10 simple Tricks to Not get Divorced

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  • Опубликовано: 15 июн 2023

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  • @greatundercarriage
    @greatundercarriage 11 месяцев назад +8907

    Getting fired by a marriage counselor is an incredible accomplishment 😂

    • @evermoore66665
      @evermoore66665 11 месяцев назад +56

      What about getting hired by a marriage counselor?

    • @avacado6399
      @avacado6399 11 месяцев назад +57

      @@evermoore66665 if a marriage counselor is like you need me, thats an anti acomplishment

    • @bstarkweatherb
      @bstarkweatherb 11 месяцев назад +10

      That's happened to you as well??? I thought i was the only one. Lmao

    • @cab26
      @cab26 11 месяцев назад +1

      Nah I’ve done it

    • @anubhav8k
      @anubhav8k 11 месяцев назад +46

      It's actually not. My wife is a therapist and sometimes her recommendation is that people just need to be separated or they fundamentally differ or they both need their own separate therapist instead of only couples counseling. Could be any number of reasons.

  • @tianamatson
    @tianamatson 11 месяцев назад +4045

    I love it when Candace makes an appearance. She always brings the realism to the storybook world that Casey lives in.

    • @tonyo6672
      @tonyo6672 10 месяцев назад +38

      Candace did give a great No 10 answer! If you look back at why you got together in the first place, and your love for each other then it reminds you that what ever you have gone through, you done it together! I would add, when you know what pushes the buttons on your partner, don't push them again if at all possible.....🔘 x

    • @briebrie5209
      @briebrie5209 10 месяцев назад +9

      They are really is a power couple. Been watching Casey talking about their relationship is incredible

    • @MeChamoJojo
      @MeChamoJojo 10 месяцев назад +2

      That's probably what they are together right? very nice what you brought. I loved what you said not for trying to judge their relationship, but i think i related my relationship to theirs hahaha thank god my girl brings me to the ground

    • @DJSt3rling
      @DJSt3rling 10 месяцев назад +19

      Me, too! But MAN. She looks TIRED in life! All the time.

    • @ChristopherLedoux
      @ChristopherLedoux 10 месяцев назад +2

      Agree. I also miss their single-season podcast “Couples Therapy with Candice and Casey.”

  • @RockMeTommyBoy
    @RockMeTommyBoy 10 месяцев назад +142

    That transition to the old footage was so powerful. Amazing film Casey. Thanks for sharing it with us

  • @randelledavis
    @randelledavis 7 месяцев назад +413

    Candice radiates authenticity in your vlogs. It's refreshing to see her genuine approach to life, especially when many women portray an unrealistically "perfect" family life online. She stands as a beacon for those women hesitant to share their genuine experiences, given society's tendency to suppress such raw truths.

  • @DHendricks88
    @DHendricks88 11 месяцев назад +2285

    I honestly really appreciate that Casey is open about this. Most influencers will make their relationships look perfect until a divorce is settled, but you’re showing us the real side behind it.

    • @cfrondon
      @cfrondon 11 месяцев назад +31

      And most importantly, sticking together despite imperfections! I mean, this is not necessarily the one truth for all relationships (some couples were never meant to stay together for long, so it might indeed be best if they part ways), but in a world where people simply give up on each other at the first sign of trouble (as nearly everything nowadays is a "red flag"), making a conscious decision to work WITH each other to build a resilient relationship and overcome each other's imperfections is almost an act of rebellion.

    • @floolo1
      @floolo1 11 месяцев назад +3

      this.

    • @gabimgmg
      @gabimgmg 11 месяцев назад +7

      exactly! it’s rare to see public figures be so open about the “downs” of their relationship i think it’s very admirable

    • @m.hreels9822
      @m.hreels9822 11 месяцев назад +2

      That’s everybody though shrug 🤷‍♂️ nobody wants their personal business Public

    • @a13jo
      @a13jo 11 месяцев назад +2

      We, us... The people who watch this channel is somewhere inside the Me Ben diagram

  • @cdrain08
    @cdrain08 11 месяцев назад +2522

    The key takeaways from this video:
    1. Find time to be alone with one another
    2. Don’t get annoyed by things about them that used to amuse you
    3. Be patient when things aren’t going well
    4. Put in the work - it’s worth it
    5. Don’t sacrifice a sense of ‘you’ and ‘me’ for the sake of an ‘us’
    6. Listen to them and respect their wishes, opinions and peeves
    7. End fights constructively
    8. Life is short, let the little things go
    9. Don’t lose track of what attracted you to them in the first place
    10. Have fun with them! A relationship shouldn’t be a constant struggle.

    • @luismarquez3796
      @luismarquez3796 11 месяцев назад +111

      you forgot the secret last advise lol

    • @Atabascael
      @Atabascael 11 месяцев назад +137

      11: Eggplants and peaches.

    • @lucasagua77
      @lucasagua77 11 месяцев назад +2

      number 3 is kind of impposible

    • @mikemikeyee
      @mikemikeyee 11 месяцев назад +4

      Work isnt underlined enough

    • @Sunny_B4
      @Sunny_B4 11 месяцев назад +6

      Or just get a dog. 😂😂

  • @DocLanDoManDo
    @DocLanDoManDo 10 месяцев назад +93

    ❤ So messy, vulnerable, and genuine. It’s like the opposite of most social media. Thanks to both of you for that little gem of a video. ❤

  • @disKComfort
    @disKComfort 10 месяцев назад +19

    That was so cute and real! Thank you Casey for willing to be vulnerable. I’m sure this video resonated with so many people!

  • @brookelynn0209
    @brookelynn0209 11 месяцев назад +624

    I love how Candice is unapologetically herself and does not try to play it up for the camera. Makes her even more endearing.

    • @boratsagdiyev522
      @boratsagdiyev522 10 месяцев назад +1

      And you think casey likes that?

    • @iamawin8272
      @iamawin8272 10 месяцев назад +11

      @@boratsagdiyev522this video is a testament to the fact that he does.

    • @vildekm
      @vildekm 10 месяцев назад +3

      ​@@boratsagdiyev522just say you're new here

    • @kebman
      @kebman 10 месяцев назад

      You think bratty and annoyed behaviour is endearing? You and me are different.

    • @boratsagdiyev522
      @boratsagdiyev522 10 месяцев назад

      @@vildekm been here since day one

  • @shounakghosh3705
    @shounakghosh3705 11 месяцев назад +715

    Casey continues to prove video after video why he is one of the most talented filmmakers across all media, social and traditional. The stories he tells in less than 20 minutes capture a beauty and honesty of life that's unmatched. The journeys he continues to take us through as his audience are simply amazing and I'm sure we'll all be here for the ride for as long as he decides to do so.

    • @sckimlaw
      @sckimlaw 11 месяцев назад +4

      This I completely agree…Me and My Kid is one of my fav movies of all time.

    • @jamesmiller9623
      @jamesmiller9623 11 месяцев назад

      You are spot on

    • @juliankambu
      @juliankambu 11 месяцев назад

      Mr beast is where you find entertainment but here you get entertained and you learn about little things that matters in life. I am 24 and I get to learn this from a couple that has been through it all 🔥

    • @mauree1618
      @mauree1618 11 месяцев назад

      It says a lot that theres always a comment like this on every single one of his vids.

    • @grannyronna
      @grannyronna 11 месяцев назад

      Completely agree! The shot of the video and the placement of that shot ...wow! He is an incredible storyteller.
      Having happily been on this planet for 72 years, I did want to add--guys, you are STILL young and beautiful.

  • @1109smiley
    @1109smiley 10 месяцев назад +91

    I’ve been watching you both for the past decade. There has always been (and hopefully will always be) a certain quality to your videos that is so special and I’ve never fully been able to pinpoint exactly what that is. I deeply admire your artistic skills, creativity and your work ethic. I’m just writing this to let you know how much I appreciate your content. Thank you for always staying true to yourself and thank you for the Candice content! Always sending lots of love to the both of you!!

  • @sanatmishra007
    @sanatmishra007 10 месяцев назад +15

    Watching Casey videos is like you are just involved so deeply that you started feeling it. Love you man. The only creator's video I never miss. Candace is like icing on the cake. I just love your old days videos.

  • @seanfrank4165
    @seanfrank4165 10 месяцев назад +1587

    This is a level of vulnerability I haven't seen from many creators. Casey did it with style, class and creativity as usual.

    • @alecbaldwinsnotpropgun
      @alecbaldwinsnotpropgun 10 месяцев назад +12

      His last ditch effort to save a failing marriage with a chick who is already checked out

    • @MrInterpriser
      @MrInterpriser 10 месяцев назад

      @@alecbaldwinsnotpropgunwdym

    • @HEAVYxSUDHDHE
      @HEAVYxSUDHDHE 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@alecbaldwinsnotpropgunyou cant judge someone unless you live their life.A video is too short.

    • @AppalachiaDreamin
      @AppalachiaDreamin 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@alecbaldwinsnotpropgun sad life you must live.

    • @Zones33
      @Zones33 10 месяцев назад +2

      @@alecbaldwinsnotpropgunyeah they’re donzo lmao. Their podcast was a shitshow

  • @biplavbarua692
    @biplavbarua692 11 месяцев назад +761

    Dude, I'm here after like 6-7 years, and watching Casey and Candace still "working" out things just makes me happy! Love your work and personal life balance dude, seriously.❤

    • @darren6831
      @darren6831 11 месяцев назад +1

      It’s inspiring. I also feel this way

    • @tapp.on.my.picc76
      @tapp.on.my.picc76 11 месяцев назад

      Ýe

    • @badoing7390
      @badoing7390 11 месяцев назад +1

      Divorce exists for a reason. These two are not happy and abuse each other constantly. Almost verging on Johnny and Amber levels. They should separate.

    • @domcage6724
      @domcage6724 9 месяцев назад

      @@badoing7390I think the same every video Candice features in they mention they almost divorced a few months ago etc

  • @Rootlc
    @Rootlc 10 месяцев назад +19

    Casey’s story telling always has & always will hit the spot. ❤️ 🥺

  • @BarnabasLawson
    @BarnabasLawson 8 месяцев назад +15

    The collage of old videos near the end made me teary 😢
    Great video together. Very happy that you have continued to WORK to make YOUR MARRIAGE WORK! ❤

  • @woodsmanwanderer6897
    @woodsmanwanderer6897 11 месяцев назад +481

    Casey is one of the top storytellers of our time. Its crazy how he can take simple idea that seems stupid for a video and make it into something like this.

    • @segueyediop5757
      @segueyediop5757 11 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly

    • @Dasani31
      @Dasani31 11 месяцев назад

      Can be learned? Or gifted?

    • @SebMarks
      @SebMarks 11 месяцев назад

      *BEST storyteller

    • @goodnewsforever9574
      @goodnewsforever9574 11 месяцев назад +2

      that's because they beeing authentic. it's not some sort of staged convos. and these surprising edits of course!

  • @DominionDF
    @DominionDF 11 месяцев назад +294

    As someone who's only been married for a year and a half, I really appreciate how open you are about your relationship with Candice. And how you've made it work all these years while still maintaining your sense of self. Marriage is work, but it's so worth it.

    • @banme2784
      @banme2784 11 месяцев назад +3

      Lmfao, theyre gonna get divorced anyway calling it now

    • @DiegoBeys
      @DiegoBeys 11 месяцев назад +9

      ​@@banme2784 if they get divorced or not, at least they're aware that they're enjoying themselves as much as possible right now, they're alive, loved and loving. Keep hating.

    • @jeevanwashere
      @jeevanwashere 11 месяцев назад +4

      @@banme2784 such a sad thing to say

  • @nicoleveld833
    @nicoleveld833 10 месяцев назад +42

    Haha I love Candace’s secret one.
    I feel like when kids come into the picture your relationship changes drastically because your new focus is these little humans you worry about 24/7. Making time to still focus on just each other always seems like so much effort but worth it.

  • @user-ct4xf3du5c
    @user-ct4xf3du5c 10 месяцев назад +41

    Watching your relationship and family grow over the years is such a wonderful joy, and knowing the secret to putting in the work has been just as inspiring. You’re a gifted filmmaker but more importantly, a present husband & father. Love you Casey ❤❤❤❤

  • @TommyBeyond
    @TommyBeyond 11 месяцев назад +184

    MAJOR major respect to you two for fighting through the hard parts of the marriage. Very inspiring

  • @CarlMurawski
    @CarlMurawski 11 месяцев назад +154

    Man, it really warms my heart to see you back in NYC. Your old Vlogs got me through some hard times and this is just like visiting an old friend.

    • @franzyup94
      @franzyup94 11 месяцев назад +1

      such a great comment! Im close to you :')

  • @clievah
    @clievah 10 месяцев назад

    Hearing you guys talk about the relationship and your memories that you look back on really made me happy. It led me to reflect on my memories with my SO and literally brought me to the brink of tears for all the memories I'm happy to have shared with them. Thank you for the video.

  • @RonZaworaCGS
    @RonZaworaCGS 8 месяцев назад +2

    Impeccable timing - much appreciated. Really nice to see more of Candace.

  • @stratomaster55
    @stratomaster55 10 месяцев назад +645

    I think the point at 6:45 really resonated with me. Because, I remember when I was a teenager I asked my parents, "How do you keep your relationship together?" - something along those lines because so many of my friends growing up had divorced parents. What Casey explained is EXACTLY what my parents explained to me. They told me I need to have my own life, my own interests, hobbies, passions, and plans, as does the other person. At the end of the day, we only have ourselves, so what makes a relationship successful is when each person is strong and happy with themselves, and you can share your happy lives together. It just shows that WORK on a relationship often relates to working on yourself. Great video Casey, thank you.

    • @nateyee
      @nateyee 10 месяцев назад +2

      Well said! 👏

    • @LauraLegille
      @LauraLegille 9 месяцев назад +2

      very well put!

    • @TeutonicTribe
      @TeutonicTribe 9 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah, just don’t take it too far

  • @KelvinMedinathezarkman
    @KelvinMedinathezarkman 11 месяцев назад +242

    Through the years Casey had shown bits and pieces of what it's like to be in a relationship with Candace from Girlfriend up to wife and through that one thing he always showed was that he was willing to prioritize the relationship over everything else. When they left NYC because he needed to be closer to family and to turn off his workaholic mentality it showed how much he was willing to fight for Candace and in effect kept their marriage intact, whatever it takes to keep the relationship alive. No relationship is perfect by any means but those imperfections make it real and to be together as long as they have, to keep it as real as they have is an amazing accomplishment, may you have many amazing years together Neistat's.

    • @natea-qk6pr
      @natea-qk6pr 11 месяцев назад +3

      now the waterworks hit

    • @jonjonjonjonjonjonjon
      @jonjonjonjonjonjonjon 11 месяцев назад +2

      From what I remember, part of the reason why Casey moved to Cali was actually because he wasn’t prioritizing his relationship with Candice. I don’t remember if he said it in a vlog or a podcast he was on. But that just makes the relationship more real. It’s not some fairy tale where you always put your loved one first. It has ups and downs. What matters is that you’re still willing to fight for each other when shit inevitably hits the fan, which is what happened with Casey and Candice time and time again.

    • @cantbendknee
      @cantbendknee 11 месяцев назад

      Didn't he say that at a certain point he wasn't listening to Candace and would quickly try to solve arguments so that he could show her on camera? I think you have put on rose tinted glasses. What is great about this conversation is that it shows an imperfect marriage where both have to decide what compromises they can make to stay in it.

  • @samanthaplante2363
    @samanthaplante2363 8 месяцев назад +2

    This made me cry!! I love seeing you guys unabashedly share the difficult and uncomfortable parts of a relationship. I hope to have a casey or candice one day

  • @jer090jr
    @jer090jr 7 месяцев назад +8

    I miss their podcast! It was soooo good...very open and vulnerable. I'm happy that they are still together and thriving.

  • @JohnHill
    @JohnHill 11 месяцев назад +765

    That was too goddamn cute

    • @prodKossi
      @prodKossi 11 месяцев назад +1

      No u

    • @BillyGuerilla
      @BillyGuerilla 11 месяцев назад +1

      I WATCH YOUR SKATE VIDS

    • @philosophy_bot4171
      @philosophy_bot4171 11 месяцев назад

      Beep bop... I'm the Philosophy Bot. Here, have a quote:
      "All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking"
      ~ Nietzsche

  • @tatymschneider6681
    @tatymschneider6681 11 месяцев назад +271

    I think one of the tips they don't specifically mention, but instead demonstrate is the ability to be silly with your loved one. I have found that relationships need a balance of serious and silly, and I see that reflected in the last few scenes here. It's one of the things that always makes me feel very connected and loved by my husband, when we're laughing about an old joke between us or chuckling over a new one. Another great video casey! Thanks for sharing it with us.

  • @logandaunais101
    @logandaunais101 10 месяцев назад +7

    This is a level of insight into relationships that we are by no means entitled to, but that I find so important for people to hear. Tip 10 resonated most with me almost as a fail-safe for relationships in a bad place. And if I had to reword it, I would say "remind yourself why you fell in love." Sometimes we can forget the core reasons why we chose to be with someone in the first place, especially as you progress in a relationship and change as individuals. Taking a moment to think back to the person that you found so amazing that you knew you wanted to be with them is one of the healthiest things I think you can do in a long term relationship

  • @mkowdley
    @mkowdley 10 месяцев назад +1

    Omg, I’m crying. Thanks for making this beautiful video, Casey and Candice! ❤ I adore you two so very much.

  • @James-T-RC
    @James-T-RC 11 месяцев назад +349

    This is really inspiring. I am 23, I really don’t feel the need/want to be with someone, because I fear being broken and also being forced to give up everything I know/love. But seeing you draw those 3 simple circles was way more powerful than you first intended. Every relationship has always been the big circle with no time to be myself/ourselves, but just maybe it is worth another shot.
    Thank you Casey and Candice! This video has really made me think, maybe there is more to life if we can all find that special someone that is also willing to put in the work.

    • @alaina4070
      @alaina4070 11 месяцев назад +18

      You're still young. They were likely still young too. People are messy for humans are messy. It's finding that one person who mess you can find joy in and who can find joy in your mess. Offer kindness and forgiveness to yourself and to them. I believe you can find that person one day if you want too or not. It's up to you to find joy and happiness in life and I hope you find yours whatever it is.

    • @AaronArtOKC
      @AaronArtOKC 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@alaina4070this comment is so beautiful i had to give it a like. It shouldn’t be overlooked, that’s wisdom.

    • @tapp.on.my.picc76
      @tapp.on.my.picc76 11 месяцев назад

      Yup

    • @Frank-Y
      @Frank-Y 11 месяцев назад +3

      Marriage and children are the best. You will find these, I’m sure.

    • @officialnickname
      @officialnickname 11 месяцев назад +4

      Also don't take their relationship as an example. They've broken up and gotten back together so many times and fight over the smallest things. That's a toxic relationship and you can do way better than that. If your SO ever says she has to remind herself that your cute traits are cute, maybe it's time to find somebody that actually takes you as you are and that you can take as they are. I used to be in a relationship like them and it's been really bad and tiring. Now I found a partner that fits a lot better to me and we almost never have to fight (unlike my ex with which I fought every time we met) and instead of tiring me, it strengthens me emotionally.

  • @digitalreid
    @digitalreid 11 месяцев назад +356

    This is wonderful. The thing about recognising and accommodating your partner’s pet peeves is so true. My wife and I have survived 22 years and this has been critical. I sure do miss Casey’s daily vlogs.

    • @TobiasHam
      @TobiasHam 11 месяцев назад

      If you have a OCD Partner, that will make you having to life an OCD life (which won't be a nice one for either one of you)

    • @awakenthegreatnesswithin
      @awakenthegreatnesswithin 11 месяцев назад

      @@TobiasHamwhat’s wrong with ocd in a partner?

    • @TobiasHam
      @TobiasHam 11 месяцев назад

      @@awakenthegreatnesswithin nothing, I just don't want to get it myself.

    • @littleripper312
      @littleripper312 11 месяцев назад

      I agree unless it's to an extreme extent. If someone is constantly nagging over things they need to learn tolerance themselves and pick their battles. I often see one partner in the relationship who can get carried away and express every little thing that annoys them and expect the other person to accommodate them.

    • @awakenthegreatnesswithin
      @awakenthegreatnesswithin 10 месяцев назад

      @@TobiasHam Lol, I'm not saying anything against you. I'm asking for myself to understand what people think. As I have a bit of ocd

  • @btite
    @btite 8 месяцев назад +11

    I just paused to say that “not focusing on each other when you are not together” has been an essential learned skill to make my life run smoothly. I'm not sure I’ve ever heard someone else say it, and Candace said it so well.

    • @madelyn2351
      @madelyn2351 2 месяца назад

      Does she say that in this video? I feel nuts cause I can’t find it 🕵️‍♀️

    • @btite
      @btite 2 месяца назад

      ​Hey, @@madelyn2351​, you're not crazy. You're just a better listener than me.
      Around 1:15, Candace mentions, 'There's no focus on each other when we're not alone.' While this might not directly represent what I was thinking, this moment in the video likely resonated with me and could have sparked my comment.
      They're discussing the importance of being 'alone together,' and I wouldn't want to overlook the significance of this point. However, in my personal experience, learning to 'set a conversation down' when the other person isn't present has been crucial for finding contentment.
      It often feels like we carry an imaginary version of our friends or family in our minds. We might ask this version questions or assume what they'd think, say, or do, which is usually harmless when we see them regularly. However, when meetings are infrequent, this imaginary version can diverge significantly from who they are.
      A more significant divergence can make relationships feel like they've suddenly changed, while a smaller one leaves us feeling like they’ve ‘picked up where they left off.' To prevent reality from clashing with our expectations and leading to disappointment, it's essential to let go of these imaginary versions and wait for real people to share their thoughts and feelings.
      Again, I agree with Casey and Candace about being 'Alone together.' My comment was more a reflection of my own life. Thanks for seeking clarity here, and sorry for any confusion I caused.

  • @user-pr8pt8yc7q
    @user-pr8pt8yc7q 10 месяцев назад +4

    Thank you for sharing with us, relationships are hard and nowadays nobody is willing to put in the work. It's so refreshing to see you both grow together. Love you guys, a good relationship is worth every sacrifice.

  • @JakeTheBeast4Prez
    @JakeTheBeast4Prez 11 месяцев назад +188

    I love when Casey makes real, raw, well edited videos like this. It reminds us, well me anyway, that there are no shortcuts. If you want something, you’re gonna need to make it happen yourself. Both of you, in a marriage context. Lol Thanks Casey and Candace.

    • @WanderlustWonderscape
      @WanderlustWonderscape 11 месяцев назад +1

      Note how the audio is mixed at 7:32. The sound of the truck continues into the next shot.

    • @grannyronna
      @grannyronna 11 месяцев назад

      @@WanderlustWonderscape Thanks! I wouldn't have noticed. I get how great the editing is, but not why. Appreciate your sharing the detail.

  • @zacharyjames8026
    @zacharyjames8026 11 месяцев назад +420

    This was sweet Casey. Being a child of divorce I never really got a template of what a happy relationship looked like. I'm 29 today and have only been in one myself and have been single than longer than I'd care to admit. Seeing you guys putting in the work and still so in love gives me hope for myself. Much love to you and Candace. ❤️

  • @lorenceckk
    @lorenceckk 10 месяцев назад

    thanks for sharing Casey, we all trying our best to WORK ours, it's super cool to see other people especially someone like you (I admire) to show their process of making it work, it's important and precious, love you two so much thank you love you. Btw great film to watch , always like the rhythm and mood you create, living master class of sight and sound creation you gave

  • @aryg1299
    @aryg1299 10 месяцев назад

    12 minutes gone in a flash with a beautiful message. As I am about to get married and having watched so many of your videos throughout the years I know it is a lot of work and have already experienced that. Thank you for your perspective I think everyone can benefit from it

  • @JohanLolos
    @JohanLolos 10 месяцев назад +123

    Casey and Candice just made me realize I should start filming absolutely every single great event that happen in my life, for me to rewatch decades later.

    • @DBFamilyVlog
      @DBFamilyVlog 10 месяцев назад +4

      Its why so many of us do it.

    • @beautifulph.properties
      @beautifulph.properties 10 месяцев назад +3

      I have like probably 3TB saved on mg Google Photos. 90% of them was when the app was free. 😅

    • @kamila_reis
      @kamila_reis 9 месяцев назад +1

      You are very funny! I love you both. ❤❤

    • @j3in725
      @j3in725 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@kamila_reisNo I love you

  • @ElevatedMeaningful
    @ElevatedMeaningful 10 месяцев назад +515

    @CaseyNeistat: In a generation of terrible relationships, lack of effective communication, divorce, breakups, distrust, and dishonesty, this story is a beacon of light and hope that is hard to come by. Thank you for being a shining example of hard work and effort Casey and Candance. Bless you, two!

    • @Profile.4
      @Profile.4 10 месяцев назад +6

      Not a generation, just the entire post industrial revolution society.

    • @HappyBabushka
      @HappyBabushka 6 месяцев назад +1

      The bad relationships have been since world war 2 people never seem to be able to grasp that social damage that did to most people. Since then it has been a generational spiral

    • @duzk7588
      @duzk7588 3 месяца назад

      There have always been terrible relationships. It's just not as taboo to talk about it anymore. People aren't as pressured to stay in a horrible relationship just because that's what is expected. The whole "this generation just doesn't know how to tough it out and stick to one relationship!" thing is ridiculous. I know MULTIPLE boomers that have been divorced 3+ times. One that has 5.

  • @rc_amigos
    @rc_amigos 10 месяцев назад +7

    Great video, its so important for people to see that they are not alone in this endeavor of love, marriage, and kids. Our generation has so much to deal with. Seeing your past montage hit home for me! im in my early 40's, my wife and I have been together for 24yrs, married 17! two kids and a small business later, its great to look back on all the exciting, scary, and romantic times we have shared. I hope you have many more blessings with your family. the "work" is so worth it. the last one is good too...

  • @TheRyanMorgan
    @TheRyanMorgan 10 месяцев назад +2

    Brilliantly executed. We all struggle with the same things in relationships, and it’s always so much easier to identify externally, and then apply to your own relationships.

  • @5150richthegreat
    @5150richthegreat 11 месяцев назад +77

    Candice was in her zone when explaining these tips. Lol she definitely showed how she has become so successful in her business life. Love the transparency you two put out in the struggles of life.

  • @nychris2258
    @nychris2258 11 месяцев назад +118

    This is actually one of my favorite Casey videos ever... because it's so freakin real and relatable. You guys sound exactly like me and my wife, haha. It is all worth it though.

  • @asderik
    @asderik 9 месяцев назад +1

    Love the old videos. They were very sweet. Hit me right in the feels. Gotta find some old videos of my wife and me.

  • @meikehuefnagels7297
    @meikehuefnagels7297 10 месяцев назад

    "it takes work to not be annoyed of the other person". So relatable and sweet in a way 😅🧡

  • @ivanankrom
    @ivanankrom 11 месяцев назад +161

    "We got fired by one of our therapists." 🤣🤣 I absolutely love when Candace has an active part in Casey's videos. Keep working on your marriage, especially for the girls. Kids need to see that healthy relationship between their parents.

  • @TheRoomAgency
    @TheRoomAgency 11 месяцев назад +56

    The whole thing Candice dad said is so ironic because my stepdad was a bachelor until he was 55. He bought fancy cars and beautiful houses etc. But then he met my mum and with that came her adult children. And he says his life finally makes sense. They've been together for 8 years now and he still sometimes cries tears of joy when he tells people the story of how he became a family man. That was his happy ending. So I guess you've got to remember that the grass is always greener.

    • @justinmayfield6579
      @justinmayfield6579 10 месяцев назад

      I got married at 32 and had 4 kids within 5 years. My life was so much easier before that moment but I felt like it was fairly meaningless. When I left bachelorhood, I was actually looking forward to not having my life revolve around me. It’s a growth thing. Don’t try to hang into your life, give it away for that which truly matters.
      “If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it. If you lose your life for my sake and the Gospel, you’ll find it.” -Jesus

  • @Monas99
    @Monas99 5 месяцев назад +2

    this is what true love is about- lots of ups and downs, so thank you both for being so honest and vulnerable about the relationship challenges. btw, the way Candace looks at Casey at 11:34 says it all- she's still very much in love with Casey! thank you guys for being so genuine and authentic. Love you both and wish you all the happiness in the world! Sending you lots of hugs from Romania.

  • @Mew__
    @Mew__ 10 месяцев назад +42

    I remember when Casey and Candace made about 10 podcast episodes called "Couples Therapy" (and I still know the jingle). I listened to all of them. My conclusion was that both of these people are incredibly disagreeable, and this put strain on the relationship. My advice: please give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. The number-one mistake I see so many men and women make is to think "I'm upset at you, so you wanted me to be upset" which is really only true in a small fraction of relationships. The fact that entire sitcoms have been built around simple misconceptions means that you can resolve most conflict in a relationship by just asking for clarification about the content and the intent of what makes you upset.

    • @HK45C
      @HK45C 4 месяца назад

      So true. Effective communication and not trying to guess or think what their partner is feeling or "hinting" towards or what they meant. I had a bad habit of filling in the blanks. Can't think of the word right now but it has helped tremendously to give benefit of doubt and ask for clarification if needed and not to fill in the blanks yourself

    • @Mew__
      @Mew__ 4 месяца назад

      @@HK45C Fantastic to read that you recognised this bad habit and worked on it. People who jump to conclusions are very tiresome to live with because you're always having to simultaneously debunk their assertions, re-explain your intents, and defuse emotions. It takes maturity to hold off judgement until it is warranted.

    • @nonodtect
      @nonodtect 4 месяца назад

      I wish best of luck, I can tell and sens your marriage is in trouble just try to reconnect for the reason why you get together .

    • @kalenrox212
      @kalenrox212 3 месяца назад

      This is gold. I am guilty of this.

  • @fairozshafie
    @fairozshafie 11 месяцев назад +47

    Casey, one of the most meaningful videos you’ve made in a long while. Thanks for this.

  • @jacobbrown4619
    @jacobbrown4619 11 месяцев назад +338

    Candice is the realest person on RUclips. Absolutely no filters and I'm here for it

    • @YourBlackLocal
      @YourBlackLocal 11 месяцев назад +6

      @@gumzsterLool not everyone wants to be on Camera or entertain strangers.

    • @valerielow4572
      @valerielow4572 11 месяцев назад

      Agree! 🙌🏻

    • @XblMunchie
      @XblMunchie 11 месяцев назад +3

      He said in a podcast that her attitude is what keeps it balanced

    • @EddyTheLion
      @EddyTheLion 11 месяцев назад +1

      Also she loves money 😂

    • @laraozcan3335
      @laraozcan3335 11 месяцев назад +1

      Honestly, Candice was called “bitchy” in a lot of Casey’s vlogs in the past. I’m glad that people now realize that the woman was just keeping it real.

  • @jgos
    @jgos 10 месяцев назад

    That was great! Thank you. Just had our 32nd anniversary yesterday and we didn't really acknowledge it. Your tips made me remember what a great thing we have built together. It was a lot of work, but worth it. ❤

  • @mikemiville3009
    @mikemiville3009 10 месяцев назад

    Wow, really enjoyed this episode! Thanks for the tips! More of this real ‘ish with you and Candace!!

  • @NielsdeKemp
    @NielsdeKemp 11 месяцев назад +8

    8:53 ‘Don’t you fckin touch me’ 🤣🤣 That’s love right there! 😂

  • @constantinoschristoudias1099
    @constantinoschristoudias1099 11 месяцев назад +201

    This is by far your best video Casey. The advise. The realness. The feelings. The story behind the relationship. The old clips. Just WOW. Gave me goosebumps. You are truly perfect together. She is making you better and you are making her better. Amazing!

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 10 месяцев назад

      Huh? Casey comes off as soooo weak. His wife is disgusted by his weakness and shows it throughout the video.

    • @qwisjx4482
      @qwisjx4482 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@ronaldgmaster5782 how does he come off as weak?

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 10 месяцев назад

      @@qwisjx4482 Casey puts all the responsibility on her to come up with these points. He should have done that. He also constantly seeks her approval for everything he says. She is highly irritated with Casey.

    • @amyt2400
      @amyt2400 10 месяцев назад +3

      @ronaldgmaster5782
      Are you for real?

    • @ronaldgmaster5782
      @ronaldgmaster5782 10 месяцев назад

      @@amyt2400 yes and you know i am right.

  • @danaemcburney4160
    @danaemcburney4160 10 месяцев назад

    This was so sweet and relatable that it made me cry. I have never watched one of your videos before. I've just heard you referenced by a lot of other RUclipsrs. This seems like a perfect introduction to you and Candice.

  • @OliverWallaceStories
    @OliverWallaceStories 10 месяцев назад +1

    This is a great video. You guys really seem to be doing it - like reaally doing it. Because its not about keeping it together at all costs - relationships can end. But really working together and not expecting it all to be sunshine, but knowing there can be love in sharing the tough times, definitely the deep stuff. Thanks for sharing.

  • @411NOW
    @411NOW 11 месяцев назад +110

    Thank you for the video Casey & Candise. Bonus tips for anyone that cares. 1) When arguing never make it personal. 2) Never go to bed or leave the other when angry. 3) Never EVER use the kids as a weapon against the other 4) Respect the others views and opinions even if you don't agree with them. 5) You have to love who you are before you can truly love another. We are all different. We all have different experiences in life. Everything around us shapes us into the person we are. True love knows no colors. We all hurt, we all bleed. Life is short and make the best of it.

    • @mogains
      @mogains 11 месяцев назад +4

      Amen 🙏

    • @juliamrtn4837
      @juliamrtn4837 11 месяцев назад +3

      Yes to all of this, especially nr. 3! No kid deserves to be dragged into their parents arguments. So hurtful and damaging!

    • @LuisMercadoorg
      @LuisMercadoorg 11 месяцев назад

      “Never go to bed angry” is our marriage mantra. It has worked wonders.

    • @Romafood
      @Romafood 11 месяцев назад

      👏

  • @conorneary99
    @conorneary99 11 месяцев назад +38

    I’ve always appreciated how real you’ve displayed this relationship, you’ve shown the ups and downs but that real connection of being each others best friend is there. Thank both of yous from the bottom of my heart

  • @AndrewBaker1
    @AndrewBaker1 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you! I've been married for 20+ years. A lot of this hits home. Very real and true... yet entertaining. I hope you both enjoy and grow ... that is the key. Life changes around a couple... hence the "work". Being single is easy... but having a marriage, kids and responsibility takes WORK! I hope that each of you can prosper in their own. Marriage is designed to being totally different in their experiences, yet together. Give each other recognition. Getting married is easy.... having a marriage is work. The main word that continued to be said throughout you video is Respect. Keep up the "work" and remember that anything worth having is worth the time and effort in finding a balance. Men change, women change. It's the support each has for the other that makes the equation produce a beautiful, natural and meaningful life. Wish you both the very best.

  • @bluesoldier11
    @bluesoldier11 10 месяцев назад +1

    Beautiful video, man. Really. Currently going through an unsuccessful version of this scenario, but looking forward to building again in the future using all the knowledge I have now about successful relationships. Thank you for this.

  • @Seekandfindbeauty
    @Seekandfindbeauty 10 месяцев назад +18

    Showing the flashback after Candice suggested to look at older photos of each other in love made me cry! That pause after was also impactful and I’m sure intentional. Kudos on sharing your story.

  • @griffduncan
    @griffduncan 11 месяцев назад +42

    Thanks Casey. You always seem to be there when I need you. I just went through the hardest breakup of my life and this video really helped. Your daily vlogs helped me in my darkest days too

  • @caom86
    @caom86 10 месяцев назад +5

    It’s just so good to see you both together after all these (hard) years. ❤

  • @ejt321
    @ejt321 8 месяцев назад +7

    My sister and her husband have been married for about 55 years and they told me that the secret to a long lasting marriage is to remember that you love each other and to accept each other as unique individuals. Let your partner be who they are.

  • @juancastellanos8758
    @juancastellanos8758 11 месяцев назад +13

    Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how nice of a transition to those old videos of them? Like so simple yet it made it such a touching moment for their relationship

  • @jamesallen5250
    @jamesallen5250 11 месяцев назад +45

    I absolutely love when Candice is in the videos, her and Casey are both amazing and funny.

  • @yuhgr1
    @yuhgr1 10 месяцев назад +1

    Wow. This was incredible! I love seeing Candace in these. More power to you both ❤

  • @emman1927
    @emman1927 10 месяцев назад

    That was great. Thanks for sharing. And keep up the great work you two!

  • @victoriagooner9907
    @victoriagooner9907 11 месяцев назад +110

    Thanks for letting us into your personal world Casey. Alot of influencers paint a picture of a perfect marriage until the divorce is finalized. Marriage/relationships take alot of work from both people and that ven diagram is a perfect analogy. Cheers Casey and best of luck to you and Candice.

  • @amartyaroy3754
    @amartyaroy3754 10 месяцев назад +58

    The realistic portrayal of a relationship and what it takes to make it work is why I enjoy watching Candice in Casey's creative world.

  • @Chickentenddies
    @Chickentenddies 10 месяцев назад +5

    I remember watching Casey's earliest videos about Candace from 13 years ago and getting a sense of hope and relief from the angst of being a teenager. Now I'm the same age as Casey was when he first started making videos on youtube and these old farts are still around. Thank you for the timely and often times unintentional offerings of inspiration Casey. Thank you Casey.

  • @juanchovl
    @juanchovl 10 месяцев назад

    Loved this. Thank you both Candace and Casey!

  • @peterwood5989
    @peterwood5989 11 месяцев назад +7

    You two are so meant for each other! This video says it all. Don’t let the “static” of every day life tarnish it. “Life is short.” Live it!!

  • @julienbondy
    @julienbondy 11 месяцев назад +41

    I'm getting married to the love of my life this October, and this video came at the perfect time. Thank you Casey. You're right, love is work, but it's work that's worth doing

    • @VictoryAviation
      @VictoryAviation 11 месяцев назад +4

      Congratulations to both of you and good luck with your future together. Time to buckle up bc it’s going to be a wild ride!!

    • @360.Tapestry
      @360.Tapestry 11 месяцев назад

      lol what a load of crap

    • @0MissElizabeth0
      @0MissElizabeth0 11 месяцев назад +1

      Eloping is seriously so underrated!! 😉😉😉

  • @ryanpesecky
    @ryanpesecky 10 месяцев назад

    Hey Casey, I said hi to you at Paloma in Venice. Just wanted to say thanks for the great content. Your stories are like an open diary of love and they for sure help the world to be a better place.

  • @lostpear
    @lostpear 5 месяцев назад

    I always love seeing/hearing Candice's perspective on things... This was a great episode.

  • @tannermartz6761
    @tannermartz6761 11 месяцев назад +21

    with all this being said, it is important to know when to end a relationship, when to value your own needs and not to sacrifice for the other person. while some amount of work is necessary to have a happy relationship it shouldn’t be a constant strain, you should really enjoy being with someone and the work should fade away. recognize that you matter and have the right to set your own boundaries, and that if you are constantly trying to make something work, maybe you should try something else. love you guy casey and candice, keep up the great work!

    • @SK3LLLY
      @SK3LLLY 11 месяцев назад

      So you pretty much just lightly saying to commit to the divorce with what you said. Then you told them to keep up the good work. Weird ass comment lmao

    • @joshuaburger4983
      @joshuaburger4983 11 месяцев назад

      Nah man a relationship is always going to require some sort of sacrifice. What you’re essentially saying here is it shouldn’t be a sacrifice and it shouldn’t take work. That’s a recipe for being alone. What you should do is try to determine if the sacrifice is worth the payoff. If you’re with the right person the work will be worth it.

  • @relentless3735
    @relentless3735 11 месяцев назад +9

    Happy Father's Day Casey and Candice 💕❤💯 We love you and thank you for sharing your lives with us. You both are such a great inspiration, individually and separately 🤗

  • @supexplore8397
    @supexplore8397 10 месяцев назад

    Tip no. 10 you showed at the end, always have fun and say/show that you love each other. Much love to you both, you clearly belong together ❤

  • @Harrypjotter7
    @Harrypjotter7 7 месяцев назад

    I really liked this one. Because it’s so recognizable. It’s hard working (I’m in the middle of it). And I love to see you two working! Not throwing the axe. A relationship with kids, is worth fighting = wrong word, working for. It’s never easy.

  • @mainstreetmillennial
    @mainstreetmillennial 11 месяцев назад +63

    Love the honesty and vulnerability. I’m engaged and no one really ever spoke about how much work goes into a relationship and I didn’t personally have any successful relationship around me to use as an example! And hats off to Candice’s dad for being honest… it takes a really solid relationship with your child to be willing to admit that. Wishing you both all the best! Thanks for sharing ❤️

    • @allisonjordan573
      @allisonjordan573 10 месяцев назад +4

      Okay but don’t say it to your kids when they’re kids. Growing up, my dad told me this every time he saw me or any time I needed him and it made me very suicidal/ destroyed my self worth. I genuinely hated existing because I knew he hated it too. To this day I struggle with sense of self and self worth.

  • @dizzydisciple
    @dizzydisciple 11 месяцев назад +16

    The second I heard Daniel Johnston the tears welled up. What a great song choice. And the fact that you’ve documented so much over the years inspires me to do the same. I’m mad at myself for not doing that enough. I feel like I’ve left my kids in the past and now they’re all grown.

  • @joshmoxey.
    @joshmoxey. 10 месяцев назад +1

    That throwback montage with those transitions, paired with the final point. So sweet, man.

  • @Nashe_Dete
    @Nashe_Dete 6 месяцев назад

    The vids are soo different from anything else i follow on YT, it's like a never ending movie that doesn't miss to trigger a new emotion in me here and there... Thank you both.

  • @chelseybadenhorst5120
    @chelseybadenhorst5120 11 месяцев назад +24

    You two are the true definition of a real couple. Relationships take work and effort and you definitely have shown that over the years.
    I’ve been in a relationship for over 10 years and you have your ups and downs but if you love each other you work through it all🙋🏻‍♀️

  • @niftyhacker
    @niftyhacker 11 месяцев назад +21

    This and the love note to Candice videos are two of my favourite ones ever. The love note one inspired me to write a similar one to my wife 5 years ago when we had already been together 12 years. She just said last week that she still reads this letter at least once a month. And I really enjoyed writing it as well. Made me really reflect and remind all the minor details that make me love my wife so much.

    • @user-od9iz9cv1w
      @user-od9iz9cv1w 11 месяцев назад +2

      You are going to make it. Great note. Thanks.

  • @jaydenblack1087
    @jaydenblack1087 9 месяцев назад

    Casey, your videos always make me smile. Thank you.

  • @bryce6870
    @bryce6870 10 месяцев назад

    So relatable! Refreshing to hear another couple explain ins and outs of their own struggles.

  • @markoboychuk
    @markoboychuk 11 месяцев назад +11

    This feels so real. Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. I believe this is exactly what our society needs right now. The truth and reality that comes with marriage.

  • @chilidog73
    @chilidog73 10 месяцев назад +7

    You guys are amazing and 100% correct. Marriage takes work and commitment. The photo tip #10 was spot on. I really miss your weekly marriage counseling podcast.

  • @rachelwalker8160
    @rachelwalker8160 6 месяцев назад

    I think this is my new favorite video on the internet. I’ve been in a relationship with the love of my life for years, this just validated so much. WORK!

  • @jboone89
    @jboone89 8 месяцев назад +2

    when i watch videos of creators as good as Casey, I get overwhelmed with the thought of being this creative and driven. I've struggled since I was a child to find the drive and creativity to do things...like...anything. I see these videos and think of ALL the thought that must go in to things like camera placement, remembering to setup the camera to get b-roll footage (such as walking out of your house), what to talk to the camera about, how to talk to the camera to seem interesting, etc.. It is all so fascinating but also such a mystery. I must have made a wrong turn somewhere in life haha

    • @PCHSwS
      @PCHSwS 7 месяцев назад

      If everyone was as creative as Casey, who would he be making videos for? There need to be people that just like to sit back and relax and enjoy watching...

  • @lew4kids779
    @lew4kids779 11 месяцев назад +3

    Keep doing what you are doing Casey and Candice. You are wonderful people and thanks for sharing your lives with us.

  • @marcaurel2610
    @marcaurel2610 10 месяцев назад +13

    Thanks Candice and Casey! Those were exactly the RIGHT TIPS for me and my wife at the RIGHT TIME! 🙏🏻And I firmly believe that if we don't put in the work and leave we'll be confronted with the same issues again. So: Giving up is not an option! 😉

  • @hugodapalma
    @hugodapalma 10 месяцев назад

    Congratulations to both of you for letting your love win over your issues. Nice to see you both smiling.

  • @laurajones5854
    @laurajones5854 10 месяцев назад +1

    This may be my favorite video you’ve ever made. The ending just left a smile on me, thanks for this