0:24 - You think everything is your fault all the time 1:01 You constantly feel judged 1:26 - you are guilt tripped into decisions 1:55 - You doubt your reality 2:30 you are constantly compared to others 2:53 - You are lovebombed and punished
Manipulative behavior involves three factors, according to Stines: fear, obligation and guilt.✌✌✌ When you are being manipulated by someone you are being psychologically coerced into doing something you probably don't really want to do.
I agree with u all mom was once a very kind soul but she's now cold, guiltripping me and my sis and we r afraid when we make a small mistake she will freak and I wish WISH to leave but I can't since I don't have a job yet 😭😢😥
@@elenafarichildfair858 I’m so sorry. That’s really tough, esp if she wasn’t like that previously. What changed, do you think? Big, gentle hugs to you and your sister from a mama in the Midwest. ❤️🩹
My mother and sister I’ve noticed tend to give off this behaviour, my sister tried to guilt trip me into sending my mom to rehab and my mom lies and plays victim saying everyone is manipulating her children into believing she’s a drug addict. When she is. I’ve watched her!
One sign of manipulation is if the perpetrator is trying to scare you into acting against your own self interest by using fear of consequences. This can also be classified as intimidation.
Dad is trying to do this to me because he doesn't want me to transition. I've been out as trans to my parents for 5 years and I am not going to let him control my happiness. Its my body. My decisions. I am over the age of 18. Under his roof or not I have the right to seek gender affirming care.
@@smolmuffin Never let other people make decisions for you. Definitely take whatever advice they may have that seems good to you and dump the rest to the side walk. Ultimately, this is your life. Don't waste it living someone else's life. Transition is definitely a really big decision. Especially if you're getting gender reassignment surgery. Give yourself enough time to think it through thoroughly. No doubt you have already been thinking about that. Just make sure you don't rush into anything that can drastically change the rest of your life. Give yourself the necessary time that comes with transition. Personally, if I were you. I'd focus on building my life first. Move out of your father's house. Have a stable work and home life. And definitely get professional help for any mental health issues you may have like, trauma, depression, anxiety ect. That way you can properly be ready for your transition. Ultimately, if you feel unsafe, or that you're at risk of physical or psychological violence then it's best if you seek help and move out. I apologise if I've assumed too much about you. I'm just trying to help. Thank you for listening.
What if they always cry and play the victim where your stuck between being a bad friend or comforting them even if it makes you uncomfortable? What if they start ignoring and looking angry as if you did something but they don’t tell you the reason?
@@inevermetnobodylikeyou7738 That type of person may have mental health issues. Even if they do not, this behaviour is unacceptable. You need to hear this because I've delt with a similar situation. Hear this and take it in: YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON IF YOU CHOOSE NOT TO SUPPORT A PERSON THAT MAKES YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR WHO DOESN'T TREAT YOU RIGHT. You have no obligation to offer your time, love, effort and mind to 'help' someone, especially someone who doesn't treat you right. The only person you should look out for is yourself and those who treat you right. I put 'help' in quotations because I believe that the type of help in which that person needs is not what you are offering, or can offer. (It's not your fault for wanting to help, just understand that some people can't be helped in that traditional support fashion.) That person needs professional help from a mental health specialist. As far as I can tell, with the little information you've given me, and in relation to a similar situation I've delt with before. This person you're dealing with may be using you to get that sympathy from you. That attention you give that person. And in effect, they are trying to control you. I'll explain. When you try to leave the situation and that person. They may threaten you to keep you, by suggesting that, "You're a bad person for leaving and not supporting me." DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT! You are NOT a bad person. You simply can't help them, they need professional help. If the relationship is especially toxic, that person may say, "If you leave I'll harm myself or kill myself!" This scenario requires context. If the person threating to commit suicide or do self harm has been violent to you during your relationship. Whether that be physical, verbal, phycological, or any other type of violence, especially sexual abuse. Then DO NOT LISTEN to their suicide threat. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! They are trying to control you and keep you with them. If they threaten you directly, "If you leave I'm going to hurt or kill you." then that's hard deal with I know, but you ABSOLUTELY MUST leave the dangerous situation and call law enforcement. The other scenario or context is if this person has not been violent to you, in your relationship. Take their threat of suicide seriously and make sure you call law enforcement. But remember, if you feel too uncomfortable to deal with this situation. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. YOU'RE SAFETY IS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY! DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN DANGER OR JEOPARDIZE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID OF BEING A "BAD PERSON." YOU'RE NOT A BAD PERSON. Bad people take advantage of people like you! People like you, people who care, people who have good hearts. Even if they are a close friend or family member. That does not matter! What matters is how they treat you! And what matters is your own safety and health! In regards to the situation you're dealing with. Tell that person you can't help them. That they may need to see a professional to solve their problems. You can't solve it. You're not trained in that field. Apologise to that person and tell them. SEE HOW THAT PERSON RESPONDS! DECIDE IF YOU WANT THIS PERSON IN YOUR LIFE OR NOT! Remember if the situation gets dangerous or YOU'RE TOO UNCOMFORTABLE, then leave, your safety and your health is your number one priority. I really hope this helped.
“Did you relate to any of this signs?” I just ended up a relationship that has all what you’ve said like 10 mins ago and i was feeling guilty. So thank you so much I’m better now and i love this channel so much 🥺♥️
I also just got out of a relationship and i couldn't believe how many signs i recognized from this video. This channel and all of its videos have been extremely helpful and comforting to know I'm not going insane
i was accused of doing these things by my best friend. and she ended our friendship just this week. but i knew i wasn't doing it because i was helping her out of this because someone else was manipulating her. i'll send her this video and explain my case and show her who is. this video already shows that it wasn't me. hopefully i can get through to her and fix this all
My ex (who broke up with me because apparently I was being manipulative when I wasn't) was manipulating me the whole time. Every single one of these signs, she had them.
yeah i was accused of doing these by my best friend and she ended our friendship this week. i knew i wasn't doing it and someone else was, and this video proves my point. i'll send it to her and hopefully i can fix things
It’s insane how something happens in my life, and literally the next day Psyc2go has a video on it, like, how? It happens every time, lol. I really do love and appreciate your content Psyc2go
Unfortunately a lot of people will be using blatant lies, distortions, manipulations, broken promises, and victim blaming to further their aggressive and unscrupulous schemes. The best tactic is not to engage with their games and cut the conversation out immediately.
@@Lianna_Is_Me if it's parents u can listen from one ear and let it go from the other. If they say something that hurts u just understand they don't know you properly that's why they say stuff like that, Know who you are and never take anything that hurts you to your heart.
@@Lianna_Is_Me wel we obviously can't change parents so just ignore:) but keep in mind that the only people who would truly want you to succeed in life would be parents, they may not understand you sometimes but they still took care you at some point in life right.......
Time stamps!!! 😁✨ 1) 0:21 You feel like everything is your fault all the time 2) 1:00 You constantly feel judged 3) 1:25 You’re guilt-tripped into making decisions 4) 1:55 You doubt your reality 5) 2:30 You are constantly compared to others 6) 2:54 You are love-bombed and punished To anyone who is struggling I wish you all the best, stay strong and never stop fighting ❤️🥰✨
Yes I did relate. And I’m thinking of a verrrry specific person that continuously does these things to me. Thank you for exposing her, so I am free to fix the problem.
Yeah, I had an ex years ago that constantly blamed me for a lot of the problems going on in the relationship, even though she would always be the one yelling and throwing a fit for just asking a simple question, or even if I wasn't wrong, I would still apologize just to make things level again. Needless to say, she's gone after I caught her cheating, and I don't do that shit anymore with anybody. Being a nice person doesn't mean you turn yourself a doormat for nobody. Also, don't you guys hate it when people give you a choice and then get upset because you choose the option that's opposite what they wanted you to choose? So then why the hell even ask them to make a choice then!?! Smdh.
"Also, don't you guys hate it when people give you a choice and then get upset because you choose the option that's opposite what they wanted you to choose? So then why the hell even ask them to make a choice then!?! Smdh." It means you were never given a choice... lol
Ppl give opt to show u they are not caging you . They got upset because that's not what they wanted. U can't expect ppl not to get upset but if they don't want u to do that after giving u opt just because they got upset then yeah that's not a healthy relationship
@Fox see I call that bullshit because I often catch people who do that shit in the trap they create. If you're being asked a choice question, then you have the right to still make a choice despite what they wanted you to choose. And I just don't care if I choose "wrong."
I remember not having a lot of friends back then (still the case now but differently) but they were all manipulative with me because I was the victim and I let them go on for a few years. Now I'm scared of making friends because I don't want to fall in another trap. Now all the friends I have are only peoples I really trust and they trust and care for me back and peoples that I've observed before... Choose wisely your friends. Really. None of them are part of my life now, I'm proud of this.
I think i became THE manipulator without realizing it. Ironically this video has taught me what to be more aware of in myself because it's never been my intention to be this way but i have been very toxic and im going to fix it.
Just got out of a 4 year relationship that included all of the above. Thank you for making this video. It really shows me that I made the right choice in leaving.
As someone who has been manipulated a lot in the past ( some aren’t as bad as others) it does affect your mental health in the time of manipulation but once your out of it you face reality and you feel stronger and better because now you have the time to realize how smart you are and be a happier person without someone in the way
Omg, now that I am thinking about it literally all the signs were happening to me (gaslighting, comparing, love-bombing/punishment, making me question my sanity and whether I have a mental illness, guilt-tripping) always thought that she was the one because of her sick manipulations, thank god I got way past that, even after cutting off each other I was gonna be manipulated back into it, but thankfully I learned from my mistakes and I am not falling for these sick traps again!
If it's getting complicated,subtle tactics behind the scenes could be affecting you,make you feel that your making mistakes,but your not at fault for being judged so cruelly,every situation is used to guilt trip you,a reason to justify your reality and question your sanity,compare yourself to others at your peril,be yourself don't be ruled by others expectations,recognise it and establish boundaries✔️
This is just what I needed to watch right now. Confirms the sinking feeling I’ve been having that something is off. Awareness is the first step & knowledge is power. Thank you.
Please get out ASAP. That’s physical abuse and you deserve better. A good first step would be to work on separating your finances from hers. Start your own bank account and start saving up to live away from her. If she seems especially angry, you could call a friend or family member and ask to stay with them for a while.
First step, get separate finances save as much as you can in a bank in only your name. 2. Keep a duffle bag on your car or near your person filled with important papers. Birth certificate, ss card, ID, license. If you have Bill's in your name with an address on them, this will help you to shut off utilities when you leave there. Keep clean clothes and shoes in plastic bag. hygiene items. 3. Phone number to a shelter, keep your phone on you at all times lock the screen, keep the charger with your phone fully charged. 4 if possible record the argument with your phone, photograph any injury. Godbless you.
I love when you upload it always makes me more happier about the situation so I'm sometimes in and I had a friend that was manipulative and I just couldn't take it anymore so I snapped and told him you're not my friend anymore. And he was like fine we weren't even friends to begin with and I was like what and he said I I just used you I didn't care about you that's cool about your money and I was like. And it's a true story I just forgot to tell you
1. 0:21 you feel like everything is your fault all the time 2. 1:01 you constantly feel judged 3. 1:26 you’re guilt-tripped into decisions 4. 1:56 you doubt reality 5. 2:31 you are constantly compared to others 6. 2:54 you are love-bombed and punished Hope this helps and have a great day!
I wish I had this years ago, one "partner" doused me in manipulation and I felt something was off, just didn't know what, got forced into many things, always being thrown the phrase "I can understand if you don't wanna do this with me", current one only douses me in what looks like partial manipulation sometimes, but I think it's because of the previous partner, but I'm happy with the current one, never drained, but still, wish I had this back then
Hello there is the quick timestamp if you're in hurry ! 0:22 : 1)"You feel like everything is your fault all the time" 1:00 : 2)"You constantly feel judged" 1:25 : 3)"You're guilt-tripped into decisions" 1:55 : 4)"You doubt your reality" 2:30 : 5)"You are constantly compared to others" 2:55 : 6)"You are love-bombed and punished" 3:22 Bonus) Tactics they might use to make you punish you, make you feel guilty with time. Have a nice day and don't forget to stay hydrated :D
I'm unemployed and staying with a "friend". He does all 6 of these things to me, almost every day. My only other choice is to go to a homeless shelter. I really needed to hear this wake up call!
Hope your life is better now! How do you do? Did you find your home? I hope! If I may ask you something, and have your point of view: The opposite is, somewhat, happening to me. I am a very lonely late 30 years old (gay) man, I was homeless for a long time, and finally found post-pandemic, a studio, subrented by an ngo specialized for homeless pple with mental health issues( they diagnosed me with bpd and cptsd). I felt very lucky. This Christmas, I had nothing to do, no one to spend the evening with, so I went outside, a bit drunk, and I met this homeless guy, we had beers on a bench, I found him nice, and I couldn't let him sleep outside on Christmas night. So I invited him in my home. Since, he slept in my studio( I only have one room, one bed, ), several other times. Or he came to take a shower, charge his phone, eat something, etc.. I am attracted to him, but I would never attempt anything, and sleep in full pyjamas, letting the more distance between us, in the convertible. Cause I know he is straight, and it is impossible. (And I have been taken advantage of, when I was homeless, so I never want someone to feel that around me!) But it breaks my heart( I have no family, friends, lover, so I get attached very quickly). I don't think I can manage this, to share my intimacy, with a stranger, that don't share my feelings. He knows about it, we talk when we are drunk. But he doesn't seem to care. Meaby his needs are stronger, and he is willing to live in 15m2, with a lonely gay man, who is attracted to him? But I don't think it is healthy for me. Do you think it is ok, to refuse hospitality in winter, to someone, because you don't want to lose your ( fragile) intimacy? And because you don't want your heart broken( again)? Or am I a selfish individual, and deserve to stay alone?
I wonder what happens and how One would set boundaries if manipulation happened directly within a support group. It wouldn’t be right to leave the group just because of one person being offensive.
Yes, it would be. If one person is making the group toxic, it's important for your mental health to get out of there, especially if it's supposed to be a support group. In a support group you're at your most vulnerable, which means that the manipulator will Prey Upon that. One manipulator in a support group makes being in that support group literally unsafe. Plus the fact that manipulators will recruit other vulnerable people to do their dirty work, so at a certain point, it won't just be one person trying to manipulate you. You will all be manipulating each other at a certain point, just to serve the needs of that original manipulator. It's not that one person is being offensive, it's that one person is being dangerously toxic. If you're in a situation like that, get out. Things are about to get way worse.
I have fall for these just here lately and I am happy to see you guys made a video because it helps me recover and learn from it and not let it happen again when I know what the signs are like.
This hits really close to home for me bc I just ended a year long relationship with a manipulator. At first I wasn't sure I was being manipulated, I just knew something felt off, but I was slipping into a dark place. But I actually started watching Psych2Go last year and it helped me to slowly start recognizing my situation, and thanks to this and the counsel of some good friends, I'm glad to say I found the strength to walk away from that relationship and I'm doing a lot better now. Never stop what you're doing Psych2Go! It really helps
This video really helped. I'm currently in a time of my life where I have 2 friends make me feel like garbage half the time, if not more. I have no idea if they're doing this intentionally but, honestly, it doesn't matter. It's f**king disgusting. Right now I am doing my best to cut them off since I'm in a complicated situation with them. But for anyone reading this: be aware of how your friends make you feel and take steps to cutting them off from your life if they make you feel like s**t, do not let the good times and kind gestures fool you.
I just got out of a manipulative relationship last night. She used every tactic mentioned in this video. She made me feel absolutely horrible for “treating her improperly”, even though I always treated her like royalty. Everything was always my fault to her. Thanks to this video, I’m reassured that leaving her was the right thing to do. I feel so much better now that she’s gone :)
hey, i’ve got a question. how would you get out of a manipulative relationship if it’s with your sibling and your still a child? (a young child, i’m 10 years old) thanks! also, my grandma that lives with me shows most of these signs, and everyone in my close family shows at least two. is this ok? btw, it’s okay if you can’t answer these questions. i just wanna know what i should do.
@@sanije5955 well first off, find out why they are doing it. Second, talk to an adult you trust that can help you. Third, if that doesn't work, try talking to them directly.
This video is so true, I had experienced in my relationship. I was a nice guy who was sparing my time everytime, it was feelin like I'm taking an appointment. I'm the guy who was begging sorry for raising any question, and for no reason just coz our relationship shouldn't shatter. Inbetween they'll introduce another third person who'll replace you. Atlast I started thinking why everytime me? And raised many questions which broke relationship, but I'm happy. Coz *Loneliness is better than toxic relationship* :D
Felt like this and this is why I choose to allow my partners whether business or intimate the freedom of choice. If you have to be dishonest and exploitative in extremes then it’s no longer worth investing in. Thoughts and prayers
I was with a woman who is completely like that, & she even used her own children as a manipulation tool ( they started calling me daddy, she forced me to change her kids diapers, cook their food, dress them.) & I felt extremely uncomfortable with it. Now, I'm single again & I moved out of her house.
I can relate, unfortunately. This dude was nice in the beginning and made me feel important. He slowly ignored me, most likely bc I was spamming him. (I couldn't help it bc I had anxiety when he didn't answer, and I also have autism.) He always made excuses on why he doesn't answer me. I've explained to him that it's anxiety spamming, but he still didn't understand. That left me to be very depressed. I'm in a much better place now that I'm barely talking to him anymore, and that I have other friends to talk to that I know will respond to me. (maybe not immediately, but eventually.)
Im glad i havent noticed any of these with people i know. Ive either shut them down or called them out so i never stuck around to experience the hardships
Ended a 4 and a half year relationship where I engaged this person. They did all of these very strongly and often. I attempted to unalive myself bc of it. I am better now and can see all the things that happened. I feel sorry to past me for making him go through that. I am now mostly happy and have great friends who love and accept me and know about my past. Thank you for this video and I hope it bring awareness to a lot of people. This is truly something that can save someone's life if they listen.
I can somewhat tell now when I'm being manipulated "thanks" to an old highschool friend, it's just telling the difference between if someone's doing it deliberately or not is what I still struggle with.
I’m in a complex relationship with my best friend I always say that I’m in the wrong no matter how much they tell me I’m not I make self-destructive jokes around them and force them to brush it off by complimenting them, so that they feel better about themselves and realise how commended they are (and it works!) I gaslight them to understand themselves better (making them look at themself and the people around them positively benefits them) and appreciate how perfect they are I constantly compare them to me by bringing up my worst points contrasted to their best points to bring up their self-esteem + confidence I lovebomb them but I actually love them. I couldn't have a better best friend, one who actually accepts me for who I am (or at least I think they do) And they've finally got the message. They've become more confident, outgoing, smarter, and overall better. I helped them overcome a ruined relationship of 5 years in just 6 months. They've given me nothing but just the sight of their pretty smile gives me giggles. That's all the reason I need to keep living, honestly
The fact that I got 6 out of 6 on this definitely tells me that my two former so called friends were nothing but emotional manipulators. I’m definitely much better without them.
... Im not sure how to take this at this point, These things are exactly what my mother does. She will often make it MY FAULT if say... she had a bad day at work too. I love her and dont want her to leave me, but i dont want her to mess with me either
I really love this channel I've been watching psych2go for so long and it really helps me and I can spread the knowledge. Thank you for what you do, it's amazing ❤️
A really close friend of mine was being manipulative towards me, at first I didn’t realised that but after spending more alone with them I started seeing how toxic they were towards me. They always said things that were supposed to make me sad an feel wrong.
Even though i have left my friend a while ago i didn't realize he wasn't being the best person. This helped me realize what he was doing was (most likely) manipulation. Thanks
When you constantly have to make excuses for the person and argue with your inner monologue saying, “no, you’re just being sensitive!”..you are being manipulated! Healthy relationships don’t make you feel drained. Spend time with people who love you and want to see you do good and you’ll see what I’m talking about! -Mr.SmartCity
being autistic, a nice person, and having serious difficulty understanding body language and most non-verbal communication, I have been at least a bit gullible in one way or another for most of my life. In school the kids gleefully took advantage of that, and my nice guy disposition to torment me. I was genuine. I assumed everyone else was too. Well, now I have PTSD. Thanks a lot you little creeps. Forgiveness is hard, but I'm working on it. God, help me.
The love punish thing aswell as many other manipulative behaviours are also common among partners with borderline disorder where it often is not a conscious thing but looks a lot like it. Its a result of splitting/black & white thinking, severe fear of abandonment, intense mood swings and such. The mood swings can result in a behaviour which the person with borderline really didnt want to have leading to severe feelings of guilt, overcompensating affection, pleading and so on. The mood swings and splitting can be caused of the smallest worry, interpreted sign of the partner thinking of leaving which causes desperate behaviours. Its very common that an abusive partner has a personality disorder like borderline. Its not less wrong to be manipulative regardless of having the personality disorder or not.
I feel so trapped in a relationship that checks all these boxes. I often feel like it's my fault for being so passive and enabling his manipulation with my own behavior. I make it SO easy for him to treat me like trash. I feel incapable of defending myself; I just dissociate and curl into a ball, letting the verbal abuse sink in until I eventually start apologizing. I'll beg him to stop yelling at me and it just eggs him on. I've told him "I'm afraid of you" and it had zero effect. He told me that when he's in pain, it makes him feel better to hurt me and he knows he's good at it. He has no limits when he's in a rage; he'll go as low as possible, bringing up my r*pe, my family, exes, etc. But then, when the rage subsides, he's protective, loving, affectionate, kind. All these things but rarely is he SORRY. It would be too devastating to his sense of self, I think, to recognize the extent of his abuse. It would kill him to admit that he's a manipulator. It hurts me to contemplate how hard that realization would be for him. Sometimes I think I care more about protecting him than I care about protecting myself. This dynamic is exhausting and confusing, and the worst part is that the on-and-off emotional abuse has steadily eroded my sense of reality and strength of self. His rage goes away but the hurt that's inflicted on me stays. My heart is bruised and my mind is hazy. I'm scared of the day that I finally start to believe all the cruel things he says to me when he's angry..... I'm stupid, I'm selfish, I'm a slut, I'm fucked up, I'm nobody....things I don't think even he believes. I wish I didn't love him so that it would be easy to leave but I also feel afraid of repeating this dynamic with my next partner due to my passivity. I think my open heart is a beautiful thing but it makes it SO damn easy for him to hurt me. Sorry for the rant. I just feel so alone in this dynamic, too embarrassed to talk to friends about it. I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone and if you can, please put yourself first. XO.
I think I used to be a manipulator when I was going to a really hard time with depression. I blamed my boyfriend for everything that was wrong, how I ended up homeless, pregnant, and abandoned by my family. Thankfully I don’t feel that way toward him, but I remember being pretty awful to him, making him feel guilty about everything
The one bright side about having been in any form of manipulative relationship is that once you leave it you can see all the manipulative behavior at first you get angry at yourself for not realizing it earlier but then all the horrible feelings and doubts you were feeling make sense as not really you but the other person.
i related hard to the part where you said they try to make you trust them, i met a manipulative person and i couldn't put my finger on why i didn't feel safe opening up to them and i even told them i was sorry i couldn't open up more but i just don't feel comfortable and after a while of trying to break down your walls and it doesn't work, their masks slips VERY fast. it's like they get aggravated when they can't trick someone into trusting them.
Thanks, my girlfriend finally got over her ex's manipulation, reverse psychology, and guilt trip. Where he was trying to win her back by making her feel bad about it. That ex of hers used to abuse her in her past. I dont want her going back to that type of person.
Thank you guys for saving me from this, I took your advice with my ex and lo and behold she gave me a decent amount of physical stitches, thank you!!! She pulled this same exact crap with me, I sadly ignored it and well it turned around and bit me harder than you can imagine
It was only after starting to pay attention to what was being done and doing my "youtube" research on psych videos I came to the realization and every time I tried to point out something I was being accused of being the narcissist and manipulative one. The sad part is as much as i know that I was played and have to walk away, I wish them peace and healing from this way of thinking
Believe me we are all having those issues piece by piece nobody can be perfect good at all it depends how can you control it… don’t let your bad thoughts become possessive of you don’t do as emotional leans… you can use that issue sometimes just to survive and protect yourself from the nasty ppl on this planet Good luck guys
one of my friends mentioned that my best friend was manipulative and that’s why he wasn’t her friend anymore.. i realized that she really is manipulative today… it hurts that’s she’s using me and being manipulative because i have a hard time saying no and such.
I just cut ties with a friend of 5 years because I was way too forgiving with how they’ve treated me and others this entire time. Seeing this today and knowing they did all these things really just makes sense. Not to mention they’re trying to make it seem like I’m the bad guy for telling them that they aren’t treating people right-
I think, i feel enough. I feel enough with my life. I don't want to know nor draw it again. It's already colorful. I don't want to ruin the color. I wanna leave it like that. I wanna leave it while it's still beautiful. While i got the ranks, good grades, good attitude, get people's attention in a good way, and nothing's bad. Cause i'm afraid that the next thing i do will only ruin the color.
I feel related to the video. I was always under someone's manipulation until i dont know anymore about myself and he define me by another definition, and pushed me to believe that i was that kind of person he'd defined me of. But somehow, all i did was never enough for him. He left me and choose another girl after i broke into pieces. But then i came to a psychologist, get some treatment to get "myself" back and stronger. And he came again after i gathered a power to fight back. But all i did was keeping myself out of him. He is my trigger now. Deep down in my heart, i'm still loving him but i think we can't make it work if he had not yet healed.
I'm starting to question myself if I'm the manipulator. Maybe the person has rubbed off on me. But my mental health just went down the drain so to cope now i look for excuses, I always get told I'm playing the victim and now I don't even know what's right or wrong anymore
My dad does nearly all of these. "I love and support you!" (yet destroys my self confidence and doesn't accept that I'm trans) "I moved out when I was 17/19 why couldn't you" Always blames everything on my room being messy. Threatens to destroy my stuff or kick me out. Attempted to gaslit me into believing I wasn't mentally sane enough to make medical decisions. I could go on.
This is a really good Video i recommend to those who are unintentionally manipulative or manipulatedly manipulative or any one whos manipulative in any ways to watch this. This point out every behavior , this is a really good educational channel 👍💙
My step mom does this... And I can't move out for 5 years! Horray!! I told her about my relationship? Now she uses it against me to ensure I do everything that she wants me to. Always has periods of time where I feel like she's actually changed and that it really is my fault that she is mean to me. She's been around since I was 7. I hope anyone reading this can escape and deal with whatever troubles come their way :) Remember to eat, drink water, and get sleep!
Sad thing is, when your Partner think that every Action of you is to Manipulare her. I watched this video cause my "Girlfriend" actually think that every Action i made, is, to Manipulate her and i wanted to know what Manipulator do, to Manipulate. The hard thing is, that all of the "Symptoms" are not stuff that I do... ...that are thinks her mother do. Idk why, but my relationship is broken up few days ago. She dont not love me, she dont cheated on me, she dont love another person... she is just afraid, that my Action i do, are fake, cause she think that i am the Manipulator. Its hurt so much, i cant do anything... Manipulation is the worst...and when a Manipulator is the reason why your relationship broke up, its hurts SOOO much. Cause i am not the one who make a fault, but nether her...
My last bf did most, if not all, of these things. I wanted to be happy and for him to be happy, though he never was, and he convinced me that I couldn't be either. Finally I learned whatever it is the universe needed me to learn, or at least I qualified for a different sort of lesson. I was able to disconnect from him in favor of a man that I surely invented from dreams I've had all my life.
sign number 7. you are dating online and there is a good chance they only care about you're money and have no interest in you. this has been my experience so far, and it's one person after another. it's hard to find someone actually looking for love I feel.
my ex broke up with me and everyone has been telling me that she was manipulation me. but i still fought for my partner for 2 years. i did everything for this person. yet the feelings from my partner towards me were gone in less than a day. the signs you listed were all included in that relationship. and i feel a lot of anger towards my ex rn for doing this to me. yet i still want them back because i still love them and cant fully let go. Theres a lot that goes into that story,,,buzt i gave them the will to live by simply being a friend...which over years developed into a relationship where i wa the happiest ive ever been at first, but then it just started to get worse and worse because of the ways they used your signs on me
Thanks alot this channel means a lot to me it helped me to notice emotional and verbal abuse I experienced and now the channel is my therapy where I am continue recovering thanks a lot
Most of these points are exactly how I've been feeling for a while. Even though he often makes me cry, I still love and appreciate the good moments with him and I don't know what to do :[
I realized that I was heavily manipulated by an online "friend" who turned out to be almost 18 (I was 14 at that time), and this last year, I've been confusing it with bullying... I think that I'll need to keep up the lie, though... They're going to shrug it off unless I use a strong word like grooming...
Hey, psyct2go. I don’t know if your reading this, but if you are, I have a message for you. Have you ever heard of camp camp? I think that you should know about the series. It is kinda for grownups… or a lot for grownups due to curse words, and lute topics (I hope I used that right) I really love the show, because it’s very psychologically accurate. It’s about the crushing feeling of child neglect showed with a seemingly evil sociopath, but then you learn to understand him, and it’s both incredibly moving, and psychologically accurate. I love this show, and I think you will like it to. Just give it a chance. Pleeeeease?
By what I hear in this video I’ve always been manipulated by my parents. The question I hate that was/is asked is “Are you sure?”when making a decision.
Thank you for your channel. I had 7 of these things happen to me. I thought I was going nuts. This clarified things for me especially the last point. I like a lot of your videos, but this one really hit home. Thank you!!! I will be very careful about my next spouse!
Sometime we can just misunderstand someone having these Signs but having these signs doesn't mean they r being toxic...they might have some other problems..don't be quick to judge
I've been compared to others at one of my previous jobs by my kitchen supervisor, hearing him say something like " if they can do it that fast, you can too!"
I did suffer from one of these cases, the name was Aritza and well, she was the first friend I managed to make at school since she was my neighbor, and since I recognized her at my old school I went to talk to her and I became her friend or so thats what i thought I don't know why but she started to spread a rumor about me and according to something that I currently know thanks to some friends is that she said I was a bad person, usually I remember it Nice she came to my birthday, she invited me for pizza, and we shared lunch boxes I used to give her my food (I still do that but with friends who value me) but when I try to remember more I remember all the times in which she judged my appearance and my tastes, and things I did like singing the first time I sang it was in front of my family they liked it and since she was quite relevant and sang beautifully, in my opinion I went to see her opinion, what she told me was that i had a horrible voice, and she used to say what she like and even I watched a serie for her, she used to leave me alone, other times crying in the bathroom because of something she said to me, and once I found out about the rumors I went to ask her for explanations, for which she ran away from me, and when I apologized to her, she forgave me as if I had done something to her, but I didn't, she talk to another girl that have a material similar to mine and accused me of having stolen material from a person who wasn't even from my grade and sometimes she was good and kind, one day I had a friend who wanted to open my eyes that that was not right that My other friend was a bad person she even defended me, she slapped her and I I didn't know what to do and I chose to defend Aritza I don't know why,....I regret about that, but well I guess it will be because of the time I spend with her, and well, one night I got tired of all, and since my dad was there I told him that I couldn't stand it ,..if he would please help me once the school meeting was over I left I never felt so free in my life, she always told me that her parents were separating that was her excuse she would start crying and like a fool I supported her, and I left my friend alone my true friend the one I try to open my eyes, and well now we are on good terms, and once I found her if she used to hide from me now I was hiding from her I didn't want to see her, days before I left she started crying making me doubt myself, saying i was a bad friend, i couldn't stand it It's been 4 years I'm not going to come back here that what i Say and I left, and I got rid of that shit, I really don't hold a grudge against her, only if I find her I wouldn't want her to talk to me, and sometimes I remember and think is my fault I should have been better, but when I enter a new school my first friend told me that I was literally speaking like a robot, that already worried me.
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What are your top pick movies or Netflix series around the theme of manipulation? Comment below.
no clue
girl from nowhere kinda has that theme
Don't know
Gone girl !
Umbrella academy
I feel it's important to point out that this can be a romantic partner, a parent, a sibling, a colleague/peer, literally anybody.
I've even seen people being manipulated and talked down on by doctors and therapists. It's messed up
@@S0FTFUZZYMAN_XO Just, Wow. People aren't the best kind of animal.
@@sorafujita6659 agreed
IM LITERALLY BEING MANIPULATED BY A PEER RN
You are so true when you said that. I agree it can be anyone no matter who they are to you.
0:24 - You think everything is your fault all the time
1:01 You constantly feel judged
1:26 - you are guilt tripped into decisions
1:55 - You doubt your reality
2:30 you are constantly compared to others
2:53 - You are lovebombed and punished
Thanks!
@@PsychologyRefresh you're welcome :D
Perfect description of my dad
100% my mother
same with my dad
Manipulative behavior involves three factors, according to Stines: fear, obligation and guilt.✌✌✌ When you are being manipulated by someone you are being psychologically coerced into doing something you probably don't really want to do.
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These irresponsible dysfunctional people constantly pushing THIER AGENDA onto ME!!
I agree with u all mom was once a very kind soul but she's now cold, guiltripping me and my sis and we r afraid when we make a small mistake she will freak and I wish WISH to leave but I can't since I don't have a job yet 😭😢😥
this is my office workplace culture omg
@@elenafarichildfair858 I’m so sorry. That’s really tough, esp if she wasn’t like that previously. What changed, do you think? Big, gentle hugs to you and your sister from a mama in the Midwest. ❤️🩹
It's very hard to walk away when you love the person, but it's necessary. That's the best for you. Be strong, guys! We can do it!
U love them more than yourself, you lose yourself in a toxic relationship, that’s why it’s hard
Yes. If that person loves you the same way, they would've changed their behavior long ago. You deserve better. Stay strong!
You said it! It can be painful to leave, though the pain of staying is far worse.
My mother and sister I’ve noticed tend to give off this behaviour, my sister tried to guilt trip me into sending my mom to rehab and my mom lies and plays victim saying everyone is manipulating her children into believing she’s a drug addict. When she is. I’ve watched her!
One sign of manipulation is if the perpetrator is trying to scare you into acting against your own self interest by using fear of consequences.
This can also be classified as intimidation.
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Dad is trying to do this to me because he doesn't want me to transition. I've been out as trans to my parents for 5 years and I am not going to let him control my happiness. Its my body. My decisions. I am over the age of 18. Under his roof or not I have the right to seek gender affirming care.
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Never let other people make decisions for you. Definitely take whatever advice they may have that seems good to you and dump the rest to the side walk. Ultimately, this is your life. Don't waste it living someone else's life.
Transition is definitely a really big decision. Especially if you're getting gender reassignment surgery. Give yourself enough time to think it through thoroughly. No doubt you have already been thinking about that. Just make sure you don't rush into anything that can drastically change the rest of your life. Give yourself the necessary time that comes with transition.
Personally, if I were you. I'd focus on building my life first. Move out of your father's house. Have a stable work and home life. And definitely get professional help for any mental health issues you may have like, trauma, depression, anxiety ect.
That way you can properly be ready for your transition.
Ultimately, if you feel unsafe, or that you're at risk of physical or psychological violence then it's best if you seek help and move out.
I apologise if I've assumed too much about you. I'm just trying to help. Thank you for listening.
What if they always cry and play the victim where your stuck between being a bad friend or comforting them even if it makes you uncomfortable? What if they start ignoring and looking angry as if you did something but they don’t tell you the reason?
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That type of person may have mental health issues. Even if they do not, this behaviour is unacceptable.
You need to hear this because I've delt with a similar situation. Hear this and take it in:
YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON IF YOU CHOOSE NOT TO SUPPORT A PERSON THAT MAKES YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR WHO DOESN'T TREAT YOU RIGHT.
You have no obligation to offer your time, love, effort and mind to 'help' someone, especially someone who doesn't treat you right. The only person you should look out for is yourself and those who treat you right. I put 'help' in quotations because I believe that the type of help in which that person needs is not what you are offering, or can offer. (It's not your fault for wanting to help, just understand that some people can't be helped in that traditional support fashion.) That person needs professional help from a mental health specialist. As far as I can tell, with the little information you've given me, and in relation to a similar situation I've delt with before. This person you're dealing with may be using you to get that sympathy from you. That attention you give that person. And in effect, they are trying to control you. I'll explain. When you try to leave the situation and that person. They may threaten you to keep you, by suggesting that, "You're a bad person for leaving and not supporting me." DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT! You are NOT a bad person. You simply can't help them, they need professional help. If the relationship is especially toxic, that person may say, "If you leave I'll harm myself or kill myself!" This scenario requires context. If the person threating to commit suicide or do self harm has been violent to you during your relationship. Whether that be physical, verbal, phycological, or any other type of violence, especially sexual abuse. Then DO NOT LISTEN to their suicide threat. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! They are trying to control you and keep you with them.
If they threaten you directly, "If you leave I'm going to hurt or kill you." then that's hard deal with I know, but you ABSOLUTELY MUST leave the dangerous situation and call law enforcement.
The other scenario or context is if this person has not been violent to you, in your relationship. Take their threat of suicide seriously and make sure you call law enforcement. But remember, if you feel too uncomfortable to deal with this situation. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY.
YOU'RE SAFETY IS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY! DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN DANGER OR JEOPARDIZE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID OF BEING A "BAD PERSON."
YOU'RE NOT A BAD PERSON.
Bad people take advantage of people like you! People like you, people who care, people who have good hearts.
Even if they are a close friend or family member. That does not matter! What matters is how they treat you! And what matters is your own safety and health!
In regards to the situation you're dealing with. Tell that person you can't help them. That they may need to see a professional to solve their problems. You can't solve it. You're not trained in that field. Apologise to that person and tell them.
SEE HOW THAT PERSON RESPONDS!
DECIDE IF YOU WANT THIS PERSON IN YOUR LIFE OR NOT!
Remember if the situation gets dangerous or YOU'RE TOO UNCOMFORTABLE, then leave, your safety and your health is your number one priority.
I really hope this helped.
“Did you relate to any of this signs?”
I just ended up a relationship that has all what you’ve said like 10 mins ago and i was feeling guilty. So thank you so much I’m better now and i love this channel so much 🥺♥️
I also just got out of a relationship and i couldn't believe how many signs i recognized from this video. This channel and all of its videos have been extremely helpful and comforting to know I'm not going insane
@@nickoyasu2407 so proud of you. You’re doing awesome!
@@shahendaelamir3053 and I'm proud of you too !
Very cool. You both deserve so much better. Best wishes.
Stay strong
May God bless you 💖
I hate how accurate this is. I recently got out of a toxic relationship with someone who used manipulation.
Same happened to me too!
Yea my gf would use manipulation as well, lies, excuses, gaslighting etc, I just walked away without saying a word really
i was accused of doing these things by my best friend. and she ended our friendship just this week. but i knew i wasn't doing it because i was helping her out of this because someone else was manipulating her. i'll send her this video and explain my case and show her who is. this video already shows that it wasn't me. hopefully i can get through to her and fix this all
Congrats!
Everything here is what my 2nd best friend does.... He's not my friend anymore
My ex (who broke up with me because apparently I was being manipulative when I wasn't) was manipulating me the whole time. Every single one of these signs, she had them.
Often when someone accuses another about something it is likely they are doing it themselves.
yeah i was accused of doing these by my best friend and she ended our friendship this week. i knew i wasn't doing it and someone else was, and this video proves my point. i'll send it to her and hopefully i can fix things
@@austinspears6254 best of luck 🤞
It’s insane how something happens in my life, and literally the next day Psyc2go has a video on it, like, how? It happens every time, lol. I really do love and appreciate your content Psyc2go
Divine timing from the universe. It's a very common thing
might be because these topics are so common in life and you feel like its just you but this topcis literally came up in my life about a month ago
Damn, now I think I'm noticing the same thing. I like it, these videos help me see myself. 👀they make me wanna change. For the better.
Thank you for your support
Unfortunately a lot of people will be using blatant lies, distortions, manipulations, broken promises, and victim blaming to further their aggressive and unscrupulous schemes. The best tactic is not to engage with their games and cut the conversation out immediately.
Very true ;/
But It's my parents and I live with them..
@@Lianna_Is_Me if it's parents u can listen from one ear and let it go from the other. If they say something that hurts u just understand they don't know you properly that's why they say stuff like that, Know who you are and never take anything that hurts you to your heart.
@@srujanpetumpuri2900 thanks but they say that all the time
@@Lianna_Is_Me wel we obviously can't change parents so just ignore:) but keep in mind that the only people who would truly want you to succeed in life would be parents, they may not understand you sometimes but they still took care you at some point in life right.......
Time stamps!!! 😁✨
1) 0:21 You feel like everything is your fault all the time
2) 1:00 You constantly feel judged
3) 1:25 You’re guilt-tripped into making decisions
4) 1:55 You doubt your reality
5) 2:30 You are constantly compared to others
6) 2:54 You are love-bombed and punished
To anyone who is struggling I wish you all the best, stay strong and never stop fighting ❤️🥰✨
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thank you! i honestly feel like im manipulating myself, cuz i dont know anyone who could be manipulating me, yet i relate to most of these
The wake up call I hate to admit I needed 🥺
Do not feel bad, at least you are now in the KNOW ! No more time wasted 😊
Yes I did relate. And I’m thinking of a verrrry specific person that continuously does these things to me. Thank you for exposing her, so I am free to fix the problem.
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Fix the problem as in leave? They probably won't change
Yeah, I had an ex years ago that constantly blamed me for a lot of the problems going on in the relationship, even though she would always be the one yelling and throwing a fit for just asking a simple question, or even if I wasn't wrong, I would still apologize just to make things level again. Needless to say, she's gone after I caught her cheating, and I don't do that shit anymore with anybody. Being a nice person doesn't mean you turn yourself a doormat for nobody. Also, don't you guys hate it when people give you a choice and then get upset because you choose the option that's opposite what they wanted you to choose? So then why the hell even ask them to make a choice then!?! Smdh.
"Also, don't you guys hate it when people give you a choice and then get upset because you choose the option that's opposite what they wanted you to choose? So then why the hell even ask them to make a choice then!?! Smdh."
It means you were never given a choice... lol
Ppl give opt to show u they are not caging you .
They got upset because that's not what they wanted.
U can't expect ppl not to get upset but if they don't want u to do that after giving u opt just because they got upset then yeah that's not a healthy relationship
@Fox see I call that bullshit because I often catch people who do that shit in the trap they create. If you're being asked a choice question, then you have the right to still make a choice despite what they wanted you to choose. And I just don't care if I choose "wrong."
That last line ... THE ACCURACY!!!
@@johnbakasmoothhotchocolate There is no right or wrong there is only the "right" choice for you at the moment you took that decision.
I remember not having a lot of friends back then (still the case now but differently) but they were all manipulative with me because I was the victim and I let them go on for a few years. Now I'm scared of making friends because I don't want to fall in another trap. Now all the friends I have are only peoples I really trust and they trust and care for me back and peoples that I've observed before...
Choose wisely your friends. Really.
None of them are part of my life now, I'm proud of this.
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I'm extremely selective about the friends I make.
I think i became THE manipulator without realizing it. Ironically this video has taught me what to be more aware of in myself because it's never been my intention to be this way but i have been very toxic and im going to fix it.
Just got out of a 4 year relationship that included all of the above. Thank you for making this video. It really shows me that I made the right choice in leaving.
As someone who has been manipulated a lot in the past ( some aren’t as bad as others) it does affect your mental health in the time of manipulation but once your out of it you face reality and you feel stronger and better because now you have the time to realize how smart you are and be a happier person without someone in the way
I tremble in fear to people who actually enjoy being the victims of manipulation in a romantic relationship.
Omg, now that I am thinking about it literally all the signs were happening to me (gaslighting, comparing, love-bombing/punishment, making me question my sanity and whether I have a mental illness, guilt-tripping) always thought that she was the one because of her sick manipulations, thank god I got way past that, even after cutting off each other I was gonna be manipulated back into it, but thankfully I learned from my mistakes and I am not falling for these sick traps again!
If it's getting complicated,subtle tactics behind the scenes could be affecting you,make you feel that your making mistakes,but your not at fault for being judged so cruelly,every situation is used to guilt trip you,a reason to justify your reality and question your sanity,compare yourself to others at your peril,be yourself don't be ruled by others expectations,recognise it and establish boundaries✔️
This is just what I needed to watch right now. Confirms the sinking feeling I’ve been having that something is off. Awareness is the first step & knowledge is power. Thank you.
My girlfriend always beats me up when she's mad. I'm always afraid, and I feel like I'm always trying to read between the lines on what she says...
Please get out ASAP. That’s physical abuse and you deserve better.
A good first step would be to work on separating your finances from hers. Start your own bank account and start saving up to live away from her. If she seems especially angry, you could call a friend or family member and ask to stay with them for a while.
Well that's not love is it that's abuse and if she does that to you she'll do it to someone else if you stay with her it won't stop
get out ! what are you waiting for ? this is not love.
First step, get separate finances save as much as you can in a bank in only your name. 2. Keep a duffle bag on your car or near your person filled with important papers. Birth certificate, ss card, ID, license. If you have Bill's in your name with an address on them, this will help you to shut off utilities when you leave there. Keep clean clothes and shoes in plastic bag. hygiene items. 3. Phone number to a shelter, keep your phone on you at all times lock the screen, keep the charger with your phone fully charged. 4 if possible record the argument with your phone, photograph any injury. Godbless you.
Perhaps then it is time to either set boundaries or leave the relationship...
I love when you upload it always makes me more happier about the situation so I'm sometimes in and I had a friend that was manipulative and I just couldn't take it anymore so I snapped and told him you're not my friend anymore. And he was like fine we weren't even friends to begin with and I was like what and he said I I just used you I didn't care about you that's cool about your money and I was like. And it's a true story I just forgot to tell you
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I love this song such a good song
1. 0:21 you feel like everything is your fault all the time
2. 1:01 you constantly feel judged
3. 1:26 you’re guilt-tripped into decisions
4. 1:56 you doubt reality
5. 2:31 you are constantly compared to others
6. 2:54 you are love-bombed and punished
Hope this helps and have a great day!
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I wish I had this years ago, one "partner" doused me in manipulation and I felt something was off, just didn't know what, got forced into many things, always being thrown the phrase "I can understand if you don't wanna do this with me", current one only douses me in what looks like partial manipulation sometimes, but I think it's because of the previous partner, but I'm happy with the current one, never drained, but still, wish I had this back then
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Hello there is the quick timestamp if you're in hurry !
0:22 : 1)"You feel like everything is your fault all the time"
1:00 : 2)"You constantly feel judged"
1:25 : 3)"You're guilt-tripped into decisions"
1:55 : 4)"You doubt your reality"
2:30 : 5)"You are constantly compared to others"
2:55 : 6)"You are love-bombed and punished"
3:22 Bonus) Tactics they might use to make you punish you, make you feel guilty with time.
Have a nice day and don't forget to stay hydrated :D
I'm unemployed and staying with a "friend". He does all 6 of these things to me, almost every day. My only other choice is to go to a homeless shelter. I really needed to hear this wake up call!
Are you able to find a job, post pandemic im sure you can find something and prioritize yourself over a sad and toxic person
Hope your life is better now!
How do you do?
Did you find your home?
I hope!
If I may ask you something, and have your point of view:
The opposite is, somewhat, happening to me.
I am a very lonely late 30 years old (gay) man, I was homeless for a long time, and finally found post-pandemic, a studio, subrented by an ngo specialized for homeless pple with mental health issues( they diagnosed me with bpd and cptsd).
I felt very lucky.
This Christmas, I had nothing to do, no one to spend the evening with, so I went outside, a bit drunk, and I met this homeless guy, we had beers on a bench, I found him nice, and I couldn't let him sleep outside on Christmas night.
So I invited him in my home.
Since, he slept in my studio( I only have one room, one bed, ), several other times.
Or he came to take a shower, charge his phone, eat something, etc..
I am attracted to him, but I would never attempt anything, and sleep in full pyjamas, letting the more distance between us, in the convertible. Cause I know he is straight, and it is impossible.
(And I have been taken advantage of, when I was homeless, so I never want someone to feel that around me!)
But it breaks my heart( I have no family, friends, lover, so I get attached very quickly).
I don't think I can manage this, to share my intimacy, with a stranger, that don't share my feelings.
He knows about it, we talk when we are drunk.
But he doesn't seem to care.
Meaby his needs are stronger, and he is willing to live in 15m2, with a lonely gay man, who is attracted to him?
But I don't think it is healthy for me.
Do you think it is ok, to refuse hospitality in winter, to someone, because you don't want to lose your ( fragile) intimacy?
And because you don't want your heart broken( again)?
Or am I a selfish individual, and deserve to stay alone?
I wonder what happens and how One would set boundaries if manipulation happened directly within a support group. It wouldn’t be right to leave the group just because of one person being offensive.
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Yes, it would be. If one person is making the group toxic, it's important for your mental health to get out of there, especially if it's supposed to be a support group. In a support group you're at your most vulnerable, which means that the manipulator will Prey Upon that. One manipulator in a support group makes being in that support group literally unsafe. Plus the fact that manipulators will recruit other vulnerable people to do their dirty work, so at a certain point, it won't just be one person trying to manipulate you. You will all be manipulating each other at a certain point, just to serve the needs of that original manipulator. It's not that one person is being offensive, it's that one person is being dangerously toxic. If you're in a situation like that, get out. Things are about to get way worse.
Would you like us to make a video on this?
@@Psych2go Sure.
I have fall for these just here lately and I am happy to see you guys made a video because it helps me recover and learn from it and not let it happen again when I know what the signs are like.
Let me tell you, don’t manipulate people, this video can teach us not to manipulate people.
Thanks!
This hits really close to home for me bc I just ended a year long relationship with a manipulator. At first I wasn't sure I was being manipulated, I just knew something felt off, but I was slipping into a dark place. But I actually started watching Psych2Go last year and it helped me to slowly start recognizing my situation, and thanks to this and the counsel of some good friends, I'm glad to say I found the strength to walk away from that relationship and I'm doing a lot better now. Never stop what you're doing Psych2Go! It really helps
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Thank you for this video! I cannot imagine if I was being manipulated or not. Again, thank you so much!
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I needed this so much! It's been like millions of years I felt like I was always wrong but it has made me strongest so far. Thanks to the gaslighters!
This video really helped. I'm currently in a time of my life where I have 2 friends make me feel like garbage half the time, if not more. I have no idea if they're doing this intentionally but, honestly, it doesn't matter. It's f**king disgusting. Right now I am doing my best to cut them off since I'm in a complicated situation with them. But for anyone reading this: be aware of how your friends make you feel and take steps to cutting them off from your life if they make you feel like s**t, do not let the good times and kind gestures fool you.
I just got out of a manipulative relationship last night. She used every tactic mentioned in this video. She made me feel absolutely horrible for “treating her improperly”, even though I always treated her like royalty. Everything was always my fault to her.
Thanks to this video, I’m reassured that leaving her was the right thing to do. I feel so much better now that she’s gone :)
hey, i’ve got a question. how would you get out of a manipulative relationship if it’s with your sibling and your still a child? (a young child, i’m 10 years old) thanks! also, my grandma that lives with me shows most of these signs, and everyone in my close family shows at least two. is this ok? btw, it’s okay if you can’t answer these questions. i just wanna know what i should do.
I feel that. I also recently got out of a manipulative relationship.
@@sanije5955 well first off, find out why they are doing it. Second, talk to an adult you trust that can help you. Third, if that doesn't work, try talking to them directly.
@@cubez9964 shitty ass advice
@@cubez9964 ok, thank you!
This video is so true, I had experienced in my relationship.
I was a nice guy who was sparing my time everytime, it was feelin like I'm taking an appointment.
I'm the guy who was begging sorry for raising any question, and for no reason just coz our relationship shouldn't shatter.
Inbetween they'll introduce another third person who'll replace you.
Atlast I started thinking why everytime me? And raised many questions which broke relationship, but I'm happy. Coz *Loneliness is better than toxic relationship* :D
Felt like this and this is why I choose to allow my partners whether business or intimate the freedom of choice. If you have to be dishonest and exploitative in extremes then it’s no longer worth investing in. Thoughts and prayers
Perfect timing omg! Thank you psych to go!!!!!
I was with a woman who is completely like that, & she even used her own children as a manipulation tool ( they started calling me daddy, she forced me to change her kids diapers, cook their food, dress them.) & I felt extremely uncomfortable with it. Now, I'm single again & I moved out of her house.
I can relate, unfortunately. This dude was nice in the beginning and made me feel important. He slowly ignored me, most likely bc I was spamming him. (I couldn't help it bc I had anxiety when he didn't answer, and I also have autism.) He always made excuses on why he doesn't answer me. I've explained to him that it's anxiety spamming, but he still didn't understand. That left me to be very depressed. I'm in a much better place now that I'm barely talking to him anymore, and that I have other friends to talk to that I know will respond to me. (maybe not immediately, but eventually.)
Im glad i havent noticed any of these with people i know. Ive either shut them down or called them out so i never stuck around to experience the hardships
Ended a 4 and a half year relationship where I engaged this person. They did all of these very strongly and often. I attempted to unalive myself bc of it. I am better now and can see all the things that happened. I feel sorry to past me for making him go through that. I am now mostly happy and have great friends who love and accept me and know about my past. Thank you for this video and I hope it bring awareness to a lot of people. This is truly something that can save someone's life if they listen.
I can somewhat tell now when I'm being manipulated "thanks" to an old highschool friend, it's just telling the difference between if someone's doing it deliberately or not is what I still struggle with.
I’m in a complex relationship with my best friend
I always say that I’m in the wrong no matter how much they tell me I’m not
I make self-destructive jokes around them and force them to brush it off by complimenting them, so that they feel better about themselves and realise how commended they are (and it works!)
I gaslight them to understand themselves better (making them look at themself and the people around them positively benefits them) and appreciate how perfect they are
I constantly compare them to me by bringing up my worst points contrasted to their best points to bring up their self-esteem + confidence
I lovebomb them but I actually love them. I couldn't have a better best friend, one who actually accepts me for who I am (or at least I think they do)
And they've finally got the message. They've become more confident, outgoing, smarter, and overall better. I helped them overcome a ruined relationship of 5 years in just 6 months. They've given me nothing but just the sight of their pretty smile gives me giggles. That's all the reason I need to keep living, honestly
The fact that I got 6 out of 6 on this definitely tells me that my two former so called friends were nothing but emotional manipulators. I’m definitely much better without them.
... Im not sure how to take this at this point, These things are exactly what my mother does. She will often make it MY FAULT if say... she had a bad day at work too. I love her and dont want her to leave me, but i dont want her to mess with me either
I really love this channel I've been watching psych2go for so long and it really helps me and I can spread the knowledge. Thank you for what you do, it's amazing ❤️
A really close friend of mine was being manipulative towards me, at first I didn’t realised that but after spending more alone with them I started seeing how toxic they were towards me. They always said things that were supposed to make me sad an feel wrong.
Even though i have left my friend a while ago i didn't realize he wasn't being the best person. This helped me realize what he was doing was (most likely) manipulation. Thanks
I will now use this knowledge in whatever way I see fit.
When you constantly have to make excuses for the person and argue with your inner monologue saying, “no, you’re just being sensitive!”..you are being manipulated! Healthy relationships don’t make you feel drained. Spend time with people who love you and want to see you do good and you’ll see what I’m talking about!
-Mr.SmartCity
being autistic, a nice person, and having serious difficulty understanding body language and most non-verbal communication, I have been at least a bit gullible in one way or another for most of my life. In school the kids gleefully took advantage of that, and my nice guy disposition to torment me. I was genuine. I assumed everyone else was too.
Well, now I have PTSD. Thanks a lot you little creeps. Forgiveness is hard, but I'm working on it. God, help me.
I can relate to that so much.
Don’t forget they lie and deny any fault
The love punish thing aswell as many other manipulative behaviours are also common among partners with borderline disorder where it often is not a conscious thing but looks a lot like it. Its a result of splitting/black & white thinking, severe fear of abandonment, intense mood swings and such. The mood swings can result in a behaviour which the person with borderline really didnt want to have leading to severe feelings of guilt, overcompensating affection, pleading and so on. The mood swings and splitting can be caused of the smallest worry, interpreted sign of the partner thinking of leaving which causes desperate behaviours. Its very common that an abusive partner has a personality disorder like borderline.
Its not less wrong to be manipulative regardless of having the personality disorder or not.
Im in a relationship right now and i didn't know i was being gaslighted and love bombed.
instead of knowing if im being manipulated im realizing that im the one doing the manipulation
My parents did all of these things to me Thought I may have trust issues now I'm glad that I am more aware of the people around me.
I feel so trapped in a relationship that checks all these boxes. I often feel like it's my fault for being so passive and enabling his manipulation with my own behavior. I make it SO easy for him to treat me like trash. I feel incapable of defending myself; I just dissociate and curl into a ball, letting the verbal abuse sink in until I eventually start apologizing. I'll beg him to stop yelling at me and it just eggs him on. I've told him "I'm afraid of you" and it had zero effect. He told me that when he's in pain, it makes him feel better to hurt me and he knows he's good at it. He has no limits when he's in a rage; he'll go as low as possible, bringing up my r*pe, my family, exes, etc.
But then, when the rage subsides, he's protective, loving, affectionate, kind. All these things but rarely is he SORRY. It would be too devastating to his sense of self, I think, to recognize the extent of his abuse. It would kill him to admit that he's a manipulator. It hurts me to contemplate how hard that realization would be for him. Sometimes I think I care more about protecting him than I care about protecting myself.
This dynamic is exhausting and confusing, and the worst part is that the on-and-off emotional abuse has steadily eroded my sense of reality and strength of self. His rage goes away but the hurt that's inflicted on me stays. My heart is bruised and my mind is hazy. I'm scared of the day that I finally start to believe all the cruel things he says to me when he's angry..... I'm stupid, I'm selfish, I'm a slut, I'm fucked up, I'm nobody....things I don't think even he believes. I wish I didn't love him so that it would be easy to leave but I also feel afraid of repeating this dynamic with my next partner due to my passivity. I think my open heart is a beautiful thing but it makes it SO damn easy for him to hurt me.
Sorry for the rant. I just feel so alone in this dynamic, too embarrassed to talk to friends about it. I wouldn't wish this situation on anyone and if you can, please put yourself first. XO.
I think I used to be a manipulator when I was going to a really hard time with depression. I blamed my boyfriend for everything that was wrong, how I ended up homeless, pregnant, and abandoned by my family. Thankfully I don’t feel that way toward him, but I remember being pretty awful to him, making him feel guilty about everything
The one bright side about having been in any form of manipulative relationship is that once you leave it you can see all the manipulative behavior at first you get angry at yourself for not realizing it earlier but then all the horrible feelings and doubts you were feeling make sense as not really you but the other person.
i related hard to the part where you said they try to make you trust them, i met a manipulative person and i couldn't put my finger on why i didn't feel safe opening up to them and i even told them i was sorry i couldn't open up more but i just don't feel comfortable and after a while of trying to break down your walls and it doesn't work, their masks slips VERY fast. it's like they get aggravated when they can't trick someone into trusting them.
Thanks, my girlfriend finally got over her ex's manipulation, reverse psychology, and guilt trip. Where he was trying to win her back by making her feel bad about it. That ex of hers used to abuse her in her past. I dont want her going back to that type of person.
Thank you guys for saving me from this, I took your advice with my ex and lo and behold she gave me a decent amount of physical stitches, thank you!!! She pulled this same exact crap with me, I sadly ignored it and well it turned around and bit me harder than you can imagine
All of these are things that one person has done to me. I'll make sure to look out for these in the future!
It was only after starting to pay attention to what was being done and doing my "youtube" research on psych videos I came to the realization and every time I tried to point out something I was being accused of being the narcissist and manipulative one. The sad part is as much as i know that I was played and have to walk away, I wish them peace and healing from this way of thinking
Thanks
Believe me we are all having those issues piece by piece nobody can be perfect good at all it depends how can you control it… don’t let your bad thoughts become possessive of you don’t do as emotional leans… you can use that issue sometimes just to survive and protect yourself from the nasty ppl on this planet
Good luck guys
one of my friends mentioned that my best friend was manipulative and that’s why he wasn’t her friend anymore.. i realized that she really is manipulative today… it hurts that’s she’s using me and being manipulative because i have a hard time saying no and such.
17 years with one!!. I still can't leave. Tried twice now! Why is it so hard!
I just cut ties with a friend of 5 years because I was way too forgiving with how they’ve treated me and others this entire time. Seeing this today and knowing they did all these things really just makes sense. Not to mention they’re trying to make it seem like I’m the bad guy for telling them that they aren’t treating people right-
I think, i feel enough. I feel enough with my life. I don't want to know nor draw it again. It's already colorful. I don't want to ruin the color. I wanna leave it like that. I wanna leave it while it's still beautiful. While i got the ranks, good grades, good attitude, get people's attention in a good way, and nothing's bad. Cause i'm afraid that the next thing i do will only ruin the color.
Needed this. Now I feel a little bit over 90% sure that it's true. Thank you. :)
I feel related to the video. I was always under someone's manipulation until i dont know anymore about myself and he define me by another definition, and pushed me to believe that i was that kind of person he'd defined me of. But somehow, all i did was never enough for him. He left me and choose another girl after i broke into pieces. But then i came to a psychologist, get some treatment to get "myself" back and stronger. And he came again after i gathered a power to fight back. But all i did was keeping myself out of him. He is my trigger now. Deep down in my heart, i'm still loving him but i think we can't make it work if he had not yet healed.
I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago okay....
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I'm starting to question myself if I'm the manipulator. Maybe the person has rubbed off on me. But my mental health just went down the drain so to cope now i look for excuses, I always get told I'm playing the victim and now I don't even know what's right or wrong anymore
My dad does nearly all of these. "I love and support you!" (yet destroys my self confidence and doesn't accept that I'm trans) "I moved out when I was 17/19 why couldn't you" Always blames everything on my room being messy. Threatens to destroy my stuff or kick me out. Attempted to gaslit me into believing I wasn't mentally sane enough to make medical decisions. I could go on.
RUclips suggest this for me- and I wish i seen it sooner. Thank you! The art is super rad too
This is a really good Video i recommend to those who are unintentionally manipulative or manipulatedly manipulative or any one whos manipulative in any ways to watch this. This point out every behavior , this is a really good educational channel 👍💙
My step mom does this...
And I can't move out for 5 years! Horray!!
I told her about my relationship? Now she uses it against me to ensure I do everything that she wants me to. Always has periods of time where I feel like she's actually changed and that it really is my fault that she is mean to me. She's been around since I was 7.
I hope anyone reading this can escape and deal with whatever troubles come their way :)
Remember to eat, drink water, and get sleep!
Sad thing is, when your Partner think that every Action of you is to Manipulare her. I watched this video cause my "Girlfriend" actually think that every Action i made, is, to Manipulate her and i wanted to know what Manipulator do, to Manipulate.
The hard thing is, that all of the "Symptoms" are not stuff that I do...
...that are thinks her mother do.
Idk why, but my relationship is broken up few days ago. She dont not love me, she dont cheated on me, she dont love another person...
she is just afraid, that my Action i do, are fake, cause she think that i am the Manipulator.
Its hurt so much, i cant do anything...
Manipulation is the worst...and when a Manipulator is the reason why your relationship broke up, its hurts SOOO much. Cause i am not the one who make a fault, but nether her...
i had a relationship like this before and it traumatized me to the point that i don't even know how to trust people
My last bf did most, if not all, of these things. I wanted to be happy and for him to be happy, though he never was, and he convinced me that I couldn't be either. Finally I learned whatever it is the universe needed me to learn, or at least I qualified for a different sort of lesson. I was able to disconnect from him in favor of a man that I surely invented from dreams I've had all my life.
sign number 7. you are dating online and there is a good chance they only care about you're money and have no interest in you. this has been my experience so far, and it's one person after another. it's hard to find someone actually looking for love I feel.
my ex broke up with me and everyone has been telling me that she was manipulation me. but i still fought for my partner for 2 years. i did everything for this person. yet the feelings from my partner towards me were gone in less than a day. the signs you listed were all included in that relationship. and i feel a lot of anger towards my ex rn for doing this to me. yet i still want them back because i still love them and cant fully let go. Theres a lot that goes into that story,,,buzt i gave them the will to live by simply being a friend...which over years developed into a relationship where i wa the happiest ive ever been at first, but then it just started to get worse and worse because of the ways they used your signs on me
Thanks alot this channel means a lot to me it helped me to notice emotional and verbal abuse I experienced and now the channel is my therapy where I am continue recovering thanks a lot
Most of these points are exactly how I've been feeling for a while. Even though he often makes me cry, I still love and appreciate the good moments with him and I don't know what to do :[
i feel the same tho... you're not alone!
I realized that I was heavily manipulated by an online "friend" who turned out to be almost 18 (I was 14 at that time), and this last year, I've been confusing it with bullying... I think that I'll need to keep up the lie, though... They're going to shrug it off unless I use a strong word like grooming...
Hey, psyct2go. I don’t know if your reading this, but if you are, I have a message for you. Have you ever heard of camp camp? I think that you should know about the series. It is kinda for grownups… or a lot for grownups due to curse words, and lute topics (I hope I used that right) I really love the show, because it’s very psychologically accurate. It’s about the crushing feeling of child neglect showed with a seemingly evil sociopath, but then you learn to understand him, and it’s both incredibly moving, and psychologically accurate. I love this show, and I think you will like it to. Just give it a chance. Pleeeeease?
Just walk away, safest option....ppl like this literally can't change but most just plain don't want to
By what I hear in this video I’ve always been manipulated by my parents. The question I hate that was/is asked is “Are you sure?”when making a decision.
I just realized I'm getting manipulated by my crush ._. well I'm not letting that happen again
Thank you im gonna stop being friends with some people♥ you have helped my life more then once i will always be greatfull tysm
I appreciate hearing about triangulation. Videos like this help me feel more valid in my choice to cut them off after they used me for months.
Thank you for your channel. I had 7 of these things happen to me. I thought I was going nuts. This clarified things for me especially the last point. I like a lot of your videos, but this one really hit home. Thank you!!! I will be very careful about my next spouse!
Sometime we can just misunderstand someone having these Signs but having these signs doesn't mean they r being toxic...they might have some other problems..don't be quick to judge
Them having problems doesn't give them the right to destroy other people.
@@jiyefuuu it's not about having rights...they couldn't control their emotions..and probably they had lost their control on their emotions and words
I've been compared to others at one of my previous jobs by my kitchen supervisor, hearing him say something like " if they can do it that fast, you can too!"
Put simply, most manipulators make people feel inadequate just to satiate their jealously.
I did suffer from one of these cases, the name was Aritza and well, she was the first friend I managed to make at school since she was my neighbor, and since I recognized her at my old school I went to talk to her and I became her friend or so thats what i thought I don't know why but she started to spread a rumor about me and according to something that I currently know thanks to some friends is that she said I was a bad person, usually I remember it Nice she came to my birthday, she invited me for pizza, and we shared lunch boxes I used to give her my food (I still do that but with friends who value me) but when I try to remember more I remember all the times in which she judged my appearance and my tastes, and things I did like singing the first time I sang it was in front of my family they liked it and since she was quite relevant and sang beautifully, in my opinion I went to see her opinion, what she told me was that i had a horrible voice, and she used to say what she like and even I watched a serie for her, she used to leave me alone, other times crying in the bathroom because of something she said to me, and once I found out about the rumors I went to ask her for explanations, for which she ran away from me, and when I apologized to her, she forgave me as if I had done something to her, but I didn't, she talk to another girl that have a material similar to mine and accused me of having stolen material from a person who wasn't even from my grade and sometimes she was good and kind, one day I had a friend who wanted to open my eyes that that was not right that My other friend was a bad person she even defended me, she slapped her and I I didn't know what to do and I chose to defend Aritza I don't know why,....I regret about that, but well I guess it will be because of the time I spend with her, and well, one night I got tired of all, and since my dad was there I told him that I couldn't stand it ,..if he would please help me once the school meeting was over I left I never felt so free in my life, she always told me that her parents were separating that was her excuse she would start crying and like a fool I supported her, and I left my friend alone my true friend the one I try to open my eyes, and well now we are on good terms, and once I found her if she used to hide from me now I was hiding from her I didn't want to see her, days before I left she started crying making me doubt myself, saying i was a bad friend, i couldn't stand it It's been 4 years I'm not going to come back here that what i Say and I left, and I got rid of that shit, I really don't hold a grudge against her, only if I find her I wouldn't want her to talk to me, and sometimes I remember and think is my fault I should have been better, but when I enter a new school my first friend told me that I was literally speaking like a robot, that already worried me.
Thank your for providing these informational videos, it really helps us out ☺️