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@@do7473 Make sure you got a very dark set of Sun glasses. Don't let her see you looking too hard at the other chicks. You can not avoid looking, because some of these women look like beauty queens. No harm in looking, but she may be offended if she sees you doing it.
I went to dinner with a lady here in the Philippines she brought family members and six other friends to a very nice restaurant. I did not expect this, she introduced them to me, They ordered the most expensive food, after the introduction they had very little to say to me, they were on their phone, laughing and talking to each other. I went to the comfort room, they directed me where it was. I went there and left through a side door they didn’t notice me leaving they were to busy enjoying themselves. About a half hour later she called asking where was I, I told her that I left, I didn’t invite all those people, don’t know them and was not going to pay for them, and after they had sit down they forgot I was there so I left. Nice meeting her but I don’t play that game and no body is going to play it on me. She said that she didn’t think they had the money to pay for the dinner. I told her that was not my problem, she invited them, she should pay for them. She was embarrassed, I told her to take care good bye. Some Filipina will do this, not all. They think this behavior is okay, they expect the foreigners to treat all their friends and families without saying anything before it happens.
It happened to me. On our first date, she brought all her friends with her, so many of them, and she told me laughing: my friends are hungry, they want to go eat at the restaurant! Well, do u know what I did? I left her just right on the spot and I told her she was already in nice company so she doesn't need me to be with her!!! Period!
@Mark Haywood i don't have guts. I don't like to be played around by a little uneducated province pilipina girl who thinks that money grows on trees in my country. That was very unpolite what she did to my point of view and I only paid her back with the same currency.
I did, instinctively, exactly what you talked about, in that I had 3 or 4 Filipino women lined up to meet, just in case. When I got there, the first two were sweet and gorgeous, just like their photos, but boy oh boy they lied like no other women I had ever dealt with. I won't go into details about what they lied about but they lied straight to my face about certain things that raised a red flag for me. Yes! The Manila girl showed up with girlfriends, and sisters and brothers and cousins and nephews and the 2nd one (Cebu girl) was with her entire family and extended family as well. I had talked to both of them, before coming there, about being alone to get to know each other before meeting family members, because we had no idea if there would be real chemistry between us in person. I made that very clear, but they did just the opposite anyways. I felt i was put on the spot. I had no problem with them all greeting me at the airport (MNL) but I was tired after a 22 hour flight (2 stops) and wanted to rest at the hotel. After meeting them ALL, i heard among them what they were planning. They made plans about where to go and seemingly didn't care how I felt about anything. I even heard thee "it's ok he's rich" comments being whispered. They wanted to go eat (at my expense). I know for a fact, because Manila girl and Cebu girl, each said to me that I should treat their families to dinner so that they all could get to know me in a relaxed environment or something like that. I was like "WHAT?" Some of them even said they wanted to go shopping at the mall and sightseeing, (I assume at my expense, but could be wrong on that one) because they said they had not been to the "BIG CITY" before coming to Manila to greet me. The 2nd woman i met was in Cebu, but both of them did exactly the same thing at the airport, by bringing others. Well I still had two more women to meet, so i didn't care about pursuing anything with either of them at that point. They had shown their true colors, in my mind. The other two? One of them was in Tacloban, and the other was in Davao. The both of them (3 and 4), later on in my visit to the Phils, met me by themselves. Thank God! But, the 1st two I met were "playing games" and obviously saw me as a rich American to take advantage of. When they told me what the plan was, i looked at each of them (Manila girl and Cebu girl on separate occasions) and said blatantly to them: "I have my hotel room to check into and I'm going by myself to my hotel room, to unpack and get some rest. You (insert name here) and your friends and family can all go and do whatever you like and YOU can just message me later when you are done with whatever you had plan to do WITHOUT ME! Each of them looked at me in shock and disappointment and I stared hard, back at them, with a look of "Oh hell no" and then they couldn't look me in the eyes, but a little later looked up at me with sad and guilty eyes and knew exactly what I was doing and realized what I would not tolerate, from the get go. I got into my taxi without looking at any of them and went to my hotel. I was tired as hell and just didn't give a, you know what! Well neither of them bothered to message or call me later in the evening, as i knew they wouldn't and I was all good with it. I didn't care one bit. I figured I'd dodged a bullet and a boat load of headaches. Yes it was disappointing but i quickly recovered and went on to enjoy my time in Manila and Cebu with some online buddies that I had also planned on hooking up with. I don't play that crap and am no fool. Around 2 weeks later, I did get phone calls from each of them, by then, to talk about what had happened at the airport, and although they said they were sorry, with a million excuses as to why they assumed it was ok to "ambush" me like that, there was really no remorse in their tone of voice. I told them, we agreed upon the two of us, first meeting up alone and that they had broken that agreement, so I lost interests. Yes! I know Filipino's are extremely family oriented, which i love, but it was NOT our agreement and it was uncomfortable for me, since it was the first face to face meeting, in the first place. I had no problem, meeting family members, after finding out if there was chemistry between us. It felt as though I was already engaged for marriage without knowing these two women first, just by the way the family was acting, whom I also didn't know. I don't know what happened with their families standing there at curbside but I can only imagine, their thoughts of me, were not pleasant one's. I didn't care and said, have a nice life and hung up. I went on to meet 2 normal, lovely, beautiful and genuine women and had the time of my life after the nightmare expectations from the first two I met. Sorry for the long rant lol.
Better off just waiting to get there in person to physically meet someone and know exactly who you're dealing with, all that online dating nonsense is filled with too many pitfalls.
@@sardeen9487 Good advice but we did commit before meeting and have been married almost six years. I would have married her if she showed up in a wheel chair. My word is all she needs. She was from a province. I don't believe in luck, I told her what I was all about and what I was looking for and she was it. Neither one of us are into playing games.
Make hotel reservation by her house and find a way to rent a car or get transportation to the place by her. Get situated in the hotel for a day or 2 and then get her to meet you for a first time near the hotel alone.. pay for her taxi and after a day together you can say goodbye or she can stay with you together. Yes.. make it into a vacation with or without her 👍
I was on a website for 4 years and 2 months before I met a Filipina that was worth getting to know. Guys...take your time. You'll eventually meet a starlette that will love you like no other. You'll know her when you see her.
Having been through the Philippines and marriages over 30 years - main point is to take your time. Most guys seeking in the Philippines are lonely. Lots of good women in the Philippines, but there are an equal amount of desperate women there looking for a quick buck. Take your time. Get to know a few women online. Don't be led by your willy and cuteness. Be open and genuine. Accept no games. It took me three times but I have someone for life now - best woman I have every met.
Rule of thumb in dating, specially with different nationality - have a good intention and be open minded about culture differences. If your expectations arent met, then walk away without regrets. Be happy about the lessons and experiences.
I asked a Philippina out for dinner there. She brought three friends. I paid, but refused to see her again, even though she wanted to meet (probably to exploit me more). When you arrange a date with a Philippine woman, you have to tell her to leave her friends and relatives behind and that if she brings someone, she'll have to pay for them.
@@heyjude5027 You're completely wrong. I'm always a gentleman, in all my dealings with women and I never give off threatening vibes. I come from a conservative background, I'm very polite to women and the idea that any woman needs to be protected from me is ridiculous. In addition, I made a point of inviting her to have dinner with me at a famous hotel restaurant, I wasn't staying at that hotel, and we both arrived separately, so why would she need security? I never discuss sex with a woman, or refer to it until we are deeply into a relationship. I didn't mention anything about it to her when I asked her to have dinner. So why would she need protection from me? As to your reference to my supposedly "toxic attitude", I always bring a positive attitude toward Asian women, regardless of their social position, and I'm always polite to them. There's no toxicity in my attitude toward them. Are you trying to convince me that foreign women never exploit men? That's ridiculous. Most women are decent people, but in any country there are ones that take advantage of men and especially foreign men. Finally, if she was worried about me why did she bring three friends to a hotel restaurant? Then why did she order food, have it boxed as soon as it arrived, tell me it was for her baby, and leave with her friends? I sat alone at the table before I'd even started to eat. Is that good Philippine manners? I don't think so. I've dated Philippine women before and they've never done that before. The others, when they wanted to bring a friend, would politely ask me beforehand. I've been to the Philippines many times and I like the people there very much. Most of them have very fine characters. However, as in any country, there are some bad people. That woman was one.
@@heyjude5027 THEY want to feel safe meeting a foreigner but the foreigner is the one who is coming to a country he's never been too before and all of sudden is getting mobbed by a whole bunch of unknown people he's never met before in his life. But they want to feel safe.... THE IRONY IN YOUR STATEMENT IS COMICAL😂!! All men should be cautious when dating any foreign women because most of their intentions are not genuine. If meeting in a public setting on your home turf is not enough security and safety for her then YES....Keep far away from these individuals. They are users playing the game and THESE TYPE OF WOMEN DONT DESERVE YOU😤
@@craigschuler1547 exactly! Filipinas are brilliant when it comes to men. They are very, very smart and shrewd when it comes to attracting men....and yes it’s 99% of them...and yes the “good” ones, too.
@@craigschuler1547 80% of Filipinos are. They ARE nice to foreigners, but you better believe they are looking for some payback for that. That is why they have the "skin tax." But these girls talk to tons of foreigners and they learn very quickly how to market themselves. Just look at that goof on the recent video by Filipina Pea. I don't know how legit that story is, but he claimed he got scammed out of over a million dollars! He's a smart guy scammed by some girl with probably not more than a high school education....that is how good these dames are.
We had a guy at my work. He was talking to a Filipina online for a long time. She made arrangements to fly to the USA. At the last second, she emailed him and said her paperwork was messed up and she needs $200. He said he had no problem paying but had no idea how to get her the money? She sent him a very detailed email about how to get the money to her. He said “you sure seem to know a lot about this ?” She never talked to him again.
Another awesome video, thanks. People need to get past the cloud of romance and see the reality. Someone said that his girlfriend told him sex is for her husband and he said paying bills is for my wife.
Hey Calvin, I think youtube is broken because I can only like this video once 🤔🤔 . I loved this . The friends thing happened to me , ordering all the expensive things and then they had the audacity to take the left overs home . I was like what the hell is going on here but since it was my first time there I let it slide and voiced to never put me in a situation like that again. After that my wife felt bad and never spoke to them again. Its been years since it happened but yea I feel ya
I don't think they did it maliciously, but yeah I understand. You have to understand the Filipino mind. They are poor and you are God to them. If you don't look like them, they think you a ship anchored at the nearest bay full of gold.
Sad but true, men should be careful finding the right woman even in the Philippines bcuz there are only few with good quality. Men should be wise enough and never forget their main reason why find a Filipino wife.
IMHO, Calvin, this is your best video since I subscribed in 2020! Feeling your boots on the ground and more! Love you are not holding back any of your feelings... Especially, your feelings and mine about feminism is in the USA... How bad it is destroying any chance for a good guy like you and myself to be interested in dating a woman who chooses that route... Keep telling it like it is my brother and God bless!
This one s some of the best advice I've ever heard, but not just for fillipinas, any man traveling to meet a woman internationally to any country should heed this advice. I know from personal experience what a bad idea it is to go abroad to visit only one single woman without having any reserves lined up. thank you sir for another excellent video!!
Yes I fully understand this concept too... I went to a foreign country recently and only setup to meet one woman... it didn’t work out at all... so from now on I would have at least three women there as backups if the first woman didn’t work out.
The trouble is if the one you're with ain't half bad she's gonna get fairly ropey if she happens to learn about your "reserves". Better keep them on the down low ( keep your phone in sight ) 😁🤭
Thank you for pointing these things out. I'm quick to say I'm out. No matter. I don't catch feelings that quick any more. Glad for a person like you. Always keep someone in the
I know what you're saying, but there's a chance she might go psycho. I was in a courtroom one morning when the security brought in a five-feet tall, 100 pound (I might be stretching on the weight) Vietnamese girl. This was domestic violence court, so I wondered who the heck did she beat up. It turns out she broke probation, and she was on probation because she had beaten her boyfriend up. The boyfriend decided to move on (who can blame him?) and he went and got another girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend (who was on probation for beating the boyfriend up) caught the ex-boyfriend out with his new girl friend, and beat the living crap out of both of'em. As I said this girl was about five feet and maybe 100 pounds, soaking wet:-)
They will always meet u at the airport. It's their way to make sure u don't see any other Filipina that gets your attention. Best thing to do is arrive first on your own. I'm thinking about doing that later this year.
I have a number of rules I live by 1. Never give money to a woman you are not in a relationship with. 2. Do not chat with women you cannot meet within 6 months. 3. Do not date women in countries you have no interest in living in. 4. Never meet a woman for the first time at the airport 5. Before you meet your lady know your budget and if you decide to give her an allowance it comes out of your spending money. 6. Create a relationship agreement which outlines your expectations and make certain she understands it. 7. Never lie to the woman you meet. 8. learn a little about her culture, language, and beliefs 9. Research where she lives so you can take her somewhere nice but won't break the bank. 10. Be prepared to walk away if she offers you an ultimatum.
True words. I've heard about and seen it where the entire family shows up at the airport. I've been lucky and avoided the tricks here befause my sister married a Filipino and moved to the Philippines over 8 years ago. So I had family here to guide me and warn me. Most expats don't have these resources. This is why it is very important for people like you to share their knowledge. Most won't want to listen but if you can help out a few it's totally worth it
This is also good information for dating women ANYWHERE!! Calvin I've practiced these techniques for years amd you'll keep finding better women until you ultimately find the one..
You make some good points but I'd like to make a few comments. First off -- not all Filipinas are scammers. There are lots of decent ones who won't take advantage of you. The thing to keep in mind is that most of girls that foreigners are meeting are the poorer ones is desperate situations, most often with kids. On that basis, they're looking for ways to improve their lives and a foreigner is just the ticket. So you have to keep that in mind and be careful. Some are scammers who are already married or have boyfriends but others are decent and genuinely looking for a relationship. That's why it's important to go slowly and be honest about yourself and your intentions. Then as you said, insist on the same treatment in return. The guys that get scammed are usually scammers themselves or foolishly niave to begin with. Remember that people are the same everywhere. The Philippines is a poor country and the girls that you're going to meet are looking at improving their lives situations, just like women everywhere. The Filipinas that are doing well are already married and successful and aren't looking for a foreigner. Keep that in mind and treat others the way you want to be treated - with kindness, respect and honesty.
96% are not and my vlogs don’t generalize but I share information that happens enough that I believe new men should be aware of this stuff. Thanks for your feedback and comments!
"First off -- not all Filipinas are scammers." not all but most of them are sooner or later -- good luck finding that 'special one' -- have seen it going wrong too many times.
Sure!!!Pinay women who found aready the right match they already won the lottery!!! It would be risky for them to change the spot! If they are lucky they could go from good to better but if they are not they could go from good to worse and they know it so they keep it very well in mind! But finding a really good pinay is really like winning the lottery!!!! Very very hard!!!!
Guys that have been around and know what they are doing and have that 2&3 years LDR and have expat friends, will know more what to look for.. And hooking up with an older filipina like 40-50 is so much safer. Not foolproof but she has better values and respect .. yep 👍
@@mela6046 lol. We are both over 50 now.. My filipina is almost ready to retire and she is done with all the 5 kids and their college education.. Now they will be taking care of us there 😂
@@mela6046 lol my Filipina wife and I were in our 50's when we met. We never fought for the bathroom and never argued over the coloring book and crayons either... ✌️😊
@@mela6046 And that is why I built my home with (3) three CRs. One is out side. The main CR (comfort room) has (2) commodes, a walk in tub and a shower. The other only has a commode and a shower. The one outside only has a commode. I'm 76 and I will not be waiting for any one when I have to go.
you are so right. Part of the problem is these older dudes don't do any due diligence about the destination they are interested in (Pi, Thai and so on). A lot dudes make finding some sort of female online the first priority. I find it's best to do your home work, go there. Get settled in and then start looking for dates. And never ever trust any one with your money. Never. I l love South East Asia, but it's not for everyone, especially the niece and starry eyed. good stuff man!
I agree, as a filipino i see it as disrespect and distrust. U get to meet her friend and family on airport that u dont expect just so they can talk to each other all day and judge you using language that u dont understand but know they are judging u by the look and subtle gesture they do. I sympathies with you and yes that is a red flag they only interested for your money not to you entirely. Yes most filipina with good looks has this mindset that the world revolves around them and it a obligation for men to be a simp. I agree u need to level the field too showing to her she not in control.
Calvin I've been to the Philippines for a brief visit and I was engaged to a Filipina for a while. It was a great experience in many ways but it didn't work out due to her dishonesty about important things. That being said I've still learned a lot from your videos, I think they're helpful to more than just people that have never been to the Philippines. I appreciate you, the way you deliver the information is fantastic, very sincere, humble and entertaining.
Sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you. Your comment about their dishonesty is interesting. I think that a lot of it is a cultural thing. In the West we pride ourselves on being honest - in Asia it's about saving face and not hurting people's feelings... even if there's a lot more hurt once the truth comes out. They don't see lying in the same way that we do. I know that it sounds strange and it takes awhile to get used to it, but it's a different culture and after visiting many Asian countries over many years, I still don't get a lot of things and I'll always be an outsider.
@@pauls4742 she was a very kind and beautiful young woman and I could have dealt with a lot but when I learned she was also engaged to a Japanese guy and was lying to both of us it was just too much. I think she really did have feelings for me and really intended to come to the US to be with me, and I understand the extreme poverty and family pressures were a big factor for her. But I couldn't risk having her come here and divorce me and clean me out. But I'm still looking for the right Filipina for me.
Been ambushed 1 time and I learned from it.. first time i met a girl she met met me at the airport, then after a bunch of trips she never came to the airport to meet me, I would stay at her house and she would be sleeping in the day time, guess what, one day she knew I was coming she was asleep,, and I went to a hotel hit every bar had been with other girls, one time she had seen me and had a panic attack, folks I told her u have been replaced, my girl now knows the story .and I guess the panic attack was that her internet, light , cable would be disconnected...her Mom cried and beg me to come back home, felt bad for the Mom she is a wonderful woman , I told her your daughter plays games, A dude from the states got her pregnant n left her, glad I used condoms..
Jorge Toloza, you are sensible. An American firend of mine was pursued by a Filipina 28 years younger than him. He thought he was sterile, she was unrelenting till she got pregnant, then demanded P20,000 a month support. He gave. But she was unfaithful, had a Pinoy BF she was bringing to the apartment he was paying for, for sex. They got busted, Kano kidnapped his then 3 year old sn, took him back to the US. Now she is destitute, but he can't come back to the Philippines. Wear a condom!
The trip to airport is sometimes the biggest trip she and they have ever made. This happened to me as extended family all greeted me at airport. But she couldn’t go herself, she’d never been to Manila from Bacolod. So the first 3 days was all together and I accepted this. This family extension was in Manila, then we took a ship back to Bacolod. Being Christmas time, flights fully booked. We took ship and much more romantic trip to Bacolod... I didn’t marry her until next trip. But made sure who and all what first. She passed away 2.5 years after marriage, 1.5 years after in USA... haven’t found any this good since. But I’ll be there soon again, after covid lock down stops.... great info to hear and agree ))
Another cracking video mate. You always talk sense. I'm looking in the 30-40 age group. As you can expect, women in that age range are usually seperated with kids, some who were married are now looking for a mug to pay for their annulment. Most of the women I've chatted to online have the same story :- Pinay meets pinoy. They copulate like the proverbial rabbits. Pinay get pregnant. Pinoy can't handle the responsibility and runs away leaving pinay to raise the kid alone and often with help from her mum (thank God for grandparents who help with childcare in PH otherwise Filipino society would collapse). Pinay feels alone and needs a man for financial security. Pinoy cannot be trusted cos her own man has been back to her over the years and disappeared again but given her another 2 kids aswell. So, pinay looks for a foreigner. She finds one online. She becomes a nun "no sex before marriage dahling, I'm a devout Catholic girl dahling" YEAH RIGHT..!! Why should pinoy have all the fun?
All this happened to me in dipolog.. 7 people waiting at Airport, then straight to resturant. Then off to sindangan. Every place we went ,went in a group I paid. I was very uncomfortable all the time. Relationship over..
be good to a good filipina you wont regret it ,she adore and respect you all the way , dont betray to a good filipina and dont play a good filipina as your part time happiness , ...
Yah There's a saying that ' when you like a flower you pick it up and bring to your home,but when you love the flower you let it be at garden and water it daily and you will let it grow '
Well said - it's the same everywhere in the world. Treat people with respect and kindness and expect the same in return. Don't put up with bad behaviour and make sure that you model the correct behaviour to.
One of the first rules I've ever heard about visiting the Philippines is not having a girlfriend when you show up. Biggest mistake ever to have an online girlfriend that you're flying to the Philippines to meet.
Good advice as always. We appreciate the valuable info you`re always given us and it will prepare us for when we do make the journey over. It can`t be said enough it`s better to go there in person than online. Peace and blessing to you brother Calvin and you are doing good works over there especially with that family.
you are the smartest expat i ever saw on line. i think the same as you. when you come to philippines meet several girls before you choose. and you need one moto..its my way or the high way.
I appreciate it. I’m just going to be blunt and have them tell me everything up front and toss them back in… every woman I speak to out there will know I will decide when I’m ready to meet your family but do not bring them or friends until I say it’s okay.
In 2009 the Filipina I was interested in turned up and the airport with her 19 yo sister. At first I was pissed as I had booked a double bed room. We all went to the hotel and spent the week there. I ended up getting on much better with the younger sister and we all came to an agreement that we would meet the parents and my new GF would be the younger sister . We dated for 18 months but had to end it as her father kept putting pressure on me to tie the knot.
Bro Calvin thanks so much for all this info it's very helpful for us to get to know how some of them play the game . Thanks brother . Salutes from Miami . Peace ✌
Hi Calvin, I'm going to head off in another direction if my date turns up with her family or friends, I'm dating her not family or any of her friends, it wasn't pre-arranged, so bye bye.
It's merely ignorance on your part of a cultural tradition. A nice/good female will not feel safe meeting a strange male alone for the 1st time. She'll have at least one family member /good friend accompany her, not only for her protection, but also to help her evaluate you. To maybe see/notice something pro/con that she misses. The same is done when dating in Spain, and Spain ruled the Philippines for over 400 yrs. so we see where the custom comes from. As in all things in life, it's all about perspective. She's showing that she respects herself enough not to meet a stranger alone for the 1st time, and only if you misinterpret this is it a bad thing. When in Rome. PS: The more of the local dialect you understand, the less you'll feel people are talking behind your back ...
ive watched them pass around their phones at a party and chat with someone elses significant other then trade the phone again laughing at the replies from a confused reply , and then get up set and turn into sore heads when they become the target
Dude, you are so correct lol. They would rather lie to you than 'disappoint' you by saying they don't know an answer lol.. The family and friends coming on a date, had that haha..but both times it was not to eat a free meal (because they already ate), they were shy both times. Making me wait for sex, never happened lol. I got too much game for that. However, yes, it's common for her to announce some 'sad life event' after she thinks you are 'into her'. Usually it's after about 3 or 4 dates when she feels your interest is higher, then she presents the life event that makes her sad and requires money from you to make her smile again (mum in hospital; kicked out of home; fight with family member etc). As far as her pulling the 'I'm young and beautiful do as i say', yeah I had that test many times but I clapped back every time.
All you're saying is true brother. I was living in the Philippines on and off for 8 years and I had plans to permanently move there in 2020 but COVID hit and I've been stuck here in the US for the past 3 years. lol
Your giving great information here in this video and I agree 100% with this advice. Everything you said here is in my opinion about respecting each other and who is head of the household should be respected especially since you are the provider.
Excellent advice thank you Calvin... especially about having more than one woman there... I recently went to a foreign country and met a woman and it didn’t work out at all... next time I go I would have at least three women waiting just in case things didn’t work out with these women.
Other guys made broken promises to her, told her that they'd marry her, took advantage of her, got what they wanted and then abandoned her. I think it is best to wait until marriage if for no other reason than to show her my sincerity and honorable intentions, that I really do want to marry her.
Yo that is not just Filipina! That is in any country that is in need of cash! We live in a world of hustle and bustle. Its up to the person whether he or she is getting swindled! Use common sense and if you sense it's a gold digger, play along or get played! It's up to you!
What about our feelings? We are 8000 miles away from home in a strange land. Not every situation is like this. But it happens enough for me to make the new man aware of it. If you watched my vide to the end you would have heard me say that. A lot of comments come from the title and that’s shallow in my opinion. Thanks.
Sometimes they are 'Shy'. Sometimes they want to look good with their friends and enjoy your money. Both scenarios are true and I've seen both. From my observations, the younger the girl the more her bringing some friends or family is from being shy. If she is 24 or older, she ain't shy lol.
Great informative vids that can save your ass. Never let your guard down is the message. Ive known too many gullible men who got ripped off. I see the same thing in Thailand to a lesser degree. Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned...Thanks Calvin.
Has anyone ever felt like taking a cell phone, body slamming it, and stomping it all to hell? I have. Has anyone ever felt like setting a cellphone up against a wall and blasting it with an anti-craft gun? I have. I'll explain...I have been out with Asian girls/women? The phone rings and she spends the next hour or two on the phone. You can be at a restaurant, walking the beach, or lounging at a hotel. They get on that damn phone and don't let go, until you say something. But why should you have to tell'im all that ain't cool?
Yes, it's like having a 3rd party with you all the time, meaning no true privacy. It seems many do not understand it is rude to phub and/or ignore--even neglect others for this infernal device. One of the most precious gifts you can give another is your full attention, especially in a close relationship. Also, I believe, when we reach a certain degree of frustration with this, we no longer wish to communicate with them, and begin to look elsewhere. Though I could be wrong.
Met one online (20 years younger), went to see her twice, and we will be married three years tomorrow. She can be a handful but so much fun and love her more than anyone I ever loved. And for reasons I'll never understand she loves me. There are great ones on those islands. Just gotta find the right one.
I'm not going to do that when I get over there I'm going over there for a vacation if I meet somebody that's cool we'll go out for coffee but that's it
@@paulsmith2279 Some will and they are called "BAKLA" (Girly boys) Bawahaha! And some are very BEAUTIFUL and sexy! Be careful. Check under the dress before you get too friendly.
Only coffee? Bawahaha! Hope you can stay true to your words. Some of these women look so fine and are so friendly, it seems they are begging for a strong minded man.
A couple of thoughts on this topic...First off I was married to a pinay for 15 years. Didn't work out but that's life. She met me at the airport with a bunch of people and took me straight to my guest house. Didn't bother me. Her family treated me very well. One time we took her brother to Jollibee's. It was his first time. He didn't finish his meal. I asked if he didn't like the food. She said he loves it but wants to bring the rest home to his kids. I felt so bad. We are very lucky. Just be careful guys.
Exactly - there are many different kinds of Filipinas just like there are many different kinds of people everywhere. As you know (from having been married to a Filipina) there's lots of poverty in the Philippines, which tends to color your interaction... because you're rich and they're not. The rich people in the Philippines don't care about the poor Filipinos and marrying a foreigner is the only way a lot of them can improve their situations. It's important that foreigners conduct themselves respectfully and don't take advantage of the situation. Of course there are Filipina scammers, but there are also foreigner scammers. It's karma - and you get what you deserve. Guys that aren't honest and respectful can't expect to wind up with an honest and respectful girl either.... like attracts like.
Damn I wish I could like this comment a 100 times, because the bias and hypocrisy is real. Complaining about westernized woman but flying and spending hella cash in another country to get the same treatment. And have the nerve to say I might as well to the Philippines. What the hell?
Calvin why do Americans have this disastrous insistence on keep getting married its madness ?? Why buy a book when you can join a library it costs zero
I was just discussing this today with my friend John. I can’t explain it. We fall in love with these women so fast so that’s a bad start. But John you are absolutely right.
I 100% agree. But I wonder how they look at that in the Philippines. In the West it now makes ZERO sense to marry. It has become a State enforced super bad contract. But I have no clue how it flies over there for a LTR, with her family so close and involved, Catholic values, etc. I'm soooo wary of marriage, but over there it might not be the financial trap it is in the West.
Sunshine is the real deal!! He also helps his fellow man, like Charlie & I do in separate countries for now!! I help disenfranchised peoples here in the USA, by buying food for the food banks & shelters; & making "Garrett Cares packages" of various food items to help hurting people, & worldwide with want I have & she does the same in the Philippines for now. When we get 2gether & married we will do that giving as one. Sunshine is a great dude & he shows & proves it!! God bless you all.
Calvin, once again you are right and I heard stories like that as I had one who wanted to bring her whole family and I said no way as I drop her quickly.!!
HEY CALVIN!. WE NEEDED A BROTHER LIKE YOU MANY YEARS AGO. THERE HAS BEEN SO MANY FOREIGNERS THAT HAD BEEN TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OVER THER YEARS. AND YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT!!. IT'S TIME WE FLIP THE SCRIPT!!!. YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO GET THERE AND BUY HER AND HER FRIENDS DINNER. YOU ARE THER TO MEET HER, NOT THE WHOLE PHILLIPPES!!. KEEP BEING STRAIGHT FORWORD BRUH.YOU ARE SHINING A LIGHT ON THINGS.AND I APPRECIATE THAT!!. PEACE BRUH!.
How about the one when the family find out you are flying domestically within the Philippines and they want to come too lol. Then, they don't have bank accounts or credit or debit cards, and the Gpay at the 7-11 is down so they want you to pay on your card and they pay you later. haha. Basically it's a bunch of people who want to get the freebies on a holiday haha. Eating out. Bus ride. etc.
Dated a Filipino girl for about 4 years in San Jose, CA. By all accounts I dodged some kind of bullet, according to all the info I'm getting from Calvin's videos. I can only surmise that she was very much "Americanized" as I didn't experience a lot of negatives with her. I will say that it did surprise me as to how much of a prude she was in the bedroom though. It was a pretty good relationship for the most part, but she could become very bossy and somewhat mean at times.
I consider the dating sites as only a place for research. I'm an older guy so I use the sites to look at profiles and to see where the majority of the women who show interest live. I then pull up data on their country and city. I look at the range of ages and, number of the women who show interest in me from that particular country, which then can be used to gage the culture and dating norms in that country. For instance I have noticed that younger Latin American women in general are not as interested in older men as Asians. And, Latinas are more prone to specify a racial preference (usually Caucasian or Latin). I consider any information I get as anecdotal because you really don't know if the profiles are real, fake or, real but full of lies and misinformation. I would only want to engage with foreign women after I have met her in person. I wouldn't want to waste a lot of time and effort on line and then meet her and find out there is no chemistry or, she's been dishonest about her looks (old pictures), weight, number of kids etc. Sometimes it could be something as simple and basic as you just don't like the way they smell or something. And, of course that can go both ways.
Appreciate your video and I got this a few times in Thailand. Next I'll be headed to the the PI and I'll keep my eyes open. Let things come natural and I'm sure ill have a great time. Might just stay, I do not date in America and have been single for 5 years now. I think it's about time for me to find a good one. But I know what I'm looking for and don't play around.
Greeting Calvin you are spot on I've been here 40 yrs and been ripped off many times however there are a lot of nice Filipinos so take it slowly. Doing business is another challenge. 🥳🥳
Careful with this on a small town. She may stick her family or other guys friends on you. Easier to do in bigger cities since they may have better understanding but still be cautious.
@@calroach1 my friend, just because you don’t know the culture as they try to giving you importance as all family come to welcome you, you can’t take it negative and call it wrong or ambushing you.. I know you been there 12 years but I don’t think you have learned this Particulars culture of giving importance and mostly respect
LucretiaMcIntosh well said I agree two person that un in a relationship not friends and relatives sometimes some people just dont want you to be happy one at a time
That's why she can't be the only reason you're going there. You like one in particular? Fine. Go there and meet her. But the moment she pulls shit like Calvin says, talk to her, give her a chance to correct it, and if she doesn't comply, change your hotel and find another girl. Trust me you'll find aplenty.
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@@do7473 oh ya. She will always meet u at the airport, to make sure no other Filipina gets your attention
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@@do7473 Make sure you got a very dark set of Sun glasses. Don't let her see you looking too hard at the other chicks. You can not avoid looking, because some of these women look like beauty queens. No harm in looking, but she may be offended if she sees you doing it.
I went to dinner with a lady here in the Philippines she brought family members and six other friends to a very nice restaurant. I did not expect this, she introduced them to me, They ordered the most expensive food, after the introduction they had very little to say to me, they were on their phone, laughing and talking to each other. I went to the comfort room, they directed me where it was. I went there and left through a side door they didn’t notice me leaving they were to busy enjoying themselves. About a half hour later she called asking where was I, I told her that I left, I didn’t invite all those people, don’t know them and was not going to pay for them, and after they had sit down they forgot I was there so I left. Nice meeting her but I don’t play that game and no body is going to play it on me. She said that she didn’t think they had the money to pay for the dinner. I told her that was not my problem, she invited them, she should pay for them. She was embarrassed, I told her to take care good bye. Some Filipina will do this, not all. They think this behavior is okay, they expect the foreigners to treat all their friends and families without saying anything before it happens.
if this happens again to me, just go to the waiter pay my food, and sneak out the back door, and block her
LOOOOL love it good shit bro
Lmao imaging all of them having to wash dishes and stuff because they ordered the most expensive stuff.
Should of left before you paid for the meal
Im a filipina and you did the right thing
It happened to me. On our first date, she brought all her friends with her, so many of them, and she told me laughing: my friends are hungry, they want to go eat at the restaurant! Well, do u know what I did? I left her just right on the spot and I told her she was already in nice company so she doesn't need me to be with her!!! Period!
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@Mark Haywood i don't have guts. I don't like to be played around by a little uneducated province pilipina girl who thinks that money grows on trees in my country. That was very unpolite what she did to my point of view and I only paid her back with the same currency.
Good
Good man ! 👍
ATTAH BOY !!!! ✊✊💪🤜🤛
I am a Filipino and i strongly agree on everything you said. I feel bad and embarrassed on foreigners being victimized by Filipinas.
They need to stop that period
all people take advantage of one another..fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me
Don’t feel sorry for foreigners… they are grown up men 😅. They need to know better. By the way - I am a foreigner
Ty i was one too a computer co. Stole my info n hacked my everyday fb n i feel bad they make them selfs n all look bad.
@@pac9764 facts you fly thousands of miles to simp what did you expect
I did, instinctively, exactly what you talked about, in that I had 3 or 4 Filipino women lined up to meet, just in case. When I got there, the first two were sweet and gorgeous, just like their photos, but boy oh boy they lied like no other women I had ever dealt with. I won't go into details about what they lied about but they lied straight to my face about certain things that raised a red flag for me. Yes! The Manila girl showed up with girlfriends, and sisters and brothers and cousins and nephews and the 2nd one (Cebu girl) was with her entire family and extended family as well. I had talked to both of them, before coming there, about being alone to get to know each other before meeting family members, because we had no idea if there would be real chemistry between us in person. I made that very clear, but they did just the opposite anyways. I felt i was put on the spot. I had no problem with them all greeting me at the airport (MNL) but I was tired after a 22 hour flight (2 stops) and wanted to rest at the hotel. After meeting them ALL, i heard among them what they were planning. They made plans about where to go and seemingly didn't care how I felt about anything. I even heard thee "it's ok he's rich" comments being whispered. They wanted to go eat (at my expense). I know for a fact, because Manila girl and Cebu girl, each said to me that I should treat their families to dinner so that they all could get to know me in a relaxed environment or something like that. I was like "WHAT?" Some of them even said they wanted to go shopping at the mall and sightseeing, (I assume at my expense, but could be wrong on that one) because they said they had not been to the "BIG CITY" before coming to Manila to greet me. The 2nd woman i met was in Cebu, but both of them did exactly the same thing at the airport, by bringing others. Well I still had two more women to meet, so i didn't care about pursuing anything with either of them at that point. They had shown their true colors, in my mind. The other two? One of them was in Tacloban, and the other was in Davao. The both of them (3 and 4), later on in my visit to the Phils, met me by themselves. Thank God! But, the 1st two I met were "playing games" and obviously saw me as a rich American to take advantage of. When they told me what the plan was, i looked at each of them (Manila girl and Cebu girl on separate occasions) and said blatantly to them: "I have my hotel room to check into and I'm going by myself to my hotel room, to unpack and get some rest. You (insert name here) and your friends and family can all go and do whatever you like and YOU can just message me later when you are done with whatever you had plan to do WITHOUT ME! Each of them looked at me in shock and disappointment and I stared hard, back at them, with a look of "Oh hell no" and then they couldn't look me in the eyes, but a little later looked up at me with sad and guilty eyes and knew exactly what I was doing and realized what I would not tolerate, from the get go. I got into my taxi without looking at any of them and went to my hotel. I was tired as hell and just didn't give a, you know what! Well neither of them bothered to message or call me later in the evening, as i knew they wouldn't and I was all good with it. I didn't care one bit. I figured I'd dodged a bullet and a boat load of headaches. Yes it was disappointing but i quickly recovered and went on to enjoy my time in Manila and Cebu with some online buddies that I had also planned on hooking up with. I don't play that crap and am no fool. Around 2 weeks later, I did get phone calls from each of them, by then, to talk about what had happened at the airport, and although they said they were sorry, with a million excuses as to why they assumed it was ok to "ambush" me like that, there was really no remorse in their tone of voice. I told them, we agreed upon the two of us, first meeting up alone and that they had broken that agreement, so I lost interests. Yes! I know Filipino's are extremely family oriented, which i love, but it was NOT our agreement and it was uncomfortable for me, since it was the first face to face meeting, in the first place. I had no problem, meeting family members, after finding out if there was chemistry between us. It felt as though I was already engaged for marriage without knowing these two women first, just by the way the family was acting, whom I also didn't know. I don't know what happened with their families standing there at curbside but I can only imagine, their thoughts of me, were not pleasant one's. I didn't care and said, have a nice life and hung up. I went on to meet 2 normal, lovely, beautiful and genuine women and had the time of my life after the nightmare expectations from the first two I met. Sorry for the long rant lol.
Thanks for sharing it sounds like the experience I described in the video 🤣
@@calroach1 It definitely was. I was reminded of it when you mentioned it.
Better off just waiting to get there in person to physically meet someone and know exactly who you're dealing with, all that online dating nonsense is filled with too many pitfalls.
@@sardeen9487 thank you for your perspective. That helps.
@@sardeen9487 do you play games 😁
@@gabrielsweden3365 🤡
Alepza De Asis you are correct, percent scam online is high.
@@sardeen9487 Good advice but we did commit before meeting and have been married almost six years. I would have married her if she showed up in a wheel chair. My word is all she needs. She was from a province. I don't believe in luck, I told her what I was all about and what I was looking for and she was it. Neither one of us are into playing games.
Make hotel reservation by her house and find a way to rent a car or get transportation to the place by her. Get situated in the hotel for a day or 2 and then get her to meet you for a first time near the hotel alone.. pay for her taxi and after a day together you can say goodbye or she can stay with you together. Yes.. make it into a vacation with or without her 👍
@@Wolff13 I have driven in 6 countries. No worries
I was on a website for 4 years and 2 months before I met a Filipina that was worth getting to know. Guys...take your time. You'll eventually meet a starlette that will love you like no other. You'll know her when you see her.
Having been through the Philippines and marriages over 30 years - main point is to take your time. Most guys seeking in the Philippines are lonely. Lots of good women in the Philippines, but there are an equal amount of desperate women there looking for a quick buck. Take your time. Get to know a few women online. Don't be led by your willy and cuteness. Be open and genuine. Accept no games. It took me three times but I have someone for life now - best woman I have every met.
Absolutely right
Rule of thumb in dating, specially with different nationality - have a good intention and be open minded about culture differences.
If your expectations arent met, then walk away without regrets. Be happy about the lessons and experiences.
I asked a Philippina out for dinner there. She brought three friends. I paid, but refused to see her again, even though she wanted to meet (probably to exploit me more). When you arrange a date with a Philippine woman, you have to tell her to leave her friends and relatives behind and that if she brings someone, she'll have to pay for them.
@@heyjude5027 You're completely wrong. I'm always a gentleman, in all my dealings with women and I never give off threatening vibes. I come from a conservative background, I'm very polite to women and the idea that any woman needs to be protected from me is ridiculous.
In addition, I made a point of inviting her to have dinner with me at a famous hotel restaurant, I wasn't staying at that hotel, and we both arrived separately, so why would she need security?
I never discuss sex with a woman, or refer to it until we are deeply into a relationship. I didn't mention anything about it to her when I asked her to have dinner. So why would she need protection from me?
As to your reference to my supposedly "toxic attitude", I always bring a positive attitude toward Asian women, regardless of their social position, and I'm always polite to them. There's no toxicity in my attitude toward them.
Are you trying to convince me that foreign women never exploit men? That's ridiculous. Most women are decent people, but in any country there are ones that take advantage of men and especially foreign men.
Finally, if she was worried about me why did she bring three friends to a hotel restaurant? Then why did she order food, have it boxed as soon as it arrived, tell me it was for her baby, and leave with her friends? I sat alone at the table before I'd even started to eat. Is that good Philippine manners? I don't think so. I've dated Philippine women before and they've never done that before. The others, when they wanted to bring a friend, would politely ask me beforehand.
I've been to the Philippines many times and I like the people there very much. Most of them have very fine characters. However, as in any country, there are some bad people. That woman was one.
@@heyjude5027 THEY want to feel safe meeting a foreigner but the foreigner is the one who is coming to a country he's never been too before and all of sudden is getting mobbed by a whole bunch of unknown people he's never met before in his life. But they want to feel safe.... THE IRONY IN YOUR STATEMENT IS COMICAL😂!! All men should be cautious when dating any foreign women because most of their intentions are not genuine. If meeting in a public setting on your home turf is not enough security and safety for her then YES....Keep far away from these individuals. They are users playing the game and THESE TYPE OF WOMEN DONT DESERVE YOU😤
@@glasshousecp I agree completely with your comment. You addressed the essence of the problem.
@@heyjude5027 Why bring three presumably broke Freinds out for dinner wouldn't one be adequate.
Smart move.
Pay attention guys... He's 100% spot on.
@@mark-yl2gj Haha.... That's where your wrong....
@@craigschuler1547 exactly! Filipinas are brilliant when it comes to men. They are very, very smart and shrewd when it comes to attracting men....and yes it’s 99% of them...and yes the “good” ones, too.
@@SuperDrJeckyl not to mention great actresses.... Worthy of an Oscar!
@@craigschuler1547 80% of Filipinos are. They ARE nice to foreigners, but you better believe they are looking for some payback for that. That is why they have the "skin tax."
But these girls talk to tons of foreigners and they learn very quickly how to market themselves. Just look at that goof on the recent video by Filipina Pea. I don't know how legit that story is, but he claimed he got scammed out of over a million dollars! He's a smart guy scammed by some girl with probably not more than a high school education....that is how good these dames are.
@@mark-yl2gj you don't know my situation...Troll somewhere else.
We had a guy at my work. He was talking to a Filipina online for a long time. She made arrangements to fly to the USA. At the last second, she emailed him and said her paperwork was messed up and she needs $200. He said he had no problem paying but had no idea how to get her the money? She sent him a very detailed email about how to get the money to her.
He said “you sure seem to know a lot about this ?”
She never talked to him again.
Set the ground rules and stick to them. If they don't like it... NEXT!!!! . GREAT VIDEO!!!!!
That's the rule for ANY woman.
@@GandalftheWise agreed.
Another awesome video, thanks.
People need to get past the cloud of romance and see the reality.
Someone said that his girlfriend told him sex is for her husband and he said paying bills is for my wife.
I'm going to remember that and tell every Filipina that I talk to
Ha!ha! Love that one
Hey Calvin, I think youtube is broken because I can only like this video once 🤔🤔 . I loved this . The friends thing happened to me , ordering all the expensive things and then they had the audacity to take the left overs home . I was like what the hell is going on here but since it was my first time there I let it slide and voiced to never put me in a situation like that again. After that my wife felt bad and never spoke to them again. Its been years since it happened but yea I feel ya
Thanks brother you're too kind
I don't think they did it maliciously, but yeah I understand. You have to understand the Filipino mind. They are poor and you are God to them. If you don't look like them, they think you a ship anchored at the nearest bay full of gold.
Sad but true, men should be careful finding the right woman even in the Philippines bcuz there are only few with good quality. Men should be wise enough and never forget their main reason why find a Filipino wife.
IMHO, Calvin, this is your best video since I subscribed in 2020! Feeling your boots on the ground and more! Love you are not holding back any of your feelings... Especially, your feelings and mine about feminism is in the USA... How bad it is destroying any chance for a good guy like you and myself to be interested in dating a woman who chooses that route... Keep telling it like it is my brother and God bless!
This one s some of the best advice I've ever heard, but not just for fillipinas, any man traveling to meet a woman internationally to any country should heed this advice. I know from personal experience what a bad idea it is to go abroad to visit only one single woman without having any reserves lined up. thank you sir for another excellent video!!
Yes I fully understand this concept too... I went to a foreign country recently and only setup to meet one woman... it didn’t work out at all... so from now on I would have at least three women there as backups if the first woman didn’t work out.
@@thomaschicino7257 2 ??.....don't cheat yourself....out of life....life is 2 short...I know ppL in Nx Homes that have more chickadees than that !!
The trouble is if the one you're with ain't half bad she's gonna get fairly ropey if she happens to learn about your "reserves". Better keep them on the down low ( keep your phone in sight ) 😁🤭
Yep, all that is correct. Good thing I lived here many years before dating. If not, you are fair game for fleecing.
Thank you for pointing these things out. I'm quick to say I'm out. No matter. I don't catch feelings that quick any more. Glad for a person like you. Always keep someone in the
Don’t allow them to dictate what goes.You are the man.
Absolutely!
I like the way you think
STEVEN GONYAW 😊
Tell them, too, that no woman respects a 'weak' man.
You can always hit on one of her friends to make her jealous. See how many turn up at the next date!
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That’s what I would do😳
Just tell her you thought she was giving you options🤗
I know what you're saying, but there's a chance she might go psycho. I was in a courtroom one morning when the security brought in a five-feet tall, 100 pound (I might be stretching on the weight) Vietnamese girl. This was domestic violence court, so I wondered who the heck did she beat up. It turns out she broke probation, and she was on probation because she had beaten her boyfriend up. The boyfriend decided to move on (who can blame him?) and he went and got another girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend (who was on probation for beating the boyfriend up) caught the ex-boyfriend out with his new girl friend, and beat the living crap out of both of'em. As I said this girl was about five feet and maybe 100 pounds, soaking wet:-)
I had a Filipina I was chatting with several months ago hit me up with a PayPal request. Bye
lots of fish in the sea....Jesus said...........(that line was meant just for U !)
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@@mikejones5364 load is cool but when you tell you have a neck ailment and you need a fan without sending some personal photos, No.
Seriously ? Why do you think she was chatting with you - because you're so smart and charming? LOL!
Happen to me when I was in Jamaica. Said Bye. Told her to lose my number.
They will always meet u at the airport. It's their way to make sure u don't see any other Filipina that gets your attention. Best thing to do is arrive first on your own. I'm thinking about doing that later this year.
I have a number of rules I live by
1. Never give money to a woman you are not in a relationship with.
2. Do not chat with women you cannot meet within 6 months.
3. Do not date women in countries you have no interest in living in.
4. Never meet a woman for the first time at the airport
5. Before you meet your lady know your budget and if you decide to give her an allowance it comes out of your spending money.
6. Create a relationship agreement which outlines your expectations and make certain she understands it.
7. Never lie to the woman you meet.
8. learn a little about her culture, language, and beliefs
9. Research where she lives so you can take her somewhere nice but won't break the bank.
10. Be prepared to walk away if she offers you an ultimatum.
True words. I've heard about and seen it where the entire family shows up at the airport. I've been lucky and avoided the tricks here befause my sister married a Filipino and moved to the Philippines over 8 years ago. So I had family here to guide me and warn me. Most expats don't have these resources. This is why it is very important for people like you to share their knowledge. Most won't want to listen but if you can help out a few it's totally worth it
This is also good information for dating women ANYWHERE!!
Calvin I've practiced these techniques for years amd you'll keep finding better women until you ultimately find the one..
You make some good points but I'd like to make a few comments. First off -- not all Filipinas are scammers. There are lots of decent ones who won't take advantage of you. The thing to keep in mind is that most of girls that foreigners are meeting are the poorer ones is desperate situations, most often with kids. On that basis, they're looking for ways to improve their lives and a foreigner is just the ticket. So you have to keep that in mind and be careful. Some are scammers who are already married or have boyfriends but others are decent and genuinely looking for a relationship. That's why it's important to go slowly and be honest about yourself and your intentions. Then as you said, insist on the same treatment in return. The guys that get scammed are usually scammers themselves or foolishly niave to begin with. Remember that people are the same everywhere. The Philippines is a poor country and the girls that you're going to meet are looking at improving their lives situations, just like women everywhere. The Filipinas that are doing well are already married and successful and aren't looking for a foreigner. Keep that in mind and treat others the way you want to be treated - with kindness, respect and honesty.
96% are not and my vlogs don’t generalize but I share information that happens enough that I believe new men should be aware of this stuff. Thanks for your feedback and comments!
"First off -- not all Filipinas are scammers." not all but most of them are sooner or later -- good luck finding that 'special one' -- have seen it going wrong too many times.
Yep, good points. The filipinas working in Makati and BGC etc as professional workplaces, for example, are not this type.
@@calroach1 I would say 80 per cent are looking to screw you to better them selfs
Sure!!!Pinay women who found aready the right match they already won the lottery!!! It would be risky for them to change the spot! If they are lucky they could go from good to better but if they are not they could go from good to worse and they know it so they keep it very well in mind! But finding a really good pinay is really like winning the lottery!!!! Very very hard!!!!
Guys that have been around and know what they are doing and have that 2&3 years LDR and have expat friends, will know more what to look for.. And hooking up with an older filipina like 40-50 is so much safer. Not foolproof but she has better values and respect .. yep 👍
50??........you will BOTH fight to get the bathroom ! ...LOL...
@@mela6046 lol. We are both over 50 now.. My filipina is almost ready to retire and she is done with all the 5 kids and their college education.. Now they will be taking care of us there 😂
@@kevinnashskitchen3517 that's true, once they get a stable long term job, they'll take care of you
@@mela6046 lol my Filipina wife and I were in our 50's when we met. We never fought for the bathroom and never argued over the coloring book and crayons either... ✌️😊
@@mela6046 And that is why I built my home with (3) three CRs. One is out side. The main CR (comfort room) has (2) commodes, a walk in tub and a shower. The other only has a commode and a shower. The one outside only has a commode. I'm 76 and I will not be waiting for any one when I have to go.
you are so right. Part of the problem is these older dudes don't do any due diligence about the destination they are interested in (Pi, Thai and so on). A lot dudes make finding some sort of female online the first priority. I find it's best to do your home work, go there. Get settled in and then start looking for dates. And never ever trust any one with your money. Never. I l love South East Asia, but it's not for everyone, especially the niece and starry eyed.
good stuff man!
I agree, as a filipino i see it as disrespect and distrust. U get to meet her friend and family on airport that u dont expect just so they can talk to each other all day and judge you using language that u dont understand but know they are judging u by the look and subtle gesture they do. I sympathies with you and yes that is a red flag they only interested for your money not to you entirely. Yes most filipina with good looks has this mindset that the world revolves around them and it a obligation for men to be a simp. I agree u need to level the field too showing to her she not in control.
Good women and good men are hard to find.
Calvin I've been to the Philippines for a brief visit and I was engaged to a Filipina for a while. It was a great experience in many ways but it didn't work out due to her dishonesty about important things. That being said I've still learned a lot from your videos, I think they're helpful to more than just people that have never been to the Philippines. I appreciate you, the way you deliver the information is fantastic, very sincere, humble and entertaining.
Sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you. Your comment about their dishonesty is interesting. I think that a lot of it is a cultural thing. In the West we pride ourselves on being honest - in Asia it's about saving face and not hurting people's feelings... even if there's a lot more hurt once the truth comes out. They don't see lying in the same way that we do. I know that it sounds strange and it takes awhile to get used to it, but it's a different culture and after visiting many Asian countries over many years, I still don't get a lot of things and I'll always be an outsider.
Wow brother thanks. Your words are humbling. I appreciate you.
@@pauls4742 she was a very kind and beautiful young woman and I could have dealt with a lot but when I learned she was also engaged to a Japanese guy and was lying to both of us it was just too much. I think she really did have feelings for me and really intended to come to the US to be with me, and I understand the extreme poverty and family pressures were a big factor for her. But I couldn't risk having her come here and divorce me and clean me out. But I'm still looking for the right Filipina for me.
Been ambushed 1 time and I learned from it.. first time i met a girl she met met me at the airport, then after a bunch of trips she never came to the airport to meet me, I would stay at her house and she would be sleeping in the day time, guess what, one day she knew I was coming she was asleep,, and I went to a hotel hit every bar had been with other girls, one time she had seen me and had a panic attack, folks I told her u have been replaced, my girl now knows the story .and I guess the panic attack was that her internet, light , cable would be disconnected...her Mom cried and beg me to come back home, felt bad for the Mom she is a wonderful woman , I told her your daughter plays games, A dude from the states got her pregnant n left her, glad I used condoms..
BEST STORY EVER...gripping v.short story.... all's well now.... your guardian ANGEL was with U the WHOLE way!
Jorge Toloza, you are sensible. An American firend of mine was pursued by a Filipina 28 years younger than him. He thought he was sterile, she was unrelenting till she got pregnant, then demanded P20,000 a month support. He gave. But she was unfaithful, had a Pinoy BF she was bringing to the apartment he was paying for, for sex. They got busted, Kano kidnapped his then 3 year old sn, took him back to the US. Now she is destitute, but he can't come back to the Philippines. Wear a condom!
Damn that’s deep I am glad you got out
Don't get spermjacked bro..
Best subject matter content period!…🔥🔥🔥
Calvin I love your straight no chaser approach.
I just subbed Calvin, I've had my eyes on the Filipino women for a while good brotha, I definitely appreciate your wisdom
Welcome to my channel and thanks for your support
The trip to airport is sometimes the biggest trip she and they have ever made. This happened to me as extended family all greeted me at airport. But she couldn’t go herself, she’d never been to Manila from Bacolod. So the first 3 days was all together and I accepted this. This family extension was in Manila, then we took a ship back to Bacolod. Being Christmas time, flights fully booked. We took ship and much more romantic trip to Bacolod... I didn’t marry her until next trip. But made sure who and all what first. She passed away 2.5 years after marriage, 1.5 years after in USA... haven’t found any this good since. But I’ll be there soon again, after covid lock down stops.... great info to hear and agree ))
The brother knows exactly what he’s talking about for real. Listen.
Another cracking video mate. You always talk sense. I'm looking in the 30-40 age group. As you can expect, women in that age range are usually seperated with kids, some who were married are now looking for a mug to pay for their annulment.
Most of the women I've chatted to online have the same story :-
Pinay meets pinoy. They copulate like the proverbial rabbits. Pinay get pregnant. Pinoy can't handle the responsibility and runs away leaving pinay to raise the kid alone and often with help from her mum (thank God for grandparents who help with childcare in PH otherwise Filipino society would collapse).
Pinay feels alone and needs a man for financial security. Pinoy cannot be trusted cos her own man has been back to her over the years and disappeared again but given her another 2 kids aswell.
So, pinay looks for a foreigner. She finds one online. She becomes a nun "no sex before marriage dahling, I'm a devout Catholic girl dahling" YEAH RIGHT..!! Why should pinoy have all the fun?
Very true.
Sex before marriage can open the door to STD. It also displays a girl that does not respect her body.
All this happened to me in dipolog.. 7 people waiting at Airport, then straight to resturant. Then off to sindangan. Every place we went ,went in a group I paid. I was very uncomfortable all the time. Relationship over..
They do this in Thailand too.
Good video Calvin. Once the Philippines opens up again, you should revisit this subject as a refresher for the guys before they come.
be good to a good filipina
you wont regret it ,she adore and respect you all the way ,
dont betray to a good filipina
and dont play a good filipina as your part time happiness , ...
Yah
There's a saying that ' when you like a flower you pick it up and bring to your home,but when you love the flower you let it be at garden and water it daily and you will let it grow '
Well said - it's the same everywhere in the world. Treat people with respect and kindness and expect the same in return. Don't put up with bad behaviour and make sure that you model the correct behaviour to.
Exactly, it really depends on us as a person ....
If you love two persons at the same time,choose the second one,because if you really love the first one , there wont be a second one ,
Exactly right! Well said. A good, loyal Filipina is one of the great blessings in life. That's how she deserves to be treated.
Well said Calvin as always! Thank you very much.
Don't simp for any woman, and you will do much better
One of the first rules I've ever heard about visiting the Philippines is not having a girlfriend when you show up. Biggest mistake ever to have an online girlfriend that you're flying to the Philippines to meet.
You have a good point, value yourself don’t accept games, if they can’t respect you it’s not going to work, and maybe have a backup plan.
Good advice as always. We appreciate the valuable info you`re always given us and it will prepare us for when we do make the journey over. It can`t be said enough it`s better to go there in person than online. Peace and blessing to you brother Calvin and you are doing good works over there especially with that family.
you are the smartest expat i ever saw on line.
i think the same as you. when you come to philippines meet several girls before you choose.
and you need one moto..its my way or the high way.
I appreciate it. I’m just going to be blunt and have them tell me everything up front and toss them back in… every woman I speak to out there will know I will decide when I’m ready to meet your family but do not bring them or friends until I say it’s okay.
In 2009 the Filipina I was interested in turned up and the airport with her 19 yo sister. At first I was pissed as I had booked a double bed room. We all went to the hotel and spent the week there. I ended up getting on much better with the younger sister and we all came to an agreement that we would meet the parents and my new GF would be the younger sister . We dated for 18 months but had to end it as her father kept putting pressure on me to tie the knot.
After 18 months, he probably figures you know if you want his daughter for real or just for part time enjoyment.
lol. talk about plot twist
Genius.
Bro Calvin thanks so much for all this info it's very helpful for us to get to know how some of them play the game . Thanks brother . Salutes from Miami . Peace ✌
Hi Calvin, I'm going to head off in another direction if my date turns up with her family or friends, I'm dating her not family or any of her friends, it wasn't pre-arranged, so bye bye.
It's merely ignorance on your part of a cultural tradition. A nice/good female will not feel safe meeting a strange male alone for the 1st time. She'll have at least one family member /good friend accompany her, not only for her protection, but also to help her evaluate you. To maybe see/notice something pro/con that she misses. The same is done when dating in Spain, and Spain ruled the Philippines for over 400 yrs. so we see where the custom comes from. As in all things in life, it's all about perspective. She's showing that she respects herself enough not to meet a stranger alone for the 1st time, and only if you misinterpret this is it a bad thing. When in Rome.
PS: The more of the local dialect you understand, the less you'll feel people are talking behind your back ...
@@fjb4932 There’s another fine , old tradition where a woman does not sleep with 28 men sequentially.Seems they misplaced that rule
ive watched them pass around their phones at a party and chat with someone elses significant other then trade the phone again laughing at the replies from a confused reply , and then get up set and turn into sore heads when they become the target
Dude, you are so correct lol. They would rather lie to you than 'disappoint' you by saying they don't know an answer lol.. The family and friends coming on a date, had that haha..but both times it was not to eat a free meal (because they already ate), they were shy both times. Making me wait for sex, never happened lol. I got too much game for that. However, yes, it's common for her to announce some 'sad life event' after she thinks you are 'into her'. Usually it's after about 3 or 4 dates when she feels your interest is higher, then she presents the life event that makes her sad and requires money from you to make her smile again (mum in hospital; kicked out of home; fight with family member etc). As far as her pulling the 'I'm young and beautiful do as i say', yeah I had that test many times but I clapped back every time.
You should do a video w/ FilipinaPea. She makes great videos regarding similar things.
I see u wit the Ville' t-shirt!!!
Always try before you buy,Good advice Cal,
Main thing he is saying ,,,, Don't simp and Don't be an ATM for them. Use good judgement, think with the right head..
All you're saying is true brother. I was living in the Philippines on and off for 8 years and I had plans to permanently move there in 2020 but COVID hit and I've been stuck here in the US for the past 3 years. lol
Your giving great information here in this video and I agree 100% with this advice. Everything you said here is in my opinion about respecting each other and who is head of the household should be respected especially since you are the provider.
Excellent advice thank you Calvin... especially about having more than one woman there... I recently went to a foreign country and met a woman and it didn’t work out at all... next time I go I would have at least three women waiting just in case things didn’t work out with these women.
I like the way this guy communicates
Other guys made broken promises to her, told her that they'd marry her, took advantage of her, got what they wanted and then abandoned her. I think it is best to wait until marriage if for no other reason than to show her my sincerity and honorable intentions, that I really do want to marry her.
Yo that is not just Filipina! That is in any country that is in need of cash! We live in a world of hustle and bustle. Its up to the person whether he or she is getting swindled! Use common sense and if you sense it's a gold digger, play along or get played! It's up to you!
It’s like old Italy, when you first meet a Philippina they are nervous and don’t know if she’s safe so her friends come, it’s NOT a scam or ‘game’.
What about our feelings? We are 8000 miles away from home in a strange land. Not every situation is like this. But it happens enough for me to make the new man aware of it. If you watched my vide to the end you would have heard me say that. A lot of comments come from the title and that’s shallow in my opinion. Thanks.
@@calroach1 hmm...
We are guests is my point, thanks for calling me shallow, very nice.
Sometimes they are 'Shy'. Sometimes they want to look good with their friends and enjoy your money. Both scenarios are true and I've seen both. From my observations, the younger the girl the more her bringing some friends or family is from being shy. If she is 24 or older, she ain't shy lol.
@@HaydenDavidson6 these girls are smart before you meet them they already know how to play these games Somstimes I feel its bred into them
Philliphines is the place to be. Been there and i would say forget online dating. Make sure you visit and meet her there.
Great informative vids that can save your ass. Never let your guard down is the message. Ive known too many gullible men who got ripped off. I see the same thing in Thailand to a lesser degree. Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned...Thanks Calvin.
Has anyone ever felt like taking a cell phone, body slamming it, and stomping it all to hell? I have. Has anyone ever felt like setting a cellphone up against a wall and blasting it with an anti-craft gun? I have. I'll explain...I have been out with Asian girls/women? The phone rings and she spends the next hour or two on the phone. You can be at a restaurant, walking the beach, or lounging at a hotel. They get on that damn phone and don't let go, until you say something. But why should you have to tell'im all that ain't cool?
Yes, it's like having a 3rd party with you all the time, meaning no true privacy. It seems many do not understand it is rude to phub and/or ignore--even neglect others for this infernal device. One of the most precious gifts you can give another is your full attention, especially in a close relationship. Also, I believe, when we reach a certain degree of frustration with this, we no longer wish to communicate with them, and begin to look elsewhere. Though I could be wrong.
Met one online (20 years younger), went to see her twice, and we will be married three years tomorrow. She can be a handful but so much fun and love her more than anyone I ever loved. And for reasons I'll never understand she loves me. There are great ones on those islands. Just gotta find the right one.
Absolutely right.
Thanks for posting this those in Ghana the same
I'm not going to do that when I get over there I'm going over there for a vacation if I meet somebody that's cool we'll go out for coffee but that's it
Good idea, that's what I plan to do.
Thing is I don't drink I haven't drank since 1992 when my daughter was born don't worry I did enough drinking while I was in the Navy
That's right. Coffee! And from there we'll see what's Cracken!
@@paulsmith2279 Some will and they are called "BAKLA" (Girly boys) Bawahaha! And some are very BEAUTIFUL and sexy! Be careful. Check under the dress before you get too friendly.
Only coffee? Bawahaha! Hope you can stay true to your words. Some of these women look so fine and are so friendly, it seems they are begging for a strong minded man.
A couple of thoughts on this topic...First off I was married to a pinay for 15 years. Didn't work out but that's life. She met me at the airport with a bunch of people and took me straight to my guest house. Didn't bother me. Her family treated me very well. One time we took her brother to Jollibee's. It was his first time. He didn't finish his meal. I asked if he didn't like the food. She said he loves it but wants to bring the rest home to his kids. I felt so bad. We are very lucky. Just be careful guys.
Exactly - there are many different kinds of Filipinas just like there are many different kinds of people everywhere. As you know (from having been married to a Filipina) there's lots of poverty in the Philippines, which tends to color your interaction... because you're rich and they're not. The rich people in the Philippines don't care about the poor Filipinos and marrying a foreigner is the only way a lot of them can improve their situations. It's important that foreigners conduct themselves respectfully and don't take advantage of the situation. Of course there are Filipina scammers, but there are also foreigner scammers. It's karma - and you get what you deserve. Guys that aren't honest and respectful can't expect to wind up with an honest and respectful girl either.... like attracts like.
Gentlemen you can be treated badly just as easily in your home country. Don't put up with that crap for a minute.
Damn I wish I could like this comment a 100 times, because the bias and hypocrisy is real. Complaining about westernized woman but flying and spending hella cash in another country to get the same treatment. And have the nerve to say I might as well to the Philippines. What the hell?
And I'm not saying it's right from woman in either country.
Calvin why do Americans have this disastrous insistence on keep getting married its madness ?? Why buy a book when you can join a library it costs zero
I was just discussing this today with my friend John. I can’t explain it. We fall in love with these women so fast so that’s a bad start. But John you are absolutely right.
U don't get any MORE respect for YOURSELF by marriage...than PRE MARRIAGE... everybody is equal right?
I 100% agree. But I wonder how they look at that in the Philippines. In the West it now makes ZERO sense to marry. It has become a State enforced super bad contract. But I have no clue how it flies over there for a LTR, with her family so close and involved, Catholic values, etc. I'm soooo wary of marriage, but over there it might not be the financial trap it is in the West.
@@MVProfits it's a financial trap anywhere
@@mela6046 there's equal rights and then there's special rights.
YOU ARE SO RIGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING GOOD TALKING
real talk here appreciate it man
Appreciate attitude over skills.
Respect consistency and admire loyalty.
That's what I tell mine consistency and loyalty above all
@Freddie Sanders
That's nice to hear sir
Goodluck and godbless u and your family😊
Sunshine is the real deal!! He also helps his fellow man, like Charlie & I do in separate countries for now!! I help disenfranchised peoples here in the USA, by buying food for the food banks & shelters; & making "Garrett Cares packages" of various food items to help hurting people, & worldwide with want I have & she does the same in the Philippines for now. When we get 2gether & married we will do that giving as one. Sunshine is a great dude & he shows & proves it!! God bless you all.
Thanks Garrett
Calvin, once again you are right and I heard stories like that as I had one who wanted to bring her whole family and I said no way as I drop her quickly.!!
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HEY CALVIN!. WE NEEDED A BROTHER LIKE YOU MANY YEARS AGO. THERE HAS BEEN SO MANY FOREIGNERS THAT HAD BEEN TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OVER THER YEARS. AND YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT!!. IT'S TIME WE FLIP THE SCRIPT!!!. YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO GET THERE AND BUY HER AND HER FRIENDS DINNER. YOU ARE THER TO MEET HER, NOT THE WHOLE PHILLIPPES!!. KEEP BEING STRAIGHT FORWORD BRUH.YOU ARE SHINING A LIGHT ON THINGS.AND I APPRECIATE THAT!!. PEACE BRUH!.
Thanks brother. I appreciate you!
How about the one when the family find out you are flying domestically within the Philippines and they want to come too lol. Then, they don't have bank accounts or credit or debit cards, and the Gpay at the 7-11 is down so they want you to pay on your card and they pay you later. haha. Basically it's a bunch of people who want to get the freebies on a holiday haha. Eating out. Bus ride. etc.
Thanks for the first hand knowledge 🙏 👌 👍 🙌
Dated a Filipino girl for about 4 years in San Jose, CA. By all accounts I dodged some kind of bullet, according to all the info I'm getting from Calvin's videos. I can only surmise that she was very much "Americanized" as I didn't experience a lot of negatives with her. I will say that it did surprise me as to how much of a prude she was in the bedroom though. It was a pretty good relationship for the most part, but she could become very bossy and somewhat mean at times.
any woman you meet in California is going to be bossy or mean at times. They hold all the cards.
@@angryhd2976 👍
I consider the dating sites as only a place for research. I'm an older guy so I use the sites to look at profiles and to see where the majority of the women who show interest live. I then pull up data on their country and city. I look at the range of ages and, number of the women who show interest in me from that particular country, which then can be used to gage the culture and dating norms in that country. For instance I have noticed that younger Latin American women in general are not as interested in older men as Asians. And, Latinas are more prone to specify a racial preference (usually Caucasian or Latin). I consider any information I get as anecdotal because you really don't know if the profiles are real, fake or, real but full of lies and misinformation. I would only want to engage with foreign women after I have met her in person. I wouldn't want to waste a lot of time and effort on line and then meet her and find out there is no chemistry or, she's been dishonest about her looks (old pictures), weight, number of kids etc. Sometimes it could be something as simple and basic as you just don't like the way they smell or something. And, of course that can go both ways.
Sometimes it's a crap shoot. Like a box of chocolates not sure which one to pick.
Appreciate your video and I got this a few times in Thailand. Next I'll be headed to the the PI and I'll keep my eyes open. Let things come natural and I'm sure ill have a great time. Might just stay, I do not date in America and have been single for 5 years now. I think it's about time for me to find a good one. But I know what I'm looking for and don't play around.
When I saw the title I thought man this gonna be a long video :D
😆😆😆 I didn’t want to scare off anyone.
Wow Calvin, you hit the nail on the head!! Great useful information..Thank you very much.
Sir, you are a good man.
Thank you for keeping it 100.
YOU HAVE TO TEST DRIVE A CAR BEFORE YOU BUY IT TOO.
Greeting Calvin you are spot on I've been here 40 yrs and been ripped off many times however there are a lot of nice Filipinos so take it slowly. Doing business is another challenge. 🥳🥳
@@mikejones5364 rent to own.
@@MacWhite1 rent or leasing are very good decisions
Rental don't buy it
Careful with this on a small town. She may stick her family or other guys friends on you. Easier to do in bigger cities since they may have better understanding but still be cautious.
Thanks for the info Calvin, you are definitely experience in the knowledge of some of the things to expect in the journey!
Love this one Calvin… keep spitting them facts
A real man! Bro.. thank you
Spot on dude and Fleetwood Mac has a song for that bs. Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies... 👄😉👄
I love Fleetwood Mac!
very informative my bro....i need to holla at you whenever i get there...
Family coming to airport is a culture politeness welcoming you in many countries
I understand but let me know upfront don't ambush me.
@@calroach1 my friend, just because you don’t know the culture as they try to giving you importance as all family come to welcome you, you can’t take it negative and call it wrong or ambushing you.. I know you been there 12 years but I don’t think you have learned this Particulars culture of giving importance and mostly respect
@@soldierofpeace1620 ,I totally agree with you!
@@soldierofpeace1620 Not feeding her family while they see you as a SIMP feeding them while they talk about you in their language
LucretiaMcIntosh well said I agree two person that un in a relationship not friends and relatives sometimes some people just dont want you to be happy one at a time
That's why she can't be the only reason you're going there. You like one in particular? Fine. Go there and meet her. But the moment she pulls shit like Calvin says, talk to her, give her a chance to correct it, and if she doesn't comply, change your hotel and find another girl. Trust me you'll find aplenty.
Good advice, providing one can bypass the Hotpants syndrome
@@claytonmurray5004 Lol, yeah. But that's "just" lust, and it shouldn't never be over frame.
She can't fake genuine desire. The only women I've ever stayed with were the the one's who truly desired me. You'll know if it's mutual.