@TrainingAddict666 trainingAddict blatantly wanted to write the same comment, but thought they would check to see if it was already written. So he wasted his time counting the comments and then decided to comment on the comment that he wanted to comment and instead decided to troll and cry. Dont be bitter "bro"! cry, then smile and move on. Lifes too short 👉👌
I cried watching this. I am in my 60’s and was only diagnosed 10 years ago. So many wasted years. People have no idea how living with ADHD is constantly swimming against the tide. Thank you James, for this. So happy you have found happiness living here in Sydney.
Jesus loves you & died for you on the cross so your sins can be forgiven & so you can have a relationship with him so if you turn & repent & accept Jesus Christ as your Lord & Saviour, you shall be saved Sinners prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I know that I’m a sinner and I ask for your forgiveness, I believe that you died for your my sins and rose from the dead, I turn from my sins and invite you to come into my heart & life, I choose to trust & follow you as my Lord & Saviour, Amen
Someone close to me (who happens to be a clinical psychologist) advised me that having ADHD while being undiagnosed (and unmedicated) is like "playing life on hard mode". I am sorry to hear that you had a lot of difficult years, that's not fair, but I am hopeful that you got the support you needed.
That's unfortunate to hear. I am one of those psychologists he is referring to. I also have ADHD myself. So, I'd like to believe I have a deeper understanding of how it can be missed and what to look for in others. Love this guy's approach on health and well-being. I second your thanks.
James this is quite literally the best video you have ever made. Probably one of the most personal approaches I’ve seen anyone talking about their ADHD 🙏
Broski I cried while watching this. I didn't even know what ADHD is until I turned 30. You mentioned everything what I have been through and no-one no one ever understood me and I feel like I am always alone by myself even though I am surrounded by many friends.
Yup. I'm actually quite intelligent and talented, however I've failed every single course that I wasn't interested in. Meanwhile I have the ones that tickled my attention. It's been a rough ride till age 36. And I thought I'd be like this forever. A children's dose of ritalin basically fixed the cons without inhibiting the pros of my condition.
I wish more people talked about relationships and ADHD. As the non ADHD person in a relationship I'm always trying to find the best ways to deal with it other than being patient and understanding. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Look up Married To Discraction. Its a book about ADHD and relationships. The author, Melissa Orlov, has written a couple books on this. She's done several podcasts as well talking about it. Its very helpful information.
I have ADHD and it’s not easy to live with a partner with this condition at times, I cherish having such a selfless and understanding partner very much.
I’m 40 in a few weeks. I’ve just this year been diagnosed with ADHD too. This video hits so many points I can relate to! My wife was laughing and ‘ticking off’ all the similarities. Thank you for making this. Makes me feel normal 💪🏻
Isn’t it the best gift ever to just be able to feel normal…our whole lives we’ve been made to feel bad for having these behaviours…when actually they’re perfectly normal for our kind of brains :)
I just found out I have inattentive ADHD too (the internal hyperactivity you spoke about). Diagnosed as an adult too, in my mid thirties. I related to everything you said! Being called lazy when I was younger, feeling resentment when interupted in relationships and coming off as not present and even harnessing hyper focussing 😅. Thanks for sharing mate. You seem to be doing great, but just in case, you're not alone ✊🏽 keep up the great work!
Snap! Plus a misdirected anger at the educational providers and caregivers for missing my struggles and telling me I had “so much potential” if only I was less emotional (impulsive)/ would focus more / wasn’t so lazy (could control executive function)! As a girl in the 90s ADHD just didn’t exist!
@nicolasheppard3541 oh I relate to the 'so much potential' part so much! And as a girl in the 90s with ADHD, you were definitely one of the forgotten ones (my sister went through the same thing) :( I hope everything is better for you now though!
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at the ripe age of 30 and this is how I've been feeling minus the positive. The way you've explained this is super relatable and I think I needed something like this at the moment.
Hi James so great to hear you talking about ADHD. My son has it very badly. He is a lovely man, but relationships have been disastrous. He wants a wife a family, but doesn’t think if will ever happen. I’ll show him your video. It’s so inspiring. Thank you James 😊
This is the best thing you have ever done and said. I have ADHD and I get the hyper focus and the impulses that seemingly come from nowhere. I got rid of my TV because I would like get on and binge watch shows because I felt it was important to know how much the books vs the series of game of thrones was. Meanwhile my university assignments were piled up a mile. I got rid of my TV and literally locked myself in my apartment every weekend and completed everything.
I take my book now 📕 pen ruler in a backpack on my motorcycle to some country cafe and read 30 pages in 4 hours. I use the ruler to read and underline stuff The next week end I re read and hand write the stuff I underlined. I stick post it notes and flags. 😊 I am reading Confident by James almost halfway through.
Welcome to the family brother! How good is growing up classed as the "gifted child who doesn't care" when all you wanted to do was try but for some reason you couldn't try and when you told people this they just told you you were making excuses and were lazy
After my own diagnosis 3 years ago. I've questioned if James has ADHD and its hardly surprising to learn this. This is one of the most useful videos on how ADHD affects daily living that I have seen. I think the biggest struggle for the neurodiverse is building a strong support. We simply crumble when we are left to manage alone. everything becomes stressful, late, unfinished, forgotten etc.. Having good people who understand and help with the shortfalls but equally appreciate the perks and quirks. Interdependency is key
I CURED myself of Inattentive ADD of 27 years using only consciousness in 2 days. (Sept 19-21, 2013 in Reno, NV USA 4th St. in a rundown druggie hotel). HERE'S HOW I DID IT. It's kind of an extraordinary story, but if one man can do it.. anyone can. NOTE: Additionally, after I cured it I used the exact same process ( Accountable BELIEF & INTENTION + MIND REPROGRAMMING via a positive affirmation) to awaken to how the whole universe works, so I now teach the highest meaning of life and the structure of the universe to anyone who will listen for free. I am completely non-religious but learn from celestials and many beings of the Bible in the current age with them FARTHER ALONG in their own personal progressions. In other words.. I don't learn from B.C. Moses for example, but 2000 A.D. Moses who is now much wiser since he has been in spirit-body 2000 years. I'm top performing now, a polymath, never get sick, nor have any accidents, have spiritual_abilities, and.. having rid myself of ADD: (1) am no longer late and have a great sense of time and scheduling (2) have no short-term memory issues (3) do NOT seriously procrastinate nor dread doing simple things anymore. (4) I got my full consciousness power back so I can do a LOT of things. I should also add (although you will not believe it) that it is HIGHLY LIKELY my ADD was caused by a chatty spirit who attached to me during a brief experience smoking weed at prep school, since 27 years later I only had to do my "healing process thingee" 2 days before I awoke on the 2nd morning and my mind was completely silent & cured. It was NOT a gradual nor an incremental healing. It happened basically while I was in sleep state the 2nd night after having done 36 hours of intense POSITIVE_AFFIRMATION not only in my mind non-stop.. but I was also listening before I went to sleep the same single affirmation "I HAVE CALM LASER_LIKE FOCUS" in my own voice recorded over audio theta wave sounds and binaural beats. However, you seriously need a little background to understand the TWO VITAL KEYS to my healing were: (1) First and foremost, I realized I had a role in it. I realized I was not purely a victim. I stopped identifying myself as "someone with ADD" which I know the majority of you all do and its a sensitive topic for you. (You are going to have to step up and get over that). - ADD is NOT something you should own. Identifying yourself as "someone with ADD" instructs your sub-conscious (really your half-soul envelope) to keep your mind chaotic & messed up just as it is.. and not heal. It is exactly the same dynamic as a little child saying "I can't Daddy. I can't Mommy" when trying something new. - Any parent knows a child who repeats that to themselves (or that "I am not good at (whatever) " will always struggle at that task. STOP USING YOUR ADD as an excuse or victimization concept. YOU WERE MEANT FOR MORE. In my case I was pretty much the top student at my public school (scored 99% perc on SAT math etc), so went away to fancy-pants Philips Exeter Academy in US at age 16. There, I did a little weed quite conservatively with another nerdy friend early on.. and after doing it only a few times could immediately feel my developing lack of focus and inability to maintain a stream of thought. I then struggled to perform both in school and society from ages 17-44. I had ALL THE INATTENTIVE SYMPTOMS. I just couldn't get stuff done. Like at work I was always super-smart and insightful and funny during company meetings.. but then I would go back to my cubicle with some task..and couldn't make ANY PROGRESS ON IT. I had greatly diminished ability to complete tasks. 20 years later from age 17 I was investigating why my 9 year old son was such a troublemaker at school when I stumbled upon a list of about 8 ADD traits and knew IMMEDIATELY for the first time in my life at age 37 that I had inattentive ADD. Since my web programming job was ON THE LINE at the time as I was about to get canned from lack of productivity.. so I immediately got prescribed Adderall. It changed my world instantly and worked great at first (my salary went from $40k to $110k in 4 years) but tolerance and overuse and other side effects led me 6 years later to really be a hot mess mini "Meth addicted" - although I never did it recreationally. The positive effects diminished and I picked the crap out of my face from severe lack of sleep. While I lost weight at first.. which I liked.. over years I felt so relaxed inside I lost the urge to exercise and got overweight and flabby. and being insecure about that stuff anyway.. it all just drove me insane. The turning point for me was when I realized at age 44 and virtually homeless (after quitting my dotCom programming job in Silicon Valley).. that I was no longer able when unmedicated to read more than 1 or 2 sentences in a book without completely losing my train of thought. I remembered when I was a superb student in school at age 13 with virtually a photographic memory and not only compared that high functioning state with myself now.. but noted how even while having ADD.. my symptoms and dysfunction only got WORSE since diagnosed at age 37 with ADD... when I started to SELF-IDENTIFY in my own head as "someone having ADD". I had the thought: HOW COULD SOMEONE SO SMART WHEN YOUNG NOT EVEN ABLE TO READ A SHORT BOOK NOW! I realized things had only gotten worse since I constantly self-identified in an excuse-based fashion as someone limited having ADD. Also, because I was a psych major when younger before dropping out of college due to ADD.. I knew about the "sub-conscious mind" and how it can be reprogrammed with affirmations and creative visualization and such. So I wrote my mom a text message on Sept 18th 2013 (yes TM existed in 2013) saying "Ma. I think I know how to cure my ADD now. It should take about 3 weeks to reprogram my mind since it takes about 3 weeks to change a habit." - I was wrong about this, of course. I used a single affirmation.. and it took 48 hours. (and now realized it's likely a chatty spirit was forced to detach once my soul magnetics changed due to my strong consciousness intention via the vigorous affirmation) So the #1 critical component in my healing was my new BELIEF that I was not merely some victim but that my OWN DAILY thinking had something to do with my dysfunction. In other words, it took me 27 years to start BELIEVING I could heal myself.. and that also required me TAKING SOME RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY OWN CONSCIOUSNESS. In sum here is what I employed (1) real BELIEF I could alter my mind via consciously intentioned thinking (2) the single positive affirmation "I have calm, laser-like focus"... said thousands of time per day while awake..also recommend imagine yourself having perfect focus..going about things with ease.. the best you can creatively visualize this (3) as going to sleep I listened to my own voice recorded over binaural beats and theta wave sounds for 30-45 minutes or so (4) an audio self-improvement software program I employed to assist me in executing #3 was called "NEUROPROGRAMMER 3" which uses brainwave entrainment to alter consciousness. It not only had the theta waves audio I was able to record over.. but it also had an special audio program specifically for ADD which I also listened to. Don't get scammed.. but the company who sells this I think is out of business..(???) but it seems there are still some copies of software on the web. I guess technically.. IT WORKED!! - So try to download it. Peace and God Bless. (and if anyone wants to learn the whole universe.. drop me a line). You are a half-soul.. and the gender of your other half incarnate on Earth within 5-20 years of your birth determines your sexual preference..:-0 :-) Peace.
This is exactly how I feel, thoughts zipping about in my head that I have to vocalise and people think I’m rude and distracted. Thank you for making this. ❤
The need for constant validation is so relatable its unbelievable, i get it all paired with this feeling that im gonna get superpowers tomorrow and im just *waiting* for it to happen, such an odd thing. Was a great video and im rlly gratrful for you posting it!!! :D
Just got diagnosed with ADHD and Dyslexia a few months ago and it's brought so much understanding to why I am the ways I am, and what you've explained is pretty much spot on to how my relationships have been and what my idiosyncrasies are.
You and me both, mate. Diagnosed 5 months ago. It’s been a journey. The biggest thing: learning that “your symptoms are not your personality”. Still unpacking that one. Good luck with it all. Definitely a super powerrrrr💥
I realized after a while that as humans we really don’t know that much about what personality and brain ‘wiring’ is. It’s nice to be diagnosed but then the next phase (in my adhd opinion) is moving past the diagnosis and living without those negative, self defeating feedback loops and being the best, most authentic you while adapting to your new awareness of said traits.
I have been mulling it over and over in my head how I can put to words how my brain works to my wife and there is so much here that explains it perfectly. I grew up testing into the highest percentiles on all the major exams in school but my grades were always mediocre. I hated doing the busy work that it took to get good grades. I would later beat myself up thinking I'm just so lazy until I was forced to hit a deadline. Fast forward to my 30's and my wife says she doesn't feel heard or that I don't care about what she is trying to tell me because I forget what she tells me within an hour. Your explanation here sums it all up so well. My mind is all over the place and I still am working out how to manage myself let alone a life with my beautiful family that we have created. Thank you!
Thank you for making this. There's a lot of pushback and people denying that this condition exists and you've done a really good thing in raising awareness as you're very good at explaining things in relatable terms.
Fellow RUclipsr recently diagnosed here as well, and I agree with a lot of this. A lot of my success came from realizing at 16 there was no way I’d ever be able to work a job. The hyperfixation allowed me to crush RUclips, but everything else in my life was an insurmountable task. I feel like as I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten much worse for me as well and so I’ve recently started meds. While aware of the downsides, it definitely makes doing normal adult things like appointments and social functions easier. Not for everyone, but I too was taking so much caffeine and l tyrosine, I was just self medicating anyway. Still monitoring it, but overall, I think it’s helping. Great video dude, recently came across your stuff!
I've recently turned 28, and i'm going to my first official clinical ADHD test next week. Watching this video felt like a warm hug that i'm not alone. Especially the part about feeling insane and how others can focus on mundane tasks and just seem to have everything together. I thank you James so much for this video. I feel lost every day and sometimes feel like throwing in the towel and giving up, but this video truly lit a spark in me that there is still a way to express my true self and make a living. (I also switch jobs like I change my underwear) 😂
Best video you’ve ever made. I got diagnosed at 46 (12 months ago). As a fellow content creator and male human I identify with so much. Thanks for sharing your story and if you ever want a beautiful fish tank let me know. Best wishes, George
5 minutes in and i already heavily relate. You're spot on with everything most people do't really think about like the relationships etc. Got diagnosed a month ago (age 23) and am looking forward to attacking life with the right tools!
@@sayless00 Just getting tested is a great start tbh. I have a consultation with a specialist in a month, so I'm not medicated or anything yet. Exercise, diet and sleep are the only things I'm currently focusing on. I feel like processing and coming to terms with it is important as well. Take care and be kind to yourself!
Your story sounds exactly like mine! I was diagnosed in 2022 with ADHD at 44. It was during Covid, when my very fast paced sales rep job went to being stuck at home sitting in front of a computer ALL DAY!! I go mental with mundane tasks, but an calm and can think on my feet in chaos. I did try meds, and they did help calm me and help me focus during that stressful time..But now I don't take my meds. I embrace my wierdness and my sometimes super powers!
I could remember several years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
YES very sure of Dr.benshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Bravo, James. I was diagnosed in my 40s, about six months ago. It explained…not a lot, it explained everything. I’m still learning how to manage it and how it manifests. This is a brilliant video.
I have never been diagnosed but always felt "different" I tick all the boxes as far as I can tell. This video pretty much sums me up and now my 7 year old boy is showing all the same signs, we currently have him seeing a psychologist every week. P.s this is the best video you have ever made 😂
I don’t ever comment on RUclips videos but this one really hit me! I’m 33 and I’ve just been diagnosed through my psychiatrist with ADHD. Everything in this video has been me my whole life in words I couldn’t explain to anyone. But after the diagnosis and being educated with the disorder and traits it feels like a huge weight being lifted off my back… or in this case, my mind. I wish I learned this about myself so much earlier in life it would be interesting to see how much different my life would’ve been. The amount of frustration, stress and heartache of being undiagnosed not just to myself but to my ex is so overwhelming. I feel so awful that I couldn’t tell them why i did what I did but I hope my life from now on will be a lot less miserable. So glad I came across this video, thank you. 🙏
Good on you! I'm 42 only got diagnosed this year- it explains my entire life, relationships and at times questionable decision making 😂 its never affected my ability in my jobs though if anything it's a superpower! It makes total sense now. I just hope my next partner is more accepting than my previously one. Funny when I accepted all his "quirks" he just never accepted mine.. His loss I have my self worth ❤
My wife and I both with ADHD and I have to say this is the best that ever happened to me. We understand each other perfectly. Even hard to describe this ...
I really relates to your idiosyncrasies Got diagnosed around 40 years old. Had a lifetime of inconsistent behavior (job, studies and everything else) until then saved only because I was gifted. But talent without hard consistent hard work does not yield much. Started medication, working out and got better life balance, sleep and nutrition. I don't think medication kills your superpower. It just cool down the worst bits (in my case side tracking and impulsivity) I'm a much better person since then. Thanks for oversharing with us
I got my diagnoses when I was 18 and Im now 33. Im not taking medication but I have in periods before in my life. This gave me tears and EVERYTHING you said I felt "me too". Especially the battery reference. ❤
Honestly I've never found one of these ADHD testimonial videos that I've related as much as this one (bar the physical fitness lol). Very inspiring and realistic. Thank you
I got diagnosed with Adhd and autism man changed my life and my medication has helped me. Changed my life i can actually do what i need to. Thank you for this!
I was with you up until ou said you'd never take the pill for it. I feel like I'm trapped in my own head with it & I'm waiting for the diagnosis so badly so I can feel normal. For me, ADHD has created a colossal amount of anxiety which is causing so many problems in my life from relationships to my physical & mental health.
The pills won’t work with most of your symptoms. Like: forgetfulness , impulsivity, difficulty planning your life, being oblivious to time etc. The pills calm down hyperactivity and some may increase focus but I believe that’s all.
Hey James I wanted to share a post to say thanks for making this video. I’ve been following for a while but this is the first video that really hit me hard. I’ve in my 40’s, gave up booze and completely changed my diet this year to make a change to my living. In doing this I started to really notice my thought process and also had someone close to me ask if I ever considering that I might be ADHD.. well this trigger a whole exploration and later was confirmed this was the case. This diagnosis has really hit me hard and I’ve been trying to deal with how I interact with friends, family and in my business life. Your explanation just struck a chord and helped me to explain to others how I feel on days. Thank you for explaining this so well but also highlight that it’s not a downside, it’s a superpower. I’ve never really understood my drive for business, or my obsession with hobbies such as exercise, music etc. When I’m into something, I’m really into it. Mood swings can be hard to explain - in difficult situations at work I can be paralysed by the scale of a task but when I’m in my flow, nothing will stop me. Thank you for the video, thank you for the content and thanks for shedding some light on this for many others Ya bloody legend
I was recently diagnosed, got a cbd supplement and mushroom capsules that helps me focus good for brain chemistry, have been on them for months now and it's really amazing
This is the best video I've ever seen. I tried to get diagnosed too, but they were looking at me weird as if adults couldn't ever have ADHD or I wanted them to give me pills or something. I just wanted to know so I can "relax" about it. Instead they changed the conversation to my depression which I already given up on as no treatment or medicine has helped much, but I have learned how to live with.... also I don't want to talk about it anymore. They just keep bringint it up. So I gave up on everything and just try to survive. But for real now, great video mate.
The part about the hyperactivity being in your brain really helped me understand my sons ADHD. He is 9 but non disruptive in class etc and I couldn’t wrap my head around the diagnosis (I accepted it but didn’t fully understand).
A lot of parents need this video James. Dig into how you deal with adhd without medication as it seems to be the only advice people get on how to deal with an overactive child. Love your funny and open videos mate
With my son currently on a 2 year waiting list for an autism/ADHD diagnosis (thanks UK government) it’s become more apparent that many of the traits that he has that indicate possible neurodivergence, he shares with me. But I don’t know what a diagnosis for myself now would achieve. It would explain why I’ve dealt with certain situations the way I have all through my life. Great video.
Yup, I am 51 and thinking about getting tested. My daughter has pretty severe ADHD, so I am well informed on the issue. I do EXACTLY the same thing with Amazon packages!! 😂😂😂my husband will ask what’s that just came, and I will have zero idea even though I’ve just put the order in a day or two ago. I used to constantly blurt out random stuff mid conversations. I’d be listening to person talking and my mind is bouncing all over the place, “did I switch the laundry over?”, “ooh cats need feeding” … etc.
best video I'll watch all year. diagnosed at 38, I'm 40 now. All of a sudden everything started to make sense, the more I researched who I was and also finding my attachment style, the happier I've been. I was on meds for a few months, like everyone else I loved it at first but it started to dull who I was. I stopped cold turkey and never looked back, caffeine is my drug of choice now, and been sober for almost a year now.
So you don't consume caffeine? Otherwise how are you sober? Anyway medication is all about finding the right one and the appropriate dose. If one was making you feel dulled then it was the wrong dose. Then there are also alternative types like atomoxetine.
This video is the most relatable so far for me. Thank you for being open, as well as getting this knowledge out there for people that don’t understand! 🤙
I'm a Sydney based PT two days away from taking my meds for their first time Needed this video and the diagnosis decades ago but has given me lots of relief and smiles watching Thankyou Have no doubt this will also help others
James - dude! When i asked you about this in the livestream yesterday - i didnt think you'd make a video about it this quickly. I love the understanding you have of yourself and the way you explain it to others. ADHD is such a journey, especially if you’ve spent your entire life figuring out how to navigate the world with a brain wired differently. It's regarded as "trendy" right now, but it has become my own hyperfocus since being diagnosed last year after i went in seeking help for anxiety. It's why i started making RUclips videos about it. I really appreciate the honesty and the message around it. The people pleasing speaks to me on another level. Acknowledging the quirks and difficulties but also how it is a big part of the reason you’re here and doing what makes you happy. Thanks for sharing - and apologies if it seemed like i was prying about it in the stream - my directness is one of my ADHD quirks. Great content as always ❤
I love this. My stepdaughter has ADHD and she is about to start high school. I want her to understand that she is awesome the way she is. She might not fit in the boxes they try to put her in, she might forget stuff, she might not be able to focus on homework after a long day trying to take in all the information thrown at her whilst her mind is elsewhere, but she can learn to use her superpower and will achieve whatever she wants. Top man James.
👏🏽 having been diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia last year (aged 37), it is a relief to hear I’m not alone with certain habits/tendencies! Great video James! Really appreciate this over share!
BEST VIDEO YOU HAVE EVER MADE ! I have adhd and I relate to literally everything you said, especially about obsessing over something that is trivial when you have other things you need to be doing
There you go! Relatable. Got diagnosed in my late 20s myself. Suddenly it all made sense. Ive learned to embrace myself with everything that comes with me. Thanks for this video, love this.
Autism is often marked by co occurring ADHD. Got my ADHD diagnosis at 29 and at 31 1 notice the autism, have been on the full spectrum CBD for a month now it's made such a difference.
Im 22 and just got diagnosed myself. And knowing that someone like yourself who i am aspiring to be like not only has the same sorts of problems and troubles that I have but manages to flip them on its head positively to be successful. It really really so good to hear. Thank you
@james smith congrats. At 33 I got diagnosed with ADHD and it's a life changing. So I relate very well to what you are going through. IN EVERY LITTLE DETAIL !!!! For me it was amazing how "normal" people actually feel and think (I am on meds now and WOW).
Unbelievable Video. As someone Diagnosed with ADHD Last Year at 33 this video perfectly narrates my life. This will be what I share whenever I need someone to understand what's going on in my brain 🙏
I really felt this throughout everything you said. The coping mechanisms, ways of adapting and forcing oneself to get something done. It has been a long and hard struggle for those of us diagnosed in adulthood. Can't describe the weight off my shoulders when it was confirmed I had ADHD all along, and I wasn't just being stupid and lazy.
Best video you've ever made. I've learned to turn my ADHD into a strength with my career, now just need to find the right person to share my life with 💪
Wow ❤ you are a legend 👏 I'm glad you got diagnosed, it helped me massively when I got mine 18 months ago, and love seeing it's helping you too! Much love ❤
Hell. Yeah. Brother. Thank goodness I got my diagnosis at 33. And I found content as a super helpful way to manage ADHD. I absolutely loved this video. Thank you for speaking out for all of us.
Thank you James for putting this out. Where I’m from, having ADHD is looked down upon so for many years I’ve always thought there’s something irreversibly wrong with me. Hearing your experience, it makes me feel like I’m not alone and we can actually use it to our advantage. Keep up with the honest content!
In tears because the one fitnes expert I idolise the most in the industry, gets me, someone understands. So deeply! 3:37. My life is so lonely for all these factors you have spoken about
Good video. I'm 55 and have been blessed with ADHD after being diagnosed when I was about 10 years old. It allows me to be working on 5 or 6 tasks at any one time and concentrate on each intensely for 10-15 minutes and then on to the next and then back to the original task. My clients have commented on how I'm able to juggle some many balls at the same time!! It has it's downsides, but I don't want to be medicated and lose my skills. Also both my Son's have been diagnosed, they're still working on themselves. Anyway must go so much to do and little time to do it.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 45. This video resonates with me. It's great that you are sharing this. I need to buy the shorts I ruined painting behind the stove we replaced.
I feel so inspired and happy watching this. You give me hope for the path i am on amd my future in fitness and making content online! I'm working on building my personal brand, becoming a personal trainer, and being a brand ambassador for SuperX. Your videos have been recommended to me ny RUclips and have resonated, but now i cam say im a definitive fan. I got officially diagnosed with ADHD a couple weeks ago, and it has only been about a year since i had my suspicions about having ADHD... Its been eye opening. Its been validating, freeing, frustrating, so many emotions. But i do feel like there are more positives than negatives! It is a superpower amd learning to work with my nraon and dopamine instead of against it has been improving my life
Honestly brother, I feel the exact same way you do. Been like this my whole life I struggle my whole life, just like you have.. I got diagnosed last year and it came out no shock to myself and to my family for that matter. And I feel the same way, but use it as a super and like you said, I have a ridiculously good memory for the long-term but not for the short-term. And although that seems like a bad thing, but that's the nature of life, the ying and yang we cannot have everything. I love who I am, and who I have become on my work, a shape and changed tens of thousands of people telling better lives. Much love to you brother 🥰
I think I have ADHD too, and I have only recently realised I am dyslexic. Embracing our differences and enabling others to complement our strengths and balance our weaknesses is crucial. I've never heard anyone else explain my unwillingness to live a corporate existence like you have here today, either! One of your best uploads yet, James!
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 29 and I just have to say that I was at a real low point this morning and listening to your shared experience (being someone of similar age and interests) has really turned the start of my day around. You’re a much stronger man to have taken the risk to tailor your job/lifestyle to YOU instead of the other way around (with meds). I have been on meds for nearly 2 years now and after seeing the light and getting hooked, I fear I am bound to them now as struggling in the corporate world is near impossible without them (not a bad thing necessarily, just comes with a sense of duality). I act and think in ever way you described with a difference being that I have too much anxiety and self-frustration to act on things that I think might bring me satisfaction for fear of failing or giving up too soon in order to just turn around and pursue something else. Love and respect brother!
James thank you so much for this video. It's so important to continue to share about ADHD and how it effects people like you and myself. To see each of your videos, to see you notice that you may have ADHD and to see you that you got tested, truly speaks volmues about your character and commitment to providing honest and unbiased content. Seriously thank you so much.
I was diagnosed ten years ago and I’m 37 . Ty for this video . I graduated law school a few years ago so I know anything is possible as long as I learn and do things that help me cope with my adhd . This video is just what I needed today .
I really needed to see this. I have just been diagnosed at 37. Thanks for making a video where you are raw and open about all of this. And now I feel better about choosing the non-medication route and just living with the quirks. Also for quite some time I thought I could never write a book because I struggled with words or worried I was stupid....But look how well you have done with your books. If you can do it why cant I.
As a fella ADHDer, major respect. It is a superpower if you have a passion to hyper focus on. I wasted the first 30 years of my life focusing on all the reasons why I couldn't do other become anything, and playing Runescape 14 hours a day 😆 I got rediagnosed with ADHD and got put on medication which changed my life from being depressed and suicidal in 2021 to now working 14 hours a day to live my dreams and create a better future for my family. Always seek help if you are suffering guys. Life is too short. Thanks for sharing James
I'm so glad I found you. You got me off the couch & into lets do this mode. I'm starting with priority, the tasks that are feeding my anxiety & depression. I need to incorporate this into everyday, If I am to slowly remould myself. Thank you, I'll be tapped into your videos as I find my way through each day & night. It's like I've taken a blindfold off. Jules
Just been told my 6-year-old son has it. Still trying to get my head around it and figure out how to help him as he grows. This video made me feel more positive about his future. Thanks mate!
I am 39 old and i got diagnosis about 2 months ago. It actually explaines me soo much of my life, but in not bitter at all that it hasnt found before. Im super happy that i understand me better but i am who i am partially of my adhd and i truly look it like a superpower. When i need it im not gonna take any meds but when i need 12hours of intensive focus i take pill in a morning. It is truly a superpower 😊
Great content, but loving even more the early 2000s Gatecrasher-esque trance sound, that has a build up when you're making the points around 11.30. Killing it!!! 💚💛
That's the best video you've ever made
Yay 😁 only 54 ppl got same idea heheeh have good day
@@RUclipsChillZone I was first
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Cool bro 🐵
@TrainingAddict666 trainingAddict blatantly wanted to write the same comment, but thought they would check to see if it was already written. So he wasted his time counting the comments and then decided to comment on the comment that he wanted to comment and instead decided to troll and cry. Dont be bitter "bro"! cry, then smile and move on. Lifes too short 👉👌
I cried watching this. I am in my 60’s and was only diagnosed 10 years ago. So many wasted years. People have no idea how living with ADHD is constantly swimming against the tide. Thank you James, for this. So happy you have found happiness living here in Sydney.
Jesus loves you & died for you on the cross so your sins can be forgiven
& so you can have a relationship with him so if you turn & repent & accept Jesus Christ as your Lord & Saviour, you shall be saved
Sinners prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ, I know that I’m a sinner and I ask for your forgiveness, I believe that you died for your my sins and rose from the dead, I turn from my sins and invite you to come into my heart & life, I choose to trust & follow you as my Lord & Saviour, Amen
It’s ok buddy, you need a hug?
Someone close to me (who happens to be a clinical psychologist) advised me that having ADHD while being undiagnosed (and unmedicated) is like "playing life on hard mode". I am sorry to hear that you had a lot of difficult years, that's not fair, but I am hopeful that you got the support you needed.
@@Disc0spider thank you yes now I have a great Doctor. I do my best to minimise it with diet.
That's unfortunate to hear. I am one of those psychologists he is referring to. I also have ADHD myself. So, I'd like to believe I have a deeper understanding of how it can be missed and what to look for in others. Love this guy's approach on health and well-being. I second your thanks.
James this is quite literally the best video you have ever made. Probably one of the most personal approaches I’ve seen anyone talking about their ADHD 🙏
Agree
Broski I cried while watching this. I didn't even know what ADHD is until I turned 30. You mentioned everything what I have been through and no-one no one ever understood me and I feel like I am always alone by myself even though I am surrounded by many friends.
I had undiagnosed ADHD until 27. I had dealt substance abuse, and have no education currently. Undiagnosed ADHD is a life wrecker.
Yup. I'm actually quite intelligent and talented, however I've failed every single course that I wasn't interested in. Meanwhile I have the ones that tickled my attention. It's been a rough ride till age 36. And I thought I'd be like this forever. A children's dose of ritalin basically fixed the cons without inhibiting the pros of my condition.
I wish more people talked about relationships and ADHD. As the non ADHD person in a relationship I'm always trying to find the best ways to deal with it other than being patient and understanding. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Look up Married To Discraction. Its a book about ADHD and relationships. The author, Melissa Orlov, has written a couple books on this. She's done several podcasts as well talking about it. Its very helpful information.
Agree, where do we go to find the strategies to help us navigate the ADHD partner's impulsivity?
I have ADHD and it’s not easy to live with a partner with this condition at times, I cherish having such a selfless and understanding partner very much.
@adhd_love
The education system in the UK could do more here. One way of learning doesn't help the economy and society.
I’m 40 in a few weeks. I’ve just this year been diagnosed with ADHD too. This video hits so many points I can relate to! My wife was laughing and ‘ticking off’ all the similarities. Thank you for making this. Makes me feel normal 💪🏻
Isn’t it the best gift ever to just be able to feel normal…our whole lives we’ve been made to feel bad for having these behaviours…when actually they’re perfectly normal for our kind of brains :)
I just found out I have inattentive ADHD too (the internal hyperactivity you spoke about). Diagnosed as an adult too, in my mid thirties. I related to everything you said! Being called lazy when I was younger, feeling resentment when interupted in relationships and coming off as not present and even harnessing hyper focussing 😅. Thanks for sharing mate. You seem to be doing great, but just in case, you're not alone ✊🏽 keep up the great work!
Snap! Plus a misdirected anger at the educational providers and caregivers for missing my struggles and telling me I had “so much potential” if only I was less emotional (impulsive)/ would focus more / wasn’t so lazy (could control executive function)! As a girl in the 90s ADHD just didn’t exist!
@nicolasheppard3541 oh I relate to the 'so much potential' part so much! And as a girl in the 90s with ADHD, you were definitely one of the forgotten ones (my sister went through the same thing) :( I hope everything is better for you now though!
This is the most concise and well thought out description of how ADHD presents itsself in our behaviours ive ever heard.
there is another video by a doctor that will shock you how accurate it is.
@@Randy12346 can you give the link to the video?
I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at the ripe age of 30 and this is how I've been feeling minus the positive. The way you've explained this is super relatable and I think I needed something like this at the moment.
Hi James so great to hear you talking about ADHD. My son has it very badly. He is a lovely man, but relationships have been disastrous. He wants a wife a family, but doesn’t think if will ever happen. I’ll show him your video. It’s so inspiring. Thank you James 😊
This is the best thing you have ever done and said. I have ADHD and I get the hyper focus and the impulses that seemingly come from nowhere. I got rid of my TV because I would like get on and binge watch shows because I felt it was important to know how much the books vs the series of game of thrones was. Meanwhile my university assignments were piled up a mile. I got rid of my TV and literally locked myself in my apartment every weekend and completed everything.
Im such a slave to screens. Trying to get off it by reconnecting with reading. I used to read a lot as a kid.
I take my book now 📕 pen ruler in a backpack on my motorcycle to some country cafe and read 30 pages in 4 hours. I use the ruler to read and underline stuff
The next week end I re read and hand write the stuff I underlined. I stick post it notes and flags. 😊 I am reading Confident by James almost halfway through.
Welcome to the family brother! How good is growing up classed as the "gifted child who doesn't care" when all you wanted to do was try but for some reason you couldn't try and when you told people this they just told you you were making excuses and were lazy
After my own diagnosis 3 years ago. I've questioned if James has ADHD and its hardly surprising to learn this. This is one of the most useful videos on how ADHD affects daily living that I have seen. I think the biggest struggle for the neurodiverse is building a strong support. We simply crumble when we are left to manage alone. everything becomes stressful, late, unfinished, forgotten etc.. Having good people who understand and help with the shortfalls but equally appreciate the perks and quirks. Interdependency is key
I CURED myself of Inattentive ADD of 27 years using only consciousness in 2 days. (Sept 19-21, 2013 in Reno, NV USA 4th St. in a rundown druggie hotel).
HERE'S HOW I DID IT. It's kind of an extraordinary story, but if one man can do it.. anyone can.
NOTE: Additionally, after I cured it I used the exact same process ( Accountable BELIEF & INTENTION + MIND REPROGRAMMING via a positive affirmation) to awaken to how the whole universe works, so I now teach the highest meaning of life and the structure of the universe to anyone who will listen for free. I am completely non-religious but learn from celestials and many beings of the Bible in the current age with them FARTHER ALONG in their own personal progressions. In other words.. I don't learn from B.C. Moses for example, but 2000 A.D. Moses who is now much wiser since he has been in spirit-body 2000 years.
I'm top performing now, a polymath, never get sick, nor have any accidents, have spiritual_abilities, and.. having rid myself of ADD:
(1) am no longer late and have a great sense of time and scheduling
(2) have no short-term memory issues
(3) do NOT seriously procrastinate nor dread doing simple things anymore.
(4) I got my full consciousness power back so I can do a LOT of things.
I should also add (although you will not believe it) that it is HIGHLY LIKELY my ADD was caused by a chatty spirit who attached to me during a brief experience smoking weed at prep school, since 27 years later I only had to do my "healing process thingee" 2 days before I awoke on the 2nd morning and my mind was completely silent & cured. It was NOT a gradual nor an incremental healing. It happened basically while I was in sleep state the 2nd night after having done 36 hours of intense POSITIVE_AFFIRMATION not only in my mind non-stop.. but I was also listening before I went to sleep the same single affirmation "I HAVE CALM LASER_LIKE FOCUS" in my own voice recorded over audio theta wave sounds and binaural beats.
However, you seriously need a little background to understand the TWO VITAL KEYS to my healing were:
(1) First and foremost, I realized I had a role in it. I realized I was not purely a victim. I stopped identifying myself as "someone with ADD" which I know the majority of you all do and its a sensitive topic for you. (You are going to have to step up and get over that). - ADD is NOT something you should own. Identifying yourself as "someone with ADD" instructs your sub-conscious (really your half-soul envelope) to keep your mind chaotic & messed up just as it is.. and not heal. It is exactly the same dynamic as a little child saying "I can't Daddy. I can't Mommy" when trying something new. - Any parent knows a child who repeats that to themselves (or that "I am not good at (whatever) " will always struggle at that task. STOP USING YOUR ADD as an excuse or victimization concept. YOU WERE MEANT FOR MORE.
In my case I was pretty much the top student at my public school (scored 99% perc on SAT math etc), so went away to fancy-pants Philips Exeter Academy in US at age 16. There, I did a little weed quite conservatively with another nerdy friend early on.. and after doing it only a few times could immediately feel my developing lack of focus and inability to maintain a stream of thought.
I then struggled to perform both in school and society from ages 17-44. I had ALL THE INATTENTIVE SYMPTOMS. I just couldn't get stuff done. Like at work I was always super-smart and insightful and funny during company meetings.. but then I would go back to my cubicle with some task..and couldn't make ANY PROGRESS ON IT. I had greatly diminished ability to complete tasks. 20 years later from age 17 I was investigating why my 9 year old son was such a troublemaker at school when I stumbled upon a list of about 8 ADD traits and knew IMMEDIATELY for the first time in my life at age 37 that I had inattentive ADD. Since my web programming job was ON THE LINE at the time as I was about to get canned from lack of productivity.. so I immediately got prescribed Adderall. It changed my world instantly and worked great at first (my salary went from $40k to $110k in 4 years) but tolerance and overuse and other side effects led me 6 years later to really be a hot mess mini "Meth addicted" - although I never did it recreationally. The positive effects diminished and I picked the crap out of my face from severe lack of sleep. While I lost weight at first.. which I liked.. over years I felt so relaxed inside I lost the urge to exercise and got overweight and flabby. and being insecure about that stuff anyway.. it all just drove me insane.
The turning point for me was when I realized at age 44 and virtually homeless (after quitting my dotCom programming job in Silicon Valley).. that I was no longer able when unmedicated to read more than 1 or 2 sentences in a book without completely losing my train of thought. I remembered when I was a superb student in school at age 13 with virtually a photographic memory and not only compared that high functioning state with myself now.. but noted how even while having ADD.. my symptoms and dysfunction only got WORSE since diagnosed at age 37 with ADD... when I started to SELF-IDENTIFY in my own head as "someone having ADD".
I had the thought: HOW COULD SOMEONE SO SMART WHEN YOUNG NOT EVEN ABLE TO READ A SHORT BOOK NOW! I realized things had only gotten worse since I constantly self-identified in an excuse-based fashion as someone limited having ADD. Also, because I was a psych major when younger before dropping out of college due to ADD.. I knew about the "sub-conscious mind" and how it can be reprogrammed with affirmations and creative visualization and such.
So I wrote my mom a text message on Sept 18th 2013 (yes TM existed in 2013) saying "Ma. I think I know how to cure my ADD now. It should take about 3 weeks to reprogram my mind since it takes about 3 weeks to change a habit." - I was wrong about this, of course. I used a single affirmation.. and it took 48 hours. (and now realized it's likely a chatty spirit was forced to detach once my soul magnetics changed due to my strong consciousness intention via the vigorous affirmation)
So the #1 critical component in my healing was my new BELIEF that I was not merely some victim but that my OWN DAILY thinking had something to do with my dysfunction. In other words, it took me 27 years to start BELIEVING I could heal myself.. and that also required me TAKING SOME RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY OWN CONSCIOUSNESS.
In sum here is what I employed
(1) real BELIEF I could alter my mind via consciously intentioned thinking
(2) the single positive affirmation "I have calm, laser-like focus"... said thousands of time per day while awake..also recommend imagine yourself having perfect focus..going about things with ease.. the best you can creatively visualize this
(3) as going to sleep I listened to my own voice recorded over binaural beats and theta wave sounds for 30-45 minutes or so
(4) an audio self-improvement software program I employed to assist me in executing #3 was called "NEUROPROGRAMMER 3" which uses brainwave entrainment to alter consciousness. It not only had the theta waves audio I was able to record over.. but it also had an special audio program specifically for ADD which I also listened to.
Don't get scammed.. but the company who sells this I think is out of business..(???) but it seems there are still some copies of software on the web. I guess technically.. IT WORKED!! - So try to download it.
Peace and God Bless.
(and if anyone wants to learn the whole universe.. drop me a line). You are a half-soul.. and the gender of your other half incarnate on Earth within 5-20 years of your birth determines your sexual preference..:-0 :-) Peace.
I have been diagnosed myself and this really is the best video you’ve ever made. It gave me hope.
This is exactly how I feel, thoughts zipping about in my head that I have to vocalise and people think I’m rude and distracted. Thank you for making this. ❤
The need for constant validation is so relatable its unbelievable, i get it all paired with this feeling that im gonna get superpowers tomorrow and im just *waiting* for it to happen, such an odd thing. Was a great video and im rlly gratrful for you posting it!!! :D
Thanks for sharing. You are the first person I’ve heard openly embrace the ups and downs of ADHD.
Just got diagnosed with ADHD and Dyslexia a few months ago and it's brought so much understanding to why I am the ways I am, and what you've explained is pretty much spot on to how my relationships have been and what my idiosyncrasies are.
You and me both, mate. Diagnosed 5 months ago. It’s been a journey. The biggest thing: learning that “your symptoms are not your personality”. Still unpacking that one. Good luck with it all. Definitely a super powerrrrr💥
I realized after a while that as humans we really don’t know that much about what personality and brain ‘wiring’ is.
It’s nice to be diagnosed but then the next phase (in my adhd opinion) is moving past the diagnosis and living without those negative, self defeating feedback loops and being the best, most authentic you while adapting to your new awareness of said traits.
I have been mulling it over and over in my head how I can put to words how my brain works to my wife and there is so much here that explains it perfectly. I grew up testing into the highest percentiles on all the major exams in school but my grades were always mediocre. I hated doing the busy work that it took to get good grades. I would later beat myself up thinking I'm just so lazy until I was forced to hit a deadline. Fast forward to my 30's and my wife says she doesn't feel heard or that I don't care about what she is trying to tell me because I forget what she tells me within an hour. Your explanation here sums it all up so well. My mind is all over the place and I still am working out how to manage myself let alone a life with my beautiful family that we have created. Thank you!
Thank you for making this. There's a lot of pushback and people denying that this condition exists and you've done a really good thing in raising awareness as you're very good at explaining things in relatable terms.
Fellow RUclipsr recently diagnosed here as well, and I agree with a lot of this. A lot of my success came from realizing at 16 there was no way I’d ever be able to work a job. The hyperfixation allowed me to crush RUclips, but everything else in my life was an insurmountable task.
I feel like as I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten much worse for me as well and so I’ve recently started meds. While aware of the downsides, it definitely makes doing normal adult things like appointments and social functions easier. Not for everyone, but I too was taking so much caffeine and l tyrosine, I was just self medicating anyway. Still monitoring it, but overall, I think it’s helping.
Great video dude, recently came across your stuff!
I've recently turned 28, and i'm going to my first official clinical ADHD test next week. Watching this video felt like a warm hug that i'm not alone. Especially the part about feeling insane and how others can focus on mundane tasks and just seem to have everything together. I thank you James so much for this video. I feel lost every day and sometimes feel like throwing in the towel and giving up, but this video truly lit a spark in me that there is still a way to express my true self and make a living. (I also switch jobs like I change my underwear) 😂
Thank you. People simply don't understand, particularly when a person is a high achiever. This is a wonderful video.
Three minutes in and I burst into tears. This was simply THE BEST EVER EXPLANATION OF ME.
Without doubt this is your best video, man. ❤
Best video you’ve ever made. I got diagnosed at 46 (12 months ago). As a fellow content creator and male human I identify with so much. Thanks for sharing your story and if you ever want a beautiful fish tank let me know. Best wishes, George
5 minutes in and i already heavily relate. You're spot on with everything most people do't really think about like the relationships etc. Got diagnosed a month ago (age 23) and am looking forward to attacking life with the right tools!
Hey man I’m 23 also and strongly suspect I’m adhd so going to get tested very soon, out of interest what tools are you implementing so far?
@@sayless00 Just getting tested is a great start tbh. I have a consultation with a specialist in a month, so I'm not medicated or anything yet.
Exercise, diet and sleep are the only things I'm currently focusing on. I feel like processing and coming to terms with it is important as well.
Take care and be kind to yourself!
@@Arthur-li4yf completely agree, best of luck with your journey 🤝
Your story sounds exactly like mine! I was diagnosed in 2022 with ADHD at 44. It was during Covid, when my very fast paced sales rep job went to being stuck at home sitting in front of a computer ALL DAY!! I go mental with mundane tasks, but an calm and can think on my feet in chaos. I did try meds, and they did help calm me and help me focus during that stressful time..But now I don't take my meds. I embrace my wierdness and my sometimes super powers!
I could remember several years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!
YES very sure of Dr.benshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Dr.benshrooms.Lsd and psilocybin are amazing teachers along its dmt mah dudes have safe trips all. Shrooms are blessings from nature.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Bravo, James. I was diagnosed in my 40s, about six months ago. It explained…not a lot, it explained everything. I’m still learning how to manage it and how it manifests. This is a brilliant video.
I have never been diagnosed but always felt "different" I tick all the boxes as far as I can tell.
This video pretty much sums me up and now my 7 year old boy is showing all the same signs, we currently have him seeing a psychologist every week.
P.s this is the best video you have ever made 😂
this is the best video you have ever made
Far out. This is a really good video, and incredibly relatable. "This is the best video you have ever made."
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I don’t ever comment on RUclips videos but this one really hit me!
I’m 33 and I’ve just been diagnosed through my psychiatrist with ADHD. Everything in this video has been me my whole life in words I couldn’t explain to anyone. But after the diagnosis and being educated with the disorder and traits it feels like a huge weight being lifted off my back… or in this case, my mind. I wish I learned this about myself so much earlier in life it would be interesting to see how much different my life would’ve been. The amount of frustration, stress and heartache of being undiagnosed not just to myself but to my ex is so overwhelming. I feel so awful that I couldn’t tell them why i did what I did but I hope my life from now on will be a lot less miserable.
So glad I came across this video, thank you. 🙏
Good on you! I'm 42 only got diagnosed this year- it explains my entire life, relationships and at times questionable decision making 😂 its never affected my ability in my jobs though if anything it's a superpower! It makes total sense now. I just hope my next partner is more accepting than my previously one. Funny when I accepted all his "quirks" he just never accepted mine.. His loss I have my self worth ❤
My wife and I both with ADHD and I have to say this is the best that ever happened to me. We understand each other perfectly. Even hard to describe this ...
I really relates to your idiosyncrasies
Got diagnosed around 40 years old. Had a lifetime of inconsistent behavior (job, studies and everything else) until then saved only because I was gifted. But talent without hard consistent hard work does not yield much.
Started medication, working out and got better life balance, sleep and nutrition. I don't think medication kills your superpower. It just cool down the worst bits (in my case side tracking and impulsivity)
I'm a much better person since then. Thanks for oversharing with us
"Reading is staring at a block of wood and hallucinating." Bars. 😂
I got my diagnoses when I was 18 and Im now 33. Im not taking medication but I have in periods before in my life. This gave me tears and EVERYTHING you said I felt "me too". Especially the battery reference. ❤
Honestly I've never found one of these ADHD testimonial videos that I've related as much as this one (bar the physical fitness lol). Very inspiring and realistic. Thank you
I got diagnosed with Adhd and autism man changed my life and my medication has helped me. Changed my life i can actually do what i need to.
Thank you for this!
I was with you up until ou said you'd never take the pill for it. I feel like I'm trapped in my own head with it & I'm waiting for the diagnosis so badly so I can feel normal. For me, ADHD has created a colossal amount of anxiety which is causing so many problems in my life from relationships to my physical & mental health.
The pills won’t work with most of your symptoms. Like: forgetfulness
, impulsivity, difficulty planning your life, being oblivious to time etc. The pills calm down hyperactivity and some may increase focus but I believe that’s all.
@@hansmemling2311 No, they do reduce impulsivity and can improve those other issues too.
Medication can make a huge difference. It can take time to figure out which one and what dose works best.
@@loganmedia1142they can't.
Hey James
I wanted to share a post to say thanks for making this video. I’ve been following for a while but this is the first video that really hit me hard. I’ve in my 40’s, gave up booze and completely changed my diet this year to make a change to my living. In doing this I started to really notice my thought process and also had someone close to me ask if I ever considering that I might be ADHD.. well this trigger a whole exploration and later was confirmed this was the case. This diagnosis has really hit me hard and I’ve been trying to deal with how I interact with friends, family and in my business life.
Your explanation just struck a chord and helped me to explain to others how I feel on days. Thank you for explaining this so well but also highlight that it’s not a downside, it’s a superpower. I’ve never really understood my drive for business, or my obsession with hobbies such as exercise, music etc. When I’m into something, I’m really into it. Mood swings can be hard to explain - in difficult situations at work I can be paralysed by the scale of a task but when I’m in my flow, nothing will stop me.
Thank you for the video, thank you for the content and thanks for shedding some light on this for many others
Ya bloody legend
James you just made me cry, I’ve got adhd and you put it better than anyone I’ve ever heard. Took me 3 years to get as diagnosis
I was recently diagnosed, got a cbd supplement and mushroom capsules that helps me focus good for brain chemistry, have been on them for months now and it's really amazing
@@masonwalsh9098 I can't find a way to get a cbd product around , how do you get yours?
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This is the best video I've ever seen.
I tried to get diagnosed too, but they were looking at me weird as if adults couldn't ever have ADHD or I wanted them to give me pills or something. I just wanted to know so I can "relax" about it.
Instead they changed the conversation to my depression which I already given up on as no treatment or medicine has helped much, but I have learned how to live with.... also I don't want to talk about it anymore. They just keep bringint it up. So I gave up on everything and just try to survive.
But for real now, great video mate.
I don't think I've ever related to anything more in my life. It's like you've described my entire life 🤣
I got Diagnosed at 7 Years old, love that you wanted to get tested to not disrespect people who have ADHD, awesome video
The part about the hyperactivity being in your brain really helped me understand my sons ADHD. He is 9 but non disruptive in class etc and I couldn’t wrap my head around the diagnosis (I accepted it but didn’t fully understand).
My daughter was diagnosed ADHD, she has been using the cbd gummies and medicinal mushroom tea good for brain chemistry .
@@oliviawatson6364I can't find a mushroom store around, how do you get your cbd and mushroom tea?
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Got diagnosed last year at 32 years old. Never related to someone so much! Best video you’ve done 👍🏻
A lot of parents need this video James. Dig into how you deal with adhd without medication as it seems to be the only advice people get on how to deal with an overactive child. Love your funny and open videos mate
With my son currently on a 2 year waiting list for an autism/ADHD diagnosis (thanks UK government) it’s become more apparent that many of the traits that he has that indicate possible neurodivergence, he shares with me. But I don’t know what a diagnosis for myself now would achieve. It would explain why I’ve dealt with certain situations the way I have all through my life. Great video.
Yup, I am 51 and thinking about getting tested. My daughter has pretty severe ADHD, so I am well informed on the issue.
I do EXACTLY the same thing with Amazon packages!! 😂😂😂my husband will ask what’s that just came, and I will have zero idea even though I’ve just put the order in a day or two ago. I used to constantly blurt out random stuff mid conversations. I’d be listening to person talking and my mind is bouncing all over the place, “did I switch the laundry over?”, “ooh cats need feeding” … etc.
best video I'll watch all year. diagnosed at 38, I'm 40 now. All of a sudden everything started to make sense, the more I researched who I was and also finding my attachment style, the happier I've been. I was on meds for a few months, like everyone else I loved it at first but it started to dull who I was. I stopped cold turkey and never looked back, caffeine is my drug of choice now, and been sober for almost a year now.
So you don't consume caffeine? Otherwise how are you sober?
Anyway medication is all about finding the right one and the appropriate dose. If one was making you feel dulled then it was the wrong dose. Then there are also alternative types like atomoxetine.
This video is the most relatable so far for me. Thank you for being open, as well as getting this knowledge out there for people that don’t understand! 🤙
I'm a Sydney based PT two days away from taking my meds for their first time
Needed this video and the diagnosis decades ago but has given me lots of relief and smiles watching
Thankyou
Have no doubt this will also help others
James - dude! When i asked you about this in the livestream yesterday - i didnt think you'd make a video about it this quickly. I love the understanding you have of yourself and the way you explain it to others. ADHD is such a journey, especially if you’ve spent your entire life figuring out how to navigate the world with a brain wired differently. It's regarded as "trendy" right now, but it has become my own hyperfocus since being diagnosed last year after i went in seeking help for anxiety. It's why i started making RUclips videos about it. I really appreciate the honesty and the message around it. The people pleasing speaks to me on another level. Acknowledging the quirks and difficulties but also how it is a big part of the reason you’re here and doing what makes you happy. Thanks for sharing - and apologies if it seemed like i was prying about it in the stream - my directness is one of my ADHD quirks. Great content as always ❤
I’m 35. I just got diagnosed with ADHD and ASD. Thanks for shedding some light on this and making people more aware.
The medication has completely changed my life, I can actually listen to people and concentrate so much better.
I recommend it to people struggling
I love this. My stepdaughter has ADHD and she is about to start high school. I want her to understand that she is awesome the way she is. She might not fit in the boxes they try to put her in, she might forget stuff, she might not be able to focus on homework after a long day trying to take in all the information thrown at her whilst her mind is elsewhere, but she can learn to use her superpower and will achieve whatever she wants. Top man James.
👏🏽 having been diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia last year (aged 37), it is a relief to hear I’m not alone with certain habits/tendencies! Great video James! Really appreciate this over share!
BEST VIDEO YOU HAVE EVER MADE ! I have adhd and I relate to literally everything you said, especially about obsessing over something that is trivial when you have other things you need to be doing
There you go! Relatable. Got diagnosed in my late 20s myself. Suddenly it all made sense. Ive learned to embrace myself with everything that comes with me. Thanks for this video, love this.
I’m autistic and going through an ADHD diagnosis currently, so get everything you’ve said in this video, pleased you got some clarity James
Autism is often marked by co occurring
ADHD. Got my ADHD diagnosis at 29 and at 31 1 notice the autism, have been on the full spectrum CBD for a month now it's made such a difference.
Im 22 and just got diagnosed myself. And knowing that someone like yourself who i am aspiring to be like not only has the same sorts of problems and troubles that I have but manages to flip them on its head positively to be successful. It really really so good to hear. Thank you
@james smith congrats. At 33 I got diagnosed with ADHD and it's a life changing. So I relate very well to what you are going through. IN EVERY LITTLE DETAIL !!!! For me it was amazing how "normal" people actually feel and think (I am on meds now and WOW).
Unbelievable Video.
As someone Diagnosed with ADHD Last Year at 33 this video perfectly narrates my life.
This will be what I share whenever I need someone to understand what's going on in my brain
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You can’t help but love people like James such a realist keep up your good work mate
I really felt this throughout everything you said. The coping mechanisms, ways of adapting and forcing oneself to get something done. It has been a long and hard struggle for those of us diagnosed in adulthood. Can't describe the weight off my shoulders when it was confirmed I had ADHD all along, and I wasn't just being stupid and lazy.
James, you are an inspiration. I’ve read all of your books and also you’re one of the most genuine, funny and approachable person! What a role model
Love the honesty and openness of this video. Bearing vulnerabilities too. Hats off to ya mate.
Best video you've ever made.
I've learned to turn my ADHD into a strength with my career, now just need to find the right person to share my life with 💪
Wow ❤ you are a legend 👏 I'm glad you got diagnosed, it helped me massively when I got mine 18 months ago, and love seeing it's helping you too! Much love ❤
Hell. Yeah. Brother. Thank goodness I got my diagnosis at 33. And I found content as a super helpful way to manage ADHD. I absolutely loved this video. Thank you for speaking out for all of us.
This really is a great video. I’m 40, was diagnosed with mild Autism and have ADHD and I totally relate to what you are saying.
Thank you James for putting this out. Where I’m from, having ADHD is looked down upon so for many years I’ve always thought there’s something irreversibly wrong with me. Hearing your experience, it makes me feel like I’m not alone and we can actually use it to our advantage. Keep up with the honest content!
glad you have gotten answers and things are making sense.
can be really annoying when others tease and won't understand the ADHD struggles.
In tears because the one fitnes expert I idolise the most in the industry, gets me, someone understands. So deeply! 3:37.
My life is so lonely for all these factors you have spoken about
Good video. I'm 55 and have been blessed with ADHD after being diagnosed when I was about 10 years old. It allows me to be working on 5 or 6 tasks at any one time and concentrate on each intensely for 10-15 minutes and then on to the next and then back to the original task. My clients have commented on how I'm able to juggle some many balls at the same time!! It has it's downsides, but I don't want to be medicated and lose my skills. Also both my Son's have been diagnosed, they're still working on themselves. Anyway must go so much to do and little time to do it.
Genuinely best video you’ve ever made! Great insight, not a pity party. This will be very helpful to many- good on you
Thank you 👏🏻 as a person with diagnosed ADHD you make me feel more normal, This video is everything Thank you
52 here, got diagnosed with ADHD last year. It explained most of my life and I recognise so much of what you’re saying.
Thank you, you explained what’s going on in my bubble far better than I have ever been able too.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 45. This video resonates with me. It's great that you are sharing this. I need to buy the shorts I ruined painting behind the stove we replaced.
I feel so inspired and happy watching this. You give me hope for the path i am on amd my future in fitness and making content online!
I'm working on building my personal brand, becoming a personal trainer, and being a brand ambassador for SuperX.
Your videos have been recommended to me ny RUclips and have resonated, but now i cam say im a definitive fan.
I got officially diagnosed with ADHD a couple weeks ago, and it has only been about a year since i had my suspicions about having ADHD...
Its been eye opening. Its been validating, freeing, frustrating, so many emotions. But i do feel like there are more positives than negatives! It is a superpower amd learning to work with my nraon and dopamine instead of against it has been improving my life
This is the best video you’ve ever made. Seriously, my ADHD partner loved your video.
Honestly brother, I feel the exact same way you do. Been like this my whole life I struggle my whole life, just like you have.. I got diagnosed last year and it came out no shock to myself and to my family for that matter. And I feel the same way, but use it as a super and like you said, I have a ridiculously good memory for the long-term but not for the short-term. And although that seems like a bad thing, but that's the nature of life, the ying and yang we cannot have everything. I love who I am, and who I have become on my work, a shape and changed tens of thousands of people telling better lives. Much love to you brother 🥰
Honestly one of the best videos explaining adhd
Everything you said is what I've been living with for 35years.. so well said and thank you for this video
I KNEW IT! Watched your videos for a couple of months now and almost asked about it during the nootropics video. I appreciate this.
I think I have ADHD too, and I have only recently realised I am dyslexic. Embracing our differences and enabling others to complement our strengths and balance our weaknesses is crucial. I've never heard anyone else explain my unwillingness to live a corporate existence like you have here today, either! One of your best uploads yet, James!
Are you looking to get a diagnosis?
offering? @@pauljakeman
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 29 and I just have to say that I was at a real low point this morning and listening to your shared experience (being someone of similar age and interests) has really turned the start of my day around. You’re a much stronger man to have taken the risk to tailor your job/lifestyle to YOU instead of the other way around (with meds). I have been on meds for nearly 2 years now and after seeing the light and getting hooked, I fear I am bound to them now as struggling in the corporate world is near impossible without them (not a bad thing necessarily, just comes with a sense of duality). I act and think in ever way you described with a difference being that I have too much anxiety and self-frustration to act on things that I think might bring me satisfaction for fear of failing or giving up too soon in order to just turn around and pursue something else. Love and respect brother!
You are good enough. Just remember that. While James is ‘successful’ it doesn’t mean you aren’t.
James thank you so much for this video. It's so important to continue to share about ADHD and how it effects people like you and myself. To see each of your videos, to see you notice that you may have ADHD and to see you that you got tested, truly speaks volmues about your character and commitment to providing honest and unbiased content. Seriously thank you so much.
I was diagnosed ten years ago and I’m 37 . Ty for this video . I graduated law school a few years ago so I know anything is possible as long as I learn and do things that help me cope with my adhd . This video is just what I needed today .
Also I sent this to my husband . He’s super supportive but he’s a fan and maybe hearing what I go through from you will just make things even better .
I really needed to see this. I have just been diagnosed at 37. Thanks for making a video where you are raw and open about all of this. And now I feel better about choosing the non-medication route and just living with the quirks.
Also for quite some time I thought I could never write a book because I struggled with words or worried I was stupid....But look how well you have done with your books. If you can do it why cant I.
Easily the best video you’ve ever made.
Going through the same assessment myself. Great to finally understand why I’m weird.
As a fella ADHDer, major respect. It is a superpower if you have a passion to hyper focus on. I wasted the first 30 years of my life focusing on all the reasons why I couldn't do other become anything, and playing Runescape 14 hours a day 😆 I got rediagnosed with ADHD and got put on medication which changed my life from being depressed and suicidal in 2021 to now working 14 hours a day to live my dreams and create a better future for my family. Always seek help if you are suffering guys. Life is too short. Thanks for sharing James
I'm so glad I found you.
You got me off the couch & into lets do this mode. I'm starting with priority, the tasks that are feeding my anxiety & depression. I need to incorporate this into everyday, If I am to slowly remould myself. Thank you, I'll be tapped into your videos as I find my way through each day & night.
It's like I've taken a blindfold off.
Jules
Just been told my 6-year-old son has it. Still trying to get my head around it and figure out how to help him as he grows. This video made me feel more positive about his future.
Thanks mate!
I am 39 old and i got diagnosis about 2 months ago. It actually explaines me soo much of my life, but in not bitter at all that it hasnt found before. Im super happy that i understand me better but i am who i am partially of my adhd and i truly look it like a superpower. When i need it im not gonna take any meds but when i need 12hours of intensive focus i take pill in a morning. It is truly a superpower 😊
As someone who also got diagnosed as an adult I wouldnt change the pain and struggles of the past. It has all led me to where I am! Great video!
Great content, but loving even more the early 2000s Gatecrasher-esque trance sound, that has a build up when you're making the points around 11.30. Killing it!!! 💚💛