Can you share how much you spent on one grocery shopping and how often do you go? I want to compare to mine to see if I over spent on my grocery shopping?!
i wouldn't go. speaking from experience. i went to my HS ex's and i know the bride was not comfortable with me there but put up a good face. there were eyes on me that just made me feel like i shouldn't be there. exactly...let this be THEIR moment. i'd send a gift and best wishes and ask to see photos
Ceremony and dip sounds like the way to go. I’ve done that. You’re showing love and support by being there for the main event but then giving them their moment at the reception. The house is looking fab, btw.
something feels so good about watching your videos, Daniel. I love the longer durations, the house updates, and the honest talks in your car. This has become my favorite way to take a break from studying for my finals. I love you! If it is not too weird of a suggestion, I hope you can make a car tour video so we can see pros and cons of your SUV!
As an older “wiser” viewer, you should view it as an honor to be invited, you were an integral part of his life and therefore, you’re still important to him to be invited. You wouldn’t have been had you not. Having been married myself, a lot of people don’t make the cut when planning a wedding, because imply those most important to you get sent an invitation. You may end up regretting not going also, and would it hurt his feelings if you don’t go? Still being friends with all of my exes , I have deep affection for them all and consider them lifelong friends I will cherish always. So GO, bring a date and have a wonderful time!
“This is a piece of beach wood I stole from the beach that’s I’m going to use for something….. I stole it during a full moon so it’s important to me.” I am here for these immaculate vibes.
As someone who has gone to an exes wedding, it was something I actually spoke to both together about whether my going could take away some of their magic. They said no and that they had already discussed it before inviting me. I had a great time, and I am so happy I went to support their love.
I went to my ex’s as well, however didn’t know her (hadn’t met her, lol). At times I felt like the attention was on me… not in a bad way (towards me) but I weirdly got a lot of attention from both sides of his (separated) parents (and their partners) and when we played a dinner game his friends were actually relying on me for most the answers and not in a subtle way, lol. As far as I knew she didn’t mind or notice. I think it just depends how close you stayed connected etc. Unfortunately they are divorced now but I’m not surprised, lol.
Honestly, I feel like you should go to the wedding, & that deep down you want to go & feel like you should. You speak so highly of the couple, etc. & you are just a supportive person, so do it! You will have such a good time being in your old neck of the woods, seeing people you know, dressing up, showing out, & probably meet someone ☺
@@MisterPreda I don’t think you should go. It’s a polite invite but it would be more respectful to step away and not take away from the day like you said.
Mister preda to me it would feel uncomfortable 😔 you can still be in touch with them later . It's a respectable thing to do .I love your videos .It's therapeutic for me ❤😊
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
You seriously give me motivation to work on my yard 😭💞 I have owned my house for 2 years and was always super lazy about it this whole time but your garden ideas are so lovely and I now have an obsession with gardening. Heheheh thank youuuu boo 😘
Go to the wedding. Go have fun, see whoever you want, and live it up. Not going would probably be worse honestly. They invited you, they want you to be there, even if it's a formality. Get back in touch with the people you haven't seen in a while. It could even be a way for closure. Not for what happened in the past, but for the future for you both. Be there for all the love!
It takes maturity to remain friends with an ex after it’s all said and done. You should definitely go to his wedding as long as the fiancé is okay with it and you’re going for the right reasons. Were you invited by the ex because he genuinely likes you or does he have motives? Take a plus one if you are feeling nervous about the upcoming nuptials. My best friend of 30 years has been married and divorced, but our relationship has remained strong. His influence on me is undeniable. After years of growing together and taking joy in his joy , makes it impossible to let our friendship go. We have just always worked better as friends. We did not like each other for some odd reason while we were together. As friends, he knows that I’ve nurtured his heart and he depends on that since he doesn’t trust that with just anybody. He didn’t seem to remember that while we were together and it caused problems. I hope he finds that true love, that’ll take care of him more than I do and he can trust them. Until then, I’m going to be here because it’s what he deserves. We just could never make it work romantically, but I’m so glad he’s still in my life. This world is a better place with him in it. And for those reasons, I’d be there for any milestone he has.
I’m only a couple minutes in to the vid but the way you talk about Erewhon is one of the reasons why I love you 😂 You’ve always remained so down to earth and relatable!! (No shade to those who do shop at Erewhon btw! I just personally can’t justify spending those prices no matter how much I make lol)
D - If you want to go to the wedding & feel like it won't impact your inner zen, emotional & mental health adversely, then go for it. 😃🎊🎉 If they didn't want you there, they wouldn't have invited you. Long story short, check in with your Heart 💖 (not your mind) on if you should go. p.s. - Don't let that spinach go to waste. Cut up those strawberries & some red onions, add them to the spinach along with some walnuts, drizzle some balsamic glaze & a nice olive oil with some goat cheese ... perfection 👌
Daniel, i absolutely look forward to your videos. you shine so bright and I can only imagine you do in person even more. You are someone I would be friends with. You are an inspiring soul, and I hope you know that!
I went to my Ex’s wedding two years ago lol! His sister is my best friend and I’ve gotten close to their family, including his now wife so she actually invited me! And despite me being happily married, because there are no feelings there and I’m closer to his wife and family over him (I don’t really have any relationship with him), it was not weird and it was so nice to see them happy and say vows! Plus our relationship was so long ago that it doesn’t compare to any current!
I say do whatever feels right and make you feel comfortable. Ultimately, it's your decision whether you want to attend or not, but you are invited, so it's clear your presence is welcome 💙 (dare I say needed lol) In all seriousness, I would love to see a video on what to get a person for a wedding present because similarly I have an old friend getting married but don't know what to get them 😅 Keep doing you babes. I love how transparent and vulnerable you are on camera. It really feel like I'm watching/listening to a best friend 🫶🏼
I am loving your vlogs! I was thinking last week “Daniel would be such a great friend to have” so, here’s from a bestie allllll the way over in Western Australia 😅 but seriously, your vlogs are delightful and help me when my partner is away for work ❤
I've been to a friend i had a huge crush on wedding and i loved her. We were never together but I really care for her. I am glad she's happy and I was there regardless of our past. It was her day and I was just supporting and celebrating her. I feel like if you can be friends with an ex celebrating the moments in thier lives would be more important than focusing on the heartbreak.
I have seen a few people in drought areas do a lawn full of clovers instead of grass and it looks green and beautiful and magical all year round. It’s stunning! You barely have to cut them. I’m waiting to get a yard I can do this in even though I am nowhere near a drought I just think it looks magical!!
I think you should go! If you’re truly his friend, no matter the history, you need to be there and cheer them on. I think because of the history and friendship you still have with him, not going would make things weird and would make it seem like the energy has changed now that they’re married. Treat him the same you should any other friend and SHOW UP FOR HIM! 🥰❤
Girl, I have NEVER clicked so fast in my life. I of course knew it wasn't Joey but I was like, what have they been keeping from me??? Did I miss something somehow?? Phew. On another note, those glasses are EVERYTHING on you. I know I've said it 100xs but seriously. So good. Anyways, Thanks for the panic attack bestie! 😘✌ Edit: I LOVE those lavender bushes! So pretty. The front has an old world charm. I can't wait to see it when you're done!! I love your vibe. The fireplace with a seating area is gonna be COZY!! OMG you have GOT to see Colleen's backyard! You would be in heaven and die 1000 deaths! It is DIVINE! Who do you think you are wearing a kilt?? Holy sh*tballs Daniel! So glam.🥰 Btw, you're in your own head about the wedding. They invited you because they want you there. I don't think they are worried about you being there. BUT only go if it's gonna make YOU feel comfortable because this is your life and you have to live it. I think it's sweet they invited you!❤
You should freeze your spinach if you're using it in just smoothies that way they're not rotting in the back of your fridge. This is what I do because I was having my spinach rot in my fridge so now I just freeze some in sandwich ziplock bags and I'll take one out to throw in my smoothie no more wasting spinach!!
I understand where you coming from about going to your ex’s wedding. I say do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you don’t think you will feel comfortable going to your ex’s wedding, then don’t go and just send a nice gift for the both of them. They did invite you though, so they want you there. But if you don’t feel comfortable going, then don’t go. Don’t force yourself go and feel uncomfortable. You will make the right choice! Love your videos! Especially your backyard makeover! It looks so good and pretty!❤️💕🥰😁☺️
no need to worry so much about people judging any kind of mess, it’s just real life. most of us aren’t perfectly neat and tidy 100% of the time, that’s just not realistic. anyway- super excited for more episodes of unmess, your work is really inspiring especially since i’ve been kind of stuck in a rut lately with decor
You MUST turn your beautiful arch into a magic garden doorway! Idk how well you are with woodworking, but you should get into it and learn to create and attach a door shaped like the entirety of the arch with vines growing on it- and the door either made out of like bundled thin sticks along a thin wooden base or made in a way where the vines can easily grow. Ugh I can picture ideas so well but I stink at describing them! (or if not wood. Make it our of some other natural material like bamboo or something that just looks magical! Like iron or something..but that might be too heavy..who knows..just spouting ideas!!)
I think you should go and I think you should take your plus 1. If y'all's relationship is that great then you being there will only make the memories that much better.
The front yard vision sounds stunning. I’m so glad you mentioned the tree trimming. I was thinking the same thing. You need a little sun to shine down for your plants ❤
Yes Daniel, go to the wedding, you have a good relationship with them and for them to have put the time and energy in having you and a plus 1 there speaks volumes. Bring the plus 1, sprinkle your love around to those who care about you and haven’t seen you in a while! Get them dancing shoes on and have a fabulously fun time!!No regrets!!!
I do understand exactly what you mean about not going to the ex's wedding, I was invited to my ex's wedding by his new wife, which I thanked her and respectfully I didn't go. We do grandkids birthdays and our adult children's birthdays, but we don't hang out with each other and I am like you, it's their special day and you want to respect that, I really admire you for that. Loving the garden makeover, it's given me a lot of ideas for my house and outdoor landscaping around my yard.
So something about plants from big box stores like Lowe’s or Home Depot, they tend to be root bound (roots all grown into each other inside the pot and basically choking each other of nutrients) or overwatered and have root rot. Both issues are reversible with time and patience. There’s a woman on here named Krystal who does loads of videos on how to rescue the box store plant babies.
❤❤ I wanted to give you a little advice about going to this wedding. I'm an older black woman in her fifties who loves watching your videos. I think if your ex invited you he wants you to be there. You were an important part of his past and he wants you to be an important part of his future. Never think you're going to this wedding and all the attention is going to be on you.😅 Even though you will look stunning as usual. Just think going to this wedding you are celebrating his and his partner future life together. I think they both would be dissappointed if you don't go. That's my advice and i don't know if you will read this but i felt compelled to leave this comment. Life is short just enjoy the ride. ❤❤
Daniel! If you want to upgrade your morning oatly yogurt with berries. I love to premade chia seed pudding. 1 cup of milk. Vanilla extract. 1/4 cup of chia seed. Add sweetner of choice to taste. I like stevia and low calorie maple syrup. Add that with the yogurt and berries add some bananas and yogurt and such a filling a complete meal with omega 3s which are great for 🧠 health.
Your vision for your front yard, sounds very beautiful!! Can't wait to see it when it's finished!!! You give you alot of inspiration for my front and back yards.
good way to also use that spinach. Toast up a slice or two of that bread top it with some of your hummus and some sauteed spinach with some minced garlic, blk pepper and sea salt, then over top of that add a little bit of scrambled egg whites or a fried egg and a little bit of sriracha sauce if you like some heat, if not, just a little bit of black pepper . Soooo good. also good with a little sauteed mushrooms with the spinach. Changes up the avocado toast into a mediterranean hummus toast. You can also add a little feta if you want but hold back on the sea salt, if you do!
Hello from spain. You should go to the wedding as they have invited you, as they want people and family at one of they're most special days. It's an honor that they think of you as a special friend and they want you to share that day with them. If they didn't value your friendship they wouldn't of invited you. You were a big part of each others lives and continue to be so. And it's good the fact that you are still good friends after all these years. Cherish what you have and make new memories. I really think you would feel like crap if you didn't go. Xx
A couple of things… your house looks gorgeous and you have impeccable taste. Who you invite to a wedding is a well thought out decision, which makes me think you are really wanted there. Also I’m sure at least a few of his loved ones would know you’re invited. It might be good to talk with them about your feelings? Or talk with them about attending just the ceremony, or just sending a gift. Do what you’re comfortable with ❤️, just let them know you care and that the friendship is important to you. I think it sounds like a lovely story with your ex and his fiancé. It was interesting to see some of the brands of groceries are the same as in Australia, and that you had chickpea pasta but canned garbanzo beans - they’re all called chick peas here but may sometimes be called chickpeas on one side of a can and garbanzo on the other for imported goods. I love love that you air dry clothes, I didn’t think Americans did that, but it’s more eco and when dried outside smell gorgeous. Your wardrobe clean out is impressive! As a social worker I think it’d be great if you donated directly to an agency where they will be free for vulnerable people, although I understand that requires more organising that dropping off at an op shop (thrift stores I think you call them).
When is Unmess episode 2 coming!? I stay watching my youtube feed like a HAWK on Sundays. 😹 I love your videos, Daniel! Never stop being you, you're wonderful. ❤
Awww sweetie your heart is so kind. Unfortunately no one but you knows what's best for you and your heart. If going to the wedding will benefit you in a positive way then go by all means but if it will hurt you in anyway don't go. Doing something simply because someone else wants you to when it doesn't serve you to do so is toxic to your emotional health. Just want you happy whatever you decide.
when you mentioned the idea of going to the gym with friends being great for keeping each other inspired to work out i thought "that's so true" the kilt looks super good on you and the top you had on while wearing the kilt looks so good as well i love that outfit
I loved everything about this vlog. I absolutely can’t wait to see the front lawn transformation. I could completely envision what you were describing! Thank you for always being down to earth.
My son went to Japan over the Christmas holiday to go to his exs reception. He also took his girlfriend & they had a great time. It's wonderful that they stayed friends. His ex was his first also. So don't do something you might regret later.
I think you've got the right idea, attend the ceremony then head off. A nice gift, not too sure bout the couples massage as it could come accross like you are over compensating, but something nice, maybe a nice piece for their house or something, a keepsake perhaps. You have good taste so I am sure you could find something that would be perfect. ❤❤❤❤❤
You are literally one of the most adorable people on the planet. My opinion on the wedding of your ex? If you have been invited then that means they want you there. Don't overthink it. Just go with your heart.
Daniel as a long time supporter I just love your content and wanted to tell you every video you put out is just so cute and peaceful. You are such a thoughtful person and just so down to earth Ily
Don't go, one of my ex-had invited me to her wedding and hypersensitive as you were, I felt that it was better if I didn't go. She was relieved when she called me and asked me to reconsider and I told her I was thinkingg the same thing. I didn't go and send them a TK note with my best wishes. There are times where not going is the best choice for both parties.
I love fresh line dried clothes, plus they don't shrink. 💕 I really don't have a good answer about the wedding but I'd probably send a gift, and like you said, a great gift.
I gave one of my online friends a box of my clothes I picked out just for her and she loved it so much! Sharing is such a beautiful thing to do with the people in our lives or strangers via donation. I will say that the SO & I raced to the donation store the other day because they accidentally donated my boots that still had my medical braces in them!😅 Luckily the store helped us find them and so I've been finding different items to donate to them to make up for taking them back.😂 Thank you for your vlogs, Daniel.❤
Carrageenan (mentioned on banana milk) is extracted from red seaweeds and often used in foods for gelling, stabilizing, thickening agent. It is being phased out of alot of foods due to it causing inflammation in the GI tract for many.🤓
I love your videos so much, I always curl up in bed to watch them and it just gives off such relaxing and cozy vibes... almost as if I was on a facetime call with a bestie!!! Have you ever thought about doing some videos about what you eat in a week? I've been looking for new recipes! Stay stunning as alwaysss
I completely understand where you're coming from. If it where me I wouldn't go for the reasons you said. Plus , its sweet he wants me there but at that time you can be happy for them from afar. You had and you will.always have those memories with him . I would however let him know why you are not going . It will keep your relationship honest and that is hard to keep 😊 hope this helps
I like the idea of you going to the ceremony and not the reception if you want to go to the wedding to celebrate both of them but not take attention away from them. But also, if you want to send them a really nice gift like the couple massages or something adjacent that is also a good idea, so ultimately it is up to you if you want to go to the wedding or not ❤️
You can freeze spinach and use it in many recipes, especially soup! 😊 I have the same issue In not using it quickly enough before it goes bad, so I freeze the portion I know wouldn’t get used in time. Hope this helps Daniel!!😊❤ BTW, LOVE your backyard vision! Outdoor ovens/grills/stone pizza ovens are my dream to have at my future place! 😊❤
Always so creative. It just seems to come naturally to you. And yes, go to the wedding. The invite shows they love and respect you, so clearly they want you to be there and be part of the occasion 😊
Can't wait for your front garden renovation!!!! I feel you so much with those ¨tressure¨ finds at the nurseries :D can't resist sometimes ;) As to the wedding, if they invited you it's clear they want you in their special day, I'd say go, enjoy, but don't look better than them, that would be rude ;/
I think you should go. You're in your head too much about it. Go to the ceremony and get the vibe, and if it's too much then dip. But I think u should go!
Have you talked to your ex and his man about your reservations of not attending? I understand your dilemma for sure. But I’d say bring it up to them and talk it out and that right there should give you, your answer. They obviously invited you but maybe the did it out of kindness or maybe they reallllllly do want you there. If you choose not to talk to them about the reservations you have, just go with your gut. Toss a coin, in the air you’ll know which one you want it to be. That’s my advice. 🤷🏻♀️ Anyways loving all the content you been putting out and loving the house stuff. I can’t wait to see the front of the house when you have it all finished! Totally will feel like the countryside in Italy.
Let's do talk about that facial hair lol. You know ive been waiting for this moment. You look divine as always. Loving the vision for the front yard. I love how isolated in green it is. Very beautiful space. Cant wait to see you bring it to life. PS : The kilt... yesss
I hate that I didn't find you long ago bc I'm already obsessed watching your videos. You are hands down one of the sweetest people ever and I just adore you!!! I think your ideas for the front yard are fabulous and I can't wait to see it!!!❤
@Daniel About your wedding question: I get all that you’re saying. How about: what if this was your last chance to see some of these people? I know you don’t wait to tell people that you love them; what about carrying that spirit to not waiting to see them? ❤
Try frozen spinach - that way you can store it longer and also it's still great in smoothies. I like to keep my kale frozen in tupperware and sometimes I add frozen cilantro from a tupperware.
I love the whole reason why you don't want to go to the wedding. I think if you go, you go for the whole thing, or just send a gift so if you are thinking about it and not overthinking it I think you can find your answer in that. It is probably a gift. I think that is a wonderful heart thing to do.
Hi Daniel, love the video! Regarding the wedding, I think you might be getting in your own head a little bit - if they didnt want you there, they wouldn't have asked you to go, at least thats how I would look at it; do whatever you think is best for you and I'm sure they'll appreciate whatever you decide to do
You're such a sweet person. Glad you have more confidence. You got this sweetie. I get what you're saying about the wedding. My suggestion...go to the ceremony. Say hello to the family short & sweet. Wish the couple well & you're right even with all the luv & respect y'all have for one another... don't go to the reception. Just send a special sweet gift. Keep gaining all the confidence & just be you...be happy. Luv to see you smile & laugh. (((HUGS))😘
Normally, people dry clothes outside away from the front of the house so it is hidden. FYI: 100% cotton will shrink if washed in hot water and put in the dryer as well.
You are so enjoyable to watch. I'm so happy that you're vlogging and that your confidence and happiness continues to grow. I just really appreciate that you keep it real and share your vulnerable moments. That's so brave to do. Continue being you. Much love.
Omg Daniel when you were talking about your ex and how he was your first in everything, it’s so personal but you said it so nonchalantly! 😂 I say that in a good way and love that you can easily share that!
I love how you talk in detail of what you want to do and I can envision it it's gonna be beautiful just like everything else you have created. Love you and your amazing heart ❤️
Go with the gift option, you will still see those people at the ceremony and they may ask you to come to the reception in a way that’s hard to say no lol but either way if they invited you then obviously you are a guest that they took the time to pick and ofc would love you to be there
If they felt that it would be awkward they wouldn’t invite you. They obviously know you well, so they know you want the best for them. Only go if you feel comfortable seeing your ex move on. Sounds like you are comfortable, plus maybe you will find your new love there. Love ya, and do all the flowers you planted come back every year? XoxO
Sorry this wasnt up yesterday but I think its worth the wait! See you Sunday with a new video! ❤
Can you share how much you spent on one grocery shopping and how often do you go? I want to compare to mine to see if I over spent on my grocery shopping?!
My parents have the same lavender plants. It's gorgeous after it fully blooms!
About the ex wedding, don’t attend, just better to send him a gift. You will regret it to go afterwards.
Dude same
i wouldn't go. speaking from experience. i went to my HS ex's and i know the bride was not comfortable with me there but put up a good face. there were eyes on me that just made me feel like i shouldn't be there. exactly...let this be THEIR moment. i'd send a gift and best wishes and ask to see photos
Ceremony and dip sounds like the way to go. I’ve done that. You’re showing love and support by being there for the main event but then giving them their moment at the reception. The house is looking fab, btw.
something feels so good about watching your videos, Daniel. I love the longer durations, the house updates, and the honest talks in your car. This has become my favorite way to take a break from studying for my finals. I love you! If it is not too weird of a suggestion, I hope you can make a car tour video so we can see pros and cons of your SUV!
Thanks for being here! Good luck on finals babe!!
As an older “wiser” viewer, you should view it as an honor to be invited, you were an integral part of his life and therefore, you’re still important to him to be invited. You wouldn’t have been had you not. Having been married myself, a lot of people don’t make the cut when planning a wedding, because imply those most important to you get sent an invitation. You may end up regretting not going also, and would it hurt his feelings if you don’t go? Still being friends with all of my exes , I have deep affection for them all and consider them lifelong friends I will cherish always. So GO, bring a date and have a wonderful time!
bae u scared me. thought joey was hiding smthing
Same
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I thought the same thing.😅
He got me for ONE second! 😂 I said to myself...he's talking about a different ex!
Same😂
“This is a piece of beach wood I stole from the beach that’s I’m going to use for something….. I stole it during a full moon so it’s important to me.” I am here for these immaculate vibes.
Chaos really!!!
As someone who has gone to an exes wedding, it was something I actually spoke to both together about whether my going could take away some of their magic. They said no and that they had already discussed it before inviting me. I had a great time, and I am so happy I went to support their love.
I went to my ex’s as well, however didn’t know her (hadn’t met her, lol). At times I felt like the attention was on me… not in a bad way (towards me) but I weirdly got a lot of attention from both sides of his (separated) parents (and their partners) and when we played a dinner game his friends were actually relying on me for most the answers and not in a subtle way, lol. As far as I knew she didn’t mind or notice. I think it just depends how close you stayed connected etc. Unfortunately they are divorced now but I’m not surprised, lol.
Honestly, I feel like you should go to the wedding, & that deep down you want to go & feel like you should. You speak so highly of the couple, etc. & you are just a supportive person, so do it! You will have such a good time being in your old neck of the woods, seeing people you know, dressing up, showing out, & probably meet someone ☺
I genuinely feel like Daniel is the sweetest person on the whole entire planet
Most days!!!
He's one of the sweetest
Yesss until you cross him according to Laura and manny he’s very protective which is sweet but not for the person who fucks with him lol
Just go already! If they’ve invited you, they want you there. Go and be proud, head up diva!
Okay damn!!! PERIOD
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@@MisterPreda I don’t think you should go. It’s a polite invite but it would be more respectful to step away and not take away from the day like you said.
@@christyr6201 I'm with you on this also to me it would feel uncomfortable 😔 you can still be in touch with them later . respectable thing to do .
Mister preda to me it would feel uncomfortable 😔 you can still be in touch with them later . It's a respectable thing to do .I love your videos .It's therapeutic for me ❤😊
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@David Velasquez Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@David Velasquez Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
The back garden is looking so good! Can't wait to see the transformation in the front!
You seriously give me motivation to work on my yard 😭💞 I have owned my house for 2 years and was always super lazy about it this whole time but your garden ideas are so lovely and I now have an obsession with gardening. Heheheh thank youuuu boo 😘
Go to the wedding. Go have fun, see whoever you want, and live it up. Not going would probably be worse honestly. They invited you, they want you to be there, even if it's a formality.
Get back in touch with the people you haven't seen in a while. It could even be a way for closure. Not for what happened in the past, but for the future for you both. Be there for all the love!
You're a very kind, giving man, Daniel. And I do not doubt for one second your mad gardening skills! ... it will be gorgeous!
It takes maturity to remain friends with an ex after it’s all said and done. You should definitely go to his wedding as long as the fiancé is okay with it and you’re going for the right reasons. Were you invited by the ex because he genuinely likes you or does he have motives? Take a plus one if you are feeling nervous about the upcoming nuptials.
My best friend of 30 years has been married and divorced, but our relationship has remained strong. His influence on me is undeniable. After years of growing together and taking joy in his joy , makes it impossible to let our friendship go. We have just always worked better as friends. We did not like each other for some odd reason while we were together. As friends, he knows that I’ve nurtured his heart and he depends on that since he doesn’t trust that with just anybody. He didn’t seem to remember that while we were together and it caused problems. I hope he finds that true love, that’ll take care of him more than I do and he can trust them. Until then, I’m going to be here because it’s what he deserves. We just could never make it work romantically, but I’m so glad he’s still in my life. This world is a better place with him in it. And for those reasons, I’d be there for any milestone he has.
I’m only a couple minutes in to the vid but the way you talk about Erewhon is one of the reasons why I love you 😂 You’ve always remained so down to earth and relatable!!
(No shade to those who do shop at Erewhon btw! I just personally can’t justify spending those prices no matter how much I make lol)
😂 nooo ALL the shade because that is just idiotic "trendy", irresponsible-for-all-people type of behavior!
I love luxury don’t get me wrong but girl..erewhon is not where I’ll be dropping $100 lol
Dude their food plates are around 65$! What….. even Bristol farms doesn’t Fu#% you like that!
D - If you want to go to the wedding & feel like it won't impact your inner zen, emotional & mental health adversely, then go for it. 😃🎊🎉
If they didn't want you there, they wouldn't have invited you.
Long story short, check in with your Heart 💖 (not your mind) on if you should go.
p.s. - Don't let that spinach go to waste. Cut up those strawberries & some red onions, add them to the spinach along with some walnuts, drizzle some balsamic glaze & a nice olive oil with some goat cheese ... perfection 👌
Daniel, i absolutely look forward to your videos. you shine so bright and I can only imagine you do in person even more. You are someone I would be friends with. You are an inspiring soul, and I hope you know that!
I went to my Ex’s wedding two years ago lol! His sister is my best friend and I’ve gotten close to their family, including his now wife so she actually invited me! And despite me being happily married, because there are no feelings there and I’m closer to his wife and family over him (I don’t really have any relationship with him), it was not weird and it was so nice to see them happy and say vows! Plus our relationship was so long ago that it doesn’t compare to any current!
I honestly think you should go Daniel! It proves the progression and moving on stage, I think that its not bad of you going, they invited you!!!
I say do whatever feels right and make you feel comfortable. Ultimately, it's your decision whether you want to attend or not, but you are invited, so it's clear your presence is welcome 💙 (dare I say needed lol)
In all seriousness, I would love to see a video on what to get a person for a wedding present because similarly I have an old friend getting married but don't know what to get them 😅
Keep doing you babes. I love how transparent and vulnerable you are on camera. It really feel like I'm watching/listening to a best friend 🫶🏼
I am loving your vlogs! I was thinking last week “Daniel would be such a great friend to have” so, here’s from a bestie allllll the way over in Western Australia 😅 but seriously, your vlogs are delightful and help me when my partner is away for work ❤
I appreciate you! And we are definitely already friends!!! Sending you a big hug to Aussie!
I think I'd do a gift and not go. So selfless and sweet of you to be so considerate.
Yes to this
I agree. Cuz he is right he’s gonna look toooo good 😆
I've been to a friend i had a huge crush on wedding and i loved her. We were never together but I really care for her. I am glad she's happy and I was there regardless of our past. It was her day and I was just supporting and celebrating her. I feel like if you can be friends with an ex celebrating the moments in thier lives would be more important than focusing on the heartbreak.
I have seen a few people in drought areas do a lawn full of clovers instead of grass and it looks green and beautiful and magical all year round. It’s stunning! You barely have to cut them. I’m waiting to get a yard I can do this in even though I am nowhere near a drought I just think it looks magical!!
I think you should go! If you’re truly his friend, no matter the history, you need to be there and cheer them on. I think because of the history and friendship you still have with him, not going would make things weird and would make it seem like the energy has changed now that they’re married. Treat him the same you should any other friend and SHOW UP FOR HIM! 🥰❤
I loved how you set up the back for Stormi 🥰 I can see your love for your animals when you do stuff like that. Also Storm looked majestic!🥹🥰
Girl, I have NEVER clicked so fast in my life. I of course knew it wasn't Joey but I was like, what have they been keeping from me??? Did I miss something somehow?? Phew. On another note, those glasses are EVERYTHING on you. I know I've said it 100xs but seriously. So good. Anyways, Thanks for the panic attack bestie! 😘✌ Edit: I LOVE those lavender bushes! So pretty. The front has an old world charm. I can't wait to see it when you're done!! I love your vibe. The fireplace with a seating area is gonna be COZY!! OMG you have GOT to see Colleen's backyard! You would be in heaven and die 1000 deaths! It is DIVINE! Who do you think you are wearing a kilt?? Holy sh*tballs Daniel! So glam.🥰 Btw, you're in your own head about the wedding. They invited you because they want you there. I don't think they are worried about you being there. BUT only go if it's gonna make YOU feel comfortable because this is your life and you have to live it. I think it's sweet they invited you!❤
You should freeze your spinach if you're using it in just smoothies that way they're not rotting in the back of your fridge. This is what I do because I was having my spinach rot in my fridge so now I just freeze some in sandwich ziplock bags and I'll take one out to throw in my smoothie no more wasting spinach!!
I understand where you coming from about going to your ex’s wedding. I say do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If you don’t think you will feel comfortable going to your ex’s wedding, then don’t go and just send a nice gift for the both of them. They did invite you though, so they want you there. But if you don’t feel comfortable going, then don’t go. Don’t force yourself go and feel uncomfortable. You will make the right choice! Love your videos! Especially your backyard makeover! It looks so good and pretty!❤️💕🥰😁☺️
no need to worry so much about people judging any kind of mess, it’s just real life. most of us aren’t perfectly neat and tidy 100% of the time, that’s just not realistic. anyway- super excited for more episodes of unmess, your work is really inspiring especially since i’ve been kind of stuck in a rut lately with decor
I'm a husky personality type, but I love to surround myself with golden retriever people and literal golden retriever dogs😅
Me too lol
You MUST turn your beautiful arch into a magic garden doorway! Idk how well you are with woodworking, but you should get into it and learn to create and attach a door shaped like the entirety of the arch with vines growing on it- and the door either made out of like bundled thin sticks along a thin wooden base or made in a way where the vines can easily grow. Ugh I can picture ideas so well but I stink at describing them! (or if not wood. Make it our of some other natural material like bamboo or something that just looks magical! Like iron or something..but that might be too heavy..who knows..just spouting ideas!!)
I love to see the progress you have going on in your backyard. It’s absolutely gorgeous!!
I think you should go and I think you should take your plus 1. If y'all's relationship is that great then you being there will only make the memories that much better.
You’ve got a point
The front yard vision sounds stunning. I’m so glad you mentioned the tree trimming. I was thinking the same thing. You need a little sun to shine down for your plants ❤
Yes Daniel, go to the wedding, you have a good relationship with them and for them to have put the time and energy in having you and a plus 1 there speaks volumes. Bring the plus 1, sprinkle your love around to those who care about you and haven’t seen you in a while! Get them dancing shoes on and have a fabulously fun time!!No regrets!!!
I do understand exactly what you mean about not going to the ex's wedding, I was invited to my ex's wedding by his new wife, which I thanked her and respectfully I didn't go. We do grandkids birthdays and our adult children's birthdays, but we don't hang out with each other and I am like you, it's their special day and you want to respect that, I really admire you for that. Loving the garden makeover, it's given me a lot of ideas for my house and outdoor landscaping around my yard.
So something about plants from big box stores like Lowe’s or Home Depot, they tend to be root bound (roots all grown into each other inside the pot and basically choking each other of nutrients) or overwatered and have root rot. Both issues are reversible with time and patience. There’s a woman on here named Krystal who does loads of videos on how to rescue the box store plant babies.
❤❤ I wanted to give you a little advice about going to this wedding. I'm an older black woman in her fifties who loves watching your videos. I think if your ex invited you he wants you to be there. You were an important part of his past and he wants you to be an important part of his future. Never think you're going to this wedding and all the attention is going to be on you.😅 Even though you will look stunning as usual. Just think going to this wedding you are celebrating his and his partner future life together. I think they both would be dissappointed if you don't go. That's my advice and i don't know if you will read this but i felt compelled to leave this comment. Life is short just enjoy the ride. ❤❤
I appreciate your advice so much!
@@MisterPreda I'm glad to give it and this time I won't charge you I will put it on your tab..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Daniel! If you want to upgrade your morning oatly yogurt with berries. I love to premade chia seed pudding. 1 cup of milk. Vanilla extract. 1/4 cup of chia seed. Add sweetner of choice to taste. I like stevia and low calorie maple syrup. Add that with the yogurt and berries add some bananas and yogurt and such a filling a complete meal with omega 3s which are great for 🧠 health.
Your vision for your front yard, sounds very beautiful!! Can't wait to see it when it's finished!!! You give you alot of inspiration for my front and back yards.
good way to also use that spinach. Toast up a slice or two of that bread top it with some of your hummus and some sauteed spinach with some minced garlic, blk pepper and sea salt, then over top of that add a little bit of scrambled egg whites or a fried egg and a little bit of sriracha sauce if you like some heat, if not, just a little bit of black pepper . Soooo good. also good with a little sauteed mushrooms with the spinach. Changes up the avocado toast into a mediterranean hummus toast. You can also add a little feta if you want but hold back on the sea salt, if you do!
YUM
Hello from spain. You should go to the wedding as they have invited you, as they want people and family at one of they're most special days. It's an honor that they think of you as a special friend and they want you to share that day with them. If they didn't value your friendship they wouldn't of invited you. You were a big part of each others lives and continue to be so. And it's good the fact that you are still good friends after all these years. Cherish what you have and make new memories. I really think you would feel like crap if you didn't go. Xx
A couple of things… your house looks gorgeous and you have impeccable taste.
Who you invite to a wedding is a well thought out decision, which makes me think you are really wanted there. Also I’m sure at least a few of his loved ones would know you’re invited. It might be good to talk with them about your feelings? Or talk with them about attending just the ceremony, or just sending a gift. Do what you’re comfortable with ❤️, just let them know you care and that the friendship is important to you. I think it sounds like a lovely story with your ex and his fiancé.
It was interesting to see some of the brands of groceries are the same as in Australia, and that you had chickpea pasta but canned garbanzo beans - they’re all called chick peas here but may sometimes be called chickpeas on one side of a can and garbanzo on the other for imported goods.
I love love that you air dry clothes, I didn’t think Americans did that, but it’s more eco and when dried outside smell gorgeous.
Your wardrobe clean out is impressive! As a social worker I think it’d be great if you donated directly to an agency where they will be free for vulnerable people, although I understand that requires more organising that dropping off at an op shop (thrift stores I think you call them).
I can’t wait to see the finished product of your front yard. It’s going to be breathtaking!!
When is Unmess episode 2 coming!? I stay watching my youtube feed like a HAWK on Sundays. 😹 I love your videos, Daniel! Never stop being you, you're wonderful. ❤
Awww sweetie your heart is so kind. Unfortunately no one but you knows what's best for you and your heart. If going to the wedding will benefit you in a positive way then go by all means but if it will hurt you in anyway don't go. Doing something simply because someone else wants you to when it doesn't serve you to do so is toxic to your emotional health. Just want you happy whatever you decide.
when you mentioned the idea of going to the gym with friends being great for keeping each other inspired to work out i thought "that's so true"
the kilt looks super good on you and the top you had on while wearing the kilt looks so good as well i love that outfit
I loved everything about this vlog. I absolutely can’t wait to see the front lawn transformation. I could completely envision what you were describing! Thank you for always being down to earth.
My son went to Japan over the Christmas holiday to go to his exs reception. He also took his girlfriend & they had a great time. It's wonderful that they stayed friends. His ex was his first also. So don't do something you might regret later.
I think you've got the right idea, attend the ceremony then head off. A nice gift, not too sure bout the couples massage as it could come accross like you are over compensating, but something nice, maybe a nice piece for their house or something, a keepsake perhaps. You have good taste so I am sure you could find something that would be perfect. ❤❤❤❤❤
You are literally one of the most adorable people on the planet. My opinion on the wedding of your ex? If you have been invited then that means they want you there. Don't overthink it. Just go with your heart.
Daniel as a long time supporter I just love your content and wanted to tell you every video you put out is just so cute and peaceful. You are such a thoughtful person and just so down to earth Ily
I love that you're pampering the middle child ❤😂. I could never go to an ex's wedding. It's weird😬
Don't go, one of my ex-had invited me to her wedding and hypersensitive as you were, I felt that it was better if I didn't go. She was relieved when she called me and asked me to reconsider and I told her I was thinkingg the same thing. I didn't go and send them a TK note with my best wishes. There are times where not going is the best choice for both parties.
I love fresh line dried clothes, plus they don't shrink. 💕 I really don't have a good answer about the wedding but I'd probably send a gift, and like you said, a great gift.
I gave one of my online friends a box of my clothes I picked out just for her and she loved it so much! Sharing is such a beautiful thing to do with the people in our lives or strangers via donation. I will say that the SO & I raced to the donation store the other day because they accidentally donated my boots that still had my medical braces in them!😅 Luckily the store helped us find them and so I've been finding different items to donate to them to make up for taking them back.😂 Thank you for your vlogs, Daniel.❤
You NEVER fail to make a place so pretty!!! Also I definitely love your vision for the front, I know whatever you do it’s gonna be good!!!
Back garden gorgeous. Can’t wait to see the front yard transformation
Carrageenan (mentioned on banana milk) is extracted from red seaweeds and often used in foods for gelling, stabilizing, thickening agent. It is being phased out of alot of foods due to it causing inflammation in the GI tract for many.🤓
I love your videos so much, I always curl up in bed to watch them and it just gives off such relaxing and cozy vibes... almost as if I was on a facetime call with a bestie!!! Have you ever thought about doing some videos about what you eat in a week? I've been looking for new recipes! Stay stunning as alwaysss
I completely understand where you're coming from. If it where me I wouldn't go for the reasons you said. Plus , its sweet he wants me there but at that time you can be happy for them from afar. You had and you will.always have those memories with him . I would however let him know why you are not going . It will keep your relationship honest and that is hard to keep 😊 hope this helps
I like the idea of you going to the ceremony and not the reception if you want to go to the wedding to celebrate both of them but not take attention away from them. But also, if you want to send them a really nice gift like the couple massages or something adjacent that is also a good idea, so ultimately it is up to you if you want to go to the wedding or not ❤️
You can freeze spinach and use it in many recipes, especially soup! 😊
I have the same issue In not using it quickly enough before it goes bad, so I freeze the portion I know wouldn’t get used in time.
Hope this helps Daniel!!😊❤
BTW, LOVE your backyard vision! Outdoor ovens/grills/stone pizza ovens are my dream to have at my future place! 😊❤
Helloooooo i love you! I don’t think you should go , for the fact that you’re 50/50 if you’re doubting you prob would feel better if you didn’t go.
Always so creative. It just seems to come naturally to you.
And yes, go to the wedding. The invite shows they love and respect you, so clearly they want you to be there and be part of the occasion 😊
Can't wait for your front garden renovation!!!! I feel you so much with those ¨tressure¨ finds at the nurseries :D can't resist sometimes ;) As to the wedding, if they invited you it's clear they want you in their special day, I'd say go, enjoy, but don't look better than them, that would be rude ;/
My parents have like 6 lavenders like that in their garden in south France, they smell really good and are gorgeous
I think you should go. You're in your head too much about it. Go to the ceremony and get the vibe, and if it's too much then dip. But I think u should go!
Have you talked to your ex and his man about your reservations of not attending? I understand your dilemma for sure. But I’d say bring it up to them and talk it out and that right there should give you, your answer. They obviously invited you but maybe the did it out of kindness or maybe they reallllllly do want you there. If you choose not to talk to them about the reservations you have, just go with your gut. Toss a coin, in the air you’ll know which one you want it to be. That’s my advice. 🤷🏻♀️
Anyways loving all the content you been putting out and loving the house stuff. I can’t wait to see the front of the house when you have it all finished! Totally will feel like the countryside in Italy.
Let's do talk about that facial hair lol. You know ive been waiting for this moment. You look divine as always. Loving the vision for the front yard. I love how isolated in green it is. Very beautiful space. Cant wait to see you bring it to life. PS : The kilt... yesss
I hate that I didn't find you long ago bc I'm already obsessed watching your videos. You are hands down one of the sweetest people ever and I just adore you!!! I think your ideas for the front yard are fabulous and I can't wait to see it!!!❤
Leave things better then you found them wow inspirational 💜
@Daniel About your wedding question: I get all that you’re saying. How about: what if this was your last chance to see some of these people? I know you don’t wait to tell people that you love them; what about carrying that spirit to not waiting to see them? ❤
Try frozen spinach - that way you can store it longer and also it's still great in smoothies. I like to keep my kale frozen in tupperware and sometimes I add frozen cilantro from a tupperware.
I needed this video. Been a day. Wishing you well always! ❤️
I love the whole reason why you don't want to go to the wedding. I think if you go, you go for the whole thing, or just send a gift so if you are thinking about it and not overthinking it I think you can find your answer in that. It is probably a gift. I think that is a wonderful heart thing to do.
Hi Daniel, love the video! Regarding the wedding, I think you might be getting in your own head a little bit - if they didnt want you there, they wouldn't have asked you to go, at least thats how I would look at it; do whatever you think is best for you and I'm sure they'll appreciate whatever you decide to do
You so are talented Daniel when it comes to planting and decorating . I love everything about you. You are a great person keep up the great work.💞😸🧸🐕
Hi Daniel, hope you have a great day and thanks so much for another video. Love you!❤❤❤
Love your garden. Can’t wait to see the front yard makeover
What a cute garden area I think the vision sounds gorgeous xxx
You're such a sweet person. Glad you have more confidence. You got this sweetie. I get what you're saying about the wedding. My suggestion...go to the ceremony. Say hello to the family short & sweet. Wish the couple well & you're right even with all the luv & respect y'all have for one another... don't go to the reception. Just send a special sweet gift. Keep gaining all the confidence & just be you...be happy. Luv to see you smile & laugh. (((HUGS))😘
I can't wait to see your front yard makeover! And I love how the fire pit has a perfect place by the fireplace brick.
love your vids!! Not too long not too short and just the right switch up to keep it interesting. Cant wait to see the garden!
Normally, people dry clothes outside away from the front of the house so it is hidden. FYI: 100% cotton will shrink if washed in hot water and put in the dryer as well.
I love the food haul vids 🥰 I had no idea about the pistachio milk…I’m intrigued 🤔
its sooooo good in coffee
You are so enjoyable to watch. I'm so happy that you're vlogging and that your confidence and happiness continues to grow. I just really appreciate that you keep it real and share your vulnerable moments. That's so brave to do. Continue being you. Much love.
Omg Daniel when you were talking about your ex and how he was your first in everything, it’s so personal but you said it so nonchalantly! 😂 I say that in a good way and love that you can easily share that!
You are GORGEOUS!😊 I love, love your videos.❤
I love how you talk in detail of what you want to do and I can envision it it's gonna be beautiful just like everything else you have created. Love you and your amazing heart ❤️
LOL new to the channel, LOVE!
I crackkkked up- no Storm never listens 🤣
Your vision for your yard sounds beautiful. I can't wait to see what it looks like onces its done.
Looking foward in seeing the garden upgrade ideas
Ya I agree with the friends that say send a gift. Going to an ex wedding is weird.
I agree with you removing the grass. It'll never come in well under a large shade tree.
Go with the gift option, you will still see those people at the ceremony and they may ask you to come to the reception in a way that’s hard to say no lol but either way if they invited you then obviously you are a guest that they took the time to pick and ofc would love you to be there
If they felt that it would be awkward they wouldn’t invite you. They obviously know you well, so they know you want the best for them. Only go if you feel comfortable seeing your ex move on. Sounds like you are comfortable, plus maybe you will find your new love there. Love ya, and do all the flowers you planted come back every year? XoxO