Party Guest Etiquette: DOs and DON'Ts for Dinners & More

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @theworldasiknowit.5751
    @theworldasiknowit.5751 Год назад +73

    It's refreshing to believe that there are still adults who enjoy ties, cocktail talk, nice socks, and maybe a small thank you later, after things have settled down for the night. A well attended party (on both sides of the table), is a joy we don't get much of here in the great frozen North. All the best. Thank you, again.

    • @theworldasiknowit.5751
      @theworldasiknowit.5751 Год назад +1

      @@pepepepito623 Yes. We just spent two weeks in Orlando, returned with a creeping death nasal infection, but it has helped us relive the parties, and take time to enjoy seeing Raphael expose himself again! :D

    • @jacquelynbrickman2982
      @jacquelynbrickman2982 Год назад +1

      Thank you. One you may mention is to leave your pet at home. This needs to be said sometimes.

  • @devansh1727
    @devansh1727 Год назад +35

    Nice outfit, Preston!

  • @Jimfrenchde
    @Jimfrenchde Год назад +7

    After I attended a wedding, I remember that the host thanked me for showing up. He meant it. So even if a guest has spent a lot of time and money preparing for an event, it is actually a nice thing to attend this event, as long as you act appropriately. Preston, thank you for this video.

  • @bewareofpigeons
    @bewareofpigeons Год назад +14

    Charming, graceful and urbane advice: I realise how much I miss semi-formal social life, such as a drinks party with a time to arrive,a time to leave, and the certainty that people can be expected to observe etiquette and that the art of conversation will be practised.

  • @mattbellal
    @mattbellal Год назад +12

    Preston is so cool, I want to have his eloquence and prestance... I hope they will make a video about it because I tend to stutter when I speak english as it is not my first language

    • @therealgigglebop
      @therealgigglebop Год назад +6

      Read a lot, particularly of classic English literature, and like Preston, speak slowly and deliberately. I suspect that this is a learned behavior since Preston has (as mentioned in his biographical video) cerebral palsy.

    • @mattbellal
      @mattbellal Год назад +1

      ​@@therealgigglebopthat is what i do! I self taugh myself english at 14, and now that I am 16 i can read more advanced books like Shakespear and Virginia Woolf, I think the problem comes from me not being able to talk to someone native (im french) but I try my best with out loud reading

    • @kittytrail
      @kittytrail Год назад

      ​@@mattbellal try to get penpals from various english speaking countries, that is pretty good to work on your handwriting and vocabulary while giving more time to think about how you want to phrase your letters. _keyboardpals_ are fine too but it's usually faster and hence let you think about your message for less time.
      depending where you are in France, there's lots of english or american people, even in the countryside and some might be open to conversation unless they only want to hone their own french skills. students are another possibility but not very bright and quite superficial for the most part... 😼

    • @dandiehm8414
      @dandiehm8414 Год назад +3

      @@therealgigglebop Preston was also much stiffer and hesitant in his first few videos. He has gotten much better with practice and time.

  • @tahmid4718
    @tahmid4718 Год назад +7

    I definitely like the 'how do you know the host?' line. I'll be sure to use that sometime haha

  • @EJSNJ
    @EJSNJ 2 месяца назад

    As always, the quality of Preston's good advice is matched only by the charm of his delivery.

  • @sebastiankarlsson7358
    @sebastiankarlsson7358 Год назад +8

    Would love more of this kind of content.

  • @midorimorino8090
    @midorimorino8090 Год назад +15

    After this video I really feel like organizing a party with my friends.
    Good video, thank you so much 👏

  • @jimmobley533
    @jimmobley533 Год назад +22

    Recently, I went to a cookout at our neighbors across the street. They had only moved in a few months before the cookout. We had been in the neighborhood about a year longer than them. We were surprised to see how many of our neighbors were at the party, many of whom we had never met. My wife asked our host about the names of a few of the guests. She told my wife that she had no idea. Apparently, her 3rd grade daughter had invited her entire school bus stop. The host was surprised by the big turnout.

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад +1

      And this, ladies and gentlemen, is why we never invite others without explicitly being told we can (and how many) in the invitation. I wonder how many guests went hungry due to that! If they were prepared, then that's definitely above-and-beyond hosting.

  • @barrymurphy1337
    @barrymurphy1337 Год назад +5

    Loving your shirt Preston.

  • @krunoslavkovacec1842
    @krunoslavkovacec1842 Год назад +2

    16:27 That tracksuit is surprisinglly stylish.

  • @mattbellal
    @mattbellal Год назад +8

    Great video as always

  • @JDvintagemi
    @JDvintagemi Год назад +3

    Yet another great informative video. I have an idea for another one. What about automobile etiquette? Riding with in-laws went to open doors where to park, things like that. How to interact with valet attendant. How much to tip.

  • @gentlemaninjapan1994
    @gentlemaninjapan1994 Год назад +2

    I haven't seen one but is there a video of how to host a party? I'm about to host one myself so those tips would be gladly accepted! Love your work Preston! Whenever your face pops up on my notifications I have to watch

  • @michaelmason4206
    @michaelmason4206 Год назад +8

    Great video! Super well done.

  • @NapoIeoneBuonaparte
    @NapoIeoneBuonaparte Год назад +2

    This came out before my birthday on July 1st, amazing timing

  • @BigVince80bce
    @BigVince80bce Год назад +3

    Oh my god you're such a life saver. I have a formal party tonight, what luck!

  • @AmyAnnetteHenion
    @AmyAnnetteHenion Год назад +1

    It's clear you guys have lots of fun shooting B-roll. Love it!

  • @Michael_R1957
    @Michael_R1957 Год назад +12

    Someone who has a disability may want to politely ask the host if the party venue is accessible. Just a thought. Thanks, Preston. Another great video.

    • @gentlemansgazette
      @gentlemansgazette  Год назад +5

      As a person with a disability myself, I completely agree! Thanks for watching.
      - Preston

    • @Kiterpuss
      @Kiterpuss Год назад +1

      Also, asking about the menu. You never know what allergens someone might need to be aware of, or even religious restrictions to certain foods.
      Most folks with food restrictions are more than happy to bring their own food to an occasion if it's appropriate; they just need to know.

  • @thisissoeasy
    @thisissoeasy Год назад +2

    Truly brilliant video, in every respect! Thank you and, salutations from Outback Australia. Rolf

  • @docsnider8926
    @docsnider8926 Год назад +4

    I always appreciate if a time to leave the party is set in the invitation. Often guest tend not to leave, even when the party is over. „Coaches at 1.00 a.m.“

  • @Greggory1987
    @Greggory1987 Год назад +7

    I loved this video especially around asking questions of the host in advance. I am deathly allergic to cats. Therefore, this is a question I must ask the host for any event I attend.

    • @bngr_bngr
      @bngr_bngr Год назад

      No pets allowed at my parties 😂😂😂

    • @FlyingRedTailHawk
      @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад +1

      I feel so sorry for you. I also put in a similar question about food allergies. Yours is another great one.

    • @angelmessenger8240
      @angelmessenger8240 Год назад

      @@FlyingRedTailHawk Yes, I', coeliac and allergic to dairy so can be a difficult guest to cater to.

  • @zenitram2895
    @zenitram2895 Год назад +1

    I'm glad you mentioned bringing a bottle of wine as a gift. I was brought up being told it was the polite thing to do and it's something I've done my entire adult life. Quite honestly, I've never expected a thank you note for doing so, as I see it as an expression of thanks for the invitation.

    • @firebolt2775
      @firebolt2775 Год назад +1

      I always bring Pepsi

    • @danelisslow3269
      @danelisslow3269 4 месяца назад

      ​@@firebolt2775you can't go wrong with a 12 pack of the blue stuff.

  • @Molach101
    @Molach101 Год назад +3

    12:14 - I heard an anecdote from a butler once of a particular English aristocrat he served. Whenever he visited someone's home he would always have a little bag brought with him containing a pair of monogrammed velvet slippers so he wouldn't trek dirt into the house from his shoes. There can't have been much dirt considering those shoes were always maintained and polished to a mirror shine by the butler but it was all about the gesture

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад +3

      I actually do this! I have a pair of velvet Albert slippers with a fleur-de-lis embroidered on it. Whenever I'm visiting someone's home, I take my slippers with me. This completely solves the issue of me not wanting to walk around in a suit and socks, but also wanting to respect others' homes and keep them clean - even if the hosts say they don't mind.

  • @craft-o-matic399
    @craft-o-matic399 Год назад +3

    ❤Excellent advice as always Preston! Outstanding!
    Lisa

  • @jonathankniffen8304
    @jonathankniffen8304 Год назад

    Etiquette content is always welcome

  • @zachpower2192
    @zachpower2192 Год назад +2

    I really appreciate these videos you make on behaviour. I know that many neurodivergent people, such as some of my students at school, would find these tips and observations very valuable. For most people, these sorts of social cues and expectations are learned easily, quickly, and naturally. However, for some neurodivergent people, especially those on the autism spectrum (for example), it can be tough to interpret cues and expectations. Having things delineated and expressed in such a clear way would really help some people internalize what others know instinctively ☺️

  • @FlyingRedTailHawk
    @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад +1

    You should probably talk about office parties do's and don't.

  • @raghav9000
    @raghav9000 Год назад +4

    I usually find it difficult to introduce myself and have conversation at parties, which usually leads me being a wallflower among the guests.

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад +3

      I both used to and still sometimes find myself struggling with this issue. I often find myself in an awkward position of lingering - I have nothing of insight to say, there are no openings in the conversation, but I'd still like to be in the moment. I personally recommend looking around the party for other people minding their own business and introducing yourself to them. You'll be able to tell whether they want to be left alone or not pretty quickly. If they do want to chat, you may find yourself having a highly engaging and thoughtful exchange. My experience has been that the most intelligent and original guests are often the wallflowers.

  • @MrDanielEarle
    @MrDanielEarle Год назад +2

    I'll need that cake video, please

  • @themoderndandy713
    @themoderndandy713 Год назад +3

    I appreciate the nod to the fact that wedding and funeral dress codes are much more important than arbitrary gathering ones. I'm not going to ditch the suit and tie because someone decided the party was "smart casual," which is actually a dress code extremely common in Colorado fine dining restaurants. I'll respect what a bride, groom, or deceased person wants, but otherwise, I bluntly don't care about people demanding I dress exactly how they want just because they only feel comfortable in life when everyone around them is exactly the same. We should be celebrating individuality, not crushing it for the sake of judgementalists! If I always adhered to the dress code in Colorado, I think I'd wear a suit a couple times a year at most. Bah humbug with that.

    • @dandiehm8414
      @dandiehm8414 Год назад +1

      I always looked at a dress code as the MINIMUM required to attend.

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад +1

      @@dandiehm8414 I would prefer that, yes. Thankfully, most of my friends don't really care about it. I suppose that whether it's the minimum or expectation depends on whose perspective it is - and I don't really care about catering to those who see it as the latter.

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 7 месяцев назад

      @luke5100 Ah - I am on the opposite side than what you imagine. I wear suits and ties to everyday situations. I wear white tie to the opera. I agree that it brings out the best in me in social gatherings; I feel rather uncomfortable in casual clothes, and so I dislike those silly dress codes that serve no real purpose.

  • @FlyingRedTailHawk
    @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад

    You might want to talk about going out to dinner (family, friends, business) related

  • @bradleykerswill7706
    @bradleykerswill7706 Год назад +1

    Thank you for the video. I enjoyed it. I do have a question. Regarding if it is polite to ask if someone else is invited, do you think this is appropriate if you are asking if your wife or significant other is also invited?

  • @dandiehm8414
    @dandiehm8414 Год назад +1

    17:10 its always a good video when Elvis is in it!

  • @markbutler9442
    @markbutler9442 Год назад +8

    The issue I have seen as of late is the lack of dress code on wedding invitations. I've been to a couple of weddings lately and both younger couples and neither had a stated dress codes. I had to ask in both cases. Part of the move to more casual, less formal society I guess.

    • @yuma420
      @yuma420 Год назад

      If you actually knew the person, you'd have known what to wear. If you don't know them that well, why even bother rocking up to their wedding?

    • @briang530
      @briang530 Год назад +2

      Weddings (especially those that require guests to travel) without dress codes on the invitation are a cause of a bit of consternation. This because you then basically have wobble through casually finding out what the wedding party is going to be wearing so as to be in that ballpark whilst not outdressing the couple.

    • @danelisslow3269
      @danelisslow3269 Год назад +1

      ​@@yuma420how do you figure that? I wear jeans and t shirts everyday, but I would be offended if someone showed up to my wedding in jeans.

  • @IANJCAMBELcali
    @IANJCAMBELcali 8 месяцев назад

    In Germany on time 5 minutes before , in Spain it’s a 4 hour window of time to arrive .

  • @newoleets6519
    @newoleets6519 Год назад +3

    This ia ironic, today I'm going to a birthday party! 😅

  • @rkbaker722
    @rkbaker722 Год назад +6

    "in exactly *007* words"
    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @MommyMinty
    @MommyMinty Год назад +1

    I tend you wear a dress shirt, sweater and slacks for family events.

  • @LukeS117
    @LukeS117 Год назад +4

    Does anyone else just wanna hangout casually with Preston?

  • @davidnorth9390
    @davidnorth9390 Год назад +2

    This was fun, --and helpful. Not quite a party, --but FUN! ;-)

  • @patrickferguson5962
    @patrickferguson5962 Год назад +2

    5:49 “Remember that you shouldn’t be looking to change the party parameters, as much as just exercising your right not to attend.” I wonder if the “right to not attend” is an inalienable right, or if it must be fought for, like your right to party. :)

  • @angelmessenger8240
    @angelmessenger8240 Год назад

    I would normally take a gift even if it's a jar of homemade jam for friends and family or a bottle of wine for a formal occasion.

  • @viclucyzia
    @viclucyzia Год назад +2

    Freeloader 😂. Yes you can spot them from far away with a mountain of food on their plate and getting several helpings. Of course no host wants their guests to be hungry and hope their food is tastely prepared but the host wants all guests to have a share. On my side I restrict myself too much especially in black tie or any suit as I panic to get any stains. . It's hard to keep the pleasant line.

  • @susannah1066
    @susannah1066 Год назад +2

    I ended up hating Christmas as my 2 brothers [& girlfriends] would just drink, and smoke-and I would have to supervise their kids to stop them wrecking my parents house [who were busy in the kitchen] I was glad when they left.

  • @MrWolf-xk8sl
    @MrWolf-xk8sl Год назад +1

    Whenever I'm invited for a dinner I'm always bringing some wine or some homemade food for the host and guests

  • @Girlgamssilver
    @Girlgamssilver Год назад +2

    The conversation segment. In today's volatile environment it's sure that some one will defend a point vehemently

    • @yuma420
      @yuma420 Год назад

      Don't have this problem because I mix with individuals, who, despite our differing opinions, are still gracious to one another. I would never put myself in a situation where I am dealing with boors. Find a new circle of friends.

  • @bngr_bngr
    @bngr_bngr Год назад

    I’m Latino, there is always plenty to eat and drink at my party. Never can run out of food or drinks.

  • @FlyingRedTailHawk
    @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад

    Great and helpful channel

  • @luxpursuits
    @luxpursuits 10 месяцев назад

    Sven is an odd ball. He's got a weird smile!

  • @danelisslow3269
    @danelisslow3269 Год назад

    If you're late just say "the party doesn't start till I get here." Works every time.

  • @ZoomZoom-ng6sn
    @ZoomZoom-ng6sn Год назад

    Some host don't even control their hyper dogs indoors. Also, a lot of guest usually don't bother to use the available beverage coasters on the tables. There would always be a guy or two dressed up ridiculously. LOL or not?

  • @christianpedersen1857
    @christianpedersen1857 Год назад

    can you make a video about andre rieu's clothes

  • @Smithy67
    @Smithy67 Год назад

    Excellent ✔️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @plonchyvideos7456
    @plonchyvideos7456 Год назад +2

    You forgot to mention that as a guest, you do not sit yourself at the head of the table.
    That's the place for the host and hostess.

    • @FlyingRedTailHawk
      @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад

      Yes, very nice and they didn't mention that the host or hostess gives the toast and if they don't a guest has to propose a toast saluting the host/hostess. It is done when the beverage is served at the beginning of the meal or before the dessert.

  • @luisfeliperamosparada6884
    @luisfeliperamosparada6884 Год назад

    Can I use a tuxedo ir a morning coat with a cravat?

  • @17G3daf
    @17G3daf Год назад

    Hello I would be super exited If you talk about any subject about Sweden in a video!

  • @spaghettiking7312
    @spaghettiking7312 Год назад +2

    I want cake now.🤤

  • @RT65CB-SWL
    @RT65CB-SWL Год назад

    What is the polite etiquette for replying to RSVP?
    Hand-written, SMS/text/email or verbally to the host/hostess (i.e. phone/face-to-face)?

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад +2

      Generally, etiquette dictates to respond by kind. A handwritten invitation begets a handwritten RSVP. An email invitation begets an email RSVP. A text or by-phone invitation begets a text or by-phone RSVP. I would be careful responding to non-in-person invitations with in-person RSVPs; some may be using written replies as a system to remember who's coming and who isn't.
      Considerate hosts who send handwritten invitations will often include an RSVP note in their mail, in which you can mark whether you'll be going or not (and if you're not, you still must check and send the "no"), along with any dietary restrictions for you to fill out. These considerate hosts will also use pre-paid postage. All of this especially applies for weddings. Handwritten invitations are generally used for formal occasions. Email invitations are often used for professional, club, and more distant relationships. Phones and texts are best for everyday get-togethers with friends.
      Any time you receive an invitation, you must respond within 48 hours with a yes or no. Traditionally, if someone invites you to a wedding, you have a good relationship with them, and you decline, you should send them a gift, anyway. For strangers and estranged family, don't bother.
      I hope all of this helps!

  • @jimmobley533
    @jimmobley533 Год назад

    Always bring a gift. Bottle of wine is always easy.

  • @a.s.j.g6229
    @a.s.j.g6229 Год назад +2

    In my house I generally take my shoes off if I’m wearing trainers or work shoes, but dress shoes are fine inside, it would be weird to have someone take off dress shoes.

    • @dandiehm8414
      @dandiehm8414 Год назад +1

      Agreed. I would NEVER ask anyone to remove their shoes. I think it is rude to do so. I pretty much do not go into people's homes when that is a requirement.

    • @mph7282
      @mph7282 Год назад +1

      Removing shoes is a tricky one. In some cultures it’s expected to remove your footwear. In others, including how I grew up, it would be the height of rudeness to remove your shoes in someone else’s home unless asked to. Visual clues, or some understanding of the host’s preference, is key.

    • @georgelush1998
      @georgelush1998 Год назад +1

      I also agree. We recently had a dinner party at our house. A guest asked, “Shoes on or off?” I replied, “On, please.” She responded, “Oh thank goodness.” I respect that other cultures have different customs. As an American I would never ask my guests to remove their shoes. When visiting people’s homes where I know I will be asked to remove my shoes, I bring along a pair of travel slippers that have never been worn outside and ask my hosts if I may wear those. I find parading around someone’s house in stocking feet (or God forbid bare feet) uncouth.

    • @dandiehm8414
      @dandiehm8414 Год назад +1

      @@georgelush1998 100% Agree. As an American I would not think to ask others to remove their shoes any more than I would to ask them to remove their shirt. But I respect other countries have other traditions.

    • @themoderndandy713
      @themoderndandy713 Год назад

      ​@@georgelush1998I take a pair of velvet Albert slippers for just that reason whenever I visit someone's house. It removes any pressure on the host(s), and it looks quite elegant while doing so.

  • @valor101arise
    @valor101arise Год назад

    You all are The Jeeves to the Woosters

  • @buffalotodd5068
    @buffalotodd5068 Год назад +1

    I don't drink alcohol, but do enjoy a bit of soda.

  • @iainmc9859
    @iainmc9859 Год назад +1

    What, no drunken punch up between different branches of the family ... you're just not drinking enough whisky 😉

  • @henrylemelay5436
    @henrylemelay5436 9 месяцев назад

    Dutch:een ober herken je aan een blad champagne glazen maar ook aan zijn black tie met sjaalkraag.Deze is ook voor goochelaars,croupiers,presentatoren en musici.
    De piekkraag is voor gasten.

  • @Linusgump
    @Linusgump Год назад +2

    What if my name isn’t Preston? 😅

  • @gregorywall2479
    @gregorywall2479 Год назад +1

    This is why I don't go to parties.

  • @hulkhogan503
    @hulkhogan503 20 дней назад

    Don’t bring liquor if your host is a recovering alcoholic lol

  • @marcusburns4377
    @marcusburns4377 Год назад

    And whatever you do, DO NOT BRING BUD LIGHT as a hostess gift.
    😅😅😅😅

  • @TroyTempest1
    @TroyTempest1 Год назад +3

    I just say wear a tie, nothing else, just a tie.

  • @LatimusChadimus
    @LatimusChadimus Год назад

    Noice!

  • @runningMan84
    @runningMan84 Год назад

    Здравствуйте! Hello! Suit and slippers.......!?👈😯
    🎂🍔🍕☕👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉😉👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊👋👋👋👋👋👋

  • @GBPackFan62
    @GBPackFan62 7 месяцев назад

    With regard to Point #4, I recently had an experience that illustrated, to me, that there are quite a few people who either do not understand this or just don't care. We're planning a 60th party for my sister's upcoming birthday. She composed the list of people that she wants to attend and passed it along to me and the other person who is assisting with the planning. The total number of invited guests ended up being 55 people. One of my late cousin's widow was an invitee. She texted me several days ago, essentially saying that she invited a relative (the granddaughter of one of my late uncles) WITHOUT first asking if it was okay to do so, which, as is illustrated here, it isn't. I'm now trying to figure out a nice way to let her know that her actions were not within proper etiquette parameters, without calling out her ignorance of said etiquette. Which also brings something else to mind, what, if any, is a proper/best way to politely uninvite a guest?

  • @FlyingRedTailHawk
    @FlyingRedTailHawk Год назад

    Nice video. You forgot: people who have food allergies, how to act around someone that is wearing a fragrance that is really smelly

  • @valor101arise
    @valor101arise Год назад +1

    Respect is greatly lacking in this word. I have horror stories galore.

  • @divineangelic2727
    @divineangelic2727 Год назад

    Hi great suggestions I can’t stand that word unfortunately. Theirs no need to say that at all

  • @Craiggg12345
    @Craiggg12345 Год назад

    Ghetto people should watch this