+ 12:21 : 4 critical things in conversation that are highly co related to divorce 85%. ++ Criticism is when you make complaining personal. + 16:58 : About Loneliness + 21:05 : Loneliness is how you feel about your relationship. + 24:10 - : When people feel lonely their brain scans for threats twice as fast. It's affect on happiness. And it's not even concious, Ever present hum of anxiety. Face to Face Interacation is key. +
To add to this very interesting subject. I find that urbanism has a great effect on socialization, for instance, countries and cities that were built with cars in mind, give much less opportunities to walk, like to work, or for groceries etc. In these types of countries, in my experience, people care much less about others. And on the contrary, in countries where people walk, like France, people very often talk to strangers, and form relatipnships with strangers. Coming from Montreal canada, I had never talked to strangers, like on the metro or the bus or in the street, always maybe a smirk or a look but never talk. And when coming to France it hit me in the face, everyone talks to you, from telling you sorry, to interjecting in your conversation, to ask you things, to telling you politely that you’re being an asshole. Anyways, just wanted to add this to the conversation.
You are so right. I am from Belgium and I moved to the US at the age of 36. It was a chock for me because indeed you need a car to go anywhere. You even don’t have to get out of your car to go to the bank, get food (junk food, something I wasn’t exposed to before), get gasoline (in 1985). I so missed the walking, seeing people and interacting with people. It was so hard to make friends and then there was the language barrier.
That's the thing. Humans have evolved for millions of years to live in tight, interdependent, tribal groups. When humans walked away from family as their main focus in life, we all suffer collectively. Guess my tribe is plant hoarders? Like yelling, "Marco" in a pool.
+ 12:21 : 4 critical things in conversation that are highly co related to divorce 85%.
++ Criticism is when you make complaining personal.
+ 16:58 : About Loneliness
+ 21:05 : Loneliness is how you feel about your relationship.
+ 24:10 - : When people feel lonely their brain scans for threats twice as fast. It's affect on happiness. And it's not even concious, Ever present hum of anxiety. Face to Face Interacation is key.
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To add to this very interesting subject. I find that urbanism has a great effect on socialization, for instance, countries and cities that were built with cars in mind, give much less opportunities to walk, like to work, or for groceries etc. In these types of countries, in my experience, people care much less about others. And on the contrary, in countries where people walk, like France, people very often talk to strangers, and form relatipnships with strangers. Coming from Montreal canada, I had never talked to strangers, like on the metro or the bus or in the street, always maybe a smirk or a look but never talk. And when coming to France it hit me in the face, everyone talks to you, from telling you sorry, to interjecting in your conversation, to ask you things, to telling you politely that you’re being an asshole. Anyways, just wanted to add this to the conversation.
You are so right. I am from Belgium and I moved to the US at the age of 36. It was a chock for me because indeed you need a car to go anywhere. You even don’t have to get out of your car to go to the bank, get food (junk food, something I wasn’t exposed to before), get gasoline (in 1985). I so missed the walking, seeing people and interacting with people. It was so hard to make friends and then there was the language barrier.
Is it weird that i just listened to this on a podcast and now im on here watching it
That's the thing. Humans have evolved for millions of years to live in tight, interdependent, tribal groups.
When humans walked away from family as their main focus in life, we all suffer collectively.
Guess my tribe is plant hoarders?
Like yelling, "Marco" in a pool.