I’m watching this as a (hard working) client who suspects their therapist is bringing in their own emotions in therapy. This confirms a lot of what I’ve intuited, especially as you delve into communicating certain emotions and curiosities to the client rather than trying to test them as merely objective treatment. I like how you’re viewing the relationship, it sounds healthy and normal. When the therapist is too much into a role it ruins the relationship. Especially for those of us who are open and good communicators. It feels like receiving help for something we’ve already overcome or that is simply not a problem, which is projecting other clients on us or projecting insecurities as a therapist on us. Thank you for the video! It also helps with understanding others who are in trouble and how to understand our own empathic experience in daily life.
Thank you for this video! I feel like this topic is so important and the questions you posed that we can ask ourselves were very helpful. I'd love to see a video about how CMT thinks about therapy through a brief model lens--specifically if sessions are limited, how might a therapist help expedite safety? Is that possible or does safety need to develop organically in its own time...
You touched on it right at the very end psychodynamics my therapist brought that up at our last session. I had originally sought your video because of the transference to my therapist who's an attractive woman that's not really the reason for our sessions though just something that crossed my mind.
Very informative! Thanks! Quick question: outside the therapy and therapist-client relationship; in family circle, when one of the family members is toxic and when another one is very happy finding a new job or any victory the toxic one gets jealous and upset and starts brining attention to his miserable life his failures and this all makes the whole happy atmosphere down, and kind of guilty feeling injected in the other one who felt happy a minute ago for his own victory. Can this also be called countertransference, the negative energy that the toxic family member injects in others?
Takes too long to get into the meat of things. Quite rambling and lacking substance when you look closely. If he prepared his notes better he would probably be excellent!
Thanks for this. I was involved in a transference / counter transference (2 women) situation in the mid 90s. Social interaction, almost like dating. Eventually 1st to 3rd base physical interaction so to speak. Didn't sleep together, but we wanted to. Questions: 1. I was once given a ceramic oil burner for my birthday by my therapist along with a birthday card. Acceptable? 2. Birthday or Christmas cards would sometimes start out Dearest, (my name) and end Lovingly, (her name) both of us women. She died in 2008, just 2 general questions. I have always described her as "Mother Earth." She was a gentle soul overall. The sitution we found ourselves in was not worked out in therapy. I terminated therapy and she flipped out.
I’m watching this as a (hard working) client who suspects their therapist is bringing in their own emotions in therapy. This confirms a lot of what I’ve intuited, especially as you delve into communicating certain emotions and curiosities to the client rather than trying to test them as merely objective treatment. I like how you’re viewing the relationship, it sounds healthy and normal. When the therapist is too much into a role it ruins the relationship. Especially for those of us who are open and good communicators. It feels like receiving help for something we’ve already overcome or that is simply not a problem, which is projecting other clients on us or projecting insecurities as a therapist on us. Thank you for the video! It also helps with understanding others who are in trouble and how to understand our own empathic experience in daily life.
this is incredibly helpful and timely to my masters in psychotherapy! thank you for sharing.
Remarkably well-explained and realistic. Man, I wish I had an instructor like you when I was in psych grad school ….
Incredibly insightful, thank you 😊 Really helped with my understanding of counter transference and how to bring this into the work with my clients 💚
Thank you for this video! I feel like this topic is so important and the questions you posed that we can ask ourselves were very helpful. I'd love to see a video about how CMT thinks about therapy through a brief model lens--specifically if sessions are limited, how might a therapist help expedite safety? Is that possible or does safety need to develop organically in its own time...
Video request: Ways to climb out of the hole when clients feel stuck and then YOU find yourself feeling stuck? 😅
You touched on it right at the very end psychodynamics my therapist brought that up at our last session. I had originally sought your video because of the transference to my therapist who's an attractive woman that's not really the reason for our sessions though just something that crossed my mind.
Love this. Thank you.
Very informative! Thanks!
Quick question: outside the therapy and therapist-client relationship; in family circle, when one of the family members is toxic and when another one is very happy finding a new job or any victory the toxic one gets jealous and upset and starts brining attention to his miserable life his failures and this all makes the whole happy atmosphere down, and kind of guilty feeling injected in the other one who felt happy a minute ago for his own victory. Can this also be called countertransference, the negative energy that the toxic family member injects in others?
In psychotherapy... how about this applied behavioral analysis? Are they connected?
Otto Kernberg, still alive, said "You can _hate_ your patient, as long as you can work out why!"
THANK YOU😊
What happened to objectivity?
It sounds very sloppy and dangerous to get emotionally involved with your patient.
Well we are all human beings we are not a bloody robots. I love this explanation. It's NORMAL
Takes too long to get into the meat of things. Quite rambling and lacking substance when you look closely. If he prepared his notes better he would probably be excellent!
Don't agree...
Thanks for this. I was involved in a transference / counter transference (2 women) situation in the mid 90s. Social interaction, almost like dating. Eventually 1st to 3rd base physical interaction so to speak. Didn't sleep together, but we wanted to.
Questions:
1. I was once given a ceramic oil burner for my birthday by my therapist along with a birthday card. Acceptable?
2. Birthday or Christmas cards would sometimes start out Dearest, (my name) and end Lovingly, (her name) both of us women.
She died in 2008, just 2 general questions. I have always described her as "Mother Earth." She was a gentle soul overall. The sitution we found ourselves in was not worked out in therapy. I terminated therapy and she flipped out.