Imagine giving respect and being humble to your bullies who were your main subject teachers.. imagine giving respect and talking politely to bullies who humiliated you in front of the whole class at every given opportunity and humiliated your parents in front of other parents and students during parent-teacher meetings.
Being a teacher is a huge responsibility and not everyone is capable of taking this responsibility. It's a huge shame on those teachers who are bullies and who push the students into the dark.
It's the story of every other student out there.. Being Bullied, beaten up, and cut off from the group is the way they think is necessary to do in order to make their carrier/to set an example so others would learn from it... It is so disheartening, demeaning and permanently becoming a haunting memory which stores in our subconscious that will haunt us for ever. This has to stop. No child deserves such lessons in life.
Corporal punishments are still rampant in schools despite this practice being banned from 2009. What a colossal failure of our government. When are they going to enforce it?
@@piyushjoshigaming4503 This is the 90's and not very long ago. Be happy that you did not go through all these things kid. In fact your parents will tell the teacher to give you some beatings and set you straight.
I broke down while listening to you. Wandered back into my traumatic childhood. I was in a hostel with no respite and lived like that for 8 long years with extremely low to no confidence. I relate. I relate to every word , emotion you’ve expressed and all that you couldn’t. But just like in fairy tales, you & I also have a happy ending. We just needed that 1 comforting voice to tell us that we matter. I am 46 and a mother of a teenager who loves school and her teachers. Thank you for sharing.
Yes, this is true. I studied in KV too and went through a lot of humiliation and psychological abuse from senior teachers. Those memories still gives me anxiety and shiver ness. It destroyed my self esteem forever😥
Same, i studied in kV too, nd now I am working. And I am telling u, working is waaay better than going to school in my opinion Edit: ppl might say that school is better, but unfortunately I didn't have the luxury to experience that, all I rem are bad memories. Although there are some good gold nuggets here and there, it was mostly a bad experience for ne
I'm from a southeast asian country and we had punishments like this when I was in school around 10 years ago. It seemed normal back then but in retrospect I can't believe I went through that.
School teachers today are really pathetic human beings. 95% dont teach at all, demotivate, insult weak and poor students, praise and help students with good background and rich powerful parents.
Teachers used to tear and throw my books on the ground. They would always complain to my mother on parents teachers meeting about this. Ironically when I went to engineering teachers used to keep my assignments for reference because my handwriting now is very beautiful. As I grew up my handwriting improved immensely.
My English teacher tells me as a last year high school student to write in cursive, like seriously? We have to write alot in short time and I don't have time to think about writing in cursive when I don't even have time to think, her English paper as long as and the time is so little
Yesss handwriting issues was given too much importance that time that only bcoz of hand they would ignore all his other talents .this had been the issue with my bro .due to which he later was not willing to attend school. There must be serious law to deal with such toxic teachers.
Dear Mansi, as a parent and a teacher your story really struck a chord. Sadly, many children still face the same challenges you had and are silently struggling to cope. Thank you for sharing your personal ordeal so candidly. I'm sure it wasn't easy to let those memories back out. I hope this video makes us all more mindful of our responsibility towards our kids be it at home or in school. God bless and take care.
You can hear her voice slightly breaking... Even after all these years it still hurts her. This shows how much bullying can affect a child.. all throughout their life. Such wounds.. may heal but it'll leave a scar forever. Sending love and light to you ❤
Some teachers just hated me No matter how hard you try, they just insult you for what you can't change I remember a teacher beating me for just asking a question about what he was teaching Picking on me every opportunity he got, made fun of me everyday and he enjoyed it. The anxiety you get when the bully is your teacher is unreal I loved going to school, but because of him it felt like hell
they pick on the weak, which is a trait I hate the most. They can't do the same with someone who is of their level or superior, it is always the children.
Same case for me as yours ,though i am in class 11th our english teacher who is such an old educated mind !She told me useless who always creates problem everytime and yeah i am her target always!
True i can totally relate to you ....this year i got some worse teacher aka bullies ...like my physics teacher , my situation is just the same as you he insults me each and every day asks me a difficult question and when i am unable to answer it he insults me He usually says words like " hatt " to me and the audacity is that those students who cant even speak in front of me laughs at me
Listening story of the women in video and also all here in the comments felt like I am not going through anything actually i kinda go through bullying in class 12th all the years back then teachers were so nice to me as I was an A grader nd after covid I opted science which I don't have interst in but still don't have enough knowledge nd just opted it nd in 11th I had frnds in my class nd yeah whole 11th we just spent without studying at the end somehow I just managed to pass but my frnds get failed I actually do have my frnds in 12th even now but outside of the class in other sections or streams in my class the frnds I have i don't talk to them much but yeah it's fine it's like bcoz we r not tht close so I get so bored my class which r normal things but the main thing is where I get felt bullied was my maths teacher as also in 12th I wasn't scoring well so she just starting slowly taunting me or saying things what she should not say to me not just me some more kids in class nd i just start hating her there were some things she hv said to me which made me felt so bad nd now after seeing this video i get to know no matter what if teacher is being mean or saying something to you which u felt inappropriate I just need to speak up for myself or otherwise I need to end up restoring this all bad memories with me I wasn't ever that much scared to go school I wasn't ever felt that much bad or underconfident but yeah I know till now it was actually I wasn't putting efforts but now i hv started doing preparation for my September exams may be not much but m sure I will score better nd I must gain my confidence back after getting again good marks in academics well it's actually m sure I will get good marks in my boards but before that I am going to be topper of my class just after this September exams m going to do more gard work and i will smash my grades on the face of that maths teacher nd i just want to gain that much confidence to say nd tell that she is a bad teacher in front of her face
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 24 and I’ll leave this comment here for people to imagine the amount of bullying I had to go through by my teachers and peers because no one knew what I was dealing with.
Same Bhai academic life was hell for me, as a student of class 6 I used to feel like a 9to5 office guy. I used to go for tuition directly from school. I remember each day like I have PTSD. I used to be average but the constant pressure from teachers and parents coz they used to spend a lot of money altogether crushed me. I tell my sister daily about my niece who's in class 3 now not to put any form of mental pressure on her. Her school is a scam, they teach stuff which are not even required for class 3, final and half yearly exams in the midst of festivals or a day prior to festivals clearly being done intentionally and what not, I literally fear for her.. I could've done better academically if I didn't had so much pressure the constant reminder "you are bad" "tumse nehi hoga" it should stop
@@TheTanmoy16 the amt of pressure pvt schools are putting on kids is unbearable. I would prefer to put my kid to some good govt school rather than these pocket emptiying pvt schools.
@@TheTanmoy16 I totally lost interesting in going to school ,I’ve hurt myself to skip school ,I would rather break my hand or cough vigorously than go to school to listen to the teachers and their daunting words ,in class 7 a teacher called me jungle man for having beard and worst part is I don’t know how these nincompoops are even qualified to teach ,to know shit and to teach shit is two different things ,teaching requires compassion,which most teachers lack these days .
@@TheTanmoy16 The PTSD thing is relatable to me. After my intermediate, I decided to join a job, because I didn't wanted that school thing again, and for two years I used to get nightmares of being back to school. I used to wake up at night due to the pain and fear I felt in sleep. Teachers at that time used to bully and were biased all the time. I had ADHD too, and nobody knew about it. I'm sure teachers even today are not aware of ADHD.
I am 42 , male . tears just rolled down my cheeks silently as you said things which I echo with you . Things can’t be undone and it’s bygone era . I am greatful and have gratitude for that one professor in my Engg college who showed what empathy is . Thank you sir .
My English teacher in Singapore really messed up my life. She bullied me so badly that I'm still dealing with the mental scars today. It's like she just had it in for me and wouldn't let up. I swear, I'll do whatever it takes to make sure no teacher ever messes with my kid and crushes their confidence like that
A teacher dragged me out of the stage in the middle of performance A teacher slapped me in my face I always stood out in corridor as an outcast This was when i was merely 9 I grew up hating teachers But then i found teachers , 2 or 3 who knew what i was and they are the reason what i am today , im thankful for them
I remember failing my Maths final exam class 11 by getting 9/40. I cried a lot when the papers were being distributed. My Maths teacher then took me to her room and explained me or I must say, counseled me. She said these papers should be framed so that you get motivated to not get this much the next time. I understood her words and she increased my marks to the passing marks. In the next unit test, that is in class 12, again I failed, and got 8/25. This time she was a little bit upset with my performance but still she consoled me, and increased my marks. In the terminal exam, I passed by 6 marks more than what is the passing exam. She was happy with my improvement. With her help (not tuitions), I got 21/25 in the next unit test and 91/100 in boards. After passing out, when I visited her, I came to know that she and one another teacher of my class used to discuss about my performance and they both were upset that despite trying very hard why I was not able to improve. I'll remember her forever for what she did for me, how she motivated me, how she guided me. Thanks to her
Very unreal. From taare zameen par. Aisa kyon kiya aapke saath. Kya motivation tha? Hansi aati hai. Jahan sab ki pitai hoti thee app kaise bach gaye. If I recall there used to be this small group of respected children. Unhain kabhi punish nahin kiya jaata tha. Woh poor nahin thae. Toh ya toh aap us elite group kae honge ya yeh teachers unusual hongi. Aapke marks kaise maths main badha diye how it is possible. Those teachers were not honest. Maths main marks kaise increase kiye. Yeh to corruption aur favouritism hai. Equally bad.
Teachers literally destroyed my self worth and made me emotionally shut down as I was very sensitive. Always been a social misfit, never had one single peer at school or college who'd confide their secrets to me and be close to me. This made me never to be vulnerable to anyone and I had pushed away the only girl who was getting emotionally close to me. Messed up parent, a workaholic and emotionally un-attuned father. A straying mother with daddy issues, who was narcissistic and physically mentally abusive towards me. If there was one thing that I started carrying from childhood that I'm unable to put down, that'd be shame. Shame of witnessing and being present while mother engaged in intimacy adultery outside marriage, while being passive and unable to act what I wanted to and confused. Ashamed of disappointing my parents by being an academic failure and being socially unrecognised. Ashamed that I've never had the "normal" social life everyone else had. Ashamed of being seen as the evil woman's child, and ignored by many of my relatives, living alone in a nuclear family. Things got less intense after my primary school. Mom and dad spent more time, but never attuned to my sensitivity or even acknowledged my sensitivity. Always wanted a child, who acts like a man. I'm still carrying that shame, and it's not something you can discard just like that. Grow up, man up, take responsibility. Always felt like I was responsible for all the shitty things others did to me, and it was my responsibility to not make them tell me unworthy things. Shame isn't some label that can be removed off the forehead. You can't make your body produce insulin when diagnosed with diabetes just by yelling , "just make more insulin". F the world.
I know I didn't have as worse as u, but to tell u da truth, I hate my father too, made me and my mother's life hell since childhood...But I will tell u this: u don't deserve the shame. The people who should be ashamed deserved it... I consider myself an warrior, Who is born to fight both mentally and physically, and make sure I die a martyar's death.. I want u to believe the same. Go apologize to that girl if possible. Live urself again.
@@sohamsteel1345 thanks for your words. Much appreciated but she's married now 😅😅. I can live without expressing a slight distress, but it only lasts for two to three days and finally I sob inside the bathroom and cry myself to sleep. If I don't cry, I keep internalizing the repetitive flashbacks and my chest starts to ache and becomes tight. Now I'm improving little bit, started listening to mild music and writing when I'm emotional and such. It's bearable.
@@sohamsteel1345 still we can't consider ourselves as beings without needs for emotional support, because we are born at the mercy of other adults, and when the adult caretakers are themselves living with unresolved trauma, then crap like this happens, like a broken adult trying hard to feel worthy of themselves. I agree on you with fighting mentally and physically, not just for our survival but to reach out to others who need social support the most. I hope we can change someone's life for the better. Thanks mate.
@@शाम्भव-qf7od thank you. It's getting better. I wrote that comment when I was about to break down, and now I feel like a completely different person. The pain is more like a distant memory rather than something that needs to be dealt with to avoid such breakdown in future. I completely dissociate myself from my melancholic state of self. It's not healthy, but I'm managing somehow and wish to make things even more safe and mentally healthy for me. Thanks.
Some teachers think they've got the right to bully students as they're teachers Teaching isn't bullying or punishing - it's about "guiding' a child's future ❤ RESPECT to the teachers who actually know it !!
I have never disclosed it to anyone in my life till now. How relatable your story is! It's hard to pen this down right now but I want to. I have always been a slow learner and I was mostly good in learning languages but not maths. So my maths teacher would always shame me for being poor in maths. On this unfortunate day, I couldn't solve a sum in the class and how she chose to punish me.. I still get shivers to this day. She asked me to go to every student's desk in the class and asked those students to slap me for not being able to solve the sum. Some of the boys and girlt hesitated to slap me and when she saw that some students were not slapping me harder she would ask them to slap me even harder. This was brutal. I wonder how some teachers like her can sleep peacefully at night.
Karma will get her, don’t worry. Hr insan hr subject men expert ho, ye zaruri nhi. Meri maths bohot achi thi, lekin Theorems kabhi smjh nhi aae. And I am totally okay with it. Einstein ko bhi hr subject nhi aata hoga. Or ap neend ki bat krrhe ho, ese log khud ko ‘Teachers’ kese kehte hen, wo hi herat ki bat h.
We must not wish ill for others but this just makes me want to curse her for the very worst things to happen to her What a bitch May you heal from that, i don't know who and how you are, but you deserved so much better than that as a student and a young child :((
I was bullied so much by teachers and relatives without knowing what war was going inside me. I closed my shell so hard now that no one can open. 40 years of my life is over, and I am still there.
Please don't lock yourself up, yes school life do has deep impact on our lives... But that's one phase of life, life is bigger than that, you must come out of all those bitter memories and atleast now enjoy life... ❤ don't allow those cruel people who mistreated you, control your life 😊
As a victim myself, I was humiliated every day by the class teacher in front of whole class. She used to call me in the front and slap me in front of 40 students every day. She was a monster. I felt helpless, hopeless at that time. I even stopped going school and later I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder at the age of 18 and had to take medicine for years. I quit school for 4 years but my parents are understanding and helped me a lot and I'm doing fine these days so I again joined school to continue my studies. Some teachers behave like monsters. (Please excuse my English)
Hello! Whatever you experienced is extremely sad and unfortunate. You did not deserve it. Whatever happens can never be changed. But you have an extremely bright and happy future ahead of you. I truly wish you happiness, success, health and healing.
we all know they are, they call themselves role models who "shape" us, in reality we hate them and never want to be like them. They say "respect teachers", but it's teachers whom we respect not monsters.
I feel sorry for these teachers who were bullied in the same way by their teachers and parents.I had parents and teachers who used harsh words in the name of discipline. As a mother I choose to break the cycle and give all the love I can, so even when bullies surround her , she knows that she has a loving home she can come, where love is unconditional
Such teachers are worse than the old British Raj terrorists.. They are not Bullying they breaking your God given talent ON PURPOSE.. AUR THU KUCH NAHI KAR SAKTE. Unless you can make your own money you are stuck in school and in such toxic environment. NOT EVEN GOD CAN SAVE.
I can relate too. But it wasn’t easy. I was actually brilliant, but not in a standard way. No way those self serving idiots could have ever realized. I too of course had no real realization of that back then… and due to the way I was treated, I hated school and everything it stood for. Who knows I could have studied better and followed my passions with all my heart if this was not done to me. I had a very hard time when I first became a mother. It took me a while to understand and break the cycle and make myself a better person despite the trauma.
@@Shamazcorner More power to you for breaking the cycle and taking the first steps to get over the trauma. Best wishes to you. I hope you revive those passions and may it bring you joy❤️
I felt your pain. I hated my school days and college days. I was an average student but I worked really hard to get that average score unlike some students I know who put little effort and get good marks. There were very few teachers that I remember to this day who made me feel hopeful of the future and I’m very grateful to have had them in my life. I’m glad your kids are in a healthy environment.
People say school days are your golden years. But for me my school and college years were horrible. I cannot help but get enraged by the memories of the teachers i had back then. Teachers nowadays are much better trained and have been restricted in their conduct with kids. Thankful that my kids will never have to go through the same that i did. Worthlessness actually came from school days for many of us here.
Today I am 40. The same exact happened to me. Every teacher never missed a chance to insult me in front of the entire classroom. Every single day I got bullied by every teacher. All the others were laughing at me. All these embarrassments still make me angry even today. Whenever I remember these old horrified days, I curse all of these people. I don't have any respect for these teachers and classmates. Because of them, my academic career was damaged forever. I wish they burn in hell.
@@DonalM110n my parents did take stand whenever possible but that just led to more mocking from my teachers when my parents where not there. It also led to teachers declaring in the class to be wary of me repelling many friends away.
People don’t realize how much bullying affects a child, especially when it’s coming from a teacher. Those haunting memories never go away even after changing schools. I had this teacher who always picked on me for no reason, she used to call me a loser and never passed an opportunity to shame me in front of the whole class. And if that weren’t enough, her son, who was also in my class made my life hell. He, along with his awful friends bullied me nearly everyday. For all these reasons I used to cry a lot and all the kids in my class hated me for it. In parents teachers meeting, the same teacher made fun of my parents in front of everybody. It was something I’ll never forget. No one ever saw how much my 8 year old self suffered. Please people, be kind, it’s very easy to criticize and bully but those memories never go away. They haunt.
My uncle suffered from epileptic seizures as a kid and no one thought anything of it. as he grew older his brain nerves were severely damaged and it completely took away his ability to think for himself and control his anger. 40 years of unemployment and a series of huge family fights and suicide scares later, we finally realized that the reason he was this way was because the teachers back then used to beat the ever loving shit out of their students for making the smallest mistakes and my uncle suffered from seizures because those teachers would hit him on his head. just the thought that, he couldve been completely different, successful and happy in life if not for his teachers ruining his life for him..... i cant imagine the pain of realizing how 40 years of his life were wasted because of a teacher. rona ata hai, but kya kare.
Oh man! So true for a lot of students who are not academically great as their peers. From a academic life of 20-22 years - you would probably remember 2-3 teachers who would hv truly inspired you, motivated you and helped you through difficult times. But I wish we had more of them who love to mentor, help and educate and not just stuck in a wrong profession because he/she couldnt find anything to else. Always wondered, why wouldn’t teachers pay more attention to the weaker students versus the ones who are good already. Its like a doctor treating a healthy person and not willing to do anything for an ailing patient
I remember crying in front of my class when I had a meltdown in class 6. I don't know or care if students around me laughed or anything. There was just pure silence in the room for the first time that I experienced. The teacher consoled me by berating the bullies. I wish someone had perceived me like she did before so I'd not be such a awkward introvert. Being honest, I felt that she understood me better than my own parents.
Good message. A lot of us who have grown up in 80s and 90s have faced bullies in school be it teacher or other student. So Let's create a world where kindness prevails and every individual is celebrated for their uniqueness. Stand up against bullying, spread love, and let empathy be our guide. 💪
I was bullied too, by my parents, teachers and peers. I had my mental breakdown at a later stage of school due to a certain teacher. Fighting Anxiety and Depression for 15+ years now, to no avail. The only thing that kept me going were the few who did acknowledge me. I even tried to commit suicide once, and realized I am a coward to do even that. Its been over a decade now and I am a teacher myself at this point, constantly encouraging my students for even teensy bit of effort they make, be it a failure in the end. I do not want my students to go through what I went through
Well I am currently in class 12th , but in my KV,OFD All the teachers are purely the ones who came down from heaven , always supporting and helping and are pretty fun to interact with ( aged between 40-60) it's not like that they are college grads . I think the new generation of teachers is not so strict compared to the past one but the ones we have in our school is just the amazing. I am sorry to hear about those tragic experiences , never let them make you weak , always fight back guys
Dear Mansi, so sorry you had to go through this. I went through the same too, but not to that extent. Today I am a principal of a senior secondary school and make it a point to know every child individually. It is really a blessing to see the children love school so much. Truly every word matters especially when it comes from teachers.
I had a teacher who used to drag me by my uniform collar & try to strip me in classroom as punishment for not covering notebooks 😡. Her logic was we must cover notebooks, it's like dressing, so she tried to unbutton my uniform in front of other kids. I used to beg her to not do that, then after a lot of dragging, she would leave me. I used to be scared at the sight of her, especially in some vibrant colored sarees, she used to look like monster with wide nose lol... I was a silent boy, these kinda horror made me aggressive one.
Sorry 😢 to hear...i can understand what had you gone through..... 😢😢... teacher should be one who we respect but believe me after my 12th and graduation i remember and respect only 2 teacher.... what an irony right... I was taught by more than 100 but only want to respect 2 .... I understand you feeling 😔
I hope my bully teachers realise what they had put me through those days that even some of my classmates treated me differently, and each person who said " are teachers tumhare bhale ke liye hi to bolte hai" I hope they also realise that even teachers can be bullies sometimes. I respect my teachers who always acknowledged me I can never forget them❣️, and those teachers are also unforgettable who pushed me in depression.
She just described my whole life. I went through very similar circumstances including "eating to find comfort" , being obese, being average to having a mental breakdown infront of class to becoming the most unapproachable and inferior person I'm now. I'm healing and just like her I wonder why I didn't kill myself. I'm crying rn!
I had some psychopaths as my teachers, but I managed to survive them all. What still makes me sad is that when I was going through these ordeals, my own family didn't try to understand me and took the side of these teachers. I don't hate anyone, but if I ever see these psychopaths again, I will punch them on the nose for sure.
3 days back I was travelling in Mumbai local train where 2 ladies were talking about their B.Ed and M.Ed entrance test -about Common Entrance Test-after exam talking about how they hid the cheat notes from their supervisor. This made me feel so much pain for their future students. This is reality. We really don't deserve such teachers who themselves copies .That moment I felt really disgusting.
Once, a certain Professor in an elite institution reprimanded a student in our GIS class. The student was from a poor background and didn't have his own laptop. The Professor's exact words were: "Why are you even doing this degree if you don't have a computer" ? And this elite institution had computer labs with all the facilities. So yes, teachers are cruel and they are the real bullies. Sad reality of our institutions.
I'm also one of those people who had a rough time in school myself and I'm honestly glad it is over now. I've seen so many examples of the teachers who were utterly selfish, and had favouritism of children (who took their tuition after school) and didn't teach properly in school but in the extra classes. I don't respect most of the teachers as I'm an adult now. Well there certainly are a handful of teachers whom I respect from the bottom of my heart. My trauma is coming close to healing though, and I believe reminiscing about this is worthless. To everyone who has been through this, just let it go man. I'm not asking you to forgive them, cuz I haven't done that either. But if it haunts you and hurts you still, you are giving them the power over you. You aren't defined by your traumas. You are stronger than that. You are stronger than everything life has thrown at you. Stop holding onto that trauma, just tell it to "f$%k off" and stop bothering you.
Thankfully someone said it.. I have been a victim of teacher's bullying and this has made me a very unconfident person today.. I also get anxiety attacks during social gatherings. Such teachers encourage other students into bullying as well
The comment section is so heartbreaking. Reading all the comments made me realise how important it is for us to not only correct our children but elders too when you know they’re being mean and potentially scarring someone for their whole life. People remember how you made them feel even after 15-20 years or the lifetime has passed and this comment section is a proof of that. I hope we all start being more kind towards ourselves and each other. ♥️
We should make this video play on every Teacher Day! These toxic teacher who themselves are the biggest bullies, who encourage bullies in the first place! HYPOCRITES!!!
@@Azmarine13 It is not even a holiday, a week before all the crap starts about "selecting students to become teachers for that day" and yet another useless drama in the name of celebration.
Ikr, in our school they make us work on both teachers and children's day, and act as if they are the one working, my school is intense in bullying when it comes to teachers, while the students are what I hate the most, they are all snakes
Thank you! For putting this so clear and crisp. Most of the teachers when growing up lack compassion for children and were frustrated by their job and life who used to pick on small children so they could feel better about themselves! Appreciate your efforts. May your voice reach every person who do have the power to protect their child from these bullies!
Yes, teachers are bullies. My maths and commerce teacher were big-time bullies. I hated school, but only after I reached college did I feel peace of mind.
UPDATE - This is not about religion for me but about basic kindness, in fact, it was non-Muslims who have helped me shape my life. My statement was to make people aware that something so awful can occur inside the safe walls of the classroom. ______________________________________ I was made aware by my class 6th teacher of having a Muslim identity. My mother abandoned me and my father. My teacher stood me up to say this is what happens in their community, they give birth to children and move on. In the whole classroom, pointing fingers at a motherless girl, she spoke badly about my father- with no fault of his own. It still hurts. Thank you, Mansi, I hear you. Each point reverberates.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that 💔 you are worthy,amazing person and very STRONG anyone who can go through something like that and also get abounded by their parents MUST have to be strong. Always remember you can be anything !❤
Being motherless or fatherless is completely horrifying.. My uncle was mere 12 yrs old when he killed himself coz his both parents were dead in an accident from teachers to entire society started calling him a rakshash and began cursing him ,even if he broke a single glass he was asked as if he wanna eat them too.
Tum jaise musalmano k saath kiya to phir thik h tum log to chalte phirte terrorists ho nothing new...sahi kiya current Islam is like disease I prefer people who spread true Islam which Prophet Md. Ji taught us...😊
You lived through it and are present here to share your experience. That is something to be celebrated, no? Shit happens to every one of us. Take care of yourself and humanity and all will be taken care of.
Exactly...The trauma could last forever but at the end of the day you have to play with the cards that you're dealt with. Everytime I hear people often saying I miss my school days and all but for me I wish my school memories are wiped out permanently 🥲
@@thepessimist1160 same I want to wiped out my school memories , iam good in study praises by teachers and relatives but being shy , introvert and have skinny body . I get bullied by friends, schoolmates even by cousins they used to call me mental, chutiya ratondi😢
Thank you for being out there, making us feel we've all gone through same struggles. My class teacher in 3rd grade she would always be real harsh at me for making mistakes, one day she even slapped me, questioned my worth as a person in front of the whole class. Same with other teachers. Why do teachers question their children and their worth when their job is to just teach and not make personal comments. My height was picked upon, she made comments on my appearance in front of the whole class. I thought it was normal. Growing up, it really wasn't. My math teacher in 8th she would target and scrutinize me for just existing, it was so bad I ended up in clinical depression and she calls me "sensitive" in front of the whole class. I never liked teachers, ever.
I always hated every single teacher in my life but then one day I found a teacher who showed me that not every teacher is a bad one. Who taught me unconditionally and made me what I'm today.
Almost 80% my story. For the teachers, “good child” simply meant academically brilliant; and if you are academically not good, automatically it translated to bad, insincere, lazy etc and yes, “shaming”, “character killing”, “scape goating” were all part of the parcel. Many of us survived the education system just because of some angels like the Class 9 teacher mentioned here. Now I am a teacher myself and I try focusing on “how not to be” than “how to be” aspects, so that I am not becoming yet another ‘bully’ in the list.
Warm hugs for anyone who is going through similar scenes if not in school but in higher institutions. Don't give up. Only you know what you are capable of❤
To all of those who at the time knew they were being targeted but none of your classmates believed you and thought you must be doing something wrong for the teachers to pick on you... I feel you and it pains me to say that you are not alone. what you had to go through was real and not a figment of your imagination and neither was it borderline narcissistic to feel that they were out for your blood and bullying you was their day job. it happened.
This really broke me (in a good way) to read. All I wanted back in hs senior year was for one of my classmates to not look at me like I was crazy when I started breaking down after our Lit. teacher picked on me. I didn’t choose to be in her class, I didn’t choose to be recommended in her class. But, she made sure it was my problem that I was there and that I existed. She’s still working in that school, I hope the kids she’s teaching now are better off
Dear Mansi, thankyou for voicing it out. It is a horrible reality for so many students out there, but very few addresses it. I have had few bitter experiences myself, and till date it makes me feel bad.
This is disgusting. Especially what the teachers did. Something like this has happend to me. I remember my teacher at grade 7 would always favor this one student who was my best friend. She did not care about studies. She was to lazy to write so my teacher wouldn't say anything to her. Just a smile. When I didn't do my homework because I was sick, she started screaming at me for no reason. She even have me a very bad role in a performance. Even though I was the one who gave the idea for the play. When I went to the next grade. I didn't even look at her and when she said hi to me I just rolled my eyes and walked straight cuz she couldn't so anything to me anymore. She deserved it. This is the least I could do. Also in grade 2 this happend. Now it's much better
Thanks Mansi Poddar for voicing the opinion of millions of Indians (particularly introverts) who have been through your journey and survived the Indian "Education System" over a decade of schooling. I understand that RTE Act bars teachers / schools from inflicting corporal punishment to students, but I am told it isn't implemented in letter or spirit in most schools. The primary purpose of education is to identify the innate talent in each child and then hone it to enable the child to get the best shot at leading a successful and fulfilling life. We are a long long way off from this objective.
Indians hate introverts. I enjoy my alone time and spend some of it, doing creative things like writing, drawing and cooking. I also started going to gym to take better care of my body. Because I don’t barge into houses and be social, I’m always branded as the “unfriendly” and “quiet” person everywhere I go. My sister has social anxiety and struggles speaking to people. She is also hated for that and severely misunderstood.
@@jaybirdfly149 Well, not just Indians, the world over introverts are often disliked for being unsocial. I see myself as an ambivert, but I feel you. IMO, it's better to be unsocial than anti-social (as many extroverts tend to be, by forcing their views and whims on others). It's okay to stay private and quiet. More power to you and your sister. Good day !
As a student in grade 4 i remember my teacher taking a photo of me, while i was too young to know this was joke, i took it seriously because i feared my parents and i was crying, ricocheting around the classroom, That night the teacher called my parents and told i had a mental disorder or something. The next year I became a completely new person, from a dumb low scoring student to a science topper of gr5 by one and only: MY NEW CLASS TEACHER. She changed my life and im forever thankful for her contributions in my life and now im completely a difference person in gr12.
Oh my ! My son suffered similar experience in grade 8 when he forgot to do his maths hw. My father had recently passed away n my son was very attached to his grandpa. He became forgetful due to the depression. Normally my son is well known for his discipline n was the class monitor but that day he was punished just like the other kids. No issues there, he didnt do hw n was punished but the tchr went ahead n took photographs n said I will send it to your parents. My son was so scared as he never had faced such punishment ever. But he came home n immediately told me about it. I hugged him n told him it's ok to goof up at times n I will handle the situation if the teacher complains. Pl support your child if they genuinely forget sometime to do their hw or submit assignments. They are handling multiple subjects in school, balancing extra curricular activities n projects n assignments...the list is endless. So much pressure for such young shoulders.
@@magnum9750 magnum, the tchr captured all children exiting the classroom for not doing their homework. The photo was supposed to be sent to the parents.
Definitely. Today I'm 35. Here and then I used to think about my horrible school days, I was in an assumption that I was just over thinking. But still those memories stays with me. Thank god someone is speaking about it. Thanks a lot......
Her story really triggered some past memories in me, things I don't want to remember at all. Home was suffocating enough with a strict unhealed mother, being molested left and right by some relatives in the neighborhood. And my bullies at school weren't any better. It was indeed a warzone and it was up to me to survive. Fortunately, although punishments would come in all forms, I'm glad i wasn't bullied by the teachers atleast
In my school most of them see partiality like if the good scoring child did something wrong they don't consider it as a big thing ,but if a student who is a slow learner or a moderate one if they done any mistake they make it as a big problem and insult them in front of everyone, also the teacher support their tension on us, and always look do of us which makes us feel we are useless😢😢 that too I am suffering from anxiety The teacher really don't know what I have gone through my life, they simply think I spoiled brat This things really hurt me . I don't know whether it is good to sit and talk with my parents about this so I just keep it with myself These things really increased my problem of anxiety
It seems like you described my whole life in your words, looks like I ain't alone who had faced bullies, fake friends, perverts and off course bad parenting as a kid. I'm in college 1st year surrounded by polite people who seems trustworthy but now I find it very difficult to trust anyone, still trying to overcome my past traumas don't know how to deal with them & often feels emotionally exhausted, your words gave me new strength and peace to try again, to fight my fears. Thanks a lot ma'am.
I am a victim myself, not only teachers but also students bullied me for a whole 9 years. At that point only one thing came to my mind that why is this world so cruel. I really want teachers to stop being a bully and understand the children present in her classroom.
You've touched a raw nerve. Went through similar situations as a child and as a mother. I shifted my both my children to a more inclusive school and my children flourished. Thanks for sharing your experiences and your thoughts.❤
Most common form of bullying is picking on weak students in front of whole class instead of helping them in gentle manner.. Teachers are supposed to help students grow in personal, educational and intellectual aspects.. I'm glad this video is out here..
I have never felt like this before but today, watching this, I feel so fortunate that I never had a teacher that left any negative impact on me. Yes, in the 15 years of schooling, I had a few really strict teachers but they were also supportive and always there for us. Maybe ny fellow students had a slightly different experience but mostly, we had a good support system from our school
😢 I can feel you there sister, that abuse for years have destroyed that lovely child inside you. I am a teacher myself now and I treat every child with equal caliber and gentle attitude. Because they must remember that one teacher who gave them the encouragement to be who they are. ❤❤
I was a very skinny, dark skinned boy who has been bullied by other students and even teachers when I was in school. That severely damaged my self esteem and confidence. But there were some teachers who have been really kind and saw me for what I am beyond my skin color and weight. I only appreciate those students and teachers who bullied me for showing me the harsh realities of life.
honestly, dark skin is such a beautiful body feature, I am not saying this because I pity u but because dark skin is indeed beautiful. I hope u realize that, and not feel insecure
I was in tears after listening her story. Reminded me of my painful memories. Bullying by children, bullying by teachers😢 But more than that my brother had more painful memories of his schooltime.He was not normal kid ,he had learning disability and intellectual disability, this was known by entire school,still male teachers use to beat him hard ,tear his notebook,homeworkbook because of wrong answers or bad handwriting.But not a single one acknowledged his efforts.his classmates too used to bully him. He was so traumatized by school days that he left the studies completely after 10th.My parents thought to let him study in normal school, thinking it would help to grow his learning abilities with other normal students.but teachers everyday use to call parents to school to tell complaints of not studying. But those teachers never gave special attention to him /his studies but use to bully him alot.
It's not only about teachers, people don't know the value of individual rights. No offense, cause they too never got it. Teachers are just part of that system. It all changes with awareness of individual rights within the citizens. I am sure it will increase exponentially in the coming decades with the generation change. 💯
Nope. Most incompetent people of the society end up as teachers. Worse if you are looking at smaller grade! These losers want to play god with kids. If a kids score less who should be blamed? The parents, grandparent, the kid,... but not the Teacher herself!!!
Yes some pple are also at this. However I have seen such PPL getting results of what they did in the past. In short whatever you do comes back to you.❤️
Currently I'm CBSE 10 grader. I used to be a topper till my class 7th. In 8th and 9th I got 2nd position which was completely fine in my opinion. And now I'm constantly feeling low on myself, not able to be better in studies and the reason is my teachers comments and my friends speaking ill for me and my parents blaming me. But these are the times I realised how all the teachers, "Parents", your classmates and seniors or juniors see you, just on the basis of your position. Till the time you're a topper or popular kid or sports person everyone will treat you nicely but when you keep coming down they only blame you and nobody tries to understand you. TOXIC SCHOOL SOCIETY.
It is very much so, don't pay them any mind I was a good student till 7th and everyone was all over me, then in 8th i performed badly and then in 9th grade, knowing my marks, nobody payed me any mind and some who used to talk to me a lot, outright ignored me It was a time for me to reflect and think on what actually, and who actually mattered in life Looking back years later, 9th class was the best time of my life because after seeing all their behavior and making peace with it i could be myself and enjoy myself free from expectations for a while lol
If i do have to give you advice, practical advice would be: the world's too big, getting position in one school and fussing over it won't do you any good at all; do your best but ultimately keep eyes on your actual lifetime plan or target. Im in college and trust me when i see peers who sing so well not getting selected in Music Club, which has 2 rounds of selection, similar for other clubs and stuff. Yaha har doosra banda / bandi apne college ki topper all rounder hai. Every other person i tell you. 99 percent in cbse, 790/800 in CUET. The world's too small, itni small goals na rakho Emotional advice: no matter goals and status, life is just a natural phenomena, its just happens, like a tree is alive, grass is, so are you. Don't pressure too much. Life's too short to live with stress.
I think parents are to blame here, more than the teachers. Problem with our parents is that they see children as a means of fulfilling their own dreams, they want kids to make up for their own failures in life. This thinking will change in the coming days. Don't stress over marks. Once you start earning, no one is going to ask your marks. The relatives who critized me for getting 72/100 in hindi in 10 th boards, today ask me which subject/ course will be the best for their kids. Enjoy your studies, try to learn as much as you can, work on your personality and skills. getting average marks won't do any harm. Read more, read what you enjoy. I don't know your background but i would advise you to learn about money, business, investments and financial freedom. Getting a job should not be your goal. Being financially free and being able to do what you love is the real success. All the best buddy. :)
I was a mediocre dude throughout my school years.Not that i am dumb or something it's just I didn't find it worthy of any efforts I ever put so I just did bare minimum. There is no use of working hard unless you gain something.
Recently, I changed colleges. I'm in 12th grade now, and the teachers in my current school would just come and grab someone's hair and beat them with a long stick as if it were normal. When I asked my classmates, their reply was, "It's pretty normal; there's no surprise if you find a teacher slamming a student to the wall. It's a 'disciplinary action' to teach the right behaviour." Mental abuse is also very common. A teacher would sometimes, for no reason, make a student stand up and scold them as hell (seriously, the students would be minding their business), even going as far as talking about how their mothers ran away with another man, so the kids turned out like shit. Of course, some students comment on teachers, creating a ruckus, but these types of students are everywhere. The thing is, even if the teachers took extreme measures, the students did not change a bit. There have to be other measures for dealing with tough kids but these types of teachers are inflicting mental and physical pain on all the other students.
I don't understand how can grown ass teachers can bully or treat small kids harshly. What kinda mindset is this. Disciplining is different from insulting, I read comments, somebody got punished for unable to afford shoes, somebody said he was called a chor by teachers.... How can 30+ aged teachers behave like enemy of 5 to 12 yo little kids? Sick!!
I literally dropped out of collage to join open schooling(home schooling), just to avoid bullying from teachers and students. It's a very serious issue in our society, but yet no one talks about it!
I literally cried while watching this video.. cuz it just came with lot of flashbacks of bad memories and all the sufferings. No matter where I'm today and how much I try to move on.. it still haunts me.
I am 36 year old male and I cried like anything when you mentioned that your class 9 teacher complement you on your smile after your nervous breakdown.
I remember how I used to be a gossip element in the teachers' staffroom. Their failure to guide a child to the right path mattered less and bullying me mattered more. I remember how my class 9 teacher used to purposely pick on me and bring me down in front of all. Horrific experience and traumas.
I was a subject of gossip too in staff room!! Sometimes I was laughed at when I was right there!!! How twisted an adult should be to gossip about a 13 year old child!!!! Toxic is to say the least….
Amazing insights, very passionately voiced out. Your account reminded me of my school principal who tortured children mentally and physically. He would cane, hit, kick and slap and scream at anyone at any moment. He would have been in jail if an iota of what he did happened in the country where I reside now. I was in this school from the kindergarten to GCE A/Ls. He was the principal throughout. So you can imagine how much terror he would have caused in the thousands of children. Yes there were really amazing one or two teachers too.
Yes, I've had tyrants as teachers. True monsters. I've been slapped, hit , demeaned, not allowed to go to the loo- inhuman people. Teachers are idiots. Parents need to know this.
I faced something similar when I was in class 2nd. My teacher slapped me in front of the entire class just because my hindi handwriting was not that good. She made two boys hold my hand so that I couldn't cover my face. And slapped me 3 to 4 times. She was saying that just having fair skin will not help. Even your notebook should look fair. She was my neighbor, and her daughter was also there in my class too. I performed avg in that school , and on the 5th class, I changed my school. Not only do I get a medal for best handwriting in hindi, but I also am far ahead in life in comparison to her daughter. Some teachers are real bully.
It wasn't so bad for me but still, I felt most of her pain. Wasn't a topper or pretty or good in sports or a dancer/singer or rich - hence was in the loser group. It wasn't said out loud. It was understood. - my own family used to make me feel ugly and odd and untalented. The butt of jokes. - kindness were rare and I still remember them. - literature was my escape. Even now, I escape into my shell most of the time at my mid 30s. Honestly, those life experiences create our personality and habits or defence mechanism. - harsh words and actions are still etched in my memory.
I was bullied by a teacher for 4 years, the worst years of my life. And my classmates followed along with that teacher, being bullies by the teacher and classmates every single day for 4 years. It was horrible, I attempted to take my own life 2 times in those 4 years.
First of all congratulations on bringing this topic up and discussing it out front. This is mostly an overlooked topic and I agree how many students' lives are traumatised by the so called 'teachers'. I wish such teachers get exposed and will stop this atrocity. I myself was bullied by a teacher, I would like to call out her name here; Beatrice of Saint Theresas Convent. She used to ask students to search my bag if anyone lost anything. She used to call me dumb and told I am only good enough to get married and have children. He once even threatened me that she will see that I dont get admission in any college. Monsters like these should never be allowed near children.
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They always say “respect your teachers” but the teachers need to give us respect first. Respect is earned not just for free.
Imagine giving respect and being humble to your bullies who were your main subject teachers.. imagine giving respect and talking politely to bullies who humiliated you in front of the whole class at every given opportunity and humiliated your parents in front of other parents and students during parent-teacher meetings.
Correct 💯
Not just one way street.
@@user-go7yi8ye7j yeah right, like probably gen y or gen x are very tolerant.
Right
Being a teacher is a huge responsibility and not everyone is capable of taking this responsibility. It's a huge shame on those teachers who are bullies and who push the students into the dark.
Ap bhi esa mat kar dena 😊
Imagine what their own children would be going through because they have to face that bullying even at home.
@@user-go7yi8ye7j and you are following him too right?
or teachers who play politics with students, shame.
MOSTLY FAMALE TEACHERS USED TO INSULT IN CLASS.
It's the story of every other student out there..
Being Bullied, beaten up, and cut off from the group is the way they think is necessary to do in order to make their carrier/to set an example so others would learn from it... It is so disheartening, demeaning and permanently becoming a haunting memory which stores in our subconscious that will haunt us for ever. This has to stop. No child deserves such lessons in life.
The way I've seen boy beaten up even by tuition teachers, it's child abuse plain and simple
Not to forget the infamous duster throws the teachers will do in case they feel we were not listening or dozed off slightly.
what century are you living in ?
Corporal punishments are still rampant in schools despite this practice being banned from 2009. What a colossal failure of our government. When are they going to enforce it?
@@piyushjoshigaming4503 This is the 90's and not very long ago. Be happy that you did not go through all these things kid. In fact your parents will tell the teacher to give you some beatings and set you straight.
Emotional damage >>>>>>>>>>>>>>physical damage
Yes I agree
Fax
I broke down while listening to you. Wandered back into my traumatic childhood. I was in a hostel with no respite and lived like that for 8 long years with extremely low to no confidence. I relate. I relate to every word , emotion you’ve expressed and all that you couldn’t. But just like in fairy tales, you & I also have a happy ending. We just needed that 1 comforting voice to tell us that we matter.
I am 46 and a mother of a teenager who loves school and her teachers. Thank you for sharing.
I was a KV student and sorry to say but 80% teachers were bullies and 20% made me who I am today. Thanks to all great teacher-you guys are pure love.
So true kv was hell for me too...
Yes, this is true. I studied in KV too and went through a lot of humiliation and psychological abuse from senior teachers. Those memories still gives me anxiety and shiver ness. It destroyed my self esteem forever😥
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Same here most teachers were bullies including kids that I do not remember the good times.
Same, i studied in kV too, nd now I am working. And I am telling u, working is waaay better than going to school in my opinion
Edit: ppl might say that school is better, but unfortunately I didn't have the luxury to experience that, all I rem are bad memories. Although there are some good gold nuggets here and there, it was mostly a bad experience for ne
Teachers are really bully.. Even I was made to do situps holding my ears just because I couldn't afford shoes😮😢
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
The way these teachers use mental torture techniques on children and only get away with it because we don't have strong child abuse laws in India
I'm from a southeast asian country and we had punishments like this when I was in school around 10 years ago. It seemed normal back then but in retrospect I can't believe I went through that.
@@taniamanik2012 20 years have lapsed but it still haunts me.. Humiliation is the worst poison..
School teachers today are really pathetic human beings. 95% dont teach at all, demotivate, insult weak and poor students, praise and help students with good background and rich powerful parents.
Handwriting shaming was a biggest issue back in my childhood. We need to speak about it too
Teachers used to tear and throw my books on the ground. They would always complain to my mother on parents teachers meeting about this. Ironically when I went to engineering teachers used to keep my assignments for reference because my handwriting now is very beautiful. As I grew up my
handwriting improved immensely.
And it does not matter. In real life if your handwriting is good you are not going to get paid extra. Schools create hype on useless thing.
My English teacher tells me as a last year high school student to write in cursive, like seriously? We have to write alot in short time and I don't have time to think about writing in cursive when I don't even have time to think, her English paper as long as and the time is so little
Yesss handwriting issues was given too much importance that time that only bcoz of hand they would ignore all his other talents .this had been the issue with my bro .due to which he later was not willing to attend school. There must be serious law to deal with such toxic teachers.
You aren't alone in this brdr🥹
Dear Mansi, as a parent and a teacher your story really struck a chord. Sadly, many children still face the same challenges you had and are silently struggling to cope. Thank you for sharing your personal ordeal so candidly. I'm sure it wasn't easy to let those memories back out. I hope this video makes us all more mindful of our responsibility towards our kids be it at home or in school. God bless and take care.
You can hear her voice slightly breaking... Even after all these years it still hurts her. This shows how much bullying can affect a child.. all throughout their life. Such wounds.. may heal but it'll leave a scar forever. Sending love and light to you ❤
Some teachers just hated me
No matter how hard you try, they just insult you for what you can't change
I remember a teacher beating me for just asking a question about what he was teaching
Picking on me every opportunity he got, made fun of me everyday and he enjoyed it.
The anxiety you get when the bully is your teacher is unreal
I loved going to school, but because of him it felt like hell
they pick on the weak, which is a trait I hate the most. They can't do the same with someone who is of their level or superior, it is always the children.
Same case for me as yours ,though i am in class 11th our english teacher who is such an old educated mind !She told me useless who always creates problem everytime and yeah i am her target always!
And most parent continue to enable such horrible behaviour.
True i can totally relate to you ....this year i got some worse teacher aka bullies ...like my physics teacher , my situation is just the same as you he insults me each and every day asks me a difficult question and when i am unable to answer it he insults me
He usually says words like " hatt " to me and the audacity is that those students who cant even speak in front of me laughs at me
Same but worser thing was that the teacher was teaching me from class 5 to class 10.
As a victim myself, this is serious as "me too" movement. The experience leaves you with scars for life!
So true
Listening story of the women in video and also all here in the comments felt like I am not going through anything actually i kinda go through bullying in class 12th all the years back then teachers were so nice to me as I was an A grader nd after covid I opted science which I don't have interst in but still don't have enough knowledge nd just opted it nd in 11th I had frnds in my class nd yeah whole 11th we just spent without studying at the end somehow I just managed to pass but my frnds get failed I actually do have my frnds in 12th even now but outside of the class in other sections or streams in my class the frnds I have i don't talk to them much but yeah it's fine it's like bcoz we r not tht close so I get so bored my class which r normal things but the main thing is where I get felt bullied was my maths teacher as also in 12th I wasn't scoring well so she just starting slowly taunting me or saying things what she should not say to me not just me some more kids in class nd i just start hating her there were some things she hv said to me which made me felt so bad nd now after seeing this video i get to know no matter what if teacher is being mean or saying something to you which u felt inappropriate I just need to speak up for myself or otherwise I need to end up restoring this all bad memories with me I wasn't ever that much scared to go school I wasn't ever felt that much bad or underconfident but yeah I know till now it was actually I wasn't putting efforts but now i hv started doing preparation for my September exams may be not much but m sure I will score better nd I must gain my confidence back after getting again good marks in academics well it's actually m sure I will get good marks in my boards but before that I am going to be topper of my class just after this September exams m going to do more gard work and i will smash my grades on the face of that maths teacher nd i just want to gain that much confidence to say nd tell that she is a bad teacher in front of her face
So true..
you should refuse to be a part of this.
Resilience is a better deal, and it makes you a superior human.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 24 and I’ll leave this comment here for people to imagine the amount of bullying I had to go through by my teachers and peers because no one knew what I was dealing with.
Same Bhai academic life was hell for me, as a student of class 6 I used to feel like a 9to5 office guy. I used to go for tuition directly from school. I remember each day like I have PTSD. I used to be average but the constant pressure from teachers and parents coz they used to spend a lot of money altogether crushed me. I tell my sister daily about my niece who's in class 3 now not to put any form of mental pressure on her. Her school is a scam, they teach stuff which are not even required for class 3, final and half yearly exams in the midst of festivals or a day prior to festivals clearly being done intentionally and what not, I literally fear for her..
I could've done better academically if I didn't had so much pressure the constant reminder "you are bad" "tumse nehi hoga" it should stop
@@TheTanmoy16 the amt of pressure pvt schools are putting on kids is unbearable. I would prefer to put my kid to some good govt school rather than these pocket emptiying pvt schools.
@@TheTanmoy16 I totally lost interesting in going to school ,I’ve hurt myself to skip school ,I would rather break my hand or cough vigorously than go to school to listen to the teachers and their daunting words ,in class 7 a teacher called me jungle man for having beard and worst part is I don’t know how these nincompoops are even qualified to teach ,to know shit and to teach shit is two different things ,teaching requires compassion,which most teachers lack these days .
@@TheTanmoy16 The PTSD thing is relatable to me. After my intermediate, I decided to join a job, because I didn't wanted that school thing again, and for two years I used to get nightmares of being back to school. I used to wake up at night due to the pain and fear I felt in sleep. Teachers at that time used to bully and were biased all the time. I had ADHD too, and nobody knew about it. I'm sure teachers even today are not aware of ADHD.
What were your symptoms?
I am 42 , male . tears just rolled down my cheeks silently as you said things which I echo with you . Things can’t be undone and it’s bygone era . I am greatful and have gratitude for that one professor in my Engg college who showed what empathy is . Thank you sir .
you are fine you are the best version of you.. Best wishes to you.. :) Cheer up
@@sammevinod 😀 that was an emotional video which just opened flood of bad memories in school . I studied in KV school and I guess it has its methods .
You are very strong, kind sir, to face such painful memories we need to steel our hearts
Best wishes to you and a good day !
My English teacher in Singapore really messed up my life. She bullied me so badly that I'm still dealing with the mental scars today. It's like she just had it in for me and wouldn't let up. I swear, I'll do whatever it takes to make sure no teacher ever messes with my kid and crushes their confidence like that
Every one says that English teachers are very sweet but my experience is very different
A teacher dragged me out of the stage in the middle of performance
A teacher slapped me in my face
I always stood out in corridor as an outcast
This was when i was merely 9
I grew up hating teachers
But then i found teachers , 2 or 3 who knew what i was and they are the reason what i am today , im thankful for them
Why did the teacher do that he/she is so dumb--
Thx for sharing
Why were u dragged?
I remember failing my Maths final exam class 11 by getting 9/40. I cried a lot when the papers were being distributed. My Maths teacher then took me to her room and explained me or I must say, counseled me. She said these papers should be framed so that you get motivated to not get this much the next time. I understood her words and she increased my marks to the passing marks. In the next unit test, that is in class 12, again I failed, and got 8/25. This time she was a little bit upset with my performance but still she consoled me, and increased my marks. In the terminal exam, I passed by 6 marks more than what is the passing exam. She was happy with my improvement. With her help (not tuitions), I got 21/25 in the next unit test and 91/100 in boards. After passing out, when I visited her, I came to know that she and one another teacher of my class used to discuss about my performance and they both were upset that despite trying very hard why I was not able to improve. I'll remember her forever for what she did for me, how she motivated me, how she guided me. Thanks to her
You are so fortunate to get such a great humble & patient teacher....
Teachers like them should be awarded with the best prize in the world.
So good to hear 😢😢😢 I was bullied by my own class teacher ( he was maths teacher)
yes u are fotunate but only few people are like that
Very unreal. From taare zameen par. Aisa kyon kiya aapke saath. Kya motivation tha? Hansi aati hai. Jahan sab ki pitai hoti thee app kaise bach gaye. If I recall there used to be this small group of respected children. Unhain kabhi punish nahin kiya jaata tha. Woh poor nahin thae. Toh ya toh aap us elite group kae honge ya yeh teachers unusual hongi. Aapke marks kaise maths main badha diye how it is possible. Those teachers were not honest. Maths main marks kaise increase kiye. Yeh to corruption aur favouritism hai. Equally bad.
Teachers literally destroyed my self worth and made me emotionally shut down as I was very sensitive. Always been a social misfit, never had one single peer at school or college who'd confide their secrets to me and be close to me. This made me never to be vulnerable to anyone and I had pushed away the only girl who was getting emotionally close to me.
Messed up parent, a workaholic and emotionally un-attuned father. A straying mother with daddy issues, who was narcissistic and physically mentally abusive towards me.
If there was one thing that I started carrying from childhood that I'm unable to put down, that'd be shame.
Shame of witnessing and being present while mother engaged in intimacy adultery outside marriage, while being passive and unable to act what I wanted to and confused. Ashamed of disappointing my parents by being an academic failure and being socially unrecognised. Ashamed that I've never had the "normal" social life everyone else had. Ashamed of being seen as the evil woman's child, and ignored by many of my relatives, living alone in a nuclear family.
Things got less intense after my primary school. Mom and dad spent more time, but never attuned to my sensitivity or even acknowledged my sensitivity. Always wanted a child, who acts like a man. I'm still carrying that shame, and it's not something you can discard just like that. Grow up, man up, take responsibility. Always felt like I was responsible for all the shitty things others did to me, and it was my responsibility to not make them tell me unworthy things. Shame isn't some label that can be removed off the forehead. You can't make your body produce insulin when diagnosed with diabetes just by yelling , "just make more insulin". F the world.
I know I didn't have as worse as u, but to tell u da truth, I hate my father too, made me and my mother's life hell since childhood...But I will tell u this: u don't deserve the shame. The people who should be ashamed deserved it... I consider myself an warrior, Who is born to fight both mentally and physically, and make sure I die a martyar's death.. I want u to believe the same. Go apologize to that girl if possible. Live urself again.
I relate with whatever you've said, except some things. I hope you find peace and good people.
@@sohamsteel1345 thanks for your words. Much appreciated but she's married now 😅😅.
I can live without expressing a slight distress, but it only lasts for two to three days and finally I sob inside the bathroom and cry myself to sleep. If I don't cry, I keep internalizing the repetitive flashbacks and my chest starts to ache and becomes tight.
Now I'm improving little bit, started listening to mild music and writing when I'm emotional and such. It's bearable.
@@sohamsteel1345 still we can't consider ourselves as beings without needs for emotional support, because we are born at the mercy of other adults, and when the adult caretakers are themselves living with unresolved trauma, then crap like this happens, like a broken adult trying hard to feel worthy of themselves.
I agree on you with fighting mentally and physically, not just for our survival but to reach out to others who need social support the most.
I hope we can change someone's life for the better. Thanks mate.
@@शाम्भव-qf7od thank you. It's getting better.
I wrote that comment when I was about to break down, and now I feel like a completely different person. The pain is more like a distant memory rather than something that needs to be dealt with to avoid such breakdown in future.
I completely dissociate myself from my melancholic state of self. It's not healthy, but I'm managing somehow and wish to make things even more safe and mentally healthy for me. Thanks.
Some teachers think they've got the right to bully students as they're teachers
Teaching isn't bullying or punishing - it's about "guiding' a child's future ❤
RESPECT to the teachers who actually know it !!
Same thing happened with me in same school in which I was teaching and I was young and today I am a DM of the same district.😊
Without bullying also u can bring achievement in kids.
I have never disclosed it to anyone in my life till now. How relatable your story is! It's hard to pen this down right now but I want to. I have always been a slow learner and I was mostly good in learning languages but not maths. So my maths teacher would always shame me for being poor in maths. On this unfortunate day, I couldn't solve a sum in the class and how she chose to punish me.. I still get shivers to this day. She asked me to go to every student's desk in the class and asked those students to slap me for not being able to solve the sum. Some of the boys and girlt hesitated to slap me and when she saw that some students were not slapping me harder she would ask them to slap me even harder. This was brutal. I wonder how some teachers like her can sleep peacefully at night.
Karma will get her, don’t worry. Hr insan hr subject men expert ho, ye zaruri nhi. Meri maths bohot achi thi, lekin Theorems kabhi smjh nhi aae. And I am totally okay with it. Einstein ko bhi hr subject nhi aata hoga.
Or ap neend ki bat krrhe ho, ese log khud ko ‘Teachers’ kese kehte hen, wo hi herat ki bat h.
Then my teachers were kind, the one's who should slap should go bench to bench. 😂
It is really sad😢🥺💔💔💔💔
I can sense how you must have felt. It's shameful on that teacher's part. Ridiculous. Government should be taking action.
We must not wish ill for others but this just makes me want to curse her for the very worst things to happen to her
What a bitch
May you heal from that, i don't know who and how you are, but you deserved so much better than that as a student and a young child :((
I was bullied so much by teachers and relatives without knowing what war was going inside me. I closed my shell so hard now that no one can open. 40 years of my life is over, and I am still there.
Please don't lock yourself up, yes school life do has deep impact on our lives... But that's one phase of life, life is bigger than that, you must come out of all those bitter memories and atleast now enjoy life... ❤ don't allow those cruel people who mistreated you, control your life 😊
@swift150_67 Thanks for the concern. Appreciate it. I tried but couldn't. The more I try, the more it gets tangle.
Please go to a therapist or counselor. You'll get the help you deserve, trust me.
@@eternalreality4346 In shaa Allah
Same bro.. same..
As a victim myself, I was humiliated every day by the class teacher in front of whole class. She used to call me in the front and slap me in front of 40 students every day. She was a monster. I felt helpless, hopeless at that time. I even stopped going school and later I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder at the age of 18 and had to take medicine for years. I quit school for 4 years but my parents are understanding and helped me a lot and I'm doing fine these days so I again joined school to continue my studies. Some teachers behave like monsters. (Please excuse my English)
I'm sorry for what you had to go through and also your English is absolutely fine. Sending you love and hugs ❤️
No need to excuse yourself, your english is perfect.
Hello! Whatever you experienced is extremely sad and unfortunate. You did not deserve it. Whatever happens can never be changed. But you have an extremely bright and happy future ahead of you. I truly wish you happiness, success, health and healing.
we all know they are, they call themselves role models who "shape" us, in reality we hate them and never want to be like them. They say "respect teachers", but it's teachers whom we respect not monsters.
Your English is really good my dear❤
I feel sorry for these teachers who were bullied in the same way by their teachers and parents.I had parents and teachers who used harsh words in the name of discipline. As a mother I choose to break the cycle and give all the love I can, so even when bullies surround her , she knows that she has a loving home she can come, where love is unconditional
I can relate 🙁
Such teachers are worse than the old British Raj terrorists.. They are not Bullying they breaking your God given talent ON PURPOSE.. AUR THU KUCH NAHI KAR SAKTE. Unless you can make your own money you are stuck in school and in such toxic environment. NOT EVEN GOD CAN SAVE.
I can relate too. But it wasn’t easy. I was actually brilliant, but not in a standard way. No way those self serving idiots could have ever realized. I too of course had no real realization of that back then… and due to the way I was treated, I hated school and everything it stood for. Who knows I could have studied better and followed my passions with all my heart if this was not done to me. I had a very hard time when I first became a mother. It took me a while to understand and break the cycle and make myself a better person despite the trauma.
@@Shamazcorner More power to you for breaking the cycle and taking the first steps to get over the trauma. Best wishes to you. I hope you revive those passions and may it bring you joy❤️
Discipline is a Hoax
I felt your pain. I hated my school days and college days. I was an average student but I worked really hard to get that average score unlike some students I know who put little effort and get good marks. There were very few teachers that I remember to this day who made me feel hopeful of the future and I’m very grateful to have had them in my life. I’m glad your kids are in a healthy environment.
People say school days are your golden years. But for me my school and college years were horrible. I cannot help but get enraged by the memories of the teachers i had back then. Teachers nowadays are much better trained and have been restricted in their conduct with kids. Thankful that my kids will never have to go through the same that i did. Worthlessness actually came from school days for many of us here.
Today I am 40. The same exact happened to me. Every teacher never missed a chance to insult me in front of the entire classroom. Every single day I got bullied by every teacher. All the others were laughing at me. All these embarrassments still make me angry even today. Whenever I remember these old horrified days, I curse all of these people. I don't have any respect for these teachers and classmates. Because of them, my academic career was damaged forever. I wish they burn in hell.
Yes! you have full right to hate them and wish bad upon them they choosed this after all .😊
Same here, I was bullied in class, my father also always used to insult me in front of others
They are burning already if not they will burn. It will happen for sure. Cause there is a thing called KARMA.
I swear to God, I wish the same for my bully teachers and some classmates.
@@--xx--5800 I truly believe in this..
Cried watching this . I want to give my past self a hug for all that she had seen and went through .
I wanna share this to every teacher and professor who bullied me.
Plz tell your parents for take stand for you too❤
@@DonalM110n my parents did take stand whenever possible but that just led to more mocking from my teachers when my parents where not there. It also led to teachers declaring in the class to be wary of me repelling many friends away.
Share it. They must know. I'm doing the same
It isn't helpful though for some rock hearted people
People don’t realize how much bullying affects a child, especially when it’s coming from a teacher. Those haunting memories never go away even after changing schools.
I had this teacher who always picked on me for no reason, she used to call me a loser and never passed an opportunity to shame me in front of the whole class.
And if that weren’t enough, her son, who was also in my class made my life hell. He, along with his awful friends bullied me nearly everyday. For all these reasons I used to cry a lot and all the kids in my class hated me for it. In parents teachers meeting, the same teacher made fun of my parents in front of everybody. It was something I’ll never forget.
No one ever saw how much my 8 year old self suffered.
Please people, be kind, it’s very easy to criticize and bully but those memories never go away. They haunt.
My uncle suffered from epileptic seizures as a kid and no one thought anything of it. as he grew older his brain nerves were severely damaged and it completely took away his ability to think for himself and control his anger. 40 years of unemployment and a series of huge family fights and suicide scares later, we finally realized that the reason he was this way was because the teachers back then used to beat the ever loving shit out of their students for making the smallest mistakes and my uncle suffered from seizures because those teachers would hit him on his head.
just the thought that, he couldve been completely different, successful and happy in life if not for his teachers ruining his life for him..... i cant imagine the pain of realizing how 40 years of his life were wasted because of a teacher. rona ata hai, but kya kare.
Oh man! So true for a lot of students who are not academically great as their peers. From a academic life of 20-22 years - you would probably remember 2-3 teachers who would hv truly inspired you, motivated you and helped you through difficult times. But I wish we had more of them who love to mentor, help and educate and not just stuck in a wrong profession because he/she couldnt find anything to else.
Always wondered, why wouldn’t teachers pay more attention to the weaker students versus the ones who are good already.
Its like a doctor treating a healthy person and not willing to do anything for an ailing patient
I remember crying in front of my class when I had a meltdown in class 6. I don't know or care if students around me laughed or anything. There was just pure silence in the room for the first time that I experienced. The teacher consoled me by berating the bullies. I wish someone had perceived me like she did before so I'd not be such a awkward introvert. Being honest, I felt that she understood me better than my own parents.
Good message. A lot of us who have grown up in 80s and 90s have faced bullies in school be it teacher or other student. So Let's create a world where kindness prevails and every individual is celebrated for their uniqueness. Stand up against bullying, spread love, and let empathy be our guide. 💪
I was bullied too, by my parents, teachers and peers. I had my mental breakdown at a later stage of school due to a certain teacher. Fighting Anxiety and Depression for 15+ years now, to no avail. The only thing that kept me going were the few who did acknowledge me. I even tried to commit suicide once, and realized I am a coward to do even that. Its been over a decade now and I am a teacher myself at this point, constantly encouraging my students for even teensy bit of effort they make, be it a failure in the end. I do not want my students to go through what I went through
Well I am currently in class 12th , but in my KV,OFD
All the teachers are purely the ones who came down from heaven , always supporting and helping and are pretty fun to interact with ( aged between 40-60) it's not like that they are college grads . I think the new generation of teachers is not so strict compared to the past one but the ones we have in our school is just the amazing.
I am sorry to hear about those tragic experiences , never let them make you weak , always fight back guys
Needs to be played this in government websites and children hospitals ❤
Dear Mansi, so sorry you had to go through this. I went through the same too, but not to that extent. Today I am a principal of a senior secondary school and make it a point to know every child individually. It is really a blessing to see the children love school so much. Truly every word matters especially when it comes from teachers.
I had a teacher who used to drag me by my uniform collar & try to strip me in classroom as punishment for not covering notebooks 😡. Her logic was we must cover notebooks, it's like dressing, so she tried to unbutton my uniform in front of other kids. I used to beg her to not do that, then after a lot of dragging, she would leave me.
I used to be scared at the sight of her, especially in some vibrant colored sarees, she used to look like monster with wide nose lol...
I was a silent boy, these kinda horror made me aggressive one.
Sorry 😢 to hear...i can understand what had you gone through.....
😢😢... teacher should be one who we respect but believe me after my 12th and graduation i remember and respect only 2 teacher.... what an irony right... I was taught by more than 100 but only want to respect 2 ....
I understand you feeling 😔
If I was your mother, I would have lost control and hit that teacher because women like her should be in mental asylum not in a classroom.
Sexual assualt that was it call it what it was .I hope you are doing well brother much love and strength.
That touching and unbuttoning collars is sexual assault....that teacher deserves slaps
So sorry that u went through that....
I hope my bully teachers realise what they had put me through those days that even some of my classmates treated me differently, and each person who said " are teachers tumhare bhale ke liye hi to bolte hai" I hope they also realise that even teachers can be bullies sometimes.
I respect my teachers who always acknowledged me I can never forget them❣️, and those teachers are also unforgettable who pushed me in depression.
She just described my whole life. I went through very similar circumstances including "eating to find comfort" , being obese, being average to having a mental breakdown infront of class to becoming the most unapproachable and inferior person I'm now. I'm healing and just like her I wonder why I didn't kill myself. I'm crying rn!
Take care you matter
I had some psychopaths as my teachers, but I managed to survive them all.
What still makes me sad is that when I was going through these ordeals, my own family didn't try to understand me and took the side of these teachers. I don't hate anyone, but if I ever see these psychopaths again, I will punch them on the nose for sure.
Same here some psychopaths come in our life in the form of so called teachers
3 days back I was travelling in Mumbai local train where 2 ladies were talking about their B.Ed and M.Ed entrance test -about Common Entrance Test-after exam talking about how they hid the cheat notes from their supervisor. This made me feel so much pain for their future students. This is reality. We really don't deserve such teachers who themselves copies .That moment I felt really disgusting.
A big problem these days.... have seen this behaviour and they are teachers....
Once, a certain Professor in an elite institution reprimanded a student in our GIS class. The student was from a poor background and didn't have his own laptop. The Professor's exact words were: "Why are you even doing this degree if you don't have a computer" ? And this elite institution had computer labs with all the facilities. So yes, teachers are cruel and they are the real bullies. Sad reality of our institutions.
I'm also one of those people who had a rough time in school myself and I'm honestly glad it is over now.
I've seen so many examples of the teachers who were utterly selfish, and had favouritism of children (who took their tuition after school) and didn't teach properly in school but in the extra classes.
I don't respect most of the teachers as I'm an adult now. Well there certainly are a handful of teachers whom I respect from the bottom of my heart.
My trauma is coming close to healing though, and I believe reminiscing about this is worthless. To everyone who has been through this, just let it go man.
I'm not asking you to forgive them, cuz I haven't done that either. But if it haunts you and hurts you still, you are giving them the power over you.
You aren't defined by your traumas. You are stronger than that. You are stronger than everything life has thrown at you. Stop holding onto that trauma, just tell it to "f$%k off" and stop bothering you.
Thankfully someone said it.. I have been a victim of teacher's bullying and this has made me a very unconfident person today.. I also get anxiety attacks during social gatherings. Such teachers encourage other students into bullying as well
The comment section is so heartbreaking. Reading all the comments made me realise how important it is for us to not only correct our children but elders too when you know they’re being mean and potentially scarring someone for their whole life. People remember how you made them feel even after 15-20 years or the lifetime has passed and this comment section is a proof of that. I hope we all start being more kind towards ourselves and each other. ♥️
The problem is teachers think hey can do whatever they like
You're so right❤
We should make this video play on every Teacher Day! These toxic teacher who themselves are the biggest bullies, who encourage bullies in the first place! HYPOCRITES!!!
The Teachers Day should be boycotted. I literally cringe when somebody post status of Teachers day in social media.
@@periperi-q1b No It shouldnt be, otherwise students wont receive holiday. LOL
@@Azmarine13 It is not even a holiday, a week before all the crap starts about "selecting students to become teachers for that day" and yet another useless drama in the name of celebration.
Ikr, in our school they make us work on both teachers and children's day, and act as if they are the one working, my school is intense in bullying when it comes to teachers, while the students are what I hate the most, they are all snakes
@@anewlife5846Trueee
Thank you! For putting this so clear and crisp. Most of the teachers when growing up lack compassion for children and were frustrated by their job and life who used to pick on small children so they could feel better about themselves! Appreciate your efforts. May your voice reach every person who do have the power to protect their child from these bullies!
You spoke my words
Forward this to all the teachers who bullied you and tag them publicly. Only shaming them publicly will teach these teachers a lesson.
Completely agree ❤
They don't care
@p15209 True
Yes, teachers are bullies. My maths and commerce teacher were big-time bullies. I hated school, but only after I reached college did I feel peace of mind.
UPDATE - This is not about religion for me but about basic kindness, in fact, it was non-Muslims who have helped me shape my life. My statement was to make people aware that something so awful can occur inside the safe walls of the classroom.
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I was made aware by my class 6th teacher of having a Muslim identity. My mother abandoned me and my father. My teacher stood me up to say this is what happens in their community, they give birth to children and move on. In the whole classroom, pointing fingers at a motherless girl, she spoke badly about my father- with no fault of his own. It still hurts.
Thank you, Mansi, I hear you. Each point reverberates.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that 💔 you are worthy,amazing person and very STRONG anyone who can go through something like that and also get abounded by their parents MUST have to be strong. Always remember you can be anything !❤
Felt so bad reading your comment abeer. I hope you get over that inhuman behavior you received. You have my good wishes coming from heart.
Being motherless or fatherless is completely horrifying..
My uncle was mere 12 yrs old when he killed himself coz his both parents were dead in an accident from teachers to entire society started calling him a rakshash and began cursing him ,even if he broke a single glass he was asked as if he wanna eat them too.
Tum jaise musalmano k saath kiya to phir thik h tum log to chalte phirte terrorists ho nothing new...sahi kiya current Islam is like disease I prefer people who spread true Islam which Prophet Md. Ji taught us...😊
You lived through it and are present here to share your experience. That is something to be celebrated, no? Shit happens to every one of us. Take care of yourself and humanity and all will be taken care of.
This topic has to be raised.. So precisely said ❤
Exactly...The trauma could last forever but at the end of the day you have to play with the cards that you're dealt with.
Everytime I hear people often saying I miss my school days and all but for me I wish my school memories are wiped out permanently 🥲
@@thepessimist1160 same I want to wiped out my school memories , iam good in study praises by teachers and relatives but being shy , introvert and have skinny body . I get bullied by friends, schoolmates even by cousins they used to call me mental, chutiya ratondi😢
@@gautamsharma3185 That's because they are insecure about themselves and jealous of you.
Thank you for being out there, making us feel we've all gone through same struggles. My class teacher in 3rd grade she would always be real harsh at me for making mistakes, one day she even slapped me, questioned my worth as a person in front of the whole class. Same with other teachers. Why do teachers question their children and their worth when their job is to just teach and not make personal comments. My height was picked upon, she made comments on my appearance in front of the whole class. I thought it was normal. Growing up, it really wasn't. My math teacher in 8th she would target and scrutinize me for just existing, it was so bad I ended up in clinical depression and she calls me "sensitive" in front of the whole class. I never liked teachers, ever.
I always hated every single teacher in my life but then one day I found a teacher who showed me that not every teacher is a bad one. Who taught me unconditionally and made me what I'm today.
Almost 80% my story. For the teachers, “good child” simply meant academically brilliant; and if you are academically not good, automatically it translated to bad, insincere, lazy etc and yes, “shaming”, “character killing”, “scape goating” were all part of the parcel.
Many of us survived the education system just because of some angels like the Class 9 teacher mentioned here.
Now I am a teacher myself and I try focusing on “how not to be” than “how to be” aspects, so that I am not becoming yet another ‘bully’ in the list.
Best of luck!
Warm hugs for anyone who is going through similar scenes if not in school but in higher institutions. Don't give up. Only you know what you are capable of❤
Thank you..
Thank you😭❤
To all of those who at the time knew they were being targeted but none of your classmates believed you and thought you must be doing something wrong for the teachers to pick on you... I feel you and it pains me to say that you are not alone. what you had to go through was real and not a figment of your imagination and neither was it borderline narcissistic to feel that they were out for your blood and bullying you was their day job. it happened.
God, I felt useless. It felt as if everyone hated me. I felt like I don't matter to anyone. I felt useless to the world. Incompetent and unable.
we feel the same. It boils my blood now, may those teachers rot in hell. But! Karma will hit them well. Disgusting, lowlife teachers.
This really broke me (in a good way) to read. All I wanted back in hs senior year was for one of my classmates to not look at me like I was crazy when I started breaking down after our Lit. teacher picked on me. I didn’t choose to be in her class, I didn’t choose to be recommended in her class. But, she made sure it was my problem that I was there and that I existed. She’s still working in that school, I hope the kids she’s teaching now are better off
Dear Mansi, thankyou for voicing it out. It is a horrible reality for so many students out there, but very few addresses it. I have had few bitter experiences myself, and till date it makes me feel bad.
This is disgusting. Especially what the teachers did. Something like this has happend to me. I remember my teacher at grade 7 would always favor this one student who was my best friend. She did not care about studies. She was to lazy to write so my teacher wouldn't say anything to her. Just a smile. When I didn't do my homework because I was sick, she started screaming at me for no reason. She even have me a very bad role in a performance. Even though I was the one who gave the idea for the play. When I went to the next grade. I didn't even look at her and when she said hi to me I just rolled my eyes and walked straight cuz she couldn't so anything to me anymore. She deserved it. This is the least I could do. Also in grade 2 this happend. Now it's much better
Finally, someone is saying what desperately needed to be said.... Kudos to you Mansi ! There were many such terrible teachers in my school too....
Thanks Mansi Poddar for voicing the opinion of millions of Indians (particularly introverts) who have been through your journey and survived the Indian "Education System" over a decade of schooling. I understand that RTE Act bars teachers / schools from inflicting corporal punishment to students, but I am told it isn't implemented in letter or spirit in most schools. The primary purpose of education is to identify the innate talent in each child and then hone it to enable the child to get the best shot at leading a successful and fulfilling life. We are a long long way off from this objective.
Indians hate introverts. I enjoy my alone time and spend some of it, doing creative things like writing, drawing and cooking. I also started going to gym to take better care of my body. Because I don’t barge into houses and be social, I’m always branded as the “unfriendly” and “quiet” person everywhere I go. My sister has social anxiety and struggles speaking to people. She is also hated for that and severely misunderstood.
@@jaybirdfly149 Well, not just Indians, the world over introverts are often disliked for being unsocial. I see myself as an ambivert, but I feel you. IMO, it's better to be unsocial than anti-social (as many extroverts tend to be, by forcing their views and whims on others). It's okay to stay private and quiet. More power to you and your sister. Good day !
As a student in grade 4 i remember my teacher taking a photo of me, while i was too young to know this was joke, i took it seriously because i feared my parents and i was crying, ricocheting around the classroom, That night the teacher called my parents and told i had a mental disorder or something. The next year I became a completely new person, from a dumb low scoring student to a science topper of gr5 by one and only: MY NEW CLASS TEACHER. She changed my life and im forever thankful for her contributions in my life and now im completely a difference person in gr12.
What a sick teacher!
Oh my ! My son suffered similar experience in grade 8 when he forgot to do his maths hw. My father had recently passed away n my son was very attached to his grandpa. He became forgetful due to the depression. Normally my son is well known for his discipline n was the class monitor but that day he was punished just like the other kids. No issues there, he didnt do hw n was punished but the tchr went ahead n took photographs n said I will send it to your parents.
My son was so scared as he never had faced such punishment ever. But he came home n immediately told me about it. I hugged him n told him it's ok to goof up at times n I will handle the situation if the teacher complains.
Pl support your child if they genuinely forget sometime to do their hw or submit assignments. They are handling multiple subjects in school, balancing extra curricular activities n projects n assignments...the list is endless. So much pressure for such young shoulders.
@@prachialdangadi9663 sir/mam can you explain what thing they captured as photo? I mean what is there to be scared of a photograph?
@@magnum9750 magnum, the tchr captured all children exiting the classroom for not doing their homework. The photo was supposed to be sent to the parents.
Definitely. Today I'm 35. Here and then I used to think about my horrible school days, I was in an assumption that I was just over thinking. But still those memories stays with me. Thank god someone is speaking about it. Thanks a lot......
Her story really triggered some past memories in me, things I don't want to remember at all. Home was suffocating enough with a strict unhealed mother, being molested left and right by some relatives in the neighborhood. And my bullies at school weren't any better. It was indeed a warzone and it was up to me to survive. Fortunately, although punishments would come in all forms, I'm glad i wasn't bullied by the teachers atleast
In my school most of them see partiality like if the good scoring child did something wrong they don't consider it as a big thing ,but if a student who is a slow learner or a moderate one if they done any mistake they make it as a big problem and insult them in front of everyone, also the teacher support their tension on us, and always look do of us which makes us feel we are useless😢😢 that too I am suffering from anxiety
The teacher really don't know what I have gone through my life, they simply think I spoiled brat
This things really hurt me . I don't know whether it is good to sit and talk with my parents about this
so I just keep it with myself
These things really increased my problem of anxiety
MAY THE TEARS OF THESE CHILDREN FALL BACK ON THESE TEACHERS AND THEIR FAMILIES HEADS 10 TIMES MORE....TIME DOES NOT HEAL...GOD HEALS...
It seems like you described my whole life in your words, looks like I ain't alone who had faced bullies, fake friends, perverts and off course bad parenting as a kid. I'm in college 1st year surrounded by polite people who seems trustworthy but now I find it very difficult to trust anyone, still trying to overcome my past traumas don't know how to deal with them & often feels emotionally exhausted, your words gave me new strength and peace to try again, to fight my fears. Thanks a lot ma'am.
I am a victim myself, not only teachers but also students bullied me for a whole 9 years. At that point only one thing came to my mind that why is this world so cruel. I really want teachers to stop being a bully and understand the children present in her classroom.
so sorry for you...same my case!
You've touched a raw nerve. Went through similar situations as a child and as a mother. I shifted my both my children to a more inclusive school and my children flourished.
Thanks for sharing your experiences and your thoughts.❤
Unfortunately Indian school teachers really put down people with low grades
Most common form of bullying is picking on weak students in front of whole class instead of helping them in gentle manner.. Teachers are supposed to help students grow in personal, educational and intellectual aspects.. I'm glad this video is out here..
Tbh so much authority given to them that they can anything and vanish any case against them.
I have never felt like this before but today, watching this, I feel so fortunate that I never had a teacher that left any negative impact on me. Yes, in the 15 years of schooling, I had a few really strict teachers but they were also supportive and always there for us. Maybe ny fellow students had a slightly different experience but mostly, we had a good support system from our school
😢 I can feel you there sister, that abuse for years have destroyed that lovely child inside you. I am a teacher myself now and I treat every child with equal caliber and gentle attitude. Because they must remember that one teacher who gave them the encouragement to be who they are. ❤❤
I lost my interest in my studies because of my teachers💔 I can completely relate to this
Thank god someone spoke the harsh truth. God bless all students.
I was a very skinny, dark skinned boy who has been bullied by other students and even teachers when I was in school. That severely damaged my self esteem and confidence. But there were some teachers who have been really kind and saw me for what I am beyond my skin color and weight. I only appreciate those students and teachers who bullied me for showing me the harsh realities of life.
honestly, dark skin is such a beautiful body feature, I am not saying this because I pity u but because dark skin is indeed beautiful. I hope u realize that, and not feel insecure
@@shreyakumari-g9z thanks 😊
Being well dressed is all that matters
The OTHER side of Teachers day..Ma'am thank you for sharing your personal experience...everyone watching FELT it
Misbehaving with child infront of whole class for not paying fee is also very brutal
I feel the emotions of this woman... this is exactly what happened to me... School was hell for me
I was in tears after listening her story. Reminded me of my painful memories. Bullying by children, bullying by teachers😢
But more than that my brother had more painful memories of his schooltime.He was not normal kid ,he had learning disability and intellectual disability, this was known by entire school,still male teachers use to beat him hard ,tear his notebook,homeworkbook because of wrong answers or bad handwriting.But not a single one acknowledged his efforts.his classmates too used to bully him. He was so traumatized by school days that he left the studies completely after 10th.My parents thought to let him study in normal school, thinking it would help to grow his learning abilities with other normal students.but teachers everyday use to call parents to school to tell complaints of not studying. But those teachers never gave special attention to him /his studies but use to bully him alot.
It's not only about teachers, people don't know the value of individual rights. No offense, cause they too never got it. Teachers are just part of that system.
It all changes with awareness of individual rights within the citizens.
I am sure it will increase exponentially in the coming decades with the generation change. 💯
Nope.
Most incompetent people of the society end up as teachers. Worse if you are looking at smaller grade!
These losers want to play god with kids.
If a kids score less who should be blamed? The parents, grandparent, the kid,... but not the Teacher herself!!!
Yes some pple are also at this. However I have seen such PPL getting results of what they did in the past.
In short whatever you do comes back to you.❤️
Currently I'm CBSE 10 grader. I used to be a topper till my class 7th. In 8th and 9th I got 2nd position which was completely fine in my opinion. And now I'm constantly feeling low on myself, not able to be better in studies and the reason is my teachers comments and my friends speaking ill for me and my parents blaming me. But these are the times I realised how all the teachers, "Parents", your classmates and seniors or juniors see you, just on the basis of your position. Till the time you're a topper or popular kid or sports person everyone will treat you nicely but when you keep coming down they only blame you and nobody tries to understand you. TOXIC SCHOOL SOCIETY.
It is very much so, don't pay them any mind
I was a good student till 7th and everyone was all over me, then in 8th i performed badly and then in 9th grade, knowing my marks, nobody payed me any mind and some who used to talk to me a lot, outright ignored me
It was a time for me to reflect and think on what actually, and who actually mattered in life
Looking back years later, 9th class was the best time of my life because after seeing all their behavior and making peace with it i could be myself and enjoy myself free from expectations for a while lol
If i do have to give you advice, practical advice would be: the world's too big, getting position in one school and fussing over it won't do you any good at all; do your best but ultimately keep eyes on your actual lifetime plan or target. Im in college and trust me when i see peers who sing so well not getting selected in Music Club, which has 2 rounds of selection, similar for other clubs and stuff. Yaha har doosra banda / bandi apne college ki topper all rounder hai.
Every other person i tell you.
99 percent in cbse, 790/800 in CUET. The world's too small, itni small goals na rakho
Emotional advice: no matter goals and status, life is just a natural phenomena, its just happens, like a tree is alive, grass is, so are you. Don't pressure too much. Life's too short to live with stress.
I think parents are to blame here, more than the teachers. Problem with our parents is that they see children as a means of fulfilling their own dreams, they want kids to make up for their own failures in life. This thinking will change in the coming days.
Don't stress over marks. Once you start earning, no one is going to ask your marks. The relatives who critized me for getting 72/100 in hindi in 10 th boards, today ask me which subject/ course will be the best for their kids.
Enjoy your studies, try to learn as much as you can, work on your personality and skills. getting average marks won't do any harm. Read more, read what you enjoy.
I don't know your background but i would advise you to learn about money, business, investments and financial freedom. Getting a job should not be your goal. Being financially free and being able to do what you love is the real success.
All the best buddy. :)
I was a mediocre dude throughout my school years.Not that i am dumb or something it's just I didn't find it worthy of any efforts I ever put so I just did bare minimum.
There is no use of working hard unless you gain something.
Recently, I changed colleges. I'm in 12th grade now, and the teachers in my current school would just come and grab someone's hair and beat them with a long stick as if it were normal. When I asked my classmates, their reply was, "It's pretty normal; there's no surprise if you find a teacher slamming a student to the wall. It's a 'disciplinary action' to teach the right behaviour." Mental abuse is also very common. A teacher would sometimes, for no reason, make a student stand up and scold them as hell (seriously, the students would be minding their business), even going as far as talking about how their mothers ran away with another man, so the kids turned out like shit. Of course, some students comment on teachers, creating a ruckus, but these types of students are everywhere. The thing is, even if the teachers took extreme measures, the students did not change a bit. There have to be other measures for dealing with tough kids but these types of teachers are inflicting mental and physical pain on all the other students.
My teachers used to give me punishments, slap , scolding and finally when I was successful, they were the ones to be most happy.
I don't understand how can grown ass teachers can bully or treat small kids harshly. What kinda mindset is this. Disciplining is different from insulting, I read comments, somebody got punished for unable to afford shoes, somebody said he was called a chor by teachers.... How can 30+ aged teachers behave like enemy of 5 to 12 yo little kids? Sick!!
I literally dropped out of collage to join open schooling(home schooling), just to avoid bullying from teachers and students. It's a very serious issue in our society, but yet no one talks about it!
I literally cried while watching this video.. cuz it just came with lot of flashbacks of bad memories and all the sufferings. No matter where I'm today and how much I try to move on.. it still haunts me.
I am 36 year old male and I cried like anything when you mentioned that your class 9 teacher complement you on your smile after your nervous breakdown.
I'm a teacher, yet I have tears in my eyes.
You are now a strong, beautiful and accomplished woman! Congratulations for being an amazing person!
I remember how I used to be a gossip element in the teachers' staffroom. Their failure to guide a child to the right path mattered less and bullying me mattered more. I remember how my class 9 teacher used to purposely pick on me and bring me down in front of all. Horrific experience and traumas.
I relate to you so much. We stand out so they pick on us
All the love n light ❤
I was a subject of gossip too in staff room!! Sometimes I was laughed at when I was right there!!! How twisted an adult should be to gossip about a 13 year old child!!!! Toxic is to say the least….
Amazing insights, very passionately voiced out. Your account reminded me of my school principal who tortured children mentally and physically. He would cane, hit, kick and slap and scream at anyone at any moment. He would have been in jail if an iota of what he did happened in the country where I reside now. I was in this school from the kindergarten to GCE A/Ls. He was the principal throughout. So you can imagine how much terror he would have caused in the thousands of children. Yes there were really amazing one or two teachers too.
Yes, I've had tyrants as teachers. True monsters. I've been slapped, hit , demeaned, not allowed to go to the loo- inhuman people.
Teachers are idiots. Parents need to know this.
One female teacher in our school used to unbutton top 3 buttons of boy's shirts as punishment. Very much perverted bully she was!
I think this video should go viral and every teacher in India needs this😢
I faced something similar when I was in class 2nd. My teacher slapped me in front of the entire class just because my hindi handwriting was not that good. She made two boys hold my hand so that I couldn't cover my face. And slapped me 3 to 4 times. She was saying that just having fair skin will not help. Even your notebook should look fair. She was my neighbor, and her daughter was also there in my class too. I performed avg in that school , and on the 5th class, I changed my school. Not only do I get a medal for best handwriting in hindi, but I also am far ahead in life in comparison to her daughter. Some teachers are real bully.
It wasn't so bad for me but still, I felt most of her pain.
Wasn't a topper or pretty or good in sports or a dancer/singer or rich - hence was in the loser group. It wasn't said out loud. It was
understood.
- my own family used to make me feel ugly and odd and untalented. The butt of jokes.
- kindness were rare and I still remember them.
- literature was my escape. Even now, I escape into my shell most of the time at my mid 30s. Honestly, those life experiences create our personality and habits or defence mechanism.
- harsh words and actions are still etched in my memory.
I was bullied by a teacher for 4 years, the worst years of my life. And my classmates followed along with that teacher, being bullies by the teacher and classmates every single day for 4 years. It was horrible, I attempted to take my own life 2 times in those 4 years.
First of all congratulations on bringing this topic up and discussing it out front. This is mostly an overlooked topic and I agree how many students' lives are traumatised by the so called 'teachers'. I wish such teachers get exposed and will stop this atrocity. I myself was bullied by a teacher, I would like to call out her name here; Beatrice of Saint Theresas Convent. She used to ask students to search my bag if anyone lost anything. She used to call me dumb and told I am only good enough to get married and have children. He once even threatened me that she will see that I dont get admission in any college. Monsters like these should never be allowed near children.
😮😮 shocking....😢