WHAT WE WISH WE KNEW BEFORE MARRIAGE // *emotional* Q&A //
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- Опубликовано: 3 мар 2021
- Funny and emotional "what we wish we knew before marriage q&A", lord. lol I honestly can't believe we got two videos up this week...Perfection is the enemy of Progress. I think that quote (and God's help) is what helped is get this video up on time! We realized we were spending 80% of our time, on 20% of the details and it was taking up way way way too much time...And our desire to make everything perfect was actually killing our joy of creating for you all which lead to us not creating content... so not only were Tori and I being discouraged but we were eliminating our ability to encourage you all and two negatives don't always make a positive. So we are letting go of that desire for "perfection" and just allow progress to tell a special story and testimony... if you're still reading this let me explain why that is important. It's important because we are constantly being perfected in Christ. But if we allow the judgement of others, or who we "think" we're supposed to be to cancel what Jesus is doing inside of us then we are missing a great opportunity. There is NOTHING wrong with admitting that we are a work in progress. WE ALL ARE. Don't let that be a negative reality in your life. Be thrilled that you are growing! Tori and I are growing with you and cannot wait to see who we all are in a few years, but in the mean time let's just focus on being who we are right where we are!
We love yall,
Chad & Tori
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If you want a part 2, make sure to comment below and let us now your questions!
yesssss i would love as many videos as possible you guys, can't get enough of what God speaks to me through y'all!
awww hahah that's so sweet! Wish we could do daily videos but that would be so much
Hi, yes I would love a part two, once I finish the video I'll comment with any questions I have.
Sweet! Can't wait!
Please do a part 2 to this video! 💛 I enjoy all your videos, but advice videos have a special place in my heart!
A married person once told me that marriage was created by God to make you holy not happy which ultimately makes you happy. Super helpful perspective
yeah I love that!!! So good!
Ideal world: it's happy, and it's also holy so you're even happier ❤️ make sure it's a healthy relationship before you take the marriage commitment stage cos it shouldn't be unhappy and you have to battle through it to your own detriment xx Chad and Tori seem to have it right 😍❤️
I love that quote Tori "if you tried to use my past against me it is like robbing a house that I don't live in anymore" Loveee this
“You don’t marry someone for the way they make you feel, you marry someone for the way you want to make them feel”
You guys give the best advice ❤️📝taking notes for when I get married
Facts love is about serving others , Jesus is the prime example of Perfect Love
I agree, that is something I needed to hear.
Really hit home 💯
Bad advice.
Actually, that´s more of a male´s perspective, bc it has to do with giving.. THe female side, which is in the receiving end regarding men (regarding children it´s the opposite, just watch nature), is more about the way they make you feel.
I never really understood what honoring your wife look like until Chad explained it. I cried with you guys, thank you for the vulnerability and honesty!
Aww dang that is so sweet!
'Perfection is the enemy of progess' got to me.🙃
Got to me too!
Omw yes!!
is omw "oh my word?" because for me it was always "on my way" lol
@@ToriAndChad definitely oh my word!! 😂😂😂
hahah I've been living a lie
I absolutely agree with what Chad said regarding "hanging out." Man up and ask her on a real date, don't be the guy who just "hangs out"
Immediately cracking up in the beginning as Chad holds his tiny coffee cup with his tiny hand 😂😂😂
hahah behind the scenes i almost dropped the cup
And when we thought Chad couldn't surprise us more😂 here it comes
hahah I have so many things up my tiny sleeves
Omg love you 🥰🥰❤️❤️
@@karaurbaniak5997 Hey girl lol!!!! 😍😘💜🥳🙌🏻🎉
“There is nothing more important than honoring my spouse.” -Chad Masters I guess when I grow I will make sure to do that! Great advice! Even before dealing with the IRS and paperwork. Family is so important 🥲😊
Thanks for seeing the important of that!
wooo i cried. didn't see that coming.
This just raised my standard for my future relationship. Thank you for this 🥺❤️
Aww dang that is powerful!
As a Christian i also cant stand the "we're just talking" culture. I feel like people do that to have the benefits and fluffy romantic feelings of dating but without actually putting any commitment or seriousness forward. I feel like it cheapens the whole process of getting to know someone. Thats just an outsiders opinion though. Maybe there is another reason as to why so many young people now a days prefer to "talk" for long periods of time versus actually committing to a relationship
True true true!
10:10 "Trying to use my past against me is like robbing a house I no longer live in" Gold
This is so great!! Thank you for being so bold in the Lord🙌🏻🤍
Chad on people who want to define relationships: "That's them just protecting their mental health." BOOM. Exactly! Noncommital, wishy-washy, boundary-less romantic relationships really aren't mentally healthy.
TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL ANNA! hahah thanks for seeing where I was coming from!
@@ToriAndChad LOL, You were throwing around wisdom, and I was catching it!
i totally agree!! with the last guy i 'dated' we decided to be casual and it messed my head up sooo bad bc i was kissing him but we were friends, sooo hard to deal
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 😭
Without defining the relationship you’ll be dragged down a path of confusion and anxiety cos you’ll always be wondering🤞🏼
"there's like distresso, espresso, and lungo" 😂😂😂
Thanks for being so vulnerable, love you guys!
hahahah happy to be vulnerable about my espresso order lolol
I love how you guys talk about logical boundaries for people who have religious values and how you prioritise the importance of the marriage. Alot of people in this day and age downplay 'friends with ex' and the hanging out with a member of the opposite ex. All back to genuine intention and honouring your spouse. I'm a Muslim and what you've shared are aligned with our general values too. May God bless your marriage lovingly and sharing for goodness.
"Using my past against me, is like robbing a house I don't live in, anymore."
😍💪🏼💞🏆 couldn't agree with that more. Thank you for sharing that, Toriiiiii! 💜
Nothing wrong with a good cry from Tori or Chad. Or me... 🥲
hahah pass the tissues
Or the entire fam lol
hahah need to buy more tissues!
Things/RED FLAGS to know you are NOT ready for a relationship?
That is a great one to answer!
@@ToriAndChad Thank you for your response! I would love to hear y'all perspective on that how it looked for you:) I am trying to be intentionally single and have a couple of goals set for myself to really grow in but I want the motivation to not just be to eventually date but to honor God. That motivation has been so much more healthier for me!
In the mean time check out a book called "boundaries in dating" or watch our boundaries video on dating!
@@ToriAndChad Right on! Will do :)
Really good question! I'm trying to figure out which things I have to work on personally before I'm ready to enter into a relationship
Thirsty doesn't mean having interest to date someone, thirsty means that someone is so desperate that would be after a bunch of people and date anyone, instead of being selective
Quote:
If you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you...
QUESTION:
So this is a little out of the normal relationship question but I’m wondering how a friend/best friend should be, act, and think once their friend gets married? Like what’s the new role of the friend, how should the friend adjust to the new boundary, what IS the boundary? Would love to hear your insight on this! Also, any advice for the friend during this transition? Hope this makes sense😅
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I really hope you get an answer soon! But I'm just going to say, once you get married, your spouse is supposed to be your best friend. Your closest person. The person who gets to know you best and learn about you the things you wouldn't intentionally share. I'd say as a best friend with a friend getting married, to respect that space between your friend and their spouse. Be there when you're called upon and respect that the spouse will at times be "the best friend" your friend needs. Doesn't make you less of friends.
Such a GREAT question!!!!!! I really hope they answer this. I never knew how to deal with this scenario. 🤔
The description 😭guys
Thanks for speaking what few people feel ashamed to speak and I would like to let you guys know that you're healing so many hearts
Jesus is using you in a way
God bless your souls 💞💞
Aww wow this was so powerful for us to read... woweowow... thanks for saying all of that!
After having time to watch any RUclips videos for months, this video really have me some good perspective as most of your videos do!! As a single person, you constantly impart little nuggets into my life!!
Chad and Tori, your hearts inspire me!! The love you have for Jesus and each other is so amazing, your wisdom blesses me!!
About to watch all the videos I missed from last year and I know I am about to receive some good perspective and guidance from all those videos!!
Bless you guys!!
Aww thanks for being here sweet Whitney! You are beyond kind! Hope you enjoy all the videos!!!
Had to watch twice because it was THAT good and I wanted to really soak in what y’all shared.. especially around idolizing marriage, that hit home hard. God bless you both, THANK YOU for sharing your light with us 🙏🏼🤍
Aww thanks for helping us get the views up!!! hahah We love you!
I love your vulnerability and silliness.
The whispering scene was so funny 😆
hahah we laughed so hard at that!
definitely a part 2 pl❤️ it’s always amazing listening to you guys!!
PART 2 PLEASE THIS WAS SO HELPFUL
you guys are so genuine and honest! i love that about y’all! praying for you guys always!✨
So much gold in this video! I loved it!! Please make a part two 🥰
Part 2. Obviously. Well done guys. Amazing as always. Sending my love x
so so good! I'm speechless! I really needed to hear this, and especially "I'm perfect in Christ alone"
Keep going with what you are doing, because this world can't miss you two!
So good! And so much truth in the description box!🙏🏽😍
I love this love. The way Chad is so Godly and how Tori submits graciously ❤️
Yes a part two! Thank you for your tips!
thank you for being here!!
Such an amazing talk! I feel like I have learned so much about you both and the wisdom that God is providing to you! Definitely need a part 2
I love your videos and the transparency and tenderness you show towards one another.
First time here! You guys are so genuine 🥺 loved it! The transparency and vulnerability is so REFRESHING!!
I would love a part 2! Also "holding our timeline with open palms" was so convicting. honestly I need to hold more aspects of my life with open palms, not just relationships.
Yes part 2 pleeeasse!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
This is even so helpful for my marriage now!! ❤️
Love y’all!
The tiny coffee cup gave me the laugh I didn't know I needed 😂
These videos are absolutely amazing, I need this insight and perspective - it is so appreciated & you guys are doing so well in reaching those of us who really need to hear these nuggets of wisdom 🙏 Part 2, 3, 4 and 5, PLEASE?!
Never been this early!!! wow! Thank you for the rawness and vulnerability but also the diversity with the videos!!! :)))
Love that you are here so early! And also for the love on the different style of content!
🔥🔥🔥 Thank you so much for doing this video! It is always so encouraging to hear y’all’s insights! I pray that God will bless you and strengthen you every day.
Well. Wow! It's a definite yes to a part two from me, and I've been intentionally single since 2014 as I needed to work on trauma from my past. So much wisdom here to help me in the future should I get into a new relationship. Love you guys!!
Aww yay! We love you too!!!
Wow, God really knows how to speak through you both. 🤍 thanks so much... I needed this.
ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS!!! Such great advice. Honestly 100% relate to all of the feelings in the description. I have been feeling discouraged about all I was not doing "right" that it discouraged me from doing anything. But I am slowly working on that and taking small steps! I love that I am not alone in this journey.
aww the rawness and authenticity you guys offer is truly a gift that we all get to learn from. Thank you and God bless you abundantly
Love you guys SO MUCH💛Thank you for sharing your hearts and for giving such GREAT advice to us all!
Y'ALL ARE PRECIOUS! I appreciate the vulnerability each of you bring to your content. So thankful for Christian influencers who are real and authentic about life's struggles. Your channel is impacting the kingdom of God one view at a time.
Love you guys! Thank you for your transparency & wisdom ❤️
we love you too!!!
You guys are really out here speaking the true word of God and changing lives. I walk away both convicted and filled with wisdom after every video. You both are a blessing. And that podcast is 🔥. Whoever hasn’t checked it out yet is MISSING OUT!!
Please do a video about things you wish you knew before marriage. That is a great topic and would be helpful. Thanks!
That is going to be an entire series!!!
yals love is sooo deep and vast and wide, I can just tell from that cry 😭🤍 (made me realize never to settle)
We love you guys, love what you’re doing❤️
We appreciate you so much! thanks for being here with us!!
gosh I'm finally catching up on your videos after way too long😭 you guys have actually made such a big impact on my life with growing my love for Christ and making me more like him. Love you and your videos💜 (also questions pending but yes to part 2)
part 2 would be great!!!! you guys have changed my perspective on relationships, love etc. So glad God showed me you guys !!
Something that happened in this video I feel really called to point out to you guys. In scripture over and over it talks about loving others. Taking our eyes off of ourselves and helping those around us. You guys seemed to have been dealing with an issue before filming. Chad touched on it. Then while on camera you were vulnerable enough to open up about it and there seemed to be this necessary moment of healing for you two. Bonding. It was beautiful to witness. Gives me hope for my own marriage one day. :)
My point is that week after week you both take the time to help others navigate so many aspects of their lives. You have purposely helped me see my worth through Christ. But I see how our Father still works in YOUR lives too- because in aiming to help others you both are being slowly united stronger too.
Its beautiful how He works.
I pray for every single beautiful soul watching this video. ❤
i’m so excited for this video!!! thank you y’all for always sharing Godly wisdom💗
Awww let us know what you think after watching!
You two are so well spoken. Thanks for sharing!
So thankful for all of your content!! Always taking notes 📝!! Much love always ❤️.
thanks Chris! That means the world to us!
Just wanted to say I've been watching y'all's videos for a few months and it's given me a whole new perspective on life in general. Y'all have brought up a lot of things that I probably wouldn't have thought about if I haven't seen y'all's videos. So thank you for that! Keep up these great videos!
Oh wow that is huge... thanks for sharing that man! Really appreciate it!
This video is so good. Thank you both for being vulnerable & honest. I’m currently single, but am very encouraged watching you two live out what you share. I love this channel! 🤍
The absolute sweetest couple 💗 love you guys!!!
We love you too!
I’m sure many do, but I just want both you, Chad and Tori to know how impactful, inspiring and encouraging you both are. Thank you for following Gods heart and encouraging others through this channel. It may seem at times that it’s hard to Truly know the positive impact your making in individual lives, but truly Gods heart and purpose is being displayed through you both. Thank you for being his vessels and a light in this world that is too filled with darkness.
I seriously felt the Holy Spirit throughout the entirety of this video. 💜 You two are such beautiful, pure examples of Christ, I am continually sooo blessed by each of your videos! THANK YOU for all that you have sacrificed to put up your content. I love you guys!
Thank y’all for being so honest 🤍
thank you for watching!!!
Y'all had me crying 😭 hahaha thank you Tori and Chad for this vid and I loveddd the description!!
I had myself crying hahah thanks for reading the description!!!
Yes please do a part two!!! This was so encouraging and God is using you guys in a mighty way!!
You both have impacted me so much already and Chad, man I have been really able to relate to you a lot and you have helped and encouraged me so much for my future!
Love you guys!
Wow you're so encouraging! Thanks for saying all of this!! We appreciate it! We appreciate you and all the love!
This was so good and so helpful!!! I would love a part 2 to this!!
Let us know if you have any specific questions!!!
Loved this so much!! I recently went through a breakup and we’ve both had different ideas of what friendship after a breakup looks like so I loved hearing y’all’s take on that!
Definitely do a part 2🙌
first time ive stumbled upon your page and I LOOOOOVE YOU GUYS. Such a down to earth real Christian couple
can I just say you are the most wholesome people! I'm literally tearing up at what Chad said about hugging Tori 😭😭
You are both so wise! So thankful for your influence in my life, I know you both give so much to this channel and I think I can speak from all your subscribers when I say that we have so much gratitude for these videos, you never put minimal effort in and that's so clear, you give so generously and in abundance! THANK YOU. Also, I wanted to say how obvious it is that the Holy Spirit is alive within both of you in your answers and responses to all these questions! and YES TO A PART 2!
Such good questions and such good answers. You are so encouraging. It is so refreshing to hear gods truth. Thank you!
so much of what you guys said I have thought about and completely agree with. Keep serving the Lord always. You guys are amazing 🤍
Such wonderful advice for young couples after being married for 39 years. It's obvious God is in the center of your lives and in your marriage!! Thank you for your authenticity!!
i absolutely love your faith and your wisdom BUT i don't think you're wholesome, genuine, and never forced humor is appreciated and talked about enough 🤩 seriously feels like i'm hanging with friends!!! you're so funny :D
I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. Y’all are so inspiring and makes us value Christ and relationship so much in the right way. Lots of support and prayers to you guys 💛
Aww sending our love to you too! Thanks for being here with us!
Thank you guys so much💞🙌🏻🙌🏻This really brings changes in our lives and Tori when you spoke about”having a personal relationship with God then being full enough to pour out onto the other person”🙌🏻🙌🏻💯that hit home....and what Chad spoke about was so true...I’ve seen this changing my relationships,when I think about the other person more and how I can be the best for them and they do the same...changes the whole relationship🙌🏻
I just have to say I am SO thankful for you guys!! The Lord is definitely speaking through you and it is so so encouraging. I know y'all are very humble and I know God gets all the glory, but Chad, the depth of your relationship with Jesus and the passion you have for him shows, and it definitely has raised my standards when looking for a man who loves Jesus. Thank you both for the way you share Christ in everything you do!!
Been needing to hear a lot of what you guys said here. Especially the quote Tori shared about the past. I love how vulnerable and genuine you guys are. Would love to see more chatty vlogs!! God bless you guys always, all the way from the Philippines!
Tori and Chad - Love your honesty, faith based and vulnerable streams.. God has you two in the palm of his hand.. never doubt and continue to shine His light as you do! Blessings! Jo
You guys are the best
Would love a part 2! This was so helpful.
Thank you so much for being real and compassionate about these subjects, to us and to each other. It’s really wonderful to see a real and beautiful relationship like yours - wish you all the best!
aww thank you for sharing that you felt like we were compassionate! That is so sweet!
That was so awesome. You guys make me me believe more in Christ. God bless youu ❤️❤️
You guys should do a video on advice for being an intentional friend with those living near you and those that live far away!! Love you guys 💗
You guys have me crying. I love you two
I love these types of videos and I would love a part 2 :) the timeline question is sooo interesting ha! x
it is right?!?! lol So happy you like these types of videos!
WHYYYYYYY are y'all so sweet?! Omg. The part when you were both crying about the hug. 😭 So sweet and precious! 💖💖💖. I love your channel so much. You both have so much wisdom to give to others and you can see the fruit.
Questions for Part 2: What books/podcasts/Bible verses helped your understand relationships?
That would be a great series in itself!!!
I love 'Apply God's Word' youtube channel:)
You guys are another level of real. Thank you for being role models for us and being such lights 💥 love you both!
awww thanks sweet Sarah!!!
ALWAYS want a part two!!
SOO many golden nuggets of truth in this video🤩
Love you guys thank you for being so honest and vulnerable 😊 Could listen to you for hours.. much love from Germany 🥰
awww hallo and gute nacht! We love you too!
this was recommended to me at the perfect time, God bless you both 🥺💛
Thank you for sharing!!! As a newlywed this was so helpful for me to listen to and really encouraged me to reflect on my own marriage and recenter my heart in Christ 💖
Hey, chad and tori! Thank you so much for this video. As I am currently in a dating relationship, the advice you gave in this video opened up some things that have been on my heart for my while, and just being able to find myself within Christ and not someone else either that be a partner, friend or family. I really feel God has been using you two to speak so much wisdom and I seriously appreciate it ☺️🤍 YES to part 2!!!
oh wow! Thanks for sharing that!!! We can't wait to make you a part two!
Thank you for this video. I’m having a rough time in my relationship with God and you guys encouraged me to stop procrastinating and get back on it. So yea, thank you. God bless you and your ministry!
Keep the faith sis✨💕 you might like to draw inspiration from the early fathers
Part 2, please!!! I love all of your content!
Aww that is sweet of you!!