How To Be "Grounded" In Your Own Validation & Experience Of Life

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  • Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024

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  • @OwenCookFreeTour
    @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +9

    I recommend you also grab this free course - www.higherpurposeprogram.com - it covers the most important foundations of what's covered here, step by step in bite sized and easy to understand segments, so that you can get the real value from this talk. Without watching the free program, I feel you will not truly understand what I'm talking about here. Make sure to grab it and WATCH it, it's actually much better than anything I post here, as these videos are BUILDING ON TOP of what's covered in the free course. Anyway hope you enjoy this one and I'll be back with more next week -Owen

  • @mikeholl12
    @mikeholl12 6 месяцев назад +50

    I’ve built a phenomenal social circle. I’ve found that people in my circle now want to introduce me to people in their circle, making it easier to network. The key for me was to nurture relationships over the long haul. If I haven’t spoken to someone in a while, I’ll send them a quick text asking how they’re doing and suggesting we meet for a drink. Super easy but many people don’t manage their relationships properly.

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 6 месяцев назад +2

      Well stated

    • @ifeelhalfnaked484
      @ifeelhalfnaked484 6 месяцев назад

      the ossue for most people is before they go out their house, they already judge how much money or mental capital required to "exchange" with a person they're going to deal, which fundamentally makes relationships transactional and not fun

    • @Dupstan
      @Dupstan 6 месяцев назад +1

      I have this problem where I'm hesitant to bring people into my life even though they're open to it

    • @mikeholl12
      @mikeholl12 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@Dupstan maybe you’ve experienced rejection in the past and you’re afraid the new people won’t like you once they get to know you.

    • @Dupstan
      @Dupstan 6 месяцев назад

      @@mikeholl12 i think thats exactly it. I am quite sociable and likable but its like the initial mask that i wear. Once it gets past that initial interaction or if it ever moves past that stage, i feel like i change into i really and hesitate in showing those people who I really am.

  • @KapsuleCorp
    @KapsuleCorp 4 месяца назад +2

    I basically spent my entire 20s watching Owen seminars, after a 5 year hiatus I bump into his content and see he REALLY dialed in the delivery and message.

  • @dizzyh
    @dizzyh 6 месяцев назад +33

    I feel we’re in a new Golden Era of Tyler’s content 👊🏽🤍

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +17

      Got around 50 of these recorded, many INSANE! -Owen

    • @Zophas
      @Zophas 2 месяца назад +1

      @@OwenCookFreeTour thank you for the privilege bro never ever stop

    • @lars_engstrom
      @lars_engstrom 2 месяца назад

      Same! This is life changing stuff!
      Rethinking a lot of my current behaviours.

    • @carstennielsen6031
      @carstennielsen6031 7 дней назад

      The funny thing about this is, i said the same thing when he dropped Hot seat at home a few years back 😂
      It just gets better and better and better, imagine 15 years from now, Owen sitting in a rocking chair, full white Gandalf beard sharing knowledge 😂

  • @methodtraining
    @methodtraining 22 дня назад

    I used to be an amateur boxer and worked with some well-known pros, even became good friends with a few. At first, I tried to impress them, treated them like they were royalty, and got ignored for it. The moment I dropped that and talked to them like equals, they became way more down-to-earth.
    What I learned is simple: you can’t be both a fan and a friend. If you’re seeking their validation, you’re putting yourself in the fan zone, and that’s exactly how they’ll treat you.
    This is Gold!

  • @om6789gg
    @om6789gg 26 дней назад

    Love you Owen. Been great listening to you for a year now

  • @RashawMedia
    @RashawMedia 6 месяцев назад +9

    Letting the good vibes build without needing anything or expecting anything is such a beautiful thing! 🎉 If they don’t accept positive good vibes move on to someone that does! 💯

    • @KS-wk6uk
      @KS-wk6uk 6 месяцев назад +1

      Some girls me and some of my boys tried to connect with rejected us and some of my friends got really pissed and started insulting them (to get their compliments and time back). How does that work?

  • @CLCSelfHelp
    @CLCSelfHelp 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Owen. Hoping you have a fast recovery. God bless.

  • @theelastog1580
    @theelastog1580 6 месяцев назад +1

    Owner you’re so awesome bro. “You gain energy just by GIVING good vibes.” You only get what you give.

  • @ShivaShaktification
    @ShivaShaktification 6 месяцев назад +10

    I was raised by a single mother who controlled me through constant disapproval. The lack of validation was her primary means to make me behave how she wanted

    • @JEHERETIC
      @JEHERETIC 3 месяца назад

      Yes same, they are damaged and pass along the damage, they didn't know, but now you know so you can make yourself better to help make others better and we bleed betterment hopefully when we get through our trauma

  • @SPACEDOUT19
    @SPACEDOUT19 6 месяцев назад +5

    People do overthink stuff, i agree with "go with the vibe", it will never do you wrong

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 6 месяцев назад +1

      Big time. Vibe and as much high frequency as possible

  • @igorous3818
    @igorous3818 6 месяцев назад +8

    tyler even though you became a little bit ego based speaker, your content is still top tier. thanks from Russia.

    • @KS-wk6uk
      @KS-wk6uk 6 месяцев назад

      Who is Tyler? I thought his name was Owen.

    • @igorous3818
      @igorous3818 6 месяцев назад

      @@KS-wk6uk its Tyler bro

    • @Dupstan
      @Dupstan 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@KS-wk6ukthat's the man the myth the legend Tyler durden

    • @MrFredericandre
      @MrFredericandre 6 месяцев назад

      It's sucks that even quite open minded people get put off by something which is, al in all irrelevant (the ego thing). Also suck that it wouldn't take that much for Owen to address that.

    • @mevenotion
      @mevenotion 5 месяцев назад

      @igorous3818 he just wants to help & reach more people, the ego based approach attracts more viewership, and in turn he can dive in deeper spiritually once he has their attention

  • @sumgi1537
    @sumgi1537 6 месяцев назад +2

    Wow idk how the algorithm did this or its just coincidence but i went thru everything tyler just mentioned this past weekend and i saw this for myself. This is literally a recap of my weekend lol
    Tylers the real deal! Not just talking on some random topics, but real life situations!

  • @clajsmurf6675
    @clajsmurf6675 Месяц назад

    I got to realease tension during this video thanks owen❤️

  • @karasmusic123
    @karasmusic123 5 месяцев назад +3

    It's because it's a lot harder to feel good enough, significant, and worthy of love if you didn't get enough oxytocin in childhood. Especially if your parents used cold parenting, were inconsistent, neglectful, unpredictable, or volatile.

    • @JEHERETIC
      @JEHERETIC 3 месяца назад

      True, but I've found doing Shadow work and going through life in general has washed me of it

  • @kockoklosharcheto
    @kockoklosharcheto 6 месяцев назад +3

    This one I am downloading 👍 🔥

  • @Darsolation
    @Darsolation 6 месяцев назад

    GOAT of self help. Thanks Owen

  • @james3341
    @james3341 6 месяцев назад +2

    You’re a great person! Your content inspired me to quit smoking weed and move away from my hometown to learn to surf 🙏, when I’m over the withdrawal anxiety ima find a free tour close if you’re still doing them in three months!!

  • @stachowi
    @stachowi 4 месяца назад

    This content is gold

  • @richvolpe5841
    @richvolpe5841 6 месяцев назад

    One of the best videos lately I wish this one was longer…

  • @4Mikes4Mindset4
    @4Mikes4Mindset4 6 месяцев назад +3

    Thanks Owen.

  • @MrTheSIlverDevil
    @MrTheSIlverDevil 6 месяцев назад +6

    You are the best ❤

  • @joshtjclark
    @joshtjclark 6 месяцев назад +1

    Stop seeking validation
    Focus on building the vibe, building the joke, building the interesting convo
    Get present & work on building your character so you have a better self esteem
    Build a social circle, do fun shit, group events to invite people to

  • @Troelslychau
    @Troelslychau 6 месяцев назад +2

    Man I've had some painful weeks, just moved to Malta and nobody wants to hang out with me, it's like I talk to people for a few days and they get annoyed/tired/ with me, not exactly sure why, I guess my energy is really bad, and perhaps they don't want to be around it, which sucks, started meditating, to feel better. But the things you mentioned did shed light on it.

    • @joshtjclark
      @joshtjclark 6 месяцев назад +2

      You’re in the right place brother, if you work on the right things you won’t be lonely for much longer

  • @Gasconauxolives
    @Gasconauxolives 6 месяцев назад

    Very good fundamentals here. Love it thank you. Balance between spirituality and psy / biology.

  • @Jordy_NL
    @Jordy_NL 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much, Owen!

  • @solomondavid9811
    @solomondavid9811 6 месяцев назад +1

    Go with the vibe needs to be a great shirt.

  • @MrFredericandre
    @MrFredericandre 6 месяцев назад

    What your share Owen is very valuable, and you probably already know this, but valuable beyond those who integrate your teachings into their life, meaning those who are exposed to viewers of yours who integrate your teachings. When I say your teachings, I'm not saying you're that guru where everyone of your thoughts should be followed, but a mix of truly innovative concepts (pioneer stuff yo) combined with fundamental ideas which one way or another should be repeated. There are deeper ways of being at the cause that just with the people we meet face to face.
    Unrelated comment, someone should make a fake resume of Owen and try it, for field testing's sake!

  • @ErvinMitchell
    @ErvinMitchell 4 месяца назад

    Incredible stuff

  • @MrFredericandre
    @MrFredericandre 6 месяцев назад

    26:00 Yes some stuff cannot land, a good way to observe this is watching videos from 2 years or 5 years back. Ok Owen mentioned this while I was commenting but still valuable from my part, because it's both worth to be repeated and formulated in a different way.

  • @eto38581
    @eto38581 6 месяцев назад +3

    It is taught that if you know who you are and what you want, your need for external validation is eliminated in RSD, yet I struggle to understand how someone determines who they are. It is easy to set goals and decide what you want, but to know who you are, do you relax and write whatever comes to you head when you ask the question who am I? or do you compare yourself to other people and list the things that make you different, better or worse? Or do you write the ideal version of yourself like I'm on my purpose, I'm hardworking etc..? I guess this needs a video of its own. I've been writing similiar things, deleting them, creating vision boards, deleting them for 3 years now. I made progress in my life yet it frustrates me there isn't a guide etc..Some RSD teachers have guiding questions like "what kind of man am I, what is my personality like" etc.. but you could answer the same question differently depending on your mood or mindset ..

    • @4Mikes4Mindset4
      @4Mikes4Mindset4 6 месяцев назад +2

      You are on the right path asking the right questions is the beginning of everything

    • @Jordy_NL
      @Jordy_NL 6 месяцев назад

      That feeling that you seem to be describing sounds familiar.
      Let me propose an alternative viewpoint:
      Maybe you just really badly need external validation. And maybe that's what you should aim at instead of working so hard to find out how to not need validation.

    • @eto38581
      @eto38581 6 месяцев назад

      @@Jordy_NL You are refering to distributing the validation. Well yes, when I have everything going well in my life and I have 10 girls I am banging, which I experience couple times a year, I feel fantastic, absolutely no need for external validation. But, the thing is when shit hits the fan, when I need to be grounded the most, I struggle like everyone. What RSD and Owen uniquely market is having core confidence that stays with you even when your life goes to shit, even when you lose your business etc.. It is valuable because being grounded makes it 10x easier to build back up.

    • @Jordy_NL
      @Jordy_NL 5 месяцев назад

      @@eto38581 I'm not sure if I was refering to distributing validation.
      One of the big problems with communicating in comments is that so much assumptions have to be made, or at least I do that, and reactions are somewhat reflections or projections of one's own situation.
      I'm in a situation where I denied myself too much external validation so I read that into your comment.
      Now I've reread your original comment and your further reaction, it seems to me that, if I understand you correctly, you have that external validation in order, for which I'm happy for you by the way.
      Maybe the questions that you still have beyond that, about who you really are, could be answered through religion or spiritual practice...
      When you ask God or the Universe these questions, what gets revealed, what beckons to you?
      Anyway, I wish you all the best, bro.

  • @Caseycali
    @Caseycali 5 месяцев назад

    awesome video. You speak very directly I like that

  • @rawbinmo
    @rawbinmo 6 месяцев назад

    Best video in a while 🤟❤️🔥

  • @Happy-I-Am-
    @Happy-I-Am- 6 месяцев назад +2

    It’s actually psychological. As he said “how you trying to get mother’s love” . Many people are like that but you can’t generalize , depends HEAVILY on their attachment style

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes I've read the book, at the same time, we must master these basic skills. What was discussed in this video is bear minimum -Owen

  • @MrFredericandre
    @MrFredericandre 6 месяцев назад

    35:20 so important. Same as willingness to walk away in a relationship. Sucks that it has to be that way, but loyalty to a Disney dream isn't living up to what's right.

  • @aroguereptilian
    @aroguereptilian 6 месяцев назад +5

    the gummy bears.. or perhaps, the Dancing Bear🤣🤣 ill nvr forget that reference.

  • @DrawingBase
    @DrawingBase 6 месяцев назад

    you always have the best looking shirts, man...

  • @jadedadiz9018
    @jadedadiz9018 6 месяцев назад

    This goes so hard.

  • @aaron.social
    @aaron.social 6 месяцев назад +2

    I had my first relationship and she broke up with me this year at 30 years old.
    I took her for granted and didnt appreciate how amazing i had it with a rare wonderful beautiful soul. And now i been in crippling depression past 2 months.
    I lost myself in this.
    I wish i wouldve showed more appreciation and took care of her more.
    Biggest regret of my life. 💔
    So hard to find a rare beautiful soul that isnt like most women on social media.
    I hate that i did this to myself and i dont know if ill ever be able to forgive myself.

    • @akii6421
      @akii6421 6 месяцев назад +1

      reading this mad me sad. I wish the best for you bro, you gotta bounce back.

    • @aaron.social
      @aaron.social 6 месяцев назад +1

      @akii6421 i been in crippling depression the past 2 months nothing interests me or excites me. Shit is killing me especially since i got her all new friends and lost them and she is already dating a guy that we all hungout with.
      Literally took all my confidence and will to live away from me.
      I have no idea how im gonna bounce back from this i have no idea.

    • @akii6421
      @akii6421 6 месяцев назад

      @@aaron.social you will. it is literally hell when you lose someone like that but you will definitily bounce back you will just have to be strong and put one foot infront of the other and give yourself time to process it all.

    • @aaron.social
      @aaron.social 6 месяцев назад

      Especially when we did everything together and everything reminds me of her

    • @NoelFiedler
      @NoelFiedler 6 месяцев назад

      @@aaron.social I was in the same situation man. literally 4 months ago i lost the girl of my dreams. let time heal you. it took 4 months for me. get back into momentum slowly. time will heal you trust me man. even if you think its not gonna get better

  • @yoyodunno
    @yoyodunno 6 месяцев назад

    That thing about not being able to see the message until you're on that wavelength is scary, I've seen it happen to myself watching your vids as I got more success. And I see it in friends when they can't understand some of what I'm trying to get across to them

  • @Openyourmindbruh
    @Openyourmindbruh 6 месяцев назад +8

    More like this. Less cheesy titles.

    • @ladev91
      @ladev91 6 месяцев назад +1

      real titles that is simple and describes the content, not cheesy paragraphs

    • @Openyourmindbruh
      @Openyourmindbruh 6 месяцев назад

      @@ladev91 exactly bro. I love Owen but we’re all educated watching his content and don’t need cheesy clickbait. It pushes me away tbh. But seeing a real title like this makes me want to watch** typo

  • @matw1x
    @matw1x 6 месяцев назад +1

    Been a people pleaser my whole life because I was scared of what people might think of me if I wasn't pandering enough. Not anymore, no more Mr. Nice Guy. F*ck everyone!

  • @drizzzic
    @drizzzic 6 месяцев назад +2

    I can attest. Owen doesn’t respond to my DM’s and then even though he didn’t respond I just kept doubling down and DMing him more and more and eventually I learned that that’s how to get women to DM me like crazy and it actually works lmao I mean hot ass girls sending me long DMs and I just have to ignore them for like 20 hours before responding. And then they respond instantly

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +1

      Haha so true, but we can EXCEED their value with strategy - I've made many videos about it -Owen

    • @Abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyznow1
      @Abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyznow1 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@OwenCookFreeTour he’s gonna wait 20 hours before replying to your comment 🤣

    • @drizzzic
      @drizzzic 6 месяцев назад

      @@Abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyznow1 😂😂😂 you’re absolutely correct 👹

    • @drizzzic
      @drizzzic 6 месяцев назад

      @@OwenCookFreeTour i appreciate you dawg

    • @drizzzic
      @drizzzic 6 месяцев назад

      @@OwenCookFreeTour strategy seems like a very masculine thing

  • @dam7196
    @dam7196 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hi Owen. In a video from a few months ago, you were talking about the look in your son Tristan’s eyes. You were saying he has almost a messianic vibe. My wife and I have a 15-month-old boy. There are many things we make sure do to, such as always giving him great nutrients and keeping him away from bad “energy” / traumatizing experiences.
    I want him to be like your description of Tristan for as long as possible. A quick question if you’re able to answer, what are your thoughts on occasionally feeding a young baby a little bit of dessert? We keep his diet super clean, but sometimes I’ll give him a little piece of cake or something lol. Wondering what you think about that and I guess also wondering what else you have done so far to keep the pureness alive in your boy.
    Thank you for saving my life over 10 years ago and a few times since then.
    Dean

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +1

      I believe he would benefit from restricting all candy and bad food, but we give him some here and there and he's fine. There is likely no actual point, but anyway we do it sometimes. Good luck bro! -Owen

  • @RayDalziel
    @RayDalziel 6 месяцев назад +1

    I'd validate you any day Owen
    Your awesome

  • @goldstandardpersonalgrowth
    @goldstandardpersonalgrowth 6 месяцев назад

    What’s more important investing time in a social circle/networking or spending that time developing your core skillset + new skillsets

  • @MrFredericandre
    @MrFredericandre 6 месяцев назад

    30:00 drugs can be a reference experience, but most people will think that they can repeat that experience by taking drugs again. Taking drugs is like starting a company. Most people will fail.

  • @conscioushealing1602
    @conscioushealing1602 6 месяцев назад

    Owen, have you heard of the Release Technique and Lester Levenson? I feel Levenson is like Tolle, only that he gives a practical method on how to go all the way with the Release muscle into complete Beingness and abundant flow-states. David Hawkins was one of Lester's students and had an RAS flip on Lester, turning on him and plagiarizing a lot of his stuff in 'Power Vs Force'. Anyway, I feel you'd absolutely LOVE it, it's right up your alley bro. I'd even love to share it with you if you would allow me the honour to gift it to you and if there was a way to make that happen. All the best man, I love your content and your message. I will not succumb to the DERP state! I will lead my people to the promised land!

    • @darius349
      @darius349 9 дней назад

      I might be a bit late, but Julien's "letting go" is based on that. Also Owen Cook mentioned Power Vs Force a couple times in his vidoes.

  • @jasonmcdougall3201
    @jasonmcdougall3201 6 месяцев назад +1

    Facts

  • @jadedadiz9018
    @jadedadiz9018 6 месяцев назад

    Fire

  • @RaulNicoara-cm5ym
    @RaulNicoara-cm5ym 6 месяцев назад

    At 9:40 if she/he is gone because you hit some roadblocks in your life path she/he is the worse person you could have chosen as a partner. Or she/he chose you for the wrong reasons, not for who you are. You shouldn't be feeling like you are stepping on eggshells.

  • @zacattack613
    @zacattack613 6 месяцев назад

    First 💪

  • @haikeaintiaani9183
    @haikeaintiaani9183 6 месяцев назад

    some people are so traumatised and in their head plus numb they cant feel absuletely shit that vibe or inner compass is totally lost i remembe that shit when i was young and tryed to resonate with breath work and meditation to feel my body and that inner self fucking horrible to watch back shit can go really dark babtised by darkness if you come back from that you got perspective no other hope its true

  • @xg.55555
    @xg.55555 6 месяцев назад

    Mourinho bei Bayern wäre ein Traum.

  • @Samuel-vw2wy
    @Samuel-vw2wy 6 месяцев назад +2

    so why don’t we purposefully sell ourselves and act needy to filter only for people who still like us then they won’t behave differently

  • @laszlo2259
    @laszlo2259 6 месяцев назад

    If you want to become grounded in the true essence of who you are, the only way is to embrace all feelings and emotions. Consider them little "allies" or "messengers". Recommend Transformation Mastery + Letting Go book + IFS.
    This content is focused on status games, which won't remove neediness.

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +1

      I was very involved with the creation and promotion TM bro, and I love David Hawkins - these messages are not contradictory they are complimentary! -Owen

    • @laszlo2259
      @laszlo2259 5 месяцев назад

      I jumped the gun on that comment. Have been watching your recent videos lately, and they resonate. I'm on the inner work path. Started reading your content on the forum probs since 2010 but only recently came across your vids again
      Cheers

  • @AraOG-o7w
    @AraOG-o7w 6 месяцев назад

    Bro knows his shit

  • @about_midnight
    @about_midnight 6 месяцев назад

    tricky stuff in simple terms

  • @jadedadiz9018
    @jadedadiz9018 6 месяцев назад

    People def pedastalize me but I don’t like it - what do I do? I don’t want to be seen as super human

  • @Le_RealitySamurai
    @Le_RealitySamurai 6 месяцев назад

    Happened to me 💔

  • @jonsnow911
    @jonsnow911 6 месяцев назад

    2:40

  • @deusexmaximum8930
    @deusexmaximum8930 6 месяцев назад +1

    3:16 thought that was an uzi

  • @gamingpig4997
    @gamingpig4997 6 месяцев назад

    Why isn't Owen with someone very attractive right now? (Assuming he isn't) It'd give him much more credibility. What does thinking like this say about me as a person?

    • @OwenCookFreeTour
      @OwenCookFreeTour  6 месяцев назад +1

      I used to bring my ex girlfriend onto live broadcasts in her underwear! That's not enough transparency lol? -Owen

  • @khalidg4271
    @khalidg4271 6 месяцев назад

    This is our Socrates of our era…..this is some bullshit 🤨