It's not passive-aggressive, it's just, INP types don't want to impose on other people's decision-making unless it's really a big deal (which by our scale almost nothing in daily life is). We give you the information that the milk is gone, so that -you-can decide whether or not you should get it (or someone else should). We say it because we assume it's not our responsibility (ie, not our turn to buy milk), but we don't want to decide for you that it's yours either - that's up to you to conclude. We hate to shape the lives of others directly, it feels like we're contaminating who you are with our egos.
Excellent explanation! This pretty much sums up how I feel. I hate to impose orders on others. I really feel that I used to be an INFJ, as I used to instruct my twin brother directly all the time (ENFP at the time), but now the roles have completely reversed. I am INFP and he's an ESFJ/ESTJ. I am not exactly sure how.
I agree with literally everything but the infp having sympathy. I don't believe that either type have a better or stronger empathy. The thing is how an infp relate's to someone is that they take whatever problem etc and place themselves in it, which is actually the definition of empathy. An infj usually uses more body language to show that they are listening or caring, but an infp doesn't. For an infp they tend to get silent and almost stoic to show 'hey, you have my full attention," which I guess comes off as not caring, but we do. It's just our Fi function makes it hard to express emotions to others and it feels like it isn't sincere enough. So, I think people confuse infp's as sympathetic because their empathy isn't as direct but more just felt around the room and for their body language.
+hithere I never stated an INFJ did that and please research what empathy means. I have an updated version of the empathy of Fi and Fe. Fe is quick and scrapes the surface of the problem, while Fi is slower but much more intense. That is because Fi has such a vast knowledge of emotions and is able to link exactly how you felt right to the core. Fe is capable of that, but they don't have that same large collection of emotions or as natural to them.
i .candy exactly! I'm sick of the constant insults towards my type just for being authentically and truly who I am. INFPs are wonderful people and do not deserve the amount of hate they receive. They are just as good as any other type.
It's insane how much I can relate to you and your experiences in life. I've been struggling with my type for weeks now. I repeatedly am typed as INFJ, INTJ, INFP, & sometimes even ENFJ in various tests and it has left me just completely frustrated and lost. I really want to reach this sort of self awareness and understanding because I'm constantly struggling with confirming with who I am and what the world (social and parental implications) thinks I should be. I think it's because I just feel so misunderstood and want so desperately to be something that I’m not. So that I can find my niche, belong somewhere, and have this mutual connection with others through human interaction (although, I am most comfortable by myself). Growing up, I desperately wanted not to be seen as the abnormally serious yet gentle person. More frequently than not, most people label me as weird and reserved (In some ways, I am). I just wanted to be accepted and well-liked like my ENFP sister (Oh, how I envied her so). But in a way, I still wanted to hold true my originality and personal integrity. During adolescence, my self image became my obsession. I cared so much about what other people thought of me that I let it influence my decisions and my values. So what had happened was that I began to channel all of these social expectations and implications from my peers, my family, and the world around me to developed this perfect alter-ego. I fooled everyone into thinking that I was this energetic, social butterfly. I became extremely extroverted in public. It's scary how much I got involved in this character that I really started to believe that it wasn't a facade and that is was indeed my reality. I lived in a world of falseness; superficial friends, attitudes, desires. etc. But it wasn't me at all. I just wanted to be the perfect daughter, student, and human being that I lost myself. I took on so many burdens and tasks of others that I began to loathe everything about myself. When I would get home, (I have extremely SJ parents and they have always made me feel trapped, overwhelmed, suppressed, and emotional.) Anxiety and this deep depression would just compel me to sort of fall willingly to its power and might. My anxiety has always been out of hand. At heart, I'm this weak and feeble soul who just cannot express themselves well orally unless it is something that I strongly believe in. I would just bottle everything up and put my feelings aside and put others before mine. My emotions are so overwhelming to the point where I start to submit to them. It causes me to uncontrollably tremble. I feel as if there is this heavy weight on my heart and I find it difficult to breathe or think rationally. I'm always nervous, paranoid, and worried about everything and everyone. Until I couldn't take it anymore. Then, this sort of glass barrier between my feelings, thoughts, emotions and the external world around me would just shatter into a million, bajillion pieces. The outbursts were spontaneous and just down right abrupt. Literature, art, and music have been my creative outlet for dealing with a wide range of emotions and centering myself. Overtime, I slowly started to become more aligned with my values and myself (although, I am still really lost lol). I'm still having a tough time establishing myself in the world and acknowledging my strengths and talents. After coming across with this test, I've come to gain a better understanding of who I am and rareness of my type. I've been researching and sort of obsessing about types and trying to be in touch with who I am. I stumbled across a plethora of INFJ & INFP videos and I think after this video that I can confirm that I am an INFJ and I am not alone and I am proud. I’m just a rare and complex type. I just have to accept that not everyone can appreciate and cope with such uniqueness and complexity with open arms. So, I want to thank you and all other INFJs for speaking out about this rare and beautiful type. You're a beautiful, inspiring person and I will continue hold you and your words deeply in my heart. Thank you, xoxo INFJ
I could tell you were INFJ (or, at least not INFP) before you ever said your type. You're way too composed , facially expressive and direct to be an INFP. INFPs eyes tend to drift away as they talk. They tend to pause and get off on tangents a lot more as well. They also have trouble expressing ideas but I think it's when they are thinking in Fi mode rather than your Ni+Ti. Good video, btw. Regards, INFP
Wow, I feel bad that the indirect communication style appeared passive agressive. I have to admit that I felt criticized sometimes when people would directly communicate a need with me, as I felt like it was my shortcomings. But I now I'm understanding that it is rather communicating a need. I'm so happy I learned this information.
Yes, very weak Fi drives me crazy. For the longest time I always thought my feelings were my own but came to realize I was constantly feeling for everyone else. DOH! Now I'm on a slow process of tuning in with my own feelings and frequently asking myself "what do I want". I find that if I don't do that very often, I quickly slide back into Fe mode and put everyone else first. It's an interesting experiment, to say the least. :)
My best friend is infp.. I am infj.. The biggest differences... She is so random in her creativity in her mind.. She told me once she might just sit there and imagine a person covered in flowers or see random fairy tale like characters and things in her mind. I do not do that at all. I am creative but not in such a crazy fantasy way, I see things more literally. Another difference is that she does not really feel other people's feelings. She totally feels her own feelings but they are just there and she knows exactly what they are. She can put them aside and focus on other things and just let them exist on the side. i cant do that. my feelings are in my gut and they are strong and i dont always know exactly what they are but i certainly cant put strong feelings aside and focus on something else. She can care about other people but not actually feel for them deeply as if she were in their shoes. I put myself in people's shoes and feel so strongly for them. About Knowing things... She loves things being mysterious. She doesn't want to know herself fully, she doesn't want to know me fully, or anything fully. She likes that things are unknown. I want to know EVERYTHING. I want to fully know and understand her and fully know and understand myself. And I want her to fully know me. Those are the biggest differences that I can think of right now..
Wow! Your experiences totally mirror mine too! My INFP friend is a bit like an ENFP when it comes to working with an idea - shooting stars and confetti! While I happily keep in mind the 'over-view' at all times (say working on film projects for example). Funny side note - we joke about being 'Pinky and The Brain' ... I being 'The Brain'! I often get asked for advice ... which is funny as even if I don't know something in terms of it's raw facts, I usually have the right 'key' that enables the other person to find exactly what they need to know! INFJ's intuition with patterns and connections comes through.
kgrayston yeah you pretty much nailed it, I agree with everything you have stated. I am the same I also want to KNOW everything about other people and myself, whereas I have noticed that INFPs are not the same to this extreme degree.
I'm an INFP and my partner is an INFJ and I disagree with this characterisation of INFP's as less empathetic than INFJs. I fully agree with the point that INFP's are hyper-aware of their own emotions. I am acutely aware of how I feel in a given situation and am never confused about whether I am upset for example. However, I'm also hyper aware of other people's emotions in social situations and am really strongly impacted by them. I will often make myself miserable to avoid apparent harm to someone else (I will even go out of my way to avoid mildly upsetting someone else, even if the lengths I would need to go to would be unreasonable or impractical and I didn't particularly like the person). I think this is quite typical of the INFP personality type, which is why a more informative/indirect conversational style is prevalent in the type (its basically a strategy for conflict avoidance). I also kind of disagree with the point that INFP's don't like to know things 'fully.' I think this is a difference of world view, in that I feel that knowledge is always relational and context dependent. It is not that I don't like to accumulate knowledge and think theoretically about things, I just feel that pinning things down and knowing them 'fully' would not be possible. I find my partner generally much more determinate in her judgements and quicker to act on them (which can be very useful, as it enables her to be decisive and productive), whereas I tend to be more attentive to the grey areas and see point of conflict and contradiction (which can also be useful in that enables me to question established social values and to be willing to see the weak point in an argument, including my own). I also find that her emotions are less sedimented (for example, I may be depressed about the same issue for weeks without coming to any conclusion, whereas she seems to be able to pull herself out of a mood more easily, and in a more purposeful manner). Her emotions seem much more purposeful and tending to move forward to resolution (for example, she wants to practically solve emotional situations, whereas sometimes I get stuck on the level of emotion).
erotolepsy Really enjoyed reading your response and feedback:) I agree with a lot of what you said except I do think INFJs tend to be more empathetic, but I would say that INFJs and INFPs are both extremely compassionate, kind, and loving, but the way they express and feel their compassion, love, and overall kindness is different I believe. I think you may have misunderstood me I don't necessarily equate empathy with being more kind, more loving, or caring. It's just the way I experience other people's emotions and what other people are going through is entirely different than an INFP might because of my Fe function. I can sometimes feel others pain in my physical body. I think the experience of feeling other people's emotions is very different from the INFP but that is just my personal opinion:) Really relate with what you said about emotions being more purposeful and tending to move toward a resolution, I find myself doing that a lot when I am in an emotional funk. Thanks for your response!
Oh. My. Goodness. Yes! I am also INFJ, and all that you just said makes total sense to me! ❤ I'm not a "hippy" or "flakey", but wouldn't say I'm "emo" or a "nerd" either! I like fairy tales, but don't LIVE in them! Lol Yes, I too like to know EVERYTHING! 😉
Hey. I like your video. Just one thing: as an INFJ i dont tend to direct people by saying "hey go buy some milk". Because I have STP as my inferior process and such chores and detailed instructions are usually run through st, I will usually say "hey, there is no milk!", Alot of nfps will be much more directive when giving detailed instructions, while NFJs are mostly directive about existential issues, how you should live your life, and about complex social issues. :)
+Erik Thor hmmm yeah to be honest after making this video, I am not even sure if I agree with this theory that I talked about in the beginning of my video. I have even debated taking the video down or writing about it in the description :)
hahaha i know how it is, i've been researching the MBTI for a long time, and I keep going back and forth with so many theories, it's never really possible to say anything for certain, and so many exceptions to the rules. :)
Melody Grace what is your theory about this now? As an INFJ I am usually more indirect in communication with people when it involves their freedom. So if I need one thing from them, like milk, I may say that the milk is getting low rather than asking them to go get some, because I prefer they not feel pressured into doing it, because to me even though I prefer to not have to get the milk it is more important that I not impose it on another person. I would prefer to handle it myself if it is a burden on them. Since we infj types feel responsible for others happiness we are not inclined to place our wishes on another person's shoulders directly in making it their responsibility.
Melody Grace I think imposing with direct communication style is something about Introverted and extroverted not specifically for INFX. But I will pin point that if I will choose between the two, the personality type that will ACT and probably say FIRST that the ‘milk is running out’ probably INFJ. As an infp thats my least concern, every thing that is not urgent is not my concern unless its my priority at that time and you said to me that you will need it. And you know what, INFP probably the last person to know that the milk is done lol
This sounds funny and simple, and trust me I know all about functions and such. But I'm gonna have some fun here, INFJ = polite voice, more cheery (do you see how she acts in the video? I know an INFJ who acts just like this) even if they are depressed they can act like this or sorta put others first. INFP = more dreary and deadpan, not as expressive, can seem cold even when they are dying inside. So they are almost the opposite of INFJ in this sense. It's easier to tell the difference in the men than the women though. Although the INFP women can seem more deadpan like I said. In the males you really notice this. INFJ men are typically very expressive facially (for a man - not to get into gender roles I don't believe in them but you know what I mean - see how i'm rambling? That's an INFP thing) INFP men can look super cold sometimes. Also INFP are not good with modifying their actions for others. even though theyre NF's. So this makes them seem much more stubborn. I know INFJ's are J's but INFP is infinitely more stubborn. Maybe stubborn isn't the right word, it's more of this like ...clinging to your own identity at all costs thing. INFJ don't really have this identity. Their identity comes through others, they live for other people. INFP live for their own happiness first. This is just FI and Fe at work I guess.
That doesn't mean that we are self centered, however. INFPs have a deep understanding of their own feelings, and are very genuine and compassionate. I am kind, and I hate being told that, because an MBTI theory, that I am selfish and cold. I truly do love to help others. I get a thrill when I give others advice. And I love it when I can make someone happy :) I don't put myself before others, but absorb feelings internally. Does that make me a horrible person?
This video was amazing. As an INFJ, i think you did a pretty good job explaining and making sense out of the way we think. I would love a part 2 to this.
I'm an INFP. However, I feel what others are feeling and it can really effect me. I try to see things from all different perspectives as well. Sometimes I'm aware of how I feel and sometimes I'm not. Maybe I'm a mix of INFP and INFJ. I do agree with part about not being direct. Often times, if something needs to be taken care of, I'll just do it myself, because I don't want to be rude. Or if I'm having a hard day and need support from friends, I'll often just imply it, but not ask for help.
Yes exactly! And I know what you mean about mis communicating with other types it can be difficult sometimes to gauge. Thanks for commenting love! I have tried replying to you before and could not figure out how to do it and I finally realized I needed to go through Google + first :)
Indeed, I've learnt to try and be diplomatic when it comes to advice giving, as the raw facts - through they are the 'truth' - can be brutal for others to accept. It's that thing where we just know if someone is being authentic or not ... oh that combination of intuition and judging function! ;-) Its a 'thoughy' as we can really see the potential in other people ... but as the saying goes, 'You can take a horse to water, but you can't (and wouldn't want to ...[conflict avoidance]!) force the horse to drink'!
tbh, i think the directing vs informing style is a bit confusing. INFJs have Ti-Se and sometimes start to inform and do what is less direct, because they base their decisions of this function, while INFPs use Si-Te so they may see a lot of use in just using a direct style of communication. I mean I use both directive and informing styles aha depending on the situation. What sets me apart from INFJs as an INFP, is that I use Ne and I take in information like a suction pipe - one connects to another, and as soon as I learn another piece of information the old just gets thrown out. and Fi not Fe (inner values vs group-oriented values) . or Te and Ti where Te organizes information based on what's most efficient, while Ti analyzes in a framework/inner-clockwork type of sense (analyzing each individual role and seeing how they take place).
I've just discovered this video. And I must say thank you. First, you are lovely and very pretty. It was easy to listen to you. Partially because we're similar. I too am an INFJ. I appreciated you sharing that article. It was surprising to find I'm the "directing" communicator. But it is just a part of my personality. And she so accurately described how finding that out can be off putting for INFJs because we see ourselves as more polite than bossy. Which I do. But I've been put in managerial and supervisory roles often because I'm direct. So I guess it's a good thing. I like when people say what they mean. It was refreshing to hear you express the same feelings I have and to know there are others of us out there. Thank you.
+ijustlikemusicandmakeup Hey thanks so much! You are very sweet :) And yes I imagine you would need to use a more direct style of communication in a position like that :)
Great video Melody! Concur completely especially with social 'interaction' - sometimes I'll be asked what I'm feeling and there is no way I can put it into words - but I can tell exactly what someone I only just met is feeling! I have an INFP friend and there have been times when our communication has failed badly - I've had to rely on my intuitive insight to find out what went wrong, and then reach out and mend bridges.
The example with when your friend asked you a question and you started bawling, reminds me so much of myself. The other day, my mom asked me a question, and it made me feel offended but I wasn't truly aware at the time. My mother (Enfj, thus strong Fe) picked up I was upset before I did, and when she kept asking me to talk about my feelings and to know why I was sad, I started crying. When we talked about it, I felt so much better and understood what made me feel sad and want to improve myself. Also, with Ti vs Te was so true. I have a very difficult for time putting my thoughts and ideas into the way I want, and I have to use my hands and eyebrows a lot, especially with my INFP friend. 😂 look on tumblr by the way for some more insight, it has a lot of helpful and accurate feed. Thank you for another interesting video, and I hope to see a part two! 😁
This video was so great, and very helpful! Whenever I'm watching your videos, I'll totally get goosebumps and start laughing because it blows my mind how I feel exactly what you describe.
Thank you for this video! I was previously so confused whether I was an INFP or INFJ, I am certain now of being an INFJ (thanks to your insightful explanation :) Again, thank you for helping me so much to figure this out!
Great video. I thoroughly enjoyed it. As an Infp I find this very true. I often suggest rather than request. Very thought provoking video. I hope you continue make more videos like this one.
Atleast for me, I have to disagree with not knowing how your feeling or what your feeling. (INFJ). I actually am very in touch with what is going on within me and what I am feeling and I always make it a habit to pay attention to myself. I dont react to something without knowing whats going on within me because I always know (most of the time) the reason why there was an emotional response. I personally may be a little out of touch with reality as I zone out some of the time but I am quite aware of myself physically, mentally and emotionally a majority of the time. I also have the ability to even shut off my empathy or even sympathy in certain situations when I dont find it a "big deal" to me. But this is all something I learned over time as I have chosen myself over others in the case of emotional well-being and being authentic and true to my values. I dont sacrifice myself anymore, I never will. Another thing thats mistyped is that the INFJ personality cant take in "new info". I personally feel that the only reason a person can refuse that is because their intuition on the given subject is so intense that the new info doesnt "sit right" with them for whatever reason or no reason at all. And if it just so happens to then it gonna be easy to be enriched by whats being absorbed. Last but not least, I personally dont feel these personality labels are accurate nor should someone identify with them. Sure theyre a guidance but I do feel its not a truth and shouldnt be treated as one as grouping individuals under one thing is never gonna be good or even true. I personally find it very funny that some people who have chosen to identify with being "INFJ" have gladly accepted it as fact and dont see it as being limited or pigeon-holing to a being.
Im an INFP, but what always struck me as weird is my cognitive functions are little off. My extraverted thinking is actually my weakest, where as my introverted intuition is up where my extraverted thinking should be
As an INFP I totally agree about the directing or informing style. I could NEVER be a manager, I actually have ZERO ability to tell other people what to do. I just point things out and figure it's up to you to decide what you want to do. What's interesting is I am not just one letter off, I am one question off. I was one tick over into the P from the J on the scale. So one question away from being an INFJ and although reading the MBTI summary of the INFJ fits me really well, the INFP summary NAILS IT! Even though it seems I am so close to being a J, it's not because in any given scenario I am almost as likely to act in a J fashion or a P manner, it's that there are some things where I am VERY J and others where I am VERY P in how I act or perceive.
I found your video very helpful. Thank you for sharing. I'm an INFJ in a relationship with an INFP, and I've been seeking ways of understanding some cognitive functioning differences I've picked up on. I especially resonated with that bit about not knowing how you're actually feeling until you identify it in an action, but easily feeling what others are feeling. I've tried to communicate that before, but I think you did a better job here. In my experience, people with dominant introverted feeling functions are often taken aback when they hear how difficult it can be to know one's own emotional landscape. I wonder, does it seem to take longer for you to process difficult feelings as a result of your dominant extraverted feeling function? It seems to take forever for me. I admire how quickly the Fi-strong people I've known can move through their own feelings. It seems like a super power to me!
+Jeremy Mattocks I really relate to your sentiments. It's like even though I am a feeling type does not mean I understand my own feelings. Fi Vs Fe. I imagine it would be helpful to explain this to a romantic partner Fi- user.
Hey Melody, so I have some imput I'd like to share from personal experiences and observations, and I was hoping to hear your perspective on this. I had taken MBTI before and got INFJ, and the test did describe thing about me very accurately, but it also seemed somewhat limited to how my mind functioned. I've done a lot of research into the cognitive functions and how they present themselves and I noticed that I'm more in tune with my shadow functions than most INFJs that I've met are. I've known about 15 self-professed INFJs in my 23.5 years of existence, and very recently became friends with who's an INFP who I found I relate to much more than I do with a lot of my INFJ friends. After I had gotten to know her a little bit, I noticed she had a bit more persuasive and direct style of communication than what I originally imagined INFPs possessing. There were even times where she would become very assertive and abrasive. There was even one instance where she even made me cry by how forthcoming she was with me. I've noticed with me that, unlike most INFJs, I tend to be very much in touch with how I'm feeling, but like most INFJs I don't shy away from expressing those emotions openly. As for my intuition, there are moments where I form abstract thoughts with an intent to explore possibilities rather than to simply use it for forming conclusions. I've also noticed that I'm much more objective when it comes to addressing and dealing with major issues than most INFJs are. I have an INFJ friend who's very passionate when it comes to politics and will tirelessly argue one side despite how many holes are punched in her philosophies, where as I very much like to objectively weigh the pros and cons of every side before I become passionate about it, and even then, I'm not one to go off emotionally about it, I just straight up tell it like it is and let the facts speak for themselves. And that's not to say I'm not sensitive to and aware of peoples' feelings, but I'm not one to be easily swayed into doing something, just to make room for someone's emotional biases and prejudices. And lastly, with my sensing function, I tend to trust more in what's been historical proven to be more sound or successful, rather than just jump into something impulsively. So what's your take on this? Do think it's possible to bring your shadow functions into balance with your main functions?
This helps me as an infp understanding infjs. I always thought of you guys as Samantha from Her, but I see that it's just your Fe function at work as opposed to Fi. And the direct thing is mostly true, I mean as I mature and develop the Ne, I can see that some people warrant a direct style of communication--not everyone just "gets it."
Hi Miss Melody! I enjoyed watching your video. I'm still trying to figure out if I'm an INFJ as opposed to an INFP, as in previous tests I've always been typed as INFP, but in recent ones I've been typed as INFJ. I think I do tend to have the directing style, and I'm somewhat of a control freak, which I know tends to be typical of INFJs. I also need time to process information and like my quiet space for that, which again is typical of INFJs. I also tend to decide on what to do based on how others feel as opposed to how I feel, which tends to make me upset and self-loathing afterwards, which is perhaps how an INFJ also feels. I definitely also tend to express myself better when I write down what I have to say as opposed to verbalising it, also an INFJ trait. I do however think I am in tune with my emotions, but it's hard to express it, which again seems more like an INFJ. But there are some things like wanting to be an individual, not liking routines, and those kind of things, that I identify with, which tends to be typical of an INFP. So I dunno, I see traits of both that I can relate to, and I'm somewhat more leaning towards an INFJ type now, but it's still confusing, so hopefully you could help me figure it out!
It's not hard for INFJ to express emotions, they're actually mirroring the atmosphere of other people's emotions. Cheerily, merrily, and dramatically (not in a bad way, more like in expressively caring way). INFJs rarely talk about their identity as a source of inspiration. They don't hide their own feelings, they're simply unaware of it even if they're clearly expressing it.
Thank you for this video. I've been trying to learn more about myself since I don't really understand me as a person. This video helped me out a lot. By the way you are really pretty.
I'm an infj and it's interesting that u pointed out that we don't know how I'm feeling and I often forget and sometimes don't even realize my alterior motives, if I have any
informal confuses me. I prefer direct. Informal has caused fights with me in the past. A good friend of mine is an isfp she's cool. But anytime she wanted something she used that style and if it's not direct enough it caused alot of fights
Is it weird that when I would take these tests during middle and high-school it would always have INFJ come out but now that I'm in college INFP comes out?
Hmm I would recommend studying the cognitive function functions:) See which you relate to more. Do you relate more with Ni Fe Ti Se or do you relate more with Fi Ne Si Te. If you Google cognitive functions you should be able to find info:)
INFJ Dumbledore will Ni say, "Voldemort is back," and Fe work with others who see things the same way. INFP Luke Skywalker will Fi say, "I have to try [to save Vader] because he Ne suspects that there is still some good in him. Will go off on his own and try to make his belief a reality. INFJ knows and rallies; INFP hopes and imagines.
Before I even knew your type, I could tell you're an INFJ. :) I'm one too, despite sometimes having thought I was P due to disorganisation in some areas of my life as well as relatively high Fi. Your mannerisms, eyes (how intense they are and whenever you stop and think you look to the left upper corner, which I do as well and it's apparently linked to the Ni cognitive process) and just how you speak screamed INFJ to me.
I never really understood the difference between Ti and Te... I'm an INFP with Te, but I still don't know what it does and how it's different from Ti. I know it must have something to do with other people or the world outside. But still thinking seams like such an internal thing. I really recognize myself in you as an INFJ, when you say you need to use your hands to get the information out. Anyway, I would be very grateful if someone would like to explain it to me further :)
Awesome video lol, my boy friend is an INFJ and I'm an INFP and it really helped me understand him better! lots of times I ask him questions like how is he feeling about something and he says he doesn't know, and I just never understand how its possible not knowing how you feel lol I mean its you! so thanks that's gonna help me lots lol I need to remember to tell him this
Ever since a friend of mine introduced MBTI to me I have identified as an INFJ. Even more so after reading more up on Jung's theory and MBTI model and the cognitive functions. But I can't help but doubt. Maybe because I am self-typed there is a part of me that is not quite sure. I get even more confused when I try comparing myself to my brother or buddy who are INFP. Feel like there are just so many variables. Quand même.. but just wanted to say thanks. Kind've helped my thoughts.
(I scratched out my previous comment.) Directing communication seems to be a Je thing in general, while informing is more Ji/Pe. So, a J vs P difference. It's interesting how the SFJ, according to Linda Berens, is an exception to this, being informers rather than directors. And how STPs tend to be directors rather than informers. weirdfella.tumblr.com/post/113127769294/a-quick-guide-to-double-checking-your-type-by Come to think of it, the ISFJ may be the most perceiving of the judging types.
HAHAHA my best friend is an INFP and I'm INFJ, and whenever she's indirect with her communication, I GET SO ANNOYED. Now I know! Also, I'm the exact same way as you: I have to talk with my hands to get my thoughts out. And the other day, I said something in response to a question, and I started crying! Didn't know I was going to, but it happened! INFJ sisters. :)
Thank you. Directive vs. informal = summarizes family conflicts. Mom: "The house is a mess. The floor is dirty. We're out of milk." Dad and me = Okay. Mom: I guess I have to clean it myself. Why do I have to do everything? Us: Why didn't you ask?
I also used to score INFJ all the time. But now I believe I'm ENTJ, so I think tests shouldn't be considered as a reference (though I have scored in some cases NTJ).
Why are people taking tests so seriously? I don't get it. No test is going to change who you are, and nobody is forced to adapt certain behaviours due to a test result.
I like the way you explain things it's not hard for me to understand what your saying unlike other peoples videos ive seen on here,plus i like that you seem expressive not boring in your videos lol.I was hoping you could do a video on how to tell Infp's and Isfp's apart? Ive gotten infp a lot more than isfp,but i feel i can relate more to isfps so a video on how to tell them apart would be greatly appreciated and helpful.Also a video on explaining the functions of each Myers briggs type i think would be very useful too anyways thanks for your videos ive enjoyed them :) ive also subscribed.
I am a INFJ too. The thing is, while I am extremely empathetic I do recognize my own feelings as an INFP would do, and I express them but not always. For example if I am angry with my S.O I will express my feelings so much that is like taking out my heart for him to see. lol But if I am angry with his mother, I just shut up and keep my feelings and opinions to myself. Also, I use more the INFP's style of communication. And I sound very bossy, but yes I have to recognize I am a bit bossy sometimes. x)
fallbackin16 As an IN, I find ES to be very conflicting in many ways. I have learned to be a lot more patient when dealing with these types. I only can deal with the ones that can listen enough to get my point across, even if it's one minute of their time and I see that they are truly listening.
+fallbackin16 .. actually INFJ and ESTP should have the same mind functionality; on how it works... but just in different priorities. the primary mind function for INFJ is the last one for ESTP.. although it's the same (Ni) but is unusable for ESTP type most of the time; while it is the primary function for INFJ type. I believe the most common close mind function for both types is (Fe).. specially if both are outgoing ; ) ... so, in conclusion, you are pretty much similar personalities but with different priorities; that's why you can understand each other; but you can't go with same choice most of the time!!! (let me know what you think!!!)
Haven't watched the video yet but I'm happy I found it, becuase until now - when I've done tests - I've got both INFJ and INFP Hopefully I will figure out which type I am, so thanks for the video :)
nilovenus nilovenus it comes down to the J & P. are you a planner, do you like to get things done as soon as possible or do you procrastinate most of the time? If you are a planner and don't always procrastinate than you are most likely an INFJ.
soulo love I really am both but I need to think about it and figure out how I am most of the time - right now it's hard to choose which one describes me the most. Thank you for the info~ and ur comment :)
I'm stuck between the two, I'm both informal and formal communication depending on who im talking to. Also i find it difficult to explain what im thinking like an INFJ however I do voice it like a INFP and I can tell what people are thinking, feeling, motives are of a person like an INFJ but i know how im feeling like an INFP ARRRGGGHHHHHHH
Are you more comfortable making others feel welcome by giving them distance? Letting them be themselves and letting you be yourself? (INFP’s Fi) Or are you more comfortable making others feel welcome by drawing closer to them and emotionally/socially meeting them where they are? (INFJ’s Fe) Do you best solve an interpersonal conflict by moving away from others? By working it out on your own and in your own time, coming back to the relationship later with a better understanding? (INFPs Fi) Or do you best solve an interpersonal problem by moving closer to the offended/ing party? Coming to a better understanding now, together? (INFJ’s Fe) Are your ethics more directed toward ordering your inner world into a hierarchy of values and following those values in the outer world even though the resulting behavior may look strange or alienate you from the social context? Are they more about your responsibility to yourself and therefore to other selves? (INFP’s Fi) Or are your ethics more concerned with an order for the outside world? With how people should interact with each other? With what a person’s role is in society? With their responsibility to the whole? (INFJ’s Fe) Is your logic/reasoning more about the flawed, dirty particulars of the real world? Facts about how things (Not people) have worked in the past? (INFP’s Te) Or is your logic/reasoning more about ideal models of reality? Imagined solutions. Theories. Formulas. Ideas about how things (Not people) could or should work? (INFJ’s Ti) Do you like to look at examples to find underlying principles? (INFP’s Te) Or do you like to use formulas to reason out solutions? (INFJs Ti) Oh! I forgot. Smiling. INFJ’s smile freely with other people as part of a social language. INFPs would like to smile only when they’re happy. Smiling for any other reason feels wrong, fake, draining, and/or forced. Good luck.
There is a possibility that you might not be infj or infp so keep that in mind. The easiest way to tell between the two is to learn the functions. Once you learn the functions properly there is no way you can't distinguish between the two types since they share no common functions. With that being said the biggest factor in deciding whether or not a person is infj or infp is how they make decisions. Infjs takes a long time to make decisions since their first function gathers information. Infps would not suffer this problem since their first function is an action function.
k There are people with multiple personalities too also.Do not forget that.I think I am both INFP and INTJ. It depends on the situation on how I act towards other people.
Personality can change depending on the situation. However, cognitive functions do not. If you are infp you will always gather info using ne and si and make decisions based on fi and te. It's impossible for a person to have cognitive functions of infp and intj. I'll give you an example that should demonstrate this. Intution is an unconscious process meaning you have no control over it. Whatever you are naturally attuned to you will use subconsciously; therefore, it is almost impossible to use both ne and ni depending on the situation since it's not in your control.
Not sure which one I am haha. I am more direct with my communication because I don't see a point in being cryptic no offence. So in that way I'm INFJ. But I know what I'm feeling but not others so I'm INFP. I also tend to do more extroverted thinking in that I usually just talk and talk and then go back and correct something I said earlier but I still use my hands a lot without realizing it haha. So I'm both in that way. I tend to think I'm more of an INFP.
To summarize: INFJ talk about other people's problems first. INFP whine about themselves and sometimes even forget the other person is listening. That's Ni+Fe for INFJ, analyzing the situation and using Fe to sorta extend a hand outward. And It's Fi+Ne for the INFP, Fi is relating things to themselves, getting lost in tangents of whining is outwardly expressed with Ne so it's scatterbrained therefore forgetful. TLDR; INFJ = therapists INFP = patient of therapist
Are you an INFJ, GyroLamb? Because you really are one of the sweetest and most understanding people that I have met on RUclips. Sorry. Now I feel mean.
Hey sister, commenting before watching this video past you saying you've taken the test on 6 sites so no bias here one way or the other, but even 6 different tests can make the same mistake. The most accurate is to get tested by an actual certified MBTI practitioner. Even Looking at the cognitive functions for yourself can be misleading especially when dealing with an INTJ or INFJ because Ni is so hard to articulate in words that perhaps one can not properly understand what it is unless they themselves prefer it. So if not it will very possibly be interpreted incorrectly and matched to a function you use that is not actually Ni. But on top of this, the difference between Fi and Fe is very nuanced and easy to get mixed up. So as I said, i haven't watched the full video yet so I have no opinion either way, but I would suggest getting typed by a practitioner. There are two RUclipsrs who are the two I got typed by. One is Joice Meng with Type Talks and the other is Asurapsych! 😊
Hi I'm INFP :) I really like your video and the way you speak and explain this :) But yes I agree with someone who wrote that INFPs are also emphatetic not sympathetic. Oh yes we are full of empathy too! But just showing it in a different way ;) I've just watched a different video when someone said: "INFJs and INFPs empathy is different but it's still the same" :) I really like these words ;) But anyway keep doing a great job! I'd like to watch your other films :)
Hi! I have only recently bumped into the subject of MBTI's and personality types but I am already captivated by it. I have taken different tests and my personality type never comes out as clear. So far, I have figured out that I am a supposed INF, but it is proving to be very hard for me to find out If I am an INFJ or an INFP. Your video is very interesting and informative, but I am still left with lots of doubts as referred to my personality type. I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits to more or less the same level, so I cannot help being really confused. Is there any chance you could give me some advice as to how to solve these doubts I have?
Do you feel internal emotions along with what you show on the outside, or does using Fe feel like autopilot while everything inside is just Ni-Ti with no real internal feelings?
I usually get INFP in the tests, but very sometimes INFJ. And in certain tests between those only, always INFJ. If I was more confident of myself, definitely would be an INFJ. However, I am quite certain at the moment I am definitely INFP :p
+Hannah Riedel You can actually, you views on the world, and in general can change dramatically over the course of your life. Your reactions to situations and so on and so forth can change.
+DutchGuyMike Well of course, but MTBI is not equivalent to those things. It is simply the framework from which you make those decisions. It is your operating system. Its like a mental race. For example, you can change your outer appearance, but you will always be whatever race you are. (Michael Jackson, haha) You can look less like your race over time, but you are still that race. Seriously, look it up, this isn't a matter of opinion. Maybe look into the functions more.
aha..., you have an ISFP mom!!! i was wondering why you have so many bright colors!! like your bright lipstick. you picked up the bright Se colors from your mom. ISFP Fi Se . . . cool thanks for the video, keep 'em comin
Silver Rings haha! yes I would not doubt that this is why I sometimes enjoy bright colors:) The room I am in is actually her room, my room is black and white haha:) thanks for the kind words:)
I'm INFP with a couple INFJ friends, so I've been researching the type. I was curious about the Fe mostly. I feel like I can't trust it, but I realize now that INFJs really do feel however they do because of external factors. I've noticed that some INFJs seem to think we (INFPs) are not aware of other people's feelings. I think the reality is that we are actually aware of our own feelings first, but we do have the ability to assess and choose to divert our attention to another person's feelings instead of our own. That is what I usually always do unless I don't trust the person. We do analyze those feelings for authenticity against our own experiences, and usually, we can tell when someone is faking or exaggerating. Also, it is true that we are not good at planning, but when others are involved I usually do plan, so that others may be included. I don't like when someone is very inflexible or controlling, but I do like to be reliable and to include others. I do know a couple of other INFP friends who are not reliable, and that just goes against my value system, so my Fi. I think one good thing about Fi si that we can choose what belongs there, including planning, harmony, etc.
Haha,i really do use the informing style,i'm generally a subtle kinda person.The funnier part was that i just thought of the last time i wanted to get more milk and said more or less the same thing :P Even if you Te may be a shadow function for you,i still got what you said well.
' Go to the store and get some milk!" ( I'm about to hit this fool.) ' Can you please go get some milk for me." I would said " Yes, i will go get you some milk for you. No problems."
The sympathy thing is interesting.. sorry this whole video is interesting lol thank you for making it.. I wonder how our outwardly-reserved Fi comes across as sympathy to high Fe users, because I usually feel tremendous empathy for underlying emotions I perceive in others, I just may not express it outwardly because I don’t know how to sometimes :/. For example, when I was in high school I ended up talking with someone who’s girlfriend had dumped them, and I guess I just absorbed and internalized their emotional experience so much that I ended up calling a suicide help line that evening. Sounds crazy and ridiculous, but that intense internalization was how I empathized with that person. At its best, though, it allows me to put myself in someone’s shoes I think. Not that infj don’t do that.. idk it’s interesting lol
It's not passive-aggressive, it's just, INP types don't want to impose on other people's decision-making unless it's really a big deal (which by our scale almost nothing in daily life is). We give you the information that the milk is gone, so that -you-can decide whether or not you should get it (or someone else should). We say it because we assume it's not our responsibility (ie, not our turn to buy milk), but we don't want to decide for you that it's yours either - that's up to you to conclude. We hate to shape the lives of others directly, it feels like we're contaminating who you are with our egos.
Well put. Thank you.
Very well put. Do you have any children?
You explained it very well.
That's so very true... thank you
Excellent explanation! This pretty much sums up how I feel. I hate to impose orders on others. I really feel that I used to be an INFJ, as I used to instruct my twin brother directly all the time (ENFP at the time), but now the roles have completely reversed. I am INFP and he's an ESFJ/ESTJ. I am not exactly sure how.
The person making the video is INFJ. The person watching is INFP.
I agree with literally everything but the infp having sympathy. I don't believe that either type have a better or stronger empathy. The thing is how an infp relate's to someone is that they take whatever problem etc and place themselves in it, which is actually the definition of empathy.
An infj usually uses more body language to show that they are listening or caring, but an infp doesn't. For an infp they tend to get silent and almost stoic to show 'hey, you have my full attention," which I guess comes off as not caring, but we do. It's just our Fi function makes it hard to express emotions to others and it feels like it isn't sincere enough.
So, I think people confuse infp's as sympathetic because their empathy isn't as direct but more just felt around the room and for their body language.
+hithere I never stated an INFJ did that and please research what empathy means.
I have an updated version of the empathy of Fi and Fe. Fe is quick and scrapes the surface of the problem, while Fi is slower but much more intense. That is because Fi has such a vast knowledge of emotions and is able to link exactly how you felt right to the core. Fe is capable of that, but they don't have that same large collection of emotions or as natural to them.
I am done proving my point, but you can continue doing whatever, but heads up introverted dominate functions are a lot harder to persuade.
i .candy exactly! I'm sick of the constant insults towards my type just for being authentically and truly who I am. INFPs are wonderful people and do not deserve the amount of hate they receive. They are just as good as any other type.
It's insane how much I can relate to you and your experiences in life. I've been struggling with my type for weeks now. I repeatedly am typed as INFJ, INTJ, INFP, & sometimes even ENFJ in various tests and it has left me just completely frustrated and lost. I really want to reach this sort of self awareness and understanding because I'm constantly struggling with confirming with who I am and what the world (social and parental implications) thinks I should be. I think it's because I just feel so misunderstood and want so desperately to be something that I’m not. So that I can find my niche, belong somewhere, and have this mutual connection with others through human interaction (although, I am most comfortable by myself). Growing up, I desperately wanted not to be seen as the abnormally serious yet gentle person. More frequently than not, most people label me as weird and reserved (In some ways, I am). I just wanted to be accepted and well-liked like my ENFP sister (Oh, how I envied her so). But in a way, I still wanted to hold true my originality and personal integrity. During adolescence, my self image became my obsession. I cared so much about what other people thought of me that I let it influence my decisions and my values. So what had happened was that I began to channel all of these social expectations and implications from my peers, my family, and the world around me to developed this perfect alter-ego. I fooled everyone into thinking that I was this energetic, social butterfly. I became extremely extroverted in public. It's scary how much I got involved in this character that I really started to believe that it wasn't a facade and that is was indeed my reality. I lived in a world of falseness; superficial friends, attitudes, desires. etc. But it wasn't me at all. I just wanted to be the perfect daughter, student, and human being that I lost myself. I took on so many burdens and tasks of others that I began to loathe everything about myself. When I would get home, (I have extremely SJ parents and they have always made me feel trapped, overwhelmed, suppressed, and emotional.) Anxiety and this deep depression would just compel me to sort of fall willingly to its power and might. My anxiety has always been out of hand. At heart, I'm this weak and feeble soul who just cannot express themselves well orally unless it is something that I strongly believe in. I would just bottle everything up and put my feelings aside and put others before mine. My emotions are so overwhelming to the point where I start to submit to them. It causes me to uncontrollably tremble. I feel as if there is this heavy weight on my heart and I find it difficult to breathe or think rationally. I'm always nervous, paranoid, and worried about everything and everyone. Until I couldn't take it anymore. Then, this sort of glass barrier between my feelings, thoughts, emotions and the external world around me would just shatter into a million, bajillion pieces. The outbursts were spontaneous and just down right abrupt. Literature, art, and music have been my creative outlet for dealing with a wide range of emotions and centering myself. Overtime, I slowly started to become more aligned with my values and myself (although, I am still really lost lol). I'm still having a tough time establishing myself in the world and acknowledging my strengths and talents. After coming across with this test, I've come to gain a better understanding of who I am and rareness of my type. I've been researching and sort of obsessing about types and trying to be in touch with who I am. I stumbled across a plethora of INFJ & INFP videos and I think after this video that I can confirm that I am an INFJ and I am not alone and I am proud. I’m just a rare and complex type. I just have to accept that not everyone can appreciate and cope with such uniqueness and complexity with open arms. So, I want to thank you and all other INFJs for speaking out about this rare and beautiful type. You're a beautiful, inspiring person and I will continue hold you and your words deeply in my heart. Thank you, xoxo INFJ
infps are very empathetic because their Ne allows them to see from other perspectives and Fi emulates the feelings
Cognitive functions, people. Study them.
+Scorponizer This ^
I could tell you were INFJ (or, at least not INFP) before you ever said your type. You're way too composed , facially expressive and direct to be an INFP. INFPs eyes tend to drift away as they talk. They tend to pause and get off on tangents a lot more as well. They also have trouble expressing ideas but I think it's when they are thinking in Fi mode rather than your Ni+Ti. Good video, btw.
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I'm an INFP and my fincée is INFJ. We can certainly see the differences.
Thanks for tackling this.
Oh how lovely. And no problem!:)
Wow, I feel bad that the indirect communication style appeared passive agressive. I have to admit that I felt criticized sometimes when people would directly communicate a need with me, as I felt like it was my shortcomings. But I now I'm understanding that it is rather communicating a need. I'm so happy I learned this information.
Yes, very weak Fi drives me crazy. For the longest time I always thought my feelings were my own but came to realize I was constantly feeling for everyone else. DOH! Now I'm on a slow process of tuning in with my own feelings and frequently asking myself "what do I want". I find that if I don't do that very often, I quickly slide back into Fe mode and put everyone else first. It's an interesting experiment, to say the least. :)
My best friend is infp.. I am infj.. The biggest differences... She is so random in her creativity in her mind.. She told me once she might just sit there and imagine a person covered in flowers or see random fairy tale like characters and things in her mind. I do not do that at all. I am creative but not in such a crazy fantasy way, I see things more literally.
Another difference is that she does not really feel other people's feelings. She totally feels her own feelings but they are just there and she knows exactly what they are. She can put them aside and focus on other things and just let them exist on the side. i cant do that. my feelings are in my gut and they are strong and i dont always know exactly what they are but i certainly cant put strong feelings aside and focus on something else. She can care about other people but not actually feel for them deeply as if she were in their shoes. I put myself in people's shoes and feel so strongly for them.
About Knowing things... She loves things being mysterious. She doesn't want to know herself fully, she doesn't want to know me fully, or anything fully. She likes that things are unknown. I want to know EVERYTHING. I want to fully know and understand her and fully know and understand myself. And I want her to fully know me.
Those are the biggest differences that I can think of right now..
Wow! Your experiences totally mirror mine too! My INFP friend is a bit like an ENFP when it comes to working with an idea - shooting stars and confetti! While I happily keep in mind the 'over-view' at all times (say working on film projects for example). Funny side note - we joke about being 'Pinky and The Brain' ... I being 'The Brain'! I often get asked for advice ... which is funny as even if I don't know something in terms of it's raw facts, I usually have the right 'key' that enables the other person to find exactly what they need to know! INFJ's intuition with patterns and connections comes through.
kgrayston yeah you pretty much nailed it, I agree with everything you have stated. I am the same I also want to KNOW everything about other people and myself, whereas I have noticed that INFPs are not the same to this extreme degree.
I'm an INFP and my partner is an INFJ and I disagree with this characterisation of INFP's as less empathetic than INFJs. I fully agree with the point that INFP's are hyper-aware of their own emotions. I am acutely aware of how I feel in a given situation and am never confused about whether I am upset for example. However, I'm also hyper aware of other people's emotions in social situations and am really strongly impacted by them. I will often make myself miserable to avoid apparent harm to someone else (I will even go out of my way to avoid mildly upsetting someone else, even if the lengths I would need to go to would be unreasonable or impractical and I didn't particularly like the person). I think this is quite typical of the INFP personality type, which is why a more informative/indirect conversational style is prevalent in the type (its basically a strategy for conflict avoidance). I also kind of disagree with the point that INFP's don't like to know things 'fully.' I think this is a difference of world view, in that I feel that knowledge is always relational and context dependent. It is not that I don't like to accumulate knowledge and think theoretically about things, I just feel that pinning things down and knowing them 'fully' would not be possible. I find my partner generally much more determinate in her judgements and quicker to act on them (which can be very useful, as it enables her to be decisive and productive), whereas I tend to be more attentive to the grey areas and see point of conflict and contradiction (which can also be useful in that enables me to question established social values and to be willing to see the weak point in an argument, including my own). I also find that her emotions are less sedimented (for example, I may be depressed about the same issue for weeks without coming to any conclusion, whereas she seems to be able to pull herself out of a mood more easily, and in a more purposeful manner). Her emotions seem much more purposeful and tending to move forward to resolution (for example, she wants to practically solve emotional situations, whereas sometimes I get stuck on the level of emotion).
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Really enjoyed reading your response and feedback:) I agree with a lot of what you said except I do think INFJs tend to be more empathetic, but I would say that INFJs and INFPs are both extremely compassionate, kind, and loving, but the way they express and feel their compassion, love, and overall kindness is different I believe. I think you may have misunderstood me I don't necessarily equate empathy with being more kind, more loving, or caring. It's just the way I experience other people's emotions and what other people are going through is entirely different than an INFP might because of my Fe function. I can sometimes feel others pain in my physical body. I think the experience of feeling other people's emotions is very different from the INFP but that is just my personal opinion:) Really relate with what you said about emotions being more purposeful and tending to move toward a resolution, I find myself doing that a lot when I am in an emotional funk. Thanks for your response!
Oh. My. Goodness. Yes! I am also INFJ, and all that you just said makes total sense to me! ❤ I'm not a "hippy" or "flakey", but wouldn't say I'm "emo" or a "nerd" either! I like fairy tales, but don't LIVE in them! Lol Yes, I too like to know EVERYTHING! 😉
Hey. I like your video. Just one thing: as an INFJ i dont tend to direct people by saying "hey go buy some milk". Because I have STP as my inferior process and such chores and detailed instructions are usually run through st, I will usually say "hey, there is no milk!", Alot of nfps will be much more directive when giving detailed instructions, while NFJs are mostly directive about existential issues, how you should live your life, and about complex social issues. :)
+Erik Thor hmmm yeah to be honest after making this video, I am not even sure if I agree with this theory that I talked about in the beginning of my video. I have even debated taking the video down or writing about it in the description :)
hahaha i know how it is, i've been researching the MBTI for a long time, and I keep going back and forth with so many theories, it's never really possible to say anything for certain, and so many exceptions to the rules. :)
Melody Grace what is your theory about this now? As an INFJ I am usually more indirect in communication with people when it involves their freedom. So if I need one thing from them, like milk, I may say that the milk is getting low rather than asking them to go get some, because I prefer they not feel pressured into doing it, because to me even though I prefer to not have to get the milk it is more important that I not impose it on another person. I would prefer to handle it myself if it is a burden on them. Since we infj types feel responsible for others happiness we are not inclined to place our wishes on another person's shoulders directly in making it their responsibility.
Melody Grace I think imposing with direct communication style is something about Introverted and extroverted not specifically for INFX.
But I will pin point that if I will choose between the two, the personality type that will ACT and probably say FIRST that the ‘milk is running out’ probably INFJ.
As an infp thats my least concern, every thing that is not urgent is not my concern unless its my priority at that time and you said to me that you will need it. And you know what, INFP probably the last person to know that the milk is done lol
This sounds funny and simple, and trust me I know all about functions and such. But I'm gonna have some fun here, INFJ = polite voice, more cheery (do you see how she acts in the video? I know an INFJ who acts just like this) even if they are depressed they can act like this or sorta put others first. INFP = more dreary and deadpan, not as expressive, can seem cold even when they are dying inside. So they are almost the opposite of INFJ in this sense. It's easier to tell the difference in the men than the women though. Although the INFP women can seem more deadpan like I said. In the males you really notice this. INFJ men are typically very expressive facially (for a man - not to get into gender roles I don't believe in them but you know what I mean - see how i'm rambling? That's an INFP thing) INFP men can look super cold sometimes. Also INFP are not good with modifying their actions for others. even though theyre NF's. So this makes them seem much more stubborn. I know INFJ's are J's but INFP is infinitely more stubborn. Maybe stubborn isn't the right word, it's more of this like ...clinging to your own identity at all costs thing. INFJ don't really have this identity. Their identity comes through others, they live for other people. INFP live for their own happiness first. This is just FI and Fe at work I guess.
That doesn't mean that we are self centered, however. INFPs have a deep understanding of their own feelings, and are very genuine and compassionate. I am kind, and I hate being told that, because an MBTI theory, that I am selfish and cold. I truly do love to help others. I get a thrill when I give others advice. And I love it when I can make someone happy :) I don't put myself before others, but absorb feelings internally. Does that make me a horrible person?
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This video was amazing. As an INFJ, i think you did a pretty good job explaining and making sense out of the way we think. I would love a part 2 to this.
I'm an INFP. However, I feel what others are feeling and it can really effect me. I try to see things from all different perspectives as well. Sometimes I'm aware of how I feel and sometimes I'm not. Maybe I'm a mix of INFP and INFJ. I do agree with part about not being direct. Often times, if something needs to be taken care of, I'll just do it myself, because I don't want to be rude. Or if I'm having a hard day and need support from friends, I'll often just imply it, but not ask for help.
Yes exactly! And I know what you mean about mis communicating with other types it can be difficult sometimes to gauge. Thanks for commenting love! I have tried replying to you before and could not figure out how to do it and I finally realized I needed to go through Google + first :)
Indeed, I've learnt to try and be diplomatic when it comes to advice giving, as the raw facts - through they are the 'truth' - can be brutal for others to accept. It's that thing where we just know if someone is being authentic or not ... oh that combination of intuition and judging function! ;-) Its a 'thoughy' as we can really see the potential in other people ... but as the saying goes, 'You can take a horse to water, but you can't (and wouldn't want to ...[conflict avoidance]!) force the horse to drink'!
+Miss Melody Each type should make a nation with their own kind, so they communicate efficiently. You'll be the president / queen of INFJland.
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Do you have a video comparing INFP and ISFP? I identify with both of those types.
tbh, i think the directing vs informing style is a bit confusing. INFJs have Ti-Se and sometimes start to inform and do what is less direct, because they base their decisions of this function, while INFPs use Si-Te so they may see a lot of use in just using a direct style of communication. I mean I use both directive and informing styles aha depending on the situation. What sets me apart from INFJs as an INFP, is that I use Ne and I take in information like a suction pipe - one connects to another, and as soon as I learn another piece of information the old just gets thrown out. and Fi not Fe (inner values vs group-oriented values) . or Te and Ti where Te organizes information based on what's most efficient, while Ti analyzes in a framework/inner-clockwork type of sense (analyzing each individual role and seeing how they take place).
I'm an INFJ and my brother is an INFP. This explains a lot of miscommunication that happens between us... Thanks for the video
***** great I am glad it could help clarify some :)
When I first turned this video on, I could see your expression reach your eyes, That's a tell as far as FE , I could tell you were infj right away.
I definitely agree on mistyping, the bit when you said "alot of people that are INFJ's, get mistyped as INFP's", made sense for me. ^^ :*
I've just discovered this video. And I must say thank you. First, you are lovely and very pretty. It was easy to listen to you. Partially because we're similar. I too am an INFJ. I appreciated you sharing that article. It was surprising to find I'm the "directing" communicator. But it is just a part of my personality. And she so accurately described how finding that out can be off putting for INFJs because we see ourselves as more polite than bossy. Which I do. But I've been put in managerial and supervisory roles often because I'm direct. So I guess it's a good thing. I like when people say what they mean. It was refreshing to hear you express the same feelings I have and to know there are others of us out there. Thank you.
+ijustlikemusicandmakeup Hey thanks so much! You are very sweet :) And yes I imagine you would need to use a more direct style of communication in a position like that :)
Great video Melody! Concur completely especially with social 'interaction' - sometimes I'll be asked what I'm feeling and there is no way I can put it into words - but I can tell exactly what someone I only just met is feeling! I have an INFP friend and there have been times when our communication has failed badly - I've had to rely on my intuitive insight to find out what went wrong, and then reach out and mend bridges.
As an highly sensitive INFP, I'd say that INFPs are empathetic as f*ck too. ✌🏻️🙂
The example with when your friend asked you a question and you started bawling, reminds me so much of myself. The other day, my mom asked me a question, and it made me feel offended but I wasn't truly aware at the time. My mother (Enfj, thus strong Fe) picked up I was upset before I did, and when she kept asking me to talk about my feelings and to know why I was sad, I started crying. When we talked about it, I felt so much better and understood what made me feel sad and want to improve myself. Also, with Ti vs Te was so true. I have a very difficult for time putting my thoughts and ideas into the way I want, and I have to use my hands and eyebrows a lot, especially with my INFP friend. 😂 look on tumblr by the way for some more insight, it has a lot of helpful and accurate feed. Thank you for another interesting video, and I hope to see a part two! 😁
This video was so great, and very helpful! Whenever I'm watching your videos, I'll totally get goosebumps and start laughing because it blows my mind how I feel exactly what you describe.
Samantha M. Girl I just love you! Thanks again for the sweet comment! I am glad you could relate:)
Thanks for the video--it was EXTREMELY HELPFUL...
I'm an infp bit I actually find it quite easy to talk to people, even though I'll never be the life of the party. Just the way it is
Thank you for this video! I was previously so confused whether I was an INFP or INFJ, I am certain now of being an INFJ (thanks to your insightful explanation :) Again, thank you for helping me so much to figure this out!
Great video. I thoroughly enjoyed it. As an Infp I find this very true. I often suggest rather than request. Very thought provoking video. I hope you continue make more videos like this one.
Jessica Kennon thanks for your feedback Jessica! It's great to have INFP input:)
Atleast for me, I have to disagree with not knowing how your feeling or what your feeling. (INFJ). I actually am very in touch with what is going on within me and what I am feeling and I always make it a habit to pay attention to myself. I dont react to something without knowing whats going on within me because I always know (most of the time) the reason why there was an emotional response. I personally may be a little out of touch with reality as I zone out some of the time but I am quite aware of myself physically, mentally and emotionally a majority of the time. I also have the ability to even shut off my empathy or even sympathy in certain situations when I dont find it a "big deal" to me. But this is all something I learned over time as I have chosen myself over others in the case of emotional well-being and being authentic and true to my values. I dont sacrifice myself anymore, I never will. Another thing thats mistyped is that the INFJ personality cant take in "new info". I personally feel that the only reason a person can refuse that is because their intuition on the given subject is so intense that the new info doesnt "sit right" with them for whatever reason or no reason at all. And if it just so happens to then it gonna be easy to be enriched by whats being absorbed. Last but not least, I personally dont feel these personality labels are accurate nor should someone identify with them. Sure theyre a guidance but I do feel its not a truth and shouldnt be treated as one as grouping individuals under one thing is never gonna be good or even true. I personally find it very funny that some people who have chosen to identify with being "INFJ" have gladly accepted it as fact and dont see it as being limited or pigeon-holing to a being.
This is an excellent video, concise & interesting. There are a lot of shitty vids on this subject so I appreciate one like this. -INFP
+Kasey B. Hey thank you!
Im an INFP, but what always struck me as weird is my cognitive functions are little off. My extraverted thinking is actually my weakest, where as my introverted intuition is up where my extraverted thinking should be
As an INFP I totally agree about the directing or informing style. I could NEVER be a manager, I actually have ZERO ability to tell other people what to do. I just point things out and figure it's up to you to decide what you want to do.
What's interesting is I am not just one letter off, I am one question off. I was one tick over into the P from the J on the scale. So one question away from being an INFJ and although reading the MBTI summary of the INFJ fits me really well, the INFP summary NAILS IT!
Even though it seems I am so close to being a J, it's not because in any given scenario I am almost as likely to act in a J fashion or a P manner, it's that there are some things where I am VERY J and others where I am VERY P in how I act or perceive.
I'm INFJ. glad to you more about INFJ type on MBTI.
Hey, you look like such a positive person, you are so lovely ! :)
This video was great and so helpful. You did a nice job explaining the difference between INFJ & INFP. Thank you! :)
No Problem! I am glad I could help some:)
I found your video very helpful. Thank you for sharing.
I'm an INFJ in a relationship with an INFP, and I've been seeking ways of understanding some cognitive functioning differences I've picked up on. I especially resonated with that bit about not knowing how you're actually feeling until you identify it in an action, but easily feeling what others are feeling. I've tried to communicate that before, but I think you did a better job here. In my experience, people with dominant introverted feeling functions are often taken aback when they hear how difficult it can be to know one's own emotional landscape.
I wonder, does it seem to take longer for you to process difficult feelings as a result of your dominant extraverted feeling function? It seems to take forever for me. I admire how quickly the Fi-strong people I've known can move through their own feelings. It seems like a super power to me!
+Jeremy Mattocks I really relate to your sentiments. It's like even though I am a feeling type does not mean I understand my own feelings. Fi Vs Fe. I imagine it would be helpful to explain this to a romantic partner Fi- user.
Hey Melody, so I have some imput I'd like to share from personal experiences and observations, and I was hoping to hear your perspective on this. I had taken MBTI before and got INFJ, and the test did describe thing about me very accurately, but it also seemed somewhat limited to how my mind functioned. I've done a lot of research into the cognitive functions and how they present themselves and I noticed that I'm more in tune with my shadow functions than most INFJs that I've met are. I've known about 15 self-professed INFJs in my 23.5 years of existence, and very recently became friends with who's an INFP who I found I relate to much more than I do with a lot of my INFJ friends. After I had gotten to know her a little bit, I noticed she had a bit more persuasive and direct style of communication than what I originally imagined INFPs possessing. There were even times where she would become very assertive and abrasive. There was even one instance where she even made me cry by how forthcoming she was with me. I've noticed with me that, unlike most INFJs, I tend to be very much in touch with how I'm feeling, but like most INFJs I don't shy away from expressing those emotions openly. As for my intuition, there are moments where I form abstract thoughts with an intent to explore possibilities rather than to simply use it for forming conclusions. I've also noticed that I'm much more objective when it comes to addressing and dealing with major issues than most INFJs are. I have an INFJ friend who's very passionate when it comes to politics and will tirelessly argue one side despite how many holes are punched in her philosophies, where as I very much like to objectively weigh the pros and cons of every side before I become passionate about it, and even then, I'm not one to go off emotionally about it, I just straight up tell it like it is and let the facts speak for themselves. And that's not to say I'm not sensitive to and aware of peoples' feelings, but I'm not one to be easily swayed into doing something, just to make room for someone's emotional biases and prejudices. And lastly, with my sensing function, I tend to trust more in what's been historical proven to be more sound or successful, rather than just jump into something impulsively. So what's your take on this? Do think it's possible to bring your shadow functions into balance with your main functions?
This helps me as an infp understanding infjs. I always thought of you guys as Samantha from Her, but I see that it's just your Fe function at work as opposed to Fi. And the direct thing is mostly true, I mean as I mature and develop the Ne, I can see that some people warrant a direct style of communication--not everyone just "gets it."
Perhaps this is why my brother and I have had a lot of problems getting along with each other.
iv been accused of being passive aggressive but this shows me that i'm not being malicious like passive aggressive personality is.
Hi Miss Melody! I enjoyed watching your video. I'm still trying to figure out if I'm an INFJ as opposed to an INFP, as in previous tests I've always been typed as INFP, but in recent ones I've been typed as INFJ. I think I do tend to have the directing style, and I'm somewhat of a control freak, which I know tends to be typical of INFJs. I also need time to process information and like my quiet space for that, which again is typical of INFJs. I also tend to decide on what to do based on how others feel as opposed to how I feel, which tends to make me upset and self-loathing afterwards, which is perhaps how an INFJ also feels. I definitely also tend to express myself better when I write down what I have to say as opposed to verbalising it, also an INFJ trait. I do however think I am in tune with my emotions, but it's hard to express it, which again seems more like an INFJ. But there are some things like wanting to be an individual, not liking routines, and those kind of things, that I identify with, which tends to be typical of an INFP. So I dunno, I see traits of both that I can relate to, and I'm somewhat more leaning towards an INFJ type now, but it's still confusing, so hopefully you could help me figure it out!
It's not hard for INFJ to express emotions, they're actually mirroring the atmosphere of other people's emotions. Cheerily, merrily, and dramatically (not in a bad way, more like in expressively caring way). INFJs rarely talk about their identity as a source of inspiration. They don't hide their own feelings, they're simply unaware of it even if they're clearly expressing it.
Thank you for this video. I've been trying to learn more about myself since I don't really understand me as a person. This video helped me out a lot. By the way you are really pretty.
I'm an infj and it's interesting that u pointed out that we don't know how I'm feeling and I often forget and sometimes don't even realize my alterior motives, if I have any
I don't like to be directed as well I guess other perceiver types. We do understand very well what you are trying to tell.
informal confuses me. I prefer direct. Informal has caused fights with me in the past. A good friend of mine is an isfp she's cool. But anytime she wanted something she used that style and if it's not direct enough it caused alot of fights
Is it weird that when I would take these tests during middle and high-school it would always have INFJ come out but now that I'm in college INFP comes out?
Hmm I would recommend studying the cognitive function functions:) See which you relate to more. Do you relate more with Ni Fe Ti Se or do you relate more with Fi Ne Si Te. If you Google cognitive functions you should be able to find info:)
INFJ Dumbledore will Ni say, "Voldemort is back," and Fe work with others who see things the same way. INFP Luke Skywalker will Fi say, "I have to try [to save Vader] because he Ne suspects that there is still some good in him. Will go off on his own and try to make his belief a reality. INFJ knows and rallies; INFP hopes and imagines.
Is she a Star on the Disney Channel?
Haha no
Before I even knew your type, I could tell you're an INFJ. :) I'm one too, despite sometimes having thought I was P due to disorganisation in some areas of my life as well as relatively high Fi. Your mannerisms, eyes (how intense they are and whenever you stop and think you look to the left upper corner, which I do as well and it's apparently linked to the Ni cognitive process) and just how you speak screamed INFJ to me.
I never really understood the difference between Ti and Te... I'm an INFP with Te, but I still don't know what it does and how it's different from Ti. I know it must have something to do with other people or the world outside. But still thinking seams like such an internal thing. I really recognize myself in you as an INFJ, when you say you need to use your hands to get the information out. Anyway, I would be very grateful if someone would like to explain it to me further :)
infj twice and Isfj once but I still feel like an infj hard to explain.
Awesome video lol, my boy friend is an INFJ and I'm an INFP and it really helped me understand him better! lots of times I ask him questions like how is he feeling about something and he says he doesn't know, and I just never understand how its possible not knowing how you feel lol I mean its you! so thanks that's gonna help me lots lol I need to remember to tell him this
Ever since a friend of mine introduced MBTI to me I have identified as an INFJ. Even more so after reading more up on Jung's theory and MBTI model and the cognitive functions. But I can't help but doubt. Maybe because I am self-typed there is a part of me that is not quite sure. I get even more confused when I try comparing myself to my brother or buddy who are INFP. Feel like there are just so many variables. Quand même.. but just wanted to say thanks. Kind've helped my thoughts.
(I scratched out my previous comment.) Directing communication seems to be a Je thing in general, while informing is more Ji/Pe. So, a J vs P difference. It's interesting how the SFJ, according to Linda Berens, is an exception to this, being informers rather than directors. And how STPs tend to be directors rather than informers. weirdfella.tumblr.com/post/113127769294/a-quick-guide-to-double-checking-your-type-by
Come to think of it, the ISFJ may be the most perceiving of the judging types.
It doesn’t help that as far as Enneagram & MBTI goes, INFJs are more commonly Type 1, 4, 6 & 9 of which 4, 6, 9 are all INFPs more common types too!
HAHAHA my best friend is an INFP and I'm INFJ, and whenever she's indirect with her communication, I GET SO ANNOYED. Now I know! Also, I'm the exact same way as you: I have to talk with my hands to get my thoughts out. And the other day, I said something in response to a question, and I started crying! Didn't know I was going to, but it happened! INFJ sisters. :)
good point about extraverted thinking, when are you gonna make another video?
Thank you. Directive vs. informal = summarizes family conflicts. Mom: "The house is a mess. The floor is dirty. We're out of milk." Dad and me = Okay. Mom: I guess I have to clean it myself. Why do I have to do everything? Us: Why didn't you ask?
I also used to score INFJ all the time. But now I believe I'm ENTJ, so I think tests shouldn't be considered as a reference (though I have scored in some cases NTJ).
Why are people taking tests so seriously? I don't get it. No test is going to change who you are, and nobody is forced to adapt certain behaviours due to a test result.
I like the way you explain things it's not hard for me to understand what your saying unlike other peoples videos ive seen on here,plus i like that you seem expressive not boring in your videos lol.I was hoping you could do a video on how to tell Infp's and Isfp's apart? Ive gotten infp a lot more than isfp,but i feel i can relate more to isfps so a video on how to tell them apart would be greatly appreciated and helpful.Also a video on explaining the functions of each Myers briggs type i think would be very useful too anyways thanks for your videos ive enjoyed them :) ive also subscribed.
I am a INFJ too. The thing is, while I am extremely empathetic I do recognize my own feelings as an INFP would do, and I express them but not always. For example if I am angry with my S.O I will express my feelings so much that is like taking out my heart for him to see. lol But if I am angry with his mother, I just shut up and keep my feelings and opinions to myself.
Also, I use more the INFP's style of communication. And I sound very bossy, but yes I have to recognize I am a bit bossy sometimes. x)
Can you make a video on ESTPs? I'm an INFJ, actually, but my friend is an ESTP and we are a lot different!
fallbackin16 As an IN, I find ES to be very conflicting in many ways. I have learned to be a lot more patient when dealing with these types. I only can deal with the ones that can listen enough to get my point across, even if it's one minute of their time and I see that they are truly listening.
+fallbackin16 .. actually INFJ and ESTP should have the same mind functionality; on how it works... but just in different priorities. the primary mind function for INFJ is the last one for ESTP.. although it's the same (Ni) but is unusable for ESTP type most of the time; while it is the primary function for INFJ type. I believe the most common close mind function for both types is (Fe).. specially if both are outgoing ; ) ... so, in conclusion, you are pretty much similar personalities but with different priorities; that's why you can understand each other; but you can't go with same choice most of the time!!! (let me know what you think!!!)
Thank you, Osama!
Just seeing that you replied, Joel, but I totally agree.
Haven't watched the video yet but I'm happy I found it, becuase until now - when I've done tests - I've got both INFJ and INFP
Hopefully I will figure out which type I am, so thanks for the video :)
thanks and no problem! Best of luck!:)
I recommend studying the cognitive functions:)
Thank you very much :) Miss Melody
nilovenus nilovenus it comes down to the J & P. are you a planner, do you like to get things done as soon as possible or do you procrastinate most of the time? If you are a planner and don't always procrastinate than you are most likely an INFJ.
soulo love I really am both but I need to think about it and figure out how I am most of the time - right now it's hard to choose which one describes me the most. Thank you for the info~ and ur comment :)
I'm stuck between the two, I'm both informal and formal communication depending on who im talking to. Also i find it difficult to explain what im thinking like an INFJ however I do voice it like a INFP and I can tell what people are thinking, feeling, motives are of a person like an INFJ but i know how im feeling like an INFP ARRRGGGHHHHHHH
Are you more comfortable making others feel welcome by giving them distance? Letting them be themselves and letting you be yourself? (INFP’s Fi) Or are you more comfortable making others feel welcome by drawing closer to them and emotionally/socially meeting them where they are? (INFJ’s Fe)
Do you best solve an interpersonal conflict by moving away from others? By working it out on your own and in your own time, coming back to the relationship later with a better understanding? (INFPs Fi) Or do you best solve an interpersonal problem by moving closer to the offended/ing party? Coming to a better understanding now, together? (INFJ’s Fe)
Are your ethics more directed toward ordering your inner world into a hierarchy of values and following those values in the outer world even though the resulting behavior may look strange or alienate you from the social context? Are they more about your responsibility to yourself and therefore to other selves? (INFP’s Fi)
Or are your ethics more concerned with an order for the outside world? With how people should interact with each other? With what a person’s role is in society? With their responsibility to the whole? (INFJ’s Fe)
Is your logic/reasoning more about the flawed, dirty particulars of the real world? Facts about how things (Not people) have worked in the past? (INFP’s Te) Or is your logic/reasoning more about ideal models of reality? Imagined solutions. Theories. Formulas. Ideas about how things (Not people) could or should work? (INFJ’s Ti)
Do you like to look at examples to find underlying principles? (INFP’s Te)
Or do you like to use formulas to reason out solutions? (INFJs Ti)
Oh! I forgot. Smiling. INFJ’s smile freely with other people as part of a social language. INFPs would like to smile only when they’re happy. Smiling for any other reason feels wrong, fake, draining, and/or forced.
Good luck.
lol im pretty much all of that but as for the smiling thing i smile at everyone :Dx
There is a possibility that you might not be infj or infp so keep that in mind. The easiest way to tell between the two is to learn the functions. Once you learn the functions properly there is no way you can't distinguish between the two types since they share no common functions. With that being said the biggest factor in deciding whether or not a person is infj or infp is how they make decisions. Infjs takes a long time to make decisions since their first function gathers information. Infps would not suffer this problem since their first function is an action function.
k There are people with multiple personalities too also.Do not forget that.I think I am both INFP and INTJ. It depends on the situation on how I act towards other people.
Personality can change depending on the situation. However, cognitive functions do not. If you are infp you will always gather info using ne and si and make decisions based on fi and te. It's impossible for a person to have cognitive functions of infp and intj. I'll give you an example that should demonstrate this. Intution is an unconscious process meaning you have no control over it. Whatever you are naturally attuned to you will use subconsciously; therefore, it is almost impossible to use both ne and ni depending on the situation since it's not in your control.
Use Ni and Ti before the making of video as a script and then follow it and express it with Fe , infj tips ;)
I am an INFJ & ENFJ and you are so sweet :) I am moroccan living in France and I wanna visit US :)
I'm very direct in communication. For example so and so can you pay pal me. Or for my band I'll say when do y'all want to jam this day or that day.
Not sure which one I am haha. I am more direct with my communication because I don't see a point in being cryptic no offence. So in that way I'm INFJ. But I know what I'm feeling but not others so I'm INFP. I also tend to do more extroverted thinking in that I usually just talk and talk and then go back and correct something I said earlier but I still use my hands a lot without realizing it haha. So I'm both in that way. I tend to think I'm more of an INFP.
To summarize: INFJ talk about other people's problems first. INFP whine about themselves and sometimes even forget the other person is listening. That's Ni+Fe for INFJ, analyzing the situation and using Fe to sorta extend a hand outward. And It's Fi+Ne for the INFP, Fi is relating things to themselves, getting lost in tangents of whining is outwardly expressed with Ne so it's scatterbrained therefore forgetful. TLDR; INFJ = therapists INFP = patient of therapist
GyroLamb
'INFP's whine about themselves' I am INFP and literally never tell any of my close ones about my problems.
Are you an INFJ, GyroLamb? Because you really are one of the sweetest and most understanding people that I have met on RUclips.
Sorry. Now I feel mean.
Hey sister, commenting before watching this video past you saying you've taken the test on 6 sites so no bias here one way or the other, but even 6 different tests can make the same mistake. The most accurate is to get tested by an actual certified MBTI practitioner. Even Looking at the cognitive functions for yourself can be misleading especially when dealing with an INTJ or INFJ because Ni is so hard to articulate in words that perhaps one can not properly understand what it is unless they themselves prefer it. So if not it will very possibly be interpreted incorrectly and matched to a function you use that is not actually Ni. But on top of this, the difference between Fi and Fe is very nuanced and easy to get mixed up. So as I said, i haven't watched the full video yet so I have no opinion either way, but I would suggest getting typed by a practitioner. There are two RUclipsrs who are the two I got typed by. One is Joice Meng with Type Talks and the other is Asurapsych! 😊
Hi I'm INFP :) I really like your video and the way you speak and explain this :) But yes I agree with someone who wrote that INFPs are also emphatetic not sympathetic. Oh yes we are full of empathy too! But just showing it in a different way ;) I've just watched a different video when someone said: "INFJs and INFPs empathy is different but it's still the same" :) I really like these words ;) But anyway keep doing a great job! I'd like to watch your other films :)
INFP does fine with Te?? LOL Not really!!! We value it but it's hard to access fully. We are weak in Te and Se just like INFJ.
Good job with the explanation.
Hi! I have only recently bumped into the subject of MBTI's and personality types but I am already captivated by it. I have taken different tests and my personality type never comes out as clear. So far, I have figured out that I am a supposed INF, but it is proving to be very hard for me to find out If I am an INFJ or an INFP. Your video is very interesting and informative, but I am still left with lots of doubts as referred to my personality type. I can relate to both INFJ and INFP traits to more or less the same level, so I cannot help being really confused. Is there any chance you could give me some advice as to how to solve these doubts I have?
Do you feel internal emotions along with what you show on the outside, or does using Fe feel like autopilot while everything inside is just Ni-Ti with no real internal feelings?
The article was very useful thank you so much 😊❤️
I usually get INFP in the tests, but very sometimes INFJ.
And in certain tests between those only, always INFJ.
If I was more confident of myself, definitely would be an INFJ.
However, I am quite certain at the moment I am definitely INFP :p
you can't change types. look into the functions of each type to help you better understand which you are. :) INFJ and INFP share no common functions.
+Hannah Riedel You can actually, you views on the world,
and in general can change dramatically over the course of your life.
Your reactions to situations and so on and so forth can change.
+DutchGuyMike Well of course, but MTBI is not equivalent to those things. It is simply the framework from which you make those decisions. It is your operating system. Its like a mental race. For example, you can change your outer appearance, but you will always be whatever race you are. (Michael Jackson, haha) You can look less like your race over time, but you are still that race. Seriously, look it up, this isn't a matter of opinion. Maybe look into the functions more.
Im kinda both.. So im not sure. i keep getting INFJ on my tests. im visual. im sorta quiet idk so.
Do you use circle lens? :3
no:)
Are you a 2 on the Enneagram ?
I am now quite sure that I am an infp
Thank you for this
And I was interested with your way of explanation👌👏😍❤
naw I cant stand when people are indirect "we don't have any more milk."
all that makes me think is "that's great, your point?"
aha..., you have an ISFP mom!!!
i was wondering why you have so many bright colors!! like your bright lipstick. you picked up the bright Se colors from your mom. ISFP Fi Se . . . cool
thanks for the video, keep 'em comin
Silver Rings haha! yes I would not doubt that this is why I sometimes enjoy bright colors:)
The room I am in is actually her room, my room is black and white haha:) thanks for the kind words:)
Silver Rings she is also an art major, so that may also have something to do with it:)
I'm INFP with a couple INFJ friends, so I've been researching the type. I was curious about the Fe mostly. I feel like I can't trust it, but I realize now that INFJs really do feel however they do because of external factors. I've noticed that some INFJs seem to think we (INFPs) are not aware of other people's feelings. I think the reality is that we are actually aware of our own feelings first, but we do have the ability to assess and choose to divert our attention to another person's feelings instead of our own. That is what I usually always do unless I don't trust the person. We do analyze those feelings for authenticity against our own experiences, and usually, we can tell when someone is faking or exaggerating. Also, it is true that we are not good at planning, but when others are involved I usually do plan, so that others may be included. I don't like when someone is very inflexible or controlling, but I do like to be reliable and to include others. I do know a couple of other INFP friends who are not reliable, and that just goes against my value system, so my Fi. I think one good thing about Fi si that we can choose what belongs there, including planning, harmony, etc.
Haha,i really do use the informing style,i'm generally a subtle kinda person.The funnier part was that i just thought of the last time i wanted to get more milk and said more or less the same thing :P Even if you Te may be a shadow function for you,i still got what you said well.
I wonder if this girl is still around... :/
I yelled at some one and realized I'm pissed. lol
' Go to the store and get some milk!" ( I'm about to hit this fool.)
' Can you please go get some milk for me." I would said " Yes, i will go get you some milk for you. No problems."
INFJs are almost there
INFPs are past there
Amazing video.
You are very kind😘
The sympathy thing is interesting.. sorry this whole video is interesting lol thank you for making it.. I wonder how our outwardly-reserved Fi comes across as sympathy to high Fe users, because I usually feel tremendous empathy for underlying emotions I perceive in others, I just may not express it outwardly because I don’t know how to sometimes :/. For example, when I was in high school I ended up talking with someone who’s girlfriend had dumped them, and I guess I just absorbed and internalized their emotional experience so much that I ended up calling a suicide help line that evening. Sounds crazy and ridiculous, but that intense internalization was how I empathized with that person. At its best, though, it allows me to put myself in someone’s shoes I think. Not that infj don’t do that.. idk it’s interesting lol
you are infj ??
I'm an old man. I hope I get some views!
Good thoughts :) you are very pretty btw
Veronica Watson thanks, your so sweet:)
Go get me some milk
This weekend... click on the camera and do it again. you make great vids :-)
Silver Rings thanks so much for kindness:)