great reaction! but don't forget this is the 80s and being gay is social death sentence if not a literal one. another thing she said earlier in the season was about "sometimes love can be mixed up with possession". as we watch danny growing up with the guy (can't remember his name), he always kind of assumed she was his and she went along with it because she loved belonging to his family and was likely terrified of losing that as well as just his friendship. she also didn't want to confront the fact that she was gay and thought if she ignored it long enough she'd start feeling "what she was supposed to". altogether tragic
The 80’s were still a time of Compulsory Heterosexuality, commonly referred to these days as Comp Het. Lots and lots of women just went along with what the world told them - that they’d find “true happiness” when they found a man and got married. That WAS society of the time. Dani thought she was happy because she belonged to a “real” family for the first time ever. But as the marriage grew closer and closer she realized that her love was not “that” kind of love. She realized that it would not be fair to either of them to go through with the marriage but she couldn’t tell him *why*. He took it badly and it led to an accident that still haunts her. The sad thing is that she really did love him. Just not in a romantic or sexual way. If it was 2020 they could’ve been Platonic Life Partners. Unfortunately that option was not an option in the 80s. Gay couples weren’t even allowed into Civil Unions until 2000 when Vermont first allowed it. The 80s and 90s were a very different time.
@@jenngray8769 Not to mention there was no accessible “gay culture” to tap into and therefore she didn’t have a roadmap or even language to understand what she was feeling. In that era you often wouldn’t even know you were in a closet much less how to get out of it. She just felt alone and broken and wrong. Her main anxiety was letting the people she loved down by not feeling what she was supposed to be feeling.
The notion of losing a parent and feeling dead yourself, is so apt that it could only have been written by someone who’s experienced it. Walking around and talking and being seen, doing things the living do. Not a ghost… but still very much dead in all the ways the really matter. Basically just a husk.
7:37 Not in a relationship, no. And I don’t know if the tailor/dress-fitter was being _incredibly_ inappropriate. Maybe a smidge? But if we’re reading into it, poor Dani is _absolutely_ reading into it. She's experiencing "gay panic" (in the modern sense, not in the homophobic legal defense sense), compounded by the fact she's literally being fitted for her straight wedding (edited to clarify the term "gay panic", see comments)
I'm gonna be that person who like ruins a fun thing, but 'gay panic' only very recently got turned into a cutesy term by fandom. 'Gay Panic' is a term used in legal settings meant to minimize culpability over harming or murdering a gay person, specifically over 'fear' of the gay person coming onto them or something. The 'gay panic defense' has been a real thing people have used after heinous things.
@@mrzoohasaninn I did not know that. I don’t know how I didn’t know. Usually I’m the type to know such things _and_ point it out; terms being used without knowing their full meaning or implications is _exactly_ what I’d comment on myself. So this is frankly embarrassing as hell, but genuinely thank you for pointing it out! I’ll edit my original comment asap (for some reason editing just doesn’t work on this device/browser). Thanks again
@@ferchrissakes You're totally fine! And yeah, youtube editing is like, wildly inconsistent for me in terms of when it'll work. No idea why. I think youtube does it to screw with us. "You can edit your comments...sometimes. When? When we feel like it. Good luck!"
To quote Hill House: ghosts are guilt, ghosts are regret. Seems more apt for Dani than it ever did for anyone in Hill House. At least when it comes to her ex; the Lady in the lake is another matter
i love ur reactions, very human and does not seem performative for the video. u get emotional at emotional scenes and appreciate great lines. looking forward to the next ep
I like your thinking, but midnight mass is locked in for a January 11th premiere and a February 8th finale. With the fall of the house of usher premiering 2 weeks after. Blu Manor will have a double episode again for the final 2 episodes.
I'm just enjoying the reaction to Bly Manor. It's such an amazing exploration of the intersection between love and death, and how each one affects the other in different people who are each caught up in their own very different life experiences... but also how at heart, their reactions are the same too.
i've never been a fan of the abrupt ending of this episode. I think it would've had more of an impact if, when the fire blew sparks toward Edmund after Dani threw he glasses in, that he would've disappeared.
oh! and flora is laughing about the "pants" comment because they say "pants" instead of "underwear" over there, so danny said she was going to essentially wet herself lol
Great reaction! I very highly suggest you react to society of the snow! It’s an incredible Spanish film based on the true story of the survivors of a plane that crashed in the Andes mountains. I suggest a box of tissues on hand though, it’s a tough watch.
I think that Dani is being "haunted" by what she witnessed (and the guilt of it being her fault)... The fact that she sees him with his glasses lit up (and not him as he was in life), makes me think it's in her mind. Maybe I'm wrong but that's my thought. And my favorite part of this has been him showing up with those lighted eyes, too. So good!!!
Like many (most?), I was let down somewhat by Bly Manor upon initial viewing. I mean, following Hill House (which, aside from being a one-of-a-kind masterpiece, hit me on a deeply, deeply personal level) what chance did it really have? Upon repeated visits, however, I have come to truly LOVE this series as its own separate entity, its own story, and I'm enjoying watching this with you. Looking forward to following you on your Flanagan journey. Hopefully you will follow up Midnight Mass with The Fall of the House of Usher (which is a masterpiece of a whole different sort, and one of his best works to date).
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"Ya'll left the fire unattended! No one had put it out?.....not the time, we'll talk about fire safety later!"
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great reaction! but don't forget this is the 80s and being gay is social death sentence if not a literal one. another thing she said earlier in the season was about "sometimes love can be mixed up with possession". as we watch danny growing up with the guy (can't remember his name), he always kind of assumed she was his and she went along with it because she loved belonging to his family and was likely terrified of losing that as well as just his friendship. she also didn't want to confront the fact that she was gay and thought if she ignored it long enough she'd start feeling "what she was supposed to". altogether tragic
Great points, thanks!
The 80’s were still a time of Compulsory Heterosexuality, commonly referred to these days as Comp Het. Lots and lots of women just went along with what the world told them - that they’d find “true happiness” when they found a man and got married. That WAS society of the time.
Dani thought she was happy because she belonged to a “real” family for the first time ever. But as the marriage grew closer and closer she realized that her love was not “that” kind of love. She realized that it would not be fair to either of them to go through with the marriage but she couldn’t tell him *why*. He took it badly and it led to an accident that still haunts her.
The sad thing is that she really did love him. Just not in a romantic or sexual way. If it was 2020 they could’ve been Platonic Life Partners. Unfortunately that option was not an option in the 80s. Gay couples weren’t even allowed into Civil Unions until 2000 when Vermont first allowed it. The 80s and 90s were a very different time.
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Not to mention there was no accessible “gay culture” to tap into and therefore she didn’t have a roadmap or even language to understand what she was feeling.
In that era you often wouldn’t even know you were in a closet much less how to get out of it. She just felt alone and broken and wrong.
Her main anxiety was letting the people she loved down by not feeling what she was supposed to be feeling.
The notion of losing a parent and feeling dead yourself, is so apt that it could only have been written by someone who’s experienced it. Walking around and talking and being seen, doing things the living do. Not a ghost… but still very much dead in all the ways the really matter.
Basically just a husk.
7:37 Not in a relationship, no. And I don’t know if the tailor/dress-fitter was being _incredibly_ inappropriate. Maybe a smidge? But if we’re reading into it, poor Dani is _absolutely_ reading into it. She's experiencing "gay panic" (in the modern sense, not in the homophobic legal defense sense), compounded by the fact she's literally being fitted for her straight wedding
(edited to clarify the term "gay panic", see comments)
Also remember that this is taking place in the 1980s. Being gay/lesbian back then was much scarier than today.
I'm gonna be that person who like ruins a fun thing, but 'gay panic' only very recently got turned into a cutesy term by fandom. 'Gay Panic' is a term used in legal settings meant to minimize culpability over harming or murdering a gay person, specifically over 'fear' of the gay person coming onto them or something. The 'gay panic defense' has been a real thing people have used after heinous things.
@@mrzoohasaninn I did not know that. I don’t know how I didn’t know. Usually I’m the type to know such things _and_ point it out; terms being used without knowing their full meaning or implications is _exactly_ what I’d comment on myself. So this is frankly embarrassing as hell, but genuinely thank you for pointing it out!
I’ll edit my original comment asap (for some reason editing just doesn’t work on this device/browser).
Thanks again
@@ferchrissakes You're totally fine! And yeah, youtube editing is like, wildly inconsistent for me in terms of when it'll work. No idea why. I think youtube does it to screw with us. "You can edit your comments...sometimes. When? When we feel like it. Good luck!"
To quote Hill House: ghosts are guilt, ghosts are regret. Seems more apt for Dani than it ever did for anyone in Hill House.
At least when it comes to her ex; the Lady in the lake is another matter
i love ur reactions, very human and does not seem performative for the video. u get emotional at emotional scenes and appreciate great lines. looking forward to the next ep
I love the moment when we get a closeup of the doll and a scary musical cue. They trust viewers to figure out what's going on.
Thank you for reacting to Bly! I really loved this show and I am so happy that you are dishing this reactions out woooo!
I liked that you posted two episodes this weekend. That means that we get to your reaction of Midnight Mass sooner (hopefully).
I like your thinking, but midnight mass is locked in for a January 11th premiere and a February 8th finale. With the fall of the house of usher premiering 2 weeks after. Blu Manor will have a double episode again for the final 2 episodes.
I'm just enjoying the reaction to Bly Manor. It's such an amazing exploration of the intersection between love and death, and how each one affects the other in different people who are each caught up in their own very different life experiences... but also how at heart, their reactions are the same too.
i've never been a fan of the abrupt ending of this episode. I think it would've had more of an impact if, when the fire blew sparks toward Edmund after Dani threw he glasses in, that he would've disappeared.
I kept thinking we would come back to this exact moment, but we never did.
oh! and flora is laughing about the "pants" comment because they say "pants" instead of "underwear" over there, so danny said she was going to essentially wet herself lol
Haha I figured it was something like that, but I didn’t know for sure.
So glad you are liking it!
I really liked this show! Can’t wait to share the rest with you.
Great reaction! I very highly suggest you react to society of the snow! It’s an incredible Spanish film based on the true story of the survivors of a plane that crashed in the Andes mountains. I suggest a box of tissues on hand though, it’s a tough watch.
I think that Dani is being "haunted" by what she witnessed (and the guilt of it being her fault)... The fact that she sees him with his glasses lit up (and not him as he was in life), makes me think it's in her mind. Maybe I'm wrong but that's my thought. And my favorite part of this has been him showing up with those lighted eyes, too. So good!!!
I always liked the tradition of covering mirrors after a death. Do people still do that, I wonder?
Like many (most?), I was let down somewhat by Bly Manor upon initial viewing. I mean, following Hill House (which, aside from being a one-of-a-kind masterpiece, hit me on a deeply, deeply personal level) what chance did it really have? Upon repeated visits, however, I have come to truly LOVE this series as its own separate entity, its own story, and I'm enjoying watching this with you. Looking forward to following you on your Flanagan journey. Hopefully you will follow up Midnight Mass with The Fall of the House of Usher (which is a masterpiece of a whole different sort, and one of his best works to date).
At this point in the show had you noticed anything else strange about Hannah besides the fact that she's seeing cracks?
Not at all, at least nothing I gave any thought to. although in hindsight there are few notable details.
How is she going to get rid of him? What's going on with the doll house? Creepy, creepy, creepy.
Victoria Pendretti is incredible, but I feel like that's stating the obvious at this point