I’ve left a very toxic relationship when I was 35 and 2 sons. Decided to abstain and focus more on raising them, going to college, improving my credit and buying my first home. I’ve had to work 3 jobs to provide a half decent life for these kids. Dad pays $100 a week (small business owner) and visits when he has time. I am now 49 and beaten up by life! Never felt more defeated physically mentally and emotionally in my life. The kids are phenomenal and thriving but it comes at my own detriment. Really looking forward to an empty nest! 😩 Funny thing is people always credit the dad for how well accomplished the boys have been. I never say anything to disagree. They’ll figure things out eventually. If not then such is life. Pray for my next season in life! 🙏🏽❤️💪🏽
I think on a statistical level it shows that a 2 parent family is usually better, but it's a stereotype to say all single mothers are poor. My mother was a real estate agent and owned 7 houses but shemight be the exception.
@@lettersandwordsandstuffs yes I’m selfish. Because after years of being selfless, staying in an abusive relationship and having the energy that I would have poured into my child sucked out of me for a man child, allowing my child to grow up in a toxic environment, I realized that being selfish was the only way to get out. You have to be able to stand up for yourself and ask for better. This selfish accusation is what keeps abused women in abusive relationships. I’m being selfish by advocating for myself and my child and refusing to be abused by a man who does not work, does not do chores, does not contribute to household financially, does not do any childcare and gets angry when he is asked to be an adult, and who after we separated has chose not to be a part of his child’s life. But yeah…. My child really needs someone like that in his life just because he’s the father. He’s a really good role model and I’m really selfish for leaving.
@@ayintovah3132you don’t understand abuse. I’m glad you don’t. I hope that that fate never happens to you or anyone you love and that you will never understand what it is to be in an abusive relationship.
I appreciate hearing this! I left a toxic relationship 9 yrs ago and he made sure he left my 3 kids and I nothing. He passed away 3 yrs ago. I’ve been in survival mode for way too long.😢 Tired of being judged by my family that I can’t budget money. They have no idea!!!
@@thinkredpill5118 what about the single married households? Most single parents are divorced. Men initiate marriage and divorce so obviously that no one values it anymore!
I don’t know, I think more people should be single parents and not be so afraid of ending it when it gets toxic. In my opinion, a father that disappears and disappoints, or even worse is abusive, is worse than not having one at all because it subconsciously teaches the children that it’s okay to be that way in relationships. Therefore leading to them making bad choices in partners too and making an ongoing cycle of broken homes.
I am sorry for the pain you went through. I understand the point you are making, but there is too much objective data out there that has been shown for decades that not having a good father in the home leads to a greater likelihood of negative outcomes in life. That's why therapy is essential for many people, and being ultra viligent about who you chose to have a child with.
@@Cbd_7ohm As if you can just undo a kid? I’m talking about people who have already made the mistake and it’s too late for an abortion. I’m not saying people should plan to go into that situation.
I think we’ve been valuing single motherhood for far too long. We need to emphasize, at a greater scale, the need of fatherhood. Single mothers are actually boasting that they’re doing it all by themselves.
Its better that they are boasting about it than them victimizing themselves and complaining or blaming. How else are they going to feel strong enough to keep going? That’s not to say I dont agree with needing to encourage fathers to stay in their family at a broader cultural level. We need that badly.
Well they should boast! Good!! You have no idea what each single mother is going through, or struggling with, yet still making it work, to try to raise a decent human being! 👍They should feel supported!
I just searched successful single mothers and that's what I see, all the responsibility falls on mothers only. I had given a birth when I was 19, my husband turned out to be a psychopath. Now, I am 30, my son is 11, I have been raising my child practically by myself with no property, grandparents and high salary job. We had been living in Ukraine(even though I have had US citizenship) all these years. And what kind of declarations can I see?! Do not date single Mom's?! Do men just want all single mothers to commit a suicide or what?! What about single fathers, they can marry a young model without kids even if they don't have much money?! Men should take the same responsibility and should not hide their income, just sponsor their kids at least.
But I don't understand your point. Why should a man marry you at 30 with children, when he could marry a girl who is 18 and virgin instead (like you used to be before you got pregnant and married). Why would he pick the one who is 30?
@@WokeVeganLiberal I do not know if you are religious, but virginity does not play any role anymore, there is DNA test to check if it is your kid. I can tell you the same thing about single fathers. More often, single fathers have more money, so they can pay for babysitter, housekeeper and other things. It is natural that men want the fresh meat, but women somehow should be patient about usually old men with a money(even if he is a single father). Young women also deserve young men with no kids then. And 30, it is not 40 or 50, I do not look like 30 even, people live 10 years longer than before. I have experience, skills and still enough energy and health for the family. 20year old girl may not be prepared for the family, she may want to study, travel, work, hang out with friends, hobbies and just date men for fun. It is very strange and sick to hate single mothers, somehow all the responsibility falls on mothers, not father. Then, you ask why so many women do not want to give a birth. Also, anyone can become a single parent when he/she loses his/her partner.
@@Nicole-yw1dt virginity 100% plays a role and is one of the most important requirements for marriage or a serious relationship. I'd never commit to someone who gave that to another man.
@@Nicole-yw1dt every time you give birth your womb changes and your next child can become more feminised. Women age quickly. Even at age 25 women are less likely to get pregnant and more likely to give birth to a baby with genetic defects or downs syndrome, compared to age 20. The actual peak for women in terms of giving birth to a healthy child and being the most likely to get pregnant is from age 15 to age 20. Between age 20 to age 25 there's a moderate decrease in chance to get pregnant and a moderate increase in chance of genetic defects. Between 25 to 30 there's a larger decrease in chance to get pregnant and increase in chance to have a child with genetic defects.
@@Nicole-yw1dt Risk of having a baby with genetic defects Age 15: 1 in 526 Age 20: 1 in 526 Age 25: 1 in 476 Age 30: 1 in 385 Age 35: 1 in 192 Age 40: 1 in 66 Age 45: 1 in 20 Chance of getting pregnant (per cycle) Age 15: 30% Age 20: 30% Age 25: 25% Age 30: 15% Age 35: 10% Age 40: 5% Age 45: 3% Chance of miscarriage Age 15: 10% Age 20: 10% Age 25: 10% Age 30: 15% Age 35: 25% Age 40: 50% Age 45: 75%
Jordan, I'm a single parent after spending years telling my ex how and why he was amazing, trying to give him my energy and lift his spirit. I never wanted to be a single parent, which is why I stayed with him for so long. I gave it everything I WAS, not just everything I had. Can you please say something positive about single parents and please stop assuming that couples should stay together? It cannot work if it's a one way street. Relationships should average 50/50 emotional support etc, to my knowledge. It wasn't at all like that, and I was carrying two children and a grown man who is so helpless and unwilling to better himself. He's ten years older than me. I'm a walking stereotype. I'm already living with the guilt of all of this. What I need now is to find a positive way forward with what I do have. I'm head coach of a gymnastics club, and I home educate my children. I'm very awake and aware of how the world works, and have taken a lot of steps to actually live the non-cult life. I've recently realised that I avoid going into my affluent friends' houses in order to avoid shame and comparison, which, tonight,brought me to tears. Nobody ever taught me how to clean my room, but I want to. I want to clear and clean my house, but I do not know how to without making the kids' lives miserable with constant demands (been there, done that). Am I just condemned now to lead a sub-par life forever, and pass that onto my children? Please help us!
I should mention too that I'm in Northern Ireland but my entire family is in Scotland. I have zero real support here. It's all on me. HELP and stop condemning us. Would you rather see us suffer in a shite relationship that damages both us and the children? Or is it healthier for the children to see us standing up for ourselves and trying like hell to better ourselves? I really appreciate your videos, I really bloody do, but this is extremely hard to listen to. I knew when I decided to end the relationship that, firstly, if I didn't, one of us wouldn't have made it out alive, and secondly, that the emotional damage would be irreparable. On all of us.
I understand where you are coming from. However, there is more than enough data over the decades to show that growing up in a fatherless home drastically increases the likelihood of negative outcomes for children, even if the reason for leaving the father is justified. Please seek therapy from a qualified therapist to process your guilt in a healthy way so that you don't pass that on to your children or overshare with your children what needs to be told to another adult. I think it may be wise to keep Dr. Peterson's phrase "compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today," because adults desperately need adult friends for support and to talk to. Other than that, Dr. Peterson did tell someone at a VIP Only Q & A at one of the shows I met him at to "set smaller goals." So, perhaps you can start by working on one specific task one day to clean your room, then advance on to something else. You can teach your children developmentally appropriate household tasks to help out (they take the trash out the night before the trash is collected, etc.) Other than that, are there positive adult role models that your children look up to? Dr. Peterson is NOT going to bend over backwards to soothe people's sensitivities when decades of data over the decades show that the children of single mothers tend to have more negative outcomes in life. This isn't Dr. Peterson's channel, but someone who took a clip from one of his videos on posted it on their channel, so I really don't understand how you think Dr. Peterson would see your post and reply back to you.
@@deniseredman your grammar is atrocious. You honestly sound stupid when you say "I would not be proud no more." Why should I follow your advice? I know how fortunate I am to live in a time and place where Atheiss don't have to worry about being killed for their lack of a religious belie system, unlike modern day Islamic Theocracies, but I take it you don't know such things. I refuse to lie or sugarcoat a tough truths, yet you got mad about that. I am not going to change my screenname for your sensitivities. Are you a single mother as well? By the way, I am a woman. I am NOT a single mother. I am a married woman with a slim figure after growing up as a chubby child. I am not ruining a child with my choices, so I think I am luckier in my life than the stressed out so gle mother who can't hold it together!
I'm a single mom and have managed to get by without welfare, but only by the 'skin of my teeth'. Their "father" lmao😂 was and is violent and of no assistance financially. Such violence will inevitably be brought upon the kids. So . . . I am choosing the lesser of two evils.
I have Jesus christ and he is the lover of my soul❤ you have been decievedthat he is not faithfulor a man that shall not lie.. please rethink who you are denying😢 he woke you up and gave you breathe, and a free life❤ repent and forsake your sin. @katrinawlodarski8335
@@proper.role.model.819 or they are single mothers sons and know exactly what they are talking about...alot of women don't get how easy they have it in society
I am 100% better off as a single mom. In all areas… financially… emotionally… energy wise It all depends what your partner/ or non partner was like If you are in a a abusive relationship what he is saying can actually be detrimental to you as you end up staying when you should be leaving
This guy is sick and is spreading witchcraft. Women if you chose to exit a toxic relationship and have decided that they only need to see 1 heathy parent break the cycle ❤ i applaud you.. i am so greatful for your strength and courage ❤ im so thankful that you chose to rise up and fight the good fight of faith ❤ i pray you seek Jesus christ.. he is the way, the truth the life❤ he will make a way for us.. we are not alone as we seek him and obey him, he will honor and protect us.. because he is a good father to the fatherless.. please dont allow these strange voices from others being used by satan to defeat you and take your eyes off Jesus.. they are wicked and will not go unpunished 😢.
I have had to let go of many single mothers from my job sites because they couldn't come to work multiple times a week and were usually always late arriving at the job. It's not that they didn't know how to do the job. They just created more workloads on all the other employees.
I'm a single mom and I want to work hard and be accountable to my choices. I have a very difficult living situation in the rural area. I cannot go to work to pay for day care. There are moms who want to very deeply do the right thing.. trusting someone else with your child who has autism is extremely difficult. I stay up pondering ideas and it is a struggle not to give up.. but I focus on its not an option. Please find grace where grace is due. ❤
Many choose to be single mothers. Both parents work, but the wives are expected to do the jobs of maid, cook, cleaner, and daycare worker alone. Emotionally abusive husbands drain even more energy. Separation redistributes energy to do all the jobs she *already does alone anyway*. When neglecting his family, the husband teaches the wife how to live without him.
Well, in an ideal situation no one would choose this way, but some of the brave women chose be true to themselves, refuse to tolerant a toxic relationship, it deserves praises not criticism
There is no reason to depict it as a necessity. It’s not a necessity, or else it wouldn’t be workable. Men can be so hurtful, and women recoil. Men like this can bring out spiteful tendencies in women towards other women by not thinking and just doing. Any attentive analysis towards feminism would make it possible for people to see things differently. Women raising children alone is a feminist ideology. And instead of there being ANY gratitude, any connection to the natural world, it’s scorned. It’s a survival mechanism and a willingness to adapt that prompts women to not need men. Rather than men trying to make themselves useful, they could make themselves available. I think men should be more forgiving to single mothers with children. Everywhere it’s this backbiting criticism.
What has to be figured out is why people believe single parenthood is happily chosen out of a variety of other options when it is SO hard, exhausting, and terrifying. Isnt it obvious logic that its the last choice one would make?
I feel this because I am currently looking for a place for my kids to stay until I can bank up more money. It's hard emotionally, mentally and physically. I am in tears every night just trying to figure it out. My job doesn't cover even rent let alone food and other bills. It's always a struggle 😪.
I pray you will surrender your life to christ Jesus. Let him renew a right spirit in you.. let him lead and guide you.. let him heal the broken , weary places.. when I dedicated my life to my savior he has made a way where there seemed to be no way. I have 5 children 4 dads.. please hear me.. we all need Jesus christ first not as an after thought❤
Some of us might be “poor” in money but money isn’t the only way to be rich ❤ also side note married families can be “poor “ too 😂that comment is very flippant
Well it depends on the country. I've lived in Switzerland and Austria and single mothers and fathers do really well here! High salaries free health care system free education make things much easier. France is doing really well in this field too!
THIS IS A VERY REAL ISSUE, AND UNFORTUNATELY ALL THE ISSUES DESERVE ATTENTION BECAUSE IT HAS REALLY HARMED THE AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITY WORST THAN ANYONE ELSE- HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS- @
My mom raised me by herself but I have been financially supporting her since I was 20 and started to make money (like, minimum wage at the time). I'm a single child by the way (male). She always struggled with money. Right now since the economy is in a downturn she is getting almost no work as a freelancer and I am almost supporting her entirely. I'm not sure how to forgive her for that level of irresponsibility, I try my best to not be resentful but I literally do not have money to buy my own furniture even though I am now making six figures. She is not eligible for retirement yet but is simultaneously too old, too sick and fuzzy brained at this point to make drastic career changes. Very tricky. And what do you know, what impact does this have on my relationships? Been in one for 6 years, miraculously, but it feels quite strained now, and I struggle with providing a feeling of safety, financial security and traditional masculinity. I wouldn't be surprised if my girlfriend called things off and decided to go with someone who doesn't have the same burdens that I do.
Tôi tò mò: Có phải tất cả đàn ông ở mọi quốc gia đều lười biếng, vắng mặt và không thể làm được việc gì không? Tôi hiếm khi nhìn thấy những người đàn ông đích thực trong những loại video này. Tôi thấy những gã không biết thế nào là đàn ông đích thực. Đàn ông lợi dụng phụ nữ. Sống nhờ vào công việc vất vả của phụ nữ. Đàn ông lấy những gì họ muốn và không trả lại gì cả. Đàn ông là những kẻ giả vờ và vô lại. Đàn ông chơi trò chơi trở thành đàn ông. Đàn ông đều là những tay chơi không coi trọng cuộc sống. Luôn là một người phụ nữ chăm chỉ, không có gia đình chung. Không có người đàn ông nào cùng làm việc chăm chỉ bên cạnh phụ nữ để cùng nhau hỗ trợ và xây dựng cuộc sống. Không có người đàn ông nào trong những loại video này trừ khi họ đang xây nhà cho một người lười biếng ở một mình. Những người đàn ông xuất hiện trong những video kiểu này đều là đàn ông xấu. Đàn ông, tất cả họ đều đang lấy đi thứ gì đó của một người phụ nữ và những đứa con của cô ấy. Đàn ông không thể hiện tình yêu, nghĩa vụ hay ý thức quan tâm đến phụ nữ và con ruột của họ. Đúng là phụ nữ mạnh mẽ, biết lo việc nhà, biết lo xây dựng gia đình, còn đàn ông thì sao? Còn những đứa trẻ họ gieo vào bụng phụ nữ thì sao? Đàn ông có bao giờ cảm thấy xấu hổ khi gia đình sống thiếu họ không? Đàn ông vắng mặt. Đàn ông không phải là người tốt và không cố gắng làm tròn trách nhiệm của mình để trở thành đối tác bình đẳng và giúp đỡ phụ nữ. Xấu hổ làm sao. 😢
My wife just divorce me shes 29 im 31 we had 3 kids a 7 year old, a 3 year old, and a 1 year old. I feel bad for my kids and what theyll now have to go through. My wifes pretty im sure shell find some dude but it sucks.
It's pretty good news because at 31 you don't wanna be with a 29 year old. You can get someone much younger now, start again and have a load more children. It's a fantastic opportunity for you.
This is dumb. I am a single mother and I know a bunch of single mothers, who are strong, and well succeed. My child’s classmates who live with their two parents don’t even have a bedroom. We are doing very well, thank you, I live in a two bedroom condo in downtown, new, with amenities, we have a great suv with all the accessories, my child has all the things every good child like him deserve, and I’m not even 35 making 6 figures a year in hospitality without university degree, only college diploma. Ps: I live in another country where I started from ZERO, seven years ago, I have nobody to help me. Single moms, don’t be discouraged by this sad old man who likes to spread conjectures. Luckily for every “study” he has done, there is another to debunk it. It’s not just about the economic status, but the love in the house and support you give to your children are the primary concern you should keep in mind. This “psychologist” is just one more man spreading his patriarchal view of the world. I’m not writing this to flex on anyone, but to encourage every single parent, that being a single parent DOES NOT DEFINE YOUR FUTURE, neither your children’s future!
This isn’t “dumb” this is just based on facts. People are more likely to live in poverty if your a one parent household. But as you know it’s not the end all be all.
@@og7110 that’s awesome you make 6 figures as well. I applaud you. My only point like I said is single parent households have a higher probability of the child struggling that’s all. I wish you nothing but the best.
He is not referencing studies on the outcomes of children raised by single mothers, so you are reaching there out of your own hurt. He is referencing studies that other people have done. Just because you have wonderful things doesn't mean you are a well balanced parent for your child pyschologically. Your child may one day say "my life was harder because my Dad wasn't around, I wish he was." I wish you well, but I had at least one field placement as a University student in local schools as a student teacher. I taught for four years in bottom ranked inner city schools. Guess which students had the tendency to have serious behavioral problems and be behind academically? Those raised by single mothers, and the effects were exacerbated if she was a permissive parents who couldn't enforce consequences. You can be as offended as you want...but why is it that depending on what I have read, 72%-85% of incarcerated men were raised by single mothers? Why is it that black Americans, which have the highest rate of being born to single mothers, have the highest rates of incarceration with the lowest rates of academic achievement compared to other races in America?
I’ve left a very toxic relationship when I was 35 and 2 sons. Decided to abstain and focus more on raising them, going to college, improving my credit and buying my first home.
I’ve had to work 3 jobs to provide a half decent life for these kids. Dad pays $100 a week (small business owner) and visits when he has time. I am now 49 and beaten up by life! Never felt more defeated physically mentally and emotionally in my life. The kids are phenomenal and thriving but it comes at my own detriment. Really looking forward to an empty nest! 😩 Funny thing is people always credit the dad for how well accomplished the boys have been. I never say anything to disagree. They’ll figure things out eventually. If not then such is life.
Pray for my next season in life! 🙏🏽❤️💪🏽
Stay strong! You’re doing amazing mama. People may not know but your children know. That’s all that matters.
You're amazing! You are the reason your kids are phenomenal, not him. I hope things get better for you and don't give up!
Gods knows and we know...
Good on you mama. ❤
Yes, lean on the Lord. You were doing an amazing
I think on a statistical level it shows that a 2 parent family is usually better, but it's a stereotype to say all single mothers are poor. My mother was a real estate agent and owned 7 houses but shemight be the exception.
He's not speaking about women like your mom. Simple.
How is it a stereotype when there’s actual data to prove his point? Your mother was an outlier.
I’m a single mom I’m a full time mom and employee. I hire people to wash clothes, clean my house so that I can focus on my career and kids
Kudos to you, what ever works! There is a lot to constantly keep doing, for things to run smoothly, so not having to cook, or clean is a big plus!
buy a dog abd die alone
@zionistjewish9513You must be a dead beat!
My mom did the same. I think this applies to women from poorer backgrounds without as much education
Lol
I’m a single mom and I’m not poor. I’d rather be by myself than have to deal with an abusive man child.
Man child. Best analogy ever. There are few single mothers that avoid government assistance. Keep up the good work!
It's for your kid...you are admitting being selfish
@@lettersandwordsandstuffs yes I’m selfish. Because after years of being selfless, staying in an abusive relationship and having the energy that I would have poured into my child sucked out of me for a man child, allowing my child to grow up in a toxic environment, I realized that being selfish was the only way to get out. You have to be able to stand up for yourself and ask for better. This selfish accusation is what keeps abused women in abusive relationships. I’m being selfish by advocating for myself and my child and refusing to be abused by a man who does not work, does not do chores, does not contribute to household financially, does not do any childcare and gets angry when he is asked to be an adult, and who after we separated has chose not to be a part of his child’s life. But yeah…. My child really needs someone like that in his life just because he’s the father. He’s a really good role model and I’m really selfish for leaving.
@@cruiseny26didn't you pay attention about all the negative traits before getting pregnant ? Own your mistakes grow up too
@@ayintovah3132you don’t understand abuse. I’m glad you don’t. I hope that that fate never happens to you or anyone you love and that you will never understand what it is to be in an abusive relationship.
But if you stay in an abusive marriage you can lose your whole life
Statistically there are very few abusive relationships. Also women are just as abusive as men.
I don’t think he would disagree with that and I’d ask what evidence you have to suggest he does
This is a feminist scare tactic. Saying that the husband will hit you
Pick a better spouse.
They pick abusive men.. normal men are boring
I appreciate hearing this!
I left a toxic relationship 9 yrs ago and he made sure he left my 3 kids and I nothing. He passed away 3 yrs ago. I’ve been in survival mode for way too long.😢
Tired of being judged by my family that I can’t budget money. They have no idea!!!
Well you might not know it but so far it seems you’ve done a very great and lovely job for yourself and your kids despite all that’s around you
And since you left such relationships how has it been for you?
Its great that your daughter has enough money ;)
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@@thinkredpill5118 what about the single married households? Most single parents are divorced. Men initiate marriage and divorce so obviously that no one values it anymore!
I don’t know, I think more people should be single parents and not be so afraid of ending it when it gets toxic. In my opinion, a father that disappears and disappoints, or even worse is abusive, is worse than not having one at all because it subconsciously teaches the children that it’s okay to be that way in relationships. Therefore leading to them making bad choices in partners too and making an ongoing cycle of broken homes.
I am sorry for the pain you went through. I understand the point you are making, but there is too much objective data out there that has been shown for decades that not having a good father in the home leads to a greater likelihood of negative outcomes in life. That's why therapy is essential for many people, and being ultra viligent about who you chose to have a child with.
You're slow. They shouldn't be having kids in the first place then.
@@Cbd_7ohm As if you can just undo a kid? I’m talking about people who have already made the mistake and it’s too late for an abortion. I’m not saying people should plan to go into that situation.
All the data suggests otherwise pal
I think what you say is true but kinda missing the point Jordan’s talking about
I think we’ve been valuing single motherhood for far too long. We need to emphasize, at a greater scale, the need of fatherhood. Single mothers are actually boasting that they’re doing it all by themselves.
Its better that they are boasting about it than them victimizing themselves and complaining or blaming. How else are they going to feel strong enough to keep going? That’s not to say I dont agree with needing to encourage fathers to stay in their family at a broader cultural level. We need that badly.
@@TheSevonne there’s nothing boastful about being a single parent.
@@jonathannunez5992 you thinkkk
@@jonathannunez5992 it’s a flex when she leaves an abusive spouse
Well they should boast! Good!! You have no idea what each single mother is going through, or struggling with, yet still making it work, to try to raise a decent human being! 👍They should feel supported!
I just searched successful single mothers and that's what I see, all the responsibility falls on mothers only. I had given a birth when I was 19, my husband turned out to be a psychopath. Now, I am 30, my son is 11, I have been raising my child practically by myself with no property, grandparents and high salary job. We had been living in Ukraine(even though I have had US citizenship) all these years. And what kind of declarations can I see?! Do not date single Mom's?! Do men just want all single mothers to commit a suicide or what?! What about single fathers, they can marry a young model without kids even if they don't have much money?! Men should take the same responsibility and should not hide their income, just sponsor their kids at least.
But I don't understand your point. Why should a man marry you at 30 with children, when he could marry a girl who is 18 and virgin instead (like you used to be before you got pregnant and married). Why would he pick the one who is 30?
@@WokeVeganLiberal I do not know if you are religious, but virginity does not play any role anymore, there is DNA test to check if it is your kid. I can tell you the same thing about single fathers. More often, single fathers have more money, so they can pay for babysitter, housekeeper and other things. It is natural that men want the fresh meat, but women somehow should be patient about usually old men with a money(even if he is a single father). Young women also deserve young men with no kids then.
And 30, it is not 40 or 50, I do not look like 30 even, people live 10 years longer than before. I have experience, skills and still enough energy and health for the family. 20year old girl may not be prepared for the family, she may want to study, travel, work, hang out with friends, hobbies and just date men for fun.
It is very strange and sick to hate single mothers, somehow all the responsibility falls on mothers, not father. Then, you ask why so many women do not want to give a birth.
Also, anyone can become a single parent when he/she loses his/her partner.
@@Nicole-yw1dt virginity 100% plays a role and is one of the most important requirements for marriage or a serious relationship. I'd never commit to someone who gave that to another man.
@@Nicole-yw1dt every time you give birth your womb changes and your next child can become more feminised. Women age quickly. Even at age 25 women are less likely to get pregnant and more likely to give birth to a baby with genetic defects or downs syndrome, compared to age 20. The actual peak for women in terms of giving birth to a healthy child and being the most likely to get pregnant is from age 15 to age 20. Between age 20 to age 25 there's a moderate decrease in chance to get pregnant and a moderate increase in chance of genetic defects. Between 25 to 30 there's a larger decrease in chance to get pregnant and increase in chance to have a child with genetic defects.
@@Nicole-yw1dt
Risk of having a baby with genetic defects
Age 15: 1 in 526
Age 20: 1 in 526
Age 25: 1 in 476
Age 30: 1 in 385
Age 35: 1 in 192
Age 40: 1 in 66
Age 45: 1 in 20
Chance of getting pregnant (per cycle)
Age 15: 30%
Age 20: 30%
Age 25: 25%
Age 30: 15%
Age 35: 10%
Age 40: 5%
Age 45: 3%
Chance of miscarriage
Age 15: 10%
Age 20: 10%
Age 25: 10%
Age 30: 15%
Age 35: 25%
Age 40: 50%
Age 45: 75%
I'm a single Mom working full-time and rather do that then be miserable with my ex.
Dating is hard so I just carry on my own.
Jordan, I'm a single parent after spending years telling my ex how and why he was amazing, trying to give him my energy and lift his spirit. I never wanted to be a single parent, which is why I stayed with him for so long. I gave it everything I WAS, not just everything I had.
Can you please say something positive about single parents and please stop assuming that couples should stay together? It cannot work if it's a one way street. Relationships should average 50/50 emotional support etc, to my knowledge. It wasn't at all like that, and I was carrying two children and a grown man who is so helpless and unwilling to better himself. He's ten years older than me. I'm a walking stereotype. I'm already living with the guilt of all of this. What I need now is to find a positive way forward with what I do have. I'm head coach of a gymnastics club, and I home educate my children. I'm very awake and aware of how the world works, and have taken a lot of steps to actually live the non-cult life.
I've recently realised that I avoid going into my affluent friends' houses in order to avoid shame and comparison, which, tonight,brought me to tears.
Nobody ever taught me how to clean my room, but I want to. I want to clear and clean my house, but I do not know how to without making the kids' lives miserable with constant demands (been there, done that).
Am I just condemned now to lead a sub-par life forever, and pass that onto my children?
Please help us!
I should mention too that I'm in Northern Ireland but my entire family is in Scotland. I have zero real support here. It's all on me. HELP and stop condemning us. Would you rather see us suffer in a shite relationship that damages both us and the children? Or is it healthier for the children to see us standing up for ourselves and trying like hell to better ourselves?
I really appreciate your videos, I really bloody do, but this is extremely hard to listen to. I knew when I decided to end the relationship that, firstly, if I didn't, one of us wouldn't have made it out alive, and secondly, that the emotional damage would be irreparable. On all of us.
I understand where you are coming from. However, there is more than enough data over the decades to show that growing up in a fatherless home drastically increases the likelihood of negative outcomes for children, even if the reason for leaving the father is justified. Please seek therapy from a qualified therapist to process your guilt in a healthy way so that you don't pass that on to your children or overshare with your children what needs to be told to another adult. I think it may be wise to keep Dr. Peterson's phrase "compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today," because adults desperately need adult friends for support and to talk to. Other than that, Dr. Peterson did tell someone at a VIP Only Q & A at one of the shows I met him at to "set smaller goals." So, perhaps you can start by working on one specific task one day to clean your room, then advance on to something else. You can teach your children developmentally appropriate household tasks to help out (they take the trash out the night before the trash is collected, etc.) Other than that, are there positive adult role models that your children look up to? Dr. Peterson is NOT going to bend over backwards to soothe people's sensitivities when decades of data over the decades show that the children of single mothers tend to have more negative outcomes in life. This isn't Dr. Peterson's channel, but someone who took a clip from one of his videos on posted it on their channel, so I really don't understand how you think Dr. Peterson would see your post and reply back to you.
@@deniseredman your grammar is atrocious. You honestly sound stupid when you say "I would not be proud no more." Why should I follow your advice? I know how fortunate I am to live in a time and place where Atheiss don't have to worry about being killed for their lack of a religious belie system, unlike modern day Islamic Theocracies, but I take it you don't know such things. I refuse to lie or sugarcoat a tough truths, yet you got mad about that. I am not going to change my screenname for your sensitivities. Are you a single mother as well? By the way, I am a woman. I am NOT a single mother. I am a married woman with a slim figure after growing up as a chubby child. I am not ruining a child with my choices, so I think I am luckier in my life than the stressed out so gle mother who can't hold it together!
You need to get a strong male figure in the children's life
Bless you.. may Jesus christ be your savior.. not mortal men❤
I'm a single mom and have managed to get by without welfare, but only by the 'skin of my teeth'.
Their "father" lmao😂 was and is violent and of no assistance financially. Such violence will inevitably be brought upon the kids. So . . .
I am choosing the lesser of two evils.
Yep and now they have no male role model...better find one or Jesus
You picked em lady 😂
@stuportrooper3110 wow you're evil her partner was violent, she didn't know he could be, how can we know men will hurt us before they do
@@lettersandwordsandstuffs hahaha jesus 😂 better to have no one then jesus
I have Jesus christ and he is the lover of my soul❤ you have been decievedthat he is not faithfulor a man that shall not lie.. please rethink who you are denying😢 he woke you up and gave you breathe, and a free life❤ repent and forsake your sin. @katrinawlodarski8335
Go away Jordan Peterson, some people don't have a choice but to be a single mother
Close your legs then
You openned your legs. Deal with the consequences.
Ignorance, for sure. They don’t know what it’s like and are only outsiders
@@morganlafey6791 rape?? You moron
@@proper.role.model.819 or they are single mothers sons and know exactly what they are talking about...alot of women don't get how easy they have it in society
I agree. and sometimes. other relatives/family members can be just as Bad too.
I am 100% better off as a single mom.
In all areas… financially… emotionally… energy wise
It all depends what your partner/ or non partner was like
If you are in a a abusive relationship what he is saying can actually be detrimental to you as you end up staying when you should be leaving
U ate worst
This guy is sick and is spreading witchcraft. Women if you chose to exit a toxic relationship and have decided that they only need to see 1 heathy parent break the cycle ❤ i applaud you.. i am so greatful for your strength and courage ❤ im so thankful that you chose to rise up and fight the good fight of faith ❤ i pray you seek Jesus christ.. he is the way, the truth the life❤ he will make a way for us.. we are not alone as we seek him and obey him, he will honor and protect us.. because he is a good father to the fatherless.. please dont allow these strange voices from others being used by satan to defeat you and take your eyes off Jesus.. they are wicked and will not go unpunished 😢.
I have had to let go of many single mothers from my job sites because they couldn't come to work multiple times a week and were usually always late arriving at the job. It's not that they didn't know how to do the job. They just created more workloads on all the other employees.
I get that, but then don't hire them! Or if you do? Be prepared to leave some room for difficult days!!
@@smileeveryday421not their problem...my mother is 50 and still needs to grow up...people need to learn accountability
@@lettersandwordsandstuffs Yup! And it takes shitty people in the world, to appreciate the good ones! 👍
@@smileeveryday421 that doesn't make them shitty either...why don't single moms go and create a business for single moms?
I'm a single mom and I want to work hard and be accountable to my choices. I have a very difficult living situation in the rural area. I cannot go to work to pay for day care. There are moms who want to very deeply do the right thing.. trusting someone else with your child who has autism is extremely difficult. I stay up pondering ideas and it is a struggle not to give up.. but I focus on its not an option. Please find grace where grace is due. ❤
Many choose to be single mothers. Both parents work, but the wives are expected to do the jobs of maid, cook, cleaner, and daycare worker alone.
Emotionally abusive husbands drain even more energy. Separation redistributes energy to do all the jobs she *already does alone anyway*. When neglecting his family, the husband teaches the wife how to live without him.
Well, in an ideal situation no one would choose this way, but some of the brave women chose be true to themselves, refuse to tolerant a toxic relationship, it deserves praises not criticism
No because now the kid suffers...shouldn't have been with a ding dong...there's good guys all around and you chose trash
Amen! You are awake.. I'm proud of you for fighting for you and your child. May God bless your journey ❤
....if i could find a job that accomodates around my kids daycare😢. Places like walmart only accomodate for students. 😢
There is no reason to depict it as a necessity. It’s not a necessity, or else it wouldn’t be workable. Men can be so hurtful, and women recoil. Men like this can bring out spiteful tendencies in women towards other women by not thinking and just doing. Any attentive analysis towards feminism would make it possible for people to see things differently. Women raising children alone is a feminist ideology. And instead of there being ANY gratitude, any connection to the natural world, it’s scorned. It’s a survival mechanism and a willingness to adapt that prompts women to not need men. Rather than men trying to make themselves useful, they could make themselves available. I think men should be more forgiving to single mothers with children. Everywhere it’s this backbiting criticism.
What has to be figured out is why people believe single parenthood is happily chosen out of a variety of other options when it is SO hard, exhausting, and terrifying. Isnt it obvious logic that its the last choice one would make?
Isn’t His daughter is a single mother?
Mikhaila remarried earlier this year. I don't know if the biological father of her child is still in his daughter's life or not.
Soooooooo true
Noo body really understands this, unless someone has gone through it! Many judge, not knowing the probable struggles!
They need to learn how to treat a man, maybe he might stick around
I’m so sick of men and these generalisations on single moms
But it’s the truth, the majority of the time
I feel this because I am currently looking for a place for my kids to stay until I can bank up more money. It's hard emotionally, mentally and physically. I am in tears every night just trying to figure it out. My job doesn't cover even rent let alone food and other bills. It's always a struggle 😪.
I pray you will surrender your life to christ Jesus. Let him renew a right spirit in you.. let him lead and guide you.. let him heal the broken , weary places.. when I dedicated my life to my savior he has made a way where there seemed to be no way. I have 5 children 4 dads.. please hear me.. we all need Jesus christ first not as an after thought❤
He is the only reason I never feel alone. Things had started looking a little better. I am thankful for what he has given me.
Some of us might be “poor” in money but money isn’t the only way to be rich ❤ also side note married families can be “poor “ too 😂that comment is very flippant
STATS PROVE SINGLE MOTHERS IS NOT GREAT OUTCOMES
Is true im.single mom of 5 . I cry in my room cuz there's days that I just cnt even make it happen. I left because domestic violence
Whats the difference between the biological father selling drugs and u bringing random men who do the same thing around your kids
Single mom here
Most are only poor due to negligent irresponsible fathers who fail to do their part.
Well it depends on the country. I've lived in Switzerland and Austria and single mothers and fathers do really well here! High salaries free health care system free education make things much easier. France is doing really well in this field too!
THIS IS A VERY REAL ISSUE, AND UNFORTUNATELY ALL THE ISSUES DESERVE ATTENTION BECAUSE IT HAS REALLY HARMED THE AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITY WORST THAN ANYONE ELSE- HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS- @
My mom raised me by herself but I have been financially supporting her since I was 20 and started to make money (like, minimum wage at the time). I'm a single child by the way (male). She always struggled with money. Right now since the economy is in a downturn she is getting almost no work as a freelancer and I am almost supporting her entirely. I'm not sure how to forgive her for that level of irresponsibility, I try my best to not be resentful but I literally do not have money to buy my own furniture even though I am now making six figures.
She is not eligible for retirement yet but is simultaneously too old, too sick and fuzzy brained at this point to make drastic career changes. Very tricky.
And what do you know, what impact does this have on my relationships? Been in one for 6 years, miraculously, but it feels quite strained now, and I struggle with providing a feeling of safety, financial security and traditional masculinity. I wouldn't be surprised if my girlfriend called things off and decided to go with someone who doesn't have the same burdens that I do.
Tôi tò mò: Có phải tất cả đàn ông ở mọi quốc gia đều lười biếng, vắng mặt và không thể làm được việc gì không?
Tôi hiếm khi nhìn thấy những người đàn ông đích thực trong những loại video này. Tôi thấy những gã không biết thế nào là đàn ông đích thực. Đàn ông lợi dụng phụ nữ. Sống nhờ vào công việc vất vả của phụ nữ.
Đàn ông lấy những gì họ muốn và không trả lại gì cả. Đàn ông là những kẻ giả vờ và vô lại. Đàn ông chơi trò chơi trở thành đàn ông. Đàn ông đều là những tay chơi không coi trọng cuộc sống.
Luôn là một người phụ nữ chăm chỉ, không có gia đình chung.
Không có người đàn ông nào cùng làm việc chăm chỉ bên cạnh phụ nữ để cùng nhau hỗ trợ và xây dựng cuộc sống.
Không có người đàn ông nào trong những loại video này trừ khi họ đang xây nhà cho một người lười biếng ở một mình.
Những người đàn ông xuất hiện trong những video kiểu này đều là đàn ông xấu. Đàn ông, tất cả họ đều đang lấy đi thứ gì đó của một người phụ nữ và những đứa con của cô ấy.
Đàn ông không thể hiện tình yêu, nghĩa vụ hay ý thức quan tâm đến phụ nữ và con ruột của họ.
Đúng là phụ nữ mạnh mẽ, biết lo việc nhà, biết lo xây dựng gia đình, còn đàn ông thì sao? Còn những đứa trẻ họ gieo vào bụng phụ nữ thì sao? Đàn ông có bao giờ cảm thấy xấu hổ khi gia đình sống thiếu họ không?
Đàn ông vắng mặt. Đàn ông không phải là người tốt và không cố gắng làm tròn trách nhiệm của mình để trở thành đối tác bình đẳng và giúp đỡ phụ nữ. Xấu hổ làm sao. 😢
My wife just divorce me shes 29 im 31 we had 3 kids a 7 year old, a 3 year old, and a 1 year old. I feel bad for my kids and what theyll now have to go through. My wifes pretty im sure shell find some dude but it sucks.
It's pretty good news because at 31 you don't wanna be with a 29 year old. You can get someone much younger now, start again and have a load more children. It's a fantastic opportunity for you.
But definitely DNA test your 3 children.
This is dumb. I am a single mother and I know a bunch of single mothers, who are strong, and well succeed. My child’s classmates who live with their two parents don’t even have a bedroom. We are doing very well, thank you, I live in a two bedroom condo in downtown, new, with amenities, we have a great suv with all the accessories, my child has all the things every good child like him deserve, and I’m not even 35 making 6 figures a year in hospitality without university degree, only college diploma. Ps: I live in another country where I started from ZERO, seven years ago, I have nobody to help me. Single moms, don’t be discouraged by this sad old man who likes to spread conjectures. Luckily for every “study” he has done, there is another to debunk it. It’s not just about the economic status, but the love in the house and support you give to your children are the primary concern you should keep in mind. This “psychologist” is just one more man spreading his patriarchal view of the world. I’m not writing this to flex on anyone, but to encourage every single parent, that being a single parent DOES NOT DEFINE YOUR FUTURE, neither your children’s future!
This isn’t “dumb” this is just based on facts. People are more likely to live in poverty if your a one parent household. But as you know it’s not the end all be all.
Then good for you and your son, the majority are not successful as you
@@og7110 that’s awesome you make 6 figures as well. I applaud you. My only point like I said is single parent households have a higher probability of the child struggling that’s all. I wish you nothing but the best.
You beat the odds and that it’s good to hear.
He is not referencing studies on the outcomes of children raised by single mothers, so you are reaching there out of your own hurt. He is referencing studies that other people have done. Just because you have wonderful things doesn't mean you are a well balanced parent for your child pyschologically. Your child may one day say "my life was harder because my Dad wasn't around, I wish he was." I wish you well, but I had at least one field placement as a University student in local schools as a student teacher. I taught for four years in bottom ranked inner city schools. Guess which students had the tendency to have serious behavioral problems and be behind academically? Those raised by single mothers, and the effects were exacerbated if she was a permissive parents who couldn't enforce consequences. You can be as offended as you want...but why is it that depending on what I have read, 72%-85% of incarcerated men were raised by single mothers? Why is it that black Americans, which have the highest rate of being born to single mothers, have the highest rates of incarceration with the lowest rates of academic achievement compared to other races in America?
Jenocide Jordan :(
this man right here..ugh
oh these bad boys you approve of?