What is a Narcissist ? How to point him out ? How to handle?
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Summary of Narcissism . Explained by Dr Javed Iqbal
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Narcissism is not a self love ,it is self hatred,it is not is superiority, but inferiority, it is not self confidence, it is insecurity, Narcissim is a defence mechanism, Narcissism in one word is evil in human form.
Well described 🙌
Deep down self hatred and insecurity but such emotions keep high and low based on external validation. They cope and try to display themselves in the upper hand as compared to others when people normally talk but their twisted listening skills perceived something as we are making them feel low intentionally that is not a case in real, they relate our words with themselves to feel high and low. What a waste on earth these people, Allah!!! Stay away as much as we can.
@@salmankhan-k2l4w aap is ko itni ahmiyat kio deti hn. Esy logo ki mut hoti hy agr un ko ignore kia jay. Jb tk aap us ko ahmyat dn gi wo or ziada aap ko tngkry ga.
Sahi bola apne
Sir
According to your discription there are so many person arround us .some tme we also behave like this trad very depressive issue !!
Pehli dafa kissi ne urdu mein itni jamia wazahat dee hai. Assalam O Alaikum. JazakAllah khair bhai.
@@ia02 indian psychiatrist shriyut anand ki video dekhen buhat help mile gi unki video Urdu me hen
He criticise on my faith , my work , my parents , my actions.Even my sabr my eman. Everything .
It seems i have everything worst.
U r not alone.....every woman....is in this....
May Allah SWT protect u from his bad behavior.Aamen summa aameen 🤲🏻
May Allah protect u.ameen
Count me in,
My partner is also like that.😂
Same here😢
jazakAllah Dr Saheb, for very brief but deep talk on Narcissism. Every household is suffering from it and we are seeing it growing in our surroundings and creeping in ourselves😢, it's sooooo subtle in our own elves that we all need self reflection daily as you said Alhumdulilah. Keep talking about it and asking Allah to protect us from sharr of evil people.Ameen
Plzzz is baray main detail say patain kay asay loogoo say kasay bChay kiyoon kay zada taar ye Pakistani mard walay mard,kaam bi nahi kartay hai.😢😢😢
Elahi Ameen
Sadly, they are in every family
100%
So true
Yes100%
Alhamdulillah, not in my family
summery:
Narcissist personality types,
1.gradual type: no empathy
2.Malignant type: they causes harm to others[and also involved in criminal activities]
difference b/w psychopath and Malignant ,psychopath never feel pity but Malignant narcissist do feel sometime
3.Coward type: they seems normal but ..they always blame
4.communal type: they do very good deeds to be admired they are socially active and they don't care of people
these are psychological disorders
precautions:
1. admit they are not gonna change
2. don't take it personally even if they insult you or commend you
3.don;t believe on their words believe on their behavior and actions
4.don't validate yourself your feelings to them
and if you are a narcissist :
1. self reflection
2.enhance your capacity
4. consult a psychiatrist ..
Bahut ache summary. Little correction 3 is Covert not coward
1 is Grandeur
Yes I noticed exact same mistakes
@@Nishu-zj7wd oh sorry my bad...
@@LittleTweetyOf3 i had no idea of the pronunciation...just wrote it to remind myself......by the way
یعنی تکبر غرور اور رعونت۔۔۔۔جو اللہ سبحان و تعالٰی کو سخت ناپسند ہے۔۔۔اللہ سبحان و تعالٰی ہمیں ایسے بندوں میں شامل نہ کرے۔۔۔۔آمین یا رب العالمین۔
Mary husband same thy....mujhy giri hui samjhty thy .....sepretion ho gai
Kiya ye log çhup bhi hojaty Hain jab koi in ka favorite person inko criticize kerta hai to ta k osko pata na chaly is ki haqeeqat please Thora guide kerdain Meri friend hai and I am 100 % sure she is narcissist
@@madihakhan5295please guide kerdain Thora
Dear sir Iqbal please keep guiding people. We need you and people like you. Many Pakistanis are not going to the right direction due to this Fitna of the this age- Cellphone and Social Media.
Narcissist don't accept their faults never change 😢
They make you feel guilty instead, actually it's the other way round😢.
I'm suffering
I'm suffering 😢
You are right
kia pta tum b apni ghalti na mante ho or dusre ko ghalt bol re ho
Outstanding knowledge. Appreciate your hard work.
Very useful video thankyou dr. Sahib for increasing knowledge
Please do a full program on covert narcissist husbands or spouse. Please a lot of ppl are going through this
Ovr ap?
Do reiki
Reiki sessions
The definition of narcissism extends beyond just the traits commonly mentioned. In many cultures, including ours, parents and husbands can exhibit narcissistic behaviors. These individuals often present themselves differently in public, appearing charming and considerate, but their true nature can be harmful behind closed doors. Only those who have experienced their true colors can understand the duality of their behavior. They can be loving and angelic at times, but often, their actions reveal a more manipulative and controlling side, akin to devils. This dynamic can be incredibly challenging for those on the receiving end.
How to change oneself if he has narcissistic person😢
Sooo true 😢
My mother is a narcissist and she destroyed all her chidren
@@alikhansahab8356
Very sad to hear this, all children should support each other and not let your mother do anything wrong to you or your siblings.
May Allah grant you good health. Excellent analysis of narcissism! Looking foto your next lecture
Allah pak apki umar main brkt ata farmae
It is very easy to point out narcissistic personalities.
Someone with a narcissistic personality tends to focus excessively on themselves, seeks constant admiration, lacks empathy for others, and may exploit people to achieve their own goals. They often believe they are superior and entitled to special treatment.
It's overt. But it's hard to spot communal and covert/closet narcissist. It's hidden under the care, respect and love but it's actually narcissistic supply.
Don’t believe his words, instead see his behaviour.
Never get validation from him.
Thanks Doc. For these golden words
Got them a bit late 😢
But big thanks 🙏🏻
اسلام علیکم
سرجی ، اللّٰہ آپ کے علم میں اضافہ فرمائے آمین ۔
🌙🌹⭐
I’m married to a narcissist have four kids together it’s been 18 years now I realize what I always felt was not my fault I feel like I can’t handle anymore crap from him but feel like nowhere else to go
They always keep you under pressure so you lose all your confidence, your sense of direction, your decision power. In the end you are left with your confused self.
Which country are you living in
Samehere no where to go just be patience and put everything on ALLAH everything will b ok one day
I am facing the same issue and have no emotional support, no family to help. I'm just looking up to God .
Same here ... no where to go , nothing I can do just be a victim of his torture day in and day out ... duain kar kar k b thak gai hoon, har waqt sar main takleef rahti hai stress main rah rah k bemar hotti ja rahi hoon... I want to start a common community for us wh9 are suffering from this same issue ... shayad mill k hum log koi solution nikal sakain... Jo Jo b community k haq main hai mujae Facebook pae join karain taak k hum apnay lia kuch kar saqain
Thank you for such a clear explanation of Narcissism 👍🏻
1 Pakistani serial hai khudgarz (2017) mein aaya tha . Yeh narcissist, dysfunctional household ki kahani thi. Iska main character Hassan hai. Yeh sabko dekhna chahiye. Yeh drama psychologically heavy drama hai and bohot saare life lessons hai
Dr. Iqbal… you are amazing! Your explanation was so clear and easily understandable. Thank you!
I know my husband is Narcissist. It has been 18 years. Short tempered, aggressive. Loves himself. Nothing matters whats going on. What are my needs , how i can breath, where is my happiness burried
I’m so sorry for you.. my mother in law is a narc. Made my life hell! Still is!
90% are male like this
All love for u... I m living in this environment for 8 years...
I was married to a covert narcissist for 31 years until he died of stage 4 cancer of the brain.
He made mine and the children's lives miserable.
It wasn't until after he died that I found out he was suffering from a mental illness.
All those years I thought I was the problem. I thought it was my fault that I couldn't make him happy.
In those 31 years he lied manipulated and cheated on me with women and men.
What can you do you have to play the cards Allah Rub-ul Izaat delte you in life 😢.
sad...
The story of every Pakistani household
This topic needs to b addressed more often for awareness purposes as many families n work places suffer in silence in the hands of narcissistic sociopaths among the masses 😢
Dr. Iqbal youre absolutely right. Very well explained
Assalam o alaikum, Dr sahab hamesha ki tarha behtareen ur informative video, jazak Allah, mehnaz fatima.
Thank you for your honesty & not sugar coating.
jazakAllah Dr. Sahab. Apne hmari zindgi asaan krdi. Allah apko asaanian ata farmaae. Sehat e kaamila k Sath lambi zindgi ataa farmaae. Salaamat rahain abaad rahain Allah ki amaan main rahain. Ameen sm Ameen 🤲🥀
Dr. Sab mai kafi arsy sy kuch relatives ky narcisist hony ki waja sy takleef mai tha ... Lekin apki tips boht real or practical hain... Or mujhe sunty hi boht sukoon mila or agy jab mai in py amal karu ga to mery liey boht asani hogi... Allah apko boht jzae khair dey.❤
Inspired from lectures of Dr Ramani Durvasula, an American clinical psychologist and an expert on Narcissistic personality disorder.
Indian phycologist shriyut anand ki video bhi dekhen
Narcissist so much more than that they eat your spirit day and night for decades im narcissistic abuse survivor and I don’t what life is what is respect what is self what is worth nothing I was like a zombie whole life
Dear I want you to understand one thing You are loved you are Respected And you have all you worth Please don't be harsh anymore on yourself
How did you get out of abuse? And did you take therapy for the trauma caused?
@@ayeshasalam9416aoa sister. there is no way k ap is tarha theak ho jaeen with therapy you can manage your daily life and get your soul back or shayad life ko jeeny ka perpos dobara dondh len but agar ap bat krti hen k ap is sy cure ho jaeen or life me move on kar len to uska hal sift sepration ha. i would advise k ap apno sy connected raheen friends and family k sath or kbhi bhi khud ko isolate na kreen. wassalam
ye zindagi sirf aek safar ka hisa aek din ham sab ny hisab dena ha
@@ayeshasalam9416yes by reiki
شکریہ ڈاکٹر صاحب، اہم ٹاپک ۔۔
آج کل سوشل میڈیا self importance اور self confidence کے نام پر کافی نرگسیت پھیلا رہا ہے ، اس سے بھی بچنے کی ضرورت ہے۔۔
Dr sahib pakistan k 70% shohar hazrat narssit hn jo apni maaon ki trbiyat ka nateeja ha
Bilkul theek baat kahi. 100 percent
True
I agree
Unmai ap bhi hai
So true i agree all fault of their mums upbringing
بہت ہی اچھی باتیں بتائیں ہیں جناب ❤❤❤
بہت خوب معلومات ۔۔۔ جزاکم الله خیرا کثیرا ۔ بارکم اللّٰه فیکم ۔۔۔
محترم ڈاکٹر صاحب
جو اپنے ہی حسن کا دیوانہ بنا پھرتا ہے
انسان کی کیا بڑای
سدا بادشاہی میرے اللہ کی ہے بڑی صرف میرے اللہ کی ہے
Jazak Allah hu khair sir is topic Pakistan m pahli bar every aspects sa apny dicuss kia ha.... Is topic ko m kab sa western aspects sa sun ree ho.. but mughy apni society k according proper way m khabi knowledge ni mila.... Specialy apny jo handling k ways discuss kia ha.. self analysis kaisy kia jay... Bohat duay sir ap k ly.. aisy laga ha demagh ki guthi sulajh gae ha... Allah apki any wali naslo m khair rakhy or shar sa mehfooz rakhy... Aik beti ki taraf sa bohat duy ha apky lay...
Listen Dr. Hira Waseem also
Wow!! I have read some of the comments made by the viewers and am boggled by as to how widespread this condition is.
Most viewers are pointing to being in bad relationships with the people who they say have narcissistic personality disorder.
A lot of times it’s the people who are brought up ( in certain cultures) where preference is given to the males, hence the superiority complex.
My word of advice would be to avoid mixing the two traits; being narcissistic and being raised as a superior human.
BTW, it’s a great video doctor!
بہترین ویڈیو ہے ۔سلامت رہیں ۔
Sir Iqbal thanks very much for this great informative video. Excellent diagnostics and very effective prognosis of this behaviour. 🙏🙏
Some people are incredibly successful in their career and life but they fail in marriages. They only show their true colors to their spouses. They show an amazing family to the world but the minute they are behind closed doors they are animals.
Can you please do a show on this. How can one survive in such conditions. It is like death before death. Their partners in most of the cases are too empathic and they start to loose their minds. Please I request you again to do a show on it
Excellent topic that should be discussed
Narcissist victim start doubting his own existence thinking Am I too bad? Or Am I really the one who is responsible for all this? Even if he cries to the world ,no one will believe his victimization by the narcissist.
🎉jzk khair brother Javed 🎉
Behatrin presentation. Shukriya doctor sahib.
Good explanation
I worked on it through astrology and wrote in my book
Assalamualekum sir I'm from up India 🇮🇳
plzz make a video on nihilism also
U R doing great work Allah aapki umar me barkat farmay ❤
JazakAllah for giving this awareness, actually we all come into contact with such personalities in our lives, but in fact hav no idea of dealing with them, this post of yours is v helpful,may Allah bless u with health and afiat.ameen
Knowledgeable video❤
Narcissists r cheap and disgusting at the same time 😅
MashAallaha JazakAallaha khair sir may Aallaha tala bless you and your family members and your team keep it up ❤❤❤
Excellent educational and therapeutic presentation. Jazak Allah Khair for all of your work. May Allah s. w. t. bless, protect, nourish, enlighten and guide us all. Aameen!
Sir ye aesa topic h is per itni awareness huni chahiye ap logo ki zimadari h iska solution btana be q k Pakistan mai har aurat Narcissist husband k sath zindagi guzar rhi h sadky 😢
Foreign countries m Pakistan s bh bray narcissist paey jaty h r yaha b aurtein sath rehny pr majboor h just becox of kids
Sb nahi Hain.
Solution exists in every drama. Get an education, earn your own money. They are not going to change? What's hope you have internally? Kill the hope. Your own family will push you to stay and label you crazy and act as flying monkey therefore stay away and build your own life.
This was thoroughly explained doc. Thankyou.
Bohot bohot shukriya.
Jazak Allah bless you
True it's very informative lecture
Wonderful n informative post .
Assalamu alikum.. Well said agree with u Dr saahab.. From kashmir
JazakAllah got your point❤
Very good briefing prof. Sb. I must appreciate that you delivered a good lecture about narcissism. One of my close in-laws relatives is a narcissist. I used to be hurt after meeting her. I prayed to Allah to bestow me with patience. One comment I like the most in your lecture is that a narcissist can never be changed. It is 💯% true. May Allah bless you, ameen.
Yes they only care for themselves. They used to be happy at your expense without acknowledging that you r paying your own emotions, happiness even material things for their happiness. Cheaters and liars they are. Will gaslight you if you point them out..etc etc. Dr. Sb you explained it very well. But practically survival is very hard in this kind of relationship... Actually thats not a relationship but becomes a situationship where you have to fix all their nasty acts just for the survival of the family.😢
Very impressive doctor sab
Its a very worrisome thing to deal thesedays , our lives made hell unfortunately due to such people in closest relations...i feel if they fear Allah , they will have empathy
And i feel narcissists have one feature in common deep inside is lack of Allah's fear !
May Allah swt keep us protected from them , aameen
Good eyeopening talk mashallah and plz keep spreading awareness.
That's what I always wonder.
If a person had fear of God , why would he hurt others emotionally
My mother is a narcissist and I'm completely helpless 😢
@@alikhansahab8356 I am sorry.
It's extremely difficult.
Narc destroy your mental health.
واہ ! بہترین معلومات ۔ ۔۔۔ السلام علیکم!
Infact hamari society me divorce hi narcissism ki wajha se hoti he
But most of people don't understand it
Divorce ki bari wajah inlaws hain
@@amnahaque9058 woh inlaws bhi narcissist hi hote hen, Meri saas , 2 nanden, aur husband sab narcissist hen aur susral me Jo narcissist nhi they woh inke supporters they, Meri saas ka narcissism itne extreme level ka tha k unhon ne suicide kar li thi
@@rakhshizafar9610 my father in law is the Head narcissist, followed by my saas and my husband and his sister.
It's so stressful.
I feel so alone, I lost my mother 2 years ago.
1 Pakistani serial hai khudgarz (2017) mein aaya tha . Yeh narcissist, dysfunctional household ki kahani thi. Iska main character Hassan hai. Yeh sabko dekhna chahiye. Yeh drama psychologically heavy drama hai and bohot saare life lessons hai
Asan alfaz mey bohot achchi wazahat ki hey Dr Sahib ney
Jazzak Allah for useful information. I have suffered from my elder brother and my younger sister both of them are typical narcissistic behaviour.
Jzakaallah Dil ki gahri se sukria
JzakAllah upto the Mark analysis & sharing knowledge stay blessed
In qualities ka malik poora pakistan hai
Dr javed Iqbal Sahab aap ne meri Zindagi badal di
Jazak Allahu khairan kaseera respected sir
بہت عمدہ پیشکش
شکریہ محترم
JAZAK ALLAH Sir for the education, brilliant explanation
Thank you so much Dr.sahab boohat beneficial tips bataye app nay ..Allah tala app ko boohat jazak e khair atta karay. Ameen
Aslam Alikum Dr. Sb I found the entire content insightful, The best takeaway is always to validate your feelings by your own self and contradict your own deed if you find yourself guilty and correct it.
جزاک اللہ خیراً کثیرا ڈاکٹر صاحب 🎉
Some other attributes of narcissists
1. They never never admit their fault
2. Always shift the blame to others
3. Biggest of all: they hate parenting.
Never ever marry a narcissist. If you come to know late, never have a child with a narcissist partner, your life will be ruined.
Then what to do??? If separation is also not possible.. i m really worried.
@@A.Alam-lg9ry Watch Dr. Ramani videos. DEEP - Don’t defend, don’t engage, don’t personalize, etc.
1 Pakistani serial hai khudgarz (2017) mein aaya tha . Yeh narcissist, dysfunctional household ki kahani thi. Iska main character Hassan hai. Yeh sabko dekhna chahiye. Yeh drama psychologically heavy drama hai and bohot saare life lessons hai
@@ayaansyed9433 ill watch definitely.
Narcisissm. Malignant self love.. a book by Sam Vikkin.
A must read for all
Har koi English language nhi jant isliye Indian phycologist shriyut anand ki video dekhen buhat help mile gi
Dr sahab, what worries me is that Pakistani society comprises of mostly semi educated people and they may start attributing people are narcissit whom they dont like. In west, couples call each other that after breakup etc. So it is an easy way out for us humans to put all the blame on other person and label him or her. The fact is that human relationships are very complex and people are sometimes right and sometimes at fault and at the end of the day a big part of our life is about being a good listener, having ability to forgive/ ignore and understanding people's backgrounds and limitations, admitting where we are at fault and giving credit to others where it is due. Appreciation and patience goes a long way. Most part of our life is how we perceive things and choose to react to them.
I have gone thru almost all the comments but let me tell you that I'm deeply impressed with your understanding of the subject as well as an exceedingly mature and dispassionate critique. I wish I had seen more comments like yours indicating such clarity of self-assessment and overall thought process.
Many thanks for sharing these unique and inspirational views and observations.
Him, her and them. I've been dealing with whole narcissists family atm
Parents and kids are alike. There is no way turn around the narcissists.
From spending money to reasoning nothing going to work with them nothing has worked
Me me me
Pathological liar/cheats
Aggression/abuse
Zero empathy
Manipulation
On repeat
These are all linked together.
How is this possible?
How can a person not love his/her spouse for a few moments?
Yes anger may be there, yes there may be aggression but how can it be only that and no love?
1 Pakistani serial hai khudgarz (2017) mein aaya tha . Yeh narcissist, dysfunctional household ki kahani thi. Iska main character Hassan hai. Yeh sabko dekhna chahiye. Yeh drama psychologically heavy drama hai and bohot saare life lessons hai
Yes i know it,.... My mom is a
1. Narcissist
2. Almond mom
3. Trauma centric
But a super mom 😢
Amazing ,excellent Sir❤❤
Sir please talk more about narcissistic relationships. Leaving a narc spouse husband when you have kids..
JazakAllah o khairan kaseera
Very good points...especially on how to deal with narcissists. Jazakallah kher
I completely agree what you said. It is a bad luck of a person who has to live with such person. I think it is better to ignore them and don't let that person know that you feel guilty. That makes them happy.
Bohat khoob 👏🏻
Salamat rahein 🤲🏼
Jazakumullah Khairan Kaseera for the video.
Sirf pls share , talk more on this, we are having big challenges to face this syndrome...
آپ بھت اچھے انسان ھین
What a perfect explanation, thank you.
Jazak Allah khair, very well explained
May Allah bless you very good health
Doctor sahib you are a good teacher.
Thanks for making a detailed video on narcissism.
Jazaka Allah.... Very very informative video.. thank u so much
I used to live with a narcissist room mate. Initially, it was very difficult to deal with the brother on daily basis but as time went by our relationship improved. I used to give him dawah and engaged him in positive discussion on praying, and faith went well Alhamdullelah. One thing i noticed his mood used to often change at one point he was aggressive other time he was jolly. Very unpredictive May Allah give us patience.
Good Job Sir ! MashaAllah !
یہ لا علاج مرض ہے..
بنیاد بچپن میں ہی مضبوطی سے پڑ چکی ہوتی ہے.
Yes, in between 3 to 8 years of age. They only show true colors when victims are under their radar rest they display themselves as very nice people specially communal and covert narcissists.
Best explanation jazakAllah for sharing
Jazak Allah Khair
Very well explained