Autism Friendly Morning Routine
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- Опубликовано: 16 мар 2019
- Welcome to our weekday morning routine! As we all know getting your children out of the house and into school on time can be hard. Add in a child with ASD and it becomes somewhat a nightmare. I talk through what we do to make our mornings just that little bit easier. Most of the time it works but sometimes it doesn't!
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GOD this is refreshing! So happy to find your channel sometimes youtube mummies are the most isolating people to watch when you have kiddos on the spectrum. Finally someone I can relate to.
Chloe Selby this comment has honestly made my day. Thank you. I felt the same way and really wanted to do something that was real but not all negative . Thanks so much mama x
Me too.
Psychologically he doesn't want to and therefore he can't.... made me smile so much, because this is my son too! :-)
sending you a big hug x
I'm a 30 year old woman, recently discovered I'm very likely to be autistic. That sentence hit me!😳 She just put into words something I've been suffering from my whole life and never been able to understand or explain.
Of wood Andash big love to you
Mine too lol ❤️
Me and life lmao 🤣
"wooooo freedom! Good luck teachers, I'm outta here!" I died 😂😂😂😂😂
Same feeling I have too... It's a relief.. 😊
Hi, I'm a private SLT in the UK. I'm going to be sharing your videos with our families along the diagnosis road. It's so fantastic to hear directly from other families (and these are so beautifully produced.)
Thank you so much for your comment. this means the world to me. x
You’re such a sweet mom. Great job
Sarah Issa thank you so much my friend x
I have three children on the spectrum and watching your videos gives me tricks that I can try and hope that I can handle yet another day! Thank you so much. So much.
You’re a fabulous Mom and your children are beautiful 💛
Withnail IRL thank you so much x
You are a strong and great woman!!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH MORE STRENGTH AND PATIENCE!!
Oh wow I just found this when I searched for "Autistic Morning Routines" and I really like how you get your kids ready for school! Huge props to you, I could never be this organized and chill in the morning myself, let alone get everyone else dressed, fed and out of the house (though I do not have kids, so this is me hypothetically speaking). As a grown up on the spectrum I still struggle a lot with mornings and really enjoyed watching and listen to you talk about your sons needs! Your approach is really nice and fun to watch
Thank you. It is nice to see actual footage of what happens; sometimes I feel so alone and astonished that at 12 he is incapable of certain things. Take care
and just watching you and what you share make me feel not alone
Can totally relate to this! It’s a relief to know we are not alone. Our son avoids getting dressed completely, and is hyperactive; and inevitably mornings are very stressful. And then we have a 30 min commute in traffic, to get to school. Great reminder to keep calm, take each day as it comes, and stay in tune to their emotions. Enjoying your channel! Thank you for your great videos :-) , South Africa 🇿🇦
hey there
thank you so much for the comment. Were just about to go back to school here and anxieties are high so were just taking it very easy this morning. big hug mama x
Great video cos it's sometimes good to know you are not alone. We have challenging and different mornings too in our house. Every day after morning school run I feel like I have had a whole full day and I just need to sleep.
sebu sebueng i know I feel the same I’m ready to go to bed! 😂💕
You're not alone!
We have a 6 month old(was 9 wks preemie) and I’ve been learning about Autism just in case, and I like how practical and informative your videos are. I’m a stay at home dad (one other boy, 12yrs) and your vidoes (some others too) have me understanding my son’s classmates, and children in general, better. TY, great service, love to learn. Subbed because your lifestyle seems similar to ours, albeit we’re in a condo in downtown (the nice part) Chicago lol
Love what you said about iPad lol :)
Thank you
Natalie Khalil ❤️❤️❤️
Mornings are shit 😂 thanks for your videos, as a single mum of 2 kids (1 with autism), they've helped me so much. Much love to you.
Thank you for the share! My son 6 and this was very encouraging and helpful!
You are one amazing mama!!I just got my son's diagnosis..and all the info is soo overwhelming...watching how you handle things gives me so much strength..and motivation..thank you:)
Yes, can completely relate to the morning routine and getting out the door. We struggle most mornings.
My daughter hasn’t been diagnosed, but I started watching your videos as I was wondering if she has some level of autism. So much of what you said resonated with me and the methods/tricks/hacks you use are the same as what I have found to work. She’s nearly 6 and half the time I still dress her. If she’s thinking deeply about something she can’t multitask and do stuff like get dressed. I’ve learnt to get her to tell me straight away what I’ve asked her to do to check that she has heard me or takin in what I’ve said. Thank you for your real and honest videos xx
Thank you so much for sharing.... so amazing to see the little things happening in your house with which I can relate so very well like the getting dressed in the morning part.... our little man is 11 and I still dress him some mornings. This is not something you can mention to just anyone because they would simply not understand the delicate give and take game we play to get things done in a calm friendly way on a regular basis... that balance of helping them to help themselves which can be quite a complicated process, more so because very often parents of children on the spectrum are on it themselves.... and the amount of judgement you sometimes go through is just sad!
You’re such a great mother. Absolute saint. :)
thank you. dont feel like it at times but i try my best x
I cannot even begin to tell you how this is 100% our mornings. Thank you so much for your transparency and validation for the morning drama....THANK YOU!!!!
sending you love and hugs mama x
You just got a new subscriber from 🇨🇦. Thanks for sharing your journey. It is quite educational
My son also is allowed to take a stuffy to school for comfort, we fond a heavy stuffed dog like a heavy blanked and he loves it...
He is not able to eat without tv though, but we pick our battles.
I love this channel and your stories. I have a daughter with autism and she is not high functioning. Like you, I always have the foods she likes readily available because she is extremely picky.
Your channel is amazing! I am currently doing a research project over Autism for my Psychology class and I have learned so much from you! Thankyou for being such a super hero mom! I am so glad I came across your videos! xox
thank you so much x
God yes, it’s really hard to get them out of the house!
Im so happy to see this ! My son is being diagnosed and my daughter isnt neurodivergent she is 18 months and she’s like so loving to him ❤
I pray for you and all of us, many many thanks
This is my life I appreciate this video
This is so nice to watch and my son has so many similar traits as he is SPD - mornings are big stress for our whole family. Lovely to watch and understand your strategies.
thanky ou xox
What a beautiful video!! 💜
New subscriber🎆 Thank you for posting about your story. I have been on the wait list for 8 months to try to get my son diagnosed and finally next month he gets his eval. I pushed the whole autism thing to the side his first three years of life but once he turned four I started to really think into it. He will be 6 next month. We go thru very similar things every morning. He only want chips, gummies or eggs for breakfast. Fights me for chips most of the time. He has meltdowns about getting dressed frequently. Never wants to try and do it himself. It's very rare he does. Fights me and has meltdowns about going to school everyday and he will literally ask me 50 times a day after school if he's going back to school the next day. Will be watching your videos! Thanks again♡
Destiney Easom hey thanks for subscribing to us . I’m so sorry you have had to push and fight so hard. I hope my videos can help you and also always feel free to reach out to me and there is a little community growing and we’re all here to support each other so never feel alone ❤️ x
@@ComingHometoAutism Thanks so much!!
That really helped me. My son was only newly diagnosed. It's all falling into place now. I think you explained it so well.
Glad it was helpful! x
A lot of your tips and advices are very very helping
I’m so pleased thank you x
Giving a big kiss to Luca! He’s a happy and sweet boy
Chao Li I just read him that comment he was so happy thank you so much
Totally agree about the IPad for my autistic daughter. Thank you again for an informative video😁
Walmart and Amazon has a 3 wheel bike that is low to the ground and doesn't have a chain. My son really likes it a lot. We also got him a balance bike which eventually helped him learn to ride a regular bike. It's so nice finding others moms with kids who have autism. I love your channel.
amazing thank you x
I'm on you with the iPad and tv, my son doesn't know how to entertain himself so is a life saver ;)
The tzu P. It really is isn’t it x
Very relatable- thanks for sharing 👍
New subscriber, 6yr old daughter been diagnosed a few months ago. Agree 100% with the iPad we couldn’t coupe without it! My school tip is, I put her iPad on the table with her “limited” breakfast ready before going into her room to wake her then iv got a coat rack on my daughters wall with all her cloths and shoes laid out the night before with her hair brush and hair ties ready to go next to her bed. I wake her get her 100% dressed with shoes on before she can go to the table and watch her iPad and pick at breakfast till we walk out the door. While I organise my other 3 kids to be out the door at 7:40 am. With lunches etc done the night before and bags at the door.
Robbie Walker this is a great way to get your daughter ready for school and the routine of this will keep her calm too x
Thank you for the subscribe too x
Yes it’s hard to get my 3 half years old son get dressed and he mostly want to be carried to nursery. Once in nursery the teachers are great. They really help him settle in his routine.
Yes my son loves watching tv a lot everything what your son has o see it on my son ❤😢
Going to school is always fun for the body. You managed to do an incredible job with everything. How my child may get there is interesting however. We've tried going on scooters for the first few years. Since my child learned at the age of 10 to ride a bike rather stick to the scooter. This year we don't really know yet.
I came across your channel yesterday and I just want to say thank you so much for it. My son was diagnosed with ASD this past June and he is my first so this is all new and aI relate so much to you saying every morning is different and you just roll with it. Also the Ipad is the BEST thing ever. It helps us have some calm time so I can take care of my other child. Thank you so much for sharing your life and making me feel like I am not alone. New sub from FL
thank you for your lovely comment. your never alone lovely always here if you want to chat. xox
Love your videos, thanks for keeping it real :-)
You re such a strong mama 💪,need to learn from u
Thank you angel
Love this so relatable 😂 thanks for sharing. My sweet boy Luca has autism socmuch in common and I love your family already xx
Heidi White 🥰 thank you so much and thanks for taking the time to watch the videos. Xox
Great videos and the channel. Where did you find the 3 wheel bike??
I just descovered your channel, really thank you ! My daughter has autism, I am leaving in a country where there is almost no help in this matter
Thank you for sharing this.
Thanks for listening
Hi Tara, my name is Caitlin. I am 20 years old and was diagnosed with adhd at 3 and autism at 12. I was also born 3 months premature at home delivered by the ambulence, in an incubator for 3 months and on oxygen until I was 3. I know this video is from 4 years ago, so you may or may not see this comment. This video was actually the first one I found.
My mum had a hard time getting me to school when I was little. I remember I'd always have really bad anxiety, and would purposefully take a long time to get ready. I'd even try hiding under my bed sheet when mum came to wake me up. There were tears, and hand flapping, some yelling too. Mum always had to hold my hand and get out of the car and actually walk me into the school grounds and then give me a hug and say goodbye after a teacher I felt comfortable with had come over before mum said goodbye so that I would feel comfortable after mum left. Saying goodbye was always really hard, and I would ALWAYS cry and scream. School itself was fun, and I enjoyed it. However when it was time to actually leave to go to school, that was when the anxiety would REALLLLLLY kick in. I had anxiety getting ready for school, but it was WAY worse when it was time to leave the house. I'd try to take a toy with me which wasn't really allowed, but we found that if I had a teacher who I trusted and was with that teacher the whole time in class, like she or he was helping me with my work and constantly checking in on me, the anxiety disappeared for a little bit. The best part of the day was when mum came to pick me and my sister up from school and I'd get to tell her all about my day, what I did, how much fun I had. And she'd always ask me "So you had fun? That's great! What was your favourite part of the day?". Unfortunately anxiety doesn't last a day and then go away forever. The same thing happened every school day until grade 7. Even then I still had a lot of anxiety, so my mum would walk me in the school gates over to where my friends were and then my friends would make me feel loads better. Some of them were also in the same class as me which was great because we got to walk to our classrooms together and sit next to each other.
Being an autistic child/person is never easy, but its definitely a superpower in of itself.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Xox
And when I get home an hour on the couch with a cup of tea to pull myself together again after that morning routine workout 😂 we stopped screentime in the morning. We dreaded if, thought it would make everything worse but it was the opposite. He feels much better now in the morning and everything goes smoother.
Thanks for this! My ten year old is very Dillan 😆
We love iPads for lots of things especially creating StopMotion movies with our legos! We keep them in airplane mode to avoid any additional exposure to anything potentially negative like emf and to prevent online streaming ❤️
Mother of Brothers My 10 year old just recently started creating stop motion movies with legos too! When he’s watching other people’s he calls it “researching” LOL
Jennifer Ferguson yes!!!!! Mine calls it getting “inspiration” 😂 I’m so proud of his movies and his new skills
Great video both in content and editing
Avecforte thank you so much x
Hugging the builder lol 😆 this is exactly the level of crazy I can relate to
“Good luck teachers 😂 am out of here” 😂😂😂 that made me laugh 😂
Hi Tara.. can you suggest anything for reducing separation anxiety in ASD kids. My kid has a lot of speration anxiety from his loved ones..
How old was Dylan when he starts talking? My son is almost 6years old and no communication yet.
my daughter is almost 4 and also hasn't said a word all kids are different but I can't wait for the day I hear her sweet voice for the first time!
I have 9 year old twins with autism and the IPad is my life saver! Everyone who told me that they shouldn’t be on it so much didn’t have kids with autism 😒🙄😂 Thank you for this video! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
iPads are fantastic! I use it to keep grandson occupied while I change his diaper, change his cloths.
It's not perfect but it works for now. He's almost 18 months, and really finds it overwhelming.
Thanks for your videos
Granny Jacque
Question - how to identify if an autistic child is "difficult" due to their condition, or just misbehaving. Do you tolerate all his objections and let him do what he wants, or do you try to discipline him a little at all and how? Thank you x
Curious, does Dylan bring Rowan home after school to play or stay for supper? My youngest, Alex, would do that many times and it was cute to come home from work to find an extra pair of shoes in the entryway. My wife would tell me that Tanis was here, or Brexi, or Alex #2. Often though, it would be his best friend Tanis, who is also Aspergers, has tagged along home with Alex. So would have him until supper at 5pm when he went back to his home, often with Alex as company. Often Alex would stay at his friends for supper, if I was making something for supper he wasn't too keen on having and Tanis's dad was making something way better, according to Alex.
What is mints and rice ? I am from America and we have beans and rice is it like that ?
Just come across this Thankyou it’s just made it fall into place my son 8 Harrison likes long sleeves and very rarely wears shorts only if on holiday and it’s red hot and have to be on holiday. my son has gutissues and chronic constipation the doctor just keeps giving us movicol and I sense something not right so Thankyou diet is something we need to start with and won’t go to the toilet we did seem to fully train him then suddenly starting school he reverted back I will watch more of your videos now I found you 😊 Richardson Chappell family
thank you for taking time to comment lovely to hear from other families. sending you love x
Mornings are sooo stressful, like you said it all depends on the night they have had and what mood there in. Our massive issue is brushing teeth I could quiet frankly cry and scream I've tried everything at the moment hes using the iko from chewigem so far so good 🤞🤞.
God bless you.
This is my 1st Video
👌🙏👍💋❤️🇩🇪💙
You just described our life 😢😍☀️
Heike Hollas thank you so much for taking the time to comment x
@@ComingHometoAutism In Germany doctors are so uneducated
Autism moms all over the world seem to be ashamed and to defend themselves.
I am so grateful for these viDeos
They educate me
They help me
They make me feel I am not drounding 💋☀️
I wish my mum had treated me better and understood me I had these issues and I got no understanding just got asked why cant you be normal. I treat my kids better but get alot of grief. I feel like I'm always failing and always feel bad about using video games etc. I get bad looks from people when I use that in public to calm my boy. Thank you your really helping me and that will help my family. God bless you
you need to do whats right for you , no one has a right to judge anyone .. your doing great x
Back in 4th grade I had just moved to a new school and we have uniforms I found out I hate collared shirts so they let me just get a normal shirt with the school logo. I’m in 10th now so I managed to get through it
He doesn't want to, so he can't. You have no idea how much that one statement resonates with me. Our 8 year old is autistic, adhd, sensory processing disorder, and partially deaf. We homeschool primarily because day to day traditional school was a no go. He is on grade level. Can dress himself. Can handle daily things UNTIL he doesn't want to and suddenly literally legitimately can't.
iPads save the day for us. When he is all worked up, it helps calm him. I even let him watch in his bed until he falls asleep. Most of the people who judge haven't been in our shoes or at least with our kid. What is best for one isn't necessarily best for another.
Hi Tara, is Dylan going to normal school? Or special school?
Anita Gurung hi there dylan went to an autism base unit after his specialist nursery , he is now in main stream school with a full time one to one x
"Gives me a kiss" can't relate, my child threw a jumping spider at me today, three liquids, screamed all day and ran outside through the child locks naked. I am giving up I can't take this anymore
Hello hero mam! thanks for the videos you are so strong i am learning from you. kids are lucky to have an amusing mom like you. I love you we are in the same boat we all are worrier parents.thank you to show me that i am not alone.we are a family and i looked deep in to your eyes and in your eyes i see love, strength, kindness and more hard to write.i find my self in there. THANK YOU!
can you tell me where you bought the tricycle? sorry for my English
Thank you so much
Hiya im a new Subscriber to your channel, your video’s have helped me so much with my 9 n half year old autistic son. I was wondering if you could tell me where you purchased his three wheel bike. I think it would help my son so so much. Thank you xx
Hey there we got his bike specially made for him but there is a few places on line that do three wheeler bikes ❤️
Anybody maintaining parent teacher communication book..! How it works!!
My nephew learned a lot using Tablet. I guess it's a good thing.
Saludos
Getting out the door in the morning for school can be ROUGH in our house. This is only our first year with school mornings so we are still figuring out a routine that works. I think we need an ipad Haha! :)
anything to make your life easier x
he already can talk? my son 6years old still cannot talk. same to my son he dont like the school. and sometimes we keep running at school and im a petite women, heheh. I salute you
mom of authistic child with ADHD my angel hi there dylan speech at 6 was not great but it progressed at 7/8/9 years old. Your doing so amazing your son is lucky to have you x
My girl 7 years, everything is wrong when it’s wrong day, pants , shirt, socks.... all things seemed very strange, ichi. I just feel helpless, stressed because I have to to go to work. ...
My son is diagnosed with autism and going to nursery soon ..he has no words ..I just hope he can go to and cope with normal school..but looking at him Atm I am not sure if he will ..The therapists said may be he will need a special school ..
My Son is non verbal too and a toddler. I also Hope He will He able to Go to a regular school ect. But even If He'll Go to a Special school, its Not a Bad Thing. When i was in school i Had an Autistic boy in class and He got bullied very bad because the "normal children" mostly cant Unserstand Autism at that age. Every day they Made the Autistic boy feel Like there is Something wrong with him and i Bet If He Had Go to a Special school, that wouldnt happen! I know an Autistic Young Woman who is now able to meet Friends and Talk since she went to a Special school.
So Funny U are Me EXACTLY 😂 And Ur Dillion is My Elias EXACTLY LOL I'm a 42 yr old Mom from Northers California by San Francisco. And We treat our Boys THE SAME WAY 😉😍😁
Jenell Jurado 🥰🥰🥰 so cute. By the way love San Francisco ❤️
Same here my little daughter is showing signs of autism shes also funny with her senses
What's ur take on vaccines being a major cause of autism ?
Btw i'm enjoying ur videos alot thanks for sharing and helping
chaniecekinglife14 thank you for watching my videos 🥰 I try to stay away from my personal beliefs on vaccines as it will always be taken the wrong way by someone. My focus is to not try and dwell on how my son got autism or what caused it but what I can do to help him. To make him the healthiest happiest version I can possibly make him. Xx
Coming Home to Autism that’s a good mindset to have. So many moms are so focused on trying to figure out cures and causes that they don’t focus on what they need to do in the meantime, which is to try and help their child be a happy, successful human being
You are a saint :). It's hard enough is hard enough. Going out with 3 and smiling.. wow! Strong súper woman ;)
oh your too sweet not sure i am a saint lol but thank you xox
Does hè go to a regular school?
no he is In a specialist setting now
My autistic son,also Dylan, will also only wear certain things. He has to be fully covered. Long sleeves and long pants every day. He loves Batman. All of his Batman shirts are from Ali express. I can’t find them in Australia a lot. Batman underwear,socks pjs the lot. I’ll buy several pairs of each so we don’t run out. It’s a challenge,I love him though. I got melatonin from a sleep a Doctor when he was 6. He’s 18 now. Doctor specifically prescribed melatonin.,not health food shop bought.
i love that he loves batman. do you have amazon ? they sell alot of batman stuff on there xx
Dear Tara, We would like to get some advice from you that is desperately needed. We are Americans currently living in Guatemala. There is nil to no help where we live for autistic children. My daughter, Tara, has a 2 year old (10 days ago was his 2nd birthday) who although he has not been diagnosed officially, we are certain he is autistic. We are going to have to go this alone, and are anxious to get the best materials and advice that we can. We have watched many of your videos, and can't think of a person we trust more with this advice. We are working on getting Max his passport, which is proving complicated, since the Embassy is closed. I am also trying to sell my property here so we can return to the states, where Max can get help in the coming years. I was hoping he would not regress so quickly, but in 10 days he has become non-verbal. He spoke some of his words still until then. At 1 to 18 months, he had about 30 words or so. Now, occasionally one word a day. We thought we'd have more time. We would really appreciate any advice or books considering that this will be up to us for the near and indefinite future.
We have really found a great deal of hope seeing your videos and we thank you for that. Max is a beautiful child, like your Dylan, and so far, he is a rocking back and forth kid rather than hand movements, but who knows what will come and when. My daughter is going through the grieving process, as am I, but we know that he is still our beautiful gift and this is just the way it is. Would really appreciate your help when and if you have time to drop a note. My email is: cherielh53@gmail.com
Thank you very much. Cherie Herrera (grandmother living with them)
Looks like a good morning great job
Hugs 🤗
Kendra Marcos ❤️❤️❤️
My 6 year old autistic son do not like to wear sweaters too 😭😭
Is it OK to give IPAD OR MOBILE PHONE to autistic children? LOVE FROM INDIA ❤
Yes it is x
People don’t realize that technology is our coping mechanism. I am on the spectrum with Asperger’s and I am very high functioning and technology is my escape from a world that is socially demanding.
I’ve sent you a Facebook message. Btw I hate eggs, baked beans, milk and mashed potatoes among other things.
i replied xox
I can't relate to this. All kids on the spectrum are different and I work full time as a single parent so being late for school isn't an option. My son in 10 and will argue about everything. Turning the tablet/tv off leads to him losing it- Trying different things out at the moment. Massive struggle at the moment for me. No family or friends nearby either.
Foz this routine works for younger kids dylan is about to be 10 and has changed recently so going to do one for older kids it’s quite a different approach . So I feel you I really do. The next video will be in Feb for older kids. Sending hugs to you , your doing an amazing job xox
@@ComingHometoAutism Thanks for replying and kind words. I look forward to your other video
Poor normal kids. I fill sorry for my granddaughter cause my grandson takes so much more time. But I love them both.