Fear of staring at private parts | How To Stop | Compulsive Staring OCD
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Many who have OCD struggle with the fear of staring at someone’s private areas. Some may just feel annoyed and distressed because they actually are doing it. Whether it’s in a TV show or in person. They start avoiding places because they don’t want to have to take the time and effort to avoid staring or looking. It’s not something they want to do, so of course, the brain is going to urge them to do it or throw out threats. Let’s go through what it looks like and how to stop staring.
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00:00 Starring at private parts OCD
4:04 Common areas people focus on
5:39 Compulsions starring at private parts
6:58 How to stop starring at private parts
10:00 Online OCD Program
10:33 Bloopers
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Have you struggled with COMPULSIVE STARING before?
I'm still struggling. Been struggling for 8 years.
Me too
This was a theme for me for a while. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD since 2005 but just thought it was the rumination, orderliness, contamination - stereotypical things. Only last year did I learn that intrusive thoughts and relationship to trich/BFRB, and things like being afraid I was staring at someone inappropriately were related.
Learning that OCD was ego dystonic and intentionally picking things that were the opposite of my values was a game changer - I thought before that I thought I must be an awful person to be having all of these thoughts. Now I’m just like “oh, that’s just an OCD thought,” don’t attach any worth to it, and move on.
How do you deal with people covering their chest and groin because you just stared.
@@mariaadhiambo4738 maybe try and say you were just lost in thought and didn’t realize you were staring? I usually avert my eyes really quickly and just think/worry that I stared more so that I am actually staring...
My ocd has made me look to “check” to make sure I’m not attracted certain things. Now, through ERP, I KNOW I’m not attracted to these things I still have urges that I can’t resist to look. Then ocd tells me I only looked because I wanted to. It’s so distressing and confusing to live with ocd.
Wanna talk with u...can i
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@user-hl9uk7jt9o yes you can
@@user-hl9uk7jt9o pls recommend treatment here so all can benefit
damn once again you're putting words on something i've always experienced and didn't even know it was an actual thing, thank you
Same! OCD is so freakin’ weird
I'm glad it was helpful! 👍🏻
@@devih9134 it really is quite the unusual illness. I feel like I’m learning something new about it every day
sameee
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
You can see why this would throw someone in to a big depression after it happened because of feeling deep shame and self disgust. Meetings or groups where you sit in a circle of chairs must be massively triggering
Oh my god I’ve gone through this experience so many times before and the last one was a few days ago and it was a nightmare. You upload the right videos in the right time man, at least to me! Thanks 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing!! I hope you can feel better! 😃
@@ocdandanxiety I have had hocd and I’m scared that if I don’t do the compulsion and try to block the thought out I will start to enjoy it and this worries me.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
@@yumyumdonuts1010 Stop telling people to do compulsions. Thats the opposite of what you need to do with OCD. I've seen you post this same comment 3+ times.
@@sloanepetersen2243 Go fuck yourself. It works and people are happy it works. I’ve helped tons of people. You’re a Slime Ball
I seriously recommend meditation. It can teach you to watch your thoughts/habits but not engage with them. You let it pass without “obsessing”. This IS the CURE!! I’m telling you!
You're saving lives!
We really appreciate your work❤
This is exactly what I've been struggling with and have felt absolutely crazy like I was fighting something worse than my OCD. Thank you for uploading this
I'm glad it was helpful! I hope you feel better soon!
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@yumyumdonuts1010 How do you practice blurring your vision?
@@Xabier2020 look at an object in a room and slightly blur ur vision
@@yumyumdonuts1010 I'm going to try it. Thanks
Obsessive staring has pushed me to constant thoughts of suicide. I leave work after interacting with a girl who seems to like me realizing I may have botched it with my poor eye contact. I’ve had bosses accuse mr of being “weird” or “gay” as if it’s a negative. This condition has taken chunks out of me. I may give your technique a try as nothing else has worked.
I too suffer. For me it's been 25 years I did have a 3 year period where it left but it's been back for 18 years now.
I have learned extra sleep helps.
Do you have any tips?
@@shanekent8621 I’ll try that. I sometimes imagine people are about to fight me and I can’t escape so I have to maintain eye contact so I can manage. It sounds crazy but it has worked a few times. Godspeed man. You are not alone
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@Channel RUclips Sooooo not true
@@buffalopigeon in serious situations our eye contact becomes normal .
It feels glad to know I'm not the only one who goes through this. I feel like a sick person for having these urges, but it's difficult to stop myself sometimes because I'll feel off if I don't satisfy this urge. This happens with other things besides staring at parts as well...
I have the "accidental stare" version haha
Just gotta be kind to yourself.
Hope you've found some peace!
@@rainynight02 Aww, thanks! I've actually been in a much better place lately, I have found some peace 😁
Same I have this ocd
why is this dude so relaxing for me?
I just want to say thank you so much , for the videos and the help. This is my safe space , keep being you! Your helping so many people 👍🏻
It is the way that I had this specific I thing ruin like 5 years of my childhood. Wow. This stuff is just wild
This was one of my first OCD themes when I was 10 and my anxiety around it was really bad. I felt like a sick and perverted person despite being a literal child. Luckily I am much more comfortable with that fear now so I don't feel the obsession/compulsion about staring anymore.
Like I realized that if I notice someone's body with an accidental quick glance or if it's where my eyes go, it's ok. Usually people have no idea anyway.
I sympathize because same 🙁
@@juliemarie8963 I appreciate your concern, but I have a mental illness, not a curse. Personally I am not religious and I can live by my values without following a religion. But I respect that your beliefs are different from mine.
I have been suffering for 25 years.
I have learned extra sleep, Christian music, tv and less caffeine helps.
Do u have any tips?
Thanks
@@shanekent8621 Exposure and response prevention is the most effective therapy for OCD. It’s a process that you can work through with a therapist to start and continue it on your own.
NO WAY!
how did I miss that? I always felt wrong but I didn’t realise that it’s another form of OCD😭
Thank Nathan you helped me a lot in my journey, plus I LOVE your sense of humour it always makes me feel less stressed!
Keep going❤️❤️
aliyah are you somali
@@abdulrazaq2302Adi dhibatadan maaku haysato ?
I'm in love with your channel! I wish you had more subscribers. I thought I was having GAD but thanks to you I've realised I suffer from OCD, which for a very long time went unnoticed, since I mostly perform mental compulsions. You're doing a great job!!!
This means a lot to me! Thanks so much for the confidence!
Do you know the difference? The techniques taught on this channel have been really helpful but some days I feel like I might not have ocd.
I can’t tell you how helpful this has been, thank you so much Nathan, recently got diagnosed with OCD after being misdiagnosed.
This helps my mental rituals. Best of all wishes :)
Plzz tell me how I have stareing ocd
Hi prachi i am from India as well can you discuss what you did for curing OCD I am also suffering from same issue
God! You're the one who exactly described my situation. I literally did this in the middle of watching the video. It's crazy man! It's like I just can't stop myself.
There's me and other me, ones telling me to do it and the other aggressively wants me to stop. But your video addresses the issue correctly. Thank you!
Hey im Also suffering from same issue do u want to discuss strategy to deal with it
Aman, you are not alone. I am the same. I thought i was the only one .
Me too 🥹
I'm turning 22 this year and this is something I've been struggling with for most of my life. Since I was a teenager I had a bad experience that's made me feel ashamed and guilty for having the urge to look at women's bodies and I assumed all women secretly hate me because of it. Even now when I have lots of women friends who feel comfortable around me if they're wearing revealing clothing I'm terrified of offending them to the point of outright avoiding looking at them even when facing directly towards them. I fear that I'll accidentally glance at their chest and they'll despise me afterwards and never want to speak to me again. I prided myself on being a good and kind person but I always saw this as a character flaw. Of proof that I'm a bad person no matter what I do or how hard I try. I'm so glad I've found this and that I'm not alone in this. I want to be respectful to women but I don't want to hate myself while doing it.
Your topics reg OCD are very practical and your suggestions are also very effective Thank you bro love u❤️
Thanks so much for the kind words!!
I struggle with this. Thank you so much for this information and for everyone sharing. It makes me feel a little better and not so alone.
Always so grateful for your channel 🥺🥰
🤗 Thanks so much!
I hate that I do this I quickly glance away and get sooo embarrassed it bugs more that I could express ..that being said I’m glad to see in these comments I’m not alone .. ty
Yeap, you're not alone. Many people said I am kind of immoral, sick...Those words really hurt
I can help you all with this. It’s a trick and it works. I’ve helped a lot of people with this.
@Temporary Cat focus on an object in a room. Look at it and then blur your vision. Do the same thing when in conversation with someone
focus on an object in a room. Look at it and then blur your vision. Do the same thing when in conversation with someone
@Temporary Cat I too want help. Whenever I talk with my friends. My eyes directly goes into their boobs. But not intentionally. Idk how my eyes goes. Please help
Classic Message, I needed this LOL! GREAT JOB MAN!
BRO!! I THOUGHT I WAS GAY, but I'm not attracted to guys at all!! I dont even understand it!! It's like my eyes just do it by themselves!
I hear you !! Same man hopefully things got better for you !
Thanks for the video. You guys should start doing tapping. There is many ocd tapping and fast eft videos can help you with reducing the fear. Also try to listen affirmations while you sleeping over and over. They really helps alot
Best video on RUclips till date explaining about my suffering thanks sir...... Please make more video on this ocd
i've always thought that something is wrong with me and i was bullied heavily because of it by almost everyone i know including my family and friends, but i feel a lot better and relief that i'm not the only one struggling with this. i often shamed myself for it and realize that i don't have any attraction to the parts that i see but due to a result of my OCD. but something i did learn before i knew was to not mentally beat myself up for it when i do have to look and realize i shouldn't shame myself for my ocd. thank you so much for this video + advice
Happy new year, Nathan! Thank you for the video!!
Happy new year! Thanks so much!
Omg I had urges to do this and it feels so real. It comes with groinal responses and that freaks me out even more!
I didn’t know this was a thing. I’ve been going through this and what I think is sexual orientation OCD. I thought the staring was a compulsion. In some ways, it is because I use it as a test. Every time i look I feel so guilty it. There’s so much I’m learning from videos like yours (which unfortunately I watch to seek reassurance). I want to seek professional help, but I don’t know how to begin explaining this to my family because I know how it all sounds and they won’t get it. I’m not sure anyone will. Sorry about this long message. I don’t talk about this often lol
How did things go?
Don't worry I'm going through the same thing too!! Always remember that you're not alone :))
This is literally me 😔
How can we overcome this problem?
I hope you've made progress on your journey!
Mark Freeman, another OCD youtuber, has a really helpful approach for this issue using acceptance and commit therapy. It works as follows:
Accept: The anxiety of staring or not staring
Commit: To valuing people's privacy
Take action: Make eye contact instead of doing the compulsion to stare
It is a real blessing and help to get a needle sharp description of this kind of severe mental help issue, that many of us go through! Thanks Nathan!
OMG, this is exactly what i have, we must get out of this, its time to get rid of OCD forever, this is not stronger than us, we must fight OCD back with the right treatment
Currently struggling with this one. I'm really freaking out about it, it affects my daily life. This is killing me...
same here
totally relate bro, i am also facing it
same here, its fd up 😔
been on this shhtt for 2yrs now, i became anti social cause I creeped everyone
@@Xabier2020 Ive been with this for 2 years now, I felt isolated and unsocial. Its destroying my confidence. I still never found a way to treat it. They said we need to not force ourselves not to look
Wow. RUclips recommendation is odd at times.
But yeah. This is honestly very helpful to people who actually suffer from this OCD. Thank you for this video 🙏
Your videos are always helpful. Thank you. Can you do one about driving, having fear of getting back in the highway. 😓
Great suggestion! I have one on hit and run OCD. This may not apply!
Wow...I stumbled upon this video... Thought I was the only one ...Wow this gives me so much of relieve...Thank You ! Thank You! - This causes me so much of Anxiety ....
I was thinking all my life that i had one type of ocd ( harmocd) , lately i realised thay all my life was based on ocd and intrusive thoughts, thank you for clarifying things for us ❤
I had this compulsion , it was hard because it probably made people feel uncomfortable but everyone stares at private parts or any part . It’s apart of being normal , are eyes and mind drift into different things. I don’t have this compulsion any more , it took constant work with erp to stop the compulsion . Thanks for this video!!!🙏🙏❤️
I am so happy for you. I hope i will get rid of it soon too
@@doga1996 learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
so glad to hear you beat this stupid illness :)) gives me hope
Great can you tell how did you treated it in short
Hey can you please me with how you overcome this. I really need help for this issue
Thank you for this video.
I struggle with this too my compulsive starring is whenever anybody is wearing nail polish on there hands or feet I always have to look. I'll try these tips thanks
Thank you so much for this video. I wish i knew it from before.
See I have suffered from the same problem since 2022 and from 4-5 months I have solved it 90 percent. So what I did was I consulted a psychiatrist and told him that I am suffering from ocd, he gave me some medicines I took medicines for some 3-4 months after that I had no money left with me but I had learned to manage the problem almost 90 percent so see if you are studying in school or college you need to sit on the first bench and if someone is on your left then cover your corner of the left eye with your left hand and vice versa while walking on the streets you can cover some part of the eye or can run and cross the person in front of you. So you have to create your own ways to get rid of the problem. Hope this helps😊
@@vatsalaggarwal7928i suffered with it in 2018
Thank you for uploading this video.It is very helpful to me.I have this type of OCD since from 9 years. What should I do to cure this
This man knows his stuff to the finest detail, this disorder strips you of your dignity and self respect til there is nothing left.
get a psychologist it will vastly help
😭😭😭true
@@fallingstarcaughtbyanglesAre you still suffering from this ocd problem these days?
@@vatsalaggarwal7928 Doesn't help me but thanks for trying. I just have to take mine as one big challenge head on while using it to improve my weaknesses.
Love you friend you have solved my problem, i am dying of this problem
When I look I'm not looking as a sexual thing, I'm not picturing the person naked, I'm just looking not even staring, I have extreme anxiety because of this I feel like I cant look people in the eye unless I have a few drinks, even then my eyes wind up darting on to a private area, I'm happily married, but it happens with men and women, I feel like I come off to people as a sex fiend or gay when I'm neither, I just have trouble being around people in conversation, I wasnt like this when I was young, after a controlling relationship where I isolated myself and stayed in the house it turn into this. And I am so alone. I'm glad I'm not the only one in the world going through this, so there is hope to get rid of this.
I feel the same 😢
God, why do I have so many of these strange types of OCD?! 😭
Thanks for making the video this OCD has ruined my life.
Do you think the pandemic and those with a propensity to social anxiety may also struggle with this? I think this is my case as I do not have OCD, but I feel that the lack of socializing and then having those 'fear of judgement' thoughts is causing me issues with this. Thank you for sharing
Maybe
hi nathan! thank you for talking about this, this theme has been bothering me a lot lately.
i wanted to ask if you knew about feeling like you're smiling at inappropriate events/thoughts. it often happens with harm thoughts or seeing awful things for me. i really dont want to smile, yet i feel like i'm about to, or even will. other people with ocd told me they experienced it, but i don't really understand it. i feel like it's similar to groinals, our body is reacting to the thoughts in that way because we don't want it to and we put too much focus on it.
You are right I am dude I am also suffering from sams thing. Can you tell me are you well know or if yes how did you treated it!
I am also suffering from that type of problem can you tell me how can
I heal it I am living very worst life😭😭😭can you help me please
Lol. This video really helped because now I see I'm not the only one and how silly it is.
With Hocd i get repulsed when I stare because I know I don't like these people but I just look at their face, hair lips whatever just checking to see if I have a reaction. Its so odd. Like after I worry about omg i just looked at that person I have to be bi or whatever but In actuality I just like their make-up or their hair style but in the moment i get so anxious to the point I shake or cry so ive been avoiding watching tv, going outside or looking at people in the eyes. Im afraid my hocd is gonna make me like them out of nowhere. Its happened before and i cant talk to those people without thinking about it. It makes me so sad i Just want my friends back without me going crazy not knowing if im staring because i like them or something.
First and foremost all I can say is wow to be able to find this type of information where I don't feel so alone and perverted from having this problem that I find out others thousands of people share the same problem and that it's an anxiety related issue I am not homosexual nor am I a weirdo but I have struggled with this for quite some time as I am now an adult all the way back from my teenage years of looking at people's body parts mostly women due to the fact that women are attractive when they are in certain outfits or just have that type of figure the way most women dress nowadays exposing a lot but then at times just a casual dresser it's a habit it's like a a habit of just something that happens even when I don't want it to happen. I feel bad about it because I think of others and myself and I wouldn't want someone else to be looking at my body parts at the same time I believe it comes from self confidence of my silent shape I've always wanted to be bigger and for some reason I compare myself my body shaped to others especially in the gym or one with an athletic figure. I could go on and on of this topic and to realize it's a psychological struggle. It does not bother me to the point of being antisocial but it is a struggle when I'm talking with someone eye to eye face to face, I do my best too keep my attention straight but as usual it wonders in between. I've even considered to go to a nudist beach to be in the atmosphere I've never been in of everyone just being open and laid back where everything is exposed versus covered. I've never been one to like tucking in shirts where your antibody parts reflect through your clothing, if shaped awkwardly especially, I felt so weird thinking this but I realizing now discovering this it's not just me. Out of nowhere today I just decided to look up why I stare at body parts to see what I connect with the world and here we are......
You are the only person talking about this topic. Thank you. Have you ever come across anyone who fear eye floaters. I am told lots of people have these but until i became depressed. Some times i dont even notice them so i dont know if they are really there or if i am imagining them. What ever it this it has caused me to feel i want to die sometimes. I am trying so hard to not believe this . Please can you help or am i untreatable.
Im very depressed because of this, Ive been called every names you can think of. I wanna die sooner
For all those people struggling through this should create a community in telegram,whatsapp etc and meet each other at one venue. If people you are all interested we should fund a trip to a place where we all can meet up and work on our problems without having any one to judge us. If interested please make an arrangement soon.
Oh my god ! This is exactly how I fixed my social anxeity !
please share what helped 🫶
@@lovelybluntdoll Greetings , the way I changed the social anxeity is through 1. diaphragmatic breathing 2. Facing the anxeity : Gradually staying the social anxeity situations (begin with shorter duration and try to stay in that situation while slowing down everything you do , and go to a different environment for things to clam down) 3. Exercise (Allowing the body to move and stretch regularly in a relax manner makes a huge difference) 4. Be Brave and give time for the pattern to change. 5. Take a walk in nature once a while.
It will take time for social anxeity to change , and the pattern will try to crawl back from time to time , and time passes by , things will get better.
I hope thing will help everyone who is facing social anxeity , the most important thing is to be brave and face it.
Thank you ❤
I have suffered badly from ocd. It has fucked up my potential to realise my full potential in this life.
I realized too I could've been the better and motivated version of myself, but this OCD just sucked it all up
I have an extreme problem with staring especially when it comes to attractive people or interesting people. I’m always getting impulses to stare but I know that many neurotypical people see it as rude or a form of internal judgment but that’s not true. When I stare at people it’s usually because something about them interests me or attracts me. I wish I just could stare at people without seeming like a creep or rude. For some reason I also constantly have an impulse to stare at peoples groin‘s butts and breasts. Sadly in the Neurotypical world can be seen as creepy. Also when it comes to people who look different like people with disabilities or extremely obese people. I don’t hate them at all and neither am I bothered by them But some people take steering personally and I’ve heard many people especially obese people and people with disabilities expressed that staring makes them feel like they’re being judged and if they see it as rude. I’m not a creep or rude I’m just autistic and the urges are strong to stare.
wait. this is a thing. is this what i’ve been experiencing for the last 4 years ? my therapist said it was a trauma response. today i find out i am autistic and have starring ocd? you literally put it into words. “something interest me or i want to appreciate, it not because i’m judging or being a creep.” thank you!!!!
What if you’re too afraid to stare compulsively and avoid looking at people all together?
I look between people’s eyebrows 😬
I look between people’s eyebrows 😬
This happens to me! I didn´t know it was an important symptome! I feel like I have to stare at woman to be sure that I don´t feel attracted to them so I have to double check and I hate it! but I feel my brain is like LOOK, LOOK YOU HAVE TO LOOK, it gives me so much anxiety
Same over here I'm 12 nearly 13 and my life has been a living hell because of OCD and it's so annoying
@@whambam849Are you improving with this ocd issue now?
i used to have this ocd, until i came up with something.
"if you look at people's private parts they're definitely gonna know"
what i did was i started devaluating this sentence with actually looking at people's private parts
BUT i would use the moments they weren't looking and i wouldn't stare to not make it obvious.
so try this, if you got this ocd whenever in your life, tell yourself that you HAVE to look at people's private parts. but only do it when it's not obvious and if you're having a conversation and this ocd kicks in tell yourself that i will look, but they're looking at me rn let me find the right time to do it. and then actually do it...
it's like a bitter medicine but it worked and over a time i actually forgot i had this ocd and the symptoms stopped.
and whenever it starts again i force myself to do this and it works...
(and just to add something.
if you feel bad about looking at people's private parts (like i did) i started sorting my thoughts in two categories. "active" and "passive" i call them.
so an active thought is when I'm thinking about something by my own will.
and passive is when my mind brings up thoughts by itself.
the difference is when you actively want to look at people's private parts you don't feel like you're under a pressure or anxious and...
that's passive thinking and when you want to push those thoughts away they'll only get stronger and you will feel more anxious.)
I thought im alone in this world and didn’t know a thousands of people have this too
I struggle with pocd...and I had no idea that staring was a form of ocd until today. I'm sure you can guess how much fun it is when these two form are combined...a lot of self doubt and anxiety filled days
We are in this together, I have struggle with both too within my OCD themes!
@@nathannathan2814 It's insane, my guy. "If it's just my OCD thoughts, why am i looking over there!"
Same here. Recently started dealing with these in the last 3-4 months. Constantly been dealing with other things like suicidal thoughts and worrying if I’m going to hurt myself or someone else along with other things. I get super sweaty and nervous because I don’t want to hurt myself or someone else, but the thoughts and images are so strong they seem real.
@@lukesigmon9601 i know man. I'm better than ever at dealing with the thoughts, but they still kill me sometimes. An instant way to ruin my mood and day. Even when you know it's just OCD, my brain says "NO! This one is real! Why did you think that. And if its not real, why did you look over at that person!?"
I struggle with the same thing dude, it's OCD. I promise, I've had great days but when I'm disregarding the thoughts or urges my OCD seems to get louder and feels like I'm fighting "who I am," when it's still OCD. We're in this together and I wanted to say you're not a lone in dealing with this.
The problem with this is that there are consequences to staring at private parts. If you let go, and stop caring, it’s not like it was all in your head. Many people will give you a dirty look , or get in a staring war with you, or maybe say something nasty or even say that you made them uncomfortable and they want you to stop, or just comment on what you’re doing, or get you fired from a job or reported to the police for sexual harassment .
It’s bullshit. Yes, police will consider a bullshit claim like staring. And in a job, it doesn’t matter whether it’s valid or not, you will be fired. So you can get in trouble regardless. Nothing serious will probably happen, but you might have to fight a complaint or explain what happened . And then you realize, okay, back to square one. I have to make sure I don’t stare at people.
Fr. I’m constantly composed to stare at people I wish that we didn’t have all these unspoken rules that say that you’re not supposed to stare at people because I’m constantly compose to do it and it’s a strong urge and if I do it I feel disgusted with myself and if I don’t do it I’m uncomfortable i’m not creepy and I don’t want anyone to think that I’m sexually harassing them or become uncomfortable with me
Hi thanks fro share information related with that OCD, I'm suffering from 5 year ago, I'm exhausted. Any support group in Sydney (Australia) specialist in that OCD. Thanks and all the best 😰🙂
thanks! Im going to do some ERP tonight!
Hi Nathan. Hope that all is well. Thanks for creating this channel and dedicating your time to helping others, your assistance is truly invaluable!
I have been dealing with HOCD (SO-OCD) for about 2.5 years now, only found out what was wrong with me at the beginning of 2020. I have been applying the relevant methods to manage the OCD, I have had good results. I have reduced the panic attacks and levels of anxiety.
However there is one compulsion that still persists. I tend to "blush" or get awkward facial expressions around any gay topics, interactions with males, or speaking about anything male related. I reckon that it started by having a fear of my thoughts being transparent (as usual, I thought that they were "real"), and I would perform a compulsion by trying to hide my "emotions" through attempting to control my facial expressions. Now the "blushing" just happens automatically. I'm a heart-on-my-sleeve type of guy.
For financial reasons, I do not have access to a health professional or medication.
Thanks again for everything. Stay safe and take care.
Hey dude same here I am also suffering from HOCD since 2020
This is the only video I can really find about this all of the other videos are about what to do when people stare at you or telling people not to stare but I feel like a horrible person for having the impulses and for actually following through with them
Hey Nathan , I am here to ask what's the difference between HOCD and questioning? Please tell 🙏
Going through this hurts especially the unsupported ones who are anti mental health
Dealt with this many times. My SSRI's help, but they don't always work.
I try to just accept that I'm having these intrusive thoughts and move on. Confessions don't work, it just fuels the OCD even more. I think the key, is to just let it pass by like it's radio static
Thank you so much am the victim of this kind of OCD disorder . the one thing that challenge be to fight my ocd is the comorbidity of depression i hop this video will help me !
I can help you. Just blur your vision when you are in conversation with eye contact. It’s like a shield for your eyes. It breaks the nervous tension.
@@yumyumdonuts1010 i dont know if this works, i been trying it but i feel like they notice me bluring my vision. i fucking hate this shit so much... why me😔
@@sh_qp_ee754 Trust me they don’t notice Shit. You can do it with out squinting
@@yumyumdonuts1010 whats your contact i wanna talk to you please.
@@sh_qp_ee754 it won’t let me put my email
It's been almost 5 years and still isolating myself and suffering from this issue. I'm still young and lost hope, I honestly don't see myself making it into the future.
U can tell it to ur friends and family about the ocd .
Damn, I really need to go to therapy😭😭
U a kpop Stan so that must be hard
@@hadjaadam3674 🤨
@@hadjaadam3674is an ignorant thing to say for someone who needs help
OMG! I am going through this right now. I thought I was the only one. But I have lost 3 jobs that I loved because of this. But this was brought on after a incident at a warehouse
I’m so sorry…. I lost a few jobs as well and currently have been unemployed for 1 year. If you don’t mind me asking, are you currently working now? If so what job do you find most easy with this ocd staring?
try construction, wear dark sun glasses
@@ac-lu7uk I work construction and I make sure I wear glasses
I skipped all my school days because of this
@@mkmllrcim also bro.... Now is it cured??
Thank you
I have this ocd but not only staring at private parts but also at everything has a value, like phones, bags, money... some people think that i want to steal their stuffs, I ve been strugling with this for 25 years, I cant anymore...
Stay strong ask the creator for help and guidance
I've been struggling w this for like 2 years. I noticed it started with me looking at the security guards crotch, then it passed to also staring my manager. I don't know where this came from but I'll assume is from being molested. I've suppressed this for the longest time and 4 years ago I started getting glimpses of all the shit that happened to me growing up. I had a mental breakdown that resulted in badly cutting myself (I've always self harmed but this one was way too deep) and ended up in the ward. I started some therapy but I was inconsistent. When I was ready to talk to my therapist about this my work insurance lapsed so I stop treatment altogether. This staring bs is ruining me. I work at a clinic there is a trigger since I wake up until I go to bed. I'm tired of it all. I wish I can master myself or at least be able to deal better with this. Too much people have been noticing. The anxiety of actually doing what the person recommends in the video towers over me even if I look on the tv I feel so disgusted w myself. Please God help me.
I too suffer.
I have learned alot of sleep helps, limiting caffeine and only christian music and TV.
Do you have any tips?
@@shanekent8621 no really, I just hope I don't get a sexual harassment case right now I would not be able to take it.
@@shanekent8621 have you thought about seeing a therapist? I'll be doing that soon.
Seek for OCD therapists.
Blur your vision sweet angle. It will break the nervous tension. Make ur vision blurry when talking with someone... just for a sec or 2 Trust me it works
I starred at it with confidence
12 mins video just to enroll your program
12 sec shorts would have been perfect
Man this video is so true, it made me uncomfortable
i love this to my death
Hey can you please make a separate video about curing this condition? I suffer from this, but I am too shy to see a psychologist
safe feeling of judgement and being on my records
I'm at freakin war with my own brain
Omg now I know the problem. I thought I was a perv and I'm the only one doing it. We kinda look at it even if we don't want.
Make more videos about this please
I'm struggling with this kind of staring ocd, You said it brother, i have all this symptoms and how can i get rid of this.
My goodness this is exactly what I am going through.. how to go about this please if you can guide !!
Hi Nathan, could you direct me to any resources that have more info on this subtype of OCD and details of treatment. Thank you!
I would look at www.iocdf.org -- they talked about it yesterday on here: ruclips.net/video/t6fu_kxNiss/видео.html
@@ocdandanxiety thanks so much!
i have a question for us all in this comment section.
have you dropped lsd or shrooms and did you experience this starring problem after?
smoke pot?
wondering if there is any possible correlation.
I struggle with this so bad that It makes me feel like I am crazy and I don't know how to stop doing it I've been trying to do what you say and it always makes it worse any tips? I have a hard time going and doing things like go to church and stuff every situation 💭 is always different but really strong compulsions. I feel really depressed and sad and really mad about my behavior. I struggle millions of times a day. Any suggestions?????
U r so helpful sir thanks
Exposures tips for peripheral staring??
I have been isolated since my childhood. I have had bad breath since I was eight years old and I am 32 today. From the age of 12 until today I have OCD compulsive staring. Life is not easy, it is a struggle and everyone has their own luck. I have many more good prospects, I thank God.
somali baa tahay sow ma ahan 🙆♂️
Same story.
20 years?
Can you please make a video on ocd while using computers and phones?
This very true
This advice is ok if your in a public place but not when your at work for example and what if you only do it whilst in converstaion.
I literally searched up . “How to stop staring!!” Its wild because i never knew I did this untill the other day .
3 years and counting for me, wbu?
This is an issue I've faced for so long, it's so relieving to find others that face this issue. Anyone know where I can find resources to further solve this issue and other OCD issues?
www.youtube.com/@OCDVA
its a channel dedicated to this specific type of ocd.