You have dodged a bullet, imagine had you went and there was no money for you to spend and enjoy yourself. Lots of love, you are such a good story teller😊❤
I’m confused, why are you hiding information about him. Of course you shouldn’t mention his name but every other detail like the country you went to see him etc. Sharing those details will help other ladies that might come across him.
This is not embarrassing at all it’s just a wake up call for us ladies who’s on dating site,sana thank you for sharing.i love you and your content sana can’t wait for up coming vlogs.❤
Just so your video. A friend of mine dated Congolese man in a short period of time they got married. Him and his friends physically abused her. She left him a different person. They are not different from others.
They r total pieces of trash. I got ghosted after being promised a birthday gift. I was asked what i wanted, and I said surprise me after being assured several times that it was ordered and waiting for it to arrive at Macy's so they could pick it up. That was in September. October 1st, I texted him good morning and happy October he read the text, but did not respond. Haven't heard from that piece of shit since.
Lol Congolese men ai ai ai, i know 2 Congolese men one asked me for airtime one said he'd never put a heater on in winter for a girl thats not wearing a jersey 😂👀😑‼️🚩
Babe only if you hd enough cash you was gonna go yo Paris and he was gonna see you there. He was gonna die inside seeing that he afforded you the visa and you dis go there without him.
Tbh men do not want a women that is too materialistic. A guy with money will tolerate it in the beginning but later on will take you through the ringer with his antics. Modern day women are about to be single for a very long time. Everyone too focused on appearance and do not want it to be themselves or be humble. I met women who seem to be a 10 online but in real life they a 4-5 if you include everything. So women please be humble and stop tryna emulate what you see these fake travel/content couples be doing. Stay safe outchea❤
I appreciate your honesty in this video. From what I gathered, you were seeking a comfortable life and allowed yourself to dream, which affected your judgment and made it harder to see that this man wasn’t genuinely committed to the relationship. Your instincts warned you about him, but you chose to go along with it because you wanted the experience you had imagined. What you described seems more like an experience with a scammer than with someone in a genuine relationship. Essentially, you were dating yourself the whole time you were communicating with him. It sounds like he’s a serial heartbreaker, and you’re likely not the only one he’s treated this way. The truth is, on some level, you knew his intentions, but you decided to go along to fulfill the dreams and fantasies you had. He probably realized you were interested in the adventure of trips and played along for as long as he was with you. I'm truly sorry for what you went through. Yes, it’s true that some men lie, but men and women both lie-men often for sex and women for financial or adventurous experiences. We all tend to be deceitful, just for different reasons. But it’s important to remember that women are not perfect either. If men were to share their worst experiences with women, you might feel just as frustrated. Women can play games in relationships, sometimes worse than men. Since you were open in sharing your experience, I’ll share mine below. Although I don’t live in South Africa, my experiences with South African women have truly shocked me. I used to wonder why there’s so much relationship violence against women in South Africa, but after being involved with five South African women, I no longer wonder. Here’s my experience dating South African women. Even though I live in New York, I plan to retire in South Africa in two years and was transparent with these women about my plans. My intention was for them to come stay here with me for a few months over the two years before my retirement. I spend three months in South Africa every year, specifically from late May to late July, and I’ve done this for the past 10 years. I own four apartments in Sandton (Rosebank, Bryanston, Lonehill, and Fourways), Johannesburg: I live in one and rent out the other three. I’m not exaggerating in sharing the experiences below: FIRST RELATIONSHIP in 2019: I sponsored her to attend a hotel and catering school in Sunninghill (specifically, International Hotel School in Sunninghill), with the goal that when she finished, she would help me run a restaurant I wanted to set up in Sandton (Johannesburg). I spent about R1.5 million on the school and the apartment I bought for her to attend school for a year. Her school expenses alone cost me over R500,000. Our relationship was good enough that her mother and I used to chat on WhatsApp; she appreciated how I had turned her daughter’s life around. She was living in Voslorous when I met her. As soon as she finished school, she changed her mind about running the restaurant for me and took a job as the Head Chef at an international hotel in Rosebank. She blocked my number and disappeared. Her mother couldn’t believe it-she cried on the phone with me, unable to understand why her daughter did this. She suspected that someone had done muti (voodoo) on her daughter. Well, two years later, she reappeared, asking for forgiveness, as things hadn’t turned out as she had expected. The rich guy she thought was better than me just used her and left her. As of last month, she's still begging me to give her a second chance. I just laughed, because it's only a foolish woman that would ask for a second chance based on the gravity of her stupidity. If a man gives you second chance based on the seriousness of what she did, she's supposed to know that the man will eventually take her life anytime he remembers what she did. As a woman, you shouldn't return to a man that turned your life around for second chance when you dumped him for another man. SECOND, THIRD, FOURTH, AND FIFTH RELATIONSHIPS: It was the same story each time. They shed crocodile tears, talking about how bad South African men are, and asking for help and support. As soon as I supported them and they got comfortable, they were gone. What has worked well for me is that I don’t get angry or chase after them, nor do I ask questions about their behavior. I simply leave them alone. All five of them came back, apologizing and saying they made a mistake. They claimed I’m too nice and generous and that they aren’t used to men like me. They’re used to drama, arguments, and being controlled, and they said they feared I would eventually leave them because they weren’t used to a supportive partner like me. All I did was help them start a business so they could be less dependent on me, but that never worked. They seemed to want a relationship where they could rely on me for everything. Each of them confessed to either leaving me for another man or having another man while dating me. It was shocking, as I’d never encountered this behavior from women in another country before. In conclusion, whether in marriage or dating relationship, it seems some, if not many, South African women have huge problems with loyalty, honesty, and commitment. Their interest and love is very fluid, as it changes from moment to moment. A man has to know that dating and loving some South African women is a big risk; you cannot predict what they are going to do the next moment. They are very skillful in such a way that they will not give you any signs or suspicions before they drop you. You'll think all is well in the relationship before they switch emotionally on you and dump you. As you can see from the above, men experience the same thing too. The difference between men and women is that men are embarrassed to share their horrible experience in the hands of women, whereas women are emotionally ready to share their experience with men. We go through a lot in finding the right woman, because most women are just looking for adventures, not commitment or loyalty. But the above experience would not stop me from finding the right person in South Africa. I still believe there are decent women in the country.
Your experience is based on 5 woman and you write a whole novel about South African women.Very much unfair.South Africa is very diverse brother.The problem is your type not because they are South African.Maybe you should try dating an educated independent cultured South African woman.Choose your woman wisely
@@Fundream How many women does my experience need to include before I’m allowed to share it? In her video, the woman said men are liars based on her experience with one man, yet you didn’t comment on that. I shared my experience with five women, and you’re calling it a “novel.” She spent 36 minutes narrating her story with one man, while you can read my story about five women in under three minutes. Yet, you’re saying I’m writing a novel. I’ve dated a variety of women, both educated and uneducated, young and old, and the outcomes have been the same. Also, several men I spoke with shared similar experiences. In fact, an Uber driver who took me to OR Tambo airport in Johannesburg last July shared his own jaw-dropping experience with South African women, which has even made me reconsider dating there. I’m aware that there are decent women in South Africa, but please don’t discount my experience or imply that something is wrong with me. I know what I’m talking about, and nothing is wrong with me; the majority of men I’ve spoken to in South Africa shared similar experiences. When people share their experiences, they aren’t saying every man or woman is bad-they’re just pointing out that finding a genuine person to be in a relationship with can be challenging.
@@Sophiamor-b7n actually his job was legit I met his colleagues in that other country and saw the salary reference in his bank statement. I suspect he might be still married
The problem hi vanhu vanga tinder they have many options ikuma munhu akha a vulavula na ten yava nhwenyani at the same time that’s why they think they are a catch and they don’t want to pick one lol girl stay away from tinder it will waste ur time 😂
You sound like a gold digger maybe he felt that way!!! He saw you excited with the journey not with the connection between you two … or you could have bought yourself the tickets and go by yourself, girl power
You have dodged a bullet, imagine had you went and there was no money for you to spend and enjoy yourself. Lots of love, you are such a good story teller😊❤
@@NosiphoNtokozo imagine being taken to the trenches of Paris yoh! 😂😅
Beautiful lady, this story coulda went many ways. I’m glad ur safe and recovered from this deceitful man
@@SasaSasa-wy9wu amen!
Baaaaabe! You were supposed to check that reference number on the Airline the minute you received the tickets ASKIES!!
@@gig_economy I guess I was naive 😂
You probably dodged a bullet.
@@nomalangasibisi7736 100%
I’m confused, why are you hiding information about him. Of course you shouldn’t mention his name but every other detail like the country you went to see him etc. Sharing those details will help other ladies that might come across him.
Who here believes the part where after the guy booked her a flight she asked him to book 2 separate rooms?
This one must really think we're kids...
I hate being ghosted because we end up having all kinds of questions 😭😂 ah
All along it was tinder😂😂 sifa sonke
I'm glad you are safe mama❤
@@nomazazakec711 no that other app is very different from tinder. I just got lucky on tinder that one time. And I guess I wasn’t so lucky too 🤣
This is not embarrassing at all it’s just a wake up call for us ladies who’s on dating site,sana thank you for sharing.i love you and your content sana can’t wait for up coming vlogs.❤
@@mlolombapapama6243 thank you doll 💖💖
It is clear that he was not genuine, he saved you
The show is called "To hell and back"...yes ninjas 😅
@@Rabelani_Ramahala oh yes, it slipped my mind 😂
I've met a French man and being praying for you vlogs lately to help a sister out with advises on how to impress and keep him
French men are à work in progress hardest guys good luck I live with them
Just so your video. A friend of mine dated Congolese man in a short period of time they got married. Him and his friends physically abused her. She left him a different person. They are not different from others.
@@bulioperamusic25 that’s really bad
Why did he go through all of that 😭✋🏿 Men are insane
Atleast he was a real person 😅
@@adelaidehanse7519 at least 😂
Your story times & channel is 👌
@@missyrooibostea thank you 🥰
I would go by myself and send him pictures
Literally
Congolese men for you lol 😂
@@thabisilebuthelezi7402 never again 🤣
I cant date acongelese man ,they are nah .how a beauty luke you date a congelese but they are kind people
Vile people those ones ...they must stay in thier country Mnxa
They r total pieces of trash. I got ghosted after being promised a birthday gift. I was asked what i wanted, and I said surprise me after being assured several times that it was ordered and waiting for it to arrive at Macy's so they could pick it up. That was in September. October 1st, I texted him good morning and happy October he read the text, but did not respond. Haven't heard from that piece of shit since.
@@dread6152 I don’t get why some men promise us things we didn’t ask for and not follow through. It doesn’t make sense at all.
I love your stories please 😂❤
@@preciousnxumalo9877 thank you ☺️
Lol Congolese men ai ai ai, i know 2 Congolese men one asked me for airtime one said he'd never put a heater on in winter for a girl thats not wearing a jersey 😂👀😑‼️🚩
@@amandanxala2580 Bathong 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Babe only if you hd enough cash you was gonna go yo Paris and he was gonna see you there. He was gonna die inside seeing that he afforded you the visa and you dis go there without him.
@@nondumisondebele2079 you’re actually right but I wasn’t ready at all to spend euros at the time 🤣.
You are definitely not the problem. He took it too far with the lies😭
Mi sasekini🥹🔥
@@thatovaloyi thank you 💖💖
Tbh men do not want a women that is too materialistic. A guy with money will tolerate it in the beginning but later on will take you through the ringer with his antics. Modern day women are about to be single for a very long time. Everyone too focused on appearance and do not want it to be themselves or be humble. I met women who seem to be a 10 online but in real life they a 4-5 if you include everything. So women please be humble and stop tryna emulate what you see these fake travel/content couples be doing. Stay safe outchea❤
@@SergioZack no one asked him to take me anywhere he offered so….
You're beautiful babee girl❤❤❤❤ I adore your english
Lol, I'm so glad you didn't ncisha us this story time... Its a good thing you can look back and laugh about it.🥰🥰
@@lindiswatyokela2951 😂😂😂
U hv thr visa. U can take yourself to Paris. Its not expensive During off peak travel season
@@cebilendwandwe6857 I prefer Italy
I appreciate your honesty in this video. From what I gathered, you were seeking a comfortable life and allowed yourself to dream, which affected your judgment and made it harder to see that this man wasn’t genuinely committed to the relationship. Your instincts warned you about him, but you chose to go along with it because you wanted the experience you had imagined. What you described seems more like an experience with a scammer than with someone in a genuine relationship. Essentially, you were dating yourself the whole time you were communicating with him. It sounds like he’s a serial heartbreaker, and you’re likely not the only one he’s treated this way. The truth is, on some level, you knew his intentions, but you decided to go along to fulfill the dreams and fantasies you had. He probably realized you were interested in the adventure of trips and played along for as long as he was with you.
I'm truly sorry for what you went through. Yes, it’s true that some men lie, but men and women both lie-men often for sex and women for financial or adventurous experiences. We all tend to be deceitful, just for different reasons. But it’s important to remember that women are not perfect either. If men were to share their worst experiences with women, you might feel just as frustrated. Women can play games in relationships, sometimes worse than men. Since you were open in sharing your experience, I’ll share mine below.
Although I don’t live in South Africa, my experiences with South African women have truly shocked me. I used to wonder why there’s so much relationship violence against women in South Africa, but after being involved with five South African women, I no longer wonder. Here’s my experience dating South African women. Even though I live in New York, I plan to retire in South Africa in two years and was transparent with these women about my plans. My intention was for them to come stay here with me for a few months over the two years before my retirement. I spend three months in South Africa every year, specifically from late May to late July, and I’ve done this for the past 10 years. I own four apartments in Sandton (Rosebank, Bryanston, Lonehill, and Fourways), Johannesburg: I live in one and rent out the other three. I’m not exaggerating in sharing the experiences below:
FIRST RELATIONSHIP in 2019: I sponsored her to attend a hotel and catering school in Sunninghill (specifically, International Hotel School in Sunninghill), with the goal that when she finished, she would help me run a restaurant I wanted to set up in Sandton (Johannesburg). I spent about R1.5 million on the school and the apartment I bought for her to attend school for a year. Her school expenses alone cost me over R500,000. Our relationship was good enough that her mother and I used to chat on WhatsApp; she appreciated how I had turned her daughter’s life around. She was living in Voslorous when I met her. As soon as she finished school, she changed her mind about running the restaurant for me and took a job as the Head Chef at an international hotel in Rosebank. She blocked my number and disappeared. Her mother couldn’t believe it-she cried on the phone with me, unable to understand why her daughter did this. She suspected that someone had done muti (voodoo) on her daughter. Well, two years later, she reappeared, asking for forgiveness, as things hadn’t turned out as she had expected. The rich guy she thought was better than me just used her and left her. As of last month, she's still begging me to give her a second chance. I just laughed, because it's only a foolish woman that would ask for a second chance based on the gravity of her stupidity. If a man gives you second chance based on the seriousness of what she did, she's supposed to know that the man will eventually take her life anytime he remembers what she did. As a woman, you shouldn't return to a man that turned your life around for second chance when you dumped him for another man.
SECOND, THIRD, FOURTH, AND FIFTH RELATIONSHIPS: It was the same story each time. They shed crocodile tears, talking about how bad South African men are, and asking for help and support. As soon as I supported them and they got comfortable, they were gone. What has worked well for me is that I don’t get angry or chase after them, nor do I ask questions about their behavior. I simply leave them alone. All five of them came back, apologizing and saying they made a mistake. They claimed I’m too nice and generous and that they aren’t used to men like me. They’re used to drama, arguments, and being controlled, and they said they feared I would eventually leave them because they weren’t used to a supportive partner like me. All I did was help them start a business so they could be less dependent on me, but that never worked. They seemed to want a relationship where they could rely on me for everything. Each of them confessed to either leaving me for another man or having another man while dating me. It was shocking, as I’d never encountered this behavior from women in another country before.
In conclusion, whether in marriage or dating relationship, it seems some, if not many, South African women have huge problems with loyalty, honesty, and commitment. Their interest and love is very fluid, as it changes from moment to moment. A man has to know that dating and loving some South African women is a big risk; you cannot predict what they are going to do the next moment. They are very skillful in such a way that they will not give you any signs or suspicions before they drop you. You'll think all is well in the relationship before they switch emotionally on you and dump you.
As you can see from the above, men experience the same thing too. The difference between men and women is that men are embarrassed to share their horrible experience in the hands of women, whereas women are emotionally ready to share their experience with men. We go through a lot in finding the right woman, because most women are just looking for adventures, not commitment or loyalty. But the above experience would not stop me from finding the right person in South Africa. I still believe there are decent women in the country.
Your experience is based on 5 woman and you write a whole novel about South African women.Very much unfair.South Africa is very diverse brother.The problem is your type not because they are South African.Maybe you should try dating an educated independent cultured South African woman.Choose your woman wisely
@@Fundream How many women does my experience need to include before I’m allowed to share it? In her video, the woman said men are liars based on her experience with one man, yet you didn’t comment on that. I shared my experience with five women, and you’re calling it a “novel.” She spent 36 minutes narrating her story with one man, while you can read my story about five women in under three minutes. Yet, you’re saying I’m writing a novel.
I’ve dated a variety of women, both educated and uneducated, young and old, and the outcomes have been the same. Also, several men I spoke with shared similar experiences. In fact, an Uber driver who took me to OR Tambo airport in Johannesburg last July shared his own jaw-dropping experience with South African women, which has even made me reconsider dating there. I’m aware that there are decent women in South Africa, but please don’t discount my experience or imply that something is wrong with me. I know what I’m talking about, and nothing is wrong with me; the majority of men I’ve spoken to in South Africa shared similar experiences. When people share their experiences, they aren’t saying every man or woman is bad-they’re just pointing out that finding a genuine person to be in a relationship with can be challenging.
What a nice fiction story!!
@@LangelihleNgema Yes, the fiction of your imagination, probably because it hits hard your conscience and depicts who you are.
@ Yeah right!!
he was playing the long game sanalam he was checking how gullible you are. He saw akazukwazi to scam you & he stopped. Thats a scammer sana
New subbie here so happy I am part of the family .❤
@@mbali_tom welcome doll 💖💖
starting the new month on a high note
@@muhnchiiey 💖💖💖
You even went shopping 😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@Eksemandisa 😭😭😭
Babe 😂😂😂 tinder is the gutter of dating apps! Please get off it ❤
"cool sharpo" 😂❤
@@bokamosomorema949 😂😂😂
Hey fave ❤
I just found the channel today❤️ and I subscribed!!!🎉
And voho va hemba xem!!😢😂
@@SnethembaMthombeni-c4m 😂😂
Are you sure this one was even in Paris coz wow 😂😂
@@zandilengobeni5884 🤣🤣🤣🤣you know what, I’m starting to have doubts
@ lol he stays here i scammer kahle2 i ponil 😂😂😂
@@zandilengobeni5884 true, he was probably working on some syndicate to try and scam me 🤣
Why dont you go to Paris for shopping.
@@wendysapphire4628 this is a story from long ago. The visa has since expired
Girl you were so lucky he sounds like he was a drug mule!
@@Sophiamor-b7n actually his job was legit I met his colleagues in that other country and saw the salary reference in his bank statement. I suspect he might be still married
That meal😍
@@thatovaloyi apart from the salt, it was quite good
You're BEAUTIFUL yerrr
@@muhlemhlanzi4393 thank you very much 🥹
STOP INCLUDING US IN THE MESS YOU INVITED.
The problem hi vanhu vanga tinder they have many options ikuma munhu akha a vulavula na ten yava nhwenyani at the same time that’s why they think they are a catch and they don’t want to pick one lol girl stay away from tinder it will waste ur time 😂
@@zandilengobeni5884 this is so true 😭🤣
Always ke sana,,,, I cud listen to you the whole day.... As for MEN.... AY SHAME😢😂
@@khosie_Ntshosho 🤣🤣🤣
be happy the guy was a scam thank to God
Chomi try Bumble
@@LesegoTalaza they banned me long ago
You sound like a gold digger maybe he felt that way!!! He saw you excited with the journey not with the connection between you two … or you could have bought yourself the tickets and go by yourself, girl power
Semuncu oe
CONGO 😂😂😂
What if he died 😂
@@Motivational_women1 but he’s busy watching status messages 🤣
@@khanyisakhosa1496lol
❤❤❤
@@akhonaakho6753 💖💖
Damn you look like khoakhona so much 😅
@@sphempanza781 who’s this now ?