The biggest thing i've noticed about college friendships is it feels like i'm not spending enough time around the SAME people/group to form deep friendships like in high school... everyone is so focused on studies, you may only talk to someone once or a few times in a week. What's helped me the most is joining community-oriented clubs that have events. Also "dropping my ego" and just going to things that sound interesting, even if i am self-conscious. I do like to go to parties but usually end up talking to a small group of people there anyway
Yes omg it's so hard to see people for enough time to actually form deep bonds with them! Everything is just so busy and it's tough to see the same people regularly throughout the entire year!
This is a very brave vlog! Thing is, Makayla, you have everything going for you. Just remember what Charlie Cox said to you, "never, never lose your enthusiasm". It's infectious. You are a highly intelligent and very special young woman. Never forget it.
That was fantastic advice! Trying to fit in I became someone I wasn’t & it is difficult to keep up that facade. I am truly an introvert myself. Even at my age I have to make myself be social with people that are not family. So proud of your independence, accomplishments, honesty etc. Growing up I wish I had someone like you to listen to your advice & opinions, for I know my like would have turned out completely different & not so lonely! So proud to call you my niece! 🌹xoxo🌹
This is great advice! Hopefully, you will be able to connect with another student this last semester while you are there. Even though you have a short time remaining, it could possibly be a reason to return to see friends in Bristol!
Fellow introvert here -- I went to ONE party the entire time I was in college. No joke (I just didn't like them). And I didn't drink back then either (that did change later, haha, but I wouldn't even have a drink on my 21st birthday, which annoyed my roommates to no end). But over the years, I still managed to gather a great group of friends from a bunch of sources -- for most introverts, it's about quality over quantity, anyhow! And introverts make fantastic friends, IMO.
Even after I make friends or set the foundation for great friendships, which I have, I find it difficult to meet those same people throughout the week to actually strengthen the friendship. Everyone has something going on all the time.
I feel like I’m surrounding myself with people who don’t value who i am. I have friends in my Native American class, I met multiple people in my COMLIT class; however, I don’t have a stable friend group. I don’t have a friend group that I go out to dinner, hang out with, and do study groups, it really sucks. I haven’t been to a party yet because I’m focusing on my studies. I feel like when I socialize, it’s just over or sometimes I lag on the person. It sucks, but I really want a stable friend group.
I've been at uni for 3 years and have nothing to show for it no friends, barely any acquaintance, tried every club and society, worked a bunch of different jobs, tried to meet people in class nothing I've completely given up trying I just got to classes and then come home, I fucking hate living
@@vynongaming553agreed, I’m Asian but studying in the US where even Asians r from the US, I don’t mind being alone tbh, I enjoy it. I have friends I can hit up to hang out with but not 24/7. Whereas my highschool friends, I still keep in touch with about 10 of them and I’m still great friends. Just never clicked with anyone in college and that’s okay, I made lifelong friends in highschool already, we plan a trip at least once every six months during school breaks
Also quite hard to make friends when I’m really busy, homesick, don’t drink, and everyone sticks with their highschool clique in college and don’t branch out, but I’m happy with my lifestyle and social life, if you’re not then change smth, if you are happy then don’t bother changing lol, education is superior
I just go home every other weekend. That's 2 hours of driving. I go to a rural campus and half the students go home and I'm from a different country even though my first language is English. I just don't fit in. Tried and gave up.
Thank you so much for the video! This was really informative for me since I plan on studying in Bristol next year as an introverted international student, you talked honestly about the possible struggles I might face and I really appreciate that. What scares me the most is probably the drinking culture because I also don’t drink, thats why I wanted to ask you if you think that the uni of Bristol has a good amount of activities avalible that do not include alchohol/partying?
They do! The Bristol SU keeps up a page for all of their upcoming events, and they have a handy filter that allows you to view only the alcohol-free events :) here's the link: www.bristolsu.org.uk/events hope this helps!! And have an amazing time studying in Bristol next year!!
The biggest thing i've noticed about college friendships is it feels like i'm not spending enough time around the SAME people/group to form deep friendships like in high school... everyone is so focused on studies, you may only talk to someone once or a few times in a week. What's helped me the most is joining community-oriented clubs that have events. Also "dropping my ego" and just going to things that sound interesting, even if i am self-conscious. I do like to go to parties but usually end up talking to a small group of people there anyway
Yes omg it's so hard to see people for enough time to actually form deep bonds with them! Everything is just so busy and it's tough to see the same people regularly throughout the entire year!
This is a very brave vlog! Thing is, Makayla, you have everything going for you. Just remember what Charlie Cox said to you, "never, never lose your enthusiasm". It's infectious. You are a highly intelligent and very special young woman. Never forget it.
This is really so kind of you to say, and I want you to know that it truly just made my night 😊 thank you so much!
That was fantastic advice! Trying to fit in I became someone I wasn’t & it is difficult to keep up that facade. I am truly an introvert myself. Even at my age I have to make myself be social with people that are not family. So proud of your independence, accomplishments, honesty etc. Growing up I wish I had someone like you to listen to your advice & opinions, for I know my like would have turned out completely different & not so lonely! So proud to call you my niece! 🌹xoxo🌹
I totally know what you mean, it's so hard to keep up a facade! And thank you so much!!! 💓 I'm so proud to call you my aunt 🥰
Very well-said, Makayla! As an introvert, I identify 100% with your feelings and thoughts about making friends!
This is great advice! Hopefully, you will be able to connect with another student this last semester while you are there. Even though you have a short time remaining, it could possibly be a reason to return to see friends in Bristol!
Fellow introvert here -- I went to ONE party the entire time I was in college. No joke (I just didn't like them). And I didn't drink back then either (that did change later, haha, but I wouldn't even have a drink on my 21st birthday, which annoyed my roommates to no end). But over the years, I still managed to gather a great group of friends from a bunch of sources -- for most introverts, it's about quality over quantity, anyhow! And introverts make fantastic friends, IMO.
That's such a good point - quality over quantity really is such an important thing to embrace! And I completely agree :)
Even after I make friends or set the foundation for great friendships, which I have, I find it difficult to meet those same people throughout the week to actually strengthen the friendship. Everyone has something going on all the time.
I feel like I’m surrounding myself with people who don’t value who i am. I have friends in my Native American class, I met multiple people in my COMLIT class; however, I don’t have a stable friend group. I don’t have a friend group that I go out to dinner, hang out with, and do study groups, it really sucks. I haven’t been to a party yet because I’m focusing on my studies. I feel like when I socialize, it’s just over or sometimes I lag on the person. It sucks, but I really want a stable friend group.
I've been at uni for 3 years and have nothing to show for it no friends, barely any acquaintance, tried every club and society, worked a bunch of different jobs, tried to meet people in class nothing I've completely given up trying I just got to classes and then come home, I fucking hate living
Hey bro im in my first year, im sad that u felt that way. But i do feel the same. Asian countries seems easier to make friends than abroad
@@vynongaming553agreed, I’m Asian but studying in the US where even Asians r from the US, I don’t mind being alone tbh, I enjoy it. I have friends I can hit up to hang out with but not 24/7. Whereas my highschool friends, I still keep in touch with about 10 of them and I’m still great friends. Just never clicked with anyone in college and that’s okay, I made lifelong friends in highschool already, we plan a trip at least once every six months during school breaks
Also quite hard to make friends when I’m really busy, homesick, don’t drink, and everyone sticks with their highschool clique in college and don’t branch out, but I’m happy with my lifestyle and social life, if you’re not then change smth, if you are happy then don’t bother changing lol, education is superior
I just go home every other weekend. That's 2 hours of driving.
I go to a rural campus and half the students go home and I'm from a different country even though my first language is English. I just don't fit in. Tried and gave up.
I'm sorry, that sounds really hard 😕 as beautiful as rural campuses are, that's definitely a hazard. I hope that things change and get better for you!
Thank you so much for the video! This was really informative for me since I plan on studying in Bristol next year as an introverted international student, you talked honestly about the possible struggles I might face and I really appreciate that. What scares me the most is probably the drinking culture because I also don’t drink, thats why I wanted to ask you if you think that the uni of Bristol has a good amount of activities avalible that do not include alchohol/partying?
They do! The Bristol SU keeps up a page for all of their upcoming events, and they have a handy filter that allows you to view only the alcohol-free events :) here's the link: www.bristolsu.org.uk/events hope this helps!! And have an amazing time studying in Bristol next year!!
@@MakaylaMacGregor Thank you for the good wishes and info, the link will help a lot! Can’t wait to watch more of your videos : )
You would make a great psychology major! :)
I hope this help me 🙏🏾
Thank you!!!
Making friends is hard and Dating is harder :(
Anyone would be fortunate to be your friend!
That's me fr
So glad you are my remaining successful Instagram dm 🥰🥰
I don't know whether to feel proud or sympathetic about that 😂