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Perfect timing , I was just working on this with my kids , self confidence Vs self Conscious vs over confidence.. please make a video on NLP for kids ..how to make them confident , Teachers are ruining their Brains ...making teams "Cool kids Vs Uncool kids" ..is that a word? uncool , not so cool i dont know.. my daughter wanted to skip school today bc she was in the "uncool kids" group
use reframing with kids. Ask her who are uncool kids and who are cool kids and then reframe that uncool kids are actually cool because of so and so and give examples of people who are happy and succesful later in life because they were in this uncool club.
I disagree completely, you are wrong. You simply took 15 minutes to equate confidence with competence, and relabel confidence-without-competence as arrogance. Then you say that determination, as you gain competence, is what you really need. Circular reasoning. How do you have any confidence when you’re a child then? …or before you gain competence and mastery in a subject? Also, horrible advice to the person who commented about his/her daughter who has low confidence. Confidence is an emotional state wherein you feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality because of your secure connection with others! Confidence has to do with both genes and relationships (nature and nurture). If you are born with less propensity toward neuroticism and/or more genes that aid in the production of oxytocin then you will naturally feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality. If you had a secure attachment growing up (see John Bowlby on attachment theory) then you will also feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality. If you don’t have those “confident genes” and you had an insecure attachment (bad parents) - then you’re screwed! Just kidding! But you will have to essentially reparent yourself by forming quality relationships that help you feel connected. This is NOT a matter of “determination” aka individual effort, it’s a matter of your connection to others. The more you experience authentic connection with others, the more authentically confident you will become. The best thing the commenter with the daughter who feels bad about not fitting in with a group at school can do is to be present for your daughter so she can experience the real negative feelings she’s experiencing, sadness and anger, don’t suppress or avoid them. Then help her to experience the loving secure positive attachment she has with you. This guys advice to you is not going to help.
@mattgia5202 this is a video meant for adults. So you're saying confidence comes from connection, not competence? My confidence in my ability to drive a car has nothing to do with competence and everything to do with how connected I feel with people? Please explain.
@DamonCart thank you for your selfless teaching .❣️🎉yes of course this post is for adults . i t helped me ...as a Mom to handle difficult situations my kids face in school .love your efforts ,your kindness is so heart warming ❣️🎉
Thank you!!! This was so to the point to the psych.
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Thank you for sharing. Very informative
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916 views and only 66 likes. So many people don't hit the like button. Hit the like button to show gratitude to this guy who's put in the efforts to share this knowledge with us!
I appreciate your effort.
Perfect timing , I was just working on this with my kids , self confidence Vs self Conscious vs over confidence.. please make a video on NLP for kids ..how to make them confident , Teachers are ruining their Brains ...making teams "Cool kids Vs Uncool kids" ..is that a word? uncool , not so cool i dont know.. my daughter wanted to skip school today bc she was in the "uncool kids" group
use reframing with kids. Ask her who are uncool kids and who are cool kids and then reframe that uncool kids are actually cool because of so and so and give examples of people who are happy and succesful later in life because they were in this uncool club.
I disagree completely, you are wrong. You simply took 15 minutes to equate confidence with competence, and relabel confidence-without-competence as arrogance. Then you say that determination, as you gain competence, is what you really need. Circular reasoning. How do you have any confidence when you’re a child then? …or before you gain competence and mastery in a subject? Also, horrible advice to the person who commented about his/her daughter who has low confidence.
Confidence is an emotional state wherein you feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality because of your secure connection with others! Confidence has to do with both genes and relationships (nature and nurture). If you are born with less propensity toward neuroticism and/or more genes that aid in the production of oxytocin then you will naturally feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality. If you had a secure attachment growing up (see John Bowlby on attachment theory) then you will also feel more connected and situated in the world and with your reality. If you don’t have those “confident genes” and you had an insecure attachment (bad parents) - then you’re screwed! Just kidding! But you will have to essentially reparent yourself by forming quality relationships that help you feel connected. This is NOT a matter of “determination” aka individual effort, it’s a matter of your connection to others. The more you experience authentic connection with others, the more authentically confident you will become.
The best thing the commenter with the daughter who feels bad about not fitting in with a group at school can do is to be present for your daughter so she can experience the real negative feelings she’s experiencing, sadness and anger, don’t suppress or avoid them. Then help her to experience the loving secure positive attachment she has with you. This guys advice to you is not going to help.
@mattgia5202 this is a video meant for adults. So you're saying confidence comes from connection, not competence? My confidence in my ability to drive a car has nothing to do with competence and everything to do with how connected I feel with people? Please explain.
@DamonCart thank you for your selfless teaching .❣️🎉yes of course this post is for adults . i t helped me ...as a Mom to handle difficult situations my kids face in school .love your efforts ,your kindness is so heart warming ❣️🎉
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