Were Wife and Newborn Murdered by Mystery Intruder or Lazy Husband? | Craig Vandewege Case Analysis

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  • @dogsmumm
    @dogsmumm Год назад +351

    Killing a three month old baby is a special kind of disgusting.

    • @smfarrie2943
      @smfarrie2943 Год назад +21

      And the mother of that baby too.

    • @Timefortracy
      @Timefortracy Год назад +21

      And with a knife to the throat, up close and personal.

    • @sheilagravely5621
      @sheilagravely5621 Год назад +15

      Only the lowest of cowards would kill innocents. Fry the bastard!

    • @rebekah7635
      @rebekah7635 Год назад

      The mom was a witness, the baby couldn't speak yet. I can imagine a criminal thinking they have to eliminate a witness but even professional killers would've left that baby alone. This guy is a special kind of sick. Even beyond the average killer.@@smfarrie2943

    • @ns4725
      @ns4725 Год назад +3

      Killing a pre-born baby is just as evil.

  • @TheEMC99
    @TheEMC99 Год назад +360

    An intruder doesn't need to slit the throat of a baby. Smh. They're not a threat. He's a truly sick person to have done this.

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 Год назад +41

      Exactly! Why would a home invader kill an infant that can’t be a witness? Completely unbelievable

    • @Ran-33
      @Ran-33 Год назад +27

      Absent fathers is the best thing sometimes.

    • @Nylak-Otter
      @Nylak-Otter Год назад +6

      Seriously. If they're trying to quiet them so as not to draw attention, they'd just bash them or smother them, not pull out a knife and bleed em out like livestock.

    • @tashastidwell6915
      @tashastidwell6915 Год назад +7

      @@Nylak-Otter or just put the baby in a closet and close the door 🚪

    • @toddkorson8207
      @toddkorson8207 Год назад +3

      I’m sure he was is a shyt bag, but intruders do often times murder everyone.

  • @GAshoneybear
    @GAshoneybear Год назад +253

    I'm honestly surprised he didn't get the death penalty considering the brutal nature in which he killed the baby.

    • @kathybates1751
      @kathybates1751 Год назад +18

      Should have!

    • @ravensthatflywiththenightm7319
      @ravensthatflywiththenightm7319 Год назад +33

      Sadly you know how it goes. When someone decides on the death penalty, hundreds of ignorant airheads get out on the streets screaming "human rights!"
      And completely forget "What about the human rights of the victims?"

    • @CastledarkDweller27
      @CastledarkDweller27 Год назад +11

      So no death sentence? So did he get life in jail? And he’s in jail now?
      Well if that’s the case then some heavy hitter fellow prisoners aren’t doing their job….if that monster is still breathing.

    • @barbieblue3336
      @barbieblue3336 Год назад +8

      And it's Texas

    • @wilhelmhagberg4897
      @wilhelmhagberg4897 Год назад +7

      Society must act more civil than a deranged, primitive murderer. As horrific as these crimes are, it’s much worse if civilization itself stoops to the same levels.

  • @elliebellie7816
    @elliebellie7816 Год назад +242

    When your wife turns up dead and you just sort of can't remember you personally just increased her life insurance policy up to $700,000. Tell me you murdered your wife without telling me you murdered your wife...

    • @Mang-ej5ul
      @Mang-ej5ul Год назад

      I bet the insurance companies just know someone’s going to get murdered when this happens.

    • @Gizziiusa
      @Gizziiusa Год назад +6

      Taking a deep snooze in an uncomfortable chair in the police interrogation room mere hours after the murder of your family.
      Tell me you are a total psychopath, without telling me you're a total psychopath.

  • @lucyjanecruz
    @lucyjanecruz Год назад +274

    No thief goes through the kitchen cabinets. Yet so many fakers rifle the cabinets and kitchen drawers. Like anyone wants your old IKEA dishware and junk drawer full of paper clips and mystery keys.

    • @wolfe6220
      @wolfe6220 Год назад +39

      I was thinking the same thing! Although, I did find some Ikea bowls at a thrift store last month that are really nice. Maybe I should install an alarm system in case theives break in to steal them and sell them on the Ikea black market 🤔

    • @gwensstepbro4966
      @gwensstepbro4966 Год назад +28

      You're not aware of the well known and lucrative IKEA underworld?

    • @gwensstepbro4966
      @gwensstepbro4966 Год назад +17

      But in all seriousness people underestimate the police. This brings me back to the fact that nine times out of ten the evildoer is too incompetent to understand what he's up against.

    • @elliebellie7816
      @elliebellie7816 Год назад +20

      This is always my point in the Darlie Routier case. No one wanders through suburban neighborhoods at night planning to have time to root through drawers or scout out countertops in order to find a weapon to kill two little boys especially when it's obvious the family is at home. They either bring it with them or someone in the house knows where the weapons are.

    • @Jessierin85
      @Jessierin85 Год назад +11

      Idk. Instant pots and blenders can be expensive. What about an 500 dollar mixer?

  • @TheOldandslow
    @TheOldandslow Год назад +131

    Kills a newborn. Wow. What a monster.

    • @mshockey73
      @mshockey73 Год назад +10

      That he didn't think twice about doing that to a defenseless little baby is so disturbing:(

  • @loiskondo8349
    @loiskondo8349 Год назад +303

    He didn’t like his wife’s appearance, like he was some beauty! She was beautiful! As always my sympathy goes to the victims and their family! Thank you Dr. Grande for your thoughtful look into this horrific crime!

    • @marctitus5874
      @marctitus5874 Год назад +49

      Yea I think she was, also. People's perceptions of physical beauty are not based in reality. I suspect constant access to mass media and pornography has something to do with it.

    • @Griselda_Puppy
      @Griselda_Puppy Год назад +34

      She laid down and had THEIR child FOR him, he should have WORSHIPPED her for that!!!

    • @leahvogelsimpson
      @leahvogelsimpson Год назад

      Right. She's a better looking human than that goof mf.

    • @sassycat6468
      @sassycat6468 Год назад +24

      He's a real Munter alright, his wife and child on the other hand were beautiful, may they rest in peace.

    • @FearMyLadyBits
      @FearMyLadyBits Год назад

      ​@@marctitus5874I'm going to say inadequate sex ed is the reason so many GUYS have unreal expectations of women. Sure you can tell a kid a baby grows inside the mommy, but SO MUCH is going on inside a woman in such a short period of time. and then post natal! Most -women- don't even know about the "first poo" they'll have to take after the birth. Guys don't have a clue that the new mom is going to be super sore, wiped out, grungy, and just not interested in intimacy for at least a couple months after popping out "junior" and seem really shocked they'll have to use their hand if they want to get any.

  • @tmajcan94
    @tmajcan94 Год назад +300

    It takes a whole different breed of monster to cut the throat of an innocent 3 month old baby, especially your own and your devoted wife to boot. If your having marital and financial issues, either seek counseling to work it out or divorce. Nobody learns anything from Chris Watts and others i swear. Rest in peace to the innocent victims.

    • @cleopatria5316
      @cleopatria5316 Год назад +28

      I hope he rott in hell im so tired of kids getting killed by their parents sad bring back death penalty.

    • @aarondavis8943
      @aarondavis8943 Год назад +24

      These behaviours are due to profound personality disorders.
      The two most important phrases in understanding these cases are _lack of empathy_ and _lack of insight._ The lack of insight prevents people from learning fundamental lessons like "murdering is immoral, stupid and self-destructive and you'll get caught.' It just falls on deaf ears because in these people's minds, they're smarter and craftier than everyone else, who they view and intellectual pygmies. In their minds, they already know everything. They are close minded, self-centred and arrogant to absurd degrees.
      With respect to this case specifically, this guy was a total freak. He was probably on his way to do a massacre when he was pulled over. Hardly the type of person who was up for learning lessons and personal growth.

    • @MsSilverTulip
      @MsSilverTulip Год назад +17

      ​@aarondavis8943 you forgot the massive ego and sense of entitlement. They feel they are special and deserve whatever they want when they want it

    • @friendlykiwi384
      @friendlykiwi384 Год назад +9

      Yes, just divorce. Far better option than………this😢

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 Год назад

      ​@@aarondavis8943he is a psychopath...

  • @megleland6320
    @megleland6320 Год назад +483

    Takes a special kind of -person- monster to kill their own tiny baby...with a knife. The "law" better not give this guy any furlow or parole, he may look human, but he isn't.

    • @KoolT
      @KoolT Год назад +16

      Amen

    • @wolfe6220
      @wolfe6220 Год назад +38

      Oh, don't worry. He is currently residing in our state's finest hotel. One that is extremely dangerous, rife with drug gangs. It makes places like San Quentin look like kindergarten.😆
      There is no air conditioning for the residents, so summer temps regularly hit 110-115° during the day and "cool down" to 90-95° at night.🥵
      Unlike in most prisons, you aren't given shampoo/soap/toothpaste upon arrival. 💩 You have to earn it. The work you do there is not paid at all.
      Food is horrible, but if you act a fool, they'll mix all your food for a meal together into a loaf and bake it. 🤢
      And although I'm sure women are lining up for *miles* to visit Craig (sarcasm), TX does not allow conjugal visits. 😳

    • @leahvogelsimpson
      @leahvogelsimpson Год назад +15

      It's absolutely horrific. I feel nauseous just hearing Dr Grande talk about it.

    • @LenaL146
      @LenaL146 Год назад +4

      💯

    • @Tailionis
      @Tailionis Год назад

      ​@@wolfe6220doubtful. Probably luxurious beds and AC and tv

  • @KarisPigNose
    @KarisPigNose Год назад +73

    He told co-workers he didn't like his wife's appearance? What a pig.

    • @kittywitty6507
      @kittywitty6507 Год назад +7

      Ikr, like he was some Adonis. 🙄

    • @bluecollarlit
      @bluecollarlit 4 месяца назад +1

      (the swine community) -
      "Hey! We don't claim this guy!"

  • @elizabethhamm5320
    @elizabethhamm5320 Год назад +236

    Crazy why these evil men even bother to get married and have children. Thanks for another great video. I always love starting my day with an offering of your analysis

    • @ad6417
      @ad6417 Год назад +35

      Because it provides them with a facade of being a good person.

    • @jlllx
      @jlllx Год назад +14

      they can't think or feel ahead.

    • @ds7900
      @ds7900 Год назад

      Evil men? Have you watched the videos showcasing the women killers? Talk about inculpatort factors!

    • @stardust4225
      @stardust4225 Год назад +31

      Because it did serve them some purpose at some point. Then it didn't.

    • @nataliep501
      @nataliep501 Год назад +14

      Some people like the idea of having kids but don't want to put in the work and sacrifice it requires

  • @Jen-X333
    @Jen-X333 Год назад +75

    I love how Mr. Fatty himself was ‘unhappy’ with his wife’s physical appearance.

    • @kamiasana
      @kamiasana 3 месяца назад +7

      Especially when his wife had just given birth to a precious little boy.

  • @soulfoodsmama2980
    @soulfoodsmama2980 Год назад +79

    This is absolutely horrifying. RIP to the mama + baby. 🖤

  • @mamaduck9370
    @mamaduck9370 Год назад +68

    I think I know why people blame "demons" for crimes like these, it's almost too hard to accept a mortal man could commit such evil just so he can live a bachelor's life.
    Thanks for the video.

    • @carmendaniel3734
      @carmendaniel3734 Год назад +5

      A demon in human form. He deserves the death penalty. How could anyone kill a little baby? He better watch out in prison.

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 Год назад

      You must not know History.

  • @dicedrice7216
    @dicedrice7216 Год назад +130

    It seems I've been watching too many of your videos because lately I've noticed myself saying things like, "Here are a few things that stood out to me," and then numerically listing my concerns.
    Thank you for helping me communicate more logically.

    • @angepack1
      @angepack1 Год назад +10

      I once told a friend I was trying to be “pro-social “.

    • @bitteralmonds666
      @bitteralmonds666 Год назад +16

      "Now for the timeline of the crime..."
      Shit's about to get REAL 💀💦

    • @vickinoeske1154
      @vickinoeske1154 Год назад +4

      Haha

    • @katiesimpson8517
      @katiesimpson8517 Год назад +7

      Oh my! Me too. Watching Dr. Grande has assisted my linear thinking process.
      Sigh....

    • @Ken-fh4jc
      @Ken-fh4jc Год назад +7

      I’ve been telling dry dad jokes. I’m not even a dad.

  • @barbieblue3336
    @barbieblue3336 Год назад +18

    You're correct. Narcissism can be monstrously evil. Be careful

  • @hotfudgecake
    @hotfudgecake Год назад +60

    As a mom i think this would be the most horrifying way to be killed. Stabbed while your kids are there.
    Its not an instant death . So while you are being stabbed and begin to bleed out ,your last thoughts are probably about what will happen to the poor baby, there is a killer in the house with the baby 😢😢😢 a mothers worst nightmare .this is so disgusting and sad . I wish we used the death penalty for things like this. Maybe they will. This monster deserves nothing less

    • @Dhruv_Dogra
      @Dhruv_Dogra Год назад +11

      Yes. He deserves it for sure!!

    • @karenallen5208
      @karenallen5208 Год назад +11

      Years ago, they would've fried the monster. However, crimes like this continue to escalate because society has softened on violent crime. I have my own beliefs as to why, but I don't want to get into politics.

    • @MsBonsai2010
      @MsBonsai2010 5 месяцев назад +1

      He'll get wht he deserves in prison.

  • @murphychurch8251
    @murphychurch8251 Год назад +40

    The poor woman...she must have been so happy to finally have a living baby, only to have the little boy and herself murdered. 😢
    Why did this ogre marry her, keep on being married and have a family with her when he didn't appreciate her? And then he just offed them. What an egotistical bastard. I hope he rots in prison.

    • @dawn1913
      @dawn1913 Год назад +2

      Thank you. So refreshing to hear blame where it belongs, with the one making the choice to murder. And not the murdered victim!

  • @yayinternets
    @yayinternets Год назад +40

    I grew up with Shanna (in a very small town, very rural area). She graduated HS in 1998, a year after I did. Our respective classes were maybe 20 students each, so a very small and tight-knit community. Shanna and I were Facebook friends, but I don’t think I’d seen her since High School.

She was a very kind person and it has been an absolute tragedy for her family and the community. Her parents are salt of the earth type of people; her mom (at least when I lived there) cleaned people’s houses including my parents, and her dad worked at the local tractor dealer as a mechanic.
    I always found the photos of Craig to be unsettling; something just didn’t seem right about him. I’m not some perfect social person by any means, but he just always had weird expressions, his beard was cut in weird ways, etc. Never met the guy, but I was definitely suspicious of him. Shanna was pretty shy, so I can imagine him being pretty persuasive. He also love bombed her in Facebook posts, especially in the months before her murder.
    Craig’s FB posts were shared to “Friends of Friends” and he had posted a few very unusual things in the hours after the murder happened. Something about going to Las Vegas to meet Trump that also contained “yee yee!” in them or something like that, but they have since been deleted. Her family initially supported him but backed off quickly after these posts, and him leaving TX.
    It’s a bummer that he never faced a real trial. Her family spent a lot of money on lawyers to help the trial keep moving, and the community had various fundraisers to help them pay for the expenses of lawyers and staying in TX for various phases of the trial.

    Lastly, I’ve been watching Dr. Grande for many years. I started back when he mostly covered psychology-specific topics. It totally caught me off-guard to see him cover a tragedy that I have a personal connection to.

    • @pinkishpoo
      @pinkishpoo Год назад +8

      I agree: he looks fake, creepy, sleazy, empty, gradiose in the pictures, like trying to be funny/ happy human but failing each time.
      That what's narcisst looks like.
      I've been with one.
      I wonder why most people don't see/ sense that while it is so obvious.

    • @gazepskotzs4
      @gazepskotzs4 Год назад +3

      ​@@pinkishpooexperience with these people makes you recognise them

    • @rebekah7635
      @rebekah7635 Год назад +3

      Sorry for your loss.

    • @Kathy-us6zx
      @Kathy-us6zx 11 месяцев назад +3

      I had a weird feeling too when I saw him in the pics

    • @bluecollarlit
      @bluecollarlit 4 месяца назад

      I've noticed many members of the U.S. Congress have crazy eyes like that.

  • @RileyRunsWithScissors
    @RileyRunsWithScissors Год назад +89

    The moment he said his baby was still asleep at 10:30 am, I felt like he was lying and was guilty. Babies and toddlers don’t sleep in.

    • @cee-emm
      @cee-emm Год назад +14

      A 3 month old baby is still going to sleep up to 16 hours a day and will still nurse/eat every 2-4 hours. I would assume that the baby was up to eat earlier and just sleeping again as that would be completely normal.

    • @TheEMC99
      @TheEMC99 Год назад +14

      I'm currently nursing a 5 week old. I was more suspect that mama was sleeping in. It's possible though when you only have one. Not for me though as we have 5. 😂❤

    • @maiaallman4635
      @maiaallman4635 Год назад +6

      ​​@@TheEMC99I agree. When my kids were small babies I almost never got a chance to sleep. Good luck to you and your baby!

    • @jbellfield
      @jbellfield Год назад +4

      Ours wakes up at 7:30am like he has an inbuilt alarm, eats poops & plays then falls asleep again around 10 until lunch.

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 Год назад +3

      They went out and then came home “to play video games” so it’s possible they would be taking a nap. Especially since mama was probably up a lot during the night. They probably really did lay down to take a nap when he murdered them

  • @shellyharry8189
    @shellyharry8189 Год назад +56

    I'm very surprised that Texas didn't give him the death penalty

    • @ad6417
      @ad6417 Год назад +11

      Because juries falsely believe that a life sentence will be worse for a psychopath in the death penalty.

    • @goshafrau3636
      @goshafrau3636 Год назад

      I've noticed texas has this problem where religious people pretend to be DP qualified and give life no parole regardless. And it's often some realy realy heinous crimes, involving children too. I dunno how these 'juries' can wake up in the morning and feel ok about themselves.

    • @mrjonesandme8848
      @mrjonesandme8848 Год назад

      Too many libs moving to Texas

    • @citizenoftheearth6
      @citizenoftheearth6 Год назад +3

      he is white, Trump supporter, and has lots of guns. that is why

    • @mrjonesandme8848
      @mrjonesandme8848 Год назад

      @@citizenoftheearth6 he is white and the jury was self righteous liberals with BLM and Ukraine flags in their SM bio's. If he was a Trump supporter, they would've crucified him

  • @Jem395
    @Jem395 Год назад +36

    I worked in the same warehouse where Craig was a manager. I appreciate you covering this case as I have always wondered what the outcome was. I spoke with the coworker you mentioned after the murders. This person said Craig hated his wife and had spoken at one point about killing her. But nobody
    thought he was serious.
    I didn't personally know him, but i saw him frequently at work. He seemed like a nice guy. You never know about people. I'm glad he's in prison. I still can't process what he did.

    • @lisas8244
      @lisas8244 Год назад +9

      @Jem395 Comments about killing a spouse should always be taken seriously. Even if you're someone who can't imagine really doing such a thing, there are many people who have no compunction about taking another person's life. We must speak up and get involved to save lives.

  • @kenya1067
    @kenya1067 Год назад +63

    This is so sad. Idek why he would go out of his way to create a family if he didn't want one. Absolutely disgusting. May they rest in peace.

    • @ad6417
      @ad6417 Год назад +16

      Because it's part of his facade of being a good person.

    • @elliebellie7816
      @elliebellie7816 Год назад +16

      It's my opinion only but I believe the majority of men (not all but the majority) don't really want the responsibility for children but go ahead and say okay so the wife will marry them and start taking care of them. As I said, my opinion only.

    • @MostDecentNA
      @MostDecentNA Год назад +8

      @@elliebellie7816I think this is very common. It’s rare to find a guy who wants children nowadays. Too much economic strain and the pressure always tops toward the direction of men. Not at all to excuse him for what he did, but I don’t understand why either of them opted to have a baby while not having a plan for finances. It seems like they both had decent jobs and could have made this work if they’d planned better.

    • @lynnewilliams3241
      @lynnewilliams3241 Год назад +1

      I too have so many questions. Why not divorce and abandon a child but to slit throats takes the facade of normalcy and the reality of a rabid animal. I will never understand.😢

    • @lisas8244
      @lisas8244 Год назад +4

      @@lynnewilliams3241 The answer is obvious. He wanted the $700,000 from the life insurance policy.

  • @alexpd308
    @alexpd308 Год назад +11

    It’s one of the most disgusting crimes I can imagine. After all that loss, murdering your wife and baby . It’s unbelievably cruel.

  • @Meela234
    @Meela234 Год назад +102

    He had a lot of nerve talking about her physical appearance when he wasn't a looker by a long shot. I take it, he had not looked in a mirror in a few years?

    • @lisas8244
      @lisas8244 Год назад +11

      @Meela234 When you are narcissistic and have a grandiose view of yourself, you grossly over estimate your looks and charm.

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 Год назад +14

      If her appearance bothered him so much, why'd he marry her?

    • @Parousia001
      @Parousia001 Год назад +16

      @@Hatbox948Exactly! I wonder if it was because of her pregnancy that he now found her unattractive. If so, he’s quite juvenile and unrealistic in his expectations!

  • @marcusaetius9309
    @marcusaetius9309 Год назад +49

    I suspect that once that guy gets into prison the other inmates will give him a “special “ reception…😠

  • @Kai...999
    @Kai...999 Год назад +192

    For years I've been wondering something, how do you maintain your sanity from analyzing so many heinous cases?

    • @TronBonneVonne
      @TronBonneVonne Год назад +15

      He most likely switches RUclips mode on and off when necessary.

    • @mrs.reluctant4095
      @mrs.reluctant4095 Год назад +8

      I do too.

    • @stt5v2002
      @stt5v2002 Год назад +52

      I have worked in in ER for 23 years. I have seen a lot of tragedy, violent crime, and death. People ask me this often. The truth is that you just get so used to it that it doesn’t effect you in a personal emotional way. I know that sounds odd. I know it sounds like there is something wrong with me. I often worry about that too. But almost everyone who frequently sees this stuff gets used to it. I think most people would experience the same, even if they don’t think they would.

    • @jeng8401
      @jeng8401 Год назад +21

      It’s part of their training. I have a friend in HR and part of her training is handling being screamed at by disgruntled employees.

    • @anthonynicholson5523
      @anthonynicholson5523 Год назад +3

      No kidding!

  • @666ydney
    @666ydney Год назад +14

    there is no such thing as a harmless narcissist 👏🏻

  • @Meela234
    @Meela234 Год назад +42

    Boy am I glad I subscribed to this channel! This kind of content with all the research, usually gets uploaded maybe once a week, if lucky. Dr. Grande uploads just about every day! Thank you!!

    • @alicewunderlund
      @alicewunderlund Год назад +3

      YES, he is great!

    • @pipermccool
      @pipermccool Год назад +5

      But I’d prefer that he ran short on material. 🫤

  • @bunnymad5049
    @bunnymad5049 Год назад +7

    For someone who dealt in optics, I'm amazed he didn't see how weak his plan was. I'm so sorry for her and the baby and their loved ones.

  • @flem6
    @flem6 Год назад +27

    I believe it’s in David Simon’s excellent non-fiction book “Homicide” where I first heard a detective describe how “the guilty ones always sleep”. Innocent suspects would be too distressed to behave like that. What a P.O.S.

    • @srsusansummers3070
      @srsusansummers3070 Год назад +6

      I heard this on the show Murder She Wrote

    • @DarkKnight-yz2wg
      @DarkKnight-yz2wg Месяц назад

      The Wire!!!! I love this book. Baltimore is rough…. And that book spawned a lot of narratives in the genre that were mimicked throughout

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Год назад +36

    This man is a monster, how could he do this despicable act with his own baby!
    Great review as always! I hope you have a wonderful Sunday, Dr. Grande.❤

  • @bishopundead5478
    @bishopundead5478 Год назад +15

    This is the best channel on RUclips period. The consistency of uploads is UNMATCHED. 👏🏼💯

  • @DeidresStuff
    @DeidresStuff Год назад +59

    Insurance companies should have to report large increases in life insurance policies to the police.

    • @CastledarkDweller27
      @CastledarkDweller27 Год назад +10

      Bloody FANTASTIC idea!!

    • @lisas8244
      @lisas8244 Год назад +14

      Or demand that both parties are present when the papers are signed. Many times the partner doesn't even know a large life insurance policy has been taken out on them because the signature is forged.

    • @Mang-ej5ul
      @Mang-ej5ul Год назад +1

      Maybe there is a financial incentive for them not to?

    • @citizenoftheearth6
      @citizenoftheearth6 Год назад

      @@lisas8244 I always wonder why is it legal to get insurance for someone else, without them being present, After all these murders motivated by insurance money, you think someone would think of changing the law.

    • @derkeheath5172
      @derkeheath5172 Год назад +2

      And what exactly would the police be able to do with that information? Absolutely nothing. It would be useless and a massive waste of their time. Large insurance increases are quite common, and the vast majority do not end in murder.
      Lisas8244's comment that both spouses' presence should be required when increasing life insurance policies is an excellent one, though.

  • @irfanyr
    @irfanyr Год назад +24

    Dr Grande is so good at explaining these situations that he rarely needs to show audio or video from incidents.

  • @michiganjfrog5714
    @michiganjfrog5714 Год назад +6

    I think he found himself a nurse with a purse and when she quit working, he decided to get rid of her. This is the saddest episode I have watched so far. What a heartless monster he was.

  • @KH-on5pu
    @KH-on5pu Год назад +39

    I am your biggest fan from Saudi Arabia 🇸🇦😍

    • @SentMyOwnWay
      @SentMyOwnWay Год назад +6

      How are human rights going over there?

    • @lynnmothibeli325
      @lynnmothibeli325 Год назад +8

      ​@@SentMyOwnWayWhat kind of question is this?😂

    • @SentMyOwnWay
      @SentMyOwnWay Год назад +3

      @@lynnmothibeli325it is an interrogative question.

    • @TronBonneVonne
      @TronBonneVonne Год назад +5

      You know it's not that great. But they have their good side, despite not being up to snuff w/ western human rights standards. This doesn't make the west better, just different.

    • @velvetbees
      @velvetbees Год назад +1

      ​​@@SentMyOwnWayBut this is not an interogation. It is a video by Dr. Grande. (Our favorite psych analyst and informal comic genius.)

  • @GigiRulesTheRoost
    @GigiRulesTheRoost Год назад +27

    I am hoping that, if a friend or coworker mentioned to me that they want to kill their wife/husband and are having dreams about cutting off their partner's head, etc., I would do something about this. Not sure what but at least do something? I don't know. Maybe call the partner? report to management or some authority? This is NOT normal for people to tell other people this kind of stuff. He also told someone how easy it would be to murder someone (I think that is what Dr. Grande reported) and how he had constant thoughts about murdering (which I am sure was a set up so later he would have evidence that he was not in his right mind if he got caught and arrested). That being said, what a disgusting POS this guy is. Poor woman and her little baby boy. Someone here in the comments asked....why do these men marry and have children in the first place just to kill them all off? Yeah, what about that? AND thinking they can get away with it. It is all so mind-boggling.

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 Год назад +4

      They are the family annihilators...evil psychopaths... he should get the death penalty!

    • @citizenoftheearth6
      @citizenoftheearth6 Год назад +2

      I also can't believe people don't report things like that. awful.

  • @TheKatyPB
    @TheKatyPB Год назад +7

    Thanks, doctor. Right on the money about narcissism.

  • @dissidentfairy4264
    @dissidentfairy4264 Год назад +11

    What a despicable man from every perspective!

  • @leahvogelsimpson
    @leahvogelsimpson Год назад +19

    That poor mama & baby. I honestly hope he killed her first so she didn't have to witness the brutal killing of her precious newborn baby. It's making me cry just thinking about it.

  • @Mang-ej5ul
    @Mang-ej5ul Год назад +26

    Dr. Grande! What are the red flags to husbands like this??? All these women seemed to trust their men not to murder the family. What did they miss?

    • @angepack1
      @angepack1 Год назад +19

      I would think wanting your pregnant wife, who previously has had so many complications, to move across the country so you could have a better job at Costco would be a red flag

    • @elliebellie7816
      @elliebellie7816 Год назад

      @@angepack1 Plenty of non-murderous men move around for better employment and the family happily follows. Plus, you might want to check out all the benefits and perks of working for Costco - that would easily change your mind.

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 Год назад +2

      @@angepack1not if the plan was to increase his salary so she could be home with the baby.

    • @Emm325
      @Emm325 Год назад +5

      Check out Dr. Grande’s classic videos, one is entitled “10 signs you’re married to a narcissist/psychopath” etc. and they all have the same M.O, controlling, emotionally manipulating, gaslighting, entitlement, exploitation, scheming, thinking they are hot shit, (these go for men and women) increasing life insurance, having a secret life where they’re on a bunch of dating apps, spending and stealing money behind their spouse’s back, planning all kinds of ways to get rid of them as these grandiose losers always think that the spouse and child are the problem, when in reality it’s the psycho that is too cowardly to look in the mirror for the true source. That would also explain the delusion in how great looking they think they are in every case, when they are always the farthest thing from a prize. 😂

    • @Parousia001
      @Parousia001 Год назад +3

      @@Emm325If only they were easier to spot _before_ we end up marrying them!

  • @jimcronin2043
    @jimcronin2043 Год назад +29

    He might have resented his wife because of the loss of her nursing income and the resultant financial problems. Perhaps she had agreed to return to work after the birth and then changed her mind. She probably would have done so because of her correct perception that he was unable to render sufficient support in caring for the child. So he blamed their problems on her and took none of the responsibility onto himself.

    • @feanorian21maglor38
      @feanorian21maglor38 Год назад +4

      Agree, but normal people have a few arguments over something like that and then find some middle ground. Did he really expect to get away with this? It's insane.

    • @jimcronin2043
      @jimcronin2043 Год назад

      If obsessed with his personal desires and an inflated self assessment he might have convinced himself. @@feanorian21maglor38

    • @cynthiacruz297
      @cynthiacruz297 Год назад

      I was thinking the same.

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 Год назад +3

      He is a psychopath.....evil..
      Selfish... without a conscience! Poor wife and baby!

    • @jimcronin2043
      @jimcronin2043 Год назад

      I don't believe that one can be a "psychopapth" and be "selfish " and "without a conscience" at the same time" because (as I understand it) psychopathy places a sufferer in a state of deluded sense of reality, without a sense of right and wrong or sense of guilt or innocence. @@lydiapetra1211

  • @Flamsterette
    @Flamsterette Год назад +10

    Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande! Your true fans love your humor! Happy October 2023! Almost Canadian Thanksgiving!

  • @carweee
    @carweee Год назад +10

    woo!! A Grande Sunday Special 😄

  • @adayinforever
    @adayinforever Год назад +14

    Moral of the story: if you are going to stage a robbery, dont forget to displace the valuable stuff. People dont usually break in just kill somebody, rustle through the drawers and leave.

    • @goshafrau3636
      @goshafrau3636 Год назад

      or better even, DON'T do any of this? the moral of the story is: don't become a pest like fugly craig, if you don't like being a husband and a dad walk away.

  • @wmluna381
    @wmluna381 Год назад +15

    I'm surprised I have yet to see a true crime recap on my old boss. I always found the way he spoke about his wife (with utter contempt) in casual conversation with multiple people was a bit crazy. He was also not as smart as he apparently thought he was. He once misused the word "combine" (farm equipment) when he meant "commune". He would also do sales and tell potential customers we served customers on all 7 continents. Such a lie. Especially when you consider how far Antarctica is from Detroit and he wasn't running some global manufacturing firm. Thought a murder/capture would be a sure thing in time. 😄

    • @marspar
      @marspar Год назад

      Wait, was your boss’s wife murdered??

    • @wmluna381
      @wmluna381 Год назад

      @@marspar No, I am surprised she hasn't been murdered by him YET.
      After listening to so many of these true crime stories involving spouses offing each other, particularly in this case where the husband displayed an open hatred for his wife, it's just surprising to me Old Boss hasn't followed through yet.

  • @tinacross3423
    @tinacross3423 Год назад +1

    Very good analysis Dr. Grande. Thank you. RIP to the victims.

  • @katarina1852
    @katarina1852 Год назад +14

    I don’t understand why someone would decide to slaughter their spouse and newborn baby when they can just get a divorce. Do the former and you deserve to spend the rest of your life in prison then rot in hell. His poor wife had no idea she had married and had a child with a heartless, homicidal monster.

    • @pinkishpoo
      @pinkishpoo Год назад +1

      The answer is: Money.
      For a Narcisst divorce and child support is like loosing money and being miserable for years. In contrary he arranged a 700 000 insurance as a momentary money grab and already pictured exciting future with no burdens.

    • @janeoleary8454
      @janeoleary8454 Год назад +1

      $$$$$$

  • @MEL2theJ
    @MEL2theJ Год назад +5

    Ugh! The baby though? Wow!
    Thank you again Dr. Grande 🙏

  • @DangItRed
    @DangItRed Год назад +12

    I love the sick burn when you said he underestimated how many women want someone that drinks and plays video games all the time. People like him deserve a reality check on how great they AREN'T.

  • @meowmirrr
    @meowmirrr Год назад +21

    I was with a sociopath for over a year. His ex had two miscarriages just like in this case. I've always wondered if he caused them somehow.....

    • @bweaver760
      @bweaver760 Год назад +6

      My conclusion: There are some really very sick and volatile men who will kill their own immediate families for selfish reasons!

    • @Dhruv_Dogra
      @Dhruv_Dogra Год назад +1

      ​@@bweaver760women are no less though more likely to use poison not knives

    • @bbailey3055
      @bbailey3055 Год назад

      @@Dhruv_Dograwomen kill less people by a lot

    • @AntoDesormeaux
      @AntoDesormeaux Год назад

      @@Dhruv_Dogra um reality check, 9 out of 10 murders are caused by men. Vast majority of violent crime.

    • @Parousia001
      @Parousia001 Год назад +1

      I was wondering the same thing about Shanna’s miscarriages…did Craig maybe have something to do with them??

  • @alexlamuraglia8739
    @alexlamuraglia8739 Год назад +1

    This is so disturbing and sad. Great analysis Dr. Grande❤

  • @mori.kurogawa7936
    @mori.kurogawa7936 Год назад +1

    My heart aches for the poor woman who finally had her baby after so much heartbreak. I'm pregnant with a boy right now and so sad for that little innocent life lost at the hands of a monster 😔

  • @cameronrobinson3933
    @cameronrobinson3933 Год назад +5

    I read a book that was written in the 80s to the 90s that was by the guy who started the Behavioral Science unit in the FBI to hunt down serial killers. He said once he was asked by reporter if him detailing these crimes and how him and his partners solved them would help other Killers get away in the future. His answer was no. Because they find it at the harder somebody tries to cover up a murder the more evidence they leave behind. The most unsolvable murder cases are ones that are completely random. When someone kill somebody they know there will always be some kind of evidence.

  • @Reallyheistaken
    @Reallyheistaken Год назад +5

    An increase in life insurance would make me nervous.
    Does one know if a partner took out insurance on them? If the answer is no. I would snoop. If there is one and you weren't told, watch your back .

  • @imaginationforsale
    @imaginationforsale Год назад +17

    Don't fall asleep in the interrogation room! That's a common psychological response to guilt, the cops put them in there alone to see if that happens! That's how they get ya!

    • @SandroWalach
      @SandroWalach Год назад

      It's like in those murder mysteries where lots of people are locked in a house and one of them is the murderer. If you were the murderer, then you'd be able to sleep easily because you do not need to worry about said murderer while everyone else in the house are terrified because they're not the murderer and don't know when or if the murderer will strike again.

  • @Parousia001
    @Parousia001 Год назад +5

    What a revolting excuse for a human being! It’s so sad that these monsters are able, in many cases, to deceive others into falling in love with and even marrying them, not realising the pain-filled life they’ve signed up for, even for those who survive to old age. 😢

  • @Jaah18
    @Jaah18 Год назад +5

    Greetings from New Zealand! Another excellent video, Doc.

  • @BigZebraCom
    @BigZebraCom Год назад +15

    Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a suspect Craig vandewege has a name that should be in a limerick.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Год назад

    🌄 good morning, Dr. Grande! I hope you enjoy your day! Thank You!

  • @palmereldrich
    @palmereldrich Год назад +1

    The busiest analysist in the world❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @koreenal5056
    @koreenal5056 Год назад +1

    I Always look forward to Dr Grandes videos!!

  • @Maggiemae01
    @Maggiemae01 Год назад +1

    Good God. Chills. I was married for 11 years to a "craig" I'd love to send you my whole story. He'd have gotten away with my "self inflicted overdose" where he tried to appear a victim of mine during the actual day I was moving 6 hours away with our children because restraining orders are an absolute joke for someone with nothing to lose. The consistency with this type of personality, especially in men, is absolutely fascinating. Are they born this way? Mothers of these men usually share identical traits of coddling, etc. Also, I've found.
    Um um ummm... this world SMH

  • @wisdomseeker3362
    @wisdomseeker3362 Год назад +3

    Another _Grande_ video on a beautiful Sunday morning .

  • @kathyann8974
    @kathyann8974 Год назад

    Such a sad story. Thanks for your analysis, interesting as usual.

  • @sopheadutch6350
    @sopheadutch6350 Год назад +8

    That poor baby🙊🙏😭...OMGAWWD 😳🤯

  • @velvetbees
    @velvetbees Год назад +5

    Condolences to the family and friends. How terrible.

  • @johanpeterson9671
    @johanpeterson9671 Год назад +5

    Dr Grande breaking sh*t down like its going out of style.

  • @mykidsaresupercute
    @mykidsaresupercute Год назад +6

    You have to be a special kind of evil to slit your newborn child's throat!! That poor baby and mama. I hope she never knew what happened to him.

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 Год назад +1

    Yeah Sunday morning.
    Yes I did notice the candle cacti
    Always interesting
    Thank you
    Peace

  • @miriamorwin7603
    @miriamorwin7603 Год назад

    excellebt annalysis, well done.

  • @DottieMinerva
    @DottieMinerva Год назад +1

    I’ve seen so many true crime cases where someone opens up kitchen cabinets to fake a robbery. The last place home intruders are looking is the kitchen cabinets!

  • @karis7649
    @karis7649 Год назад +5

    It’s so hard to understand why someone would find this preferable to divorce. Not least because of the lifetime incarceration part. A person so selfish & narcissistic they’re deadly - one would imagine - would really not like being jailed until death. Doing it to an infant ? So monstrous.

  • @francinejones2524
    @francinejones2524 4 дня назад

    Thanks Dr Grande 💙

  • @Taureanfitness
    @Taureanfitness Год назад

    Dr, G Once again, you've done an amazing analysis. I really feel like you should be working with law enforcement. Because your ability to Taken all the factors of the case, remain objective, Unbiased, And at the same time, provide a legitimate psychoanalysis of the person's state of mind and Behavior surrounding the alleged crime is nothing short of amazing. I feel like you could really help bring Justice to victims and punishment to offenders. I know that you're stating your opinion and theories. But they are like dead on just about every time.

  • @itchysheets1222
    @itchysheets1222 Год назад +8

    I bet that coworker wishes she had told the wife or the police about his comments, I’d be afraid to work with someone like that from then on anyway so I wouldn’t care if it jacked up the vibe at work for a while

  • @juliet.echo.m
    @juliet.echo.m Год назад

    “Today’s question is…” I totally live for it!!! 🏆🏆🏆🏆

  • @cathywithac3793
    @cathywithac3793 Год назад +4

    Little DJ would've started 2nd Grade last month. Rest in peace little angel.🙏🕊😢

  • @cynthiamurphy3669
    @cynthiamurphy3669 Год назад +22

    I wonder if he had his wife fooled all along that he could or would be a good breadwinner or if she just put up with it. As a nurse, how do you just quit your good job without being pretty sure your hubby can really support you and a child? No, I'm not blaming her, but if this guy was iffy or flaky to begin with as far as being dependable, it just seems to me she was playing with fire and maybe trying him (?). She obviously wanted a child pretty bad. Horrible way for things to turn out. Like everybody else here, I'm wondering how does a man look at his baby son and kill him?

    • @wolfe6220
      @wolfe6220 Год назад +4

      I grew up in Fort Worth and daycare, on average, is not horribly expensive on a full time nurses salary. Don't know which hospital or clinic she worked at, but the hospital usually has one on site for employees, but not sure how much those would cost.
      For outside daycare, it averages around $800 per month in FW.

    • @sharonhowell582
      @sharonhowell582 Год назад +14

      Just some thoughts: She may not have been fully aware of their joint financial situation. Even if she knew things would be tight financially, she may have chosen to spend the early years of her child's life at home with the baby. As an RN she could have easily gotten another job if her husband was unable to handle the financial obligations alone. Secondarily she may have hoped him becoming the sole breadwinner would force him to grow a pair. In any event, this is a really sad story.

    • @TheEMC99
      @TheEMC99 Год назад +12

      The truth is often women don't realize how strong the instinct is to be at home with your baby until after they're born.
      Society has this whole daycare pipeline setup but the fact is that you have to go against your innate design to go that route.
      My SIL did this. After the birth of their 2nd child she didn't return to work without prior planning. She has a bachelor's and was earning $50K/year.
      Stressful to my brother but he rose to the occasion. It's been 10 years and they're doing well with the addition of a 3rd.
      I also walked away from my career as an RT. We planned it after realizing we were having our 2nd. It has been sacrificial but so worth it. We just had our 5th.
      It's an extremely common occurrence nowadays. There's a safe and careful way to go about it and a less careful way. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @reachingcoldmountainbeforeyou
      @reachingcoldmountainbeforeyou Год назад +8

      It's simple really, "The LOVE of money is root of all evil." My ex-husband tried to murder our child and I when he decided to come for a 'visit'. Why? Because I wanted SOME KIND OF CHILD SUPPORT. He left us. Not one dime in 12 YEARS. I constantly was like, shoes, need shoes, need a washing machine. He HATED it. So us being DEAD was an acceptable solution. He was also on a lot of dating sites. To include finding women from his early 20's he had dated and msging them to mess with them. Sicko. My ex had the same level of juvenile mindset of wanting to only play videogames and Drink, while thinking much prettier women would WANT him😂

    • @cynthiamurphy3669
      @cynthiamurphy3669 Год назад +2

      @@sharonhowell582 I agree.

  • @v.k.7413
    @v.k.7413 Год назад +7

    DID HE SEE HIMSELF IN THE MIRROR? I GUESS NOT…

  • @outofbodypickle8408
    @outofbodypickle8408 Год назад +2

    Thanks Todd!

  • @enigine
    @enigine Год назад +3

    I like the cactus candles 👍

  • @JaneDoesMind
    @JaneDoesMind Год назад

    I love your dry snarky yet tasteful remarks

  • @HenriNoddnsock-xd7jw
    @HenriNoddnsock-xd7jw 3 месяца назад +1

    It's shocking that any man could be as stupid and depraved as Craig is. I'm surprised he didn't get the death penalty, being he committed the crime in Texas. Shanna's life took a tragic turn when she crossed paths with him. Too sad for words.

  • @wilhelmhagberg4897
    @wilhelmhagberg4897 Год назад +7

    I have the feeling he might have been psychotic after all. He had talked about voices urging him to kill with his collegues. Some might argue this was in preparation for a planned insanity plead, but to me that doesn’t make any sense. The rational plan would be to avoid any suspicion by acting like a normal person and avoid any discussions about murder. The use of a knife also seems crazy beyond narcissism, why use the most horrific method available?

  • @gerry2345
    @gerry2345 Год назад

    I like this vid. Good insight and great analysis.,

  • @brihaver1951
    @brihaver1951 Год назад

    Awesome, as usual! ❤

  • @frankrio6389
    @frankrio6389 Год назад +9

    "Quit her job as a nurse..." there is his motive

    • @willnill7946
      @willnill7946 Год назад +2

      Women think having kids is an excuse not to work

    • @CastledarkDweller27
      @CastledarkDweller27 Год назад

      @@willnill7946 look - obviously YOUR wife (or someone close to you) may think having kids is “an excuse not to work” but stop generalising! Women in general don’t think like that, and MANY are very torn over such a scenario. You are starting to sound like a nagging whining incel and a bit of a misogynist tbh.

    • @Mint-kj9kw
      @Mint-kj9kw Год назад +4

      ​@@willnill7946You never had a stay at home mom, did you...
      I'm sorry you missed out.

  • @mikeballard8404
    @mikeballard8404 Год назад +4

    You can't even get away with murder any more.

    • @lynemac2539
      @lynemac2539 Год назад

      Between DNA and people's Google searches, murders probably get solved more often these days.

  • @beverlymccollum8861
    @beverlymccollum8861 Год назад +13

    I knew they were headed for trouble when she quit her job. They lived in a very expensive looking house. No way could they pay their bills. Wish people would just stop having children if they can't make it on the husbands paycheck.. Money problems don't cause happiness. Ben Franklin let us know that debt is a terrible thing to live under.

    • @AntoDesormeaux
      @AntoDesormeaux Год назад +3

      men like him lie about their money and are very bad at managing it

  • @nimsa2000
    @nimsa2000 Год назад +1

    Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande 😊

  • @tortimeese
    @tortimeese Год назад +11

    What a horrible person. This is a small piece of this puzzle, but I immediately pricked up my ears at "video games." It's another form of addiction. I know that the vast majority of gamers wouldn't harm the hair on a baby orc, let alone their own child, but it is a world where a person can escape and devolve into subsistence. My adult nephew lived with me for about a year and when he wasn't at work, every spare moment was spent on a game called World of Warcraft. Because, he wasn't living up to his end of the bargain with me providing room and board for a few chores, I decided to pull the modem and take it to work with me one day. Now I worked in the entertainment business and saw all sorts of people coming down from benders on booze and drugs, but I was not prepared for the sight of the man who met me when I arrived home that day. He begged and pleaded with me to reinstall the modem and then became threatening to the point that I called the police. He cried like I was refusing him his last meal. He moved out. He lost jobs and his house due to beer, weed, and video games. Smokes, drinks, gambles, cheats, drugs--yep, just add gaming to the list.

  • @katfayegarrett3872
    @katfayegarrett3872 Год назад +9

    How how how??? A 3 month old baby! 😢

  • @TagiukGold
    @TagiukGold Год назад +12

    The family had financial problems but ate out at a restaurant, bought alcohol, and spent time playing video games.

    • @jackedkerouac4414
      @jackedkerouac4414 Год назад +3

      Reminds me of my friend. Complains about being broke but always seems to have money for drugs, cigarettes and never cooks anything besides pizza bagels 🤔

    • @Jenny-nz8fb
      @Jenny-nz8fb Год назад +4

      Oh well, that makes murdering his wife and baby make more sense 🤡

  • @conorfitzmaurice8959
    @conorfitzmaurice8959 Год назад +1

    A terrible crime has just happened here on Friday last.
    It was streamed on social media, I think it has to be one of the worst cases I have ever heard of.
    Please God justice is served.
    The whole Contry is in shock .

  • @vidkidz83
    @vidkidz83 Год назад +4

    Never underestimate a narcissist...

  • @agostinodublino1387
    @agostinodublino1387 Год назад +3

    PLEASE Dr.Grande, could you analize the case of ERIKA MURRAY?! how is possible that the husband never knew there was two of his own babies in the house?? How is it possibile that the 13years old lived in that trash without questioning? He knew how "normal houses" are. I mean, one DEAD dog and another dying?! I'm so shocked, thank you for your possibile future analysis

  • @balloney2175
    @balloney2175 Год назад +5

    The fact that he increased the life insurance of his wife, suggests that there is a motive to kill and get that amount of money.

  • @annazaman9657
    @annazaman9657 Год назад +10

    A robot poorly impersonating a human. Apt description