The interviewer dont have integrity , she slept with and had relationships with her friends men … so when she was so understanding about the lady getting on stage and turning single, it make sense now
Sorry the interviewer just isn’t it.I don’t know if it’s just her tone but she comes across as mad fake, kind of a mean girl and judgy. She doesn’t seem to have much life experience or have interacted with a wide variety of people.
I agree especially when she asked the question at 36:31. She could have phrased it in a better way “what does co-parenting look like now after separating from your ex-husband” but NOPE she had to mention “infidelity”, making a mockery out of the situation 🙄🥴
Empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes emotionally so what made you think my comment is about her empathising with herself - that’s doesn’t even make sense. You cannot be empathetic to yourself and your saying my comment is dumb, you have a lack of comprehension skills….. I’m talking about in regards to her being able to put herself in her fathers shoes, her child’s shoes, her former husbands shoes irregardless of his abuse etc. That’s a skill no everyone has, the interviewer is cold and clinical. More of a interrogation than a conversation she’s lucky the other girl has empathy as was able to deep dive into how the situation made others feels vs just herself or this would have been one dry interview…..
@@stefanmurrell5857 just because you took time to write a long a paragraph it doesn’t make it true why would it matter in this case the person being interviewed who did the wrong and looking for sympathy, if they had empathy for others come one that’s just a bunch of mumbo jumbo
@@connecttadot5168 the paragraph made perfect sense. I feel you may just struggle to comprehend. The underlying point is, no one, absolutely no one is perfect. And it's clear as day the interviewer believes her excrement doesnt stink.
Clearly lacking in general interviewing skills, especially on a sensitive topic such as domestic abuse/ domestic violence. I get it, trend centrl is about vibes, but where’s the advice and information for viewers who might be experiencing DA/DV? Where’s the duty of care for others, could’ve at least signposted to services such as NIA, women’s aid etc. overall, interesting life story, terrible interviewer
She's a narcissist. Remember in the Tumelo interview she said “I’m an amazing person“ ot “it's giving part-time prostitution“ or when she said somewhere else she would date her friends ex and has done it before.
I can just imagine the energy level in that interview. The energy from the interviewer seems so undeniably off. She doesn't seem genuine. Just what im picking up.
Because she don't know how to speak properly, that young lady who had gone viral taught her a lesson and yes she is very rude with attitude that make she guests feel uncomfortable
The interviewer is weird. Ugandan Sis was baring her soul and the interview is staring at her like she is more interested in watching paint dry. No wonder that other girl (Think its Tomello or something) dragged her to hell
@@SherryMoore-ij1qcno one should feel bad for a domestic abuser and a woman beater being cheated on. He deserved a lot worse than that for being a terrible spouse. You can’t behave like trash and expect your wife to remain loyal to you
I really wanted to bring this up😂😂😂. That Tumelo show was something else. At least Tumelo was bold enough to go toe-to-toe with her. That was an awkward interview.😅
Entertaining things like a “work wife” or “work husband” is essentially keeping the door ajar for infidelity down the road. It’s starts a slippery slope.
@@fayegillespie8426it's not a matter of you calling it's work husband or work wife but it's a matter of entertaining another person while in a relationship. That's what the issue comes because if you are married then there is no reason to entertain the opposite gender.
I am starting to see what men say. When a woman cheats its the man's fault and if a man cheats its the mans fault .We as women never take accountability
@DrJessicaKatanga, there really is!🙂 And she is honestly brave for having this conversation openly for others to learn from her mistakes. I would have taken it to my grave.🤣
Mide please learn how to show empathy. Even if you don’t agree with someone’s life choice. This is your job. You chose to enter a field where you’d be exposed to things that don’t align with your morals. But hey that’s life. So please reflect on how you could conduct an interview more better.
Show empathy to a cheat?? That's why people don't take accountability for their actions cos people like you show empathy which tells them that what they did is not so bad.
@@Grand_Edictshe’s still human at the end of the day. Not saying what she did was right, but what she did doesn’t warrant her getting mistreated. At least she can stand in her truth unlike many others who hide in their lies. She’s taken accountability and I’m pretty sure she’s learnt a lot from this experience. He without sin cast the first stone!!!
@@Lifeasnikky I’ve done plenty of sin, but in all my relationships never has it ever occurred to me to humiliate my partner by cheating on them. I cannot imagine the depth of depravity one has to be content with to betray their own children and nuke the family unit. It’s unforgivable and every Ill treatment is earned. She went to efforts to hide her affair so she knew at every step what she was doing was wrong
For me personally I want to first commend this woman for her bravery and courage to do this interview despite the interviewers lack of empathy and compassion but this also is a eye opener for men who are in ministry and are young and want to get married about the things that’s could cause your wife to cheat this is very powerful ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 ✨Cheating isn’t allowed but domestic violence is also a no I just think if the man knew he couldn’t handle it he should’ve just left the marriage you know but easier said than done
Im going to start using that phrase.. i see alot of women say that when a women destroys their relationship or be a ho … when men cheat on their wife and instead of communicating what they wabt and need in a relationship , just cheat, im going to say i love his honesty and stand in his truth ..
Oh stop being vein and dense men do it all the time, and even lie or deny it shut up. Have never seen a men admit to cheating but they do it constantly.😒
Next subject should be how Black People have helped each other in the workplace especially know how challenging it can be getting the job and maintained it with all the workplace politics
What ppl don’t talk about is the way they both felt is actually normal in a marriage especially when the children come along. If you haven’t lived with someone before it’s difficult adjusting to someone being in ur space and having to manage each other’s emotions on a daily basis. All they had to do was stick it out and talk through everything
And the fact that she said she would never tell her husband she cheated like??? What in the hell are you tryna say?? I wanna show her grace but I've watched several interviews right from the girl from Omah lay concert, the girl she last interviewed before this. It's just terrible. But the lady did well to speak her truth. Owned her wrongdoing and she will be able to grow from there
@@laxi8305 so you don’t think people should feel shame/be shamed for cheating? Problem with cheating is it destroys people. There is a real possibility that that man will go through life never trusting a woman, and worse, tormenting good women for what she did to him.
@@laxi8305 The major reason why the Japanese nation is as strong as it is economically and socially - one of the safest countries to live in, one of the greatest economies with not too a big a population - is that an individual understands that family is supreme and that nothing should be done to bring shame to the family. In black nations like Nigeria, South Africa, Jamaica, etc and places like the UK, the US, etc where black people are becoming an integral part of the society, we have lost shame and accountability, We have started to normalize certain behaviors and our communities are breaking down. This woman was part of a church, she had people who elevated her, people who emulated her, she had her Ugandan community, her parents and siblings. I don't know a society that doesn't look at this and say she didn't bring shame to them. I don't know a parent that would look at this and don't feel let down. And she did it with a man who was also in a relationship
What i notice is that when these women cheat with the fun guy, 9 times out of 10 they want to be with him, but he doesn't want to be with her. i think that when women say they weren't getting at home they really are, but they block it out because it ruins their fantasy of this other person, that's what give it a rush.
Wheeew no offence to the interviewer but maybe do some introspection about the energy given off because the snarkiness is really… off putting. It feels like you bring flawed people on just to belittle and judge them in order to feel superior. I know criticism is hard to hear so I hope this is received in good faith and not as an attempt to be malicious. Also glad this woman decided to tell the truth, do not hide affairs, your partners deserve better and God requires confession, repentance and accountability in order to absolve you of your sin. All truth IS good truth because it’s God who requires the truth before anyone else. Anyone who tells you otherwise is leading you away from Him and that’s a dangerous path.
Loyce is a person, with immense confidence, she articulates her vocabulary very well in her🧠 conversation. The poor interviewer is lite-years away with her in her grammar...she was trying to CATCH up mentally, but for ME it was like putting a DONKEY & LION in a cage. Loyce❤ & still you RISE... you've done your emotional marathon of a PAST life, & bared it all on social media. Most of all you're still standing STRONG with GRACE.👑
By being so vulnerable online regarding her journey, how does this affect her work, and being in education, I know that you are told to be careful about what you post online once it's on the Internet its permanent. I commend her honesty and being raw and open about her journey. I wish only the best for her going forward.❤
Cheating is an active decision. If you love God you’d fear to hurt him by disobeying his commandments towards adultery. However, the bible also says husbands should cherish and love their wives. He neglected her and created an environment for her to feel the need to even crave someone else’s love and affection. The real question is - was there a conversation between the two to understand where the marriage was going wrong/communication ? I do think the interviewer would excel if she demonstrated more empathy and really dug deep into marriage,love and infidelity. Asking her questions and then also simultaneously judging her through tone of voice, body language was really off putting. Domestic abuse was also going on which is a valid reason for divorce and separation under Gods eyes. She went through a lot and growing up in an Ugandan community probably meant she was fed negative and sexist ideologies that a woman shouldn’t leave if she’s abused.. I really do feel sorry for her and I think this interview did a massive disservice to this lady. This interview just felt pointless. “Take your time” instead of giving comforting her was kind of disgusting to watch. Domestic abuse turned into domestic violence ☹️.
There's no excuse! Women like his have no sense of duty, because all I'm hearing is 'me, me, me, me' what about breaking up her home, her child not growing up with her father in her household?? There was no abuse from her ex-husband she just wanted attention and gave into her lust... but still claiming she's a woman of God! 😂
SMH, always an excuse. There is no excuse to cheat. Its incredibly disgusting that you would bring the Lords name into this. She could've done the Godly thing and tell the truth, leave him before cheating and pursue the "work husband". Anything other than that is filth.
@@jamese5936 how is it disgusting? Please explain! If you’re a Christian how is referring to his teachings a bad thing? If she’s not Christian or religious I’d understand why it may be problematic. But this is my understanding and opinion.
This is how you know cheating sucks and is painful for both parties with no good outcome. You can tell she's hurting knowing what she has done has not only caused her marriage and family to break down but she gets stigmatised errrday by it and it hurts her. Let alone knowing how much pain she caused her husband and child. In a nutshell she's hurt herself by her own actions cheating on her husband. Any new guy that goes there knowing this woman is capable of stepping out easily is asking for unnecessary trouble. She had no respect for herself her husband or her child or marriage values or youth pastor duties. She Wrecked her relationship and marriage for what exactly?! It's mad yo. Hats off for being honest and speaking about it tho. The pain still sits deep inside her
She was "married at the tender age of 22." She had to qualify that it to make the woman who cheated less responsible. If At 22 you don't know that wrong is wrong, and that you pay a price for certain decisions, then you should see a psychiatrist. All through the interviews I have watched on this channel, this interviewer is always minimizing issues, making people appear stupid for being honest and straightforward, like telling this woman who said she confessed to the husband that she wouldn't have done it. Who cares about what you think? The interview is about the woman who cheated and had nothing to do with you. I have read commenters call her fake and I have come to agree with that.
The interviewer actually asked the right questions thus far. She's getting everything from her actual thoughts. Even the part that everyone hates in the comments on "why did you tell him" 95% wouldn't even had told they own spouse but quick to discredit someone for being open about how they handle something know if they ever got in those shoes then they would change their thought process
I remember a guy at my job started flirting with me, I said listen I'm a cool chick but I don't play that flirting stuff, I'm married! The coworker said to me, I can be your work husband, I said no you can't that's playing a dangerous game, and I don't do nothing behind my husband's back that i wouldn't do in his face. I said look let's just be coworkers and leave it like that, later on I found out, some of the men at my job had a bet who could sleep with me first🤯
I think the interviewer should have had a neutral standpoint. This allows the lady to be more free, comfortable, and honest. Not to be judgemental or personal, However, i think the lady handled it well.
Ultimately this interview has no need at all. It’s showing it’s ok to cheat and come out about it like it’s nothing. Girls are advocates to infidelity but to put the notion on a platform is spreading more toxicity
This interview is so wild solely because Loyce is so articulate, smart and seems really nice (despite the situation), but Mide seems cold and uneducated. Complete opposites
First of all, you have or had an actual husband… there’s no such thing as a “work husband”. All these silly titles and narratives being pushed forward are ridiculous
@@ChrisCollins-oj2fx exactly if this was a man saying this about having a work wife and cheating on his wife, women would be expecting her as the interviewer to read h to filth.. keep the same energy regardless of gender. Ain’t nobody cuddling feelings. Nope.
I liked the interviewer most ppl hate the truth,the reason society failed nowadays coz of lack of accountability,ppl looking for sympathy then continue the same mistakes over and over.
Emotions is worst foundation for a marriage... For a principled man he can control his emotions for the greater good but for women.. Most can't they'll almost always yeild to emotions and that union will not work... Do your best to find one not ruled by emotions and you'd have found a rare gem
I don't understand why y'all are coming for the interviewer, she asked the hard hitting questions instead of soft ball questions. She did nothing wrong in my opinion.
Ur right ,I thought I’m the only one thinking the interviewer asked good questions.nowadays ppl looking for sympathy instead of accountability then continue the same mistake over and over.
I don’t think this interviewer is bad she’s just using a presenter persona instead of interview. For example how you’ll introduce love island is not the same as an 1-2-1 interview. You lot be easy on her she defo has potential to be great. Zeze millz wasn’t better than her when she started
@@cu1728 the point wasn’t to bash zeze but to say this lady is good. She will grow better the more she puts herself out there. You lot want perfection from the jump
So the cheats are suddenly the victims; I don't care what you're suffering through; you either talk about it or break up; the solution was not to connect with another person; the sheer audacity, you took a commitment; this generation is full of selfish individuals. The interviewer is for the streets; what kind of counsel is that? If any young women are watching this, please do not follow the advice of any of these people; instead, learn from their mistakes.
cheating is wrong in a marriage 100%. Not condoning it at all but to then be violently abused for four months continuously is very cold. Anger can kill, we all need to learn how to use words.
I think this was a good interview dunno why peoole are angry at the interviewer, i didnt watch her first interview so i'm looking at it from a non biased view. She asked all the right questions & imo if we compare her to when zeze first started, shes waaay better. Zeze was always stuttering & you could see her thinking on the spot for questions to ask. In terms of loyce i genuinely dont know what to make of her & i really hate to say this but i question if everything she says is true. In the first podcast she did she put emphasis on the fact that her husband had let himself go and she was no longer attracted to him but there was no mention of that here apart from the church bit.
Who even came up with "spouse work" thing? How does that even make sens. Work suppose to be professional and spouse concept is personal, intimate. Right opposite to one another.
Exactly my thought, and I have been looking for this comment. If a partner is not content with the marriage or relationship, just leave or divorce rather than saying the man/woman made you to do it because you weren't getting all the attention. Do you know what your partner is going through in their own life, work, family stress, new child in, bills/debts etc and have to keep up with their own life. Just divorce or leave rather cheat and blame someone else.
Its never the woman fault love. Always our fault. Even if we worship the ground you walk on and give you the world, if you cheat, its our fault. Its why men are not interested in dating anymore.
I can’t lie, as wrong as what she did, she has a high level of accountability, which can be respected on the basis that she isn’t a bad person but just found herself making a foolish mistake… Hats off to her, because 95% of women have no accountability in these things!!
She showed no accountability. She’s manipulative. She just wasted you and my 40mins diplomatically explaining she got bored in her marriage, was seeing all her girlies on social media in their 304 phase and she wanted on Women will scuttle a marriage and entire family because they got bored which will never be a good enough reason to stray out or end a marriage
Why is everyone mad the interviewer ? She is asking direct questions that needs to be answered that no one else would dare to ask. I liked this interview
It's good that you tell all the guys that you cheated on your husband, but they will never trust you enough to marry you. ut they will get a piece and move on.
Interviewer: I give you your flowers for leading on these conversations🎉 Some constructive feedback; Please lean into the interviewees vulnerability, your tone, posture and body language can be vastly improved. You have the ability to sit with the greats study them plz 🙏🏾
Always the man's fault ain't it... My HUSBAND wasn't doing enuff, the work husband was doing too much... accountability is these women's kryptonite... smdh...
Interviewers aren’t supposed to sway the viewers emotions or perceptions. You ask straightforward questions and the person being interviewed will react naturally.
She does give off that mean girl vibe especially since she's wearing pink😂. But her eyes do seem empathetic towards the interviewee's situation especially when she talks about the DV.
Mide is a great interviewer who asks the right and difficult questions. Those who know her can tell she's very sympathetic but she tried her best to keep her cool for professional reasons
I like this is woman from backchat London s6 and I can’t be a hypocrite but this isn’t a flex I hope she is doing this for closure, healing , self awareness and real-ness. I hope she’s learned and gone through what God was teaching her in the suffering 💛 sending you healing sis.
Please, let's re-do this interview with a different interviewer. She is so beautiful, and her story is incredibly relatable to many women, especially those who marry young. Kudos to her for gracefully answering and sharing her side of the story despite the unsympathetic and odd follow-up questions. She deserves to be on a podcast that will do her justice. This interview just isn't it.
Came back to say that I feel for her and appreciate her honesty. She’s brave for coming out and being honest. She also has a lot of accountability and maturity.
"i wanna take you somewhere and wtach the wind blow through your hair" its interesting how women differ because this would absolutely make me cringe. Id think its something the guy had heard in a rom com. It's too cheesy & sounds like something you say just to flatter someone & anyone really.
The interviewer is not doing a good job, it's more of an interrogation than a conversation. But I admire the grace, sincerity and patience Loyce is responding with. But honestly, I somehow feel her pain.
I pray for God's healing for everyone hurting. I ask God to review and expose the conditions of the heart that might be dormant and eating away and compromise God's will for our lives so that true repentance, healing and reconciliation can take place. I pray that God's standards and image will be principles, beliefs and roadmap for this journey. Lord I ask that your daughter begins to find her purpose that you have for her in her relationship, career, and everything concerning her. We lift your Son in prayer that God will work on him. Every hurt, fear, anger, abandonment, disappointment, brokenness and distrust will be replaced with your perfect love. Lord you are the healer, and Great Physician for everyone who believes and asks in Jesus name, Amen.
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What kind of interviewer is she? Asking the lady why she told her husband the truth & saying that she would’ve never …
I agree, it’s not that straight forward. I know someone who confessed to cheating on their partner with 8men, the guilt was getting to them.
The interviewer dont have integrity , she slept with and had relationships with her friends men … so when she was so understanding about the lady getting on stage and turning single, it make sense now
@@youngodyssey16really? 😂
@@philly1076 yes lol
Those were my exact tats she sounds like someone who wouldn't have owend up to her actions
Sorry the interviewer just isn’t it.I don’t know if it’s just her tone but she comes across as mad fake, kind of a mean girl and judgy. She doesn’t seem to have much life experience or have interacted with a wide variety of people.
i agree
Perfectly said!
It's like she's forcing this Conservative image. She should do the bbc news. She needs to be herself
I agree especially when she asked the question at 36:31. She could have phrased it in a better way “what does co-parenting look like now after separating from your ex-husband” but NOPE she had to mention “infidelity”, making a mockery out of the situation 🙄🥴
So did Wendy Williams so …
The lady being interviewed should be the interviewer 🫣 she is way more empathetic and articulate
Yes ! Definitely don’t like the interviewer
Of course she’s empathetic to her own situation that’s a dumb comment
Empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes emotionally so what made you think my comment is about her empathising with herself - that’s doesn’t even make sense. You cannot be empathetic to yourself and your saying my comment is dumb, you have a lack of comprehension skills….. I’m talking about in regards to her being able to put herself in her fathers shoes, her child’s shoes, her former husbands shoes irregardless of his abuse etc. That’s a skill no everyone has, the interviewer is cold and clinical. More of a interrogation than a conversation she’s lucky the other girl has empathy as was able to deep dive into how the situation made others feels vs just herself or this would have been one dry interview…..
@@stefanmurrell5857 just because you took time to write a long a paragraph it doesn’t make it true why would it matter in this case the person being interviewed who did the wrong and looking for sympathy, if they had empathy for others come one that’s just a bunch of mumbo jumbo
@@connecttadot5168 the paragraph made perfect sense. I feel you may just struggle to comprehend. The underlying point is, no one, absolutely no one is perfect. And it's clear as day the interviewer believes her excrement doesnt stink.
Can we just cancel this interviewer since shes not fixing her faults 🥲🙄
Not everyone needs to be cancelled 🙄 if u don't like her stop watching lol
@merianviegas8822 Thanks fir that positive comment
No we can’t
We’re not watching because of her we’re watching because of the person being interviewed
@@Tracyauduexactly. And the interviewer is an interviewer. She’s not a therapist 🙄
Takes a lot of humility to be vulnerable. I wish healing for both parties
The lady conducting the interview seems to have no empathy.
Clearly lacking in general interviewing skills, especially on a sensitive topic such as domestic abuse/ domestic violence. I get it, trend centrl is about vibes, but where’s the advice and information for viewers who might be experiencing DA/DV? Where’s the duty of care for others, could’ve at least signposted to services such as NIA, women’s aid etc. overall, interesting life story, terrible interviewer
First comment i see, first thing i thought.
Empathy for a dirty fn cheat??
She's a narcissist.
Remember in the Tumelo interview she said “I’m an amazing person“ ot “it's giving part-time prostitution“ or when she said somewhere else she would date her friends ex and has done it before.
She's not meant to have . Certainly not for a married woman who sleeps with next man and then wonders why her husband is annoyed about it
The lady being interviewed is so stunning 🤍
A repugnant cheat
Too much paint on her face tho
@@j.samuel9646her makeup is subtle not even close to too much
Not for any of my 3 boys
I agree. She is stunning.
I can just imagine the energy level in that interview. The energy from the interviewer seems so undeniably off. She doesn't seem genuine. Just what im picking up.
I agree
Because she don't know how to speak properly, that young lady who had gone viral taught her a lesson and yes she is very rude with attitude that make she guests feel uncomfortable
110% its all a numbers game
I agree she does not seem genuine at all
The interviewer is weird. Ugandan Sis was baring her soul and the interview is staring at her like she is more interested in watching paint dry. No wonder that other girl (Think its Tomello or something) dragged her to hell
The interviewer can’t even pretend to have empathy for her. How is she speaking about her deceased father and her response is “mmm, mmm”
It’s so strange. Her reaction to the violence and domestic abuse was so wooden and cold.
She shouldn't have empathy for a cheater.
why should she have empathy for her she cheated
Lol empathy is something you either have or do not have , it's relative not a default trait.
@@SherryMoore-ij1qcno one should feel bad for a domestic abuser and a woman beater being cheated on. He deserved a lot worse than that for being a terrible spouse. You can’t behave like trash and expect your wife to remain loyal to you
She hasn’t learned at all. Now, it makes sense why that Tumelo interview went the way it did. 🤦🏾♀️
I really wanted to bring this up😂😂😂. That Tumelo show was something else. At least Tumelo was bold enough to go toe-to-toe with her. That was an awkward interview.😅
shes terrible 😂
Entertaining things like a “work wife” or “work husband” is essentially keeping the door ajar for infidelity down the road. It’s starts a slippery slope.
I will never & have never fixed my mouth to call no man my “work husband”
@@fayegillespie8426 yup.
@@fayegillespie8426it's not a matter of you calling it's work husband or work wife but it's a matter of entertaining another person while in a relationship. That's what the issue comes because if you are married then there is no reason to entertain the opposite gender.
I am starting to see what men say. When a woman cheats its the man's fault and if a man cheats its the mans fault .We as women never take accountability
Right??? It's so crazy the narrative she's trying to push
But it’s true though! If a woman cheats it’s definitely the man’s fault and if a man cheats it’s his fault
I was looking for this comment
I thought this she cheated but then does some mental gymnastics to take butter up her actions is crazy
@@alicerp2008THANK YOOOOOOOU 🔥🔥🔥 spot on
There’s actually A LOT to learn from this interview- thank you sis for sharing your story ❤
Yeah, never trust a women talking about men's control....
@DrJessicaKatanga, there really is!🙂 And she is honestly brave for having this conversation openly for others to learn from her mistakes. I would have taken it to my grave.🤣
Has she brushed up on her interview skills so she doesn't get dragged by her nostrils again 😂
😂😂😂😂 that was an epic interview
😂😂😂
And the answer is: no, she hasn’t!
wtf😂😂😂
I think this was a good interview 👌🏿
Mide please learn how to show empathy. Even if you don’t agree with someone’s life choice. This is your job. You chose to enter a field where you’d be exposed to things that don’t align with your morals. But hey that’s life. So please reflect on how you could conduct an interview more better.
Why show empathy for a dirty cheat? I’m confused?
Show empathy to a cheat?? That's why people don't take accountability for their actions cos people like you show empathy which tells them that what they did is not so bad.
@@speedy.gonzahlesExactly
@@Grand_Edictshe’s still human at the end of the day. Not saying what she did was right, but what she did doesn’t warrant her getting mistreated. At least she can stand in her truth unlike many others who hide in their lies. She’s taken accountability and I’m pretty sure she’s learnt a lot from this experience. He without sin cast the first stone!!!
@@Lifeasnikky I’ve done plenty of sin, but in all my relationships never has it ever occurred to me to humiliate my partner by cheating on them. I cannot imagine the depth of depravity one has to be content with to betray their own children and nuke the family unit. It’s unforgivable and every Ill treatment is earned. She went to efforts to hide her affair so she knew at every step what she was doing was wrong
For me personally I want to first commend this woman for her bravery and courage to do this interview despite the interviewers lack of empathy and compassion but this also is a eye opener for men who are in ministry and are young and want to get married about the things that’s could cause your wife to cheat this is very powerful ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
✨Cheating isn’t allowed but domestic violence is also a no I just think if the man knew he couldn’t handle it he should’ve just left the marriage you know but easier said than done
Really? Easier to beat your wife than to leave her .. interesting
Why is it commendable to come out and be open about ur sins? This hoe has exposed herself now she Gona be a single mom till she die
I love her honesty and standing in her truth
Yasss gurllll💁🏻♀️
If it was a nigga I’m sure u wont be saying “I love his honesty and standing on his truth” gurlllll🙄
Im going to start using that phrase.. i see alot of women say that when a women destroys their relationship or be a ho … when men cheat on their wife and instead of communicating what they wabt and need in a relationship , just cheat, im going to say i love his honesty and stand in his truth ..
Yeah, rightfully so. I do not applaud it, but she learned from it.
@@louiseaori well she can live her truth. How do u find this inspiring.
Oh stop being vein and dense men do it all the time, and even lie or deny it shut up. Have never seen a men admit to cheating but they do it constantly.😒
Loved this interview, she was so open and honest it’s refreshing! Host could have been friendlier though
Next subject should be how Black People have helped each other in the workplace especially know how challenging it can be getting the job and maintained it with all the workplace politics
Beautiful topic
My worst bosses have been black 😂
That would be a good topic 😊
nobody asked for that, we want the mess we want to be entertained 🤨
Start your own RUclips and talk about it
She needs to find a different job interviewer has really issues with herself her attitude is a no no 😊
What ppl don’t talk about is the way they both felt is actually normal in a marriage especially when the children come along. If you haven’t lived with someone before it’s difficult adjusting to someone being in ur space and having to manage each other’s emotions on a daily basis. All they had to do was stick it out and talk through everything
Well said
And the fact that she said she would never tell her husband she cheated like??? What in the hell are you tryna say?? I wanna show her grace but I've watched several interviews right from the girl from Omah lay concert, the girl she last interviewed before this. It's just terrible. But the lady did well to speak her truth. Owned her wrongdoing and she will be able to grow from there
Side note. Body is TEAAAA 😍
YES. IN THAT DRESSS
I remember hearing about this happening at our church and she received a lot of judgment. I’m happy she was able to share her story.
So nobody has Shame anymore? I’m sick of these negative topics in the black community. We need positive topics on relationships, marriage and careers
You clearly haven't watched this video if the first thing you think about is having shame
@@laxi8305 so you don’t think people should feel shame/be shamed for cheating? Problem with cheating is it destroys people. There is a real possibility that that man will go through life never trusting a woman, and worse, tormenting good women for what she did to him.
@@Grand_Edictthats not even the worse. Some men will even self delete over it.
Black people and especially Black women, love dysfunction. It's why BW in the comments 5 defending another BW making bad choices.
@@laxi8305 The major reason why the Japanese nation is as strong as it is economically and socially - one of the safest countries to live in, one of the greatest economies with not too a big a population - is that an individual understands that family is supreme and that nothing should be done to bring shame to the family. In black nations like Nigeria, South Africa, Jamaica, etc and places like the UK, the US, etc where black people are becoming an integral part of the society, we have lost shame and accountability, We have started to normalize certain behaviors and our communities are breaking down. This woman was part of a church, she had people who elevated her, people who emulated her, she had her Ugandan community, her parents and siblings. I don't know a society that doesn't look at this and say she didn't bring shame to them. I don't know a parent that would look at this and don't feel let down. And she did it with a man who was also in a relationship
What i notice is that when these women cheat with the fun guy, 9 times out of 10 they want to be with him, but he doesn't want to be with her. i think that when women say they weren't getting at home they really are, but they block it out because it ruins their fantasy of this other person, that's what give it a rush.
Wheeew no offence to the interviewer but maybe do some introspection about the energy given off because the snarkiness is really… off putting. It feels like you bring flawed people on just to belittle and judge them in order to feel superior. I know criticism is hard to hear so I hope this is received in good faith and not as an attempt to be malicious.
Also glad this woman decided to tell the truth, do not hide affairs, your partners deserve better and God requires confession, repentance and accountability in order to absolve you of your sin. All truth IS good truth because it’s God who requires the truth before anyone else. Anyone who tells you otherwise is leading you away from Him and that’s a dangerous path.
I felt this too
Amen
So vulnerable and so honest. Thanks for sharing. Wishing all parties healing and blessings❤
If you don't know the value of loyalty, you'll never understand the damage of betrayal 💯
Facts
Loyce is a person, with immense confidence, she articulates her vocabulary very well in her🧠 conversation. The poor interviewer is lite-years away with her in her grammar...she was trying to CATCH up mentally, but for ME it was like putting a DONKEY & LION in a cage. Loyce❤ & still you RISE... you've done your emotional marathon of a PAST life, & bared it all on social media. Most of all you're still standing STRONG with GRACE.👑
Why is everyone complaining about the interviewer, I don’t see anything… she’s just asking questions and being direct
By being so vulnerable online regarding her journey, how does this affect her work, and being in education, I know that you are told to be careful about what you post online once it's on the Internet its permanent. I commend her honesty and being raw and open about her journey. I wish only the best for her going forward.❤
Cheating is an active decision. If you love God you’d fear to hurt him by disobeying his commandments towards adultery. However, the bible also says husbands should cherish and love their wives. He neglected her and created an environment for her to feel the need to even crave someone else’s love and affection. The real question is - was there a conversation between the two to understand where the marriage was going wrong/communication ? I do think the interviewer would excel if she demonstrated more empathy and really dug deep into marriage,love and infidelity. Asking her questions and then also simultaneously judging her through tone of voice, body language was really off putting.
Domestic abuse was also going on which is a valid reason for divorce and separation under Gods eyes. She went through a lot and growing up in an Ugandan community probably meant she was fed negative and sexist ideologies that a woman shouldn’t leave if she’s abused.. I really do feel sorry for her and I think this interview did a massive disservice to this lady. This interview just felt pointless.
“Take your time” instead of giving comforting her was kind of disgusting to watch. Domestic abuse turned into domestic violence ☹️.
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There's no excuse! Women like his have no sense of duty, because all I'm hearing is 'me, me, me, me' what about breaking up her home, her child not growing up with her father in her household?? There was no abuse from her ex-husband she just wanted attention and gave into her lust... but still claiming she's a woman of God! 😂
SMH, always an excuse. There is no excuse to cheat. Its incredibly disgusting that you would bring the Lords name into this. She could've done the Godly thing and tell the truth, leave him before cheating and pursue the "work husband". Anything other than that is filth.
@@jamese5936 how is it disgusting? Please explain! If you’re a Christian how is referring to his teachings a bad thing? If she’s not Christian or religious I’d understand why it may be problematic. But this is my understanding and opinion.
@@jamese5936 and I never excused her cheating!
Thanks for being so open with your story
The lady being interviewed, Lois, is BEAUTIFUL❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is how you know cheating sucks and is painful for both parties with no good outcome. You can tell she's hurting knowing what she has done has not only caused her marriage and family to break down but she gets stigmatised errrday by it and it hurts her. Let alone knowing how much pain she caused her husband and child. In a nutshell she's hurt herself by her own actions cheating on her husband.
Any new guy that goes there knowing this woman is capable of stepping out easily is asking for unnecessary trouble. She had no respect for herself her husband or her child or marriage values or youth pastor duties. She Wrecked her relationship and marriage for what exactly?! It's mad yo. Hats off for being honest and speaking about it tho. The pain still sits deep inside her
Well said
Facts any man that goes in a relationship with her is fu*ked I hate cheaters ngl
She was "married at the tender age of 22." She had to qualify that it to make the woman who cheated less responsible. If At 22 you don't know that wrong is wrong, and that you pay a price for certain decisions, then you should see a psychiatrist.
All through the interviews I have watched on this channel, this interviewer is always minimizing issues, making people appear stupid for being honest and straightforward, like telling this woman who said she confessed to the husband that she wouldn't have done it. Who cares about what you think? The interview is about the woman who cheated and had nothing to do with you. I have read commenters call her fake and I have come to agree with that.
The interviewer actually asked the right questions thus far. She's getting everything from her actual thoughts. Even the part that everyone hates in the comments on "why did you tell him" 95% wouldn't even had told they own spouse but quick to discredit someone for being open about how they handle something know if they ever got in those shoes then they would change their thought process
I remember a guy at my job started flirting with me, I said listen I'm a cool chick but I don't play that flirting stuff, I'm married! The coworker said to me, I can be your work husband, I said no you can't that's playing a dangerous game, and I don't do nothing behind my husband's back that i wouldn't do in his face. I said look let's just be coworkers and leave it like that, later on I found out, some of the men at my job had a bet who could sleep with me first🤯
Why is the interviewer rude?????
She cheated on her husband. Do you want the interviewer to big her up or something?
I think the interviewer should have had a neutral standpoint. This allows the lady to be more free, comfortable, and honest. Not to be judgemental or personal, However, i think the lady handled it well.
Maybe interviewing a cheater won't bring out her friendly side
@@iffysd9864she already said if she cheated she would lie to her husband. She’s no saint either.
Ultimately this interview has no need at all. It’s showing it’s ok to cheat and come out about it like it’s nothing. Girls are advocates to infidelity but to put the notion on a platform is spreading more toxicity
The interviewer is so bad that's why this show is so good idc idc 😂😂😂
Exactly!😂
It’s like African and Careibean restaurants? The customer service is so bad but the food is good 😅
@@MegaLadylove2012exactly 😂😂😂 u described it perfectly.
Cheating is just ugly!. When you're cheated on, it is one of the most painful emotions ever!!
Wow I’m sry. I don’t feel hurt from cheating. Is there something wrong with me?
@@MegaLadylove2012 no just something wrong with the men that never saw the red flags before being with you, for you to gloat online you cheat.
This interview is so wild solely because Loyce is so articulate, smart and seems really nice (despite the situation), but Mide seems cold and uneducated. Complete opposites
Yes, very cold. Idk if it's triggering for her to hear what the young lady is saying, but she's ice.
I don’t like the interviewer but this guest is incredible thanks for sharing your story ❤
Such a beautiful woman ❤ Loyce provides an example of self reflection and vulnerability that I pray to reach one day as a woman. Great interview !
She's calculating rather.
Whats up with the interviewer!?
Yeah. She seems like a piece of work herself
Interview title should be a cheater interviewing another cheater 😂
First of all, you have or had an actual husband… there’s no such thing as a “work husband”. All these silly titles and narratives being pushed forward are ridiculous
🤦♂🤦♂
Loyce is beautiful
Very
I can appreciate the transparency and the honesty
I’m confused about what the issue with the interviewer is…are y’all that soft??
Thats what I'm saying lol people are too sensitive 😂
I've been waiting to see it but she seems to do a pretty good job to me. People are definitely being overly harsh.
The interviewer is not obliged to feel empathy. She remained neutral so what’s the problem here? 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Thank you. Its mainly women asking to be sheltered in this comments.
@@ChrisCollins-oj2fx exactly if this was a man saying this about having a work wife and cheating on his wife, women would be expecting her as the interviewer to read h to filth.. keep the same energy regardless of gender. Ain’t nobody cuddling feelings. Nope.
Exactly the she did a good job.
When she said leg work I just knew he was a Nigerian😂
Nope she’s from Uganda
Nope she’s from Uganda
@@saintchiji read the comment again
A self respecting men will never accept infedelity from a woman. If he says yes then he just want get a piece and dip
I liked the interviewer most ppl hate the truth,the reason society failed nowadays coz of lack of accountability,ppl looking for sympathy then continue the same mistakes over and over.
I love the guest, what a beautiful woman! 😍 She seems humble, honest and genuine.
She’s playing the victim like mad, get off the interviewers back you nerd, expecting her to just have all the empathy in the world for a cheater
Bro!!! It's f**King mad!
They're actually expecting her to have sympathy, ffs 🙈
After watching the whole thing... I think she's accepted that's she's not the victim of the cheating.
Emotions is worst foundation for a marriage... For a principled man he can control his emotions for the greater good but for women.. Most can't they'll almost always yeild to emotions and that union will not work... Do your best to find one not ruled by emotions and you'd have found a rare gem
I don't understand why y'all are coming for the interviewer, she asked the hard hitting questions instead of soft ball questions. She did nothing wrong in my opinion.
Ur right ,I thought I’m the only one thinking the interviewer asked good questions.nowadays ppl looking for sympathy instead of accountability then continue the same mistake over and over.
Because they are also cheaters
She asked good questions but lacks emotional intelligence
I don’t think this interviewer is bad she’s just using a presenter persona instead of interview. For example how you’ll introduce love island is not the same as an 1-2-1 interview.
You lot be easy on her she defo has potential to be great. Zeze millz wasn’t better than her when she started
From what I see, Zeze is still erratic, polarising and somewhat unlikeable by quite a few even now though😅
@@cu1728 the point wasn’t to bash zeze but to say this lady is good. She will grow better the more she puts herself out there. You lot want perfection from the jump
So the cheats are suddenly the victims; I don't care what you're suffering through; you either talk about it or break up; the solution was not to connect with another person; the sheer audacity, you took a commitment; this generation is full of selfish individuals. The interviewer is for the streets; what kind of counsel is that? If any young women are watching this, please do not follow the advice of any of these people; instead, learn from their mistakes.
Your too logical bro. These dumb hoes lack comprehension
cheating is wrong in a marriage 100%. Not condoning it at all but to then be violently abused for four months continuously is very cold. Anger can kill, we all need to learn how to use words.
Nobody cares
The moment you went "but" that was it for me.
Trash
U did not word this right delete n text over this g
The lady being interviewed is beautiful. Just the way she conducts herself and her honesty.
Ngl i love how this interview is conducted. If a man sat and excused his cheating like this, there would be outrage but bc its a woman??????
You admitted? Why? Is wild 😂😂😂😂
I think this was a good interview dunno why peoole are angry at the interviewer, i didnt watch her first interview so i'm looking at it from a non biased view. She asked all the right questions & imo if we compare her to when zeze first started, shes waaay better. Zeze was always stuttering & you could see her thinking on the spot for questions to ask.
In terms of loyce i genuinely dont know what to make of her & i really hate to say this but i question if everything she says is true. In the first podcast she did she put emphasis on the fact that her husband had let himself go and she was no longer attracted to him but there was no mention of that here apart from the church bit.
Who even came up with "spouse work" thing? How does that even make sens. Work suppose to be professional and spouse concept is personal, intimate. Right opposite to one another.
Modern relationships won't last without old school values as people are easily distracted and have no real values ,longterm is an idea of the past
I feel like everyone here are saint and never have made mistakes. Leave that girl alone, it’s clear she regrets doing it.
Worst interviewer ever!! Her facial expressions are SCARY!!!
So after watching this it was her husband fault that made her cheat .I am seeing its never a woman's fault when we cheat its always the mans fault
Exactly my thought, and I have been looking for this comment. If a partner is not content with the marriage or relationship, just leave or divorce rather than saying the man/woman made you to do it because you weren't getting all the attention. Do you know what your partner is going through in their own life, work, family stress, new child in, bills/debts etc and have to keep up with their own life. Just divorce or leave rather cheat and blame someone else.
Its never the woman fault love. Always our fault. Even if we worship the ground you walk on and give you the world, if you cheat, its our fault. Its why men are not interested in dating anymore.
I can’t lie, as wrong as what she did, she has a high level of accountability, which can be respected on the basis that she isn’t a bad person but just found herself making a foolish mistake…
Hats off to her, because 95% of women have no accountability in these things!!
She showed no accountability. She’s manipulative.
She just wasted you and my 40mins diplomatically explaining she got bored in her marriage, was seeing all her girlies on social media in their 304 phase and she wanted on
Women will scuttle a marriage and entire family because they got bored which will never be a good enough reason to stray out or end a marriage
Why is everyone mad the interviewer ? She is asking direct questions that needs to be answered that no one else would dare to ask. I liked this interview
Because they feel that women should be 'cuddled' and it also shows that they have never been pressed with this honest type of questioning!
Women mad at the interviewer but aint said a word about the women who actually cheated..this world is crazy
It's good that you tell all the guys that you cheated on your husband, but they will never trust you enough to marry you. ut they will get a piece and move on.
Hold this woman accountable for her actions
She has literally literally held herself accountable
@@JayWilliams-fq3gmNo she did not try to put it on him because real
She is not holding herself accountable if she thought she would cheat and the marriage not change she is dumb
They cut out so much of this
Yes
Interviewer: I give you your flowers for leading on these conversations🎉 Some constructive feedback; Please lean into the interviewees vulnerability, your tone, posture and body language can be vastly improved. You have the ability to sit with the greats study them plz 🙏🏾
This
Lol why’s this interview so fast. It’s like it’s been sped up
Always the man's fault ain't it... My HUSBAND wasn't doing enuff, the work husband was doing too much... accountability is these women's kryptonite... smdh...
I'm telling you it's absolutely nonsense
Especially black Women. Thats why they are the least married and most divorced race of Women for a reason
We see why tumelo dragged her😂😂
Interviewers aren’t supposed to sway the viewers emotions or perceptions. You ask straightforward questions and the person being interviewed will react naturally.
Loyce, im proud of you for sharing your story. People who are judging the most, do not know you. We know who you are! Who you really are. Love you x
And im sure you didnt hold her accpuntable for being a whore and destroying her family. Typical of Women excusing each others destructive behavior
She does give off that mean girl vibe especially since she's wearing pink😂. But her eyes do seem empathetic towards the interviewee's situation especially when she talks about the DV.
Nah how did the lady say she was going to attempt on her life and she’s “omg that’s so deep” PARDON ME?!! 😭😭😭😢
The interviewer needs to get a journalism diploma.
Mide is a great interviewer who asks the right and difficult questions. Those who know her can tell she's very sympathetic but she tried her best to keep her cool for professional reasons
Big up the young lady for being truthful to your husband.
You are never wrong for doing the right thing.
To make the matter worse is that, shes a youth pastor. Damn! Jesus come end this world!
Lead the youth
That means nothing - a lot of young people in churches are walking contradictions
They're worse, trust me.
She’s a human being. Lower your expectations with Pastors if you want to enjoy your Christianity my dear 🙏🏽
@@noirbeautyafrica. This is why Christianity is in a state.
I like this is woman from backchat London s6 and I can’t be a hypocrite but this isn’t a flex I hope she is doing this for closure, healing , self awareness and real-ness. I hope she’s learned and gone through what God was teaching her in the suffering 💛 sending you healing sis.
Please, let's re-do this interview with a different interviewer. She is so beautiful, and her story is incredibly relatable to many women, especially those who marry young. Kudos to her for gracefully answering and sharing her side of the story despite the unsympathetic and odd follow-up questions. She deserves to be on a podcast that will do her justice. This interview just isn't it.
IMO (in my opinion) podcast has two ep up with her!
Came back to say that I feel for her and appreciate her honesty. She’s brave for coming out and being honest. She also has a lot of accountability and maturity.
Let me guess, it's the man's fault?
It always is
You obviously didn’t watch the interview. She took full responsibility.
Respectfully, this interviewer should find another line of work.
Women always try to comfort other knowing they are wrong.
"i wanna take you somewhere and wtach the wind blow through your hair" its interesting how women differ because this would absolutely make me cringe. Id think its something the guy had heard in a rom com. It's too cheesy & sounds like something you say just to flatter someone & anyone really.
He was the first for everything. Including the first person to cheat on 😂😂😂
Not funny
Shes funny, you have to be a whole walking joke to say that seriously!
Ok..
Unpopular opinion; both were great. I enjoyed watching this
This marriage sounds like they were both to young? The lack of courting leads to entanglement's
The interviewer is not doing a good job, it's more of an interrogation than a conversation. But I admire the grace, sincerity and patience Loyce is responding with.
But honestly, I somehow feel her pain.
I pray for God's healing for everyone hurting. I ask God to review and expose the conditions of the heart that might be dormant and eating away and compromise God's will for our lives so that true repentance, healing and reconciliation can take place. I pray that God's standards and image will be principles, beliefs and roadmap for this journey. Lord I ask that your daughter begins to find her purpose that you have for her in her relationship, career, and everything concerning her. We lift your Son in prayer that God will work on him. Every hurt, fear, anger, abandonment, disappointment, brokenness and distrust will be replaced with your perfect love. Lord you are the healer, and Great Physician for everyone who believes and asks in Jesus name, Amen.
Amen 🙏🏾 God bless you Tosin