Okay, got a bone to pick. A PUPPY is not the same as a CHILD with special needs. Often times trying to force a situation where you are caring for a special needs child without the resources and mindset and abilities to meet that child's needs can actually cause harm. Yes it sucks and yes we need a better system and yes the world is awful but i think OP made a choice with the childs best interest in mind as well as his own and for the good of other children in need. Thats like sending a pregnant woman giving birth to a physical therapist. The physical therapist could probably get the job done but the intricacies of the OB, knowledge and after care would be way less efficient and thorough. Cheater op: just because you take responsibility for your actions does not obligate the person/people you hurt to forgive you. You still have to face consequences for your actions. Saying you take responsibility for your wrongdoing also means accepting the consequences of that wrongdoing. Leave that poor woman alone.
Exactly this, trying to relate the two is appalling as someone who has had experience all be it passively with rehabilitating and fostering animals, and have seen first hand, second hand, and even read many stories third hand about the struggles of special needs children, there is nothing at all similar.
Yeah, the narrator clearly has never worked in any sort of caregiving or nursing role. He should learn about caregiver burnout before passing judgement. If OP isn’t in the right headspace to care for a child with the type of special needs that Paul has, then she shouldn’t be caring for him. Period. Not being able to care for a child with Paul’s needs in no way makes OP unsuitable to foster other children. The whole puppy analogy is so off base with OP’s situation.
Last story dude cheats on wife then moans and complains on how she can just leave him and start a new family with someone else. Then complains how nobody has sympathy for him like shes the one at fault....
1:12:00 really bad take by the narrator, here. First off, deathbed promises are never something to hold someone to. It's coercion. OP was emotionaly manipulated into that promise, full stop. Second, having a responsibility you never asked for is nothing whatsoever like "adopting a puppy", and this analogy is a bad faith argument. In what world is being coerced into caring for someone with severe special needs that you are just not equipped to deal with in any concievable way like choosing to adopt a puppy, then just sending it back, because it's too much work? Those situations are not remotely equivilant. Moving the teenager to a place that CAN care for him properly IS the right thing to do. Saying anything otherwise is detrimental to the kid's well being. Some people are not equipped to handle that situation, and it does not make them bad people, or unfit to help other kids with less severe problems.
This is an awful comparison. You can't compare someone to a puppy!!?? It was obviously a difficult decision that wasn't taken lightly. OP did the right thing.
@@whoknowsaymore6210 A lot of the times these narrators have bad takes, it's just a "Really, dude?", and not worth commenting about, but this one was just offensively bad.
Once again terrible take from this guy. If you can't properly take care of a child (or a puppy) then it's best for someone else to take over. Long term it's the best for everyone involved, including future fosters that you can care for
Plus people're very much a different beast than puppies. And even on puppies, some peeps realize big dogs aren't something they can handle when they initially thought they could, but know they'll have the space/ability for some types of small dogs. Knowing you can handle dog X in a small apartment but not say a doberman isn't showing irresponsibility, but quite the opposite. Esp if it's a doggo you got the responsibility passed to by family. Love is sometimes knowing you can't handle something and making sure it can flourish better than you could. My grandma took care of my eldest uncle(who got meningitis in the hospital as a newborn and was left w/ lifetime disabilities), my grandma realized as she got on the old side of life that her body couldn't keep up. Now he's in a group home, and he's doing way better than towards the end with family.
It doesn't even make sense with puppies either. It's obviously better to do your research beforehand. But if you realize that you can't take care of a Doberman or Collie puppy, it's absolutely better to return it. Maybe down the line you can get a smaller dog that's easier to manage. Puppies are not one-size-fits-all either.
I am surpised no one mentioned that the OP and the foster child were probably both still grieving his moms passing. It could have added to the foster childs behavioral issues - op dropped one line about them being worse since his mom died. It could also have lessened the OP's ability to have patience with kid.
My half-brother has adhd, bipolar, and some undiagnosed other things. His mom, AN F-ING NURSE, ignored his issues. "There's nothing wrong with my son. How dare u label my son." Everytime our dad and my mom found a doc that agreed that he needs help, she would sue them/report them to the medical board. And was never held accountable by her. The result: alcoholic at age 14. Minus an arm from drunk driving. Has done every street drug in existence. Is such a horrible person, that NO ONE talks to him anymore/refuses to help him. Moral of the story: GET YOUR CHILD HELP IF THEY EXHIBIT BEHAVIORS THAT COULD BE A MEDICAL ISSUE
I cringed at that puppy comparison. You’ve never taken care of special-needs children if that is how you think of it. There is a huge difference between not wanting the responsibility and it being overwhelming. Kids with severe mental impairments and extreme behavior that are adult sized are very dangerous, when they lash out and they are a lot to maintain and manage. There are parents that had to be institutionalized because of the mental effects of taking care of their special needs kids. I nannied special needs kids and it is extremely taxing and draining. To have to deal with it on a daily basis by yourself for a kid that you didn’t even choose to take in, that’s a lot. He did the right thing by rehoming him and acknowledging that he couldn’t handle it.
I was only listening to the video, and I thought it was some word I’ve never heard before. And I would have continued thinking so until I saw your comment
Story 10: that man is terrifying. I hope it's fake but my god if it's real that woman needs to get some type of restraining order. On top of all that this post has convinced me that this narrator just isn't for me. I could sit here and be rude and say his takes are awful, half-baked, yadda yadda. But i just don't care anymore. I'm gonna stick with undersparked
This is the worst take on the foster carer. I have had to personally make the decision, very similar to the OPs. In no way is it comparable to puppies! Wtf dude. A human being with health issues is not the same as a dog. If i was to continue caring for my nephews, they would not have been given the care they deserved. Plus the OP was grieving her mom's death!
S1 a prenup is to protect both sides. If you can't agree for whatever reason, just leave. It's okay. Of course he shouldn't try to get part of what's hers and organize what happens in case of separation. That's the idea of those contracts. He's not ready for marriage, probably never will or at least not a woman like OP.
I have a friend. Let’s call her Mel. Mel lost her first husband (Jay) and their 10 year old daughter when Mel was in her 30’s. Mel’s home had burned down in a fire, so the only photo or memorabilia she had of her husband was of their wedding day that she would keep in her clutch while she worked. She later remarried another man, (Roy) in her early 60’s. After she married Roy, she put the photo of her and Jay in a frame and kept it next to the new wedding photo of Roy and Mel. One day she came home to find Roy clutching the old wedding photo of Mel and Jay while sitting on the bed. What was he doing, you may ask? Well, when he was alone and ever since Roy and Mel began dating, Roy would grab the wedding photo of Mel and Jay, either off the wall of her home, or later off the nightstand after the two married. Roy would “talk” to Jay. He’d give him updates on Mel’s life, discuss difficulties, ask for guidance or advice, etc. Roy was an absolutely beautiful man and he showed what true love should look like. He adored his wife, even within the life she had before him and would still have if Jay were still alive. Anyway, that story of the harpy who destroyed, sold, and trashed all of her husband’s late-wife’s things miffs me so incredibly bad. I honestly don’t care what other’s would say. What she did is grounds for divorce, period.
My husband asked me for a prenup, and I said, "no." His concern was for the business he shares, so they just changed things on their end where either of them (the owners) would have the opportunity to buy shares before anyone else. Easy compromise. OP's partner doesn't sound like he wants to build anything with her or compromise on anything; he just wants her to fit into the life he already has.
People with special needs aren't comparable to puppies, full stop. Quite frankly, continuing to provide sub-standard care out of a sense of obligation will ultimately do more harm than good. Comparing someone with developmental disabilities to a puppy you change your mind about is pretty effing ableist. Oh, and googling pronunciation is also a thing. Sparked team, it's time to do more research when reviewing whether or not someone will make a decent narrator. Considering how many stories involve Reddit posts using this particular discriminatory term, it would probably be a decent idea to find someone who knows what it is and how it's pronounced, or at the very least search how to pronounce it.
Story 2; the parents have no excuse being "early 60s." My dad and mom, both in their 70s, would *ALWAYS* babysit my niece whenever it was needed, with very few exceptions, and my niece can be an absolute brat (but not at the grandparent's house, that's for sure.) OPs family are selfish. Also "able-ist" isn't "a blessed" lol man took me like 10 tries to figure out what was being said.
Please be aware regarding Story 3: Comments about it have been deleted. Also, it's missing something now that was there before. More of the story, which ends in the very specific request 38:44 shows the audio and gameplay skip noticeably. The end of the story had this request from the OP, that the narrator read out without commentary, irony, or any sort of self-awareness: "Oh, and I do not give my consent for any person to re-upload this or anything else I posted on TikTok or Facebook or RUclips. My first few posts have been uploaded to TikTok and Facebook and have like over 250k views. It makes me feel sick that people are using me as a tool to make money. I know this probably won't stop any of them, but if anyone sees them out in the wild, know I do not support it." PSA: This is not how you fix something. You don't try to sweep it under the rug, you make an actual apology (ideally in the description and/or a pinned comment) and remove the whole thing, not just partially and try to sweep it under the rug. I have no idea if this is an action taken by the narrator or a channel/group-wide decision, but either way I'm incredibly disappointed. I thought you guys were better than this.
Yeah it looks like they cut at least ten minutes of updates that included the comment requesting no one repost their story or make money off of it on other platforms. If they were going to edit the video why didn't they just honor the request and remove the entire story instead of removing the request? Because then there would be a skipped number? It bothers me generally when people repost stories where the OP is obviously in crisis because it lacks a certain amount of respect for the reality of the situation let alone the 'hey, you're monetizing this, shouldn't you help?' angle, but at the very minimum if you are going to seek out and exploit those stories if someone says not to you could honor them. Should the OP see any of this, I would want them to know I feel bad about not respecting their wishes and would hope the channel would apologize similarly especially since they have access to the means to do so. I would also want them to know regarding what I heard that it sounds like they are dealing with horrible and unfair things for anyone, let alone at their age and I hope they can walk away from the reddit drama and take to heart they are worthy of a stable environment to thrive in and create their own family and connections moving forward and working towards that is hard for anyone even in the best of conditions but they can do it and they can build and do great things and what they did as a traumatized kid does not define their life or who they are.
Narrator, when you said you have never been a foster parent, you should have chosen to stay silent on that and not say its akin to a puppy being returned if you feel you cant take care of it. And isn't that the possible solution? Even in case of a puppy, would you rather abandon the puppy on the streets because you can't rake care of them or hand over to someone who you know can really care for the puppy well? I think the same goes for the op ad well. He shouldnt be forcing himself to take care of his younger brother even after realising that he is not capable of doing so. I know not everyone is gojng to agree with the opinions that you have on these stories. But you are a good narrator as well. I know you do have some good takes.. So don't be discouraged and just keep going. Am sure your takes on the stories will get better with time.
Stepmonster who threw out deceased wife's photos and mementos, "I love my husband so much!" ...not enough to put yourself in his or the daughter's shoes apparently...not one thought for how it might make them feel...
Ohhh this is a long one. I guess ill be edditing this comment a lot 😅 The way his prenup is organized sounds like hes trying to do a "whats mine is mine and whats yours is also mine"
Story 2: OP should try to get diagnosis for her sister's kid. Not so much for her family but rather for herself. It could be her best offence against the family. She could continuously reply that she doesn't feel fit to manage an obviously special child. The diagnosis could be her shield which her family will continuously try to avoid like the plague, like they do now. Or accept it and try to work on solution.
On the Babysitter thing...He might have the same mix of problems + something that triggers violent meltdowns. He might be a nightmare to deal with because A, He is usuallt loud when Overstimulated with excitement, Or stress (I usually get loud like that too, but I learned to control it, somewhat.), and The parent is doing jack all to help him develop the same or different ways to control his behavior.
Story 2: The mama sister is drowning in her problems but is unwilling to admit it. And instead lashes out and tries to manipulate the OP. I bet her hell kid pisses her off the most. But she can't admit that there is a problem that needs fixing. Classic.
S3 but the sister does have issues too. Her reactions to the comments about her kid are not normal. Not giving him the help and support he needs is criminal. It doesn't have to be medication, at least at this age. The way the sister talks about the friend's wife just shows you why she doesn't want her kid being diagnosed... She hates disabled people and doesn't want her kid to have those issues 🙄 she has big mental issues. OP needs to go NC with the whole family. Argh the end... Of course
Compairing a human with a dog is the most stupid thing I EVER hear!!! it is okay to admit to your self you cant look for a kid an give them the chance for a better home!
I have special needs, and my biological mother tried to give me to Georgia. I wish they'd have let her. She proceeded to neglect and allow my biological father to do worse, so honestly, if a parent can't care for a kid, let them give the child up.
the foster story, those two things are no where NEAR the same. he made the absolute right decision. if he hadn’t tried for his mom then the outcome would be the same, the kid going away. he feels guilty because he has empathy and isn’t a sociopath NOT because he’s wrong. wrong would be letting a promise to your mom WHILE SHE WAS DYING come before the needs of a child. if anything it’s the same as being giving a dog you don’t want, doing your best to care for it, then realizing that the dog would be better off with ppl who both asked for and wanted it. and i hate this analogy because comparing a human to a dog just isn’t sitting right with me but you listed two things that frankly aren’t comparable bad take dude
the one about the foster kid being given to another family. wow voice actor...you're really just i don't have words. the guy recognized he couldn't handle the kid. it's much better the kid goes with a family who can handle his issues than be with someone who doesn't know how to deal with them and gets frustrated and burned out and they both suffer. he's not a trained professional. he made a promise to his mom but realized he wasn't capable. i wasn't a foster kid but i was raised by a mother who shouldn't have been a mother. she's unmedicated bipolar and a narcissist. so instead of being raised by a loving parent i was raised by someone who saw me as an extension of themselves and property of her. the mental and emotional damage that she caused because she was not capable of raising a child is still lingering in my adult life. you really should keep your bad opinions to yourself. your voice is nice but your opinions suck.
Story 1: These guys have different images of the future. And sounds like there is definitely communication issue. Also I feel like the guy wants a GF but doesn't believe in family with her and is actively resisting (consciously or unconsciously) due to his own issues.
Story 1: good thing that op left the guy for real. It's pretty suspicious how he went back on everything he was saying for the last year and now claims the opposite. People usually don't change their opinion like that. Sounds like he was willing to say anything to mend things with op (or to get his parents off his back). So what he was saying was coerced or he was just lying, hoping to come back to his original plan once things settle down...
Comparing a special needs foster child with a puppy? Absolutely not. OP was taking the right decision by letting the kid be with someone that could really take care of them. If you force yourself into a situation that you are not suited for you will end up causing more harm than well, this applied for everything, tasks, kids, marriages, pets. You really messed up with that comparison.
Who ever has a large amount of assets and properties either alone or in a group, while single then be you man or woman would (especially in this day of most marriages failing) be smart to have a Prenup!…as a divorce could cost you a lot!… I have often thought about this topic. Should I ever remarry and if I had acquired a large portfolio it would only be prudent for my future wellbeing to be as cautious and protective of said assets, I like to think before I propose marriage to a woman That it is when I feel that she is one I want to be with and that she feels the same, and would have a stipulation included in said prenup for her to receive an amount based on our time together as husband and wife, but I would not allow the door to be wide open for her to take “Half” or more of a fortune that I had previously built!
DAYUM first 24 30 minutes then 54 to 103 now 2 houses bruh I cuold watch a badboys movie and a half in the time the video wuold be over 😂😂😂 Good thing this channel is better then a bad bits movie
To the narrators comment, after the foster care story. I see the point that you made and it being similar to adopting a dog and realizing that dog are a lot of work and returning it to get another one. However this situation would actually be like you were left a dog by your relative, who is missing a leg, and is blind and deaf. You may not be able to provide the specialized care that the special needs dog required. But you still may able to perfectly provide the care needed for a dog with no disabilities. I have cared for intellectually delayed children before, it is infinitely harder than caring for a neurotypical child. Not everyone is capable of handling children with special needs, either physically not having the strength to or mentally not having the strength to.
Relating a mentally stunted individual to a puppy let alone foster children isn't right, and is a terrible analogy. If you are going to relate them to dogs, then at least acknowledge the origins of said "puppies" and their issues to understand what OP did was the right thing. John is like a dog, beaten, and abused, with aggression issues and issues that lead them to be destructive. Most people would discard that dog, but OP's mom and OP themselves took them in, and even if John still has issues, he has been taken care of and many of his issues resolved due to past trauma. Paul is let's say a dog that was born and was suffocated some, and while surviving suffered severe brain damage and developmental issues. Paul deserves love and got a lot of that from OP's mom, who was mentally and physically able to manage him. Paul likely craps himself and throws toddler tantrums, but is in the body of an adult, so needs constant cleaning up, there is constant screaming and telling going on. Once OP's mom died, he now has to deal with all of the issues there, while taking care of the "dogs" John and Paul. John is a good boy, if some still deep-seated issues OP is there to help but otherwise, he'd be the kind of dog euthanized. Where Paul, OP can't handle him, can't handle cleaning up after him, can't handle the screaming and tantrums, and resentment started to grow. OP deciding to get Paul the help he needs, from people who are specialized in providing for special needs "dogs" is the correct thing to do. In other words, OP can take care of the "Puppy" that is John fine and can handle other "puppies" like John, and help them become well-adjusted and good dogs. What OP is not capable of doing is taking care of "puppies" like Paul as he lacks the time, funds, patience, and all-around abilities to help, and it would be a disservice to Paul to keep him in a place where he can not get the help he needs. Be it a Person or dog, they deserve to be comfortable, healthy and cared for properly, and it's never wrong to admit defeat and get them the help you can't provide by rehoming them. OP admits they hate it had to come to it, but it's better to let Paul be with a loving family where he gets what he needs than be selfish and keep a "puppy" you can't handle. Getting Paul rehomed is better than just dumping him at the pound.
The foster care one I think the guy did what he thought was best and I approve of it I mean his mother is the one that took care of the kid not him and then all of a sudden he has a 16 year old kid that has a mind of a 3 year old that he's taking care of all the time when it was his mother taken care of him I understand that the kid is in a better home and that's all that matters he's in a home where he can get the help that he needs with people who are fit to take care of people like him and that is the best option for him in my book a place where somebody can take care of them right it's all about choosing a home for a child the right home in the right home wasn't with him anymore again his mother is the one that took care of that child not him not till she died so I think what he did was the best thing for it I don't think it was like a you adopt a puppy from the humane society saying and then you bring it back because it's not a puppy no more I don't think that has nothing to do with this this has to do with the kid that has severe mental issues severe enough that he cannot take care of that he is not mentally equipped to take care of somebody like him this is not the same as getting an animal from a pet store that is this is two totally different things and you know that
Story 2: I wouldn’t even forgive the parents at this point. Story 3: Man these parents may not be abusing these kids like some, but seriously screwing then over none the less 5: Disagree with ya narrator, this is a 19 year old kid, promise or not he couldn’t provide the care Paul needed so I think it is best for Paul to be moved. Story 10: I also hope this is fake but I’ve seen enough ReddX and nice guy content to understand that there are definitely delusional people like this out there. He wants the last word, that’s it.
This narrator gets a lot of hate, but he really does narrate the victimy stories very well! for example, the second to last story, which I have absolutely no sympathy for the guy! Also, it is nice not to have an opinion for every story, 😉
The rich guy? She made it very clear that she left him because she wants to build a life together, it sounds like he wants to marry her to have a son, she dodged a bullet.
@@hedgiehogdudeu_u406 She literally starts her post with the reason as she doesn't want to sign a prenup and then much later justifies her reasoning with the other manipulating nonsense. She admits she was told multiple times earlier in the relationship about the prenup but obviously thought he could be emotionally manipulated over time as she did to his parents into making him give up on the prenup. She has wasted his time by not discussing her concerns the first time the prenup was discussed, obviously deliberately and got all stubborn and annoyed that she failed.
Okay, got a bone to pick. A PUPPY is not the same as a CHILD with special needs. Often times trying to force a situation where you are caring for a special needs child without the resources and mindset and abilities to meet that child's needs can actually cause harm. Yes it sucks and yes we need a better system and yes the world is awful but i think OP made a choice with the childs best interest in mind as well as his own and for the good of other children in need. Thats like sending a pregnant woman giving birth to a physical therapist. The physical therapist could probably get the job done but the intricacies of the OB, knowledge and after care would be way less efficient and thorough.
Cheater op: just because you take responsibility for your actions does not obligate the person/people you hurt to forgive you. You still have to face consequences for your actions. Saying you take responsibility for your wrongdoing also means accepting the consequences of that wrongdoing. Leave that poor woman alone.
Exactly this, trying to relate the two is appalling as someone who has had experience all be it passively with rehabilitating and fostering animals, and have seen first hand, second hand, and even read many stories third hand about the struggles of special needs children, there is nothing at all similar.
Spot on. This narrator is high.
Yeah, the narrator clearly has never worked in any sort of caregiving or nursing role. He should learn about caregiver burnout before passing judgement. If OP isn’t in the right headspace to care for a child with the type of special needs that Paul has, then she shouldn’t be caring for him. Period. Not being able to care for a child with Paul’s needs in no way makes OP unsuitable to foster other children. The whole puppy analogy is so off base with OP’s situation.
HORRENDOUS take on the Foster story. Just awful.
Last story dude cheats on wife then moans and complains on how she can just leave him and start a new family with someone else. Then complains how nobody has sympathy for him like shes the one at fault....
1:12:00 really bad take by the narrator, here. First off, deathbed promises are never something to hold someone to. It's coercion. OP was emotionaly manipulated into that promise, full stop.
Second, having a responsibility you never asked for is nothing whatsoever like "adopting a puppy", and this analogy is a bad faith argument. In what world is being coerced into caring for someone with severe special needs that you are just not equipped to deal with in any concievable way like choosing to adopt a puppy, then just sending it back, because it's too much work? Those situations are not remotely equivilant.
Moving the teenager to a place that CAN care for him properly IS the right thing to do. Saying anything otherwise is detrimental to the kid's well being.
Some people are not equipped to handle that situation, and it does not make them bad people, or unfit to help other kids with less severe problems.
@@marcruth4531 I fell like we won’t this this one for a bit 🤣
i admit, i read this before getting to that part. I thought, surely it couldn't be that bad. It was so much worse???? wtf is wrong with this narrator
@@whoknowsaymore6210 ngl I haven’t had a chance to watch the video yet
This is an awful comparison. You can't compare someone to a puppy!!?? It was obviously a difficult decision that wasn't taken lightly. OP did the right thing.
@@whoknowsaymore6210 A lot of the times these narrators have bad takes, it's just a "Really, dude?", and not worth commenting about, but this one was just offensively bad.
Once again terrible take from this guy.
If you can't properly take care of a child (or a puppy) then it's best for someone else to take over. Long term it's the best for everyone involved, including future fosters that you can care for
Plus people're very much a different beast than puppies. And even on puppies, some peeps realize big dogs aren't something they can handle when they initially thought they could, but know they'll have the space/ability for some types of small dogs. Knowing you can handle dog X in a small apartment but not say a doberman isn't showing irresponsibility, but quite the opposite. Esp if it's a doggo you got the responsibility passed to by family.
Love is sometimes knowing you can't handle something and making sure it can flourish better than you could. My grandma took care of my eldest uncle(who got meningitis in the hospital as a newborn and was left w/ lifetime disabilities), my grandma realized as she got on the old side of life that her body couldn't keep up. Now he's in a group home, and he's doing way better than towards the end with family.
It doesn't even make sense with puppies either. It's obviously better to do your research beforehand. But if you realize that you can't take care of a Doberman or Collie puppy, it's absolutely better to return it. Maybe down the line you can get a smaller dog that's easier to manage. Puppies are not one-size-fits-all either.
I am surpised no one mentioned that the OP and the foster child were probably both still grieving his moms passing. It could have added to the foster childs behavioral issues - op dropped one line about them being worse since his mom died.
It could also have lessened the OP's ability to have patience with kid.
My half-brother has adhd, bipolar, and some undiagnosed other things. His mom, AN F-ING NURSE, ignored his issues. "There's nothing wrong with my son. How dare u label my son." Everytime our dad and my mom found a doc that agreed that he needs help, she would sue them/report them to the medical board. And was never held accountable by her. The result: alcoholic at age 14. Minus an arm from drunk driving. Has done every street drug in existence. Is such a horrible person, that NO ONE talks to him anymore/refuses to help him.
Moral of the story: GET YOUR CHILD HELP IF THEY EXHIBIT BEHAVIORS THAT COULD BE A MEDICAL ISSUE
Story 6: If he couldn't provide for his needs then he couldn't provide for his needs.
I cringed at that puppy comparison. You’ve never taken care of special-needs children if that is how you think of it. There is a huge difference between not wanting the responsibility and it being overwhelming.
Kids with severe mental impairments and extreme behavior that are adult sized are very dangerous, when they lash out and they are a lot to maintain and manage. There are parents that had to be institutionalized because of the mental effects of taking care of their special needs kids. I nannied special needs kids and it is extremely taxing and draining. To have to deal with it on a daily basis by yourself for a kid that you didn’t even choose to take in, that’s a lot. He did the right thing by rehoming him and acknowledging that he couldn’t handle it.
It took me a couple of times hearing it to put together that "a blessed" was supposed to be "ableist" in the second story 😂
Omg thank you 😂😂 I couldn't figure it out
Omg thank you! 😂😂 I couldn't figure it out
The moment I am going to click off from this video, lmao the absolute balls to read it on record too here. Jesus christ.
Oh lol 😮
I was only listening to the video, and I thought it was some word I’ve never heard before. And I would have continued thinking so until I saw your comment
Story 10: that man is terrifying. I hope it's fake but my god if it's real that woman needs to get some type of restraining order.
On top of all that this post has convinced me that this narrator just isn't for me. I could sit here and be rude and say his takes are awful, half-baked, yadda yadda. But i just don't care anymore. I'm gonna stick with undersparked
This is the worst take on the foster carer. I have had to personally make the decision, very similar to the OPs. In no way is it comparable to puppies! Wtf dude. A human being with health issues is not the same as a dog. If i was to continue caring for my nephews, they would not have been given the care they deserved.
Plus the OP was grieving her mom's death!
S1 a prenup is to protect both sides. If you can't agree for whatever reason, just leave. It's okay. Of course he shouldn't try to get part of what's hers and organize what happens in case of separation. That's the idea of those contracts. He's not ready for marriage, probably never will or at least not a woman like OP.
I have a friend. Let’s call her Mel.
Mel lost her first husband (Jay) and their 10 year old daughter when Mel was in her 30’s. Mel’s home had burned down in a fire, so the only photo or memorabilia she had of her husband was of their wedding day that she would keep in her clutch while she worked. She later remarried another man, (Roy) in her early 60’s. After she married Roy, she put the photo of her and Jay in a frame and kept it next to the new wedding photo of Roy and Mel.
One day she came home to find Roy clutching the old wedding photo of Mel and Jay while sitting on the bed.
What was he doing, you may ask? Well, when he was alone and ever since Roy and Mel began dating, Roy would grab the wedding photo of Mel and Jay, either off the wall of her home, or later off the nightstand after the two married. Roy would “talk” to Jay. He’d give him updates on Mel’s life, discuss difficulties, ask for guidance or advice, etc. Roy was an absolutely beautiful man and he showed what true love should look like. He adored his wife, even within the life she had before him and would still have if Jay were still alive.
Anyway, that story of the harpy who destroyed, sold, and trashed all of her husband’s late-wife’s things miffs me so incredibly bad. I honestly don’t care what other’s would say. What she did is grounds for divorce, period.
that last story. omg. laughed my arse off when it was the poster causing all of the problems
My husband asked me for a prenup, and I said, "no." His concern was for the business he shares, so they just changed things on their end where either of them (the owners) would have the opportunity to buy shares before anyone else. Easy compromise. OP's partner doesn't sound like he wants to build anything with her or compromise on anything; he just wants her to fit into the life he already has.
People with special needs aren't comparable to puppies, full stop. Quite frankly, continuing to provide sub-standard care out of a sense of obligation will ultimately do more harm than good.
Comparing someone with developmental disabilities to a puppy you change your mind about is pretty effing ableist. Oh, and googling pronunciation is also a thing.
Sparked team, it's time to do more research when reviewing whether or not someone will make a decent narrator. Considering how many stories involve Reddit posts using this particular discriminatory term, it would probably be a decent idea to find someone who knows what it is and how it's pronounced, or at the very least search how to pronounce it.
The nephew could be an absolute angel and the demands alone would be a guaranteed not happening...
now that is called standards in the first story, she has a heart of gold, not a gold digger she is the gold!
Story 10: I was already set on calling this guy and AH for cheating and thinking he should move on, but he said metal was nasty? F YOU!!!
57:54 and another bad take from this narrator
Not gonna lie, this guy has some really awful takes. Awful enough that I want Kevin back as the narrator.
I read "I want to leave him bc he wants to get a pup" 😂
Story 2; the parents have no excuse being "early 60s." My dad and mom, both in their 70s, would *ALWAYS* babysit my niece whenever it was needed, with very few exceptions, and my niece can be an absolute brat (but not at the grandparent's house, that's for sure.) OPs family are selfish.
Also "able-ist" isn't "a blessed" lol man took me like 10 tries to figure out what was being said.
Please be aware regarding Story 3: Comments about it have been deleted. Also, it's missing something now that was there before. More of the story, which ends in the very specific request 38:44 shows the audio and gameplay skip noticeably. The end of the story had this request from the OP, that the narrator read out without commentary, irony, or any sort of self-awareness:
"Oh, and I do not give my consent for any person to re-upload this or anything else I posted on TikTok or Facebook or RUclips. My first few posts have been uploaded to TikTok and Facebook and have like over 250k views. It makes me feel sick that people are using me as a tool to make money. I know this probably won't stop any of them, but if anyone sees them out in the wild, know I do not support it."
PSA: This is not how you fix something. You don't try to sweep it under the rug, you make an actual apology (ideally in the description and/or a pinned comment) and remove the whole thing, not just partially and try to sweep it under the rug. I have no idea if this is an action taken by the narrator or a channel/group-wide decision, but either way I'm incredibly disappointed. I thought you guys were better than this.
Yeah it looks like they cut at least ten minutes of updates that included the comment requesting no one repost their story or make money off of it on other platforms. If they were going to edit the video why didn't they just honor the request and remove the entire story instead of removing the request? Because then there would be a skipped number?
It bothers me generally when people repost stories where the OP is obviously in crisis because it lacks a certain amount of respect for the reality of the situation let alone the 'hey, you're monetizing this, shouldn't you help?' angle, but at the very minimum if you are going to seek out and exploit those stories if someone says not to you could honor them.
Should the OP see any of this, I would want them to know I feel bad about not respecting their wishes and would hope the channel would apologize similarly especially since they have access to the means to do so. I would also want them to know regarding what I heard that it sounds like they are dealing with horrible and unfair things for anyone, let alone at their age and I hope they can walk away from the reddit drama and take to heart they are worthy of a stable environment to thrive in and create their own family and connections moving forward and working towards that is hard for anyone even in the best of conditions but they can do it and they can build and do great things and what they did as a traumatized kid does not define their life or who they are.
Narrator, when you said you have never been a foster parent, you should have chosen to stay silent on that and not say its akin to a puppy being returned if you feel you cant take care of it. And isn't that the possible solution? Even in case of a puppy, would you rather abandon the puppy on the streets because you can't rake care of them or hand over to someone who you know can really care for the puppy well? I think the same goes for the op ad well. He shouldnt be forcing himself to take care of his younger brother even after realising that he is not capable of doing so. I know not everyone is gojng to agree with the opinions that you have on these stories. But you are a good narrator as well. I know you do have some good takes.. So don't be discouraged and just keep going. Am sure your takes on the stories will get better with time.
Isn't it pronounced able-ist?
Yes. Able-ist.
Yes, this grated me lol
Stepmonster who threw out deceased wife's photos and mementos, "I love my husband so much!" ...not enough to put yourself in his or the daughter's shoes apparently...not one thought for how it might make them feel...
My grandparents are in their 80s and still babysit us😂😂😂
23:35 "She won't let them see him again" ... don't threaten me with a good time! 😄
I'm so glad the 50-year old lady didn't take it lying down.
Story 1:
I feel like the OP wants to have a family more then she wants her BF specifically.
Ohhh this is a long one. I guess ill be edditing this comment a lot 😅
The way his prenup is organized sounds like hes trying to do a "whats mine is mine and whats yours is also mine"
What his is his she was mad because he want her I'm pregnant. she was a golden digger
@@rico2119sorry, what?
@@olgar.6604troll let him wallow in his filth
I can tell what's not yours : punctuation 😀@@rico2119
Story 2:
OP should try to get diagnosis for her sister's kid. Not so much for her family but rather for herself.
It could be her best offence against the family.
She could continuously reply that she doesn't feel fit to manage an obviously special child.
The diagnosis could be her shield which her family will continuously try to avoid like the plague, like they do now. Or accept it and try to work on solution.
On the Babysitter thing...He might have the same mix of problems + something that triggers violent meltdowns. He might be a nightmare to deal with because A, He is usuallt loud when Overstimulated with excitement, Or stress (I usually get loud like that too, but I learned to control it, somewhat.), and The parent is doing jack all to help him develop the same or different ways to control his behavior.
Story 2:
The mama sister is drowning in her problems but is unwilling to admit it. And instead lashes out and tries to manipulate the OP.
I bet her hell kid pisses her off the most.
But she can't admit that there is a problem that needs fixing.
Classic.
S3 but the sister does have issues too. Her reactions to the comments about her kid are not normal. Not giving him the help and support he needs is criminal. It doesn't have to be medication, at least at this age. The way the sister talks about the friend's wife just shows you why she doesn't want her kid being diagnosed... She hates disabled people and doesn't want her kid to have those issues 🙄 she has big mental issues. OP needs to go NC with the whole family. Argh the end... Of course
Compairing a human with a dog is the most stupid thing I EVER hear!!! it is okay to admit to your self you cant look for a kid an give them the chance for a better home!
I have special needs, and my biological mother tried to give me to Georgia.
I wish they'd have let her. She proceeded to neglect and allow my biological father to do worse, so honestly, if a parent can't care for a kid, let them give the child up.
the foster story, those two things are no where NEAR the same. he made the absolute right decision. if he hadn’t tried for his mom then the outcome would be the same, the kid going away. he feels guilty because he has empathy and isn’t a sociopath NOT because he’s wrong. wrong would be letting a promise to your mom WHILE SHE WAS DYING come before the needs of a child.
if anything it’s the same as being giving a dog you don’t want, doing your best to care for it, then realizing that the dog would be better off with ppl who both asked for and wanted it.
and i hate this analogy because comparing a human to a dog just isn’t sitting right with me but you listed two things that frankly aren’t comparable
bad take dude
1:36:34 then how do you know she was happy with you?
Ah man, I feel so bad for that Dad and his ex's stealing the kids away! It sounds like what happened to my Dad when I was little, poor Dad and kids!
the one about the foster kid being given to another family. wow voice actor...you're really just i don't have words. the guy recognized he couldn't handle the kid. it's much better the kid goes with a family who can handle his issues than be with someone who doesn't know how to deal with them and gets frustrated and burned out and they both suffer. he's not a trained professional. he made a promise to his mom but realized he wasn't capable. i wasn't a foster kid but i was raised by a mother who shouldn't have been a mother. she's unmedicated bipolar and a narcissist. so instead of being raised by a loving parent i was raised by someone who saw me as an extension of themselves and property of her. the mental and emotional damage that she caused because she was not capable of raising a child is still lingering in my adult life. you really should keep your bad opinions to yourself. your voice is nice but your opinions suck.
Youll never be my real dad
Story 1:
These guys have different images of the future. And sounds like there is definitely communication issue.
Also I feel like the guy wants a GF but doesn't believe in family with her and is actively resisting (consciously or unconsciously) due to his own issues.
Game is Exo one
Not all heroes wear capes
I’m just happy I found it in the comments of one video
Story 1: good thing that op left the guy for real. It's pretty suspicious how he went back on everything he was saying for the last year and now claims the opposite.
People usually don't change their opinion like that. Sounds like he was willing to say anything to mend things with op (or to get his parents off his back). So what he was saying was coerced or he was just lying, hoping to come back to his original plan once things settle down...
Comparing a special needs foster child with a puppy? Absolutely not. OP was taking the right decision by letting the kid be with someone that could really take care of them. If you force yourself into a situation that you are not suited for you will end up causing more harm than well, this applied for everything, tasks, kids, marriages, pets. You really messed up with that comparison.
Who ever has a large amount of assets and properties either alone or in a group, while single then be you man or woman would (especially in this day of most marriages failing) be smart to have a Prenup!…as a divorce could cost you a lot!… I have often thought about this topic. Should I ever remarry and if I had acquired a large portfolio it would only be prudent for my future wellbeing to be as cautious and protective of said assets, I like to think before I propose marriage to a woman That it is when I feel that she is one I want to be with and that she feels the same, and would have a stipulation included in said prenup for her to receive an amount based on our time together as husband and wife, but I would not allow the door to be wide open for her to take “Half” or more of a fortune that I had previously built!
2 HOURS it's a good day
DAYUM first 24 30 minutes then 54 to 103 now 2 houses bruh I cuold watch a badboys movie and a half in the time the video wuold be over 😂😂😂
Good thing this channel is better then a bad bits movie
It sonds like the kid in the second story is on the specktrom he sonds like me wen I wus way yunger
To the narrators comment, after the foster care story. I see the point that you made and it being similar to adopting a dog and realizing that dog are a lot of work and returning it to get another one. However this situation would actually be like you were left a dog by your relative, who is missing a leg, and is blind and deaf. You may not be able to provide the specialized care that the special needs dog required. But you still may able to perfectly provide the care needed for a dog with no disabilities.
I have cared for intellectually delayed children before, it is infinitely harder than caring for a neurotypical child. Not everyone is capable of handling children with special needs, either physically not having the strength to or mentally not having the strength to.
Relating a mentally stunted individual to a puppy let alone foster children isn't right, and is a terrible analogy. If you are going to relate them to dogs, then at least acknowledge the origins of said "puppies" and their issues to understand what OP did was the right thing.
John is like a dog, beaten, and abused, with aggression issues and issues that lead them to be destructive. Most people would discard that dog, but OP's mom and OP themselves took them in, and even if John still has issues, he has been taken care of and many of his issues resolved due to past trauma.
Paul is let's say a dog that was born and was suffocated some, and while surviving suffered severe brain damage and developmental issues. Paul deserves love and got a lot of that from OP's mom, who was mentally and physically able to manage him. Paul likely craps himself and throws toddler tantrums, but is in the body of an adult, so needs constant cleaning up, there is constant screaming and telling going on.
Once OP's mom died, he now has to deal with all of the issues there, while taking care of the "dogs" John and Paul. John is a good boy, if some still deep-seated issues OP is there to help but otherwise, he'd be the kind of dog euthanized. Where Paul, OP can't handle him, can't handle cleaning up after him, can't handle the screaming and tantrums, and resentment started to grow. OP deciding to get Paul the help he needs, from people who are specialized in providing for special needs "dogs" is the correct thing to do.
In other words, OP can take care of the "Puppy" that is John fine and can handle other "puppies" like John, and help them become well-adjusted and good dogs. What OP is not capable of doing is taking care of "puppies" like Paul as he lacks the time, funds, patience, and all-around abilities to help, and it would be a disservice to Paul to keep him in a place where he can not get the help he needs.
Be it a Person or dog, they deserve to be comfortable, healthy and cared for properly, and it's never wrong to admit defeat and get them the help you can't provide by rehoming them. OP admits they hate it had to come to it, but it's better to let Paul be with a loving family where he gets what he needs than be selfish and keep a "puppy" you can't handle. Getting Paul rehomed is better than just dumping him at the pound.
Time to sleep!!!!!
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Last dudes yapping is lowkey pissing me off
The foster care one I think the guy did what he thought was best and I approve of it I mean his mother is the one that took care of the kid not him and then all of a sudden he has a 16 year old kid that has a mind of a 3 year old that he's taking care of all the time when it was his mother taken care of him I understand that the kid is in a better home and that's all that matters he's in a home where he can get the help that he needs with people who are fit to take care of people like him and that is the best option for him in my book a place where somebody can take care of them right it's all about choosing a home for a child the right home in the right home wasn't with him anymore again his mother is the one that took care of that child not him not till she died so I think what he did was the best thing for it I don't think it was like a you adopt a puppy from the humane society saying and then you bring it back because it's not a puppy no more I don't think that has nothing to do with this this has to do with the kid that has severe mental issues severe enough that he cannot take care of that he is not mentally equipped to take care of somebody like him this is not the same as getting an animal from a pet store that is this is two totally different things and you know that
story 1 ngl big red flag wanting such a thing prenups are icky and stupid
Story 2: I wouldn’t even forgive the parents at this point.
Story 3: Man these parents may not be abusing these kids like some, but seriously screwing then over none the less
5: Disagree with ya narrator, this is a 19 year old kid, promise or not he couldn’t provide the care Paul needed so I think it is best for Paul to be moved.
Story 10: I also hope this is fake but I’ve seen enough ReddX and nice guy content to understand that there are definitely delusional people like this out there. He wants the last word, that’s it.
No why do they only post long videos after I finished my gaming session
Wonder if the narrator is being tone-deaf to generate rage comments.
I was looking for comments than looked at the time it was 😅
I'm sick and can't sleep so...hi🖐️
The last story is adorable
My abuela babysat me when she was 60-70 be fr
It's "ableist", not "a blessed".
What is the game in the background?
Mario 56
Exo One
New narrators takes aren’t as bad as in previous vids but he still got some bad takes
I dunno man, comparing a mentally disabled kid to a puppy is a pretty awful take.
@@kyototomokui6676 that was the bad take I was referencing
Story 10 pissed me off and is clearly rage bait so congrats because wth was that...
Really dont care for this commentator. To much of an ass based on comments and not knowing the full story.
Omg it's 2 hours 🎉🎉
This narrator gets a lot of hate, but he really does narrate the victimy stories very well! for example, the second to last story, which I have absolutely no sympathy for the guy! Also, it is nice not to have an opinion for every story, 😉
He should have an opinion for every story, it’s what makes this more than just a robot reading it
Nice
OP 1 ks an idiot
The guy dodged a bullet.
The rich guy? She made it very clear that she left him because she wants to build a life together, it sounds like he wants to marry her to have a son, she dodged a bullet.
@@hedgiehogdudeu_u406 She literally starts her post with the reason as she doesn't want to sign a prenup and then much later justifies her reasoning with the other manipulating nonsense. She admits she was told multiple times earlier in the relationship about the prenup but obviously thought he could be emotionally manipulated over time as she did to his parents into making him give up on the prenup. She has wasted his time by not discussing her concerns the first time the prenup was discussed, obviously deliberately and got all stubborn and annoyed that she failed.
@@lazyfrogonalog It's not that she doesn't want to sign A prenup, it's that she doesn't want to sign THAT prenup.
@@mwalton9526 Did you listen to the story?
@@lazyfrogonalog Yes, did you?