My kid and I are both autistic, this is pretty good advice. A couple things: 1. As far as I know, almost zero autistic people actually do eye contact, if it looks like we're doing it we're usually looking elsewhere on the face. Giving the impression "normal" behaviour is a thing we do a lot of to get along better. 2. You can give an autistic kid a sense of control without really giving them choices sometimes: transitioning from one thing to another can be hard to do, I give my kid a timer and tell her "in ten minutes, the video games are done", she sets the timer, starts the timer, and keeps control of the timer. Such a simple thing, but it makes it so much easier on both of us. 3. A lot of people tend to treat autistic kids like they're much younger because they often act much younger in some ways. Assume they're more capable than you expect -- of logic and reasoning especially.
Amazing video! I loved the way your guest talked so positively about children on the spectrum. Unfortunately this hasn’t always been my experience. These strategies also work with children with anxiety, ADHD. Loved the cookie 🍪 idea
Thanks, Amanda. She is great and a very positive person. More education needs to be done so people can view these children in a positive way and see how valuable they are.
Love the choices option, use this with my own children, 2 on the spectrum, 2 not and its always very helpful. As a therapist, I love the cookie idea, the children I work with love coming into my room and I always feel its more than 50% of the therapy work!
I am actually a preschool teacher and all my children are around the age of 3, there are a couple of children that are suspected to be struggling with autism but they’re younger so we really don’t know. A lot of things touched on in here made me think of these children and I am looking forward to trying these strategies! Thank you!
How to help parents... some parents were so ashamed of having them..Dr Paul Jenkins? Thank you for your time.(still here with you guys) from Malaysia 😎
Hey, Wendy Loo, so glad you are with us. Another reason I love RUclips, the message can get to almost anyone with internet access. Glad you are with us.
This is so helpful! I absolutely agree that these strategies will also be helpful for us parents. My family's quality of life has improved so much since finding your channel!
My son has "high functioning" asd. I wonder if you have any insight as to realistic expectations regarding reading comprehension. He is already quite self critical and his struggles with this are causing him low self esteem. I feel that pushing this is destructive and keeps him in a state of anxiety and depression. He is amazing to me and though he is reminding how powerful he is, but he can't hear me in the state of powerlessness that he seems to be in.
Kellymarie Burke, I would have to see him and have more information, can't really make a helpful contribution through a YT comment. Talk to the school, they have reading specialists who should be able to help.
My son is Autistic and I'm curious to try the extinction technique with him at bedtime. He gets up in the middle of the night every night, and I go and sleep with him. I can already imagine the extinction burst when I'm ready to commit to trying to change this behavior. :) I agree with all of the other suggestions offered in this video, and have found that they are all one's that we use with our son. Being proactive and anticipated situations definitely helps a parent or teacher to be able to respond to a situation instead of just reacting to a situation that you find yourself in. Thanks for your videos as always. :)
Angela Albano, I wish I had some advice that you could follow to train your son to look at you, however it is not that simple. It would take a trained professional over a number of therapy sessions to work with him on that, and even then every child with autism is different so there is no telling how long it would take to see results. You can ask your school where to find that type of service. I hope you are finding value in these videos - thanks for watching.
She's really good and lovely. Please, more on at home parenting for Autism toddlers and children. I have a question; I was looking up for Autism for a friend of mine, but I noticed that the adults of them are close to me as an adult too! I was surprised! I also did the AQ test and it always shows that I have traits of autism. Does that mean I am a high-functioning autism adult? Is there a brain scan that can identify it accurately? And how can I benefit from knowing that at my age? I love your channel and your methods, wish you the best 💓
A lot of adults weren't diagnosed as kids because definitions changed, doctors became more knowledgeable, etc. The AQ test doesn't mean you're autistic, just that you might be. There are other conditions that have a lot of similar traits (ADHD is one), or you could just be quirky. I was diagnosed as an adult, I had a lot of "classic" autism traits as a kid, but it wasn't an official diagnosis back then where I live, so I was assessed but not for autism. I sought diagnosis so I could get accommodations for college. I don't need any accommodations at work, but it would be easier to get them if I did with an official diagnosis. Other than that, there isn't really much external benefit.
I have a question, my daughter when someone lies even a white lie that normal neurotypical would consider normal , she says they stink and suddenly she feels bad body odor from them and starts gagging . Is this normal amongst them ? I am used to it and I can handle it but in a public situation, she gets into trouble because of this . How do I say a lie is a truth?
ladybug, I am not sure I totally understand the question. She should be encouraged to tell the truth, but this might be a situation where it has more to do with her perception. At that point what she is experiencing feels real to her and hopefully she can learn how to handle this without making a scene. Maybe something like removing herself from the situation.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV it is a sensory perception issue she has where she gets disgusted with a lie that it shows up as smell to her . She has no control . OT is trying but still no improvement. My only choice is right now , expose her to only people who can understand the walking lie detector!
Interesting. Would love to see a similar vidéo for parents with teenagers with ass. I have a Friend who just had their son (14)diagnosed. Which seems late... Cause years have flown by and that teenager is now Very difficult to handle at home and school...
I don't have a child on the spectrum, but I want to be the chocolate chip cookie! 🤗 How can I help my 2 year old MAKE a choice, between two? Milk or water? Red pants blue pants/this toy that toy? She has a hard time not grabbing both or even taking 1..
D Shannon, it's good to be your child's "chocolate chip cookie". : ) To answer your question, please know that you cannot make your child do anything. You can influence and motivate, but not force. Go ahead and keep giving choices, and if she doesn't choose, you pick one. She will either be OK with it, or she will learn that if she wants something, she needs to tell you. Thanks for watching!
My kid and I are both autistic, this is pretty good advice. A couple things:
1. As far as I know, almost zero autistic people actually do eye contact, if it looks like we're doing it we're usually looking elsewhere on the face. Giving the impression "normal" behaviour is a thing we do a lot of to get along better.
2. You can give an autistic kid a sense of control without really giving them choices sometimes: transitioning from one thing to another can be hard to do, I give my kid a timer and tell her "in ten minutes, the video games are done", she sets the timer, starts the timer, and keeps control of the timer. Such a simple thing, but it makes it so much easier on both of us.
3. A lot of people tend to treat autistic kids like they're much younger because they often act much younger in some ways. Assume they're more capable than you expect -- of logic and reasoning especially.
Miss Placed, Thank you for your helpful comment.
Amazing video! I loved the way your guest talked so positively about children on the spectrum. Unfortunately this hasn’t always been my experience. These strategies also work with children with anxiety, ADHD. Loved the cookie 🍪 idea
Thanks, Amanda. She is great and a very positive person. More education needs to be done so people can view these children in a positive way and see how valuable they are.
Love the choices option, use this with my own children, 2 on the spectrum, 2 not and its always very helpful. As a therapist, I love the cookie idea, the children I work with love coming into my room and I always feel its more than 50% of the therapy work!
Suz Stewart, thanks for sharing. Honored to be on your team.
Perfect lessons .two of you are great and amazing teachers!,,
Thank you! 😃
I am actually a preschool teacher and all my children are around the age of 3, there are a couple of children that are suspected to be struggling with autism but they’re younger so we really don’t know. A lot of things touched on in here made me think of these children and I am looking forward to trying these strategies! Thank you!
Thank you, Jessica Lampitelli. So glad you are there at this critical age and willing to try new things.
A lot of these things I have already been doing! This video was amazing! Great advice! Love your channel!
Thank you, Deidra Roberts, some affirmation never hurts. Honored to be on your team.
How to help parents... some parents were so ashamed of having them..Dr Paul Jenkins? Thank you for your time.(still here with you guys) from Malaysia 😎
Hey, Wendy Loo, so glad you are with us. Another reason I love RUclips, the message can get to almost anyone with internet access. Glad you are with us.
This is so helpful! I absolutely agree that these strategies will also be helpful for us parents. My family's quality of life has improved so much since finding your channel!
Hi Alicia's Frugal Homestead, So glad you found the channel, honored to be on your team.
Opposite to anxiety is trust when it comes to my daughter. As long as you have the trust they are the most obedient and the sweetest kids
ladybug, they really need a connection. I am glad you have a good relationship with your daughter.
She is adorable! My son would adore her. Any good parenting books on the kids with autism and adhd
Samantha Miles, I don't have to recommend just yet.
My son has "high functioning" asd. I wonder if you have any insight as to realistic expectations regarding reading comprehension. He is already quite self critical and his struggles with this are causing him low self esteem. I feel that pushing this is destructive and keeps him in a state of anxiety and depression. He is amazing to me and though he is reminding how powerful he is, but he can't hear me in the state of powerlessness that he seems to be in.
Kellymarie Burke, I would have to see him and have more information, can't really make a helpful contribution through a YT comment. Talk to the school, they have reading specialists who should be able to help.
My son is Autistic and I'm curious to try the extinction technique with him at bedtime. He gets up in the middle of the night every night, and I go and sleep with him. I can already imagine the extinction burst when I'm ready to commit to trying to change this behavior. :) I agree with all of the other suggestions offered in this video, and have found that they are all one's that we use with our son. Being proactive and anticipated situations definitely helps a parent or teacher to be able to respond to a situation instead of just reacting to a situation that you find yourself in. Thanks for your videos as always. :)
You are welcome, Amanda Mangum. Good luck to you as you implement this change. Glad you are finding value in the videos.
I have a son with adhd and I wondering how so u get an artism child within adhd to focus on eye contact
Angela Albano, I wish I had some advice that you could follow to train your son to look at you, however it is not that simple. It would take a trained professional over a number of therapy sessions to work with him on that, and even then every child with autism is different so there is no telling how long it would take to see results. You can ask your school where to find that type of service. I hope you are finding value in these videos - thanks for watching.
She's really good and lovely. Please, more on at home parenting for Autism toddlers and children.
I have a question; I was looking up for Autism for a friend of mine, but I noticed that the adults of them are close to me as an adult too! I was surprised! I also did the AQ test and it always shows that I have traits of autism. Does that mean I am a high-functioning autism adult? Is there a brain scan that can identify it accurately? And how can I benefit from knowing that at my age?
I love your channel and your methods, wish you the best 💓
Hanan Drea, talk to your doctor if you want to get tested, it is up to you.
A lot of adults weren't diagnosed as kids because definitions changed, doctors became more knowledgeable, etc. The AQ test doesn't mean you're autistic, just that you might be. There are other conditions that have a lot of similar traits (ADHD is one), or you could just be quirky.
I was diagnosed as an adult, I had a lot of "classic" autism traits as a kid, but it wasn't an official diagnosis back then where I live, so I was assessed but not for autism. I sought diagnosis so I could get accommodations for college. I don't need any accommodations at work, but it would be easier to get them if I did with an official diagnosis. Other than that, there isn't really much external benefit.
I have a question, my daughter when someone lies even a white lie that normal neurotypical would consider normal , she says they stink and suddenly she feels bad body odor from them and starts gagging . Is this normal amongst them ? I am used to it and I can handle it but in a public situation, she gets into trouble because of this . How do I say a lie is a truth?
ladybug, I am not sure I totally understand the question. She should be encouraged to tell the truth, but this might be a situation where it has more to do with her perception. At that point what she is experiencing feels real to her and hopefully she can learn how to handle this without making a scene. Maybe something like removing herself from the situation.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV it is a sensory perception issue she has where she gets disgusted with a lie that it shows up as smell to her . She has no control . OT is trying but still no improvement. My only choice is right now , expose her to only people who can understand the walking lie detector!
Interesting. Would love to see a similar vidéo for parents with teenagers with ass. I have a Friend who just had their son (14)diagnosed. Which seems late... Cause years have flown by and that teenager is now Very difficult to handle at home and school...
Hi Inge, I think you are referring to Asperger's Syndrome, Treatment is more effective when younger and consistent but it is never too late.
I have an autistic child
Tina Lynn, I hope you are finding the resources you need for your child. There is a lot out there right now and more being added all the time.
I don't have a child on the spectrum, but I want to be the chocolate chip cookie! 🤗
How can I help my 2 year old MAKE a choice, between two? Milk or water? Red pants blue pants/this toy that toy? She has a hard time not grabbing both or even taking 1..
D Shannon, it's good to be your child's "chocolate chip cookie". : ) To answer your question, please know that you cannot make your child do anything. You can influence and motivate, but not force. Go ahead and keep giving choices, and if she doesn't choose, you pick one. She will either be OK with it, or she will learn that if she wants something, she needs to tell you. Thanks for watching!