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@@RebeccaZungEsq Can you answer my ❓ I guess not because I'm a Empath. And you're a narcissist. I'm waiting everything is about the narcissist.well I'm drained out from the narcissist you are pathetic
I am powerful! I left his ass 7 months ago after 6 years of hell on earth. He had no clue and was in complete shock when I drove away. My mom had our daughter at the time bc I was truly scared for my life when I told him I was leaving him. Divorce with custody is difficult but I’m free, I have hope and it’s my life again. My daughter will actually know her mother… not a person just surviving life. I am powerful and better than that evil vile thing every single day. It’s an amazing life coming out of narcissistic abuse… I truly appreciate each day now.
@@laurawilliams7407 it is a perfection process in your spirit, remember in the Bible in book of Daniel...The king turned the fire up 7 times hotter than usual in the story of shadrach meshach and abednigo the only way to become more pure gold is to go through the hottest fire to get the Impurities out. It is a spiritual deliverance. We have to look only to Him for everything. No man should take the place of God and these men do, they take over everything so we have to repent of making them god and reject them as god completely and finally and turn to the true God above and through His son Jesus. Only then do we get true deliverance. I’m going through a lot now but I am stronger and stronger for going through infernos!!! Be blessed dear one!
@@Shut-up-Shelly Oh, I know! I said that mostly tongue in cheek. I spent 41+ years with a covert narc. I’m currently letting my divorce lawyer figure out how to deal with him. It’s going very well this way. Frustrating, but satisfying. And thanks be to God I do not have to talk to that menace to society anymore!
That's what I am really trying to do but it's really hard because I fell in love with him. This all started about a year and 4 months ago. He wants to keep me a secret and doesn't want anybody to know about me and him. He has never taken me out to dinner or lunch or breakfast or anything like that he is a hermit in his own home which is a beautiful home that he built. He and I would be so good together if you weren't a narcissist. In some areas we are very compatible.
That's trauma bonding and love addiction as addictive rollercoaster as cocaine. Get off their rollercoaster. What you describe is NOT love@@ginnydougan9664
1st Step - stop taking it personal. Care about them as much as they have shown to care about you. Once you become emotionally unattached to them, you’ll be able to identify when they’re attempting to provoke and trigger you. I used to feel the most annoyed when I KNEW he was doing or saying things deliberately to provoke me. So it wasn’t even the content of what they were using to provoke, it was that I KNEW he was doing it on purpose and so I would react to that. So what I mean by not taking it personal, this is where it starts. A narc is gotta be a narc. You can’t help them, you can’t love them as you would a normal person. They do what they do because it was who they were and are long before they met you. Become emotionally unattached. EXPECT their provocations!
@LooksLikeRain great advice! The moment I learned from these videos why the narcs do what they do, I shut down emotionally, blank eyes & face. Speak only when spoken to, no more interaction nothing! Not that there was much before except his victimhood, his injuries, his losses, his rotten colleagues and how stupid know nothing dumb I am at 64? No more. I have him slightly confused, he senses that I found new inner strength and I bet he's going to come begging for attention soon. I adore my sibling who is 70 but he should have pulled himself up like I did after traumatic childhood. I've had 45yrs of non stop trauma after a traumatic head injury at age 18. The after effects were hard to live with, skewed thinking, depressed decisions, terrible vulnerability, despair, leading to a lot of abuse by many men and many many losses but I simply had to rise above it and start over and over and over again. He's so disturbed by someone looking at him in a supermarket? He he :-) he doesn't know the mountains this little lady has climbed! It's just the confusion he caused in me that unsettled me these 15 months but I shall rise above the meanness he carries within...and he's actually unwittingly made me a victor over unfavourable circumstances once more! I still love him he's my brother and I'm sorry that his unhappy childhood made him choose victimhood over that of triumphant survivor; I shall never be mean or hurtful ever but he's gna know that he's messed with a strong lady. Get over the shock and hurt ladies, find yourself again, see the narcs for who they are, children at heart and reclaim your self, your confidence...and your Power!! I'm stuck on the farm with him and unfortunately cannot move away but I'm so blessed to have nature all around, the birds, my beloved dogs, my cement pot crafts, my wonderful succulent collection and hopefully a friend or two who know me. Going to buy myself a USB speaker, I have some music and am going to carve out happiness and joy from what is available. Most of all I'm going to apologize to Jesus for being angry and blaming him and thank him that he still has a plan for me no matter my age 🤗🤗 thank you Father God for being with us through it all and for leading me to the understanding that you gave me since yesterday afternoon. This is not the end but a different beginning 💖💖💖💖💖💖🙌🙌👏 love yourselves everyone, lots of TLC, trust in God who will strengthen you, and although change is tough it can help you grow even more. You may find a total change in the reality you once knew but watch how you'll grow!! By leaps and bounds. Do the mindset switch, seize your increased inner strength and show the kids your new persona cos you *are powerful and beautiful and worthy* God bless you with a New Beginning 🌹🌹🌹
@@phylvalen9991 Thank you Felicity. I know it's been a year since your comment but here it is to help others like me. I was falling apart for three days here wondering why it is taking so long to get answers from God. I've had years and years and years of abuse, pain, rejection. I was like, I can't take this no more. I'm checking out. Not in a killing myself kind of a way, though I've thought of it a few times. But I won't do it. I've always told myself, I will not die for those nasty narcs, though it is their ultimate goal. No way will I do that, just so they can say, in their sick, fakey sweet, drippey, make you want to vomit, bullcrap voices.... "ohhhh that is so sad that she killed herself, I truly tried to help her soooo hard and so often. She was just not right in the head." Oh! It would be crap like that coming from their fowl mouths. Lies, ALL LIES! Them never admitting to their constant stream of abuse, trickery, gas lighting, torture of the mind, body and soul. No they would never admit they drove you to it. So I decided I would NEVER give them that satisfaction. So what was happening was an anger I have never had before these last few days. Not that I've never had anger for what they have done or do. It's just been different these last three days. Just like I'm done and cooked! I'm an empathic person and I can't even imagine the anger I started feeling. I didn't care anymore. I started moving things in the house to trip with their minds. I was as cold as an ice cube. Sharing nothing. Feeling nothing. I hated it but I had to do it. Then I started feeling I was turning into them -the hideous narcs. I didn't care. Too heart broken to care. BUT God came through by your post here. I said a prayer where I told God He has to do something because that's it for me. Too much pain. The twisted evil they have done to me is enough! But another part to this is, I had my grand daughter whom they stole from me after I raised her for six years, no one caring, until they knew they could get supply that way. Kill my soul by taking her. No one cared about her but me for six years. Suddenly, they knew they could hurt me by doing this to me and bonus supply for them by hurting my grand daughter. I told my g.d. I wouldn't give up and she won't give up. I told her, God knows the truth and God will answer us. Four years later and alot of crap and pain...still no answer. Then I started in a depressed mode thinking maybe this is the answer. Unfairness, loss, abuse, wrongness and they get to win. Why I came to this video is for answers why they keep winning. I still feel broken but when I read your comment, I thought, what a lady you are. You are a beautiful soul. You said, you started over, again and again and again and again, but you were determined with a strength that I needed to be reminded of. I heard your voice of self approval and that we are the better than that evil. Another thing I couldn't understand in my life either was, why God? Why do I, who has done the right thing and being kind.... why do I have to start over? Felicity, your words came as a refresh. I figure now that we our the winners because we didn't give up. In the worst of situations we stayed kind and loving. We kept going in the strength that God gave us. We are the victors with beautiful and radiant souls! You are right, they can go and lose out, be defeated by the underhanded foulness. They can keep being their rotten selves. They can choose to be in the darkness and be the darkness. But we rise above because we ROSE above! So no, I'm not going to be like them to get fairness. I'm not going their route to have what and who was stolen from me. I'm not going to play their evil and dark games. I will be like you and others on here Felicity. I will keep the faith forever. I start over, and keep on succeeding! I'm reminded of the verse in the Bible that says, (through Jesus- the righteous falls seven times but he rises over and over-each time; but the wicked man shall fall into evil and will never get out of it.) A person who trusts in the Lord and depends on God throughout their life may trip and fall over and over again, but they won't stay down. Beautiful! All of us on here who show such love are beautiful victors no matter what happens. Always the victor with Jesus. Thank you Felicity for this comment you left. It helped so much. Peace.
I can be powerful, I can control my emotions, I can prepare wisely, i will speak in powerful language and use powerful body language! Your awesome Rebecca
I can be powerful through CHRIST because HE knows my heart, HE knows how I’ve been talked down to and HE knows how I’ve been bullied by my own family members! I am set apart because I have a higher value than those who continue to hurt me with words and emotional pain, but I AM POWERFUL and I turn to JESUS to help give me Wisdom by listening to this video and others like it that Empowers me! Thank you for making this video! 🙏❤️🙏
I lost my cool by text with the narcissist. I feel so stupid and regret it. But I feel so tired of being a sheep and good after keeping in so much hurt.
You are so correct on this coward's behaviours. I am toe to toe for near 8 yrs now. Child is aging out and not in the narc bubble of deceptions. 5 lawyers have failed while I keep winning the days. I believed and advocated for all you are saying. True power is not backing away from the negotiations. Judges (17) all know how I have met this and are onside with the right.
I feel your pain, as I also am 8 years and running - 9 Judges/15 lawyers and pretty paperwork...destroyed everything that was ever good, including a child.
I accidentally did this during a court hearing. They muted my microphone. He called me vile and really started showing who he was. I sure did offend him with my giggle. He needed me to lash out and get angry, I did the opposite and he was so mad about it his lies were no longer making sense and his motives were shining through. The judge I think really saw him this time.
Same! I like my lawyer a lot but since you can’t mention NPD specifically I’m just hoping they “get it” when I show them the texts and describe his behavior.
I will be POWERFUL! Think and keep in check my emotions. It’s so exhausting to care for these monsters. I’ve been the Empath all my life. See now how much WASTED TIME, on these Bully’s, Weak Humans. I’m Strong & Good.. I’ve been isolated in this last relationship, and in 6Months my life has changed negatively. I believe I will gain my higher ground! Never fold!! My forcefield is impenetrable, with persistence and resilience. Much love ❤️ You go people!! Good is on our side.
We used the negotiation worksheets and used many techniques and suggestions we learned from Zung. All I can say is: we are powerful!! The judge was pissed off at my husband’s narc ex-wife and gave her a good earful at the hearing. She tried to manipulate the system, the judge, my husband through courts, money, and children. We feel like we finally have the narc exposed and couldn’t have done it without these amazingly informative videos!! Thank you!!
My lawyer gave him so much rope he got comfortable and smug. Then with all the evidence I gave her I got stronger and he got desperate and sloopSo he was exposed and had to give up before he was held in contempt of court. The truth is their kryptonite... Thank you for everything you're doing...
I enjoy seeing people happy: If someone is sad, I feel sad and want to help as best I can. I'm on the defence a lot because of my x-narcissist and her flying monkey's. My wife and I may get short periods of rest from them, then here they come again; as if they're regrouping with new plans of attacks against my wife and I. It's very strange. Thank you for your videos and GOD Bless you.
They are one big huge BULLY ! Very well put ! I told a friend of mine once - Stop using big new words when speaking to me. I’m not impressed at all, I’m not your co worker or peer. We’re suppose to be friends - I see you as an equal to me . If you want to remain friends- then STOP ! She did - but I think only because I was her only friend & she knew I meant it & would walk away if she continued.
The narc is a male sibling I stay with, moved states to look after him after his wife passed. The charm, promises, gifts, spoiling, treating me like a queen I smiled from the moment I woke up, in my sleep, till I woke up the next morning! My face glowed, my heart was baffled with the joy, my mind and soul rejoiced. Slowly everything died including me. Hes stolen my smile, my joy and worst of all, my trust. He's turned me into a confused mixed up crazy feeling lady but just yesterday I decided no more. I've researched hundreds of amazing videos and am eternally grateful for the knowledge available to folks who can't afford counseling. I think I have him worried. I withdrew emotionally, put on my blank mask and don't speak unless spoken to and that only the necessary. I dont drive the nightmare two he trips to town anymore. He hasnt come out of his room all weekend and doesn't seek me out for his usual one sided conversations. I'm 64 and know nothing about life, people or anything, stupid and incompetent? Let's see my boy...just you watch how you're going to seek *me out!!
@@romepix hi romepix thanks so much for your comeback. I don't know what is real or isn't actually, I was so sure I'd gotten a handle on things. We're sibs but theres nothing. No communication no conversation nothing. I don't know who I am to him we're like distant strangers. When he doesn't have beer we dont meet. When he does he talks (all about himself/his challenges) and I listen. I don't speak at all and if I do bring up any personal issues there's nothing. The constant state of anxiety/uncertainty who am I really, maybe I'm too sensitive maybe I'm crazy, I feel like I'm losing myself. The constant pain in my body, sleep is terrible I can't turn over in bed and during the day all I do is cry. It's affected my relationships with my friends who are now approx 1 500 km away and on the farm I'm alone. And when he's home even more so. And he's totally oblivious of everything. He lives in his bedroom, I serve his meals there and spend my time on the front porch till bedtime. Shops ate two hrs away and I never get to go to my shops once he's 'had enough he just wants to get home.' Doubting my sanity totally. Yet to outsiders he's the greatest and all I hear is there's lots of people on the farm/at church who are fond if him. The thin.line between love and disgust has been breached and I don't know what I'm going to do. I need to get to the doctor for something for anxiety/depression but we never seem to have the time. He drives. I've run from abusive relationships my whole life but this one has me in a different cauldron lol. Some days I'm good but others I'm just breathing. Apologies for all this, thanks for reading? You must have your own issues similar and here I go rambling on. How are you doing? Are you in a similar situation? Who knows, maybe something will come up. Maybe I should be grateful for the lovely home, the farm, the dogs birds the garden, maybe I should try to find a happy medium and pretend that I do in fact live alone and retreat to my bedroom when he's around. It really sucks but I've been through so much I can handle this I think.Thanks sweetie take care and look after yourself. Love xx
@@phylvalen9991 Felicity. Now this is my second comment to you. I read this one second. So I say, again, you are an inspiration. You have strength that is admirable. These narc people can not do this anymore. I know what you are talking about in this comment here. There is a disdain and a love there for the narc. It's a weird feeling. I had a dream or nightmare that freaked me out towards my narc mom. I wouldn't ever hurt my Mom, but in the dream it represents what heartache I'm feeling. To what length have I suffered under her? All that she has done and still comes out looking like Doris Day!! How can this be, yes, I hear you. You are not alone in your feelings. We have to think differently. We must enjoy our lives no matter what they say or do. Your brother may be getting a kick from your emotion of those feelings you are having about his treatment of you. Not sure, but what I'm learning is you have to live your truth. Everything I'm learning keeps telling me that if they can't behave and react to you in a normal human kindness with respect and civility way, then blah to them. I'm going to enjoy my life! What do they really think of us if they treat us the way they do? So here we are worried about people who don't even have a warm thought for us? Not one? What a waste of energy to be worried about them. I think that is what they are getting from us. It's kind of like a spiritual thing. They are stealing or even a harsher word...they are raping our energy from us. Beating us til' there is nothing left? Sorry, I know that is strong words but we have to get a strong reality of this. A strong determination of resilience. Our freedom is important. I've been listening to these different narc help videos and I'm learning when you give no angst or fret to them or about them, they aren't getting your energy, your sparkle, your joy, your life source. In my opinion we can pray for them but let God be the right maker and the vindicator. There are other good, kind, giving, loving and normal people out there. We can have that. You didn't give up on the loved one. You just aren't entangled with them. There is a difference. Right? In fact we can start planning things. What have you wanted to do that you haven't yet? Also, maybe ask someone nearby, a neighbor or when you are in town if there is someone who can drive you into town to work at your own job. Save up some money to buy your own vehicle. Be able to move to place of your own. Or like you said just enjoy where you are at and if he wants to be a stick in the mud... Who cares. Release. I have to do that and I'm learning. It's a new feeling because I too am in tune with people's emotions but I'm tired of it. I need to take care of me. Your comment prior that I made my post too helped me today. I've been reading all these comments and answering some. But I hear you and i had to stand up for who, to me in just this comment section, seema like a very lovely lady. A good soul. We are strong. We can do this! Blessings.
I can be powerful. First day of court was the other day. I was organized, cool, brief, calm; he was unkempt, shaky, weak, and scared. I had supporting documents for proof; he had nothing. The judge had to give him more time, but the new paperwork warns him that he must prove his case during the next hearing or else it will all be over. I am winning!
Im begining the start of a divorce. And everything you said in this video is true. Ive got acouple weeks before my appointment with attorney and we still live together. She has lots of threats and shes a bully. Trying to mess with my life and job. Delt with this for 13 years.
Rebecca, just found you. You have been my saving grace, life lone in this horrible situation I let myself get into & am trying to dig myself out from this horrible hole. I let EVERYTHING GO...I'm not a victim, it was my fault, but the tools you are giving me here have been a great help.
My oldest son is the narc..I just tell him its your opinion..and your entitled to it..even if your wrong..Don't tell me how I've lived my life before you were born..don't EVER give your POWER to anyone!
Never give up!! I am on a year long deferred disposition for slapping him for sending me a text meant for another woman! But the divorce continues and I am going for all I deserve! Anything and everything after what he has done to me! Haven't seen him since June 5th and don't want to.
Regardless of your excuses, physical violence is never justified, just as he could never make an excuse for hitting you. NEVER give in to that. If he had the right lawyer, you could be eaten alive in court for that. Check yourself and protect yourself 👍
@GunHed17 my slap was unintentional as he knew, it was because he screamed and swore 3 inches from my face about his mistress! It was caused by tears and raw pain. I have taken a lot of put downs from him and have never even called him a nasty name. I don't fight I flight! As I did that night!
I CAN be powerful! Thanks so much for all you do. I get so much support from your facebook group. I've learned so much and am on my way out of my mess.
God Rebecca help.I’m in the fight of my life to take my life back. I’m trying to put my shields up and pony up my strength. This woman is so difficult. It’s been 6 years of a rollercoaster ride. It’s got to end. She’s so difficult to deal with. I’m a career ED RN and I wanted to be with her because we connected so fast and so strong. I watch you religiously.
Ms Zung, you have helped me so much. So many podcasts and videos have made me just feel sad but YOU made me feel empowered. Thinks will change TODAY WITH MY NARCISSIST FRIEND. Thank you kindly!
One narcissist female friend spat on me and told me that she will get me .I blocked her and she used a new number and I blocked it .she was so evil her eyes were so scary
Can a person ever get rid of a narc wife. She has now called my son’s place of employment and told them to watch him cause he is selling dope. He does take Adderall for ADHD. Random drug tests show that he was taking the medication. So now he has been suspended from his place of employment. She previously told my son what she had done. Just how in the world is this gonna be rectified. She left the home on 12.11.2020, with all the groceries in the pantry and furniture and my sons guns. My son and his two boys got home to an empty house. She left the boys furniture in place. She now has supervised visitation with the younger boy. The older boy refuses to see her cause he was her scapegoat, was mentally and physically abusive to him. The younger boy saw all this and is afraid of her. It’s a mess. After 15 years of her, he and the boys are in shell shock.
I needed to hear this, the divorce process started when he filed June 1st, hes dragging it out already by not turning in the paperwork needed for assets (discovery) What a mess already
PLEASE can you do a video on WHAT ?'s 2 ASK AN ATTORNEY Look every attorney knows how to sell themselves but are there CERTIAN questions so that I feel they are familiar w/Narcissism?
Isn't there a point where we can anger this person...and it become very dangerous? You seem to forget narcissist can be dangerous. I know from experience
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@@RebeccaZungEsq i Can be powerful
@@RebeccaZungEsq Can you answer my ❓ I guess not because I'm a Empath. And you're a narcissist. I'm waiting everything is about the narcissist.well I'm drained out from the narcissist you are pathetic
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I can be powerful
My narcissist is an attorney and with a successful financial business.
It takes patience and a lot of work but I will prevail and get what is fair!💪💪
Bless you 💜
Unarm the bully narcissist!
Absolutely no contact, don’t talk or even look at them.
100% Ignore!
I am powerful! I left his ass 7 months ago after 6 years of hell on earth. He had no clue and was in complete shock when I drove away. My mom had our daughter at the time bc I was truly scared for my life when I told him I was leaving him. Divorce with custody is difficult but I’m free, I have hope and it’s my life again. My daughter will actually know her mother… not a person just surviving life. I am powerful and better than that evil vile thing every single day. It’s an amazing life coming out of narcissistic abuse… I truly appreciate each day now.
I'm powerful in my Lord and my Saviour Jesus Christ who redeemed me from this chaotic demonic narc!
+Nayana Ramesh Praise the LORD amen. God bless. Agape love
Amen Nayana!!! Jesus is the only one who can give us the power to get them out for good!! Praise God for deliverance in Jesus name from these devils!!
I know that guy. How come
Jesus didn’t lead me the heck out of that hellish mess sooner...?
@@laurawilliams7407 it is a perfection process in your spirit, remember in the Bible in book of Daniel...The king turned the fire up 7 times hotter than usual in the story of shadrach meshach and abednigo the only way to become more pure gold is to go through the hottest fire to get the Impurities out. It is a spiritual deliverance. We have to look only to Him for everything. No man should take the place of God and these men do, they take over everything so we have to repent of making them god and reject them as god completely and finally and turn to the true God above and through His son Jesus. Only then do we get true deliverance. I’m going through a lot now but I am stronger and stronger for going through infernos!!! Be blessed dear one!
@@Shut-up-Shelly Oh, I know! I said that mostly tongue in cheek. I spent 41+ years with a covert narc. I’m currently letting my divorce lawyer figure out how to deal with him. It’s going very well this way. Frustrating, but satisfying. And thanks be to God I do not have to talk to that menace to society anymore!
Run. Run as fast as you can and don’t look back.
Yes yes run don't look back.that's destroy the narc
That's what I am really trying to do but it's really hard because I fell in love with him. This all started about a year and 4 months ago. He wants to keep me a secret and doesn't want anybody to know about me and him. He has never taken me out to dinner or lunch or breakfast or anything like that he is a hermit in his own home which is a beautiful home that he built. He and I would be so good together if you weren't a narcissist. In some areas we are very compatible.
That's trauma bonding and love addiction as addictive rollercoaster as cocaine. Get off their rollercoaster. What you describe is NOT love@@ginnydougan9664
I will be powerful. If God is with you, who can be against you
1st Step - stop taking it personal. Care about them as much as they have shown to care about you. Once you become emotionally unattached to them, you’ll be able to identify when they’re attempting to provoke and trigger you.
I used to feel the most annoyed when I KNEW he was doing or saying things deliberately to provoke me. So it wasn’t even the content of what they were using to provoke, it was that I KNEW he was doing it on purpose and so I would react to that. So what I mean by not taking it personal, this is where it starts. A narc is gotta be a narc. You can’t help them, you can’t love them as you would a normal person. They do what they do because it was who they were and are long before they met you. Become emotionally unattached. EXPECT their provocations!
@LooksLikeRain great advice! The moment I learned from these videos why the narcs do what they do, I shut down emotionally, blank eyes & face. Speak only when spoken to, no more interaction nothing! Not that there was much before except his victimhood, his injuries, his losses, his rotten colleagues and how stupid know nothing dumb I am at 64? No more. I have him slightly confused, he senses that I found new inner strength and I bet he's going to come begging for attention soon. I adore my sibling who is 70 but he should have pulled himself up like I did after traumatic childhood. I've had 45yrs of non stop trauma after a traumatic head injury at age 18. The after effects were hard to live with, skewed thinking, depressed decisions, terrible vulnerability, despair, leading to a lot of abuse by many men and many many losses but I simply had to rise above it and start over and over and over again. He's so disturbed by someone looking at him in a supermarket? He he :-) he doesn't know the mountains this little lady has climbed! It's just the confusion he caused in me that unsettled me these 15 months but I shall rise above the meanness he carries within...and he's actually unwittingly made me a victor over unfavourable circumstances once more! I still love him he's my brother and I'm sorry that his unhappy childhood made him choose victimhood over that of triumphant survivor; I shall never be mean or hurtful ever but he's gna know that he's messed with a strong lady. Get over the shock and hurt ladies, find yourself again, see the narcs for who they are, children at heart and reclaim your self, your confidence...and your Power!! I'm stuck on the farm with him and unfortunately cannot move away but I'm so blessed to have nature all around, the birds, my beloved dogs, my cement pot crafts, my wonderful succulent collection and hopefully a friend or two who know me. Going to buy myself a USB speaker, I have some music and am going to carve out happiness and joy from what is available. Most of all I'm going to apologize to Jesus for being angry and blaming him and thank him that he still has a plan for me no matter my age 🤗🤗 thank you Father God for being with us through it all and for leading me to the understanding that you gave me since yesterday afternoon. This is not the end but a different beginning 💖💖💖💖💖💖🙌🙌👏 love yourselves everyone, lots of TLC, trust in God who will strengthen you, and although change is tough it can help you grow even more. You may find a total change in the reality you once knew but watch how you'll grow!! By leaps and bounds. Do the mindset switch, seize your increased inner strength and show the kids your new persona cos you *are powerful and beautiful and worthy* God bless you with a New Beginning 🌹🌹🌹
@@phylvalen9991 Thank you Felicity. I know it's been a year since your comment but here it is to help others like me. I was falling apart for three days here wondering why it is taking so long to get answers from God. I've had years and years and years of abuse, pain, rejection. I was like, I can't take this no more. I'm checking out. Not in a killing myself kind of a way, though I've thought of it a few times. But I won't do it. I've always told myself, I will not die for those nasty narcs, though it is their ultimate goal. No way will I do that, just so they can say, in their sick, fakey sweet, drippey, make you want to vomit, bullcrap voices....
"ohhhh that is so sad that she killed herself, I truly tried to help her soooo hard and so often. She was just not right in the head." Oh! It would be crap like that coming from their fowl mouths. Lies, ALL LIES! Them never admitting to their constant stream of abuse, trickery, gas lighting, torture of the mind, body and soul. No they would never admit they drove you to it. So I decided I would NEVER give them that satisfaction. So what was happening was an anger I have never had before these last few days. Not that I've never had anger for what they have done or do. It's just been different these last three days. Just like I'm done and cooked! I'm an empathic person and I can't even imagine the anger I started feeling. I didn't care anymore. I started moving things in the house to trip with their minds. I was as cold as an ice cube. Sharing nothing. Feeling nothing. I hated it but I had to do it. Then I started feeling I was turning into them -the hideous narcs. I didn't care. Too heart broken to care. BUT God came through by your post here. I said a prayer where I told God He has to do something because that's it for me. Too much pain. The twisted evil they have done to me is enough! But another part to this is, I had my grand daughter whom they stole from me after I raised her for six years, no one caring, until they knew they could get supply that way. Kill my soul by taking her. No one cared about her but me for six years. Suddenly, they knew they could hurt me by doing this to me and bonus supply for them by hurting my grand daughter. I told my g.d. I wouldn't give up and she won't give up. I told her, God knows the truth and God will answer us. Four years later and alot of crap and pain...still no answer. Then I started in a depressed mode thinking maybe this is the answer. Unfairness, loss, abuse, wrongness and they get to win. Why I came to this video is for answers why they keep winning. I still feel broken but when I read your comment, I thought, what a lady you are. You are a beautiful soul. You said, you started over, again and again and again and again, but you were determined with a strength that I needed to be reminded of. I heard your voice of self approval and that we are the better than that evil. Another thing I couldn't understand in my life either was, why God? Why do I, who has done the right thing and being kind....
why do I have to start over? Felicity, your words came as a refresh. I figure now that we our the winners because we didn't give up. In the worst of situations we stayed kind and loving. We kept going in the strength that God gave us. We are the victors with beautiful and radiant souls! You are right, they can go and lose out, be defeated by the underhanded foulness. They can keep being their rotten selves. They can choose to be in the darkness and be the darkness. But we rise above because we ROSE above! So no, I'm not going to be like them to get fairness. I'm not going their route to have what and who was stolen from me. I'm not going to play their evil and dark games. I will be like you and others on here Felicity. I will keep the faith forever. I start over, and keep on succeeding! I'm reminded of the verse in the Bible that says, (through Jesus- the righteous falls seven times but he rises over and over-each time; but the wicked man shall fall into evil and will never get out of it.) A person who trusts in the Lord and depends on God throughout their life may trip and fall over and over again, but they won't stay down. Beautiful! All of us on here who show such love are beautiful victors no matter what happens. Always the victor with Jesus. Thank you Felicity for this comment you left. It helped so much. Peace.
I can be powerful, I can control my emotions, I can prepare wisely, i will speak in powerful language and use powerful body language! Your awesome Rebecca
Mindset is everything whether fighting a court case or pursuing a love interest.
Read your comment as the 111th , just synchronistic for me!
@@megbrie4207 I had to look up synchronistic in the dictionary.
@@megbrie4207 Just kidding.
@@sonnyca it isn’t there!😆 but it works for me! It’s a misspelling according to autocorrect! 🙃
I can be powerful through CHRIST because HE knows my heart, HE knows how I’ve been talked down to and HE knows how I’ve been bullied by my own family members! I am set apart because I have a higher value than those who continue to hurt me with words and emotional pain, but I AM POWERFUL and I turn to JESUS to help give me Wisdom by listening to this video and others like it that Empowers me! Thank you for making this video! 🙏❤️🙏
I lost my cool by text with the narcissist. I feel so stupid and regret it. But I feel so tired of being a sheep and good after keeping in so much hurt.
When they ghost you, you know you won!
My collegue from work started to ghost me after i applied no contact method. I see anger in her eyes.🙂
I can be powerful! I will keep my emotions in check!
I can be powerful
AWESOME! That's good to hear. Stay strong over there! 💪
You are one of the best attorneys. I've told my attorneys and they see how strong I've been through this narcissistic maze.Check.
I WILL BE POWERFUL ! Omg 😳 and PRAY MY BRAINS OUT 🙏
You are powerful! I'm praying, too!
I can relate with that personally
Its the verbal abuse ,punching, and lies that hurt.
I'm sorry to hear about that Dori, I hope that is all behind you now.
You are so correct on this coward's behaviours.
I am toe to toe for near 8 yrs now. Child is aging out and not in the narc bubble of deceptions.
5 lawyers have failed while I keep winning the days.
I believed and advocated for all you are saying. True power is not backing away from the negotiations. Judges (17) all know how I have met this and are onside with the right.
I feel your pain, as I also am 8 years and running - 9 Judges/15 lawyers and pretty paperwork...destroyed everything that was ever good, including a child.
I just laugh at the idiotic behavior and make a joke of it.... It shuts him up as he feels totally insulted
I accidentally did this during a court hearing. They muted my microphone. He called me vile and really started showing who he was. I sure did offend him with my giggle. He needed me to lash out and get angry, I did the opposite and he was so mad about it his lies were no longer making sense and his motives were shining through. The judge I think really saw him this time.
I do to. But mine used the police as a higher power to place me under her control. I call her, Mary the Mother of Jesus as she has no faults.
I WAS powerful and won in the divorce. Your description is absolutely correct.
Just joined the group! Thank you! I wish you were my dang lawyer!!
The group is wonderful and very supportive! It got me through a rough patch last year and helped me stay no contact.
Same here .. hope my lawyer is just as good as her to win me sole custody.
Yes a narcissist lawyer
Same! I like my lawyer a lot but since you can’t mention NPD specifically I’m just hoping they “get it” when I show them the texts and describe his behavior.
I will be POWERFUL! Think and keep in check my emotions. It’s so exhausting to care for these monsters. I’ve been the Empath all my life. See now how much WASTED TIME, on these Bully’s, Weak Humans. I’m Strong & Good.. I’ve been isolated in this last relationship, and in 6Months my life has changed negatively. I believe I will gain my higher ground! Never fold!! My forcefield is impenetrable, with persistence and resilience. Much love ❤️ You go people!! Good is on our side.
We used the negotiation worksheets and used many techniques and suggestions we learned from Zung. All I can say is: we are powerful!! The judge was pissed off at my husband’s narc ex-wife and gave her a good earful at the hearing. She tried to manipulate the system, the judge, my husband through courts, money, and children. We feel like we finally have the narc exposed and couldn’t have done it without these amazingly informative videos!! Thank you!!
My lawyer gave him so much rope he got comfortable and smug. Then with all the evidence I gave her I got stronger and he got desperate and sloopSo he was exposed and had to give up before he was held in contempt of court. The truth is their kryptonite... Thank you for everything you're doing...
Sorry he got SLOPPY!!!
Your counselling talks are empowering us at the receiving end of Narc rage.🙏Thank you respected Madam Rebecca.
Thank you! ❤
I enjoy seeing people happy: If someone is sad, I feel sad and want to help as best I can. I'm on the defence a lot because of my x-narcissist and her flying monkey's. My wife and I may get short periods of rest from them, then here they come again; as if they're regrouping with new plans of attacks against my wife and I. It's very strange. Thank you for your videos and GOD Bless you.
They are one big huge BULLY ! Very well put ! I told a friend of mine once - Stop using big new words when speaking to me. I’m not impressed at all, I’m not your co worker or peer. We’re suppose to be friends - I see you as an equal to me . If you want to remain friends- then STOP ! She did - but I think only because I was her only friend & she knew I meant it & would walk away if she continued.
The narc is a male sibling I stay with, moved states to look after him after his wife passed. The charm, promises, gifts, spoiling, treating me like a queen I smiled from the moment I woke up, in my sleep, till I woke up the next morning! My face glowed, my heart was baffled with the joy, my mind and soul rejoiced. Slowly everything died including me. Hes stolen my smile, my joy and worst of all, my trust. He's turned me into a confused mixed up crazy feeling lady but just yesterday I decided no more. I've researched hundreds of amazing videos and am eternally grateful for the knowledge available to folks who can't afford counseling. I think I have him worried. I withdrew emotionally, put on my blank mask and don't speak unless spoken to and that only the necessary. I dont drive the nightmare two he trips to town anymore. He hasnt come out of his room all weekend and doesn't seek me out for his usual one sided conversations. I'm 64 and know nothing about life, people or anything, stupid and incompetent? Let's see my boy...just you watch how you're going to seek *me out!!
I am glad you’ve made progress... how is it going since you last posted?
@@romepix hi romepix thanks so much for your comeback. I don't know what is real or isn't actually, I was so sure I'd gotten a handle on things. We're sibs but theres nothing. No communication no conversation nothing. I don't know who I am to him we're like distant strangers. When he doesn't have beer we dont meet. When he does he talks (all about himself/his challenges) and I listen. I don't speak at all and if I do bring up any personal issues there's nothing. The constant state of anxiety/uncertainty who am I really, maybe I'm too sensitive maybe I'm crazy, I feel like I'm losing myself. The constant pain in my body, sleep is terrible I can't turn over in bed and during the day all I do is cry. It's affected my relationships with my friends who are now approx 1 500 km away and on the farm I'm alone. And when he's home even more so. And he's totally oblivious of everything. He lives in his bedroom, I serve his meals there and spend my time on the front porch till bedtime. Shops ate two hrs away and I never get to go to my shops once he's 'had enough he just wants to get home.' Doubting my sanity totally. Yet to outsiders he's the greatest and all I hear is there's lots of people on the farm/at church who are fond if him. The thin.line between love and disgust has been breached and I don't know what I'm going to do. I need to get to the doctor for something for anxiety/depression but we never seem to have the time. He drives. I've run from abusive relationships my whole life but this one has me in a different cauldron lol. Some days I'm good but others I'm just breathing. Apologies for all this, thanks for reading? You must have your own issues similar and here I go rambling on. How are you doing? Are you in a similar situation? Who knows, maybe something will come up. Maybe I should be grateful for the lovely home, the farm, the dogs birds the garden, maybe I should try to find a happy medium and pretend that I do in fact live alone and retreat to my bedroom when he's around. It really sucks but I've been through so much I can handle this I think.Thanks sweetie take care and look after yourself. Love xx
@@phylvalen9991 Felicity. Now this is my second comment to you. I read this one second. So I say, again, you are an inspiration. You have strength that is admirable. These narc people can not do this anymore. I know what you are talking about in this comment here. There is a disdain and a love there for the narc. It's a weird feeling. I had a dream or nightmare that freaked me out towards my narc mom. I wouldn't ever hurt my Mom, but in the dream it represents what heartache I'm feeling. To what length have I suffered under her? All that she has done and still comes out looking like Doris Day!! How can this be, yes, I hear you. You are not alone in your feelings. We have to think differently. We must enjoy our lives no matter what they say or do. Your brother may be getting a kick from your emotion of those feelings you are having about his treatment of you. Not sure, but what I'm learning is you have to live your truth. Everything I'm learning keeps telling me that if they can't behave and react to you in a normal human kindness with respect and civility way, then blah to them. I'm going to enjoy my life! What do they really think of us if they treat us the way they do? So here we are worried about people who don't even have a warm thought for us? Not one? What a waste of energy to be worried about them. I think that is what they are getting from us. It's kind of like a spiritual thing. They are stealing or even a harsher word...they are raping our energy from us. Beating us til' there is nothing left? Sorry, I know that is strong words but we have to get a strong reality of this. A strong determination of resilience. Our freedom is important. I've been listening to these different narc help videos and I'm learning when you give no angst or fret to them or about them, they aren't getting your energy, your sparkle, your joy, your life source. In my opinion we can pray for them but let God be the right maker and the vindicator. There are other good, kind, giving, loving and normal people out there. We can have that. You didn't give up on the loved one. You just aren't entangled with them. There is a difference. Right? In fact we can start planning things. What have you wanted to do that you haven't yet? Also, maybe ask someone nearby, a neighbor or when you are in town if there is someone who can drive you into town to work at your own job. Save up some money to buy your own vehicle. Be able to move to place of your own. Or like you said just enjoy where you are at and if he wants to be a stick in the mud... Who cares. Release. I have to do that and I'm learning. It's a new feeling because I too am in tune with people's emotions but I'm tired of it. I need to take care of me. Your comment prior that I made my post too helped me today. I've been reading all these comments and answering some. But I hear you and i had to stand up for who, to me in just this comment section, seema like a very lovely lady. A good soul. We are strong. We can do this! Blessings.
I can be powerful. First day of court was the other day. I was organized, cool, brief, calm; he was unkempt, shaky, weak, and scared. I had supporting documents for proof; he had nothing. The judge had to give him more time, but the new paperwork warns him that he must prove his case during the next hearing or else it will all be over. I am winning!
I can be powerful!
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!
I am already powerful! I am in control of my feelings.
Are You Really Control Your Strong Feelings?
Im begining the start of a divorce. And everything you said in this video is true. Ive got acouple weeks before my appointment with attorney and we still live together. She has lots of threats and shes a bully. Trying to mess with my life and job. Delt with this for 13 years.
I believe that I am powerful and I believe that I can apply it to the the right areas of my life.
We placed our extreme Narc & flying monkey Delegates under “Independent forensic audit” on the boardroom. Thanks Rebecca for the inspiration! ❤️
I can be POWERFUL.
Thank you Rebekah for these videos. ❤
You sure deserve better, Ann! Stay strong! 💪
Rebecca, just found you. You have been my saving grace, life lone in this horrible situation I let myself get into & am trying to dig myself out from this horrible hole. I let EVERYTHING GO...I'm not a victim, it was my fault, but the tools you are giving me here have been a great help.
My oldest son is the narc..I just tell him its your opinion..and your entitled to it..even if your wrong..Don't tell me how I've lived my life before you were born..don't EVER give your POWER to anyone!
I am powerful and will stay powerful!😘
I CAN BE POWERFUL. I WILL BE POWERFUL. I AM POWERFUL!!!
I can be powerful! I am powerful! I am so grateful for the fact that I am powerful!
Thank you for this video , I wish you success and all the best of luck in your way and your life.
Thank you for making all the videos that you do. It is truly amazing.
Proud of you! You got this ❤
I can be powerful. I don’t want to be an emotional mess anymore.
I saw your video for the first time and really enjoyed your material. Thank you looking forward to the next series of video.
Never give up!! I am on a year long deferred disposition for slapping him for sending me a text meant for another woman! But the divorce continues and I am going for all I deserve! Anything and everything after what he has done to me! Haven't seen him since June 5th and don't want to.
Good for you.
Regardless of your excuses, physical violence is never justified, just as he could never make an excuse for hitting you. NEVER give in to that. If he had the right lawyer, you could be eaten alive in court for that. Check yourself and protect yourself 👍
@GunHed17 my slap was unintentional as he knew, it was because he screamed and swore 3 inches from my face about his mistress! It was caused by tears and raw pain. I have taken a lot of put downs from him and have never even called him a nasty name. I don't fight I flight! As I did that night!
I AM POWERFUL. Thank you so much.
TOTALLY!
I CAN POWERFULLY !!🙌🏼💪🏼
I can be powerful!
TOTALLY!
I had that said too me today .. how have they not been arrested after 13 years .. thankyou for everything xxx
She assumed the role of a power broker, but it’s not working! I’m starting to get my own power! OH RAH!
Thank you! I can be powerful!
I CAN be powerful! Thanks so much for all you do. I get so much support from your facebook group. I've learned so much and am on my way out of my mess.
Proud of you! You got this ❤
I AM POWERFUL!!
Cindy Campbell, hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!
No one ever talks about dealing with someones partners Narc family members who do everything in their power to get rid of them (the empath).
I am more powerful day by day..
I am powerful!! I can do this.
I am powerful! Incredible detail on how an empath would feel. You are amazing.
God Rebecca help.I’m in the fight of my life to take my life back. I’m trying to put my shields up and pony up my strength. This woman is so difficult. It’s been 6 years of a rollercoaster ride. It’s got to end. She’s so difficult to deal with. I’m a career ED RN and I wanted to be with her because we connected so fast and so strong. I watch you religiously.
Run!!!
Get out and run!!
When you stop caring...they want your life they wanna become you......
Ms Zung, you have helped me so much. So many podcasts and videos have made me just feel sad but YOU made me feel empowered. Thinks will change TODAY WITH MY NARCISSIST FRIEND. Thank you kindly!
I am POWERFUL!!!
You know the powerful language example you described it's almost the exact words he uses with me!!
Sharon Sason,your lovely smile can make the news!
I am powerful!
"I CAN BE POWERFUL!"
I am POWERFUL!! Awesome video!! Thanks for sharing!!
I CAN BE POWERFUL!
I CAN BE POWERFUL!!
Outstanding video rebecca great job
Omg I love you I can be powerful I AM POWERFUL THE OTHER PERSON IS MY SISTER I've ALMOST GIVEN UP AFEW TIMES
I CAN BE POWERFUL!!!
I CAN BE POWERFUL!!!!
Thanks wont give up
One narcissist female friend spat on me and told me that she will get me .I blocked her and she used a new number and I blocked it .she was so evil her eyes were so scary
I AM powerful!
I’m a narcissist magnet 🧲 I can be powerful!
Can a person ever get rid of a narc wife. She has now called my son’s place of employment and told them to watch him cause he is selling dope. He does take Adderall for ADHD. Random drug tests show that he was taking the medication. So now he has been suspended from his place of employment. She previously told my son what she had done. Just how in the world is this gonna be rectified.
She left the home on 12.11.2020, with all the groceries in the pantry and furniture and my sons guns. My son and his two boys got home to an empty house. She left the boys furniture in place. She now has supervised visitation with the younger boy. The older boy refuses to see her cause he was her scapegoat, was mentally and physically abusive to him. The younger boy saw all this and is afraid of her. It’s a mess.
After 15 years of her, he and the boys are in shell shock.
I'm very powerful. I kicked him out.
I AM POWERFUL !!!
Yay Rebecca, this is a "Battle Cry". 👍🏼 💥 😉
I needed to hear this, the divorce process started when he filed June 1st, hes dragging it out already by not turning in the paperwork needed for assets (discovery) What a mess already
I will be powerful!
Best way to teach a narc a lesson is play there game and set traps
I have the POWER
Steepling ❤️❤️❤️! TY Rebecca 🍒
I CAN be powerful!
I CAN be powerful!! ❤❤❤
I’m powerful ❤️
I can be Powerful 💥
I can, yes !
I am powerful!!!!!!!
I can be powerful. Thank you so much for this info.
I can and am Powerful
PLEASE can you do a video on
WHAT ?'s 2 ASK AN ATTORNEY
Look every attorney knows how to sell themselves but are there CERTIAN questions so that I feel they are familiar w/Narcissism?
I can be powerful thank you Rebecca.
I can be Powerful 💪
Thank you so much
I AM powerful!!
What scum they are. Thank u amazing lady x I AM powerful i got rid of the lunatic 7 yrs ago.
Isn't there a point where we can anger this person...and it become very dangerous? You seem to forget narcissist can be dangerous. I know from experience
Greetings from sunny SW Florida. I am so grateful for all you are doing. I found your Facebook page and just applied to join. Many blessings to you