Man this is me 100% it's 3 months into college and everyone already has their friend groups and I'm just sitting here in my dorm on a Saturday night watching RUclips. Making friends is hard haha
Same for me,I am almost done my first semester of college. I have class with someone who I can relate to a lot because of his Snapchat stories,so I said to him to lmk when we can hang out and he responded “For sure”. I don’t know if that means he doesn’t want to hang with me or what.
the worst thing is that everyone in college loves to pretend to be so chill and nonchalant, so when i’m trying to actively pursue a friendship (friendly texting, asking to hang out, blah blah) people interpret me as coming off “too strong” or looking desperate. which is so ridiculous because the only way to become close with people is to constantly talk to them!!! it’s so frustrating to text people and either get ignored or not get a response until 3 days later...do people in college just genuinely not care?? i seriously don’t get it.
Jessica Cano I feel the same way people act like they don’t want to be friends with you and you almost end up chasing them. I can totally relate. Let’s be friends!
Jessica Cano You’re definitely not alone tbh as I can relate to this also. I made up my mind that it is best to just let certain things flow, even if it feels like a lifetime of waiting.
It is SUCH a relief to watch this video and read the comments and realise that other people are experiencing this too. I went through this my first semester of university. I'm also really picky and I never tried to pursue relationships that I didn't feel I could develop a strong and deep connection. I definitely struggled to find people that were like minded and that I got along with really well so I felt pretty lonely and unhappy at times. Still going through this but thanks so much for making this video.I'm starting to learn that this is actually quite common, especially if you move to a new city where you don't know anyone.
Everyone tells you "You'll make friends and meet people and fall in love" and it just.... never happens. All you ever get is silence. Stares. Half-assed hellos in the hall. As though you're some kind of alien trying to be a part of society and failing miserably to fit in. I just don't understand how it works.
I'm so depressed right now for this very same reason. Even though I'd love to hang out with people and spread love, no one wishes to spend time with me. I don't understand why I'm so worthy of all their ignorance and hate. For now, I'm just gritting my teeth and holding on
Hey, I know it's been 6 yrs,so how are you doing with your life 😊 I just wanna know if your life got better,bc I don't have much real friends to hang out with either in college
I relate to this so fucking much it's scary. I had a lot of friends in high school but now I'm going to college across the country and I'm struggling to make friends and I see everyone else making friends and I feel so left out. It makes me feel even worse seeing all my hs friends making friends and adjusting so easily
I was surprised by how much I could relate to this. I used to have a lot of acquaintances in High School and only 2 or 3 people I considered actual trustworthy friends, one of them I had been friends with since Kindergarten lol. I feel it's more about the quality of your friendships and not the quantity. I have trouble getting to know new people because I do have some social anxiety. This is gonna sound cliche but you aren't alone.
Tiiiifff, omg I'm in college and I totally feel you. I want genuine friendships, but everyone has their friend groups. It sucks :( I hope you have an amazing time in France tho!
I’m in senior year about to graduate and I started out college with no friends. I didn’t party and I only talked to one person in my freshman year only because she was in my group from class. I felt really lonely so in my Sophomore year I decided to get friends and I went into the wrong crowd, I ended up in a cult, drugs, loosing my virginity and getting kicked out of my major. I had to cut off all my friends, I only kept the one good friend I made that I don’t even talk to frequently, but now I got my grades back up and I’m doing an internship in the government. Guys don’t be like me be happy with who you are, it’s better to have no friends than 1000 bad ones, don’t force friendships choose your friends wisely. If friends don’t come it’s okay just focus on you.
Good point. It’s better having no friend, than 1000 but all bad. Don’t force your friendship. Choose your friends wisely. If friends don’t come to you, it’s okay. Just focus on yourself.
i 100% relate to everything you said. i transferred to another school this year, my sophomore year, and i have really struggled with making friends too. i also felt like everyone already established their friend groups and i havent clicked with many people. i try not to get sad about it because i also love to be alone but it does suck to spend every weekend alone. im hoping we both can get through this! it's nice to know im not so alone !!
Aim Fur Strange wow same! Except I was a junior when I moved. Now I'm a senior. I feel like it's really difficult to make friends at this age because everyone already has friends they've had since they were young. I actually look forward to school because I do nothing on weekends. Hang in there!!
Aim Fur Strange I feel exactly the same way, I moved schools for sixth form (England) and made a couple of "friends" but none that I really talk to outside of school. Most of my friends are still together and I kinda feel like they are all moving on without me and I'm stuck on my own wishing away my time
I graduated college last year and I think I managed to not make any friends I actually hung out with or hang out with regularly. I lived off campus, but I also tend to feel like talking to most people is like holding a weight above my head for the whole conversation hahaha When I meet people that I click with though I hold on for dear life and make them get fries with me
Kat Eliza me too! i guess i just avoided those friends relationship that is okay with constantly hurting each others feeling on purpose or not because there are so called alpha female in a group and sometimes you just have different hobby and likes in life..
Hey tiffany!! I had suuuch bad anxiety in my first year of university, so i made no new friends outside of the people i was living with. I relate to your story so much because i relied so heavily on my boyfriend rather than pushing myself to be social. HOWEVER, we broke up recently and the experience really influenced me to want to go out and make my own friends, so I joined 3 sports teams and soo many art and political societies on campus, and i've met more people and made more friends in the past 2 weeks than i had in my past 2 years here. Just letting you know, just because people have already 'found' their groups, it's never too late to get out and try new things
i am literally so glad you posted this! im a freshman and everyone has their groups already and no one seems willing to add someone else (me) into their group and i pretty much stay in my dorm all the time and its starting to suck but im the worst at meeting friends and opening up to new people :(
Felt. I'm going into my final year of my degree after losing a lot of friends during lockdown. So many of them unfollowing me on instagram and snapchat and all. It's gonna suck =/
I’m in this situation 😭 It gets so lonely when I actually want to do something but I have no one to call. Something as simple as going out to the movies or getting a milkshake. I’m a sophomore and it’s definitely hard to make friends now because everyone is already in their groups and I find it hard to infiltrate the spaces. I mostly keep to myself but it’s really lonely sometimes. From South Africa 🇿🇦
This is literally one of my biggest fears about college next year... Everyone I know is rooming with their best friend from high school and I'm gonna be chilling 14 hours away.
iiiiiit's crazy how much i #relate to this struggle dude like..... meeting new people and going out of my way to hang out with ppl i'm not instantly in love with is sooo hard for me, but at the same time.... i'd like to not be alone all the time? like you, i enjoy alone time a lot but some weekends i'm like is this??? how college is supposed to be?? i feel like i'm doing it wrong?? and like i forget who said this (was it you? LOL) but i heard somewhere that ppl i'm gonna really vibe with are gonna be similar to me and i'm a shy kid in most social situations with ppl i don't know well so like, obviously itll take time for me to find those similarly shy/quiet cool ppl. ANYWHO good luck to us?! lol i hope we find our ppl in these new places soooon
I’m in my last year of uni & I have zero friends. I had a few my freshman yr but they all transferred/dropped out. I stress walking and attending graduation and having no friends.... Joining clubs/on campus jobs has not helped with making friends either. Like how do you make friends frfr?? But thanks for your video! 24K magic is a banger
i think you just need to find others who are more introverted like yourself to chill. investing in anyone is taking a chance but you just wont ever know how the relationship turns out unless you give an inch. love you girl. excited to hear your study abroad opputlrtunity. will be looking out for your vlogs 🐺
Wow that's so weird I was just thinking about this topic. For some reason I feel like I am out growing my friends and it's not that we don't get along anymore I just feel like I need to be around people that inspire me to be a better person.
Its my third year in university and I still feel like I have no friends. I meet people and connect with them easily but when it comes down to it no body really ends up sticking around. When high-school ended I was going through a friendship breakup and I feel so sad now knowing that I lost these friends and they all continue to be friends. I made a few friends in first year and kept 1 friend from high school but ever since covid hit it was so hard to keep friendships going. Now im at a place in my life where I desire more friendships and I want them to be genuine but I find it hard to find like-minded people. I'm struggling but ill be okay.
The whole hot or cold thing with people I feel too. I only have two close friends that I talk to regularly and then everyone else is just acquaintances. I just can't seem to make new friends!
you will make friends in France. No one is coming in with a clique and that will make everyone more willing to open up. Plus, youre an awesome person so you will connect with some great people :)
Thank you so much for making this video! It’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one finding it difficult to get out there and be social because you don’t want to be a nuisance.
I mentioned this on your twitter page, but I really think you're doing great. I totally relate to that because while I was in College, I did join a sorority (freshman year) and I came out of college with two good friends from that and three good friends from classes. But I love all of them so much. Keep going! Study abroad in France! Go to a UC! Do you and when you look back, you'll see who was there and who was a true friend :). Thank you for this PSA- I think its so important for people to hear.
dude i struggle with all of this to!! what really helped me was a continuous reminder to just appreciate people in general. They are all so cool and intricate.There isn't any expectation that you have to know them forever.But just making people feel loved along with you feeling connected to them even in small ways.. is ultimately what its about for me anyways. tiffany it'll happen for you dont worry !!
Woah I wish I had seen this video 2 years ago already! This is so relatable down to always having wanted to be more open/social even though I also already had friends. I also thought that having "just friends" everywhere and all the time was the best & normal thing to do, but I'm so relieved to hear that you & so many commenters have the same experience. Why do we judge ourselves so much for these things that are apparently so normal...
I relate to this so much! My problem is that I'm very social and I constantly reach out to people to try and become friends, so I end up having a variety of very different individual friends (mainly all just very goodaquaintances), but no close knit group where all of my friends and I are friends with each other. I've always wanted that, but since its never happened, I always feel like I have no friends, since I don't have any "best" friends who I can call up any time to do everything with.
omg this video has completely summed up what I'm going through right now. and i feel like i've been completely alone in my feelings so its so nice to hear this from you.
I am so glad you made this video, it is so reassuring to know I'm not the only one struggling to make close friends in college. There are so many expectations that it will be the best time of your life socially and when that's not true it can be extremely disappointing. But at least we are not alone :)
I can relate, Im in college and kinda like being on my own. I cant deal with hanging out with people who I cant have stimulating conversations with or a deep connection with. p.s. 24k magic is a banger.
I really needed this today. Just broke up with my boyfriend that I had all throughout college and all of my friends were his friends from his childhood. I didn't make a real effort to make lasting, good friendships the past 4 years. Now I have a full-time job, no boyfriend, and no close friends. Making friends as an adult is going to be tough, but at least I know I'm not alone in how i'm feeling.
@tiffanyferg Very true! We shaped a lot of each other's lives. It's something I think we needed anyway, that time to be individuals... something that I think contributed to why it ended - that we didn't have that experience as individuals to know who we are and what we really wanted. What comes with meeting someone so young I suppose. Thanks for the reply Tiffany! Good luck in your year ahead.
If you have in mind that you're gonna leave and that's the reason you don't make friends you'll never have fun gurl!! Go out there and suggest to ppl you like to hang out even if they already have a friend group. Don't get bored! You may be not that social, but not let it get yourself isolated and if they don't want to hang out with you they lose the company of a great personality. Don' t get disappointed and go on cheerful and positive like that!! Love from Greece 😘
Thank you for making this video. I also only hang out with people from high school, somehow I didn't manage to make serious friends during 5 years of uni... How do adults make friends? That's a really good question, one that I ask myself too.
having no real friends CAN be a good thing, seeing as we take on many characteristics of the people we are constantly surrounded by. but me too, tiff. me fuckin too
Wow thank you for making this video. I'm sitting here crying and not even because I'm sad; it's just refreshing to hear someone be vulnerable and explain that they're feeling the EXACT way that I am. I don't know why this video popped up on my feed but I'm so glad it did and completely changed the shitty way I've been feeling lately.
I do have friends, but they either go to university 5 hours away or they’re pursuing local careers that require most of their time (fire/police). I also isolated myself in my first two years of college at community college... and now I’m a transfer, commuter junior at a university I don’t really care about. I have totally lost the ability to make new friends. Sigh. Feel like I’m kind of wasting away the “glory years” I’m supposed to be having... it’s depressing. Glad I’m not alone though.
Edit: oh my god. After watching the video, I feel like we’re in the same boat. I feel exactly the same way about friends- All in or rarely at all. I’d like an update on how the hell you DID make friends in France lol. 24K Magic is a banger!
24K magic is a banger! I got here from your quitting youtube vid. You're awesome. I "met" you on Socially Unacceptable maybe in August '15. You were a breath of fresh air, as I was surrounded by Hillary (& Bill) people around my age, 50. It's very painful politically today, even though We and Bernie were right about so much. Thank you for helping my stay my course. I have faith in you & your generation. It's weird. I started life on the outside, climbed high on the inside, dropped out of society in plain sight for 17 years, and now I'm finally on my way, being me. Being an original usually involves some degree of isolation, which is lonely when things aren't flowing. You will find your way. I was a nontraditional student, too, not long ago, and I studied them for a few years. When I was a little older than you, I imploded. The received the "best help available", which turned out to be damaging, unethical, and likely fraudulent. I eventually studied my way out and helped a bunch of people. Now I've returned to what I am supposed to do, better and unique. It was harrowing. I'm building a social justice food company, which will likely be located in Puerto Rico. And I've got my story in my back pocket. You are smart and intellectually humble, a lasting combination. You are unique given your diverse life experiences and fierce bravery. I think some of your experiences made you very good at giving people what they want, and often what they need. You provide a partial connection for them, but they don't give you what you need numbers-wise, which is necessary. And it's not possible for your intimate partnership needs to be satisfied intimate this medium, or any media. Some suggestions: Take your time in Paris (?) to find you what You want. Try an espresso at a café by yourself, reading a hardcover copy of Story in French. I'm sure the locals will show you some options. I've seen a select bunch of your collection of videos. You have been prolific 😊. I feel like I kind of know you, a couple of the yous on RUclips. Sharing all that you have, has been a gift for thousands of people. You should be very proud of your journey. Hell, I'm proud of you, and I don't even know you irl, or getting all sciency, in vivo. Take time to be You now. Make mistakes that are private. I hate that word, mistakes, but intentional acts with unintended negative outcomes is clumsy 😆. Enjoy some successes in private, and share those victories with a new friend. See what you get. My guess is that you'll elicit a piece of what you're looking for. Build on that. If you can afford it, try going to France without selfie video rolling. Produce your content completely off camera. To be a filmmaker you have to do this sometime. Live your life and allow yourself to forget a lonely Saturday night the very next Tuesday at lunch, just like everyone else. Let your work develop while you're not looking. I really can't wait for your content. Scratch that, I'm looking forward to your fully-baked content. Even if you keep recording for RUclips, keep time separate for you to mindfully synthesize your thoughts and your film content ideas. Just an idea, watch some random videos of yours or others, muted with a filmmaker's eye. Your honesty and range of emotion is impressive. It tells a compelling story. The problem with being rewarded for anything is that there are expectations that you keep providing it. That's true commercially and interpersonally. Everyone wants to be accepted into safe groups forever and ever. Think womb, fear of death. Most make huge concessions to gain inclusion in those groups. Once inside they don't change, thinking it'll last forever that way. They force the different to conform as they have. But they are nothing and they wait for death in misery 😈. Little dark, but life IS change, best to get used it, best to make it useful. On this channel you've offered an intimate connection for many young people on their "lonely Saturday nights", which gets them through the night. That doesn't put a roof over your head or coffee in your cup. Do what you gotta do, but allow for your brain, mind, talent, creativity to develop. I already know you are very brave. Keep trying stuff, pay attention, and adjust. You're gonna be great, particularly if you can really remember what those lonely nights were like from a place of safety. Keeping touch with those emotional states is very difficult from a safe place. From your drama background you likely know about that already. Hey, don't ever discount your Socially Unacceptable work. I knew you from that content first and best. You have a fine mind and that is more valuable in "the biz" longterm, than all your pop content put together, I'd guess. It's also more valuable in all your future partnerships, friendships. Don't compromise what isn't required. Life's a long road ideally, keep being you. If you trust yourself you won't make epic mistakes, you'll learn, develop, and thrive. You may like the book, Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke. It helped me way back when. Basta. Alright, kiddo, I got a meeting now. Thanks to you, if you find any of this useful. Apologies for length. It helped me to write it. There was a time, well before mine 😆, when writers got paid by the word. And then there were movies....
You are very welcome, Tiffany. Relax & be you & you got no problems. Sometimes it's tricky figuring how to be you, but that can be fun as long as you got a roof overhead, food in your belly, a sense of humor, and the ability to learn. Maybe you know that your prefrontal cortex isn't fully formed til 25-26. The PFC is key to all that "adult" smart judgment that adults insist.you possess at 18. They didn't have it. No one does. So relax try learn get mortified every now and then. A pro tip from a "real" adult with mental health worker experience: most adults don't make many friends as adults. Yes, it is a nightmare for them & they make endless excuses. Many never really get out of high school in their heads. I say this not to depress you, but to lower your expectations of how "together" adults really are. Shhhh...
this is LITERALLYYYYYY me except I'm going to college in my hometown with everyone from my high school and my best friend goes to another school and I've just always been a loner haha I love death
I totally get you sometimes you just cant find the right people at college and thats totally ok as you said its fine if you find at least a small bunch that are enjoyable human beings haha .. I stick to my highschool friends :)
Thanks for sharing something that can be hard to talk about for some people. I can relate and I'm in high school. I'm going to college next year..maybe and this is one of my worries for college.
I 100% relate to everything you said, and it's nice to see someone who's just ok with not having friends. I hate myself so much some days because I can't push myself to make friends and I moved to college with nobody. So it's helpful to hear that you've made it through so far with no friends.
My two best friends from my hometown go to college together and are even closer now and i get left out and never see them on top of that i moved for college and because of covid have not had the chance to make any friends. I just watch everyone having fun in college and i spend every day alone in my dorm :( plus I’m going through heartbreak which makes me feel even more lonely
Also, thank you for bringing a positive attitude to this subject because so many people complain about not having friends and make it sound like such a horrible and unsolvable issue! You don't seem like you give up, girl!
This is me right now and me last year. Made a bunch of friends around orientation, lost a lot after fall quarter because thats what happens. Come winter quarter, I was miserable but managed because I was semi close to my roommate so I'd literally look forward to dinner time where we could walk to the dining hall and eat: that was my social life. Now I'm a returning student and I have about zero friends and zero confidence to make any. I'm not into drinking or parties so I have slim options. People often say: join clubs and meet people but that's easier said than done. I've learned class friendships and club friendships are a different ball game, you pretty much only have that ONE thing in common and after the quarter ends or summer comes and the club shuts down for vacation; back where you started. My advice? Come to terms with it and work on being comfortable alone. Ive done great in school in terms of academics and I'm meeting my standards there but I was genuinely disappointed about my social life by the end of freshman year. High schoolers have preconceived ideas when it comes to college: I thought I'd make my BEST friends. I thought I'd meet my future husband or my bridesmaids. Thought id have amazing memories or crazy nights, just didnt happen for me. It's not a fun situation and I finally learned to accept it and stop the pity party. It's a sucky situation and I feel for anyone experiencing it. It's embarrassing to young adults. My schools all across the country and I literally lied to my parents about making friends in order to ease their worries.
So much I can relate to here :/ I tend to isolate myself a lot, and as much as I do value my alone time I really do wish I had friends (well I have one friend and we don't see each other too much). I can also relate to the idea of not wanting to seem desperate or invite myself places. I especially hate this cause I have a fear of people hanging out with me out of pity so I don't want people to just be begrudgingly letting me hang out with them
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a first semester freshman and met like a few people in each of my classes so far but made no friends or hung out with anyone. This was super encouraging :) love you and thank youTiffany!!
It feels really good knowing that I'm not the only one who hasn't made friends in college. I'm also in my second year and it's been really hard for me to make new friends because I don't know how hahaha it really is a hard thing to do but by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I'm getting to know people little by little. I wish us all the best of luck at finding friends lol ❤️
Last semester, I joined a club that I heard was supposed to be fun out of blindness because I was desperate to make friends. I wasn't really even interested in the club. I'm still in the club right now but I don't fit in. There's a ton of people in it and I do better in making friends in smaller groups. Since I'm not too interested in the club, I am leaving it soon and going to pursue what I am genuinely interested in.
I'm impressed how many people don't have friends. I watched one of those videos and now RUclips thinks I feel lonely. Hahaha. But it's really sad to see so many people feeling alone. I'm from Brazil and I think we have a outgoing culture so i'm starting to think that things can be harder in north america. Hope you guys can find some really nice people in your life. ALL it takes is one friend that brings another friend, that brings another friend and so on.
I think you're very cool. I love RUclips, but many popular female RUclipsrs are very preppy and materialistic. This doesn't make them bad, but they're all very similar. You're so honest and interesting and introspective. I enjoy your videos and can relate to you in a strong way. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
this is literally me oh my gawd. maybe I’ve just grown to accept the fact of being alone forever, but I think I have to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Because otherwise I’ll just stay inside all day till I get insanely lonely and isolated
I have had a very similar experience in college. I am a senior, and while I have a number of acquaintances, I don't really have any close friends. The friends that I am the closest to are still my friends from high school/ middle school, but I don't go to school with any of them. Making friends in college is a lot harder and a lot more work. I studied abroad my junior year, and I had similar concerns as you do -- that I would not make friends again AND be in a completely foreign country. However, I made really close friends super quickly, because (like high school) there was a smaller group of people who were all taking similar classes and activities. Studying abroad is somewhat of a scary experience for everyone, so its easy to make close bonds with others studying abroad as well. I am sure you will have a great time and it will be an amazing experience!
Making friends in college can definitely be tough, especially when youre a freshman, I just dropped my first video on how to make friends if youre starting a new year. Would really appreciate the feedback cause Im just starting out
Exact same person! I was so unhappy my freshman year, it was better sophomore year but I decided to transfer to my boyfriend's school because he makes me happy and I knew I would meet new people through him! luckily one of my friends also transferred here so I at least have two people to hang out with now. I still get sad sometimes that I have yet to create my own friend group, and not just tag along with my boyfriend but I just feel so unlikable and shy and awkward. I'm so quiet, I don't know how I could get anyone to enjoy my company
Tiff thank you for this video! I just started university and in the past have found it super easy to make friends but I've been struggling all of a sudden. So just thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
i literally have the exact same worries about making friends on exchange! i know everyone says you'll definitely make friends but i still feel super nervous about it, and i'm already hyping myself up to put myself out there to make friends! i'm reassured by what you've shared and i can see from later videos you have had no trouble making friends :D
This is my life rn. I had one previously (a group of three), obviously it didn't work. Now ,Everyone has already made their own friends group....So yeah, everytime I feel left out. It hurts to walk alone in the college campus. I hope I'll eventually get used to it (I know it's hard but not impossible).
When I got to college a semester late everyone had pretty much buddied up and was set in their college ways already seeming to know who they were and what they were all about. It was even harder for me because I don’t subscribe to being a “type” of person. I’m fluid through many different friend groups but you could never find me hanging out with “THIS” particular group of people. College was so lonely and heartachingly long. If I could do it again I would just tell myself to get my degree online.
Wow ok I don't think I have ever related to another video so much in my entire life. I absolutely know what it feels like to get in the habit of isolating yourself, especially if you're in a relationship. Glad to know I'm not alone xoxo
Wow I didn’t realize that this was an old video! I’m glad it popped up on my feed though because I’m going through such a rough patch with not having any friends at my college and it’s really nice to hear you went through the same thing as well. Just thought I’d drop this comment in the mid of the vid before I forget lol. If you don’t mind, I’d really like to talk to you about how you got over this hump in the road because I’m really having a hard time feeling happy because I feel so lonely when I shouldn’t feel that way.
It is very enlightening to watch this video but it is also just so sad.. I personally don't have trouble with making friends but I find it so sad how this is under "Painfully honest" where you shouldn't have to feel pain just to open up and say how you feel. I understand that some people call that "Trauma dumping" but I can't stand them.
i can relate to this so much! i moved high schools my sophomore year and i'm currently a junior and i still haven't really met anyone who i've become "best friends" with besides one or two people..i talk to a good amount of people in my classes but i'm not really good friends with them..
Im a senior in college. About to graduate in half a year and i got no friends whatsoever. I had friends but they left or graduated. Tbh, i really dont care at this point. All i care about is graduating and running away from my hometown
lol my comment on your insta post with reed... also lol at the fact that i'm watching this vid alone in the cafeteria... but like same last year i was so trapped by first my roommate who only wanted to do stuff with me bc she was from out of state & had a negative mindset about the school & then another friend who was always going off campus & not doing anything here so it was hard to make friends & be involved but they both transferred so this year i'm forcing myself out and joining things and being more open with telling people stuff i want to do and branching out and i actually ended up becoming more of a part of a tight knit group of like 6 people who lived on my dorm floor last year so friendships will come!! & definitely if you're in a group for study abroad in france take the opportunity to seize those friendships
I just moved to a new city in a very small state. it's on the east coast where people aren't that friendly. It's such a small state a lot of people already know each other already. It's like going to a giant high school and everyone already has their own clique. It's nice to find someone I can relate to. But unfortunately I live in a family full of extroverts that would never understand this video😒
Man this is me 100% it's 3 months into college and everyone already has their friend groups and I'm just sitting here in my dorm on a Saturday night watching RUclips. Making friends is hard haha
Rowan B just finished freshman year...and i just cannot fit into the power struggles.
I am going through same situation and it's getting depressing
Let's be friends
Same for me,I am almost done my first semester of college. I have class with someone who I can relate to a lot because of his Snapchat stories,so I said to him to lmk when we can hang out and he responded “For sure”. I don’t know if that means he doesn’t want to hang with me or what.
Same dude
the worst thing is that everyone in college loves to pretend to be so chill and nonchalant, so when i’m trying to actively pursue a friendship (friendly texting, asking to hang out, blah blah) people interpret me as coming off “too strong” or looking desperate. which is so ridiculous because the only way to become close with people is to constantly talk to them!!! it’s so frustrating to text people and either get ignored or not get a response until 3 days later...do people in college just genuinely not care?? i seriously don’t get it.
Jessica Cano I feel the same way people act like they don’t want to be friends with you and you almost end up chasing them. I can totally relate. Let’s be friends!
Jessica Cano You’re definitely not alone tbh as I can relate to this also. I made up my mind that it is best to just let certain things flow, even if it feels like a lifetime of waiting.
The same with me... They treat us as if we are useless
thats one of the reasons why i hated college myself.
@nava yes plus some people were already friends from well since high school(and friends because of elementary school)
i literally don't socialize with anyone outside of my family lmao
Amanda Medina me too@
Me as fuck I have a big family and I find it less stressful chillin with them, people my age (19) can be annoying af who needs the drama
Amanda Medina same :(
that's definitely not normal and not healthy
yeeee boy best life eveeeeeerr
It is SUCH a relief to watch this video and read the comments and realise that other people are experiencing this too. I went through this my first semester of university. I'm also really picky and I never tried to pursue relationships that I didn't feel I could develop a strong and deep connection. I definitely struggled to find people that were like minded and that I got along with really well so I felt pretty lonely and unhappy at times. Still going through this but thanks so much for making this video.I'm starting to learn that this is actually quite common, especially if you move to a new city where you don't know anyone.
Don’t settle for less, don’t succumb to the it crowd , it will get really lonely but you’ll make it through.
Everyone tells you "You'll make friends and meet people and fall in love" and it just.... never happens. All you ever get is silence. Stares. Half-assed hellos in the hall. As though you're some kind of alien trying to be a part of society and failing miserably to fit in. I just don't understand how it works.
I think it’s just an us issue. People will put 60% of the effort that you put
I'm so depressed right now for this very same reason. Even though I'd love to hang out with people and spread love, no one wishes to spend time with me. I don't understand why I'm so worthy of all their ignorance and hate.
For now, I'm just gritting my teeth and holding on
Hicks Picks I do want! Let’s travel together!
Hicks, I understand how you feel.
I wish you all the best and may God be with you.
Hey, I know it's been 6 yrs,so how are you doing with your life 😊 I just wanna know if your life got better,bc I don't have much real friends to hang out with either in college
I relate to this so fucking much it's scary. I had a lot of friends in high school but now I'm going to college across the country and I'm struggling to make friends and I see everyone else making friends and I feel so left out. It makes me feel even worse seeing all my hs friends making friends and adjusting so easily
Montana T. As a current college freshman, I relate so much :(((((((((
Atleast u can have high school friends to talk to ....& its been 3 yrs , hope U've made some nice friends!!
I relate so much. I have barely any friends now that im in college. Glad im not alone. ily
same tho like r u a freshman
Same sadly I'm almost a senior maybe ill try again at grads school
yes it was a big part of why i hated college and i thought it was just me.
like rappers say, keep a small circle
givmespace i tried but i don’t even have a circle
I was surprised by how much I could relate to this. I used to have a lot of acquaintances in High School and only 2 or 3 people I considered actual trustworthy friends, one of them I had been friends with since Kindergarten lol. I feel it's more about the quality of your friendships and not the quantity. I have trouble getting to know new people because I do have some social anxiety. This is gonna sound cliche but you aren't alone.
P.S. 24k magic is a banger!
Tiiiifff, omg I'm in college and I totally feel you. I want genuine friendships, but everyone has their friend groups. It sucks :( I hope you have an amazing time in France tho!
@@AkankshaSingh-qo2lx here I'm Hahaha will u be my frd
I’m in senior year about to graduate and I started out college with no friends. I didn’t party and I only talked to one person in my freshman year only because she was in my group from class. I felt really lonely so in my Sophomore year I decided to get friends and I went into the wrong crowd, I ended up in a cult, drugs, loosing my virginity and getting kicked out of my major. I had to cut off all my friends, I only kept the one good friend I made that I don’t even talk to frequently, but now I got my grades back up and I’m doing an internship in the government. Guys don’t be like me be happy with who you are, it’s better to have no friends than 1000 bad ones, don’t force friendships choose your friends wisely. If friends don’t come it’s okay just focus on you.
Good point. It’s better having no friend, than 1000 but all bad. Don’t force your friendship. Choose your friends wisely. If friends don’t come to you, it’s okay. Just focus on yourself.
literally me. sitting alone in my room😅
No one is ever alone.
Same to you. I'm also.but now l loves this loneliness,being myself
Hi we're the same person. Let's just be best friends now okay.
***** Nov 30-Dec 3. COME AND LETS HANGOUT
I'm in my freshmen year of college right now and I relate to this so much. fuck. I really have NO friends.
Me too
starting sophomore year in college and got no friends also lol
ok i though i was the only one who felt like that...
what is the solution?
i miss when you made these types of videos. they’re so amazingly human. the vulnerability and authenticity is beautiful
i 100% relate to everything you said. i transferred to another school this year, my sophomore year, and i have really struggled with making friends too. i also felt like everyone already established their friend groups and i havent clicked with many people. i try not to get sad about it because i also love to be alone but it does suck to spend every weekend alone. im hoping we both can get through this! it's nice to know im not so alone !!
Aim Fur Strange wow same! Except I was a junior when I moved. Now I'm a senior. I feel like it's really difficult to make friends at this age because everyone already has friends they've had since they were young. I actually look forward to school because I do nothing on weekends. Hang in there!!
Sierra D thank you! I need to look at it that way haha. time to do nothing
I agree, i'm a freshman in college right now and i have 1 friend by luck lol. I just can't really find people to click with it. :/
Aim Fur Strange I feel exactly the same way, I moved schools for sixth form (England) and made a couple of "friends" but none that I really talk to outside of school. Most of my friends are still together and I kinda feel like they are all moving on without me and I'm stuck on my own wishing away my time
I graduated college last year and I think I managed to not make any friends I actually hung out with or hang out with regularly. I lived off campus, but I also tend to feel like talking to most people is like holding a weight above my head for the whole conversation hahaha When I meet people that I click with though I hold on for dear life and make them get fries with me
Kat Eliza me too! i guess i just avoided those friends relationship that is okay with constantly hurting each others feeling on purpose or not because there are so called alpha female in a group and sometimes you just have different hobby and likes in life..
Hey tiffany!! I had suuuch bad anxiety in my first year of university, so i made no new friends outside of the people i was living with. I relate to your story so much because i relied so heavily on my boyfriend rather than pushing myself to be social. HOWEVER, we broke up recently and the experience really influenced me to want to go out and make my own friends, so I joined 3 sports teams and soo many art and political societies on campus, and i've met more people and made more friends in the past 2 weeks than i had in my past 2 years here. Just letting you know, just because people have already 'found' their groups, it's never too late to get out and try new things
Studying abroad is such a great way to meet people you really get close to the people in your program !
i am literally so glad you posted this! im a freshman and everyone has their groups already and no one seems willing to add someone else (me) into their group and i pretty much stay in my dorm all the time and its starting to suck but im the worst at meeting friends and opening up to new people :(
Sammie McLaughlin I’ve been a college freshman for 2 months and this sums up everything I’m going through right now :((((
Sammie McLaughlin Wana be friends? I'm assuming you're a junior now. I am too!
Second year in uni (its almost over ) and I still don’t have friends
mimz masinga same ;(
same.
Did you end up making any in these last two years?
@@melissabahena42 lol nope. Post graduate and still a loner
Felt. I'm going into my final year of my degree after losing a lot of friends during lockdown. So many of them unfollowing me on instagram and snapchat and all. It's gonna suck =/
I’m in this situation 😭
It gets so lonely when I actually want to do something but I have no one to call. Something as simple as going out to the movies or getting a milkshake.
I’m a sophomore and it’s definitely hard to make friends now because everyone is already in their groups and I find it hard to infiltrate the spaces. I mostly keep to myself but it’s really lonely sometimes.
From South Africa 🇿🇦
I am also from SA, which uni do you go to, maybe we could meet.
This is literally one of my biggest fears about college next year... Everyone I know is rooming with their best friend from high school and I'm gonna be chilling 14 hours away.
3 years in uni and no close friends.
iiiiiit's crazy how much i #relate to this struggle dude like..... meeting new people and going out of my way to hang out with ppl i'm not instantly in love with is sooo hard for me, but at the same time.... i'd like to not be alone all the time? like you, i enjoy alone time a lot but some weekends i'm like is this??? how college is supposed to be?? i feel like i'm doing it wrong?? and like i forget who said this (was it you? LOL) but i heard somewhere that ppl i'm gonna really vibe with are gonna be similar to me and i'm a shy kid in most social situations with ppl i don't know well so like, obviously itll take time for me to find those similarly shy/quiet cool ppl. ANYWHO good luck to us?! lol i hope we find our ppl in these new places soooon
this is why I love your channel, you're a real person, so honest, so yourself.
apparently no one likes me but then again it's not like they reached out to know me in the first place
Shiloh A two years since this. hope you’re doing okay ❤️
I’m in my last year of uni & I have zero friends. I had a few my freshman yr but they all transferred/dropped out. I stress walking and attending graduation and having no friends.... Joining clubs/on campus jobs has not helped with making friends either. Like how do you make friends frfr??
But thanks for your video!
24K magic is a banger
24k magic is a BANGER
your perspective is so refreshingly vulnerable! least fake person on social media 100%
i think you just need to find others who are more introverted like yourself to chill. investing in anyone is taking a chance but you just wont ever know how the relationship turns out unless you give an inch. love you girl. excited to hear your study abroad opputlrtunity. will be looking out for your vlogs 🐺
i am in the same boat as you are and this has made me feel a bit better about my lonesomeness
Emily Milligan same I literally have no friends all I have is my family
Same to you. I'm suffering loneliness since childhood.when others are making groups,l couldn't control tears even now.
It's lunch break in college and I'm hiding in my dorm room...I think that explains everything 😂😂
Wow that's so weird I was just thinking about this topic. For some reason I feel like I am out growing my friends and it's not that we don't get along anymore I just feel like I need to be around people that inspire me to be a better person.
omg you responded! you're so dope please never stop doing what you're doing!
Wow listening to this made me realize that when it comes to making friends I am the same way!
I relate to this so much! Seriously how do adults make friends?! I need to start a youtube channel because that seems to be the best way
Its my third year in university and I still feel like I have no friends. I meet people and connect with them easily but when it comes down to it no body really ends up sticking around. When high-school ended I was going through a friendship breakup and I feel so sad now knowing that I lost these friends and they all continue to be friends. I made a few friends in first year and kept 1 friend from high school but ever since covid hit it was so hard to keep friendships going. Now im at a place in my life where I desire more friendships and I want them to be genuine but I find it hard to find like-minded people. I'm struggling but ill be okay.
The whole hot or cold thing with people I feel too. I only have two close friends that I talk to regularly and then everyone else is just acquaintances. I just can't seem to make new friends!
Love that honesty ✊🏼 thanks for always keepin it real and being RELATABLE
ur vids r the best and u deserve so much more cred girly !!!
p.s. I like how honest you are on your channel!
you will make friends in France. No one is coming in with a clique and that will make everyone more willing to open up. Plus, youre an awesome person so you will connect with some great people :)
Thank you so much for making this video! It’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one finding it difficult to get out there and be social because you don’t want to be a nuisance.
I mentioned this on your twitter page, but I really think you're doing great. I totally relate to that because while I was in College, I did join a sorority (freshman year) and I came out of college with two good friends from that and three good friends from classes. But I love all of them so much.
Keep going! Study abroad in France! Go to a UC! Do you and when you look back, you'll see who was there and who was a true friend :).
Thank you for this PSA- I think its so important for people to hear.
dude i struggle with all of this to!! what really helped me was a continuous reminder to just appreciate people in general. They are all so cool and intricate.There isn't any expectation that you have to know them forever.But just making people feel loved along with you feeling connected to them even in small ways.. is ultimately what its about for me anyways. tiffany it'll happen for you dont worry !!
Woah I wish I had seen this video 2 years ago already! This is so relatable down to always having wanted to be more open/social even though I also already had friends. I also thought that having "just friends" everywhere and all the time was the best & normal thing to do, but I'm so relieved to hear that you & so many commenters have the same experience. Why do we judge ourselves so much for these things that are apparently so normal...
I relate to this so much! My problem is that I'm very social and I constantly reach out to people to try and become friends, so I end up having a variety of very different individual friends (mainly all just very goodaquaintances), but no close knit group where all of my friends and I are friends with each other. I've always wanted that, but since its never happened, I always feel like I have no friends, since I don't have any "best" friends who I can call up any time to do everything with.
omg this video has completely summed up what I'm going through right now. and i feel like i've been completely alone in my feelings so its so nice to hear this from you.
I am so glad you made this video, it is so reassuring to know I'm not the only one struggling to make close friends in college. There are so many expectations that it will be the best time of your life socially and when that's not true it can be extremely disappointing. But at least we are not alone :)
I can relate, Im in college and kinda like being on my own. I cant deal with hanging out with people who I cant have stimulating conversations with or a deep connection with. p.s. 24k magic is a banger.
I really needed this today. Just broke up with my boyfriend that I had all throughout college and all of my friends were his friends from his childhood. I didn't make a real effort to make lasting, good friendships the past 4 years. Now I have a full-time job, no boyfriend, and no close friends. Making friends as an adult is going to be tough, but at least I know I'm not alone in how i'm feeling.
@tiffanyferg Very true! We shaped a lot of each other's lives. It's something I think we needed anyway, that time to be individuals... something that I think contributed to why it ended - that we didn't have that experience as individuals to know who we are and what we really wanted. What comes with meeting someone so young I suppose. Thanks for the reply Tiffany! Good luck in your year ahead.
If you have in mind that you're gonna leave and that's the reason you don't make friends you'll never have fun gurl!! Go out there and suggest to ppl you like to hang out even if they already have a friend group. Don't get bored! You may be not that social, but not let it get yourself isolated and if they don't want to hang out with you they lose the company of a great personality. Don' t get disappointed and go on cheerful and positive like that!! Love from Greece 😘
204k is a banger? idk. i loved this vid. love you. keep doing your thang
Ugh I relate so much!!!! Ps congrats on France and also hanging out with Reed :-)
Thank you for making this video. I also only hang out with people from high school, somehow I didn't manage to make serious friends during 5 years of uni... How do adults make friends? That's a really good question, one that I ask myself too.
Soml yo
I don't even have friends at home to miss
I think that your videos are so underrated
having no real friends CAN be a good thing, seeing as we take on many characteristics of the people we are constantly surrounded by. but me too, tiff. me fuckin too
Wow thank you for making this video. I'm sitting here crying and not even because I'm sad; it's just refreshing to hear someone be vulnerable and explain that they're feeling the EXACT way that I am. I don't know why this video popped up on my feed but I'm so glad it did and completely changed the shitty way I've been feeling lately.
Hope that studying abroad in France is an amazing experience for you!!! That sounds so exciting!!!!
I do have friends, but they either go to university 5 hours away or they’re pursuing local careers that require most of their time (fire/police). I also isolated myself in my first two years of college at community college... and now I’m a transfer, commuter junior at a university I don’t really care about. I have totally lost the ability to make new friends. Sigh. Feel like I’m kind of wasting away the “glory years” I’m supposed to be having... it’s depressing. Glad I’m not alone though.
Edit: oh my god. After watching the video, I feel like we’re in the same boat. I feel exactly the same way about friends- All in or rarely at all. I’d like an update on how the hell you DID make friends in France lol. 24K Magic is a banger!
24K magic is a banger! I got here from your quitting youtube vid. You're awesome.
I "met" you on Socially Unacceptable maybe in August '15. You were a breath of fresh air, as I was surrounded by Hillary (& Bill) people around my age, 50. It's very painful politically today, even though We and Bernie were right about so much. Thank you for helping my stay my course. I have faith in you & your generation.
It's weird. I started life on the outside, climbed high on the inside, dropped out of society in plain sight for 17 years, and now I'm finally on my way, being me. Being an original usually involves some degree of isolation, which is lonely when things aren't flowing. You will find your way.
I was a nontraditional student, too, not long ago, and I studied them for a few years. When I was a little older than you, I imploded. The received the "best help available", which turned out to be damaging, unethical, and likely fraudulent.
I eventually studied my way out and helped a bunch of people. Now I've returned to what I am supposed to do, better and unique. It was harrowing. I'm building a social justice food company, which will likely be located in Puerto Rico. And I've got my story in my back pocket.
You are smart and intellectually humble, a lasting combination. You are unique given your diverse life experiences and fierce bravery.
I think some of your experiences made you very good at giving people what they want, and often what they need. You provide a partial connection for them, but they don't give you what you need numbers-wise, which is necessary. And it's not possible for your intimate partnership needs to be satisfied intimate this medium, or any media.
Some suggestions:
Take your time in Paris (?) to find you what You want. Try an espresso at a café by yourself, reading a hardcover copy of Story in French. I'm sure the locals will show you some options.
I've seen a select bunch of your collection of videos. You have been prolific 😊. I feel like I kind of know you, a couple of the yous on RUclips. Sharing all that you have, has been a gift for thousands of people. You should be very proud of your journey. Hell, I'm proud of you, and I don't even know you irl, or getting all sciency, in vivo.
Take time to be You now. Make mistakes that are private. I hate that word, mistakes, but intentional acts with unintended negative outcomes is clumsy 😆. Enjoy some successes in private, and share those victories with a new friend. See what you get. My guess is that you'll elicit a piece of what you're looking for. Build on that.
If you can afford it, try going to France without selfie video rolling. Produce your content completely off camera. To be a filmmaker you have to do this sometime. Live your life and allow yourself to forget a lonely Saturday night the very next Tuesday at lunch, just like everyone else. Let your work develop while you're not looking. I really can't wait for your content. Scratch that, I'm looking forward to your fully-baked content. Even if you keep recording for RUclips, keep time separate for you to mindfully synthesize your thoughts and your film content ideas.
Just an idea, watch some random videos of yours or others, muted with a filmmaker's eye. Your honesty and range of emotion is impressive. It tells a compelling story.
The problem with being rewarded for anything is that there are expectations that you keep providing it. That's true commercially and interpersonally.
Everyone wants to be accepted into safe groups forever and ever. Think womb, fear of death. Most make huge concessions to gain inclusion in those groups. Once inside they don't change, thinking it'll last forever that way. They force the different to conform as they have. But they are nothing and they wait for death in misery 😈. Little dark, but life IS change, best to get used it, best to make it useful.
On this channel you've offered an intimate connection for many young people on their "lonely Saturday nights", which gets them through the night. That doesn't put a roof over your head or coffee in your cup. Do what you gotta do, but allow for your brain, mind, talent, creativity to develop. I already know you are very brave. Keep trying stuff, pay attention, and adjust. You're gonna be great, particularly if you can really remember what those lonely nights were like from a place of safety. Keeping touch with those emotional states is very difficult from a safe place. From your drama background you likely know about that already.
Hey, don't ever discount your Socially Unacceptable work. I knew you from that content first and best. You have a fine mind and that is more valuable in "the biz" longterm, than all your pop content put together, I'd guess. It's also more valuable in all your future partnerships, friendships. Don't compromise what isn't required. Life's a long road ideally, keep being you. If you trust yourself you won't make epic mistakes, you'll learn, develop, and thrive.
You may like the book, Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke. It helped me way back when. Basta.
Alright, kiddo, I got a meeting now. Thanks to you, if you find any of this useful. Apologies for length. It helped me to write it. There was a time, well before mine 😆, when writers got paid by the word. And then there were movies....
You are very welcome, Tiffany. Relax & be you & you got no problems.
Sometimes it's tricky figuring how to be you, but that can be fun as long as you got a roof overhead, food in your belly, a sense of humor, and the ability to learn. Maybe you know that your prefrontal cortex isn't fully formed til 25-26. The PFC is key to all that "adult" smart judgment that adults insist.you possess at 18. They didn't have it. No one does. So relax try learn get mortified every now and then.
A pro tip from a "real" adult with mental health worker experience: most adults don't make many friends as adults. Yes, it is a nightmare for them & they make endless excuses. Many never really get out of high school in their heads. I say this not to depress you, but to lower your expectations of how "together" adults really are. Shhhh...
this is LITERALLYYYYYY me except I'm going to college in my hometown with everyone from my high school and my best friend goes to another school and I've just always been a loner haha I love death
I totally get you sometimes you just cant find the right people at college and thats totally ok as you said its fine if you find at least a small bunch that are enjoyable human beings haha .. I stick to my highschool friends :)
Thanks for sharing something that can be hard to talk about for some people. I can relate and I'm in high school. I'm going to college next year..maybe and this is one of my worries for college.
I 100% relate to everything you said, and it's nice to see someone who's just ok with not having friends. I hate myself so much some days because I can't push myself to make friends and I moved to college with nobody. So it's helpful to hear that you've made it through so far with no friends.
My two best friends from my hometown go to college together and are even closer now and i get left out and never see them on top of that i moved for college and because of covid have not had the chance to make any friends. I just watch everyone having fun in college and i spend every day alone in my dorm :( plus I’m going through heartbreak which makes me feel even more lonely
Also, thank you for bringing a positive attitude to this subject because so many people complain about not having friends and make it sound like such a horrible and unsolvable issue! You don't seem like you give up, girl!
This is me right now and me last year. Made a bunch of friends around orientation, lost a lot after fall quarter because thats what happens. Come winter quarter, I was miserable but managed because I was semi close to my roommate so I'd literally look forward to dinner time where we could walk to the dining hall and eat: that was my social life. Now I'm a returning student and I have about zero friends and zero confidence to make any. I'm not into drinking or parties so I have slim options.
People often say: join clubs and meet people but that's easier said than done. I've learned class friendships and club friendships are a different ball game, you pretty much only have that ONE thing in common and after the quarter ends or summer comes and the club shuts down for vacation; back where you started.
My advice? Come to terms with it and work on being comfortable alone. Ive done great in school in terms of academics and I'm meeting my standards there but I was genuinely disappointed about my social life by the end of freshman year. High schoolers have preconceived ideas when it comes to college: I thought I'd make my BEST friends. I thought I'd meet my future husband or my bridesmaids. Thought id have amazing memories or crazy nights, just didnt happen for me.
It's not a fun situation and I finally learned to accept it and stop the pity party. It's a sucky situation and I feel for anyone experiencing it. It's embarrassing to young adults. My schools all across the country and I literally lied to my parents about making friends in order to ease their worries.
This is might whole entire life omg thank you so much for this tiffany!! (Also 24k magic is a banger)
I know how that feels.It's Saturday and I'm just chilling and watching youtube.
ive been watching you for like 6 years and im so proud of u tbhngl
So much I can relate to here :/ I tend to isolate myself a lot, and as much as I do value my alone time I really do wish I had friends (well I have one friend and we don't see each other too much). I can also relate to the idea of not wanting to seem desperate or invite myself places. I especially hate this cause I have a fear of people hanging out with me out of pity so I don't want people to just be begrudgingly letting me hang out with them
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a first semester freshman and met like a few people in each of my classes so far but made no friends or hung out with anyone. This was super encouraging :) love you and thank youTiffany!!
thank you so much for making this video!! v comforting to know you're not alone. 24k magic is a banger
wow this is so comforting. i've never related to anything so hard.
It feels really good knowing that I'm not the only one who hasn't made friends in college. I'm also in my second year and it's been really hard for me to make new friends because I don't know how hahaha it really is a hard thing to do but by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, I'm getting to know people little by little. I wish us all the best of luck at finding friends lol ❤️
Last semester, I joined a club that I heard was supposed to be fun out of blindness because I was desperate to make friends. I wasn't really even interested in the club. I'm still in the club right now but I don't fit in. There's a ton of people in it and I do better in making friends in smaller groups. Since I'm not too interested in the club, I am leaving it soon and going to pursue what I am genuinely interested in.
I’m so lonely in college, anyone want to be friends ._.
I literally feel the same, i find myself boring so i'm scared of getting close to people, in fear of them finding me uninteresting
I'm impressed how many people don't have friends. I watched one of those videos and now RUclips thinks I feel lonely. Hahaha.
But it's really sad to see so many people feeling alone. I'm from Brazil and I think we have a outgoing culture so i'm starting to think that things can be harder in north america. Hope you guys can find some really nice people in your life. ALL it takes is one friend that brings another friend, that brings another friend and so on.
I think you're very cool. I love RUclips, but many popular female RUclipsrs are very preppy and materialistic. This doesn't make them bad, but they're all very similar. You're so honest and interesting and introspective. I enjoy your videos and can relate to you in a strong way.
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
this is literally me oh my gawd. maybe I’ve just grown to accept the fact of being alone forever, but I think I have to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people. Because otherwise I’ll just stay inside all day till I get insanely lonely and isolated
I have had a very similar experience in college. I am a senior, and while I have a number of acquaintances, I don't really have any close friends. The friends that I am the closest to are still my friends from high school/ middle school, but I don't go to school with any of them. Making friends in college is a lot harder and a lot more work. I studied abroad my junior year, and I had similar concerns as you do -- that I would not make friends again AND be in a completely foreign country. However, I made really close friends super quickly, because (like high school) there was a smaller group of people who were all taking similar classes and activities. Studying abroad is somewhat of a scary experience for everyone, so its easy to make close bonds with others studying abroad as well. I am sure you will have a great time and it will be an amazing experience!
Making friends in college can definitely be tough, especially when youre a freshman, I just dropped my first video on how to make friends if youre starting a new year. Would really appreciate the feedback cause Im just starting out
Exact same person! I was so unhappy my freshman year, it was better sophomore year but I decided to transfer to my boyfriend's school because he makes me happy and I knew I would meet new people through him! luckily one of my friends also transferred here so I at least have two people to hang out with now. I still get sad sometimes that I have yet to create my own friend group, and not just tag along with my boyfriend but I just feel so unlikable and shy and awkward. I'm so quiet, I don't know how I could get anyone to enjoy my company
Tiff thank you for this video! I just started university and in the past have found it super easy to make friends but I've been struggling all of a sudden. So just thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am an awful person, I actively seek comfort in alll avenues which is ruining my life
i literally have the exact same worries about making friends on exchange! i know everyone says you'll definitely make friends but i still feel super nervous about it, and i'm already hyping myself up to put myself out there to make friends! i'm reassured by what you've shared and i can see from later videos you have had no trouble making friends :D
This is my life rn. I had one previously (a group of three), obviously it didn't work. Now ,Everyone has already made their own friends group....So yeah, everytime I feel left out. It hurts to walk alone in the college campus. I hope I'll eventually get used to it (I know it's hard but not impossible).
haha, im 27, just started college (been in 2 before but quit), aaand the struggle is real with making friends...gosh so hard :D
When I got to college a semester late everyone had pretty much buddied up and was set in their college ways already seeming to know who they were and what they were all about. It was even harder for me because I don’t subscribe to being a “type” of person. I’m fluid through many different friend groups but you could never find me hanging out with “THIS” particular group of people. College was so lonely and heartachingly long. If I could do it again I would just tell myself to get my degree online.
this video is like you read out every single one of my thoughts ahhhh i relate to this so much
24k magic is a banger. Don't even know what that is or means, but still gonna rep tiffanyferg.
Wow ok I don't think I have ever related to another video so much in my entire life. I absolutely know what it feels like to get in the habit of isolating yourself, especially if you're in a relationship. Glad to know I'm not alone xoxo
Wow I didn’t realize that this was an old video! I’m glad it popped up on my feed though because I’m going through such a rough patch with not having any friends at my college and it’s really nice to hear you went through the same thing as well.
Just thought I’d drop this comment in the mid of the vid before I forget lol. If you don’t mind, I’d really like to talk to you about how you got over this hump in the road because I’m really having a hard time feeling happy because I feel so lonely when I shouldn’t feel that way.
It is very enlightening to watch this video but it is also just so sad.. I personally don't have trouble with making friends but I find it so sad how this is under "Painfully honest" where you shouldn't have to feel pain just to open up and say how you feel. I understand that some people call that "Trauma dumping" but I can't stand them.
i can relate to this so much! i moved high schools my sophomore year and i'm currently a junior and i still haven't really met anyone who i've become "best friends" with besides one or two people..i talk to a good amount of people in my classes but i'm not really good friends with them..
Im a senior in college. About to graduate in half a year and i got no friends whatsoever. I had friends but they left or graduated. Tbh, i really dont care at this point. All i care about is graduating and running away from my hometown
lol my comment on your insta post with reed... also lol at the fact that i'm watching this vid alone in the cafeteria... but like same last year i was so trapped by first my roommate who only wanted to do stuff with me bc she was from out of state & had a negative mindset about the school & then another friend who was always going off campus & not doing anything here so it was hard to make friends & be involved but they both transferred so this year i'm forcing myself out and joining things and being more open with telling people stuff i want to do and branching out and i actually ended up becoming more of a part of a tight knit group of like 6 people who lived on my dorm floor last year so friendships will come!! & definitely if you're in a group for study abroad in france take the opportunity to seize those friendships
I just moved to a new city in a very small state. it's on the east coast where people aren't that friendly. It's such a small state a lot of people already know each other already. It's like going to a giant high school and everyone already has their own clique. It's nice to find someone I can relate to. But unfortunately I live in a family full of extroverts that would never understand this video😒