I'm sorry for that! But hey love yourself and everybody else will love you too! I been to that too for the last few months and for the new year I said I will finally let him go. I went back to school this week (We are a class of 9 and I'm the only girl) and I sended a Picture of me around on Snapchat and guess what all of them gave me compliments and it felt so good! So love yourself let him go and be confident!💕
Michaela Jarošiová you’ll be ok, remember that now you can do all the things you never could with him, eat all the food he didn’t like, travel where he didn’t want to go, watch all the series he couldn’t get into and meet new amazing people!!
It gets old. I could appreciate alone time in increments but when it’s because you have no choice , you don’t appreciate or enjoy it as much because it’s endless . If I were in a loving relationship , I can guarantee I’d enjoy my alone time better KNOWING that I’ll soon be back with my SO or spouse.
“I don’t ever want to lose myself to people.” Thank you! Finally someone who gets it! It’s not about being anti social it’s about having a sense of tranquility and getting rid of the fear of not being with or around people. I’m a very social person but I can be happy alone and not feel the need to have someone there by my side 24/7! Thank you for the amazing video❤️
Rachelleea, I love your videos! I enjoy my alone time too. I try to wake up an hour before the boys wake up, make myself a cup of coffee and sit by myself to reflect. I love it and it makes me feel so much better!
Hi, this is the first time I write in the comment section of one of your videos, and I just wanted to know, how much time does it takes? Maybe it's a stupid question but, how much time does it takes to be comfortable to be alone because I've been suffering for so much time over a person that doesn't love me anymore and I just want to change, I don't want to suffer anymore. Sorry about the grammar, english is not my first language.
Rachelleea i have faced heartbreak ....and its all becz i want someone to be with me..... i want someone to love me care for me ..but yeah now i m trying to learn to live happy alone...i making myself practicle... and to love amd care myself .....please do upload such video please....ur experience can help people like me...to move and live life happily...
ILove your videos Rachel, would love to hear that too, also I can't find the video you had of depression and getting over it (I think you had one), you actually help me a lot, especially with organizing, you are such an inspiration, you also make me want to be a better person, be more like you and I am also on anti-depression medication (have some problems still, even tho' it's getting better) :) In the upcoming videos it would be really good to hear how to be alone and work on yourself like you mentioned here, because I have a boyfriend at the moment, of 2 years and I have the situation you described in this video.-with being obsessed and controling me/my life...sorry probably tmi, but just wanted to write it.. I really want to find myself, become my own person and be able to support myself like you :)
I'm an introver and being alone is the most important thing in my life :P BUT many people don't understand that and they think I am antisocial or something. Bun I'm not, I love people but I prefer being one on one or in a small group. It used to be sad to me but now I don't care what others think.
I've been a "alone - time" person all my life. If I don't get that space to just chill away from everyone and everything at leat half an hour a day it is very destructive for me. Space to fiddle around in a junk drawer, to write or just read a comic book. It's healing and gives me clarity and rest mentally.
I Feel so very alone here at college, i literally have nobody to hang out with, and ive been dealing with this loneliness since last year, i do enjoy being alone and doing things on my own but sometimes its just a bit hard on those times I do wish I could just hang out with someone. Needed this video right now :)
I used to feel lonely having time myself and feel like when somebody else just runs out of my life that I'm left with nothing...but now i know I have me! :) Thanks this really helped me!
My favorite ME time activity is going to the gym. Yes there are people there. But I am pretty introverted, so I just put on my head phones, listen to my favorite music and work out any unclear thoughts, negative emotions ect for a hour or so and it really paves the way for a good rest of the day.
Let me tell you something, this is the fifth time I am watching this video, everytime I want to remember why i AM Alone, why I choose to stay alone ... I search you in youtube
What things did you do or try to manage your anxiety? I loved this video thank you so much. I don’t always enjoy being alone, but those I want to be with aren’t always available.
O M G! I’m on this journey of self help and discovery and I’m working towards all these things you been talking about. Gives me hope to see people already there! Best wishes
Spoken like a true Leo, especially the part about relying on one's self. I used to be "that" person, but as I have gotten older and wiser, I prefer to be alone. I see people occasionally and usually book plans a month in advance with someone because I covet my alone time so much. There just aren't enough hours in the day to get done what needs to get done as it is, and I don't have time to listen to someone go on about problems they refuse to do anything about. Ain't nobody got time for that. I enjoy the quiet time with my fur kids, work, and my small but well loved tribe. That's all I need. I'm not inspired to make a vid like this one. Thanks so much.
I really enjoy being alone! My boyfriend was on a 5 days trip and I was alone at home for the past 5 days. It feels amazing having my own routine and have "me-time" to really get to develop my self-awareness. Also more importantly, I learned to control my easily-got-influenced emotions instead of spreading negativity onto the people around me. I totally agree to the points you've mentioned in the video. It does strengthen any relationship. Great video Rachel
Renny Wang you wouldn’t enjoy being alone if you knew your boyfriend was never coming back. THAT is the difference. I could enjoy being alone too for five days if I knew I had a boyfriend coming home soon.
I want to learn to do things alone ... I skip classes just because I don't want to go to school alone and I have let a lot of opportunities pass me by because my friends do not want to do it ... And I am tired but I still feel like I need people
Allie Stephens it can get better. Sometimes I think it's about what you do with the alone time. If you do something really fun and indulge in a "guilty pleasure" when your alone it can become a treat and not an anxious thing. But like with everything else I think the first couple of times are hard and scary!
Like me going to see the minions movie by myself late night on a weekday. So silly, so indulgent and so enjoyable! I'm 35 yrs old so going to see the minions is not exactly what I'm expected to be doing on my spare time hahaha!
Wow your point on what people decide to do with their side of the relationship and your perspective on that, so valuable, such a good way of thinking. Thank you Rachel.
Loved this video!! Love you! I live alone and have for years...i love it BUT how do you deal with loneliness? THAT is what I struggle with all the time.
Absolutely this!!! It took me til my mid thirties to know this, you are so lucky to have gained this knowledge at your age. People still judge me and cannot understand why i choose to be single after 10years. I love it!!
I am married (15 years) and have two boys. One of the biggest things I have learnt over the years was to really enjoy my alone time. When I was younger and early married life I would never go anywhere on my own. But I have learnt to embrace it and I even enjoy it. Even when you are married it is really important for both of you to have time doing your own stuff. It can be something as simple as going to a movie by yourself. It helps you recharge, and even give more to your relationship making it stronger. This is a great video Rachel! Well said.
Secretly I enjoy when hubby goes somewhere without me (like golf or a camping trip over night is great) as it gives me time to myself to potter around and do the things I love which is blogging, photos, organising oh and watching youtube...LOL. Oh and I love it when he comes home too. Enjoying being alone is a must have in life IMO. xx
Wow, I love my alone time. I’m recently divorced and it was one of the worst things I’ve ever gone through. I’ve always been independent and never felt I needed someone to feel validated. Even when I was married I spent lots of time by myself. Such a good video
My number one goal this year is to get better with this. I've experience severe anxiety in the past, and even though it's definitely getting better and panic attacks are wayyy less frequent, I still struggle with this in fear that I'll make myself anxious again. thanks for this video Rachel it helped a lot! And also congratulation on how far you've come, it's been amazing to watch you grow all these years x
I'm a flight attendant, often I'm in a city alone somewhere in the world and I go get lunch / dinner / exploring on my own. It's not because I don't have friends, I'm there for work and I have to eat, get out of my hotel room. I guess what I'm saying is, no one knows your situation, just like you don't know theirs, don't worry about what they might think, most of the time you won't even get a second look. Just do what you have to do for yourself and make yourself happy.
Hello, this was amazing! I just found your channel and I totally needed this. Thank you so much and God bless you, this was perfect. This gave me a glass totally full instead of a glass half-empty, or glass half-full mentality on being alone, thanks so much!
I love being alone as well! I hate how being alone is often perceived as being synonymous with being "lonely." There is a major difference between the two.
Being so connected and dependent on others really does take a toll on our ability to be as effective in finding success, being positive and generally happy. I have had to deal with and learn this myself! Great vid!
I lost my daily alone time...which I loved. Working to build in alone time again. I totally notice a difference in myself when I don't get my alone time.
Love this video so much I've always been a loner and have loved my alone time forever most of my friends don't understand it and it annoys me when people bombard me to hang out i work best alone, im most motivated alone and my best ideas come when I am alone. All the great people who have amounted enormous success loved their alone time as well.
I'm an introvert, so being alone is what I do. I have friends, but very few that I can really open up to. I take time to warm up to people. Now that I'm 28, I'm losing most of those close friends to jobs and marriages. And I have not been progressing much in life this past year. Being alone with my thoughts only make me feel more aware of how lacking I am. I love taking long drives alone and listening to music or motivational talks. But somehow, it's so hard to keep my thoughts positive. I only get motivated for an hour at most, then my thoughts grow darker. I really need help.
I have to learn to be alone I get attached and long for that person but when they leave what are you left with? That feeling. I don't want that anxious feeling. So let me tune in to this
I've been single for 17 years...currently I love it! But that wasn't always the case. It wasn't through choice in the beginning but then as time went on I gradually started doing a lot more on my own and begin to have feelings of gratitude and happiness. It took me longer than 2 years (not that it matters - length of time is irrelevant) but independence is underrated. I have mixed opinions from other people - some think it's "weird" some people say would give anything just to have some time alone, others imply it's selfish. Again all opinions - doesn't equal what it is or how I'm feeling 😊 great video xx
💯 % true about loving being alone in a relationship. This was a huge turning point in our relationship after four years together and possibly the key to our 13yr relationship. We have three kids together now so I appreciate my alone time even more now 😄
I also live by myself and take advantage of alone time as much as I can. Love this. Great video and thanks for sharing for the world who are afraid of being alone ❤️ It’s all about self-love!
Thank you so much for this video! I really need these tipps now after recognizing some friends aren‘t real friends anymore and my parents getting divorced. I kind of started spending more time with myself and I see how good it makes me feel. Your words are so true 💜
love this video! ive been having alot of prblems and anxiety about this but I feel the need to live and be alone more coming from a deeper place in me.
This is so relating. Thank you for sharing. I used to be that person and had to go through my own steps to be able to feel comfortable being alone. I also find that being alone makes you really appreciate your time being with the people you care about even more!
Thank you so much!! I just moved out on my own for university, and I live far so I don't really have many friends or people around me. I really needed to see this video, because I always research how to make the most of alone time. Even the other comments are really a nice exchange of encouragement. So thank you. 😘
I like to spend the alone time with me is with the mug of coffee and feel the silence in the gallery.Or I live to go in the open space feel the nature beauty or to watch the clouds.One of the favorite alone moment to spend time in rainy season for me.😘😘😘💓💓
I really needed this video!💕 I recently got out of a relationship, and college starts Tuesday. I'm gonna be alone more than ever so pleaseeeeee make more videos on this topic! ❤️
I NEEDED to hear this. Wow. I always go running to people for emotional support, mostly my ex. I have no idea how to do it on my own. But this will be my new challenge. So glad I came across your video 💕 thank you.
This is such a great reminder. One thought I had during your video; Maybe your next video can be about being patient in a relationship. I feel like it's something a lot of people struggle with, especially me.
thats such a great idea :) my current relationship has taken its time, its been slow and its still going to be slow, we're not getting married anytime soon haha
Hi Rachelleea I love this video, love your advices . I am going through really hard time with my job, my relationship, visa , financially I moved here to Australia by myself 4 years ago and at the begging I was alone, Then 8 month later I met my ex bf and since then I never been alone again. You are completely right when you say we have to count just on us no one else . I m having fights every single day with my boyfriend for the past 4 months and maybe is because I can't enjoy time alone and I feel insecure. Maybe is because we don't meant to be together . Last night we had a huge argument who cost us no sleep, destroyed house and no energy for work the next day ( we both had to call sick in places where we just started to work ) After last night we gave our relationship the LAST LAST CHANCE . But honestly just the idea of leaving him and be alone without family or friends it freaks me out sooo much :( :( That s not how it should be . Anyway thank you very much to share this with us xoxo Ketty
Your an inspiration and i have no doubt that I was meant to see this video today - Every single thing you said is what i want to feel and where I want to be emotionally- I am about to begin my journey and move away & I Cant wait!!
My problem is I don't know what to do when I'm alone. Like I want to do different things than other people. I'm on my phone a lot and I sometimes read, draw, excerise but I wanna do things that are different and make me different from other people. But I don't wanna take any pay to do activities. Help anyone? Sorry if this doesn't make sense! Love you girl thank you so much for making this video.
Wow before i watched this video i actually didn’t realise that i have learned to love being alone in the past year and half. I loved this video and you gave so many good advices to others. Keep up the good work! ☺️
I could't agree with you more.. my boyfriend and I were having a pretty rough time because we were just on each others lips all the time and we didn't actually made time for ourselves, only for eachother.. I told him that I just wanted to be with myself (but also with him) and now we are messaging eachother not as often and we don't see eachother as often anymore, and to be honest: I LOVE IT. I swear that I've learned that being alone is actually the best quality-time ever, I love being alone and I'm gonna move out the house and live by myself this year, I literally CAN'T wait!!!! ☺️☺️
That sounds like things are becoming amazing for you :) I think my favourite thing about my boyfriend and I not texting every day is we get the chance to miss each other and then the time we spend together is more appreciated and we always have so much to talk about :)
Rachelleea exactly!! To be honest I only missed him very badly when I went on vacation or weekends away, now I'm just longing for the talks at the end of a day and that, I think, is much much healthier for your relationship and for yourself. Happy to hear you guys are doing great too :) xx
Thank youuuuu oh so much for this video!!!! This topic and video comes in a right time in my life. Alone from romantic and family relationships. What really does scares me, is asking myself - who would be my emergency contact? Who would I turn to if I was in a (God forbid) dangerous / worrisome situation? But other than that- I know being alone can be healthy and ones life can still be a happy one. 😊😊😊
Your videos are so incredible. I've recently discovered your vids and it's so nice to see someone else with similar values to me! They're so uplifting.
Amazing stuff today! I am always alone in my house but I am always on internet or social media and I tried to be away from my phone a lot of times but could not do anything! I guess I need to go for a morning walk or something keeping my phone at home so that I get away from social media habit! This video is certainly helpful to know the benefits of living alone! I have got so much time to be alone and I know I am not utilizing it well! But I will certainly try this after watching this video! Thank you Rachel!
I love this. I agree being alone is so important. I absolutely love being alone, I find it calming and motivating and overall healing to myself. Great video, Rachel! xoxo
I’m stuck at home for 1,5 weeks now after I had surgery.. can’t do a lot because of the medication I have to take. (Oxycodone) I’m bored as hell and can’t really leave the house. Please give me some tips for nice things to do on your own that don’t drain to much energy 😖😖 ❤️
this was beautifully said. definitely it is something more of us need to do. I live alone but I agree with everything you said, it hasn't been two years like you but I can definitely see progress and how it continues to shape me for the better. My question for you is- how do you deal with the challenges being alone? How do u overcome them? What tips and tricks do you have to overcoming that negative mentality when faced with bad situations? Love this vid ❤️
Hi! Like some other commenters I'm fine being alone and doing my thing during the day, but the nights are the toughest. I come from a very social family, so I can feel lonely and sad spending downtime and evenings alone. It's also hard to always go out places if you don't have a lot of money to go to clubs, movies, dinner, coffeeshops, shopping, etc. Do you have any tips on how to not feel so alone in the evenings? To improve mental health while making the transition to living alone? Thanks!
You are talking about supporting yourself when you have an emotional problem. What do you do to support yourself? How can you make a problem solve earlier that you don't feel awefull all day or a couple of days?
I haven’t watched your channel before but RUclips “recommended” this video for me, they know what’s up aha. But yeah I really struggle with this so thank you for this video 🙏🏽
Useful video ! I love it and I couldn't agree more with you. It's so important enjoing of being alone. To feel better with ourselfs and with others. To be more confident. Thank you for this video ! See you ! 🌹💖
Hello beautiful! I think being alone is great, I have been doing it for quite some time but remember you also need emotional support from friends and family! No man is an island, we need each other in order to grow! I love you x
being alone or just simply having alone time with yourself is great. you learn more about yourself, it helps you grow, and reflect on things. ❤
Just broke up with my boyfriend.... This is exactly what i needed to hear ❤
let him go, you got this
Rachelleea thank you girl 💞
I'm sorry for that! But hey love yourself and everybody else will love you too! I been to that too for the last few months and for the new year I said I will finally let him go. I went back to school this week (We are a class of 9 and I'm the only girl) and I sended a Picture of me around on Snapchat and guess what all of them gave me compliments and it felt so good! So love yourself let him go and be confident!💕
Sarah Lane yes i know you are right, I have let him go and i am happy that im out of such a toxic relationship 😊
Michaela Jarošiová you’ll be ok, remember that now you can do all the things you never could with him, eat all the food he didn’t like, travel where he didn’t want to go, watch all the series he couldn’t get into and meet new amazing people!!
I'm like an expert at being alone!!
The Bedtime Production lol, I can relate to you.
Relatable
Teach me
Same here
The Bedtime Production same
It gets old. I could appreciate alone time in increments but when it’s because you have no choice , you don’t appreciate or enjoy it as much because it’s endless . If I were in a loving relationship , I can guarantee I’d enjoy my alone time better KNOWING that I’ll soon be back with my SO or spouse.
“I don’t ever want to lose myself to people.” Thank you! Finally someone who gets it! It’s not about being anti social it’s about having a sense of tranquility and getting rid of the fear of not being with or around people. I’m a very social person but I can be happy alone and not feel the need to have someone there by my side 24/7! Thank you for the amazing video❤️
if you have any questions about being alone feel free to leave them in the comments :) have an amazing day
Rachelleea, I love your videos! I enjoy my alone time too. I try to wake up an hour before the boys wake up, make myself a cup of coffee and sit by myself to reflect. I love it and it makes me feel so much better!
Hi, this is the first time I write in the comment section of one of your videos, and I just wanted to know, how much time does it takes? Maybe it's a stupid question but, how much time does it takes to be comfortable to be alone because I've been suffering for so much time over a person that doesn't love me anymore and I just want to change, I don't want to suffer anymore. Sorry about the grammar, english is not my first language.
Rachelleea i have faced heartbreak ....and its all becz i want someone to be with me..... i want someone to love me care for me ..but yeah now i m trying to learn to live happy alone...i making myself practicle... and to love amd care myself .....please do upload such video please....ur experience can help people like me...to move and live life happily...
ILove your videos Rachel, would love to hear that too, also I can't find the video you had of depression and getting over it (I think you had one), you actually help me a lot, especially with organizing, you are such an inspiration, you also make me want to be a better person, be more like you and I am also on anti-depression medication (have some problems still, even tho' it's getting better) :)
In the upcoming videos it would be really good to hear how to be alone and work on yourself like you mentioned here, because I have a boyfriend at the moment, of 2 years and I have the situation you described in this video.-with being obsessed and controling me/my life...sorry probably tmi, but just wanted to write it..
I really want to find myself, become my own person and be able to support myself like you :)
Rachelleea love your vids. Keep it up. Love to meet up some time maybe. Such a chilled cool person
I'm an introver and being alone is the most important thing in my life :P
BUT many people don't understand that and they think I am antisocial or something. Bun I'm not, I love people but I prefer being one on one or in a small group. It used to be sad to me but now I don't care what others think.
Nysiek PL I'm the same way.
Me too.
Me 3
I've been a "alone - time" person all my life. If I don't get that space to just chill away from everyone and everything at leat half an hour a day it is very destructive for me. Space to fiddle around in a junk drawer, to write or just read a comic book. It's healing and gives me clarity and rest mentally.
Nothiing wrong with being alone. I crave it when life gets overwhelming...
Same, Im sitting alone in the dark right now watching the rain outside, its so peaceful
I Feel so very alone here at college, i literally have nobody to hang out with, and ive been dealing with this loneliness since last year, i do enjoy being alone and doing things on my own but sometimes its just a bit hard on those times I do wish I could just hang out with someone. Needed this video right now :)
jojoluvsyoux I am in the exact same position. But we can do it.
I could not agree more with why being alone is so important. So glad you made a video on this!
I used to feel lonely having time myself and feel like when somebody else just runs out of my life that I'm left with nothing...but now i know I have me! :) Thanks this really helped me!
Struggling alone in school people just need me when they need something so I'm learning to live alone and happy
My favorite ME time activity is going to the gym. Yes there are people there. But I am pretty introverted, so I just put on my head phones, listen to my favorite music and work out any unclear thoughts, negative emotions ect for a hour or so and it really paves the way for a good rest of the day.
You spoke so much in this video. As an introvert, i know Alone time is so important. Even for extroverts.
Let me tell you something, this is the fifth time I am watching this video, everytime I want to remember why i AM Alone, why I choose to stay alone ... I search you in youtube
What things did you do or try to manage your anxiety? I loved this video thank you so much. I don’t always enjoy being alone, but those I want to be with aren’t always available.
O M G! I’m on this journey of self help and discovery and I’m working towards all these things you been talking about. Gives me hope to see people already there! Best wishes
Spoken like a true Leo, especially the part about relying on one's self. I used to be "that" person, but as I have gotten older and wiser, I prefer to be alone. I see people occasionally and usually book plans a month in advance with someone because I covet my alone time so much. There just aren't enough hours in the day to get done what needs to get done as it is, and I don't have time to listen to someone go on about problems they refuse to do anything about. Ain't nobody got time for that. I enjoy the quiet time with my fur kids, work, and my small but well loved tribe. That's all I need. I'm not inspired to make a vid like this one. Thanks so much.
You literally just killed all my anxiety for the time being, just by this video. Thank you 🥺💕
I really enjoy being alone! My boyfriend was on a 5 days trip and I was alone at home for the past 5 days. It feels amazing having my own routine and have "me-time" to really get to develop my self-awareness. Also more importantly, I learned to control my easily-got-influenced emotions instead of spreading negativity onto the people around me. I totally agree to the points you've mentioned in the video. It does strengthen any relationship. Great video Rachel
Renny Wang you wouldn’t enjoy being alone if you knew your boyfriend was never coming back. THAT is the difference. I could enjoy being alone too for five days if I knew I had a boyfriend coming home soon.
This is something am still learning. It feels hard at times but am slowly learning why its so important to be self sufficient
I want to learn to do things alone ... I skip classes just because I don't want to go to school alone and I have let a lot of opportunities pass me by because my friends do not want to do it ... And I am tired but I still feel like I need people
I wish I could enjoy being alone more. I love it during the day but at night time I hate it and I never enjoy going out anywhere alone
Allie Stephens it can get better. Sometimes I think it's about what you do with the alone time. If you do something really fun and indulge in a "guilty pleasure" when your alone it can become a treat and not an anxious thing. But like with everything else I think the first couple of times are hard and scary!
Like me going to see the minions movie by myself late night on a weekday. So silly, so indulgent and so enjoyable! I'm 35 yrs old so going to see the minions is not exactly what I'm expected to be doing on my spare time hahaha!
At night I love to tidy up my house, put on a face mask, have a bath or read a book
Yes, exactly! I love being alone during the day but when the evening comes, I get super anxious and can't handle it :(
Get a kitty or dog, they are great company!
Wow your point on what people decide to do with their side of the relationship and your perspective on that, so valuable, such a good way of thinking. Thank you Rachel.
Loved this video!! Love you! I live alone and have for years...i love it BUT how do you deal with loneliness? THAT is what I struggle with all the time.
Absolutely this!!! It took me til my mid thirties to know this, you are so lucky to have gained this knowledge at your age. People still judge me and cannot understand why i choose to be single after 10years. I love it!!
I am married (15 years) and have two boys. One of the biggest things I have learnt over the years was to really enjoy my alone time. When I was younger and early married life I would never go anywhere on my own. But I have learnt to embrace it and I even enjoy it. Even when you are married it is really important for both of you to have time doing your own stuff. It can be something as simple as going to a movie by yourself. It helps you recharge, and even give more to your relationship making it stronger. This is a great video Rachel! Well said.
Secretly I enjoy when hubby goes somewhere without me (like golf or a camping trip over night is great) as it gives me time to myself to potter around and do the things I love which is blogging, photos, organising oh and watching youtube...LOL. Oh and I love it when he comes home too. Enjoying being alone is a must have in life IMO. xx
Wow, I love my alone time. I’m recently divorced and it was one of the worst things I’ve ever gone through. I’ve always been independent and never felt I needed someone to feel validated. Even when I was married I spent lots of time by myself. Such a good video
I WILL NEVER GET OVER YOUR THUMBNAILSS😍🌎💭x
My number one goal this year is to get better with this. I've experience severe anxiety in the past, and even though it's definitely getting better and panic attacks are wayyy less frequent, I still struggle with this in fear that I'll make myself anxious again. thanks for this video Rachel it helped a lot! And also congratulation on how far you've come, it's been amazing to watch you grow all these years x
I'm a flight attendant, often I'm in a city alone somewhere in the world and I go get lunch / dinner / exploring on my own. It's not because I don't have friends, I'm there for work and I have to eat, get out of my hotel room. I guess what I'm saying is, no one knows your situation, just like you don't know theirs, don't worry about what they might think, most of the time you won't even get a second look. Just do what you have to do for yourself and make yourself happy.
Hello, this was amazing! I just found your channel and I totally needed this. Thank you so much and God bless you, this was perfect. This gave me a glass totally full instead of a glass half-empty, or glass half-full mentality on being alone, thanks so much!
I love being alone as well! I hate how being alone is often perceived as being synonymous with being "lonely." There is a major difference between the two.
Being so connected and dependent on others really does take a toll on our ability to be as effective in finding success, being positive and generally happy. I have had to deal with and learn this myself! Great vid!
I lost my daily alone time...which I loved. Working to build in alone time again. I totally notice a difference in myself when I don't get my alone time.
Love this video so much I've always been a loner and have loved my alone time forever most of my friends don't understand it and it annoys me when people bombard me to hang out i work best alone, im most motivated alone and my best ideas come when I am alone. All the great people who have amounted enormous success loved their alone time as well.
I'm an introvert, so being alone is what I do. I have friends, but very few that I can really open up to. I take time to warm up to people. Now that I'm 28, I'm losing most of those close friends to jobs and marriages. And I have not been progressing much in life this past year. Being alone with my thoughts only make me feel more aware of how lacking I am. I love taking long drives alone and listening to music or motivational talks. But somehow, it's so hard to keep my thoughts positive. I only get motivated for an hour at most, then my thoughts grow darker. I really need help.
Amazing video. I've been living alone now for 9 months and I couldn't be happier! I have learned so much and have grown as a person tremendously.
I have to learn to be alone I get attached and long for that person but when they leave what are you left with? That feeling. I don't want that anxious feeling. So let me tune in to this
This is so real i love my time alone I finally got the opportunity to leave alone and loving it enjoy your life.
I screamed when I saw, that you uploaded. I've missed your videoes so much!
Sorry :D its been way too long, hectic week, should be back on to 3 videos a week next week :)
I truly love being alone. I am most happy when I am alone.
This video was incredibly inspiring and came at the perfect timing... Thank you so much Rachel ❤️
I've been single for 17 years...currently I love it! But that wasn't always the case. It wasn't through choice in the beginning but then as time went on I gradually started doing a lot more on my own and begin to have feelings of gratitude and happiness. It took me longer than 2 years (not that it matters - length of time is irrelevant) but independence is underrated. I have mixed opinions from other people - some think it's "weird" some people say would give anything just to have some time alone, others imply it's selfish. Again all opinions - doesn't equal what it is or how I'm feeling 😊 great video xx
Honestly perfect timing for me to be watching this. Such great advice! Love your videos!!
This is my goal this year too my question is how do you emotional solve things on your own?
Being alone,is great no troubles
💯 % true about loving being alone in a relationship. This was a huge turning point in our relationship after four years together and possibly the key to our 13yr relationship. We have three kids together now so I appreciate my alone time even more now 😄
I love my alone time now. I used to be just how you were. Thought I could never be alone. Now I can't wait to get my own place 😊
This video is a 1st that not many have done. It was honest & fresh. And this topic is one to revisit again.
I have lived alone since 2002 and have become my best friend
I also live by myself and take advantage of alone time as much as I can. Love this. Great video and thanks for sharing for the world who are afraid of being alone ❤️ It’s all about self-love!
Love this video but that framed picture of leaves is slightly lopsided to the right and I have got to tell you 😂❤️
Thank you so much for this video! I really need these tipps now after recognizing some friends aren‘t real friends anymore and my parents getting divorced. I kind of started spending more time with myself and I see how good it makes me feel. Your words are so true 💜
love this video! ive been having alot of prblems and anxiety about this but I feel the need to live and be alone more coming from a deeper place in me.
This is so relating. Thank you for sharing. I used to be that person and had to go through my own steps to be able to feel comfortable being alone. I also find that being alone makes you really appreciate your time being with the people you care about even more!
Thank you so much!! I just moved out on my own for university, and I live far so I don't really have many friends or people around me. I really needed to see this video, because I always research how to make the most of alone time.
Even the other comments are really a nice exchange of encouragement. So thank you. 😘
I have recently started to love to be alone ...trust me it feel great..i'm loving it
Great message, and I'd love to see more content on meditation! :)
Coffee, book, and me just three of us is perfect time:)
Such an amazing video! xx
Thank you
I like to spend the alone time with me is with the mug of coffee and feel the silence in the gallery.Or I live to go in the open space feel the nature beauty or to watch the clouds.One of the favorite alone moment to spend time in rainy season for me.😘😘😘💓💓
this is beautiful - it's exactly what i needed to hear. thank you :)
I really needed this video!💕 I recently got out of a relationship, and college starts Tuesday. I'm gonna be alone more than ever so pleaseeeeee make more videos on this topic! ❤️
I absolutely love that you explain why it's important because a lot of people don't really apply it to
They life if they don't know why
I NEEDED to hear this. Wow. I always go running to people for emotional support, mostly my ex. I have no idea how to do it on my own. But this will be my new challenge. So glad I came across your video 💕 thank you.
This is such a great reminder. One thought I had during your video;
Maybe your next video can be about being patient in a relationship. I feel like it's something a lot of people struggle with, especially me.
thats such a great idea :) my current relationship has taken its time, its been slow and its still going to be slow, we're not getting married anytime soon haha
Rachelleea haha!! The slower the better! I guess it improves trust!💓
Hi Rachelleea
I love this video, love your advices . I am going through really hard time with my job, my relationship, visa , financially
I moved here to Australia by myself 4 years ago and at the begging I was alone, Then 8 month later I met my ex bf and since then I never been alone again.
You are completely right when you say we have to count just on us no one else . I m having fights every single day with my boyfriend for the past 4 months and maybe is because I can't enjoy time alone and I feel insecure. Maybe is because we don't meant to be together . Last night we had a huge argument who cost us no sleep, destroyed house and no energy for work the next day ( we both had to call sick in places where we just started to work )
After last night we gave our relationship the LAST LAST CHANCE .
But honestly just the idea of leaving him and be alone without family or friends it freaks me out sooo much :( :(
That s not how it should be . Anyway thank you very much to share this with us xoxo
Ketty
Your an inspiration and i have no doubt that I was meant to see this video today - Every single thing you said is what i want to feel and where I want to be emotionally- I am about to begin my journey and move away & I Cant wait!!
My problem is I don't know what to do when I'm alone. Like I want to do different things than other people. I'm on my phone a lot and I sometimes read, draw, excerise but I wanna do things that are different and make me different from other people. But I don't wanna take any pay to do activities. Help anyone? Sorry if this doesn't make sense! Love you girl thank you so much for making this video.
Wow before i watched this video i actually didn’t realise that i have learned to love being alone in the past year and half.
I loved this video and you gave so many good advices to others. Keep up the good work! ☺️
I could't agree with you more.. my boyfriend and I were having a pretty rough time because we were just on each others lips all the time and we didn't actually made time for ourselves, only for eachother.. I told him that I just wanted to be with myself (but also with him) and now we are messaging eachother not as often and we don't see eachother as often anymore, and to be honest: I LOVE IT. I swear that I've learned that being alone is actually the best quality-time ever, I love being alone and I'm gonna move out the house and live by myself this year, I literally CAN'T wait!!!! ☺️☺️
That sounds like things are becoming amazing for you :) I think my favourite thing about my boyfriend and I not texting every day is we get the chance to miss each other and then the time we spend together is more appreciated and we always have so much to talk about :)
Rachelleea exactly!! To be honest I only missed him very badly when I went on vacation or weekends away, now I'm just longing for the talks at the end of a day and that, I think, is much much healthier for your relationship and for yourself. Happy to hear you guys are doing great too :) xx
And this is me
This is something I needed to hear. I have been giving so much of my time so much of me I am starting to feel stressed. Thanks so much for this!!!😘
Thank youuuuu oh so much for this video!!!! This topic and video comes in a right time in my life. Alone from romantic and family relationships. What really does scares me, is asking myself - who would be my emergency contact? Who would I turn to if I was in a (God forbid) dangerous / worrisome situation? But other than that- I know being alone can be healthy and ones life can still be a happy one. 😊😊😊
This will be my survival kit when I'm being alone or living alone.
Your videos are so incredible. I've recently discovered your vids and it's so nice to see someone else with similar values to me! They're so uplifting.
Love this so much ! Being alone is so important, I always try to feel comfortable alone.
I have always loved being alone! I don’t understand people who always have to be with someone else 🤔
Amazing stuff today! I am always alone in my house but I am always on internet or social media and I tried to be away from my phone a lot of times but could not do anything! I guess I need to go for a morning walk or something keeping my phone at home so that I get away from social media habit! This video is certainly helpful to know the benefits of living alone! I have got so much time to be alone and I know I am not utilizing it well! But I will certainly try this after watching this video! Thank you Rachel!
This video help me a lot this days.. i hope u can continue this kind of videos..
This sounds so weird, but i can totally imagine us two or even more ppl of your community drinking coffee together talking about life 😍
best advice i ever got hit me like a ton of bricks: " Never make someone your everything, because if they leave, you have nothing"
I love this. I agree being alone is so important. I absolutely love being alone, I find it calming and motivating and overall healing to myself. Great video, Rachel! xoxo
More people need to think this way! I am the same way girl Thanks for this vid and reminding me how good this is
Such an insightful video, really made me realize some things, loved this thanks!
Don't know why it took me so long to find you but I'm so happy that I subscribed!! Super important video, loved it :)
This was so good and true. I have been exploring my relationship with myself too since the past year.. and i agree with this totally! ☺️
I’m stuck at home for 1,5 weeks now after I had surgery.. can’t do a lot because of the medication I have to take. (Oxycodone) I’m bored as hell and can’t really leave the house. Please give me some tips for nice things to do on your own that don’t drain to much energy 😖😖 ❤️
this was beautifully said. definitely it is something more of us need to do. I live alone but I agree with everything you said, it hasn't been two years like you but I can definitely see progress and how it continues to shape me for the better.
My question for you is- how do you deal with the challenges being alone? How do u overcome them? What tips and tricks do you have to overcoming that negative mentality when faced with bad situations?
Love this vid ❤️
Hi! Like some other commenters I'm fine being alone and doing my thing during the day, but the nights are the toughest. I come from a very social family, so I can feel lonely and sad spending downtime and evenings alone. It's also hard to always go out places if you don't have a lot of money to go to clubs, movies, dinner, coffeeshops, shopping, etc. Do you have any tips on how to not feel so alone in the evenings? To improve mental health while making the transition to living alone? Thanks!
This was me 2 months ago until I forgot how to treat myself right, thank you so much, this helped a lot❤️
You are talking about supporting yourself when you have an emotional problem. What do you do to support yourself? How can you make a problem solve earlier that you don't feel awefull all day or a couple of days?
❤ Great vid Rachel! Looking forward to seeing the rest of them. Reading comments below it seems to resonate with a lot of people.
I haven’t watched your channel before but RUclips “recommended” this video for me, they know what’s up aha. But yeah I really struggle with this so thank you for this video 🙏🏽
aw well welcome
I love this topic! You look so beautiful and authentic and down to earth. So comfortable in your skin
Useful video ! I love it and I couldn't agree more with you. It's so important enjoing of being alone. To feel better with ourselfs and with others. To be more confident. Thank you for this video ! See you ! 🌹💖
You are such a motivation to me, I really needed this video right now❤🤗
Absolutely love this video, your so right, i love being alone too. Great perspective for a woman, love your videos!
Hello beautiful! I think being alone is great, I have been doing it for quite some time but remember you also need emotional support from friends and family! No man is an island, we need each other in order to grow! I love you x