Goodness, as a woman, I can say that the opposite is true for much of this. Women appreciate good communication, honesty and no game playing. If you like a woman, tell her. That creates desire too! If she likes you, she’ll love hearing it; if she doesn’t like you, she’s not for you anyway and best to know quickly. Just be straightforward 😊
Five years after this original post and it still makes sense. This is one of the most digestible videos I’ve ever seen on the subject. No “psychological tricks.” No “5 easy steps.” Just a guy telling you how it is and to take it easy man. Thanks. I needed this. I KNOW I haven’t made mistakes yet, but know I’m more equipped emotionally between dates.
I read a few comments below saying for a woman, especially a serious one that is looking for a serious, committed relationship (not a fling or casual), it starts being a turn off when a guy takes a few days to respond. I'm 25 and I agree with this. For me it's actually a RED FLAG is he takes so long to respond - ESPECIALLY if the date went AMAZINGLY. And we're left thinking wtf? He clearly is either playing games (waiting for hours or days to text back and trying to act cool) or just not interested / super busy / dating isn't a priority of his. And overtime we just move on / want someone who is more interested. I love your other videos, but for this one, I would say isn't 100% true. I always got along with men so much more and was MORE interested when we texted in between dates and flirted, continued our convo etc. Then it was even more exciting in person. I would say this depends on your age and your lifestyle. If you're younger and more in-tune with technology and social media, it's actually WEIRD ASF if you don't text. We consider that as "you're not interested". Also this video was created in 2016 so I understand back then maybe it wasn't such a "texting/social media/technology" world haha.
Thank you! This has helped calm my anxiety. I never know if I should reach out because guys have said I seem like I am not interested but I don't want to be texting or calling all the time. So I never know what to do or how to act early on.
Girls actually do like a little flirting and to know that you are on a guy’s mind during the day. Not constant, but acknowledge her and see where it goes naturally.
Wow... that's a philosophical concept to remember... "it's the space in between the notes that creates the music". What happens in those spaces defines the type and nature of the music as well :)
Exactly. If a man does not call or text me I do not feel secure at all. If I see he calls n text me this makes me feel security and that he is interested in me. That he has good intentions of getting to know me. If he does not call or text I don’t take him serious I will keep talking to other men.
I’m mostly getting over my breakup and am even beginning to talk to more women! But I still come here almost everyday. You guys are so great, and you’ve taught me how to date (: though I wish my parents could’ve taught me more, as a lesbian with a non-supportive family I’ve been figuring out the dating game on my own till I came across this channel. And that was hard with a past anxious attachment ahah. The more I listen the more I feel I become securely attached , and the more I expose myself to the breakup and reflect on it, the less afraid of abandonment I become
thank you so much for delivering objective, non-toxic ways to cope with new relationship anxiety. I've been on at least 15 fun dates with this new girl I met on Bumble 4 months ago. We have become very intimate though we haven't had sex yet. We have established the importance of communicating honestly about our intentions and feelings in the relationship. However, after every date, I project insecurities onto her based on irrational fears that she is going to choose to be with someone else. I admit that I've had issues with courtship anxiety. I have told her about this anxiety, but idk if this was a good idea or not. Is telling the person you are dating about the anxieties you feel a good idea? How do I stay patient and trust the natural progression of a relationship?
Anxiety goes with online dating... and the new world we are in of endless options and cancel culture. Unfortunately the one who cares the least in the relationship is the one who wins because there is nothing at stake . As soon as you make an emotional investment you have a lot to lose including your pride if your get rejected. The only work around is if you have solid self love and you know your value to the core. In that way rejection becomes protection.
I’ve just been on a date and I feel so anxious! Like that he didn’t like me that much or he’s not gonna see me again despite the fact he said he wants to,seriously my anxiety level hit climax😩🥴😭😭😢😢
Craig, by any chance have you read/listened to Alan Watts? You will be blown away, you and him have a lot in common, especially his talk about intervals between what happens.
Great video, but also I had to watch it a second time before I realized you were making jokes about corn.. ugh.. lol.. I had no idea what you were going on about. 😅 it's always good to go over the basics
Guys test too. Or at least I do. A lot of women have a lot a baggage and yes women are strong in a lot of ways, like having a higher pain threshold, giving birth and so on. I want to know if they're like the masses or like a firefighter... when there are problems and a lot of fires to put out (job loss, kids, careers, car breaks down, etc) and a lot bail when it get to hot in the kitchen. I want to see if they are a firefighter and go running in when the rest go running out. I want to know they can handle the tough times. I want to know if they are wishy washy and all talk and not action or they have integrity or not.
Hi Craig, Thank you for enlightening us daily!! In the video above, you mentioned there was a video about connecting with women through communication and feeling. Which one is it? Thank you
Went on a date with a Hottie. Tried to remember advice to connect either through communication or feeling. We were alone in my car late and dark and I went for the feeling. I got slapped. So if I were you, go for communication first.
Whenever I'm attracted to someone and I think they're attracted to me. I am wrong. So from now on I'm just going to assume if I'm attracted to them there's no way in hell I'd have a chance
Hi Coach. I am so confused by this video. If I am waiting for the guy to tell me he loves me, or waiting for him to make the first move, and he is watching this telling him to let the woman make the first move then who makes the first move? I have been told by my guy friends that if a woman tells a guy she loves him too soon then this is a red flag. Urghhhh..... What if both people are watching your videos - who makes the first move? I have been told that guys are the one who like the chase, not women (is this true). Also, I would be hurt if I did not hear from a guy by the next day that he had a good time. but then again... I have an anxious attachment style. Please advise..... :)
Coach Craig you say it’s the time between contact because his attraction to grow. I’m just curious from a woman’s point of view if this is true. I don’t know if that is true for me and my girlfriend.
I have a hard time with this video because as a girl my attraction builds during contact. I can see Craig’s point though for sure - but that only applies if you want to play games. Personally, a lot of girls worth a relationship don’t want to play games so my advice is to do what feels natural and contact her and text her but DONT overdo it. Waiting a bit helps.
Woman do not understand their own feelings and behaviors. What they think they are attracted to is not what they react to, especially in the early stages of the day. We want to keep a woman attached to us, but also frustrated with us: that’s when her attraction really grows. And the frustration occurs between dates when you allow them space to think about you!!
I listen to this video, and I find it hilarious how my relationship with my ex played out... My ex was the anxious one in the beginning... She texted me 20 minutes after our first date telling me that she had a great time, and really hoped to see me again... Our 2nd date consisted of a hike, and she admitted to me later that she was extremely nervous that she came across as boring on the date... A few weeks later, she got me duplicates of the keys to her apartment, and gave them to me... I thought all of this was too fast in the beginning, but I let things play out, because I started to really like her...She is very sweet and cute... Towards the end of the relationship, I became the needy one when I told her that I would be going to her house more after the loss of a friend (due to argument) and my brother leaving for Georgia... 2 days after my bro's going away get together, she said she needed space and I handled it all like a baby, which is what brought me here to you Craig... This is a great video... It really makes me think of a relationship as a seesaw... You never wanna keep your interest above hers for long, or she's gonna lose interest FAST... It's always best to keep the girl you like anxious fellas! Take it from me (and of course Craig!)... Now I just hope my ex gives me that 2nd chance some day.
Goodness, as a woman, I can say that the opposite is true for much of this. Women appreciate good communication, honesty and no game playing. If you like a woman, tell her. That creates desire too! If she likes you, she’ll love hearing it; if she doesn’t like you, she’s not for you anyway and best to know quickly. Just be straightforward 😊
Five years after this original post and it still makes sense. This is one of the most digestible videos I’ve ever seen on the subject. No “psychological tricks.” No “5 easy steps.” Just a guy telling you how it is and to take it easy man. Thanks. I needed this. I KNOW I haven’t made mistakes yet, but know I’m more equipped emotionally between dates.
I read a few comments below saying for a woman, especially a serious one that is looking for a serious, committed relationship (not a fling or casual), it starts being a turn off when a guy takes a few days to respond. I'm 25 and I agree with this. For me it's actually a RED FLAG is he takes so long to respond - ESPECIALLY if the date went AMAZINGLY. And we're left thinking wtf? He clearly is either playing games (waiting for hours or days to text back and trying to act cool) or just not interested / super busy / dating isn't a priority of his. And overtime we just move on / want someone who is more interested. I love your other videos, but for this one, I would say isn't 100% true. I always got along with men so much more and was MORE interested when we texted in between dates and flirted, continued our convo etc. Then it was even more exciting in person. I would say this depends on your age and your lifestyle. If you're younger and more in-tune with technology and social media, it's actually WEIRD ASF if you don't text. We consider that as "you're not interested". Also this video was created in 2016 so I understand back then maybe it wasn't such a "texting/social media/technology" world haha.
Can you do a video about courtship tips for women - ways to act and progress through the early stages
Thank you! This has helped calm my anxiety. I never know if I should reach out because guys have said I seem like I am not interested but I don't want to be texting or calling all the time. So I never know what to do or how to act early on.
Girls actually do like a little flirting and to know that you are on a guy’s mind during the day. Not constant, but acknowledge her and see where it goes naturally.
Wow... that's a philosophical concept to remember... "it's the space in between the notes that creates the music". What happens in those spaces defines the type and nature of the
music as well :)
"The time and space between contact that causes the attraction to grow." Your analogy with music notes was genius lol.
Exactly. If a man does not call or text me I do not feel secure at all. If I see he calls n text me this makes me feel security and that he is interested in me. That he has good intentions of getting to know me. If he does not call or text I don’t take him serious I will keep talking to other men.
Hi Coach Craig, if a guy took me on a date, and didn’t text me the next day to tell me he had a good time I’ll be pissed.
Um, you're supposed to text him. He took you out. Learn to say thank you.
I agree. I’d think he wasn’t interested if he didn’t text me later or the next day and it would put me off
But it'll make u want him more;-)
After date texting: Damned if you do, damned if you don't. You just can't win.
I’m mostly getting over my breakup and am even beginning to talk to more women! But I still come here almost everyday. You guys are so great, and you’ve taught me how to date (: though I wish my parents could’ve taught me more, as a lesbian with a non-supportive family I’ve been figuring out the dating game on my own till I came across this channel. And that was hard with a past anxious attachment ahah.
The more I listen the more I feel I become securely attached , and the more I expose myself to the breakup and reflect on it, the less afraid of abandonment I become
I like how you're so honest! Most people are afraid to say the harsh realities of socitey
they should teach this in school! must watch every day until second nature!
thank you so much for delivering objective, non-toxic ways to cope with new relationship anxiety. I've been on at least 15 fun dates with this new girl I met on Bumble 4 months ago. We have become very intimate though we haven't had sex yet. We have established the importance of communicating honestly about our intentions and feelings in the relationship. However, after every date, I project insecurities onto her based on irrational fears that she is going to choose to be with someone else. I admit that I've had issues with courtship anxiety. I have told her about this anxiety, but idk if this was a good idea or not. Is telling the person you are dating about the anxieties you feel a good idea? How do I stay patient and trust the natural progression of a relationship?
Anxiety goes with online dating... and the new world we are in of endless options and cancel culture.
Unfortunately the one who cares the least in the relationship is the one who wins because there is nothing at stake .
As soon as you make an emotional investment you have a lot to lose including your pride if your get rejected.
The only work around is if you have solid self love and you know your value to the core.
In that way rejection becomes protection.
@@lisaariottiart wow!
It’s so true the heart grows founder when you have time apart, especially needed in the early stages , that statement done it for me ☺️
Your a freaking genius coach
I’ve just been on a date and I feel so anxious! Like that he didn’t like me that much or he’s not gonna see me again despite the fact he said he wants to,seriously my anxiety level hit climax😩🥴😭😭😢😢
Update? :)
This is one of the best videos. So underrated.
I think that was a nice gesture on his part after the first date.
coach Craig is genius
Craig, by any chance have you read/listened to Alan Watts?
You will be blown away, you and him have a lot in common, especially his talk about intervals between what happens.
Great video Kenneth, thank you!
Do you use the word date, or say like hang out?
Great video, but also I had to watch it a second time before I realized you were making jokes about corn.. ugh.. lol.. I had no idea what you were going on about. 😅 it's always good to go over the basics
Currently don’t know how to date 😅 Thank you for this video.
Guys test too. Or at least I do. A lot of women have a lot a baggage and yes women are strong in a lot of ways, like having a higher pain threshold, giving birth and so on. I want to know if they're like the masses or like a firefighter... when there are problems and a lot of fires to put out (job loss, kids, careers, car breaks down, etc) and a lot bail when it get to hot in the kitchen. I want to see if they are a firefighter and go running in when the rest go running out.
I want to know they can handle the tough times. I want to know if they are wishy washy and all talk and not action or they have integrity or not.
This video makes me feel absolutely hopeless and unlovable and I am hopeless and unlovable so that is how I should feel
Another excellent video
Hi Craig,
Thank you for enlightening us daily!!
In the video above, you mentioned there was a video about connecting with women through communication and feeling. Which one is it?
Thank you
Went on a date with a Hottie. Tried to remember advice to connect either through communication or feeling. We were alone in my car late and dark and I went for the feeling. I got slapped.
So if I were you, go for communication first.
Whenever I'm attracted to someone and I think they're attracted to me. I am wrong. So from now on I'm just going to assume if I'm attracted to them there's no way in hell I'd have a chance
I just watched this and I have to wonder if a movie date is a good idea, if they serve high quality popcorn! ;)
I never meet guys like that..their are usually distant,wait to call me, then I'm wondering what i they are thinking
great work🙃
Hi Coach. I am so confused by this video. If I am waiting for the guy to tell me he loves me, or waiting for him to make the first move, and he is watching this telling him to let the woman make the first move then who makes the first move? I have been told by my guy friends that if a woman tells a guy she loves him too soon then this is a red flag. Urghhhh..... What if both people are watching your videos - who makes the first move? I have been told that guys are the one who like the chase, not women (is this true). Also, I would be hurt if I did not hear from a guy by the next day that he had a good time. but then again... I have an anxious attachment style. Please advise..... :)
you made me laugh...."orville, orville" then the face...couldn't control myself.
Although you might be anxious about their “income,” too!! Haha
Spot on Stacey, well for shallow women anyway 😉
damn just "thanks"
Thanks I needed this soooo bad!
Coach Craig you say it’s the time between contact because his attraction to grow. I’m just curious from a woman’s point of view if this is true. I don’t know if that is true for me and my girlfriend.
I have a hard time with this video because as a girl my attraction builds during contact. I can see Craig’s point though for sure - but that only applies if you want to play games. Personally, a lot of girls worth a relationship don’t want to play games so my advice is to do what feels natural and contact her and text her but DONT overdo it. Waiting a bit helps.
I'm a male and I just think my gf will find someone else that's better that's why I've been having anxiety I just want her attention
Good advice!!!
you can read my MIND!
I don’t know how I came across this video, but I just died at the popcorn jokes .. 😆
Hi.. Think you awesome..
Lmao the corn jokes
On a roll with the jokes today! 😝
Wow. This video is god
11:43 your peewee herman voice cracks me up
and how about is brother Wilbur? Orville just "Flew by" hahaha
I was talking about Redenbacher the popcorn dude lol
+Coach Craig Kenneth lol just "landed" tht one I thought I was "wright" hahaha I think I just got cornier
Great video. Changed my life.
Lol You have to Be from NorthEast Ohio or love Popcorn on the Orville Joke 🤣
Those popcorn jokes tho lmao
So funny !!!!!"
Funny corn jokes
Woman do not understand their own feelings and behaviors. What they think they are attracted to is not what they react to, especially in the early stages of the day. We want to keep a woman attached to us, but also frustrated with us: that’s when her attraction really grows. And the frustration occurs between dates when you allow them space to think about you!!
I listen to this video, and I find it hilarious how my relationship with my ex played out... My ex was the anxious one in the beginning... She texted me 20 minutes after our first date telling me that she had a great time, and really hoped to see me again... Our 2nd date consisted of a hike, and she admitted to me later that she was extremely nervous that she came across as boring on the date... A few weeks later, she got me duplicates of the keys to her apartment, and gave them to me... I thought all of this was too fast in the beginning, but I let things play out, because I started to really like her...She is very sweet and cute... Towards the end of the relationship, I became the needy one when I told her that I would be going to her house more after the loss of a friend (due to argument) and my brother leaving for Georgia... 2 days after my bro's going away get together, she said she needed space and I handled it all like a baby, which is what brought me here to you Craig... This is a great video... It really makes me think of a relationship as a seesaw... You never wanna keep your interest above hers for long, or she's gonna lose interest FAST... It's always best to keep the girl you like anxious fellas! Take it from me (and of course Craig!)... Now I just hope my ex gives me that 2nd chance some day.
haha your corniness is funny
Lmao you're hilarious
The 2nd half of this video is not great advice.
those puns were painful Craig