Great series of videos. I remember when my dad was closing in on 92 and he was having trouble with senile dementia. He was a bit better at remembering things but had he lived past 92 I’m sure he would have had more serious issues. Although he lived in a retirement home, my brother would regularly visit to take him for outings. He would often complain about his inability to remember things. My brother was a true prince and he would say to dad: Dad, the good thing is, if you fall in love with a pretty little nurse, the next time you see her, you can fall in love with her all over again. Dad just laughed and scoffed at that. I sure miss him and it’s been 21 years.
Hi I just started watching not long ago will say your dad is a beautiful person but you Dan God bless you for what you and ur family do . I lost both my parents I miss them . They were in there in there eighties . But when I see you with ur dad you are an amazing son.
Amen. Bless anyone and I pray for any person who gets affected by this terrible and awful disease that robs innocent people of their lifetime of memories
I can't lie, dementia/memory loss scares me. Just like Dan said, imagine waking up and not knowing where you are or who the people walking in your room are. Ed's so lucky he has a brilliant family though.
😢 that's why most of them become aggressive especially if they in care of ppl with No relation...can you imagine if Ed was in a Care home? Lord I d cry the horrors
GIRL! I'm in rehab because my hemoglobin dropped dangerously low and I was half comatose. There's nothing worse than trying to think but not being able to.
I agree. It’s best to minimize the impact of the words and not say, “you have profound memory loss.” He is already aware of that and Dan’s words bring comfort and a sense of safety.
😆 Yeah.. “you have a little memory loss it’s perfectly normal, you’re perfectly healthy, you have a lot of money in the bank, you have nothing to worry about dad” 😆
When I told my 94 y.o. MIL that once, she kept saying, “But everyone has memories!” I think she meant, “memory loss” but she just kept repeating it. It is amazing what a difference it does make though, telling them.
When Dan says, “Look at my eyes, I have your eyes” the way Ed looks and then smiles just melted my heart. You all do so well with him, Dan, truly. God bless you all ❤️
I am so sorry, Dan. When my husband was in late stage dementia, I kissed him a quick kiss not knowing he didn't know me. He thought I was a nurse and said, "That is quite enough!" I know you know this, but that recognition comes and goes even in late stages. 15 minutes in this video!! My heart hurts for all of you. That sundowning is real. You are a beautiful, loving family.
So sorry to see a tough morning. Are they all like this now? You are simply an amazing son and I think about your dedication often. He is very lucky to have such support in you.❤
I've been full-time caring for my 93yo mother in law for almost 2 years. 4 months ago at her Doctor's Appointment, she literally did not know who I was when her Doctor asked her - she didn't know who he was either! That was the first time she got "lost" that way. Thankfully it was me she forgot, and not my husband - her son, or my sister-in-law. That would have been very hard on them...... Dan, you and your whole family are such a tremendous blessing and encouragement to the rest of us, the way you handle Grandpa when he's "lost" is something we emulate. We love the way you try put yourself in his shoes, and imagine what this is all like from his perspective, that really helps us too. Thank you. (Rae & Nige, Australia)
@@theoldieprojects1814. Yes it’s hard when my dad wouldn’t know who I was if I was “stealing “ him he never got fighting with me thank god. He did tell the public health nurse I wasn’t feeding him or washing his clothes and I was so embarrassed. The nurse laughed but I told her when we came into the office to at least weigh him to show him he isn’t losing weight. It wasn’t funny to me but I think the medical staff know …. He told the bank I stole all his money haaaaaaaaaaaaa that I laughed at that one as he had more than I had. They showed him his balances he certainly would embarrass me but it’s ok it was this disease talking. We did have some good talks still at times and I didnt bother telling him what he had done to me because he didn’t remember. Rip dad I miss you so much and I hope now you know I didn’t steal or not give you food or kidnap you .
He makes my day!!! Such a kind and peaceful soul!!! Just lost my 94yr old father Saturday!! Enjoy him while you can!!! God bless you and your family!!!
Absolutely, I’m trying to understand the mind of a 91 year old who doesn’t have dementia but has selective hearing, is temperamental, argumentative, interfering, impatient and much more..
@@lorrainecoughlanooh that's rough. 😮😮 Heading into that realm myself more and more difficult each month. It will be alright. Stay calm, keep them safe IS KEY, from there just roll with it.
Yes! ABSOLUTELY! IT'S A HUGE BLESSING TO ME TO WATCH THESE VIDEOS. I'VE TAKEN CARE OF PEOPLE WITH ALZHEIMER'S FOR OVER 30 YEARS AND I JUST CAN'T EXPLAIN HOW MUCH THESE VIDEOS MEAN TO ME BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND HOW HARD IT IS I UNDERSTAND THE DIFFICULTIES AND NOT ONLY DOES IT SHOW A FAMILY WHO LOVES EACH OTHER AND TAKES CARE OF EACH OTHER BUT IT ALSO SHOWS THAT WE CAN GET THROUGH THESE HORRIBLE STRUGGLES THAT WE ARE ALL FACING EVERY DAY THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR DOCUMENTING YOUR LIFE IT MEANS SO MUCH ✝️🌷✝️
That's how the elderly feel when they are in nursing home, they don't know anybody there,and people are always walking in and out of their room. Thank you Dan for taking care of your Dad.
Also, it is quite funny to weekly roll up a woman in her wheelchair to the death picture (or wathever they call it in english) to proof to her that her husband isnt alive anymore. Otherwise she would constantly be waiting at the end of the hall (this section of the nursing home was locked so the residents could not leave without a code/badge or when a certain alarm (like the fire alarm) was activated.) She waited at least every week at that door for her husband to arive.
Dan you are freaking awesome and so patient you are your Daddy's boy.. thank you for being a bright light on this dark world.. if we all had love and patients like you we would be in a better place
Dan, you have the patience of a saint. As a nurse who has taken care of many dementia patients I can honestly say that I wish every single dementia patient had a caregiver like you ❤
Ditto, for me as well. I don't have patience anymore. Dan is so great. And another great thing. He uses the same words and same patience tone when talking to his dad. I just love the calmness that Dan has when he talks to his dad. & very repetitive so his dad gets it? Dan ur a good guy. God bless you
The "He's back" brought me to tears. He's like a ship not tied up at night, when you wake, he's drifted far out to sea but he slowly drifts back to the shore with every minute.
Your “worst nightmare”…? Happy for you for not being aware of the tragedies of life. You must have never seen children die, young people suddenly dropping dead at home (heart attack, aneurysm…) or middle aged mothers dying a slow and painful death from cancer, leaving their underaged kid behind. You are so lucky. I envy you.
You handled your dad’s confusion beautifully. Calmly reassuring and explaining is definitely the way to go. What a scary experience for your dad. You are such a blessing and will have no regrets.
Hi Dan,,,I'm a ex caregiver....I took care of my dad to with Parkinson's....anyway Dancould you keep your Dad's hair shorter and more trim out....your Dad's hair grows so fast..........no Criticism....love your family and Dad most of all......cause I lost mine at 65......he was healthy he just started to lose his brain and mine....till he couldn't even eat or swallow.......take care the Estrada's family in San Francisco 🌁🌹🌁🌹🌺☕📻
I love how you talk to him, Dan. Reassuring him and reminding him, just because he may forget, we don't t forget who he is. And getting him out of his jammies and into his regular clothes. So much love in this family
I was going to say the same thing because it’s just wonderful how Dan reassures Ed, who he is, where he is, who all of his kids are, and also reminds him that he has his insurance, his money in the bank, etc. The Salingers are such a great and wonderful loving family ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That wasn't so bad because Ed's a smart man. He wakes up confused, but looks around at a comfortable home. He doesn't know you right away, but hears logic, and intelligence in your explanation❤
Even when confused he is still sweet and even tempered. Dad is just adorable absolutely adorable. You are an amazing son who is a HERO in my book. You were raised well. Xoxo
Happy Friday Dan! I have to tell you, I worked with many geriatric patients during my nursing career. Most were inpatient, but many were in their family homes in the community. I observed continually that those that were at home with family members who loved and cherished them faired much better in terms of memory and mood than those who were in the hospital or nursing home. During sundowner episodes, many patients in the nursing homes had to be medicated just to control their agitation and aggression. It made me so sad, because I knew that if only they had a patient, loving family like yours is, they could have so much security and joy as they aged. Senior Centers and Libraries should have Family Movie Nights and show your videos as a gold standard on how to love and help aging parents/grandparents with memory loss and aging. God bless you Dan, and the whole Salinger family.
I am a retired RN and worked in geriatrics for years (a lot in home health). I agree with your statements and wish everyone as they age had such support as this wonderful man has! Dan, I imagine growing up with him as your dad was like my dad.. he was always so soft spoken, patient and kind, yet firm when he needed to be. I wish he was still with me but he passed in 2019 😢 oh how much my heart aches for my daddy! 💜
Some people in nursing homes do have family that would care for them if they could. My Dad couldn't walk, couldn't transfer himself from bed to chair or commode. I crushed my arm and had partial elbow replacement not even a year before he got sick. I couldn't transfer him. Every morning, my sister was at the nursing home and every evening I was there (unless sick). I didn't just pop in, I stayed hours. The nursing home would call me if he was having a hard time and I would go. I know he would have been better off at home, and he would have been home if possible. He spent 6 months there before he passed. And it still breaks my heart that I wasn't with him when he died. Thankfully, he died in his sleep during the night. Mom died 4 months before him. She was "lucky" that she was able to stay at home with us checking on her daily too. I'm thankful I was holding her hand when she died and talking to her (she was heavily medicated, on hospice), but she died with me on one side of her and her dog on the other side. My sister got there just a few minutes after she passed. How I wish it could have been that way for my Dad.
I totally agree with all, infact these videos can be of much help to a lot of people because there is stigma about this disease process and it progresses, care givers get burned out knowing when to take time for self care , a lot patience goes along way.
@@VirginiaButler-px1uw Thanks so much for sharing your experience Virginia. I totally agree with you too. Sorry I didn't share that aspect in my comment. I absolutely thought of it, but in the interest of brevity, I just stuck to the aspect of home care. I can hear in your comment how much you and your sister loved your parents, and how much they had loved you! We do the best in life with the circumstances that we can't control, understanding that we do always have control over our response to them; and it sure looks like you had an enormously love and compassionate response to the circumstances regarding the end of life care of your parents.❤️
Such a horrible disease!! People like Dan O and his loving family have a special place inHeaven for being so patient and loving they are great role models for all children taking care of elderly parents..❤
You handled that brilliantly Dan.....absolutely. I can't imagine how that would feel to just simply not know one minute and then know the next. I guess he is fortunate that he can't remember those empty moments, and thats because of the way you help him. The whole thing is so hard to grasp....I mean the whole dementia thing. But I assure you that what you are doing is helping others to understand and make adjustments in their own lives if they have someone with dementia living with them. You are always right to bring up the fact that he is sun downing and will come around quickly. As he always does. Fascinating for sure. Another dementia 101 in the makings at some college. You should try and teach that Dan. Seriously. Have a good and restful weekend. Remember to take time to decompress ok?
I just love Grandpa! He handles the truth every morning with such grace. Thank you all for being so patient at reorienting him to time, place and person. Alzheimer’s disease is such a cruel and merciless disease. Grandpa comes around after several minutes of explaining the current situation. Thumbs up! I just love Grandpa!
I check for your videos with your dad everyday. My mother-in-law is 91 and has Alzheimer’s. Your videos have helped enlighten me as to how to handle similar situations we experience with my mother-in-law. I share your videos with other members of our family. You are an awesome son with a great deal of patience. Even when you get frustrated, you seem to keep it together for your dad’s sake.
Your dad is a calm man, dementia affects people in different ways, some will lash out and try to hit you, but thankfully he does not do that. God bless him, my mom is 90 and has some dementia too. You are doing great Dan.
I feel ya. My husband is sundowning this morning as well! He was trying to go to the store and I had to remind him that he no longer drives. He's now sitting quietly in the family room! It was rough for about 40 minutes. Anyhu, you're doing a great job. Continued Blessings to you and to all in our situation! It ain't always easy but we love them. #BamaGirlInCali
This was my breaking point emotionally when my Momma didn't know who I was anymore! I was more hurt for her, but it really got me in the heart. Alzheimer's/dementia is a big b!tch!!! 🕊️🙏❤️🕯️
I feel you on this. My mother sometimes would think I was my dad because I look a lot like him but he abandoned our family a long time ago and started a new one so we really haven't had any contact with him since I was a kid. When my mom would start calling me my father's name she would get so upset and scared like I was going to beat her up or something and I didn't know what to do because I'm not a violent person at all I especially wouldn't do anything to hurt my mother. It's when I look back I think maybe my dad was very abusive to her when we were kids and we just didn't see it but that's what it looked like was coming out when she would be frightened towards me for no reason. It was heart-wrenching and definitely made things a lot more difficult but she passed away 3 years ago on December 1st. While I do miss her I feel a sense of peace at the same time if that makes sense because she's not suffering anymore. It really warms my heart to see the Salingers go through it so well despite pops' disease
@@johnnybaggins777 Bless your precious heart and your Momma's, too! I totally empathize with you and am sorry for your pain! And I fully understand the feeling of peace you describe at their passing, to know they are no longer suffering is a true blessing! And I agree with you about how well the Salinger's deal with Pop's illness. God bless them all! 🕊️🙏❤️🕯️
Oh Dan... You talked about how frightening it must be for Dad to not know who and where he is and who you and others are. And too, it must sting quite a bit for your father to not know who you are too. Your grace through these periods, and the calm focus on just explaining and connecting for him is a beautiful thing to watch and learn from. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.
I don’t have dementia. But I could sure use a Dan lovingly telling me I’m safe, who I am, all the people who love me, and what I’m going to do that day. You are an amazing son. I love these heart warming videos.
Your so right Dan , he's bouncing back moments where clarity comes in. Usually after breakfast my Dad was back, until one day we couldn't get him back. I love Dr Ed and your Family's Support in being Caregivers. Doing it right. ❣️❣️❣️🙏🙏☦️🌎☮️
When he said “You’re Dan”, it about made me cry. To be going through what he does every day, and still have a wonderful demeanor..just wow, the sweetest of dads.
You handled this difficult conversation so very well, Dan. You are doing a wonderful job of taking care of your dad. You set a good example for all of us who watch your channel.
Grandpa’s demeanor during these times is amazing and a testament to the kind person he is. Dan, your patience and calmness through these times are what helps him the most. I’m glad you are able to be there with him I don’t think he’d be doing as well without your loving care. And of course the loving care from your family and mark as well. Being with family keeps him going mentally and physically. ❤
Dan, You are a wonderful son! So loving and have such calm reassuring voice when talking to your father. This is a wonderful video on what a family goes through and the patience needed in caring for a memory loss elderly parent. Not all adult children would be able to do what you and your wife do. Very special people!
Hi there, you and your wife have done a fantastic job taking care of your dad. I've worked in the Senior Living Field for over 15 years and you're probably the best I've seen at it! This is so heart-warming to watch how you brought your dad back to things! Thanks so much for sharing with us!
I believe your unique way of explaining things and reassuring Grandpa Ed (even though you may feel like you're repeating yourself) goes a long way to keeping him positive, calm and helps him to trust you even though sometimes he doubts what you say until he comes around. His natural character always shines through whatever the situation!
Hi Dan; I watch all of your videos. Thank you for sharing your dads life with dementia with us. My brother is 61 years old and was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s about 3 years ago. It has been very difficult to watch his decline. I love how positive your dad is everyday. God Bless you all.
I use to work in an adult foster home for elderly patients with dementia up and through hospice care. Sun downing is heartbreaking. I had this one lady who always asked for her mom, and she thought she was gonna get into trouble. I loved all of those ladies and miss them dearly. Not all elderly people have children wanting to take care of them. 😢 I appreciate your videos! They are a great way to spread awareness on memory loss and how to lovingly help them through it.
Not eveyone treated their kids the way he treated them. Not everyone can take care of their dad due to money, work and life situation. So there is much more to that.
@@theshapeexists Dan and Danielle are a huge support to us caregivers. Many say it is physically exhausting when you do it 24/7 but it is also emotionally difficult watching them go through what they do
You are amazing, Dan. Don’t worry about it and let him have a break. Usually, it is confusing in the morning and after that he will be fine. Any family pictures from the past. Let him go over it when he wants to.
Your dad is gracious like my dad who had Parkinson’s for 25 years and lived with me the last 8. Cheerful, polite, and concerned for others even in their confusion. It helped my dad in mornings to look out the window into the sunlight. It signals the brain to wake and be alert. Blessings to your family. ❤
Even though he doesn't remember he is always so attentive and listen to what it is being explained. Such a great person even through this horrible condition he still listens. I just admire him and you Dan. You are a wonderful son!!!
I was a live in and took care of many people with dementia. I can tell you most of the children would never take care of their parents. You are so wonderful. God bless you
Dan , you should write a book about Grandpa! I just adore him. What a gentle soul. Do people with dementia know or /are aware of their condition? This is so hard to see him struggling and knowing this may be my own fate in the future..I’m so grateful this beautiful man has a soft place to fall every single day and night. Such an amazing ,beautiful ,blessed family.❤
I just don’t know where you find your inner strength each day to push onward Dan? God love you man! ❤ I am sure these series of videos with your Dad will help prepare us all for things to come. Thank you for what you do….. thank you for sharing your Dad with us all. Much love❤ and respect 🫡
I know it's hard, tedious and repetitious, but I would give anything to have my mother back, loss of memory and all. She went from an energetic and willful powerhouse of a woman, to total dependance on my sister and me. Taking care of her for the last six weeks of her life are treasured memories. Bless you all.
I get the feeling that Grandpa Ed was in his much younger years this morning, especially the way he knew his Grandfather immediately. Thank goodness the period was short lived and he was back into current day. Dan you always handle these more challenging moments with such compassion and grace, it's so admiralable. Sending prayers and virtual hugs to all of you🙏🏽❤
I love how he lounges back so smoothly 😂😂😂😂🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Dan, you are a wonderful son. Your patience with Mr. Salinger is indescriptible.
Thank you.
Aww Pop is all smile when hears about his children.
Dan you do such a good job explaining everything to pop so he won’t panic! God bless you and Daniele.
What really amazes me, is that Ed handles these situations calmly and gracefully. That smile too. ❤
So sorry for your loss. My 96 year old Mother just passed, too. It's difficult to loose a parent, no matter how old they are, or how old you are.
Great series of videos. I remember when my dad was closing in on 92 and he was having trouble with senile dementia. He was a bit better at remembering things but had he lived past 92 I’m sure he would have had more serious issues. Although he lived in a retirement home, my brother would regularly visit to take him for outings. He would often complain about his inability to remember things. My brother was a true prince and he would say to dad: Dad, the good thing is, if you fall in love with a pretty little nurse, the next time you see her, you can fall in love with her all over again. Dad just laughed and scoffed at that. I sure miss him and it’s been 21 years.
Happy weekend!😊❤
Hi I just started watching not long ago will say your dad is a beautiful person but you Dan God bless you for what you and ur family do . I lost both my parents I miss them . They were in there in there eighties . But when I see you with ur dad you are an amazing son.
Amen. Bless anyone and I pray for any person who gets affected by this terrible and awful disease that robs innocent people of their lifetime of memories
Even with Dementia, you really can see how good and intelligent this old man is.. I love your pops❤
I can't lie, dementia/memory loss scares me. Just like Dan said, imagine waking up and not knowing where you are or who the people walking in your room are. Ed's so lucky he has a brilliant family though.
It is scary, my Grandma and all her sisters had it.
😢 that's why most of them become aggressive especially if they in care of ppl with No relation...can you imagine if Ed was in a Care home? Lord I d cry the horrors
GIRL! I'm in rehab because my hemoglobin dropped dangerously low and I was half comatose. There's nothing worse than trying to think but not being able to.
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Omg yes
Dan that has to very hard on u and ur wife stay strong
I love how Dan always says "you have a little memory loss." It's remarkable how much of a difference that makes.
I agree. It’s best to minimize the impact of the words and not say, “you have profound memory loss.” He is already aware of that and Dan’s words bring comfort and a sense of safety.
😆 Yeah..
“you have a little memory loss it’s perfectly normal, you’re perfectly healthy, you have a lot of money in the bank, you have nothing to worry about dad”
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When I told my 94 y.o. MIL that once, she kept saying, “But everyone has memories!” I think she meant, “memory loss” but she just kept repeating it. It is amazing what a difference it does make though, telling them.
Yes I really learnt something there. One should never say that you have forgotten.
Love you all Dan like Family!!💓💓💓🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹💟💟💟💟
I love how polite he is. He must have been a gentleman of a podiatrist. You are a wonderful son.’love these videos.
Always so sweet.
He remembered to wash his hands. Even when he gets frustrated, he is still so polite.
When Dan says, “Look at my eyes, I have your eyes” the way Ed looks and then smiles just melted my heart. You all do so well with him, Dan, truly. God bless you all ❤️
I came here to say the same thing. That smile of joy was everything ❤️
😂😂😂😂😂😂 yes he smiled, what a lovely smile, he was a lovely man very good spirit no arguments ❤
That was very beautiful. I noticed too! He saw his own eyes looking back at him👏🥹
Yes. That part 🙌
i think Ed wanted to say Dan's eyes don't look like his but he was shy and smiled 😂 i love Ed
It’s incredible how fond I’ve become of your dad and your videos. Thank you
Wow, this 91 years old man is the sweetest person I know.. Dan, thanks for being the Amazing son that you are.
Thank you for being patient with him… you are a remarkable family. Prayers for Dr. Ed and his loving, supportive family.
Dad is very lucky to have a supportive son around at age 91. I have a lot to learn from you. Blessings to both of you.
I am so sorry, Dan. When my husband was in late stage dementia, I kissed him a quick kiss not knowing he didn't know me. He thought I was a nurse and said, "That is quite enough!" I know you know this, but that recognition comes and goes even in late stages. 15 minutes in this video!! My heart hurts for all of you. That sundowning is real. You are a beautiful, loving family.
I often think how scary that is not really knowing where you are or the people around you he is a sweet soul ❤️
you live in Sacramento elgrove.also near my son house Pamela way. ca.
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So sorry to see a tough morning. Are they all like this now? You are simply an amazing son and I think about your dedication often. He is very lucky to have such support in you.❤
That's your wife's line: "There you have it"!
❤even in his forgetfulness, he's always polite and sweet. I can only imagine how great of a dad he was when he was clear minded.❤
Massive respect Dan 🇬🇧
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When I tell you I have fallen in love with dad! I could watch y’all all day. Blessings to you all. My father just turned 94. 🙏🏽🥰
Dan, the service you're doing for people who have to take care of someone with this illness is invaluable.
I've been full-time caring for my 93yo mother in law for almost 2 years. 4 months ago at her Doctor's Appointment, she literally did not know who I was when her Doctor asked her - she didn't know who he was either! That was the first time she got "lost" that way. Thankfully it was me she forgot, and not my husband - her son, or my sister-in-law. That would have been very hard on them...... Dan, you and your whole family are such a tremendous blessing and encouragement to the rest of us, the way you handle Grandpa when he's "lost" is something we emulate. We love the way you try put yourself in his shoes, and imagine what this is all like from his perspective, that really helps us too. Thank you. (Rae & Nige, Australia)
Its like taking care of the president
Yep
@@theoldieprojects1814. Yes it’s hard when my dad wouldn’t know who I was if I was “stealing “ him he never got fighting with me thank god. He did tell the public health nurse I wasn’t feeding him or washing his clothes and I was so embarrassed. The nurse laughed but I told her when we came into the office to at least weigh him to show him he isn’t losing weight. It wasn’t funny to me but I think the medical staff know …. He told the bank I stole all his money haaaaaaaaaaaaa that I laughed at that one as he had more than I had. They showed him his balances he certainly would embarrass me but it’s ok it was this disease talking. We did have some good talks still at times and I didnt bother telling him what he had done to me because he didn’t remember. Rip dad I miss you so much and I hope now you know I didn’t steal or not give you food or kidnap you .
Your a great son Dan
He makes my day!!! Such a kind and peaceful soul!!! Just lost my 94yr old father Saturday!! Enjoy him while you can!!! God bless you and your family!!!
Sorry for your loss
I’m sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙋♀️
I'm sorry! My heart goes out to you and your loved ones ❤️🩹 God bless you all as you navigate this next chapter. Hang in there.
I’m sorry for the loss of your father. Sending prayers of healing and strength. 🙏🏼💚
Ed always seems half amused at what Dan tells him to straighten him out.
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I think you're doing a great service for millions of people by documenting your dad's condition and showing how you deal with it on a daily basis.
Absolutely, I’m trying to understand the mind of a 91 year old who doesn’t have dementia but has selective hearing, is temperamental, argumentative, interfering, impatient and much more..
@@lorrainecoughlanooh that's rough. 😮😮 Heading into that realm myself more and more difficult each month. It will be alright. Stay calm, keep them safe IS KEY, from there just roll with it.
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Yes! ABSOLUTELY! IT'S A HUGE BLESSING TO ME TO WATCH THESE VIDEOS. I'VE TAKEN CARE OF PEOPLE WITH ALZHEIMER'S FOR OVER 30 YEARS AND I JUST CAN'T EXPLAIN HOW MUCH THESE VIDEOS MEAN TO ME BECAUSE I UNDERSTAND HOW HARD IT IS I UNDERSTAND THE DIFFICULTIES AND NOT ONLY DOES IT SHOW A FAMILY WHO LOVES EACH OTHER AND TAKES CARE OF EACH OTHER BUT IT ALSO SHOWS THAT WE CAN GET THROUGH THESE HORRIBLE STRUGGLES THAT WE ARE ALL FACING EVERY DAY THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR DOCUMENTING YOUR LIFE IT MEANS SO MUCH ✝️🌷✝️
That's how the elderly feel when they are in nursing home, they don't know anybody there,and people are always walking in and out of their room. Thank you Dan for taking care of your Dad.
Worked in a nursing home, got a guy that thought I was stealing his stuff. He wasnt clear in his head, but it was anoying as fuck.
Also, it is quite funny to weekly roll up a woman in her wheelchair to the death picture (or wathever they call it in english) to proof to her that her husband isnt alive anymore. Otherwise she would constantly be waiting at the end of the hall (this section of the nursing home was locked so the residents could not leave without a code/badge or when a certain alarm (like the fire alarm) was activated.)
She waited at least every week at that door for her husband to arive.
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@jhwhthemerciful This happens alot with elderly people. They think people steal from them. Please have compassion for these poor souls.
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Dan you are freaking awesome and so patient you are your Daddy's boy.. thank you for being a bright light on this dark world.. if we all had love and patients like you we would be in a better place
Dan, you have the patience of a saint. As a nurse who has taken care of many dementia patients I can honestly say that I wish every single dementia patient had a caregiver like you ❤
Ditto
Ditto, for me as well. I don't have patience anymore. Dan is so great. And another great thing. He uses the same words and same patience tone when talking to his dad.
I just love the calmness that Dan has when he talks to his dad. & very repetitive so his dad gets it?
Dan ur a good guy. God bless you
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The "He's back" brought me to tears. He's like a ship not tied up at night, when you wake, he's drifted far out to sea but he slowly drifts back to the shore with every minute.
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Love that analogy. Experiencing that now with my 84 yo aunt. It’s so dang hard!!
Wow that’s a beautiful way to explain it ❤
Lovely way to think about it… because the reality is like living in a nightmare….
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DAN, IM SO HUMBLED FOR HOW YIU TREAT YOUR BELOVED DAD.
GOD BLESS YOU.
MISSIONARY DORIS❤
Dan basically lives my worst nightmare everyday. Safe to say Dan is my hero for everything he does, shares, and teaches. Thank you Dan and Dr Ed.
Agree. Dan knows a lot better than I would about how to handle this situation.
That's your worst nightmare?
Your “worst nightmare”…? Happy for you for not being aware of the tragedies of life. You must have never seen children die, young people suddenly dropping dead at home (heart attack, aneurysm…) or middle aged mothers dying a slow and painful death from cancer, leaving their underaged kid behind. You are so lucky. I envy you.
With all the confusions, his smile shows his great personality and Dan you're one in a million ❤
And never forgets Joanne ❤
Even tho he’s so confused he’s remains a sweet father, grandfather and national icon.
You handled your dad’s confusion beautifully. Calmly reassuring and explaining is definitely the way to go. What a scary experience for your dad. You are such a blessing and will have no regrets.
Exactly 💯
Hi Dan,,,I'm a ex caregiver....I took care of my dad to with Parkinson's....anyway Dancould you keep your Dad's hair shorter and more trim out....your Dad's hair grows so fast..........no
Criticism....love your family and Dad most of all......cause I lost mine at 65......he was healthy he just started to lose his brain and mine....till he couldn't even eat or swallow.......take care the Estrada's family in San Francisco 🌁🌹🌁🌹🌺☕📻
I love how he never forgets who your mom is. She must be a wonderful woman.
I just love his dad blessed his heart he's so sweet bless that family❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It’s sad but so nice to see an entire family coming together to take care of and support their Dad.
I love how you talk to him, Dan. Reassuring him and reminding him, just because he may forget, we don't t forget who he is. And getting him out of his jammies and into his regular clothes. So much love in this family
I was going to say the same thing because it’s just wonderful how Dan reassures Ed, who he is, where he is, who all of his kids are, and also reminds him that he has his insurance, his money in the bank, etc. The Salingers are such a great and wonderful loving family ❤️❤️❤️❤️
He does have an amazing attitude. He remembers his manners.
That wasn't so bad because Ed's a smart man. He wakes up confused, but looks around at a comfortable home. He doesn't know you right away, but hears logic, and intelligence in your explanation❤
Even though all the confusion, he still smiles ❤
People don't realize what a blessing it is to get an opportunity to look after your parents God bless you sir
Ed is so blessed to have a son like you Dan. 👑
I had a friend 72 years old, whose 92 year old mother tried to breast fed her LOL
Amen
Agreed.❤❤💯
Good man dan.a wee bit sad at times seeing your dad like this.have a good day and glad your dad is in such loving hands
Ed is so blessed to have a loving family.👍👍
You're dad is so special. What a great guy. He's very lucky to have you as his son.
You are so very patient with your dad. How lucky you are to have each other.
Grandpa seems that no matter how confused he gets, he's still got such a sweet smile and little chuckle. I hope y'all have a great day. ❤
Dan, you really take care of him extremely well.. you can definitely bring him back in 5 minutes.. *GOD BLESS YOU, GRANDPA AND YOUR FAMILY* 💕💕💕
Amen!🙏🕯️🌹
Even when confused he is still sweet and even tempered. Dad is just adorable absolutely adorable. You are an amazing son who is a HERO in my book. You were raised well. Xoxo
Happy Friday Dan!
I have to tell you, I worked with many geriatric patients during my nursing career. Most were inpatient, but many were in their family homes in the community. I observed continually that those that were at home with family members who loved and cherished them faired much better in terms of memory and mood than those who were in the hospital or nursing home.
During sundowner episodes, many patients in the nursing homes had to be medicated just to control their agitation and aggression. It made me so sad, because I knew that if only they had a patient, loving family like yours is, they could have so much security and joy as they aged. Senior Centers and Libraries should have Family Movie Nights and show your videos as a gold standard on how to love and help aging parents/grandparents with memory loss and aging. God bless you Dan, and the whole Salinger family.
I am a retired RN and worked in geriatrics for years (a lot in home health). I agree with your statements and wish everyone as they age had such support as this wonderful man has!
Dan, I imagine growing up with him as your dad was like my dad.. he was always so soft spoken, patient and kind, yet firm when he needed to be. I wish he was still with me but he passed in 2019 😢 oh how much my heart aches for my daddy! 💜
Yes i totally agree
Some people in nursing homes do have family that would care for them if they could. My Dad couldn't walk, couldn't transfer himself from bed to chair or commode. I crushed my arm and had partial elbow replacement not even a year before he got sick. I couldn't transfer him. Every morning, my sister was at the nursing home and every evening I was there (unless sick). I didn't just pop in, I stayed hours. The nursing home would call me if he was having a hard time and I would go. I know he would have been better off at home, and he would have been home if possible. He spent 6 months there before he passed. And it still breaks my heart that I wasn't with him when he died. Thankfully, he died in his sleep during the night. Mom died 4 months before him. She was "lucky" that she was able to stay at home with us checking on her daily too. I'm thankful I was holding her hand when she died and talking to her (she was heavily medicated, on hospice), but she died with me on one side of her and her dog on the other side. My sister got there just a few minutes after she passed. How I wish it could have been that way for my Dad.
I totally agree with all, infact these videos can be of much help to a lot of people because there is stigma about this disease process and it progresses, care givers get burned out knowing when to take time for self care , a lot patience goes along way.
@@VirginiaButler-px1uw Thanks so much for sharing your experience Virginia. I totally agree with you too. Sorry I didn't share that aspect in my comment. I absolutely thought of it, but in the interest of brevity, I just stuck to the aspect of home care.
I can hear in your comment how much you and your sister loved your parents, and how much they had loved you! We do the best in life with the circumstances that we can't control, understanding that we do always have control over our response to them; and it sure looks like you had an enormously love and compassionate response to the circumstances regarding the end of life care of your parents.❤️
So sad to see how dad is confused but Dan is handling the situation so calmly... 😢
Great Job Dan!
He has such a good spirit. I can't imagine how hard this would be if his mannerisms were different.
Dan, You are so special!
Dan you and danielle do such an amazing job with dad. Always just warms my heart ❤.
Such a horrible disease!! People like Dan O and his loving family have a special place inHeaven for being so patient and loving they are great role models for all children taking care of elderly parents..❤
You handled that brilliantly Dan.....absolutely. I can't imagine how that would feel to just simply not know one minute and then know the next. I guess he is fortunate that he can't remember those empty moments, and thats because of the way you help him. The whole thing is so hard to grasp....I mean the whole dementia thing. But I assure you that what you are doing is helping others to understand and make adjustments in their own lives if they have someone with dementia living with them. You are always right to bring up the fact that he is sun downing and will come around quickly. As he always does. Fascinating for sure. Another dementia 101 in the makings at some college. You should try and teach that Dan. Seriously. Have a good and restful weekend. Remember to take time to decompress ok?
Will do and thanks for the kind words
Poor Grandpa, it must be frustrating to not remember things. I respect you much Dan for the patience you have towards your Dad.
Amazing kindness, patience and understanding, Dan.
It must be so frightening to lose your memory. Ed seems to take it on stride and doesn't get angry.❤
I just love Grandpa! He handles the truth every morning with such grace. Thank you all for being so patient at reorienting him to time, place and person. Alzheimer’s disease is such a cruel and merciless disease. Grandpa comes around after several minutes of explaining the current situation. Thumbs up! I just love Grandpa!
#Grandpa is #1
Súper Dan 👍🏻 😊
You are awesome an awesome son.
I check for your videos with your dad everyday. My mother-in-law is 91 and has Alzheimer’s. Your videos have helped enlighten me as to how to handle similar situations we experience with my mother-in-law. I share your videos with other members of our family. You are an awesome son with a great deal of patience. Even when you get frustrated, you seem to keep it together for your dad’s sake.
Your dad is a calm man, dementia affects people in different ways, some will lash out and try to hit you, but thankfully he does not do that.
God bless him, my mom is 90 and has some dementia too. You are doing great Dan.
God Bless this wonderful elderly man. God Bless you Dan for your caregiving. ❤❤❤.
I feel ya. My husband is sundowning this morning as well! He was trying to go to the store and I had to remind him that he no longer drives. He's now sitting quietly in the family room! It was rough for about 40 minutes. Anyhu, you're doing a great job. Continued Blessings to you and to all in our situation! It ain't always easy but we love them. #BamaGirlInCali
This was my breaking point emotionally when my Momma didn't know who I was anymore! I was more hurt for her, but it really got me in the heart. Alzheimer's/dementia is a big b!tch!!! 🕊️🙏❤️🕯️
This is what I love about Grandpa. He's got a "I may not know who you are, but I love anyway" attitude.
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I feel you on this. My mother sometimes would think I was my dad because I look a lot like him but he abandoned our family a long time ago and started a new one so we really haven't had any contact with him since I was a kid. When my mom would start calling me my father's name she would get so upset and scared like I was going to beat her up or something and I didn't know what to do because I'm not a violent person at all I especially wouldn't do anything to hurt my mother. It's when I look back I think maybe my dad was very abusive to her when we were kids and we just didn't see it but that's what it looked like was coming out when she would be frightened towards me for no reason. It was heart-wrenching and definitely made things a lot more difficult but she passed away 3 years ago on December 1st. While I do miss her I feel a sense of peace at the same time if that makes sense because she's not suffering anymore. It really warms my heart to see the Salingers go through it so well despite pops' disease
@@johnnybaggins777 Bless your precious heart and your Momma's, too! I totally empathize with you and am sorry for your pain!
And I fully understand the feeling of peace you describe at their passing, to know they are no longer suffering is a true blessing!
And I agree with you about how well the Salinger's deal with Pop's illness. God bless them all! 🕊️🙏❤️🕯️
A blessing & curse at the same dayum tme....
Ed has the best old age one can have!!!! Wonderful, how loved and secure he can live...and he earned it!!!! Great senior- guy, great family!!!
Oh Dan... You talked about how frightening it must be for Dad to not know who and where he is and who you and others are. And too, it must sting quite a bit for your father to not know who you are too. Your grace through these periods, and the calm focus on just explaining and connecting for him is a beautiful thing to watch and learn from. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.
Wow bless them
I don’t have dementia. But I could sure use a Dan lovingly telling me I’m safe, who I am, all the people who love me, and what I’m going to do that day.
You are an amazing son. I love these heart warming videos.
Dan u must have patience of a Saint Bless u ,ur Dad is wonderful guy ,even remembered to wash his hands Awwww Bless him too. Xx Luv from UK 🇬🇧
Wow Dan, you do amazingly well with your dad. He’s blessed to have you.
Your so right Dan , he's bouncing back moments where clarity comes in. Usually after breakfast my Dad was back, until one day we couldn't get him back. I love Dr Ed and your Family's Support in being Caregivers. Doing it right. ❣️❣️❣️🙏🙏☦️🌎☮️
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Right one day he won't be back.
You are the best son ever in America, Africa, Canada, Europe and elsewhere!!! Dan you are a blest son!!!
When he said “You’re Dan”, it about made me cry. To be going through what he does every day, and still have a wonderful demeanor..just wow, the sweetest of dads.
You handled this difficult conversation so very well, Dan. You are doing a wonderful job of taking care of your dad. You set a good example for all of us who watch your channel.
Dan I notice that neither you or Ed ever loose it ! That’s a hard thing to maintain.
you are a great person.
Thank you so much!
You Dan, are a super man among men. Your patience abounds. Thank goodness Ed was blessed with a son willing to go through this every day!!
Totally agree
I can only pray if I get dementia late in life I will have someone like Dan to take care of me!
Couldn't agree more! ❤
Grandpa’s demeanor during these times is amazing and a testament to the kind person he is. Dan, your patience and calmness through these times are what helps him the most. I’m glad you are able to be there with him I don’t think he’d be doing as well without your loving care. And of course the loving care from your family and mark as well. Being with family keeps him going mentally and physically. ❤
Dan, You are a wonderful son! So loving and have such calm reassuring voice when talking to your father. This is a wonderful video on what a family goes through and the patience needed in caring for a memory loss elderly parent. Not all adult children would be able to do what you and your wife do. Very special people!
I love when Dan said “I have your eyes”…….Amazing family 🥰
Hi there, you and your wife have done a fantastic job taking care of your dad. I've worked in the Senior Living Field for over 15 years and you're probably the best I've seen at it! This is so heart-warming to watch how you brought your dad back to things! Thanks so much for sharing with us!
Dan, I can't express how amazing you are. This is super hard to watch, but it was so lovely at 5:28, when Dad remembered who you were.
Dan is amazing w/ grandpa Ed. Talking w/ him, & taking as much time as needed until pops feels safe , is just one reason that makes Dan amazing!
I believe your unique way of explaining things and reassuring Grandpa Ed (even though you may feel like you're repeating yourself) goes a long way to keeping him positive, calm and helps him to trust you even though sometimes he doubts what you say until he comes around.
His natural character always shines through whatever the situation!
Hi Dan;
I watch all of your videos. Thank you for sharing your dads life with dementia with us. My brother is 61 years old and was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s about 3 years ago. It has been very difficult to watch his decline. I love how positive your dad is everyday. God Bless you all.
I'm so sorry about your brother. My favorite cousin developed it early too. 😢
I use to work in an adult foster home for elderly patients with dementia up and through hospice care. Sun downing is heartbreaking. I had this one lady who always asked for her mom, and she thought she was gonna get into trouble. I loved all of those ladies and miss them dearly. Not all elderly people have children wanting to take care of them. 😢 I appreciate your videos! They are a great way to spread awareness on memory loss and how to lovingly help them through it.
Not eveyone treated their kids the way he treated them. Not everyone can take care of their dad due to money, work and life situation. So there is much more to that.
@@patogordo1385 very true
Days like these are so hard as I watch my mom go through this. My heart goes out to you Dan❤
Take all these pointers from Dan. You can keep your mom from being out in bad situations.
@@theshapeexists Dan and Danielle are a huge support to us caregivers. Many say it is physically exhausting when you do it 24/7 but it is also emotionally difficult watching them go through what they do
Why is he exposing his father like this....?
I believe his making ALOT of money off him, from yt....
How Shameful!!!!
@@mdgrooms1982none of your bussiness...
lots off people find strength in Dan his videos...
@@mdgrooms1982stop watching if you dont like it,every comment you make,is money in there bank...LOL.
Bless Ed’s heart and soul
Good job with him Dan ❤🙏🏻
You are amazing, Dan. Don’t worry about it and let him have a break. Usually, it is confusing in the morning and after that he will be fine. Any family pictures from the past. Let him go over it when he wants to.
Your dad is gracious like my dad who had Parkinson’s for 25 years and lived with me the last 8. Cheerful, polite, and concerned for others even in their confusion. It helped my dad in mornings to look out the window into the sunlight. It signals the brain to wake and be alert. Blessings to your family. ❤
Even though he doesn't remember he is always so attentive and listen to what it is being explained. Such a great person even through this horrible condition he still listens. I just admire him and you Dan. You are a wonderful son!!!
I was a live in and took care of many people with dementia. I can tell you most of the children would never take care of their parents. You are so wonderful. God bless you
It's nice when he puts on a smile whether he is confused or not , he manages to put on a bright face , very nice gentle man he is , always be ❤❤
Dan , you should write a book about Grandpa! I just adore him. What a gentle soul. Do people with dementia know or /are aware of their condition? This is so hard to see him struggling and knowing this may be my own fate in the future..I’m so grateful this beautiful man has a soft place to fall every single day and night. Such an amazing ,beautiful ,blessed family.❤
Yes , a soft , safe place to fall . That is a priceless gift for us all .
No they don’t know they have it. It’s just trust in their care giver to give them truth.
I can tell, it takes a lot of patience. Amazing how fast he came back. Dan, you're doing a great job! God bless
I just don’t know where you find your inner strength each day to push onward Dan? God love you man! ❤
I am sure these series of videos with your Dad will help prepare us all for things to come. Thank you for what you do….. thank you for sharing your Dad with us all.
Much love❤ and respect 🫡
A very polite and good mannered man even at his age despite all the early morning confusion! Enjoy watching him❤
Bless your heart. Your Dad's very lucky to have sons that will step up to take care of him.
Dan, it is so comforting to see your father active, engaged and with people who love him. A priceless gift for both of you.
Your Dad is so precious. Such a sweet spirit. You are amazing with him Dan - so patient and kind. I love watching your videos with Dad 🥰
It is so lovely to watch this...I have never seen such humbleness and such a sweet spirit!!❤❤🙏🙏
You’re the best Dan. Best son ever ! ❤️💯
I know it's hard, tedious and repetitious, but I would give anything to have my mother back, loss of memory and all. She went from an energetic and willful powerhouse of a woman, to total dependance on my sister and me. Taking care of her for the last six weeks of her life are treasured memories. Bless you all.
Dan I admire you, Danielle and Mark so much. Your patience and support is amazing. Bless your dad, I cannot imagine how lost he must feel at times.
Dan! I admire the strength you have for your father.I pray for you both. God bless!
I get the feeling that Grandpa Ed was in his much younger years this morning, especially the way he knew his Grandfather immediately. Thank goodness the period was short lived and he was back into current day. Dan you always handle these more challenging moments with such compassion and grace, it's so admiralable. Sending prayers and virtual hugs to all of you🙏🏽❤
Exactly what I thought he must have woken up & was a youngster for him to remember his grandfather so well
Long term versus short term memory.