Six months ago I started playing the piano when I felt that I needed a drink. Tomorrow I'll give my first concert in the theater of my city. This video helped me even more.
Just started tossing around the idea of long-term sobriety while in the shower less than ten minutes ago, only to see this upload in my feed. Alright universe - sign received, loud and clear.
Nice i got on the bars aka xanax not sure what they call where you are but xanax sucks getting off and the addiction takes a lot out of your enjoyment in life congrats for getting of the bars
this was so good! I work for a sober morning rave events company in London called Morning Gloryville (its literally my job to smear biodegradable glitter on people!) and we get nearly 1000 sober people turn up to dance, do yoga, take part in workshops, have tarot readings, eat good vegan food etc! sobriety is really starting to take off and change peoples lives for the better, its such a beautiful thing!
not drinking is great. when someone offers me a drink, I just say no thanks, I don’t drink. I only ever drank bc of pressure of others. alcoholism runs in my family and i decided i don’t want that to be my reality. proud of you Harmony ✨
same here, my dad is an alcoholic and just really dont want that kind of life.. it ruined alot of things even to the point of me and my brother cutting ties w him. we gave him enough changes but he kept ruining it w alcohol
Seeing you looking this cozy, without makeup, so calm, and so relaxed feels like I'm talking face to face with a friend. You look a lot more chill on youtube and I love that! Love from Spain!
Watching this as a fellow addict in recovery from heroin/fentanyl and meth. I will have 9 months clean in 7 days, universe willing. Currently living in an Oxford house in the Denver metro area. I grew up on the east coast, but last year on August 27th, I decided that maybe after ten years of active addiction it would be a wise decision to move far away, which I did by myself entirely. As a chronic relapser, I knew that I really had to get the fuck away from all the people places and things that trigger me in CT. Moving across the country by myself was the best decision I’ve ever made. I did end up having stressful things happen with the friend I moved here to live with, and that is what lead me to use again after having a few weeks to a month clean. It really took me ending up homeless and in psychosis (due to having bipolar 1) before I gathered the courage to tell my mom that I feel like I’m barely alive, I’m depressed/manic and suicidal, and also in active addiction once again. I called with the intention of informing my mom of the situation, telling her I’m calling around to detoxes and rehabs, and hoping that she would be willing to support me while I’m in inpatient getting help. For the second time.. now I am here today, a functioning member of society working full time taking care of infants in a prestigious private school. I feel blessed today. 10/18/19 🖤
I am so proud of you. My dad was an alcoholic for the majority of my childhood. He is almost 6 years sober. The amount of respect I have for people who’ve fought for sobriety is so high.
My parents used to let me drink beer when I was a teenager (it was the late 70s/early 80s). By the time I was in college, my motto was "If you're not wasted, the day is." The legal drinking age in Texas where I'm from was 18 at the time, and we had a bar on campus, as well as numerous bars just off campus...and I could be found in one of those pretty much every night, or at an on-campus or off-campus party. I never SAID stupid things when I was drunk, but I did DO a lot of stupid things. After graduating college, things hadn't changed much. I worked mostly nights, and my co-workers and I would hit the local clubs after work three or four nights a week. Five years later, I met the woman that I would spend the next almost 19 years with. She also loved to party and she introduced me to weed. We went out drinking almost nightly, then came home and smoked until we fell asleep. By the time I reached my early 30s, overcoming the hangovers became harder and harder for me and I started slowing down, but my partner didn't. Also, I either was unaware or unwittingly ignoring that she had also developed addictions to harder drugs, most notable meth. While I never stopped drinking or smoking altogether, I did cut way back...but she never did until her health started to deteriorate. Although she cleaned up the meth addiction, the damage had already been done and she ultimately died of congestive heart failure in 2010. Through my depression after this, I got back into heavy drinking for a while, but I did quit the drug use and haven't even had any weed in ten years. I eventually just slowed down to the point where I am now. I will drink liquor or beer socially, and still usually have wine available to myself at home, but my alcohol intake is down to two or three drinks a week. I don't think I could ever quit it completely.
All of what you've stated you've gone through AND overcome is a huge sign that you ARE capable and strong enough to be able to quit completely. You've already proven that. All you have to do is tell yourself that and give it to yourself. Most stories I've heard of people in similar situations don't end up cleaning themselves up at all, because they tell themselves that they can't. So you should be proud of your accomplishments.
I didn’t really realize I had issues with sobriety until watching this video. I started drinking about two years ago and now I have about two glasses of wine a night or I smoke weed (mostly both) . I can’t remember a time in the past year I’ve been two nights in a row without doing either. I never take it to an excessive amount but I’ve realized I do it to tune out. It also greatly effects my mood/ productivity the day after. I don’t like this behavior and I feel inspired to take a break and challenge myself to be sober. I know this will help me achieve growth in my life. Thank you for speaking out
For me, quarantine has brought back the feeling of wanting to get drunk for just sake of getting drunk like I did in college. I’ve broken down a few times but I have to remind myself that in college I drank to hide my problems but all it did was push them to the front, thank you for being so vulnerable Harmony 🌟🧡
Wow it's weird right?! I was a drinker years and years ago but I dont drink AT ALL now and been like this for long time. But lately I have thought and wanted to drink and get drunk ! Dunno why either
I’ve come to realize that drinking worsens my anxiety to the point of being unbearable and I’ve been thinking about going sober and this is what I needed.❤️
as a person with an anxiety disorder who quit drinking a year and a half ago - i wish i have done it earlier! it was one of the best decisions of my life.
I’ve had the same experience (currently three weeks sober) and I’ve noticed a clear decrease in my own anxiety. I was to the point of having a full anxiety attack almost every day; since going sober I’ve only had a few days of triggers that caused me to spiral a small bit.
i turned 18 in june and have never drunk alcohol. to me it just encompasses negativity, addiction and violence. i never want to drink it but wow, people are *adamant* in trying to get me to!! my friends sometimes say “we need to get you drunk one time” and i’m just like no lol. to me, it’s not funny. even my mum has said stuff like “i’m sure in a few years you’ll be going out and drinking!” and again, i’m like no. i’d waaaay rather be cozy in bed with a book than going out and drinking. despite everyone saying i will, i know my path and that it doesn’t involve alcohol😊 thank you so much for talking about this harmony, i think it will resonate with a lot of people and help them realise they are not alone!!🥰🥰
Right!! I am 18 too and people are sooo shocked when you say you don’t drink. I’ve never found alcohol or any other substance appealing and i’m also not about that party life. I do feel left out sometimes, like I have to drink to be interesting but i just know it isn’t for me and just like you said, i know it’ll never be...
in the same boat as you, but im 20! the pressure never really stops especially working your way through your college years (if you want to do that). lots of uncomfortable experiences, but for every weird experience i have had, it has strengthened my own beliefs about drinking/drugs. always remember your boundaries are valid and they are not up for debate by someone else!!!!!💖
Gosh same!! I’m 19 and I just never saw any appeal to drink at all whatsoever. Sure my friends occasionally drink but they never pressure me to. I don’t think I’ll ever drink because I’ve seen how it affected my sister and my father, and they just morph into another person. Of course, I hate seeing that, but at least I know that I won’t be inclined to believe/want that sort of “vibe” if that makes sense?
I'm 26 (turning 27 in September). I've NEVER been drunk or anything near drunk at all. I've tried alcohol three times (just a sip), but I hate the taste of it. For some reason "everyone" in Norway (I'm Norwegian) expect people to drink alcohol, and if you don't, they say: "Oh, but you haven't found your drink yet". NO! That's not it. I. DON'T. WANT. TO. DRINK! I'm totally OK with people drinking alcohol from time to time, and I won't force them to go sober, so why can't people do the same with me? Accept that I don't want alcohol in my life, and it's not because I'm pregnant or driving a car, I don't like the taste and I (personally) don't see the point. People have stopped pestering me about it, but that's probably because they've got partners and soon their own children and so on.
The advice in this video is useful for not only people venturing into an alcohol free life, but I think for anyone dealing with a negative force and/or addiction in life. It's really helped me a lot these past couple of days with my own recovery journey. Thanks for sharing!
if i’m honest, i’m watching this whilst drinking. but i clicked on it because i want to become sober. it was a really good video which has given me more hope than i expected though so thank you 💛
This was exactly what I needed to hear, Harmony. I decided to go sober very recently after over 10 years of drinking pretty regularly, and this really gave me the encouragement I needed to pursue the things I love about myself again instead of numbing out the things I don’t love. Thanks for being a positive ray of sunshine always 💕
I'm glad you decided to stop drinking. I'm addicted to s*lf h*arming and I'm almost 3 weeks clean! I know how hard it is and I'm proud of everyone who decided to get better. :)
I am not addicted to any substances, but recently I've been spending all of my time watching youtube and browsing social media and not doing anything else. So in a way I'm addicted to social media. I did some tarot card spreads to try to figure out how to help this, but I couldn't really understand them very well. Then I just saw this video. A lot of the things you said, while not speaking about the same things, not only relate to my current circumstance but also line up ridiculously well with the tarot readings I did. Thank you so much for making this video, I think you just helped me get some of my spirituality back.
being addicted to technology or social media sucks and can almost as bad as alcohol at times. i encourage you to put down the phone at times and do things you love 💕
I stopped drinking for two years when I was pregnant in 2017. Since then I very rarely drink and never get drunk. It's SUCH a better way to live for me and I feel 1000x healthier. It shocks me how much people normalize relying on alcohol.
I wasted soo many years binge drinking 2-3 times a week with my friends at the clubs and bars, and I was soo emotionally unstable. I was giving toxic people all of my energy and I was spending soo much money rip. When you and Melanie Murphy went sober from drinking, I really admired it and I really connected with what you had to say about it. The last time I drank I made an ass of myself and I really realized how I have a hard time noticing when I've had enough to drink. Now I've been sober since the beginning of the year and I feel pretty good about it!
I’m so glad you’re approaching this in a healthy way. My ex forced me to stop drinking by threatening to leave me. Quitting under so much pressure was really hard, and I hope everyone who wants to find sobriety can do so without being forced into it.
I drank alcoholically for 11 years, I now have been sober for over 3 years. I’m freshly 31 years old now. I cannot express the amount of gratitude I have to be sober every day. It’s changed my life for the better in so many countless ways. I have many other coping mechanisms now and my spirituality has never been so in tune. Good for you Harmony Nice!! It’s a beautiful thing.
I found my experiences at party's and gatherings became a lot more positive since going dry, it has reinforced that social interactions are fun instead of a chore. Great vid Harmony!
I come from a looooong line of male alcoholics. As far back as anyone can remember, every male on my father's side has been a drunk. I started drinking at fourteen. I was good at it. Born to it. I came home from work one day when I was twenty-two, I opened the frig and said to myself, "I really need a beer." And when I said 'need' and 'beer' in the same sentence, I closed the frig and never drank again. I'm fifty-five now and still dry. Good on you Harmony.
I love this! I’ve been sober for 4 years. Yes, I’m a recovering alcoholic. So really I don’t have a choice but to be sober. However being sober has been sooooo good for my Wicca/witch journey. It’s been amazing for my mental health, I do suffer from type 2 Bi Polar disorder. Now that I’m sober & my Bi Polar is managed, it’s helped me be able to focus on my craft & be more aware.
Congratulations!!!! I have been sober for 8 ½ years, September 25th will make 9 years from all mind altering substances! It’s literally the best decision I ever made!
I'm four years sober and find a lot of these tips helpful. I still find myself struggling to feel ok with myself and get through life and do sometimes have cravings. It was good to hear someone lay out some plans I can implement to try to further improve. Thank you.
I’ve been contemplating sobriety for a while now but The people I surround myself with drink very regularly 3-4 times a week. Addiction runs very deep in my family and I do not want to end up like that. Thank you Harmony for sharing. ❤️
I can relate to your experience so much. My issues with alcohol gradually evolved in a similar way and for similar reasons. Thank you for sharing this with us 🖤
It truly makes me happy watching you grow Harmony. I'Ve been following you for a few years now and I find it so interesting, that I'm kinda connecting with my real self as well. And I'm so proud of you for talking about this. You should really know that your words are helping many people out there. Love from Germany.
I am 2 months sober at the moment and the awakening Im having is incredible.. and scary. Thank you for sharing your story and your tips! Thank you so much 🥰
i’m taking a break from drinking and this video was very validating to me. having access to social media makes living alcohol-free feel like there’s a big party you’re not invited to and like you’re relegated to a boring life sitting at home like a grandma. the reality is, you can still have fun and be the life of the party sober, just without the embarrassment and regret the following day. thank you for this 💞
*You are beautiful inside and out.* I really love and appreciate the authenticity of your content - it can only end up helping and supporting your community so thank you ❤️
I loved this video so much. I'm from Germany and drinking is kind of "normal" here, just like you said. When quarantine started I kind of started to struggle a bit more with alcohol and using it as a coping mechanism, because i really lost my routine. At first I liked not having to go to school and just being at home, but I got basically nothing done and my mental health got worse, I felt really disconnected, drank a lot in the evenings and felt hoffible in the morning. Then suddenly, I don't know what pulled that trigger for me, I thought I really don't want to do this anymore and stopped. It was and still is tough at times, but I'm glad I took action and didn't let it progress further. My dad's an alcoholic and we're quite similar when it comes to some things, so I guess I kind of got that trait from him. I think he's slowly starting to recover, which makes me feel really at ease. It was always so horrible to see him getting totally drunk every evening. I usually only see him every other weekend, but now that I got holidays I'm with him for two weeks and monday-thursday he has max one Ort two beers and is so much more like himself. It feels so great to see him not completely drunk in the evening haha. God I'm sorry for waffling like this, I just kinda felt the need to write this down. Also since I stopped drinking for the most part (I will probably still drink with friends sometimes, but just for fun) i did Start feeling a little better and more connected to spirituality again. Especially today was a really good day. I usually have pretty intense mood swings, but today I felt good the whole day. If you're struggling I just want tolet you know, such unhealthy coping mechanisms might work for a while, but they're no long time solution. You're strong, you survived up till now and that's such a great thing. You can do this, you can overcome anything you want to overcome with work and time. I believe in you, you got this. 🌻💓🌱
This is really random (and hopefully doesn't offend you) but I just love your voice, it's a little deeper like mine and I rarely hear other women with deeper tones, and it just makes me so happy to listen to you :)
I actually LOVE women with voices like that 😩 honestly its like your voices are so cool and Scarlett Johansson has a deeper voice :) the grass is always greener man
This is perfect timing. About a year ago I was going through a rough patch working two jobs (plus freelancing and pet sitting) and doing 60+ hour weeks for five months. I turned to daily drinking to deal with pain/stress. I thought when my life returned to normal I would have no problem quitting. BIG MISTAKE. My life is thankfully much more chill now, but I’ve tried quitting twice and have never even made it to two weeks. This is my third try, I’m on day 2.
Congratulations, 3 years myself. If I can do it , you can too. Life doesn’t get easier, but we learn to cope with life better. We no longer are bound by the bottle or drugs, but freed by this program. When your ready, pay it forward!
I've been sober for 4 years. I'm an addict though and I was really bad on vodka drinking close to or more than a half gallon a day so I was also physically addicted. I also was a heroin addict. My journey was much different than yours and I needed NEEDED the help of AA and a maintenance program for the opiates. If I had stopped earlier my story could have been much more like yours. People don't need to reach their ultimate bottom to where they're selling their body on the street like I was, or physically dependant on alcohol to the point that they need it to function and go to work so they lose jobs and everything they ever loved or held dear. I still related so much to your story. Even in my teens I was a binge drinker and blacked out a couple times a week from the time I was 14. But still there were some calmer times where I think things were fun, but that's the issue. Our minds will keep telling us that it's fun, even though those good times were totally outweighed by bad times. I also felt a deep connection to myself as a pree teen when I got sober,to before I had replaced all of my hobbies with drinking. I used to be really good at painting and music. I got back into guitar and now I exercise every day. I have real friends and family. One of the best things is that people in my life can trust and count on me
Something i've struggled with about being sober is how lonely it can feel sometimes, nice to know that there are others going through the same journey. 3 months
I am so excited you are speaking about this topic so detailed and open! And yaih - go you! Growing up in southern Germany, binge drinking also was just something sooo normal. My teens and early twenties were very much fueled by alcohol - even though I was studying to become a counselor and psychologist working with addicts. In my adult life I often had the feeling that I wanted to stop drinking (not binge drinking anymore but definitely having wine on a regular basis, especially if I am stressed out), but I never managed for more than 2 - 3 months (except of course for my pregnancy, when I wouldn't touch a drop). This definitely gave me new motivation, to give it another try. Thanks girl! :)
I am so happy this video popped up on my feed thank you! 🖤 it's like the universe was leading me this way, I have been thinking about going sober for the longest time but as many have already said in the comments, I feel the pressure to drink and the pressure to fit in. I'm from Ireland and our relationship with alcohol as a whole is not healthy. I get this anxiety like no other sweep over me the next day after I drink. I feel depressed and consumed by my own thoughts and obsessive overthinking!! This is the main reason for wanting to go sober as it's just not worth it for me to feel like this and put myself through that for 'just the one'. just want to say thank you for this video and for the tips it's finally made me take a step in the right direction and stop feeling the pressure to drink.
I’m glad you realized your problems quickly. It is not easy to admit you have a problem and then go through the motions to stop it. I had a drinking problem for years. I got drunk on nearly a daily basis. I knew it was a problem and I felt guilty every time I got drunk but I became dependent on it as a way to relax and never truly wanted to stop. It has been almost a year since I had my last drink. I hope I can continue this path. Cutting the alcohol has helped me to work through my problems and focus on self improvement.
I have been sober for about a year now and it has honestly changed my life for the better! So much love for you all whether you are sober or not, it is definitely a personal choice, but I do believe it has enriched my life by not drinking or smoking. I have much more time to just live and enjoy the world. Thank you for such a lovely video! xx
I agree. Cannabis saved my life for a time, I never smoked when I was younger, but I did start 2 years ago. Right around a time I had severe depression and was suicidal and self harming, unmedicated. And through those months of that depression cannabis absolutely helped. I was able to sleep, able to eat, able to survive. However coming out of the depression I had a reliance on it, and realized it led me to doing other things not so great. Not saying it's the ultimate gateway drug but... ~○~ so eventually my life situation changed and I wasnt able to smoke anymore and it has helped my spirituality so much more. Then I met my fiance who doesnt smoke or drink at all, and when I feel weak he encourages me. I know in the long term it'll be better for me, even being tempted to drink at my age now and never been a drinker. Now just have to work on the occasional disposable nicotine vape here and there. Thanks for the encouragement harmony, you can be sober and find heightened spirituality in that as well. °~●~°
I recommend ya’ll reading „sober curious“ by Ruby Warrington. Such an insightful and eye-opening read. Also, thank you sm Harmony for talking about topics like these!! This is so needed. Love these kind of sit down and chat videos. xxx
Omg Harmony I literally just recently gave up the "drink" ...Since then I started making my own mixed fruit and almond milk smoothies. I found my new "addiction". Have been happier cause of it, mentally and physically.
Thank you for talking about this. I have been really hurt by people calling me an alcoholic in the past but it’s like they’re judging me and don’t even know me. It’s like people try to define you and control you. Understanding these things is helping me to heal. It’s a shame you’re not doing any more videos.
i love this. i have recently been made painfully aware how i use alcohol to cope with my issues but it always ends up with me crying myself to sleep. i was talking with my best friend a couple of weeks ago completely drunk and sad, and he finally snapped and told me he was done with this same song and dance. it was such a punch to the gut because i realised that i was still falling into the same mental trap of being so depressed and wanting to be depressed... we made up, we're good now, and his intention with that was to snap me out of that same state and realise that my depressive episodes affect more than just myself. i drank a couple of nights this week and i had a really fun time!! no sad times, but i woke up yesterday with my body feeling like such shit... i just can't do it anymore, i can't get drunk anymore. my body can't handle it. i want to go sober for 99% of the time, and maybe on special occasions, have a glass of wine (i'm looking forward to a glass of wine on my birthday in october!), but we shall see how all of that turns out. :o) thank you for your tips!! i've been changing my daily habits these last couple of weeks and journaling has had such a huge positive impact on me. i finally feel like i'm connecting with my spirituality again and even last night- i dreamed for a second time in the last week! i've hardly had any dreams in the last 2 years since i went down the rabbit hole of depression and drinking. i feel like i'm connecting so much more and i feel so incredibly happy.
Yay! I'm the 1k like & 200th comment. My OCD is so comfortable here. The main thing that has helped me to stay sober is to be able to recognize & avoid any triggers. I tried to hangout with one friend one time & found out what I can & can't do. What does bother me is when I am totally fine somewhere, but then the friend I was with Is uncomfortable because they are drinking alone & then they don't want to hang out again. You do have to give up many friends. It is great if you can help your friends along the way, but friends will come and go regardless, it is worth it.
Good God. I needed to hear this today. Thank you. Your goodbye and thank you video came across my feed and I clicked, saw this instead. Needed this. Thank you. I hope your healing continues🙏
So glad we didn't lose you to alcohol. This world needs you. I'm a Teetotaler myself and love seeing other people reach the place you have mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually... all of it! It is such a beautiful place to be! I am terribly proud of you.
Harmony because of you I’ve opened my eyes and relies that i will end up shopping to much and in my mind its like oh this will make you feel better since i’m dealing with depression but then it ends up not making me feel better.
Thank you for sharing this! I resonated with so many things you said. Especially about how spirituality being a good outlet. It's so much easier to feel connected while sober.
Thank you for making this. Im just starting my sobriety journey and seeing someone I can relate to talking about going sober makes me feel like I can do it.
This video came out right after I started my sobriety journey (from marijuana and alcohol). It's like the universe is telling me I'm on the right path. Thank you for sharing your story, it's really inspiring and it's nice to know we're not alone. Thank you for making this day a bit easier
I needed this so much. Been going back and forth on whether or not to go fully sober but this sealed the deal for me. Sober me here I come ☺️ thank you
I just wanted to say that there has been so many videos you’ve done that have synced up with exactly what I was going through! You literally saved my life. I was in a dark place and for some reason your videos just popped up, I started watching, bought your book and became dedicated to wicca. I struggle with mental health and this past week I was in the hospital to help me recover from a deep depression, I decided to become sober while I’m there and I was released yesterday! I find it magical that you so happened to post this video the day I got released. Right now it’s extremely difficult but I know I can do it, it’s a very emotional time for me but I know I’m going to come out on the other end as the person I was meant to be. I know you’re not literally there, but god thank you so much for being there for me even though you don’t even know it. You are part of my growth 🖤
I don't even abuse substances anymore, but this video has helped me realize that I do still do something similar. It's not nearly as physically unhealthy, but it is a vice and it is taking much time away from me that I could be using instead to take better care of myself and to connect more truly to myself. I could literally replace the word alcohol and substance with my own escape, and I think that's important to note. This video is more meaningful and versatile than I think folks probably realize. Thank you Harmony, I really needed this
I wasn’t going to watch this video at first because I don’t have any sort of alcohol related issues. After watching however, I feel so comforted knowing that this information can be applied to any sort of addictions people may have. The things we use to “cope” often hurt us more than we realize. I feel inspired and supported after watching this and you genuinely have made me want to become a better version of myself. Thank you 💛
I am the type of person who has to get completely drunk if I drink. I’ve decided to just stop altogether for that reason. Proud of you for taking the steps that are best for you. I look up to you so much Harmony!!
I've always been purposefully sober, quitted smoking at the age of 15 (smoked for 1 year) and currently working with nicotine and white sugar. Breaking free from drugs is so liberating, I'm happy to hear you are sober and that you are encouraging your audience to do the same!
Harmony you are so kind and beautiful! Your videos have help me personally find myself and understand me better and I wanted to thank you for that. I’ve been here from nearly the start and it has been amazing to watch up grow into such an excellent role model.
I absolutely love your natural hair in this ive always loved your hair but i just wanted to say you look absolutely beautiful and it was sweet to hear from you
I’ll be 7 months sober in 2 days, and I have never been happier in my life then I am now. I definitely crossed the line into addiction years ago, and I completely agree with you about the spiritual awakening experience after quitting a substance. I am so much more connected to my craft then I have been in years past. It’s awesome that you caught it before it became an addiction, you’ve saved yourself a lot of pain.
I feel like you are so much more authentic. This is the content I love and crave. It inspires me, provokes a lot of introspection and helps me grow as a person. This is the content I look for to start my mornings. Thank you.
I love you're honesty. Also seeing you without makeup just highlights how beautiful your eyes are. I hope you continue to be healthy in a way that's right for you, whatever you decide X 🌼🧡
I know I'm a bit late, but I would like to tell this to you: I'm proud of you! I know I'm just a random person, but as far as I know, it's always good to read and hear that what we are doing is good and we are on the right way. Thinking over what we have done and why we have done those things is an important step on the road to understand ourselves and be aware of our "weak" side. When I was in my teenage years, I becamse a computer game addict. My little sister was born, and she sucked the energy out of my parents, so they didn't have time and energy for me at all. They sometimes didn't even realized that I came home from school. (even if I said Hi to them) I became a ghost, and at 13-14 years old, it made me depressed. I run into online games, especially MMORPGs, because the people there cared about me. Not much, but it was enought not to kill myself. My grades fell down, I gained a lot of weight (20-25kg, about 55-65 lbs) which became a problem between my mom and me. I totally closed up, and the realization took me a long time, and the fight was endless and desperate. Also, my health went garbage, I became insuline intolerant with high blood pressure and my hormones jumped upside down. I'm almost 30, and I still suffer from this addiction time to time, but it got easier since my partner helps me keeping balance of gaming and real life. And also, finding what am I good in and finding life goals helps a lot. So keep your head up, focus on the actions or hobbies what makes you happy but not poisoning you! Love from Hungary
I've been thinking about how I want to stop drinking. This video came at just the right time for me. I'm glad you're talking about this I feel like drinking/ heavy drinking has been very normalized in our society. Like if you tell people that you don't drink they assume that you were a bad alcoholic at some point. Thank you for talking about this because it definitely has helped me decide that going sober is a goal I want to reach for.
I’m not smoking weed anymore because it really messes with my focus and staying in the present moment, i’m not drinking as much either. You have always been someone who inspires me and helps motivate me so thank you for this
Well done harmony for admitting you toxic habits I think we should all be this strong to be able to do this, nobody is perfect we all have flaws but working on them is the best things for no one else but ourselves! Absolutely love your videos you have helped me when I’ve been in a dark place especially after my EUPD and BPD diagnoses at the start of the year! You are a shining light in so many peoples lives and we are all eternally grateful! 🙌🏼🥰❤️
I’ve been sober for two months now so it’s nice to hear your experience too! :) Binge drinking is something I’ve done throughout my life but I’d always explain away the issue considering it is pretty normalised in my country too. I used to use it as a crutch for social anxiety, or to uplift me from depression - of course, it always inevitably worsened my mental state in the hangover stages. I’ve definitely been feeling happier and more myself. Personally, it was a bad habit I needed to kick in order to feel more in control.
I love seeing you so happy and content lately. I remember you struggling with minimal makeup and natural hair and needing it to feel good. Those things aren't bad, but it's so good to feel confident and beautiful in your body. Wish you all the best and send you lots of love ❤️ P.s. I stopped drinking for all the same reasons
I feel like I’ve always known that I shouldn’t drink. I don’t feel the urge to drink everyday, but when I do, I’ve done and said things I regret. This was my sign, thank you 💗💗
I’ve had problems with drugs and alcohol from a young age. I’ve been sober for 14 months now. I feel more clear and motivated. I got more spiritual and interested in Wicca and my beliefs. Thank you for telling your story. I didn’t think there was any other sober Wiccans 🖤
looooved this talk. i'm 25 and i hate how much alcohol, weed, and other drugs have become a part of my generation's culture...to the point where you're judged/seen a prude if you don't partake. i'm someone that has a very healthy relationship with alcohol - i will drink maybe twice a year - a glass of wine at christmas and perhaps a mimosa once or twice in the summer. but i don't love to drink and i find it very expensive! as for weed/other drugs though, i truly have no interest in them. it's an expensive habit, and to be honest, i have no desire to ingest something that makes me lazy and hungry! i know some people use it to calm down and there's nothing wrong with that but can we stop shitting on people who stay away from it?! we need to normalize sobriety more! thank you for this harmony x
So very proud of you. I will be 4yrs sober from pain pills and alcohol this Oct. And I feel so much better and normal my depression is alot better and I'm getting back in to my practice and journey to self discovery. I did some stupid things while drinking and taking pain pills , the drinking I didn't know when to stop and the pain pills the Dr gave me first then I bought them off the street and abusive relationship didn't help either but so happy you are doing good. Stay strong sister
Six months ago I started playing the piano when I felt that I needed a drink. Tomorrow I'll give my first concert in the theater of my city. This video helped me even more.
So inspiring!
Whoa, neat idea!
I’m literally 3 years late but this is so awesome congratulations
I'm seriously digging this format of Harmony talking about whatever tf she wants, I could just sit and listen to her talk for hours
Same, it's so relaxing somehow.
It even kinda helps me when I'm feeling anxious. It kinda gives off this vibe that everything is gonna be okay 💫
Same! 😌
Absolutely.
me too ❤️
oh sis, same
Just started tossing around the idea of long-term sobriety while in the shower less than ten minutes ago, only to see this upload in my feed.
Alright universe - sign received, loud and clear.
Good luck ✨
Wishing you lots of luck!
Me too actually-good luck to you!
Good luck! I’m trying to aim for sobriety too! We got this 💛💛
And thats how it goes!!! Its a good sign, shows youre headed down the right path
I think Harmony looks like an angel inside and out.
Yes yes I totally agree
Yes!!
Got a huge crush on her. And no I'm NOT a simp lol. But I think anyone can agree that you cant control who your seriously attracted to n crush on....
me too
She absolutely does. and so do you bb ♡
I’m a month sober from weed and xanax, also cigarettes-you have my support baby!!
congrats, keep going 🧚🏼♀️
Nice i got on the bars aka xanax not sure what they call where you are but xanax sucks getting off and the addiction takes a lot out of your enjoyment in life congrats for getting of the bars
congratulations! keep up the good work x
Congratulations!!!🎉🎊🥰💕🤗
Congratulations 😁
this was so good! I work for a sober morning rave events company in London called Morning Gloryville (its literally my job to smear biodegradable glitter on people!) and we get nearly 1000 sober people turn up to dance, do yoga, take part in workshops, have tarot readings, eat good vegan food etc! sobriety is really starting to take off and change peoples lives for the better, its such a beautiful thing!
That's so nice
That sounds bomb!
That’s so beautiful!!
Is there something like this in the states?
not drinking is great. when someone offers me a drink, I just say no thanks, I don’t drink. I only ever drank bc of pressure of others. alcoholism runs in my family and i decided i don’t want that to be my reality. proud of you Harmony ✨
same here, my dad is an alcoholic and just really dont want that kind of life.. it ruined alot of things even to the point of me and my brother cutting ties w him. we gave him enough changes but he kept ruining it w alcohol
Yes please!!! And then people always tell me I’m a prude or boring but I don’t care, alcohol has ruined so many families
Such a smart decision!
I needed to hear this because people think it's weird that I don't want to drink. It's nice to know that there are others out there.
Same here :) !
you are definitely not alone 😊
Not alone at all! 👍🏻
Seeing you looking this cozy, without makeup, so calm, and so relaxed feels like I'm talking face to face with a friend. You look a lot more chill on youtube and I love that! Love from Spain!
Watching this as a fellow addict in recovery from heroin/fentanyl and meth. I will have 9 months clean in 7 days, universe willing. Currently living in an Oxford house in the Denver metro area. I grew up on the east coast, but last year on August 27th, I decided that maybe after ten years of active addiction it would be a wise decision to move far away, which I did by myself entirely. As a chronic relapser, I knew that I really had to get the fuck away from all the people places and things that trigger me in CT. Moving across the country by myself was the best decision I’ve ever made. I did end up having stressful things happen with the friend I moved here to live with, and that is what lead me to use again after having a few weeks to a month clean. It really took me ending up homeless and in psychosis (due to having bipolar 1) before I gathered the courage to tell my mom that I feel like I’m barely alive, I’m depressed/manic and suicidal, and also in active addiction once again. I called with the intention of informing my mom of the situation, telling her I’m calling around to detoxes and rehabs, and hoping that she would be willing to support me while I’m in inpatient getting help. For the second time.. now I am here today, a functioning member of society working full time taking care of infants in a prestigious private school. I feel blessed today. 10/18/19 🖤
Jay dubsss congrats !! I’m proud !💕
congratulations! u are amazing 💓
I am so proud of you. My dad was an alcoholic for the majority of my childhood. He is almost 6 years sober. The amount of respect I have for people who’ve fought for sobriety is so high.
Congrats omg! That's such a big and important achievement
@@m.j.wilkes3001 me too
I'm loving this natural hair look you've had going on recently, it really suits you and your personality
My parents used to let me drink beer when I was a teenager (it was the late 70s/early 80s). By the time I was in college, my motto was "If you're not wasted, the day is." The legal drinking age in Texas where I'm from was 18 at the time, and we had a bar on campus, as well as numerous bars just off campus...and I could be found in one of those pretty much every night, or at an on-campus or off-campus party. I never SAID stupid things when I was drunk, but I did DO a lot of stupid things. After graduating college, things hadn't changed much. I worked mostly nights, and my co-workers and I would hit the local clubs after work three or four nights a week. Five years later, I met the woman that I would spend the next almost 19 years with. She also loved to party and she introduced me to weed. We went out drinking almost nightly, then came home and smoked until we fell asleep. By the time I reached my early 30s, overcoming the hangovers became harder and harder for me and I started slowing down, but my partner didn't. Also, I either was unaware or unwittingly ignoring that she had also developed addictions to harder drugs, most notable meth. While I never stopped drinking or smoking altogether, I did cut way back...but she never did until her health started to deteriorate. Although she cleaned up the meth addiction, the damage had already been done and she ultimately died of congestive heart failure in 2010. Through my depression after this, I got back into heavy drinking for a while, but I did quit the drug use and haven't even had any weed in ten years. I eventually just slowed down to the point where I am now. I will drink liquor or beer socially, and still usually have wine available to myself at home, but my alcohol intake is down to two or three drinks a week. I don't think I could ever quit it completely.
hi !! I hope you're happy you've become conscious about these substances abuse, it's a big step! sending you love Larry x :)
Wow! That’s a wild life... reminds me very much of myself. Glad you have made it through
That's awesome for you! A lot of people struggle to maintain balance and my heart is happy for you that you have found it
Oh man I'm so sorry...
All of what you've stated you've gone through AND overcome is a huge sign that you ARE capable and strong enough to be able to quit completely. You've already proven that. All you have to do is tell yourself that and give it to yourself. Most stories I've heard of people in similar situations don't end up cleaning themselves up at all, because they tell themselves that they can't. So you should be proud of your accomplishments.
seeing u posted is like getting the notif of an old friend calling. wholesome man
I didn’t really realize I had issues with sobriety until watching this video. I started drinking about two years ago and now I have about two glasses of wine a night or I smoke weed (mostly both) . I can’t remember a time in the past year I’ve been two nights in a row without doing either. I never take it to an excessive amount but I’ve realized I do it to tune out. It also greatly effects my mood/ productivity the day after. I don’t like this behavior and I feel inspired to take a break and challenge myself to be sober. I know this will help me achieve growth in my life. Thank you for speaking out
Hey lovely, just wanted to ask how you’ve been with your sobriety journey?
For me, quarantine has brought back the feeling of wanting to get drunk for just sake of getting drunk like I did in college. I’ve broken down a few times but I have to remind myself that in college I drank to hide my problems but all it did was push them to the front, thank you for being so vulnerable Harmony 🌟🧡
Wow it's weird right?! I was a drinker years and years ago but I dont drink AT ALL now and been like this for long time. But lately I have thought and wanted to drink and get drunk ! Dunno why either
I’ve come to realize that drinking worsens my anxiety to the point of being unbearable and I’ve been thinking about going sober and this is what I needed.❤️
as a person with an anxiety disorder who quit drinking a year and a half ago - i wish i have done it earlier! it was one of the best decisions of my life.
I’ve had the same experience (currently three weeks sober) and I’ve noticed a clear decrease in my own anxiety. I was to the point of having a full anxiety attack almost every day; since going sober I’ve only had a few days of triggers that caused me to spiral a small bit.
i turned 18 in june and have never drunk alcohol. to me it just encompasses negativity, addiction and violence. i never want to drink it but wow, people are *adamant* in trying to get me to!! my friends sometimes say “we need to get you drunk one time” and i’m just like no lol. to me, it’s not funny. even my mum has said stuff like “i’m sure in a few years you’ll be going out and drinking!” and again, i’m like no. i’d waaaay rather be cozy in bed with a book than going out and drinking. despite everyone saying i will, i know my path and that it doesn’t involve alcohol😊 thank you so much for talking about this harmony, i think it will resonate with a lot of people and help them realise they are not alone!!🥰🥰
Right!! I am 18 too and people are sooo shocked when you say you don’t drink. I’ve never found alcohol or any other substance appealing and i’m also not about that party life. I do feel left out sometimes, like I have to drink to be interesting but i just know it isn’t for me and just like you said, i know it’ll never be...
Ugh, that must be so annoying to deal with but good on you for knowing your truth and sticking to it.
in the same boat as you, but im 20! the pressure never really stops especially working your way through your college years (if you want to do that). lots of uncomfortable experiences, but for every weird experience i have had, it has strengthened my own beliefs about drinking/drugs. always remember your boundaries are valid and they are not up for debate by someone else!!!!!💖
Gosh same!! I’m 19 and I just never saw any appeal to drink at all whatsoever. Sure my friends occasionally drink but they never pressure me to. I don’t think I’ll ever drink because I’ve seen how it affected my sister and my father, and they just morph into another person. Of course, I hate seeing that, but at least I know that I won’t be inclined to believe/want that sort of “vibe” if that makes sense?
I'm 26 (turning 27 in September). I've NEVER been drunk or anything near drunk at all. I've tried alcohol three times (just a sip), but I hate the taste of it. For some reason "everyone" in Norway (I'm Norwegian) expect people to drink alcohol, and if you don't, they say: "Oh, but you haven't found your drink yet". NO! That's not it. I. DON'T. WANT. TO. DRINK! I'm totally OK with people drinking alcohol from time to time, and I won't force them to go sober, so why can't people do the same with me? Accept that I don't want alcohol in my life, and it's not because I'm pregnant or driving a car, I don't like the taste and I (personally) don't see the point. People have stopped pestering me about it, but that's probably because they've got partners and soon their own children and so on.
You're giving me 'girl who makes covers of indie songs with an electric guitar' vibes in this video and I'm loving it
The advice in this video is useful for not only people venturing into an alcohol free life, but I think for anyone dealing with a negative force and/or addiction in life. It's really helped me a lot these past couple of days with my own recovery journey. Thanks for sharing!
It takes a lot of bravery to post this personally online, I really appreciate you sharing this and I'm so glad I found your content
if i’m honest, i’m watching this whilst drinking. but i clicked on it because i want to become sober. it was a really good video which has given me more hope than i expected though so thank you 💛
This was exactly what I needed to hear, Harmony. I decided to go sober very recently after over 10 years of drinking pretty regularly, and this really gave me the encouragement I needed to pursue the things I love about myself again instead of numbing out the things I don’t love. Thanks for being a positive ray of sunshine always 💕
I'm glad you decided to stop drinking. I'm addicted to s*lf h*arming and I'm almost 3 weeks clean! I know how hard it is and I'm proud of everyone who decided to get better. :)
I am not addicted to any substances, but recently I've been spending all of my time watching youtube and browsing social media and not doing anything else. So in a way I'm addicted to social media. I did some tarot card spreads to try to figure out how to help this, but I couldn't really understand them very well. Then I just saw this video. A lot of the things you said, while not speaking about the same things, not only relate to my current circumstance but also line up ridiculously well with the tarot readings I did. Thank you so much for making this video, I think you just helped me get some of my spirituality back.
being addicted to technology or social media sucks and can almost as bad as alcohol at times. i encourage you to put down the phone at times and do things you love 💕
I stopped drinking for two years when I was pregnant in 2017. Since then I very rarely drink and never get drunk. It's SUCH a better way to live for me and I feel 1000x healthier. It shocks me how much people normalize relying on alcohol.
Same here, it was strange how I needed a “proper” reason for me not to drink, and then realizing I didn’t even like to drink anyway 😅
Harmony should start a podcast! i love listening to her talk!
I wasted soo many years binge drinking 2-3 times a week with my friends at the clubs and bars, and I was soo emotionally unstable. I was giving toxic people all of my energy and I was spending soo much money rip. When you and Melanie Murphy went sober from drinking, I really admired it and I really connected with what you had to say about it. The last time I drank I made an ass of myself and I really realized how I have a hard time noticing when I've had enough to drink. Now I've been sober since the beginning of the year and I feel pretty good about it!
I’m so glad you’re approaching this in a healthy way. My ex forced me to stop drinking by threatening to leave me. Quitting under so much pressure was really hard, and I hope everyone who wants to find sobriety can do so without being forced into it.
I drank alcoholically for 11 years, I now have been sober for over 3 years. I’m freshly 31 years old now. I cannot express the amount of gratitude I have to be sober every day. It’s changed my life for the better in so many countless ways. I have many other coping mechanisms now and my spirituality has never been so in tune. Good for you Harmony Nice!! It’s a beautiful thing.
I found my experiences at party's and gatherings became a lot more positive since going dry, it has reinforced that social interactions are fun instead of a chore. Great vid Harmony!
I am also a sober witch! It saved my life. So happy for you Harmony. 🧿💜
I come from a looooong line of male alcoholics. As far back as anyone can remember, every male on my father's side has been a drunk. I started drinking at fourteen. I was good at it. Born to it. I came home from work one day when I was twenty-two, I opened the frig and said to myself, "I really need a beer." And when I said 'need' and 'beer' in the same sentence, I closed the frig and never drank again. I'm fifty-five now and still dry.
Good on you Harmony.
Should be so proud of yourself. Hope you’re still doing well
Been sober for 3 years ; just watching this because I love you 💖
I love this! I’ve been sober for 4 years. Yes, I’m a recovering alcoholic. So really I don’t have a choice but to be sober. However being sober has been sooooo good for my Wicca/witch journey. It’s been amazing for my mental health, I do suffer from type 2 Bi Polar disorder. Now that I’m sober & my Bi Polar is managed, it’s helped me be able to focus on my craft & be more aware.
Congratulations!!!! I have been sober for 8 ½ years, September 25th will make 9 years from all mind altering substances! It’s literally the best decision I ever made!
I'm four years sober and find a lot of these tips helpful. I still find myself struggling to feel ok with myself and get through life and do sometimes have cravings. It was good to hear someone lay out some plans I can implement to try to further improve. Thank you.
I just hated myself when I was drunk, so I stopped
Can't watch this until tomorrow night when I'm alone, but let me just throw you that pre-like
I’ve been contemplating sobriety for a while now but The people I surround myself with drink very regularly 3-4 times a week. Addiction runs very deep in my family and I do not want to end up like that. Thank you Harmony for sharing. ❤️
I can relate to your experience so much. My issues with alcohol gradually evolved in a similar way and for similar reasons. Thank you for sharing this with us 🖤
It truly makes me happy watching you grow Harmony. I'Ve been following you for a few years now and I find it so interesting, that I'm kinda connecting with my real self as well. And I'm so proud of you for talking about this. You should really know that your words are helping many people out there. Love from Germany.
I am 2 months sober at the moment and the awakening Im having is incredible.. and scary. Thank you for sharing your story and your tips! Thank you so much 🥰
i’m taking a break from drinking and this video was very validating to me. having access to social media makes living alcohol-free feel like there’s a big party you’re not invited to and like you’re relegated to a boring life sitting at home like a grandma. the reality is, you can still have fun and be the life of the party sober, just without the embarrassment and regret the following day. thank you for this 💞
*You are beautiful inside and out.* I really love and appreciate the authenticity of your content - it can only end up helping and supporting your community so thank you ❤️
Agree!
JustEz 👍🏻
Yes she is! 😍😍😍😘😘
I loved this video so much.
I'm from Germany and drinking is kind of "normal" here, just like you said. When quarantine started I kind of started to struggle a bit more with alcohol and using it as a coping mechanism, because i really lost my routine. At first I liked not having to go to school and just being at home, but I got basically nothing done and my mental health got worse, I felt really disconnected, drank a lot in the evenings and felt hoffible in the morning. Then suddenly, I don't know what pulled that trigger for me, I thought I really don't want to do this anymore and stopped. It was and still is tough at times, but I'm glad I took action and didn't let it progress further. My dad's an alcoholic and we're quite similar when it comes to some things, so I guess I kind of got that trait from him. I think he's slowly starting to recover, which makes me feel really at ease. It was always so horrible to see him getting totally drunk every evening. I usually only see him every other weekend, but now that I got holidays I'm with him for two weeks and monday-thursday he has max one Ort two beers and is so much more like himself. It feels so great to see him not completely drunk in the evening haha.
God I'm sorry for waffling like this, I just kinda felt the need to write this down.
Also since I stopped drinking for the most part (I will probably still drink with friends sometimes, but just for fun) i did Start feeling a little better and more connected to spirituality again. Especially today was a really good day. I usually have pretty intense mood swings, but today I felt good the whole day.
If you're struggling I just want tolet you know, such unhealthy coping mechanisms might work for a while, but they're no long time solution. You're strong, you survived up till now and that's such a great thing. You can do this, you can overcome anything you want to overcome with work and time. I believe in you, you got this. 🌻💓🌱
This is really random (and hopefully doesn't offend you) but I just love your voice, it's a little deeper like mine and I rarely hear other women with deeper tones, and it just makes me so happy to listen to you :)
I actually LOVE women with voices like that 😩 honestly its like your voices are so cool and Scarlett Johansson has a deeper voice :) the grass is always greener man
I honestly think that Harmony is one of the most positive and empowering people on internet. You just feel good by hearing her voice!
This is perfect timing. About a year ago I was going through a rough patch working two jobs (plus freelancing and pet sitting) and doing 60+ hour weeks for five months. I turned to daily drinking to deal with pain/stress. I thought when my life returned to normal I would have no problem quitting. BIG MISTAKE. My life is thankfully much more chill now, but I’ve tried quitting twice and have never even made it to two weeks. This is my third try, I’m on day 2.
That’s why they say one day at a time. Each day, you just have to get through that day. Recovery groups can be helpful for some people.
Congratulations, 3 years myself. If I can do it , you can too. Life doesn’t get easier, but we learn to cope with life better. We no longer are bound by the bottle or drugs, but freed by this program. When your ready, pay it forward!
I've been sober for 4 years. I'm an addict though and I was really bad on vodka drinking close to or more than a half gallon a day so I was also physically addicted. I also was a heroin addict. My journey was much different than yours and I needed NEEDED the help of AA and a maintenance program for the opiates. If I had stopped earlier my story could have been much more like yours. People don't need to reach their ultimate bottom to where they're selling their body on the street like I was, or physically dependant on alcohol to the point that they need it to function and go to work so they lose jobs and everything they ever loved or held dear.
I still related so much to your story. Even in my teens I was a binge drinker and blacked out a couple times a week from the time I was 14. But still there were some calmer times where I think things were fun, but that's the issue. Our minds will keep telling us that it's fun, even though those good times were totally outweighed by bad times. I also felt a deep connection to myself as a pree teen when I got sober,to before I had replaced all of my hobbies with drinking. I used to be really good at painting and music. I got back into guitar and now I exercise every day. I have real friends and family. One of the best things is that people in my life can trust and count on me
Something i've struggled with about being sober is how lonely it can feel sometimes, nice to know that there are others going through the same journey. 3 months
You look so healthy and at peace, Harmony ♥️ Where have you been hiding those curls 👀 Your hair looks AMAZING.
I am so excited you are speaking about this topic so detailed and open! And yaih - go you! Growing up in southern Germany, binge drinking also was just something sooo normal. My teens and early twenties were very much fueled by alcohol - even though I was studying to become a counselor and psychologist working with addicts. In my adult life I often had the feeling that I wanted to stop drinking (not binge drinking anymore but definitely having wine on a regular basis, especially if I am stressed out), but I never managed for more than 2 - 3 months (except of course for my pregnancy, when I wouldn't touch a drop). This definitely gave me new motivation, to give it another try. Thanks girl! :)
I am so happy this video popped up on my feed thank you! 🖤 it's like the universe was leading me this way, I have been thinking about going sober for the longest time but as many have already said in the comments, I feel the pressure to drink and the pressure to fit in. I'm from Ireland and our relationship with alcohol as a whole is not healthy. I get this anxiety like no other sweep over me the next day after I drink. I feel depressed and consumed by my own thoughts and obsessive overthinking!! This is the main reason for wanting to go sober as it's just not worth it for me to feel like this and put myself through that for 'just the one'. just want to say thank you for this video and for the tips it's finally made me take a step in the right direction and stop feeling the pressure to drink.
I’m glad you realized your problems quickly. It is not easy to admit you have a problem and then go through the motions to stop it. I had a drinking problem for years. I got drunk on nearly a daily basis. I knew it was a problem and I felt guilty every time I got drunk but I became dependent on it as a way to relax and never truly wanted to stop. It has been almost a year since I had my last drink. I hope I can continue this path.
Cutting the alcohol has helped me to work through my problems and focus on self improvement.
I have been sober for about a year now and it has honestly changed my life for the better! So much love for you all whether you are sober or not, it is definitely a personal choice, but I do believe it has enriched my life by not drinking or smoking. I have much more time to just live and enjoy the world. Thank you for such a lovely video! xx
I agree. Cannabis saved my life for a time, I never smoked when I was younger, but I did start 2 years ago. Right around a time I had severe depression and was suicidal and self harming, unmedicated. And through those months of that depression cannabis absolutely helped. I was able to sleep, able to eat, able to survive. However coming out of the depression I had a reliance on it, and realized it led me to doing other things not so great. Not saying it's the ultimate gateway drug but... ~○~ so eventually my life situation changed and I wasnt able to smoke anymore and it has helped my spirituality so much more. Then I met my fiance who doesnt smoke or drink at all, and when I feel weak he encourages me. I know in the long term it'll be better for me, even being tempted to drink at my age now and never been a drinker. Now just have to work on the occasional disposable nicotine vape here and there. Thanks for the encouragement harmony, you can be sober and find heightened spirituality in that as well. °~●~°
I recommend ya’ll reading „sober curious“ by Ruby Warrington. Such an insightful and eye-opening read. Also, thank you sm Harmony for talking about topics like these!! This is so needed. Love these kind of sit down and chat videos. xxx
Omg Harmony I literally just recently gave up the "drink" ...Since then I started making my own mixed fruit and almond milk smoothies. I found my new "addiction". Have been happier cause of it, mentally and physically.
Keep up the good work Mark! 😉
Amazing Mark! Good luck
@@amethystskye1460 thank you so much!! 💜💜💜
@@griseldalopez8710 thank you for your kind words!! Means a lot 💜💜💜
No problem, how’s sobriety going?
Thank you for talking about this. I have been really hurt by people calling me an alcoholic in the past but it’s like they’re judging me and don’t even know me. It’s like people try to define you and control you. Understanding these things is helping me to heal. It’s a shame you’re not doing any more videos.
i love this. i have recently been made painfully aware how i use alcohol to cope with my issues but it always ends up with me crying myself to sleep. i was talking with my best friend a couple of weeks ago completely drunk and sad, and he finally snapped and told me he was done with this same song and dance. it was such a punch to the gut because i realised that i was still falling into the same mental trap of being so depressed and wanting to be depressed... we made up, we're good now, and his intention with that was to snap me out of that same state and realise that my depressive episodes affect more than just myself. i drank a couple of nights this week and i had a really fun time!! no sad times, but i woke up yesterday with my body feeling like such shit... i just can't do it anymore, i can't get drunk anymore. my body can't handle it. i want to go sober for 99% of the time, and maybe on special occasions, have a glass of wine (i'm looking forward to a glass of wine on my birthday in october!), but we shall see how all of that turns out. :o) thank you for your tips!! i've been changing my daily habits these last couple of weeks and journaling has had such a huge positive impact on me. i finally feel like i'm connecting with my spirituality again and even last night- i dreamed for a second time in the last week! i've hardly had any dreams in the last 2 years since i went down the rabbit hole of depression and drinking. i feel like i'm connecting so much more and i feel so incredibly happy.
Thank you for being a Taurus & showing us how to be more grounded ☺☺
Yay! I'm the 1k like & 200th comment. My OCD is so comfortable here. The main thing that has helped me to stay sober is to be able to recognize & avoid any triggers. I tried to hangout with one friend one time & found out what I can & can't do. What does bother me is when I am totally fine somewhere, but then the friend I was with Is uncomfortable because they are drinking alone & then they don't want to hang out again. You do have to give up many friends. It is great if you can help your friends along the way, but friends will come and go regardless, it is worth it.
Good God. I needed to hear this today.
Thank you.
Your goodbye and thank you video came across my feed and I clicked, saw this instead. Needed this. Thank you. I hope your healing continues🙏
Watching Harmony and enjoying a ginger lemonade
that is the way to live 😎
Have been considering going fully sober just in the past couple of weeks and now I see this... the earth is giving me signs. Thanks for the upload!
So glad we didn't lose you to alcohol. This world needs you. I'm a Teetotaler myself and love seeing other people reach the place you have mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually... all of it! It is such a beautiful place to be! I am terribly proud of you.
Harmony because of you I’ve opened my eyes and relies that i will end up shopping to much and in my mind its like oh this will make you feel better since i’m dealing with depression but then it ends up not making me feel better.
Thank you for sharing this! I resonated with so many things you said. Especially about how spirituality being a good outlet. It's so much easier to feel connected while sober.
Thank you for making this. Im just starting my sobriety journey and seeing someone I can relate to talking about going sober makes me feel like I can do it.
This video came out right after I started my sobriety journey (from marijuana and alcohol). It's like the universe is telling me I'm on the right path. Thank you for sharing your story, it's really inspiring and it's nice to know we're not alone. Thank you for making this day a bit easier
I needed this so much. Been going back and forth on whether or not to go fully sober but this sealed the deal for me. Sober me here I come ☺️ thank you
I just wanted to say that there has been so many videos you’ve done that have synced up with exactly what I was going through! You literally saved my life. I was in a dark place and for some reason your videos just popped up, I started watching, bought your book and became dedicated to wicca. I struggle with mental health and this past week I was in the hospital to help me recover from a deep depression, I decided to become sober while I’m there and I was released yesterday! I find it magical that you so happened to post this video the day I got released. Right now it’s extremely difficult but I know I can do it, it’s a very emotional time for me but I know I’m going to come out on the other end as the person I was meant to be. I know you’re not literally there, but god thank you so much for being there for me even though you don’t even know it. You are part of my growth 🖤
I don't even abuse substances anymore, but this video has helped me realize that I do still do something similar. It's not nearly as physically unhealthy, but it is a vice and it is taking much time away from me that I could be using instead to take better care of myself and to connect more truly to myself. I could literally replace the word alcohol and substance with my own escape, and I think that's important to note. This video is more meaningful and versatile than I think folks probably realize. Thank you Harmony, I really needed this
I wasn’t going to watch this video at first because I don’t have any sort of alcohol related issues. After watching however, I feel so comforted knowing that this information can be applied to any sort of addictions people may have. The things we use to “cope” often hurt us more than we realize. I feel inspired and supported after watching this and you genuinely have made me want to become a better version of myself. Thank you 💛
I’ve always been sober, but TV/youtube/netflix is my vice! I can replace “alcohol” with “TV” and still learn a lot from this video.
I am the type of person who has to get completely drunk if I drink. I’ve decided to just stop altogether for that reason. Proud of you for taking the steps that are best for you. I look up to you so much Harmony!!
I've always been purposefully sober, quitted smoking at the age of 15 (smoked for 1 year) and currently working with nicotine and white sugar. Breaking free from drugs is so liberating, I'm happy to hear you are sober and that you are encouraging your audience to do the same!
And thats shadow work and dark night of the soul 💖 sending my love so proud of you
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Harmony you are so kind and beautiful! Your videos have help me personally find myself and understand me better and I wanted to thank you for that. I’ve been here from nearly the start and it has been amazing to watch up grow into such an excellent role model.
I absolutely love your natural hair in this ive always loved your hair but i just wanted to say you look absolutely beautiful and it was sweet to hear from you
I’ll be 7 months sober in 2 days, and I have never been happier in my life then I am now. I definitely crossed the line into addiction years ago, and I completely agree with you about the spiritual awakening experience after quitting a substance. I am so much more connected to my craft then I have been in years past. It’s awesome that you caught it before it became an addiction, you’ve saved yourself a lot of pain.
I love your natural, stripped back content Harmony! You inspire me every day
I feel like you are so much more authentic. This is the content I love and crave. It inspires me, provokes a lot of introspection and helps me grow as a person. This is the content I look for to start my mornings. Thank you.
I love you're honesty. Also seeing you without makeup just highlights how beautiful your eyes are. I hope you continue to be healthy in a way that's right for you, whatever you decide X 🌼🧡
I know I'm a bit late, but I would like to tell this to you: I'm proud of you!
I know I'm just a random person, but as far as I know, it's always good to read and hear that what we are doing is good and we are on the right way. Thinking over what we have done and why we have done those things is an important step on the road to understand ourselves and be aware of our "weak" side.
When I was in my teenage years, I becamse a computer game addict. My little sister was born, and she sucked the energy out of my parents, so they didn't have time and energy for me at all. They sometimes didn't even realized that I came home from school. (even if I said Hi to them) I became a ghost, and at 13-14 years old, it made me depressed. I run into online games, especially MMORPGs, because the people there cared about me. Not much, but it was enought not to kill myself. My grades fell down, I gained a lot of weight (20-25kg, about 55-65 lbs) which became a problem between my mom and me. I totally closed up, and the realization took me a long time, and the fight was endless and desperate. Also, my health went garbage, I became insuline intolerant with high blood pressure and my hormones jumped upside down.
I'm almost 30, and I still suffer from this addiction time to time, but it got easier since my partner helps me keeping balance of gaming and real life. And also, finding what am I good in and finding life goals helps a lot.
So keep your head up, focus on the actions or hobbies what makes you happy but not poisoning you!
Love from Hungary
Just want to say whenever you move back home you do amazing! Your family must be the best. You are so lucky to have!!!!!
I love that you're so open with your journey of this really hard subject, to benefit others going through the same. You're truly an inspiration.
I've been thinking about how I want to stop drinking. This video came at just the right time for me. I'm glad you're talking about this I feel like drinking/ heavy drinking has been very normalized in our society. Like if you tell people that you don't drink they assume that you were a bad alcoholic at some point. Thank you for talking about this because it definitely has helped me decide that going sober is a goal I want to reach for.
I’m not smoking weed anymore because it really messes with my focus and staying in the present moment, i’m not drinking as much either. You have always been someone who inspires me and helps motivate me so thank you for this
Well done harmony for admitting you toxic habits I think we should all be this strong to be able to do this, nobody is perfect we all have flaws but working on them is the best things for no one else but ourselves! Absolutely love your videos you have helped me when I’ve been in a dark place especially after my EUPD and BPD diagnoses at the start of the year! You are a shining light in so many peoples lives and we are all eternally grateful! 🙌🏼🥰❤️
I’ve been sober for two months now so it’s nice to hear your experience too! :) Binge drinking is something I’ve done throughout my life but I’d always explain away the issue considering it is pretty normalised in my country too. I used to use it as a crutch for social anxiety, or to uplift me from depression - of course, it always inevitably worsened my mental state in the hangover stages. I’ve definitely been feeling happier and more myself. Personally, it was a bad habit I needed to kick in order to feel more in control.
I'm a month sober today. Thankyou for talking about this.
I love seeing you so happy and content lately. I remember you struggling with minimal makeup and natural hair and needing it to feel good. Those things aren't bad, but it's so good to feel confident and beautiful in your body.
Wish you all the best and send you lots of love ❤️
P.s. I stopped drinking for all the same reasons
I feel like I’ve always known that I shouldn’t drink. I don’t feel the urge to drink everyday, but when I do, I’ve done and said things I regret. This was my sign, thank you 💗💗
I’ve had problems with drugs and alcohol from a young age. I’ve been sober for 14 months now. I feel more clear and motivated. I got more spiritual and interested in Wicca and my beliefs. Thank you for telling your story. I didn’t think there was any other sober Wiccans 🖤
Harmony, it’s been amazing seeing your mental health journey. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your experiences. It gives me so much hope!
looooved this talk. i'm 25 and i hate how much alcohol, weed, and other drugs have become a part of my generation's culture...to the point where you're judged/seen a prude if you don't partake. i'm someone that has a very healthy relationship with alcohol - i will drink maybe twice a year - a glass of wine at christmas and perhaps a mimosa once or twice in the summer. but i don't love to drink and i find it very expensive! as for weed/other drugs though, i truly have no interest in them. it's an expensive habit, and to be honest, i have no desire to ingest something that makes me lazy and hungry! i know some people use it to calm down and there's nothing wrong with that but can we stop shitting on people who stay away from it?! we need to normalize sobriety more! thank you for this harmony x
So very proud of you. I will be 4yrs sober from pain pills and alcohol this Oct. And I feel so much better and normal my depression is alot better and I'm getting back in to my practice and journey to self discovery. I did some stupid things while drinking and taking pain pills , the drinking I didn't know when to stop and the pain pills the Dr gave me first then I bought them off the street and abusive relationship didn't help either but so happy you are doing good. Stay strong sister