If this popped up in your recommendations...then you’re probably a lesbian Edit: sorry to all the bisexuals, I actually didnt think anyone was gonna see this comment tbh. Signed, A lesbian
Excuse me, maybe it's just because of the sarah and Adianna vids I watch. Or the Michaeng ship compilation vids....or the hayley Kiyoko music that I like to...oh shit!! I'm gay!!
When she said she clearly wasn't gay bc she didn't look "like a lesbian" and didn't like girls who did... that's literally why it took me 18 years to realize omfg
its sad cuz, like, not all gay men are effeminate, not all straight men are macho, not all straight women are not also "tomboys", and not all lesbians are butch...we gotta root out the binary everywhere..
I identify as bisexual, but I've felt this way about men my whole life. I do get strong crushes on celebrity men, but not guys in real life. This is making me start to doubt my sexuality again. helppp
This made me cry!! I’m 17 and I realized I was a lesbian and came out to my friends and family about 2 months ago. I’m so glad I was able break down that wall and embrace my inner Ellen Edit: Ellen sucks. I think I was alluding to something she said in the video about an inner ellen? Idk I wrote this two years ago
CT2507 I’m not trying to mold myself after anybody. All I meant was that I have embraced my inner gayness and am now courageous enough to live my truth. The use of Ellen’s name in that context was just another way of saying that I have accepted myself for who I am.
Just a girl it was a meme that sprouted about 3 months ago because J.K Rowling stated that Dumbledore was gay and the whole internet blew up about how J.K. Rowling was the only one who could determine your sexuality. It was a pretty great phase, Shame you didn’t hear about it.
Well... You don't wear a beanie in summer for no reason, or baseball tee when it's not baseball season... If you check her nails and they're always trim, or if K-Stew is her style twin....
wow, as a straight woman, I finally understand now, how similar gays and straights are in matters of heart... its just different sexual orientation, other than that, feelings are all the same... thank you!
Bushra Monowar you seriously just now realized that? I mean, good for you, I guess, but how hard a realization could that possibly be?? Don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back.
@@calisongbird you are a negative energy. Your comment says who you are. I always valued all women equally and men. Regardless different sexual orientation. But I never knew the emotional feelings are the same. It's because we never meet openly LGBTQ people in our part of the world. A.ka. South Asia where these are still taboo to talk about. And both Hinduism and islam (predominant south Asian religion) are very traditional
I'm currently identifying as bi, but figuring out my sexuality is an ongoing, confusing process. Like, I've had multiple crushes on guys (as a girl) but have had this intense feeling of "get away from me NOW" whenever I've been closer to them (granted, this has only been, like, twice). Plus, a year ago I developed a strong crush on a female friend of mine (hence bisexuality), and can imagine sleeping with women, but dont feel as immediately attracted to them as I sometimes am with guys. If anyone feels like helping me make sense of this, go ahead 😂 Edit for clarification: I do think I'm sexually and romantically attracted to guys and was just uncomfortable with those specific guys approaching me
I feel the same! For myself, I think I'm more romantically into women and sexually into men but I can feel both ways about men and women, if that makes sense?
I feel as though labels are not necessary, yes some people feel better identifying themselves properly. That's not for everyone, I myself don't follow this "norm of labeling" I'll love who I love. I mean if everything is confusing, that's normal because the world holds so many questions that don't have straight answers.
Vanadiumoxid that’s. exactly. how I feel! i hate it when any guy touches me, but I still like looking at them and crushing on them. with girls im way more open and I get crushes on them all the time. for now im content with the bisexual label because only i know how I feel romantically, and that includes both sexes. if anything happens in the future that changes that, then that’s that! as long as you know how you feel and are okay with it, you have nothing to worry about ☺️☺️
Vanadiumoxid for me it’s the opposite but same idea. i get crushes on guys and think of them sexually, but I also feel sexually attracted to girls? Like especially if they ping my gaydar if that makes sense. Like sometimes someone will tell me they’re into girls, and then I’ll start crushing a little. But I don’t normally get romantic crushes on them like I do with guys. I am a little clueless about what all of this means and would love to hear any updates
sexuality is fluid and it's ok to play around with it, maybe you just feel romantic attraction towards men, and not sexual and that's fine! U r still valid and the most important thing to remember is to respect your boundaries and not do anything you don't feel comfortable doing
Times truly have changed. My mother who was married to my father for 50 years and had 3 children was always a bit "odd". Growing up I would notice this but as I got older I *really* started to notice something was different, my father was oblivious like most men. It was always the little things because being attracted to opposite sex(lesbian) was not acceptable at all and could have dire consequences. It was very hard to talk with her about it and it wasn't until the very end she finally told me. It was such a sad moment, a person who has gone through life, living in the "gray", terrified of revealing themselves. That is no way to live life. I'm so glad that it's different today, at least in "most" parts of the world. You can say what you want and be who you want to be.
This lady is very cool, intelligent, insightful, witty, and pretty! Any lady would be very lucky to have her for a girlfriend, mate, and partner. I wish her lots of love and happiness!
100%!! This is so sweet. She is one in a million and I feel immensely lucky every day with her 🥰 Much love, 🤗 Meli's life partner and co-maker of her new video ❤ check it out and let us know what you think!
I remember with my first boyfriend everytime he wanted to make out I just thought to myself "ugh, this again??" and would avoid any sort of touchiness if I could. At the time i thought it was just because he was my first boyfriend but after it ended just the thought of being with a man again made me so unbelievably uncomfortable. Then I came out as Lesbian!!! I feel so much happier with women☺️💖
Me-questions sexuality RUclips- how do you know your a lesbian Me-*sweats proficiently*nah nah this aint it chief RUclips- shows king princess Me-damn maybe it is it chief
OMG, I watched your vid and realized that your story is my story. I'm 33 and only found out I'm gay about a year ago. Everything you said you thought, I thought too. Thank you so much for making this vid, now I don't feel so alone and awkward about coming out at a late stage in life. Xoxo
Kaz Einhaus Hello Kaz, I hope you're doing great. I'm sorry that I feel the curiosity to ask; you said you finally realized being gay a year ago and you're 33. What happened at 32 that didn't happen all the years before that? I am 35 and for me it was an early discovery. I will really appreciate your kindness in responding me. Good luck
Angela Steward OMG!! Thank you for sharing this. I was also 43 before realizing I love women. Though, it’s not been easy. Two years later (almost 45) I’m still adjusting to it but I wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing this. I feel so invisible as it seems all the focus is on the 30 and under crowd. Sometimes I wonder where do I fit here. So happy to know I’m not the only 40+ out here trying to navigate this new world 😊
Kemba Brown oh girl there are plenty of us. A group on FB called Lilly (Late In Life Lesbians) where there are many women you will be able to identify with including myself. facebook.com/groups/442125912647958/
When I was in like 8th grade, I watched this video crying, wondering what I was going to do. Now I'm 17, and proud of who I am. Hearing about the feelings in this story were a really big step on the path of understanding myself, and I am so grateful for this.
Melissa, thanks for a great story. I thought I was a late bloomer at 25. lol. I was even married at the time (UNSATISFIED) when I realized was into women- NOT men. This was way before gay characters on tv, the internet, chat rooms and you tube. Much harder then but I was very fortunate to come out in California so there was a gay community starting. YEAH! Hope you are happy.
This is such a touching and funny video. Your "I finally understood it" part (5:45+) had me in tears. Congratulations on finding your real self, and for sharing your discovery.
"I've been living my life in grey, but I can now confirm that sex, love, and life feel fucking amazing in colour." genuinely amazing how clever that line was worded, what a way to end the story!
Relate to this so much. Exact same experience of thinking everyone was exaggerating and also thinking I couldn't be gay because I didn't look like the stereotype. Unfortunately, at 31, I'm experiencing my first real heartbreak. I was supposed to learn how to do this over a decade ago and feel ridiculous for not being able to move on. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks for this. I appreciate the late-in-life realisation, and the way you talk about feeling toward guys... Like yeah, he's attractive and kissing is bearable, but no more!
Yep we all had the moment... well most knew but society and families made choices for us... love the plunger story and congratulations on finding yourself... I did not get to be me until I was almost forty.
This is the reason we fight for equality and representation. Not just for our kids growing up, but for the adults who have already grown up in a world that refused to let them be who they are
Wow, you're so pretty and charming. I'm also lesbian and I just wanted to say, you're so much adorable and a great story-teller. The story is so touching, thank you for telling this, it inspires a lot! Good wishes from Russia:-)
How do you know you're bi? When you enthusiastically do stuff with guys but like looking at girls and feel funny when they touch you or share a room too. ☺️
How is it possible that your 'finding out you were lesbian' story and mine are so pretty much the same? Differences: I was 32 (you were 30), I was curious about a show called The L Word whose incredible and giant ad I saw on a trip to Boston, and when I come back to Madrid I look for it on RUclips and voilà: my head (and something else) exploded that night (needless to say I didn't sleep that night... and the next... and the next). Last difference, the saddest one: Tinder didn't exist by then, so it took me about a year to date someone, and only because my mom introduced us LOL (and I got my heart broken for the first and last time)!!!! Anyway young lady, thanks for sharing such a very funny, touchy, encouraging and honest story.
The similarities between your experience of realization and the one I currently experienced last month is uncanny. It’s like you wrote this about me and put into words everything I was feeling my whole life. I finally came out to my family and now I’m working on getting that wonderful first date you described. Thank you so much for being you!!!! ❤️
Aww so glad this was helpful for you! If you haven't run into it already, I promise it only gets better :) actually started making videos again and posted a part 2 - check it out and let me know what you think!
So glad it's been helpful. From someone who has had meltdowns in the past about their own sexuality, I can assure you it gets way better and fucking magical.
dude, I thought I was bi for so long I never knew why every time a guy would try to flirt with me I would feel disgusted or every time my friends were freaking out over male celebrities I would be completely apathetic, I thought I just wasn't into that type of guys, turns out I'm just not into dudes period
Honestly this is so relatable and so affirming. I don't know if anyone else in the LGBT community also occasionally doubts their identity, but I do sometimes- and then I find videos like this where I can relate to everything and I remember what lead me to realizing I'm gay.
Lol this made me remember when I started looking up videos titled, "how to know if you're a lesbian". Those days were hell, but I was 15 at the time, and now I'm about to turn 19 in late November and life has never been easier. Sexuality shouldn't be such a terrifying thing, it should be natural, and hopefully someday we get to that point where people fall for who they fall for and don't worry about it. Great video.
I searched up just to make sure and I know now that I am straight! Thank you so much! Also, I love all sexualities. I was questioning myself but now I am not. Don’t rush it, let your path go the way you want and need it too. Self-discovery is amazing! Keep going
I’m at that moment of my life and I’m about to try it❤️...At this point i think i’m gay or at least bi but i’ll probably not tell my parents until i’m 30 so... Happy Easter🤷🏼♀️
I’ve thought I was bi since I was 11 and am 17 now - after having a few unofficial girlfriends and one boyfriend and breaking up with him and finally doing stuff with women these past few months and feeling that sense of relief and happiness makes things feel so much more right. It just clicks so much more. Discovering I was only into girls was a journey for me but I’m so thankful for this journey. Can’t wait to go to college lmao
“I’d just been living my life in grey. & now I’m 32 years old and I can fully say that love, life and sex feels *fucking amazing* in colour.” Okay but why did this give me chills?
![Twenty One Pilots - The Line (from Arcane Season 2) [Official Audio]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/XCz7WUotXs8/mqdefault.jpg)
If this popped up in your recommendations...then you’re probably a lesbian
Edit: sorry to all the bisexuals, I actually didnt think anyone was gonna see this comment tbh.
Signed,
A lesbian
I feel attacked
Ceiling Turtles right 😂
Excuse me, maybe it's just because of the sarah and Adianna vids I watch. Or the Michaeng ship compilation vids....or the hayley Kiyoko music that I like to...oh shit!! I'm gay!!
welp
Fuck.
"I changed my gender preference on tinder to women"
" *T OOT* "
MEEEEE
I'm here for that
I was looking for this!!
Tag yourself I'm the TOOT
HHH WHAT
I don't. I'm waiting for j.k.rowling to reveal
sıla this is the best comment👌🏻
I screamed 😂
I came here from a jk Rowling video haha
Can't be said enough: amazing comment. 😂👏
Me too. But she keeps writing contradictory scenes for me...
When she mentioned her friend grabbing her hand to lead her through a crowd...... I felt that
And like, when my friend loops an arm around me and I'm just like,,,
first girl i kissed did that... whew
me too, my heart used to sink a bit
Same
I love that . Time stops literally and all you feel is those thight fingers and hear your extremely loud heartbeat
i’m here because i searched “am i a lesbian”
oh crap
same
This came up in my recommended. RUclips knows me so well
🤣🤣
🎉🎉🎉
Welcome!
I thought you were american
wait she isn't ?
@@ayepie I think it's a joke between lesbian an Lebanese, like I thought you were American not Lebanese.
It's a vine reference
No she’s Lebanese duhh
I am india
Gay panic is the only way to describe my high school experience. edit: I've never gotten so many likes before! XD thank yoooouuuu!!!!!
renagade septiceye relatable
imanasaurus rex that spelling isn’t
@@sev9642 He spelt it right though 😂
That explains the terrible spelling
@@beep37 expareianece
"I was living my life in gray"
Lol well now she's living her life in GAY lol
tríníty underrated comment
Best comment here
Hehe
trinity okay but Lee IS best boy right?
Nah she knows what she's talking about! In COLOR 🌈🌈
“How do you know you’re lesbian? When you’re looking up a video about how you know if you’re lesbian.”
That was so true and made me laugh 😂😂😂
Taking those buzz feed are you gay tests
Its 3 in the morning, im bored. I will see everyrhing with sense or medium sense in the interner
Internet*
I m bi and lost between this
@@belamriliza4109 Im straigth and was seeing everything that pop out in my youtube feed
When she said she clearly wasn't gay bc she didn't look "like a lesbian" and didn't like girls who did... that's literally why it took me 18 years to realize omfg
kikosmusic yes!!! Honestly same though
Sammmmmeeee
That's me right now
Well yeah that and comp het
its sad cuz, like, not all gay men are effeminate, not all straight men are macho, not all straight women are not also "tomboys", and not all lesbians are butch...we gotta root out the binary everywhere..
"love, life, and s*x feels f***ing amazing in color." 🌈
You should me gay teller by name XD
@@mecryst7013 well, my name is tay and i pretty much happen to be gay as well haha
@@taygeller928 haha that's sick !
Best quote ever
Don't it though
“How do you know your lesbian? When your looking up a video if your a lesbian”
True tho
AvaTehGamer3 its been like 3 years and im still taking quizzes each year lmaooo
What if it got recommended to you? XD
@@iamdivinelyloved3569 rip
and edit: actually wtf I know a lesbian named Stella...
It's not easy being Steve :-(
Awwww lol it’s so sad but funny because captain America is also a Steve. And ss hot as he is, hes a 70yo Virgin! Hahaha!
Poor thing ;-)
@@MissEasyPeasySleasy ur not helping
Katarina I’m not here to help. I’m here to laugh!!!
I'd be your friend Steve but you don't have any boobs. Well, we *all* have boobs but yours are not the kind I like.
Its not your fault Steve...
so now you're just getting your heart broken in gay
@mentally disturbed *cries in gay*
slightly shaken. this is my exact life. 31 and just changed my tinder preferences, i wasn't expecting the enormous sense of relief when I did...
Good for you Lyndsey!!!! Go be happy!!!! Live your life your way!!! gogoGO
Dani Albrecht thankyou 😊 I will x
I'm so proud of you x
Get'em gurl 😉
Welcome to being gayy!!! 🧚
I identify as bisexual, but I've felt this way about men my whole life. I do get strong crushes on celebrity men, but not guys in real life. This is making me start to doubt my sexuality again. helppp
It’s a gay panic! ;). I also fail to see the problem, and I’m a bi guy. Go with what you’re attracted to.
Why do labels matter? If you are attracted to someone, what difference does it make what their gender is? It only matters if the label matters to you.
Maybe check your sanity
Brooke • So what's the problem, babe, you're a lesbian then. Embrace it!
You shouldn’t label yourself. Listen to your heart and feel free to love whoever you want.
This made me cry!! I’m 17 and I realized I was a lesbian and came out to my friends and family about 2 months ago. I’m so glad I was able break down that wall and embrace my inner Ellen
Edit: Ellen sucks. I think I was alluding to something she said in the video about an inner ellen? Idk I wrote this two years ago
Girl bi!
George Lackey you’re probably right, but not for the reasons you’re thinking of
don't look up to perverted people like Ellen, for fuck's sake. seek out role models who are harmonious and mold yourself after them.
CT2507 I’m not trying to mold myself after anybody. All I meant was that I have embraced my inner gayness and am now courageous enough to live my truth. The use of Ellen’s name in that context was just another way of saying that I have accepted myself for who I am.
"embrace my inner Ellen"... Gosh.. I'm gonna cryyyyy XD
I’m just waiting on J.K. Rowling to decide for me.
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
Can you please, explain the “J.K. Rowling” reference?
Just a girl it was a meme that sprouted about 3 months ago because J.K Rowling stated that Dumbledore was gay and the whole internet blew up about how J.K. Rowling was the only one who could determine your sexuality. It was a pretty great phase, Shame you didn’t hear about it.
Lmao
i don't understand though, because she actually said he was gay way before 2019, it was in 2010 or something.
*taps on video*
*hears first line of the story*
Welp. I’m not surprised TBH
Shelby Buors whoever likes this next is the 1k like
Well... You don't wear a beanie in summer for no reason, or baseball tee when it's not baseball season... If you check her nails and they're always trim, or if K-Stew is her style twin....
Callysto ALLY
she knows a little bit too much about the L word
Throwback to when I was 14 and confused :') nostalgia, GAYstalgia if you will
Ally hillssssssss
Callysto she rolls her sleeves up when she’s wearing pocket tee shirts
wow, as a straight woman, I finally understand now, how similar gays and straights are in matters of heart... its just different sexual orientation, other than that, feelings are all the same... thank you!
We stan an ally 🙌
Bushra Monowar you seriously just now realized that? I mean, good for you, I guess, but how hard a realization could that possibly be?? Don’t break your arm patting yourself on the back.
@@calisongbird LMFAO Maybe she's young?
Either way, now there's one more person who recognizes that we're people too, so *that's* a win!
Yeah, it can be really hard to understand if no one has presented it to you in the right way before. :)
@@calisongbird you are a negative energy. Your comment says who you are. I always valued all women equally and men. Regardless different sexual orientation. But I never knew the emotional feelings are the same. It's because we never meet openly LGBTQ people in our part of the world. A.ka. South Asia where these are still taboo to talk about. And both Hinduism and islam (predominant south Asian religion) are very traditional
"you met one Steve, you've met them all" Looololol
"Sometimes I wish I was a lesbian"
-Chandler Bing
@@kjlm4574 i love you for getting that reference
Did I say that outloud?
*Like you have so many choices.*
She's living her life as a "32-year-old laaaadddddddyyyyyyyyyy"
Zora M HELL YEAAAAAAAH
HELL YEAH 😂
OH HELL YEAH
I sang that
Tiffany Weaver same 😂😂😂
I'm currently identifying as bi, but figuring out my sexuality is an ongoing, confusing process. Like, I've had multiple crushes on guys (as a girl) but have had this intense feeling of "get away from me NOW" whenever I've been closer to them (granted, this has only been, like, twice). Plus, a year ago I developed a strong crush on a female friend of mine (hence bisexuality), and can imagine sleeping with women, but dont feel as immediately attracted to them as I sometimes am with guys. If anyone feels like helping me make sense of this, go ahead 😂
Edit for clarification: I do think I'm sexually and romantically attracted to guys and was just uncomfortable with those specific guys approaching me
I feel the same! For myself, I think I'm more romantically into women and sexually into men but I can feel both ways about men and women, if that makes sense?
I feel as though labels are not necessary, yes some people feel better identifying themselves properly. That's not for everyone, I myself don't follow this "norm of labeling" I'll love who I love. I mean if everything is confusing, that's normal because the world holds so many questions that don't have straight answers.
Vanadiumoxid that’s. exactly. how I feel! i hate it when any guy touches me, but I still like looking at them and crushing on them. with girls im way more open and I get crushes on them all the time. for now im content with the bisexual label because only i know how I feel romantically, and that includes both sexes. if anything happens in the future that changes that, then that’s that! as long as you know how you feel and are okay with it, you have nothing to worry about ☺️☺️
Vanadiumoxid for me it’s the opposite but same idea. i get crushes on guys and think of them sexually, but I also feel sexually attracted to girls? Like especially if they ping my gaydar if that makes sense. Like sometimes someone will tell me they’re into girls, and then I’ll start crushing a little. But I don’t normally get romantic crushes on them like I do with guys. I am a little clueless about what all of this means and would love to hear any updates
sexuality is fluid and it's ok to play around with it, maybe you just feel romantic attraction towards men, and not sexual and that's fine! U r still valid and the most important thing to remember is to respect your boundaries and not do anything you don't feel comfortable doing
Times truly have changed. My mother who was married to my father for 50 years and had 3 children was always a bit "odd". Growing up I would notice this but as I got older I *really* started to notice something was different, my father was oblivious like most men. It was always the little things because being attracted to opposite sex(lesbian) was not acceptable at all and could have dire consequences. It was very hard to talk with her about it and it wasn't until the very end she finally told me. It was such a sad moment, a person who has gone through life, living in the "gray", terrified of revealing themselves. That is no way to live life. I'm so glad that it's different today, at least in "most" parts of the world. You can say what you want and be who you want to be.
'aNd hE Is A dOcTor'
Every Asian parent
This lady is very cool, intelligent, insightful, witty, and pretty! Any lady would be very lucky to have her for a girlfriend, mate, and partner. I wish her lots of love and happiness!
100%!! This is so sweet. She is one in a million and I feel immensely lucky every day with her 🥰
Much love, 🤗 Meli's life partner and co-maker of her new video ❤ check it out and let us know what you think!
What’s going on?
•I’m in this video and i fukin love it.
Where?
@@sardonicsardonyx359 what?
same....
i need nothin she didn’t get the joke pfff
@@jordanco7380 well if that's the case.
How many times do I have to watch this for me to finally accept I’m a lesbian
Coming out to yourself.
Yeah that´s the hardest part.
This is a really wonderful coming-out-to-self story. Thanks so much for sharing this. :)
This was so raw . Love it. How could anyone be against someone living in their authenticity?
❤️
I remember with my first boyfriend everytime he wanted to make out I just thought to myself "ugh, this again??" and would avoid any sort of touchiness if I could. At the time i thought it was just because he was my first boyfriend but after it ended just the thought of being with a man again made me so unbelievably uncomfortable. Then I came out as Lesbian!!! I feel so much happier with women☺️💖
Hey I'm back from 2019 I was so confused on my sexuality so here what's new in 2020
I'm a lesbian
Same for me! 2020 is gonna be a really awesome gay year
Laura Reyes *gay celebration* 2020 is the year fellow lesbiansss
2020 everyone: IM GAY
Haha your 2019 is my 2020 I'm so confused rn but i think I'm lebian
@@sela6292 Well that didn't age well
So relatable. In every way ! The questioning part, the axiety, the excitment. And well told !
What a load
Ikr? It was totally totally relatable!
You see women and you’re just like: wow
that’s it
"I was never going to meet the perfect Steve unless her name is Stevie"
This means so much to me
Me-questions sexuality
RUclips- how do you know your a lesbian
Me-*sweats proficiently*nah nah this aint it chief
RUclips- shows king princess
Me-damn maybe it is it chief
ME
Hahaha 🤣🤣 I love KP
OMG, I watched your vid and realized that your story is my story. I'm 33 and only found out I'm gay about a year ago. Everything you said you thought, I thought too. Thank you so much for making this vid, now I don't feel so alone and awkward about coming out at a late stage in life. Xoxo
Kaz Einhaus
Hello Kaz,
I hope you're doing great. I'm sorry that I feel the curiosity to ask; you said you finally realized being gay a year ago and you're 33.
What happened at 32 that didn't happen all the years before that?
I am 35 and for me it was an early discovery.
I will really appreciate your kindness in responding me.
Good luck
.
congrats on coming out to yourself!
Come out come out whenever you are!
Wow, I was supposed to go on a date tomorrow with that guy cause I didn't wanted to admit I was gay but I think I just found the courage ! Thanks
How was your date?
How was your date?
@@charlycloud8501 I cancelled because even if he's a really nice guy and a good friend I could never have actual feelings for him..
lowkey was having a breakdown, then the plunger thing make me cackle😂
This is soooo me!!! I was 43 before I was ready for my epiphany! I LOVE WOMEN!!!
Angela Steward OMG!! Thank you for sharing this. I was also 43 before realizing I love women. Though, it’s not been easy. Two years later (almost 45) I’m still adjusting to it but I wanted to say how much I appreciate you sharing this. I feel so invisible as it seems all the focus is on the 30 and under crowd. Sometimes I wonder where do I fit here. So happy to know I’m not the only 40+ out here trying to navigate this new world 😊
Kemba Brown oh girl there are plenty of us. A group on FB called Lilly (Late In Life Lesbians) where there are many women you will be able to identify with including myself. facebook.com/groups/442125912647958/
Angela Steward Awesome!! Thank you so much
Almost spit my water out at "And at the end you hope you didn't get any back splash on you."
When I was in like 8th grade, I watched this video crying, wondering what I was going to do. Now I'm 17, and proud of who I am. Hearing about the feelings in this story were a really big step on the path of understanding myself, and I am so grateful for this.
I laughed so hard.
You're so funny.
What a beautiful story.
Thank you for sharing.
Why am I watching this video..I came out 7 years ago, I’m engaged to a woman. What am I doing 😂 I know I’m a lesbian
I could watch this over and over and over again!!!!!!! Love
Melissa, thanks for a great story. I thought I was a late bloomer at 25. lol. I was even married at the time (UNSATISFIED) when I realized was into women- NOT men. This was way before gay characters on tv, the internet, chat rooms and you tube. Much harder then but I was very fortunate to come out in California so there was a gay community starting.
YEAH! Hope you are happy.
How do I got here?Well youtube knows everything,I guess.
I would want to know too...
This is such a touching and funny video. Your "I finally understood it" part (5:45+) had me in tears. Congratulations on finding your real self, and for sharing your discovery.
"I've been living my life in grey, but I can now confirm that sex, love, and life feel fucking amazing in colour." genuinely amazing how clever that line was worded, what a way to end the story!
Aww thank you!
4:48 ...... YOOOOOO. STEVIE... THAT stevie.. Purple hair stevie that dated ally hills.. What
Stevie Boebi she was the first person I thought of
Favorite Lobster me too 😄
Yes that stevie
I immediately thought of that Stevie 😂😂
Relate to this so much. Exact same experience of thinking everyone was exaggerating and also thinking I couldn't be gay because I didn't look like the stereotype. Unfortunately, at 31, I'm experiencing my first real heartbreak. I was supposed to learn how to do this over a decade ago and feel ridiculous for not being able to move on. Thank you for sharing!
This is the most relatable thing ever ♥️
This was amazing... now you are the inner voice to so many! Hope we can be as strong as you to see love and colors in life. It's never too late
Great story and I want to know who blew that perfectly timed flute!
The hosts for the Moth Story Slam (which is what this is) toot the flute like that at the five minute mark so the storyteller knows to wrap up
One time...at band camp...
@@nomadiclocust I think OP knows all that they just think the timing was funny and perfect and are asking specifically who it was. I could be wrong.
Thanks for this. I appreciate the late-in-life realisation, and the way you talk about feeling toward guys... Like yeah, he's attractive and kissing is bearable, but no more!
This story was my aha-moment of realizing that I AM lesbian in December 2019. I have watched it so often ever since and am so grateful. Thank you!
I'm so glad this was helpful for you and trust me, it only gets better!
Yep we all had the moment... well most knew but society and families made choices for us... love the plunger story and congratulations on finding yourself... I did not get to be me until I was almost forty.
THIS IS HOW I KNEW I WAS GAY ASJSJSKSKDJSJSJSKJFHF
omg congratssssssss
This described so perfectly what coming out to myself was like! I can't wait to fall in love with a woman and buy matching monogram towels 😂
"the tiny ellen degeneres voice in the back of my head"
I have saved this for years to watch over the years, like why doesn’t this have more views?!?!?
Thanks so much for the views - also making new videos! Check out the new one on my channel :)
This is the reason we fight for equality and representation. Not just for our kids growing up, but for the adults who have already grown up in a world that refused to let them be who they are
Wow, you're so pretty and charming. I'm also lesbian and I just wanted to say, you're so much adorable and a great story-teller. The story is so touching, thank you for telling this, it inspires a lot! Good wishes from Russia:-)
How do you know you're bi?
When you enthusiastically do stuff with guys but like looking at girls and feel funny when they touch you or share a room too. ☺️
@CATHY B Does it matter? You don't really have to define yourself, you know
Being bi doesn’t have to mean 50/50 attraction ☺️
OMG so true. Luv this video. I have always had a attraction to the same sex. Finally living my truth. 🌈🌈💓
Angela Simmons me too. it's just hard where I come from. A few of my friends know but I can't totally come out.
My friend held my hand on a six flags ride( twisted colossus) and my heart sank.... something about that moment just ugggh makes me melt.
How is it possible that your 'finding out you were lesbian' story and mine are so pretty much the same? Differences: I was 32 (you were 30), I was curious about a show called The L Word whose incredible and giant ad I saw on a trip to Boston, and when I come back to Madrid I look for it on RUclips and voilà: my head (and something else) exploded that night (needless to say I didn't sleep that night... and the next... and the next). Last difference, the saddest one: Tinder didn't exist by then, so it took me about a year to date someone, and only because my mom introduced us LOL (and I got my heart broken for the first and last time)!!!! Anyway young lady, thanks for sharing such a very funny, touchy, encouraging and honest story.
So glad you finally found your freedom. Straight, gay, we all need that clarity in our life. Congrats!
This is one of my favorite videos. I recently came out and this right here is so damn relatable.
I’m aromantic, and the way you described your lack of attraction to men is so relatable! That’s just how I feel about people of any gender.
The similarities between your experience of realization and the one I currently experienced last month is uncanny. It’s like you wrote this about me and put into words everything I was feeling my whole life. I finally came out to my family and now I’m working on getting that wonderful first date you described. Thank you so much for being you!!!! ❤️
Aww so glad this was helpful for you! If you haven't run into it already, I promise it only gets better :) actually started making videos again and posted a part 2 - check it out and let me know what you think!
Wow; described my situation to T. I’m in my 30’s and just now coming out. Thank you, I don’t feel so alone!
You're not! There's actually a lot more of us out there than you think :) P.S. check out my new video to see!
I watch a lot of lesbian comedians, but I don't know why this was so refreshing. Loved it.
I watch this video everytime I have a meltdown about my sexuality and coming out. Thank u so much for thus
So glad it's been helpful. From someone who has had meltdowns in the past about their own sexuality, I can assure you it gets way better and fucking magical.
dude, I thought I was bi for so long I never knew why every time a guy would try to flirt with me I would feel disgusted or every time my friends were freaking out over male celebrities I would be completely apathetic, I thought I just wasn't into that type of guys, turns out I'm just not into dudes period
Honestly this is so relatable and so affirming. I don't know if anyone else in the LGBT community also occasionally doubts their identity, but I do sometimes- and then I find videos like this where I can relate to everything and I remember what lead me to realizing I'm gay.
Lol this made me remember when I started looking up videos titled, "how to know if you're a lesbian". Those days were hell, but I was 15 at the time, and now I'm about to turn 19 in late November and life has never been easier. Sexuality shouldn't be such a terrifying thing, it should be natural, and hopefully someday we get to that point where people fall for who they fall for and don't worry about it. Great video.
Great story, and really well told. 💙
Clicks on video, hears first line: "Nahh"
keeps listening "Jesus, wtf these are my thoughts"
I don't think I've ever related so much to a story in my life. Thank you for sharing
I searched up just to make sure and I know now that I am straight! Thank you so much! Also, I love all sexualities. I was questioning myself but now I am not. Don’t rush it, let your path go the way you want and need it too. Self-discovery is amazing! Keep going
I watched this and I laughed. But at the end I cried. I don't know why but the last few sentences hit me harder than expected. Love this video
I always rewatch this video when I’m sad. I love it so much.
Purrrrr....Meow
Aww so glad it can help support :)
i loved this omg she’s so cute i’m happy she found herself
I’m at that moment of my life and I’m about to try it❤️...At this point i think i’m gay or at least bi but i’ll probably not tell my parents until i’m 30 so... Happy Easter🤷🏼♀️
Still coming back after years and just realized she's exactly my type
I loved everything about this!
From the relatable plunger story 🤣 to looking up quizzes to finally living life in color.
Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Me right now: "FUUU-"
This is so inspiring at some point. I'm 25 years old never been to a romantic relationship. And not sure if ever will be.
I went to an all girl school. Fell in love with my best friend's brother and the cute girl in science class.. Turns out, I'm bisexual.
I’ve thought I was bi since I was 11 and am 17 now - after having a few unofficial girlfriends and one boyfriend and breaking up with him and finally doing stuff with women these past few months and feeling that sense of relief and happiness makes things feel so much more right. It just clicks so much more. Discovering I was only into girls was a journey for me but I’m so thankful for this journey. Can’t wait to go to college lmao
“I’d just been living my life in grey. & now I’m 32 years old and I can fully say that love, life and sex feels *fucking amazing* in colour.”
Okay but why did this give me chills?
This was so freaking awesome, I dont know why I'm crying. I'm still on the fence to whether I'm gay or not..
My girlfriend is called Stevie, I love her so much..
“I went from ohshitimgay :( to IM GAAAAYYY :D “
loved that!
It's 1am and I'm watching this alone in my apartment... Thank u
You’re amazingly relatable. Please make more videos. 💜 hearing your experience definitely helped me to feel less alone.