She has wayyyyy too much brains for him. He thought he liked her for her beauty but now that he knows she has a brain and a mind for herself, he literally has no comeback or reason to be in the relationship. He’s not the man for you, sis. He’s a childish ass little boy who thinks he can buy love and thinks that being a man just means paying bills and over talking a woman because she’s a woman. He doesn’t respect her voice or her mind at all. Unfortunately, I’m talking to myself 3 years ago.
@@JzmnDouglas I understand her position all too well. She wants to hold on soooo bad because she “loves him”. But, until he learns how to truly love and appreciate her for her, it’ll never work. She’ll always be yearning for more.
It was the way she had to go out there and talk to him like he was a little child for me😩 It will be hard for him to find someone else willing to do that… I don’t think he is ready for a serious relationship at all. When you reach a point where you cannot accept correction or see where you are wrong, it’s downhill from there
Emotional intelligence is important. When a person constantly says they don’t get it drives me crazy!! Especially because she (talking about my relationship too) is repeatedly telling him her feelings. His invalidating behalf drives me crazy
Hawaii kerenso - I agree with you. The evidence that demonstrated that Paul was never on her level was when he began to swear. Paul is unable to articulate himself, so he stoops to that low level.
He is such a child. He’s full of insecurities, i guarantee he’s cheating because that’s what people do when they’re afraid of getting caught (deflect), and he’s super passive aggressive. Ugh. Also my therapist told my husband and myself we’re not allowed to argue in session and i love that because when i get passionate i get reeaaaal loud lol. We also don’t have these kind of issues, just trying to grow more together and make sure we’re on the right path. Going on 7 years of marriage their situation is real cringe.
@@beamboyz4901 I don’t know why you think that as a married woman i would go and “hate” on paul. He’s disrespectful and insecure but if you like it i love it.
@@naanartab2930 She loves the man he presented himself as those first couple of years and she wants him back but she doesn't realise that man never existed she basically fell in love with a lie.
I feel like she said she doesn't know because she's literally said everything to him multiple times away from therapy & he still didn't change. & him cussing at her really triggered me too
Sis asked for permission to curse, meanwhile Paul has used EVERY CURSE WORD in the world!🤣 They do not belong together. Also, sorry for all the comments. I’m super excited, irritated, frustrated, and intrigued by all of this. Some of this is TOO familiar, and I am glad I walked away. I feel like she should too! Thank you for coming to all my TedTalks!😩💛
How he trun everything off of him onto her, especially when he thinks he has a leg to stand on. I think he's a used car salesman because his double talk and gibberish game is on point.😘😂😂🤣
Like I said in part 1: typical narcissist ...Run!!!! When he said, “we live together” it’s like a man saying “I don’t have to say I love you all the time...I married you didn’t I?” I can’t! Girl run!!!
My thought too. Usually I'm skeptical but I def don't think the whole thing is fake. Maybe embellished and the therapist might not be 100 percent real but the couple here def have real issues lol
‘Taking the piss’ or ‘taking the mick/mickey’ or ‘having a laugh’ refers to when somebody is being ridiculous/ ridiculing your or taking advantage. If I say ‘omg you’re taking the piss’ it’s like saying ‘you’re trying to play me for a fool’ or ‘you’re trying to make me out to be stupid’. It’s kinda like saying (in an argument) ‘are you fr???’. Actually can my fellow Brits help me out because that phrase is so hard to define without using another phrase😂😂 ‘are you taking the piss??’/‘are you having a laugh??’/ ‘you’re mugging me off’ all came to mind when I tried to explain that😂😂😂
Ahhh I understand lmao it's like u feel disrespected or made a fool out of so most of the things u said I found it hard to explain it too I thought it was just me 😂😂
My man escalated *himself* and walked out. I swear he don't even know why he's mad because he never answered the question and kept changing the subject. I hope she knows she doesn't need that
I love how when one person is talking the other is strictly listening and looking at the other person paying attention. That’s how you know the communication between these two is impeccable.
men like that will buy you things to keep you around and then when you try to leave they’ll say “where are you gonna stay?” “who’s going to keep you dressed nice?” “good luck finding a job” as if all they’re good for is being banks. hopefully soon they’ll realize that’s insulting to themselves as well
@@goldielocs8661 Then they claim women want to be "masculine" when they insist on financial independence. If this is how you act when I have my own, what type of power will you have if I had nothing 🙆🏾♀️
My father acted exactly like the man in the video, i grew up around him to notice as i got older he acted like a child. As i myself am a child watching him. He would demand things as if he’s the only person in the world, and always felt his role as a father was just to provide despite his passive aggressiveness, distancing, and doings. Also like the man in the video, he would place so much importance on his work and always “bragged” about what he does. As a child i noticed and started to dislike him. Now i have grown older and have learned to respect what he does and what he provided, but I still see the faults in his whole persona. Because I’ve known him ever since i was born so this is all i know of him. Anyways this video felt like watching my father before he had kids. I am 14. 🙃
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 She took the abuse a lot, it was never physicals (except when they got heated) but my father would be fine one time and all lovey dovey when he got what he wants, and acted nice to the whole family, but when he came back from work or he didnt get what he wanted, be would be angry, aggressive, condescending, literally just like the man in the video. there was always tension in our house and whenever he came home it went dead silent. My mom and us children left him. We moved 🤗
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 she wasnt always strong, she cried a lot bc of him, and he laughed while she did. (made me dislike him even more) she got tired of being tired, and became more independent until we were able to move out. :)
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 she never let him change her though, she cried and bickered but didnt change who she was. I would say as a kid, come to terms that he is the way he is, and focus on your child who is being affected by the environment. Focus on yourself as well, there’s not much you can do to him, you cant change him. so be there for yourself and your kid so you can be better and stronger. dont waste breathe on someone who has been acting that way since birth
Ok but can we talk about the emotional maturity and strength this woman has? Like she's fighting for this relationship, problem solving and picking up the pieces on her own when she doesn't have to
@summerP 💯 they bullies emotional vampires 🙄watching this got me so irritated, it reminded me of my ex. Tis was so him, his behavior & i felt when she said she don't know what she can say when expressing her to him cause it gets exhausting and that when you know you done, you gon walk away.
When she said that she didn’t know how to tell him what she need I think she meant it in a way that he understands it cuz obviously no matter how simple she says he takes it to a whole another level or left field somewhere. I think at this point she was thinking do I really want to be with someone who could care less about how I feel emotionally and physically
Hi i’m British basically “taking the piss” is a form of expression of taking me for a joke like they feel unheard or is made to seem like a fool I hope that helps ❤️🥰
I feel like one of the main reasons why people shout and cuss at each other while arguing is because they have hidden unresolved trauma within them that causing them to uncontrollably lash out physically, emotionally and verbally towards their partner, but also because they are used to communicating this way with their parents and family members. If your parents speak to you like this, most likely you'll grow up to pass it on to your future husband and children and the cycle will continue until that person realises that cussing and shouting is not benefiting anybody. The bible says a soft answer turns away wrath. And words carry the power of death and life. Until we learn how to behave and correctly treat each other, these things will continue. And it starts off in the home. Most of us grew up seeing this type of communication but this doesn't mean you are doomed to be like your parents or friends. You can still choose to make better choices, end the cycle and create a healthy home for yourself, your future husband and future children and all your relationships.
He don't love her. Everytime he asked about giving love or does he love her, etc. He keeps talking about money or a brand or "business". He's prolly just using her because she's pretty and he prolly just wants someone there?? I don't even know. But he dumb as hell and said the whole thing was a waste of time. If he really cared about her, he would cared about her feelings and what she was saying.
I wish my husband had a friend like josh to help him emotionally understand certain aspects of relationships. Josh is very insightful, and Isi does well at communicating what she feels and what she requires to feel understood as well as what she requires to move forward in a situation.
It’s Isi’s replication of “a dance with knees bent” and humming for meeee 😂 I LITERALLY thought about the same dance, but nah sis ion think that one was it! 🤣
Honestly, if Paul had been listening, Chioma said exactly how she wants him to show affection and what she wants him to do so she feels loved. He spends a bag to keep up, then has to work extra to make it up, but had he been responsible, he could've used that time to spend with Chioma (quality time). When they go out and she looks good for him, but he doesn't say anything until other people are complimenting her on IG; she wants him to compliment her from jump when she does these things for him. Every time she brings up an issue, she tells him how he could've handled the situation differently to respect her feelings. He just doesn't care.
Idk why he wants to make everything sound like a transaction or he's such a businessman or breadwinner. If she got paid to deal with his BS it'd at least triple his paycheck.
@@sphumelelepearlgcabashe2166 maybe that's what it is. She gotta stay with him long enough to film the show and get the paycheck or something. I wonder if he's even a little embarrassed about showing the world he's a narcissistic man boy 🙃
That fact that Paul left, I don’t know what other sign or RED FLAG she needs to know that she needs to leave. HONEY!!!! Leave Paul’s toxic butt behind. 🤦🏾♀️ LADIES!!!! When are we gonna wake up and see that our worth is better than staying in the wrong relationship. Self love & respect💙💙💙 God has sooo much more in store for you
If I was a potential client for this man I would dismiss myself. His comprehension skills and him connecting the dots are off. This woman really loves him and wants to make sure he loves her back.
*Sis, if you stay after this, you’re no longer a victim, you’re a volunteer.* He doesn’t see you as a partner, he sees you as a possession. Stop letting him be your puppet-master, ladies. What you saw here? That was classic narcissist rage after a perceived ego injury (she is under my purview, and thus everything she is, thinks, says, wears, and does including her IG account is also under my purview described as “MY BRAND”). I was her 11 years ago after I got engaged to my malignant narc ex, things weren’t great but he really switched up when I gave up my condo in the city to move into his place in the suburbs) straight Jekyll and Hyde. She’s so close to to getting it, so I’ll pray that seeing this wakes her up. This ain’t it sis. Your creator NEVER called you to be anyone’s possession. #GetGod then #GetGone and then #GetGrown
Isi and Josh, definitely watch episode 5. Omg 😳 that's a serious jaw dropper. Love your channel and you two look so great together. Many blessings upon you and your relationship.
seeing Chioma talk to him breaks my heart because you can see her putting all her last bit of patience into him and she just cares so much although he's such a child omg
I personally believe she doesn't know how to express her feelings to him because he literally shuts her down everytime she tries to share how she feel, and he gets extremely emotional and angry.
The takeaways you guys gave really helped me look at myself bc I’m the type you guys were talking about being the type to get easily triggered or just naturally elevated and don’t even realize how it can vibe hurtful. I really appreciate the techniques you guys came up with and I’m going to try them with my partner 🙏🏾 love you guys!! ❤️
I usually don’t comment but did we realize how Paul said he don’t like the pictures she post on Instagram but he is the one that is taking the pictures and want credit for her brand.
A common technic used by singers and recommended by vocal coaches is to record yourself singing and watch/play it back so you can see what you look like when you are singing and you can hear what you are doing vocally outside of the moment. It’s a self critique. I never thought to apply the same thing to other areas, but I think it’s exactly what y’all are describing at the end. I love the idea of rewatching yourself communicate. Would definitely improve self awareness.
Uhhhh yesss just finished watching Josh's video on his channel! You have been missed glad y'all back and I need it this today I have been thinking and trying to manifest/ask god y'all posting this is just what I needed today!!💚💚
Yasss I can’t wait for them to see. I had to binge after their video but I still wanna see them react cause it’s cray. Also there is an aftermath episode I hope y’all watch that too
“Taking the piss” is like treating someone like a joke or being somewhat disrespectful e.g. if I’m roasting you, we would say “I’m taking the piss out of you” OR if Chioma spends all day cleaning the house and Paul makes a mess of it in 1 minute - Chioma could say “Paul are you taking the piss?”
Most communication problems start at home with your family and you get in a relationship and don’t know how to have a respectful conversation without yelling or cussing. Take a step back and relax and If you care about that person you’ll fix your communicate habits for the better.
Time out lol GUYS ! home boy was jealous that he wasn't there🤣😂.... and for once she was actually happy without him. Lol see how hot he's getting already.....he probably replayed that video a thousand times😂🤣
“Taken a piss” means they’re“dragging it” or they’re being unreasonable on a new level. When someone says or does something you think is disrespectful or crazy. It could be a surprised expression to something someone is telling you as well. Hope that helped😊
Yes yes yes ! Josh and Isi I love you guys! Loved when you said they’re trying to be understood but not understanding each other. And I find that very very very true! Which made me open my mind, in a situation I’ve been experiencing. Thank you for this !! love how you guys are so open and charismatic! #Bigups 🤍!!
i looked it up 33:35 it said : But if someone angrily complains that another person is “taking the piss”, this means that they are behaving in a way that is unacceptable. For example, if you were waiting for a train that was delayed for an hour for no good reason, you’re likely to hear other travellers on the train say something like, “they’re really taking the piss now.”
Paul is very condescending & passive aggressive. He needs a yes girl...shes clearly not that! Girl leave em! Move out immediately! Rumor has it...Paul still hasn't answered any questions 😕 😂
Thankss for an amazing reaction ...i can't wait for the rest of the episodes. And by the way the "reunion" confirmed that their relationships are actually REALL💖💖💖💖💖
He reminds me of that guy from the “why did I get married” movie, who did Jill Scott wrong 🥴 but regardlessss, it’s a no from me. the same respect he wants from her, should be reciprocated. chileee, 🙃
She is calling out that Narcissism and she is spot on! This whole therapy session is pointless, he is who he is, he may change for a brief second, but she will never get what she wants from him! Thank you next! "The Plot Thickens" lol!
I rarely disagree with ya'll but I feel like when two ppl curse naturally like day to day it doesn't carry the same weight. In my case it's me I grew up with two parents from the south side of Chicago my whole family included extended cusses a lot in relaxed settings. Granted I have adjusted for my bf but it just doesn't bother me it's just adjectives. But I feel life it's different when you don't curse normally then it comes out during arguments.
Adding "respectfully" to the end of each sentence doesn't make it any less disrespectful PAUL!
🤣💯 can't say that right after being disrespectful!
right lol!
that’s like saying “no offense” like i’m still offended paul 💀
😩🤦🏾♀️
I don't like this comment, respectfully
She has wayyyyy too much brains for him. He thought he liked her for her beauty but now that he knows she has a brain and a mind for herself, he literally has no comeback or reason to be in the relationship. He’s not the man for you, sis. He’s a childish ass little boy who thinks he can buy love and thinks that being a man just means paying bills and over talking a woman because she’s a woman. He doesn’t respect her voice or her mind at all.
Unfortunately, I’m talking to myself 3 years ago.
Right on point!
@@JzmnDouglas I understand her position all too well. She wants to hold on soooo bad because she “loves him”. But, until he learns how to truly love and appreciate her for her, it’ll never work. She’ll always be yearning for more.
growth! you 3 years ago is proud of you rn
@@malaikan.4246 thank you sis 🥺🥺🥺 brb. Somebody’s cutting onions.
It was the way she had to go out there and talk to him like he was a little child for me😩 It will be hard for him to find someone else willing to do that… I don’t think he is ready for a serious relationship at all. When you reach a point where you cannot accept correction or see where you are wrong, it’s downhill from there
“Taking the piss” or “taking the mick” means that the person is mocking them, violating them, taking them for an idiot
Thank you for explaining this to us.🥰
@@mstluv1101 you are welcome, I love that RUclips connects cultures and countries
I was scrolling through to check whether any of my British folk had covered this before I wrote the explanation lol 👌🏾🇬🇧
I was shocked that its not used worldwide. Oh dear my ignorance
@@koley1723 ❤️🇬🇧
“Do you see where I’m coming from” no Paul you haven’t made a lick of sense since you started talking
😂😂😂❤️
Hello 🤣🤣
A LICK 😂😂😂
No lies detected here 😂
I feel like she's too emotionally smart for him that he doesn't even get what she's trynna say.
"arguing with a smart person is hard but arguing with a dumb person is impossible."
She needs to leave.
Emotional intelligence is important. When a person constantly says they don’t get it drives me crazy!! Especially because she (talking about my relationship too) is repeatedly telling him her feelings. His invalidating behalf drives me crazy
@@senamilemahlangu729 girl you said it best .. bcuz I'm really like what Paul what???
Hawaii kerenso - I agree with you. The evidence that demonstrated that Paul was never on her level was when he began to swear. Paul is unable to articulate himself, so he stoops to that low level.
+ him swerving every question directed to him with another question. NO THANK YOU.
I am still waiting on Paul to answer a question
🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯
Really just ONE question so we can say he did something useful
@@ad2094 the "man" is a first rate idiot
Right! Like, Paul what time is it? Paul what color is your suit? Paul just answer a question! Any question 🤣
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"everything said in here stays in this room" yet millions of people are watching lollll
Lmao fr I was like..... 👁👅👁
Lmfaoo like bruhh.. I see this shit from quite Trinidad 🤣
Yes, I did hear that.🤣
I said the same thing to myself 😂😂😂😂
I PAUSED THE VIDEO IN SHOCK 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'M LIKE IS THIS NOT TELEVISED??
He is such a child. He’s full of insecurities, i guarantee he’s cheating because that’s what people do when they’re afraid of getting caught (deflect), and he’s super passive aggressive. Ugh. Also my therapist told my husband and myself we’re not allowed to argue in session and i love that because when i get passionate i get reeaaaal loud lol. We also don’t have these kind of issues, just trying to grow more together and make sure we’re on the right path. Going on 7 years of marriage their situation is real cringe.
I bet he is
That’s what came to my mind
I love Paul u hating on my guy
@@beamboyz4901 I don’t know why you think that as a married woman i would go and “hate” on paul. He’s disrespectful and insecure but if you like it i love it.
She said it. She knows exactly who he is: controlling, narcissistic, insulting, emotionally abusive. He's disgusting.
Idk why she's still with him tbh
@@keziahbrutus She thinks she loves him. Sis needs to leave ASAP!!
If she knows him of all that, then why is she still in the relationship. Or is she trying to change him, he is too grown to be change. ??
@@naanartab2930 She loves the man he presented himself as those first couple of years and she wants him back but she doesn't realise that man never existed she basically fell in love with a lie.
@@meishadevon4577 I've been where she is now, and hopefully she won't stick around as long as I did
I feel like she said she doesn't know because she's literally said everything to him multiple times away from therapy & he still didn't change. & him cussing at her really triggered me too
Same here🤦🏾♀️
Yeah that’s what I got from her statement too. This all seemed like conversations that they’ve had before
Yup she been saying what she wanted the whole time.
@@peacefulbadger4550 Exactly 💯
@@HeruteAmlak Yea you can tell smh
Sis asked for permission to curse, meanwhile Paul has used EVERY CURSE WORD in the world!🤣
They do not belong together. Also, sorry for all the comments. I’m super excited, irritated, frustrated, and intrigued by all of this.
Some of this is TOO familiar, and I am glad I walked away. I feel like she should too! Thank you for coming to all my TedTalks!😩💛
I'm glad someone else shares my feelings. I want to comment every 2 seconds.
FACTS..hindsight is 2020!
I thought I was the only one that comments multiple times 😭😭😭I be feeling like 🥶 but 🤷🏾♀️ at the same time lol
@@gingerhoney4031 you should sis! This is a free country.🤣 you see I have no shame. lol.
@@stacycherrell1791 AMEN! And that’s the year we should’ve stopped putting up with this kinda mess!
He's such a hypocrite full of double standards. He doesn't trust her because he knows how he get down with women at the club. 😉
Thank youuuuu!!!
How he trun everything off of him onto her, especially when he thinks he has a leg to stand on. I think he's a used car salesman because his double talk and gibberish game is on point.😘😂😂🤣
THAT PART!
Every time he asked, “do you understand where I am coming from?” I screamed, “NO!”
Nobody:
Isi: Tread lightly Paul Jr. 🤣
Like I said in part 1: typical narcissist ...Run!!!!
When he said, “we live together” it’s like a man saying “I don’t have to say I love you all the time...I married you didn’t I?” I can’t!
Girl run!!!
I wish I could like this a thousand times !!
This ain’t fake. The expressions are too honestly and not thought out.
My thought too. Usually I'm skeptical but I def don't think the whole thing is fake. Maybe embellished and the therapist might not be 100 percent real but the couple here def have real issues lol
it's sad he thinks being in a relationship is like having a business.
a relationship is not like business bond and branding
‘Taking the piss’ or ‘taking the mick/mickey’ or ‘having a laugh’ refers to when somebody is being ridiculous/ ridiculing your or taking advantage. If I say ‘omg you’re taking the piss’ it’s like saying ‘you’re trying to play me for a fool’ or ‘you’re trying to make me out to be stupid’. It’s kinda like saying (in an argument) ‘are you fr???’.
Actually can my fellow Brits help me out because that phrase is so hard to define without using another phrase😂😂 ‘are you taking the piss??’/‘are you having a laugh??’/ ‘you’re mugging me off’ all came to mind when I tried to explain that😂😂😂
Ahhh I understand lmao it's like u feel disrespected or made a fool out of so most of the things u said I found it hard to explain it too I thought it was just me 😂😂
Just taking the piss innit 🤷🏾♀️😂😂 jk you got it still, basically just mocking it/mocking you
Oh like “you trying me 😐”
@@ashleyglasper9819 Nailed it!
You explained it pretty well tbf 😂... it's kinda like "are you taking me for an idiot"... me being from the UK I forgot that it's not universal term 😅
That fact that she was actively begging his ass to get back in the room like babes atp whats the point?
My man escalated *himself* and walked out. I swear he don't even know why he's mad because he never answered the question and kept changing the subject. I hope she knows she doesn't need that
Paul is a HORRIBLE listener… he’s just cutting her off the whole time…
Exactly. This guy is disgusting!!!
Oh, there is a part 5 now too. 🤣🤣🤣 I don't care if they fake either 🤣🤣. I love the concept of it
There are actually 6 in all🙈
@@recowatson6206 I'm not counting the aftermath. If I do, that's 8 in total cause that's 3 parts (and not on RUclips)
@@baybeetricia Check it again, you'll see they have 6 episodes of the series
@@recowatson6206 ok. Thanks.
F😂😂same Fran same
I love how when one person is talking the other is strictly listening and looking at the other person paying attention. That’s how you know the communication between these two is impeccable.
A lot of men think that if they pay the bills they don’t have to do anything else
The funny thing Chioma is also paying the bills and according to the new episodes she pays more
men like that will buy you things to keep you around and then when you try to leave they’ll say “where are you gonna stay?” “who’s going to keep you dressed nice?” “good luck finding a job” as if all they’re good for is being banks. hopefully soon they’ll realize that’s insulting to themselves as well
@@queenbaudelaire3021 yup it’s a control thing
@@goldielocs8661 Then they claim women want to be "masculine" when they insist on financial independence. If this is how you act when I have my own, what type of power will you have if I had nothing 🙆🏾♀️
Chioma pays 60% while he pays 40% she said this in the aftermath
The way he speaks down to her 🙄 "Babe, babe, babe. You're taking the piss" please 🙄
Just soo sad to see yes
Just because a person is saying "respectfully" doesnt mean they are being respectful at aaalllll shade is shade period.
i don't know how Chioma did 3 years of this lordddddd God protect me & all women from men like this
My father acted exactly like the man in the video, i grew up around him to notice as i got older he acted like a child. As i myself am a child watching him. He would demand things as if he’s the only person in the world, and always felt his role as a father was just to provide despite his passive aggressiveness, distancing, and doings. Also like the man in the video, he would place so much importance on his work and always “bragged” about what he does. As a child i noticed and started to dislike him. Now i have grown older and have learned to respect what he does and what he provided, but I still see the faults in his whole persona. Because I’ve known him ever since i was born so this is all i know of him. Anyways this video felt like watching my father before he had kids. I am 14. 🙃
Lmao so whats going on with dads because my dad is exactly like this too. A whole manchild bruh😂😂
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 She took the abuse a lot, it was never physicals (except when they got heated) but my father would be fine one time and all lovey dovey when he got what he wants, and acted nice to the whole family, but when he came back from work or he didnt get what he wanted, be would be angry, aggressive, condescending, literally just like the man in the video. there was always tension in our house and whenever he came home it went dead silent. My mom and us children left him. We moved 🤗
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 she wasnt always strong, she cried a lot bc of him, and he laughed while she did. (made me dislike him even more) she got tired of being tired, and became more independent until we were able to move out. :)
@@blessedandbeautiful8365 she never let him change her though, she cried and bickered but didnt change who she was. I would say as a kid, come to terms that he is the way he is, and focus on your child who is being affected by the environment. Focus on yourself as well, there’s not much you can do to him, you cant change him. so be there for yourself and your kid so you can be better and stronger. dont waste breathe on someone who has been acting that way since birth
Sending you love! Hope you are surrounded by better and healthier adults now
Saying "respectfully" at the end of every sentence doesn't make it any less disrespectful. And then him and his "high-end clients".
Ok but can we talk about the emotional maturity and strength this woman has? Like she's fighting for this relationship, problem solving and picking up the pieces on her own when she doesn't have to
@summerP 💯 they bullies emotional vampires 🙄watching this got me so irritated, it reminded me of my ex. Tis was so him, his behavior & i felt when she said she don't know what she can say when expressing her to him cause it gets exhausting and that when you know you done, you gon walk away.
Did anybody else catch “they in the hallway like Maury”? That reference sent me 😂😭
Paul is the definition of “you would be nothing without me” - that’s a hell nah from me.
When she said that she didn’t know how to tell him what she need I think she meant it in a way that he understands it cuz obviously no matter how simple she says he takes it to a whole another level or left field somewhere. I think at this point she was thinking do I really want to be with someone who could care less about how I feel emotionally and physically
Hi i’m British basically “taking the piss” is a form of expression of taking me for a joke like they feel unheard or is made to seem like a fool I hope that helps ❤️🥰
Coming from the Caribbean, I thought it meant actually peeing🤣 thanks
Spot on
Thank you! Was scrolling looking for this translation 🤣
She needs to run fast and far. He is a COMPLETE narcissist.
“Tread lightly Paul Jr.” 😂😂😂 that line kills me
He trusted the therapist enough to not tell her what he does for a living. Lol 🤣🤣🤣
He's Tommy from Martin constantly bragging about a job he doesn't have.
@@latashadjefferson5465 😱🤣🤣🤣
you ain’t GOT no job 💀💀
I literally watched all the episodes for blue therapy and it was crazy
Same! I binged them all after their first reaction video lol
Lmaooo me tooo i had to skip the parts just like them too
@@angelyscazes2753 I watched the other couple too. They're messy too, but not as messy as this one lbs
Literally me tho after I watched their first reaction video lol!!!
@@angelyscazes2753 dont sleep on Deborah and Jamel
“Taking the piss” basically means that one is being extra, or moving mad, or making you seem like an idiot. Stuff like that.
I feel like one of the main reasons why people shout and cuss at each other while arguing is because they have hidden unresolved trauma within them that causing them to uncontrollably lash out physically, emotionally and verbally towards their partner, but also because they are used to communicating this way with their parents and family members. If your parents speak to you like this, most likely you'll grow up to pass it on to your future husband and children and the cycle will continue until that person realises that cussing and shouting is not benefiting anybody. The bible says a soft answer turns away wrath. And words carry the power of death and life. Until we learn how to behave and correctly treat each other, these things will continue. And it starts off in the home. Most of us grew up seeing this type of communication but this doesn't mean you are doomed to be like your parents or friends. You can still choose to make better choices, end the cycle and create a healthy home for yourself, your future husband and future children and all your relationships.
Amen well said!
@@tonielease4301 amen !
Josh’s face when she said “ dancing on him “ 😂😂😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
"you doing all this body movement and stuff we can't even hear what's happening" 🤣😭😭😭
"I'm speaking from a position of power" please 🙄😭
He don't love her. Everytime he asked about giving love or does he love her, etc. He keeps talking about money or a brand or "business". He's prolly just using her because she's pretty and he prolly just wants someone there?? I don't even know. But he dumb as hell and said the whole thing was a waste of time. If he really cared about her, he would cared about her feelings and what she was saying.
when paul left, and then the other guy left as well. THAT FREAKING KILLED ME PFTTTT
30:23
I wish my husband had a friend like josh to help him emotionally understand certain aspects of relationships. Josh is very insightful, and Isi does well at communicating what she feels and what she requires to feel understood as well as what she requires to move forward in a situation.
They're both self aware and emotionally intelligent!
It's so interesting watching a couple who communicate well and respect each react to this.
Crazy to see the difference in both couples interactions.
“You can’t teach someone how to love you, if you don’t know how to love you” - Josh. 💯💯
You don't need to teach the right man how to love you either
Paul: So what I got from that is that you want to be tamed
Josh's face timestamp 19:30 #PRICELESS
"sometimes the way you love on yourself is different than the type of love you want to receive from your partner" I been saying this forever!
It’s Isi’s replication of “a dance with knees bent” and humming for meeee 😂 I LITERALLY thought about the same dance, but nah sis ion think that one was it! 🤣
Honestly, if Paul had been listening, Chioma said exactly how she wants him to show affection and what she wants him to do so she feels loved. He spends a bag to keep up, then has to work extra to make it up, but had he been responsible, he could've used that time to spend with Chioma (quality time). When they go out and she looks good for him, but he doesn't say anything until other people are complimenting her on IG; she wants him to compliment her from jump when she does these things for him. Every time she brings up an issue, she tells him how he could've handled the situation differently to respect her feelings. He just doesn't care.
It’s the crackheadedness during the ads for me😭💀
same lmaooo
"Taking the piss" basically means "you’re talking nonsense" "You've gotta be kidding me."
Did anyone else notice the Beyonce shirt!!! I'm here for ittt.
"This is outstandingly outrageous" ahaha same Josh, same
He clearly does not respect her feelings because he says it’s a waste of time SIS GET OUT FAST
I feel like she said "I don't know what to say" because he was giving out the vibe 'I won't change, you are talking bullsh*t' and she sensed it.
I think Chioma and Paul need to get some counseling from Josh and Isi 😂😭
Isi’s little jingle reminds of the Tea Time Tuesday song 😭😂
Idk why he wants to make everything sound like a transaction or he's such a businessman or breadwinner. If she got paid to deal with his BS it'd at least triple his paycheck.
I would too😂😊 getting the check because I'm certain that I wouldn't put up with his BS for free
@@sphumelelepearlgcabashe2166 maybe that's what it is. She gotta stay with him long enough to film the show and get the paycheck or something. I wonder if he's even a little embarrassed about showing the world he's a narcissistic man boy 🙃
@@sea-of-skies_ I'm wondering the same thing too
That fact that Paul left, I don’t know what other sign or RED FLAG she needs to know that she needs to leave. HONEY!!!! Leave Paul’s toxic butt behind. 🤦🏾♀️
LADIES!!!! When are we gonna wake up and see that our worth is better than staying in the wrong relationship. Self love & respect💙💙💙 God has sooo much more in store for you
It took me a long time not to watch it without y’all! Not disappointed still Quality
I already watched the other parts but I'm gonna watch it again with yall just to hear yall commentary lmao
If I was a potential client for this man I would dismiss myself. His comprehension skills and him connecting the dots are off.
This woman really loves him and wants to make sure he loves her back.
*Sis, if you stay after this, you’re no longer a victim, you’re a volunteer.*
He doesn’t see you as a partner, he sees you as a possession. Stop letting him be your puppet-master, ladies. What you saw here? That was classic narcissist rage after a perceived ego injury (she is under my purview, and thus everything she is, thinks, says, wears, and does including her IG account is also under my purview described as “MY BRAND”). I was her 11 years ago after I got engaged to my malignant narc ex, things weren’t great but he really switched up when I gave up my condo in the city to move into his place in the suburbs) straight Jekyll and Hyde. She’s so close to to getting it, so I’ll pray that seeing this wakes her up. This ain’t it sis. Your creator NEVER called you to be anyone’s possession.
#GetGod then #GetGone and then #GetGrown
The toxic male patriarchy mostly equivocates love and money - josh 2021
Therapist: "do you think you're giving her the love she requires?"
Paul: "we live together"🧍♀️
OKAYYY???😭😭😭
so happy to see y’all again! hope y’all enjoyed your break!🥰
Isi and Josh, definitely watch episode 5. Omg 😳 that's a serious jaw dropper. Love your channel and you two look so great together. Many blessings upon you and your relationship.
The disappointment on Josh’s faaaace! 😂 0:15
seeing Chioma talk to him breaks my heart because you can see her putting all her last bit of patience into him and she just cares so much although he's such a child omg
yass stay on girl code Isi. Dancing with knees bent is not always twerking!!!
The comments, reactions, all of it just made me HOLLLAR the whole way through!!! Waiting for part 3
I personally believe she doesn't know how to express her feelings to him because he literally shuts her down everytime she tries to share how she feel, and he gets extremely emotional and angry.
The takeaways you guys gave really helped me look at myself bc I’m the type you guys were talking about being the type to get easily triggered or just naturally elevated and don’t even realize how it can vibe hurtful. I really appreciate the techniques you guys came up with and I’m going to try them with my partner 🙏🏾 love you guys!! ❤️
Isi's reactions have me crying with laughter..
Here for ALL the parts! I LOVE how God has placed you two together. An exemplary example of being “equally yoked” 💜 Cheers and blessing to your union
I usually don’t comment but did we realize how Paul said he don’t like the pictures she post on Instagram but he is the one that is taking the pictures and want credit for her brand.
A common technic used by singers and recommended by vocal coaches is to record yourself singing and watch/play it back so you can see what you look like when you are singing and you can hear what you are doing vocally outside of the moment. It’s a self critique.
I never thought to apply the same thing to other areas, but I think it’s exactly what y’all are describing at the end. I love the idea of rewatching yourself communicate. Would definitely improve self awareness.
All of Paul’s “off the top of my head” examples are clearly things he planned to talk about
You guys are such an articulate couple. You both made genuinely engaging points ab this & I think yall are perfect for each other.
Yesss. Been waiting for this. Keep em coming 😂
Uhhhh yesss just finished watching Josh's video on his channel! You have been missed glad y'all back and I need it this today I have been thinking and trying to manifest/ask god y'all posting this is just what I needed today!!💚💚
Yasss I can’t wait for them to see. I had to binge after their video but I still wanna see them react cause it’s cray. Also there is an aftermath episode I hope y’all watch that too
“Taking the piss” is like treating someone like a joke or being somewhat disrespectful e.g. if I’m roasting you, we would say “I’m taking the piss out of you” OR if Chioma spends all day cleaning the house and Paul makes a mess of it in 1 minute - Chioma could say “Paul are you taking the piss?”
Most communication problems start at home with your family and you get in a relationship and don’t know how to have a respectful conversation without yelling or cussing. Take a step back and relax and If you care about that person you’ll fix your communicate habits for the better.
I totally agree. It go’s with emotional maturity.
Josh's face when Chioma said "I know you're gonna come back to me" 😂😂😂
Time out lol GUYS ! home boy was jealous that he wasn't there🤣😂.... and for once she was actually happy without him. Lol see how hot he's getting already.....he probably replayed that video a thousand times😂🤣
I love how you're gonna do every episode of this, loving the commitment. Love, love!!!!
“Taken a piss” means they’re“dragging it” or they’re being unreasonable on a new level. When someone says or does something you think is disrespectful or crazy. It could be a surprised expression to something someone is telling you as well. Hope that helped😊
Yes yes yes ! Josh and Isi I love you guys! Loved when you said they’re trying to be understood but not understanding each other. And I find that very very very true! Which made me open my mind, in a situation I’ve been experiencing. Thank you for this !! love how you guys are so open and charismatic! #Bigups 🤍!!
Josh is taking the piss! He’s a meme in this whole video someone screenshot him pls 😂😂😂
i looked it up 33:35 it said : But if someone angrily complains that another person is “taking the piss”, this means that they are behaving in a way that is unacceptable. For example, if you were waiting for a train that was delayed for an hour for no good reason, you’re likely to hear other travellers on the train say something like, “they’re really taking the piss now.”
Paul is very condescending & passive aggressive. He needs a yes girl...shes clearly not that! Girl leave em!
Move out immediately!
Rumor has it...Paul still hasn't answered any questions 😕 😂
Thankss for an amazing reaction ...i can't wait for the rest of the episodes. And by the way the "reunion" confirmed that their relationships are actually REALL💖💖💖💖💖
30:40 I really said, "Damn, double homicide." out loud lmao- Prepare for trouble n make it double goooooolly
The dance that Isi did 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m finished
She needs to break that engagement/relationship and run for the hills. He has some major issues that he needs to work on his own.
It was Josh saying "they out in the hallway like maury" for me...im cackling😂😂
He reminds me of that guy from the “why did I get married” movie, who did Jill Scott wrong 🥴 but regardlessss, it’s a no from me. the same respect he wants from her, should be reciprocated. chileee, 🙃
Omg that’s a perfect example!!
She is calling out that Narcissism and she is spot on! This whole therapy session is pointless, he is who he is, he may change for a brief second, but she will never get what she wants from him! Thank you next! "The Plot Thickens" lol!
I rarely disagree with ya'll but I feel like when two ppl curse naturally like day to day it doesn't carry the same weight. In my case it's me I grew up with two parents from the south side of Chicago my whole family included extended cusses a lot in relaxed settings. Granted I have adjusted for my bf but it just doesn't bother me it's just adjectives. But I feel life it's different when you don't curse normally then it comes out during arguments.