Many are still missing the point… date up, date down date all around IF HIS CHARACTER IS POOR IT’S A LOSE LOSE SITUATION ALL AROUND!! Y’all still on here hollering about settling, yet will still settle for a man with money with poor character. The conversation is exhausting!
Exactly! These ppl so lost and it's tiring at this point. Nobody is saying you can't have both, but a lot of the time women overlook the man's character and red flags because he has money. And then use it as an excuse as to why they're with trash. At the end of day, ppl can date who they want and if the money talks for them then so be it. To each their own.
@@BerryFlair Ma'am, if you read my comment correctly you wouldn't have asked me the questions you did. Because I specifically said, and I quote, "but a lot of the time women overlook the man's character and red flags because he has money and then use it (the fact he has money) as an excuse to why they're with trash." Thank you. You basically trying to be argumentative just for the sake of it and not reading. Other "women" requirements do not bother me. I could honestly care less. Hence why I said to each their own 😊 have a good one ma'am!
I just think it’s funny that men are asking women to lower their standards and help build a man but men won’t do the same. There are men right now who are millionaires and have a respectable stability in their life but will NEVER lower their standards to help build a woman. Plus, I feel like men and women date for good character but also for good benefits. If I’m going to date a man, he has to be useful just like I need to be useful to him. But in ALL aspects.
More men have overlooked financial stability than women will if we are being honest. Culture also plays a huge role cos I'm a Nigerian and then men have been raised to handle the business while women handle the home front. They don't require you to work, whatever you're bringing as a woman is a bonus. However il always be a proponent of a woman having something she brings to the table and can fall back on.
@@nikkyshamz2696 I agree! I’m Nigerian too! In our culture, men don’t necessarily chase the women with all the money. As long as you’re beautiful and homely, a man will marry you and put you through school. It’s very different for black culture. I’ve never heard these arguments in African homes. As times have changed, women should also have some source of income as well!
People have become so attached to thier titles snd careers. If you remove all those things what does a man or women have? This new generation of adults are super weird with their delusional assets and high expectations. And social media makes it worst. You will find the average person doesnt know who they outside of their jobs and degrees. Humility is important especially when it comes to love and relationsships. Everything your saying is on point Bro!
I’m with my man of character! I’m 24 & he’s 26 . We’ve been together for a little more than 3 years . I’ve pushed him & he’s pushed me . Everyday isn’t easy .. some weeks are stressful but I know he has my back & I got his .
it’s frustrating for me. I am 24. i work in finance, i have a degree, i put a lot of effort into my appearance, i go to gym 5x a week, i take care of my dog, pay for my own holidays, pay a mortgage, i have self respect and strong values, never been with a man in my life and get told all the time that i am beautiful. I want to give birth to children one day and be a wife. Why is me caring about what a man has got a bad thing? I DO IT ALL MYSELF ALREADY. All a man got to do is work, save, and get a haircut every two weeks. I don’t care how men feel anymore because I need to sit here and accept their bad behavior in their past because they’re a man, I have to accept their flaws in their personality just because he can pay my bills, but they can’t accept any wrongdoing from a woman. We are too forgiving and too nice to men.
You have to be selfless to be in a relationship. You have too many I's Ma'am. If you don't own that fiance company you can be fired at any given time...chacter matters. I just saw Michal J Fox got diagnosed with Parkinson's during his 3rd year of marriage, and because his wife is selfless, they are still married. He even became an alcoholic because of it and she was still there until he wisen up and became an advocate for his sickness. His character rose at the end of the day. Marriage and relationships are definitely there to test who we are. You are young right now and you think life is based on paper checklist fantasy until life hits.
I have found that the more mean and nasty I have been to men they have respected me and wanted me even more. I tried being nice twice and got played . You be nice to your family and your dog. datewhoever you want you don’t have to sleep with them it’s all a numbers game And don’t be as forgiving it’s sad but these men do not want a good woman like they claim. I have got the most out of men I have been shallow with!!!!
@@nay9nay my point is I have a great career and take care of myself already in every way shape and form. I'll be dammed if a man was offended by the fact I care about how much he earns and how well he takes care of me.
Look Tony Ily & you got wisdom for dayzzzz & I appreciate that and your humor so much. I see your perspective but what came to my mind is when men put so much emphasis on looks no one is telling them to lower their standards. It's a norm for men to be " visual" or whatever. So just as they want beautiful women we want financially secure men. Society is structured in a way to critique women's wants and try to humble us but give men an easy pass. Yes some ladies take it to the extreme with their demands but the truth is men just can't keep up so were forced to settle. I agree w/ your point that we don't know what may happen in the future but that can also happen if you're already broke too... you could become broker. or brokest .. lol. My point is you can be financially secure today and have faith and put in the work so that it'll remain that way. They say choose someone for how they are when you meet them not for their "potential" .... or else if they don't end up leveling up like anticipated you may be left bitter. Ladies there's no need to lower your standards, we live once if you want a man for his money go get him. They don't hesitate to want us for how we look. Look at a lot of men they're so vain/ superficial quick to leave you for a younger cuter girl. SO be selfish ladies do as you please... If they're unwilling to settle, why should we ? They're visual & we're "bank"tual... TF lol it has to be balanced sorry not sorry :) *sprinkle sprinkle* Ladies we're a laughing stock to most men we just believe anything they tell us.. if we all actually stood our ground collectively they would be at our feet. You have power mama just stay away from him. :)
Whew Tony! You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned that if a man has money, and is in his 30s, 40s, or 50s, that he needs to work on other areas such as emotionally healing. I've went through something similar and it is very very exhausting. I had to walk away.
Yup, they can be rich and shallow. No depth character or substance. Some men with ni money also have those qualities, il rather pray and ask God to lead me.
Yup, I’ve listened to Tony for years this is my first time disagreeing to an extent. Character is important but due to the make of men, many of them will resent you for earning more and go as far as sabotage your success. It’s happened to me and now I date on my level only. Every other race of women are allowed to require a man who has something to bring to the table while black women are constantly asked to settle for scraps.
@@Nurse._.drea28 you are preaching in this thread!!! Tony teaches to have your body, brand and brain right and for whattttttt to rescue a man because he has good character 😭
The way women are wired, women naturally want a provider. It is similar to the way that men want an attractive woman. Christ provided for the church and has gone to prepare a place for the church. Every woman that I know who is the breadwinner in her marriage is miserable.
Glad you finally spoke on it Tony. Eboni does have ownership and believes in ownership, her mother was a bus driver who worked to put herself through cosmetology school and owns trucks. She just meant he should own the bus because as an owner you control more….she is an author, lawyer and TV personality among many other things…… she asked Iyanla a general question for women and Iyanla asked her a personal question that had nothing to do with what they discussed before….. character wasn’t involved in the question, Iyanla just said bus driver, Eboni mentioned nothing about money….love your perspective as always
Men's character, ambitious is the gold. I used to always seek a man who is already wealthy, financial stable. But after watching, reading from a lot of videos, books. I understand that this kind of thinking is toxic. thank tony for lightening my mind.
You’re telling the truth Tony. It’s a tough pill to swallow but it’s true. My ex from 3 years ago had money but he was emotionally immature. Literally his default setting was to always call me out of my name when we had a disagreement. I left after 3 months. Couldn’t take it anymore. Tough convo but true.
I have never felt compeled to question you Tony, but there are also 2 other lessons you've taught us that go against this: 1) you've explicitly stated that most men will struggle with a women that make significantly more than him. 2) you've also said focusing on the exception to the rule is foolish. I just think there are many unspoken things beyond money that a bus driver represents: lifestyle, education, social circles. I find this message is strong, but wouldnt apply it to a woman who is a famous lawyer turned tv reporter who is doubtful she'd be equally yoked with a bus driver.
just when I feel I’ve learned all I can from tony I learn someone thing new. I’ve always chosen men with low character and unhealthy vices. These weren’t bad men but they were always emotionally stunted, or jaded, rude to others, negative outlook on life ect. I was always building with them spiritually and emotionally, it seemed I could never get it right. And in the end they drained me of my own spirit.. I always thought I had nothing to say when it came to dreams or money. I thought, you’re a provider I don’t want to step in that territory and I have no clue as to what I offer in that department. Now I have my own vision for my life, and tony you’re right it is waayyy more exciting and fulfilling to build on a future. I never knew I had this pattern til now.
Are you aware, ma'am that most men have been "marrying down" for centuries? They came with the money, 💲💰💵 property, their hard work, sacrifices, provided women with security and many times a "family name" which went and still does goes a very long way? Most black women have never married "below our stature" in life, at all. No, we normally marry "at our level" or slightly above our stature in life. The problem is most females are clueless about how men see us and judge us. What men think matters and always has mattered. In fact, most of us are clueless about what being "a wife" and being "a husband" even means because we haven't been afforded the opportunity of being reared in decent households with their mothers serving as "wives" to their husbands and their fathers serving as "husbands" to their wives. That's a huge problem. It's the major problem within and throughout the community today. Why? This demonic 👿 out-of-wedlock birth epidemic has decimated higher quality of both males and females in the community. So until the females, who are willingly participating in this foolery, begin to take accountability for our destructive and immoral behaviors and practices, which costs all of us, in the long run,....... and can humble themselves before God 🙏, the quality of the men and women will continue to deteriorate. Look around! Are you seeing God's 🙏 blessings throughout the community or God's 🙏 curses throughout the community? 🧐 We all reap what we sow. You sow good and godliness and you reap God's 🙏 blessings. You sow corruption and wickedness (anything against God's 🙏 Laws, Commandments) and you reap God's 🙏 curses. It's just that simple. It's a fact of life we all must grow to understand! 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Why would he have to be a millionaire if she's already one? He just has to be able to have enough to take care of himself. At that point, who the man is would be way more important for a woman who already is financially in a good space.
The problem with a lot of ppl is that they expect blk women standards to be low and for her to build them up🙄 Blk women are tired of settling 😴 a blk women is always expected to give give and give some more. We're told to pick better and then when we do that's a problem too🥴 Nobody works hard to establish themselves, get an education, build an empire only to be told " you should just settle for everything beneath you " Men who don't have as much as you are jealous, mean, draining and will make your life miserable cause they feel you're doing better than them. Stop telling blk women to date down financially. Yes.. character, integrity and being ethical is important but let's be honest not many ppl have that either
I do not understand why this constantly has to be a conversation or lesson for women. Women who will date a guy regardless of what he has or where he’s at in life are everywhere. The woman who will date a guy only for money and throw character at the wind is not the majority. If a woman states she wants a man at a certain caliber, that doesn’t mean she is inherently saying character can be nonexistent. All women do is look for the good in men to a fault. Women should be encouraged to have standards and given examples of what those standards should look like. That’s all women need.
If look’s compatibility matters, especially to men, I don’t see the problem in women wanting someone they’re economically compatible with. Just like Tony said in most cases where a man looks better than his woman, the intentions usually aren’t pure. And that’s how many women feel dating men that make significantly less than them or aren’t working towards any real career aspirations that align with theirs.
Tony also talked about how he felt when his wife came to the group home earning a bit more than him. The male ego can ruin your life and relationship so first of all we need to know if the man is even ok with a woman building him up. Tony is a self proclaimed good man of character but his wife making more at that time stirred up negative feelings that he had to grow past. Her going to med school also stirred up negative thoughts for him. It all comes down to the natural make up of men and women and it’s an extremely nuanced topic.
@@zero1188 Actually I don’t think it’s a character thing. Remember good men aren’t perfect. Even a “good man” can feel resentment towards his woman making more. Going as far as sabotaging her over it, now that’s character. It comes down the natural make up of men and women.
It's, also, her right to live in LaLa Land, grow old, wrinkled, bitter, all alone and live a life with no man to comfort her in her old age which is when we need husbands, in our lives, like never before. It's not working dear and it never will work. Line up with what God 🙏 says and other things fall in line.... always! Our SMV, as women, is highest when we are younger women. Yet, most throw away our very best years when we are "most valued" by men and we choose , instead, to ride the c*-ock carousel 🎠🎠 for years thinking we are "finding ourselves." 🥴🥴🥴 Yeah right! Finally, many awaken from our slumber 💤💤 and realize we really want a man, as men's intense stares, glances diminish and they do dissipate, in time, for even the most beautiful women. Make no mistake about that! Most women are not seeking the therapy they, so desperately, need. Yet, think 🤔 they should be granted the very best man God 🙏 has to offer....which is why most black women never marry anyone. According to The U.S. Census Bureau, less than three out of ten of us (27%) are marrying. That's not God anywhere in those statistics so most don't have what they seek because they are not worthy of God's 🙏 best. It's simple as that!
I think us women are hesitant to be with men before they’re at a certain level because we’ve seen and heard the horror stories of men becoming successful then dropping the women that have struggled with them.. only to get with the women they really wanted but couldn’t get all along. Also, Eboni is a multimillionaire, lawyer, author, entrepreneur etc. who doesn’t actually need an employer. I think a man that doesn’t have her status or money may start to feel insecure. If the man’s character is good, I wouldn’t look down on her for dating blue collar…however, she shouldn’t be expected to.
Um her income should not matter as comparison to a man esp a BM🤨. Doesn’t matter if she lose her job and you’re a whole male connected to her 😟. He should have enough income for the both of them and any children. BM the only men compare themselves to women 💀then be wanting her to yield in his favor.
I agree that men get burnt out too. My husband and I are 34 and he’s been making over six figures for six years is in sales. He works extremely hard, putting in long hours and see the fatigue. I would rather him earn half of what he makes now for a better quality of life than see him distressed.
As a woman those words of affirmation made me cry, I’ve never heard that as a woman, that means so much for women too TG. I’ve never heard that from parents, boyfriends, friends etc. As someone who work in mental health, on £20k in group homes like TG (before he made it big), it can get exhausting and draining building people up emotionally from their trauma. It’s spiritually rewarding work, but it is deep and dark. Takes a special kind of person.
Sir respect your opinion on a lot of matters but i think you're off in this assessment. There are seasons in life. Whrn you met your wife and you didn't have money you were in your 20s and most people dont have it all together in their 20s... usually people are planting seeds at that age which they will reap in their 30s and beyond... there is no way anyone should expect a 40 year old woman who values education and being enterprising should settle for someone who can't meet her where she is... they are living in 2 different worlds. If a bus driver was blessed enough to meet her he should want to elevate himself before even approaching her or let her be. We need to stop coddling these grown men and apply pressure...
Listen idc how much money I make , I care about a person character than anything . But if I’m winning , my man is coming with me . I’m not trying to compete with him because I still want to learn and with a man I know I can do that
Loved hearing the story of the man who in his 50s/60s took your coaching and Growth Group courses and is taking your advice, and is on a positive trajectory to making it; it is an uplifting story. 🙏🏻😊
I receive this wisdom! I feel the same Tony thus why I know the lord is going to bless me! My 1st husband left when I stood by him until he accomplished his goals. Now he’s married to a money hungry selfish woman who wants him away from our sons so he can raise her daughter ( not his) 🤦🏽♀️I gave the wrong man the right treatment. It was all a lesson
You were a blessing to your husband during your marriage. You'll get your reward with God and he'll also get his. Even though he left you after you helped him reach his goals, just remember that Karma never forgets anyone's address and it returns with FULL interest. His Karma showed up a money hungry spiteful wife, who comes between him and his sons. He cannot possibly be happy in his new marriage. Deep down in his mind, he realized he left his 80%(you) and settled for (20%) her and all that adds up to real life 💯% bad Karma for him.
Tony, you hit the nail on the head with this one. My wife and I got married young. I was not making any money then but I was/am a man of faith and goldy character got instilled in me by my father. I knew that I would not always be there financially and so did my wife. We have been happily married for 14 years and make multiple 6 figures. She help me build businesses and create multiple streams of income.
I would just like to point out that she is an attorney. I see nothing wrong with her wanting to marry a fellow attorney or physician or civil engineer. I feel frustrated that women are told on multiple occasions not to want what they want. I rarely hear that from men telling other men the same thing. It just feels like the woman who has sacrificed and did the work has to settle. Its very disheartening. I think Ms. Eboni has a bad attitude. If she can change her attitude and not come across as demanding, she will be okay. Since she is an attorney, she maybe argumentative. So that is not in her favor. She just needs to leave Eboni the attorney at work. She will be okay if she can figure that out!
Exactly. I think her attitude was the issue not her belief that she'd likely not be equally yoked with a blue collar worker. Most men do not have the maturity and self esteem to handle that large difference in truth.
Because men don't think that way. Rich men don't have a problem marrying broke, uneducated women so they expect women to do the same. Except women aren't the ones who are supposed to provide so we don't work that way. So of course a woman is going to want a man who is equally yoked or better.
I agree, I feel like as women we must check our attitudes and how we come across to others. My mother always tell me, you can win more Bees with honey then you can with vinegar and my father has told me, baby why you so mean, after he has witnessed me dismiss a guy trying to talk to me. That was some years ago and I have since taken into account my attitude and my demeanor when I am dealing with others. I now realize that I can be a strong woman without the attitude. ❤
So men can have requests (sex, good looks, a supporter, a mother to their kids, susie home maker etc) but women are suppose to settle and live in struggle? Just because our needs/wants aren't the same as men doesn't make them less valid. Having character and being a decent person is the bare minumum and not enough to sustain a relationship.
This woman is a lawyer, she’s not an average person like myself. She has the pedigree to require what she wants. Will she get it?? That’s up for discussion. Now historically black women have naturally been providers. We’ve always had to hold onto our own back due to the lack of that very security most women are seeking. Yes character is important but how many men would be ok with their woman out earring them?? A broke person period is a liability. So if she does lower her standards and date down that could be detrimental to her mental wellbeing, health, and pockets. She’s within her rights to command what she wants in her life, but will she receive it?? Probably not. I pray she does but I get her point. But in the black families they push black girls to higher education while being soft on their boys and pushing them to be into sports or entertainment industry. Those same girl’s become those manly men in skirts as iyanla states, and in return have to save coddled young men that everyone has enabled.
I feel like this is a nuanced situation. I’ve learned the most about relationships from TG’s videos and now I feel confident. I’ve seen a video from the past couple of years where Tony has said a different thing. But times change and sometimes the message changes. In general, I think black women are tired of being used by grown boys. Working, cleaning, cooking, sexing, taking care of children etc., while it seems like men just work. 1. In one video Tony was warning women to be with someone in the same income bracket so we don’t get used. Great information because women are getting played left and right tryna build a man up, thinking they gone have a empire like J & B. People are often listing names like Mary J, Sherri, and Kelly C paying palimony. But, if you earn six figures and up that may be harder to find, so I think looking at character as currency is good advice but you should be building each other up as Tony said. At 40 plus, a lot of women are not willing to put in the a lot of energy on potential. Most of the time “potential” is a future fake to use you, but again that’s not a man of character. About a week ago I watched one of Tony’s videos. I can’t remember the name. He talked about how men want women for looks or money and how they are navy seals and deal with extreme sports so they can deal with a woman with a bad attitude. Essentially saying men don’t really car Sooo, this discussion about a bus driver really made me think. Character is currency for sure. If we are married we are supposed to build each other. And if I have substantially more, there will be a timeline for taking action for growth. Meaning, ain’t finna be no future faking. And a prenup will be in place.
The key word here is men of character. Too many women are licking their wounds from dealing with men they had no business dealing with and are triggered when the truth is spoken about building with a godly man. There is a difference ladies and we need to learn it.
I will never say a man has to have x, y or the z but please be a faithful man at least. I don't want a man with money or without it, that's so weak they'll sleep with anybody or anything! Stay strong out here men, especially if you have a good woman that's willing to be with you when you have nothing and will help you keep the house a home even while you both have flaws!
I think alot of the young women don't have men who have ambition and drive. We can't ignore the ratio, many of the "free" black men don't want to get married until they're 40 and 50's. To some ppl 100k is decent but how many bm are making this, based off ratio. There's many factors. Eboni is right, her delivery has been deflected. Black men can't stand when well to do women say I don't want you.... They leave the poor stuck....
Character is significant. All these new individuals giving this advice are talking from a place of hurt unhealed individual, which is why I do not take what they say at face value.
Do you think a relationship can work if the woman makes more than her man? Especially if her career is professional and his is isn't? I've been reading about how the man becomes competitive and resentful. I'm a professional and yes I'm tired of working.
Your absolutely correct !!! Your beautiful and Character is very important and I approve this message . Please let them know please !!!!!!! God has been working on me and getting through to me and this is far the best conversation I have heard in a goodt while, you do your thing and I pray God continues to pour into you to open the eyes of women and men !!!
I don’t believe your statement is always true, depending on the insecurity of a man they will try to get a trophy wife to make him look good & do whatever it takes to keep her because he cares more about the image. I’ve seen men I know with girls that they barely have anything in common, the girl is very superficial and boring but other men admire him because his woman is very beautiful, and he may be breaking the bank to be with her. But going on double dates and seeing how they barely interact & she’s just on her phone with a bad attitude, taking selfies, it shows me all I need to know. But there’s A LOT of men like this not respecting themselves cuz they want a hot girlfriend. But men like Tony I agree they wouldn’t stand for that
That lady is 40, single (never married), no kids, and definitely not looks challenged. She has all the access to high earning men a woman could ask for, yet she’s single. I don’t think the bus driver would date her judging by the character she’s displayed.
Shoot I would as long as he good to me. I’m old fashioned so we can elevate up together. I will have his back and he has mines. I will take an average man that works just like myself. I don’t look at a man for him always providing for me it works both ways
Facts! Sometimes the very thing we're looking for is right in front of us but we just can't get over one thing. Ain't nothing wrong with average as long as they ain't trying to spend up your money on foolishness. It's like nobody sees marriage as a team or something that can be built on; they want everything to be perfect and perfect is never going to happen and then it ends up failing. Why can't we learn from each other and grow instead of just being these over zealous professionals where everything has to be perfect? As a house cleaner I hear these types of stories and I'm just like dang people really do look down on those of us who do manual labor. Money really should not be everything in the pursuit of a relationship.
Here is an unlikely person to bring into this conversation. When I watched the Fred Rodgers documentary, he needed funding from the government for his show Mr. Rogers Neighborhood. After everyone told him, they would not fund him, three minutes into his humble petition, they granted him the millions he needed. They saw his character, and throughout his many years of production, he became successful and remained humble.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Sure I agree people need to stop being so loud about it. There’s just social media now and everybody has an opinion.
This so true my pastor said that this lady husband was rich he was in investment helping save people churches now this man died now the widow has to look for a job I could not believe this until I hear you say this thanks
Tony don’t block me bc mostly I agree with you and have listened to just about all of your videos. But you are wrong about building a man. When we build men once they are capable of getting a younger woman, better looking bc he’s financially stable then he leaves. (Has never happened to me). Happens more often than not to lady friends and female family . Tony, you yourself talk about men who are look’s challenged(ugly, nerdy, etc )but have good a looking woman bc of his finances. Women do not waste your time building no man bc after you have built him up he will leave you for the kind of woman he truly wants (dream girl, younger, more beautiful, or better sexually, etc). I’m happily married and only dated men who were already financially independent when I was single. Several instances, I dated men willing to leave their then situationtionships and marry me. One guy had been with his living girlfriend 15 years. She built him up, paid 1/2 of the bills. They broke up bc he wouldn’t ask her to marry him. I met him 1 month after and 6 months later he asked me to marry him, move into the house that she’d helped him pay off. Ladies, DO NOT be Barbra the Builder!!!!
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Thank YOU!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I'd tell all of my Nephews to bypass a Woman with a salary mandate. That mindset feels like Men are seen as human Cash Cows- it's very cold and unsettling as a mindset.😫💔😡
@Gigi Brown_Wright Yes!!!💯 Totally agree. I was just explaining to a Male coworker- that so many guys don't know the "games" some Women/Females play. So, I school young "Brothers" often.
Coach T these cats don't want a real women that will support them, encourage them, push them to be their best. They are too busy chasing a bag, booty and projecting their wounds on women. Can you do a group session or retreat with these brothas and get them on the right track to being their best selves.....we gotta heal
I think this is why some people are choosing to be alone because the decisions we have to make to be in relationships have become difficult.
Fr… dating today has become SO overloaded with aesthetics… “organic” is out the door 🤦🏾♀️
The more I listened the better singleness sounded. Most of us just want our equal.
Literally
@@Nurse._.drea28 girl I couldn’t even listen to the whole thing!!! Once he said it’s not just for men in their 20s I was done !
Many are still missing the point… date up, date down date all around IF HIS CHARACTER IS POOR IT’S A LOSE LOSE SITUATION ALL AROUND!! Y’all still on here hollering about settling, yet will still settle for a man with money with poor character. The conversation is exhausting!
Exactly! These ppl so lost and it's tiring at this point. Nobody is saying you can't have both, but a lot of the time women overlook the man's character and red flags because he has money. And then use it as an excuse as to why they're with trash. At the end of day, ppl can date who they want and if the money talks for them then so be it. To each their own.
@@BerryFlair Ma'am, if you read my comment correctly you wouldn't have asked me the questions you did. Because I specifically said, and I quote, "but a lot of the time women overlook the man's character and red flags because he has money and then use it (the fact he has money) as an excuse to why they're with trash." Thank you. You basically trying to be argumentative just for the sake of it and not reading. Other "women" requirements do not bother me. I could honestly care less. Hence why I said to each their own 😊 have a good one ma'am!
I just think it’s funny that men are asking women to lower their standards and help build a man but men won’t do the same. There are men right now who are millionaires and have a respectable stability in their life but will NEVER lower their standards to help build a woman. Plus, I feel like men and women date for good character but also for good benefits. If I’m going to date a man, he has to be useful just like I need to be useful to him. But in ALL aspects.
Men Been usually date down though lol
More men have overlooked financial stability than women will if we are being honest. Culture also plays a huge role cos I'm a Nigerian and then men have been raised to handle the business while women handle the home front. They don't require you to work, whatever you're bringing as a woman is a bonus. However il always be a proponent of a woman having something she brings to the table and can fall back on.
@@nikkyshamz2696 I agree! I’m Nigerian too! In our culture, men don’t necessarily chase the women with all the money. As long as you’re beautiful and homely, a man will marry you and put you through school. It’s very different for black culture. I’ve never heard these arguments in African homes. As times have changed, women should also have some source of income as well!
Nope don't agree been married for 29yrs I have had not have any vice versa now I expect
People have become so attached to thier titles snd careers. If you remove all those things what does a man or women have? This new generation of adults are super weird with their delusional assets and high expectations. And social media makes it worst. You will find the average person doesnt know who they outside of their jobs and degrees. Humility is important especially when it comes to love and relationsships. Everything your saying is on point Bro!
I’m with my man of character! I’m 24 & he’s 26 . We’ve been together for a little more than 3 years . I’ve pushed him & he’s pushed me . Everyday isn’t easy .. some weeks are stressful but I know he has my back & I got his .
it’s frustrating for me. I am 24. i work in finance, i have a degree, i put a lot of effort into my appearance, i go to gym 5x a week, i take care of my dog, pay for my own holidays, pay a mortgage, i have self respect and strong values, never been with a man in my life and get told all the time that i am beautiful. I want to give birth to children one day and be a wife. Why is me caring about what a man has got a bad thing? I DO IT ALL MYSELF ALREADY. All a man got to do is work, save, and get a haircut every two weeks. I don’t care how men feel anymore because I need to sit here and accept their bad behavior in their past because they’re a man, I have to accept their flaws in their personality just because he can pay my bills, but they can’t accept any wrongdoing from a woman. We are too forgiving and too nice to men.
Yes we are. Women tolerate too much from men and it destroys us. Let's face it, women are the ones who benefit from being single, not men.
I agree. I’ve gotten to the point, I’m ok with being alone 🎉I pay all my bills and take care of my baby. I’m good,
You have to be selfless to be in a relationship. You have too many I's Ma'am. If you don't own that fiance company you can be fired at any given time...chacter matters.
I just saw Michal J Fox got diagnosed with Parkinson's during his 3rd year of marriage, and because his wife is selfless, they are still married. He even became an alcoholic because of it and she was still there until he wisen up and became an advocate for his sickness. His character rose at the end of the day. Marriage and relationships are definitely there to test who we are. You are young right now and you think life is based on paper checklist fantasy until life hits.
I have found that the more mean and nasty I have been to men they have respected me and wanted me even more. I tried being nice twice and got played . You be nice to your family and your dog. datewhoever you want you don’t have to sleep with them it’s all a numbers game And don’t be as forgiving it’s sad but these men do not want a good woman like they claim. I have got the most out of men I have been shallow with!!!!
@@nay9nay my point is I have a great career and take care of myself already in every way shape and form. I'll be dammed if a man was offended by the fact I care about how much he earns and how well he takes care of me.
Look Tony Ily & you got wisdom for dayzzzz & I appreciate that and your humor so much. I see your perspective but what came to my mind is when men put so much emphasis on looks no one is telling them to lower their standards. It's a norm for men to be " visual" or whatever. So just as they want beautiful women we want financially secure men. Society is structured in a way to critique women's wants and try to humble us but give men an easy pass. Yes some ladies take it to the extreme with their demands but the truth is men just can't keep up so were forced to settle. I agree w/ your point that we don't know what may happen in the future but that can also happen if you're already broke too... you could become broker. or brokest .. lol. My point is you can be financially secure today and have faith and put in the work so that it'll remain that way. They say choose someone for how they are when you meet them not for their "potential" .... or else if they don't end up leveling up like anticipated you may be left bitter. Ladies there's no need to lower your standards, we live once if you want a man for his money go get him. They don't hesitate to want us for how we look. Look at a lot of men they're so vain/ superficial quick to leave you for a younger cuter girl. SO be selfish ladies do as you please... If they're unwilling to settle, why should we ? They're visual & we're "bank"tual... TF lol it has to be balanced sorry not sorry :) *sprinkle sprinkle* Ladies we're a laughing stock to most men we just believe anything they tell us.. if we all actually stood our ground collectively they would be at our feet. You have power mama just stay away from him. :)
Whew Tony! You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned that if a man has money, and is in his 30s, 40s, or 50s, that he needs to work on other areas such as emotionally healing. I've went through something similar and it is very very exhausting. I had to walk away.
So true. A lot of them have the money, the car, the house but are extremely jaded.
Yup, they can be rich and shallow. No depth character or substance. Some men with ni money also have those qualities, il rather pray and ask God to lead me.
Tony I did all this you saying and he left me for a Jezebel! This is a 2 edge sword.
@@Shemashay yup they never believe fat meat is greasy . Tony is right , you just can’t do it with the wrong man
Yup, I’ve listened to Tony for years this is my first time disagreeing to an extent. Character is important but due to the make of men, many of them will resent you for earning more and go as far as sabotage your success. It’s happened to me and now I date on my level only. Every other race of women are allowed to require a man who has something to bring to the table while black women are constantly asked to settle for scraps.
@@Nurse._.drea28 yes ma’am ! You said it
@@Nurse._.drea28 you are preaching in this thread!!! Tony teaches to have your body, brand and brain right and for whattttttt to rescue a man because he has good character 😭
The way women are wired, women naturally want a provider. It is similar to the way that men want an attractive woman. Christ provided for the church and has gone to prepare a place for the church. Every woman that I know who is the breadwinner in her marriage is miserable.
Glad you finally spoke on it Tony. Eboni does have ownership and believes in ownership, her mother was a bus driver who worked to put herself through cosmetology school and owns trucks. She just meant he should own the bus because as an owner you control more….she is an author, lawyer and TV personality among many other things…… she asked Iyanla a general question for women and Iyanla asked her a personal question that had nothing to do with what they discussed before….. character wasn’t involved in the question, Iyanla just said bus driver, Eboni mentioned nothing about money….love your perspective as always
Men's character, ambitious is the gold. I used to always seek a man who is already wealthy, financial stable. But after watching, reading from a lot of videos, books. I understand that this kind of thinking is toxic. thank tony for lightening my mind.
You’re telling the truth Tony. It’s a tough pill to swallow but it’s true. My ex from 3 years ago had money but he was emotionally immature. Literally his default setting was to always call me out of my name when we had a disagreement. I left after 3 months. Couldn’t take it anymore. Tough convo but true.
I have never felt compeled to question you Tony, but there are also 2 other lessons you've taught us that go against this:
1) you've explicitly stated that most men will struggle with a women that make significantly more than him.
2) you've also said focusing on the exception to the rule is foolish.
I just think there are many unspoken things beyond money that a bus driver represents: lifestyle, education, social circles.
I find this message is strong, but wouldnt apply it to a woman who is a famous lawyer turned tv reporter who is doubtful she'd be equally yoked with a bus driver.
Yes, I think their mindset would be different.
But you still have some men who doesn’t want that woman to help him because he’s always right and trying to control everything
I don't look down on a man's job. My 2nd husband told me he was a custodian to test me. Long story short he was an Executive at a custodial company.
Most custodians i know make more than the teacher. Even 6 figures or close
just when I feel I’ve learned all I can from tony I learn someone thing new. I’ve always chosen men with low character and unhealthy vices. These weren’t bad men but they were always emotionally stunted, or jaded, rude to others, negative outlook on life ect. I was always building with them spiritually and emotionally, it seemed I could never get it right. And in the end they drained me of my own spirit.. I always thought I had nothing to say when it came to dreams or money. I thought, you’re a provider I don’t want to step in that territory and I have no clue as to what I offer in that department. Now I have my own vision for my life, and tony you’re right it is waayyy more exciting and fulfilling to build on a future. I never knew I had this pattern til now.
She's a millionaire Tony.. for her to date a bus driver she would be dating down
Are you aware, ma'am that most men have been "marrying down" for centuries? They came with the money, 💲💰💵 property, their hard work, sacrifices, provided women with security and many times a "family name" which went and still does goes a very long way?
Most black women have never married "below our stature" in life, at all. No, we normally marry "at our level" or slightly above our stature in life. The problem is most females are clueless about how men see us and judge us. What men think matters and always has mattered. In fact, most of us are clueless about what being "a wife" and being "a husband" even means because we haven't been afforded the opportunity of being reared in decent households with their mothers serving as "wives" to their husbands and their fathers serving as "husbands" to their wives. That's a huge problem. It's the major problem within and throughout the community today.
Why? This demonic 👿 out-of-wedlock birth epidemic has decimated higher quality of both males and females in the community. So until the females, who are willingly participating in this foolery, begin to take accountability for our destructive and immoral behaviors and practices, which costs all of us, in the long run,....... and can humble themselves before God 🙏, the quality of the men and women will continue to deteriorate.
Look around! Are you seeing God's 🙏 blessings throughout the community or God's 🙏 curses throughout the community? 🧐 We all reap what we sow. You sow good and godliness and you reap God's 🙏 blessings. You sow corruption and wickedness (anything against God's 🙏 Laws, Commandments) and you reap God's 🙏 curses. It's just that simple. It's a fact of life we all must grow to understand! 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Why would he have to be a millionaire if she's already one? He just has to be able to have enough to take care of himself. At that point, who the man is would be way more important for a woman who already is financially in a good space.
@@devanteaboyd who said he'd have to be a millionaire ?
Why can't she prefer to have someone of the same caliber as her ?
The problem with a lot of ppl is that they expect blk women standards to be low and for her to build them up🙄
Blk women are tired of settling 😴 a blk women is always expected to give give and give some more.
We're told to pick better and then when we do that's a problem too🥴
Nobody works hard to establish themselves, get an education, build an empire only to be told " you should just settle for everything beneath you "
Men who don't have as much as you are jealous, mean, draining and will make your life miserable cause they feel you're doing better than them.
Stop telling blk women to date down financially.
Yes.. character, integrity and being ethical is important but let's be honest not many ppl have that either
@@yourstruly1984 That's what I'm saying, he doesn't have to be a millionaire if he has great character.
I wouldn't lower my standards for anyone lol if thats what she doesn't want whats the problem 😂😢
I do not understand why this constantly has to be a conversation or lesson for women. Women who will date a guy regardless of what he has or where he’s at in life are everywhere. The woman who will date a guy only for money and throw character at the wind is not the majority. If a woman states she wants a man at a certain caliber, that doesn’t mean she is inherently saying character can be nonexistent. All women do is look for the good in men to a fault. Women should be encouraged to have standards and given examples of what those standards should look like. That’s all women need.
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If look’s compatibility matters, especially to men, I don’t see the problem in women wanting someone they’re economically compatible with. Just like Tony said in most cases where a man looks better than his woman, the intentions usually aren’t pure. And that’s how many women feel dating men that make significantly less than them or aren’t working towards any real career aspirations that align with theirs.
Agreed!👍👏
Never heard this before. A man that is more attractive than his gf intentions aare not pure? What you mean?
Tony also talked about how he felt when his wife came to the group home earning a bit more than him. The male ego can ruin your life and relationship so first of all we need to know if the man is even ok with a woman building him up. Tony is a self proclaimed good man of character but his wife making more at that time stirred up negative feelings that he had to grow past. Her going to med school also stirred up negative thoughts for him. It all comes down to the natural make up of men and women and it’s an extremely nuanced topic.
@@Nurse._.drea28 thats a character thing
@@zero1188 Actually I don’t think it’s a character thing. Remember good men aren’t perfect. Even a “good man” can feel resentment towards his woman making more. Going as far as sabotaging her over it, now that’s character. It comes down the natural make up of men and women.
That is her right and preference, we are always told not to settle so I'm a little confused 🤨😂
It's, also, her right to live in LaLa Land, grow old, wrinkled, bitter, all alone and live a life with no man to comfort her in her old age which is when we need husbands, in our lives, like never before. It's not working dear and it never will work. Line up with what God 🙏 says and other things fall in line.... always!
Our SMV, as women, is highest when we are younger women. Yet, most throw away our very best years when we are "most valued" by men and we choose , instead, to ride the c*-ock carousel 🎠🎠 for years thinking we are "finding ourselves." 🥴🥴🥴 Yeah right!
Finally, many awaken from our slumber 💤💤 and realize we really want a man, as men's intense stares, glances diminish and they do dissipate, in time, for even the most beautiful women. Make no mistake about that! Most women are not seeking the therapy they, so desperately, need. Yet, think 🤔 they should be granted the very best man God 🙏 has to offer....which is why most black women never marry anyone. According to The U.S. Census Bureau, less than three out of ten of us (27%) are marrying.
That's not God anywhere in those statistics so most don't have what they seek because they are not worthy of God's 🙏 best. It's simple as that!
I am not settling for nothing less than God's best
@Joy Elle As women, the ball is ultimately in our court, that’s why it’s primarily we are using our intuition to guide our decisions!
But it is still annoying & redundant as hell… 😂
I'm not building any man, you're only helping build him for the next woman. Not gonna happen 💯
This is so true. I’d rather help a man build his finances than build his character.
I think us women are hesitant to be with men before they’re at a certain level because we’ve seen and heard the horror stories of men becoming successful then dropping the women that have struggled with them.. only to get with the women they really wanted but couldn’t get all along.
Also, Eboni is a multimillionaire, lawyer, author, entrepreneur etc. who doesn’t actually need an employer. I think a man that doesn’t have her status or money may start to feel insecure. If the man’s character is good, I wouldn’t look down on her for dating blue collar…however, she shouldn’t be expected to.
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Um her income should not matter as comparison to a man esp a BM🤨. Doesn’t matter if she lose her job and you’re a whole male connected to her 😟. He should have enough income for the both of them and any children. BM the only men compare themselves to women 💀then be wanting her to yield in his favor.
All of this👏👏👏
I agree that men get burnt out too. My husband and I are 34 and he’s been making over six figures for six years is in sales. He works extremely hard, putting in long hours and see the fatigue. I would rather him earn half of what he makes now for a better quality of life than see him distressed.
@@Shemashay Yes indeed. As Tony said, I have to support him because experience the same things us women does.
As a woman those words of affirmation made me cry, I’ve never heard that as a woman, that means so much for women too TG. I’ve never heard that from parents, boyfriends, friends etc.
As someone who work in mental health, on £20k in group homes like TG (before he made it big), it can get exhausting and draining building people up emotionally from their trauma. It’s spiritually rewarding work, but it is deep and dark. Takes a special kind of person.
Sir respect your opinion on a lot of matters but i think you're off in this assessment. There are seasons in life. Whrn you met your wife and you didn't have money you were in your 20s and most people dont have it all together in their 20s... usually people are planting seeds at that age which they will reap in their 30s and beyond... there is no way anyone should expect a 40 year old woman who values education and being enterprising should settle for someone who can't meet her where she is... they are living in 2 different worlds. If a bus driver was blessed enough to meet her he should want to elevate himself before even approaching her or let her be. We need to stop coddling these grown men and apply pressure...
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We definitely need to stop coddling. We need to encourage.
Exactly
Listen idc how much money I make , I care about a person character than anything . But if I’m winning , my man is coming with me . I’m not trying to compete with him because I still want to learn and with a man I know I can do that
I just want to say CONGRATULATIONS on couples retreat. May u continue to be blessed man of God...
Loved hearing the story of the man who in his 50s/60s took your coaching and Growth Group courses and is taking your advice, and is on a positive trajectory to making it; it is an uplifting story. 🙏🏻😊
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I receive this wisdom! I feel the same Tony thus why I know the lord is going to bless me! My 1st husband left when I stood by him until he accomplished his goals. Now he’s married to a money hungry selfish woman who wants him away from our sons so he can raise her daughter ( not his) 🤦🏽♀️I gave the wrong man the right treatment. It was all a lesson
You were a blessing to your husband during your marriage. You'll get your reward with God and he'll also get his.
Even though he left you after you helped him reach his goals, just remember that Karma never forgets anyone's address and it returns with FULL interest.
His Karma showed up a money hungry spiteful wife, who comes between him and his sons.
He cannot possibly be happy in his new marriage. Deep down in his mind, he realized he left his 80%(you) and settled for (20%) her and all that adds up to
real life 💯% bad Karma for him.
She’s gonna LOVE IT! I was there last Friday 🎉usher was excellent 🎉🎉
This video is going to go Diamond 💎. "Let a man's character be his currency". - TG
That is only one aspect....
But some don't understand what character is - that's the person you are behind closed doors when nobody else is watching 🤌🏾
Happy Saturday blessed tribe.
Tony, you hit the nail on the head with this one. My wife and I got married young. I was not making any money then but I was/am a man of faith and goldy character got instilled in me by my father. I knew that I would not always be there financially and so did my wife. We have been happily married for 14 years and make multiple 6 figures. She help me build businesses and create multiple streams of income.
I would just like to point out that she is an attorney. I see nothing wrong with her wanting to marry a fellow attorney or physician or civil engineer. I feel frustrated that women are told on multiple occasions not to want what they want. I rarely hear that from men telling other men the same thing. It just feels like the woman who has sacrificed and did the work has to settle. Its very disheartening.
I think Ms. Eboni has a bad attitude. If she can change her attitude and not come across as demanding, she will be okay. Since she is an attorney, she maybe argumentative. So that is not in her favor. She just needs to leave Eboni the attorney at work. She will be okay if she can figure that out!
Exactly. I think her attitude was the issue not her belief that she'd likely not be equally yoked with a blue collar worker.
Most men do not have the maturity and self esteem to handle that large difference in truth.
Because men don't think that way. Rich men don't have a problem marrying broke, uneducated women so they expect women to do the same. Except women aren't the ones who are supposed to provide so we don't work that way. So of course a woman is going to want a man who is equally yoked or better.
I agree, I feel like as women we must check our attitudes and how we come across to others. My mother always tell me, you can win more Bees with honey then you can with vinegar and my father has told me, baby why you so mean, after he has witnessed me dismiss a guy trying to talk to me. That was some years ago and I have since taken into account my attitude and my demeanor when I am dealing with others. I now realize that I can be a strong woman without the attitude. ❤
That lady makes 2 million a year that said she would date the bus owner
Because she’s single and 69 years old. She also said she would be in a polygamous relationship b/c doesn’t want to be bothered.
@@KNickole I am talking about that Iyanla Vanzant interview...I am not sure who is 69 yrs old
So men can have requests (sex, good looks, a supporter, a mother to their kids, susie home maker etc) but women are suppose to settle and live in struggle? Just because our needs/wants aren't the same as men doesn't make them less valid. Having character and being a decent person is the bare minumum and not enough to sustain a relationship.
"You will not go wrong if you bet on a man's character" true
This woman is a lawyer, she’s not an average person like myself. She has the pedigree to require what she wants. Will she get it?? That’s up for discussion. Now historically black women have naturally been providers. We’ve always had to hold onto our own back due to the lack of that very security most women are seeking. Yes character is important but how many men would be ok with their woman out earring them?? A broke person period is a liability. So if she does lower her standards and date down that could be detrimental to her mental wellbeing, health, and pockets. She’s within her rights to command what she wants in her life, but will she receive it?? Probably not. I pray she does but I get her point. But in the black families they push black girls to higher education while being soft on their boys and pushing them to be into sports or entertainment industry. Those same girl’s become those manly men in skirts as iyanla states, and in return have to save coddled young men that everyone has enabled.
I feel like this is a nuanced situation. I’ve learned the most about relationships from TG’s videos and now I feel confident. I’ve seen a video from the past couple of years where Tony has said a different thing. But times change and sometimes the message changes. In general, I think black women are tired of being used by grown boys. Working, cleaning, cooking, sexing, taking care of children etc., while it seems like men just work.
1. In one video Tony was warning women to be with someone in the same income bracket so we don’t get used. Great information because women are getting played left and right tryna build a man up, thinking they gone have a empire like J & B. People are often listing names like Mary J, Sherri, and Kelly C paying palimony.
But, if you earn six figures and up that may be harder to find, so I think looking at character as currency is good advice but you should be building each other up as Tony said.
At 40 plus, a lot of women are not willing to put in the a lot of energy on potential. Most of the time “potential” is a future fake to use you, but again that’s not a
man of character.
About a week ago I watched one of Tony’s videos. I can’t remember the name. He talked about how men want women for looks or money and how they are navy seals and deal with extreme sports so they can deal with a woman with a bad attitude. Essentially saying men don’t really car
Sooo, this discussion about a bus driver really made me think. Character is currency for sure. If we are married we are supposed to build each other. And if I have substantially more, there will be a timeline for taking action for growth. Meaning, ain’t finna be no future faking. And a prenup will be in place.
This is A1 advice. You are well respected for it. Stay true Tony. Thank you
Stephen Kings wife encouraged him to publish his first novel, Carrie. Men and women make each other stronger as a team.
I'm happy being independent And on my own thank you for this message ❤
Thank you Tony for teaching me how to go about loving and emotionally supporting a man. Also, how to be encouraging towards him.😊
This has to be my favorite Tony Gaskins video 🤍🤍🤍 thank you !
Such an excellent teaching.. this will bring freedom to a lot of women!!
The key word here is men of character. Too many women are licking their wounds from dealing with men they had no business dealing with and are triggered when the truth is spoken about building with a godly man. There is a difference ladies and we need to learn it.
Be blessed Sir!
Tony, this was a layered cake of a message !!! Where are all the help-meets at?? Whoop-whoop !!!
I will never say a man has to have x, y or the z but please be a faithful man at least. I don't want a man with money or without it, that's so weak they'll sleep with anybody or anything! Stay strong out here men, especially if you have a good woman that's willing to be with you when you have nothing and will help you keep the house a home even while you both have flaws!
I think alot of the young women don't have men who have ambition and drive. We can't ignore the ratio, many of the "free" black men don't want to get married until they're 40 and 50's. To some ppl 100k is decent but how many bm are making this, based off ratio. There's many factors. Eboni is right, her delivery has been deflected. Black men can't stand when well to do women say I don't want you.... They leave the poor stuck....
Yes sir, Tony! Character is so important
Character, conduct, and conversation is key. May faith in God be our currency because He is the only constant 🙏🏾
Such a good talk. Thank you for your insights on this Brother Tony!
This is powerful. Thank you Tony 😊
Character is significant. All these new individuals giving this advice are talking from a place of hurt unhealed individual, which is why I do not take what they say at face value.
Teach, TG. Brian Tracy 👔 says: [...most people don't have money until their 40s & 50s].
Do you think a relationship can work if the woman makes more than her man? Especially if her career is professional and his is isn't? I've been reading about how the man becomes competitive and resentful. I'm a professional and yes I'm tired of working.
Your absolutely correct !!! Your beautiful and Character is very important and I approve this message . Please let them know please !!!!!!! God has been working on me and getting through to me and this is far the best conversation I have heard in a goodt while, you do your thing and I pray God continues to pour into you to open the eyes of women and men !!!
True alot of women vet a man’s wallet and ignore character. Then when he has rhe money and abuse he she going to act like she didnt see all the signs
This was so good and it explains about being equally yolked
I don’t believe your statement is always true, depending on the insecurity of a man they will try to get a trophy wife to make him look good & do whatever it takes to keep her because he cares more about the image. I’ve seen men I know with girls that they barely have anything in common, the girl is very superficial and boring but other men admire him because his woman is very beautiful, and he may be breaking the bank to be with her. But going on double dates and seeing how they barely interact & she’s just on her phone with a bad attitude, taking selfies, it shows me all I need to know. But there’s A LOT of men like this not respecting themselves cuz they want a hot girlfriend. But men like Tony I agree they wouldn’t stand for that
As always, Amazing message! 👍🏼 Stay Blessed 🙏🏼
That lady is 40, single (never married), no kids, and definitely not looks challenged. She has all the access to high earning men a woman could ask for, yet she’s single. I don’t think the bus driver would date her judging by the character she’s displayed.
Tony did you even look this women up too see what she owns😂😂 she is not just a broadcaster
I like simple things too thats what men like
Excellent video! 💯💯
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽you preaching TG❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great word.
💜💜💜💜 Checkin in and out 🙌🏾
Wow thanks for this one Tony loads of value✨👏
Shoot I would as long as he good to me. I’m old fashioned so we can elevate up together. I will have his back and he has mines. I will take an average man that works just like myself. I don’t look at a man for him always providing for me it works both ways
Facts! Sometimes the very thing we're looking for is right in front of us but we just can't get over one thing. Ain't nothing wrong with average as long as they ain't trying to spend up your money on foolishness. It's like nobody sees marriage as a team or something that can be built on; they want everything to be perfect and perfect is never going to happen and then it ends up failing. Why can't we learn from each other and grow instead of just being these over zealous professionals where everything has to be perfect? As a house cleaner I hear these types of stories and I'm just like dang people really do look down on those of us who do manual labor. Money really should not be everything in the pursuit of a relationship.
Here is an unlikely person to bring into this conversation. When I watched the Fred Rodgers documentary, he needed funding from the government for his show Mr. Rogers Neighborhood. After everyone told him, they would not fund him, three minutes into his humble petition, they granted him the millions he needed. They saw his character, and throughout his many years of production, he became successful and remained humble.
Tony on fire today ! 🔥
Awesome Tony alots of wisdom THANK you , always listen to you from a long time God Bless you and your family
True talk the Bible says A man should marry when he is able to provide for A wife and A home it doesn't say how much he has to make to do so
Thank you so much for sharing this. Glory to God
This is good and much needed wisdom!🔥
Thank you for the great lesson!
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Sure I agree people need to stop being so loud about it. There’s just social media now and everybody has an opinion.
This so true my pastor said that this lady husband was rich he was in investment helping save people churches now this man died now the widow has to look for a job I could not believe this until I hear you say this thanks
It wasn't broadcasted because women were suppressed "according to history" by laws etc
Real talk😌
I loved this video
Can you do a video about the “sprinkle sprinkle” lady
Men with character is hard to find
Tony don’t block me bc mostly I agree with you and have listened to just about all of your videos. But you are wrong about building a man. When we build men once they are capable of getting a younger woman, better looking bc he’s financially stable then he leaves. (Has never happened to me). Happens more often than not to lady friends and female family .
Tony, you yourself talk about men who are look’s challenged(ugly, nerdy, etc )but have good a looking woman bc of his finances. Women do not waste your time building no man bc after you have built him up he will leave you for the kind of woman he truly wants (dream girl, younger, more beautiful, or better sexually, etc).
I’m happily married and only dated men who were already financially independent when I was single. Several instances, I dated men willing to leave their then situationtionships and marry me. One guy had been with his living girlfriend 15 years. She built him up, paid 1/2 of the bills. They broke up bc he wouldn’t ask her to marry him. I met him 1 month after and 6 months later he asked me to marry him, move into the house that she’d helped him pay off. Ladies, DO NOT be Barbra the Builder!!!!
Sooo good.
U are preaching Tony
I use their curriculum to teach my child as well. Very resourceful, affordable and various teaching methods K-12 I believe. You can buy individual lessons or bundles.
What curriculum?
This need to go viral.
Thank YOU!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'd tell all of my Nephews to bypass a Woman with a salary mandate. That mindset feels like Men are seen as human Cash Cows- it's very cold and unsettling as a mindset.😫💔😡
Agree 100% and any woman that comes to my son and is out the gate talking about how much money he makes in my opinion is a red flag!
@Gigi Brown_Wright Yes!!!💯 Totally agree. I was just explaining to a Male coworker- that so many guys don't know the "games" some Women/Females play. So, I school young "Brothers" often.
@@BerryFlair Elaborate?
@@BerryFlair how? she’s protecting her nephews from being taken advantage of 🤨
@@phizzy123 Thank you!♥️🙏🏾
So much wisdom, thank you 😊
Accessing, Applying and Activating Emotional Intelligence is so important in all relationships ❤
Keep doing what you do !
Lol, brother Tony you are funnieeee lol😂
Loved this! ✨
Coach T these cats don't want a real women that will support them, encourage them, push them to be their best. They are too busy chasing a bag, booty and projecting their wounds on women. Can you do a group session or retreat with these brothas and get them on the right track to being their best selves.....we gotta heal