Jithna bhi hum change hoke spouse ko manane ki koshish kare phir bhi not even a single percent change I have seen in him… insan ki fitrat ko hum badal nahi sakte… For all these I have not lived my life yet but sacrificed every moment for the sake of him… now got to know that we should first live our life then others
Think positive. Niyyat par tamam amaal ka daromadaar hai. Niyyat saaf hona chahiye.badgumani karte hai hum sab. Chogli fitna hai sach mei.jhoot bhi bohut bolte hai hum. Izzat hum khud apne spouse ki nahi karte aur apne spouse se izzat mohabbat doulat khushi aur har tarah ki sahulat facilities chahte hai. Hamesha hum complaints karte hai apne spouse se , hum yeh kabhi nahi sonchte ke humara spouse ko hum se kya kya complaints hai. Deendaar hum pehle khud bane phir hamare spouse se expect kare. Umeed na rakhe apne spouse se
3 Techniques to deal with it 1. Understand the reason and your contribution in the situation 2. Remove misconceptions and bias and stop judging others. 3. Improve you company and be with positive people and avoid negative people and thoughts.
A good and accurate summary of his video lecture. Wish all could understand and follow these instructions to resolve their difficult problems. Thank you.
I am doing this since 25 year's and still my spouse seems thankless 😔......but I trust my Allah's plan ....he is patient of bipolar. ...mood swings are like our routine. ......may Allah guide all of us to right path....and protect us from evil company. ....Aameen
Asslam o alaikum sir bohat mushkel ha Asy bandy k sath zindgi guzarna lykin bacho k liy Ma Baap k liy sath Nebhana parta ha ap ki batty 100% theek hain
ھمیں اللہ تعالی کا بے شمار شکر ادا کرنا چاھئے جس نے ھمیں ڈاکٹر صاحب کی شکل میں ایک بے غرض شخصیت عطا کی ھےجو ھمیں زندگی گزارنے کے مثبت اور ا چھے طریقے بتاتے ھیں اور ھماری زندگی میں آسانیا ں لا رھے ھی انکی خلوص کی وجہ سے انکی باتوں میں اثر ھے اسلئے دل میں عمل کرنے کا جذبہ بیدار ھوتا ھے- اللہ۔تعالی ڈاکٹر صاحب کو لمبی زندگی اور صحت و عافیت عطا فرمائے
I lived with an outright evil person for 20 years but finally decided to walk out. Yes living in a toxic relationship is hard and living as a divorcee is hard but by putting an end to the abuse your kids and you have a chance to heal and end the trauma but by staying you will ensure the cycle of abuse and trauma will continue for generations.
If positivity is spoiled by negativity every time , how long one can remain positive with good intentions, sometimes it is not possible to fool ourselves, as truth is truth
Try to talk less with that person,talk important!don’t b hopeless n any case….Remember the time when u were student,confidant,take a bath….dress up nicely,wear a watch…..n start writing some thing u like to write….make daily to do list!people plz plz don’t waste your life…n read Quran some times……points I told can be done with out money…. Change ur perspective even after 40”s….the day u change new life starts!
notes : * niyyat (negative or positive) * keena buguz * realities of life * phenomenon of life * misconceptions of reality * generalization * check your company * chirchiray budmizaaj * spouse boss children * cars mobile * akhirat ikhlaqiyat diyanatdari * unbearable * move on in life (by paying the price) * whatever is happening outside * vs whatever is happening inside * psychopath rarely * in 90% cases handling ability is weak * takeout your contribution in the negative situation * change your bird view about yourself *
IV got same story it's been 15 year IV got 3 kids my husband swearing on me front of my family but my family didn't said anything but my husband still blaming me for everything he said front of everyone I do no wat I do now I can't forget this all and he can't leave me but m thinking I can't live like that he said he can't live like that but he still living with me m not talking with him now he try to talk with me is anyone can Tel me wat I do m so depressed
@@sobia9663 i think you should talk to him and ask what he is exactly thinking about you try to find root of ur problem might he need any consoling try to understand each other need s i would only suggest you
@@karachikrunchhe just say silly thgs he think he can swear on me And my mom but if I say something then he count see u said this I can't win him one day he said different thgs And one day different thgs how I can blv him
@@sobia9663 unfortunately such cases are increasing..such ppl have narcissistic personality disorder..this does not heal..Plz get rid of him if possible or he 'll make you a psycho
MashaAllah Sir, no words for ur speech. I can easily relate myself with what examples u have given. 95 % cases hmari mishandling or niyaton ki waja se hi kharab hote hn or in me improvement ki gunjaaish hamesha hoti he.
@@dr.ambreenslife2071 Thank you so much sister, it’s too much trouble for you, actually I’m very interested in his parenting videos. Unfortunately there are no options for english subtitles. Maybe at one stage he will include them, the channel is still new ☺️
Margaret Ryan, he is basically saying that when living with a person who is percieved bad, instead of just leaving it on luck or becoming emotional or maybe just giving up in this struggle in the name of sabr(patience). In place of these futile behaviours, you have to take personal responsibilty and you have to focus and respond in accordance with those things which are completely in your control like your own behaviour,mindset,response,attitude,temparament. For example if a person teases you,the teasing of that person is not in your comtrol but your response is 100 percent in your control and positive responses in such situations can change the dynamics of that situation and it will really improve your relationship. Also he is talking about 3 techniques you have to adopt when living with a bad person which are: 1) Improve your intent and attitude about that situation or about your life and dont just give up in such situations instead you must be optimistic in such situations and BELIEVE. 2) You also have to change your attitude about that person or circumstance as well beacause your attitude determines your altitude. 3) Spend time with the right people which include positive,inspiring,happy,rich,wise,excited people and this act can gradually change your behaviours and it can acclimate you according to the temparements and outlooks of the right people with whom you are spending time with. STAY BLESSED
Very nice advice but it is really difficult to implement these advice in married life if you have to live with a person who is bipolar having mood swings and bad behaviour with kids too then very difficult to maintain and run such relationship.
I hv been all my life very understanding and compromising but now at this age I hv realized the people who are selfish and against u, can never be ur wel wisher . I would say, try to distance ur self from such people and if u are a woman with kids, pls try not to distroy urself, don’t fear , surround ur self with positive people , try to hv financial Independence, try to earn money , having your own money gives woman confidence and they can think fearlessly and leave that person . Otherwise you will end up having a miserable life with lots of health issues
Bilkul thek kaha ap ny 💯% thek kaha mery sath yae prblm hy mery in laws bht buray hain haddd darja aur isi waja sy mai bht zada pareshan rehti hun mjhse unki wo batain bhulai nai jati hr wqt mery mind mai chalti rehti hain aur mai behaddf chirchiri ho jati hun but thanks to u sir i will definitely follow this advice
یا اللہ ان تمام خواتین کو جن کو تو نے برے شوہر دنیا میں آزمائش کے طور پہ دئیے میرے مالک جنت میں تو ان کو یہی شوہر ہر گز نہ دینا بلکہ ان کو کوئی فریش فیس دینا آمین ثم آمین 🙏
Allah is Great...the day of jumma is mubarak ...some one going through the same situation...and your words Dr.. will help insha Allah ...you cnt imagine..the reward you will get from الله سبحانه وتعالى
v useful and practical tips...thanks a lot! Insan bura kyu hai ..iski badi wajah ye ho sakti hai k wo khud as a child aisi hi family me raha hai jaha uske parents ka relationship issue tha... and over the period of time us ne is burayi ko apne mind me normalize kar liya
What about children observing their mother being insulted and screamed and yelled at? What impact does that have on them? How is their life shaped when the circumstances don't change?
It's kind of critical situation we see around.. Children usually take it from both of parents and surely parts of that bad habits are adapted by them one way or the other, if not all.. To my observation, if parents educate their children well, despite their own unhealthy matrimonial relationship, it'd have a positive impact and children would get to know later that what were the the things triggering them to do so, so they work on those aspects in their lives.
Respect should be your number 1 priority, everything else comes second Do you also scream at your kids after being yelled at? I would suggest take medical help for the impulsive partner 1st Late for yourself to get out of this trauma
This is that women will do to future daughter in law it makes u bitter believe me....this is why when people say tolerate abuse because u have children...it's like u don't read namaz and ask children do read namaz...u don't want that ur children to tolerate but by doing it for 20 years u set example
@@natashajutt3011 Jitna app khud ko khush rakhain gi.jitna positive sochain gi ..utna ap ki inner vibration positive hoti jati.. Aur ap k husband sath relation ki barri waja ye inner vibration he hai.. Agr ap ander se khush aur positive tou ap k husband ka behaviour ap k kahy bager aur mahnat k bager khud ba khud theek ho jay ga.. Ye batain koe b nae btata..kue k in batun ko batany se loog apny masly kisi k pass pochnay k lia nahi jaen gy phir bal k un k problms khud hal hoti jean gi.. Ap ki har problm ka solution ap k khud k ander majood..
Kehna asaan hai lekin jis pr guzarti hai ussi ko pata hota hai... My lesson has been tht don't be like the ppl who hv played negative role in my life... I can't change the toxic ppl but i can make myself better so tht i can give healthy environment to my kids and their spouses and my grand children... Wn u cross fifty only ur kids matter and their happiness matter... Hum ne tou jaisay tesay guzaar li... Next generation ko wings aur mental peace denay ka time hai...
I am currently working on to make my self busy in creative things that makes me happy not in touch with spouse to get him well behaved it is working well 👍 😀
v true... ap ne reasons b theek btaen... same here... muje b yei pbms hain...har tra k tareeqy azma chukki hu... larai... muhabbat... gussa... khamoshi... sabar... but koi faeyda nai.... ap kehty hain k ek bnda bas teh kr ly k kuch b nai apni trf se moqa na dena... sab kr k dekh lia... par mere bcho ki personality b kharab hona shuru ho gai hai ab....
Great session sir. No one is bad. Every person has good and bad habits. The thing is to understand psychi of the person with whom you are living. When you catch psychi of that person you can easily persuade him and make him good person.
A time comes to make a final decision. With the help of Allah take the step even if it's very difficult. Believe me with the help of Allah you will win. Provided your intentions are clear and focused on the results you are trying to achieve. Most of the time it's better to sit down and have a dialogue. So important to refresh and revisit own self assessment. The answer can be seen if there is a room for change
Its a very useful discussion and points u gv to work on... Sometimes there are some additional factors like inlaws or evn people who r jealous without any reason. If a person continously listened that,.. "Tum uss ky shohar ho wo tumhari shohar nai hai" .. Thn wat u think?? That person evn agree to just listen to her...... I came to ths after 9 years... I m shocked that the person i really took and respect like my own mother did ths to me...
Sir mai b noreen or problem b yahi i think koi kuch b kah lain kuch b kr lay hota wahi hai jo Allah cahta hai or jo Allah krta hai wahi hmre ley behter hota hai apne apko Allah k kiye hoy faislo pr razi kr lain Allah pak zaror karm krengay inshallah
Nice advice ....plz make a video on how to behave and live with husband's second wife under 1 roof ? Waiting for this guideline ....no one guide us ..u r the hope
Aap ko dakh ker mujhay apnay Abu yaad aa jate hai un ki thinking aur looking dono app se milte the ab wo is dunya main nahi hai allah ap ko lambi zindgi de
SIR , i give you "bravo thumbs Up" ....for this clip...you explained very well ...if only we Spouses listen keenly and Concentrate on your point ..."keeping clear one's thoughts about assumption about the other person we dealing with is a big win win ..solution to most of the Day to Day issues that one faces living with a difficult person..... Plus we must focus on what we speak or do ..to trigger an response or reaction that makes it even worse to bear the Difficult person.... Most important point : Lets live and let live ...and Be grateful for a Day also that passes in peace and be hopeful for other days to come .... Jazaki Allah khair .dr sahb. Awaiting your next advice/more Tips for those spouses who cant seem to cope with spouses who do not Co-Operate but continue to live in such a marital bond.....
Bus eik hal he ke app Allah se ye dua kare us fard jiss se app ko dard milta he us ke muhabbat app kedil se nikal de our apni muhabbat me khalis kr le.our jo log app se muhabbat karte he jesse app ke bachey un pr towajjah den.
Doctor sahib u r one of my favorite speaker now a days I also thinking like that I leave my husband my age is 43 . 17 years married life I love with my husband I can't live without him but because of his nature I m thinking bad things . His family (sister, brother,mother)is his first priority. His thinking is that wife is not from our family wo hamari hamdard nahi. Me and my kid only Safar. But when I'm thinking the food we eat he provide us clothes, home where we live he provide us . These things r enough to live happy life kia biwi bacho ko time aur care aur mohabbat aur respect aur trust ki zaroorat nahi hoti har time neglect hoty. Brother's kids sister's kids r important than our kids. Every time when brother's wife, sister or mother even their kids say something about us he abused us scolded us adopting bad behavior. I m educated woman (msc economics).I want to do a job for spending quality time but no permission only live at home not having permission to go to my parents home. So please tell me what should I do
Meri life b kuj kuj apsy milti julti hy strt ma sb axha tha negativity bht ziada hr bat apni mnwana chahty or ager koi bat man b lyty tu jitaty phir permission mjhy b ni 😞m also in trouble
Try to do things He like, and make happy his liked people for ur interest. And convince for job. R through those people. It may help. It will take time
کوئی کیوں برا ہے بعض اوقات سا ری عمر گزر جاتی ہے لیکن سمجھ نہیں آتی لیے اس میں ہماری نیت کا کوئی عمل دخل نہیں ہوتا لیکن اس کے باوجود زندگی اللہ تعالیٰ کی ناشکری میں گزر جاتی ہے اور ہم کوئی فیصلہ نہیں کر پاتے اختیار ہونے کے باوجود ایسی زندگی بہت بری ہوتی ہے
In any situation get close to Allah SWT, the most kind and merciful and follow what our deen says, you will never face a problem. Shartia. Sadhguru’s lectures are far far better and his lectures reflects Maulana Rumi and Shah Shamas Tabriz teachings, he has explained beautifully. If someone listens Professor Ahmed Rafique Akhtar, you will find him Sadhguru’s father in all perspectives and dimensions.
Sir i do this before 9 years. Main apna dhyan badal dety hon but phr kuch time bad same kam ksi or shakal main samany aaty hai or phr same abb yh halat hai dil or damag ki k unka pyar bhe acha nhi lgta or un k wo amal jo unko bura banaty the wo bhe samaj nhi aaty.
Alha pak zalim Mardo ko hadayet dy bs sb mayayy apny bato ko ourt ke ezat krna saekhayyy achy bury ke tameez saekhayyy ksi hud tk mashra bhtr ho sakta ha
Jithna bhi hum change hoke spouse ko manane ki koshish kare phir bhi not even a single percent change I have seen in him… insan ki fitrat ko hum badal nahi sakte… For all these I have not lived my life yet but sacrificed every moment for the sake of him… now got to know that we should first live our life then others
Think positive. Niyyat par tamam amaal ka daromadaar hai. Niyyat saaf hona chahiye.badgumani karte hai hum sab. Chogli fitna hai sach mei.jhoot bhi bohut bolte hai hum. Izzat hum khud apne spouse ki nahi karte aur apne spouse se izzat mohabbat doulat khushi aur har tarah ki sahulat facilities chahte hai. Hamesha hum complaints karte hai apne spouse se , hum yeh kabhi nahi sonchte ke humara spouse ko hum se kya kya complaints hai. Deendaar hum pehle khud bane phir hamare spouse se expect kare. Umeed na rakhe apne spouse se
3 Techniques to deal with it
1. Understand the reason and your contribution in the situation
2. Remove misconceptions and bias and stop judging others.
3. Improve you company and be with positive people and avoid negative people and thoughts.
A good and accurate summary of his video lecture. Wish all could understand and follow these instructions to resolve their difficult problems. Thank you.
Dear sometimes maturity level is so low .
I am doing this since 25 year's and still my spouse seems thankless 😔......but I trust my Allah's plan ....he is patient of bipolar. ...mood swings are like our routine. ......may Allah guide all of us to right path....and protect us from evil company. ....Aameen
You are alone my dear . May Allah bless each and every one
Asslam o alaikum sir bohat mushkel ha Asy bandy k sath zindgi guzarna lykin bacho k liy Ma Baap k liy sath Nebhana parta ha ap ki batty 100% theek hain
I survival my life only for kids and wait for better days hope to Allah only 🥺
ameen ,aisha Allah bless you with happiness.
Hmaree society Mei zyada husbands aisay hi hein,aur zyada aurtein aisi hi Zindagi jeetee hein,,,Allah hmaree bachion pr Reham krei
آپکی زندگی کے بہترین سبق آپکی زندگی کے بدترین لوگ دیتے ہیں۔
Badtareen sabaq pasandeeda shaks deta hay.
right
Very true
@@ambershahid4494 ha bhai pasanda shkas be daita hai behtareen sabaq
@@ambershahid4494 absolutely true
ھمیں اللہ تعالی کا بے شمار شکر ادا کرنا چاھئے جس نے ھمیں ڈاکٹر صاحب کی شکل میں ایک بے غرض شخصیت عطا کی ھےجو ھمیں زندگی گزارنے کے مثبت اور ا چھے طریقے بتاتے ھیں اور ھماری زندگی میں آسانیا ں لا رھے ھی انکی خلوص کی وجہ سے انکی باتوں میں اثر ھے اسلئے دل میں عمل کرنے کا جذبہ بیدار ھوتا ھے- اللہ۔تعالی ڈاکٹر صاحب کو لمبی زندگی اور صحت و عافیت عطا فرمائے
Ameen ameen bilkol
Ameen
amen
I lived with an outright evil person for 20 years but finally decided to walk out. Yes living in a toxic relationship is hard and living as a divorcee is hard but by putting an end to the abuse your kids and you have a chance to heal and end the trauma but by staying you will ensure the cycle of abuse and trauma will continue for generations.
If positivity is spoiled by negativity every time , how long one can remain positive with good intentions, sometimes it is not possible to fool ourselves, as truth is truth
So true...
True
Try to talk less with that person,talk important!don’t b hopeless n any case….Remember the time when u were student,confidant,take a bath….dress up nicely,wear a watch…..n start writing some thing u like to write….make daily to do list!people plz plz don’t waste your life…n read Quran some times……points I told can be done with out money…. Change ur perspective even after 40”s….the day u change new life starts!
notes :
* niyyat (negative or positive)
* keena buguz
* realities of life
* phenomenon of life
* misconceptions of reality
* generalization
* check your company
* chirchiray budmizaaj
* spouse boss children
* cars mobile
* akhirat ikhlaqiyat diyanatdari
* unbearable
* move on in life (by paying the price)
* whatever is happening outside
* vs whatever is happening inside
* psychopath rarely
* in 90% cases handling ability is weak
* takeout your contribution in the negative situation
* change your bird view about yourself
*
And I am patiently living with my husband from last 15 years, same like this. I have 3 children.
IV got same story it's been 15 year IV got 3 kids my husband swearing on me front of my family but my family didn't said anything but my husband still blaming me for everything he said front of everyone I do no wat I do now I can't forget this all and he can't leave me but m thinking I can't live like that he said he can't live like that but he still living with me m not talking with him now he try to talk with me is anyone can Tel me wat I do m so depressed
@@sobia9663 i think you should talk to him and ask what
he is exactly thinking about
you try to find root of ur problem might he need any consoling try to understand each other need s i would only suggest you
@@karachikrunchhe just say silly thgs he think he can swear on me And my mom but if I say something then he count see u said this I can't win him one day he said different thgs And one day different thgs how I can blv him
@@sobia9663 unfortunately such cases are increasing..such ppl have narcissistic personality disorder..this does not heal..Plz get rid of him if possible or he 'll make you a psycho
Same story.....3 kids,20 years
Doctor javed Iqbal is like a angel i salute him
MashaAllah Sir, no words for ur speech. I can easily relate myself with what examples u have given. 95 % cases hmari mishandling or niyaton ki waja se hi kharab hote hn or in me improvement ki gunjaaish hamesha hoti he.
best
Sir yah Sam Mary sath asa h . Asa laga jasy yh Mary lia hi topic ho
It’s time like these I wish I could speak Urdu. I’ve seen one of Doctor sahab’s lectures in English and found them so beneficial.
Hi
What u want to know, tell me i can explain to u in English.
@@dr.ambreenslife2071 Thank you so much sister, it’s too much trouble for you, actually I’m very interested in his parenting videos. Unfortunately there are no options for english subtitles. Maybe at one stage he will include them, the channel is still new ☺️
The way he explains everything is quite unique and exceptional.
Margaret Ryan, he is basically saying that when living with a person who is percieved bad, instead of just leaving it on luck or becoming emotional or maybe just giving up in this struggle in the name of sabr(patience). In place of these futile behaviours, you have to take personal responsibilty and you have to focus and respond in accordance with those things which are completely in your control like your own behaviour,mindset,response,attitude,temparament. For example if a person teases you,the teasing of that person is not in your comtrol but your response is 100 percent in your control and positive responses in such situations can change the dynamics of that situation and it will really improve your relationship. Also he is talking about 3 techniques you have to adopt when living with a bad person which are:
1) Improve your intent and attitude about that situation or about your life and dont just give up in such situations instead you must be optimistic in such situations and BELIEVE.
2) You also have to change your attitude about that person or circumstance as well beacause your attitude determines your altitude.
3) Spend time with the right people which include positive,inspiring,happy,rich,wise,excited people and this act can gradually change your behaviours and it can acclimate you according to the temparements and outlooks of the right people with whom you are spending time with.
STAY BLESSED
Very nice advice but it is really difficult to implement these advice in married life if you have to live with a person who is bipolar having mood swings and bad behaviour with kids too then very difficult to maintain and run such relationship.
I hv been all my life very understanding and compromising but now at this age I hv realized the people who are selfish and against u, can never be ur wel wisher .
I would say, try to distance ur self from such people and if u are a woman with kids, pls try not to distroy urself, don’t fear , surround ur self with positive people , try to hv financial Independence, try to earn money , having your own money gives woman confidence and they can think fearlessly and leave that person .
Otherwise you will end up having a miserable life with lots of health issues
Bilkul thek kaha ap ny 💯% thek kaha mery sath yae prblm hy mery in laws bht buray hain haddd darja aur isi waja sy mai bht zada pareshan rehti hun mjhse unki wo batain bhulai nai jati hr wqt mery mind mai chalti rehti hain aur mai behaddf chirchiri ho jati hun but thanks to u sir i will definitely follow this advice
oh ho yr in laws kisi k b achy ni hoty sub ko bahuuu sy masla hota ha ya joint family system na ho tu sub sai rhy 😰
😔
O my God you’re great I just started listening u bu amazing I can do nothing for myself now but for my kids i learned a lot from u
It's amazing how simply he analyses the problems
Please continue Sir
Let us benefit from your rational thinking
Zajak Allah Khair
یا اللہ ان تمام خواتین کو جن کو تو نے برے شوہر دنیا میں آزمائش کے طور پہ دئیے میرے مالک جنت میں تو ان کو یہی شوہر ہر گز نہ دینا بلکہ ان کو کوئی فریش فیس دینا آمین ثم آمین 🙏
Ameen
Not just a new face but some one with a new heart ❤️ and also a new mindset is needed
@@rkhan9506new face bhi hona chaiya js ny sari zindgi ruswa kr di ho us ki shakl bhi zahr lagny lag jati ha 😏
“When good people consider you the bad guy, you develop a heart to help the bad ones. You actually understand them.”
Allah is Great...the day of jumma is mubarak ...some one going through the same situation...and your words Dr.. will help insha Allah ...you cnt imagine..the reward you will get from الله سبحانه وتعالى
I have learned that people don’t change whatever you want to or need to do best is working on self
Doctor saab, you are great 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻 regards🙏 from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳
v useful and practical tips...thanks a lot!
Insan bura kyu hai ..iski badi wajah ye ho sakti hai k wo khud as a child aisi hi family me raha hai jaha uske parents ka relationship issue tha... and over the period of time us ne is burayi ko apne mind me normalize kar liya
Dr saab hindustan se nitesh vadia ka baddi izzat se aapko salaam.Heart Touching video.
What about children observing their mother being insulted and screamed and yelled at? What impact does that have on them? How is their life shaped when the circumstances don't change?
It's kind of critical situation we see around.. Children usually take it from both of parents and surely parts of that bad habits are adapted by them one way or the other, if not all.. To my observation, if parents educate their children well, despite their own unhealthy matrimonial relationship, it'd have a positive impact and children would get to know later that what were the the things triggering them to do so, so they work on those aspects in their lives.
Respect should be your number 1 priority, everything else comes second
Do you also scream at your kids after being yelled at?
I would suggest take medical help for the impulsive partner 1st
Late for yourself to get out of this trauma
This is that women will do to future daughter in law it makes u bitter believe me....this is why when people say tolerate abuse because u have children...it's like u don't read namaz and ask children do read namaz...u don't want that ur children to tolerate but by doing it for 20 years u set example
Right
صبر سے نہی انسان اپنی inner vibration کو تبدیل کر کے اپنے شوہر یا بیوی کا رویہ بہت اسانی سے تبدیل کر سکتا۔۔
اس کے لیے بہت سی تکنیک
اور بہت اسان بھی۔۔
What are Techniques?
Inner vabration kya hota ha
@@natashajutt3011
Jitna app khud ko khush rakhain gi.jitna positive sochain gi ..utna ap ki inner vibration positive hoti jati..
Aur ap k husband sath relation ki barri waja ye inner vibration he hai..
Agr ap ander se khush aur positive tou ap k husband ka behaviour ap k kahy bager aur mahnat k bager khud ba khud theek ho jay ga..
Ye batain koe b nae btata..kue k in batun ko batany se loog apny masly kisi k pass pochnay k lia nahi jaen gy phir bal k un k problms khud hal hoti jean gi..
Ap ki har problm ka solution ap k khud k ander majood..
@@gratitudepeace6210 thank you.
May Allah bless you sir very beautifully explained and May Allah give all of us hidaya to practice more everything good
What a great, lovely and positivity in your thoughts. And I accept so are you pure from the inner (soul). I should thanks and salute you.
Kehna asaan hai lekin jis pr guzarti hai ussi ko pata hota hai...
My lesson has been tht don't be like the ppl who hv played negative role in my life...
I can't change the toxic ppl but i can make myself better so tht i can give healthy environment to my kids and their spouses and my grand children...
Wn u cross fifty only ur kids matter and their happiness matter...
Hum ne tou jaisay tesay guzaar li...
Next generation ko wings aur mental peace denay ka time hai...
Excellent Dr sb may our next generation will receive the same talent stars in their life..we are lucky to have you...
Every couple should listen to it as spouses and as parents
I am currently working on to make my self busy in creative things that makes me happy not in touch with spouse to get him well behaved it is working well 👍 😀
v true... ap ne reasons b theek btaen... same here... muje b yei pbms hain...har tra k tareeqy azma chukki hu... larai... muhabbat... gussa... khamoshi... sabar... but koi faeyda nai.... ap kehty hain k ek bnda bas teh kr ly k kuch b nai apni trf se moqa na dena... sab kr k dekh lia... par mere bcho ki personality b kharab hona shuru ho gai hai ab....
I also do admit dat when ur r talking about niyyat...100 percent true
Dr sb: You are doing a great service our nation. Some times women are rigid too.
Jazakallah ap jsy naik log hain
Great session sir.
No one is bad. Every person has good and bad habits. The thing is to understand psychi of the person with whom you are living. When you catch psychi of that person you can easily persuade him and make him good person.
Hats off to u Sir❤ ur all conversation is 💯 percent true. Ur each word penetrate in my soul.
A time comes to make a final decision. With the help of Allah take the step even if it's very difficult. Believe me with the help of Allah you will win. Provided your intentions are clear and focused on the results you are trying to achieve. Most of the time it's better to sit down and have a dialogue. So important to refresh and revisit own self assessment. The answer can be seen if there is a room for change
Bohat umda video hay
I am happy and healthy and peaceful soul. Thank you God .thank you so much .shukriya shukriya shukriya .
Ma shaa Allah ur way to convey his point is so much clear dat anyone can easily understand
Boht kuch acha sekhny ko milta hy or insan motivate hota hy k kuch acha kry
👍👍👍👍👍👍 زبردست زبردست 👍👍👍 جزاک اللّہ خیر 👍👍👍 الھی خوش رکھے امیننننننننن 💯 اللّہ ہمیں عقل و شعور دے امیننننننننن 💯💯💯
Thank you sir app buhat achi
Tarah bata datay hain
Sir what a mind you hav...thank you so much..u make my life easier while living in joiny family
Allah aap KO is ka ajar dy.MashaAllah. aap NY Myra dil blkul khol kr rakh diya hy
Very nice 👍 I always appreciate your videos great sir 🙏I’m from India 🇮🇳 Eid Mubarak
Bilkul thk kaha hmry mizaj pr boht asar prta h agr hum ksi k bare mein acha sochn ya bura.
JazakAllah sir mujhy is lecturer ki iswaqt bht zrorat thi
Its a very useful discussion and points u gv to work on... Sometimes there are some additional factors like inlaws or evn people who r jealous without any reason. If a person continously listened that,.. "Tum uss ky shohar ho wo tumhari shohar nai hai" .. Thn wat u think?? That person evn agree to just listen to her......
I came to ths after 9 years... I m shocked that the person i really took and respect like my own mother did ths to me...
Sir mai b noreen or problem b yahi i think koi kuch b kah lain kuch b kr lay hota wahi hai jo Allah cahta hai or jo Allah krta hai wahi hmre ley behter hota hai apne apko Allah k kiye hoy faislo pr razi kr lain Allah pak zaror karm krengay inshallah
Thank you so much. Hope that we will get more advice those are related.
Nice advice ....plz make a video on how to behave and live with husband's second wife under 1 roof ? Waiting for this guideline ....no one guide us ..u r the hope
Dr. Javed bht he behtreen personality Hain .o really like him Yaar.🙂
جزاک اللہ خیرا کثیرا آپ کا شکریہ ❤
your all talking is mind blowing and a naiki . daily listen to you and share your videos to help more people
I salute u sir ur speech is speechless most respect for u
Docter sahib ap ki her her bat qeemti moti hain jazakAllah
Aap ko dakh ker mujhay apnay Abu yaad aa jate hai un ki thinking aur looking dono app se milte the ab wo is dunya main nahi hai allah ap ko lambi zindgi de
Aap ke batoon main jaisay jan ya rooh hoothee haiy khair thanks lots
Grateful log khush rhty hain
SIR , i give you "bravo thumbs Up" ....for this clip...you explained very well ...if only we Spouses listen keenly and Concentrate on your point ..."keeping clear one's thoughts about assumption about the other person we dealing with is a big win win ..solution to most of the Day to Day issues that one faces living with a difficult person.....
Plus we must focus on what we speak or do ..to trigger an response or reaction that makes it even worse to bear the Difficult person....
Most important point :
Lets live and let live ...and Be grateful for a Day also that passes in peace and be hopeful for other days to come ....
Jazaki Allah khair .dr sahb.
Awaiting your next advice/more Tips for those spouses who cant seem to cope with spouses who do not Co-Operate but continue to live in such a marital bond.....
Spiritual abuse emotional abuse is not linked with rigid person ...it could be both conscious and unconscious part and parcel of personality
Masha Allah by Alhafiz Online Quran Academy
Jazaka Allaho khaira ..
Your talks are so relatable
I always learn and try to apply it
And it really works. ..
Agar khawind Chang ho b jae to aurat ka dil badal chuka hota h ...sath rhna mushkil ho hi jata h
True
Sahi farmaya
Right
So true
Oh god very well said.......my life u described in 1 sentence
جزاک اللہ
بہت .مفید مشورے ہیں
Allah paak Apko lambi sehat wali zindagi de, ameen
Ameen
Nafrat hojati he aese shaks se hum rehna hi nh chahte un k 7.....suffering this phase
same here
@@بلوبٹ sister same like me,😭😭
@@بلوبٹ ap spain hen sister.
@@aishabibi3965 کینیڈا میں ۔
Aoa... Bht zabrdast sir... Aap ny bht Acha explain kya...
Doctor sahb your talk is awesome
Thanku so much sir 🙏🙏very inspirational 👏👏
Lovely advice ... JazakAllah khair . Many women can relate to it.
Mhujhe aap ka bayan bhaut jyada pasand 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
This is what Dr sb is trying to make us understand,v should stop complaining instead v should fight with our brain in this hard situations
Allah aapko tandrusti aur lambi umar se nawaze 😍😇
AMEEN
ameen
Ap kehty hn k ye hmara kasoor ha k hm Galat insan ko aucha nhe bnaty....husband wife main aisa nhe hota
✮••جَـــزَاکُمُ اللہ خَیٌرًا ڪَثِیرَ ا••✮
دعاؤں کی درخواست ہے
Bus eik hal he ke app Allah se ye dua kare us fard jiss se app ko dard milta he us ke muhabbat app kedil se nikal de our apni muhabbat me khalis kr le.our jo log app se muhabbat karte he jesse app ke bachey un pr towajjah den.
Jazakallah..... jazakallah.....
Doctor sahib u r one of my favorite speaker now a days I also thinking like that I leave my husband my age is 43 . 17 years married life I love with my husband I can't live without him but because of his nature I m thinking bad things . His family (sister, brother,mother)is his first priority. His thinking is that wife is not from our family wo hamari hamdard nahi. Me and my kid only Safar. But when I'm thinking the food we eat he provide us clothes, home where we live he provide us . These things r enough to live happy life kia biwi bacho ko time aur care aur mohabbat aur respect aur trust ki zaroorat nahi hoti har time neglect hoty. Brother's kids sister's kids r important than our kids. Every time when brother's wife, sister or mother even their kids say something about us he abused us scolded us adopting bad behavior. I m educated woman (msc economics).I want to do a job for spending quality time but no permission only live at home not having permission to go to my parents home. So please tell me what should I do
Meri life b kuj kuj apsy milti julti hy strt ma sb axha tha negativity bht ziada hr bat apni mnwana chahty or ager koi bat man b lyty tu jitaty phir permission mjhy b ni 😞m also in trouble
Leave him
@@elizahasani1073 it's very easy to say leave him what should I do after leaving with 3 kids specially boys
Try to do things He like, and make happy his liked people for ur interest. And convince for job. R through those people. It may help. It will take time
Jazak Allah ♥️
کوئی کیوں برا ہے بعض اوقات سا ری عمر گزر جاتی ہے لیکن سمجھ نہیں آتی لیے اس میں ہماری نیت کا کوئی عمل دخل نہیں ہوتا لیکن اس کے باوجود زندگی اللہ تعالیٰ کی ناشکری میں گزر جاتی ہے اور ہم کوئی فیصلہ نہیں کر پاتے اختیار ہونے کے باوجود ایسی زندگی بہت بری ہوتی ہے
My work allah pak aap ko kamiyab kara aameen good work
Haq h sir...... sahi bat...
Allah apko hamesha salamat aur khush rakhy aameen
" Koi batae K Kiya marhala h sabr K bd
Ab ak Kam Yahan br br kn kre " 👍👏
In any situation get close to Allah SWT, the most kind and merciful and follow what our deen says, you will never face a problem. Shartia. Sadhguru’s lectures are far far better and his lectures reflects Maulana Rumi and Shah Shamas Tabriz teachings, he has explained beautifully. If someone listens Professor Ahmed Rafique Akhtar, you will find him Sadhguru’s father in all perspectives and dimensions.
Sir i do this before 9 years. Main apna dhyan badal dety hon but phr kuch time bad same kam ksi or shakal main samany aaty hai or phr same abb yh halat hai dil or damag ki k unka pyar bhe acha nhi lgta or un k wo amal jo unko bura banaty the wo bhe samaj nhi aaty.
Allah apko lammmmbbbiiii zindgi dy sir. Ameeen
Alha pak zalim Mardo ko hadayet dy bs sb mayayy apny bato ko ourt ke ezat krna saekhayyy achy bury ke tameez saekhayyy ksi hud tk mashra bhtr ho sakta ha
Kuch log kbhi bhe ni bdlty chye jtni bhe koshesh kr lo
100% right sir ...u are great
Thanks sir bohat àchha samjhaya aap ne
Bhttt bhtt achi batay
Well said Dr. Sahab.stay blessed
Very nice Sir .i got it. Uh r very intelligent man💖💖
Yes sir ji sach farmaya h masha allah aap kamiyab kara aameen good work