I just thought I was bipolar...just realized that my mother is a covert narcissist and I've attracted a lot of narcissists. I know I have the potential to love and be loved. I'm a spice of lifer working through your course now, thank you!
Thank you for this video. It totally resonates with me. I live as a highly sensual person. Experincing the exquisite beauty in Art poetry, nature, music, literature, dance and sex I attract people easily and love how I appear to make them happy, unlifted and inspired. I feel great love in relationships and can openly express. Until..... the shadow side appears...I can exhaust myself from giving, feeling, and intuiting so much. I withdraw and distrust peoples' feeling towards me. Suspecting their love or adoration is because of what I offer to them rather than knowing the whole of me. I feel a tremendous amount of guilt when I do withdraw from people as they are often hurt and confused. Part of me feels like a fake because I'm not all positivity, energy and love. I have bursts of creativity and success in my business followed by inactivity or just maintaining. I used to think I was bo-polar but the diagnoses says I'm not. I feel I'm not achieving what I'm capable of and often doubt my worth of life. This pendulum way of living is so frustrating. Committed to understanding myself and how I am the way I am I learn so much with each passing year. The recent awareness of adult attachment styles have been a revelation. I'm working on giving myself more compassion and improving my communication in relationships. A message to all people reading this....be well, treat yourself kindly and with love. You are deserving.
I never really understood why I was over abundant in my love for animals, and I am an artist, spice of lifer and was s severely abused as a child. Hypervigulent and been told charismatic. Wow. Thank you Briana!
This is literally the first time I've ever heard anyone talk about the strengths of the Spice of Lifer. Thank you so much. I needed to watch this today.
Never EVER heard anyone mentioning disorgranized attachment as anything but a purely negative thing, so thank you. Last time I had a conflict (last week) in a relationship I actually wrote a song haha. Good points. "Lead to a sense of feeling nothing at all." This is how I acquired Depersonalization Disorder in 2010.
This is the MOST amazing and clear information iv'e heard in a long time - I"m definitely a DO type of person, but it's lovely to hear that there are positives to this> ANd to knwo that it is possible to recover to a large degree... which is the path I'm on right now> Thank you, thank you, form my whole heart xxx
💗Thank you! I'm working through avoidant attachment and this video helped me to not be so hard on myself. I'm a really creative person with a love of cats and plants, among other things. 💚
Creativity...yes! I draw (especially if I feel overwhelmed); write songs (when young used to write stories and poems); can solve problems in creative ways, thinking out of the box. Understand much more the human mind, can read tone of voice and body language much easier. Can stay calm and solve other people's crisis without much problems but usually sucks at solving ourselves crisis 😅 Deep connection with animals and children
Well, I guess I’m both a spice of lifer and a open heart. But mostly sol. The last part where you talked about unresolved trauma from a highly punitive parent, resulting in the sol projecting that onto children and pets terrifies me and is why I’m so afraid to have kids. And now I see why I was harsh while training my puppy. God I feel awful now. It’s like I can’t even stop myself from being like him.
@KDR Ohhhh others don't feel those things as deeply? 😂Or do those particular things as enthusiastically!?😊 Is this why you understnd my "numb" with "not Mitch?" 😅 and ever since? I don't wanna be numb anymore. I'm ready, I'm ready-ish for slow, special, connection, fun, not scary, not mean, not pathologically withholding vital communication, not intimacy stingy, not one foot out the door always. I'm ready for real. You?
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I just thought I was bipolar...just realized that my mother is a covert narcissist and I've attracted a lot of narcissists. I know I have the potential to love and be loved. I'm a spice of lifer working through your course now, thank you!
Thank you for the comment and for sharing! I am glad you like it :)
Ditto
Thank you for this video. It totally resonates with me. I live as a highly sensual person. Experincing the exquisite beauty in Art poetry, nature, music, literature, dance and sex I attract people easily and love how I appear to make them happy, unlifted and inspired. I feel great love in relationships and can openly express. Until..... the shadow side appears...I can exhaust myself from giving, feeling, and intuiting so much. I withdraw and distrust peoples' feeling towards me. Suspecting their love or adoration is because of what I offer to them rather than knowing the whole of me. I feel a tremendous amount of guilt when I do withdraw from people as they are often hurt and confused. Part of me feels like a fake because I'm not all positivity, energy and love. I have bursts of creativity and success in my business followed by inactivity or just maintaining.
I used to think I was bo-polar but the diagnoses says I'm not.
I feel I'm not achieving what I'm capable of and often doubt my worth of life. This pendulum way of living is so frustrating.
Committed to understanding myself and how I am the way I am I learn so much with each passing year. The recent awareness of adult attachment styles have been a revelation. I'm working on giving myself more compassion and improving my communication in relationships.
A message to all people reading this....be well, treat yourself kindly and with love. You are deserving.
Every word said here. 😩
Same because we’re both anxious and avoidant our experience can mirror what it’s like to feel bipolar or come off as if we are to others! 🤧😅
I never really understood why I was over abundant in my love for animals, and I am an artist, spice of lifer and was s severely abused as a child. Hypervigulent and been told charismatic. Wow. Thank you Briana!
Thank you for the comment and the feedback! I am glad you like it :)
This is literally the first time I've ever heard anyone talk about the strengths of the Spice of Lifer. Thank you so much. I needed to watch this today.
Never EVER heard anyone mentioning disorgranized attachment as anything but a purely negative thing, so thank you. Last time I had a conflict (last week) in a relationship I actually wrote a song haha. Good points. "Lead to a sense of feeling nothing at all." This is how I acquired Depersonalization Disorder in 2010.
I have a disorganized attachment style and everything single thing you said felt deeply true for me ...
This is the MOST amazing and clear information iv'e heard in a long time - I"m definitely a DO type of person, but it's lovely to hear that there are positives to this> ANd to knwo that it is possible to recover to a large degree...
which is the path I'm on right now>
Thank you, thank you, form my whole heart xxx
I love this positive framing of the SOL
💗Thank you! I'm working through avoidant attachment and this video helped me to not be so hard on myself. I'm a really creative person with a love of cats and plants, among other things. 💚
LoveToday8 Thank you for watching and for commenting. I’m glad you found the content helpful!
Thank you for the name and also strenghts. Having this type of attachment is co fusing enough without feeling it's all negative
You are brillant. I am so impressed by your knowledge.
Creativity...yes! I draw (especially if I feel overwhelmed); write songs (when young used to write stories and poems); can solve problems in creative ways, thinking out of the box.
Understand much more the human mind, can read tone of voice and body language much easier.
Can stay calm and solve other people's crisis without much problems but usually sucks at solving ourselves crisis 😅
Deep connection with animals and children
Well, I guess I’m both a spice of lifer and a open heart. But mostly sol. The last part where you talked about unresolved trauma from a highly punitive parent, resulting in the sol projecting that onto children and pets terrifies me and is why I’m so afraid to have kids. And now I see why I was harsh while training my puppy. God I feel awful now. It’s like I can’t even stop myself from being like him.
Thank you for commenting and for sharing your experience, Jason Revell. Sending you well wishes on your journey.
You always blow my mind and open my heart. Thank you 🙏🏻
This insight is amazing.
Thank you am an FA half of the time I feel am bad about myself ,,but I feel good about my charisma thanks to you
Woooow! Thank you for explaining me to myself lol
Thank you you have helped me so much. I love listening to your wisdom and perspective.
Thank you ❤
Thank you for this.
My pleasure!
@KDR Ohhhh others don't feel those things as deeply? 😂Or do those particular things as enthusiastically!?😊
Is this why you understnd my "numb" with "not Mitch?" 😅 and ever since? I don't wanna be numb anymore. I'm ready, I'm ready-ish for slow, special, connection, fun, not scary, not mean, not pathologically withholding vital communication, not intimacy stingy, not one foot out the door always. I'm ready for real. You?
I'm a "Spice of Lifer" 😪
Thank you
Please tell us how to overcome enmeshment trauma 🙈
I'm curious to know more about enmeshment as well!
Yes that's what I struggle with too
Great info but it’s confusing when you use the term Spice of Lifer, Rolling Stone, etc. I can’t remember which attachment style you are referring to.
Spice of Life Fearful avoidant, Rolling stone Dismissive avoidant.
I feel like it helps identify the vibe instead of making a label that sounds negative
do you take insurance :,(
Hmm, so must we shut down the wearing of our charismatic masks to know that others love us for who we are?
If you mean getting lost in sex by meaning delayed ejaculation or anorgasmic sex…ok
Thank you am an FA half of the time I feel am bad about myself ,,but I feel good about my charisma thanks to you