Wish we would have included this in the video, but we wanted to say that our position on being pro-life also extends to the lives of people on death row. To immigrants lives. To the lives of women that face sexual assault and rape. We are pro-life across the board. Not just regarding the lives of babies in the womb.
You guys are amazing!! I love how you are open and real! Stay that way please!! And I love love love this comment!!! Can’t wait for the next video!! Love y’all 💕🌸
“we got to be able to to learn how to disagree with people and still be able to have a civil conversation… it shouldn’t be a deem on your pride” THIS IS SO GOOD! i wish more people had this mind set!!
See we disagree on whether you should have civil rights and bodily autonomy? Why won't you be civil? I'm only trying to strip you of your ability to live in freedom.
@@OffbeatLiteracy your comments in here are the opposite of making progress lol “if you’re pro life you don’t care about women” is such a dumb thing to say.
This video shows so much maturity and I’m blown away at how you addressed these hard topics. I don’t even know you guys personally, but I’m so proud of you. Thank you for being bold, but also showing gentleness-it’s so rare!
Yalls way of explaining controversial topics is so compassionate and inspiring! Ecspecially when dealing with politics, we should all be willing to have conversations, yall did so well 🤍🤍
100% agree with this. I'm not American but living here has really shown me how important it is to not just "pick sides" but to really have logical and empathetic conversations about what solutions could look like. They definitely did so well
When my mom was pregnant with me the doctor offered to have her abort me because they knew I would be born premature and there was a chance I could be deaf and/or blind. She kept me (thankfully!) and I was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 lb. on oxygen first year-18 months
You guys should start a podcast and talk about controversial things people are too afraid to talk about. We feel like a lot of people would enjoy listening to you guys talk about it! Love you guys! ❤️
I thought you two handled this beautifully. And, I second your thought: as someone who has both conservative and liberal friends, I've found that they are all equally smart and well intentioned, but just have different perspectives on things. The more you try to understand all points of view, the better your understanding truly becomes. Empathy is key.
Have y’all ever thought of having a podcast? I’d like to hear you guys talk about things regularly, not like serious topics but about relationships, your life in social media, etc. and have guests. I could just listen to you guys for hours!
I love how honest and open you guys are! Especially now that we live in a world where people constantly will judge you for your opinions. You show people it’s okay to stay true to yourself❤️❤️
Love that you guys didn’t shy away from the pro life question. Being part of the solution.. that’s what it’s all it’s about! Adoption is great but even if that’s not an option for some couples..every single one of us can do something to support women & children in need whether it’s helping w/individual needs or supporting your local maternity home or crisis pregnancy center. Hope & healing is available for all. ❤️
I got pregnant at 14 from r@pe. Had a miscarriage prob bc I was a child. That's why I'm pro-choice though because there are kids like me that have horrific things happen to them. The idea of birthing a baby from a traumatic event as a child was terrifying. I love the way you explain being prolife even though I have a different view based on my life.
@mechadoggy thats why it's gets confusing, though, bc that is pro choice. It's still allowing a person to choose for themselves. If you're willing to make any type of exception, then you're allowing a person to choose for themselves and not the government. It is confusing because some people could be pro life from a personal or moral perspective but pro choice from a legal one. Allowing women to choose for themselves what is an appropriate reason to abort is paramount to their health and sense of self.
@@danaschreiner3334 It’s not black and white like that. There’s a whole spectrum of political positions that are in between the extremes of “abortion should be available (and provided for) at every stage of pregnancy no matter what, no exceptions” vs. “abortion should not be allowed no matter what, no exceptions”. I’ve never heard though of people being considered pro-choice if they were pro-life except in the cases of rape or if the mother’s health was in danger. Usually, those people just get called women-hating misogynistic fascist Nazis on Twitter.
I completely agree! I do have mixed feelings about being pro-life as far as an unborn child and a unhealthy pregnancy goes, but I totally agree with the rest of it.
@@MarkK395 personally I'm pro-choice and normally I've found pro-lifers to be very aggressive and judgemental. But Matt and Abby spoke about it in such a way that made me feel like we were pretty much on the same page even though we label ourselves as the opposite view point. I believe no one should be forced to endure a pregnancy they do not want to go through. That's all there is to it for me. The way they spoke about it didn't make me feel like they were challenging that idea at all
Liked that you talked about issues that are considered “political” but really shouldn’t be. But left actual politics out of it. Pro life pro vaccine. That’s gotta have people’s heads spinning. I love it.
I'm one of those weird people that considers abortion to be the killing of a growing human being, while also being pro-legal abortion. I think society doesn't need tens of thousands of unready moms poorly raising tens of thousands of unplanned babies every year. It's a burden on society. So yeah, there's practically no one I can have a civil discussion with. 😂
I'm pro-life as well and I had the most refreshing conversation with someone who was pro-choice recently. It was honestly so beautiful because it wasn't an argument which is so rare now a-days. Like you said, we didn't change each other's opinions, but I think we both gained a new perspective. Thanks so much for being so open and emphasizing having these conversations peacefully.
Just let people make their own decisions. You can be pro life for yourself, not a problem. But why should YOU decide what OTHER people can and can’t do with their lives. That’s the only thing I can’t understand as to what gives you the right to dictate other people’s lives.
@@gus4198 I agree. I say, if you don’t want an abortion and you believe it’s wrong, it is well within your rights to refuse it and I completely respect the sanctity that you place on that life. BUT when those beliefs start to infringe on my rights to reproductive healthcare, that’s when I have a huge problem with it. PLUS a lot of people are pro choice but call themselves pro life because it sounds more moral. Abby and Matt don’t sound like these kinds of people, just to clarify. But there are tons of them out there that are like “I’m pro life unless there was rape or invest involved” well guess what, you’re pro choice. Or “I’m pro life but if the mother or baby may die, then abortion is ok” well guess what, you’re pro choice. These pro life and pro choice buzz words are really just designed to imply morality vs. lack of morality. It should be called pro choice and anti choice
@grace I love this! The reality is these subjects evoke very strong emotions and opinions and because of that, it’s very unlikely one side will ever change the other side’s mind. But it’s so valuable to be able to disagree respectfully.
I think what's helpful in these conversations is remembering that being pro-choice isn't pro-abortion, it's pro-choice, as in if someone absolutely is forced into that decision, they have that option. Not recommending it as the #1 solution, but making sure that people have the option when absolutely necessary, which is necessary until there are WAY more people like them who are willing to be apart of the solution
No offense, but if you’re pro choice, you open abortion as an option, therefore making you pro abortion even when circumstantial. Unless your life is being legitimately threatened (such as an ectopic pregnancy), to kill an unborn child (which until the 1960s was considered a living being from the moment of fertilization) should be ostracized. Of course, this sentiment won’t matter if it turns out that those children born are not valued by their parents to the extent that they consider abortion as a viable option simply for convenience. I’ve seen the trauma on video by toddlers who had no stable home and were transferred to foster care too often. And there needs to be better care for the women forced into that position. No wonder this issue is so nuanced.
@@CrowandRaven being pro-choice means you support and advocate for a woman’s right to choose for herself… regardless of what that choice is. Being “pro-abortion” sounds like people picketing outside of maternity wards demanding that the pregnant women abort their babies. It’s not a thing that exists. It’s all about choice.
I’m pro choice, but that’s honestly the best ownership and reasoning I’ve ever heard from people who are pro life. They support and will adopt, open to fostering and acknowledge the problems! in my opinion #slayed
That’s if they actually adopt and make an effort to support these women financially, emotionally… even then it’s honestly not a good reason to have an opinion on something that isn’t their decision to make in the end…
@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby? Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?
@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby? Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?
Love you guys! So appreciate how you talked about being Pro-Life and aren’t afraid of the hate. Influencers need to take a stand on this to help the babies and the mama’s.
Ps just to clarify, I don't think Abby and Matt are now obligated to adopt a disabled baby because it might not be their goal/dream and adopting any baby/kid it's a huge help and improvement from the society (just don't get me wrong from my previous comment). I just wanted to highlight that many babies that are not wanted are not the healthy ones but just the kids with problems/disabilities (and that for many people that's the argument for abortion because prenatal medicine improved so much during past few years/decades) people may not decide to have a kid who you have to put tons of money for therapy and milion of hours of work, for which not many people are prepared and able unfortunately 😔
Same here, don't agree but thought their response was very classy, intentional, and compassionate. So refreshing to hear people share their views in a respectful way!
Whole new level of respect for Matt & Abby, especially in challenging us to talk with someone who may have different views than us. This is what we need in 2021
@Kayla Carpenter I think the reason it seems that way is because those who are not democrat can’t share their views on politics or they will be cancelled, argued with, and destroyed 🤷🏼♀️
Also love your guys answer about college. You’re absolutely right, it’s not a one size fits all. Especially w/so many young ppl going into lifelong debt to get a degree they’ll never use. There’s so many other more practical options. As long as you have goals, realistic expectations & are willing to do the work. Also, your passion doesn’t necessarily have to be your career.. like your job can just be the thing you get paid for & you find a way to take joy in it but your passion can be totally separate. To many ppl get stuck thinking they have to be one in the same.
Could not agree more! College is a great tool for a lot of people, but it's not "one size fits all" and not the sole determinant of success. There are a TON of billionaires that dropped out of college to start businesses and change the world.
Ok last comment. I respect so much that you guys don’t answer the super personal sex questions. Seriously there’s no reason anyone needs to know that. Ppl who compromise there privacy for views, likes etc.. no bueno. Love that you guys draw boundaries 👍🏼
Awe Matt and Abby you and Rodger and Talia should so get together and do some videos!! Y’all could go to Vegas and they could come to Hawaii!! Love both of these youtubers!!
As a foster kid myself (well, not anymore since I’m 21. But my foster parents are still my parents) it makes me SO SO happy to hear that you 2 want to adopt! Foster care is not easy, but I think it still is beautiful! I am so grateful for my foster parents! Thanks to them, I can have A bright future! You are 2 beautiful people❤️ I really admire you!
Though I disagree with some of your opinions, I have to thank you for being honest. So many people avoid the hard questions, so thank you for answering them. Also, loooove your speech about how we need to start having civil conversations. 🙌🙌🙌🙌
I am so glad to hear that y’all are supporting adoption and foster care. Just wanted to say how much that warmed my heart! I was adopted myself, and all my siblings are adopted as well, and I can easily without a doubt say it was the biggest blessing and the greatest thing that could’ve happened in my life. It’s people like y’all who are able to change the lives of future generations. Thank you!
Just want to say-I love how you guys think, because you guys are people that are open minded and aware of all the different possibilities in life. I also loved what you said about subjects and politics you guys are so amazing and smart for a young couple. Love your videos!😊❤️
Even though I personally don't agree with some of your opinions in this video, this was one of the most compassionate and intentional responses I've heard. I really appreciated that you acknowledged the complexities of some of these issues. Very classy and refreshing to hear, thank you!
Thank you so much for giving your stance on being pro-life! I am pro-choice, but I also believe that it's important to support children through adoption, improving the foster care system, and providing teens/adults with a comprehensive sex education. I completely respect your views and am glad you also support "solutions"!
Matt and Abby! Foster mom here, THANK YOU THANK YOU for being honest about being pro life. Babies deserve your honesty and your action of being future adoptive parents. You being honest, is making a difference and it brought tears to my hears to hear Abby say "100%." Thank you ❤
Subscribed. Just for how well you handled much of this "we gotta be able to learn how to disagree with people but still have a civil conversation and be thinking logically"
I’m pro choice & I loved hearing your guys stance on being pro life. so nice & refreshing, you guys are truly so good! we can all agree to disagree & MOVE along ❤️
Included in many of the controversial topics you guys discussed here, I love that you mentioned setting up a fund for your future children. As you guys said, college is one avenue to success, but it’s not the only one. That’s coming from someone who has two degrees lol. I think it’s extra important to not constrict certain adulting processes for our youth, including in funding. If we can be more open-minded and allow our youth with as many resources to succeed in whatever ways they want, the sky’s the limit💪
My husband was raised in deep rural Alabama (think super conservative upbringing). I was raised in Massachusetts (think very progressive upbringing). We have vastly different backgrounds but through hard work and a lot of communication, we learned from each other. My views belong to me, his to him, we understand our views come from vastly different world views. He opened my eyes but I opened his as well. Neither of us will fully change but we respect and appreciate each other. It took a lot of hard work and continues to be hard but were closing in on 5 years married!
Matt and Abby, Thank you for talking about being pro life! I am very pro-life myself and it is so refreshing to see this on social media!! God bless you both.
I love y'all even more!!! My husband and I are becoming foster parents and we are almost done with the certification process. We don't have any kids other than our God daughter who we have 6 days a week. She was a friends baby and she was young and just needs alot of help and support. I love that y'all want to adopt. I've wanted to since I was a little girl and I can't wait for our first placement.
Out with a bang! Love having conversations with people who have different opinions. It's never what you expect and you learn so much. So thankful you're encouraging that ❤
Im 13 and I was going through a really tough time and lokey this channel and this couple really helped me find the positive in everything and I’m so grateful that you guys continue to make fun and positive videos!
Matt and Abby you guys are cute and sweet in your low 20s. Your viewership could decline as you begin to look older and your attitudes are potentially impacted by your life experiences. This is why people say you need college or any backup plan because what you have now will almost certainly not last your whole lives.
Love that y’all have a passion for adoption! One of my younger sisters is adopted and she has been a blessing to the rest of my family. Also loved hearing that y’all are pro-life! God is using you two for great things❤️
What a wise woman to be honest. There, I said it! And no, I don't mean most ladies or people for that matter aren't, but man does her mind stand out! God bless!
Aww I have a moissanite as well! They are stunning and cost effective if you are wanting a big gem but don’t want to go into debt for it! Your ring is beautiful!
I totally agree with what they said about the Midwest. People here are usually very friendly, love small talk, and love just hanging out. I think Midwesterners get the reputation of being these old, grumpy, and unaccepting people, but that’s really not the case.
Thank you so much for expressing your view on being pro-life. You said it beautifully! You're doing an amazing thing by being willing to adopt and I wish you all the best in your journey!!
Love Abby saying to have a conversation with someone not with the goal to change their mind but to simply gain more perspective. You never know how your words will affect someone down the road or how someone's words will impact you. Love you Matt and Abby!
Abby , i agree on the wedding comment you and Matt made. My husband and i got married and are wedding was not big maybe 70 people and we have been together 35 years and married almost 34 years.
LOVE your stance on abortion! While I am personally pro-choice, I completely respect your stance and the fact that you guys want to be part of the solution. You don’t hear it often, and it’s such a unique and beautiful thing ❤️
Through this video i learned that you guys have different opinions/beliefs than i have. I lean more towards pro choice and will not be getting the vaccine. However, i have always urged people to start conversations, listen and learn from eachother. I appreciate you guys bringing that up also. Life would be ultimately boring if everyone thought and acted in the same way 💗 Love you guys.
Am I the only one who thought of the movie inside out when Abby said “that’s where we made our core memories” when they were talking about Missouri?😂😂🤦♀️
love that you had the courage to talk about what it means to be pro-life, and how it is more than just babies, and how we need to be apart of the solution as well as having that view point. Love y’all!!
I cannot believe how many people are pro life. I really love you guys and agree we don't all have to have the same views but everybody should have a choice, sadly I wish more people saw why this was humane
I agree. Abby and Matt generally seem like such empathetic people, and I wish that their empathy extended to allowing everyone to have a choice. They, who are in a loving relationship, of course view children as a blessing, but not everyone is fortunate enough to have a pregnancy in their context
@@im.brooklynnmany people who have the same opinion Matt and Abby have intentionally vote in a way to prevent everyone else from having a choice and advocate for limitations on this choice
Can we just appreciate that they manage to squeeze the screaming goat into every video lately? 😂😂 Seriously love this video though and how maturely you guys handled all the topics!
You two have become such a comfort to me! I've recently moved across the country, I live alone and I honestly look forward to watching your videos in the evenings haha, thank you. You're fab.
My thing with college is that if you’ve already started and got so far why not just finish it ya know? But if you haven’t gone at all I definitely don’t think you NEED to. However I’m not judging you’re decision, that’s your choice and that’s what makes you happy and that’s great!!!
@@kierstynstrasswimmer2750 depends on how close he is. On year left could be worth finishing if it allows him to command a higher salary at a company someday.
I'm personally pro-choice but I really appreciate your comment on wanting to be a part of the solution. Being vaccinated, supporting immigrants and people of color, LGBTQ+ people, etc. is so important and your compassion makes you ACTUALLY pro-life, not just anti-choice. Despite our different opinions on the subject your overall outlook on life maintains my respect for you.
Listening to you guys explain your explanation on pro life just shows what truly beautiful people you guys are so glad I’ve come across your channel! Binge watching to get caught up 😅
I am SO thankful for you guys!! I tell you this often, but you two literally make my days so much better and always make me smile!! Thank you for being so completely open about your life and letting us in on some deep conversations!!
Thank you, thank you for advocating for self research!!!! I don’t care what your decision is on any topic as long as it is informed by conclusions made from your own research from multiple different sources. Also thank you for promoting conversation! Love you guys! ❤️
Wish we would have included this in the video, but we wanted to say that our position on being pro-life also extends to the lives of people on death row. To immigrants lives. To the lives of women that face sexual assault and rape. We are pro-life across the board. Not just regarding the lives of babies in the womb.
Pin this!!!!
U guys r so inspiring 💕💕
Awesome
You guys are amazing!! I love how you are open and real! Stay that way please!! And I love love love this comment!!! Can’t wait for the next video!! Love y’all 💕🌸
I appreciate you all including this. I’ve got a daughter your age and sincerely think your generation will change the world!!
“we got to be able to to learn how to disagree with people and still be able to have a civil conversation… it shouldn’t be a deem on your pride”
THIS IS SO GOOD! i wish more people had this mind set!!
Yes! Me too!
See we disagree on whether you should have civil rights and bodily autonomy? Why won't you be civil? I'm only trying to strip you of your ability to live in freedom.
Who else found them on accident and now are addicted to them !?!?
WE LOVE YOU!!
@@MattandAbby I love you guys too!!!!!
It was the best accident ever!!!!! I found them through RUclips shorts
@@averyW-vlogs1018 same!
@@MattandAbby I love you guys more
Abby saying “if we are going to have this stance, then we need to be part of the solution” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🧡
Truth!
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that was such a great answer!!
@@OffbeatLiteracy your comments in here are the opposite of making progress lol “if you’re pro life you don’t care about women” is such a dumb thing to say.
This video shows so much maturity and I’m blown away at how you addressed these hard topics. I don’t even know you guys personally, but I’m so proud of you. Thank you for being bold, but also showing gentleness-it’s so rare!
You are so kind! Thank you!
“how much do you make”
matt: “great question, i’m actually trying to figure that out”
i died
Yes this was so hilarious 😂😂😂
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Omg lol I read this at the exact same time he was saying Matt in the video 😂
@Matt & Abby like ballpark figures, though lol
“The goal is not to change the other persons mind, but it is to gain a new perspective” Great stuff y’all
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Yalls way of explaining controversial topics is so compassionate and inspiring! Ecspecially when dealing with politics, we should all be willing to have conversations, yall did so well 🤍🤍
100% agree with this. I'm not American but living here has really shown me how important it is to not just "pick sides" but to really have logical and empathetic conversations about what solutions could look like. They definitely did so well
Conversations are sooo important! It’s so sad how the media can divide us so much.
@@MattandAbby This comment! 🙌
When my mom was pregnant with me the doctor offered to have her abort me because they knew I would be born premature and there was a chance I could be deaf and/or blind. She kept me (thankfully!) and I was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 lb. on oxygen first year-18 months
Don't mean to be rude, but are you deaf or blind?
@@jakeflo7834 no. Have no side vision but other than that not blind
Oh my! That’s a miracle! So glad your alive and doing better now!
God is so good!
I would still keep my baby if the doctor said that
You guys should start a podcast and talk about controversial things people are too afraid to talk about. We feel like a lot of people would enjoy listening to you guys talk about it! Love you guys! ❤️
I agree! I love hearing you guys talk about stuff!
I NEEEEED a podcast
Yess please start a podcast!
I thought you two handled this beautifully. And, I second your thought: as someone who has both conservative and liberal friends, I've found that they are all equally smart and well intentioned, but just have different perspectives on things. The more you try to understand all points of view, the better your understanding truly becomes. Empathy is key.
YOU TWO AMAZE ME. So wise, so smart, so kind, so respectful. Such WONDERFUL humans.
Have y’all ever thought of having a podcast? I’d like to hear you guys talk about things regularly, not like serious topics but about relationships, your life in social media, etc. and have guests. I could just listen to you guys for hours!
I love how honest and open you guys are! Especially now that we live in a world where people constantly will judge you for your opinions. You show people it’s okay to stay true to yourself❤️❤️
Love that you guys didn’t shy away from the pro life question. Being part of the solution.. that’s what it’s all it’s about! Adoption is great but even if that’s not an option for some couples..every single one of us can do something to support women & children in need whether it’s helping w/individual needs or supporting your local maternity home or crisis pregnancy center. Hope & healing is available for all. ❤️
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It's a woman's choice what she does with her body period
@@samyukthas your right. We choose what we do with our bodies. But we do not get to make the choice to end the life of another human being.
@@samyukthas wait I'm confused. I'm saying that abortion isn't a choice. Are you agreeing with me?
@@LA-fr4gp it is. You were the one who agreed with me lmao
I got pregnant at 14 from r@pe. Had a miscarriage prob bc I was a child. That's why I'm pro-choice though because there are kids like me that have horrific things happen to them. The idea of birthing a baby from a traumatic event as a child was terrifying.
I love the way you explain being prolife even though I have a different view based on my life.
Most pro-life people would be fine with making an exception for rape though, so you’d still be allowed to abort
@mechadoggy thats why it's gets confusing, though, bc that is pro choice. It's still allowing a person to choose for themselves. If you're willing to make any type of exception, then you're allowing a person to choose for themselves and not the government. It is confusing because some people could be pro life from a personal or moral perspective but pro choice from a legal one. Allowing women to choose for themselves what is an appropriate reason to abort is paramount to their health and sense of self.
Agreed
@@danaschreiner3334 It’s not black and white like that. There’s a whole spectrum of political positions that are in between the extremes of “abortion should be available (and provided for) at every stage of pregnancy no matter what, no exceptions” vs. “abortion should not be allowed no matter what, no exceptions”.
I’ve never heard though of people being considered pro-choice if they were pro-life except in the cases of rape or if the mother’s health was in danger. Usually, those people just get called women-hating misogynistic fascist Nazis on Twitter.
people can be pro life and pro choice at the same time. I could never get an abortion and still think that women should have a choice still.
I love how you spoke your mind about being pro-life, without attacking or being judgemental. Very rare to see honestly and I appreciate it a lot
I completely agree! I do have mixed feelings about being pro-life as far as an unborn child and a unhealthy pregnancy goes, but I totally agree with the rest of it.
@@MarkK395 personally I'm pro-choice and normally I've found pro-lifers to be very aggressive and judgemental. But Matt and Abby spoke about it in such a way that made me feel like we were pretty much on the same page even though we label ourselves as the opposite view point. I believe no one should be forced to endure a pregnancy they do not want to go through. That's all there is to it for me. The way they spoke about it didn't make me feel like they were challenging that idea at all
@@bonniepaora8664 and also both opinions can co exist. being pro choice doesnt mean being a fan of abortions.. i really liked them too
Liked that you talked about issues that are considered “political” but really shouldn’t be. But left actual politics out of it. Pro life pro vaccine. That’s gotta have people’s heads spinning. I love it.
I know a lot of people are
It shouldn't though because it's actually consistent unlike the alternative positions.
It's so sad that people think those are oxymoronic positions, though
I'm one of those weird people that considers abortion to be the killing of a growing human being, while also being pro-legal abortion. I think society doesn't need tens of thousands of unready moms poorly raising tens of thousands of unplanned babies every year. It's a burden on society. So yeah, there's practically no one I can have a civil discussion with. 😂
I'm pro-life as well and I had the most refreshing conversation with someone who was pro-choice recently. It was honestly so beautiful because it wasn't an argument which is so rare now a-days. Like you said, we didn't change each other's opinions, but I think we both gained a new perspective. Thanks so much for being so open and emphasizing having these conversations peacefully.
This ❤️🙌🏼
Just let people make their own decisions. You can be pro life for yourself, not a problem. But why should YOU decide what OTHER people can and can’t do with their lives. That’s the only thing I can’t understand as to what gives you the right to dictate other people’s lives.
@@gus4198 I agree. I say, if you don’t want an abortion and you believe it’s wrong, it is well within your rights to refuse it and I completely respect the sanctity that you place on that life. BUT when those beliefs start to infringe on my rights to reproductive healthcare, that’s when I have a huge problem with it. PLUS a lot of people are pro choice but call themselves pro life because it sounds more moral. Abby and Matt don’t sound like these kinds of people, just to clarify. But there are tons of them out there that are like “I’m pro life unless there was rape or invest involved” well guess what, you’re pro choice. Or “I’m pro life but if the mother or baby may die, then abortion is ok” well guess what, you’re pro choice. These pro life and pro choice buzz words are really just designed to imply morality vs. lack of morality. It should be called pro choice and anti choice
@grace I love this! The reality is these subjects evoke very strong emotions and opinions and because of that, it’s very unlikely one side will ever change the other side’s mind. But it’s so valuable to be able to disagree respectfully.
Same pro life
I think what's helpful in these conversations is remembering that being pro-choice isn't pro-abortion, it's pro-choice, as in if someone absolutely is forced into that decision, they have that option. Not recommending it as the #1 solution, but making sure that people have the option when absolutely necessary, which is necessary until there are WAY more people like them who are willing to be apart of the solution
Yes totally....it's about choice....choosing....deciding.....talking
....praying....then making a Choice ....and that Choice might be Life
@@brendamiller5785 might. Choice is about having both options be an option!
No offense, but if you’re pro choice, you open abortion as an option, therefore making you pro abortion even when circumstantial. Unless your life is being legitimately threatened (such as an ectopic pregnancy), to kill an unborn child (which until the 1960s was considered a living being from the moment of fertilization) should be ostracized.
Of course, this sentiment won’t matter if it turns out that those children born are not valued by their parents to the extent that they consider abortion as a viable option simply for convenience. I’ve seen the trauma on video by toddlers who had no stable home and were transferred to foster care too often. And there needs to be better care for the women forced into that position. No wonder this issue is so nuanced.
Yes but that's not how it works they can do it for any reason no restrictions
@@CrowandRaven being pro-choice means you support and advocate for a woman’s right to choose for herself… regardless of what that choice is. Being “pro-abortion” sounds like people picketing outside of maternity wards demanding that the pregnant women abort their babies. It’s not a thing that exists. It’s all about choice.
I’m pro choice, but that’s honestly the best ownership and reasoning I’ve ever heard from people who are pro life. They support and will adopt, open to fostering and acknowledge the problems! in my opinion #slayed
That’s if they actually adopt and make an effort to support these women financially, emotionally… even then it’s honestly not a good reason to have an opinion on something that isn’t their decision to make in the end…
@@fayeroscoe9044 the baby is choosing to be killed either….
@@rachelkessinger2295 there is no baby pre-birth
@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby?
Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?
@@EK-ij9fgHow do you explain premature baby? Is he not a baby because it wasn't 9 months since he's been conceived? Or is because he's outside the womb and not in it that he is a baby?
Why do you think it is that a baby killed 3 minutes after being born is murder? Do you really think that if the baby was killed 10 minutes before it is okay?
Love you guys! So appreciate how you talked about being Pro-Life and aren’t afraid of the hate. Influencers need to take a stand on this to help the babies and the mama’s.
I don’t agree with your pro-life stance, however I appreciate you acknowledging that you want to be apart of the solution!
Ps just to clarify, I don't think Abby and Matt are now obligated to adopt a disabled baby because it might not be their goal/dream and adopting any baby/kid it's a huge help and improvement from the society (just don't get me wrong from my previous comment). I just wanted to highlight that many babies that are not wanted are not the healthy ones but just the kids with problems/disabilities (and that for many people that's the argument for abortion because prenatal medicine improved so much during past few years/decades) people may not decide to have a kid who you have to put tons of money for therapy and milion of hours of work, for which not many people are prepared and able unfortunately 😔
I 100% agree with this comment! They don't seem like the typical pro life people
@@VeggiesbyEos also much more forward thinking
Same here, don't agree but thought their response was very classy, intentional, and compassionate. So refreshing to hear people share their views in a respectful way!
@@VeggiesbyEos except they are typical pro life people. You assume so much about our community when we just want to help without babies dying
Whole new level of respect for Matt & Abby, especially in challenging us to talk with someone who may have different views than us. This is what we need in 2021
It’s rare seeing people being open about being pro-life 🙌🏾
yeah i was kinda shocked they answered but i 100% agree with them
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@Kayla Carpenter how do you know they're not democrats?
@Kayla Carpenter same! well i knew some were pro life but they don't publicize it. but thanks Matt and Abby for saying what you think/ believe.
@Kayla Carpenter I think the reason it seems that way is because those who are not democrat can’t share their views on politics or they will be cancelled, argued with, and destroyed 🤷🏼♀️
Also love your guys answer about college. You’re absolutely right, it’s not a one size fits all. Especially w/so many young ppl going into lifelong debt to get a degree they’ll never use. There’s so many other more practical options. As long as you have goals, realistic expectations & are willing to do the work. Also, your passion doesn’t necessarily have to be your career.. like your job can just be the thing you get paid for & you find a way to take joy in it but your passion can be totally separate. To many ppl get stuck thinking they have to be one in the same.
Could not agree more! College is a great tool for a lot of people, but it's not "one size fits all" and not the sole determinant of success. There are a TON of billionaires that dropped out of college to start businesses and change the world.
Ok last comment. I respect so much that you guys don’t answer the super personal sex questions. Seriously there’s no reason anyone needs to know that. Ppl who compromise there privacy for views, likes etc.. no bueno. Love that you guys draw boundaries 👍🏼
Love you guys!!♥️♥️♥️
Literally my favourite YTers commented on my other favourite YTer! Ridiculously elegant!
Hey theae two people my favorite
And her smile sound 😂😂😂 jzt kdng not shaming you
Love you too!
Awe Matt and Abby you and Rodger and Talia should so get together and do some videos!! Y’all could go to Vegas and they could come to Hawaii!! Love both of these youtubers!!
My respect has literally gone through the roof for yall. Keep being you and God bless!
As a foster kid myself (well, not anymore since I’m 21. But my foster parents are still my parents) it makes me SO SO happy to hear that you 2 want to adopt! Foster care is not easy, but I think it still is beautiful! I am so grateful for my foster parents! Thanks to them, I can have A bright future! You are 2 beautiful people❤️ I really admire you!
Though I disagree with some of your opinions, I have to thank you for being honest. So many people avoid the hard questions, so thank you for answering them. Also, loooove your speech about how we need to start having civil conversations. 🙌🙌🙌🙌
You guys are so positive and well adjusted, it’s awesome you found eachother.
I am so glad to hear that y’all are supporting adoption and foster care. Just wanted to say how much that warmed my heart! I was adopted myself, and all my siblings are adopted as well, and I can easily without a doubt say it was the biggest blessing and the greatest thing that could’ve happened in my life. It’s people like y’all who are able to change the lives of future generations. Thank you!
GOD BLESS YOU GUYS AND EVERYONE ELSE! You guys are amazing! Road to 1 mil!!
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Just want to say-I love how you guys think, because you guys are people that are open minded and aware of all the different possibilities in life. I also loved what you said about subjects and politics you guys are so amazing and smart for a young couple. Love your videos!😊❤️
P.S. I’m only 15 but I hope that I find a partner later on, that is as open minded as you guys😂❤️
i just recently found this channel and i am so addicted now lol
Me too 😂🤣
Welcome to the fam!!
Welcome dude
Sameeee 😂😂
So pumped you’re here!
i love how honest y’all are with your viewers!!!
Even though I personally don't agree with some of your opinions in this video, this was one of the most compassionate and intentional responses I've heard. I really appreciated that you acknowledged the complexities of some of these issues. Very classy and refreshing to hear, thank you!
Thank you so much for giving your stance on being pro-life! I am pro-choice, but I also believe that it's important to support children through adoption, improving the foster care system, and providing teens/adults with a comprehensive sex education. I completely respect your views and am glad you also support "solutions"!
Matt and Abby! Foster mom here, THANK YOU THANK YOU for being honest about being pro life. Babies deserve your honesty and your action of being future adoptive parents. You being honest, is making a difference and it brought tears to my hears to hear Abby say "100%."
Thank you ❤
Proud of you two for opening up! So brave to do these days, and I respect and love everything you said. Most inspiring people ever. ❤️
Subscribed.
Just for how well you handled much of this "we gotta be able to learn how to disagree with people but still have a civil conversation and be thinking logically"
Matt talking about hitting the like button ACTUALLY reminds me to hit the like button😂
Yessss😂😂😂
WOOHOO 🤣
Haha, me, too! 😂 I’ve gotten more trained now to do it earlier before he even reminds us 😂😂
I’m pro choice & I loved hearing your guys stance on being pro life. so nice & refreshing, you guys are truly so good! we can all agree to disagree & MOVE along ❤️
watching this 11 months later when they’ve been living in arizona for a few months and have a baby boy 🥲
Included in many of the controversial topics you guys discussed here, I love that you mentioned setting up a fund for your future children. As you guys said, college is one avenue to success, but it’s not the only one. That’s coming from someone who has two degrees lol. I think it’s extra important to not constrict certain adulting processes for our youth, including in funding. If we can be more open-minded and allow our youth with as many resources to succeed in whatever ways they want, the sky’s the limit💪
Abby’s answer on pro-life- AMEN!! Loved everything she said. Thanks so much for y’all’s honesty and the way you speak with love!
My husband was raised in deep rural Alabama (think super conservative upbringing). I was raised in Massachusetts (think very progressive upbringing). We have vastly different backgrounds but through hard work and a lot of communication, we learned from each other. My views belong to me, his to him, we understand our views come from vastly different world views. He opened my eyes but I opened his as well. Neither of us will fully change but we respect and appreciate each other. It took a lot of hard work and continues to be hard but were closing in on 5 years married!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your beliefs! I wish there were more people in the world like you two!
Matt and Abby, Thank you for talking about being pro life! I am very pro-life myself and it is so refreshing to see this on social media!! God bless you both.
agreed!
Agreed! Well said🤗
Abby 2:51: "100%" pro-life
Abby 5:19: "Everyone make the decision that you think is best for your body"
I love y'all even more!!! My husband and I are becoming foster parents and we are almost done with the certification process. We don't have any kids other than our God daughter who we have 6 days a week. She was a friends baby and she was young and just needs alot of help and support. I love that y'all want to adopt. I've wanted to since I was a little girl and I can't wait for our first placement.
Y’all are so awesome. Wish I could find someone with the same values as me and genuine funny and chill but those people are hard to find sadly.
We just moved to Missouri and already love it and how friendly people are!
love seeing influencers talk about being pro-life 💖 you two have amazing hearts
Same 💞
Out with a bang! Love having conversations with people who have different opinions. It's never what you expect and you learn so much. So thankful you're encouraging that ❤
Im 13 and I was going through a really tough time and lokey this channel and this couple really helped me find the positive in everything and I’m so grateful that you guys continue to make fun and positive videos!
That means so much! WE LOVE YOU DUDE!
“If we’re taking this position we have to be part of the solution.” SO MUCH YES.
Who else found this channel and can't stop watching it??
Love you dude!!
Matt and Abby you guys are cute and sweet in your low 20s. Your viewership could decline as you begin to look older and your attitudes are potentially impacted by your life experiences. This is why people say you need college or any backup plan because what you have now will almost certainly not last your whole lives.
New Zealand is AMAZING. You guys should totally move there.
Wow I applaud you guys for being so well spoken at such a young age!! So respectful and aware of the impact of your words 👏🏼
Love that y’all have a passion for adoption! One of my younger sisters is adopted and she has been a blessing to the rest of my family. Also loved hearing that y’all are pro-life! God is using you two for great things❤️
What a wise woman to be honest. There, I said it! And no, I don't mean most ladies or people for that matter aren't, but man does her mind stand out! God bless!
Aww. My future plan is to adopt kids too. In india adoption is not so popular. So, I feel like my extended family will probably hate me for this.
Aww I have a moissanite as well! They are stunning and cost effective if you are wanting a big gem but don’t want to go into debt for it! Your ring is beautiful!
This is why i fucking love these guys, wholesome and are genuinely nice people. Their response to the political stuff was great to see.
I totally agree with what they said about the Midwest. People here are usually very friendly, love small talk, and love just hanging out. I think Midwesterners get the reputation of being these old, grumpy, and unaccepting people, but that’s really not the case.
Thank you so much for expressing your view on being pro-life. You said it beautifully! You're doing an amazing thing by being willing to adopt and I wish you all the best in your journey!!
Love Abby saying to have a conversation with someone not with the goal to change their mind but to simply gain more perspective. You never know how your words will affect someone down the road or how someone's words will impact you. Love you Matt and Abby!
I LOVE how you answered “controversial” topics!
Abby , i agree on the wedding comment you and Matt made. My husband and i got married and are wedding was not big maybe 70 people and we have been together 35 years and married almost 34 years.
LOVE your stance on abortion! While I am personally pro-choice, I completely respect your stance and the fact that you guys want to be part of the solution. You don’t hear it often, and it’s such a unique and beautiful thing ❤️
I really respect you guys for answering these questions. Really vulnerable and mature
Through this video i learned that you guys have different opinions/beliefs than i have. I lean more towards pro choice and will not be getting the vaccine. However, i have always urged people to start conversations, listen and learn from eachother. I appreciate you guys bringing that up also.
Life would be ultimately boring if everyone thought and acted in the same way 💗
Love you guys.
I just LOVE how respectful and mature you guys are
Am I the only one who thought of the movie inside out when Abby said “that’s where we made our core memories” when they were talking about Missouri?😂😂🤦♀️
the Q and A’s with Matt and Abby are so wholesome and mature. Honestly, some of the best videos on youtube.❤️❤️
love that you had the courage to talk about what it means to be pro-life, and how it is more than just babies, and how we need to be apart of the solution as well as having that view point. Love y’all!!
I love how you guys said that you wish people can and need to have different opinions and still talk so true
I cannot believe how many people are pro life. I really love you guys and agree we don't all have to have the same views but everybody should have a choice, sadly I wish more people saw why this was humane
I agree. Abby and Matt generally seem like such empathetic people, and I wish that their empathy extended to allowing everyone to have a choice. They, who are in a loving relationship, of course view children as a blessing, but not everyone is fortunate enough to have a pregnancy in their context
Wait could one of y’all explain, how they aren’t giving everyone a choice??? How is that possible they can’t make you not have a choice.
@@im.brooklynnmany people who have the same opinion Matt and Abby have intentionally vote in a way to prevent everyone else from having a choice and advocate for limitations on this choice
Can we just appreciate that they manage to squeeze the screaming goat into every video lately? 😂😂 Seriously love this video though and how maturely you guys handled all the topics!
can you guys make a tiktok of future rules for your kids? dating, bedtime, etc
Love this idea!
You two have become such a comfort to me! I've recently moved across the country, I live alone and I honestly look forward to watching your videos in the evenings haha, thank you. You're fab.
Lol sometimes I wish I could be Abby’s friend. She seems so energized she seems so nice and cool:( I need her type of socialness
Not me sitting at work watching this just wishing I had some of that food!!! The chicken sandwich and the flurry!! Oh my 😩🤩
One of the cutest couples on RUclips 🥰🥰
you guys are the best!! i love how you respect other peoples opinions & are so honest. 💗
My thing with college is that if you’ve already started and got so far why not just finish it ya know? But if you haven’t gone at all I definitely don’t think you NEED to. However I’m not judging you’re decision, that’s your choice and that’s what makes you happy and that’s great!!!
Sunk cost fallacy.
@@kierstynstrasswimmer2750 depends on how close he is. On year left could be worth finishing if it allows him to command a higher salary at a company someday.
Subscribed! Love how open and real you two are!
I'm personally pro-choice but I really appreciate your comment on wanting to be a part of the solution. Being vaccinated, supporting immigrants and people of color, LGBTQ+ people, etc. is so important and your compassion makes you ACTUALLY pro-life, not just anti-choice. Despite our different opinions on the subject your overall outlook on life maintains my respect for you.
I love that y’all are pro life! As dr suess said “a persons a person no matter how small”
And that’s why dr sues is “canceled”. Lol
I’m so in love with your intro. Also you should do dming our subscriber’s crushes because I think it would be fun.
I gained so much respect for y'all watching this video. Thank you for answering all these tough questions. I loved seeing a different side of you.
Listening to you guys explain your explanation on pro life just shows what truly beautiful people you guys are so glad I’ve come across your channel! Binge watching to get caught up 😅
I am SO thankful for you guys!! I tell you this often, but you two literally make my days so much better and always make me smile!! Thank you for being so completely open about your life and letting us in on some deep conversations!!
wow finding out you guys are pro life makes me so extremely happy!! You two are absolutely amazing and so brave to talk about it on the internet.
Sooo happy for both of you. It’s so joyous seeing your family and friends come together in celebration and support. 💙
Thank you, thank you for advocating for self research!!!! I don’t care what your decision is on any topic as long as it is informed by conclusions made from your own research from multiple different sources. Also thank you for promoting conversation! Love you guys! ❤️
Matt and Abby for president plzzz!!! They r so thoughtful and actually care about others