off of, and the Egyptian people generally only referred to sex euphemistically. Funnily enough, some of the best evidence of Egyptian "liberal sexual morays" are from older Jewish sources. Basically this is way too complex a subject to say "monotheism pushed out LGBT friendly ideas."
@@sirleo003 Just because you don't like the fact that Monotheism ruined gay culture doesn't mean you can change that fact. It's well known that before the days of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, many cultures did not have restrictive boundaries on gays or even flamboyance in clothing. Stricter policies came about as a direct result of Monotheistic religions. That is fact. Greek cultures did not restrict women or see them as lesser. The best examples of this is Athens and Sparta. In Athens men and women were given nearly the exact the exact same rights and freedoms. In Sparta women were meant to be just as strong as the men and were taught to be because the entire culture was based on fighting much similar to the ancient Saxons. If you only get your information from Hollywood movies like 300 then you'll never get actual historical accuracy. Edit: If you want a good source you can check out "Gender Dynamics in Classical Athens" by William Breitweiser. It goes into quite detail. It's an 120 page thesis.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla You may be correct in some aspects but saying that men and women had "nearly the exact same rights" is absolutely not correct. You can find that by a basic search: "Legally, women's rights were limited. They were barred from political participation, and Athenian women were not permitted to represent themselves in law, though it seems that metic women could." Also, women could not own property.
@@carlosotavi0 Basic search meaning you just googled it? When dealing with history and science Google can be highly detrimental. You want University articles and published studies not the first articles you come across on Google.
I feel like I need to send some love towards the Barbras. My grandmas name is Barbra. She’s 86 and is actually a trans and lgbt ally. I watched an old sexist movie with her recently and she called the main actress by her full name but only called the main guy “the male” for the WHOLE THING. Lol.
18:02 ANOTHER FINN!!! im sorry i (really most of us, i think) just get really excited when we see another one of us. I dunno. just made my day! Kiitos OT!
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that secret *double-boop* at the end 🥹
it’s not that secret if you comment on it 🤘🙄
@@OneTopic it’s not that secret if you heart that comment and pin it, either… 🤔
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@@OneTopic welp YAY more boops :D
Woahhhh...
I literally had someone tell me; “you’ll never be a woman, you’ll always be a man”. As a trans man, it was very affirming and really funny. You tried lol.
That’s awesome lmao
I would've never stopped rubbing it in their face tbh, I'd shovel it in their face over and over
do you mean tried ?
OP is tired cause they tried to spell tried and didn't get it but they tried when they're tired.
I tired too sometimes 💕
Transphobes: "they/them is plural!"
Also transphobes: "you are a womEn"
"YOU are a womEn"
Using their whole "oh this is plural therefore i get to be horrendous" argument, it should be "thou art a woman"
All the haters out there do seem to use "women" instead of "woman" a lot, don't they?
@@pearlofthedarkage They absolutely do. And it drives me bonkers!
lmao. so true!
@@pearlofthedarkage ikr what's with that? it happens all the time lol
"STOP GENDER"
me, an agender person: finally acceptance
It's funny how they get upset about being labeled, when "normal" in itself is a label
That's the thing, they just don't want you challenging the assumptions on how things "should" be. Being an 'unlabelled' norm is the way their cultural hegemony is maintained.
Normal is made up. Everyone has a different view of what normal means.
I am nowhere near normal. I am demifluid, aroace, autistic, have ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, and OCD. My brains weird 😂
@@Kai_The_Kai Sounds pretty normal to me! (trans, arospec, acespec, prob autistic, Depression, and Anxiety) We will overthrow societal assumptions together (:
This reminds me of how when I was younger, I complained to my dad that my family wasn't 'normal', and he turned around and said "No one is normal." idk if he remembers that, but it kind of just completely shifted my entire outlook and made me realize that 'normal' is highly subjective so what's normal for one person won't be normal for someone else. Made me really stop comparing my life to everyone else and led to me not bothering to try and 'fit in' anywhere and just be myself.
And 'myself' is an aroace demiguy :P
Every time I see someone try to be a jerk and become an Accidental Ally, all I can think is "It hurt itself in confusion".
I had to keep from writing that as a reply to someone in a comment chain on a different channel this morning. 🙄🤣
(The *only* reason I didn't was because I genuinely try not to be rude in YT comments - there's enough of that. My only exception is if I see bullying/hateful/toxic/abusive things go unchecked and/or ignored by YT - then I call it out.)
But it was *very* tempting.
I laughed so hard at this comment LMAO
I love this XD
Same honestly- And then I internally laugh at myself for quoting that, and now this comment shall add to my internal laughing that I struggle to keep inside from those accidental allies-
!Incoming Joke!
HOW DARE YOU HAVE GENDER **horrified gasp** STOP GENDER!
Before I came out as transmasc I was at a restaurant feeling a little self conscious because I was wearing what I thought looked like a pretty girly outfit, had to use the bathroom, (which was a single stall) and was confused because it looked like a closet and starting to shut down mentally because I was getting only vague instructions from family making things worse, then comes over a little old lady and her husband at the table next to ours and says “no, the mens room is over on the other side”
I felt pretty good about it
That's adorable and wholesome!!!! 💙
The very first meme I was like "ME TOO! I'm non-binary, neurodivergent, I have a disability, AND I'm pansexual! Thank you for calling me normal!"
69th like...
Literally me wtf
gg, you won Being Normal™
Congrats!
Same! I'm all those too!
I'm 3/4 normal.
"Stop Genders!"
Agenders: way ahead of ya pal.
MEEEE
me an agender sipping on my apple juice: already done pal
abolish gender
I love apple juice
Anyone else read read Agenders as Avengers for some strange reason?
"Only straight couples can make babies!"
Gay couples where one of them is trans: Hi!
Lesbian Couples who use IVF, IUI, etc: *Coming in as backup support.*
Me and my enby lover with a p****: Are you sure about that?
Pan and bi couples couples that are a man and a woman:I’m about to end this man’s whole career
Gay men who donate sperm
@@GenderfaePlushiei know it's not related to your comment but what's genderfae?
"Historians will identify your bones as a MAN or a WOMAN"
I saw this story on Tumblr about someone who went to a museum and an exhibit had a mummy. The people who put the exhibit had been confused because, while "generically identified" as a woman, the person had been buried with a traditionally-male ceremony (I don't know the specifics but-), and the museum had decided that the Egyptians had messed up the burial somehow... instead of the logical leap that the person may have presented as a different gender and they were respected for that even after death.
But nooo, a society whose entire death culture was very, very important messed something up.
I've heard about that! There's also a Viking age person who was buried in the manner of a woman with women's clothing and had physical male characteristics. A recent study also discovered that the person was also intersex! Also the whole sexing of skeletons is a lot less cut and dry than people think. There's a lot of variation and when a skeleton doesn't catagorize nicely into male or female archeologists are often encouraged to just pick one.
I watched a video recently that said all Egyptians wore makeup and dresses because it was the fashion at the time. Think it was called Pretty History.
@@kepler3.14 There's also quite a few viking warrior graves that used to be considered to be for men, but DNA testing showed that the people buried in them were women biologically. Maybe they were trans men, maybe they were female warriors, and I like both of those possibilities.
Yeah trans people existed in ancient Babylon (and many other ancient societies), Loki was genderfluid, being gay is theoretically older than human intelligence, and gender was made up by some random guy in Babylon
I think it was Babylon might’ve been somewhere else but the point is written language is multiple generations older than gender
So during work I’m watching this and a regular came in and I’m ftm who just started presenting more and I’m DYING!
HES ONE OF THE ONES WHO ALWAYS CALLED ME SWEETY AND GIRL AND STUFF BUT THIS IS THE FIRST TIME SINCE THE HAIRCUT AND HE IMMEDIATELY SWAPPED TO BRO AND DUDE AND BROTHER AND IM MELTING
That person is amazing
My twin just came out of their room to see what I was laughing about and I wheezed “everyone is non-binary now”
They just tiredly looked at me and went “yep” and walked away while I continued my mad cackling
Perfection
That's too funny XD
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My friend once said to me "I'm not cis, im normal gender" when me and my other friend were discussing gender. I tried to explain to her what cis means but she said "no. I'm not cis. Im normal" I personally thought it was quite funny
That is kind of funny but also, dangerous
Is she really a friend?
@@khunt5336 maybe just really confused. some people hate the idea of being in a "box", so they don´t want anything added to what they have said they are for years. Like: I am a woman, the end.
@@oceanmythjormundgandr3891 it just seems like in this context, wanting to insist that youre normal usually comes with an unspoken "unlike those OTHER people" and someone who wants to otherize people that way might be a bit 😬😬😬
of course this person (especially if they're young) might not realize this is what they're implying and simply need time to learn and understand, but i would personally feel wary around someone who says something like that.
Who knows... maybe she wants to keep her options open
0:35 as a trans, neurodivergent, disabled(not visibly though) woman who is partially gae
I am very normal now, nice
I am the norm
@@_StarlightRose_you are the default settings now lol
@@banana_365iguess rad
Yeeey, let's goooo
I know I'm late but yooo trans neurodivergent and gay spectrum gang! (I'm a trans boi, just got my first binder, autistic, and pan)
Transphobe: "you lack critical thinking"
Friend, how much critical thinking did you use when you adopted your parent's beliefs???
Have a hug.
It's a fact that you lack critical thinking. And my beliefs and the beliefs of my parents are different.
@@ioneoval7668 it's nice knowing that your parents liked LGBT people
@@ioneoval7668 A fact based on what? Your personal opinion? Your lack of compassion that is replaced by an obsessive need to control and bud into the lives of others that aren't harming anyone else? Or your apparent lack of understanding that transgenderism and the concept of seeing gender as a psychological component rather than a physical (because that's what it is, actually) isn't a new thing, we just stopped killing and torturing people over it now that we are trying to move past the horrible ways the abrahamic religions have impacted our society?
On what basis did you conclude that OP or anyone else here for that matter lack critical thinking, which you see as a fact?
This is a genuine question.
@@strawberryfox8819 Why would I have compassion for lies? Gender doesn't exist only biological sex does therefore transgenderism doesn't exist. Transexual people cannot make a real transition with the technology available at this moment therefore their name is also incorrect.
Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food, destroy gender norms (or don't if you like fittin them, or do if you don't like the pressure but still enjoy them), drink water and get sleep. Help uplift your fellows, it'll make us all stronger (:
I love getting validation & affirmation from an eldritch abomination. 💜
Thanks for this
You got it, homie
Ur cool as well
We do a little trolling with the LGBT community 🤓
or idk, just destroy norms, they’re standards for things that were never standard across humanity anyway.
I'm a trans guy and experience a lot of transphobia, coming from a small town. However, your laugh is contagious and it honestly helped.
Look into becoming an exchange student, those programs are still around and *might* be a way to get some needed distance.
You and Jamie posting Accidental Ally videos on the same day is accidentally cute
Yesss!!! 🤣💕
its, dear i say, ADORABLE
I’m a 17yr old cis girl with an androgynous figure (small chest, masculine facial features, body hair, etc.) and I dress in a very neutral way (shapeless green shirt, cargo pants etc.). In one of my TikTok bios I put my pronouns as she/her and I only had a few vids, none of which did I look feminine in. One time I got in a small argument with a guy in someone else’s comment section, he was insulting someone and was using poor grammar so I corrected it and told him to stop making fun of people, his response was to tell me to “stop trying to change your gender, you will never be a real girl! You will always be a boy!”... I informed him that I was not trans I am a cis afab girl, to which he replied with “Well you don’t look like one!”. He got so mad over the fact that not all girls are feminine. It made me sad when I checked his bio and he had a cross and scripture and he claimed to be a Christian, while being openly transphobic. The best part was that I am also a Christian, so he was unknowingly being transphobic towards a cisgender Christian girl. I do worry about what that guy says to people who are actually trans :(
It's insane how often they will try to excuse their transphobia by saying they want to protect """real""" women, and then end up hurting the people they claim to care about.
Im also a cisgender Christian girl who's bi and it apalls me at the transphobes and homophobes audacity
Gross, I hate ppl like that. I hope that dude gets cancelled, don't care if he's a content creator or not, he should b cancelled. And I wish I looked more androgynous, as a nonbinary I envy u, girl
Silly transphobe! You don't have to look stereotypically feminine to be a cis girl! I'm glad you're happy with the way you are, no matter what silly people think.
@@starrywizdom I love the response "Silly transphobe!" and am definitely going to steal it. Imagining saying that to silly transphobes takes their power away and makes me feel lighter. Cuz that's all they are. They are silly. And they don't deserve my energy.
0:06 - bro tried to roast neurodivergent ppl, gay ppl, disabled ppl, and trans ppl; and completely failed
"Bureaucratically Precious" was exactly what I needed today. I love how the video always ends on an uplifting note.
It is alway hilarious when somebody fails at purposely trying to offend somebody.
Having a physical disability, and even some neurological disabilities, is a minority that anyone can join at any time. So if you don't want to be able-bodied, that can be arranged...
what?
This comment has such a threatening undertone I love it lmao.
LOL
This is my fav comment on this video
Being labeled as “normal” by transphobes is one of the most funny things I enjoy about being non-binary
I encountered the "gender is a religion and doesn't physically exist" argument recently, and pondered whether I was dealing with a clueless non-binary egg or a cis person who takes their cisness for granted.
@@dinosaysrawr Or maybe you were "dealing with" a person who was entirely correct, and you aren't willing to recognise it.
Become labeled as a Legos set name for a RUclips account
so basically to these people, we are the norm and everyone should follow our lead?
@@SpaghettiDog86.y e s
When I first heard of others using they as a pronoun, I actually thought it was multiple people in one body. Then I learned (through elementary school) that it can also be used to refer to a singular person. I now use they/them for myself.
So am I saying that people who hate on others who use they/them haven't moved on from pre-elementary school education levels?
Yes, yes I am.
To be fair to your point, transphobes don't exactly come off as very bright individuals
@@MuscleCarLover Seeing that they all use plural women instead of singular woman in all their arguments ... I agree
I think the first time I got accidentally validated was during the pandemic. I was working in the elderly home, like usually, but with a mask. And some old man said I was a "good lass". This was before I actually started questioning my gender identity, but in hindsight... It made me really happy. After that, he did ask "or are you a lad?" because he was old, and I have kinda long hair for a guy, so I understand someone of his age mistaking someone with half their face covered and long hair for a girl. I told him I am a guy but that it was fine. I appreciated the intention of him saying I was doing a good job.
Why did being called a good lass make you happy?
@@teamawesomeness7137 I don't know. It just did...
@@mikethegoo 🥚
@@philippeleprohon4823 I am not an egg, I am already aware that I'm trans
@@mikethegoo Ah, well, progress!
4:25 as a transformers fan, this is even funnier than you think. Transformers, especially in the comics, do not have genders because they are robots. The comics actually brought in a big queer fan base due to the many gay relationships (most transformers are male after all) and other representation in them.
And if you’re just going by the movies, Optimus Prime is the one who said “Freedom is the right of all sentient beings” which explicitly means he doesn’t care who you are or what you are because you deserve freedom as a sentient being. The decepticon’s whole thing is that they don’t see us as equals and want to enslave/destroy all humans because of this, and so you could say Optimus Prime and the Autobots fight for equal rights
It’s just several layers of irony, and transformers was only used because “big truck robot manly!” without thinking of the implications of what the Autobots are even fighting for.
Sooo, decepticons are literally the homophobic, racist, transphobic Karen? I think I'm getting the hang of this transformers thing.
Anode is an icon
Ratchet and Drift be watching this like: ;)
Optimus prime is a mipy
Wait how can the transformers be male if they don't have gender.
Do you mean sex ?
Wait, do the transformers have sex characteristics ??!!
I love every single one of these videos! As a genderfluid omnisexual I love everything about this. I feel so validated and safe watching your videos! Thank you so much!
Edit: Wow 217 likes? Thanks guys!
Hi, I'm sorry for being uninformed, but do you mind sharing what omnisexual means? I live in TX. 🙃
@@beyedoc It means that you like any and all people, but gender still plays a part, whether it being more attracted to one gender than another, or havibg certain things about certain genders making you feel different ways. Though a lot of people just say bi, because bi is an umbrella term, in which pan, omni, and poly fall under. Very similar to the old "all rectangles are squares, not all squares are rectangles" kinda deal. Hope this helps!
@@beyedoc imma guess, they have a sexual attraction to 2 or more people? no clue
Omnisexual? Oh FFS. At first I thought I was bi, then I thought I was pan, now I need to start wondering if I'm actually omni.
When does the existential crisis end? I thought pan would be the final stop for me.
@@sndragonfan7257 Thanks! I figured it was similar to bi and pan just each having different nuances. I finally learned and understood that I am asexual 2 years ago in my 30s because of the lack of education about queer identities and because, in my opinion, it can be harder to identify feeling similarly about people of multiple genders than identifying as strictly homo or hetero. I do experience romantic attraction (which is why I falsely assumed I couldn't be asexual) and choose not to label that as anything other than "not aromantic" because I do think my feelings are fluid and more based on emotional and spiritual connection than on sexual and physical attraction. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question.
I love watching these accidental ally videos, I was raised in a very transphobic, homophobic, and racist christian household, and as such when I was younger, I was a really shitty person. I’m happy to say I’ve changed, and I’m actually a pansexual transgirl. It makes me so happy to know that even if it’s accidental, people are still getting validated, even from those who seek the opposite. I love all of my lgbtq family.
Im glad you werent raised to hate.
@@matherman1111 Me too.
Literally same!
As someone in an osdd system (and is nonbinary) i find the “plurality” argument absolutely wonderful in an evil satisfaction kind of way. They have no idea what theyre signing up for.....
They'll meet an army of you!
Everybody gangsta, until the non-binary folks start refering to themselves as "we"
Go my sibling, *Go and torment the fools who dare defy you* /hj
I was just thinking about this the other day, how hilarious that interaction would be. "Actually, no, it is plural. We contain multitudes, sir." deadpan delivery, time how long it takes for the confusion to hit...
@@perhapsahedgehog5274 I've considered using the royal we just as an extra bit of spice for people who dislike they/them. Like I'll just use all the singular plurals to really make a point lol.
Also I already mostly use we when referring to myself in my head because most of the time I'm having a conversation with myself.
6:44
“And you can make babies!”
Trans people in gay relationships with Cis partners would like a word. Also any Cis gay couples who have used a donor or surrogate.
Potentially also any adopted kids.
And some intersex people can/choose to have kids!
They seriously forget that some Cis people are incapable of making babies due to medical reasons.
Also all the cis/straight people that CAN'T make babies due to infertility, trauma and such.
That sign is just incredibly rude in general.
@@borealernadelwald As a non-binary AFAB with infertility I agree
..Also bisexuals, hello.
I just have to say; as someone who has Dissociative Identity Disorder and uses they/them collectively to refer to the 13 alters I have, the people who are confused about "people who are more than one person" has me rolling on the floor laughing.
I don’t have DID, but I have two friends who have it, and honestly with that one I was dying internally because I’ve heard my friends refer to themselves as multiple people before, since they have alters and all.
I used to think I had multiple personality disorder but nope it was actually some anxiety disorder
Hearing “They/Them” used as pronouns can sound odd when you first hear it, took me a while to get used to they/them being used as pronouns personally, but like anything from taking a different route to work to patches changing how you do something in a game, you can get used to it.
Besides, is it really that hard to not be a complete jerk to people who just ask for a different pronoun?
Edit: Today I learned, singular they/them predates singular you so that’s neat.
singular they/them in every language predates singular he/him and she/her. look at shakespeare!!
Thine, thou, thoust??
Those are all THEY roots!
Incredible stuff, isn't it?
@@NegaTheImpmon9508 It is.
I still think adopting a singular non-binary pronoun is a good thing though. Like a lot other languages have them. It'll prevent ambiguity and/or confusion. And it'll call the bluff of the people that say they/their can't be used as singular pronoun. Like if you file a police report of a crime and you go "they ransacked my home!"
@@NegaTheImpmon9508 I thought those were "you" not "they". The times I remember reading those in Shakespeare, it was a line from one person talking directly to the other.
Yeah, just checked it up. Merriam Webster:
Definition of thou (Entry 1 of 3)
archaic
: the one addressed
thou shalt have no other gods before me
- compare THEE, THINE, THY, YE, YOU
If the singular THEY was good enough for Shakespeare, it's good enough for me.
I posted this in a comment on JammiDodger's channel too, but I like it so here goes.
My favorite case of accidental allyship was a coworker who was, while mocking a very feminine but male presenting (and still closeted) coworker, using a feminized version of her name. Some months later, she came out as trans and started officially using that name. The joke's on you, dude...you were using her preferred name and pronouns all along in an attempt to belittle her!
This is the best I have ever read
...and then I imagine that coworker pivoted to insisting on using their deadname out of spite and declaring that gender is just a immutable biological reality, because that's how these people tend to roll.
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I've had a really bad day in which multiple people told me the way I'm living my life is wrong, so thank you for always being wholesome, awesome, /extremely/ kind you. You always make me feel better.
The "they/them can't be used as a singular pronoune" thing is such a huge fight! In my country there are languages that use "plural pronouns" to indicate one person.
If you address someone in plural second pronoun in my language, it means you're being very polite xD Nowadays I think it's only used for customers by clerks/waiters, towards old people or towards like, the president :'D
Its a professional thing as well since it does not disclose age and or gender so u can talk about somet without making it too personal
I never got the argument for it in English either as they is used in writing when you don't know the character's gender. It's not just for plural but individual also. The only difference now is we usually know the person's gender and they're still a they/them.
That's the only change.
I guess many people failed their creative writing courses.
Edit; typo.
Edit2: and also likely failed their English classes too since as one of the people in the video says it is also grammar.
@@elieli2893As a french speaker, I always thought it was totally normal to use the second plural person for a single person if I want to be polite.
Until I learned spanish. To be polite to someone, you use the THIRD person (singular if you talk to one persone, otherwise plural).
In nederlands (another language in my country), you use a special third singular person if you want to be polite to someone (one or more people).
In german (last language in my country), you use the third plural person (with a majuscule if you write it) to be polite to someone (one or more people).
Morality: politeness is brain's death.
@@elieli2893
French gang rise up
Guys, we need to get ot to a 1 Mil after Click And Jamie just did, we can't leave out OT! As a genderfluid pansexual, these viedeos make me laugh and so happy.
Also,
I still absolutely love the new(ish) intro
Yes, yes, and yes!
I've said it before and might say it again. As much as I LOVE these videos(!) a steady highlight for me is to hear "trans men are men".
Knew for quite some years, but only recently came out as trans. So recently, that legal and medical transition didn't quite start yet (though both is on its way). And I cant help to feel like such a fraud sometimes.
To my husband, that thought he was marrying a woman 15 years ago (he's supportive and calls me my real name and he now) and to everything else, because can I REALLY be a man, realising late ans with those two giant brothers dangling from my chest?
I never questioned that feeling wrong wasn't right. Only when I admitted I felt right. If that makes any sense.
5:59 As an ex-transphobe and someone who now would call themselves agender, I do understand where that person is coming from... I just thought everyone else felt the same as I do.
Pretty sure this is agender and bisexual culture right there, thinking that everyone feels the same as you only to realise "WHAT, MOST PEOPLE DON'T WORK THAT WAY? UNBELIEVABLE"
I love and hate that often those who are most vocally against something are usually part of that community
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Does that make me religious?
@@axl256gamesx7 notice my use of the phrase often.
@@justanotheranimeprofilepic ok
2:37 this implies trans people are mechs and I am all for it
s k i n s t e a l e r s
I am so glad I found this channel. Ive.been overwhelmed by transphobic crap on RUclips. This makes me happy.
Same, my fyp literally hates me 😭
@@dipsti_ck Sorry, I'm a bit slow I guess 😅. What is fyp?
@@Kira-zm7vy Fyp stands for “For you page” I think, it’s basically all the videos and shorts I get recommended and stuff.
@@dipsti_ck ah. Gotcha. 😆
As a lesbian demi girl in a transphobic household I just want to say I love your videos! Whenever I feel down I just watch one of them and you make me smile with your positive vibes, smiles, and bubbly attitude! I’m not about to tell my family that I’m a demi girl but they do know I’m gay. Only 6 more years until I can leave the unhappiness behind!
I wish you the best of luck on your journey my friend ☺️
I hope everything goes well for you and your life goes very well ❤️
@@_ducksareresponsibleforww3_ Nice to meet you!
Wish you the best my friend I get living in a transphobic household so I can somewhat relate 💜 you’ll get through it dear
I apologize for my rudeness in asking but, just to be informed, what is a demi girl?
15:10 is ABSOLUTELY correct. Promote not deciding people's gender/sexuality before they're able to figure out themself.
9:57 NO WAIT I LEGITIMATELY HAVE A CHARACTER NAMED FIGS THO
*that hit me so hard just because of the character*
In seriousness this all really comes down to a difference in how people use language.
Transphobes use the person's starting sex/sex assigned at birth as the primary identifier
Non-transphobes use their actual identity
As such this kind of misunderstanding is inevitable, because the two sides are using the same words with opposite meanings intended
That and transphobes are _really good_ at assuming the wrong thing about anyone they dislike, tend to completely forget trans men exist, and have a shaky at best understanding of all but the most basic grade-school level grammar, biology, history, and sociology, and somehow see that as something to be *proud* of.
I love the logic of "I don't give them even the most basic level of respect a human can give another one, which is human autonomy, even though it literally doesn't affect me at all in any level and isn't even something hard to do at all for us, but on the other hand can actually lead to severe psychological and emotional trauma for them, but HEY THAT DOESN'T MEAN WE HATE THEM!" like yeah sure ok, of course. Absolutely. God, these people are insufferable.
If we hemmed and hawed about calling them what they wanted to be called and respecting *their* preferences, they'd pitch a Karen fit.
"I dunno, 'Barbara,' you don't seem like a foreigner to me---per the Greek root of your name---so I think I'll call you 'Jennifer' instead, cause you're hella white."
11:28 I saw this and for some reason said aloud to myself “I guess my gender is small”
I actually had an accidental ally moment yesterday, some transphobe I was arguing with told me I’m not a girl and would only use it/it’s to refer to me
I’m (afab) nonbinary and it/it’s are my preferred pronoun, this random internet troll did better than my family lol
(Hey also if anyone needs some extra gender euphoria lmk and I can give you masculine/feminine/androgynous/other complements)
ayo?? free gender :)!
(if you would be so kind, my pronouns are in my about section, i prefer masc and androgynous language)
That is awsome. My pronouns are on my profile discription in my pronoun page link. I prefer masculine and androgynous language, as well
That's awesome! Can I have some compliments in an it/he/they transmasc "that's not a human! That's an inhuman monster! Still gonna call it a funky little guy tho" kind of way
Also, you rock, my fellow little person-shaped woodland creature
I never knew it/it's was an actual pronoun
Are you a demi or just agender?
@@t-dude352 Yeah, it/its is often used by transphobes as an insult. But some NB (myself included) use it/its as their actual pronoun. It's always safe to ask pronouns first so you don't offend the person.
The one about "forging yourself a gender" just makes me think of writing a cool fantasy novel about an agender person who couldn't forge a gender and their journey of learning from different kinds of gender and realising they're alright without one
The polygender forges themselves a multi purpose Swiss army gender
collect the Infinity Genders
I would absolutely read this 10000%. Love it. /gen
Haha, just imagining myself, starting work on like three different genders and never bothering to finish any of them... And why the hell is that so like me 😂
A world where dwarven genders are determined/represented not so much by physiology but by the kind of weapon they forge. Like you've got axe dwarves, hammer dwarves, sword dwarves, and then more funky, complicated ones like halberds, falchions, and poleaxes.
18:38 Dude looks like Austin Powers.
Not intended as an insult, just a (hopefully) lighthearted comment.
Imagine meeting one topic, I’d love that unfortunately I don’t think I will but I’ll always watch his content
I wanna say, while this hopefully can still get lost in the comments, that I used to be so willfully ignorant about the transgender community. I refused to look up anything about it, and didn't understand how they felt.
At some point I stopped listening to transphobes and TERFs, and then started listening to actual trans people. They went from a hypothetical boogy man, to actual people to me. I learned about the struggles, from getting gender affirming surgery, to just having people use the right name, and even far worse for the unfortunate ones we've lost.
Then eventually I found your videos, and I saw that I had a lot in common with trans people thanks to the meme videos. Me and trans men even hated having breasts, and being women, and being referred to as women. Why we both even wish we were born male! And... wait a second.
Now my first actual chest binder is coming in tomorrow and I couldn't be more excited.
Tldr; I used to be a transphobe, and funny sunglasses man with reddit memes made me realize I'm trans
And here I was about to thank you for being an ally! (Not to say you aren't, just quite a fun read.)
When I was a kid, I was surrounded by right wing figures saying trans people were all just pedophiles and perverts doing it for some kind of sexual thrill. I felt more comfortable referring to myself as a woman online but I honestly thought I was "different, I'm not like those perverts." Three years later, a friend of mine comes out as trans and explains what it is, and suddenly my whooooooole outlook on life started changing. Went from homophobic, transphobic, anti-marijuana bible thumping christian jackass to a polyamorous stoner trans satanist. Turns out lying to your children makes them not want to stay in your cult. :p
Glad for you though! I'm very happy to see attitudes slowly turning around.
FUNNY GLASSES MAN
Honestly that's just the best character arc ever
good luck struggling with the consequences of ruining healthy chest
that's something they need to do and they will get it, no matter what you say. no matter what you speak, that won't change their mind.
something blindsided folks like you need to understand the fact that trans people are just as human as any straight, gay, or someone in-between.
consider getting yourself educated before spreading hate to minorities
15:26 this person literally failed so hard at invalidating OP that they not only validated her, but also gave her the opportunity to sue because that's literally sexual harassment. it's poetic, really.
3:56 ok that dude's transition went SO WELL like i literally cannot see a single feminine thing about him it's incredibly unmistakable
he looks like one of my teachers 😭
I’m cis and straight, but I’m pretty sure never been ‘normal’ in my life - I’m proud to be weird 😂😂
I love how they say that using they and them as singular pronouns is "grammatically incorrect" and "bad English", like do you even know your own language?
i too am a fan of steve busk-emee
HI HI HUMAN ONE :DDD
yeah! ☺️
I feel like that mug would be such a fun way for a trans girl to come out to their dad lol
I'd love it
Ooo yeah 😂
I need a mom and son version for myself
Me sitting here post surgery laughing at accidental ally memes on the internet.... thank you OT for making this painstaking day worth living!
If any of you are wondering, i got an exposure for a tooth thats in the roof of my mouth and my wisdom teeth removed... # early 2000's kid
I thought you were talking about bottom surgery for a sec :p Teeth grow in the weirdest places sometimes, I swear. Ever heard of a teratoma? Sometimes they got teeth in em, it's super weirdness.
@@eatshitlarrypage.3319 WHAT?! That's crazy, never thought teeth could do that-
Funny I see this comment because I've been informed that there's actually a very high chance that I'll die from a dental surgery of my own next month.
*DO NOT REPLY TO THIS COMMENT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. NO REPLIES OR HOPE FOR ME ARE NEEDED. SAYONARA FOREVER.*
@@Idiotic_B_Purcellyou still around?
19:54 this is super wholesome until you have think about that it costs more for a trans person to change their legal name than a straight, divorced lersont
Nice pfp
I Googled the lyrics to I Am The Walrus and took out all the pronouns (or at least a lot of them) because I thought it'd sound funny:
am as are as are
And are all together
See how run like pigs from a gun
See how fly
Am crying
Sitting on a corn flake
Waiting for the van to come
Corporation T-shirt, stupid bloody Tuesday
Man have been a naughty boy
let face grow long
am the egg man
are the egg men
am the walrus
Goo goo g'joob
Mister City policeman sitting
Pretty little policemen in a row
See how fly like Lucy in the sky, see how run
Am crying, am crying
Am crying, am crying
Yellow matter custard
Dripping from a dead dog's eye
Crabalocker fishwife, pornographic priestess
Boy, have been a naughty girl, let knickers down
am the egg man
are the egg men
am the walrus
Goo goo g'joob
Sitting in an English garden
Waiting for the sun
If the sun don't come get a tan
From standing in the English rain
am the egg man (now good sir)
are the egg men (a poor man, made tame to fortune's blows)
am the walrus
Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob (good pity)
Expert, texpert choking smokers
Don't think the joker laughs at (ho ho ho, hee hee hee, hah hah hah)
See how smile like pigs in a sty, see how snide
am crying
Semolina Pilchard
Climbing up the Eiffel tower
Elementary penguin singing Hare Krishna
Man, should have seen kicking Edgar Allen Poe
am the egg man
are the egg men
am the walrus
Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob
Goo goo g'joob, goo goo goo g'joob, goo
Joob, joob, jooba
Jooba, jooba, jooba
Joob, jooba
Joob, jooba
Umpa, umpa, stick up jumper (jooba, jooba)
Umpa, umpa, stick up jumper
's got one (umpa, umpa)
's got one (stick up jumper)
's got one (umpa, umpa)
's got one (stick up jumper)
's got one (umpa, umpa)
's got one (stick up jumper)
's got one (umpa, umpa)
's got one (stick up jumper)
's got one (umpa, umpa)
's got one (stick up jumper)
's got one (umpa, umpa)
Slave
hast slain
Villain, take purse
If ever
Bury body
The letters which though find'st about
To Edmund Earl of Gloucester
Seek out upon the British Party
O untimely death
know well
A serviceable villain, as duteous to the vices of mistress
As badness would desire
What, is is dead?
Sit down, Father, rest
Absolutely amazing
AM THE WALRUS!
👑👑
_"Slave hast slain villain??"_ Dang it. Now I've got to go form a band to give it that name.
And I thought it sounded like word salad WITH pronouns...
17:22 i literlly gasped I've never been mentioned before,was starting to feel left out
These videos have been a safespace for me ever since I first discovered your channel. As a trans guy, I very much appreciate this lighthearted perspective and I have learned a lot from you in terms of dealing with transphobic people. I don’t usually post comments like this but since I’m pretty early I thought I’d let you know
I see people on other channels sending trans people that are newer to the realization and insecure allll the time over to this channel. Most of them echo what you just said here.
I support you.
I love these videos and not just because i am non-binary i just love your videos can't wait to watch
Hello fellow NB!
3:33 If I ever become a mother and my child comes out as trans (let's say MTF, and I only have one kid) I will say "I have no son!" and my husband would probably be like "Hi, a girl. I'm dad" and we'd be super supportive.
Edit: I asked my husband what he'd say in that situation and he confirmed it. Apparently in a Discord server he frequents he already does that whenever somebody comes back so it already comes naturally to him.
Here live the good people
Yessss we stan the supportive parents
I needed this video. Right now I feel a lot of dysphoria. I’m not out of the closet so my family is misgender me and deadname me…..Also I cut my hair and my mom don’t like my new haircut (I love it personally but not her) and it’s putting me under a lot of pression. My mother really wanted a girl…..but something messed up with me it’s seems. I really don’t know how to tell them I’m non-binary and I’m scared I will never come out to them (I really want to but I’m scared as hell)
@GillyGabes thanks a lot, I will take this in consideration :)
I feel you. My mom wants a stable kiddo and one who has the place of mind to stay alive but I am just not able to give her that for now. You are completely separate from other peoples demands of who and what you are and it’s hard to remember that sometimes
My mom is pressuring me to grow my hair out too, even though I’ve had it short for over a year lol (I’m also out as emby lol)
*hugs* That sounds tough. It's hard when other people want you to be something you're not, and fitting into that mold means cutting off bits of yourself so you can squeeze in. I'm sorry you're in that place. I hope you can find people in your life that support you as you are, rather than who they think you ought to be.
You're not messed up. People have preconceived expectations based off their own limited experiences and worldview. Their lifetime of experience, however long, is not long enough to know everything. Their worldview, however open-minded, is not wide enough to encompass everything. You are a part of everything. There's nothing messed up about that.
Despite the fact they find it insane and “my gender is helicopters” is a common joke to them, they are almost running into an actual really cool gender identity which is called “xenogender” which is rare but hang with me here. This is for enby people who find their gender is extremely hard to label and eventually find an existing object like a cat, water, sky, fairy, etc. describes their gender in a very esoteric sense. To be clear, the gender isn’t literally a cat but rather has cat vibes. I know the reaction might be disbelief but since there’s some people who can see sounds and letters as colors and smells, I can’t see why others can see their gender identity as a having potted plant energy. The human brain and existence be weird.
So yes transphobia, gender can be like fig or helicopter. Thank you for validating xenogender identity!
Excellent point.
what the fuck
any xenogender folk that stumble upon this comment and look at the replies, I support you!
As someone who uses Catgender, Foxgender, Vampiregender, and Hoodiegender ... I agree and thank you for bringing this up!
@@AnachronisticAstronaut Thank you! I mostly just tell people I'm non-binary ... but my gender is Libramasculine and I also use xenogenders catgender, foxgender, hoodiegender, and vampiregender ... but I rarely mention them as no one understands and thinks I think I am those things
8:23 Also, "We have a customer that uses they/them in *their* email signature."
I love the arguments about digging up bones in the future and like, any decent archeologist will look at the remnants of the vestments and be like, "Hell yeah, you go typically femme presenting individual! Rock that Neon Green in your next life."
I remember seeing someone responding to a post like that with something along these lines:
'No a future archeologist will dig you up and think "yooo I finally found something interesting after digging for hours in this giant hump of sand'"
XD
"You're not supposed to be okay with what I just said" really sums up the goal of many of the -phobes. They don't care about who/what they're hating, not even enough to get their insults right. They just want to hurt others.
This entire subreddit is basically just *"A win is a win"*
I think the title of AccidentalAlly was a huge missed opportunity for a pun, shoulda made AccidentAlly, cuz they’re accidentally allies
That is such a good pun, I'm going to scream
As I understand, that subreddit name was already taken.
finally someone who had the same thought as me
I haven’t commented before so I wanna start by saying I love how inclusive, safe, and genuinely kind your community is.
ON TO THE SILLY BIT
It’s rather ironic that it’s an AccidentalAlly video that I end up being accidentally early to thanks to bingeing ya all day.
Anyways, Hugs and Love to all from an enby amab mp lion person
🌼
I'm not sure what "mp lion person" means, but I'd love to learn.
I figured OT's channel is a safe place to ask for help with new vocabulary.
@@resourceress7 I think it means masculine presenting?? I could 100% be wrong tho
@@KatKitty_ yup! Male/masc presenting
@@resourceress7 Kitty Kat had it right, Masc/Male presenting
9:50 classic case of “don’t dead open inside”
I just got out of some outpatient eye muscle surgery, and listening to your voice is very soothing and funny, even if I can't look at screens for too long. Please never stop being a beacon of hope in this dark world, OT.
A quick and complete healing to you, dear bean. 🙏❤🏳🌈
@@missnaomi613 Thank you for that, I've been sleeping for the past 14 hours and haven't felt better. Still not trusting myself to go outside in all it's harsh glory, but I can finally see things as one object instead of two for the most part, which is effectively a miracle for me. The doc said some remission is natural and I have a follow up in a few days, to make sure everything has taken and I won't need any more correction. I hope that everyone living with an issue they aren't aware of as an issue gets the help they need.
The end is a wholesome story, but it also shows how discriminatory is the state towards transgender people, they're just changing names, like people who get married, or divorce, but somehow, for us it costs money and sometimes even need experts certifications? Why? What's the justification except "they're trans, let's screw them up!"?!
Thankfully in my home state of Oregon, it's treated identically to getting your name changed through a marriage/divorce.
Roses are red
Violets are blue
Singular they predates singular you
Not my rhyme but I thought it fit here
17:11 I love how they're talking about this as a hypothetical scenario, meanwhile actual archeologists actually dug up and found actual trans people in Ancient Egypt, Sumerian, Ancient Greek, Ancient Chinese and Babylonian civilizations and they understood these people are trans BECAUSE OF their bone structures and their chromosomes, but they knew these people are accepted as who they are because didn't buried as their assigned gender according to their civilizations' traditions.
So yeah, if a civilization after us found our graves, they definitely will know we were trans people. Archeologists aren't as stupid as you, Barbara.
Thanks! I was actually left wondering this, OT usually just laughs stuff out, but some of the stuff shown in this video are not at all obvious.
Another example being 17:45, which sounds true and is at the limit of my knowledge, so I don't even know how to google it without using a self-confirming search prompt.
Although our current civilization has fairly similar burial rituals for men and women, so it might be harder to tell? I suppose if I'm buried wearing a necklace and earrings, that would be a clue that I'm a woman. And I don't know whether breast implants would survive as long as a skeleton? Probably not, though, I'm guessing.
@@electronics-girlnames on the graves would probably help somewhat (except for unisex/genderless/cross gender names - the latter means names that aren't unisex but used on the opposite gender as it is) as well as records if they still exist. Most things does decompose somewhat.
@@makelgrax
Sorry for necroposting, mostly just writing out in case anyone else would happen to be confused while watching old OT videos
The clip at 17:45 is talking about "XX" and "XY", in this case referring to what chromosomes you have, specifically the pair that determines your sex (in other words, your genes, or what you are born with)
The only difference, AFAIK, between people who were born male, and people who were born female, is the fact that people who were born female have the "XX" chromosomes, while people who were born male have the "XY" chromosomes.
People with "XX" are the only ones able to get pregnant, while people with the "XY" chromosomes are the only ones able to get people with "XX" pregnant.
This means that *gender* has nothing to do with the ability to get pregnant, while *sex* has everything to do with it.
Do bear in mind that there are exceptions and outliers - eg. people who are unable to get pregnant despite being born with "XX" chromosomes (infertile), and there are people born with extra chromosomes (don't ask me any more about them, I am not qualified to tell you. Google says that Downs Syndrome is *an* example of this).
@@electronics-girl It was more common in older civilisations to be buried with your tools of the trade and/or your finest clothing which often had metal parts that survived. Some of those can hint at the gender, or even in some cultures outright declare it. I don't know the details of those older cultures to say what gives it away, but there's lots and lots of evidence that hatred towards non-binary is a fairly modern invention. There's cultures existing today where you have more than 2 gender norms, and probably cultures where there's fewer than 2.
Fun fact: There was a period that archeologists claimed that women from around the stone age were buried with their husbands hunting gear. Then later on more open minded archeologists found evidence that: no, these women had strains on their bones that show they had fired bows a *lot* so hunting wasn't gender segregated as the early (all male) archeologists assumed. Whether these individuals would be trans in todays society, or gender roles weren't very strict is a good question though.
It can be hard to properly gender skeletons in the first place as well, if they are old enough the DNA will be destroyed and the differences in bones is small enough that there's a lot of overlap. In some cases it's impossible to tell. But there are extreme cases where it's clear if the bones were female or male, and then you can compare that to what is known to have been a gendered role or burial regalia.
Just a man or multiple women
I love when the 'you can't be more than one person' folks screw up the plurality of a word
shoutout to non-binary people who have DID (dissociative identity disorder, formerly known as multiple personality disorder) your they/them pronouns are So Valid
11:36 Damn Hagrid got his own bathroom.
I'm a closeted trans guy, and because I go to a private Christian school and live with a Christian family, I can't even get my hair cut to the length I want, nor can I 'dress like a boy'. It's really hard not being able to go after the things I want in real life right now and for the next couple of years, but it brings me so much joy to watch your channel. I have learned so much from your videos that I would have never learned if I kept going with the education that my school is giving me, and if not for the positive entrance to lgbtq that your videos gave me, I'm not sure if I'd know who I am today. I just have to say thank you for everything you do, and I love your videos and content. Your channel feels like a safe space, and I really appreciate it.
Hopefully eventually you can become the guy that you are inside. Also I think that this is deserving of more likes and replies because the way some people are being forced into being trapped in the closet is horrible and disgusting. Good luck with your journey!
Please accept some virtual hugs from this bisexual, Jewish mama with 2 trans kids. 💙💗🤍💗💙
@@missnaomi613 thank youu 👉👈
That last one was so sweet 🥰 it’s so rare to hear those stories of so many supportive people! 🥲i wish everyone could be that supportive!
11:43 I- I don’t think they’re texting
Oh thank god I’m not the only one who thought that 😂
what are they doing?
The story starting at 19:08 actually happened to me recently, but I'm trans and was getting my name changed! I got my new driver's license and every single person at the DMV was so kind, and so happy for me? The woman taking my picture even retook it THREE times! "Oh I don't think you’ll like that one, let's try again" so I look really happy in my DL photo!
My driver license photo looks like a simpson, the lighting made me yellow
As awful awful awful as transphobes are, it's nice to see that they're quickly becoming a minority.
*chokes*
I bought MY DAD THAT MUG TWO YEARS AGO- the ‘thanks for teaching me to be a man, even though I’m your daughter’- cause I was his only daughter and we did ‘boy things’- fast forward to today- turns out I’m genderfluid 😅
Topic casually being a protector of the LGBTQ+ makes me happy
That last one reminded me of when I went to court for my name change. In the state I live in you have to go in front of a judge to get your name change.
The judge that day was all smiles and the woman helping in the courtroom, not sure of her official title, told me he loves Fridays because it’s the one day a week he gets to make people happy.
He was also soooo nice during the hearing. I was super nervous but he put me at ease and told me congratulations once he made it official. The queer couple who had the appointment after mine congratulated me too. It made such a scary and intimidating thing a really positive and happy memory.
That's so wonderful! When I got my name changed, the judge ran in (literally ran, he was running late), apologized for being late, and called everyone by the new name when he told them they were approved. It was a good day, and that judge made all the paperwork BS seem less annoying just by being so jovial about the whole process.
Oh my gosh that was my first experience when I contacted a clinic to get on HRT. After asking in a clearly terrified manner if they do gender affirming care, I expected the person on the phone to hang up on me or tell me I'm a bad person or something, but I didn't even get a sigh. The guy was actually very cool and sweet, even immediately switched to calling me the proper pronouns right then and there. Turned a very scary moment into a very happy one for me.
"Wearing iPods" sounds like something from dankpods
You know with the variety of sexualities and ways of being neurodivergent it’s kinda weird how some people still see cishet and neurotypical as “the norm” 🤣
I'd like to see how much of a difference there is between cishet and other gender/sexuality people. It's probably not that much all things considered
I just started HRT a few days and I'm so pumped! And impatient for changes lol
That's awesome!!
I'm happy for you! The changes will come, just hang in there!
15:00 I literally cried when I saw this seen
I love when shows support people even in very little ways like this
13:12 and sometimes cis men buy tampons for their uterus-enabled homies because they're adults who understand they're not gonna catch cooties or have their schwangus fall off because they came in contact with menstrual products. We stan these cis men.
When the cis men know of their partner’s menstrual cycles and tampon stuff so well they know when to pick that up.
@@iantaakalla8180 relationship goals
Fun Fact: Before Monotheism (religions with a single God) the majority of the worlds cultures were LGBT friendly and there was little difference in what men wore vs what women wore. For example in places like Ancient Egypt, Scandinavia, and Greece the attire worn by males and females was only distinguishable by very minor features otherwise it all looked pretty much the same.
This is VERY factually wrong. The ways that the Greeks viewed women were very different and included some very specific rules about clothing for women. It's also not entirely fair to say that the Greeks were LGBT friendly. When you look more closely you will see an insanely misogynistic culture that only supported gay relationships that actually supported that misogyny. As for Egypt it's actually pretty hotly contested about the views of LGBT people, mostly because we only have a few small examples to go off of, and the Egyptian people generally only referred to sex euphemistically. Funnily enough, some of the best evidence of Egyptian "liberal sexual morays" are from older Jewish sources.
Basically this is way too complex a subject to say "monotheism pushed out LGBT friendly ideas."
@@sirleo003 Just because you don't like the fact that Monotheism ruined gay culture doesn't mean you can change that fact. It's well known that before the days of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, many cultures did not have restrictive boundaries on gays or even flamboyance in clothing. Stricter policies came about as a direct result of Monotheistic religions. That is fact. Greek cultures did not restrict women or see them as lesser. The best examples of this is Athens and Sparta. In Athens men and women were given nearly the exact the exact same rights and freedoms. In Sparta women were meant to be just as strong as the men and were taught to be because the entire culture was based on fighting much similar to the ancient Saxons. If you only get your information from Hollywood movies like 300 then you'll never get actual historical accuracy.
Edit: If you want a good source you can check out "Gender Dynamics in Classical Athens" by William Breitweiser. It goes into quite detail. It's an 120 page thesis.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla You may be correct in some aspects but saying that men and women had "nearly the exact same rights" is absolutely not correct. You can find that by a basic search: "Legally, women's rights were limited. They were barred from political participation, and Athenian women were not permitted to represent themselves in law, though it seems that metic women could." Also, women could not own property.
@@carlosotavi0 Basic search meaning you just googled it? When dealing with history and science Google can be highly detrimental. You want University articles and published studies not the first articles you come across on Google.
Also, I don't want to extend this discussion further, this was just a bit of food for thought.
@10:57 the Wilson memorial church is basically saying “ if you don’t like the way you were born commit death and be born correctly”
I feel like I need to send some love towards the Barbras. My grandmas name is Barbra. She’s 86 and is actually a trans and lgbt ally. I watched an old sexist movie with her recently and she called the main actress by her full name but only called the main guy “the male” for the WHOLE THING. Lol.
all of them but that one barbara loving!!
Maybe not to my stepmother, also named Barbara. she's.. probably a TERF.
18:02 ANOTHER FINN!!!
im sorry i (really most of us, i think) just get really excited when we see another one of us. I dunno. just made my day! Kiitos OT!
moi, fellow ace finn!
a hello to my fellow ace finns!
Hello, fellow ace finn, nonbinary aro/ace finn here.
Torille?
Video: EVERYONE IS NON-BINARY
Me: *Stops drawing and physically turns to the video, giving a silent YES motion*
4:40 if this happened I’d get a shirt made with the rgb values for the pride flag on it. However, I’d still just ignore the rule